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Especially true when women marry each other , hence the highest divorce rates.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 05:37 PM
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It'll take awhile but she'll get bored of the next guy too. Even if she stays with the dude.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:44 AM
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The stats are clear, it's nearly universally better for a child's parents to stay married. Women try to convince themselves (and others) that isn't true, but it is. No amount of cope from the will change that. It's selfishness.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:43 AM
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If someone tells you "I'll pray for you" it means they don't give a shit and don't want you bothering them with your problems. There's a secular version too. I called a family member that I thought cared. Gave me the "you should talk to a therapist". That's code for "I don't give a fuck ". They never once reached out after that, and I never once tried talking to them again. That was the defacto end of our relationship. Weve said hi at family functions but thats it. Before that we talked regularl…
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 05:14 PM
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OP mentioned in another thread his stbxw wanted a divorce after a trip....
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:53 AM
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If guys could be a fly on the wall and hear what their wives say about them their heads would explode. That would clear up your guilt reeeeal quick. She's giving you the crocodile tears and the "shucks, I really wanted to make it work but you left me no choice😪😔". Horseshit. She's known for years and talked mad shit about you the entire time to her friends. Family maybe too. She doesn't deserve your guilt. The only thing that matters now is what's ahead. Guilt is an obsession with the past. I do…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:48 AM
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So I looked at your comments. And you hope for reconciliation. And that's completely normal. I was like that...hell 90% of the dudes on this sub that got left were like that. But I would like to know. Are you expressing that to her?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:37 AM
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Yeah that one got debunked, but I'm sure reddit will still mention it for decades anyways. Men being vilified for all of this is pretty normal. Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates, but I'm sure there's an article out there somewhere that blame it on men not doing enough chores. Whatevs. "Women divorcing each other, are men to blame"?
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 10:09 PM
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women will agree to counseling, expecting the therapist to go "well, you were correct, he is to blame for literally everything" and when that doesn't happen, they'll stop going to counseling. Literally happened to me. At exes behest, we went to a counselor. Counselor told her that her shit stank too...she said she was done with counseling after the session....we never went back. If you go, and the wife admits things she does wrong too when called out, your marriage might have a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 04:02 AM
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Never heard of it but I looked and this was from the feminist sub reddit about it: "It makes women sound like materialistic, shallow manipulators who will exploit men for financial and material gain, take what they can from them, and move on to the next man with the most resources." The thread was pretty ironic lol. Like...they all knew that's exactly what they do, but they half-heartedly try to criticize it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 03:57 AM
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I don't know what "Walk away wife" is, but I do know lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates. Oh, and in regard to her friends I've got another stat for ya. Your chance of divorce goes through the roof if a woman has a friend that gets divorced. Here's the thing OP, .....youll have have to call her bluff. Begging, "fighting for the marriage", pleading...won't do shit. women have to know you'll walk. You're gonna have to call her bluff and either 1. Divorce. Or 2. She's going to have to …
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 03:32 AM
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I had a (woman) Psychiatrist that literally told me your last line. She said the hard part of her job dealing with men and divorce, was keeping them alive for the first 5 years. It hits us hard but...we do tend to win in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 04:30 AM
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They're not sorcerers. They don't get the time back either. One thing dudes need to realize Is that the same society that only cares about us as long as we make money (or die in a war occasionally ) is the same society that only care about women as long as they're young and pretty. Theirs is more a slow burn but...they feel the effects too. Yall think your ex isn't gonna get bored of the next guy too? Lol. It'll happen. You think theyre not gonna say in their heads (or to their gfs) wow..."1st h…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:22 PM
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I'm still not sure what her banging her boyfriend for a few months then coming back but telling OP she's still madly in love with the boyfriend, has to do with mental illness
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:45 AM
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When you first left did you feel like this? Like it's been ongoing? Or since when?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:37 AM
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My ex wanted to be in an open marriage. My response was "no". Literally didn't say anything else. Granted, I'm still a fucking moron for thinking our marriage would still work. I told her I'd hang from a tree before I'd ever contacted her again after our divorce was final (we don't have kids). And I fucking mean it, I won't reach out to her for the rest of my life. Remember dudes...they shit just like us. Don't deify them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:10 AM
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Well either she leaves you now or you bend-over backwards for her and beg and plead for her to stay...and she leaves you later. 24 gives you decades to still build a good life. Get out now. Trust us on this...get out now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:48 PM
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It's my one hard and fast rule post- divorce. Don't marry single women. Unless they're making really good money. The chances of getting used is just too high.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:17 PM
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"Until...She needs to keep her legs closed" Sad that you advocate for weaponizing intimacy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:15 PM
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You mention in a comment that " She has nowhere to go and no family" Who gives a shit. That's her problem now. A big part of marriage isn't just intimacy or sex. It's belonging to a tribe, having a shotgun rider as stability. She is choosing to leave that tribe. She has that right, women can divorce ofc. My wife left me. She had that right. But...they don't get to have their cake and eat it too. Your ex needs to put her big girl panties on as an adult and figure it out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 02:05 PM
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she has told you multiple times you're not going to be in future. believe her. She will leave you. The reason she is feeling insecure now is because she was planning on doing it in the future when her plans match -up better, but you called her bluff and she's not prepared. What she will do is try to now keep you around..then still leave you in the future as she originally planned. A woman doing that to a guy is pretty vanilla stuff to them. They talk about it with their GFs all the time, what th…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 09:49 PM
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Was just talking about a female mutual friend with My male coworker. She's 39, 60 or so pounds overweight, divorcee with two kids. said in a conversation that she wants a tall and rich guy. went out with a taller dude who made $18 an hr and shit on him for being "poor" in a group chat. He pumped and dumped after a few weeks. And she has zero concern that it had anything to do with her. Thinks he "must have problems". Has a shit ton of matches on tinder though. Here's the rub, she'll get in an LT…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 06:44 PM
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My ex bailed a few weeks after we finally got her greencard in the mail. I Then learned that.. I was one of a million. Just Like you said "supported her for 6 years while finishing all her schooling" then bam. Or a few months after they qualify for alimony. One guy mentioned he raised her girl then a few weeks after his step- daughter graduated....you guessed it, divorce papers. It's the behavior of sociopaths. And younger men have the right to know, this is the name of the game. Women know for …
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 02:35 PM
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Let her walk. Don't beg or plead. It won't win her back and you'll regret it later. She wants a divorce, give it to her. She knew the moment she started making more money she was going to divorce. Almost certainly before that too. When she realized she was on track for c-suite. 100% try to get alimony out of her. Yes, you will get better. Divorce is super front-loaded for guys. A lot of us here were devastated too. But we men tend to win in the long-run. She's known about this for years and gets…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 02:28 PM
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I don't tell guys to not get married. Because what tends to happen is they fall in love and then get that sense of invincibility and get blinded. I do cite statistics. And let men know that lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates, and that in hetero marriages women initiate divorce like 80% of the time. I would be careful with the "outside western" thinking too. If by that you mean The US. I speak Spanish and portuguese and interact with immigrants from Latin America a lot. The women wh…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 10:51 PM
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Women see marriage as an at-will situation. Guys, don't fall on your swords over this. I was at a party yesterday and I'm 90% sure two women divorced their husbands because...they wanted to date taller guys. At least that was a major factor by what they were talking about. And we men are supposed to mourn our broken marriages like monks? Lol. This post is exactly the societal narrative wevve seen about divorces for decades . "Women are long-suffering saints but even they can only take so much 😔"…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 08:23 PM
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Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 07:59 PM
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Honduras.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 12:51 PM
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We met organically, in-person in her home country. So not like online or anything. And she came on a fiance visa 3 years after we first met. So i thought it was real. I think she liked me at first then when things got real serious and marriage was on the table she realized she didn't actually love me but wanted that sweet sweet paperwork. I now know I'm one of millions of dudes with similar stories. And I don't mean just a green card. Women know years in advance they're gonna divorce. And will u…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:59 AM
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Thats super new. The problem with divorce is its so front loaded. The good thing about divorce...is it's front loaded. You won't miss her more a year from now (or 2 or 3 or whatever) than you do now. It's not all linear but it does get better. I tried to kill myself after the seperation. She left a few weeks after we got her green card in the mail ( 6 year process in all). I came home on a Friday and the apartment was empty. I never saw her again. I'm now over it for the most part. The emotion i…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:33 AM
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How long have you been separated?
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:18 AM
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I won her over from a guy she was dating at the time. Is that her current boyfriend, the old flame from HS? Lol, what a loser your ex is. You're jacked up now my man. I get it, but you'll get better. She sounds pretty pathetic tbh. I'm not just saying that to "be on your side'. It might take a few years...but you'll win In the end. I really think you will.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 05:46 PM
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"Also I have no idea what to do now, right now im simply at her mercy " nah OP. Let's get you back on track. You Let her walk. Seriously. Tell her if she wants a divorce you'll give it to her. Tell her tomorrow. women plan this stuff years in advance and it's most likely over. And the sooner you take back your life and say "you want a divorce...there's the door ', the sooner you can get back to kicking ass. Take back your life. And no longer be at her mercy as she's keeping you hanging as a plan…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 05:02 AM
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Yep yep yep. She got bored 4 years ago (or whenever) and was just biding her time using him until it was most convenient for her to leave. It's woman 101. And don't beat yourself up over that OP. It happened to me too...and millions of other guys. Let her walk.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 04:48 AM
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So the hill that I'll die on with marriage is that women know way in advance they're going to divorce. Get 100 woman in a room and have one of them say they used a guy for 5 years knowing they'd leave him the entire time and not one of them would bat an eye. It's par for the course. So guys like you will change and go to counseling and...it means jack shit cuz she was planning on "eat pray love" long before she first threatened you with the D word. It's great you made the changes. But...knowing …
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 08:07 PM
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Yes. And this is one of the things that irk me now that I'm out. Society will give men shit for "not being balanced" with other relationships than our wives and struggling so much in a divorce. Well no fuck when your partner is isolating you from those people then drops you later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 07:40 PM
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"It's been almost a year ago now since we seperated" that's still super new in divorce terms. Your divorce happened a fortnight ago. Women know years in advance. She was done mourning the loss of the relationship 18, 20, months before she even left you. Bro I was a mess until like 24, 30 months post seperation. I think you're doing just fine. Spend a decade missing them, spend a decade cursing them...they don't give a shit either way. Might as well be happy right? That's the conclusion I came to…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 05:57 PM
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That's fair. If what she says gets in your head...post it here. I'll die on the hill that women know this stuff years in advance. And do it mostly out of boredom/wanting a new "adventure". Regardless, don't fall for the sob story that she's some broken- hearted Saint that is divorcing because you've given her no other option.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 06:41 PM
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I'd give her a week. Let her know any more than that and you're acting under the assumption you guys are divorcing. For men especially you have to "be strong" and let them know...you'll let them walk. If you bed and plead they get huge egos about it. It's absurd to say but they then see us as "weak". Trust me dude, youre not alone. I was exactly in your position. Any answer but yes or no means she's playing you. Women, even in good marriages have to know we will let them walk. It's ok to be clea…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 05:00 PM
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Control. Has she said it's final final?
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 02:03 PM
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Because they spend years (and alot of money) wasting their lives on nothing in the end. At least with kids all the years and the marriage had a purpose for us.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 01:55 PM
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She wants a divorce, fucking give it to her. She thinks you'll beg and plead and do anything you can to contact her.....do the opposite. I'd never speak to her again. Contact a lawyer today. She's known about this for years, don't fret that part. It was the same for every guy on here that got left too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 01:53 PM
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Let us know in the next few weeks the follow-up text. on what she needed from you. Like a college freshman buttering up their parents before asking for spring break money. 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:36 PM
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About 2 years post divorce I fell down the rabbit hole of women and marriage counseling on tik tok of all places. my, yours and OPs stories are very common. Go to the counselor...the counselor tells the woman her shit actually stinks too...and they stop counseling and refuse to go back lol.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:35 PM
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Also, assuming what you said was true, her 1. Coming back on condition you change certain things. And 2. You do. But she then divorces you anyways, sounds like shifting the goal posts to me. Dude, women plan this stuff out and you wouldn't be the first to get hit with an ultimatum, do it, but then the women be like "shit I was hoping he wouldn't do it, and he actually did it...ehh I'll divorce him still ". I know a gal that wanted her ex to cheat so she could have a clean getaway....he never did…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 10:47 PM
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I remember a post on here about a guy that the ex admitted after the fact she purposefully did all she could to piss him off in order to set him off. Said it was like 2 years of that. After the china shop was nice and wrecked she hit him with the "ahh shucks, youve left me know choice but to divorce 😥" Is that the case in yours? Idk. I do know that people have their own agenda regardless of what you do and don't do. Women are masters at getting the guy to take all the blame. That's usually not t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 10:27 PM
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Fwiw, women statistically don't divorce over chores. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. Also, lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates. They divorcing because a guy somewhere isn't sweeping enough? Lol. It's a ready-made excuse for them though. https://www.today.com/health/household-chores-not-reason-why-many-marriages-split-after-all-t101239
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 07:01 PM
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I took antidepressants for years. Just my personal opinion but....I hate them. I'm convinced they do more harm than good over the long (and not so long) run. Sure, they help a little in the short term, but seem to paint you in a corner later. I really really recommend yoga or light-karate. Like Tai chi. Are you meditating? Fish oil has some decent antidepressants qualities.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 02:44 AM
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Your chance of divorce shoots up like 75% if your wife gets a friend or coworker who is divorced. It's the craziest statistic I know of.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 02:39 AM
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She's 100% using OP until it's convenient to leave. Not bashing on you OP, that's woman-101. They'll do that for years if need be to get their ducks in a row. But at least she's being so obvious that you have time to prepare.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 02:38 AM
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Making sure she still had you as a back-up. She'll do this to you as long as you let her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 09:05 PM
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My therapist told me that a marriage that ends at 5ish years...it's a coin flip that the wife knew on the wedding day about divorcing the husband in the future. Kind of like you said. Could be to get a kid. Get the guy to pay for college maybe, land a house then bail etc. A lot of these women know years in advance what the plan is.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 07:18 PM
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In some ways it's red-pilled me more than my actual divorce lol. Her good friend has a caring, good husband and that women still talks with her ex-fiance in her DMs weekly. She's told me two dozen other stories with stuff like that. My divorce wrecked me but I told my ex...no way in hell will I be one of your little puppies in your dms after the divorce. Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 01:44 PM
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She wasn't constantly changing her mind. She knows exactly what she wants. She just needed to drop enough hints to you to keep you as the back-up. If I could grant one gift to men who divorce, just one gift, It would be to be a fly on the wall when these women are. talking to their girlfriends co-workers etc. My good friend owns a organizing/interior design business. The absolute arrogance and entitlement they share with each other about their husband's would blow your fucking mind. The amount o…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 01:13 AM
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18 years of alimony ? Jesus christ. What a disgusting leach of a human being.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 12:54 AM
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No women say things like this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 07:36 PM
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Her past relationships, like how many are we talking here?
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 07:34 PM
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Did you initiate divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 07:28 PM
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Women have no problem staying months or years , with a man they're planning on leaving when it becomes convenient to do so. My good friend has a organizing/interior design business and works with all women. They talk about it like guys talk about fishing. One is going to wait until they're 7 year old hits middle school. I think guys need to know this so they don't (heaven forbid!) get burned again by a woman. And I think it's our duty to let married guys and younger guys know.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 10:08 PM
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Why murder....him? That wouldn't be my line of thinking honestly. If you get my drift.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 10:05 PM
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Two year blues strike again. Super common for guys to post on here at the 2 year mark. We all expect it to suck the 1st year, but hope year 2 will be better and are dissapointed when it's not. Took me like 4 years to get over it. With lingering issues into year 5. But you're way better off financially. So that should help. There's a reason we say "divorce ruined my life" not "oh my divorce was a moderate inconvenience".
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 10:04 PM
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She asked for the divorce (which is finalized) and it's been a year. She's never coming back. Oh... She doesn't care that the divorce hurt the kids either by the way. Seriously, not even a little. Don't forget that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:09 PM
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'Mixed signals' means she going to string you along as plan B. How long she does, is up to you. I think 7 days to "have some space" is plenty. Let her know this clearly that to you going forward: "Maybe"=No. "I need more time"=No. "I'm not sure"=No. Trust me ...women will drop hints and mixed signals to string their spouses along for months if they can. It happened to me and tons of other guys on here. Take control of your life. Call her hand And if she wants the divorce....let her walk. Give it…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 01:55 AM
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Regardless if OP divorces or not. As you point out, you have to call the bluff on the D-word tantrums sooner or later. Either they 1. Keep using it until they actually convince themselves they do in fact want a divorce, 2. or they're just bluffing but will use it as manipulation. Either option is bad.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 06:20 PM
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I'd say it's rare that at least one person doesn't come out of a divorce with their lives ruined. It is what it is. There was a book that came out in 2000 that was a 25 year study that asked if it's better to stay married "for the kids". The answer is...overwhelmingly so yeah. The author even got some blowback for the book back then. As far as the partners go... Not surprisingly the one who doesn't want it usually struggles mightily in the aftermath.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:19 PM
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My lawyer told me that's the definition of amicable lol. The guy Is afraid to ruffle feathers and just goes along with what she wants in hopes him being "mature" will win her back at some later date. It goes about as well as everyone on here can imagine.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 06:09 PM
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It's the hill I'll die on more than anything else with marriages. Women will use their husbands for years knowing they're going to divorce them. 2, 3, 5 years... however long it takes until they're ready to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:45 PM
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Yeah i call it the "two year blues". A lot of guys post on here at the 2 year mark. We expect year 1 to suck but it's a gut punch when year 2 does as well. I was like 3 to 4 years to get better too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:42 PM
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dated a gal that had two kids with two dads. Just divorced from the 2nd guy. (First guy was a one off) Thanks but no thanks. But...I knew she was way too attractive to stay single. She remarried a guy. And now her and her two kids live in his house. Here's the kicker...he was married before too. Now he's paying for her and her two kids. And I'm talking to her and she hits me with the "it's my house" lol. Dudes...don't make a bad situation magnitudes worse. This dude is gonna get fuuucked by her …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:26 PM
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Two year blues strike again. I'm 5 years out. My dreams didn't actually stop. I had one with her like a week ago lol. But it's less frequent. Was the first one in 8 months or so. The good thing about divorce is its front loaded. I'm not naive enough to say that "you'll recover completely "! But you won't miss her more in the future than you do now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 05:39 PM
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Sounds like she stuck around another 5 years for convenience. Not uncommon.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:11 AM
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Late 30s is when women really start to lose their looks and panic, and search out for more attention . And theyll start to hit hit perimenopause from late 30s to mid 40s too...you'll see divorces in your neck of the woods, don't worry.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:10 AM
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Dont sweat it, She'll get bored of him too. Even if they stay together.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 12:06 AM
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My ex told me 17 days in she hated me while theowing a tantrum. She later admitted she was emotional. I believed her . Worst mistake of my life. I mentioned this in another sub once. And a lady replied to me. Said she did the same thing as a newlywed. Then again about six months in...then again at about 9 months into the marriage. The 3rd time the guy said that he did love her, but...if she was gonna keep doing this he'd pack her bags for her. She had been married 17 years at that point. She the…
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 06:46 PM
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