MrBensBusiness Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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–	Spamming Cold Approaches is a dumb dating strategy. The main flaw is treating cold approach like it's supposed to be your primary strategy. It isn't an all-or-nothing choice. It's one tool. The conversion rate is low, but so is online dating for most men. A low success rate doesn't automatically make something ineffective if the cost of trying is small and the skill improves over time. The "ruining your image" point is also overstated. Unless you're repeatedly approaching women in the same small social circle, most people will never know. In larg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 05:34 PM
1	Would you like to live in a post gender society? I'd be fine with less pressure to follow rigid gender roles, but not with erasing sex altogether. Men and women are biologically different, and I don't see a benefit in pretending those differences don't matter. Equal rights doesn't require making everyone the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 07:27 AM
–	The debate about age gaps in relationships reveals the double standard of blue pillers. The inconsistency comes from treating the exact same age gap differently depending on who is expressing the preference. If a 22-year-old woman says she prefers older men, people often emphasize her autonomy and say she's an adult who can make her own choices. If a man says he prefers younger adult women, the discussion often shifts away from her autonomy and toward questioning his motives. A consistent standard would either respect the choices of consenting adults regardless of who initiated the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:26 AM
1	Q4W: Why do women get so much more leeway in terms of being insecure/jealous in dating/ relationships? A big reason is that people tend to assume men's jealousy is about controlling women, while women's jealousy is framed as protecting the relationship. The exact same emotion gets interpreted through two completely different lenses depending on who's expressing it. There are also different expectations placed on each sex. A woman getting upset over her boyfriend giving attention to another woman is often treated as a normal emotional reaction. A man setting boundaries around behavior that openly …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 06:29 PM
–	Can platonic feeling between two individuals go so far that it jumps into sexual just due to closeness ? Closeness alone doesn't override sexual orientation. Strong platonic bonds can form under extreme circumstances without becoming sexual. Some individuals might adapt due to isolation, but it isn't inevitable, and you can't assume someone will abandon their orientation simply because they're stranded. Sexual orientation still matters, even when companionship becomes essential.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 09:16 PM
–	What do you mean by “social skills”? I think "social skills" gets used too broadly. Some of it is real, like holding a conversation and reading social cues, but a lot of it is also influenced by attraction and context. The same behavior can be seen as charming or awkward depending on who's doing it. Dating also expects men to carry much more of the social burden, so it's not surprising they're the ones most often criticized for lacking "social skills." The standard isn't always as objective or consistent as people make it sound.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 05:18 PM
2	I don't know how anyone can argue in good faith that dating apps aren't easier for women than men I don't think this is even controversial. Women having challenges doesn't mean the challenges are equivalent. If one side is deciding between dozens of matches while the other is hoping to get one, those are fundamentally different positions. Filtering through options is a problem created by abundance. Struggling to get noticed is a problem created by scarcity. They aren't the same problem. People also underestimate how abundance changes behavior. When there is always another profile one swipe a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 06:27 AM
1	A woman's "bare minimum" is never just the bare minimum People say they only want the bare minimum, then describe a man who is attractive, financially stable, confident, emotionally intelligent, funny, ambitious, loyal, attentive, socially skilled, shares their values, and has no major flaws. That's not the bare minimum. That's an above-average man with a very specific set of traits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 06:34 AM
1	Does anyone care that dating is better now for women? That assumes women who are partnered today are actually in better relationships, which hasn't really been established. Being more selective only improves outcomes if people are selecting for traits that lead to better long-term relationships. You're also treating attraction as if it's the only thing that matters. A relationship can fail because of poor attraction, though it can also fail because people prioritize attraction over compatibility, character, stability, or shared goals. The other iss…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 05:46 PM
1	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason I think there's some truth to it. Once you tell men that women can stay in relationships for security, status, convenience, or other benefits rather than pure love, you can't be surprised when some men become more cautious and skeptical. The image of women as inherently more virtuous or less self-interested than men has largely disappeared, and many men now view women as equally capable of both good and bad behavior. That doesn't mean distrust is always justified, but it does mean the old assump…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 06:17 PM
1	If you are not willing to sacrifice everything to get it, then you don’t deserve it. That view is too extreme. Improving yourself makes sense, but sacrificing your mental health, stability, and self-respect for casual sex is not discipline; it is obsession. A man should build his looks, confidence, money, and social skills because it improves his life overall, not because he has to destroy himself chasing validation. Casual sex is not worth “sacrificing everything” for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 11:27 PM
1	A lot of male self-improvement advice is useless because it still keeps women at the centre. If the end goal is still validation, then the direction never really changed. It just looks more productive on the surface. A stronger position is building a life that holds up on its own. When your habits, money, health, and mindset are solid, you’re not dependent on anyone reacting to it. Women can be part of your life, but they’re not the scoreboard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 02:02 PM
–	The manosphere or redpill are things men observe in the dating market and NOT something men blindly believe. That is basically right. A lot of men did not start with a label and then build their worldview from it. They lived through certain dating experiences first, noticed the same patterns over and over, then found communities where other men were describing what they had already seen. The label came after the observation, not before it. That is why dismissing it like men were just recruited into some belief system is incorrect. Most of the time it was pattern recognition first, community second.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 02:45 PM
–	I think people should lay out all their cards on the table before they enter into a relationship. It sounds good in theory, but it’s too rigid for how relationships actually work. Trust and vulnerability usually build with connection, not all at once up front. Waiting until there’s some real investment to talk about heavier issues is not a hostage situation, it’s just normal progression. You should be honest about major dealbreakers before things get serious, sure, but trying to lay every card on the table too early turns dating into an interview and kills natural chemistry. Transparency mat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/26 02:42 AM
–	The concept of gender roles is outdated and stupid Being a functioning adult does not make gender roles outdated. A man knowing how to cook and clean, and a woman being able to pay her own bills, is just basic life competence. Gender roles are about the relationship dynamic, and those still matter because men and women usually do not want or thrive in the exact same role.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 10:34 AM
1	A lot of men would rather be with a woman who they know is using them than be single. Nah, I would not say that is true for a lot of men. Some men, sure. But saying “a lot” makes it sound way more common than it really is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 03:41 AM
1	Do you offer to pay for your own food and drinks in the early stages of dating? To give up that privilege, they have to really like the man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 02:49 AM
1	Dating, marriage and sex are overrated. Nah, it can actually be great when done right, just like with most things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 04:53 PM