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Link, for the lazy.
/r/seduction27/09/13 01:52 PM
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Has anyone else had to deal with a lot of anxiety in dating coming from the prospect that you might have to break up with this person you don't even know yet? Like, my AA comes in the form of "what if she likes me a lot, but I don't like her." I think I've got abandonment issues, and I feel like I'm abandoning them or something. I'm overly empathetic, at the cost of my self.
/r/seduction08/07/13 09:57 PM
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Earlier this year, I found a hobby that I really like, and this past weekend I shared it with others for the first time. People were super psyched, and all the work I'd put in to study and prepare and make sure everything went smoothly really paid off. As a result, I feel much more confident in myself. My biggest problem with Game has always been that I felt like I have nothing interesting going on in my life. Why would anyone want to get to know me, when I don't particularly find MYSELF that in…
/r/seduction02/07/13 02:06 PM
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If you've gone from loner type to a social guy, maybe you can answer a beginner question I'm trying to answer myself. Do you miss aspects of being a loner? After a long week, time out with friends etc.. I'm really happy when my phone doesn't ring and I can just walk down to the park and read. Do you even think about this? I find it incredibly hard to say "I don't want to hang out, I want to read a book." Not really seduction, but... Social life stuff I guess.. Which is really my goal.
/r/seduction01/06/13 09:12 PM
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It's a cold way to phrase it, but that's a discussion for a close friend, not a random guy at the bar. As someone who gets stuck in these conversations semi-regularly (I don't know why I have such a tendency to go super "deep and meaningful" so often), if you can change the subject skillfully without offending her, you're probably doing both of you a favor.
/r/seduction21/05/13 02:28 PM
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You are a much more social creature now, don't regress! One thing I'm trying to internalize myself as I reach out and meet many more people - not everyone is well adjusted, or used to dealing with confident, social people. Or they might not even be good people at all themselves. The fact that I might have ONE bad experience needs to be taken in the context of the significantly larger group of people I interact with, and the significantly better life I have because of the social confidence that I…
/r/seduction13/05/13 11:01 AM
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Sure, and I'll try to keep it short. I'm pretty much completely asexual with my female friends. I'm wondering if this is a bad and maybe even unhealthy way to be. I'm trying to figure out where the line is between friends and people I'm physically interested in, if not romantically. Is it socially accepted to cross the line without drama and crap going down. For the record, I'm long out of school, and should probably know better. I'm trying to embrace my social skills but I'm playing catch up :)
/r/seduction17/04/13 02:53 PM
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How often do you stay friends, or become just friends with the girls you pursue? I'd love to work on expanding my social circle, but not sure I can do both at once.
/r/seduction16/04/13 09:11 PM
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It's not just women, it's life. Giving away devotion to someone that hasn't earned it is a recipe for heartache and unhappiness. I've seen it at work many times. You're lucky if she just dumps you.
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:57 PM
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I don't really get the message. Seems like he went full circle from afc and back again. Except he got lucky and found someone that is ok with that. Not to be overly cynical, but in the way the story is told, he didn't really learn anything. Or am I missing the point?
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:04 PM
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Thanks, that's very very insightful. Internalizing this has been hard, but I don't think I've ever seen it so directly correlated to what my own personal situation is. Thanks.
/r/seduction26/12/12 12:14 AM
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By invested I mean that... Some people get super fired up about their opinions, and assertively engage people who challenge them. It's more in a group situation than in a 1 on 1 interaction. I won't back down in a debate, but I'm afraid it will appear that way if I disengage from an obviously stressful or negative topic/person. I also worry that I can come across as "cold".
/r/seduction25/12/12 12:27 AM
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What are some fundamentals for a guy that is "low energy?" I'm a funny guy, pretty smart, and I'm social when I engage as well. I just don't get as intense or invested as some people though. Is this something I can work with, or is this just a symptom of being afc?
/r/seduction24/12/12 11:11 PM
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What's the most difficult part of being successful with women?
/r/seduction13/11/12 02:40 PM
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Does the same apply to Facebook messaging?
/r/seduction07/11/12 11:11 PM
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Im an American in Sweden myself. This is too true.
/r/seduction06/11/12 12:15 AM
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I'm glad you wrote that up - it's obvious the significance that it had for you. I've read my fair share of material in this area.. if I had anything useful to reply, I would say that you're obviously making big strides in the direction of enjoying the hell out of your life a lot more. Awesome and congrats! I'm mostly an AFC, and one thing I've noticed in myself is that when I go long periods without interacting romantically with a girl - anything I get will be "good enough"... meaning, I'm happy…
/r/seduction30/10/12 05:28 PM
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You're me 6 years ago. I turn 34 in a couple months. I am currently single. Getting out of that relationship was the best thing that happened to me, even though she had an astounding body and was really smart, the connection just wasn't there. In my case, I ended up really depressed about being with her, our sex life ended long before the relationship did, and I put on almost 50lbs 'cause I just stopped caring. All without noticing it happening to me. I thought that I'd never do better - but loo…
/r/seduction16/09/12 12:36 PM
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It never hurts to hear this sort of reply repeated until it sinks in. I agree completely with the others. Awesome work. Sure it's 5 rejections, but if you don't just focus on the rejection, but rather on how the girls people reacted to your different approaches.... you'll learn to read people's social cues better and better. You may have been rejected more in one night than all a whole year of highschool, but you hopefully also learned more too. You'll keep improving. I spent my freshman year sh…
/r/seduction16/09/12 11:55 AM
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My company has a bunch of applications that we've either bought or written ourselves. Customers don't see them, the apps are the service we provide. It's my job to make sure patches and new code releases are deployed to them in a "safe" way. That they don't crash, and if they do, that they come back as fast as possible. That sort of thing.
/r/seduction11/09/12 05:28 PM
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I administer servers/software. The field my company is in is incredibly unsexy, but lucrative enough. Related story: I never came up with a good way to describe what I do, but I'd been thinking about it. A girl I was chatting with asked me "What do you do?", and I flat out froze. No response, just a dumb look on my face. She looked at me like I might have been.... special. So I definitely need the help here.
/r/seduction11/09/12 04:51 PM
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Man, if that's an unabridged chatlog, that's about as distilled as it gets. Thanks for posting this, I need help remembering that women don't always want to be heading straight to Relationship Land like I've learned from TV. Seddit always says this, but it's good to see that reinforced. Oh and this: ...If you're down with that, great. If not, that's ok too. I read this in Peter Gibbons voice. Made me smile.
/r/seduction06/09/12 06:03 PM
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The thing is, some people have to learn to TAKE rejection respectfully. Some people take it very badly, and I'm sure that contributes to the silent treatment women learn to use.
/r/seduction02/09/12 11:08 AM
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I was guessing non-native english speaker.
/r/seduction01/09/12 11:43 AM
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Exactly this. Most Swede's I've talked to about it tell me that while chatting with strangers isn't done here, they're quite happy to have someone (nice) chat to them. Of course it's not everyone. It seems that once they realize that you're not drunk or crazy, they're happy to engage in a chat. In my experience, they invest a lot more than a person from a more "social" society might as well. In the context of the OP's point, I think it's actually better for someone making chit chat with stranger…
/r/seduction31/08/12 03:49 PM
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No, I live in Stockholm, it's a "big" city so there's way too many people for it to be very tight knit. It's very much about your established social circles. People make friends with coworkers, or they have old friends from growing up. Being invited along to a party/event by someone who is already in the group is pretty much the only way I've seen people make new connections. Social game seems to be everything. Spontaneity seems really uncommon. Most people seem to need at least a weeks worth of…
/r/seduction31/08/12 03:39 PM
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I'm an american in sweden... I often ask random people for help translating store signs and such... You get a really shocked look on their face until they process that I asked them "excuse me, do you speak english?" I'm generally not hitting on them anyway, but socially I see exactly the same thing as you. It's not just a stereotype about Swedes being quite "cool" and minding their own business as much as possible.
/r/seduction31/08/12 11:19 AM
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This is how I feel, though I'm in a bit of a unique situation.. It feels like a complete social taboo here for locals to speak to each other in public, but most will talk with a non-local without any problem at all. Being an american in sweden opens quite a few social doors (it also makes others more difficult too, but that's another thing all together)
/r/seduction31/08/12 11:15 AM
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Your last point is what took me so long to learn. I've always been more introspective than loud. A self aware introvert my whole life. I looked down on myself a lot for this. What I finally learned, was that my problem was not that I was I introverted, but that I was insecure. They are two completely different things. I think a lot of people (including myself for the longest time) confuse loudness and an outgoing nature with confidence. I thought I had to change who I was to be outgoing and conf…
/r/seduction21/08/12 10:37 AM
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You know what's kinda funny? I think I'd have less AA if I was trying to prove to my AFC friends that the pick up stuff a) works and b) isn't all creepy rapey vibe stuff. I think it might actually get me out of my head a bit. Do you think that your lack of AA was actually because you had guys there that you wanted to show "how it's done"?
/r/seduction19/08/12 10:45 AM
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I've heard a lot of good things about Golden Hits. One of them happened to be about the cougars.
/r/seduction10/08/12 02:15 PM
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I'd love to hear more of your opinions on Stockholm game.. 2 months from now, I'll finally be free to enjoy the town I've been living in for the last couple of years. Sodermalm is way more my speed, but I've had a tough time branching out as most of my friends are heavily married or close to it, and set in their ways. I'm a 33yr old American living here. I've had some fun, but haven't experienced much yet, in terms of meeting women anyway. Fairly standard AFC stuff.
/r/seduction09/08/12 10:45 PM
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Full disclaimer - I am no PUA, nor have I made much attempt to approach or pick up, so my advice is mostly generic social stuff. I'm an american living in Stockholm for the last 3 years. People in stockholm pre-game like mad. Bars are usually ghost towns until after 11pm in my experience. It's just too expensive to spend 4-6 hours drinking. Most places a beer of any kind runs 50-65kr (7.50-10 USD). Mixed drinks (Vodka/soda) are twice that, wine in the middle. As a result, people are often sloshe…
/r/seduction09/08/12 04:37 PM
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TV here (Sweden) is not dubbed, just subtitled. There's tons of exposure to english. I've met less than 5 people in 3 years that don't speak any English. I do not yet speak Swedish. Swedes also like Americans quite a lot, generally speaking. Though I used to get into quite a lot of political discussions (they're pretty curious about us it seems.)
/r/seduction09/08/12 04:10 PM
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Where are you from (country wise)? What part of town are you gonna be in? What kind of scene are you into (high end club, vs indie/rock, vs.. whatever?)
/r/seduction09/08/12 03:40 PM
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Cheers man.. btw, don't be afraid to voice what's getting you down either. Bottling that up is no better than being The Negative Guy. It's always a balance. It's not absolutes. People who are ALWAYS happy are weird too :)
/r/seduction08/08/12 01:32 PM
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General warning: I went all "armchair psychologist" on you here. Feel free to ignore it :) So you've got some solid foundations of being a good, likeable dude there. Respectful of others, helpful to people, determined to not take the easy way out of your problems... Lots of people don't have any of those things. I think you need to find some positive things in your life. You can start with simple stuff - be passionate about a coffee shop, or a book store, an author, a sport, a hobby.... Anything…
/r/seduction08/08/12 09:04 AM
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What's something good about you?
/r/seduction07/08/12 03:06 PM
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Jedi mind tricks implies a) women are dumb and b) women are controllable. I don't believe either. I DO believe that there are social cues people follow, and setting the wrong expectations for a girl that you're interested in, hurts your own chance for getting what you (hopefully both of you) want. A relationship (however short term it is) built on confidence and flirting. It's not about clinching sex, it's about NOT setting the expectation that you just want a buddy to talk about work and TV sho…
/r/seduction07/08/12 07:06 AM
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Not being sexual at all (kino or anything else) seems to be my huge weakness when hanging out with a girl that I'm interested in. Even if she WAS interested, hanging all buddy buddy and having deep friendly (emphasis on friend) conversations seems to just kill attraction. Awesome FR. I love reading an FR where you take complete responsibility, and focus on bettering yourself without making excuses. Really really productive, and exactly what an FR should be. To me, this is "alpha".
/r/seduction06/08/12 12:11 PM
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I'm no PUA, but I'd say be careful with the good cop/bad cop thing. If your friend is a dick, you're a dick by association. I'd expect anyway, I am just hypothesizing. Awesome work persisting through though. That takes confidence for sure.
/r/seduction02/08/12 10:00 PM
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Nice. I'm hoping to put together an east -> west europe trip next year. Not sure I can handle asia as my first solo trip. Only 4 or 5 weeks during the summer, but I am old now, and can't really quit my job for this. All I've ever heard is how much personal growth there is to be had while travelling solo. Awesome.
/r/seduction18/07/12 12:27 AM
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Awesome work, hilarious panic attack. Don't dwell on the freakout man! Dwell on how good everything leading up to that point felt! On having fun, getting out of your comfort zone, and actually getting something you decided that you wanted. A clean room is nice, but I've got at least one friend who's had girls he brought home help him do laundry the next morning, as he had clothes all over the place when she got there. As far as sex goes, everyone starts as a newbie. Remember how many selfish dou…
/r/seduction15/07/12 10:27 PM
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I think that it's mostly looking out for their friend who just got rejected/hurt. It's an emotional response, not a logical one.
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:58 PM
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Nice read, nice fr. I have a HUGE fear of situations where I am in complete control - when you said "you owe me something, but I haven't figured out what" to her... were I in that situation, it would stress me the hell out. I would be stressed for an hour or however long it would take to make the decision. I love how you played it, because it's actually a really simple, non-pervy request, as long as you're congruent and confident about it. The quickest way to make me ridiculously uncomfortable i…
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:29 AM
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Nice work man. losing 100lbs is the result of more than just passing commitment. It's nice having tangible results, but if you've put that much work into the physical, the mental has to be well in the right direction eh?
/r/seduction14/07/12 09:54 PM
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How's that going for you? I'm about to hit my mid 30's, and have identified a couple of hugely important things that I want to address, that have been issues in my life since.... puberty or earlier. I'm pretty optimistic, but we'll see I guess.
/r/seduction14/07/12 04:10 PM
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I recently learned the difference between being introverted, and being shy. Or more specifically, that you can be a natural introvert who still demands a high quality of life. I always relied on my friends to plan and do things then invite me along. When they did involve me, I was super grateful. Thing is, I undervalued myself in these interactions, so I put up with a lot shit (and was not my true self) because I was scared of losing the invitations. In turn, I ended up resenting the people I re…
/r/seduction25/06/12 11:08 AM
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Just as a thought, but there's gotta be some way of volunteering that has the same net result. If you're really socially phobic, having a genuine reason to interact (like the OP, just sans paycheck) would be pretty beneficial I'm guessing. I dunno, maybe even something like making up a petition and asking people to sign it. If you actually care about it a bit, it's a built in conversation. Just a random thought for the real beginner. (full disclosure: of which I mostly am one still)
/r/seduction22/06/12 06:43 PM
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I did my upvote, but I'm commenting to say that I hate being Ixxx anything, and I'm going to try to switch to an E. I'm getting old now, but I just don't see how I can achieve what I want in life while being introverted.
/r/seduction16/06/12 09:35 PM
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In my experience, a casual greeting with a stranger (head-nod, or "hi!") is not weird at all, but on a second or 3rd time in a short time period...... the first greeting still "counts". A smile of acknowledgement ("I see you're still out, and I'm friendly, but we already greeted each other") is all that's really needed I think. Lots of people will avert their eyes - not because you're creepy - but because they don't know what to say when they see you the second time. It's an unusual situation fo…
/r/seduction05/06/12 03:58 PM
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I saw this happen last night. A friend of mine from work has told me repeatedly about how he's spent time at home practicing a dance that is really popular in the trance clubs he goes to. A whole crew of us were out for dinner at a place that turns into a club, but as the dj takes the stage, no one would be the first to dance. So he just lets loose. Within 10 minutes (most of which was agonizing for me), he's got half the club cheering, I counted 6 people with phones filming him.... and then 2 g…
/r/seduction12/05/12 07:12 PM
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