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OP hasn't seen jail time for a false rape accusation, or had half of his life's work taken away in a divorce settlement. Hey did you know that in some states now, a domestic abuse accusation is an automatic arrest and charge? While women will get anxious over every nightly news horror story thinking it could happen to them, men will think they are different, they would do things better than the next guy. It's a common narcissism and part of the reason men are the natural risk takers. ​
/r/TheRedPill22/02/19 02:27 PM
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We had to be taught something others don't need and if they worked their ass off, they would win. Intelligence, motivation, and resilience are all evolutionary traits that are more important than height and brawn.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/19 08:47 PM
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This smacks of a hypothesis not experience. Nah, this is real stuff. Women will frequently cycle back to the guys they didn't conquer.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/19 08:40 PM
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Strong, secure men aren't afraid of their feminine side. Strong, secure men aren't afraid of mopping floors and doing dishes. Strong, secure men aren't afraid a letting a woman lead. Strong, secure men aren't afraid of staying home while the woman pursues her career. Do you see a pattern? Men have been conned into acting against their basic natures and primary interests as "an act of strength." When you "chase" a woman, all you are doing is communicating a lack of SMV. She got your attention and…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/19 07:17 PM
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This post is very wise - way beyond the implications for sex. Men live their lives with a relatively ordered understanding of cause and effect. Women live life in an impressionistic haze; they are desperately scrambling to make sense of their lives by putting an acceptable story to it, while also highly motivated to "live out" exciting stories ("roleplay" vs reality is a meaningless distinction).
/r/TheRedPill03/01/19 02:44 PM
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Holy shit, so many comments. I guess I will add my 2 cents. I see three major issues in the conservative vs liberal political war: Most of the conservative political movement is actually driven by corporate power that uses cultural issues to keep their constituency interested. Throw some illegals into cruel detention facilities and get that tax break pushed through. I'm not disagreeing with conservative political/cultural values, but conservatism as a political movement is a scam. Conservative i…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/18 06:01 PM
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It's a diverse scene that encompasses a lot these days. Definitely there are "doms" that aren't really directing their own lives. There are also women that identify as "submissive" because they are just completely passive. The daddy/little dynamic that has grown to be a big slice of the community is like that and annoys the crap out of me. On the other hand, traditional marriage is now so drowned out by modern politics that "1950's"-style marriage is now a BDSM category.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/18 05:09 PM
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As a man the only power you have with women is your attention. OP says everything in this one sentence.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/18 02:02 PM
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When your success or failure to sleep with a woman affects your self-esteem or sense of masculinity.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/18 02:05 PM
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In my 20 years of experience with women the only ones that have stood up to the test of time were self-described submissive women found in BDSM environments. You might think I'm not into whips and chains and shit but you don't have to be- whatever she says she's into, she mostly just wants a masculine man with some sharp edges. Every woman I have been with has become submissive through my frame. However, once we cohabitated the relationship became a constant negotiation. The only exception I hav…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/18 02:33 AM
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I speculate that having the social grace and lack of thirst to not push the issue, will lead to better perceptions and a plate that will last longer - so, better return on investment.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/18 09:41 PM
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I wouldn't agree that you can/should interject seduction into every interaction. At a club, it would be naive to fail to flirt because girls are there to be hit on. Talk to a girl at the grocery store, get a number but you probably shouldn't try to take her home. In the middle, you have drinks and dates, and I would suggest that you need social awareness to understand her expectations and know how the rapport is going and not just go for seduction on autopilot. In fact, as I developed abundance,…
/r/TheRedPill17/12/18 09:26 PM
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Don't get too wrapped up in thinking you need first date success - pinning your manhood on a woman's selection is the worst possible failure of frame. If you knew that you would plate a woman after 3 dates, would you ever worry over getting laid on the first date? Once upon a time I had a date show up half-drunk and kind of obnoxious. I spent the hour amused by how she was making a fool of herself and just shot the shit and teased her while I was there. I didn't make a move on her at all or text…
/r/TheRedPill17/12/18 01:44 AM
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I speculate that loss aversion might have also developed due to the social nature of the human species. If the implication of losing something is that it was taken from you, then it is not just a material loss, but a loss of social power.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 04:44 PM
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This response makes me sad.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 01:45 AM
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Classic example of looking to women for validation. You are not special. A woman will tell you that you're special if you are the best she thinks she can do at the moment. I have been told that I'm perfect, like a god even. It's all just hamstering. Your evolutionary purpose is not to attract women. It is to gain power and resources. When you look to women for validation, you are doing the exact opposite of your evolutionary purpose as a male.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 01:43 AM
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Try doing extended workouts at the gym... like 2 hours. I find that an hour workout leaves me feeling good but also horned-up. If I work out for more like 2 hours, I'm spent. I theorize that longer workouts use up my free testosterone. Obviously, eat and sleep enough to recover if you do long workouts.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 01:33 AM
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Does anyone here want to get laid because of their improvisational skills? Or do you want to go out and kill a mastodon and have her cream because you're the man that brought home the meat and pelt?
/r/TheRedPill12/12/18 09:20 PM
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I'm not wading into the sociological debate, but this sub is about sexual strategy and understanding female motivations. To that end, I have to say this: Having a boss makes you less attractive***.*** It doesn't make you unattractive, and it's not going to kill your game. But understand that in a woman's mind, seeing you have to jump at another person's call is going to diminish attraction. We all know that in business transactions, you are always trying to please someone to some extent (either …
/r/TheRedPill12/12/18 08:02 PM
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Does your desire to pound equate to your desire to masturbate? For me, there's a lot of difference.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/18 10:43 PM
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Women are psychic, they know if they have you hooked or not. While you were playing with GI Joes, their brains were learning to process emotional cues and interpersonal drama. Their survival literally depends on getting men to feed, shelter, and protect them. Don't game a girl with fake dread. You are not a good enough actor to disguise your one-itis and she will get off on your feeble efforts to manipulate her - the effort actually validates her. You have to actually not give a shit and put you…
/r/TheRedPill30/11/18 08:16 PM
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Guys should pay attention to this comment. Don't let yourself think you are doing well just because she's not dumping you or cheating on you. You might just be the frog in the pot of water.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/18 08:18 PM
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Citation? I've never heard this before and am curious.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/18 05:16 PM
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Dr Squatch is a really good brand of soap - more glycerine, fewer detergents, doesn't dry you out.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/18 03:07 AM
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Yea, don't just up and stop when she says she needs to get home soon. Work her up and then turn it off with a big smile on your face. If you have the confidence and self-control to be the one teasing her, she will basically fall in love then and there.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 09:12 PM
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Sometimes a girl appears cold because she is getting nervous or trying to play it cool. Once upon a time, I put my arm around this girl and thought "damn, she is having none of this" but later after we had been sleeping together she revealed her inner dialogue was actually "wow, this hot guy has his arm around me."
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 08:59 PM
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Thanks for the FR. A few thoughts: 1) Whether she is dangling a carrot or not is irrelevant, you should always maintain outcome independence. Base your expectations and escalation on how you feel about the moment, not what she said 5 days ago. 2) A woman often says she is on her period just as a warning (she didn't say to stop did she?). There is no reason you can't touch her (avoiding penetration) while she is on her period. 3) You didn't say anything about trying to escalate further: "get in t…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 08:54 PM
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He already did - he moved on and they came back around because women can't stand a man forgetting about them. He just needs to play nice a little to avoid scorned-woman syndrome and use their social interaction as a friendly advertisement of preselection.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 07:00 PM
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As a young guy, there are going to be a lot of times where you generated some attraction, but still failed to close due to inexperience, awkwardness, chemistry, etc. If you maintain an "all good" attitude and don't keep going after her, she will maintain her attraction to you despite failure to close. (Remember, "they want you to win") In social settings, this will come out just like it did with this girl wanting extra hugs before you left, she will be physically affectionate with you in public …
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 06:17 PM
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There is a pocket of this community that likes to comment on field reports with statements like "she didn't want to fuck you anyway" or "she already decided to fuck you." There are folks that use TRP principles like outcome independence or "I am the prize" as ego defense. Thinking the outcome is predetermined is both factually wrong and props up a fragile ego. These guys are usually projecting that women care about looks the way men do. I guess if a guy has already decided he's ugly, also admitt…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 05:48 PM
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There are circumstances where this kind of "accident" is way more likely to happen: - She is post-wall - She already has a kid - Your SMV is significantly higher than hers - All her friends are getting married or having kids - She demonstrates other extreme neediness or BPD characteristics You are less likely to encounter these scenarios if you are gaming women in their prime years. You have been warned, gentlemen.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 05:33 PM
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I'm asking on the OP's behalf to answer his questions about this, otherwise I am afraid he will listen to the bad advice he is getting from the incel crowd.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 05:51 AM
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Don't listen to this guy. Women want to fuck high-quality men, and part of being high-quality is having frame, confidence, social skills, etc. Things that you have to demonstrate. You didn't maintain this level of confidence and so the interaction petered out. You demonstrated enough frame that it cultivated her interest and that may pay out later (directly or in pre-selection), so feel good about that.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 05:45 AM
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This guy is being too hard on you. If a girl accepts your invitation to see a bathroom, she is down for at least making out with you. You fucked up after isolating, not before. It sounds like you lost momentum, confidence, humor, etc, when she put up resistance. Be more confident and more fun about it. Thanks for sharing with the community.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 05:32 AM
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There are plenty of examples in the animal kingdom of females and males becoming extra sexually competitive as their best years are almost over, so as a point of principle, Rollo's argument isn't very strong. However, in practice, my experience has been that women in their 30's are less interested in sex than younger women. A woman in her 30's is more desperate and transactional with sex, so that might resolve some of the perception of high sex drive, but once you cohabitate with one you will fi…
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 05:04 AM
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Thanks for the contribution. You need to keep swallowing though, because despite your words, your butthurt attitude does not demonstrate real acceptance of TRP. I bet you'll fall for the next unicorn that seems to want you all to herself. If you accept that you were the one ignorant of the rules, you would get over the hurt feelings and convert both women into friends that give you ample pre-selection.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/18 03:39 AM
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Women are social supercomputers. They understand their SMV fairly well. Women who seem to overestimate themselves are just making power plays. If you are close to her SMV, she might date you and extract some value, but she won't consider you worthy of full submission. However, if you maintain your frame, her perception of your SMV will climb and she will start falling in line. If you are frustrated that Tinder chicks aren't writing you back, it's mostly because there are a lot of top guys that a…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/18 02:27 AM
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Hypergamy gets terribly overused on this sub and perspectives like this are useful in refining our understanding of sexual dynamics. Hypergamy is defined in a lot of ways. The standard definition of "marrying up" implies trading beauty for success. This definition is so common-sense it almost doesn't warrant its own term. The Rational Male describes hypergamy differently; it is a woman's willingness to "trade up" at any moment. Given a man's willingness to trade a woman in for a newer model, I a…
/r/TheRedPill22/11/18 02:09 AM
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Good question. The answer is that women don't care about fucking the way men do. Men care about sexual conquest, women care about emotional conquest. Fucking an alpha that gives zero fucks about them is a bit of a cheap thrill, like a guy fucking the easiest girl in town. It satisfies a need, but only just. Regardless of what women say about enjoying sex "just as much" as men, they are getting tingly over the attention of a worthwhile man. Slim attention from an alpha man and full devotion from …
/r/TheRedPill22/11/18 12:46 AM
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This comment is true, just don't take away from it that money/status is all that matters. Frame is very powerful. I've never been broken up with. I'm not a jerk, but I consider a woman's presence in my life to be about my happiness and won't think twice about them if one of us moves on. They can sense this and it is unbearable for a woman to think that a man will just forget about her. I even had a fling that continued to stalk me after she got married. I have good SMV but I'm no king of manhood…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/18 11:25 PM
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Negative. She might temporarily value whatever dude will give her comfort when she's motivated to secure a man and a kid, but she will eventually cheat with an alpha guy. I still get gray hairs telling me that I'm a handsome man and acting like shy little girls. Women don't stop tingling for alpha attention.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/18 11:15 PM
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I agree; hypergamy gets terribly overused on this sub and perspectives like this are useful in refining our understanding of sexual dynamics. Hypergamy is defined in a lot of ways. The standard definition of "marrying up" implies trading beauty for success. This definition is so common-sense it almost doesn't warrant its own term. The Rational Male describes hypergamy differently; it is a woman's willingness to "trade up" at any moment. Given a man's willingness to trade a woman in for a newer m…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/18 02:56 PM
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This is very insightful and deserves to be voted up. Women will tell any level of falsehood if they can convince themselves that you deserved it - which they are already programmed to do.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/18 03:28 AM
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Once a woman starts playing "abuse victim" she will do it for the rest of her life - whether or not abuse actually occurred, or if she was the abusive one. She learned womankind's secret weapon. If you could make a woman do whatever you wanted with a snap of your fingers, would you hold back out of a sense of fairness? If a man's prime directive is sexual conquest, then a woman's prime directive is emotional conquest. All women are driven to become the center of your universe - that is the "comm…
/r/askTRP20/11/18 09:04 PM
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Nice field report. Any thoughts on why she was surprised that you were seeing other women? Anything you could have done to project that impression so it didn't require an outright discussion?
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 01:50 AM
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Unless they are post-wall and/or already have a kid in tow. Then they will attach themselves to a provider and give beta bill just enough sex to keep him around (while cheating, of course).
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 12:51 AM
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Porn is definitely worse because it is addictive. I found that I was turning to porn out of craving when I wasn't really horny at all. However, I'm not sure that frequent masturbation without porn is a huge improvement. YourBrainOnPorn argues that porn consumption has filled your head with enough fantasy that you will still be exercising the same neurological "rut" that causes your craving. There is some science to suggest that frequent ejaculation lowers androgen receptors, the things that actu…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 12:46 AM
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This reply is correct but doesn't go far enough in pointing out the problems with that example: I don't like the way you talked to your girlfriends about my friend last night You should have said something right then and there if she was badmouthing your friend. If she gives you shit, you get up and leave. That shouldn't have happened to begin with. Girls are social supercomputers and she's full-on demonstrating power over you with that one. As much as I would like to have a nuanced take on the …
/r/askTRP19/11/18 07:50 PM
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I don't talk about my feelings to my dog. Is it because I'm a fragile man-gina, or because it would be pointless to do so? Men are born into the world for the purpose of conquest. Your purpose is to create or take value from the world. If you fail at this, you are totally expendable. Your parents only care about you to the extent that they didn't have a ton of other kids. Who the fuck cares about your feelings? The recommendation to not talk about feelings with women has nothing to do with your …
/r/askTRP19/11/18 07:37 PM
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This is a very useful list. However, don't for a second think that a woman is static and exists at one point on the spectrum. She will employ as many of these tactics as she can get away with socially and legally. Your submissive girlfriend may end up acting like a BPD lunatic once you are married or she has your child to use as a pawn. Don't cohabitate, don't get married.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/18 06:13 PM
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You can fail in a lot of ways and end up in a miserable LTR, but a woman won't actually leave you if she thinks you will immediately forget about her. Feeling replaceable is an existential crises for them. Always project that you are totally fine with ending any relationship that is no longer working for either person for whatever reason.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/18 05:48 PM
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Are you lifting? I am worried about you because you self-report agreeableness and neuroticism in addition to the introversion. Agreeableness is often a cover for anxiety - fear of disagreeing with others. I don't mean to be insulting, but this is a pretty typical female cluster of personality traits. Are you living a lifestyle that builds your masculine qualities? Most people don't realize how much their hormones affect their emotional state and how your personality can and will change. Join an …
/r/askTRP19/11/18 05:23 PM
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+1 for the sub-communication. Get it out of your head that she wants you to be her boyfriend. She wants you to be a hot guy that she gets to fuck occasionally and tell her girlfriends about. Go in with that attitude, and you won't spoil it with nice guy subtext.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 05:07 PM
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If you don't want to be someone's bitch, then don't be. Keep you're own life going, don't let her worm her way into everything you do, don't have her around all the time (or let her move in), keep meeting new people, lift, tell her what you want her to do and tell her no when you feel like it, be willing to "just be friends" whenever she makes it not worth your hassle - as she inevitably will.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 05:02 PM
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This crazy bitch prob shows up at his house late at night half naked and he's like.. well fuck, might as well smash this becky one last time. Then wakes up to her putting a baseball bat through his windscreen. And now's he's on Dr. Phil having to basically deny rape allegations. This deserves all the karma.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:03 PM
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Goes right back to that post "They want you to win."
/r/TheRedPill17/11/18 01:52 AM
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I don't know how to turn it around The first thing you have to do is stop hamstering your social anxiety management as "composure".
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 10:31 PM
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Throwing out a possible save for you. Text her now. You: I would like you to come over tonight Her: What for? You: I didn't fix everything I was supposed to last night Her: Like what? You: :) Do not reply to any shit tests, reply only if she asks for logistics, like what time. If she puts you off, "all good" and ignore her.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 07:17 PM
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Yea, there's a certain level of kino a person will exhibit the more social confidence they have, and obviously physically leading a woman involves touch. But then there is suggestive kino like trying to stroke a woman's hair or brush her hand. It comes off as sneaky and feminine. When guys use this to pump feelz into a girl, I wonder if she ends up feeling a little creeped out by him the next day.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 07:07 PM
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Sounds more like beta-ization than a shit test. She is treating you like it is your job to be her girlfriend and/or hang on her words and she can disrespect you when you fail to do so. This isn't a failure from one text exchange, you have already failed to maintain the right dynamic in the relationship, probably through lack of leadership, maintaining dread, and maintaining frame. If you spend too much of your time taking an interest in her life, her problems, letting her talk, etc., you basical…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 06:26 PM
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They're the direct descendents of actual sex slaves after all. Holy shit that is a powerful perspective right there.
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 04:29 PM
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This is the sad story of two people that have no game - the kernel of many indy films :) Some women are so shy or sensitive that even subtle signals feel too obvious for them (leaning in, eye contact, etc.). But you can only recognize this and take responsibility for your side of the failure. It sounds like you were responding to her body language instead of maintaining your frame. She looks away and so you look away? Fuck no. You give her a nice long "I like how shy you are around me" look. You…
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 04:16 PM
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The therapeutic tone of this post made me throw up in my mouth a little. But there is tremendous truth here. The impact on women of feeling accepted or judged is profound and influences most of their psychology, not just sexual openness. Consider that a woman's evolutionary survival depended almost entirely on being accepted by the tribe. There are a number of behaviors that spring from this: Insecure (butthurt) behaviors from men make women not just turned-off but fearful and anxious, they are …
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 03:22 PM
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Women do not live in an observable and measurable reality like men do. She was testing your sense of value because she has no capacity to measure it for herself.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/18 08:45 PM
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This gave me a laugh. "What's the L-word?" would have also been the correct response in the OP's story.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/18 05:49 PM
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Evolution programs our instincts. If I got turned on by putting my dick in a watermelon, that would be fine and dandy, but that's not a trait that leads to reproductive success. Women are programmed to like older men because liking older men has been evolutionary successful. Older men are more likely to have resources, knowledge, social status, be more invested in offspring, and importantly, they managed to survive to whatever age they are without dying to booze, drugs, accidents, animals, fight…
/r/askTRP11/11/18 03:11 AM
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Social media is re-energizing long-standing female behavior. Playing the victim and using it to rally others is really the only power a woman has to hurt another person. There are parts of the world where "bitches are crazy" is still part of cultural knowledge, but this seems to be in a lot of flux these days.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/18 06:05 PM
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Sorry you got the idiotic responses that you did. It seems like a fair number of threads get killed if the trolls set in early. Only thing I was going to say is that having outcome independence isn't a response to doing things wrong and ruining a good thing. Your comments sounded like you're putting a lot of attention on this girl. I'm just reading between the lines so what do I know. Just make sure you are keeping a separate life going that she only gets a peek into once in a while.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/18 05:59 PM
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There's truth to what you're saying; as a man, it is your job to demonstrate value, not just stick your nose in the air bluff value. Often, the reason she demonstrates interest and then loses it is because the guy started responding too eagerly. If you didn't project enough value (or if you projected negative value), take a moment to reflect on why without hamstering up excuses and try again. I can't imagine trying again more than once though - that's enough to show initiative, but more will pro…
/r/TheRedPill10/11/18 02:53 PM
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Pretty much this. Modern norms have taught women to strive for masculine qualities, so many women have under-developed feminine qualities. A couple of things happen because of this: 1) Men just won't be very interested - women will overestimate the meaning of sexual interest and not understand that they aren't in consideration for a LTR. 2) Women naturally need to feel like their man is more competent than them - so when they develop masculine qualities, they will only be interested in the most …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 09:13 PM
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Negativity inspires avoidance in men, not drive. You want more from your husband financially, but your post sounds like someone that complains to get what she wants. Someone that is constantly in comparison to others is not a person that is oriented to their partners happiness. A man that has a nagging wife at home is a man that grinds through the day and escapes to tv, video games, porn, sports, booze, etc. But a man that has an appreciative wife will be energized to tackle the world. Maybe not…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 08:54 PM
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What shit tests are you getting? Not to toot my own horn, but I've never been shit tested after fucking a girl. Are you sure you're not acting beta and over-invested?
/r/TheRedPill09/11/18 08:39 PM
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I'm supporting your comments by adding that the narrative in the editorial is not supported by the data in the research article.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/18 08:18 PM
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See my comment above. The data doesn't support that narrative at all. The guys that are actually exercising have no additional risk of depression. The data showed a modest correlation between negative body image and depression, completely independent of whether a guy is hitting the gym. You can make zero inference about a man's mental state (depression) based on how much time he spends in the gym. It is so common for young guys to get really into lifting this way (or any other hobby really) that…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/18 08:07 PM
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This kind of covert contract is a recipe for resentment and loss of value to him. A man's top priorities for a woman are to be sexually generous, drama free, and nurturing. There are a million ways to be seductive and entice a man toward action. It's not great that he isn't taking action to reduce his own boredom, but you can take the initiative to be provocative and seductive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 07:53 PM
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This is classic bad interpretation and representation of science. The data from the original paper even contradicts a major point of the article - the association between depression and drive for musculature. If you look at the table that shows the odds ratios between increased muscular drive and various health outcomes, you will see that there are two columns: one for body image satisfaction and one for exercise behaviors. The column for exercise behaviors and depression show an odds ratio of n…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/18 05:42 PM
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As ironic as it is to say here, you probably aren't meant to be horny all the time. That is likely something that has been habituated through porn, like any other addiction. There are studies that show a male's (of various animal species) sexual desire declines with the same partner, but they will binge fuck until they have a heart attack if they have a constant stream of new partners. I wouldn't worry much about not being horny more than twice a week.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/18 12:40 AM
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I appreciate your perspective that relaxation should come as a result of putting in effort and being competent in a situation. Except I would say it should be both. You need to work on self-directed relaxation and the precursors for naturally feeling relaxed. It is cyclical.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 06:59 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story. Your example is a really important one for men to understand. Most men grow up to develop a code of conduct and internalize a sense of fairness. This is not true for women. They are opportunistic beings that will persuade, coerce, rationalize, lie, manipulate, etc. to gain power and control. It doesn't matter how docile, accommodating, or submissive she is - give her an inch she will take all ten...wait, bad analogy. There are a lot of reasons for this, but the lea…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 04:10 PM
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So you kiss her, but the rest of the escalation is up to her? You didn't suggest that you go up to fuck her brains out. You didn't give a plausible excuse for going up - You probably should have checked her apartment for intruders, be a gentleman, bro. You didn't pull her into a dark corner on your walk home to make out and suggest that you might just fuck her right then and there. After kissing her you didn't hold her face firmly and just stare at her like she's a piece of meat you could rip in…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 01:38 PM
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If you are going into this thinking you need to put on a song and dance for her approval, then I suppose you could have a point about perceptions of investment and reward. But that is based on wrong assumptions. Taking initiative is not trying to impress. When I pick up a woman and toss her on my bed, I am not doing it to impress her. I'm doing it because I want to. Her ability to say yes/no is tangential. This distinction is important. When I go out with a woman, I am not hoping for permission …
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 02:57 AM
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Post sounded logical but then it takes us here: "if I'm surrounded all day by beautiful women, WHY THE FUCK AM I SITTING HERE TRYING TO IMPRESS A SOFT 7?!" You don't try to impress a woman. You either live a badass life and she smells it on you, or you don't. Do you need a ton of motivation to have a friendly, playful conversation with a member of the opposite sex? My guess is that it only seems not worth it because you are still afraid of the sting of rejection. Don't blame the porn, the fallba…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 09:15 PM
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This is what makes me love this sub.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 03:46 AM
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Nice to have something new in RP theory. I never thought about it being seasonal, but I can recall examples of girls pushing for a relationship more in the fall. I never got the fall texts though - from what I can recall, the exes would be DTF in the Spring/Summer and then hold out for a LTR in the fall so I would have to drop them again.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 03:07 AM
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But the number one, big deal, primary determining factor for whether a woman goes home with you isn't how good your frame is. It's whether she was interested in hooking up with you in the first place. What do you think makes her want to hook up with you "in the first place"?
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 02:16 AM
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I agree with your thoughts but you are making the mistake of accepting her representation of facts at face value. She could have pursued him, they hooked up, she got pissed that he was hooking up with other women (younger probably), and wrote a contrived review because of it.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/18 05:48 PM
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This comment is attempting to downplay the influence of the OP's presence and frame. This is sadly misguided. Despite the significant differences between men and women, the OP played right into a fantasy shared by both sexes. A capable, confident man sees a woman he wants and is filled with a passion to claim her, his presence exudes a power that is obvious to her and makes her want to submit to him, with few or no words, he takes what is rightfully his. The romance novel business - largely usin…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/18 05:41 PM
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Don't bother. Your story isn't just plausible, it's ordinary. Guys calling B.S. on commonplace stuff life this makes me sad for them. Thanks for the field report.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/18 08:03 PM
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A woman's need for attention is like a man's need for sex. It has absolutely nothing to do with you.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/18 12:31 PM
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A girl that needs a savior can bring out intense feelings in a man. It will wreck your life.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/18 12:27 PM
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I get it, it's a fun hobby if you are good at it. But your experience with this doctor is a lesson that PUA game is inferior to other forms of SMV. Plates will break fast if there is not enough tangible value after the pick-up. Men kind of have a wall too. As men age, we are expected to have more accomplishments to our name. Just be mindful of how much time you are investing and don't hit 40 with nothing to show for it besides a high n-count, you might find yourself having walked over a cliff.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 06:14 PM
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Congrats, brother. It sounds like you stayed relaxed and played things well. The main thing that caught my attention was agreeing to go out so that her friends could approve of you. I probably would have done that back in the day, but I think I give few enough fucks now that I would have told her what I wanted to do to her over text and that her uber would be there in 30 minutes and she could take it or leave it.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 03:33 PM
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I've said this before, it sounds like you are over-investing your time and attention in PUA game, but I will back you up here - I think you have a fun and dramatic way of writing (that I enjoy) and some people are reading too much into it.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 01:49 PM
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You don't AMOG a group of guys by being an asshole, you show interest, gain respect and start commanding attention with your awesome stories, not all that differently from gaming a woman. I haven't seen it talked about in this sub, but male respect is a turn on for women - more so than pre-selection - might even be their biggest turn on. You thought you had a chance because the guys were into themselves and ignoring the girls, but the girls were creaming over all these guys patting each other on…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 01:41 PM
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You are a college freshman, of course you are shit :) However well rounded you think the next college guy is, he is also shit. The training you accomplish in school or in sports or in the gym is not an accomplishment. Schools like to confuse young people about this. Training is not an accomplishment, accomplishments are what you do with that training. Unless you are very obviously genetically gifted, you are not supposed to be desired or applauded right now. There is a reason evolution has progr…
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 03:49 PM
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Thanks, man. I hope it helps someone. I'm actually working on rebuilding too, so the topic is fresh.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:06 AM
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What is the longest you have had a plate? And would you consider her high quality? I have had a plate for as long as a year+ and probably could have gone multiple years, but I was significantly higher SMV. With girls of similar value, I haven't gone more than 6-8 months until they started withholding for a relationship.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 03:34 AM
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You will never hear any of the comments in the OP if she has a realistic fear of losing you. You can be alpha as fuck, but if she thinks you are stuck in any way, she will task you to death. You have to maintain your freedom in a way that is radical by society's standards.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 11:44 PM
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vfb's comment is valid (20 years of experience here) - however, I would refine it a bit - it's not pure SMV, it's her fear of losing you. You don't need to be a 10 dating a 5. You need to not cohabitate and keep a lifestyle going where you have access to other women. I have had multiple good LTRs and never once heard the shit in the OP until my wife had our first child kid and saw how invested I was in our family. I basically had to act like I didn't give a shit about keeping our family together…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 11:40 PM
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What do you mean when you say I've reset his expectations? I think he legitimately liked you and maybe still does, but his overtures were motivated by social norms and pursuit fever. Most guys won't expect you to be okay with regular casual sex, so they will move toward monogamy on autopilot. You said that you were fine with casual sex, so he said "great!" It is an uncomfortable redpill truth that the man you want, the man who has a great life, is a man that doesn't need you. A man that has a go…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 10:32 PM
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Develop stronger, deeper relationships with your friends (men and women, but mainly redpilled men). When I had closely bonded male friendships, I really just needed women for sex. When that circle evaporated, I found myself looking to a relationship for everything. When I hear guys say that they want a woman that plays video games or watches sports, I cringe. My experience is that this comes from weak friendships, causing a man to seek getting all of his needs met from one person. Women obviousl…
/r/askTRP01/11/18 09:44 PM
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It is likely that progressing into sexual monogamy was just his expectation from social norms, like it is for most people. Now that you reset those expectations and his "pursuit" fever has worn off, he is thinking why buy the milk... Men are more likely to invest during the "pursuit" stage, which can leave women feeling used or cheated when things cool off. But this is just evolutionary programming. Women who understand this, manage their expectations, and vet a little are going to feel less hur…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/18 09:23 PM
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When you drop her, is her next guy a doting pussy that fills you with laughter?
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 08:28 PM
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I imagine we could do this all day because you have a lot of "arguments" to throw out, but they are not exactly thoughtful ones: Alexander the Great believed he was descended from Zeus and Hercules. This inspired him to attempt to conquer the world. Alexander's time coincided with the Egyptian empire, where the rulers justified their position by deifying themselves. You don't know what Alexander believed any more than I do, nor whether his claim of deity status was more than PR. Like many of you…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 08:11 PM
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Stories of things men have really done, and have a progression and historical context that can be learned from, are very different from highly fantastic stories of demi-gods and mutants. I believe the more a man develops his masculine power and physical life, the less he will be interested in high fantasy. I am not suggesting that it is all black/white, good/back, like/dislike. I am suggesting that there is a relationship between the consumption of fantasy and the degree a man is living a mascul…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 07:26 PM
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The main problem is almost the entirety of the OP is a script. The OP started with a useful opener; it addresses a point of principle: think about why a girl is at a club, how are you working with this? That is something that can be internalized and then expressed in a way that is genuine and self-satisfying. When you start following a behavioral script, you are acting. It's not just a bad strategy, it is an opposing strategy to building frame, outcome-independence, SMV, and genuine personal exp…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 07:00 PM
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Comics can present an inspirational and fantastic story, but they are also porn sold to boys to delude themselves. This was the first thing I said. I don't know who you are arguing with.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 05:35 PM
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Rationalizing the status-quo is a weak position to take and the path of the mediocre. At the risk of sounding overly critical, I am going to list the responses that I think should have been obvious: 1) the timeframe you reference is meaningless in the evolutionary scope of the human condition, 2) the time period you reference was also civilized/agricultural and had plenty of effete men, 3) who was really spending time on these stories, the rules or the poor? 4) just because something has been ar…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/18 05:19 PM
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Thanks for the deets. It sounds like many of those will cycle back around. However, for the sake of offering something useful - you sound kind of thirsty. You can have a lot of sex and still be thirsty; sometimes it's getting what you want that triggers a binge response in the brain. When you communicate with these girls, do they get a sense of forward momentum in your life or does it sound like you are just a fun guy that mostly cares about banging? "I convinced her to come down for a visit las…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 05:25 PM
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Okay, I have read more and I am sorry to say that this is the PUA stuff I hate to see on here. If my advice is worth anything (it isn't), read the OP and realize that many of these behaviors will come out naturally if you develop a positive and confident frame of mind. You can't live by a bunch of memorized rules and playing to a script isn't fun. Invest in yourself and develop the ease and confidence of a man that knows he has worth. Still love those lines though.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 05:01 PM
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Haven't read much yet. Stopping to say that I fucking love your pickup lines. Laughing my ass off right now.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 04:44 PM
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Thanks for digging even deeper into it. That's a hilarious takedown! Unfortunately, this is what passes for discourse in the media. This study says X, no this study says Y! Meanwhile, the discussion is way more uncertain and nuanced than what is being reported for clickbait (or political purposes).
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 04:38 PM
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Your friends' article disproves her own position: If a neuroscientist was given someone’s brain without their body or any additional information, they would still probably be able to guess if it had belonged to a man or a woman. Men’s brains are larger, for example, and are likely to have a larger number of “male” features overall. We see daily that our gender greatly impacts our bodies. Every part of your body (size, length, girth, biochemistry) is influenced by chromosomal differences and horm…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 02:59 PM
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It does help that he remained calm, he could have been taken in despite her previous charge if he seemed sketchy. But yes, without the previous charge, he would have been taken to jail and may have even been convicted on nothing but her testimony.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 02:16 PM
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This is a good perspective on what captures the imagination of men. Excuse me, though, while I go off on a tangent... Comics can present an inspirational and fantastic story, but they are also porn sold to boys to delude themselves. With few exceptions, every superhero ever written has received his power by chance, luck, or birthright. Did he gain this status after years of hard work and study? No. He got bit by a lucky spider. He is made extraordinary, a man among men, without effort. There is …
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 01:58 PM
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Dude. Give us something useful, this isn't your fucking diary. How did they break things off and what do you think you did wrong in the interaction? It has been on my mind recently how long one can plate a girl before she will compromise for a guy willing to give her commitment.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 03:35 AM
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Ironically, empowering women will ultimately undermine feminism. You can see this in other Western countries outside of the U.S. - socially, they tend to fall into more traditional gender roles despite having stronger equality laws and for longer than the U.S. By controlling female sexual behavior to keep low-tier males productive and compliant, we forced low-tier women into breeding roles. On average, the raging feminist career woman is producing less offspring than the submissive housewife. Th…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 03:26 AM
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She wants you to be her boyfriend. It sounds like you have been spending a lot of time with just one woman for the past month, guess what that makes you? I don't think your response was bad, but compare your answer to this: "Aw, maybe he will bring your flowers. He sounds like a really nice guy." Rolling on top of her and starting to fuck her. She is going to occasionally fuck a plan B guy. Deal with it. Of course, once you actually don't care, you will be demonstrating enough frame that she mig…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 03:06 AM
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It feels great to be approached, but of all the women I have dated, the ones that approached me all ended up being psycho in the end. The girls that were reserved at first ended up being decent and stable. Could just be my sample, but I am inclined to believe that women who approach do so because of some deep neediness that is going to eventually fuck things for you.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 02:03 AM
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You and every man born in the last 50 years.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 01:12 AM
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It has been my experience that the girls you hard next are the ones that talk shit. There's a recent TRPWomen post from a girl whose main problem is "how fast" they moved on. It really shakes a girl to feel dropped and replaced, but if she gets some lingering attention and you make her feel like you still think she's special, you have a better chance of avoiding psycho behavior. If he keeps her at a reasonable distance, she will look a little crazy if she reaches out to his new girls just to tal…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 12:18 AM
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An "unplanned" pregnancy is a very real possibility. Be really smart about this if you mess around.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/18 11:33 PM
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"I should have loved you better" means "right now while I am desperate, I am thinking I should have loved you better but once I reel you in and feel like I have some leverage, I will grind you down just like before." You know that fat friend that lost all the weight but you still think of as the fat guy 5 years later? She will always smell 7 years of beta blood on you and will test you for leverage at every opportunity. There are so many ways I can think of communicating with her to plate her, b…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/18 08:30 PM
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Thought she was pretty cool so I hit her up today asking if she would like to go on this scenic drive with me and just hang out get to know her better, told her had no idea where any of it was gonna go, just wanted to hang. Sounds like your communication was pussy-footing around. If you weren't worrying over how she was going to interpret your text, you probably would have just said, "Had fun last night. I'm going for a scenic drive today and wouldn't mind some company." And if you had abundance…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/18 02:22 AM
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Thanks for your reply. Based on your example, you seem to be focused on a woman's willingness to be a plate and what that says about her value and/or disposition. It has been my experience that a woman who lets you plate her will prove to be a higher quality woman. Women that get a little turned on by you being your natural masculine self will typically support you being your masculine self in a relationship. It is the anxious, clingy ones that will use their constant state of distress to slowly…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/18 01:55 AM
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If she's not crazy and you can keep things fun and friendly, this has a lot of benefits besides the obvious. Having multiple exes that have wanted to continue things with me has always sent a powerful message of preselection to other women. Even if you're not sleeping with her, having a friendly chat once in a while will keep the dread on whoever you are seeing.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 08:40 PM
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This comment is packed full of misunderstanding of TRP. I would be remiss not to try to help out a brother. TRP is not teaching anyone how to be successful with BPD women. There is some shitty PUA stuff that crosses this sub, but the core stuff in the sidebar works generally. If you are telling yourself "all this TRP stuff only works on women with daddy issues" then why are you here? I have been with many stable and loyal women - never been cheated on in fact. What kept them loyal was my TRP qua…
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 08:00 PM
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Unfortunately, the polygamous relationship strategies are so stigmatized, you would likely suffer career setbacks. At the same time, breaking out of the corporate chains and building your own business would be an alpha trait.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 06:28 PM
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I would refine the point about a woman needing good genes and protection. Women experience multiple impulses independent of each other. A woman's desire for "good genes" is independent of her desire for care, resources, and protection. At one point in the not too distant past, a man's ability to provide and protect were intertwined with his physicality. This has been lost to the modern age. Therefore, you get women wanting the whole enchilada but not having it available to her, so she compromise…
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 06:23 PM
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You are mistaking an IOI for a neon "fuck me" sign. A little eye-contact is an IOI. If you are talking to women that are willing to make eye contact with you, you are not sampling for easy slags.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 05:36 PM
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This post is equivalent to a fat girl getting on a fitness blog and claiming that not all men are into looks and the hot girls have a skewed perception because they are only pulling shallow guys. It is not true that TRP wisdom comes from only getting easy girls. There are plenty of stories of men finding a previously unobtainable woman obtainable once he raised his SMV. There are plenty of stories of men having more success in the same circles once he did the same. There are plenty of stories of…
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 05:13 PM
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This is the fundamental truth behind AWALT. The basic female psychological framework is there - just because there are counter-balancing social influences doesn't take that away.
/r/TheRedPill29/10/18 02:55 PM
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Have an easy smile and make eye contact with everyone. Act like the guy that knows everyone at the local bar when he walks in, but act like that everywhere. You will be golden and will get tons of IOI.
/r/askTRP28/10/18 07:10 PM
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Definitely affirm and amplify, develop some playful cockiness about it. You are worried over a glass mostly full here, but you asked the question, so I'll give you the answer... hot guys beat up cute guys. When you walk into a room, do you seem like an attractive guy that entered the room, or do you command the attention of the room. Most of this has to do with height, musculature, width of features, facial symmetry, bearing - only about half of which you can influence. You might not be the "hot…
/r/askTRP28/10/18 06:51 PM
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Done this and your concern is justified. I took salsa lessons and went dancing with my LTR (years back) when I was still very weak. I let her dance with another guy who was much better. It didn't kill the relationship but it did bring her down a notch in her investment. Another side of this is that it dries women up to see you bad at something. They can't process the fact that you are human and can't do everything without practice. Don't ever let a woman see you practicing something. Do it witho…
/r/askTRP28/10/18 01:31 PM
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From the way you describe Girl A's first text message, it sounds like she was placing blame and making you worry that you were being accused of doing something non-consensual, in which case I can understand the discomfort that led you to ignoring it. If a girl can't bring up an issue without it being about blame, kindly soft next her. Owning up to your mistakes is a move that earns respect from men, but with women it can be a sign of weakness that further fuels their sense of righteousness in pu…
/r/askTRP27/10/18 01:39 PM
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Different forms of meditation might help for strengthening your ability to direct your own mind and not obsess over what has happened to you. Concentration practice: focus on your breath or an object (often a candle), as thoughts enter your mind, gently bring you attention back to your focus point. Mindfulness meditation: Allow your thoughts to come and go, when you find yourself in a thought, simply take note and realize your mind if wrapped up in a thought, note the feelings that the thought c…
/r/askTRP27/10/18 03:46 AM
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A lot of TRP posts enforce a PUA-style mindset. Sometimes the posts are flat out PUA stuff, but sometimes it's about an experience and commenters are pointing out where things went wrong, but it's easy to walk away thinking you need to memorize some rules. You recognize that memorizing a bunch of rules isn't working. You are right, it won't. Ignore all the PUA stuff; there is solid TRP advice for self-improvement that will raise your SMV. I was pretty awkward before I started lifting at 19. Afte…
/r/askTRP26/10/18 06:10 AM
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I don't imagine most women are lurking on TRP. I do think it's a reasonable possibility that the OP may have encountered a woman that had exposure to the "manosphere."
/r/TheRedPill26/10/18 05:56 AM
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Men may not be recognizing these truths because they are interacting with women in environments that are fundamentally male dominated (i.e. there are more men, they have more power and therefore the culture is more influenced by male codes of conduct). If you go into an environment that is female-dominated, or give a woman a sense of security (marriage), you will see all of the OPs behaviors come out. They may have the ability to think reasonably and objectively, but it's not something they do w…
/r/TheRedPill26/10/18 05:08 AM
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It's probably not her ex that is the Narc.
/r/RedPillParenting25/10/18 08:27 PM
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This woman isn't just not over him, she might be BPD or NPD. Please read: https://blacklabellogic.com/2016/10/11/women-and-borderline-personality-disorder/ BPD women will seem like the perfect partners because they idealize you at first. After they get security, everything becomes about them. If you stand up for your own needs it's constant war. You could find yourself smeared, your job jeopardized, arrested, or accused of being a sexual predator. Healthy people don't cast others as demons and t…
/r/RedPillParenting25/10/18 08:23 PM
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Do not cheat on your wife. Part of a man's SMV is his resources. Divorce rape is specifically designed to destroy a man's SMV.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 08:09 PM
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It is legitimately depressing to find out that you have been living in a den of lions. Sociopathic lions. A lot of Blue Pill guys have oriented themselves around looking to women for connection and validation and have failed to develop strong male relationships. If you are depressed, you might need to find some kind of men's group to join.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 07:30 PM
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Thanks for putting this out there for others.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 06:49 PM
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Maybe his frame is less than impeccable, but the bulk of his post was a useful illustration of female behavior, and the responses were a bit on the shitty side. To the OP's point, yes a woman needs you for validation, so catching your desire and being able to say (to herself and others) that you still want her may absolutely have been her only motive.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 06:33 PM
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Redpill isn't that obscure anymore. There is a documentary about it, it gets written up about in a lot of feminist/girl-blogs. If women weren't instinctively driven to worry over what men are thinking and engage in social mobbing to dominate the conversation, we wouldn't have most aspects of feminism and this forum wouldn't be quarantined.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 06:24 PM
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This is also why low-value women act like they are picky. When your entire world is a game of social dominance, the only reality that matters is the reality that you can convince others of.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 06:18 PM
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to them the truth is whatever they can make you believe It is a crime that every man is not taught this from birth. A man will lie and know he is lying and mentally maintain an understanding of both the fantasy and the reality. A woman will only experience her "emotional" reality, i.e. whatever she wants to believe whenever that happens to be. Have you ever interacted with a young child (ages 3-5) and asked them a question and they just said some random shit that you know wasn't true but you can…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 06:14 PM
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Hey man, just because he said you sounded depressed doesn't mean he is "trying" to make you feel bad. You are getting the feedback you are because there was a lot of tone in your post and perhaps a lot of defensiveness, hurt, and blame coming through that maybe you are not recognizing. I'm not criticizing you for having those feelings if you do, just be aware that they are coloring your thoughts and communication.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 05:04 PM
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I don't know, man. Maybe we are talking past each other. I agree that not everything is within our control, but it just sounds like you are looking to escape a sense of responsibility. If you failed to accurately predict an outcome, it is because you misread or misunderstood something. This is true of all things in life. Don't take this as a personal failure. No one can see the future. But if things went a way you didn't expect, accept that it is your responsibility to learn what you missed or m…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 04:17 PM
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I'm in Mass too; this is the epicenter of liberal virtue signaling and not at all representative of most of the world. Props to UpperRedSide for presenting a reasonable assessment of the impact of race on mate selection.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 02:52 PM
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All of this. Her signals aren't hard - you are preoccupied with an outcome and are not mentally present in the moment.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 02:47 PM
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The word "stoic" in this case is misleading. Have fun, don't put pressure on yourself to achieve some goal (sex) and enjoy the company. If you make a wrong move, just say "cool" and keep having fun at whatever level is working. ​
/r/TheRedPill25/10/18 02:07 PM
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Besides gaining confidence from how people react to you, I believe the hormonal changes from lifting do affect your inherent level of confidence and "go get em"ness.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/18 06:22 PM
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A lot of this post is descriptive but a lot of it demonstrates some poor thinking about relationships. Your focus on which guys you think have less value demonstrates a lack of interest in people as...people. Everyone has different things that they are looking for or put more value on. TRP endorses some specific qualities to develop, but this is more of an opening salvo, not the ultimate guide for being a man. If you are thinking that you just need to do X, Y, and Z and then all ladies will love…
/r/TheRedPill24/10/18 06:05 PM
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Someone asked me about my lifting experience, so I'm going to reply here in case it is useful for others. There is a lot of science testing different lifting programs but the results all seem to suggest that there are very few meaningful differences between programs. It all comes down to a) time under tension, b) lifting goals, and c) hormone production. Time under tension means that your muscles have to spend X amount of time exerting force. Rep/set count doesn't seem to matter. Going to exhaus…
/r/TheRedPill24/10/18 02:53 PM
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I told her my cat wants to meet her so let’s see how this plays out Reading that caused me literal pain.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/18 12:19 AM
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I was 19 when I started lifting and made rapid gains; over 8 months I went from a skinny nerd to being large and well-proportioned. I was an awkward teen, but after that physical transformation girls thought I was hilarious and charming. My personality hadn't changed much at that point, so it was a real wake-up call to how a woman's whole reality follows behind whatever her strongest emotion is at that moment. ​
/r/TheRedPill23/10/18 11:34 PM
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+1 for the very easy plausibility of this story - funny that anyone would question it here. However, I disagree with the Lessons Learned. In this situation, it's very telling that you described having the crowd on your side. Had you just kept frame, or put her down in a way that did not work the room, she might have come by later to throw a drink on you instead of trying to get on your lap. My experience is that women respond to social value/dominance above all else. Her attention probably would…
/r/TheRedPill23/10/18 05:29 PM
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Exaggerating the 0.01% is exactly the kind of anxiety-rattled thinking that has created the current political climate.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/18 04:31 PM
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Sorry man, I'm not answering your points, because I'm trying to address your frame of mind. When you do hard things and earn your confidence, you will look back and laugh that your ever wrung your hands over the time of day to talk to a girl - you will possess something that you didn't know you were missing.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/18 02:49 PM
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Does the man you want to be worry over what line to use, when to approach a woman, and who has the upper hand? Or does he see something he likes and has the confidence to just say so? Do you think the time of day separates that man from the thirsty suckers?
/r/TheRedPill18/10/18 11:45 PM
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Develop a better sense of IOIs. Most women are pretty anxious about getting hit on and having to shoot a guy down. If a women is open to you, she will put herself in proximity, make some eyes contact, etc. Approach with the intention of evaluating her. Desperate guys will see a cute body and the evaluation is over, so now they are trying to win her. What does this say to her? Wow, this guy is working hard after only looking at me, he must not be in my league. Have and enforce a standard of behav…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/18 06:27 PM
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I'm nearing 40 and I used to enjoy going to the gym when I was younger. I got quite ripped and felt really good about it, but things change. I didn't appreciate when I was younger how much your brain, priorities, and motivations will change as you age. I struggle to go to the gym because it's such an artificial activity - work out in a box for 6 hours a week so you can...what? Sure, being generally healthy and capable is a good reason, but you can put a lot of time in working out that feels like…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/18 05:20 PM
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This is a good comment. I would embellish a bit: First thought: IOIs aren't just for sex. If she's not the one asking for your time or angling to be your main, then you definitely kill it by being the one to bring that up. A woman will determine you to be socially daft if you aren't able to read her interest or lack of interest. Women care a lot about social navigation, and while a woman may fuck a doofus with a hot body, she can save face by saying "well, he was hot" and she isn't necessarily b…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/18 03:50 PM
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