MrGr33n31 Archive

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3	She wants a divorce after 40 years I agree on selling the house and splitting equity, but for a slightly different primary reason: that house is going to be a big potential source of depression when you live there alone and are constantly faced with reminders of the relationship you planned to have forever. If I were you I’d get a condo with a rooftop pool in the city so I could get in the whirlpool after breakfast and go people watching after lunch. 6 beds probably gets you some decent equity. To anyone reading this, I highly re…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 11:36 PM
4	Dating is a nightmare Mine literally forgot my birthday (didn’t even mention it as it went by on the calendar) but then insisted her own birthday ought to be planned out several weeks ahead and celebrated the entire month (ie “Why are you planning a family visit in April? That month is my month,”). When I pointed out this hypocrisy, she said I ought to stop trying to make things about myself. The other fun part was when she started throwing shit at me and then refused to leave the house I pay a mortgage for when I to…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/24 12:33 PM
4	Dating is a nightmare OP, I don’t know how bad your divorce was, but the “traumatized” thing you mention is a real thing for many people. Myself included. I had an ex that probably had BPD and she’d wake me up in the middle of the night to argue when I had to work the next day. She lied and generally behaved like a toddler when she was upset. My work performance suffered because of all this nonsense. I know I don’t believe in love the same way I used to believe and would much rather be alone than be with a bad woman,…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/24 03:50 AM
1	How is it fair that your wife’s financial irresponsibility becomes your burden, but your financial responsibility becomes her entitlement? I agree with the basic premise that things are screwed up, but I disagree that no-fault divorce is the primary issue of concern. Go back a few hundred years before no fault divorce. “Alimony arose in the English ecclesiastical courts at a time when divorce was not permitted and a married couple could obtain only a legal separation. Although the parties may have been living apart, the husband still had a continuing legal duty to support his wife because they were still legally married.” https://w…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/09/24 06:58 PM
2	Hard to leave BPD wife…thoughts? Yeah, if you’re to the point where you realize it’s not her fault because it’s a real disorder, then you’re doing well. Too many people get stuck on feeling resentment or frustration at the person, and that’s the wrong way to look at it. If anything I think it’s reasonable to feel some sense of pity knowing that the person effectively lives in a prison within their own mind. Unfortunately, the person you thought you knew was just never there. You might have seen a side to them, what they could h…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/09/24 10:26 AM
2	Hard to leave BPD wife…thoughts? I was engaged to a woman who wasn’t diagnosed but had all the textbook behaviors. It was a real shame, because on paper she was the perfect partner. Intelligent, good looking, dedicated to the idea of raising kids together. OP, when you talk about the “manipulative grasp,” the thing I realized over time is that for them “manipulation” can often be something different than what that word means for you and me. If it’s to a point where she’s delusional, then it isn’t exactly that she’s telling you …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/24 03:46 AM
11	Why do Women give up on their marriage more than men do? To your last paragraph, I think there’s something to be said for how women are culturally brought up to want to get married/think they’re some kind of a loser if they’re not married by a certain age. Men also can have pressure to get married and start a family, but not to the same degree. In general I think it’s true to say that a late 30s never married guy will not be in as bad a position as a late 30s never married woman; his clock isn’t ticking and he isn’t regarded as badly by potential mate…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/22 09:17 PM
5	Why do Women give up on their marriage more than men do? I think it all depends on what kind of terms they had between each other, and none of us really know enough to say one way or the other. One scenario I’ve heard is that he promised to retire and then did not; if that’s true, then I don’t think it’s weird that she’d feel disrespected to the point of no longer wanting to be a partner. When I’ve been lied to I know I very quickly lose the desire to carry on any sense of partnership. Most don’t want to play the fool.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/22 09:07 PM
2	Why do Women give up on their marriage more than men do? Out of curiosity, did she want you to be more like her father? In my case I got a list of things her dad was good at and she seemed to want to check one thing off after another under the pretense that it would be easier for me to get along with him that way…I think she just had issues.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/22 08:57 PM
5	Why do Women give up on their marriage more than men do? What is CGA?	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/22 08:54 PM