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any help to make this bias go away? or any eye-opening topic to me that can help? Two main things I would suggest: Figure out and heal whatever core wound is driving this thought process in you. Do some research on that topic. I would guess it would be something like "I'm not safe". A core wound like that combined with the fact men do outpower women and the cultural milieu you find yourself in that reinforces those feelings it is entirely understandable you would struggle as you do. Find a recon…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 02:39 AM
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You bet ☺️ Some other things that comes to mind: Include some of your artwork in your bio. Some guys find artsy girls very attractive but I doubt many guys are turned off by it. So it's a win-neutral sort of thing. One idea would be to draw a picture of yourself with an empty outline of your dream guy. Use the opportunity to convey the sort of dynamic you're looking for, for example maybe your head is resting on his shoulder, or his arm is around you. Paint a picture that he can put himself into…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 07:04 PM
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Tell a story about what your ideal relationship would look like, blend your authentic desires with things that would appeal to traditional men in general, but also try to put yourself in the mind of your ideal target partner. Basically think of the type of fish you're trying to catch and then use the proper lure, so to speak. Here are some random examples, not necessarily pertaining to you specifically but should give you some ideas: That you love cooking That you like to be in a supportive role…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 06:30 PM
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we had agreed we’d have a phone call yesterday to speak… he literally disappeared and didn’t say anything It's not that hard to shoot out a quick text and say "My day has been crazy, can we talk tomorrow instead?". I think his behavior reveals two things: He's not really that interested in you. If he was he would've been excited (and also a bit nervous) to talk to you. Especially since it sounds like the first voice call you would've had. He would be moving towards you, not away from you. He's n…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 06:50 PM
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Are you Christian?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 07:59 PM
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When you’re involving other people some degree of self control is needed IMO. Communication and negotiation is what's key I think. For example, him shaving his body hair is something she's not into. And it's not something with a short duration and something that only comes up a few times a month. She'll be faced with that every time he's naked. If he wants the marriage to continue he'd be wise to take her loss of attraction seriously. For me it raises questions like, is it really important to hi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 11:47 PM
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This is a great video on human sexuality, I believe it's one of the points made but it's been a while since I watched it. It's a great watch nonetheless: https://youtu.be/vqdlv3qEuyY?si=m1vkc-lf2wdrpCVX We can't control what turns us on. I can't control being attracted to women and certain types or things about them anymore than I can control the kinky stuff I'm into with them. Whether it's healthy or not I believe is largely based on how it's expressed. Some people get into stuff that is danger…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 09:42 PM
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I read your other comment to OP and I think you're being naive. His proclivity here may have only emerged recently, but the groundwork for it was likely laid down in childhood. Sexual attraction is not something we have conscious control over. It's not something you just "give up". What he's into gives you The Ick which is fine, but you projecting that onto other people and calling it advice is not.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 07:51 PM
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I do get triggered still because the lack of plans and uncertainty makes me feel so unstable Pattern deviance is a trigger for me too. I am under a spell and can’t seem to let go. I only learned about attachment stuff a few years ago and it's still a work in progress for me. But I've hit some milestones. The first turning point for me came from inner child work which helped me bring to surface a repressed memory from early childhood. Tapping into that and feeling how I felt as a young child in t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 07:15 AM
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Recently, in a drunken hook up With you? Overall I think if you want your marriage to continue you're going to have to find a way to get on board. Whatever he's working through or expressing is clearly important to him. The fact that it resurfaced after some time tells you how deep whatever this is runs in him. It's not going away. It's completely fine to have boundaries for yourself with how you engage with your partner, but also you should be able to confront those boundaries. You seem a bit b…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 06:47 AM
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Elaborate please
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 06:33 AM
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I get super triggered I don’t know if I’ll ever see him again I feel rejected because he isn’t scheduling the time That doesn't sound very secure to me. It sounds like you are easily triggered by his behavior and get thrown into a tizzy. The fact that you find someone who is causing so much anxiety in you so attractive is also very telling. His behavior should be unattractive to you. Feeling like you have to fight to get your needs met, that you're being kept at arms length, and that his behavio…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/23 09:43 PM
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You have to go to the root of the issue which is your respective attachment styles. Have you started to do any work for yours? Is he aware he's avoidant, has he taken accountability for it and demonstrated a desire to change? Unless he's willing and wanting to address his avoidance, a healthy and fulfilling relationship with him is going to be impossible. Consider this, you're focused currently on some specific aspects of the relationship you want to change. More quality time in certain specific…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/23 07:51 PM
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I think you got some great advice here already but one thing I'd like to point out is the sample bias you are working with. Most people cannot afford a nanny. You are witnessing first-hand that sub-culture. What it looks like under the hood when two people get married for reasons that only matter on paper or help them keep up with the Joneses. People that prioritize aggrandizement of wealth above all else are generally not the healthiest of individuals, and you witness that up front and personal…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 03:04 AM
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Not enough details to tell. How long have you known each other? Have you even met in person? If so have you been intimate? How did you meet? What are some of the things he has said to you that stand out, either positive or negative? Has he actually done anything, as in planned a date, sent you a gift of some sort, anything like that? Inferring from your wording and that you're posting in RPW you're interested in serious commitment / marriage, does he know that, have you told him in some way? You…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 02:47 AM
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If that man were serious about marriage and excited about you he would've offered more than some fuzzy sentiment that equates to "we'll have to see what happens" after knowing you for two months. Especially given all the time you've spent together by now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 10:46 PM
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In an OLD context what you laid out here is actually great bio info. It would need to be trimmed a bit, but in this post you: were openly declarative about what you are looking for exhibited vulnerability in acknowledgement of some of the life challenges you are facing demonstrated accountability in that you recognize life (ie, a man) is a not free ride and there are expectations of yourself in how you show up in a relationship have performed a self-inventory while exhibiting an internal self-lo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:18 PM
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He had some bad relationships he wants to be in a relationship but he hates that word He thinks a woman should lead the relationship/marriage talk He sounds avoidant. He wants a relationship but is scared of commitment which is really fear of being taken advantage of and hurt. He needs you to be the more vulnerable one so he can feel safe. He needs you to say "I want commitment with you" first, and probably be the first one to say "I love you". This is all so he can maintain a sense of safe dist…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 12:21 PM
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I recently learned about The Happy Wife School channel: https://youtube.com/@thehappywifeschool?si=OuyrZvM4xndi8Cle It's very new, only a month or two so she's still getting up to speed with things. But she preaches radical accountability for women which is incredibly refreshing to hear. But I'm a huge fan already.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 07:18 PM
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I’m not sure how I should feel Start with understanding and acknowleding how you actually feel, and stop worrying if your supposed to feel that way. Then approach him honestly and openly with that. I can tell you that if I was serious about her then I would be uncomfortable in that situation and would tell her that. The big question then is how she responds. Does she deflect and gaslight or does she take my feelings seriously and is able to talk about it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 05:49 PM
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I think you should watch this: https://youtube.com/shorts/GHKDOSZa72s?si=G0GD_noC2PdfxM1j
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 05:52 AM
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Yea, it's not a joke. Hateful people hate people.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:49 AM
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How would you feel if you were in a relationship with a man who had a close friend that shared the same sentiment towards women?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:32 AM
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he goes back and forth on thinking about the actually legal formality Sounds like he doesn't really want to get married. I'd be concerned with marrying someone who didn't really want that for themselves and with you specifically. For me, marriage is important What's important about it to you? Many of the things you mentioned revolve around financial security. If that's your concern I think that is a completely fair one to have. But, I think it's important for you to really understand what the dr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 06:36 AM
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I just don’t want him to feel emasculated or insulted Does he have a history of being prickly about stuff like that? Is it possible you're overthinking it, do you have a habit of doing that?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 11:48 PM
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Like how hard is it to say “fuck, you are so sexy” Do you need him to know that's what you want to hear, without having to actually tell him? I want to feel like my serious effort is taken seriously I guess My read from your story is just that he's oblivious and doesn't realize the impact his reaction is having. It may be solved by just telling him what you'd like to hear. "Next time you come home, can you say X? I really love hearing that, it turns me on".
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 11:34 PM
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That it's affecting your sex drive means it should be taken seriously. You can't help that it's a turn off for you, and you won't really be able to shut it off. Not hold it against him, sure you can rationalize yourself into that position, but you can't negotiate desire as they say. I definitely provide notes within an established relationship. Next time could you do it this way, or say it a little more that way? I think it's a great thing to be able to do for your partner, these little fine-tun…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 10:31 PM
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Sounds like he's afraid you'll look down on him for displaying "weakness". So demonstrate you won't. Just listen when he wants to share. Saying less is probably more on your part here, so nothing more than what's needed to acknowledge his words. So avoid "poor baby" and say instead simply "yeah" or "I know" in an gentle and understanding tone. Key off his body language and his receptivity. He may appreciate a gentle hand on the knee, he may not, you'll have to feel each situation out. If he move…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 11:09 PM
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You're very welcome ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 11:17 PM
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If you want a large age gap relationship at your age there are some things to keep in mind. First and foremost you will need a social circle that supports it. Otherwise everyone around you will judge you for it, tell you that you're making a mistake, how he's probably just using you, etc. Which may very well be the case depending on the man in question. But the problem is that your circle will always see your relationship in a negative light which will prevent them from being objective. Their ow…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 06:51 PM
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He sounds pretty cranky and irritable, above and beyond being just being disagreeable. Have you two talked about why that may be? I would suggest taking an open-minded but functional approach to the problem. Why is he so cranky all the time? What is the pattern? What's causing that? Because it's not the normal state of being to be that easily upset, that impatient. He's thin-skinned in his own way. Here are some things to look into that may be causing it: Unresolved injury or chronic pain. If yo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 12:24 AM
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we are both enneagram type 5 Oh boy that makes a lot of sense after reading through your post. My suggestion would be to try to disconnect him from the equation, so some extent in some ways. The big challenge for that type is you getting in touch with your own emotions, which you did speak to. Take it on as something to explore within yourself, with this question of how you feel about him being merely a facet of that. It often happens that we want to learn thing X about ourselves or resolve thin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 04:07 AM
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she makes subtle comments to incite drama between us and that's not ok. I am starting to see how this is becoming a bigger issue as I move on in life. That's a pretty big deal and something a lot of men have dealt with. Our woman's miserable single friends who try to drive a wedge in between your relationship. She's a threat to your relationship, point blank. She seeks to undermine it because she's envious. While it's understandable that a person could struggle with seeing how great a friend of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 02:45 AM
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Would an avoidant avoid reading an attachment book? In my personal experience they more or less do anything they can to avoid the feelings inside of them that they have repressed. But it's not bullet proof necessarily. What I really wonder is how she made that man feel. They were together for 10 years and she bailed a week before they were to be married. Ouch. Has she spoken to it? Does she even know how he felt afterwards or did she basically block him so she wouldn't have to face it? Me person…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 05:45 AM
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Your friend demonstrates the classic signs of avoidant attachment style. Here are the giveaways: She enjoys a lot of attention from men but is still single. High and rigid standards. Keeps finding reasons to reject men, but basically says "if he's perfect then I will commit" She bailed on a long-term relationship just as it was about to get "serious". In her mind had she gotten married she would be trapped, no matter going back. Years and years together with a man and was never sexually intimate…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 04:32 AM
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Great post! Posture, movement, and body language If someone struggles with that consider something like Yoga or pilates regularly. If that feels insufficient, consider bodywork. A skilled and experienced masseuse who focuses on functional improvement over palliative care can help tremendously. When your body can move more freely, so can your energy. If you're running around scowling at everyone, making the angry eyes, you're gonna give off a very intimidating energy You're also going to cause de…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 02:30 AM
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Good bot pats head
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 11:45 PM
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follow a low carb diet Check out the book Plant Paradox by Dr. Gundry. A lot of people are eating foods that are inflammatory to them, which for some people can trigger weight gain/retention. My mom took some of the advice and made some relatively minor diet changes and lost close to 10lbs in a few months. That's without dieting or working out more. Just substitution of some food items for others. She is/was not a heavy woman so 10lbs was a pretty big deal for her; she was pretty stoked about it…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 11:43 PM
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I don't disagree with anything you said, I was just caught up in the narrative-dynamic that you laid out and put myself into that place mentally. I imagined a woman saying some of the points you brought up to me and replied accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 03:45 AM
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The way you spell everything out can potentially lead in a lot of different directions, as it's a sort of worst-case scenario, but when it comes to general advice on the topic ... Well. If he asks you what you want, the submissive move is... telling him what you want. Bingo. Women can't expect a man to read a woman's mind, and, a lot of men experience the whole "I don't want anything, I'm not hungry" stance or later (sometimes months later) bring up the fact that we never ask you what you want, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 03:24 AM
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Any of the 8 points in this video resonate with you? 8 Signs of an Avoidant Attachment Style https://youtu.be/nqlce10FyVU
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 02:39 AM
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The situation is more complicated than his inability to mow the lawn. But it's not as bad as it could be from what you said, if that helps at all. I wondered about the prior marriage since most women initiate divorces he could have a fear this is the start of history repeating itself. It may still be a fear wiggling around in the back of his head though. Young pretty wife leaves "broken" older man is an outcome that wouldn't surprise anyone. His mid-life crisis already happened, and was tame by …
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 03:51 PM
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Some questions I wonder about if they're not too personal: He's an older guy, so I imagine this is not his first marriage. Do you know the circumstances under which his prior marriage(s) ended? Has he been in contact with any male friends or relatives since the onset of his illnesses? Have they been remote or in-person? Did he have a mid-life crisis and if so, what did that look like? How did he describe it, how did he deal with it? What has he been saying specifically since the onset? Not the c…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 02:10 AM
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I think you should definitely not hide it, because the fact is you are still currently legally married. It's not like you were 6 years old and had a pretend ceremony in your parents backyard and drank fruit punch afterwards. You had a whole ceremony over it. Maybe not in a church but it was still a ceremony where you invited friends and had a typical wedding party. When you do disclose it, the first question on alot of guys minds is whether or not the marriage was consummated. If you didn't, the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:17 AM
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Buy and read the book Attached by Levine and Heller. It talks about attachment theory, is a good and easy read, and contains a few stories that mirror your own. Do it ASAP before you get even more emotionally invested in him. He's almost certainly avoidant. The big giveaway is the incongruence of his words and actions. I don't think he's playing you. He really does want a relationship with you, but his deep seated fear of intimacy is holding him back. I don't think love-bombing is the appropriat…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 05:49 AM
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It's not specific to RP theory but I highly recommend anyone who is dating to become familiar with attachment theory. 50% or more of the population has an attachment issue. So even if you're secure, there is a 50/50 chance that a given guy you meet is not. Guys tend to be avoidant and women tend to be anxious. Knowing how avoidant people present and how to spot their behavioral patterns can be very helpful. Much of the advice given in dating actually stems from an awareness of these issues, just…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 06:58 PM
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I definitely disagree. Although I would never do that to a woman I'm not in an actual relationship with, to me that's gross. But if I have feelings for her then it's basically something of a compulsion. It's a very intimate act and facilitates bonding for me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 10:04 PM
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It sounds like he's a night owl and you're an early bird. If that's the case, both of you will have to compromise, which in this case seems to hinge on him accepting that you won't be enjoying the nightlife with him. I think that's the approach I would take with him, ask him just how important that is to him in a relationship. Because your position is reasonable. I'm a night owl and if my partner was trying to get me to wake up at 6am on a regular basis for something that didn't really excite me…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 01:47 AM
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My current SO is medical are works LONG hours and is frequently on-call. You mentioned in an earlier comment that he gets disappointed you don't hang out with him enough, basically. That you won't stay out late and be with him during times that are important to him. He sounds a bit like a work-hard-play-hard type, and when he can go out and is not on call, he is excited by the thought of you being there and then let down that you can't due to your own lifestyle choices. You both sound like busy …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 06:07 AM
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I think whether or not the answer you got from I-Ching is helpful is going to depend on the source of your anxiety. If you're suffering from anxiety due to something like a poor diet/GI issues, poor sleep hygiene, or having toxic people in your life, then leaning into your feminine is not a good approach. It would be better to take a more masculine approach and start to make active changes in your life that would bring about a better outcome versus just being more accepting of circumstances, thu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 05:19 AM
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This is ultimately his problem to solve, not yours. If you do find yourself bothered by it at times just remind yourself of what you've mentioned here. That she's not really a threat to you, if anything she's a threat to him. And he's a grown man who clearly sees the situation for what it is. Trust him to deal with it. Women like that and the situations they can create are not easily solved problems. There is no magic 10 step program for how to address something like that. She's clearly imbalanc…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 04:47 AM
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Some guys will do that if they know they don't want a second date, or didn't particularly enjoy the woman's company. I've done that a couple of times where it felt like either she had attitude or was just a bit unpleasant to be around.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 03:18 AM
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You're welcome but you may want to glance at my username ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 11:30 PM
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To start with, know there are men out there looking for a woman who fits your story pretty much to a tee. Those men will rank you higher in mate-value than other men, as you will be filling the niche role they are looking for. So I would encourage you to keep that in mind as you vet and describe your situation to them, some men will be excited to talk to a woman in your position and with your perspective. the plan was always to build something where I could have a schedule that allowed me to tak…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 10:55 PM
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He probably expects you to contribute some money to dates because you have the capacity to. You mentioned he's very rich so obviously that will change things in terms of paid housekeepers, nannies, etc, but I'm curious if you get married and have children will you hold yourself to the same standard? Not expecting him to lift a finger to prepare food or care for the children? You will do all of it, 100% of the time? What if he had the capacity (time) to say change a diaper or chop some stuff in t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 12:18 AM
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I'm definitely not advocating for her to change her core self, which is why I asked how important that sort of stuff is to her. But let's be real here. She is into demonic channeling. There are not a lot of guys who are going to be into that in general. Traditional, liberal, or otherwise. I wonder how closely those guys views on traditional relationship dynamics match up with what many of the women here consider traditional. From my limited personal experience with people like that, that sort of…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 12:51 AM
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Okay, let's put aside that other stuff then. What does your ideal-realistic man and relationship look like? Different men are different, even within the scope of traditional and masculine men. So it's best to start off with an idea of what your target is so to speak.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 10:07 PM
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Not less of a woman but almost certainly less desirable as a partner. A lot of guys cringe at just astrology. I would hazard a guess that if she were a good catch otherwise, wasn't in your face about it, and didn't rely on it for any serious life choices, most guys would look past it. But you're into stuff well past simple astrology. I think if you told most RP / traditional men that you are into communicating with demonic entities, or even take the notion seriously that it's possible, you would…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 09:47 PM
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Well for starters your interest in the occult is going to be a huge turn-off for lots of guys. In fact it's going to tightly narrow your pool of men. If that's a hard requirement for you, that your partner also be into black Magick and stuff like that, I'm not sure RP advice is what's going to be most suitable for you. The people I've known who are into that sort of thing tend to not be into traditional relationship dynamics. That's been my experience at least.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 08:03 PM
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What you described smacks hard of the classic anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic: https://youtu.be/fCAfzIfg5Cs You give and give and give but it's never fully appreciated because the other person is afraid to let their guard down. They're afraid if they do, you won't love them as they are, and so instead of facing that rejection they reject you first. This is not a blue pill vs red pill issue. It's an attachment issue. You say you're considering "spinning plates" to some degree or pulling bac…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 04:57 AM
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I think what you're really describing is that guys will lie to get laid, largely regardless of their political allegiance. I'm politically liberal, at least based on my voting record since I turned 18. But I was also raised in a largely traditional and conservative household. My mother is also very traditional and modest, and that I believe has a large impact on my partner selection. It's one of those things you cringe at when you're younger, but when you get older you realize that, yep, to a la…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 04:29 AM
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I'm not a doctor or mental health professional but from what little I know it sounds like a serotonin imbalance or simply a lack of. I'm not casting aspersions here, but his behavior reminds me of a documentary I watched many years ago that always stuck with me. Two meth addicts, a couple, that were long recovered mentioned that they had done so much meth for so long that it basically blew out their brains capacity to generate and/or bind serotonin so they basically felt no joy in life. Everythi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 01:37 AM
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Check out this video on how to make men bond with you: https://youtu.be/fKDO1PPwCH4 Men love to flex their competency, particularly to women they like. You can play into that in a way that's organic and natural for you, and beneficial to the both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 12:06 AM
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As far as where to meet the sort of man you want a relationship with, the best advice I've heard is go where you'd want them to be when you're not around. I would suggest checking out this guy's channel, Adam Lane Smith. He's an ex-therapist now turned attachment specialist / relationship coach. I've watched a bunch of his content and I think it's really good. Here is a good video that covers some of what you're asking: https://youtu.be/wJukhtAPdlY He also has a new book out that he mentions in …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 11:15 PM
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Yes, a lot of men care. In my opinion and observations guys fit into one of 3 groups when it comes to body count in a long-term partner: positive: high sexuality in general turns them on, so the fact that a woman has had a lot of previous partners is a plus. It means she's easy, and more experienced, and probably has less hard-limits. They are typically into cucking, wife swapping, orgies etc. Real kinky guys. neutral: my thought is the only type of guys who are completely neutral about it, trul…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 10:38 PM
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Look into iRestore. It's a red light helmet. A YT came across my feed a while back from a woman who reviewed it and showed before and after pics from about 6mos of use and it did improve things noticeably for her.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 07:38 PM
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Your ex is not your friend, he is an orbiter. You are in regular contact with a man that wants a relationship with you, that you do not want a relationship with. From your current partner's perspective that man represents a threat to his relationship with you. He is competition. I think we can put aside for the moment the issue of your current/new relationship. Evaluate the situation with your ex. Knowing what you now know, why would you stay in contact with him? Out of pity? Or perhaps the vali…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 03:49 AM
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It does sound shallow, yes. Imagine if he said something about you along the lines of: Her breasts are okay, but they're not great. I really like DDs. If that happens to be you, then switch it out for some other shallow male criteria you don't meet. How would that affect you, how would that make you feel, and how would you perceive him afterwards? It sounds like you want to be titillated on sight. That you want to just look at a man and swoon. Sure, those guys exist but you and every other woman…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 09:55 PM
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It sounds like he is suffering from a health issue and he needs to step up and address it because it's clearly impacting the quality of his life and the quality of his relationships. What you describe is not the normal state of being. He sounds like he is suffering from fatigue and GI issues from the details you've provided. I could offer some specific advice to him, some things to look into, but things "aren't there" yet. So what can you do about it? Try to get him to see that how he feels is n…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 04:37 PM
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Like others said I don't think introducing her to RP is necessarily the right approach. They have some unhealthy aspects to their relationship that are BP/RP agnostic. It's hard to offer more specific advice on that front since the information is coming 2nd-hand. I would try to find some good videos or articles that speak directly to the issues you see being present in their relationship and share those with her, if your relationship allows. Also, I think women generally make a big mistake when …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 03:29 PM
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Define "handsy" and "overzealous". Were boundaries clearly communicated to him but he persisted anyway? How did he end up reacting, in an angry fashion? Was it so bad he was asked to leave? I read your initial post and it's a bit hard to gauge. You mentioned rumors and used soft language. What you describe are definitely red flags but also don't necessarily show a pattern of behavior. From what he said, he apologized about it afterwards. He felt motivated to go back to them and apologize for his…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 06:01 AM
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believes I should cope That's not full accountability. That's like saying "Yes, I was driving when my car impacted that other car, but it's not my fault they got hurt.". Full accountability is taking responsibility for your actions and the outcomes that arise from your actions. He's being dismissive of your feelings, and that's not good. It bothers me to see how many men here are basically claiming we are slaves to our hormones. Are we going to look? Yes, that largely cannot be helped. An attrac…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 10:26 PM
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This is what I was curious to hear about. That you've communicated this to him openly, and how he responded. He's not taking accountability for his actions which is concerning. No change or growth will ever happen when a person is in that mindset. The fact is you two are in a serious relationship and his actions are affecting your feelings. Your concerns here are completely reasonable. I would feel the same way if my partner acted that way. Look into attraction adhesion. It basically measures ho…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 08:35 PM
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I find your lack of any sense of loyalty to be pretty disgusting to be honest. You describe in length how great this man is to you, and how much you supposedly love him. And then in a display of incredible self-centeredness you wonder if you should ditch him for a man that has more money. I wish I was friends with your man so I could send him this post. So he could see how lowly you regard him after treating you so well. Absolutely incredible.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 01:56 AM
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I don't need to fully read your response to know it's emotional conflating. You don't get to determine the standards of other people. That you take issue with this topic is very revealing. You realize that right?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 03:12 AM
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I honestly didn't bother reading your full reply. The issue I spoke to is you calling another person's standards trivial. It's not anyone's place to set another person's standards. Full stop.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 02:12 AM
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It's not your place to determine what's trivial to others or not. He asked her about something that was clearly very important to him, and she lied about it. I like how for some people sex gets special consideration, for what are certainly the likely reasons, while those same people almost certainly care about other things that happened in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 12:34 AM
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I watch these female creators regularly. They both largely target women and have demonstrated relationship experience and some of their videos or live streams will offer specific advice. I know Melanie does consulting sessions with women as well. Melanie King https://youtube.com/@MelanieKing1 Aly https://youtube.com/@RealFemSapien
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 04:56 AM
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