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| 3 | Need a wingman in London | Resources | MrStallion22 | /r/seduction | 27/01/22 12:33 PM |
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| 1 | Field Report - Night out after a 3 monthsThat actually sounds great! If the club is loud but you can pull a girl somewhere quieter and she’s willing to move with you then that works too | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 12:46 PM |
| 2 | Field Report - Night out after a 3 monthsThat’s why you’ve got to pick the right bars/clubs. The loudest clubs really aren’t conducive to anything but dancing with girls if that’s your thing. There’s some places that aren’t as loud that are way better for talking to girls but loud enough that you need to get close and whisper in her ear which is no bad thing. The best places are the ones with large outside or smoking areas, that’s where you can really have a conversation and do your thing | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 12:31 PM |
| 0 | I met this girl todayIt really isn’t that deep… you can literally get a girls number after 2 mins if she likes you. Girls give numbers out freely nowadays so it really doesn’t mean anything even if she did give you it. It’s just better than getting her socials | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 12:12 PM |
| 2 | I met this girl todayYeah but anyone can get her insta, that’s why whenever girls offer their socials when I ask for their number I just decline and move on as it’s a sign that they’re not really interested. In this case you don’t know her interest level because you didn’t ask for it | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 02:36 AM |
| 1 | When did you learn to “be yourself”?Yeah this is where it’s quite nuanced. Whoever “yourself” is is changing in small and sometimes big ways as you Iive your life. I’m sure most of us can look back 5 years and think wow I was so different back then. Now if you were true to yourself you’d be the same exact same person you were 5 years ago. This is not a good thing. It means you haven’t grown in that time. However… I think there is some merit to being yourself and this is what a lot of people mean when they strive to just want to be… | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 01:57 AM |
| 0 | I met this girl todaySo have you got her number or just insta? | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 01:42 AM |
| 4 | How can I avoid being too available?This. That’s literally the most relevant thing that you didn’t mention, that you haven’t slept with her. Rather than asking how to make yourself less available, you need to ask yourself when are you going to move on completely because this girl is not into you. I flirt with girls all the time that I’m not into, I even meet up with them, these girls are my friends and that’s basically what you are to her. | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Cannot get over one girl. Need HelpStrong case of one-itis. Feel for you bro. You sound like you’re young at least and you’ve got a whole life to live ahead of you so you really have to focus on building the other aspects of your life that matter: social circle, career, gym etc. I know you’ve said you’re already doing this but that really is the answer - that, and time! Give it enough time, 3 months is not a lot. And the fact that you’re putting yourself out there to at least meet other girls is a great plus and sooner or later t… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 12:48 AM |
| 3 | How to get this girl on a first date?If you think a girl likes you your instinct is probably right. But where guys go wrong is not understanding that they have a window of opportunity to make something happen I.e. ask her out. Attraction has an expiration date so you need to move faster - which is going to be your problem by the sounds of it, you’re moving glacially slow and cautious. This tends to be why guys get all confused when they FINALLY summon the courage to ask a girl out and she says no and the guy reckons she must not ha… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 12:34 AM |
| -2 | Response to - out of nowhere: "you wish" from her.This is not that deep. Would’ve been worse had she said “you wish” without the laughing as your title suggested. But this is just flirting on her end, not to be taken seriously. Something like “behave yourself lol” or “don’t make me spank you lol” would be good to respond back. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | How to ask her outBro… 🤦🏻♂️ Believe me if she liked you she would have added you the first time. It’s obvious. That was the first red flag. The second red flag and moment of no return was that deathly message she sent you. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 01:56 AM |
| 1 | How to ask her outShe’s not into you bro. And in fact she wasn’t into you from the moment she refused to give you her socials the first time. But the “awww that’s sweet” message was the nail in the coffin. I mean I read that message and winced a bit, like damn. Your response, still trying to meet up with her after this deathly reply, shows you don’t get it and that’s why she went cold on you. Do yourself a favour bro, don’t send her any more messages. | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | How to Proceed?Yeah, I would say try to gauge her interest but that would be complicating it because you might not know how to gauge this so yeah pretty much next time you see her ask her out | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | How to Proceed?Yep that’s exactly where you messed up, in not making your intentions clear. Don’t make this too difficult for yourself, if you’ve been out of the game for a while you probs won’t know how to flirt so you’ll have to pick that up later. But you do know how tell a girl that you think she’s cool, finding out when she’s free and asking her out - because you do it exactly like that! Don’t worry too much about “seeming interested”, you should seem interested if you like the girl lol. There’s a big dif… | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Girl i’ve been dating didn’t text backHer answer to you was pretty direct in itself and it’s awkward for her to repeat herself because she’s trying to let you down gently without spelling it out the way you want it spelt out. Just give her room and if she doesn’t reach out then you can reach out to see how she is but keep it casual and don’t mention the previous conversation cos you already got your answer | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 03:20 PM |
| 1 | how do i ask her out?Yeah and the fact that she wanted to come over instead of going out suggests she doesn’t want to dilly dally either | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Me (male) gfinally got a one-on-one lunch with a girl I've been interested in.I mean I can just tell you from what you’ve said so far it sounds pretty platonic. It doesn’t sounds like there’s been any flirtation so far or sexual intent from your end. Even you’re reason for meeting is because you’re both interested in whiskey rather than each other | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Waiting to respond to girlsMake messages fit around your schedule. If you’re busy then message when you’re free. Try to somewhat mirror the response times you’re getting from the other person so there’s not a mismatch with you responding quicker than her. You can let message threads die out if you don’t have anything else to say although I would avoid too many aimless conversations anyway - at the end of the day you want to be using messaging to link up with girls not mainly for chit chat. | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Proper way to deal with flake on 4th date?Yeah that’s not a good message either bro lol! Don’t need to say you’re not angry if you’re not angry | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Proper way to deal with flake on 4th date?You responding with “K” shows that you’re kinda butthurt about the situation so that’s where you went wrong. Although of course the natural instinct when you’re being flaked and you don’t feel it’s sincere is to get mad, it’s still the wrong thing to do if you wanna see the girl again. If you don’t then it doesn’t matter how you react! In this situation you just wanna react calmly and show some understanding, show her that it’s no problem, wish her luck with her test, and do not try to immediate… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Why “Don’t ask for her number”?It’s solid advice. But people will mistakenly say the reason it’s good advice is because by doing this you’re indicating that you have chosen the girl, rather than her choosing you and therefore you’re the prize blah blah blah. That’s a part of it but not the full picture. And hence this advice is usually given out without the nuance it deserves. You’re right in saying if you just go up to girls and say “give me your number!” you will most certainly get rejected more so than if you had just aske… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 2 | We’re all gonna make it bros. Got my first date tomorrow, please advise.Well done bro! First thing it sounds like you’re getting right is you’re keeping it casual. Just get drinks, if you must get food, just get snacks or something light. Find a table where you can ideally sit parallel to her, rather than sitting across from her like an interview, again for the sake of keeping it casual and increasing intimacy between you. But most of all, as it’s your first date, have fun with it! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself but at the same time it might be good to defi… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Went on a cruise 4 day cruise and here's what happenedAh ok sounds like the dude had the right idea! | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 02:43 PM |
| 4 | Went on a cruise 4 day cruise and here's what happenedTakes balls to approach bro so credit where it’s due. Girl 1: this sounded like a promising interaction and the fact you were on a cruise gave you the context to keep hanging out, like “hey you seem cool, let’s explore this ship together”, something like that. Not clear what the context is with the dude that was with her but at that point the momentum’s gone anyway because you got the number and bounced. Getting the number doesn’t really make sense in this situation because you’re already trappe… | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 02:19 PM |
| 2 | [Field Report] 09.02.22Credit to you for speaking to her for one. My thoughts - I don’t see an issue with your opener. Obviously most girls will know you’re just chatting them up using this opener but it doesn’t really matter, you can even call yourself out and say “yeahh I don’t know you, that was just my lame excuse to come over and say hi” and make a joke out of it in a playful, confident way. What I will say is your conversation seemed very friendly and lacked any real intent on your part to let her know what you … | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | I finally found out one of my biggest problems with womenI liked your post a lot - very introspective! And spot on really. I made a similar discovery during the moments I was able to switch off my thinking brain and just truly be alive to the moment with the girl. And it’s those moments where you’re smiling and silly and you realise that a lot of guys and PUAs take this shit sooo seriously, it truly does suck the life of out an interaction and it’s no fun at all. It’s very easy to overanalyse if you’re that way inclined and very difficult to just allo… | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Should you tell a girl you're a virgin before losing it?Absolutely not! | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Is she interested?No probs you’re just making the mistake of adding all these extra details that make you look tryhard. Often with texting less is more | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Is she interested?Lol well I’m being a bit flippant tbf so I’ll add a bit more. If you were to simplify your first reply it would look like this: “Niice - but you should know I’m the master at killing zombies lol” | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 12:26 AM |
| 11 | Is she interested?Don’t communicate complicated stuff | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Lol for real | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Got her number, now what?Listen to this guy 👆 | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Very first approach and infield report. Iam early 20s black male with a muscularish physique. (1/1)This sounds like a promising situation. Not sure why you left though if girl 1 basically gave her blessing by leaving you guys to it. Did you get girl 2’s logistics? | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Did I mess up my frame by accommodating to what she wanted instead of going with what I was saying?I like the structure of this but not the line. Frames her as the prize and the date as the reward. “Only if you’re good. If you’re naughty I’ll have to give you something else…” - this is better and keeps the frame | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 02:22 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Spot on 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 02:16 AM |
| 2 | What did I do wrong?She either wasn’t into you from the start or you fucked up lol, hard to tell from your post | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Girls tell me I should text them more instead of only to set up a date. Advice?If you’re already dating and fucking the girl then yeah you should be sending the occasional text asking how she is, what’s she been up to etc. If it’s before the first date then no, texting should just be for initial pleasantries then setting up the date. If she’s super keen on messaging at this stage, just take hours to reply, she’ll get the message lol EDIT: no pun intended 😅 | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Approaching WomenI mean there’s no wrong or right answer here. One increases the chances that you get with a girl you’re into but has a higher chance of rejection. The other decreases the chance you get with a girl you’re into but has a lower chance of rejection. The choice is yours. | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 01:58 AM |
| 2 | If you invite someone out for coffee can you kiss them even if it is a getting to know them date and not an established official date?What this guy said 💯 | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 01:54 AM |
| 6 | Should I just get an escort and get it over with?Escorts can help with just actually knowing what sex is like for sure. Certainly can build up your confidence sexually and you’ve got nothing to lose at this point so why not. I’ve got a friend that did something similar and then met his long term girlfriend shortly after and I’m quite convinced that had he not had that experience he wouldn’t have had the openness to have that relationship. I’ll just focus on your last point because I think it’s the most important with regards to what it says ab… | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 01:42 AM |
| 6 | Did my first cold approachWell done bro, you’ve got the right mentality, it’s all about building up your experience. Simple thing to improve would be to get the number next time, rather than socials. Numbers mean nothing - but they mean more than socials ;) | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 01:30 AM |
| 3 | Girl says she's interested, but takes several hours to respond to my messages.That’s fairly standard texting behaviour from girls nowadays, I wouldn’t get too hung up on it. The reasons don’t really matter. She replies to you and has agreed to a date. You should only really be using texting for logistics anyway, not as a way to get to know her. If you want to get to know her, get her on the phone for a little chat or better yet just wait for the date and chat to her then. | /r/seduction | 30/01/22 03:48 PM |
| 3 | I feel like I'm just too old to find any significant love at this point27 is a great age. | /r/seduction | 30/01/22 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Learning to pull girls in clubsNothing wrong with the photo. You do sound very passive though, like girls are supposed to approach you or something. Not how it works bro. And anyway girls are probs showing you attention, you just wouldn’t know because it can be subtle and you’re too inexperienced to notice. If you’ve got friends that are good with girls try to watch what they do and how they do it and emulate that. If you’re all out together ask to wingman them. If I’m out with someone less experienced than me and I can tell … | /r/seduction | 30/01/22 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Was she planning to flake on me?This 100% | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Any tips/suggestions for how to make the 5th date go as well as possible where the girl is coming over to my place for dinner but my apt building is kind of embarassing?The 5th date?! And just a kiss! Bro… naa that’s an actual friendship Listen… if you’ve been on five actual dates with this girl she needs to be happy that you’re still sticking around! I’m dead serious. Like I’d get if she had an issue with the inside of your place, like it was untidy or smelly or something. But if she has any type of issue with the external building itself then you need to send her five-dates ass packing! Your building is not something you should be worried about. You should be… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 11:20 PM |
| 32 | I slept with 2 cute Russian girls in 3 daysNice one bro love the spontaneity - sometimes friends can talk too much without action so it’s good to see you took matters into your own hands and had a bit of an adventure! For the people who don’t believe this is possible, two points: you have to understand, he spoke to SEVENTY girls! That’s more than most dudes speak to in a lifetime. So it’s a bit of a numbers game however that’s not to say there isn’t any game involved. You still have to lead these interactions all the way through and hand… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 11:05 PM |
| 45 | Has anyone here actually gotten laid at a club or bar?It’s not a myth bro lol but I can see why you would think that. I used to think gosh the stats for guys taking girls home actually must be super low because I don’t know anyone that’s pulled it off! And then you start pulling it off on a regular basis and you start to spot people also pulling it off who were previously invisible to you because you didn’t know what the actual signs of a hook up looked like. And then you go the other extreme and think EVERYONE must be pulling because you and the p… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 09:58 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Feel like I responded to your previous post relating to this?… First thing to say bro is her giving you her number is no big deal. It might mean she liked you in the moment at that particular time but it certainly doesn’t mean she will have retained those warm feelings towards you the next day. So just bare this in mind. It’s why I always say forget about the number and try to make it happen there and then to build on those positive feelings IN THE MOMENT. So with that said I would text her the … | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 09:48 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Flakes happen to everyone, it’s no big deal, and actually the more you get together with women the more YOU start to become a bit flakey in my experience lol. But it sounds like you’ve played it cool and haven’t taken it personally which is the right thing to do. If you still feel like connecting with the girl I’d sent her a causal text to see how she is and then find out when she’s free to meet up. Ideally you want this to be asap so if it’s Monday, aim for Tuesday/Wednesday so you can either g… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Field Report 1Haha and how did you feel the whole night? Were you enjoying yourself? I ask because it’s a dead giveaway if you’re not enjoying yourself when talking to girls hence it can kill your interactions | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Looking for wingman in LondonMore of a night gamer myself. Tried it? | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Field Report 1Was this a night out? Sounds like it - if so were you sober? | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 05:44 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Well done bro, getting out of any meaningful relationship is difficult so props to you for having the strength to move on. As for your night, sounds like you had one of those nights where legit everyone seems to be into you and you just feel like you’re the man lol. I would say when you’re getting nights like this, make the most of it. You’re getting a lot of upfront warmth from girls, see where you can take it. With the girl who gave you her number and was giving you eyes all night - why settle… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | I don't have a place to escalate because I live in my parents house and I'm too young to move out, usually the girl has their parents home very often too, how can I escalate somewhere other than my house or her house?Lol exactly you gotta do what you gotta do - where there’s a will there’s a way ;) | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Does meta game ever work?Judging by the examples you’ve used I’d say no. This would put a lot of girls off and end the interaction dead. Although: “Could you stop playing coy and stand still for a minute so I can kiss you” I think is a great line for a girl you’ve built a good attraction with who you know wants to kiss you but is just playing hard to get. Sometimes challenging girls like this in a playful, flirty way is needed to progress things and it communicates that you’re aware of what she’s doing and you think it’… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:29 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]That’s an understandable concern if your gaze is super intense. I would suggest looking at girls with a more tired gaze, kinda like bedroom eyes. Usually if you’re a bit tipsy your eyes will automatically soften and this has the effect of making your gaze look more seductive and you can hold it for longer. | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:17 PM |
| 3 | I don't have a place to escalate because I live in my parents house and I'm too young to move out, usually the girl has their parents home very often too, how can I escalate somewhere other than my house or her house?You could do it in the school toilets, in a park, in a car, there’s loads of places bro | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 1 | How to pick up girls.?Your post is quite vague. There’s a million things you can do to get girls. But if you’re going solo you really wanna make sure you’re having a good time in the bar/club irrespective of girls. Don’t go to the bar/club sober as hell, you’ll feel out of place with everyone else who’s had loads to drink and you won’t have the same loose energy as everyone else around you. So make sure you have a drink, or two, or three… Always make sure you’re smiling - I can’t stress this enough. For night game th… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:02 PM |
| 2 | some guy asked for my numberGuys don’t think like that over getting a girls number. You’ve got nothing to worry about it, just have fun with it | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:49 PM |
| 4 | Is it a hint? What does it mean when a girl gives you attitude then do this?You’re overthinking things. All of that is irrelevant, you’re focusing too much on what each individual action means and you’re gonna drive yourself crazy. I think what’s clear is your interactions with this girl have no purpose, unless all you want is to joke around with this girl, but I’m assuming you wouldn’t be over analysing and posting this on Reddit if that’s all you wanted from her. So before you next speak to her figure out what exactly do you want. Because the more you delay getting to… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:41 PM |
| 4 | Are same day lays possible?Night game, it’s very possible and in many ways is made for that. Day game, I would imagine it’s harder as people have commented already, girls don’t tend to go looking for it in the day time. | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:32 PM |
| 3 | My JourneyFeel like the OP is more making the point that his original Disney beliefs around love weren’t getting him anywhere despite the fact that girls often say this is what they want. But dig a little deeper and what girls are really saying is that they want to be desired by a guy that isn’t wimpy, lovestruck and smitten like he’s in some dumb romcom expecting the girls to fall for the loser in the end as we’ve all seen in countless silly films, which have seeped into our beliefs around love. Rather w… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 02:37 AM |
| 4 | To show interest or to flirt subtly; which one?You’re gonna have to show interest at some point bro. These things always have a way of losing momentum and by the time the dude makes a move it’s too late. Better to move too fast than move too slow. You can still be subtle if that’s you’re style - all that looks like is giving her the vibe that you’re curious about her and interested in her sexually and you’d like to go for a drink. It’s a playfully curious vibe, NOT serious, and because you can imagine this is said with an impish smile, it’s … | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Is it a good strategy to do this?A girl answering your questions is a very simple compliance test to gauge her interest. Girls won’t always ask you questions about yourself and I wouldn’t use this as any barometer of interested she is - don’t get too hung up on this! Focus on getting to know the girl, get the girl to move around with you, show you something of hers, whatever it maybe, but these are all compliance tests and will give you a decent idea of how interested the girl is. Obviously not all compliance tests are born equ… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Asked for her number and she said next timeAgain really hard to tell because a lot depends on non-verbals - smile, body language, how you say things etc. Two people could say the exact same thing and have different outcomes. It’s hard to separate how you approached from who she’s into cos sometimes it could just be that you’re not her type but if you’ve got to a point where you reasonably know what you’re doing with girls and get decent outcomes then you can sometimes safely say you’re particular type of person didn’t float her boat. If … | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Should I ditch her?I’m going to assume you’re younger because your comment reads like it… this doesn’t sound like anything to be worried about and I wouldn’t waste much brain energy on it. Focus on actually doing stuff with this girl in person that you wanna do rather than wasting your energy wandering what she’s doing via phone calls | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Usually guys that don’t have much experience with women, don’t talk to women with sexual intent, don’t take any real risks around women. More exposure to women and more experience with getting certain outcomes with women would alleviate this but easier said than done! | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Asked for her number and she said next timeThat’s a straight up no. Hard to say what the reason is with the info given bro but I’d always avoid straight up asking girls for their numbers and more so suggest we go for a drink and if she says yes then the natural next step is to get the number. You may already be doing this but just wanted to highlight cos feel like a lot of guys go straight for the number before explaining WHY they want it | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Need a wingman in LondonIt is lit trust lol I'm 28 - you? | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 10:45 AM |
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