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For sure! But sometimes courses like that are also super expensive, so if she wants to not be working at all in the future, she needs a plan to pay it off quickly, that’s all. My SIL is a pharmacist and makes crazy money. But she has a mountain of debt - which she could’ve paid off by now if her priorities were different, because she makes so much. She could’ve rented a tiny place and paid off her loans in no time. However she chose to marry, get two dogs and a big house and to pay her debt slow…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 09:56 PM
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I’d say a good place to start is not to be worrying about being in a masculine field or whatever, but rather, not accumulate debt. If you’re going to be finishing school and are taking loans, do you have a realistic plan of paying it off quickly?
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 04:57 PM
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When people say stuff like that it’s also a subtle way of making themselves feel good about not putting effort into stuff.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 02:50 AM
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Just to give some perspective, if you were married in the Catholic Church, this would almost certainly be grounds for an annulment. Meaning: he has kept so much from you, that your relationship is hardly true at all. Yes, we’re meant to forgive our loved ones’ mistakes. But that doesn’t mean accepting to stay in any and all bad situations. You can forgive him and not be in a relationship anymore. Lies are no ground for a relationship to start, and as heartbreaking as it is to find all of this ou…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 12:00 AM
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OP, whatever the solution is, if you want to stay with him, I suggest you work on giving your partner permission for his feelings. Losing respect is a recipe for disaster. And listen, maybe you can’t respect him anymore, but beware of where that will lead and be real with yourself about it. If your goal is to stay together, then you need to figure out what causes this behavior in him, and try to be ok with it if it’s not something that truly can be made better on an immediate future. (For exampl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 02:34 AM
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You don’t need to feel obligated to return to being friends with people who have hurt you. They weren’t wrong when not wanting to hang out with you then, and you’re not wrong in not wanting to hang out with them now. It’d be ok if you wanted the friendship back as well. None of the options are wrong - you’re entitled to your feelings, and friendship is not an obligation.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/21 06:25 PM
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Being considerate and thoughtful about what you share and how is very different from lying. Lying is him asking you how many men you’ve been with and you telling him you had been with only one when it had actually been three. Telling him, without him asking (or without him asking this level of detail) not only how many men you’ve been with, but how your experiences were and how he compares is actually very inconsiderate. He’s going to assume you either don’t care about how he feels about you, be…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 09:38 PM
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When we talk to people, deciding what and how we approach a subject is not just about how much you’re comfortable with sharing, but also considering how much they would be comfortable with knowing. And it’s inconsiderate to disregard that. (Edited for clarification)
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 09:00 PM
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Being honest doesn’t mean you have no consideration for what you share. It means not lying and not omitting. If it comes up, you absolutely should be honest. But that doesn’t mean you need to go on a 20 minute background story of each of the men you’ve been with and how he compares with each. That’d be a HUGE turn off. Do you want to know how much he thinks about the women he’s been with? And do you want him to think you’d share those types of details about him if you ever broke up?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 08:43 PM
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but I want to open up about my past so there can be no room for him to guess But why? It sounds like you’re the one who wants the reassurance. If he’s not asking, it’s not because he’s assuming the worst. If he asks, tell him you had two boyfriends before him, if he asks specifically about sex, tell him you’ve been with three. You don’t need to (and shouldn’t) volunteer info he’s not interested in. Mind you, I’m not saying to keep it from him, I’m saying don’t go dumping a bunch of info on him h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 08:35 PM
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OP, I’m not saying your case won’t be like hers. But please be real with yourself: is this a great man otherwise that because of some specific circumstance is going through tremendous stress and therefore having problems? If this is the case then you know what the circumstances are. Lost his father, lost his job, something big… I’m not asking you what it is, I’m just saying if that’s the case, then YOU know what it is, because it should be something obvious, not something you need to scratch you…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 05:26 PM
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Given that the comment is in negative and that top voted ones are calling out this clear case of an abusive relationship, I don’t think I am. Being red pill, being feminine, and being submissive to a good man does not equal to accepting abuse. Not all men deserve the submission of a good woman just by the fact that they’re male. He is not living up to his role as protector.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 04:23 PM
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This is terrible advice. I hope your husband wasn’t yelling and throwing things, because that’s not behavior people have to bear through.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 03:28 PM
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This post is not what I thought it was going to be from the title, but I agree!
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 03:13 PM
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I don’t agree with OP’s point of view - or at the very least with the conclusions she’s drawing from her observations - and was trying to put things from a perspective that she’d relate to. But I think it’s foolish to equate men and women like that. Female peak attractiveness is in fact earlier and more fleeting than male’s. And it goes down in a way that it doesn’t for men after having kids.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 03:27 AM
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I’m not the OP of this answer, but I’m on my second pregnancy and I’ve been at a healthy weight my whole life. The answer to that is the same as it is at any point in life: a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and exercise (in that order. Sleep is actually more important than exercise, and diet is responsible for something like 80% of weight gain or loss, so the other two are almost negligible in comparison). The reason women (and men too!) have bigger trouble maintaining a healthy weight as they ge…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 06:46 PM
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The way to let it stop bothering you is to realize men and women are different. Of course this is an oversimplification, but at the end of the day, that’s what it is. You’re having a hard time because you’re putting men and women in the same boxes but you realize the destination and the outcomes for each of them aren’t the same. The mistake is putting them in the same boxes to begin with. Yeah, men generally speaking, age better than women. Men aren’t judged and don’t feel the consequences, in m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 05:22 PM
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It’s true. Most men prefer long(er) hair. That depends a bit on the rest of your appearance too. I’m 5’1, so very long hair looks goofy and disproportional on me, but when I started dating my husband my hair was medium length, a bit below the shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 12:28 AM
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Why does that matter? You don’t need whichever man she ends up with, you need your own. You might both be in the market for the same guys (which actually you don’t know it’s the case), but you’re both not competing for the same particular guy. You only need one.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 09:40 PM
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It does change as baby gets older. Toddlers are a lot more mental and physical work than littler babies. I didn’t used to mind doing more when my now 15 mo was younger, but after she turned one, it got a lot more hands on and I feel like I need more breaks. Specially as I’m pregnant too, and I tend to get a overwhelmed more easily. It’s not like I expect my husband to take over for me, but we started having more structured daddy time like Saturday mornings for 2-3 hours and bath time every day, …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 12:15 AM
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I think it can feel very intimidating if you’re not the one who regularly does something with the baby. My main tip with that is to not coach him too much and to not correct him. If he feels like he’s being scrutinized when he does something with the baby or if he gets the vibe that he didn’t do things the “proper” way, that can create a lot of resentment and also make him less likely to want to do anything. If you can, approach things without making a big deal out of it. Don’t turn it into this…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 05:24 PM
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While it’s only fair that most of childcare falls on you, it does sound like he could be contributing more. For example, my husband does bathtime and a story every night, and I believe he’ll probably start putting our oldest to bed when she weans. He’ll let me sleep in on the weekends when I need to after I’ve fed the baby. I also usually have saturdays mornings for myself. I go grocery shopping and run other errands or just go spend time by myself, and I was going crazy with the lack of alone t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 12:28 PM
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I find it very odd the way you said he put not wanting to “finance your education” when me and my husband were dating and then engaged, I had expressed that once I was working I’d be helping pay his student loans so that we’d be debt-free as fast as possible. That’s not how things worked out because we ended up having children early but that’s besides the point. The fact that he seems so resource-guarding when you guys are already living together while you are doing a bunch of stuff men usually …
/r/RedPillWives19/11/21 09:35 PM
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In the beginning it takes a lot of paying attention, but once you get the hang of it, you barely have to look at what you’re doing. So it’s a good to do while watching tv (or listening to a podcast if you want to look at it still)
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 10:01 PM
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If you want to pick up knitting, this tutorial was very helpful to me when I was starting: https://youtu.be/24lR2IRS57A
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 06:47 PM
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Yep it’s totally disrespectful. I imagine she wouldn’t be too happy if she found out her boyfriend has told his friends that she’s never willing to give him a BJ. Like wtf? That’s mortifying.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 05:05 PM
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In my experience, it’s best to not say anything too forward to friends. It only tends to strain friendships and people will still do what they want to do. When she brings it up, ask neutral questions that make her think about her situation instead of making statements, unless she explicitly asks your opinion. Even then, unless she’s ready to break up with him, being too openly negative towards a significant other usually backfires in a friendship. “Are you ok with always having to make the decis…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 04:24 PM
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We kicked ours out of the bedroom :P At around 3-4 months I believe. She was already sleeping through the night by then, so there was no real advantage to keeping her with us, and we were always afraid of waking her up… so we kicked her out lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 11:48 PM
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Are you on hormonal birth control? That can have a huge impact on sex drive.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 11:40 PM
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If “better girls” are stealing the guys you want… you’re probably shooting out of your league. This might not necessarily be looks-wise, though it’s certainly part of it. The simple answer is to become the woman that would be the ideal one for your ideal guy. And then to be realistic about what your dating prospects are. Keep an open mind looks-wise and you’re way more likely to hit the jackpot in regards to values and everything else, which is what matters the most long term. —————————————- Edi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 11:46 AM
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If you don’t mind me asking, what condition do you have? There are many that can be put into remission by lifestyle changes, and I could hopefully point you to a few resources. If that’s not what you are interested in I completely understand, don’t feel obligated to reply to me. As for how much it takes away from your femininity, it does but very few of us are a perfect package. Make sure to be the best you can be in anything else, and the right man for you will be ok with your “drawbacks”, we a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 06:44 PM
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This issue has been linked to the vaccine. I’m very pro-vaccine but to be honest I’m sick of the narrative that it can’t be criticized or discussed like any other medical procedure. I think it makes the fence sitters less likely to trust information, since there’s obviously a narrative being pushed instead of the scientific community being clear with the facts. Again, I’m pro-vaccine, I got mine and I think most people should get it. But I don’t like how it’s being handled. Anyway, if your issue…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/21 03:38 PM
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OP, like others said, he’s demanding. He’s brought it up multiple times through the years hoping you’d come around and you didn’t. I’d be willing to bet that if you say no, he’ll end up cheating. If you say yes then you’re going against your own morals, possibly introducing disease into your lives and an emotionally unhealthy situation for your kids. You say you don’t want a separate home for your kids. But do you want one where their parents don’t respect the institution of their own relationsh…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/21 07:36 PM
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One thing you can do is look for a Catholic therapist. Even if you’re not Catholic yourself, you’ll get advice from someone who is likely conservative and believes in personal responsibility. There’s a directory online so you can find one near you. I’ll link it later if someone hasn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 07:05 PM
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But that’s what I’m saying! If your band size is 28, that is correct! You probably have the wrong cup size. As most retailers don’t carry 28, you’ll end up fitting in their 32AA or whatever, which will technically fit, because you’re compensating for the cup with the band size, but it won’t fit properly, because that’s not your true size, which might be a 28D or whatever. And btw, the smaller the band size, the smaller that a bigger cup will look. A 28D doesn’t actually look like “big d-cup brea…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 01:49 AM
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Sorry, I think I didn’t explain myself well, I wasn’t suggesting you are a 28, just that you double check your size with the calculator from that sub :P
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 01:28 AM
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Have you looked into r/abrathatfits? You might have the wrong band size. Turns out I’m a 28, which almost no retailer carries.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 01:15 AM
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OP, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are in a physically dangerous situation; this man could literally kill you. Please leave and don’t look back, and you should get psychological help for yourself too. I’m Catholic, you could even get an annulment in your situation - meaning, the Church would recognize that your marriage was never valid to begin with, because your husband has deceived you about who he truly is. This is the situation that you’re in: not with a “broken man in a bad sit…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 10:54 PM
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OP, an abusive relationship never becomes a non-abusive relationship. IF he gets help one day he might be able to maybe have a normal relationship with someone else, but he won’t be able to with you. Your patterns have been established. I’m Catholic, and this is so serious I’m pretty sure it’s grounds for annulment in the Church. And you absolutely didn’t “wear down” this perfect man. I agree with the above comment; he has always been this person, you’re just now finding out. This is who he is. …
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 10:29 PM
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100%. This is the answer, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 02:22 AM
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Then why did you guys break up? You said “external factors”. But if this is something that can’t be resolved, there’s literally no point in refusing to move on. You’re just shooting your self in the foot by keeping yourself from healing from this relationship and letting it go.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/21 11:47 PM
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Art of Manliness
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 06:14 PM
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Look, her message is sketchy. Give him the benefit of the doubt for that. Having said that, men moving that fast is usually a red flag. And your comments about him seeming perfect also make alarm bells go off for me. Love bombing is a classic move. You overwhelm people with attention and love and get them hooked on that idyllic beginning of the relationship, then move on to being very serious very fast… that’s usually how abusive relationships start. And not for nothing, but abusive relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 10:34 PM
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Also, I’ve never been obese, but it’s a known fact that losing weight when you’re this young, your chances of your skin straight up almost completely recovering a very high! It’s a completely different story after your 30s.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 12:45 PM
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Well, that’s the problem with generalizing; I can’t speak for every single couple out there hahaha although I morally don’t agree with it, I don’t doubt your account. I was just stating what I believe to be the majority of cases, and it’s what I’ve always seen in person.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 04:52 PM
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I went to a very liberal university and got a degree in a major that this is ripe with. The men pretend it’s about being sex positive, when really, they’re just harvesting the fruits of being in an environment that sex is easy and commitment is easily avoided; and the women pretend they like it because it’s the way to be involved with the men in that group. I’ve never seen an open relationship where both people are actually happy about their arrangement. It’s just toxic pretending to be positive…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 02:03 PM
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Because reddit is extremely left-leaning.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 02:19 PM
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It’s a response to the 50/50 mentality, which implies that everything is divided equality between the couple. Each pays half the rent, does half the housework, is responsible for half of childcare… which is not realistic or desirable for most people and in my opinion can create resentment when someone feels like they’re pulling more weight than the other. Instead, the mentality should be that both people give their best, contributes to the best of their abilities, and takes on the responsibiliti…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/21 06:42 PM
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I don’t like the term “domestic servant” haha I don’t call my husband my “financial servant”. I am obedient and defer to him, in the sense that he is the head of the house, and although we will discuss all our important decisions, I would never put my foot down categorically and refuse to do something he asked of me, or ignore his opinion. But I don’t consider him my master. Anyway, aside from this tangent: What generally works for me is having a small list of “daily basics” that I must accompli…
/r/RedPillWives18/08/21 06:26 PM
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I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to imply you should fake being religious. I’m religious myself, and if someone is interested in attending mass, I’ll encourage them, regardless of their beliefs. If you become a parishioner somewhere, please be honest about your faith with the people around you!
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 07:26 PM
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There are secular women out there who will have similar values! That being said, I’m not gonna stop you from going to mass if you feel called to, for whatever reason ;) Edit: I’m not telling him to be dishonest, just encouraging attending church.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 01:01 AM
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I met my husband on tinder, of all places. We were both “blue pill who just didn’t know any better” lol we were liberals because that’s what we had been exposed to, in school and uni, but we both had been raised Catholic and both had a yarning for a traditional life. We dated very traditionally and everything. It wasn’t a hook-up relationship, despite tinder’s reputation - and I agree with the reputation btw, if I had been single after I had become conservative I definitely would’ve stayed away …
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 12:29 AM
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Red pill/ blue pill is a very internet-way of looking at things. If you ask most people irl what of those they are, they probably won’t know what you’re talking about. If I had to guess, traditional men probably are red pill from a red pill women perspective, if you had to categorize them.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 12:18 AM
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I don't believe in 50/50; I believe in 100/100. Both of you should be doing the best you can within your means and in a way that makes sense to you. So, you both earn 100k and that's the life you want to maintain? 50/50 money-wise seems like the fair thing. You work part time so you can be there for the kids more and contribute to the house more? Then the financial burden will probably fall heavier on him. You won't be doing everything 50/50; but you'd both be contributing fairly, in different w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 12:07 AM
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Sounds like you're more invested in him than he in you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 12:00 AM
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That seems like more and more trouble down the road to me. Relationships can never be exactly 50/50 percent equal. It's not how people work. You should both be giving 100%. Which means you do the best possible and contribute the most as you can depending on your circumstances. He has unrealistic expectations of life and of you.
/r/RedPillWives07/08/21 02:43 PM
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Of course. I did too.. I'm not saying that we have to settle for an unattractive guy or one with no ambition or anything like that. Just that if someone's priorities are the first part of your list regardless of more serious compatibilities, then that probably won't go so well.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 06:40 PM
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They probably are if you ask the average “blue pill” early 20s woman what she’s looking for in a man - because most women, specially at that age, sadly don’t know how to vet for a quality partner anymore. I can guarantee you that the priorities of almost if not all of the women in the sub are different than those.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 10:40 PM
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Also, this post is completely nonsensical for this audience. It’s basically trying to apply the tenants of the male red pill, which are generally used by men who want to sleep around, to a community of women who value a traditional relationship. There’s a reason most red pill women say they’d never date a red pill guy.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 10:23 PM
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Also agree with u/fosho_away that this list has very low standards. Someone with similar values to mine trumps most of what you listed and it’sa non-negotiable.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 03:19 PM
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Yeah exactly! I put on 17lb/8kg (I’m 5’1”/ 154cm) and my daughter also weighted 3kg at birth. A perfectly healthy weight for a newborn born at 39 weeks. My in-laws were shocked and thought she was tiny and skinny. They had gigantic (almost obese) babies. It’s not healthy. Of course I can’t say all of that to them, I don’t want to be rude haha
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 06:31 PM
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Yes! My SIL is pregnant with her first and she’s totally in that mentality. My MIL gained around 40lbs with both her pregnancies. I’m not from the USA but live here and to me it really seems like pregnancy is a time in American women’s lives where they let themselves completely indulge in unhealthy behavior and other people even seem to cheer that on. It’s very odd to me and I don’t think it’s very healthy mentally either. I’m not trying to offend anyone here, it’s just to me, as a Brazilian, th…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 02:49 PM
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She asked people’s opinion, I gave mine. I don’t get why that warrants being rude.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 12:37 PM
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I don’t. By living together you’re pretty much functioning as a married couple but without having publicly agreed to the responsibilities and commitments that it entails. If you are someone who wants to get married, I wouldn’t recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 11:28 AM
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Kibbe! But I second following people who’s style you admire :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 07:13 PM
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Happened to me too. My husband was agnostic and middle of the road, and I was agnostic and kind of finding my way back to Catholicism when we met. Now we’re both practicing Catholics again, and although he’s not a republican, he has gotten more conservative with time for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 05:55 PM
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You might be shooting out of your league, looks wise. I think that’s very very common with women. But mostly, I think we sometimes are looking for the wrong things in guys and not necessarily sending the right signals. Also the self doubt thing can be a turn off in more ways than it seems obvious at first. So working hard on literally simply sounding more content and calm, on being a good listener, and being quick with a smile, on giving people the benefit of the doubt if they are awkward... If …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/20 05:51 PM
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Very nice! I agree with this so much. Where I’m from, a lot more women are at healthy weights without effort. Meaning there’s a culture of generally eating well, and people are generally healthy. Now living in the US, I usually see people at one extreme or the other, women are either overweight or they are very thin, with the majority being slightly overweight, which here almost seems like it’s the normalized, usual weight for everyone, sadly, and I don’t think most people even realize they are …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 07:31 PM
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and I was meant to get plastic surgery to attemp to fix that this autumn but my country (the Uk) went into a second lockdown which halted everything, which means my SMV is unfixable for now. ... All men tend to date up in terms of looks which means I will need to date down financial wise amd avcept being a breadwinner? All advise is appreciated. I don’t have much advice on specifics about dating for you, but even if we consider that it’s true the only thing you need to improve is your appearance…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 11:39 PM
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Really? When I’m at 99-102 I already look pretty skinny, and I was only under that when I had difficulty keeping weight on due to a food intolerance that I didn’t realize. My period also got a lot more regular after I finally gained those pounds. I know 10lbs doesn’t sound like much but on a very petite frame it makes a huge difference. Anyway, you know your body best, but 90lb is 10lb below the minimum for 5’1.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 09:39 PM
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90lbs is very underweight for 5’1. That’s my height too, and I’d definitely look unhealthy at that weight. I’m all for promoting healthy weights for women, the body positivity movement is bonkers, but let’s not promote unhealthy low weight either :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 08:01 PM
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It’s not too late! 😊
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 10:23 PM
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I’m going to play Devil’s advocate here: if your boyfriend doesn’t care about Christmas and the whole thing makes him anxious in general, can you imagine how does it feel to be with someone who spent a whole paycheck on gifts? You guys need to reach a middle ground. If it’s very important to you, he probably should be making more of an effort, and if for him your amount of excitement is excessive, it’d probably be a good idea to tone it down. I bet that by toning it way down and making it meanin…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 09:35 PM
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That’s true, I could have phrased it better! I meant more what I was saying in the end, a regular conservative guy is a better bet than a red pill guy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 10:15 PM
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I’ll be honest, if this is a need for him, that sounds like his desires are ruling his life. I agree with others who say to stand you ground, but at the end of the day, you also need to decide if a guy like this is what you want. Most men are not like that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 08:30 PM
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To answer your question directly, “are threesomes important for a couple’s health?” - no. You’re feeling pressured, then it’s obviously something you don’t want and he does. Personally I’d never subject myself to sharing my man with someone else, and he wouldn’t have become my husband if he wanted that. I also think it’s morally wrong, but that’s a different discussion. To be honest I’d stay away from “red pill” guys. They don’t have the same goals in relationships than red pill women do. A dece…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 06:44 PM
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This is a popular desert in Brazil, and my mom’s recipe is my favorite, and it’s super easy! (This is what it looks like) Condensed Milk Flan 1 can of sweet condensed milk same quantity of whole milk (measure it in the condensed milk can) 3 eggs 1 tsp vanilla extract (optional) 1 cup of sugar Make a dry caramel with the sugar (just heat the sugar in a pan with no water, stirring occasionally, watch out for when it turns brown Pour it in a ring style pan focusing on the bottom, and when you’re do…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 02:27 PM
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Ok, sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 09:10 PM
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No, I don’t. I apparently offended people with my comment, and that was not my intention. It’s just something I have always heard.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 09:07 PM
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Then ask yourself, are you aiming for guys who are 7/8 or maybe even higher? Generally speaking, relationships work better when the woman is slightly more attractive than the man. So realistically you should be aiming for men you consider to be 6/7. The thing is, most people (specially when single) don’t mind having people around who they know are attracted to them, even if they have no intention of pursuing anything. This particular guy you mentioned might have said “maybe” with his words, but …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 03:51 PM
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When a guy says “maybe” to you, it usually means “I’m not that into you, but I want you to stick around, just in case” - in case this other girl doesn’t want him/ or because he likes the ego boost, etc. Men let you know when they’re interested in you. Believe that. Guys are usually very direct with their romantic interest, specially when they know the girl is interested too. I agree that you have to increase your standards. I don’t know if you’re aiming out of you league looks wise, but in relat…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 09:21 AM
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In the beginning my husband helped a LOT. He took a week off and a couple weeks of half time and he’s been working from home so it all worked out. In my culture, the 40 days after birth the mother is just supposed to rest and focus on baby, and thankfully I was able to do that, I didn’t really do any housework or cook in the first month and a half. Nowadays (baby is 4mo), honestly it’s not as bad as long as you realize you’ll need to stretch your cleaning routine but then also try to stick to it…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 11:51 AM
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I agree with another commenter, you have to be very firm when rejecting women. I’m Catholic and married (and straight), but one of my best friends has had a few relationships and entanglements with women, and you wouldn’t believe the level of drama. I’d say just move on with your life and don’t give them much thought. It doesn’t really matter. Put yourself in more situations where you’re more likely to find a guy you’d want a relationship with.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 06:26 PM
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That’s the point of saying “most”. I’m obviously not saying there aren’t women who benefit or simply like doing it. OP asked people’s opinions, I gave mine. It’s just an opinion. I’m not the facial hair police hahah
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 06:36 PM
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I’m Brazilian actually, mixed race, with dark hair. I pluck a few facial hairs. I just think for <most> women shaving is unnecessary. That obviously doesn’t encompass all women. That’s the point of making a generalization.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 06:30 PM
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Well there’s your first priority then, find out the type of man you want a future with. I can tell you right now that those college, party guys are not looking for serious relationships. Not saying they won’t become serious men in the future, just that it’s not them that you should be pursuing. I’m probably a 7-8/10 in regards to looks but I’ve always been fit and I’m smart, funny, engaging, etc.. and I still could never find a boyfriend when I was younger. I got married at 26 to a great guy and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 12:35 AM
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You’re very unlikely to meet a guy you’d want a future with at those events. Focus on becoming the type of woman that the type of man you want, wants. Your friends might get attention from men in those situations, but I can guarantee to you that those behaviors and relationships are detrimental to them in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 12:18 AM
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I had never heard of doing this unless the woman had pcos or something like that. Looking it up, I honestly think women look better with their peach fuzz. It’s natural, idk. I’m not saying that everything natural is good, but this just seems like an unnecessary thing to obsess about. Maybe I’m missing something?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 02:53 AM
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Things will never “eventuate” for you with this particular man. Always in these situations assume that if a guy was interested in you, you’d know by now. People show us who the are and what they want. He doesn’t want to be with you. Why would he risk losing you to someone else during all these years if he did?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 12:39 PM
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Of course “not everything in life is sunshine and roses” LOL that still doesn’t mean someone killed themselves because of the end of a months long relationship. That is a gross misunderstanding of depression and suicide, and that’s why it’s cruel to blame it on someone. Suicide is a much bigger deal and depression a much bigger problem than the end of a brief relationship in your late teens/early twenties could ever be. So pinning that on your boyfriend, is, in fact, extremely unfair. Yeah, your…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 11:52 AM
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I’d like 5 or more, husband wants 3, I’ve convinced him that after the third we’ll talk again 😂 we just had our first.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 02:17 AM
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I’m sorry for interjecting on another thread, but please, stop thinking he, as a teenager, contributed to the death of a girl he knew very briefly. That’s extremely cruel.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:57 PM
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Well, you’ve said you’ve been together for four years. Only you can decide exactly what that tells you about his values, character, etc. But I honestly have a hard time judging the breakup of a teenager too harshly.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:55 PM
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While if that was his sole reasoning for breaking up (not being a virgin because she had been raped), that’s a little baffling, I can see a number of reasons to not want to be with someone who has suffered severe trauma or has a lot of mental health problems, specially if as you say, the relationship had been brief. In any case, she absolutely didn’t kill herself because of a breakup of a short relationship. It might have sent her on a bad spiral or something, but someone who kills themselves us…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:08 PM
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I could have written this! I always struggle between either sounding like a smartass vs looking aloof. I agree with the other comment, practice listening better, practice speaking a little slower and quieter - I find that I tend to talk very excitedly about everything and can come across combative and strong even about subjects that’s I’m not that passionate about.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 03:02 PM
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This. Women are not (usually) the pursuers, however, men need it to be very obvious to them that you’re open to their pursue; and that’s the best dynamic in my opinion. So, make it clear that you’re interested. Smile, make an effort with conversations, lots of eye contact, tell him that you’d like to go out - but let HIM ask you out.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 03:24 PM
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Ok then. I don’t say this in mean spirit, but I think you’re in the wrong sub. You’ll probably get better advice in one of the other more mainstream ones if neither you or your partner really value traditional relationships/ see gender relations through a more traditional, “red pill” lens. I wish you the best!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 07:30 PM
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I’m sorry to intrude, but what? Do you not judge men based on that too? If a man is a virgin or if he only has had sex with previous girlfriends or if he’s been sleeping with a different woman every week for 10 years makes no difference to you? Does it tell you nothing about him? I think women have extreme expectations of men when it comes to this when in fact it’s something almost everyone thinks of when they get into a relationship with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 06:13 PM
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If you already had sex with him, I don’t think there’s a way for things to not get confusing for him by withholding now. If that’s what you want just stick to your guns. But accept that he might not be cool with it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 03:29 PM
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Could a man love someone he doesn’t want to pursue? I don’t know. Would I want to be with a man who doesn’t want to pursue me? No - Therefore the first question is irrelevant.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 02:40 AM
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I agree and don’t think this advice is against red pill. After all this sub and way of thinking is mostly for romantic relationships between adults, not for children and their parents. It’s completely backwards and not safe (at a minimum psychologically not safe) for a kid to play the role of partner to their parent.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 02:00 PM
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If we’re gonna talk about anecdotal evidence, I can cite countless couples I know who only moved in together after getting married and have rock solid relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 11:35 PM
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Yes! Similar efficacy to condoms if I’m not mistaken. It’s important though that if you want to do it you actually learn it. I read the book “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” and I highly recommend it. FAM is not just tracking your temperature (btw the only thing that accomplishes is telling you that you have already ovulated, therefore it can’t be used to prevent pregnancy), and it’s also not the same as using one of those apps that tells you when you are fertile based on when you have your per…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:56 PM
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Natural family planning, or the fertility awareness method :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 08:52 PM
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That’s so sweet. After my daughter was born (she’s 12w now) my prayer life has definitely taken a backseat unfortunately. Daily rosary would definitely be a great way to start ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 04:58 PM
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That’s awesome, I didn’t know that one! We say grace at meals but we need to start regular prayer together too :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 04:27 PM
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I do! I’m a flamboyant gamine :) and former mod at r/kibbe
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 02:11 PM
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Being a practicing Catholic, I wouldn’t have gotten one. The divorce rates for Catholics who practice NFP is 5% btw, and both me and my husband come from generations of intact marriages. So I think understanding your demographic specific risks is important.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 11:49 AM
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That is not what I meant whatsoever.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 12:10 AM
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Of course the real victim is the wife, and I’m not excusing OP of her behavior. It’s about not being sure how a man in that situation might react. Specially if he’s a narcissist or has some other personality disorder like it seemed from the comments.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 10:25 PM
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I’d highly discourage this. I also feel very very sorry for the woman and she does deserve to know, but being responsible for possibly ending a marriage is not a wise thing to do. You wouldn’t know how anyone involved might react.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 10:16 PM
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“Sometimes he refers to having a wife, other times he says he will never get married. Sometimes he says he wants kids, and other things he does not want kids” This man either doesn’t have the courage to let you know his goals are opposite to yours, or he really doesn’t know what he wants from life. I’m not saying to breakup with him, but you should consider if you’re ok with that.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/20 07:33 PM
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The men who commit are not very likely to be the same men who are willing to have a casual thing going.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:14 PM
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If you’re friends because of a circle of other people, sure. One-on-one, texting about your day, type of friendship? Not in my opinion, and I’ve thought so since even before I became more conservative.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 01:09 PM
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If you want to track and understand your cycle, I highly recommend the book “Taking Charge of your Fertility”. If you’re not tracking anything, a lot of it is guess work. Might be an educated guess, but a guess nonetheless.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:55 PM
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Oh yeah I was just talking about nursing. Imo babies shouldn’t co-sleep; I know it has its benefits, but kids benefit far more by their parents having a strong relationship, and a huge part of that is intimacy, which I can only imagine is a challenge when baby is often in the bed with you. The recommendation is for baby to sleep in the same room as the parents for six months, but I plan on moving mine to her room at 3 months (I have a one month old).
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 06:52 PM
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I agree with everything you say a lot! It freaks me out the lack of boundaries people seem to have with kids, specially being from another country and living in the USA, it’s very common here. I just wanted to make a correction though; 6 months is the recommendation to exclusively breastfed, not of breastfeeding in general. Meaning that at six months you introduce other foods, but you are supposed to keep breastfeeding, at least until baby is a year old, and preferably for longer, the recommenda…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 05:55 PM
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He’s not interested in getting married to you. My husband and I knew we wanted to get married since the first few months - that doesn’t mean married to each other necessarily; it doesn’t mean discernment is over in a few weeks: we knew marriage was something both of us wanted, both of us were marriage people. We dated for 3 years before getting engaged, 4 before being married. Probably would’ve married a year sooner if it hadn’t been for specific circumstances.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 01:08 PM
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I’ve watched some of her videos. Honestly, her priorities are very different from mine. I think what she sees as a “high value man” is a rich guy who does what she wants. She’s been with her “partner” for who knows how long.. I wouldn’t take relationship advice from an adult woman in a long term relationship that doesn’t seem to be going towards marriage to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/20 03:53 PM
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The main thing I want to tell you is to stop trying to convince them.. it’s not gonna work. If they get pushy with something, just say you’re gonna have to agree to disagree, and just keep doing you. I’d also try to find some girls that have views a little more aligned with your own. It’s very tiring to always be the odd one out.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 04:04 PM
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My bad :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 05:10 PM
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I know it doesn’t.. is that against the rules? If I broke them I didn’t mean to and I’ll delete my comment. I just thought her post read extremely pessimistic, and commented on that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 04:55 PM
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Slow down your responses in general. It’s ok to think for a second before you reply. When you process what you want to say, you’ll catch yourself before you swear most of the time. And that will only be a natural byproduct of becoming a calmer person in general :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/20 08:42 PM
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I found out about some of the big lies of feminism (wage gap, rape culture, etc) and that opened my eyes to what’s happening to our culture. It was at the same time that a lot of my other political beliefs were changing, I pretty much went from being a liberal to being a conservative with some libertarian leanings, and to my re-discovery of religion. This was 2-3 yeas ago.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 06:01 PM
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What a wonderful sub!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/20 04:37 PM
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I’m religious, Roman Catholic, and married. I think a better alternative to that is seeing a committed relationship (girl/ boyfriend stage) as a period of discernment with the person you’re with. A committed relationship is not committing to marriage, but it also should NOT be seen as a permanent stage or as a “goal”. The goal is matrimony; finding the partner you want to spend your life with. The relationship before is for both of you to find out if you’re that person for one another. To each t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 04:06 AM
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That’s interesting! Those apps have gotten pretty common, and I’m glad that they make more women aware of NFP, but I worry that they inadvertently make women use NFP wrong, because they all seem to have features of predicting your fertile period based on your past ones, when that’s exactly the opposite of what you should be doing hahah Most women do stay within some level of regularity, but that shouldn’t be a given. A minor stressor like not sleeping well a couple days in a row or getting sick …
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 07:27 AM
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We were both really excited but I felt like I had done everything right with NFP, I just ovulated early one month it seems. I just wanted to point out that as a fellow catholic previously doing NFP (pregnant now), this seemed a little off. How were you doing it? Have you read the book Taking Charge of your Fertility? To properly do NFP, you should not at all be relying on how your previous cycles have gone. When you “usually” ovulate is irrelevant except for keeping track. Taking your temperatur…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 07:00 PM
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You should not have to stop obsessing over it. He shouldn’t be making you feel this way.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 03:31 AM
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Drink sparingly; don’t smoke; get at least 8h of sleep every night and go to bed at the same time every day; stay active - you don’t have to exercise “like a man” or anything. In fact over exercising is not very beneficial, specially for women. But do stay active. Daily walks and swimming a couple times a week is probably ideal for most women, for example. Eat well: avoid processed carbs and focus on a moderate carb diet. Eat high quality meat and eat your cholesterol. We need it for proper horm…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 07:13 PM
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Depends on how much you wanna spend. A store I’m obsessed with but can’t afford is Sezane. I love everything from them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:52 AM
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This sounds like he’s begging. And there’s one advice my mom gave me when I wanted to break up my first relationship that I never forgot: don’t ever stay with someone out of pity for them. Even if he’s the ones asking for it, that’s extremely humiliating and you should never put someone in that position. Can you imagine if someone did that to you? You’d hate yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:44 AM
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Don’t get talked into doing this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 09:54 PM
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But those men and women are irrelevant to this discussion though. They don’t want relationship with the opposite sex and the opposite sex doesn’t want relationships with them. So when RP discusses gender relations, it’s obviously talking about men/women relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 12:50 AM
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It’s also a major surgery that is pretty risky. Best to avoid it if possible.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 11:40 PM
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There’s different types of therapy, you might not have gotten a good fit or a good therapist. What did you do? I’m not saying therapy is the only thing that could work, just that if you’re still interested in doing it, maybe you could try it differently. If you’re into self analysis, I highly recommend Jordan Peterson’s book “10 Rules For Life”. Listen to his interviews. He has a way different view of mental health than a lot of our PC culture does, and I personally find his approach more helpfu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 12:13 AM
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I lose respect for both but for different reasons. She looks like she doesn’t have self respect, he looks like he’s taking advantage of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 03:35 PM
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One of my closest friends has endometriosis as well so I know a little about it and I second it; you should definitely research it and should seek treatment.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 10:57 PM
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Women are being indoctrinated. We are told by everyone growing up that depending on men is bad. That we all should go out and have incredible careers and that all cards are stacked against us just for having been born female. Feminism is everywhere. It’s incredibly hard for women to see the other side of the coin, because this is literally what everyone around us tell us. “Why should a woman support traditional gender roles? What’s in it for her? A life of abuse and servitude” I rest my case. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 01:44 PM
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It’s funny, posts by women who actually are in abusive relationships do come up from time to time on this sub. What none of these other posts about RPW says though is that every time a post like that shows up, almost if not all of the comments tell the woman to leave the relationship. Feminists seem to think every relationship in which the the couple acknowledges the differences between men and women, in which the woman by her own accord follows the lead of her husband, is automatically abusive.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 01:36 PM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 11:10 PM
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You hate men and you’re wondering why you can’t get a good relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:39 PM
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You’re kidding yourself if you think finding a good partner has ever been easy. There’s no point in being mad about it, it’s the way things have always been, and now they’re worse. Edit: and all I see is complaining. What do you bring to the table to your “great guy”? Regardless if he’s “Chad” or not. Why should he choose you in particular instead of all the other beautiful and easy women out there?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:27 PM
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Yeah it could be. And she hasn’t realized most people in general are not self analyzing and self criticizing and trying to become better people. I mean, really, the majority of women aren’t great long term partners either. Specially women. How many girls nowadays have the completely cringe worthy attitude of thinking they are so much better than men? “#goddess”? It has always been difficult to find a good partner, and our generation is dealing with women who are completely entitled and lacking a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:25 PM
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“The majority of young men don’t actually care about a good, loving woman” And you don’t want the “majority of men”. You want one of the minority of men who is looking for a committed relationship and is a strong leader and respectful etc. Those guys have never been the majority. The Red Pill simply means you stop believing the kumbaya happy stuff we’ve been taught our whole lives about relationships. The Red Pill communities are reactions to those truths. Honestly, I would never date a red pill…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 05:42 PM
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Lots of people want big families, myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:04 PM
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Oh look, it’s “men’s behavior is wrong because it’s not the same as women’s” again! Men relate to each other differently than women do. That does not mean they don’t have as many meaningful relationships. The fact that women can more easily share their emotions than men is also not inherently better. It’s better for women, that’s for sure. We are more social and when we don’t have those support systems around us it can be very depressing for a woman. That doesn’t mean this is what works best for…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 12:22 AM
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I will never be able to see this sort of thinking as anything other than delusional. Are people like this not aware that children are part of society? Just as much as old people, just as much as the blind, just as much as people from a different ethnicity than yours? Children have just as much right to exist and be children and to occupy public spaces as you do. They are part of your society. You don’t get to dictate otherwise.
/r/RedPillWives01/09/19 02:00 AM
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It’s funny because of all the sub genres of feminism, radical feminism is 50% the one that makes the most sense: criticizes Islam, talks about real female subjugation in the world, of female circumcision, doesn’t accept gender ideology, criticizes the porn industry and is completely against the idea that sex work is liberating... and the of the 50% of it is completely insane: thinking all men are evil, marriage is evil, white men are double evil, being straight is succumbing to the patriarchy, e…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 01:54 AM
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People who end up thinking like this, do so because they’ve made themselves so miserable with their life choices and beliefs, that you just end up having to justifying it somehow.. so you pretend that the women living “traditional” roles are miserable and trapped in it, and that any participation in that system is wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 01:49 AM
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I don’t think it’s that direct. I think through a bunch of different mechanisms in the last 100 years, we’ve been destroying gender relations. I don’t think men obsess over women too much.. I think they (because society as a whole is doing this, it isn’t just a male thing) have become unable to point out women’s flaws, therefore can’t demand higher character, effort, intelligence or what have you. So a lot of men end up with “bad” women because they’ve never been told they were wrong and never l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 01:25 AM
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Why should I not? What delusional world are you living in to be thinking women are being left to be used by the whims of men? I’m gonna copy what I replied on another thread a few days ago, because it’s just so tiring to keep hearing about this fictional world where we were so oppressed in the USA. (...) But when men in general (as opposed to just the rich) got the vote, first of all, it wasn’t like they had it just for men for a long time. They had it just for the elite men for a long time. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 12:48 AM
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I highly recommend Dr. Kelly Brogan’s book “A Mind of Your Own ”. Give a listen to her so you can decide if it’s something you’d be up to doing, her approach is pretty involved. She’s been on a lot of different podcasts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 03:06 AM
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I would definitely want them to be gone. A catholic society would be my ideal society to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 04:57 PM
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I know... that’s why the distinction though. It’d have to be a hypothetical 1970s without the feminism lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 04:33 PM
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Sorry about that then, I definitely went on a tangent and misinterpreted your question then hahahaha 🤦🏻‍♀️ Depends on the situation probably haha Would I want to live in the 18th century dirt poor and where I probably would have died in my teenage years due to a very simple condition (hypothyroidism)? Absolutely not hahaha But in the 1970s, when being a housewife was not frowned upon and in a hypothetical society that wasn’t starting to undermine masculinity and femininity? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 04:17 PM
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Here’s why this linear thinking doesn’t work. If we took the vote away now would it make sense? Absolutely not. But when men in general (as opposed to just the rich) got the vote, first of all, it wasn’t like they had it just for men for a long time. They had it just for the elite men for a long time. Then they made it available to all men because they could get drafted. So when women protested for the vote, they got it even though there wasn’t a condition on them having it, unlike men. I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 03:43 PM
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It’s Reddit, unless red pill-specific subs (or subs that attract opposing views, like this one), it’s blue pill. Reddit is extremely blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 02:08 AM
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Doing stuff I know he likes. He likes my hair long, so I’ve been keeping it long. It doesn’t mean that if I hated my hair long I’d still keep it, but since I like it both ways, I’ll leave it how he wants it. I’d still leave it how he wants it if I wanted to cut it depending on how big that desire was for me. Making sure I’m not just trying to “win” if we’re having an argument. If an argument has been going for a bit, and if it’s not that important, realizing it’s easier on our relationship to ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 08:53 PM
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I've tried to make deep conversation to understand him better and every time he brushes it off saying I'm a simple man, I don't have any special liking or interests. What a gigantic red flag. Do NOT marry someone you barely know. And I can tell you, you're not really in love with him as much as you're in love with the idea of him, if you barely know him. ​ Also he's kind of a very stoic person and he gets angry very easily. Also doesn't make sense. Stoicism is about not letting your emotions rul…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 06:04 PM
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Even if you were a girl asking for advice, I’d tell you not to text her. She’s not interested and you’re better off. Don’t chase down people who aren’t reciprocating your feelings. That’s not even “Alfa”, it’s just general life advice. If you’re looking for a relationship, I’d say try to find truly feminine women who want to improve and are capable of self criticism. Run away from feminists.. most women are nowadays, but obsession with themselves, lots of selfies on social media, etc, are a few …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 01:01 PM
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I hope women will slowly realize the trap that feminism is, and that they will start to be a little more self critical. It’s gonna be the only way to find a good men once more of them realize the reality of our culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 12:52 PM
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I know! I thought that was great. I wish there were more movies like it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 02:51 PM
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The mom character in the movie “A quiet place”. Please tell me your recommendations on movies that put traditional values as a good thing. I can barely stand most current stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 03:51 AM
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Omg I could never stand Lorelei! I ended up giving up on that show and that was one of the reasons. “My life sucks because my parents are so rich”. Oh please.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 03:49 AM
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As a woman I have a problem with both scenarios myself, so it’s not surprising most men do too. High n-count would be someone who doesn’t have same values/ no impulse control/ various other levels of incompatibility with me. High number of girlfriends probably means he either is a terrible partner, or is one of those people who can’t stay single so jumps from one relationship to next very fast, which is a red flag for emotional immaturity or a number of other issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 04:46 PM
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As a woman I have a problem with both scenarios myself, so it’s not surprising most men are too. High n-count would be someone who doesn’t have same values/ no impulse control/ various other levels of incompatibility with me. High number of girlfriends probably means he either is a terrible partner, or is one of those people who can’t stay single so jumps from one relationship to next very fast, which is a red flag for emotional immaturity or a number of other issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 04:11 PM
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You should have a list of things that are very important to you in a partner. Not a cheesy, impossible list, but a short, 3 to 5 items list that is absolutely non negotiable or would be a terrible idea to go against. When you find the person that fits and you are attracted to each other, the rest of the things you don’t like you should either learn to live with, or try to make it work in a way that it’s ok for both of you. And I can tell you right off the bat that two of those items should be wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 03:33 AM
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Have you ever talked to any red pill woman? Going for the type of Alfas that want to keep you as a plate is not usually the goal. In fact most of us prefer a high beta/low alfa. Not to mention taking his lead doesn’t mean becoming a doormat or throwing your self respect out the window. I would never ever accept the lead of a man I don’t respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 12:10 AM
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Would depend on the guy. If my husband became very rich of course that would be awesome. He’s an incredible man and I believe he’d be the same at his core. But if I was single, I’d go for an ambitious and confident guy with a good work ethic and who wants the same things from life as me, regardless of him being rich or not. Being catholic, wanting kids, having a strong character, and wanting to be the provider would be my priorities. Of course this depends on how old you are. I met my husband at…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 07:16 PM
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I would never ever do it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 11:26 PM
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If you need to set out “rules” for a relationship, it’s bad and you should find someone who you don’t have to tell they need to respect you. It sounds completely miserable to have to police your boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/19 01:57 AM
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You have to think of this evolutionarily, and in a caveman situation, because that’s like 90% of our time here on earth, and you can’t just override that part of your brain. Women (generally speaking) don’t stay attracted to a guy when they are in that situation. We evolved to depend on them, we bleed once a a month for a week, we’d be pregnant or breastfeeding for most of our fertile years and we’re significantly physically weaker. So we’re wired to find a guy who can protect us and who we can …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 10:07 PM
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My guy knows of my opinions. It wouldn’t make a difference if he read them here, though I think he would roll his eyes at me being willing to disagree with people online, so I’m glad he doesn’t read them hahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 02:08 PM
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This might be an unpopular opinion or it might be completely irrelevant if you’re blue pill and happily so. If you’re a red pill woman though, or one looking for a more traditional dynamic with your man: That most men will happily step into a more protective and provider role in your life if you let them. If you want a dude who is a leader and who makes you feel safe, you have to put your ego aside a little and be willing to let him take the lead. You have to learn when not to argue and when to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 01:52 PM
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I met so many Dylans in uni. Always knew to avoid them but couldn’t exactly put it into words. This is perfect hahahaha like someone else said, single women out there, do not settle for a Dylan. Find a good man you feel comfortable leading you and you’ll have a much happier life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 11:50 PM
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I think it mostly happens from a lack of understanding of the opposite sex. Like some other comment said, men not realizing women bond with everyone over shared emotion, so if you do just that, the woman in question won’t necessarily pick up on the fact you’re interested. And at the same time, women not understanding that a guy won’t usually will be that friendly to you unless he is interested. Men don’t just bond emotionally with everyone, and I think our culture of demasculizing men, of turnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 03:33 PM
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The guys I know who get laid a lot are really good looking and are really good manipulators. Not in the worst sense of the word, but in the sense that they know how to advertise themselves and know what to say and how to react etc in a way that really attracts women. I never went for guys like that when I was single and I always always warn the single women in my life against guys like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 05:59 PM
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