Mrswizardwizard Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
10	How can I be less crabby with my partner?	RELATIONSHIPS	Mrswizardwizard	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/19 12:01 PM

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11	How old do I have to be to start something serious / to marry? Right now I would date with the intent to marry, but not marry immediately if that makes sense. When I met my fiance I was 18 and he was 22. We were definitely 'serious' from the start bc we didn't date other people and discussed what marriage and kids would be like. He waited just over two years to propose and it was great timing and gave both of us a little more time to mature before starting our marriage. Be very careful dating older, often it's creepy old men (26+) that would love to manipul…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/02/21 03:34 PM
1	Do you think BDSM pretty much universllay being "woman focused" says something about sexuality? In regards to your last point, I literally said in my comment that some people aren't into the dynamic I mentioned but it is mainstream and so it's worth mentioning. It is not a straw man fallacy to point out something that a lot of men get off to. I didn't say every single one does. And I don't care that they're enthusiastically consenting. That isn't the point. Obviously people can do whatever they want in their own bedroom, but I am going to view it as unhealthy. If I ask my husband to punch …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/21 01:34 PM
15	Do you think BDSM pretty much universllay being "woman focused" says something about sexuality? For the man, the idea is that he is so attractive he could get any girl except this one incredibly attractive woman who is going to tie him up and tease/deny him until he's begging for it. For a girl, it's kind of along the same lines, just executed a little differently. He wants her so badly that he has to have her; once again the idea is not only to get off on the dynamic, but also on the idea that the woman is irresistibly attractive. Both are kind of getting off to the fact the man has a lot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/21 03:23 PM
42	Tips on not feeling bad about “hitting the wall” Red pill ideology is not the be all end all fact. It's an opinion some share, you can take what you want from it and leave the rest. I don't believe in 'the wall'. Women are valuable for more than just looks - we have personalities, smarts, etc and personally I don't see age as ugly in the first place. When I met my fiance he had a thing for older women (no I'm not older than him lol) but my point is that men all like different things and some even prefer older women, proving that they hold attr…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/21 01:06 PM
17	Do you believe everyone has a soulmate? Yes I do. I've never connected immediately with a person like I did with my fiance. The second I met him it was like I grew another limb. He's just... part of my life, there's no question about it and never has been. We moved in together within a month and we've been unseperable since then. We've been through hard times and at times he's made me want to rip my hair out, but we never leave each other's sides because that connection is too great to let go of.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/20 02:01 AM
6	I think this idea that both red pillers and blue pillers seem to have that attractive men benefit from hookup culture is not necessarily true. Promiscuous attractive men benefit from hookup culture but not all attractive men. All men who are serious about monogamy should hate hookup culture. Your comment doesn't make any sense. Yes I was engaged once before, for a month or so, when I was 18. I thought I was making the right decision at the time, clearly I feel differently now because I was the one that broke off that relationship. It's actually a part of why I feel the way I do about hookup culture. I think had he not had free access to porn with hookup culture telling him over and over that he could watch as much as he wanted with no negative result, since that's what men are suppo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/20 04:12 AM
19	I think this idea that both red pillers and blue pillers seem to have that attractive men benefit from hookup culture is not necessarily true. Promiscuous attractive men benefit from hookup culture but not all attractive men. All men who are serious about monogamy should hate hookup culture. I'm a woman but I'm with you man. My fiance complained when I met him about how women would get with him and lead him into thinking they liked him, have sex, and then inevitably fuck someone else or dump him for a stupid reason. I think it's a problem for both genders when they're in our mindset, but men are more afraid to admit it because they are expected to enjoy casual sex. Body counts matter. I really wish I had not been with anybody before I met him, I regret it every day but I am glad I h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/20 06:06 PM
15	I think this idea that both red pillers and blue pillers seem to have that attractive men benefit from hookup culture is not necessarily true. Promiscuous attractive men benefit from hookup culture but not all attractive men. All men who are serious about monogamy should hate hookup culture. My fiance complained when I met him that girls used him for sex when he wanted a relationship. I've heard some other men say similar things. It isn't that they are angry/complaining about being attractive or being able to score, it's that hookup culture is bad for dating in general if you're serious about finding a partner, no matter what gender you are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/20 05:48 PM
3	Loneliness As A Homemaker My fiance supported us for a few months while I did online classes from home. I got so lonely that I got a part time job. I find that my general mental health, mood, etc is improved when I have tangible work to do. I'm sure it will change once I have kids, but until I have children I will always keep a part time job. I still enjoy caring for the home. However, I need that outlet to pour my energy into and the connection that comes from seeing coworkers.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/12/20 04:48 PM
5	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... But she does have to put herself in a place where potential good suitors might meet her. A bar is a shit shoot for finding a good partner. I signed up for a dating site because I wanted to find someone with the same values as me. While I was putting myself out there, my bf is still the one who chose me and messaged me first	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/20 04:57 PM
11	Has anybody else noticed that when you are looking for a partner, you don't find him but... This did not work for me lol. It was actually the opposite - I made a dating account on Plenty of Fish (something I wouldn't normally do) and was talking to my partner the same night. Within a week we were in a relationship and now we've been together for two years. He informed me this week that he bought my engagement ring and the proposal will be soon. I think it's good advice to balance it: don't be easy or desperate, but also don't close yourself off from oppurtunity 😊	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/20 04:55 PM
12	What kind of women are best suited for the spinster lifestyle? Idk, I can't imagine being as happy as I am without my soon to be husband. It's like I grew an extra limb when I met him. He is just part of my life now and because I love him so much, I want to have his kids. Taking a piece of someone you love and mixing it with a piece of you, then vowing to love, care for, and protect that piece of yourselves until you die, is the ultimate expression of love imo. I don't think there is a way I could be content if I died single with no children. Just an altern…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/11/20 05:15 PM
23	When to Disclose Infertility Wanting bio children does not make you a bad person lmao. There are plenty of men who wouldn't mind, but the ones who do aren't 'only valuing her uterus' geez	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/20 01:49 AM
17	Question: I am a bisexual woman, but I also love the values here at RPW I don't have any advice to offer you, but just wanted to say I could've written this myself. I am exactly the same way. I've never met another queer woman who also felt this way, so thanks for making this. I really thought I was alone on this one.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/20 08:47 PM
27	Today I realized that being hot is a full time job. You don't have to. It's harder to find a guy when you don't do the blowout/fake nails/tan/lashes and makeup etc but they also tend to be less shallow ime. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I only wear makeup on date nights. I don't do any of the other stuff. It's never been an issue for us. Some men appreciate having their woman done up, some men appreciate the grace and modesty in an understated appearance. Don't stress yourself out, just be you ❤	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/20 01:40 PM
13	Today I realized that being hot is a full time job. I don't do anything extra to be attractive 🤷🏻‍♀️ I shave my legs/armpits and make my hair look presentable (e.g. pulled back or brushed) and that's pretty much it. I hardly ever wear makeup, fake tan, etc. Men are attracted to natural beauty just as much 😊 There's nothing wrong with making yourself look like that if that's what you want, but just know you also don't have to. Plenty of men appreciate the grace and modesty that comes with understated appearance	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/20 01:33 PM
0	My bf is with me just because I was the only available option. It's killing me inside You mentioned you watch porn. Do you think that maybe the porn and constantly seeing women's bodies in that light has made you feel insecure with your own body? I don't think your boyfriend is secretly craving other women unless there's stuff you're leaving out. Most young men will make stupid comments about threesomes if it gets brought up and it sounds like just that - a stupid comment/joke. It doesn't mean they don't love you. You were there so you know the tone and seriousness of how it was …	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/20 01:56 PM
2	My bf is with me just because I was the only available option. It's killing me inside What causes you to feel you aren't his type/he's not attracted to you?	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/20 01:37 PM
2	My bf is with me just because I was the only available option. It's killing me inside Is there an actual problem with the way he's treating you or are you the insecure one? Has he told you about his type or are you assuming? Honestly this post comes off like you're super insecure, and if you bring this up to him it's going to be offensive because you seem to think he's desperate for female attention. Did he specifically tell you that you were his last option or treat you in some way that is awful? Were the gym/hair comments small suggestions in passing or is he being a huge assho…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/20 01:28 PM
4	Desperate for help - I don't want any intimacy with my husband anymore I recommend you check out the subreddit r/loveafterporn. It's filled with other women who have experienced similar from their partners. Just know that the comments are coming from a place of his addiction to a level of delusional perfection that doesn't exist, not because you truly look bad. I'm sure you are absolutely beautiful, and you deserve to be proud of the body you worked so hard for. Real life bodies just don't look the same as porn (even the porn actresses' bodies are photoshopped/cove…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/20 10:12 PM
18	Desperate for help - I don't want any intimacy with my husband anymore Does he watch porn? This sounds like somebody that's jerked it to so many 'perfect' girls he's gotten desensitized to the real life ones. The men that've made incredibly hurtful comments like this towards me were also porn addicts (though they would have vehemently denied the 'addict', they watched it everyday but truly believed they could stop at any time, it doesnt work that way). They were also casual with how cruel they were, like it was totally normal. Telling you that you're 'flabby' and '…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/20 03:08 PM
13	Appearance upkeeping on a budget? Working out is free and will keep you healthy, looking great, help get rid of the bags under your eyes, help get rid of any bloating,, and clear your skin. Getting at least 30 minutes of exercise every day is 100% the best thing you can do for your appearance. Other than that, I use budget makeup, just read reviews before you buy it. I find most Elf products actually do the job pretty well and they only cost a few dollars. I also always make sure my hair looks nice, which isn't hard; I use $10 s…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/20 02:04 AM
7	My new boyfriend told me that my breasts sag and I got REALLY upset Trust me, you will find him. Every guy I was with before my boyfriend made me feel like shit about various aspects of my looks; I'm tall, average weight w next to no boobs, etc. They would tell me I'm flat chested, my boobs are weird shaped, I'm too this or that - you get the point. When I found my now-boyfriend the first thing he said to me when he saw my body (he knew my ex has said some of those things) was 'i can't believe somebody insulted you!' There are men into every body type including …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/20 10:47 PM
17	My new boyfriend told me that my breasts sag and I got REALLY upset Yes but 'saggy breasts' (if nothing is medically wrong, causing pain etc) isn't a flaw or deformity. It's just a different way that breasts come and probably how her large breasts are naturally supposed to look. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and it's totally normal for larger breasts to not be super perky like you see in porn (they often have fake breasts and breast lifts). If you have poor self esteem bc you or your partner are comparing/idealizing a plastic surgery body, I don't think it…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/20 10:39 PM
19	My new boyfriend told me that my breasts sag and I got REALLY upset Or you can learn to love yourself the way God made you. You can't understand because you are a man, but suggesting to a woman to 'just get surgery and fix it' over an insecutity stemming from the porn-fueled misogynistic culture we live in will never help her. It's expensive, physically threatening, and not to mention that after that one thing is 'fixed' chances are that she or another guy will find another 'flaw'. Porn is fake and does such a number on how men interact with women + how women se…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/20 08:22 PM
2	My new boyfriend told me that my breasts sag and I got REALLY upset Oof. He should be thrilled he gets to see your chest. This would be a big dealbreaker for me. You deserve to be treated so much better than this, you didn't 'contribute' to the problem by asking (anyone would ask why a partner frowns/hesitates during sex, at that point it's a matter of consent). He made the problem by frowning at your chest the first time he saw it. I tried to stay with a guy that made a similar comment to me, but I never trusted him to make me feel safe after that. You need to …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/08/20 08:15 PM
1	SO is upset I hung out with my friend’s guy friend there There is literally nothing wrong with what you did. Does he honestly think you're just going to start banging in your friend's house while she is there? This is a control thing due to insecurities and what you did is in no way a threat to your relationship	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/20 02:12 PM
8	SO is upset I hung out with my friend’s guy friend there You did nothing wrong, he's acting like an insecure baby. Tbh this would be a huge turn off for me. My man doesn't care about guy friends because he knows that I'm a loyal partner, and he is already the 'alpha'/giving me everything I need. I wouldn't put up with this but I break it off early if a guy acts like this- you've been together for a decade. Either you knew this would be an issue, or it's new. If it's a new behavior I would tread carefully because cheaters start to project cheating onto…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/20 02:10 PM
5	LMR: Men are not entitled to sex and women are not entitled to affection What are you talking about? Men and women stop sex for different reasons sometimes. It doesn't mean you shouldn't be dating. There are lots of sexual incompatibilities that warrant a break up, but no matter what relationship you're in at some point someone will say no to sex or want to stop	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 03:43 PM
0	How much time do you spend with your significant other? When does it start to feel like you’re being neglected and/or your needs aren’t being met? I live with him so we spend about 30 min-1 hr together most mornings at the house, then do a 20 min commute to work together. We usually spend the rest of our evening after work together, which is about 6 hrs. We don't always have days off of work but when we do, we almost always spend them together. We have the same group of friends, so we don't spend free time (when both of us are off work) apart very often. However, I wouldn't mind if he picked up a new hobby or new guy friends and was gone s…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/20 02:37 AM
7	My boyfriend called me "Mom" while we were having sex. I will emotionally comfort my boyfriend whenever he needs it, but the second he called me 'mommy' I'd be out. I think the same thing of daddy kinks. It makes me feel gross.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/20 12:25 PM
2	My boyfriend called me "Mom" while we were having sex. I think the daddy thing is gross as well. All of it kind of freaks me out lol	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/20 12:21 PM
15	My boyfriend called me "Mom" while we were having sex. Oof. It's a fetish, look up 'mommy dom little boy'. This would definitely be a dealbreaker for me.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/20 02:44 PM
5	Would you rather be with someone who will provide 100% financial security but not much emotional connection, chemistry, and compatibility, or someone with all that but could not provide TOO well financially? Someone with all of that who makes less. I can go get a better job myself or convince him to. It matters more to me how he treats me	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/20 12:35 PM
18	When and why did the FWB label become more popularised? r/ihavesex	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/20 01:49 PM
3	I [23F] was a slut (kiss-count of 34, n-count of 25) and my boyfriend [25M] was a virgin. Is there any way I can white lie to protect the relationship? Just don't lie to him???? Your first mistake was ever lying, you could have just said you weren't a virgin and left it at that unless he ever brought it up again. I'm honestly a little torn on what is right here - you shouldn't have lied, and part of me thinks the right thing to do would be to tell him the actual truth now (not in specific numbers or any of the bullshit reasons you've listed above, but to say 'hey I just wanted to let you know I fibbed the other day - I did have some experience …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/20 07:45 PM
9	I am such a weak minded person. Please help Girl, let's be realistic here. He is not perfect. He's cheating on his family. You are just infatuated with him. You are 25. You don't have time to waste years on someone who is probably playing you and could very possibly chicken out in the end to keep his family together, which would result in you being a single 30+ year old who wasted her time being a home wrecker. No valuable man will ever want you again if he learns of your past. Good men don't like/trust women that sleep around with taken …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/20 07:09 PM
2	Is anyone else here "unconventional-looking"? If so, how do you cope with it? I am unconventional looking. There were two things that helped me overcome this: 1) I realized that looks really don't matter at the end of the day. What other people think of you literally just does not matter unless you let it matter. You have the power to not care. You should use it. It makes life much easier and more enjoyable. 2) I realized that God created me. He thought of me, wove me together cell by cell, and brought me into this world. Who am I to criticize God's work of art? Who am I …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/20 06:53 PM
4	Research suggests that women care more about emotional infidelity and men care more about sexual infidelity. Why is this the case? So how do you justify the breadwinner wives of stay-at-home husbands?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/20 02:36 AM
3	Why don’t women seem to be angry about polygyny the way men are angry about hypergamy? I hate it when I see comments like this because I'm just not like this at all?? I turned down other men that had jobs for my boyfriend when I met him. He was unemployed. I let him come live at my place and took care of him for a better part of a year because he was in a really bad place. I've been with him through several cycles of employement/unemployment and I've made more than him several times during our relationship. It's not like I couldn't pull a higher earning man, I don't want to. My bo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/20 04:57 PM
2	Being "good at sex" is for ugly girls. Men don't actually care about your sexual prowess when you're pretty. I feel like you just might not be attracted to your boyfriend's dick	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/20 05:12 PM
12	Being "good at sex" is for ugly girls. Men don't actually care about your sexual prowess when you're pretty. That is honestly the most cringe ass image I've ever seen lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/20 05:10 PM
1	Do you consider a cohabitating couple with no intent to marry to be in a commited relationship? 1.) Yes, but not committed to the level that married couples are. People that have plans to do this make absolutely no sense to me; you already have (or are likely planning to) children, or a house/land together, a car together, you're spending everyday life together... at that point why would you not just get married already?? It reeks of fear of commitment/lack of trust to me no matter which way people try to explain it. So yes, they're committed but to me the commitment doesn't mean as much (…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/20 02:45 PM
60	Female Best Friend Oof. The thing about him being her confidant behind his friend’s back, then not agreeing when the friend clearly stated a boundary had been crossed, then saying that phrase to you is ringing alarm bells for me. One of the earlier discussions I had with my boyfriend was that his female friends are great, but he absolutely should not be talking about our relationship negatively to any of them or getting extremely close emotionally. He changed a few of the behaviors he would’ve otherwise done as a …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/19 11:49 PM
15	Single, Unwed Moms in China do not get State Benefits That’s fine and all but my dad’s mom was a single mother. She got wed to his dad and they did the whole family planning thing. Then he became a drunk and started beating on my grandma in front of my dad while he was a toddler. She did the right thing and left her husband to protect my dad. I don’t think she should’ve had to pay a fine. I don’t really support abortion, but I also don’t think it’s really the government’s business to force women into staying with their baby’s dad. It’s personal bus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/19 05:19 AM
43	Thoughts? If you cheat you don't get to decide your partner is controlling imo. You created the situation, you created the hurt, you created the betrayal and subsequent lack of trust; you don't get to complain about them asking you to move on entirely from that part of your life. A large part of me believes that moving on from cheating (while staying together) involves both people becoming basically new people and 'killing' the old versions of yourselves; for the cheater that might include cutting out any…	/r/RedPillWives	07/11/19 01:28 AM
52	Taking the Effort to Dress More Feminine WORKS! In my opinion, people look better 100% of the time in fitting clothes, regardless of size. A properly tailored blouse or dress can work wonders on somebody. People can still see your size from the way baggy clothing hangs on your body, but the baggy clothes actually do the opposite of the wanted effect - they draw the eye straight to the body and make the illusion of the person being bigger than they actually are. Fitted clothes show confidence, show that you care about yourself, and a proper wa…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/19 05:47 PM
1	Do all men only want sex from women? Men are not animals. They are humans and have emotions, unique wants and needs, etc. You can’t group them all together as only having one want because that doesn’t work for any group of humans. That being said, men usually have higher sex drives than women and tend to view sex differently than women do. I can see your problem immediately; you’re equating him wanting sex with him being emotionless, not being romantic enough, not caring for you, etc. It just isn’t true. Men tend to view sex with t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/19 06:03 PM
3	Is No One Monogamous Anymore? I’m bisexual. It benefits both of us, and he only goes on dates with me, he doesn’t go alone ever. It’s just what works for us. I’m not worried about it because at the end of the day he’s coming home with me.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/19 04:36 PM
-1	Is No One Monogamous Anymore? My boyfriend is absolutely good enough for me and I’d be happy with him alone, but dating other girls together makes our relationship stronger and has really helped us to grow together. We communicate better, have better sex, I’m more confident with myself, and we just have fun. We plan to stop once we get married in a few years. That being said, it isn’t for everybody. The majority of people are monogamous, it just seems you’ve run into a few poly people in a row and mistakenly painted them as …	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/19 04:39 PM
3	Men should lose their hang ups about hookers. Their lives will be a lot better. I think the point of that, though, isn’t that men are longing for a deep emotional connection that you’d get in a ltr. It’s the validation of someone going through the effort and really wanting you. With a hooker, you’d never know whether she was really into you/the sex or not, it could very likely just be like a chore for her; who wants to fuck someone who’s not into it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/19 07:24 PM
3	Men should lose their hang ups about hookers. Their lives will be a lot better. Why are we advocating for people to just betray their life partner? I feel like that’s a bigger reason to not legalize sex work from the right wing’s perspective, no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/19 07:18 PM
5	Men should lose their hang ups about hookers. Their lives will be a lot better. Lmao “I’ll just waste our shared money on a hooker! It’s no big deal as long as I don’t tell you! Btw honey the minute you don’t want to do a painful, taboo, or embarrassing sex act I’m off to find another sex partner for a while!” Honestly just don’t fucking get (monogamously) married if you can’t handle your partner not wanting to do an act or working through a dry spell. Also, do you think it’s okay for men to go look for a girl on Tinder to fuck as soon as his wife says she isn’t in the mood…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/19 07:16 PM
9	Men should lose their hang ups about hookers. Their lives will be a lot better. You may not think so, but we are still in times where many, many companies/employers consider this unacceptable to have attached to their name. If it comes up on the first page of a Google search for your name, realistically, there’s a very fair chance you will not get hired. That’s a risk you have to weigh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/19 07:10 PM
1	Does your preference in men change with age? Absolutely, yes. When I was 15 I had a thing for emo band boys. I wouldn’t be caught dead with a guy in his daily guyliner now, lmao. At 16 I was exclusively into men with black hair. I also had a phase where I liked Asian men a lot during this age, I’m not so into that anymore. At around 17 I had a phase for musicians and art boys. And as other ladies mentioned in this thread, I hated beards on any men up until I was about 17-18. I like facial hair now. Personality wise, right up until I was pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/19 02:09 PM
1	Do you know your partner's N count? Mine volunteered the information the first time I slept with him. I guess it’s less about important information (aside from the values thing) and more about us just knowing each other thoroughly as people, not just as who we are when we’re together, if that makes sense. He’s also told me a small bit of info about that part of his past in recounting stories that are important to who he is or funny to him, which I don’t mind, but I’m glad I know the history there because I think the context that I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/19 05:39 PM
1	Do you know your partner's N count? Woman chiming in. I don’t care much about it as long as it isn’t an outrageous number. Over 25 would probably alarm me a bit, not because I see the person as ‘worthless’ or anything but we’d clearly have different values; I’m pretty religious and have only slept with people I love. That being said, I’ve been asked this and in turn asked every time I’ve gotten into a relationship. I find it strange that it never gets brought up in yours - I thought it was normal to share that info in the ‘getting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/19 05:14 PM
2	The Magic "After-Work Conversation" My boyfriend and I share a car and I go to pick him up (it works out better for us with our schedules) so I have to be with him from the moment he walks out of the door from work. Any advice for my situation?	/r/RedPillWomen	21/08/19 11:12 PM
1	Q4A: Should female-on-male sexual assault be viewed the same way as m-on-f assault? The question was whether women could rape, assault, or harass men. My answer was yes, they can do all three, and gave examples of both. I don’t feel traumatized by men persistently hitting on me after saying no, but it can be difficult to navigate, frustrating, embarrassing, etc. In the case that they persist after a consistent ‘no’, regardless of gender, that’s harassment. My point in saying that was that women can also harass men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/19 08:58 PM
2	Q4A: Should female-on-male sexual assault be viewed the same way as m-on-f assault? I’m going to preface this by saying the men who make those ignorant comments are not survivors. They don’t know what it’s like to have your body ripped from you and not feel in control. They don’t know the pure panic and the years of processing that has to occur. They’re thinking that rape is sex and it’s simply not. The physical act is somewhat the same but the intentions, the environment, the emotions, the aftermath is nothing like consensual sex, which is what they aren’t seeing. To answer yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/19 02:35 PM
1	What measures do you take to prevent the idea of cheating from becoming a reality? We don’t watch porn, we keep opposite sex friends at an emotional arm’s length and tend to hang out with them together, we tell emotional and important things to each other first, we don’t make opposite sex friends one on one (first hangouts will always be together), we have an open phone policy. We love each other dearly and that’s the best safeguard. We are very happy together and don’t entertain the idea of cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/19 06:37 AM
11	Q4W: Would you lose respect for your SO if he backed out of a fight? If he resolved the situation in another way, no, I wouldn’t lose any respect for him. I’ve placed my trust in my partner to protect me. How he does that is his decision. If he ran and left me behind, yes, I’d lose respect because that would break my trust. Leaving me behind would probably also mean the end of the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/19 05:45 PM
3	Is it better to focus on men and women's differences or similarities when developing better game? The problem is that you’re looking at TRP as if it’s only about looks/money. It’s not. For men and women alike, your value increases the more you curate yourself. If you can have cool hobbies, your own interests and smarts, an interesting job, etc (especially as a man trying for a ONS; I personally feel that in hook-up situations men rely mostly on looks of the woman while women also rely on how interested they are in him as a whole) then you’re much more likely to land a date or even sex than s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/19 04:59 AM
19	My husband wants to divorce me a week before our anniversary Is your husband saying this to you in front of the child? If so he isn’t acting like a team with you. You two shouldn’t be correcting each other’s parenting in front of the children; it’s no wonder your daughter is disrespectful and talks back if she sees her dad do it to you as well.	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/19 06:28 PM
32	Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing? He told me that after we had sex we would have a relationship Never ever believe a man when he says this. Look, if you could have the coolest thing in the world but there was only 1 left forever and it was sitting on the store shelf, would you just demo it in-store and walk away from it? Wouldn’t you be afraid somebody else would snatch it up? If a man decides you are so important and likes you so much that he wants to commit to you, he will do it. He’s not going to beat around the bush on it an…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/19 12:34 PM
2	Going your own way with food Yes! Exactly.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/19 12:06 PM
2	How to celebrate a birthday when it’s tied to a tragic memory If I were you I’d cook his favorite meal, put on a film he’s been wanting to see or his favorite film, give him one small but personal gift like maybe a watch or journal (you’ll know best what he’d like), and a good romp focused on him if he wants it. Make it not seem like a huge event but it’s a nice, comfy day at home focused around him and his wants. Do anything he suggests doing without argument or suggesting alternatives; if he says “maybe we should watch this” you watch it, if he says “I w…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/19 11:32 AM
3	Going your own way with food Submission is surrending control. It doesn’t mean not having any personality, preference, etc. If your boyfriend is telling you to do what you want, then do what you want. Perhaps once in a while, if you don’t think it would hurt, let him decide dessert or something of that sort just to make him happy and let him share his favorite things with you. You should be taking care of your body, and if this is the way you’ve chosen to do that, don’t worry about it. Submission is more like, if he wants t…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/19 11:23 AM
2	Feminine Nail Colors I think that really any color is feminine because painting your nails is seen as a very feminine thing to do. On top of that, what color matches mostly depends on you/your wardrobe. If you wear mostly pastels, a nice light peachy color would probably go really well, or a pastel pink. If you wear navy and black, then a navy or royal blue nail will match or a red nail might compliment it. If you wear mostly professional/chic outfits, a nice nude color might make it even more classy. It just depend…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/19 11:12 AM
12	What are your thoughts on non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships)? Your first part just simply isn’t true. My parents have been together twenty eight years and my boyfriend’s for thirty this year; my parents met at 14/15 and his met around their very early 20s. If you want to say open relationships work better in your opinion that’s fine, but I disagree it’s the only way to have a relationship or else you’re giving up/settling. Both couples are also very happy. I’ve seen proof with my own eyes over and over that monogamy works and can work out really well long …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/19 02:02 PM
1	What are your thoughts on non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships)? I’m religious so I believe God created us for one partner only. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t think that polyamory is ever okay, especially in marriage. If you go into those subs they’re constantly talking about how hard it is and how to ‘overcome’ jealousy. It seems more to me that people are trying to overcome their natural feelings/nature of character, and I don’t think that ever works out well. Relationships require a lot of effort but I’ve never felt like it was hard work to love somebody. Why allow yourse…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/19 01:30 PM
7	Why do women, including myself, enjoy being feminine? Women are biologically programmed to decorate themselves in order to attract a mate. We’ve been doing it for centuries. Just like our ancestors wearing animal teeth or putting flowers in their hair, putting on lipstick fulfills an urge. Taking care of yourself is also really good for your mental health; you will always feel better when clean and well-put together because you aren’t worrying about how you’re coming off to others. You know you’re coming off as a normal, beautiful, respectful perso…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/07/19 12:16 PM
5	Best way/place for a 25F to meet worthwhile men? If you’re religious, in a lot of cities churches do meetups for singles. That’s a great way to meet men of faith. Even just going to and volunteering at church can help you to meet others. You can also start speed dating and going to singles’ mingling events near you. There’s plenty of you seek them out. If you do things like group sports/activities, volunteering, etc, you will need to initiate conversations with men yourself. A lot of men won’t do it anymore due to fear of bothering you/making …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/07/19 12:04 PM
7	Thought Experiment: Emotional Cheating To me emotional cheating is stepping over a boundary to intimacy. If you’re talking about things you’d talk with anyone about - music, movies, hobbies, sports, family (positively) - and you’re not only spending time with them due to the gender (if this person were a woman/someone that had no chance of being attracted to you would you still be talking?), then I don’t consider it crossing a line in my relationship. My boyfriend has female friends and I don’t mind them being around, because they do…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/07/19 08:38 AM
2	How can you love and admire men after taking the red pill? I mean, look, I’m under no delusion that if a single man (whom doesn’t have religious or personal moral afflictions) is offered sex by an attractive woman, he’ll likely take it. But there are a lot of women who would do that, too. I don’t necessarily think there’s anything wrong with that beyond my religious opinion on it, but a sin is a sin, it’s not men-specific. I can’t only blame men because everytime a man has sex, a woman is giving it to him. Our gender is just as much to blame for hookup …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/07/19 08:37 AM
2	Ladies, do you want a relationship/marriage with no kids? Though I do think there are women who truly do not want kids, I think the drastic increase is artificial and intended. I agree wholeheartedly. You worded it much more accurately and gracefully than I could have.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 10:29 PM
2	Ladies, do you want a relationship/marriage with no kids? I have heard an uptick from what I used to remember, yes. I think it’s a mix of women feeling less pressured to, feminism poisoning women into thinking they’re the same as men and careers are better than family, and that it’s trendy now to not want kids. Women that participate in the whole ‘keep your crotch goblin away from me’ culture are seen as funny/modern/strong and independent now. I’m not talking about women that don’t want kids due to infertility or other serious issues, I’m talking abou…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/19 10:25 PM
17	"Husband" has an Affair! Men who are not able to be faithful to you are not worthy of marriage imo. This is entirely up to you. I know a couple who went through this and have been married for 20+ years on top of it. I also know many women who left and never looked back. It depends on if you truly think this will be the only time, and if you can work through your emotions to trust him again. It will take years and it will be difficult. You know yourself and your marriage best. Choose what you think will be best for you a…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 03:57 PM
13	Where can I really find a dominant man? Put that you want a traditional man rather than a dominant one. The word ‘dominant’ is unfortunately tied to sex for the majority now. ‘Traditional’ will not come off that way and the men you’re looking for will know what you mean. On top of that, just try to let them make the decisions on the first couple dates. Don’t offer to meet up, see if he makes the decision. Don’t offer to drive there or ask to be picked up, see what he says to do. You could even ask him what’s good on the menu or ask hi…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 03:37 PM
4	I’m going WGTOW.... and this is why I would be very sad to read this post as your husband :(	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 03:29 PM
2	I’m going WGTOW.... and this is why I’m your age, just for perspective. There are a lot of bad people out there. I was engaged before I was with my current partner and my ex cheated on me, over and over, with porn/webcam models online. We had both grown up in and lived in a very small town, so it’s not just a big city thing. I’ve been with men who have turned their hands against me, who have made rude comments about my body, etc. All I can tell you is that it isn’t all men. I have been on dates with really good guys that just were…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 03:18 PM
–	What's for dinner? Could you give me your quiche/pastry recipe? Thank you!	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 01:37 AM
–	What's for dinner? We had a pizza/chicken grilled cheese - toasted bread, pan seared chicken (leftover from dinner a couple nights ago - just seared in pan with butter to warm it up and get it a little bit brown on the top), mozzarella/cheddar/Swiss cheese, and a little bit of pizza sauce. Grilled and added a little bit of shredded cheese in a dip I made on top of the sandwich to get a crunchy texture. On the side I made omelettes - bacon, chopped tomato and green pepper, cheddar/Swiss cheese, pepper/salt and a li…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/19 01:32 AM
1	Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag? I definitely don't feel like because of my age, I should be desperate. Or that getting married to just anyone ASAP is an absolute must that is gauranteed to improve the quality of my life. Or that I would have trouble finding a man without kids if we broke up. That’s all I was trying to say too - that you don’t have to feel like there’s no men left with no children. I was saying that you shouldn’t stay with him out of feeling like you don’t have another option, if you’d prefer the other option, …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/06/19 01:32 PM
2	Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag? I don’t know why (Before I say anything obviously there are plenty of exceptions to this, but please don’t reply with them, because there’s also plenty of people who follow these patterns to a T) Regarding the parents’ marriage: children who come from homes where their parents had a loving marriage understand small gestures, affection, hard work, effort, etc more than children who come from divorced families. They see their parents put in hard work and fight, both with each other and for each ot…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/19 06:53 PM
0	Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag? To address a few different points: It’s not an absolute red flag, especially if he’s civil with the mother of his child and works with her for the child’s well being, but it is (to me) a yellow flag. Not because it says “this is not a good man” but because it says “this is a man that would be more likely to end the relationship at extremely low points than try to fight for it and go to counseling, due to the fact he has already experienced coparenting so it wouldn’t be as scary for him, and also…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/19 12:32 PM
1	For two years I have been living RPW and June 14th, I married the love of my life! You sound like my partner and I haha. Have been living together since 1 month due to uncontrollable living conditions in his old home. He’s always been red pill, I got into it about a month ago (we’ve been together eight months) and our relationship is already changing for the better (not that it wasn’t good before, but we’re both quite happy with the way things are now). He also started his new job today. Congrats to you, and I wish you many happy years. It’s great that you found someone to bui…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/19 12:29 PM
–	Own Your Stuff How on earth did you get groceries down to $40/week? Per person or for both of you?? That is so impressive! I can never get mine to under $70 😞	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/19 02:33 PM
20	Feeling uneasy about socialising with boyfriend's ONS Why did your relationship lead to a break and what are both of you doing individually to fix the issues? There’s no way that all of the issues in a long term relationship got fixed in a few weeks, especially while your boyfriend was off getting his rocks off with other girls. I personally wouldn’t waste my time with someone that’s leaving you to go and be with others. It sounds like he didn’t fight for you at all and didn’t self reflect or fix anything during the break, either. Captains should b…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/19 02:26 PM
1	When did you talk about marriage? My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage as a general “I would like to get married”, “I want to get married by the time I’m this age” since the first time we talked. We met while we were both searching for a partner that wanted marriage and family, so it made sense for us to talk about it as an individual goal. Honestly, we moved pretty fast, so after about a month I was telling him I could see myself marrying him and wanted to eventually get engaged. He was just as enthusiastic as me…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/19 01:03 PM
1	My boyfriend hates my unatural blonde hair and keeps bringing up how I got it done without consulting him. Oof. He probably considers girls that look like that sluts, which is why they get a ‘sexy pass’ but he wouldn’t date one. He’s considering them low quality women and probably puts you as higher quality for relationship/wife material in his eyes. That still doesn’t really make it okay. Are you ok with him watching porn? Because if you’re not, I don’t think any amount of effort or explaining from either of you is going to help your esteem. Porn is horrible for people in general, but it’s pretty ba…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/19 04:02 PM
3	Do you offer to pay and insist on paying on every date? Or going Dutch? How do I let the man feel manly yet stand my ground? I mean, if you’re trad, you’re basically interviewing the man for a future husband role, and one of those things is how romantic he’ll be/how well he’ll take care of you. In that case, making it a rule that if he doesn’t pay you’re out makes sense. My boyfriend was out a job when I met him and I definitely paid a lot during the first months as a result, but he managed to pull through even though he basically had nothing and paid for our first meal (our first ‘date’ was hiking so neither paid, me…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/19 01:34 PM
22	Reassurance? Personally, I don’t think this is how people truly act when they love each other. My boyfriend and I are long term and both of us have had our moments, mine almost every day, and he is always there to help me through it (and vice versa). He takes the lead and lets me be the woman, which is very relaxing and soothing for me, but at the same time he knows I need the reassurance and he gives it to me in a lot of ways. He’s in tune with my emotions and tries to help me whatever way he can, even if i…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/19 04:16 AM