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It makes me nauseous to read. What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:49 AM
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Oversharing usually happens for me when talking about people and life events. Talking about hobbies or things I'm interested in or bantering almost never leads to oversharing, so maybe try to expand the things you talk about to people about in those directions instead. Philosophy for example can be discussed for hours on end in a personal but not private way, or anything else - doesn't have to be shallow. Small talk gets a bad rep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:10 PM
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I would say the opposite - don't wallow in shame or negativity, focus on when you feel you shared as much as you wanted instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 12:05 PM
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Mine too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:35 PM
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You're strong to not reach out and keep your distance. Healing is hard work, distance does help a lot. I don't believe you love yourself away from hurt, and feelings aren't always black and white. You can feel sorry for someone struggling and still be angry with them. To me (this can of course be different for different people), loving myself is respecting my own boundaries, letting myself feel whatever I'm feeling, meeting my own needs and giving myself support in doing whatever I want to do. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:10 PM
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So amazing to hear you know you want out and know you deserve much better! Don't know many hands on resources, but tell me if you want any other advise and I will be happy to give it😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:46 PM
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Sigh. Junk food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:10 PM
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Oh this was the picture that got me into FDS a while ago!😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 09:23 PM
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Oh this rings of so much truth! Good points, good perspective! Its quite a beautiful trait, to have hope and believe in other people's ability to change. Very empathetic and caring, but only to a point. The difference as I see it lies in if we want people to change for our sake or if we want to support people in their own journey to change. The first is futile and possibly very toxic, and with the second there's often too much leeway and -understanding- of minimum effort at our own expense. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:49 PM
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Hm. There are many things here to address, and I don't know if I can do it that well right now. I'm aware this is not a debate sub, so if it doesn't fit please remove. "To use different methods to get people to react in a manner in which they are not necessarily aware of until possibly afterwards ... to get the other person to act according to the will of the first person ... to take measures to control people and series of events." This is (a bit paraphrased) the definition of manipulation tran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:24 PM
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(English second language, this is not directed at you specifically but you in the broader sense) I do not agree with this strategy. Whenever in long term relationships with people, trust and safety are among the most important aspects. The thing about trust and safety are that they have to be mutual to work, a good relationship cannot be one sided (ie trust only goes one way, or only one person feels safe). I see passive aggressiveness as a cop-out mechanism when standing up for ones boundaries …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:30 AM
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So happy to hear you are recovering, and actively working on your own happiness for yourself. Go girl! It is really hard to advise you about your ghosts, since I don't know much about your experience and what you are struggling with. There are a few things I have done to help myself through mostly shame and regret. I don't know if you are coming from there, so discard this if its non-appliclable. If there are more traumatic memories where you are haunted by men's depravity something similar migh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:44 AM
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Just scrolling FDS should give you confirmation enough that leaving this guy in the past is the right decision. Never let maybes keep people in your life. Devastating for you and ego boost for them. If he had good qualities that you were looking for (from what you wrote it seems more like you are idealizing him tho) it just means you dated someone you were interested in. Would be worse if that wasnt the case. Relationships ends all the time for all kinds of reasons, let them end when they are du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:17 AM
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Ah thank you for responding, YOU haven't offended me at all:) (just the song a little) That makes sense, did not think of it that way! For me it's about the unobtainable standard he is describing, and my experience with guys who often put me on that piedistal. Most often they do not want to meet me as a complex person - their idealization of me lets them disregard me as me, because they only think of me as this perfect person. I see it as just another childish behaviour men are up to in their pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:14 PM
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What is it with this song that speaks to you? All I hear is someone describing an ideal of a woman that I would be offended if anyone held me accountable to. I see nothing attractive in being someones fairytale, and find no empowerment in make belief. It is not my meaning to criticize you and coming if harsh, I'm just baffled to have such a different perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:56 AM
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Tend to agree with you, nice story. Although both scenarios are plausible, it's obvious OP had some part in his process - and as such her behaviour had a positive impact both on her life and his, and it's only possible to speculate in his intentions. Good job communicating your boundaries and not dating a guy your were not interested in (a bit basic?), but maybe tone down the wish for a thank you, that's a bit entitled. Not too graceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:42 AM
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You did something, and this is the consequences of that action. What you did: organized a boat party where you and your friends (50!) would attend and your boy would appear with you publicly for the first time. Then you were a bit salty in conversation at his expense with a friend because he was hungover. What he did: stayed out late before this important (extremely important how one chooses to handle ones SOs friends) day and showed up hungover. Then he had the audacity to not believe your very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:54 AM
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This is so important. Never heard it formulated like this before. Hope this message reaches all us beautiful ladies who need it!<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:39 PM
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I think in the end it's about authenticity. Be honest with yourself with what you want, and then do what you want. To play games and not respond/be aloof when you want to interact, or give mixed signals when it isn't based in what you really feel, is just borderline manipulative and disrespectful both of yourself and the other person. Any hlm/w who is emotionally stable will be bored in a second if s/he senses that you are holding back for the sole reason that you don't want to appear too availa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:07 AM
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You're amazing. Aim for the moon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:48 AM
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The years overlap for DB and EW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:25 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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