| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Need advice on dating, sex, & porn | LEVEL UP | Mud-covered-dog | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:13 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 48 | One of the best break downs of the minds of men who watch porn. Protect your peace and protect your wombs ladies. #Allmen“Got mad ‘cause his sex doll malfunctioned” Oh, well put! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 07:28 PM |
| 146 | Men saying that women go on dates for free food is them admitting that they have nothing else to offer.“Sims4 characters waiting for a $20 entree from Olive Garden” 🤣 yesssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 12:32 PM |
| 84 | Porn is one of the leading factors in why couples get divorced. Divorce lawyers have been sounding the alarm since 2002.Was also married to a porn addict, it was a major contributor to the destruction of our relationship. So freaking happy to be free of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:18 PM |
| 8 | A Woman's TouchMy ex was kicked out of MY room almost two years ago, yet his pic on OLD has my wallpaper in the background. Loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:46 PM |
| 4 | If it Hasn't Sunk In Yet, Men and Women Cannot Be FriendsI’m not sure how that relates? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 102 | Do men that dont watch/dislike porn even exist?“For myself, the peace of mind of being single is worth more than constantly worrying about porn, so I guess the biggest take away is to learn to be self-sufficient so I never have to rely on someone who is statistically likely to be porn sick.” Oh so much THIS. The constant lying and subsequent worrying can ruin years of ones life. It’s the sweetest relief to be free of the sex-addicted ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:22 AM |
| 41 | Poor woman.No lie, I joking suggested my ex consider becoming a prostitute and he said, with a straight face, “but there’s no one around here I want to sleep with.” 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:23 AM |
| 5 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himOh, thank you. That’s super useful. I think I am not ready to date, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:18 PM |
| 3 | You don’t know him yet! Why it’s important to emotionally detach yourself from him during the early stages of courting himCan you elaborate on the scheduled contact? I like a lot of contact but I don’t think it’s serving me ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Men force you to speak in order to silence youYes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 11:49 PM |
| 43 | The number of women in the comments sharing similar stories of having been groomed and raped at the same age is saddening....When I was 15, I lost my virginity to a 25 yr old married man. If it happened to anyone else, I would KNOW they were groomed, but I struggle to name my experience that way. And it was only a couple months ago that it dawned on me that he was lying about his prior employment with [famous government spy agency]. The mental block I have there astounds me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 01:32 AM |
| 53 | More misogynistic terrorism.““There was a man, there was an older woman, there was a younger woman, a mom — a random group of individuals in the wrong place at the wrong time," Mossop said.” Wonder if it will be so “random” as more info comes out... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone here have a pepper blaster? Thinking of getting one 🌶🌶🌶Check out The Gift Of Fear? It’s not about the location as much as it’s about listening to what your intuition about the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:58 AM |
| 12 | A Weekend Exercise For the Trauma Bonded—Give me 5 Reasons Why Your Ex-Husband Was a Loser?1- porn addiction & infidelity, posted on DB as if I was the problem 2- did not bathe or brush his teeth, smelled of shit during sex, insisted I was a jerk for asking him to clean up 3- thinks parenting consists of jokes & watching TV together. 4- anger management issues 5- had no ambition whatsoever, for himself or the kids | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:44 AM |
| 9 | If you’re out here still using dating apps, please be really really careful. There’s a new bait and switch method men are using to lure trafficking victims. This among a million other reasons is why I stopped using dating appsYeah, I heard this on Something Was Wrong, it was super creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Changed my contact info on my phone to kick my texting habit to a LVM who never instigates texts or meet ups. No more!I removed his picture altogether and put his full name, like the news would name a suspect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:02 AM |
| 7 | OLD Cautionary Tales: I rejected men that seemed good on paper.Right? I know web developer who has “tech engineer” as his occupation. I mean, I guess? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 01:49 AM |
| 6 | Rekindling due to anxious attachment. This is why we need to be independent, self-sustaining queens.Yeah, I completely relate anxious attachment, too. Feeling a bit of it right now. Thanks for the link! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 01:32 AM |
| 14 | Period! A man who wants to, willYep, that describes my marriage. So grateful to be done with that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:38 PM |
| 19 | Is this too much?And some are misspelled... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:45 PM |
| 17 | A friend of mine put this "relatable" post on her story.Ah, my twenties... ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | What does this even mean?I would interpret this as he wants to spend money on you. He’s using your term for it to mildly tease/convey understanding. Like maybe “You can judge it however you like, but I wanna do that thing you’re judging” But I’m newly recovering pick-me, so ... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:27 AM |
| 8 | Men over 50 who have never marriedThis is gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 12:30 AM |
| 36 | He quits porn because of my naggingIn my experience, you can’t change them. You will waste years or decades and get PTSD from the betrayal trauma of being constantly deceived by a critical influence to your life. FDS would say you have better things to do, like study astronomy or paint your nails or read a book or see a movie or volunteer ... anything is better than being with someone who hurts you continually. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 01:54 AM |
| 20 | LVM??“Malfunctioning sex dispensers” omg yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 11:18 PM |
| 57 | A little convo I had with my familySimilarly, “you’re the most challenging woman I’ve ever met.” God, I was so proud when he said that. I thought it meant he thought I was strong and confident and fierce. No, he meant “I’m not moved to expend effort engaging with you or your thoughts and feelings and experiences.” I know better now, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 02:15 AM |
| 174 | "I was blindsided!!!""You know what. Maybe nobody is the asshole. I want these things, you're not willing or able to give them, so let's stop making each other miserable and make a plan to go our separate ways." This is powerful truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:10 PM |
| 6 | Avoid any man who is into the “van life” trendYeah, this is why the Cheap RV Living link is useful... they talk about builds for people on disability or facing homelessness for $3000, and the importance of having an emergency fund. There seems to be a large population of older women who’ve left the homemaking lifestyle behind to follow whatever they want to do. Which is not to say that FDSers must consider dating male vandwellers, but just to say that ... well, NAvandwellersALT, I guess. Oops, lol. Didn’t intend to be that person when I beg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 01:33 AM |
| 14 | Avoid any man who is into the “van life” trendIt’s not going to fit with a lot of FDS values, but I encourage anyone who is curious to check out Cheap RV Living & Creativity RV on YouTube for a better understanding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 10:06 PM |
| 10 | Avoid any man who is into the “van life” trendActually, some do have proper showers and toilets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Must-listen: "Five Women" — stories that will validate, vindicate, outrage, and enrage youHa! Yes. One of my best friends is a therapist and she’s forever surprised at how messed up they can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Must-listen: "Five Women" — stories that will validate, vindicate, outrage, and enrage youOmg, yes. I was not expecting that. I understood what she meant about needing a ‘coherent history’ in order to continue, but I don’t know how she found one in that story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Must-listen: "Five Women" — stories that will validate, vindicate, outrage, and enrage youJust listened to it, it’s excellent. Thanks for the rec!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:05 PM |
| 3 | Saw this and instantly thought of posting it here. I'm super new and I'm glad I found you guys... It's hard out there.Oh I hear that 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:58 AM |
| 15 | Damn it feels GOOD to be RID OF HIMThis is so true. The weight off my shoulders from no longer trying to get his approval, attention, appreciation... I feel like I got myself back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:30 AM |
| 23 | It was going well, then he waited til 7.30pm to wish me a Merry Christmas“He is allowing me to doubt him, and I don’t want a man who will tolerate that. “ Ooooh, that is something that never occurred to me. It’s important to me that my special people don’t have reason to doubt ME— it never dawned on me that I could want that for myself... Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 02:29 AM |
| 12 | What happens to PickMeisha when she tries to bag a HVMI feel so bad for her, too. I feel grateful to know better, and be able to do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 03:34 AM |
| 6 | ‘Tis the seasonThis made me spit out my coffee. The grinch. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 06:09 PM |
| 24 | Lol. Stolen from Tinder's subreddit. Some of ya'll make me proudOh that’s lovely. I’m going to add it to my list of things I want in a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 03:55 PM |
| 12 | Lol. Stolen from Tinder's subreddit. Some of ya'll make me proudOh oh! Do you have some good phrases for how to steer it? I feel like leaving him on read would be efficient for her, but ... I am soft-hearted and feel like if she ghosts there is no way he will ever figure out where he went wrong in that conversation. (Yes, I did spend decades trying to ‘help’ a man get a clue, does it show?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 03:38 PM |
| 13 | Unattractive HVMsLol, I feel exactly what you’re saying! I think FDS would insist that YOU find them very attractive, not necessarily that their physical features be perfection. What is mandatory is that you feel sexually attracted to them, ‘cause you deserve to have awesome conversations and great sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Cringe vocab choiceI feel like maybe I need a Niles file of my own. Oh, yeah... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Cringe vocab choiceYes!!! And the way he reacts when she ‘snoops’ in his files is dreamy — he’s extremely angry but also managed to convey understanding, he wants to talk about it, not punish her. LIKE A DAMNED GROWN-UP. So sexy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 03:15 AM |
| 6 | Cringe vocab choiceLilith!!! I confess I always found her so off-putting, but yes — I have found myself admiring her more this time. But what does it say that later-season Niles is my TV boyfriend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 02:57 AM |
| 7 | Cringe vocab choiceThat’s my favorite show, I’m watching it right now — and loving Martin showing his age more than ever. My perspective is way more FDS now and it’s blowing my mind a little. I forgot how far we’ve come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | Remember this when you catch him cheating, etc. and he apologizes profuselyOh god this hits me right in the feels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:01 AM |
| 48 | My boyfriend(22M) follows other girls on Instagram. Am I overreacting?It sounds as if you have discovered that ‘following women on Instagram’ is a boundary for you. It’s not what you want for yourself in a romantic relationship. Some people like nuts on a hot fudge sundae, some people don’t. And you did exactly what healthy committed people do with their boundaries — you told him about it. At which point he showed you that he doesn’t care about your boundary, and he thinks you’re wrong for having it, and you should change it. And he continued to do what he wants t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 12:19 PM |
| 6 | Spiraling down the rabbit hole of caring for a fuckboyI would love a post elaborating on intuition, hearing it, testing it, trusting it. I’m really struggling lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:19 PM |
| 10 | Cheating husband surprises no one by cheating again, wife wants to know how to regain sex life... Daily reminder to take ZERO shit from men!Geez, I could’ve written that repeatedly over the last couple decades. SOOOO glad not to be there anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 05:01 PM |
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