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Why would you want to just sleep with a person that is interested in something more? It's coercive which isn't consent. Also, statistically women are more adventurous once you get to know them and they have a sense of trust.
/r/seduction21/11/25 03:14 AM
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That is not being a "nice guy." That is having a sucky relationship. The nice guy trope is where you are Just friends and will never ever have a relationship with a woman who thinks you are really a friend instead of someone who thinks women are machines you put kindness coins in and sex comes out.
/r/seduction14/10/25 02:53 PM
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Except the 3 date rule is a test of possible long term compatibility. The 3 date rule is where you go on 3 dates with a guy you wanna bang but you wait to see if it's going anywhere. It looks like you are failing the test for long term relationship material. Some people wait up to 3 months. I personally wouldn't want to waste time dating you when you are only looking for casual sex. Also I am too uncomfortable after eating to fool around.
/r/seduction02/08/25 01:36 PM
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Because hot is purchased and applied. Hot fades. Most people marry someone they find attractive and love.
/r/seduction24/07/25 03:18 PM
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The thing with your list is that there are no "universal truths" about women's personalities. With one caveat, many women are going to be intimidated by the stereotype that we aren't supposed to like sex or talk about it. There should be less in the younger generations though.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:35 PM
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Omg Thanks for the reminder.
/r/seduction15/06/25 07:54 PM
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Do you think it's because of all the murder?
/r/seduction15/06/25 07:20 PM
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Being just polite as a woman is frequently seen as an invitation to be hit on. OP is clear she is even being a little rude. What more was she supposed to do to be left alone?
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:42 PM
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Right? There was literally nothing hidden there. Leave her alone OP.
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:40 PM
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Women don't have the privilege to simply ignore men who interrupt our day. It's dangerous not to say anything. It's dangerous to give too positive/negative of a response. Men just jump on your car, break your windshield, follow you for miles. We chose the bear and you didn't get the hint then either. Now you are saying it's obvious her tone and body language are absolutely saying NOOOOO. And you all are like Yay! I got the go ahead to bother her more! Because she SPOKE!
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:38 PM
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Because this is ridiculous.
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:35 PM
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She is not keeping the conversation going. If you ignore a man you can be in danger. If you speak to them you can be in danger. She is giving a flat kind of rude answer to let you know she is sick of having her day interrupted by this BS.
/r/seduction15/06/25 02:33 PM
8

So not accepting my answer and arguing more...
/r/seduction06/06/25 07:02 PM
9

You are describing street harassment basically and it doesn't matter what you look like or how you are dressed you get harassed as a women existing on the planet.
/r/seduction06/06/25 06:02 PM
10

Why ask women and then argue? Other women are saying the same thing here.
/r/seduction06/06/25 06:01 PM
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Also reddit pretty notoriously hates cheating and cheaters are shredded. At least once my subs.
/r/seduction06/06/25 05:45 PM
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Woman here My guess is she was simply existing and you took it to mean something. She wasn't there for you, she was existing in public. I seriously doubt she cared about you at all unless there was a lot of intense eye contact or something. And even then I would say she probably thought she recognized you from somewhere and realized she didn't.
/r/seduction06/06/25 05:44 PM
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When I was poly I dated whatever was different than my current partner. So if my partner is the former MMA heavy weight meat head Im probably going to date artsy guys and vice versa.
/r/seduction02/05/25 02:27 PM
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I always just say Potting Soil seductively, and then Loam.
/r/seduction01/04/25 09:04 PM
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I think the suggestion to bring it up casually and in a fun way is a good one. She may surprise you. I have a whole thing about Holidays with crowds. I like to celebrate the 15th because you can get the cute little things and all the candy for half price. And then the restaurants aren't all crazy crowded.
/r/seduction04/02/25 04:19 PM
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Don't diet. Just make sure you eat enough lean meat and lower carb veggies. I get sick of chewing.
/r/seduction20/12/24 05:43 PM
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Yes. I was so done with the male gaze I became attractive to them mowing down tacos in a flannel and work boots. I don't think a 1-10 scale is helpful. There is no universal value of attractiveness.
/r/seduction20/12/24 05:42 PM
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I am frumpy and grumpy today! I love it. It snowed here. I'm going to spend the day in my jammies.
/r/seduction20/12/24 05:21 PM
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I mean pretty can be the just got out of bed look. Some women are naturally beautiful. Some people start adding things they bought and put on, like clothing or makeup. You like people to wear actual pants in public. Lol I can appreciate that. But the kind of hot that the male gaze means when they say hot or 10/10 is what I call plastic because it's just a regular 5-6 with a whole lot of makeup and clothes. You don't look like that after camping for a week. Plastic surgery is also a thing you pur…
/r/seduction20/12/24 05:20 PM
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Hot is actually purchased and applied. Lol It's sad for you that your standards are so narrow that you don't find most women beautiful.
/r/seduction20/12/24 04:44 PM
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Or really hot women who grab the check as a show of power and dominance
/r/seduction20/12/24 04:24 PM
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Talk to the women you want to date? Ask them what they think. Most women I know want the man to pay for the first date and split the next few. The cultural rule in the US is the person who asks pays although we still have that moment when the check comes. I am too anxious for that. So I ask about this before we go and it's always awkward but I need to know so I bring enough $. I'm a woman but you can't assume. I will let you in on something though. Women are people with all different ideas. You …
/r/seduction20/12/24 04:22 PM
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It's an integrity thing. You wouldn't understand.
/r/seduction16/12/24 06:29 PM
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That's gross, and I'm polyamorous. I wouldn't trust someone who went out looking while ignoring their problems at home. Eww
/r/seduction16/12/24 04:04 AM
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I am a woman but I used to see a guy that had to go to bed earlier than I did. When we had a date I would meet my friends out at one of the local dive bars. (We have 5 for every 2 blocks here) Dudes would swarm. I'm seriously average in most ways except my sense of humor and my Autistic honesty. They would ask directly if I wanted to have sex. I would say "No thanks I had some before I got here. It's like going to the grocery store, you never go out hungry. " and then I would go back to talking …
/r/seduction13/12/24 02:29 AM
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As far as looks go, I'm a woman and I have a certain prejudice against pretty boys who think they can just smile at you and your panties fall off. Gross. I personally like a rugged looking guy who has confidence in himself as a person but isn't using his charm or looks to get things from people. I am monogamous now but I would happily sleep with a pretty man, leave after, and go about my buisness. I would ONLY sleep with these dudes because they expected me to be grateful they chose me. What the…
/r/seduction13/12/24 02:23 AM
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I was thinking about personality and values.
/r/seduction13/12/24 02:15 AM
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Sometimes you start that way, get to know them, and end up married. Just don't. There are enough women you should find someone you like. If you can't get your type to have sex with you then you might be a little unrealistic about something about you or them. You say the women who like you enough to start up with you first aren't your type. You need to figure out what your type likes and if you are never going to be that then you need to reassess your expectations.
/r/seduction12/12/24 09:20 PM
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I don't know why anyone would downvote this. We see so many women on here alone saying they saw the red flags early on in a relationship with a man and ignored them because they felt some sort of obligation to give them a chance.
/r/seduction20/11/24 03:43 PM
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Women had MORE leverage in the courting stage when getting married and producing and heir was expected to keep land and assets in one family. Women became property. The courting stage and when they had established themselves in the household as the matriarch were the times when they has choices then. In the very beginning we had matriarchal societies. Women were held in the highest esteem and not seen as property. Now they have the means to support themselves if they are privileged with the abil…
/r/seduction14/10/24 06:21 PM
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Honestly everything you do for yourself will help you become more attractive. Have good health habits. Keep the bathroom clean. Don't expect her to pick up after you. Care if she tells you something. Set reasonable goals for yourself and fulfill them. Dress in an attractive style.
/r/seduction21/09/24 11:57 AM
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I block disrespectful a Holes.
/r/seduction14/09/24 11:28 PM
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They block because they aren't interested. They aren't doing anything to you. They are definitely not talking about you in any sort of chat because they don't care about you and nor should they. They are strangers. The fact that it's every single one and no one EVER chats back means your profile needs some work. I never have any trouble meeting people in real life. I'm an ok looking woman. I never met anyone I really liked online. Men texted me all the time but they were gross and just wanted to…
/r/seduction14/09/24 05:40 PM
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Honestly, I used to hate that I freeze and don't know how to respond when people say weird negative stuff. Now I just own it and just say "What is even happening right now." Or a long "Okay" drawn out like oookayy. My inability to respond is often seen as a choice and I look cool.
/r/seduction02/08/24 02:35 PM
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You approached a girl you found attractive, then found out they were fake, but you can totally spot fake ones because they are sooo ugly, except that one time you approached a girl and found out they were fake?
/r/seduction03/07/24 05:47 PM
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IF you actually want to be friends then say that. If you don't then say that you don't have the same...values, hobbies, whatever it is. I'm a woman and I usually am rejecting men based on their behavior. If she did something inappropriate then call her out if you want to. I always see it as a learning moment
/r/seduction17/05/24 01:09 AM
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Not at all.
/r/seduction30/04/24 11:47 AM
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Yes and no. I'm an older woman. It's easier for me I think but the times I met the best people were when I was out feeling relaxed and casual. Women who prefer that style are the same personality wise as any other group. Some are wild and in need of mental help and some enjoy anime, reading, and cheating at chess. Think about the characters you like from Tim Buton movies and brush up on your nerd trivia. I actually came up with 3 kind of obscure questions to ask people I just met as a conversati…
/r/seduction29/04/24 01:59 PM
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Just be kind, don't fall into negative habits when speaking with people, and don't stay around people who treat others badly. This applies to behavior that seems confusing or "off" to you as well. If you like music or go to the kinds of places all girls hang out then you will meet them and it will be cool.
/r/seduction29/04/24 01:01 PM
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Or you are bisexual, or gay. No insult but either you have a cuck kink which is fine, or you could like your roommate which is also fine.
/r/seduction22/03/24 09:36 PM
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Exactly This is just the "NICE GUY" tactic.
/r/seduction20/02/24 06:37 PM
1

But yeah I get hit on by certain white dudes when I'm thin and everyone else like black men and Latino men the more I weigh. It's actually annoying to be honest. I just want to chill with my friends and not deal with dudes. I even read when I'm out and I still get interrupted. And no I'm not all that looks wise. I am funny though so that's probably it.
/r/seduction18/01/24 02:10 PM
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"Over half of them are obese"...um yeah. That's how statistics work. They take the size of everyone and create a scale with the average size people in the middle. Half are bigger and half are smaller than average lol
/r/seduction18/01/24 02:06 PM
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The ven diagram of women who want pockets and women who settle for pants because they are cute us two nontouching circles
/r/seduction19/04/23 11:37 PM
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This is fabulous though because you have self awareness. That's worth a lot especially to women.
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:41 PM
1

This is so true! Nobody is suggesting Monk mode especially since one reason to work on yourself is that you meet women naturally without expectations and can let them get to know you when you feel relaxed and confident. I have noticed a lot of men who are willing to do anything or read into any advice given so they can avoid working on themselves.
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:40 PM
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There are ways to ask what she likes in a dominant way if that is what she is into. Some women will never tell you and just lay there. That would creep me out. Getting ongoing enthusiastic consent can also be very sexy and a dominant thing. I would find someone more on your experience level or an older women who likes to teach .
/r/seduction04/10/22 02:43 AM
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Sometimes women are kind of asking for permission to flirt with a younger man because it used to be taboo for a women. Shrugging and moving on has generally worked with me.
/r/seduction18/09/22 01:02 AM
2

I wonder why.....
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:46 PM
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Women are all over the internet talking about how we have been treated in the street and at our jobs. Women are most likely to be murdered by their own partners. So we our guard is up around men in general. In that way you suffer when dealing with women trying to find a partner. But yes of course the best thing would be men correcting other men when they hear them behaving badly tword women or about women.
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:45 PM
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I appreciate you do not see women as objects. I advise you to look at the entire internet of content by women saying they are being treated as objects. I am so happy you are not that guy but unfortunately you are suffering the results of men who are. I appreciate how difficult that might be. But if we make a mistake we get murdered by dudes who have been saying they are going to do that..them saying they were going to just wasn't evidence until they actually did it
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:40 AM
1

Ok so...is this practice talking to women? Because I'm way to old for you but how to speak to me should be the same. You disagree with me on some point and chose to reply "use your brain woman" we are conditioned to pull ranks and hunker down for an unwelcome invasion when people use the term "woman" to us. That isn't a way to bridge the gap you may be feeling between yourself and the person you desire. At least you didn't say "female" as that reduces the person you are speaking to as an object …
/r/seduction16/09/22 04:31 AM
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Since I hear men acting like women are objects all the time every day...yes. Even his answer was just shooting down my advice instead of listening so maybe my advice should have been listen and accept what we tell you about ourselves and treat women like people instead of an object you desire to possess. Your answer reads very "not all men"
/r/seduction16/09/22 12:17 AM
1

Sounds like you have no idea what "most" women want. And when we tell you, you are all...NOPE that can't be it.
/r/seduction16/09/22 12:14 AM
1

I meant as opposed to my original comment about men who see women as objects and are ok excluding them from activities and spaces traditionally held for men by men who seem very angry when women participate, like online gaming takes a strong person because they are so nasty to anyone that isn't a cis man
/r/seduction16/09/22 12:13 AM
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Friendly can be casually flirty. The fact is we don't know either if a guy is just treating us like a human being because he is interested or if he treats women like people all the time. We have to have a few encounters to find out. In the meantime practice flirting with anyone and everyone just keep it light. Everyone gets rejected, everyone gets stood up. I Have strict rules for that. If they cancel decently they get another chance. I can't take the anxiety of being stood up so it's one strike…
/r/seduction15/09/22 09:02 PM
1

By the way, men who are genuinely friendly and kind have women literally fighting over them just because they are friendly and kind.
/r/seduction15/09/22 08:56 PM
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You are absolutely right. There is no guarantee it will go anywhere but you haven't knocked yourself out of the running by refusing to just engage people and talk about what you like. By the way I'm 50 and watch some anime because my daughters in their 20s love it and they play tons of video games. You just stereotyped yourself out of getting with any gamer girl who is sick of being told they don't belong in male spaces. And even better, if you want women to game you and your buddies should be c…
/r/seduction15/09/22 08:55 PM
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I used to work at a gym and have been working out regularly since 14. The most jacked guys can be giant baby men just like anyone else.
/r/seduction15/09/22 06:52 PM
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By taking care of your own mental and physical needs. Setting goals and achieving them.
/r/seduction15/09/22 06:51 PM
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Seeing women as people to get to know and not objects to be concurred or obtained through strength of will or manipulation. Focus on living a fulfilling life that someone might want to be a part of. Achieve some of your own personal goals to gain confidence. Get regular health screenings and check your mental wellbeing. Care for you inner child and and trauma you suffered. Basically be someone safe to have as a partner.
/r/seduction15/09/22 06:50 PM
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You have to admit There is something really creepy about putting P in the V sex on a pedestal to the point where we think all that other stuff isn't sex.
/r/seduction12/09/22 10:19 PM
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I did this and it was a huge mistake. We were sexully incompatible and it was a nightmare getting our needs met without hurting each other's feelings. It takes a very special very emotionally intelligent person to do what you are suggesting. Also I found that men and women who wait like that just have a low sex drive or socialization issues without which they would have ended up having sex regardless of morality
/r/seduction12/09/22 10:16 PM
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I did both, it didn't help
/r/seduction04/09/22 12:49 AM
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Just make sure you never say anything negative about their body or their natural reactions to pleasure. I know that sounds pretty basic but I can tell you I'm very open and love pleasure until some dumb ass says the wrong thing and then I shut down with that person.
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:57 PM
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Lol I was going to say the patriarchy too. But seriously as a woman I was chastised my whole life for being honest and straightforward. It didn't work, I'm still straightforward and men have called me "mean" when I am being kind and honest. Women are often pearl clutching and aghast, when I am outside of a professional situation of course. Inside of professional situations I am told I have amazing patience and tact.
/r/seduction22/08/22 06:21 PM
0

Wow. The entitlement. No one owes you. I'm so grossed out right now. Ugh
/r/seduction16/08/22 05:50 AM
5

Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
/r/seduction16/08/22 05:46 AM
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In my experience almost no one knew what I was wearing or cared what it was, the goal was to get me naked and the extras I happen to love scared them. Granted I was wearing a garter belt and stockings I. High school in the late 80s because I was on a lot of antibiotics for sinus issues and got a lot of yeast infections as a result. Stockings vs pantyhose was a God send
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:41 AM
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Just kept it light. You are already happy to see her. Smile and be kind and courteous. Think of it as practice flirting for now.
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:26 PM
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A lot of guys do not understand the receptionist is a long game. Your plan to build trust with small interactions is gold. The hard part is being able to tell if this person actually likes you or if they are being kind because it is the job. That is difficult. You have to give up th idea of getting mad when or if things do not go your way.
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:27 AM
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I hope that was sarcasm Because yes make casual conversation with her in a public place with other people around. NO do not lurk by her car where she has to worry about literally being kidnapped or assaulted. Parking lots are actually an extremely vulnerable place for women.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:33 PM
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This is the way. Remember she cannot just get up and leave if she is uncomfortable and her job is to be nice to people. She can litterally get fired if she says the wrong thing to a guest. So either keep it light and casual or Remember you are holding her hostage at work if you get intense with her.
/r/seduction26/07/22 02:25 PM
1

Um.like a human being. I realize how hard it is to treat someone like they have thoughts and feelings like you do when you do not actually feel it after you hurt them. Weird right? It's almost like you need to treat everyone like they matter just in case they matter to your personal gain
/r/seduction25/07/22 03:47 AM
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The less clothes required in a particular society the less men are turned on by the lack of them. Modesty is a social construct having nothing to do with sexualilty or morality. Men who are serious about fitness do not hassle women based on clothing and we can tell the difference. Modesty also has nothing to do with fitness. For example some women are so modest they cannot take a shower or be naked in front of other women. I was raised that the gym is neccessary and you need to get over false mo…
/r/seduction25/07/22 02:15 AM
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No. They are at a place specifically to exercise. There are societies that exercised naked. The Greeks wrestled naked. Actual exercise is hot and sweaty. The less clothes the more comfortable. A serious man in a gym is not going to be sexualizing women trying to be healthy. Only creeps do that and make it harder for decent men who are not creeps to make friends with women or build relationships slowly and naturally.
/r/seduction25/07/22 02:04 AM
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Just dont give advice unless she asks and keep it light and casual. Build relationships with the women there and they will actually help you. Whenever women I know talk excitedly about meeting a guy at the gym it's because he was casual and kind, they had a few short pleasant conversations/interactions over a period of time leading up to the girl asking the guy more personal information to see if he is interested or just treating her like a person. The problem is that men often do not treat wome…
/r/seduction24/07/22 07:48 PM
1

In the 90s there was a (probably) biased unfair trope of women who were happier without a man or women who didn't really want to commit but still felt romantic feelings in fantasy mode.
/r/seduction03/07/22 06:19 AM
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This is beyond reddit. You Need to see a the right therapist for you so you can decide/prioritize things for yourself. To be honest most people feel the same way you do in regards to the fear they will not meet the right person. Most people do not feel they may not want a person. The answer to this is more interaction with people. If you cannot or will not..then that is your answer. My brother wanted to be able to tolerate touch but he really couldn't. You need to know for yourself if it's the p…
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:51 AM
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I happen to live in an area where the default is to protect the men and assume the women are lying. And this thread sounded exactly like that. The way it was being discussed concerned me. You could have said "the default is rape is wrong" but you said "come on of course cuddling implies sex" instead. I am not a mind reader. I took you at your words. It's o ly hours later you even say this now.
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:44 PM
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I am because I am a women who has been assaulted so I sm exactly why "men have to get careful in these situations." Because I didn't consent and they did it anyway. And you still have not said you think it's WRONG you just are arguing that you didn't say what you said. And that line "You're the reason men have to careful" proves you don't think it's wrong you just don't want to get caught
/r/seduction18/06/22 06:43 PM
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I wanted someone here to think it's WRONG to have sex with a woman who said no to sex
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:17 PM
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That is not what he said.
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:15 PM
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Lol she...and I am concerned. You didn't go over there which was good. But you are being a bone head as to why.
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:02 PM
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OP has stated to me in this post that he is sure cuddles =sex and that I was foolish not to see it that way. He says he didn't go over because he is concerned about being accused of rape. Only after some clarification did he say he wouldn't have had sex, even though he had been insisting he thinks she had to have meant sex even though she said no. Again he argued with me that I'm stupid to not think she meant sex even though she clearly stated no sex. The best part is that no where in this whole…
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:55 PM
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Never once has he said it would be wrong...no other reason makes him safe to be around
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:46 PM
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He says he only didn't go because he is worried he would be accused not because it's wrong. He is one bad decision away from being a rapist with that attitude
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:34 PM
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You are all over this thread saying you didn't go because you are worried you would get in trouble for doing it not because it's freaking wrong
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:33 PM
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I just did. You said "not sure if cuddling=sex and then you argued with me about it
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:32 PM
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Thank you, a voice of reason.
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:30 PM
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Except her text said no sex and OP is asking is she really meant yes when she said cuddles. He has been arguing with me that it probably meant she wanted to have sex even though she said no and I'm getting down voted for pointing it out. Just now he wrote he would have just cuddled after doubling down that cuddles =sex. Even though she said no sex
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:29 PM
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Then you followed up telling me that I'm foolish for not thinking she might have meant sex when she clearly said no and now because you couldn't convince me you're changing your story. This is the first time you even implied you would have not fucked this chick if you went over there.
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:21 PM
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Your post says you were not sure if cuddles =sex when she she clearly said no to sex. That is scary as hell
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:19 PM
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She said no sex. You admitted she was probably too drunk to consent. I'm telling you you were right to say home because with that mindset it would have been manipulative to have sex with her because YOU thought she was too drunk to have sex and she said no. Yet you are on here needing advice on whether it was the right thing to do and you are upset with me for calling a spade a spade.
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:17 PM
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You are right to be worried that she would accuse you of rape if you went over there and had sex with her because it would be.
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:02 PM
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Yes she said no to sex. You might have been able to manipulate her but that isn't consent
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:01 PM
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Oh my God no. It sounds like you didn't go over there to try and seducd a drunk chick who already told you she didn't consent to sex not because you respect her NO but because you are worried that raping her would be seen as raping her. Because that is what that would be. See when someone says no to sex and then you do it anyway that's rape.
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:55 PM
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It concerns me that you are confused that she said no sex but are still wondering if cuddles meant sex. She straight up said she wanted to cuddle and no sex. Why would you think she meant sex when she said no to sex? It's actually really scary that there is someone out there who I has been told very very clearly NO in no uncertain terms and he is on Reddit like "did she maybe yes when she said no?"
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:52 PM
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It's possible she is just reallyawkwardat flirting. ..but better error on the side of caution.
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:17 PM
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There is no way to know your pants have crept up. It's something you have to check in the mirror to avoid. That said, it's weird to pull your shirt up to show your pants unless you were talking about pants in General.
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:16 PM
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Absolutely get informed enthusiastic consent from her. These guys that say no way are sketchy as F. There is a million cool confident ways to ease your way in without just jumping on her. Yes be cool and confident perhaps just say "I really want to kiss you." And wait till she says how she feels. Do not act disappointed! Just thank her for her honesty and change the subject. She might decide you were a catch based on the fact that she is allowed to say no without dealing with a pouty baby man.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:54 AM
0

🤣🤣🤣 Well aren't you a cheeky monkey...
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:58 PM
2

You are so right. We should always wear full body gear and parka to the gym where we are going to sweat and need to be physically cool/s No one is going to the gym acting "slutty" or dressing provocatively. They are wearing yoga pants to GASP do f-ing yoga. And it's never ever ok to approach women at the gym like it's a singles bar. The ONLY way to meet women at the gym is to treat them exactly like you would a man regardless of what they wear and it takes a long time because of creepers like yo…
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:45 PM
2

You are so right. We should always wear full body gear and parka to the gym where we are going to sweat and need to be physically cool/s No one is going to the gym acting "slutty" or dressing provocatively. They are wearing yoga pants to GASP do f-ing yoga. And it's never ever ok to approach women at the gym like it's a singles bar. The ONLY way to meet women at the gym is to treat them exactly like you would a man regardless of what they wear and it takes a long time because of creepers like yo…
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:45 PM
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You are so right. We should always wear full body gear and parka to the gym where we are going to sweat and need to be physically cool. No one is going to the gym acting "slutty" or dressing provocatively. They are wearing yoga pants to GASP do f-ing yoga. And it's never ever ok to approach women at the gym like it's a singles bar. The ONLY way to meet women at the gym is to treat them exactly like you would a man regardless of what they wear and it takes a long time because of creepers like you…
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:44 PM
2

Yup. The gym is supposed to be one place where women feel safe having a body. It's one place were men treat them like an equal.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:40 PM
3

Haha user name checks out
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:11 PM
16

Women consistently complain about men approaching them at the gym. Women complain constantly and trying to work out in what should be the safest place to have a body. This dude is asking if these women are putting on a sexual display like a freaking animal because they are at the gym trying to work out in peace and they didn't realize a creeper was behind them when they picked something up off the floor. Gross gross gross
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:51 PM
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NO! Just No! Women absolutely just want to work our at the gym without being sexualized. Practice treating them like human beings. Because they are. Nobody flirts like a freaking BONOBO. We aren't animals. My Gods I hope this is a fake post.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:48 PM
4

But be very careful and start with a bigger cock ring that's rubber and stretchy because hard ones can cut off your circulation.
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:03 PM
10

Good for you! You are more mature than some dudes in their 50s. You could try a cock ring if this keeps up. Don't go straight to viagra when this is a perfectly normal thing to have happen. Men need forplay too. Some dudes act like if you aren't walking around with a raging boner all the time there's an issue
/r/seduction29/04/22 08:02 PM
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And everyone needs to remember to vary how they masterbate so that you don't need to have a specific thing to get off. Doing it one way every time hardwires the brain and body to respond only to that thing. Tease each other. It should be fun.
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:48 PM
18

Yes and please tell her. I had a boyfriend who just rejected me if he wasn't already hard before we initiated sex. I would have been perfectly happy to suck start it or do other things. Oral when a guy is soft is cool too. You can get the whole thing in your mouth which is fun. But if you make her cum a bunch it doesn't matter if you don't get hard every time.
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:45 PM
1

Lol no Seriously_g lol I thought I was funny ha ha. But it was just funny strange instead..
/r/seduction19/04/22 02:43 AM
1

Seriously...
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:44 PM
1

Once you know who you are and what your values are you will start to be happier and it will show in conversation. And you won't have to settle because you will have gained fulfillment without needing someone. Needing someone is for after you have been with a partner for a while and it's all groovy. But they need to have goals and values too.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:55 PM
2

I know guys that fake it like they imagine they are and are able to attract women that way. But true confidence comes from looking at your own values, decide if they makes sense to you and figure out why so you can express that in an intelligent way. Then figure out what your goals are and what hobbies interest you. Every time you meet a personal goal that gives you confidence and naturally makes you happy. There is more to it but it's about becoming who you are in the positive way.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:52 PM
3

Arrogance is often mistaken for Confidence
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:52 PM
2

The person above is right. Abusers do not act badly at first. They act like the fairy tale prince sweeping you off your feet (love bombing). Then once you bond through touch and affection the roller coaster begins. They choose these men because you cannot tell the difference between a wonderful human being and a faker sociopath, only the sociopath is better at pretending to be the person you are Looking for. Dating a help person will involve some conflict resolution and the fairy tale prince is …
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:51 PM
1

You accuse me of shit flinging for treating both sexescas equal and not judging anyone for having a natural sex drive. Then write a treatise on how bad it is for women to have sex with who she wants when she wants. The reality is that the normal natural human sex drive is the reason for anyone to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 12:28 AM
1

Again...why does it devalue women but not men?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:23 PM
1

I demean people who don't see women as people and try to justify it with double talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:13 PM
1

Why do you think it's immoral? I don't think you know what you are talking about. I'm not sure how you don't see the violence inherent in the system. He is clearly being repressed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:13 PM
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A lot of people do get stimulation from it but I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:08 PM
1

You are saying I was attacking not I. You are saying it wasc moral attack. Nope. Pointing out the truth to someone who isn't seeing their hypocritical isn't a moral anything. I don't believe in purity culture at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:52 PM
1

Oh no for sure think he should feel some sort of shame for slut shaming women when he does the thing he's shaming them for but I also am super sure neither of you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:16 AM
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No my point is that it's either immoral for everyone or moral for everyone. He said straight out he does it but resents women who do. These statements are just in different replies. He does not even understand he hung himself with this BS
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:16 PM
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Of course. I have been arguing with these neck beards who post crap like OP did here. They literally want to Carry on an argument for DAYS sometimes and just recycle the same garbage that no woman with self respect would put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:42 PM
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Then he either didn't understand the assignment or it's all just fate. But having on women for brinv normal human beings with a sex drive but expecting them not to have sex before they met you is counterintuitive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:39 PM
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You just said you do....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:36 PM
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I don't think you understand my point. We are on the same side. You say I'm wrong but then bolster my argument...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:35 PM
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They think exactly the same way...but for some reason the men here want only women who float in from sea on a giant clam shell
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:30 AM
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I said you wanted to bang chicks without committing and then you said "HAH! I bang plenty of chicks even though I seek out women with a low number of partner because everyone knows penises are super dirty and touching to many makes you unworthy."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:28 AM
1

Also you it's harder to get pregnant if you don't cum inside. Many of my past partners just wouldn't until they knew for certain my tubes were tied.
/r/seduction14/04/22 04:06 AM
5

Dan Savage says is you don't vary your masterbation style you end up not being able to cum any other way. Interestingly enough my philosophy professor at a Christian high school said the same thing.
/r/seduction14/04/22 04:05 AM
1

Yeah I'm just not hearing "loyalty" from "I don't want used goods" You don't actually choose who you fall in love with and certainly don't get to choose who loves you back. This N count obsessions is gross and will ruin any chance you have with anyone that isn't super religious or completely introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:57 AM
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Any women has to take a minimum of 6 weeks off. Most take 12. Doctors recommend breastfeeding. It's cheaper but sometimes you have to feed the baby every single hour for 2 days because the baby is growing and needs to increase supply. Babies rarely sleep. The milk comes directly from whatever nutrients your baby needs.. women lose bone mass and Sometimes thier teeth because if you don't have enough calcium the baby just takes it. That's if you survive child birth. Which is gross by the way. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:53 AM
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I know quite a few men who love women and want to be a step dad instead of bring more kids into the world. They are really fantastic people and worth introducing to your kids. Because they come first. Usually single moms don't need a man because they had to accomplish more with less.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:30 AM
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Yes I agree you are mad because of your sexist views on women and the fact that you want women to give you kids>sex>loyalty without anything to offer in return while putting forth less than the minimum effort. In 5 years she's going to be on AITA wondering why you forced her to be a stay at home mom while demanding she bring home an income. Or not supporting her though the gross painful life threatening process of pregnancy and child birth. Yes it's life threatening....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:28 AM
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I love it when you guys make my points for me admitting to something I just assumed with a wildly hypocritical statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:25 AM
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Yet they post here about the fact that women didn't allow them to use them as a cum dumpster in college or that virgins are picked on (by them) or why beautiful women have a high N count. Like be a little more obsessed about the sex life of a stranger you want as a brood mare bang maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:23 AM
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Why? The Toxic men here say things like it's somehow shameful for men to be a virgin but women have to have a low body count. That attitude is harmful to men but OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:21 PM
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But you are big mad because you wanted to bang hot chicks without committing...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:18 PM
1

It sounds like a rationalization for treating women like coveted objects. Like who cares if the jock has girls after him? They are shitty people who chase clout.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:14 PM
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Yeah...weird...it's almost like a whole entire trope of women being attracted to power and control. (It's actually people bring attracted to that but in this scenario women are there as backdrop to OP's experience and not real people)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:04 PM
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I think there is something primal about being with the Most dangerous man of the pack who is in love with you and protects you (intellectually we know it doesn't work that way but power as women see it and as men see it is different.) Otherwise this whole thread sounds like more men asking women what they want and not listening. Of course women are having fantastic sex with the guy with a lot of experience before they settle down to a life of being the bag maid you seem to want. You're only upse…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:02 PM
1

This title basically confirms the "majority" of men see women as objects instead of people and women wanting to be treated like a person is somehow a "deflection?" Whatever that means in this context. I guess that women should sit down and shut up? More?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:02 PM
1

Actually what 99% effective means in terms of birth control effectiveness is that over the course of a year 1 out of every 100 couples that use them get pregnant. The real life use effectiveness of condoms is around 85% so 15 out of every 100 couples get pregnant using condoms every year.
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:55 AM
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People say thick when they are attracted to women with curves. Stop using the word fat so you don't accidentally say it around her. Fat is negative and basically means unattractive. You are attracted to her so she isn't fat to you. I used to joke about a "fat set point" like everyone has a size and shape they like and one they would think of as too big. There are many bigger proportional women that are very attractive and men love them. "Real men" respect their partners and don't call them names…
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:52 AM
1

I have been all different sizes and get hit on regardless of size. Men like all different sizes of women. Skinny dies not equal hot or attractive. You seem to be attracted to her and the absolute worst thing that could happen is you letting some ass hole teenage boys ruin life for this girl or you. When they tease you just tell them you like her and they should shut their face hole. She finds out you didn't defend her she is never going to want you to touch her again. That's the worst feeling.
/r/seduction13/04/22 03:43 AM
1

Asks women a question, women answer. You noooo that can't be it...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:06 AM
1

I am polyamorous. I have long term caring relationships. It took a while to learn the signs of the boundary stomping preditor. This is one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:36 PM
1

As far as "nobody takes you seriously if you actually engage in dating instead of clinging desperately to the first man to pay attention to you?" I got nothing. That's more predator talk
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:13 AM
1

Ok we should just throw the entire field of psychology put the window because you don't understand how it applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:10 AM
1

No. As I said the word dating means no commitment. If you are "dating" that word means what op refers to as a multi-dating. There is no such word as multi dating. That's just how regular dating works. OP made the term multi dating up to describe regular dating because they don't understand it. The new term is meant to shame and manipulate people who have healthy Normal boundaries. Some women date one man at a time. As I said every single one I have ever met is taking pictures of their orbital fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:17 AM
2

One of my Minors was basically Sociology and psychology. And Im actually laughing because it was incredibly expensive and I will be paying it back till I die...so crying and laughing....I really should get my $ back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:07 PM
3

Should I get my money back for all those college courses too?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:02 PM
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That isn't what he asked and ended up the post with a blanket statement. He didn't ask how to gage her interest he stated that if she wanted to see anyone else he takes that as a sign she is merely choosing from a number of options. The fact is she is choosing from a number of options regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:02 PM
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He asked why any man would think differently than he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:58 PM
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You are basically asking "Why would men be happy knowing she had other options." Dude. She has other options. Regardless of whether she dates one dude at a time or dates normally she has chosen to spend time getting to know you. She still chose you out of every other option she has available. The question doesn't even make sense and it's flawed logic in the firstly place. I skipped telling you it was a flawed premise and went straight to my area of expertise which is sociology and psychology to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:57 PM
8

It absolutely is the answer to what you asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:49 PM
7

Since I was in therapy to recover from 17 years of abuse and manipulation from living with a documented narcissist it was part of my treatment plan to avoid attracting people who were abusive boundary pushers and learn my self worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:37 PM
7

Saying you will lose interest is emotional manipulation to push for exclusivity so controlling her is easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:34 PM
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It's a red flag to prefer someone commit on the first date into of just dating them. It makes it easier to love bomb and control her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:33 PM
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Are you saying you are meeting women who express they don't understand? Because a lot of women prefer to focus on one man at a time but those that I know personally that commit exclusively upon meeting someone have had a string of abusive relationships. Because as I said the word dating means multi-dating. Dating one person at a time is a commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:24 PM
1

Most people multi date they just are private about it. I never assume I'm that person's only partner. Sometimes I end up having that be the case but I'm always honest and up front because I'm polyamorous and honesty is a huge part of ethical non-monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:20 PM
2

Right because dating is a western concept. Marriage isn't arranged here as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:18 PM
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Saying she can't "multi-date" is the definition of pushing for exclusivity. Also the term "dating" in and of itself means multiple people until you COMMIT to being exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:16 PM
1

Lol Every therapist I have ever had told me not to date just one person exclusively until I get to know them better. They said dating is about getting to know someone and it's a huge red flag that someone wants to control who spent time with before they even met you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:13 PM
-5

It was a joke. You know humor?
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:16 PM
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Lol why? If I'm out to have a good time shouldn't I get to have a good time?
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:16 PM
9

Except this is exactly the advice you need to solve the problem.
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:57 PM
3

Hence the being attracted to fun people...
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:56 PM
-8

I treat every interaction like I'm bored and want to be entertained. But I'm a woman so men just kinda fall into my lap even when I'm am sincerely not looking.
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:55 PM
3

No.
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:21 AM
3

Apparently the tech exists (or the idea fir the tech? I'm unclear) to take female bone marrow and create sperm? But only xx. So women will some day not need men at all. There are already more women than men (or at least there used to be but China and India did stuff?)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:17 PM
3

I'm a nerd (a fan of science fiction TV and books). We usually use "greetings" because it sounds more like a robot pretending to be a person. It has the same meaning as "Hi!" but seems odd. It's like the Character Data from Star Trek. "Hello there" or if it's the south then you can use "Howdy" but that sounds like a cowboy.
/r/seduction09/04/22 12:55 PM
1

My best friends are men I have sex with but I get what you are saying.
/r/seduction09/04/22 12:44 PM
3

I married my first partner and raised my kids with them. Then we grew up and I realized how abusive the relationship was. I did what the church said was the right thing. Co parenting with a stranger would have been better for society than what I forced myself and my children to endure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 12:43 PM
4

Because every single time we ask for what we want we are left vulnerable. That's why we hide. If nobody saw then we don't need to be embarrassed right?
/r/seduction09/04/22 03:44 AM
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Aww. Sweet heart. There is no miracle set of instructions. You need to believe in your true authentic self and put a support system in place for yourself if it doesn't work out.
/r/seduction09/04/22 03:42 AM
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I only read the title and I pretty much agree. My polyamorous partners suddenly started asking me about my needs for the future..dudes...I'm poly to avoid allll of that shit. Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:39 AM
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Women often breathe a sigh of relief when a man sees them a an actual living breathing human being and are crushed when the realization hits it was a ploy. This is totally different than a man who is polite and shy and unwilling to make a woman feel uncomfortable. I have heard so many "I dated my wife for years before one of us got the courage to kiss." But I will never understand that. I am a woman but depending on how the reveal of this attraction went I could feel betrayed if a man was attrac…
/r/seduction09/04/22 02:55 AM
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They do. When they are people who see you as another person that conversation is a lot different than if they do not see women as equal partners or even as human beings or sentient partners.
/r/seduction08/04/22 04:15 AM
1

This kind of sounds like you are giving me a lecture on why I should treat people with decency and respect when I said I treated them with decency and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:58 PM
1

I am much better able to help while maintaining boundaries now after years of mental health related college and years of therapy learning different techniques.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 12:44 AM
1

Perhaps to see some of these things they like as degrading when women do not. I had a boyfriend not want to spank me because he thought it wasn't feminist. To me it's just another cool sensation and I like a lot of stimulation sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:31 PM
3

I'm saying I was literally the only person willing to talk to them and risked my social standing by doing so. I didn't care about social standing and anyone that would make me choose got booted. So where in there am I being judgemental? I just noticed them getting picked on and crushed the bullies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:28 PM
1

No. I used to date exclusively men who were less "pretty" than I am because of my own insecurity and due to how many really good looking men were conceited.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:26 PM
1

I used to get so upset about people being treated as social outcasts and went out of my way to be kind. It turned out that the social outcasts had very serious mental and behavioral problems and were all trying to use me as a life raft all at once simply for being kind. It was a lot. I still do it but hold firm boundaries. Most of the time everyone ends up telling me they told me so because these people end up behaving inappropriately.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:21 PM
9

Honestly...we would rather. This would take the pressure cooker off the incels if we mainstreamed prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 03:45 AM
2

That's the way we like to...
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:54 PM
2

I usually tap out like in wrestling. Lol
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:53 PM
2

Also don't pull the hair at the top of the head pls. Pull the nape of the neck. Don't yank. It's more to control movement and the idea of causing different sensations on the body.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:53 PM
2

Start with your hand on the neck /collar bone first and see how she reacts. I like a hand on my neck because it feels intimate but I don't want to die.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:51 PM
2

I think you shouldn't put your dick in crazy. They are being upfront about wanting to feel dominated in bed. You can certainly do that with dignity. You are a very accomplished person and have a dominating presence. I would look into being a Soft Dom. The dominate performs for the submissive what the two decide together. The sub us asking for what they want, spanking for instance. You negotiate your consent to do that. So far they don't have your explicit consent as the Dom. They don't get to fo…
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:13 PM
3

I love you. Let me count the ways...one...two....what where we talking about...JESSICA!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:13 AM
1

Ok so..you are bolstering my point? Because you bolstered my point
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:12 AM
2

No...vegan diet and malnutrition is linked to children with vegan diets to be shorter than any pediatrician can predict. My kids and my in-laws pediatrician accurately predicted 20 plus people's height and if female the time menstruation would start. It's not a big mystery. Ignorant people want it to be to excuse abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:11 AM
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Actually....height is determined by 2 things, genetics and nutrition. Malnutrition causes kids to be shorter than they should be. Pediatricians can pretty accurately predict the height of a child. I have no idea how. Buy they can therefore also detect when a kid is Malnourished and they say uneducated veganism will 100% result in kids not growing properly. (Not coming for well educated vegan moms but if your Pediatrician is confused about your kids height? Just saying)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 05:16 AM
1

Right, it's more exciting and lower risk to obsess over someone you know for a fact you can't have
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:44 PM
2

That isn't love that is Oxytocin. You will actually get that with absolutely anyone you cuddle. I understand you think you need him but Why? You never had him and he is nothing and no one. And you need to seek help. I'm not going to reply again.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:39 PM
1

Do the OPPOSITE of whatever pops into your head. You don't love him you are obsessed. He isn't a good person and you don't have a connection with him. The best case scenario for you, the healthiest thing, would be for him to forget you existed. He didn't drop you because he never picked you. You are lucky.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:37 PM
2

You are a nobody to him. I'm sorry that he used you. He doesn't care how you feel. You aren't needy, you have needs. He is never going to fulfill those. You couldn't be farther apart. There us no drifting because you have absolutely no relationship with this person. Please get help. If you try to force this he is just going to involve the law.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:31 PM
1

You are obsessing about this man. Do the opposite of that and focus on yourself. People usually get this way over someone unavailable because they don't want the anxiety related to an actual relationship. You are picking him BECAUSE he isn't available to you. You certainly won't be able to find a healthy relationship obsessing over this cheating manipulative ass Hole
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:27 PM
1

Cheaters don't leave their Girlfriends for a one night stand. You are not in competition with her. There is no competition and there never was. You were never an option to be his Girl because he has one already.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:23 PM
1

He doesn't want you two to bond because he cheats on his girl. He isn't a good person. He's manipulative and probably tells her stories to keep her from talking to you. Like...oh I don't know...Like he was nice to you ONE TIME and you decided you are in love and are really jealous and insecure. Even if he didn't tell her she probably knows. Get therapy and do the opposite of these emotions you are having.
/r/seduction02/04/22 07:01 PM
1

He used you. He wanted to bang and ditch. He clearly isn't interested and if he was it would be to bang and ditch you. Maybe if you had slept with him he would have tried to sleep with you again but it would be to use you because he never liked you and never will. He is taking his girlfriend to all these things because he likes HER NOT YOU. It has nothing to do with who is better. Block him on everything and go to Therapy.
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:54 PM
2

Case in point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:44 PM
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Until you try and kiss or go down on a guy you really like and they've got the funk...or are harassed daily for simply walking down the street or existing at work or threatened with SA or violence or death then you need to take a seat. And probably also take a shower, work out, and do some self improvement. All I see on here are men asking women what they want and then arguing that women couldn't possibly want what we say we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:02 PM
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This makes total sense and is said in a very reasonable and respectful way. I can understand marrying for love but I don't recommend it lol. Of course you need attraction and a mutual respect but in a long term relationship the way you treat each other will determine how much that love grows and is sustained.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:04 PM
2

I love running into old acquaintances but most of my friends from high school or grade school hated it. They would actually be kind of rude because they had such social anxiety.
/r/seduction26/03/22 04:46 PM
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It could be that. I'm not even being sarcastic because we interact much less in person since the great pan and we are all rusty but if you go onto a forum where women are complaining about street harassment you will see many of them are harassed to the point where they start habits to intentionally avoid any contact with a random man. One strategy is to not make eye contact and pretend to be on the phone. Another strategy is to appear confident and aggressive (not a victim, victims look shy) loo…
/r/seduction26/03/22 04:44 PM
2

If upvotes got me drunk yes
/r/seduction26/03/22 03:35 AM
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It might work for men in a gqy bar. I have an advantage being female
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:33 AM
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Oh it's like planting something and you hope it grows. I'm using the term in a loose sort of way, not the actual intended use of the term. It would legitimately be $ invested into some legitimate business. In my case it was invested into my bra to look like people were tipping me outside of a situation that one would normally expect. I was studying sociology at the time and interested in how certain things caused certain behavior. So the fact that men saw $ in my cleavage made them put more $ in…
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:49 PM
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I sometimes put folded up singles in my cleavage as "seed money" you could do the same. I used to just go to a bar with money stuffed in my bra and don't mention it. I woke up in my bed with more $ than I left the house with.
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:28 PM
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You are absolutely the most witty engineer I have ever encountered. I used to sellblinds etc. I knew 2 minutes into the conversation I was dealing with a nightmare engineer with terrible expectations about their window measurements and what the standard allowance was for them to work...and why. Ugh...
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:26 PM
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But yeah church would probably have more people who are newer to sex. But then you have to deal with a lot of religious hang-ups like when I was a virgin I had to be married to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:11 PM
2

That makes a lot of sense. Wise choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:09 PM
1

Ok then you tell me why being a vjrgin makes you care about the other person's past so much? Assuming they have been tested and have come out clean?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 11:13 AM
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You were also grossly ablist....but OK
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:53 AM
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What possible reason would anyone have to care about the other person's past if they aren't hung up on purity culture? Barf. You probably will have a much better time with someone who knows what they are doing. Unless you want to control your partner and feel it will be easier if they are naive and inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:51 AM
1

Women don't actually need to be "hot". "HOT" is purchased and applied.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:28 AM
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Lol CHURCH you morons..the only reason women are shamed for their natural normal bodily urges is religious purity culture and the patriarchal need to keep $ and land in the male line. These ideas came before paternity tests however. You can relax now that we can prove your swimmers were first in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:20 AM
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Although....if she isn't turned on sex is painful and horrible. So make sure she is ready to go and then do more for her after your done.
/r/seduction24/03/22 09:28 PM
1

Oh wow! I would say find out what websites people use there. I guess I'm blessed being in the US and being a girl. I have a lot more nerdy guys to choose from
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:48 PM
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Yeah just wear Griffindor colors and wait for all the Ravenckaws to pile on
/r/seduction24/03/22 05:02 PM
2

What being yourself means is finding people to hang with at a con or event meant for people with your shared interests. It Definitely does not mean wasting time with people who don't understand you. I am in my late 40s and my kids are in their 20s. All of our friends like the same things you like ALL of them. My older daughter is DMing DnD and she is getting everyone she knows into it. I'm having a hard time finding a group my age to play with because I have always wanted to. Comic book stores a…
/r/seduction24/03/22 05:01 PM
1

You aren't listening. I'm not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:18 PM
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And floss and brush your tounge
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:15 AM
2

Go on this sub and count how many posts are trying to monitor, control, and shame women for "high N counts"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:13 AM
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Any man who wants you to sleep with him but cares about "N counts" is saying sleeping with a man causes you to be a bad partner or undesirable so they shouldn't have sex outside of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:42 PM
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Yup and then they call you a whore because? Apparently thier penis made you dirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 04:06 PM
7

This post relaxed a bunch of muscles I didn't know were tense.
/r/seduction22/03/22 01:14 AM
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Because this sub is full of men whining they don't get laid while complaining women had sex before they met.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:11 PM
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So stop slut shaming pls?
/r/seduction21/03/22 03:02 AM
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Some men are self concerned when I wear them. My childhood friends made a big deal out of it so it kind of got stuck. I used to wear heels every time I went out. I'm 5'8" and normal heels are 4" a kitten heel is 1 or 2"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 06:04 PM
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He is really old and comes up to give me a hug, cuddles into my boobs and pretend snores
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 05:26 PM
0

Like I said, if I ever heard a woman treat a guy like that I would socially reject her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:59 PM
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I did read more on this thread and he seems like he is extra sensitive...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:57 PM
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Yeah my dad was 6'4" before he started shrinking and my brothers are 6'2 so my 6' now X-husband seemed a little on the short side. The X's dad was 5'5" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:13 PM
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I don't think a good loyal woman is going to pick a man based on something as shallow as height.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:10 PM
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If we want men to believe us then we shouldn't dismiss theirs
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:07 PM
2

I'm hearing multiple short guys here on this thread. It sounds like there are a lot of shitty women out there. I'm 6' in heels and like a tall guy so I can feel dainty but short guys have better leverage...lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:06 PM
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This isn't ok and it's not normal. You are not a consolation prize. Just chill, set achievable personal goals for yourself and you will have confidence no one can take away. Then laugh in the faces of anyone who says anything about your height because who even does that? A good person would never.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:05 PM
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How I behave with a shorter guy is to shove his face in my boobs and say he is the perfect height. Am I being a dick? I will stop if it's a subtle jab but they seem to like it. There is one old guy who pretends to sleep on my chest....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:55 PM
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I have litterally never seen or heard anyone being belittled for being short. I hear men call women fat when they don't get what they want though. Maybe it's a fall back insult. I don't hang out with people that mistreat others though. Maybe that is why
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:53 PM
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The right girl will love you for you and tell you what she likes so you don't have to feel insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:48 PM
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Of course..height is nice because I am 6' tall in heels but the person is more important than something like that. Sometimes it's fun when a Wolverine (Weapon X) type guy is looking straight at my boobs. Moterboat!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:35 PM
1

Dear Lord I am here for that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 05:30 AM
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Unfortunately, at that time I my life I was very superficial too. I have gotten over a lot of prejudices since then. Only horribly superficial people are so insecure they need to have arm candy to feel good. Anyone who goes on about "settling" thinks too much of themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:45 AM
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Lol no. I was surprised too. He would take these girls to my house to show them off and they absolutely dripped off of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:42 AM
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It does not...I'm not sure where your "science" comes from but in real life women are opting put of relationships because men are not doing the work to be emotionally intelligent. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:41 AM
2

As far as dick size moat of you just have standard issue white guy dick
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:13 AM
1

Is it possible that you are more confident? Because I had a 600lb friend who was killing it with women before he met his wife and most of the dudes in my circle were overweight and never had any trouble. I suppose they would do even better if they got in shape but I was surrounded by not very attractive man with great personalities and they are all really happy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:13 AM
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That's hot and I normally like squishy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:47 PM
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That is scary
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:44 PM
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I thank you for your service. As I was saying, the purpose of boot camp is to basically brainwash the recruit tear them down and rebuild them into someone that takes orders but can also make decisions. They have to bypass the survival instinct and empathy for other humans. I have issues lumping a whole group together except marines lol. I can tell when someone is fresh out of the military by how they speak and move.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:33 PM
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That's what I was saying! Lol But I lack a penis so they want to argue. Find a fashion icon that has your body type and get clothes that flatter you. That 70s-80s androgynous rock start thing is always hot. Like David Bowie or Freddy Mercury or Anyone that was in One Direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:27 PM
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Our guys that went to Ukraine also know they have no protections under the UN treaties or whatever code of conduct in war? I'm having a migraine/ brain fart words are hard right now. But by going into another country alone without the US sending them they forfeit the protection you get as a US citizen. The guy I saw interviewed said his unit all went and they had combat experience together.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:21 PM
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We have a culture here that pushes military service especially in conservative circles. So those conservatives you say are getting fat are sending their sons and daughters to the military out of a sense of pride in the country. I'm not going to start telling them they are wrong so I can get drafted. I like how these shitbags are keeping your ass here and you hate on them. Not to say they aren't. If you understand the brain fuck requirements to get these dudes to want to volunteer. A lot of These…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:17 PM
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These countries don't have the people available that we do in the United States. I feel it would be good to have everyone get some military training so they understand what it means to be in the military and appreciate it but we have such a large volunteer military it's not really needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:56 PM
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I don't know why we still have a draft when we have the largest volunteer military in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:39 PM
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Did you miss the part where women are more interested in your personality? And the fact that you can't really tell what someone looks like until they are naked? And you have to be somewhat interesting to get to that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:27 PM
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In the 90s it was just above average. Adequate nutrition makes people grow taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:07 PM
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I did look it up and it is Now just below average but it used to be just above. Kids these days are growing taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:53 PM
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Except they aren't doing that.. The top comment is by men all about changing OP's physical appearance when most men need to work on their interpersonal skills and self confidence. I understand exercise helps with mood and can be emotionally uplifting but these bro dudes are all arguing over which protein gives the best gains and patting each other on the back when they should be listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 03:50 PM
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Yup. They aren't as bad anymore. It was when I was in the Blume of youth that I was a stone bitch to entitled ass holes. Now I bang body builders
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 12:00 AM
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I rest my case...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 10:54 PM
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I said you don't know your ass from your elbow and don't listen when women tell you things so I'm not surprised you are calling yourself and Aggro Weasel
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:47 PM
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So you know a lot of happily married couples then? Because My entire community was all married people for about 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:29 PM
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Especially the women in their 20s. It's the whole Asian boy band thing. They are all looking for Loki types. There have been surveys done. I'm not surprised you want to argue though. User name checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:27 PM
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Lots of women like very thin men. I happen to prefer a chubby guy so I can snuggle with a squishier partner but I dated skinny guys that could pick me up and walk around with me and I'm not a tiny girl. Stop asking men what women like. They are wrong about just about everything and Don't listen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:43 PM
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5'8" is perfectly average and that's fine. I'm the same height as a woman no big deal. What is the "right" body type lol. Women on this sub keep telling the men that personality is way more important than looks and the men are the only ones arguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:40 PM
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Lol You are crazy. If you don't believe me why not scroll. My words should be enough if they are worth commenting on. It's funny though how women tell men how it is and they just reject any information coming from them and then these men whine about having to "lower their Standards" Hunny no woman you perceive as "low quality" wants you...she has a whole ass life she built that doesn't depend on the male gaze
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:28 PM
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My X-husband? My X-boyfriends? I always joked I wanted to be the prettiest naked person in the room...I'm almost 50 and just started dating really good loving men. I found good looking men too entitled when I was younger. They acted like I should fall all over myself with gratitude because they were talking to me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:12 PM
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I look like my dad...maybe he is beautiful IDK
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:09 PM
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OP and various other positions here have spent a couple days arguing with me. OP asked why men get married. I said some reasons. No matter what I said someone had to argue. I honestly don't care anymore. Have a nice day. I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:12 PM
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Heaven forbid people are above superficial stereotypes and commit for other reasons, or have a different idea of beauty. I'm told I'm beautiful all the time. I don't think I am at all. Men do though. I find men that look like they were "hit with a frying pan" incredibly sexy. No settling for any reason here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:04 PM
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If the issue is you basically hate women and don't trust them yeah...don't inflict that on another human being until you can see women as actual people
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:38 PM
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OH MY EFFING GODS WHY THE FLOCK DO YOU CARE??? If you meet your soul mate are you going to give them a purity quiz?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:46 AM
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Ah. I misread "people to like you" and saw people like you. My bad. Still, I'm happy with my polycule and you are bagging women on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:44 AM
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There are always outliers. The majority of humans who seek marriage are already married and this whole post makes no sense. It's just single dudes who genuinely hate women but won't date men trying to flex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 05:41 AM
1

Aaand yet women are running the other way as fast as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:03 AM
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What? I'm actually intrigued What "people like me" are. Do you mean men need to dominate women with low self esteem to trick them into relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:02 AM
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If you read this whole thread I answered a bunch and men attacked me regardless of what the answer was. THEY DO NOT WANT AN ANSWER. THEY WANT TO JUSTIFY HATE.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:00 AM
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Lol they most definitely are with no regrets. Statistics say only single men suffer because of this
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:59 AM
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Men who have the very serious mental issues you suggested should seek therapy or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:57 AM
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Sure. I understand that...but men who value women as people are not inclined to feel that way..the question should be why men think daring should be like buying a blowup doll
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:56 AM
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I'm not single. I have been answering in the scenario given. I am polyamorous and have several lovely ten year relationships where the church isn't telling me to be even more submissive than I prefer
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:47 AM
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You don't trust women. You see stay at home moms as lazy. You say you already feel resentment tword a woman that doesn't exist yet. I suggest you not get married. Please save us all the trouble and get a vasectomy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 06:29 PM
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OP asked why men get married. I answered. Because they don't see women as the enemy. They want a partner and they want combined finances. They want to build a life with this person and ther reassurance these ties create. Combined finances and children and family ties all reinforce the bond if both parties are decent human beings. Arranged marriage is an example. There are less divorces Because love will bloom in time not because they fell in love and then tried to figure out how marriage is goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 06:27 PM
1

You: Defend yourself from my personal attack on you. Me: My explanation You: You're being defensive I must be right
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 06:04 PM
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Lol OK they shouldn't. If you think marriage is outdated don't do it. But don't come on here and argue about it when you get an answer. I can't tell you why You should get married. I do know why men say they want to because I studied the social sciences. When I answer these questions I'm telling you what I learned and what is generally believed to be true in sociology, psychology, and anthropology.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 06:03 PM
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I have enough education on social topics to know never to insert opinions unless I state they are opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:31 AM
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Ah so...explaining how to gain confidence and a sense of accomplishment to people who don't have the skills to figure it out is useless....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:29 AM
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I'm not giving advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:51 AM
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I'm not even discussing my situation. I was replying to OP and the people here asked me questions which I endeavored to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:50 AM
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If you don't love and appreciate women don't bother them in the first place. If you have to ask why Men get married you certainly shouldn't inflict yourself on other people. Get a hobby instead. Perhaps underwater basket weaving
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:50 AM
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I have said it a few times. Emotionally healthy Men who see women as people and not objects marry because they want a companion. Those that want children Marry to raise those kids with a partner they love and cherish. Men are actually very sappy and sentimental. Even the alpha male types love to cuddle, want me to spend the night, ask me to commit to them. My female friends have the same experiences. When they want to settle down they do so with great guys who appreciate then. OP seems bitter. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:48 AM
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They were given as an example of a population that isn't divorcing as much. I was giving a reason why that would be. I'm going to assume the person giving them as an example cares. If you don't find it interesting then why Comment
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:43 AM
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Yup they are so OP acting like women are trying to trick men into marrying them for his tiny...paycheck...are over. Sure there are gold diggers but they usually say they are right out. Everyone is agreeing women are choosing to raise children alone rather than deal with men. I think that says something
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:38 AM
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My point is men had to threaten and dehumanize women in order to force them to marry under the patriarchy. Women were property traded from father to husband for the purpose of bearing a male heir to keep money and property in the male line. It was litterally the plot of Pride and Prejudice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:45 PM
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Ok. What you are saying supports my point so I thought you agreed with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:43 PM
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No I am outright saying women were threatened and denied basic human rights for the purpose of bearing a male heir to keep the money in the Male line and use women as property. I assume you don't have an estate and servants. I'm saying healthy men that want to get married want a partner to share thier lives with not a bang maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:41 PM
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And theyvare still out there clutching thier little... paycheck like we can't figure it out if you so much as annoy us.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:38 PM
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I mean I was saying very few women want or need to raise an extra man baby on top of taking care of children and working.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 11:37 PM
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Why? Married men live longer. Single men die sooner than any other demographic. The assumption was made that single men don't go for routine medical care and end up dying of conditions that could have been managed if they received early treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:24 PM
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Yeass. OP is painting the picture that women are scheming to get men's precious money. I mean it's more we want to be able to trust the person that we are raising children with is capable of working while we are recovering from pregnancy and delivery while feeding a newborn sometimes every stinking hour when they grow and need more milk. Pregnancy is life changing medically for most women and often fatal. We are just not putting up with anyone that isn't emotionally intelligent and supportive an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 06:20 PM
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Light fingers on the ribs or hip to maintain the connection if you can reach. Then a little more but not too firm. She needs to feel the warmth of your hand there but still feel free to move away if she wants to. If she reaches back to touch you then you can slide your hands forward when it feels right. I like the feeling of that but I don't want to feel obligated to anyone. But take her lead. Notice how she is moving. Nobody wants pokey fingertips in their ribs. You may end up with your arms ar…
/r/seduction11/03/22 05:33 PM
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If you saw that movie it shows Harry said that right out of college and he changes his mind as he matured. We as the audience are supposed to know how sexist and weird that was. Harry isn't a very pleasant person at that point. As for your BF saying people are attracted to you, of course people are going to find you attractive if you are in fact attractive. Mature adults know that and keep it in line.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:01 AM
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Vulva pics. The vagina is just the hole thing not the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:07 PM
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Lol Single women live the longest and report the greatest feelings of happiness. Married women die faster. Married men live the longest and single men are report being bothered the most by loneliness they have the shortest life spans and more health problems cause by lack of basic care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:02 PM
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She meant bring a guy freind to enjoy her show or a bisexual/ gay woman so she gets tips. Your date is not going to want to tip big when the performer focuses her attention on you.
/r/seduction10/03/22 05:03 PM
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Burlesque performers often interact with the audience and there is an inherent sexual component. It's pretty dumb of you to think about doing this
/r/seduction10/03/22 05:01 PM
1

It's working for us. I'm not complaining about my life you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:37 PM
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Yup they have. Because women have rights they didn't have when the nuclear family was a thing. Back then Women were forced to stay in untenable situations because of financial abuse and it was difficult to get divorced. So now men are being held accountable for their actions and women can have their own checking accounts and are able to be hired for jobs. So...the "average" man needs to have interests, basic hygiene, and show up on time. And people using dating aps are of course going to pick ob…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:36 PM
1

I on the other hand have been a thorn in people's side for my own personal entertainment and to log the experience in the mental data logs. That isn't a nice thing. I was wrong and a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:23 AM
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It seems like this sub is just men who cannot get it together. You can have a face hit by the Ugly brick, repeatedly, and still do well with women. Dating is a social interaction. Social things aren't easy for a ton of people. We are all fakiing it. We learned social rules enough to get by and are meticulous about hygiene. Honestly hygiene could be the entire problem...but that usually holds Hands with social issues. Observe And join groups. Don't try to take over until you see people's body lan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:21 AM
1

I am ENTITLED to be treated well. Honestly I don't care what incels do Im responding to them acting entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 01:45 AM
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At work even. I'm so glad I'm older now. It doesn't have as often and it's more inderect now. But basically any conversation where a dude is asking if you have a boyfriend ends up with a request. I'm very open, funny and easygoing about a lot of things so people feel free to be themselves and themselves wanted to pork that day I guess. They ask Other really detailed things I probably didn't want to know. I keep it on a level at work though and pretend to be more uptight than I am.
/r/seduction09/03/22 05:54 PM
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Oh I love men. I keep several good ones. The fact that you think we NEED men to give us those things when we can simply buy them is indicative of a patriarchal mindset. Men NEED WOMEN to have a baby but they could always trap women with $. What we don't need is FINANCIAL ABUSE which is what the nuclear family is based on. Women couldn't work or own property. They couldn't have a checking account util 1972. They NEEDED men then in order to obtain money or property, to survive and there was little…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:51 PM
1

Lol yes. Also theology
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 05:40 PM
1

😃🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:34 PM
1

Excellent advice actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:29 PM
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Lol No monogamy is designed to keep property in a specific family line. And as I said I don't have to distill a 50 grand worth of college courses because my studies make me an expert on this topic. Unless you are a professional in this field you are having some correctile dysfunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:29 PM
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Yeah this happens everywhere we go. I'm not even that hot but the number of dudes trying to get my attention when I'm clearly on a date is gross. She purposefully didn't tell you until she was sure you wouldn't confront dude. I have switched my verbiage to say "his attention made me uncomfortable " instead of "he is hitting on me". Some people say come on you think everyone is hitting on you...um yeah a lot of the time they ask me directly for sex so...I think they might have had some interest t…
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:40 PM
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I think you are describing the difference between appreciation of women as whole human beings and women as objects. Most Porn objectifies women. I'm happy for you. I think a lot of dudes don't realize what they miss out on being negative.
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:36 PM
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There do happen to be a significant amount of men on social media making it appear so. OP has described what women experience on social media. It's like these little trolls want to see us retreat into a hole or we aren't allowed to take up space in a community
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:29 PM
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Most of these women live really great lives and are miserable in relationships. So they get in one and absolutely hate any infringement on their time and personal autonomy. If they keep up with this fantasy and I'm close to them I do point it out. I tell men and women you are actually really happy and have a great life. Focus on you and build your best life so you have something to share when you meet a fun person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:27 PM
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Not everyone has the same beauty standards. Personal trainers love overweight average looking women. I have only seen one that had to have a certain specific hot girl type. The others just loved women in General and absolutely love and adore thier wives who they think are the most beautiful women on the planet. They aren't settling. They had their pick and they took quality people as mothers of their children. But realistically by Hollywood standards they would be a 5-7. But they also know the d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:23 PM
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Before you ask my source...it's me. I'm the source. I studied sociology, anthropology, and psychology in college for my minor because it's interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:17 PM
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Statistically single men don't go to the doctor for basic routine medical care and therefore have the shortest life stans. Married men live longer and married women die sooner. Single women live the longest and report feeling happier overall. Biologically we would live in a community of women surrounded by children and the men would spend a lot of time hunting. So women don't NEED men they need companionship and community.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:15 PM
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That's funny that you think men can having to do the absolute bare minimum of self improvement to be more emotionally intelligent is making them an object but I am the one who lacks empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 04:08 AM
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Yeah someone doesn't get an elbow in the eye or their hair knelt on you aren't doing it right. .
/r/seduction09/03/22 01:07 AM
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I have never heard that. I have heard him say incels need to get some self worth and do the emotional and physical labor to be an attractive spouse if they want a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 11:18 PM
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Honestly....guys with a lot of experience are cleaner. I assume they get more experience because of good hygiene or they were told by women they needed to be cleaner.
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:02 AM
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6 pregnancies in 5 years with pcod and a tipped uterus. 3 kids and some miscarriages. I'm ok now. When birth control says it's 99% effective that means that 1 of every 100 couples got pregnant using thir products
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:29 AM
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I have never heard a woman say they want a man to approach them when they are out living their lives with shit to do. I have heard it called street harassment though. Most women never want to be approached.
/r/seduction06/03/22 03:42 AM
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I don't want to be approached by a stranger unless I'm at a bar. I wouldn't love it if a guy jumped straight to asking me to dinner because you can't escape if it gets weird. You are already acting sketchy cold approaching women when they are busy living their lives. It certainly wouldn't feel safe to have some guy try to take me to a second location. As women, we aren't safe standing in the middle of a parking lot. It doesn't have to be a back alley.
/r/seduction06/03/22 03:40 AM
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To be honest. Building a life worth living is the answer to suicidal thoughts and feelings. Dialectical Behavior Therapy had tons of things to help buy the simple most important thing is WE CREATE OUR OWN LIFE yes things can get you down or get in the way but you are in charge of you..in the US. In a free country you have resources to help you build yourself up so you can feel confident in yourself
/r/seduction01/03/22 02:57 AM
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Archeology, sociology, psychology etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:11 AM
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The Bible was written for young scholarly men trying to change society into what you describe. If you really look at the information in there next to the Archeological finds of the last 25-30 years it fits what I was taught getting my degree on the subject. You aren't mansplaining exactly because you are asking questions but you are you do seem to have a bit of correctile dysfunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:25 PM
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Read Did God Have a Wife?: Archaeology and Folk Religion in Ancient Israel, is a book by Syro-Palestinian archaeologist William G. Dever, Professor Emeritus of Near Eastern Archeology and Anthropology at the University of Arizona. But look..dude...I spent over a hundred grand on my education and you not only are using my knowledge for free but arguing with me about it. I haven't said anything controversial at all. It's very very basic and stuff I learned in grade school.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:22 PM
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Although Egypt did exist at the same time as the Palestinian/Israelite civilization that was definitely matriarchal at the time. Read some of my other answers I'm repeating a lot here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 10:18 PM
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That is still too far forward I to the future and just one example not a standardof human evolution. I'm talking pre-sumerian in the "civilized" world. Farther north, France and Gaul would be behind them .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 10:16 PM
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I think we said it at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:33 PM
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It is taught in Archeology 101 lol. And sociology, and psychology, and theology...basic so it's easier to understand how humans...human Widespread patriarchy has to do with Constantine and the Roman Catholic Church being Roman. They were imperialists and a religion adopted by them was an imperialist religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:32 PM
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I am familiar with his work but that isn't the time period we are speaking about here. He is dealing with the affects of the patriarchy as they are. He is stating what the symbolic meaning is to us even if we didn't realize because we happen to live in that particular society. The problem with that is the tendency to believe every society is like yours or it was always might makes right as it often is today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:28 PM
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That isn't at all how primitive cultures worked. I explain in another thread my qualifications. I wrote about how matriarchal society worked and how "primitive" hunter gatherers created their gods to worship. Most societies worshiped cows first and then switched to a mother goddess. If the second thing that comes to mind to make into a God is a fertile woman then what you describe only exists on the Flintstones and bad movies from the 60s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:56 PM
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There are even videos that show it in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:09 PM
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Lol I said it because I assumed that was your mindset. Just trying to use words you would understand
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:09 PM
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I'm highly educated in this area. Of course there were other examples of "not" matriarchal society but it's religion that caused women to be subjugated and their sexuality policed. Rights to property ownership had a lot to do with it, women becoming property themselves. But before that women were equal. No I don't think there was ever a society where women had the kind of power and control of men that the patriarchy has over women. Matriarchal society doesn't subjugate people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:08 PM
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One example, Early Palestinian/ Israel worshiped the Agricultural Goddess Asherah. She was even represented in Solomon's temple. The Bible backs up all the Archeological evidence of this stating very few kings were actually monotheistic. They practiced sacred prostitution. But basically most religions start out worshiping cows and move on to worshiping a great mother goddess. Almost all societies start that way according to my sociology, anthropology, and psychology classes as well as my theolog…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 02:40 PM
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It's exactly the same as any other activity. Purity culture is the only reason anyone cares. I'm not mad lol you just seem really naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:43 PM
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I think less of you for caring who I slept with. I have long term partners I have been with for over 10 years. I married my first partner and was with him for almost 20. You are basically asexual and that's fine but you aren't a better person and you don't get a gold star because you chose not to have sex. I don't judge other people for liking tennis or rollerblading. This is no different
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:38 PM
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Ah no. In fact in matriarchal societies temple prostitution was sacred and the women revered
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:35 PM
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Haha no. I have sex when I want yo with who I want. I decide for me. I'm the gatekeeper
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:34 PM
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But these guys don't see it that way. They see woman as some exotic creature to be taken down like a fresh gazelle. They write these posts saying male virgins can't get a date but that women who have a "high n count" aren't desirable. They dismiss the idea that this is a patriarchy holdover and are generally gross in their attitudes about women. So yes a healthy couple will want and need each other but nobody need some dude who is over here counting her bed post notches. Women don't need to depe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:33 PM
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Except you have been right? Unless you are a virgjn? Which is great and I admire your choice. But if you aren't religious and everyone has been tested and came out clean....then what possible difference could that make other than giving her confidence in her own body?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:27 PM
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Love U too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:10 AM
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I was using it that way because of it's perceived significance to my audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:43 PM
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Lol One of us has lived that exact situation and realized we don't want to be with the kind of man who wants to believe his prospective partner floated in on a clam shell
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:42 PM
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The term "real man" was used because of the audience. I personally don't think there is one way to be anything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 10:19 PM
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There isn't a correlation between a person who has healthy sex when they want to and having dangerous sex because of bad choices. You are equating the two. A person who is promiscuous as criteria for mental illness is NOT have sex they WANT to have, they are using sex as a way to hurt themselves. Everyone experiences some ambivalence in long term relationships. A woman who has picked her partners and deliberately had sex with people she wants to is a much better chance of never wanting to cheat …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 10:17 PM
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And real men understand that these types of notions are archaic and misogynistic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:28 PM
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The penis (especially uncut) is shaped to remove or scoop sperm out of the vagina. It evolved that way because having sex with multiple men would insure the best sperm wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:28 PM
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For companionship, in house dick, to support each other, have children. Because not everyone is a sad incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:26 PM
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This is hilarious. Why exactly should women in particular Need to have control of their impulses? Why can't we just do whatever we want whenever we want sexually speaking? This n count premise acknowledges women choose their partners. It's just whiny pouty sour grapes that they weren't picked first.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:05 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:00 PM
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The whole idea of "n" counts mattering is a holdover from religious purity culture. It's left over from when women were property and objects of desire, not human beings. You can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:00 PM
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Lol You actually think they are out there? Maybe but most women are just living their lives and having sex if they want to. And yes if someone had a fantasy of what marriage was, wasn't getting that, and it was deeply upsetting to them (which you seem contemptuous for make up your mind) they should get a hobby or get therapy to accept reality. I think I saw women who weren't accepting reality and not just leaving men who wouldn't commit in the 90s. I'm not seeing that now. All the young women I …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:33 PM
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Lol This thread is hilarious. Women don't need men anymore. Unless they are repressed by religion there is no reason to care about things like an "n" count. There is no reason to feel the need for "self control" to preserve our chastity because the only reason to do that in the past was to secure a man to survive. We litterally had to be married because we were property with no means to support ourselves because men made laws to cause us to be property. We aren't property anymore so you pouting …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:49 PM
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Absolutely most women know better than to have a second date with a man who would dare to ask. The only people who actually care seem to be on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:42 PM
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I can totally believe you have only had one long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:57 AM
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I thought it was symmetry...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:17 AM
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Wait...if you are Marxist shouldn't our production in society matter way more than looks? Go easy on me I haven't studied sociology or psychology in more than a decade. However I did come across an article a while back where the author sent the same photo to graphic artists around the world to touch up with no specific instructions as to what that meant and the results were interesting. I'm going to read the rest of your post here later when I can concentrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:14 AM
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This one..
/r/seduction22/02/22 10:53 PM
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You can always just use her for practice flirting. That way you aren't really pursuing and she isn't under pressure.
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:56 PM
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If you are about to have sex then I wouldn't do it unless you get a clear yes. But this is asking her on a date not sex. She isn't vulnerable in this situation which I think is the distinction. As long as her body language is relaxed and she is still talking to you I would just be brief, friendly, and available but definitely do your own thing at the gym so she doesn't feel creeper on. I sometimes put myself in a person's sight line without looking at them but flirt when they bump into me. Keep …
/r/seduction22/02/22 03:54 PM
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I am not trying to argue. I just cannot imagine that working for anything other than sport fucking. Which I have done with zero regard for my partners because I made it clear it was sport fucking. I also ruined what could have been some pleasant relationships with that attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:49 PM
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Oh I mean I agree and also have to curb my enthusiasm with people sometimes. And when I'm just not having it I do tend to get more attention from men. Like when I'm trying to devour a bunch of tacos at the bar in peace somebody is libal to get bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:43 PM
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I think the difference is that when women put their own interests first we are looked at as a stone cold bitch because of what "women are supposed to be" in terms of kindness and sweetness etc. Socialization in a patriarchy means being accommodating because there are still holdovers from a time when we needed men to survive. I have to disagree though that people in general want decency, honesty, and respect. There is a balance between your goals in a given situation, the value you place on the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:41 PM
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The idea that fake kindness makes women want to be treated badly is part of the myth that "nice guys" perpetuate. They need this to be true because they would have to self reflect on their own shitty attitude and gain some real personal growth if they acknowledged the truth that they aren't kind or nice AT ALL. So women go and date a guy that is genuine and the "nice guy" starts comparing his fake idea of how great he is for BEING MODERATLY KIND to new guy and of course he thinks new guy is a di…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:26 PM
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The term "nice guy" refers to the tendency of guys who call themselves nice to expect attention, kindness, a romantic relationship, or sex as a transaction for basic human kindness on their part. If they do something for the woman and they don't get the expected thing in exchange they get nasty or resentful. They often are bitter that they inserted the fake kindness, or kindness coins, into the slotn pulled the lever and sex didn't fall out. We would rather they not offer to be a fake friend and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:18 PM
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I'm kind of glad you guys are experiencing this too. I thought I was making some unknown error in how I go about it.
/r/seduction21/02/22 06:57 PM
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I take this as a sign they aren't right for me. I schedule my life, I prefer not to be spontaneous. Thus frustrates Mr beyond belief when a person says they want something, like a date, but doesn't do the bare minimum, scheduling, to get that date. I give them times to choose and they say no....we will figure it out...Um NOooo. We won't and I'm done at that point. I assume the whole relationship will be like that and they aren't grown up enough to deal with. Chances are they do schedule once the…
/r/seduction21/02/22 06:55 PM
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I am not in any way advocating for a one sided relationship like OP is describing. Relationship rules should be reasonable and apply to both partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:03 AM
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Wow. Of course you never have to give without return but...the idea of being in love generally means you don't care about the hardships because you are so fulfilled. So by no means am I saying you should settle down with anyone. You really really shouldn't because It doesn't sound like you are mature enough to have any kind of real relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:02 AM
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But yes. That's why we say pro choice. Because I would never want to have to take my daughters in to have one but I want to know they and their doctor can decide on the best medical care for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:32 AM
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I appreciate your story. That must have been so hard. I went baby crazy after my miscarriage. It hurt so hard. I wasn't sure I wanted kids. They are sticky and irritating. But I was fiercely pro life when I first got pregnant and my Fiance wanted children we had to tell our families which was very hard because "sex is a sin" and even though children are supposed to be blessings from God let's make the mother feel like shit and make everything harder. My mom told me I was going to miscarry and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:31 AM
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I never did. I didn't have sex until I was with someone who had proposed and asked for kids. I think people in general are overestimating the efficiency of birth control and then told they need to make a choice. Which is horrible to have to do. Some legitimately don't need someone to support them and often find a fantastic step dad for their little family. There are statistics that show the more educated a woman is the less children they have...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 03:19 AM
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Hot is purchased and applied. It's also an attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 07:57 PM
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That is funny and explains a lot. When I dress really well and feel special and prettier than usual it will only be the most creepy guys at the local bars that approach me. When I'm eating Tacos like a savage in my flannel and work boots and tell them to give me room or they will likely get bitten I always ended up being hit on. Not sure why when I'm purposefully trying to throw off F-off vibes. Like back off my dudes I'm dressed like a lesbian lumber jack
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 07:55 PM
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Hot is purchased and applied . They all had regular 4-6 scale kinda chubby natural women who never styled their hair or wore any makeup. It's wild though that at least one of them hired only hot girls to work there...at least one stole from the health club after I left to have my baby
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:42 AM
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None of the personal trainers/physical therapists I have known over the years had a "hot" wife or even a very athletic significant other. I know many. I worked in the field
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:39 AM
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They post about body counts and how hard it is to get a "quality" woman without doing any work on themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:57 PM
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Lol no. Men are able to have bodily autonomy and women are not. It's fairly easy for men to get a vasectomy and it's terribly difficult for women to get a tubal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:22 PM
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OMG This thread is FULL of these guys...lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:19 PM
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Honestly we are looking for them to be kind, communicate, and have basic hygiene....bottom of the barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:17 PM
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It's cheaper to keep her? My parents are absolutely STUPID in love with each other after more than 50 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:15 PM
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Exactly. Op seems like the type to disparage gold diggers while keeping their head firmly in the sand...or other places..to avoid personal growth as a human being to make themselves a better partner candidate. All while lumping women into a weird homogeneous group.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:12 PM
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I happen to attract protective people. It happens less and less the older I get thank gods. It's not a silly game the lady you like wants or consented to. So you can try to subtly or humorously have the aggression wash off of you if you like her that much, knowing you might have to prove yourself to her and then freinds. Or you could tell her she needs to at least try to address this boundary issue. Or some combination. This is a careful delicate thing because she might be keeping this friendshi…
/r/seduction15/02/22 04:04 AM
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I am rubber, you are glue....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:03 AM
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"If you're getting men talking about the potential for something more before having sex, it's likely because you're directing the conversation there." Which is not at all true and my response was proof you don't know what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:42 AM
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Lol no. You said men aren't going to talk about serious things before sex happened and in my experience they do nothing but try and make me commit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:11 AM
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No, I definitely didn't want to settle down but was proposed to a lot. Also men telling me they wanted to knock me up so I "couldn't leave"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:37 AM
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I think the commitment guys are in a commitment. They aren't having casual sex and when single date seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:43 PM
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Lol. Yes Sir...
/r/seduction08/02/22 08:59 PM
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I always need an hour to shave and do skin care, hair, makeup if I want to get laid. I don't want to go to dinner in my work boots and flannel unless they like that sort of thing.
/r/seduction08/02/22 08:41 PM
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She IS making plans and sticking to them. She is negotiating for a convenient time for her.
/r/seduction08/02/22 01:17 PM
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It is the same as a sex robot in a way. Psychologically speaking the demons you feed in yourself is what will grow. If I know I have a temper for example and I choose to yell I am making it worse not better. A sex doll is a turn on if you want complete control over another thing. It's the end result, the ultimate form of seeing women as objects. They want a woman who is an object they can control completely and treat however they want. When the newest interactive Artificial Intelligent sex robot…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:07 AM
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Artificial Intelligence on the computer
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:59 AM
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https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdk6hBRE/
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:43 PM
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The idea that you are not seeing this is problematic because in order for women to feel comfortable getting a compliment from you, the other men need to stop treating us like trash or a used washcloth. They are out here creating AI girlfriends to abuse and negging to feel superior. When you refuse to see the problem that means you aren't calling other men out. Men need to stop letting this behavior pass. But you aren't directly affected every day like we are. You aren't even listening when we sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 05:02 PM
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I can tell from you well written comments that you are seeing women as people. A lot of men do not. They simply do not see women as people at all. They try to possess women as objects like their car or a dog. You can tell from the negative way they speak about women in general. A lot of them troll on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 04:56 PM
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One of us is....
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:55 PM
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I certainly did. Have not had any of those problems since but you sir, were ignorant, not me. Even The PH of the Vagina needs to be acid enough or things go very wrong.
/r/seduction02/02/22 05:34 PM
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The Vag has it's own microbiome. If you upset the natural balance you get either a yeast infection or what us called BV, bacterial vaginosis. Piss is relatively sterile. A person with bad oral hygiene made me sick for months. I kept getting Strep throat, yeast infections, BV. I stopped seeing him, got well. Had a full panel of tests done to be absolutely sure I was well and slept with him one last time. Guess what? I got super sick again. That relationship cost me over $1000 and I almost lost my…
/r/seduction02/02/22 05:28 PM
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Also of they are putting their tongue in my vagina I know what is up with them. Basic oral hygiene prevents most chronic oral health conditions. If they don't know and I tell them, but they argue, I'm not sticking around.
/r/seduction02/02/22 02:37 AM
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No. I'm not getting an infection because someone refuses to take care of themselves
/r/seduction02/02/22 02:32 AM
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A health condition needs medical attention
/r/seduction02/02/22 12:35 AM
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Lol Not leaving stink on my body isn't an unrealistic expectation. They need to see a dentist and floss.
/r/seduction01/02/22 04:33 PM
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It's insane how many times I casually mention how important oral health is, and they wholeheartedly agree, then have a horrible smelling dirty mouth even after brushing. I have no idea what they are doing in there. I can hear them brush but it just seems to have angered the smell. Then they argue they don't need to floss or whatever subtle hints you give. Like dude I don't need BV because of this.
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:02 AM
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Of course....?
/r/seduction30/01/22 02:26 AM
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I understand now that it matters to you that people don't dilute the meaning of certain words
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:58 PM
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Im wondering if you went to school for this like I did, Or work with a lot of socialists? I'm not putting you down I tried to be civil but honestly you just sound ignorant and it's not worth talking to a stupid person. Ignorant= doesn't know any better might be interesting to co verse with. Stupid= I'm telling them the facts because it's my field of study and they clearly only hear these things on social media or Google MD and refuse to be civil even when there is no way they are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:13 PM
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But as I said I was willing to use a term that worked for you for the sake of understanding each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:59 PM
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Feminists and Psycologists and Sociologists, anyone who is educated in healthy emotional intelligence, abuse, borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 05:59 PM
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I feel like it's important to accept that you aren't compatible if you aren't willing to accommodate a person you are interested in and go find someone who gets you. I love hearing someone's voice but if the information is important I want a text so I can look at it and remember. My daughters prefer texting and will not answer the phone unless it's me or other close friends. I'm basically the only person they talk to on the phone which is kind of them.
/r/seduction28/01/22 03:14 PM
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On the one side you have the problematic issue of men seeing a woman they loved for the fist time naked and being disappointed she isn't airbrushed to perfection. He will never be happy with a real life woman especially after she has his children. This attitude sexualizes child like or teenage bodies as perfect instead of embracing an adult female ideal. On the extreme end there is a type of porn featuring anorexic woman who are litterally dying. They are so thin their anus is exposed when stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:53 PM
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Just like "feeders", people who enjoy feeding their partner to the point where they can see the weight gain for sexual gratification, people who want to see women at an unhealthy weight on the thin side are especially dangerous because a person is more likely to die from being too thin than too big. Both CAN be done in a healthy way but the men who do not want any body fat on a woman or groom teenagers to hate their bodies are dangerous. The beauty standards from the 80s where the model and prin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:46 PM
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I do know you see it as one specific thing but that colloquially it's used in the broader sense of the word. Since you and I are having the conversation I changed my verbiage so you would understand I feel adults can be groomed even though you do not. But talking to most other people I know I can use grooming and they understand it's persistent boundary pushing with an agenda regardless of age
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 02:39 PM
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They call it the new supply. The abuser grooms the new supply while they are with the old supply. Then they can bounce back and forth or just have the new supply waiting just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 12:19 AM
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The word is used that way by people who want to have intelligent conversations about important topics. You might prefer boundary pushing. And since I said no loudly it would also only be attempted grooming and actual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:50 PM
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non sequitur much?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:16 PM
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It absolutely does. Especially if you are generally fat phobic and don't see fat men as people either
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:51 AM
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We are taught sex is a blessing of marriage and not to use it as a weapon. In healthy relationships that works great. You are a team and try to make sure you take care of each other's physical and emotional needs. If the man is abusive we are taught to be ever more submissive no matter what he does because he will respect it and see how much we love and respect his judgment. In real life abusers do not respect a door mat they only respect people who stand up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 09:02 AM
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I think they get brought up because a lot of these ideas are still engrained in society. Like guys who care about how many men a woman has been with. Unless they are germaphobes the only reason for that is purity culture and shaming women for wanting to enjoy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:57 AM
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Also Chuck Swindall and Focus on the family and other WVCY programs telling the Baptists and non denominational women to be submissive not just to the husband but any man and anyone in Authority. My babtist cousins couldn't wear pants among other things. Both Grandmothers obeyed their Son in laws when they stayed with them. At least my mom's mom was passive aggressive about How she did what she was told. I loved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:53 AM
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Wisconsin Evangelical Lutheran Synod. We were told to submit to our husbands in everything. Of course many women ignored that but I didn't. It wasn't fun because my X-husband made dumb ass decisions all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:50 AM
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If you don't want a wife and children then don't have sex because no birth cotrol is 100%. If you do want a wife and children she has to take off of work for 6 weeks minimum for each child as long as there are no complications like having to be on bed rest while pregnant. Most take off longer. 12 weeks in the US. Breastfeeding is considered best now so if she can do that she will save tons on formula but the baby may never want to take a bottle so...then when you have baby number 2 daycare might…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:45 AM
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You litterally asked if Fat women deserve to be picky as if the obvious answer is no. Everyone is an actual living breathing person with feelings and their rights don't dissolve because you don't find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:35 AM
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I assure Trylambda she is doing Chad and very much enjoying it. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:33 AM
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And yet these pretzels are in fact making me thirsty...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 07:55 AM
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If you weren't doing it you wouldn't have to argue with me about it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:05 PM
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I'm not going to argue with you so you can feel justified abusing other people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:04 PM
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It's not that hard. You shouldn't be doing any of the behaviors listed as grooming anyway unless you are a complete dick. If you are not decent human being who sees women as people instead of objects then you wouldn't have to reply
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:04 PM
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Here is a website created to fight against adult grooming https://caage.org/what-is-adult-grooming/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:02 PM
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That is an excellent example thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:02 PM
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Here is an article about grooming in the workplace. I will find more https://speakfully.com/blog/signs-of-grooming-in-the-workplace
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 10:00 PM
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I just prefer not to have weird creepy men not grab my crotch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:59 PM
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You sound like you need this to be true because you don't respect people's boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:58 PM
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jeffrey epstein
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:57 PM
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It is also used for children yes. But the term doesn't change because you want to excuse your behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:52 PM
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Negging was big and still is being used all the time. That is part of grooming behavior. I'm almost 50 and when I am sitting in a bar and a stranger keeps trying to put their hand on my leg-grooming. The behaviors are meant to push boundaries past where the other person wants them and then push again. I also call it boundary pushers. You know what? When I don't allow a hand on my thigh to be polite and not make a scene and be a "nice girl" I DON'T GET RAPED
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:51 PM
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I honestly don't care what SJWs say or do. I find it suspicious when people try to eliminate speech that means a specific thing. It make you look like a creeper
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 09:47 PM
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This is a really broad sweeping statement without any sort of facts behind it. Yes I feel false accusations are incredibly problematic but you seem to really hate women with all these statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:34 PM
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Way to not read anything I wrote
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:31 PM
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Not asking first is attempted rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:02 PM
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Lol no it's there so you can tell someone not to touch you regardless of gender. I do know highly religious women who in their teenage years purposefully put themselves in the position you are speak of but it's weird and rare and born out of purity culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 07:01 PM
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Grooming is grooming regardless of age. It could be the young guys who take older women for their $ too. Or younger women taking $ from older men for that matter. It's the power dynamics that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:28 PM
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But there is a long history in sociology, psychology, professors who boink students, and sex slavery saying that grooming people who are vulnerable is damaging to those people who have been groomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:25 PM
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If you touch a person without consent it's already assault in the US....why are you so against being asked? Do you not have any agency for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:55 PM
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I am saying, as a woman, some women play games especially religious ones that have a sex drive. It has always caused me extra trouble because I am straightforward and honest. My no means no and if I want something I ask for it. I was always the one to kiss a boy first in my youth but remained a virgin till engaged to be married. Now that I'm older I do what I want and generally have my choice of partners. But new partners are a pain because of the game playing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:52 PM
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The only reason women would need deniability would be if consensual sex was bad. That's purity culture BS. If the law required it there would be less sexual assault and women would have to come out and say what they mean to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 05:31 AM
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If I sidled up to you and told you how hot you were but talked over you as if you were a stupid baby man, ignored what you told me, insisted you have no idea what you want and tried to coerce you to go against your own thoughts and feelings. You woukd be forced to make a scene or block me.. unless you loved the Fem Dom dynamic this wouldn't work but that is what these guys are saying. They should be able to just pick up an ideal woman at 7-Eleven like a pack of beer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:15 PM
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You have no statistics either way but we do know that what people are thinking when asked about their ideal and how they feel when meeting someone in person is very different. I can tell you all the men commenting here are looking at the outside of women and wanting/ trying to gain access to women they find attractive, and not one of them accepts that they would need to listen to what women tell them instead of telling women what to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:11 PM
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After a couple days of this I see the problem. You need to not only see women as people with thoughts and feelings but actually believe they are. It shouldn't be easy to get into a relationship with your ideal. You need to be emotionally intelligent and a good communicator. You need to help her figure out what she needs and tell her your thoughts and feelings. Beauty will fade. You theoretically only need ONE woman to say yes right? Then if you want children understand she will be expanded, cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:07 PM
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Most of the obese men I know do very well with the ladies. It's about a woman knowing you value her as a person. Beauty is just the wrapper, you are going to want to find her interesting and vice versa. People date outside of their physical ideal because they ACTUALLY LIKE the person. You guys are so very cynical. Lol I see a person's inner worth and that can make the best looking guy a gross turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 08:01 PM
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Because everyone needs to have your beauty standards? That would also explain big women making huge amounts of money on only fans and selling thier underwear
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:29 PM
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Sex after 30 years for a lot of married people is exciting even if it's the same stuff. Or if you are compatible with your partner and you both need constant change then you do that. The problem with fooling around with a virgin who values virginity for itself things start to get boring or they get weird. Your age difference is probably also a factor. But I admire that telling her to back off was your first instinct rather than trying to pressure her.
/r/seduction24/01/22 04:48 AM
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This is the way
/r/seduction24/01/22 04:44 AM
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And the only reason we are having this conversation is because I'm telling you and the other 3 guys arguing with me that nome of you are actually listening and accepting what women are saying. I gave you two different analogies and you just threw it out and talked over me about your experience when this conversation is about OP trying to bag a woman he thinks won't even talk to him. All because he believes the male gaze and mindset is all and dismisses women like you are doing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:38 AM
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This conversation is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:34 AM
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Also I have been every size there is and men still like me. I get to have sex with any man I ask pretty mucc and am approached all the time regardless of my size. I have had partners wish I was a little smaller but more that wish I would gain weight Depending on if they are boob or ass men. Also what makes you assume I am straight lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:44 AM
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All I hear is that you want to argue that I should like something in the way You personally think I should. You are expending a lot of energy to find common ground and be kind which is nice but you still are arguing I don't know what I like and you are telling me what you think I should like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:42 AM
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The main point is that you are still saying the vanilla cone is the shit and not listening to a women telling you what she likes to the point where You are arguing with ME about what I personally find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:21 AM
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And I'm telling you "most" women have never needed men to have a 6 pack. A dad bod is a relatively healthy guy with a little pooch tummy and a little extra body fat. Because he used to work out and doesn't have as much time. Or he's eating more cheetos lately
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:20 AM
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I have a pattent pending practically fool proof method of evaluation I call "the three questions". I can tell quite a bit about who they are and out compatability from the answers
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:17 AM
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Are you spending as much time naked with bears at 30% as I am? Because if not then perhaps you would accept my experience sleeping on them. You are litterally saying I shouldn't like what I like. Which is my point. Men don't really listen to what we want, overlay that with what they think we should want, and then complain they don't understand women when we litterally are telling you and you just don't accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:13 AM
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It also sounds like you just don't respect women's right to their own personal experience because you "know" studies show....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:10 AM
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When you consistently accept what people tell you and act on the basis that what they are telling you is their truth, if it's not then they either need to leave your life, or realize they don't really believe what they said and they cut their bullshit. This is also a great way to catch people in a lie. By completely acknowledging their truth and acting supportive of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 02:09 AM
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I will use another analogy. Let's say women's opinions on ice cream flavors are polled for fun and the results are posted. Women say they prefer chocolate. Men think women SHOULD like vanilla because that's what they think women should like. Men have a personal attachment to vanilla and reject the idea of women liking chocolate. Then OP comes on here and says I keep standing around with Vanilla cones and these ladies aren't interested. I know some ladies would settle for my little vanilla cone b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:40 AM
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Why would we need to "interpret the data" instead of listening when people tell you what they like?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:33 AM
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Because you are talking to me and that's what I asked. You wrote me a whole entire book back in response without actually responding.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:32 AM
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Lol 30% on most guys is a little extra around the middle, a nice round bum, and No skinny chicken legs
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:31 AM
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But that's Loki not Thor. You are proving my point
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:57 PM
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It depends on fat distribution in the body. It still is too hard to sleep on, my ear still falls asleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:57 PM
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Yes! Soft dom/ power bottom or a Brat. It's fun! And no I tried looking up the red pill blue pill thing. I don't understand it and I studied sociology lol. Maybe because the term red pill has been used in a number of different ways meaning different things because of the movie or because of the color red.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:56 PM
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I never met any other woman that was into muscles the same way I am and I have always had friends from all different age groups. Lol The only people I know that universally love the way body builders look are straight dudes at the gym....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:53 PM
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I started working out at 14. Gen X
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:51 PM
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I would try listening instead of rejecting what women say because the answer was different than you thought it would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:51 PM
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I can agree about what people say and what they do in real life are certainly different, but you didn't address why I'm getting 4-5 men on here alone actively attributing some sort of malice or moral shortcoming about women stating preference and or men rejecting these women's opinions as invalid when these men are trying to attract that group of women. I imagine gender might not even matter, we would have to look at sane sex couples to know. But my point was OP was asking a question, I'm saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:48 PM
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I practically lived at the gym on and off, almost competed myself in the late 90s, and my dentist was a Mr. Universe. I know tons of men like that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:29 PM
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I just said it in a clumsy way and didn't punctuate properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:27 PM
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I don't know ow what TRP means but the TicTok Kink crowd likes that Loki is both a gracious Dom and a beautifully dominating sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:26 PM
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You are making assumptions. They say it's because of Loki's personality and charm and also they think huge muscles are ugly. (I don't, I would like to be in a Loki /Thor sandwich)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:24 PM
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No. My ear falls asleep laying on a ripped guy and I like squishy warm wonderful people. There is nothing better thana little squish wrapped around steel arms. Like 25-30% body fat vs the 5-15% they try for in the gym to impress other dudes. I absolutely wanted to be prettier than my partner when I was younger because I'm tall and muscular and want to feel girly sometimes. But as I get older I allow pretty men to date me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:23 PM
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That was my point. Men do not understand what women want and instead of accepting that and learning from it they insist women SHOULD like what they think we should like.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:19 PM
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Your speculation is just that. I'm wondering why, when faced with data about what women like or don't like the automatic response on here is to make that preference negative
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:18 PM
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You are assuming a lot. Besides which the point is finding another human you like and impressing them not being some physical ideal that a specific demographic thinks is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:16 PM
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I just didn't state it very well. I meant women nowadays are talking on social media about how much more attractive Loki is to them as opposed to Thor but Men THINK women should like Thor. Men with dad bods are feeling bad about themselves and women on social media are telling them they LOVE the dad bod. And lastly in the 80s and 90s when I was a female gym rat/meat head I thought Schwarzenegger was really hot and every other woman I met said all those muscles were gross and ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:14 PM
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Really skinny guys tend to like bigger girls. They are both getting their physical ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:13 PM
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That's men thinking with the male gaze. Women overwhelmingly prefer Loki to Thor mostly because of personality but also we like strong men and dad bods. I'm actually one of the few women I have ever met that thinks jacked men are hot. Most women didn't like Schwarzenegger for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:11 PM
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The men who go nuts over women who are dying of anorexia those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:02 PM
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They are specifically referring to women who are obese/ unattractive....they say obese and very unattractive are THE SAME THING. So YOU and I both disagree with OP then but they definitely are saying obese=so unattractive other women shouldn't compliment them and I have no idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:00 PM
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There was an article I read about that a nurse switched over 1000 babies. I'm not sure it's true but that would eliminate that problem. DNA both parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 01:41 AM
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OP related obesity directly in the edit. It's the very last line in the edit. The words they used were they don't mean slightly unattractive they mean obese women OR totally universally ugly. Meaning they equate obesity with total universally unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:56 PM
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OP was showing that they felt attractiveness is linked to skinnyness. The attractiveness vs body fat percentage ratio doesn't exist because attractiveness doesn't work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:19 AM
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Most men I have met love a little extra. There is a specific type of man that wants a super skinny anorexic woman with big breasts. They are usually not great people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:17 AM
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Sociologists and Feminists talk about the female gaze vs the male gaze a lot. But that is what you are asking, if women are lying or if they have a completely different view on Beauty and the value of a person. Feminists often talk about how men think they should look to be attractive. An example is the argument Loki vs Thor. Men thought women would of course like Thor better. Women overwhelmingly chose Loki as thecmore attractive one. Men thought the bulging muscles were more attractive as an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:39 AM
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Take a compliment at face value. If she says she likes your shoes it just means she likes your shoes. If she is hintng at more but not obviously flirting then just say thank you. If she is being flirty and Charming you can try practice flirting to test the waters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:26 AM
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When I was in my sociology class in college I read a study that asked men and women what was the biggest indicator a person wanted to have sex. Women gave various answers. 80% of Men said when women SMILE at them. They think we want to have SEX because we SMILED AT THEM. A compliment is definitely seen as flirting. I'm glad you don't see it that way but yeah, this isn't the only study like that. Look up street harassment experiments online if you want to be totally disgusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:21 AM
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Also pretty is natural HOT is purchased and applied. I have seen women I personally do not think are pretty AT ALL put on expensive clothes and hair and lashes etc. And men fall all over each other. This doesn't matter if she is skinny or thick. I have seen bigger women have a group of men enthralled too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:14 AM
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You are showing your hand there using the word Obese. Not everyone sees a woman and thinks "God what an ugly woman better not value them as a person. She doesn't fit my personal aesthetic no one should praise her! Think what might happen if she is happy and has self esteem! "
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 01:10 AM
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Anyway. I have sex because it's fun and feels good. Most women I know just want a partner who is fun, safe, and makes them feel good. Derp.
/r/seduction16/01/22 03:41 PM
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I didn't read any of this BS. Either women are HEALTHY HUMANS or they are not. The women you praise as the best case scenario are either super introverted in which case you won the lottery, or they aren't ok and cannot even hold a conversation let alone Marry you
/r/seduction16/01/22 01:01 AM
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You are describing human beings not just women. If you delt with women the same as any human you will either get a wife or realize you treat people like shit
/r/seduction14/01/22 03:48 AM
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Still completely beside the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 01:54 AM
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No other instances matter. You cannot dictate My personal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 08:09 PM
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No I worked at a place with lots of women who worked out and am telling their experience. It's what is called anecdotal evidence. You are in fact jumping on here when it's completely unnecessary to refute my own personal experience, which is impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 06:04 PM
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This didn't even make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 05:49 PM
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We litterally just want men to wash their balls and be a decent human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 12:56 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean. The men were all different body types, they just became insecure when their wives got healthier and gained confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 12:56 AM
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I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 08:16 PM
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So it's hypocritical of you to criticize me for not remembering and "guessing"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:43 PM
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You are the one guessing the gender of the authors I used in my freshman year research paper so ...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:18 PM
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Lol Oh My! Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:54 PM
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Kind of thd point of a research paper is you don't get to state much of your opinion lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:53 PM
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It's sad but unfortunately this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:52 PM
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Like I said I'm remembering old research. I could be remembering wrong but I took psychology in college in 2005 and I remember they said it then too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:51 PM
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I needed 10 books on the subject and 2 periodicals and this was the 80s. So it was more likely male authors.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:46 PM
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It's more that men tend to use methods that you rarely survive from.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:43 PM
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The research I did at that time suggested that no one Really wanted to die. Boys just choose more lethal methods. I hope we have progressed to the point where we can help people regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:18 AM
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Yes The point of my post. And the point of the research I read.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:15 AM
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The point of the books I read was that yes, females were choosing less lethal methods for attention. The author hypothesized that it's possible men had an equal reluctance but coincidentally chose more lethal methods.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:14 AM
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In 1989 I wrote a research paper. I was at the library and realized my topic didn't have enough sources so I chose suicide. There were tons of sources saying male people happen to choose such violent ways to unalive themselves that it is almost impossible to save them whereas females choose less violent methods and they tend to be thwarted in their efforts
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 03:10 AM
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It's a man thing not an America thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:36 PM
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Hmm. It isn't something I can put into words here that would help anyone else because I'm not the person you would need to impress at a bar or whatever. But I like guys who are kind and funny, and if they tease they know when to stop. I like people that like me and tell me so. But if I feel a spark I'm going to ask them nerdy questions to see if we are compatible.
/r/seduction06/01/22 05:21 AM
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Hygiene. Talking about Hygiene and they agree how important it is but they still never floss or wash between the balls and the thigh, yuck....and Boundary Pushing. I will absolutely not trust someone in the bedroom if they do not take no for an answer outside of it with our clothing on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:35 AM
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I do not understand the question. Are you asking what interests me in a man? Like what do I find attractive?
/r/seduction06/01/22 03:31 AM
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Your user name is litterally Tod the Rod and you expect me to believe you aren't looking for a "hot" skinny chick with big boobs and tons of makeup only to complain how fake women are. But I can't "name some" when it's almost every personal trainer and physical therapist I knew in 1998. My proof was meeting them all at the company Christmas Party for Bally Total Fitness. Also where I live none of the men care about the size of the girl but one town over the bars look like "attack of bleach blond…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:30 AM
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The fact is that there are very odd beauty standards that change depending on the decade. These never have reflected the actual preferences of men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:42 PM
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Yes what bothered me is that certain men will devalue women and see them as objects and call women fat or fattys even when they aren't. I honestly thought I was huge when I was suffering from malnutrition from Celiac desease as a teenager. I'm much healthier now and much more attractive. I look back on those photos and I was a stick person but was called fat all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:28 PM
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Oh for sure I will troll a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:24 PM
2

Also when I went to college a ton women there ended up divorced because they wouldn't allow their partner to sabotage their success.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:23 PM
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I just read a post about it here somewhere but I used to work at a health club and would see it all the time when women started feeling a sense of confidence, control and mastery over their health and fitness the men ofyen started to freak out and throw huge baby fits about the woman going to the gym instead of going to the gym with them and enjoying their company lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:22 PM
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You started out well. Now you seem to make women into objects, and not valuable in any way as humans because they failed to cater to what you see as a common beauty standard. Women are adding fat to their bodies right now with expensive cosmetic surgery because of THAT beauty standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:12 PM
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And then these men marry women that are a little overweight because the men are insecure thinking they can't do any better instead of working on their own issues of self worth so they can have true value...and the women lose weight and the men freak out and start trying to sabotage the diet
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:09 PM
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Also there are tons of stories about the husbands trying to sabotage the wife's diet and exercise regimen. I have seen this in my own family and friends group. Most of the men wanted their wives bigger and the wives were still brainwashed into trying to be thinner than is even healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:06 PM
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Lol Athletes often prefer bigger women. I know a ton of really gross men who expect boobs on a stick with all the "hot chick" trappings. Since "hot" is purchased and applied and a little bigger woman can eat better and go for a walk men IF the weight bothers anyone, men are choosing women of quality to build a life with. What's left are men who don't meet the lowest standards of hygiene and basic manners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:03 PM
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I always recommend to practice flirting without and end game. What I mean is practice light friendly banter with anyone you vibe with. It can Just be fun and engaging or serious dry humor. You get the extra benefit of finding someone who thinks your humor is actually funny. They used to actually recommend this to teenagers in the 50s lol.
/r/seduction05/01/22 04:49 PM
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This is going to sound like a dumb question but..Are you treating women like people that are interesting? Are they interesting? I'm not really attracted to men that don't like me specifically and are happy to have sex just on my looks alone. I'm evaluating them and I'm obvious about it. Like an "I'm deciding how much I'm going to like you" vibe. I don't get rejected very often because I'm mainly just flirting and having fun and if they interest me too then I'm probably going to have sex.
/r/seduction04/01/22 01:22 PM
1

Yes. If she was interested in you she would have told that guy. She wasn't. She chose to take a nuerotyplical "easy" way out. I'm not nuerotyplical so I would be direct and just tell you I'm not interested and why. So now people call me the ice queen. I'm ok with that
/r/seduction01/01/22 08:16 PM
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I was lol.
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:50 PM
1

So what percentage of women want children and have realistic expectations when deciding on the father of their kids?
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:03 PM
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If they want to have children they need to find a financially stable partner with savings and disability insurance in case he gets sick. You have to take a minimum of 6 weeks off if everything goes to plan and you are very healthy with an "easy" delivery. Then if you want more than one child, which has advantages for the children with socialization, at some point childcare costs can take basically all her income. At 2 or 3 kids it doesn't make sense to work. It is likely She won't be the same si…
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:03 PM
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I'm not surprised you would hear it more in the military. Part of the entire point of military training is to detach you from your humanity so you can compartmentalize the job you need to do to protect the country. You have to try to reconnect with that side after without a lot of mental help. The strongest people with the best support are able to switch over after.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:11 PM
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I expect people I make plans with to show up. They don't get second chances. This must be outside of the norm but that is fine because if the person isn't kind, thoughtful of me, and punctual we aren't compatible. I had the worst time with online dating because people didn't understand how to schedule and wanted things to be spontaneous. Well that only works if you are single with a lot of free time.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:38 AM
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Yeas most women see using the term Females as dehumanizing to them. Even if you don't mean it that way it will seem that way to a lot of people. Guys who think of women as their personal property or a cum dump often call women "Females"
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:33 AM
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Actually having hobbies and focus on self development is attractive
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:31 AM
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No. People need to take responsibility for their own actions. I get the impression OP is tryingvto justify their own biased opinions. I think this whole post is toxic and harmful to both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 11:12 PM
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Also female virginity has been thought to have physical evidence to back up the concept. It doesn't. This is a board certified OBGYN reviewing another video on the subject. https://youtu.be/LJrAINBwf-c
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:02 PM
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I know I'm going to get downvoted on a thread like this but It's just more toxic masculinity harming men. The feminist ideology is that the amount of sex you have is no more stigmatized than your hair color. The entire concept of virginity was fabricated by patriarchal society that harms men as much as it harms women. Emotions and concepts become gendered and judged based on how feminine it is. So a man doing these supposed feminine things, like being a virgin, is judged by women because they gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:59 PM
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The concept of female virginity developed because women were property. You were and sometimes still are your father's property to be sold or given away. They didn't have DNA tests so being a virgin insured the children were your bloodline. A woman with little to no desire for sex was preferred. They did NOT want women to enjoy sex at all. Let that sink in. This is still happening in the world today. So no we cannot act like male "promiscuity" is the same for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 03:56 PM
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Everyone is different so what is too pushy for me might be perfect for someone else. But it's usually things that aren't OK no matter who you are. A man actually bit me on the neck 20 minutes after meeting me the first time and tried to prevent me from using the bathroom. I went anyway and decided not to stay. He was shocked. I'm not sure why he thought any of this was ok. I might have said I'm submissive at some point but that is a huge trust thing a partner has to earn. So a reasonable person …
/r/seduction27/12/21 05:10 PM
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Usually it's red flags. If they are decent and polite I'm going to see them again. Mostly boundary pushing. If a person doesn't respect boundaries with my clothes on they aren't ever getting me alone in a room. It's not safe.
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:44 PM
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I am always honest. So if they threw up red flags like boundary pushing I would say so. I would almost always go on a second date if I just wasn't feeling it but they were and asked to see me again. If I didn't feel anything after the second date I would say I'm not feeling a spark. I do not ask to be "just friends".
/r/seduction27/12/21 02:41 PM
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I actually always advocate truthfulness. And they layers we really thankful. But at the time it hurt and they were not a fan.
/r/seduction27/12/21 01:57 AM
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It is not conventionally polite to say straight out the real reason you do not want a second date. I am very direct and men hate it. I have been given the nickname "the blender" for just telling people why I wasn't interested.
/r/seduction27/12/21 01:55 AM
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I can't do it. Just the photo shop alone is a skill. And the market is completely saturated so it's also competitive. It's not something I would ever want to do but I'm not an ass about what other people like unless they are shoving it on me. Just don't have Instagram. Problem solved
/r/seduction26/12/21 09:53 PM
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Also we hate dicks flying at us. Nobody wants to see a stranger's dick
/r/seduction26/12/21 01:10 PM
1

Also think about what your core values are, set reachable goals for your own personal development, and achieve those goals and you will have better self esteem and self worth. You won't have to fake confidence because you will have it no matter who you date.
/r/seduction26/12/21 01:07 PM
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I am a woman. Do NOT not talk to her about your feelings. DO take responsibility for those feelings. Like "wow sometimes I feel a little insecure about this Instagram thing but I know you are such an attractive person of course you would do well on Instagram." Also doing well in Instagram takes talent. You have to hold your body a certain way, wear the right clothes, do your makeup, edit photos. Compliment her TALENT and abilities more than her physical appearance.
/r/seduction26/12/21 01:05 PM
0

I casually like men who don't hurt my ear during snuzzles
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:36 AM
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Cannot tell you how often "fat ass" was an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:20 AM
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Women keep telling men we don't want a body builder we want a Plush Strong Man. IE...a dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:19 AM
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Exactly. Boundaries are Boundaries, they don't dissappear because you are getting head.
/r/seduction25/12/21 12:15 AM
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Don't spend time with anyone who doesn't respect your time even friends.
/r/seduction24/12/21 09:58 PM
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I am in 2 ten year relationships with those guys and yes I often think I'm a F-ing idiot. However I get what I want when I want and don't have to deal with anything I don't....and they are very upset when they don't get individual time with me. It's actually very sweet and makes me feel cared for and needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 03:29 AM
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That took an odd turn considering you just said women are humans just like us
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:37 PM
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This post is actually just telling men in a long drawn out way to treat women like they are people. Treat them the same way you treat a new guy freind. Yes! We are all human beings. But if you are that mad about having to do a little work to keep that friendship then no you shouldn't have a relationship. There is nothing wrong with being alone and grooving by yourself
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:21 PM
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It's almost like women are whole ass people who are worth talking to regardless of their relationship status. That is why this works by the way. OP is just telling you how to treat a woman like a person.
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:16 PM
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I agree I can't fix your refusal to read plain English and understand the context
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:13 PM
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Doesn't matter. Calling the behavior slutty is calling the behavior slutty. If you can't read get off reddit
/r/seduction18/12/21 03:12 PM
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I haven't seen it myself but have read it from various sources because I like to read advice type columns that some men think touching their ass to clean it in any way would make them gay. Whether this was a legitimate thing or something made up to be sensational I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:20 PM
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IT'S IN THE TITLE
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:06 PM
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If the guy has allowed her to naturally morph into relationship mode then YES he is the AH. If she is having your baby, washing and folding your dirty skid mark undies an a making you breakfast at 4 am before you Dean to show up at work then you owe her. If not then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:11 AM
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I mean if you are saying reddit is full of men who see women in the kink community as emotionally broken sluts too then that's your opinion
/r/seduction17/12/21 12:11 AM
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He 100% called people sluts
/r/seduction17/12/21 12:10 AM
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Dan Savage writes a fun light advice column called Savage Love and talks about all topics concerning sex and sexuality. He is very "tell it like it is"
/r/seduction16/12/21 07:59 AM
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Then you don't understand the kink community and shouldn't be commenting until you educate yourself.
/r/seduction16/12/21 07:53 AM
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It seemed like an insult veiled in the guise of genuine interest. But we are all just damaged floozies so we wouldn't notice.
/r/seduction15/12/21 09:34 PM
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Even being held down a little is light bondage. I feel like cuffs and immobilization is pretty up there within the bondage world but I also think it's normal not to think of what you like as being extreme. It's not to you, it's just what you like.
/r/seduction15/12/21 04:39 PM
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You can't be a good dom reducing the entire group of people who like impact play into self loathing slutty abuse victims instead of understanding the marvelous variety of ways the body can be used to bring pleasure
/r/seduction15/12/21 04:36 PM
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Everything you said there is problematic and judgemental. I would never allow you as my dom. You clearly have no respect for subs. You say you are in the kink community and use words like "slutty" and think people get into kink because of Abuse (of course because seeking pleasure is Slutty)
/r/seduction15/12/21 04:34 PM
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I mean the word is short for "involuntary celibate" which could apply to any political ideology. Usually I see the word thrown around when men are being particularly insulting to women and treating them as if all women have the same negative things attributed to them. Women who call out misogyny are automatically seen as liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 05:57 PM
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It's a story I have heard from human trafficking survivers yes. The trafficker groomed the girls into sending naked photos and used them to blackmail them into seeking out along with threats of killing them and their parents. These girls are forced into prostitution seeing many many men every night. It gets worse from there. Legalized prostitution would cut into those profits because many men would choose not to risk getting caught and use the legal consenting adult sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:31 PM
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The same mwn who frequent prostitutes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:30 AM
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I mean I think the 14 year old Midwestern girl forced to sneak out of her home at night to service men over 25 because prostitution isn't legal might have something to say about that. But I agree a lot of women hate other women who are OK with sex. It's sad and not really about sex at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:30 AM
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Sometimes a guy taking No for an answer is comforting. She might just feel more comfortable being herself without having to worry about your feelings or she could be interested because you were a gentleman respecting her "no".
/r/seduction08/12/21 05:40 PM
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They can..I'm not sure what you are after here. We keep telling you it's a very bizarre question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 09:53 AM
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No you said you would EXPECT them to do it knowing they would be in pain for YOU or they don't Looove you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 12:18 AM
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Right! Exactly! You admit you prefer to date inexperienced women that are in your mind easier to coerce so they do things that hurt just to please you. Then after they go to therapy and get help for the abuse and get some self esteem they say NO to painful awful sex with monsters. Boo hoo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:49 PM
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You describe a scenario that is definitely NOT consensual and get upset that non consent is rape
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:45 PM
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We all want to know how you keep you boner or get pleasure out of coercing someone to be in PAIN.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:44 PM
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I totally agree. I basically said this in another post and got down voted because I used the R word to describe "sex she said no to but was pushed or threatened into having"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:42 PM
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This conversation is about having a man pout or threaten to leave because you gave in to some other man you also didn't want to do that thing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:09 PM
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That concept isn't in the post at all.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/21 05:00 PM
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The idea that anyone thinks their partner is the only one that would have them just isn't true unless they have psychological issues that need to be addressed and the women here have been telling you that for at least a day now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:58 PM
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I have been a woman my whole life and have been on social media since it was invented. This is the first time anyone suggested women are worried a MAN is settling. Social media is full of women fed up with thier faithful male partners treating them like a maid and acting like the bare minimum of effort is enough to keep their interest. Women know you can litterally go outside and throw a rock and hit a man who will commit to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:56 PM
1

Right? In OP's scenario just be polyamorous
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:21 AM
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Honestly, if you want to be so male world centric the fairy tale ideal is for the man's attention to be on only the "princess" and it doesn't take his attractiveness into account in any way. His attractiveness in that scenerio is his class and wealth. You are basically arguing with the princess for liking him back after he takes an interest in her. That's shitty. Let the two overly beautiful or ugly ass people enjoy each other. It's really none of your business either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:20 AM
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"Is that what you say to your girlfriend when her boyfriend shows interest in other hot girls? YES. Everyone is attracted to other people and the more you try to control them the more problems you will have. “Honey stop this obvious low self esteem bullshit. There is no way on earth your boyfriend will not be attracted to other women. He finds all kinds of women attractive every day and chooses you. Stop punishing him for it. Get therapy.” YES GET THERAPY I’m sure that’s exactly what you’d say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:12 AM
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No you asked what my advice to MY girlfriend would be. Obviously NOWI know you meant my freind who is a girl. I didn't at the time you asked because I'm pansexual. Buy even if I was heterosexual you question sounded like it wasn't about platonic friends
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:09 AM
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If by "you" you mean you aren't having "good" debates with women..and you still blame the women, you shouldn't talk to women any more. If the point of the conversation is for people to pat you on the head and tell you you are so right and you are a good boy you need your mommy or a Dom
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:52 AM
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It is not my fault You have a very narrow view of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:50 AM
1

Bonobos dude. Bonobos. You must just be a Chimp
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:23 AM
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Lol You are addressing ME. If you didn't gaf you would direct your attention elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:13 AM
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I had no idea you were so selfish involved you would phrase your statements in such a heteronormative way it could be misinterpreted
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:12 AM
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Ol I'm NOT an lesbian
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:10 AM
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Boring people just say Hi. I have no idea why anyone does that. You are just trying to argue with me for any reason you can. Perhaps it's because you are boring and need active participants to spar with
/r/seduction07/12/21 03:10 AM
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Actually my girlfriend is Soo very hot when I see the way she looks at her boyfriend. It really turns me on that I'm emotionally capable of handling all of the emotions of my partners
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 02:55 AM
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Less relevant...diluted by other things..because the premise is purposefully avoiding anything relevant to real life in order to win over women because I OP has poor social skills and is offending women in real life so they have to use reddit to validate their shitty attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 02:54 AM
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I guess my question would be what qualified you to answer my statement. Unless you were just agreeing with me the whole time..
/r/seduction07/12/21 02:51 AM
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I have seen multiple variations of this in the last few days. You all are rapists. Any act which a person is not willing to do, even if you did it in the past with them, is rape if you insist and somehow forced a Yes. Forcing a yes is rape. If the did something with you and didn't want to do it next time and you coerce them or talk them into it-RAPE... It's actually the definition of rape. So you are like...I still want to judge my significant other for things I didn't even want to do? Oh yeah t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:49 AM
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There are no "wrong" presumptions. All of us are saying this in multiple ways. I read the whole thread it was full of soft versions of this same thought. Your self esteem isn't our problem
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:44 AM
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So, there is no way on earth your wife was never or will never be attracted to someone else. She chose you for a variety of reasons. So you are out here subjecting all of reddit to your personal insecurity and these incels are lapping it up. Get therapy. Your wife finds all kinds of people attractive all the time every day and chooses you. Stop punishing her for it. If you keep this up she won't keep you. Be grateful she loves you. Stop this obvious low self esteem bullshit. Any emotionally inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:41 AM
1

So Don't interact with boring people. Problem solved. The difference is volume. Not any shade on you. Buy statistically women are absolutely baraged online and men get some contacts.
/r/seduction07/12/21 01:36 AM
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The premise is flawed. Any person who feels they only have one prospect in our western modern society does not understand basic human interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:34 AM
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Then, as you say,, you are attractive to more than one woman and OP's premise does not apply to you. The premise is there are zero other prospects. I think most of us agree is an individual has zero prospects other than one there are more problems with that individual than reddit can effectively deal with. It is OP's attempt at a set up that women can't argue around. The only thing I'm getting from this is that OP sees women as things or unavailable concepts instead of actual people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:32 AM
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You litterally had to write a romance novel enemies to lovers book put to figure out a scenario. The story is good but it took a lot of mental gymnastics. OP is trying so hard to get the answer they want the premise doesn't even make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 09:33 PM
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As Queen said someone who has only one romantic prospect in their lifetime has issues a relationship can't fix. Either they have plenty of options and have such low self esteem they think a women who likes them is dirt BECAUSE she likes them or they have some behavioral issues that only a woman who hates herself wouldput up with. Either way they need a good therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 09:30 PM
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OP is trying to box the question to the point where actual reality isn't there anymore to get answers they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 09:27 PM
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The whole question seems like op didn't get the response they wanted from another post and is trying to take options out of it so you Have to pick from the options they want so they can be right. The whole thought process just sounds really degrading to people on both sides. Op maybe just needs therapy because they are getting an answer. Just not the one they want to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 09:24 PM
1

I never said I wasn't pretentious.
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:18 PM
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I do have some childlike qualities and some very sophisticated ones. One of which is a love of older literature. Wit is regarded well among literary people. I can already tell by this conversation you don't read older literature or the classics like the Bronte sisters. You are attempting to Neg me. Perhaps you should try the Googles if you don't understand basic communication.
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:46 PM
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It's not possible to "act" witty. You either are or you are not. On the other hand Negging is for the unskilled conversationalist. You show a clear contempt for women. I'm surprised you talk to them at all
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:37 PM
1

This just shows you are so emotionally immature that you don't understand a dialectic
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:15 PM
1

We are saying the exact same thing. One person shouldn't have to carry the conversation. If it's that hard to communicate with this person you aren't obligated to keep it going either.
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:14 PM
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Being female I get over 100 messages on dating aps in an hour unless I put things in my bio that intentionally weeds out F-boys and then they often still bother me anyway. If I contact them I read their bio and say something witty as I am witty. I always have conversations like a "proper adult" men just say "hi" over and over and expect romance to blossom.
/r/seduction06/12/21 08:13 PM
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If you know her and are dating already I don't necessarily need contact outside of a date but it's nice and shows you are thinking of me. If we net online and you aren't entertaining you are litterally wasting my time for no reason. If I'm not amused by your banter I find the contact irritating because you are forcing me to carry the conversation when you are basically a stranger. I'm going to tell you to stop or block you.
/r/seduction06/12/21 07:55 PM
1

Again just skimming because you aren't worth reading in full. You say women are stupid or naive because they pick ass holes in your opinion. I'm like hey they don't, these men have the decency to treat them well at the beginning of the relationship so they fool women. You- F that shit the BDSM community is run by women because they are all subhuman and just crave humiliation and need to be degraded.(except that community is run on respect and consent and the understanding that the sub has ALL th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:36 AM
1

As far as men who put their kids first women are so turned on by men who take responsibility it is a trope you should already know about. My X-husband used the fantastic Dad trope to pick up women with Me standing right there. And his current wife 100% married him so she could be loved like that and be part of an intact family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:20 AM
1

I just read the first 2 paragraphs. A decent man will never ask anyone to ever put any child second ever. That isn't just me saying that. That is almost all of society except spoiled man babies that want women to be their mom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:17 AM
1

Lol um no. "Pushing" boundaries isn't consent. You know there is a word for not having consent right? And yes ther are plenty of men that can seduce women in a way they like and engage and fully consent with him being the dominant. You just aren't that guy. There is an R word for you..like you fully just admitted on social media to having sex with women that did NOT say yes to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:14 AM
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Ok I'm reading the comments and what we as people need is universal. Respect and consideration are not a gendered concept right? I dare either side to say it is. Bleahhhh. Rouf. I'm barking now I'm so emotionally invested in people refusing to be treated as less than. Intentionally Make plans in advance. Insist they keep those plans. Do not allow them to ghost EVER and have access to any of you. I love you all. Please stop accepting garbage and thanking people for a whole meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:39 AM
5

Might I add..why would you want a woman who hasn't proven she can set boundaries and insist they are respected?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:34 AM
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You do realize that the term Incel describes a specific group of people. It does not include every man who feels bad after a date.. You are actually expecting women to be psychic. But in the case of incels, the definition is that their own personality and behavior put them in the position they are in but want to blame others.If the rejection had nothing to do with their own personality and behavior then I guess I would stand corrected. But the litteral definition logically belies that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:27 AM
1

I blame cell phones. When I was a teenager it was all "Stranger Things" era. If you didn't plan well you were ass out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:22 AM
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I was saying this to random people but really...regardless of sex, if you just start by doing whatever you say you are going to do and not promise more than you want to it would be refreshing. If after that you don't get along it's fine, but so many men tell me they want to go on a date but cannot schedule properly with another human. They complain we never met and I'm just sitting here curious HOW they think I would magically transport myself wherever when I don't have a time or place to meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:21 AM
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Thank you!! You are not wrong. I expect them to understand how to schedule time in advance and show up when they say they are going to. Why would anyone put up with people who have no common courtesy? If we are dating a year and need to reschedule that's fine. If you ghost me you voluntarily removed yourself from my roster.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:17 AM
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"There wouldn't be F-boys if women valued traits that make a man a good partner over traits that make him exciting." My point is they are picking people who have the sense to fake being a decent human being. It sounds like you are unwilling to even fake it and are mad about being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:14 AM
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I am polyamorous and have been with my current partners for over 10 years. Skimming as I write this. My gods. You would want a woman who didn't put her kids first? Gross. A woman who doesn't put her kids ahead of you just shows poor character amI wrong? I just never took men home when my kids were little
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:11 AM
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I will read this later but to answer your statement I'm NOT ending up with shitty men and neither are most of these women. I'm not complaining I'm answering the post honestly. Were you aware how difficult it is to get a really great partner who also has basic hygiene down? I am immune compromised. Gone are the days of multiple trips to the Doc. Women ARE complaining yes. And they aren't settling because economically they don't have to anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:09 AM
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Exactly only you aren't feeling all butt hurt because some dude pretended to be kind and decent when you somehow saw through the facade
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 12:55 AM
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Look into Libertarians. They try not to support laws that make moral decisions for other people unless it's to protect the person, their family, or their property.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 12:28 AM
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No. Those kind of guys are like that person who is fantastic in a job interview but sleeps in the bathroom instead of working. There is absolutely no way to tell them apart from actually good men until they do something inconsistent or push boundaries or are inconsiderate which good men also do sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 12:17 AM
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This is just another one of those things where women ask for the bare minimum basic communication and honesty and guys want to play silly games and win stupid prizes. Then they finally do commit and still act shady while peeing everywhere but the giant round bowl. Then we get another cat instead and they are all surprised Pikachu face. You don't even have to know exactly what they are up to when they are inconsiderate of your time. Basic boundaries and self esteem will flush out a F-boy right aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 12:14 AM
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She just wasn't into you and was kind enough to tell you. Except you are here not believing her. You didn't "ruin" anything, she said straight to your face you felt like a relative not a romantic partner. But if you took her at her word she could have actually been really into you and just doesn't have the time or patience to deal with you right now. She doesn't owe you her time or emotional support. Some other girl would love those dates and be into you.
/r/seduction04/12/21 02:54 PM
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I'm chatty that way. I have lots of opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 10:11 PM
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I don't remember the specifics about the women who were banned from competing. It was a thing feminists were upset about and I understood but am not really into sports. I'm more of a Star Wars Monty Python Dungeons and Drqgons Lord of the Rings nerd
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 10:10 PM
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I didn't realize I would be having an interesting well thought out conversation. Usually when people find me and comment on multiple comments they are just trolling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:09 PM
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I was being flip. I do understand that drug testing is only for known drugs as well. There was some controversy with this last Olympics because some women had naturally high testosterone and couldn't compete. I don't have a degree but the people I trained with had anywhere from a 4 year Bacholors degree to a Masters in kinesiology. It's one of those fields where you don't need a degree but most people have one and work as physical therapists as well. You do need a degree to do physical therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:08 PM
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You wouldn't hear it in a gym because people who say "do you even lift bro" are making fun of meat heads and gym rats when they say it. And yes when I look and 5 of my Comments had you on them I'm going to say something
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:28 PM
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Lol yes I have been lifting/working out since I was 14 and worked as a personal trainer
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 07:26 PM
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"Do you even lift bro" is a pretty common colloquialism but to answer your question yes bro, absolutely I do call women or men "bro" or "dude" respectively. Do you always internet stalk women and Rey to everything they post? Because you are also replying to a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 06:13 PM
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And you aren't even arguing with my point. You just happen to be OK with muscular woman when I have heard men make faces and act like babies when they see a woman with muscles. My own workout regimen was affected by the assumed male preferred body type. I was taught never to lift heavier weights and always do more reps so as not to get "bulky".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 06:10 PM
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So Serena Williams is on drugs? She's not. Her sport tests for those.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 06:07 PM
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No I read the whole thing and people were answering the question asked about the upsides and downsides of having casual partners.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/12/21 08:48 PM
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If I slap you in the face every time you walk into a certain room you are going to anticipate getting slapped. That's not neurotic. You are the one Fucking with stats. Even if it was phobic it's not incorrect when as I said 1 in 4 women are SERIOUSLY INJURED by their partner. Sorry they didn't all die I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 02:32 PM
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I misspoke. 1 in 4 women are severely injured by their male domestic partner. 1 in 4 women who are murdered are killed by their partner. 64% of people killed by family or a spouse are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:38 PM
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Inalienable Rights are rights that a person inherently has to begin with and the US constitution serves to recognize those rights. The actual phrasing is that God created us with these inherent rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:19 PM
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It's almost like you cherry picked a statistic to make a point when you knew the truth wouldn't support your claim
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:17 PM
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It's 1 in 4 actually. And yes younger people are more likely victims but that doesn't make your dismissal any less odd https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:15 PM
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Your world view is so far off from what I have studied on an academic level for the last 15 years
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:36 AM
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You just seem really out of touch with reality. Sure your logic works outside of actual reality. It's totally sound when you don't take real life experiences into account
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:35 AM
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Why there was so many is because you told me to "get some self awareness" when in fact the topic had nothing to do with my awareness of myself, it had to do with your world view being different than mine and you not accepting that two seemingly opposite things can both be valid and true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:11 PM
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You used absolutes in your statement. "Nobody" judges women the same way they judge men. The fact is that people are judgmental. You are experiencing this as a man. I was simply giving examples so you understood the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:09 PM
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A lot of people agree with you. I would read the room but I am usually mirroring the person. I'm tal I no to and staying on their level unless I'm drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:56 PM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:52 PM
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All the women in my area use a court access website as soon as possible when starting to date a man to see if he assaulted anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:42 PM
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You are right because it's pretty common to want to know if the man punched a baby last August (true story) because men say their biggest fear is rejection or an unpleasant conversation whereas women often are murdered
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:41 PM
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Women who love sex and aren't ashamed of it tell each other EVERYTHING in DETAIL. The only downside I could see to dating a woman with a healthy sex drive is that all her sexuqlly healthy friends will know all about that thing you like
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:35 PM
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So that's why I was asking. I thought I must have misunderstood the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:30 PM
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I mean I'm seeing people who aren't interested in discourse. Like, from your statement, you didn't seem like you are very interested in discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:29 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:54 PM
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Your language is pretty derogatory but the message is not bad advice. I also feel like people need to be mentally healthy to commit to a healthy relationship. I feel the same way about men who call all of their past partners crazy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/21 07:50 PM
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It sounded like they were fine and relatively happy with their life. I really feel men are doing the exact same thing. Also we don't know the gender of all of the people responding. I thought these were thoughtful honest responses to the question
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/21 07:48 PM
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I didn't read anything that was judgemental there though. She asked the question and got thoughtful responses from other people who were doing what she was proposing. I'm confused
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/21 07:45 PM
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Men do in fact say this about women all the time particularly about women who identify as feminists. It is also a very old trope about lesbians. That they MUST hate men because the world revolves around the male gaze and social norms were created by men in western society. It cannot be that women prefer women it must be centered around men. Bisexual men are called gay. Men who like women but occasionally get a BJ from a man is seen as gay. Me kissing women in the bar but still seen as heterosexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:38 PM
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You are trying to explain what my opinion means to me. You can't. It's my opinion. I think the use of that word in that context was telling about your attitudes on the transactional nature of relationships. The rest of that paragraph supported that thought
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:33 PM
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Hence the word "often"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:31 PM
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No it's evidence your view is skewed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:30 PM
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I could care less but you are the one complaining that so many women didn't like how you spoke to them but refuse to take any responsibility or recommendations
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:29 PM
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I'm from Wisconsin. I'm not sure that Milwaukee-ese is American English. But I have studied people my whole life academically and in the written word. Moreover it stood out to me and you are having this conversation with me not someone else so what I think about it can't be compared to anyone else's thoughts on the subject
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:27 PM
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There are a few studies discussed here. I think the results mean that it mattered more in the past when there was more inequality and that women were stuck in a marriage but that as women and men became more equal the statistics changed too. But there still is NO evidence that single women need a man for anything or that getting married makes women happier. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-single/201701/is-it-true-single-women-and-married-men-do-best
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:24 PM
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I mean if I took your attitude I could just as easily say it's done when I say it's done and that is my right. Obviously that would sound crazy to most people. But if I kept insisting I was right regardless of how many people told me it was my language...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:19 PM
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Lol I don't have a problem. You wanted to play the victim when it's clear you aren't introspective about why you are having these same sorts of interactions. If a woman said "every time I go to a certain place men harass me" your answer might be to avoid that place. So either ALL of these women are wrong OR maybe you are using language that most women don't care for.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:17 PM
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Yes it's colloquial but it's also telling and fairly unusual
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:14 PM
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I'm not attacking you. I'm stating an observation about words and thoughts you put out on the internet on a page that explicitly for the purpose of conversation on the topic. If you feel defensive that is your deal not mine but you flip back and forth between hero and victim so fast I'm getting whiplash
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:13 PM
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You sound like my X-husband who slut shamed me for having KISSED other men before marrying him as my first sexual partner. And again you sound really angry with women and do not seem to like them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:09 PM
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No using you example shaming is saying something that makes you feel SHAME you don't so you weren't shamed. TRYING to shame you is different than pointing out your obvious double standard. Also you do NOT seem to like women AT ALL. It's pretty obvious you have very strong negative feelings about them just trying to talk normally to you. These are normal conversations to have with a new potential partner but HOW you say things makes everything about those conversations different
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 07:03 PM
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And also most people with empathy and a conscience do feel bad when they make others feel bad even when they are right and what they said was factually correct
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:59 PM
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Interesting you used the word PAY in this manner. If you are paying to play the body count you should expect would be extremely high don't you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:58 PM
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He got there by ignoring the thing he has control over and can take personal responsibility for =the language he uses and made it into something where he can be the victim= gender differences. He doesn't realize gender differences aren't static and his view of them is heavily skewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:56 PM
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You just admitted here that, more than once, you were threatened with doxing because you expressed what you felt was "the truth about sluts" here on reddit. People are telling you that's pretty unusual and most people are not getting that kind of backlash from expressing a preference. Your reaction was to immediately make it a gender thing instead of a language thing. It's 100% the language you are using. I personally don't believe in "hate speech" per say but I believe language can be hateful. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:53 PM
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A low body count often just means a lower sex drive so they date women who really enjoy sex with them until they find the golden one who doesn't have sex for 3 months of dating or whatever and then complain when they get married and she only wants it once every 3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:46 PM
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Most women in my area of the country do judge men for wanting to date women they don't approve of in some way including liking women who enjoy sex and don't hide that. I was litterally told I deserved to be sexually assaulted because I joke about sex a lot with my friends at the bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:42 PM
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I don't judge you as long as you are a virgin and wait until you are married to have sex like I did. See how that works?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:40 PM
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I'm new here but I thought the purpose of this sub was for lively conversation about both sides of a topic not to put an idea out there and pound anyone who disagrees with the premise...which I thought was the point of the sub...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:39 PM
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I'm older but I grew up in a world were women were supposed to be virgins until they married, sweet, gentle, nurturing, but not sexual. Modesty was super important but didn't really attract men. Then you were supposed to make sure the man was sexually satisfied. Also not really allowed to say no to your spouse and you were still a whole if you enjoyed it. These attitudes are still in our culture today in a subtle constant stream. The words "body count" are used to shame women who enjoy sex into …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:35 PM
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I live in Wisconsin and was looking into the trades. I have the pay rate chart somewhere. That's the only reason I know this. There are a couple obscure trades like elevator maintenance where the pay is crazy good even as an apprentice
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:19 PM
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False equivalency much?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:17 PM
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Women were required to have a Man on the account.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:13 PM
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Have you ever been a woman at a gym? Or heard men talk about a women body builder? Do you even lift bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:12 PM
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Practically everyone. The statistics come partially from life expectancy. Women who are married die way sooner. Men who are married live way longer. Single women live the longest and stay healthier. Most doctors believe stress is the single greatest factor here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:11 PM
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I think think effeminate men who have whole lives and don't need your disrespect are the topic because that's what you posted
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:29 AM
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You clearly do not even lift bro
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:08 AM
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They don't need the table
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:07 AM
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I'm not even arguing. I didn't read all of that but let's say you are 100% correct. The what the F are you even on about? You clearly need to change something right? Derp
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:06 AM
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My feelings have nothing to do with this. Neither do yours...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:05 AM
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I actually develop muscle mass really quickly. But yes you are right for most
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:04 AM
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Yeah so you are just gross
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:02 AM
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I'm very direct and was knick named "that Blender" for just being frank
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:02 AM
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Yeah so not one of the people here needed your statistics to validate their preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:00 AM
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The study studied people who died sad or not sad and how long they lived. You be you man
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:59 AM
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I'm really sorry you feel so ashamed of your homoerotic feelings that you lash out at what was it? "Twinks"? Wow...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:58 AM
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Tell me you haven't been anywhere near a gym without saying you haven't been anywhere near a gym
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:56 AM
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1972 is When men could have something women couldn't. Wow. What crazy kids
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:54 AM
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Oh . Oh of course..forgive me...for what? Women were not allowed to have a checking account the year I was born. I'm sorry I don't understand your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:53 AM
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For the record the trades in America make a consistent amount because of unions. They start at 15 plus raises for the first 4 years and then 20-45$ an hour depending on the trade.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:48 AM
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For the record the trades 100% pay more consistently because of unions. Don't crucify me for delivering the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:45 AM
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You are going to have to make up your mind if you think tradesmen are less than because you spouted off and were wrong about how much $ they make or...yeah you should probably just stop being a dick and spreading misinformation that affects people
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:43 AM
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Hmm. Your data on happiness vs productivity? Because I love being productive and seeing The Work Of My Hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:33 AM
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I live in America where men in the trades make way more $ than a lot of men who graduated college with no student debt. They have built in retirement plans and fantastic benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:47 PM
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But also men tell women they shouldn't be too muscular. That women should be soft and have curves so...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:45 PM
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Statistically Single women are the MOST happy demographic that live the longest and Singke men die first and are the least happy. Women have been saying for centuries they don't necessarily need or want men around unless they enhance their lives. These statistics have stood through all different time periods and societies. Women used to be forced to marry because they couldn't legally hold property or have a checking account etc. They don't need men now. Even if these things weren't the case tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 08:43 PM
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