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" 7 years, together for 11 Kids" LOL, nice typo. Quite the full house!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 05:32 PM
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As for "I'd say my symptoms are grouchy, tired, apathetic, having trouble stfu when I know I should." I had T in the low 200s for a while about 10-12 years back. Never had any of those symptoms. IMHO so many ppl put so much on the T levels when it is just 1 of dozens of hormone and health dials, and your own MIND can do far more than any of them to direct your personal energy and motivation. for example, everything you list can be just a function of getting bad sleep. Go lift, work out, and eat …
/r/askMRP25/11/25 01:31 AM
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No, clinically low is in low 200s. 380 is low-normal.
/r/askMRP25/11/25 01:26 AM
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If she is the best one for you for right now don't be afraid to give her GF label. Keep your frame and your integrity, but don't run away from relationships. Man up. This is MRP, not black-pill.
/r/askMRP25/11/25 12:36 AM
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That's fine but it's still a circular definition. What do you believe constitutes a good man in terms of specific character traits you want to have? You either need a value system reference point, or you determine and write down the characteristics of the man you want to become. The very process of thinking through this may help you figure out where you want to go. Like I said, it could be as simple as a list of virtues and disciplines that you want to be a part of your identity.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 02:44 AM
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That shows a ton of maturity and progress. "One of my goals was “consistent and early bed time for baby before 1 year” and she took issue with this and started poking holes and DEER’ing about how we couldn’t actually do any of this." Ah, now you are on to the challenge of raising kids and being on the same wavelength there. "something like a consistent bed time would be a no brainer mutual agreement" - you are missing it. Honestly, she's probably right there. You cannot expect a baby to get onto…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:54 PM
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He's being overly argumentative IMHO but the point is that "Good Man" means different things in different moral value systems. You want to adopt virtues of courage, self-discipline, responsibility, emotional maturity, honesty, etc. ? Fine - be explicit about what it means. Otherwise, you are subject to having your chain yanked by a feminized society that will call a beta cuck a "good man" and demand you do the opposite of what you are trying to achieve to earn that 'good' label. At least that's …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:38 PM
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"I ended up shaking off the depression and journaling + writing self-affirmations. Sounds gay as hell, but this helped me mentally" Not at all. It's only gay if those thoughts are so. What journaling really does is step up the level of accountability. OYS, sharing with others even. Its easy to verbally lie to ourselves. When you write it down and examine it, you see the real issues. What I see: Someone with low self-image because you lack standards and boundaries and don't respect yourself, so y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:25 PM
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This is emotional 'noise'. Good you are both noticing ("it is irrational") and not letting it unbalance your actions. Unhelpful emotions / anxieties / insecurities are to be examined, considered in light of reason, then laughed at and tossed overboard if they aren't helpful to you, your joy, or your real mission in life. (Pro-mode of this is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. See the term ANTs.) "Oh, those thoughts are just being an insecure twat. Self, get over it." Do 20 pushups whenever you have t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:13 PM
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"When I lift weights, I'm doing so because it's the healthy choice. When I show up every day in the gym to run, that's for me. When I pick out something to wear, I pick it because I like it. When I offer to help someone in need, I do so because it's who I want to be. I don't need their validation. I'm fully capable of validating myself." Well said. I don't think OP understands this concept.
/r/askMRP18/11/25 04:57 PM
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"Being high value does not mean that you treat others well." No, got completely different perspective from this. A high-value man is a gentleman with integrity, living according to high standards and values he sets for himself and lives by. RP is about men making their own rules, but societal norms of 'value' play into what 'high value' means. if those self-directed goals / 'rules' are being a selfish, lazy person who does nothing worthwhile for anybody else, that is the epitome of low value, no…
/r/askMRP18/11/25 04:41 PM
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" I had to hold myself accountable for ALL actions, big or small, provided they align with who I want to see. Once I did, I found that the defensiveness went away. I was able to replace the defensiveness with a "I did my best" and knew it to be true." This is true integrity. True to your own moral compass.
/r/askMRP17/11/25 11:34 PM
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"How can we be outcome independent when we want something? " Wanting to win doesn't win a game. Nothing wrong with wanting something, but you focus on HOW YOU PLAY THE GAME if you really want to win. Outcome independent means you don't let the game itself get in your head and mess with your own values, behavior, and mindset. If your self-worth is tied to the external validation of someone's affections, you haven't built a core foundation and are hollow inside. The ultimate counter to s88t tests …
/r/askMRP17/11/25 11:34 PM
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Spectator sports are mostly a waste of time. Whether and who to marry is one of the most important decisions a man will make. Not wrong for OP to be asking questions.
/r/askMRP17/11/25 11:22 PM
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Me: Married 30+ yrs. At 24, I took my future wife out and somehow managed to get her in bed on first date. Not a player / PUA, no awareness of red-pill realities, etc. It just happened. From there, step-by-step until a lifetime together. I was definitely not outcome independent, but I was persistent. Never 'chased' never needy, but let her know I wanted to see her more. Of course this was all pre-internet and pre-social media, so it wasn't like we had to worry about trivia like "how long did it …
/r/askMRP17/11/25 09:53 PM
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I don't question your re-evaluation of goals and mission, I question doing it mid-race. Seems a rationalization for quitting when the going gets tough. Goggins put "mind over matter" to an extreme, but he proves the point that most of our beliefs are self-limiting when put to hard tests. Maybe hard tests aren't just useful as tools to break your goals, but useful as tools to show that you are capable of more than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/25 05:41 AM
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Lots of verbal fluff. Seems to be written (well) as a thought-piece for a magazine-reading audience or a blog, but I feel we could use the TLDR of it. You question the value of mental toughness, even though most of accomplishments you tout (your ego isn't snuffed out) require it. Shame is just negative reinforcement. Pushing yourself too hard in any goal or system will break you eventually, no matter whether the goal is useful or not. Your algorithm seems to be to break your own goals and system…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 11:27 PM
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This review is on point but wrong on one point, by equating SMV and social value. No, Johnny's SMV may be higher because of all traits mentioned, he's the seductive dancing alpha who turns her on, but he's the broke bad-boy with social class below the rich families. Other examples of this theme. Titanic - girl rebels against the societal norm to hook up with the 'bad boy' who wins attraction. Rich arrogant dude is rejected. Last of the Mohicans - girls fall for 'wild men' who are the alphas of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 07:44 PM
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" I’m now trying to live my life from more of an offensive position" This is the key - being proactive and defining your life direction on your terms. Red Pill is telling you that modern feminized social conventions are screwing up our 'compass.' Men have to take it all apart, examine the lies built into our daily 'programs', and rebuild our compass based on more realistic understanding. But it's just a compass. You set the direction. You define your mission. That's the essence of what a man is.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 05:06 PM
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Good self-awareness. It's a start. Both you and your wife deserve some slack on account of being sleep deprived. Hopefully that phase will be over soon when your baby starts sleeping through the night.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 04:06 PM
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" I also realized that I was bored because I was being fucking boring." Good call. only boring people incapable of being content with themselves get bored. People get addicted to external stimulus - doom scrolling, porn, watching TV, etc - because they cant cope with simply being alone and thinking. Meditation and learning to think on your journey here can help. Your time is valuable. Spend it on things that are part of your mission or help you progress ... the fact that you don't have a mission…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 03:39 AM
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“Hells yes you are. Im so proud of you. Truly. Its really something to watch you step into a fuller confidence in this stage of life. Youre a badass and youre kind. And youre hot.” Hell yea. What a great message to get. When you stop chasing girls, you attract girls. When you stop chasing validation, you get it. See how the crazy world works? "The last occasion she had to jump back in and I told her that as she’s not letting me handle it, she can go ahead and deal with the problem and I went out…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:27 PM
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"Also mentioned marriage counseling last week. Not exactly sure what the play is here. ... said she would set up the appointment. So I am letting her do that. It is very noted that no appointment has been made." You have a 5mo baby. You both are likely sleep-deprived. You don't need a counselor who will try to beta-ize you, you need to be a leader in your household. You need to embrace this special time (1st baby) as well. Her post-partum hormones sends her into love-mode (oxycotin) and can also…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:21 PM
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"Maybe it would be best not to point advice (which I didn't do much) and do more of asking questions that will lead to a certain point." Good idea. Use socratic method. Don't make statements but ask questions that lead to productive answers. But again, sometimes women just want to trauma dump and don't really want advice. So just listen. YMMV.
/r/askMRP05/11/25 06:39 PM
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"then I realize she sucks as a household partner" - I was in a long-distance relationship with my GF, long-distance worked because when we saw each-other time together was extra hot, like you got only 48 hrs of shore leave, lol. So she came and made me dinner many times; I found out she was a great cook. we took trips together. Great times. So I got in a LTR, fell in love, and found someone who'd make a great wife. Then we got married and we had a whole bunch of new experiences like becoming par…
/r/askMRP01/11/25 11:10 PM
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" talked about marriage and she doesn't feel he's got shit covered (not OYS)." No kidding. Great example of why women test men; sometimes they test to see if men have their OYS, or if they are congruent. He is a weed addict and a loser. She is saying "me or the weed" and the guy can't drop the weed. When women say "I'm leaving" they don't always mean it, it's a test. But this guy is failing the test. The ONLY way to really resolve/force the issue is to live up to the threat/consequence and leave…
/r/askMRP01/11/25 10:30 PM
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lol, sounds like you have no idea what you are talking about. She was suffering from depression and wanting to get away was her way of dealing with it. Women can be emotional and do irrational things because of emotional imbalance. If you don't get that, you don't get women.
/r/askMRP29/10/25 05:38 PM
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It sounds like most of the ppl responding to you have wrong assumptions about you and your wife. Your wife is mortified the kids will hear her having sex and is super-shy about sex if they are anywhere close. I get it. "what can I do?" short-term: Take her on a 2nd (or 3rd or whatever) Honeymoon. Low budget version, do a date-night and car sex. If she doesn't take the bait, then you have other problems. Long-term: Do all the OYS. Fix the damn lock AND have a master bedroom on other side of the h…
/r/askMRP23/10/25 01:20 AM
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It's an illusion that living together is a good test of whether to marry or not. People who live together before marriage have higher divorce rates. It could be that the qualified level of commitment from casual cohabitation might incline some to seek divorce more readily and be less monogamy-committed. Whatever. "If I want to start a family with this woman someday I need to know her better than once a week. " You are old enough to figure out if you are ready to marry her or not, and have many w…
/r/askMRP21/10/25 05:24 AM
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"I'd level up, see how she reacts. If we're back to the good Olde days, then assess further for constant burning desire. " That's my take as well. It's salvageable if he makes a real, noticeable change to improve himself and changes his approach to her. This could rebalance the relationship and rekindle it.
/r/askMRP17/10/25 10:18 PM
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DUDE ... some women never initiate. That's just lazy on your part.
/r/askMRP17/10/25 10:14 PM
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FFS, you are thinking of doing "next" on a woman you say you still love and plan to marry? That's WEAK. Don't even think that way. That's a beta coward's way out. If she's a keeper, 100% focus on re-attracting her. LOVE IS A VERB. If you love yourself, take action - FIX YOURSELF - make yourself the best version of yourself. ... " lifting again, dropping the weight, getting my head straight" is a good start. No more drugs will add clarity. Now fix your relationship behavior. If you love her, be o…
/r/askMRP17/10/25 10:14 PM
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If you thought that she doing this to tempt you, then get you to chase her, at which point she then turns you down to regain power in the relationship, you might not be wrong. Problem is, she might be doing it to reignite some spark. You don't know. Either way it was a s88ttest that you failed by playing games yourself. The problem is that in rejecting her, you reinforced her own feeling of separation from you. You played yourself. The only way to win is stop playing games at all.
/r/askMRP17/10/25 04:02 PM
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TOTALLY.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 04:38 AM
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That may be true, but in some cases women *asking* for a divorce don't actually want a divorce. She gave you the ultimate shit test.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 04:34 AM
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If you can tell us that you f'd up, be transparent and own it to your wife as well. My wife went through some phases where she threatened to walk out, packed her bag, sat kids down and said she was going away, etc. it broke my heart, but I didn't lash out at her and didn't try to hurt her back; I just waited for her to change her mind while I just worked on being the best me I could be ... she never left. Changed her mind, and here we are 15 years later on year 34 of the marriage. we have 4 grow…
/r/askMRP15/10/25 04:34 AM
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I agree with this. sometimes these are threats. Women are emotional and get crazy sometimes. "I want a divorce" is the ultimate s88t test. Women selfishly project their own dissatisfaction on their man. But sometimes it is the man's fault, for not reading signals. etc. He admits he f'd up. He should tell her wife that. It might heal this.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 04:33 AM
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It's very good to tell her that if she wants to file its on her, and you are not interested in divorce ... BUT ... if you want to fight for a marriage that YOU want, you need to fight for THAT. ... I like this: "OP, stop trying to change her behavior by punishing her. You want her? Go get her" This. 100x this. You want to avoid stupid wife s88ttests. Dont do them yourself.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 04:30 AM
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The problem is women can do some subtle thing and think its obvious, but for the man its not even registering. Her 'peacocking' was a blatant sign of wanting him/you to initiate something.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 02:44 AM
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