MxUnicorn Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
11	[Ask RPW] Required reading, and further books... ?	ASK RPW	MxUnicorn	/r/RedPillWives	04/11/17 12:28 AM

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1	In what ways did you change your appearance for your SO? We've never argued over my appearance, but I'm growing my hair out for him. I also got my tongue pierced mostly for him and remove more body hair than I'd usually bother with. It makes him feel important and lived when I do little things for him :)	/r/RedPillWives	23/07/18 12:32 AM
3	In what ways did you change your appearance for your SO? I'm growing my hair out as well, though it's not nearly as long as yours yet. I've gotten the "that's sexist/unfeminist" response too! How dare I make my husband happy by doing something I don't really care about either way?	/r/RedPillWives	23/07/18 12:30 AM
2	Am I missing out? So something that hasn't been touched on yet is if your relationship is actually any good. Lots of people fall in love with people in high school that they really shouldn't marry. Can you see yourself with him in another decade? Does your family and friends approve of him? I'm not going to talk you out of keeping your high school boyfriend (my husband and I have been together since high school and doing great) but college can be a good time to meet someone. The sleeping around part is overrated,…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/18 11:26 PM
1	Letting go of the hurt of rejection during pregnancy That's definitely a pickle. It's very difficult to be what people want/need when they won't tell you.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/18 11:09 PM
1	You thoughts on "The case for settling for Mr.Good Enough" I don't quite agree with that. There's a big difference between men who are working towards their full potential and men who will become alcoholic manchilds.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/18 03:47 AM
2	Letting go of the hurt of rejection during pregnancy Why did you keep having children if it had such a negative impact on your relationship? Why is your husband saying negative things about you when you're trying to have sex? What do you mean by "more adventurous"? What do those have to do with feeling old and therefore unattractive? Therapy and mindfulness meditation may help you learn to deal with negative feelings in a healthy way and let them go. That's something you can control.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/06/18 03:29 AM
3	In-laws problems. I have literally never seen that, and I've been lurking a long time.	/r/RedPillWives	16/05/18 04:01 PM
5	In-laws problems. Did your ILs nag your husband about you before you two married? How has he handled his parents opinions before? I highly suggest posting at r/JustNoMIL too, as they have a ton if collective experience dealing with toxic ILs. I'm not sure if this kind of comment is allowed here, but I've read many stories like yours, and it sounds like your husband is trying to throw you under the bus in self defense. Aka his parents are nagging him over you and, instead of standing up for you, he's taking their …	/r/RedPillWives	16/05/18 04:44 AM
3	In-laws problems. I came here to say this. JNMIL is full of sweet, helpful people.	/r/RedPillWives	16/05/18 04:34 AM
–	Simple Questions RPW is one of the few places I see where women consider themselves an active participant in their relationships and consider that maybe they're partly to blame for their relationship troubles.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/03/18 10:43 PM
4	What drew you to RP? I found the sub through a post discussing the creation of /r/FeminineNotFeminist. I stayed because this sub's full of lovely women with good advice who take responsibility for their actions. I guess I mostly follow for theory and advice posts.	/r/RedPillWives	14/01/18 12:31 AM
2	Celebs at the Met Gala vs porn stars at the AVN awards (slightly NSFW? skimpy clothes) I have to say, most of those Met dresses are amazing. But wow, is skin in right now o.O Imagine that second dress over a similarly fitting black or burgundy one.	/r/RedPillWives	14/01/18 12:30 AM
1	Waist Trainers I highly recommend Lucy Corsetry on YouTube plus her blog. She's reviewed a ton of corsets and gives great advice. You can change your waist size, but it'll take time, work, and probably at least one custom corset. It's not exactly a cheap hobby, although you can get decent corsets for like $50. Those latex things on Instagram are fake and will not give you results.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/18 06:00 AM
1	Apes like mean people For people who didn't look up the actual study: Study 2: cartoon shape helps or hinders another shape up a hill. Overall, the bonobos preferred the hinderer, but not to a significant degree. However, when divided by age, adult bonobos significantly preferred the hinderer. Subadults were just under 50/50 (chance). Study 3 was similar but looked at whether bonobos shifted their baseline preference after an individual was shown to behave antisocially - 10/18 of them changed to preferring the hinder…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 11:38 PM
1	Apes like mean people The Dark Triad personality: Attractiveness to women College undergrad women rated "about me" descriptions of DT men as more attractive than ones with a good Big 5 rating. This actually isn't surprising to me - as other people have said, male jerkness "bad boy" etc type behaviors seem to be sexually exciting for women. but is eventually tamed by her to be nice to her and her only I can't say I agree with that though. There's a difference between who's suitable to have sex with and who you'd actua…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 11:20 PM
1	Apes like mean people I'll have to read them later when I have computer access. I guess my main questions are 1) are we talking about personality or resources because those are independent things, and 2) are we talking sexual attraction or marriage/pair-bonding/LTRs?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 08:22 PM
1	Apes like mean people What can be realistically extracted from the female status-seeking behavior of our closest ancestors relatives? Not a whole lot, actually. If all our closest relatives share a trait then we likely do too, but primatology gives us the best idea of what our last common ancestor was like (in my opinion). As already mentioned, there's a lot of cultural things that dictate how people act or choose mates. I wouldn't draw conclusions from bononos but use it as a starting point for human research. Bonon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 08:14 PM
1	Apes like mean people He doesn't believe in evolution because Charles Darwin was racist. There's really nothing you can do about that kind of gut reaction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 08:03 PM
1	Apes like mean people Lol. Because you can't back up any of your beliefs and are pulling numbers out of thin air? I agree, there's no more point to this conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 07:57 PM
1	Apes like mean people Dude, Charles Darwin is dead and does not dictate the beliefs if the field a hundred years later.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 07:51 PM
1	Apes like mean people The same people that said this say Blacks are apes which justified racism. I totally missed this comment and it's absolute nonsense. A person here or there, maybe, but that hasn't been a popular or accepted scientific belief since before my mother was born. The people claiming that science proves white supremacy are wrong, a minority, and not scientists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 07:13 PM
1	Apes like mean people "Just a theory." This is why science education is do important. Gravity is also a theory, scientists use the word differently, which I freely admit causes more problems than not. There is proof of evolution by the way - both experiments and observational studies - I recommend looking up Belyaev's study in domesticating foxes. Also, who gave you those figures and why do you think evolution has to be perfect? I'm not trying to attack you, I'm genuinely interested.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 07:00 PM
1	Apes like mean people My apologies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:37 PM
1	Apes like mean people Oh my God, you don't understand evolution at all, do you? Species can split, usually because they're physically separated. The apes we evolved from (our Last Common Anscestor) isn't around anyway. Quick question: do you believe that all human actions and beliefs are choices, no instinct?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:36 PM
2	Apes like mean people They are the ancestors of specific people but not of our species.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:28 PM
1	Apes like mean people This happened to be the last comment of yours that I came to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:26 PM
2	Apes like mean people Well, a) humans are apes and we do actually share a lot of behavior with chimps and bononos, even though they're different species. b) you can't extrapolate from lions to humans. We're not closely related, we're not similar (not carnivores, don't have harems), and stepfathers murdering children is a choice we can make, not an instinctual reaction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:25 PM
1	Apes like mean people I can't find where that article proves your point. They're talking about the last common ancestor shared by humans and chimps. The only people who say that chimps and bononos are our ancestors are people who don't know what they're talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:17 PM
1	Apes like mean people You keep saying ape when you should be specifying species. Bononos prefer jerks, that doesn't mean that all apes do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:11 PM
4	Being "high maintenance" - opinions? As long as your maintenance isn't harmful or getting in the way of life it's fine. There will be men who accept and even appreciate the work you put into it. Remember, men are individuals.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/18 05:58 PM
1	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? You're basing your beliefs about human nature on how we react to a situation very, very different than anything we evolved to deal with. I don't think that's fair, but g'day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 07:05 AM
1	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? You're very attached to that outdated idea of the big, bad, testosterone-fueled caveman, I'll let you keep it. Anthropology has learned more and moved on, though. Fun fact you might enjoy, though - it turns out that bononos follow social interactions and pay attention to who's being nice or mean... And then prefers the jerks, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:55 AM
1	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? Armies had farmers? Ok then. Modern human beings. Modern. Not "almost human", not "human ancestors". Us. We are much, much older than armies, the police, writing, and even cave paintings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:45 AM
2	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? Our species is over 200,000 years old though. 3,000 is nothing. Peacefully enough. I'm interested in what you're meaning by "all the time." Anyway, armies and specialized workers aren't self-supporting. Ever wonder why hunter-gatherers don't have professions? Everybody is focused on subsistence. It wasn't until agriculture and permanent farming communities that societies had the surplus (and food storage abilities) for having some people could leave that to fulfill other roles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:36 AM
3	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? "Constantly" is a hella strong word, and you know recorded history, especially about anything but business, does not go back very far? Like, I'm not trying to say that humans are idyllic love critters, but we've managed to live together peacefully enough - even without armies and the police. (Also, Google spandrels and hitchhiking genes. Not relevant to this conversation, but your knowledge of genetics and evolution could be dusted off.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:27 AM
3	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? Humans exhibit sexual dimorphism, but not to a high degree. Also, it could very well be caused by the need to be better hunters, it's not necessarily a sexual control/competition thing. eta - not all existing traits are actually selected for, even. Spandrels and hitchhiking genes exist, although I admit it's unlikely in this case.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 06:12 AM
4	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? Except that evolutionary biology and psychology say otherwise. Claiming that humans are awful regardless of societal context is just false.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 05:03 AM
1	Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this? You can often just look at a woman and see that she's uncomfortable or unhappy with herself though, is what I'm trying to say. The way they dress, their body language, how open they are in general. Are men really not like that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:55 AM
1	Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this? re putting up a front: obviously I've never been a man, do y'all really display low self-esteem that much different than women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:35 AM
2	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? You had intended to imply that common decency is hard to find in large-scale societies specifically, not that humans aren't generally decent?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:33 AM
3	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? I can see what you're saying about the cause of their depression, although maybe they should phrases their own complaints better. Lashing out at or punishing strangers because women won't touch you, except that you don't want women's behavior to change because that would be fake? As for why RP men say they want to avoid unnecessary contact with women... does it matter why? Yeah, they had a bad divorce and are afraid of being hurt again. Does not showing women common decency help? At all? I can't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:30 AM
3	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? Yeah, bro, I'm sorry, but 200,000+ years of living as modern humans before agriculture (at which time a society could support having armed forces) didn't leave us unable to live together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:04 AM
5	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? It's natural to assume that guys going "I have low self-esteem because I don't get attention from women" would like more attention from women. I'm jumping to sex because TRPs have made it clear that they only want to interact with women they're related to or fucking. Source: all that fear-mongering about AWALT and how you can't trust women to not cry sexual harassment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 04:01 AM
2	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? I suggest that you gather evidence before you post next time, so that you can present a coherent, defendable argument.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 03:46 AM
6	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? The most common complaints about women 'round here have to do with how they won't deign to have sex with certain men, so...	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 03:41 AM
7	Q4BP: Women don't owe men anything, why is the general theme here that men owe women decency? We "currently" have? People have for quite a long time. How many cultures can you really name that are or were full of lawless, evil, assholes? Hobbes was wrong, dude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 03:34 AM
2	Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this? Very true. You can have a healthy self-esteem without basing it on how others perceive your physical attractiveness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/18 03:08 AM
1	Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this? Attractiveness is subjective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/18 10:35 PM
2	Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this? Yeah, men on Reddit seem to spend a lot of time feeling sorry about themselves, but most guys I know IRL (and I know a lot, college) seem to think they look fine. Even the weird and overweight don't have the crippling self-esteem issues I read about here. Of course, they also aren't the kind of man who spends his time on TRP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/18 10:34 PM
1	"after seeing someone's ring, would pick it apart later. It was a mix of judging the man and pitying the woman". It's never to your face, but to what extent is a man judged for buying an inexpensive engagement ring? I can understand that. It's a symbol of your marriage that you're going to look at for the rest of your life. I wanted mine to be decent as well. (Also, for men reading and saying, "well, yeah, women" my ring requirements were less than my fiance's.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/18 10:05 PM
1	Discussion: Is AWALT just a paranoia? Uh, no. I described it as an "AWALT" behavior/fear that men apparently have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/18 09:53 PM
2	Never married people are better off. New studies I think you're being a little dramatic. Disagreement's not going to make her husband file for divorce. What she's saying is that most things aren't worth wasting time arguing over and she'd rather not place herself in opposition, since most things aren't that important. From what I can tell, your only real problem seems to be that she's fem red pill? I feel like if she used different phrases that you'd readily agree.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 04:40 AM
7	Never married people are better off. New studies What the heck kind of world do you live in where things are this easy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 03:24 AM
1	Never married people are better off. New studies But how is she being dishonest?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 03:23 AM
6	Never married people are better off. New studies Men who turn to alcohol as a source of satisfaction and distraction, clearly. I suggest reviewing comment threads before replying next time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 03:22 AM
5	Never married people are better off. New studies They do blame others for their alcohol abuse though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 02:44 AM
2	Never married people are better off. New studies She expresses her desire, her husband takes it into account to make a good decision, she's happy with his decision even if it's not what she would have chosen. I'm honestly not seeing the problem you have with her relationship and I don't understand why you care so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 02:41 AM
1	Never married people are better off. New studies No, but I will if you link it. What field/s were they looking at?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/18 02:22 AM
1	Never married people are better off. New studies Um, don't we all behave in a certain way to get a desired response? Saying "this is what I want, do what you want with that knowledge" is not more manipulative than "this is what I think we should do."	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 11:32 PM
2	Discussion: Is AWALT just a paranoia? It answers all of this. I didn't ask a question? I answered yours as to what people think AWALT means.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 11:28 PM
6	Never married people are better off. New studies Yup, they're new and super interesting. However, it would be really stupid for me to base my decision regarding marriage on it since I'm an individual. Saying "never married people are better off" is a lie and an oversimplification. Never married people are generally better off is the truth. eta - I'm also against people saying "well generally married people are happier and healthier so that's what you should do too." The useful statistics are the ones that explore why this is or is not the case…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 11:13 PM
2	Discussion: Is AWALT just a paranoia? It's easy to learn whether or not you need to avoid snakes that you might reasonably encounter, though. Rattlesnakes are dangerous, garter snakes are not. I don't need to know about exotic species to stay safe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 10:56 PM
1	Discussion: Is AWALT just a paranoia? Leaving you for Chad, making decisions based on "feels" instead of "logic," not putting out when they expected, being (seen as) irrational, claiming rape to get back at a man. Basically, not acting like a man or a blow-up doll.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 10:52 PM
1	Why are there women who do the whole subtle indirect flirting thing when a majority of men prefer direct communication? Ah, see that's not flirting at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 10:36 PM
11	Never married people are better off. New studies There are a ton of different studies on marriage and they all say different things. I do think that the study has a point - if you've never married then you've also never gone through the divorce or marriage troubles so many do. eta - finished the article - it makes complete sense to me that single people put more effort into things like staying thin, which has a ton of health implications. I don't think we should be basing a decision like marriage on statistics, though - there are a lot of reas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 10:15 PM
5	Never married people are better off. New studies I think it would be manipulative if you threw a fit for not getting your way, but expressing your desires (and being the kind of person people want to please) isn't inherently manipulative.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/18 10:10 PM
2	[Update] We (29F, 40M) are pregnant after ~two months of dating. Men and women are different but equal. That's how it works.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/18 09:54 PM
12	Trying to understand Oh, that's a great distinction to make. I think what's best for the relationship is going to often be the same as what's best for the woman, but a lot of people out there seem to think that you're best off screwing other people over.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/18 09:41 PM
3	Trying to understand Yes, they literally do believe that. At least that's what they say.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/01/18 09:38 PM
2	New Year's Resolutions Thread! Via text with my mother, calling my aunts, and going to my grandpa's to escape dorm food :P	/r/RedPillWives	05/01/18 04:42 AM
8	New Year's Resolutions Thread! I don't usually do NYRs, but I want to start weight training soon. I started a martial art (hung gar kung fu) which is fun - and social! - but won't help me with my aesthetic goals. I also want to keep better in touch with my family. I grew up literally next door to my great-grandparents and just down the road from my grandma and aunts, so I never had to try. Now that I'm on my own I find that I've become extremely solitary and I need to learn a new way of being family.	/r/RedPillWives	01/01/18 12:55 AM
7	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy I honestly want to know what you expect of her. You said you'd leave if she went through with the pregnancy. It's too late for an abortion. Why are you talking about having greater intimacy? Why do you make it sound as if us telling her to leave you is a bad thing? You were planning on splitting up, right?	/r/RedPillWives	30/12/17 09:50 AM
16	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy You never did answer why you're worth the effort of trying to please.	/r/RedPillWives	30/12/17 01:58 AM
5	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy It sounds like she was already trying very hard to be who you wanted.	/r/RedPillWives	29/12/17 10:10 AM
10	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy How come your relationship was at its lowest point if you can just choose to elevate your love for her?	/r/RedPillWives	29/12/17 09:50 AM
16	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy You don't want a third child but have known all along that she does. You allowed yourself to be put in a position where an unplanned pregnancy was likely. Now you're telling her that it's her problem and her job to fix everything. Where, pray tell, have you shown even an ounce of leadership?	/r/RedPillWives	29/12/17 04:23 AM
26	Need advice: SO angry and unfulfilled + accidental pregnancy Isn’t this place still based around the principle that a woman can increase her value to her man? Yes, but the man has to be worth it. What are you bringing to the table?	/r/RedPillWives	29/12/17 03:30 AM
3	Week 1: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood (book club) I looked at the PDF and it seems to be a rewrite? Following two women through the secrets. I read the actual book, which was originally published in the '60s, and is quite different. The assignments sound the same, though.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/17 05:23 AM
2	Week 1: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood (book club) The book was written by a man, but based on a very successful course run by a woman. Wait, what? Helen's listed as author.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/17 05:12 AM
8	New Years resolutions Nice to see another red pill feminist! Saying yes to invitations is something I need to work on as well.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/17 09:12 AM
7	New Years resolutions I don't usually do New Year's resolutions, but I'm going to start Strong Curves (female glute-centered weightlifting program) once Winter quarter starts. The only nice thing about being away from my fiance will be the reveal of my changing physique.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/17 09:11 AM
2	Book Club: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood Maybe less that (I do believe more two parent, single income households would help society) and more her seeming belief that women can only find fulfillment within the home. I also don't like her opinion of my career choice, but that's not important.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/17 08:55 AM
1	Book Club: Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood I've already read it, but I would love to discuss it! It's a great book, although I have a feeling that a lot of it won't be totally applicable to many people's actual lives.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/17 08:13 AM
1	How are you supporting your man right now? I have three weeks off from school before going back, so I'm trying to be the best housewife I can. Making his lunches, deep cleaning the apartment, etc. He's been working overtime the past couple months so it definitely needs it. So does he!	/r/RedPillWives	13/12/17 03:51 PM
2	I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help... You've already got a lot of great comments, so I'm just going to introduce you to /r/xxfitness.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/17 03:31 PM
2	How to talk to my brother about his lazy gold digging gf This. Set boundaries around her participation in you and your moms lives, but don't push him away.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/17 02:09 PM
1	Recently married and questioning everything. Don't know where to go from here. I would think that that could be improved, especially with effort from both participants, but it's not something I have experience with.	/r/RedPillWives	12/12/17 10:51 PM
1	Recently married and questioning everything. Don't know where to go from here. Can you clarify what you mean by non-physical attraction? Are you referring to seeing him as a sort of sibling? In my experience, sexy good time feelings and lust can be re-fired and brought back, but I think most people would agree that it has to have existed in the first place.	/r/RedPillWives	12/12/17 03:26 AM
1	Romantic Victories! Thank you!	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/17 03:46 AM
1	Romantic Victories! Thank you!	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/17 03:46 AM
6	Is it possible to have too much sex in a relationship? Does it lose it’s value when it’s so constant? If you're worried about pressuring him or having him burn out on sex you can always try letting him take the initiative more. Be sexy, be flirtatious, be available, but let him make the first move.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/17 03:52 AM
1	Monthly Goals I completed .5/3 goals last month. Oops. Still need to work on adding more protein to my diet in preparation for starting weights. I didn't explore the gym like I wanted, but I should still be on-track come January. I got an epilator and my legs were super smooth... for a week. I can't tell if my leg hairs are just growing in because they're at different stages of growth and smoothness will happen again OR if it's breaking the hairs instead of pulling them out at the root like it should. New one…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/17 03:44 AM
2	I'm afraid my depression is going to hinder me from getting married No matter how much I practice gratitude for what I have in my life and enjoying the moment, I tend to have these "out of body existential crisis moments" where I'm not present. Have you ever practiced mindfulness and meditation?	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/17 03:31 AM
3	How to complain less/ I think joking back or acting silly ("in" on the joke) is definitely the better response - he probably doesn't mean that much by the comment, he's just poking fun. My fiance jokes about all my "potions bottles" and stuff. He doesn't understand my self-care, but he accepts and appreciates the time I put into looking nice.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/17 03:26 AM
5	Romantic Victories! We're engaged :) Not telling our families until after the holidays, though, because we don't want to be the center of attention. And earlier today I played with my new tablet today and saw that he took the effort to try and find the background I use for literally everything. (He didn't use it because it ended up weirdly sized and pixelated, but he found a similar one.)	/r/RedPillWives	08/12/17 02:49 AM
2	Simple Questions - December 02, 2017 Is hyphenating last names really that cringe-y?	/r/RedPillWives	06/12/17 06:23 AM
15	Your husband or your child? Children benefit more from their parents having a strong marriage than they do from being spoiled and the constant center of attention.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/17 03:58 AM
1	Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"? Large tips is attractive to me. I'd be embarrassed if my SO left a crappy tip. Seriously. You're supposed to be cheap or stingy to show that you really only care about one woman??	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/17 03:57 AM
1	Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"? Geez. My BF picked out our shower curtain and he did a better job than I would have!	/r/RedPillWomen	06/12/17 03:56 AM
1	Recently married and questioning everything. Don't know where to go from here. But I also sit and think that I am resigning myself to an unhappy life and don’t know how to solve it You have quite a bit of agency in your relationship... as Dr Laura says, "bored people are usually boring". You can also learn to trust and surrender better, and to focus on the good things about your love and marriage instead of the niggling doubts. And honestly, happiness is a fleeting feeling. You will never be 100% happy for anything longer than a short amount of time, it just doesn't work l…	/r/RedPillWives	04/12/17 06:24 AM
2	Need advice: my SO is leading a secret life, can't decide on a clear action plan From my understand, "for better or for worse" does not include when one partner is choosing to do something that is harmful to their partner and marriage...	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/17 09:40 AM
4	Do I [23F] put more effort or break up with my boyfriend [33M] of one year? When asked of what is it that would make him feel that I do care, he said that I should know myself and he doesn’t know if he wants to have a girlfriend that needs to be instructed on that. What absolute nonsense. You're not a mind-reader! I would see if you can figure out his love language though, since that seems to be the problem. What you're doing to show you love him is not what makes him feel loved. However, not trusting you is a huge red flag. If you can figure out his love language and l…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:47 AM
2	BF receives blue pill advice from sisters/friends.. how to deal? Does you BF take his sisters advice? Because if so, he should definitely be prioritizing you and what you want, not what she thinks. If her marriage is that bad, you could also ask your BF if that's really the kind of relationship he's going for - don't take advice from people with bad relationships, seriously.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:40 AM
1	Recently married and questioning everything. Unsure where to go from here. How long have you been together? 'Cause the in-love, honeymoon, lovey-dovey chemical brain stuff that makes you feel in love only lasts two years. After that it's work - you make the choice to love your partner. Love is an action. I would recommend reading some of Laura Doyle and Dr Laura Schlessinger's books, though.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:37 AM
1	Is the red pill for me [22F] if I don't want to get married or have children? I ask because legal protections are not present if one person dies suddenly/unexpectedly. Marital rights are also ambiguous if a live-in partner becomes seriously ill. I'm not invested in the idea of marriage - but this alone is enough to justify marriage IMO.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:32 AM
1	Is the red pill for me [22F] if I don't want to get married or have children? I do want a LTR. I just don't see the added value of marriage. This is the boat I'm in, as well (kind of). Don't want kids, don't really care about marriage. The tax benefits and boyfriend's insurance might be nice, though. I also grew up seeing my mother tied to an awful man and divorcing him ended up being a nightmare, so I was slightly afraid of marriage. My boyfriend and I will still assume that we'll actually get married at some point (bare-bones civil ceremony thing, no wedding) for the al…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:31 AM
3	His reaction to me saying I "wanted to be a mother" was much better than when I said I "wanted to get married and have children." My concern for OP is that her boyfriend isn't even willing to discuss marriage with her, after 4 years. This. He's comfortable talking about other aspects of his (their?) future, but not wanting to talk about their relationship? Not even agreeing that yeah, kids and marriage, but wait until graduation? It kind of sounds like he feels trapped or 'tied down' by those conversations, which is a bad sign.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/12/17 06:24 AM
2	The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido What role do you think we as women/wives/mothers play in defining/encouraging a particular flavour of masculinity, if any? A lot. I've been reading a few of Dr. Laura's books and one of the things she talks about is how important mothers and wives are for controlling/directing male behavior. Men want attention and respect from women. (Specifically, she talks about promiscuity being detrimental.)	/r/RedPillWives	01/12/17 05:17 AM
2	Will You Change Your Name? My man and I have discussed this and we've decided to keep our original names (or choose a new one). Neither of us love our own name or each others name enough to insist on changing them. Plus, I'm planning on going into academia and keeping the same name throughout is important to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/11/17 05:34 AM
2	How men show their love I'm so happy someone mentioned that book, it's amazing.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/17 08:25 PM
1	[Ask RPW] Required reading, and further books... ? I just started Care & Feeding of Husbands and I love how no-nonsense she is! I'm really considering trying her radio program.	/r/RedPillWives	17/11/17 08:47 PM
1	New to RPW! Advice for young disabled women please! I don't know exactly what you mean by grunge, but could you not mix it in with more traditionally feminine styles or pieces? eta: You also said that you wish you could wear shorter skirts, but can't because of your scars. Are you comfortable in leggings or tall socks? Those would allow you to wear a shorter skirt without showing off your scars.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/17 01:34 PM
2	Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: How Can Couples Keep The Home Fires Burning? I think she's saying that self-care in general is difficult for women, just like letting yourself ravish/"take" your sexual partner is hard for men. They're afraid that they're too rough, or of their own desires, etc.	/r/RedPillWives	08/11/17 03:43 PM
1	Q4ALL: "Guys really want just one thing.." - this complaint never made sense, isn't it an advantage of males being so simple and easily satisfied? I think I'm going to need an example of when and how a women should "throw money" at a guy after having sex with him. I need to understand what was going through your mind when you wrote that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/17 11:24 PM
1	Hello RPW. Newbie here. I'd add the Surrendered Wife to your reading list as well.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/17 05:28 AM
4	Share ways that you keep things romantic/exciting/loving in your relationship? I'm not spontaneous or goofy (although I am really silly and weird, apparently), but these are my tips: I don't really go out of my way to act like we've just started dating or make things super exciting (neither of us is that person!) but I do sometimes need to remind myself to not get complacent and stop trying. All the little things, like kissing when you leave, and touching his arm as you pass by are what matter the most, to me. Making sure I ask him how his day was before I start telling hi…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/17 05:24 AM
1	17 Attraction Triggers Maybe, maybe not. Some people lose 'em and some people only wish they did.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/11/17 04:17 AM
4	Simple Questions - November 04, 2017 I stick to the female-dominated side of Reddit. I'm most actives on skincare subs, but I also follow a few makeup and clothes subs and r/xxfitness. Oh, and gardening, but I rarely check those at this time of year.	/r/RedPillWives	06/11/17 04:02 PM
2	Simple Questions - November 04, 2017 I don't have any recipes, but try cooking with tofu or seitan. I usually just add them to stir-fry and stuff. Even my gun-loving, hunting grandpa likes tofu!	/r/RedPillWives	06/11/17 04:00 PM
2	Monthly Goals My first goal is to eat more protein by adding amaranth or TVP to my oatmeal and/or making sure that I cook a real dinner with seitan or tofu every day. I'd also like to keep my legs smooth. I've had hairy legs for years because I hate shaving and you have to grow too much stubble before rewaxing. So I've just purchased an epilator, which I'll be able to use the week after next. I'm also exploring my gym in preparation for starting Strong Curves in January, so I want to do some strength training…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/11/17 06:00 AM
2	[Ask RPW] Required reading, and further books... ? I don't think there's anything specific I need to work on right now, but I'd like to understand the mindset better and set us up for a more successful, lifelong relationship.	/r/RedPillWives	04/11/17 01:51 AM
2	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw? That makes sense!	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 11:31 PM
2	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw? My experience with TRP makes my experience with RPW a surprise, that's all. I don't think I'd ever really heard women's views on it, definitely not in favor of it. And I don't think I explained properly. I think there are a lot of men who read TRP and take it to mean that women are lesser than them or worthless and it leads to bad situations, toxic beliefs, and abusive actions. It's totally possible to be respectful of people you're seeing casually or aren't interested it, of course. Just... som…	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 11:15 PM
2	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw? Naw, I expect that you married a gentleman. However, a lot of men aren't looking for a forever relationship and don't care too much about the women they see.	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 10:49 PM
3	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw? A lot of men's "game" involves being sexist douchebags and manipulating women in unhealthy ways. shrugs I really don't want to go digging around for specific examples. I've stuck around RPW because I find it fascinating.	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 10:13 PM
9	I don't think about sex, and it is causing friction. Even if you're not spontaneously in the mood In my experience, foreplay is waaay more important for women than men. So while your husband may be ready 24/7, you might not be ready until sex has already been initiated. Basically, acting sexy leads to feeling and being sexy.	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 05:04 AM
3	What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw? I'm new here, and honestly? The idea that an RP-style relationship could be beneficial. That there are women who actually love it, since a lot of the RP stuff I see around Reddit is abusive.	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/17 03:56 AM
2	Wives, Honor Your Husband's Preferences In addition to what everyone else has said, you can only change yourself. You can't make your husband do anything, especially without causing even more issues and drama. However, you can change yourself and your actions. And if you have a good husband, I'd expect him to see how much you love and cherish him and try to "pay it back," so to speak. (That didn't quite come out right.)	/r/RedPillWives	10/10/17 08:54 PM
3	Conflict Resolution For Happy Relationships - Research-Backed Strategies For Success "Culture of appreciation," I love that. It's really important to keep showing that you love and appreciate your partner or husband. One thing that helps when we're arguing is physical contact. Even just touching our feet together helps us feel connected when we're upset with each other. Reminds us that we're in this together and jump starts the making-up process.	/r/RedPillWives	10/10/17 08:29 PM