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CMVMyLastBestChance/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:18 AM
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I have never heard a woman speaking about men in those terms, nor have I thought about men in those terms. In my world, if I’m thinking about a man at all in terms of “romantic potential” (which is definitely not the case unless I’m actively looking for a romantic relationship at that specific moment in time-literally THAT moment. I am starting with a no/ maybe decision that is specific to “can I imagine wanting to kiss this man at some point, assuming he is a decent person?”. That’s a “maybe” o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:48 AM
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Social cues are one thing. Women using men paying as social capital with other women, while also not discussing those men paying or not paying (or those women caring either way) is something different…it doesn’t actually make any sense…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:28 AM
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I understand that OP is making thing up and for some reason you’re trying to defend his fantasy 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:21 AM
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So…an invisible, unspoken, unknown “status symbol”? Men paying for coffee or tapas is now Schrödinger’s status symbol?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:58 PM
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Literally NEVER had that come up in conversation with other women about men we are / were dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:52 PM
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Most women I know that have tried the apps (including myself) get fed up / disgusted almost immediately and delete them. It may be different for women who are just looking for hookups 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:37 PM
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If that were true, the apps wouldn’t be so skewed in user gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:52 AM
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But if they just asked if her boobs were “real”, she could answer “yes” honestly and pass regardless of their origin…🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:22 AM
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Implants aren’t imaginary 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:03 AM
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As opposed to…imaginary? Of course they are real.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:57 AM
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Does it count when they don’t remember after the ruffies wear off?🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:27 AM
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I really don’t think that’s likely to be a problem for you. I’m fairly sure women don’t want anything to do with you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:24 AM
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Hint: “Romantic” doesn’t mean a man who feels entitled to fucking a stranger because he bought you a burger (or anything).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:23 AM
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So…it’s unfair that women aren’t interested in being discount hookers for men that can’t afford actual sexworkers? The audacity of women believing that men who invite them on dates might actually be interested in getting to know them, developing chemistry, trust, common interests etc to see if they are well suited to each other. Gosh, we women are so silly!!! Don’t worry, we’re figuring it out and disengaging en masse and men are confused about why?🤔🤣🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:21 AM
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So…should women assume that any man asking her out for dinner is actually entering into a transaction of pasta primavera for sexual intercourse? If that’s the case, they should say so and save everyone a lot of time. Women (the vast majority) will just refuse dates because they aren’t interested selling their bodies. The women who agree to the date will be women who are willing to do so. (But those men probably shouldn’t be too concerned about their date’s “body count”). Problem solved 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:15 AM
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No…womendontwantmentheydontknowtobeinsidethem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:10 AM
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Be safe, be well, find joy. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:47 AM
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Literally no. Not me. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:45 AM
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I think you’re confusing me with someone else…I’ve never claimed to be asexual 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:42 AM
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I guess you might need more in common with people than just a common sexuality to form meaningful bonds or enjoy each other’s company 🤷‍♀️. That’s not really surprising right? Pretty sure you, as a person, are far more than your sexual identity. Why would you find it weird that you need more commonality than that to feel comfortable with other people? I know we haven’t interacted with each other but I think I can tell by your comments here that you’re funny and smart and complicated and a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:40 AM
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Try looking for opportunities to volunteer. Shelters, animal shelters, nursing homes, food banks. They all need help and would be thrilled to have extra hands especially when the need is so great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:21 AM
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Keep telling yourself that cupcake. No woman ever has sincerely found a blatantly unattractive man sexually attractive because he has money and thinks he’s hot shit. I know y’all want to believe it, but it’s just not a thing. She may put on an Oscar worthy performance and you may choose to believe it, but deep down you have to know it’s fake, right? I mean, I get wanting to believe it, but actually, seriously, in your heart of hearts? 🙄🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:16 AM
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Knobby elbows. Probably knobby knees, knobby ankles, knobby Adam’s Apple. Time to IchabodCranemaxx 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:31 AM
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“Women who are looking for a meal ticket will pretend to be attracted to you and they know you’ll fall for it because you desperately want to be wanted and will willfully fool yourself into believing it’s true” FIFY
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:26 AM
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OP agreed ahead of time to reimburse this young lady for her transportation to the date (acknowledging that it could cost her a full day’s wages) and then refused and walked away when she didn’t fuck him? That’s not values, that’s disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:42 AM
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Are you being deliberately obtuse or are you delusional enough to interpret anything OP champions as being “values” in any civilized sense?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:10 AM
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“Values”?🙄🙄🙄🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 01:56 AM
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Yes, (some) men still want to own a woman of their very own, (after sampling all of the women they wants to of course). (Some) men feel that if they go to work 40 hours a week, every other minute of their lives should be catered to, exactly as they want it to be, by their quiet, smiling, beautiful women, who have no desire other than serving, with no further effort required by them. They want to be fathers insofar as it’s convenient and fun. A pat on the head, a picturesque game of catch with an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:00 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:29 PM
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When someone is "projecting," they are unconsciously attributing their own unacceptable feelings, thoughts, or impulses to someone else, often as a defense mechanism to avoid confronting those uncomfortable parts of themselves. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:43 PM
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I don’t think “projecting” means what you think it means…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:31 PM
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How could I possibly know that? Think about what you’re asking here, dear internet stranger. If you were flirting effectively with someone who was interested (because why would you try to flirt unless she was showing clear signs of interest) it would work and they would flirt back. Clearly that is not the case, ergo, you’re doing something wrong. Either you’re trying to flirt with someone who isn’t interested in the first place and you’re too socially inept to realize it and are just annoying th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:39 AM
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Ok, it means that what you think is flirting is awkward and off putting and makes women’s skin crawl. Better?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:55 AM
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So it sounds like you’re looking for a “vocabulary guideline ” step by step instructions to conceal your misogynistic tendencies in interactions with women and the foolproof works for everyone in every situation script for “flirting”… It’s not that people don’t want to tell you, it’s that those things don’t exist. People don’t work that way. There is no one size fits all flirting script. There are an absolutely endless list of “tells” that may show women who you really are. The fact that you eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:53 AM
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Why would we care how specific you are about the words you use to categorize us based on how you feel about our appearance?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:36 PM
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So you’re saying that men can’t manage to do their fair share unless they get to boss women around? Sounds pretty misandrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 01:58 AM
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Maybe let him speak for himself…who elected you PPD hall monitor?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:14 AM
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Especially here on PPD🤣🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:06 AM
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Then maybe stop blaming women for the falling birth rate…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 12:05 AM
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One doesn’t need to be a “leader” to not be lazy, useless, or unhelpful. One just needs to be a functioning adult and a good partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:49 PM
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Or maybe…fathers should be involved in and invested in their children’s lives whether or not they have sexual access to the mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:30 PM
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So how are you almost twice as tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:28 PM
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And you’re basing that on…? Let me guess, your favorite podcaster?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:28 PM
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That’s just blatantly inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:22 PM
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Ah, my apologies. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:21 PM
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Good goddess, I hope not. She’s awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:00 PM
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And what about the men there at your gym, are they all Adonises? Levels of overweight and obesity are pretty even between genders…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:59 PM
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You keep skipping the “good” relationship qualifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:51 PM
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Ah yes, the romantic gender that refers to women as ham planets, slam pigs, slump busters, ran through, used up, whores, post wall…etc etc etc (and yet would still have sex with anyone who didn’t say “no” loudly enough… That’s not “romance” or “ love”, that’s seeking a warm blooded masturbatory aid that won’t result in your arrest on animal cruelty charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:49 PM
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Is she a chat bot or something?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:43 PM
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Are you dating an actual little person?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:37 PM
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Looks like he went from self indulgent sulking to self important smirking. Neither is exactly a panty dropper…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 07:01 PM
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Make your own and double fry in duck fat. Boom! No more McDonald’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 04:12 AM
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Gain 60lbs and you’ll have your own!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 02:48 AM
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If you don’t want to pay for dates and don’t want to date the women who don’t require that, don’t date🤷‍♀️. It’s not mandatory. Not sure why you expect those women to change their expectations just because you want to date them. They have the choice to not date people who don’t want the same things that they do too, as well as the choice to not date at all if they can’t find anyone who wants the same things. Again, dating isn’t mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:45 PM
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“Traditional” women didn’t kiss on a first date, much less have sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 07:40 PM
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Unfortunately aging doesn’t actually make it stop. I wish it did…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:55 PM
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So you want to be able to “express your feelings” and are objecting to the fact that women have the right to “express their feelings” of distaste, disgust, disinterest, and discomfort when those men’s “expressions” are imposed upon them? You want men to be able to “go after experiences they would like” when those “experiences” require the use of women’s bodies, without those women objecting and finding it offensive and insulting…because it’s “natural”? Your feelings and urges may be perfectly “n…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 06:52 PM
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I don’t care whether men choose to pursue women or not. I find it telling that you can’t conceive of expressing interest in interacting with women with being overtly sexual off the bat…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:23 PM
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Here’s the thing, men have a harder time getting what they want and value than women would have if they wanted and valued the same thing that men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:21 PM
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Again…consent is the piece of the puzzle that you guys keep missing…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:08 PM
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Ok. I promise not to be surprised. I think women in general would be pretty happy with strangers not behaving “hyper sexually”… And if a man is so socially challenged that the only way he can “pursue” a woman is be being overtly sexual before that interest is clearly reciprocated, it’s better that he not pursue at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:03 PM
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If you don’t know the woman well enough to know whether it’s likely to be reciprocated, you should keep it to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:59 PM
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Again…sexuality is an internal, private thing. Nobody can demonize someone else’s thoughts or feelings because they have no way of knowing what those are. Women can absolutely object to men who act on their sexual urges in ways that make them feel uncomfortable. It’s not the sexuality, it the BEHAVIOR that can be problematic. Why do some men feel entitled to behave in ways that make their unsolicited sexual urges and desires women’s problem to deal with? Your penis’s happiness may be the most im…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:11 PM
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“Exposing his desire” is an imposition…strange men’s sexual urges should not become women’s problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:02 PM
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What does one thing have to do with the other? The fundamental problem is that you either don’t understand the concept of consent or believe that men’s sexual behaviors are women’s responsibility to manage. Presumably they were having sex with people who were consenting to that sex. What would give you, someone who was not a party to that consensual sex, any right to offer unsolicited commentary on it (without her consent). That’s very different than a man imposing his sexual desires and impulse…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 01:25 PM
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Not looking for a leader or a follower, just a partner. Reasonable responsible adults have traits from both lists. Classic false dichotomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 01:11 AM
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I think a material difference is that cars don’t want to hurt you. They don’t hunt for victims or create situations where they can inflict damage. Cars don’t select for insecure drivers who can be manipulated into crashing and then blaming themselves for doing so. Cars aren’t trying to get something from you and aren’t deciding to damage you to get what they want. Do you see the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 11:21 PM
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Unaware or uncaring. The result is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:48 AM
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If scientists determined that sexual interaction with men was causing women to be less fertile and that all procreation should be via artificial insemination, men’s “concern” about birth rates would vanish in a millisecond. Their new campaign would be to discredit scientists 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:24 AM
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What it means is that women are much more aware of, and aware of the potential damage that can be inflicted on women by, predatory men than men are. Men (some) are incentivized to embrace men’s predation of naive women because it achieves their goals. They are not likely to trouble themselves with the fallout for those women because they don’t think of them at all beyond the women’s usefulness to them. Women, particularly women who have been victims of predatory men in the past, are far more lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:21 AM
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If men only swiped right on women they are actually interested in, and compatible with per their own AND the woman’s stated preferences (the way most women do), and are roughly in the realm of women who might reciprocate interest, online dating stats for everyone would be better and the gender skew would diminish.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 12:31 AM
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Just as it’s valid for women to do the same. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:52 PM
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Clearly you are either targeting women with weak boundaries and / or poor self esteem, or targeting insecure or immature women and demeaning them sufficiently to erode their self esteem and ability to advocate for themselves. Of course the alternative is that they don’t actually give a fig and are just wasting time with you until they are ready for a real relationship (and may well be cheating on you 🤷‍♀️). Mentally and emotionally healthy women don’t tolerate degeneracy for long unless they lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:41 PM
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If it wasn’t worth it to them they would move on. Men aren’t remaining in relationships for purely altruistic reasons…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:34 PM
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Literally EVERYONE settles for less than their “ideal”. There is no perfect partner. The appropriate balance is, is your life overall better with them than it would be without them. That requires weighing all of the factors, good and bad, If that’s true, you are good. If not, move one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:01 PM
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You must not be in the US. Premarital assets are considered separate property as long as they are not commingled during the marriage. Assets acquired during the marriage are considered community property in some states and as subject to equitable distribution in others. None of that is gendered. Neither is child custody. The primary caretaker (regardless of gender) is more likely to get more physical custody in places where 50/50 is not the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 10:53 PM
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This IS their hobby…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 10:23 PM
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If artificial, the weekend after thanksgiving. If real, a week before Christmas (otherwise you end up with a house full of dead pine needles by Christmas). Either way it comes down on New Year’s Day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 09:12 PM
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I’d say my scenarios are actually far more likely, they just don’t fit the “I can’t get laid so women are evil” agenda that some men here cling to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:52 PM
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If we’re making up ridiculous scenarios… maybe he’s just doing the “old ball and chain” schtick because he thinks it’s funny and doesn’t want to go into detail about why he’s not completely retiring. Women are used to being the scapegoats for their partners not wanting to get into complicated conversations. “My wife won’t let me” is a VERY common excuse for “I really don’t want to”… Maybe they both know that he will go insane sitting around the house with no reason to get dressed each morning an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:23 PM
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What does “stepping up their duties in society” look like exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:17 AM
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Here’s the thing…for years women (obligatory “not all”) have been telling men that we aren’t looking for providers / protectors. We are earning our own money and saber tooth tigers are relatively scarce. We are looking for partners to equally contribute financially, emotionally, mentally, parentally, and domestically. Some men are catching on. Unfortunately others are deciding that they aren’t really interested in that (it sounds hard right?)…and are desperately clinging to claiming to be the th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:25 AM
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Until we mandate fluorescent forehead tattoos, that seems unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:39 PM
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Waiting a few years to start making mistakes in not necessarily a bad thing provided that the mistakes you make are small mistakes regardless of when they occur. Teenage romances are generally dramatic train wrecks fueled by inexperience, hormones, emotional disregulation, peer pressure, and unfocused rebelliousness. They can be very intense and intensely damaging to immature hearts and minds. Basically, adolescents are cruel assholes at heart. They can’t help it, they just are. Missing out on r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:40 PM
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So you’re saying that more than half of the males on the planet can’t be held legally responsible for violence against women and children…and yet we are supposed to accept that men should be “leaders”? Sounds like they shouldn’t be allowed to walk free among us.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:28 PM
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Policemen, firemen, and social safety nets are paid for and funded in legal tender as compensation for performing their jobs protecting and supporting everyone including women, children and men. Those funds are paid by taxpayers which include women. Why do you believe that women owe some kind of special gender based debt? Are men handing out blowies to first responders? Are oil executives fluffing tax payers in return for federal tax incentives? Are men expected to cook and clean for sanitation …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:07 PM
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How about this as a compromise: We won’t expect men to protect us and men agree not to attack us🤷‍♀️. Or maybe: Men agree not to claim gender based credit for the achievements and accomplishments of other men (men built society, men maintain society, infrastructure, military readiness etc etc etc) and we agree not to assign them with gender based blame for all of the atrocities committed against women and children by other men. Or how about: Men understand that men are women’s (and men’s) primar…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:57 PM
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“Want” and “deserve” are two different things. No one “deserves” another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:54 AM
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Be careful with that “we”. Many women don’t need a man to make more money than we do. Some women don’t care at all. Some of us just want a man who is within 25% +/- of where we are so that our lifestyles are roughly aligned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:00 AM
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Women avoiding eye contact, not enthusiastically participating in conversations, saying “no thanks” or “I have a boyfriend/husband” ARE letting men down easy (and really hoping that they will accept it politely and leave us alone without going off the deep end…) Unfortunately there are a lot of men who refuse to be let down easy and will view anything short of a harsh shut down as an indication that they should push harder (and some won’t even be discouraged by a harsh shut down).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:39 PM
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Yes, sex is something that people should “be able to” partake in with other people who also want to partake in it with them The “should be able to” doesn’t mean that anyone else is obligated to want to with you. It doesn’t mean that everyone wants to have sex for pleasure outside of a committed relationship (or would even find it pleasurable) regardless of whether the people who want to have sex with them are average or super attractive or Quasimodo. Saying that people should “be able” to have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:00 PM
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So the man blames the woman for his own “shortcomings”? Typical …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:21 AM
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Bad sex is exponentially worse than no sex from a woman’s perspective. No exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:19 AM
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So…telling an aging (30+) alcoholic who lusts after but can’t get “20-24 years old, white, slender, blue eyes, pretty.” young women”, to cut the shit and pay for what he can’t attract naturally (because ewwww🤢) is “lording it over a struggling man”?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:29 AM
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If men (or women) can’t handle the imaginary scenarios that they invent in their heads without imposing those imaginary scenarios on their partners, they should walk away. Quickly and politely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:20 AM
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How is that bitter?🤣 Aren’t you guys big fans of “the truth”? That’s the truth. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:17 AM
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If they do, the same advice applies. Making those “crazy” symptoms your partners problem to deal with is toxic regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:16 AM
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Those things sound like men’s imaginary problems to get over. Guaranteed that if they make their absurd insecurities the woman’s problem to deal with, they’ll lose (as they should).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:03 AM
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You don’t. You are now that guy… the aging wanabe sitting at the bar or hanging around the club, staring at young women and making their skin crawl. The bouncers are watching you but not too worried because you’re more pathetic than threatening. Don’t make yourself a punchline. Your “glory days” are over. Your only hope is to pony up for a sugar baby and suspend disbelief (which shouldn’t be a heavy lift for you…) and believe it when she says she’s really attracted to you and wants you and only …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:59 PM
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So that entitles him to exploit an unwitting innocent woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:55 AM
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There is zero reason for you to assume any of that. Again, that’s a human being. FFS try having just a little empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:31 PM
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Opportunity for what? 15 seconds of horrific sex with a man who’s choking back his vomit just to check “virginity” off his list? There are zero women who would knowingly sign up for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:15 PM
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Do you still not understand that women (regardless of weight) would rather be alone and single than to entertain men who are just using them as masturbatory tools?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:48 PM
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Do you seriously not see how awful and hurtful that is for the woman? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:33 PM
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He’s not talking about asking a woman to teach him because she’s experienced and safe, he’s trying to figure out how utterly hideous the woman has to be for her to say yes (without knowing that that’s what he’s doing) that’s a bit different don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:31 PM
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I wasn’t talking about the sex worker. Are you being deliberately obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:28 PM
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No woman would knowingly “use” a virgin man for sex 🤣 particularly if she knew he was looking at her as the lowest of the low and gritting his teeth to get his cherry popped so he can get away from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:27 PM
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I don’t think you’re remembering that the “method” you’re advocating USING to tick your virginity box is an actual human being. A thinking, feeling, person, with whom you’re trying to do the most intimate (and invasive) act that exists, not an “achievable starter hole”… You should be ashamed of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:56 PM
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The number of men who would claim to have gotten it vs. the number who would actually have gotten it… 100,000 to 1 at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:04 PM
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How is that hypocritical? I’m not saying don’t have sex. I’m saying that if two people DO have sex (as people do), men have absolute control over whether a baby is possible. That is the moment when they can absolutely and very easily refuse paternity. Why is that too big an ask? Once that sperm gets in there and an egg is fertilized, the woman either has to carry the fetus for 9 1/2 months (along with all of the physical, social, financial, and professional consequences of that) and go through p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:33 AM
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It’s sooooo freaking simple. You can have all of the hot wild monkey sex you want, just don’t deposit your sperm in a fertile woman’s vagina! So easy! Nobody is saying don’t have sex, sex is awesome, just don’t let the swimmers swim free🤷‍♀️. Women’s birth control tries to prevent those swimmers from reaching their goal, but obviously that isn’t always effective. You know what IS effective? Not putting that sperm in there in the first place to wreak havoc! 100% certainty. No sperm, no baby. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:27 AM
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BEEP…BEEP…BEEP…(that’s the sound of your BMI hitting the “obese” zone). Happy Thanksgiving 🍽
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:07 AM
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Trying to “save” a relationship after it over is an empty gesture if you didn’t do the work to nourish that relationship every day when it was healthy and before it was over. Relationships die by inches over days and weeks and years. Ignoring that incremental death and the donning your cape and valiantly performing CPR on the corpse doesn’t count…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 11:16 PM
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Married and partnered men being more likely to be violent towards their partners is because they HAVE partners and are regularly behind closed doors with those women. They have both proximity and opportunity to enable their propensity. Lonely unpartnered men lack that proximity and opportunity, not necessarily the propensity. Violent men are violent whether they have a convenient target for that violence or not. The lack of proximate victims is not indicative of a lack of violent potential. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:41 PM
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That doesn’t seem to be happening even in places where prostitution IS legal…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:04 AM
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I’m not mad, just calling out the lie. It’s not that they don’t need women, it’s that they can’t handle actual women who have agency and choice and the ability to reject them or call them out for their reprehensible behavior. They need “women” who have no gag reflex, literally or figuratively. It’s not MGTOW, it’s robotic Stepford Wives 🤣🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:02 AM
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The funny part is that these men who are saying that they want sex robots because they don’t “need” women actually do need women, they just want “life like” women that can’t say no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:21 AM
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Most of what you just listed are personality traits…yet when women say personality matters you guys call us liars🙄.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:19 PM
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The nuance that men fail to understand is that women can, and absolutely do, acknowledge that a man is attractive without being at all attracted to him or having any desire at all to interact with him. Attractive and Attracted are two different things. There is certainly overlap but it’s far from being a circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:37 PM
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So…if women would just voluntarily have casual sex that they don’t want with men they aren’t interested in, those men wouldn’t have to lie and deceive them? So, rape-lite? That’s what you’re justifying here. Consent given under false premise is no consent at all. You’re singing from the same hymnal as the dickpocalypse dudes who tell women that if we don’t voluntarily have sex with undesirable men, they will rise up and rape us all… Repulsive. And yet you wonder why women don’t want you…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:48 PM
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So…she’s sharing what’s going on in her life while catching up with a friend and you (supposedly that friend) are being nosey, condescending, and judgmental and interrogating her about details that don’t matter in terms of catching up instead of actually talking about what she’s sharing? You are failing to see the forest for the trees and being a shitty friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:20 AM
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That sentiment is 90% of the posts and comments on this sub from men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:57 AM
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It’s not the same 90% of men…women typically look for men within 5 years of their age which takes it down to about 7.5% of men. Now narrow that down to men who are single and not gay. Now consider how many of those men appear in a woman’s day to day life. That’s before we look at physical attractiveness, shared values and goals, socioeconomic strata and reciprocity of interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:06 AM
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I’ve been technically smarter than any man I’ve been with. Freakishly high IQ (accident of birth, not earned accomplishment)🤷‍♀️. That absolutely doesn’t mean that I have been better at everything than them 🤣. Just that I tend to pick up new ideas more quickly and have an easier time finding solutions to problems or understanding complex concepts. Honestly? It has created issues when the disparity is too large or when the man in question had a self destructive, testosterone driven, need to be “r…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:56 AM
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And how in the world would what that woman thinks impact you at all? I guarantee she wouldn’t be giving any kind of signs or signals that she would be receptive to you approaching her in the first place 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 09:31 PM
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If your point was based in reality, apps wouldn’t skew so overwhelmingly male…women know that apps are dumpster fires, that’s why we avoid them like the plague compared to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:57 AM
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Like a monkey but less pushback from PETA!🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:18 AM
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lol. Ok Kevin who works the register at BestBuy🤣🤣🤣. Shoot for the stars buddy boy!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:04 AM
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Failed to do what?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:04 AM
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Men aspiring to be “attractive enough” to mistreat women is a huge problem…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:53 AM
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Offer to make Hasenpfeffer and to bring over a movie to watch. Maybe “Fatal Attraction” ? That should really give him the full picture of what you bring to the table🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:44 AM
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☝️☝️☝️He gets it!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:32 AM
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Far more women would just stay single and not date at all. Those that want sex would just pick up the hottest man they could find for a night and if he performs well, drop him until they’re horny again, otherwise kick him out mid coitus. Far fewer men would have sex and relationships than do now. Men would look back on today as the golden age of men’s access to sex and relationships. Men would have to sit on the sidelines hoping to be chosen and being constantly disappointed. Do it, I dare you. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:28 AM
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I understand what you’re saying. You just massively underestimate the degree of apathy women have towards men we aren’t actively interested in. Again, why would we chase something we are ambivalent about at best?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:12 AM
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Not if they aren’t interested in those “normal” guys. Why would women go out of their way to get something they don’t want even when it’s freely and repeatedly offered? If those men are being rejected when they approach women, I’m not sure why they think they would have better results by waiting for those women to approach them…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:07 AM
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The overwhelming majority of men aren’t worth approaching for any individual woman 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:55 PM
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“Appreciation” is not a good basis for a fulfilling partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:05 PM
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It’s not that women are afraid of being rejected by men who aren’t interested. It’s that women are afraid of NOT being rejected by men who aren’t interested. It’s no secret that many men aren’t going to reject someone they assume will be an easy “sure thing”, whether they are actually interested in the woman at all, especially if they are bored or horny. I think if we could be sure that men would choose to reject women they aren’t sincerely interested in, instead of playing along for the chance …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 10:53 PM
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The odds of any person being the “perfect man / woman” for your entire life based on who they are at 17 (average age of first sexual intercourse) are slim and none. It’s not only, or even mostly, about sexual experience. It’s about maturity, life experience, personal and social development, and a slowly developing frontal lobe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 10:14 PM
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Because you’re a hypocritical aspiring cheater…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 08:55 PM
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The heart part is the challenge…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:55 PM
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Irony: the expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect. Unfortunately sometimes it’s accidental…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:08 AM
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Oh honey 🤦‍♀️. She’s got you hook, line , and sinker. Those nudes are bait. She’s got hundreds of them to use to draw in men and get what she can from them. She IS getting money from other men irl right now, guaranteed. If you want to have sex with her, pay her (in person) and hope she follows through and doesn’t just dash. It’s not just me saying this. Literally everyone here knows what’s going on except for you. Sorry kid, you’re being played by a polished professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:56 AM
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Awesome!!! Although I totally loved the elder vampire / vibrant granny convict smuggling narrative! It was a super juicy idea for a fantasy novel series for large print and audiobooks 🤣. Now you can sue him and use the winnings to hire artists to paint murals on all of his properties!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:20 AM
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Sweetpea, she’s not sacrificing that, she’s waiting for you to get horny enough to get with the program.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:17 AM
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He just can’t bring himself to accept it🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:15 AM
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Hey what happened with your criminal harassment/ mischief (or similar) charges from the evil LL? Are you on the lamb?🤣. Vibrant granny dodging the law? Being smuggled out of the country by elderly vampires? I totally need to know! (Yes, living vicariously…what of it?🤣).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:57 AM
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Tell her you want to buy her a Chanel bag (and will definitely include the sales receipt with the “gift”). Easy peasy. Guaranteed success with her…for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:52 AM
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Nope. Not really 🤷‍♀️🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:34 AM
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If you’re talking about berichor, he’s talking on line to a sugarbaby who’s reeling him in with a soft touch. She thinks he’ll come up with money to have sex with her and will drop him like a hot potato when she figures out that he’s broke. Edit: looks like she figured it out 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:57 PM
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Has it ever occurred to you that your suffering is pretty much entirely caused by the imaginary relationships that you create in your head with women that you artificially elevate into pinnacles of your own personal egocentric desires in unsustainable ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:54 PM
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Good luck 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:19 AM
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Why are you making your “virginity” your entire personality? How would anyone know? I swear some of you guys and trying to fetishize your own lack of sexual experience and cosplay some bizarre combination of The Scarlet Letter and The Red Badge of Courage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:18 AM
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lol. How old do you think those RP guy with microphones are? Mostly 40’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:12 AM
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So you’re selecting for seriously delusional women? Do you offer complementary delusions? Are you rating 2s as 10s?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:10 AM
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So…she doesn’t want you, you don’t want her…and you’re angry about it? Sounds like you’re chugging poison and expecting other people to get sick. Why be angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:08 AM
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Username checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:03 AM
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Every man who cold approaches, every man who sends unsolicited dicpicks, every man who get sexual in their first messages on OLD, every man who cat calls, every man who comments on women’s appearance, every man who thinks women owe him sex for buying a cup of coffee or lunch or dinner or a cocktail, every man who reduces women to his view of their sexual appeal, every man who tries to “get sex” from a woman just because he’s horny, every man who hits on a woman who is just trying to live her lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:50 AM
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lol. He’s trying to get me banned for calling him out right now 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:02 AM
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You don’t think claiming that women “should” lower their standards and / or threatening, whether overtly or covertly, that women will lose their rights, suffer repercussions when “society falls”, vaguely be sorry because they didn’t sexually accommodate these men, is an indication of inherently held entitlement?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:01 AM
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Some of these guys are dedicated to the grift. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:45 AM
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Mmmhmmm, of course you were. Definitely. No doubt 🙄. Clearly my mistake 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:44 AM
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Men are absolutely welcome to expect women to participate equally in providing for the family, to contribute equally to household tasks and childcare, to not try to control them, to be hygienic, to participate equally in maintaining the relationship etc. Frankly, only contributing equally to a lot of those would be a vacation to a lot of women. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:41 AM
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Their post history is hidden 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:14 AM
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As does both the language and the bizarre “they” designation when talking about women…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:13 AM
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I disagree because…many, many (most?) men don’t actually “keep it to themselves”. Their private thoughts translate into actions that impose their personal sexual desires on women, both at large in the general public and individually targeted at women they are pursuing. The vast majority of women don’t accost strange men and make demands or try to force men to accommodate their sexual impulses whether they want to or not. Men’s tendencies are intrusive and demanding. They are imposed on women reg…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:12 AM
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Certainly possible but FAR less obvious if it is. OP isn’t even trying to get close 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:34 PM
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As long as men keep being men, there will always be women who decide not to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:17 PM
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This is truly the worst example of “men writing women” that I’ve seen in a while! Congratulations, you win the 👻🐈prize for today!🎊🎉👍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 10:59 PM
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I’m guessing the 54 GRAMS of sugar is a ummm contributor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 10:51 PM
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So you think women should volunteer to be in relationships with men that make their lives worse overall because…that’s what those men want? And to not do so is selfish of the women and is “the problem”? The problem for who? Those totally non-selfish men who expect women to sacrifice themselves on the alter of men’s desires?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:14 PM
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The problem comes in when their complaint is that the women they want aren’t willing to be in a shitty relationship with them and are choosing to be single. They act like they’re being denied their rights because women don’t think any relationship is better than no relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:56 PM
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Then they should concern themselves more with achieving small excellences than ejaculating in a fertile woman to have a positive impact on the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:01 AM
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Especially since men’s baseline contributions is literally ejaculation…like wow! What an accomplishment! Yippee 🥳!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:55 AM
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So you’re complaining that you’re unsatisfied with women’s current “effort to pussy” bonus structure? So, where else in life would you expect to get rewarded for “effort” that doesn’t lead to relevant improvement? Educationally? Financially? Professionally? At the gym? No? So why is it life’s greatest injustice that it also doesn’t work for accessing intimate congress with the women you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:49 AM
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What help is it specifically that women don’t want men to get? Let me know and I’ll address it at the monthly conference 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:44 AM
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Well how would they help? Specifically?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:28 AM
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lol. She was also his greatest defender and would take on anyone (else) who messed with him without blinking an eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:27 AM
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Great people are remembered, revered, and respected posthumously because of the content of their character, the lasting impact of their contribution to the wellbeing of others, and the love that they inspired, not the dna profile of their progeny. Legacies (both positive and negative) are about the life lived, not the success of the deceased’s swimmers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:25 AM
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Men’s “dating struggles” boil down to some men not being able to easily date or have sex with the women they want when those women women don’t want to date or have sex with them…what specifically do you think women can do about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:20 AM
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Here’s a 100% truth for you. If a man is making a woman’s life better by being in it than by not being in it, she’s not leaving. Why would you expect her not to leave if her life is better without you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:17 AM
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Most women don’t use dating apps. Of the minority who do, most are hoping to actually meet someone they like. The fact that they don’t find what they are looking for doesn’t mean they are on there just for attention. I guarantee that women on dating apps would prefer not to get 90%+ of the “attention” they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:15 AM
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That’s your league 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:10 AM
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When my kids were little (maybe 6 and 4 1/2) I caught my daughter (older) telling her brother (younger) that I was lying to make him feel better and go to sleep but that the truth was the there really were monsters under his bed. She told him that she knew because they almost got her when it was her bedroom and she would miss him when he got eaten up and I was trying to trick him and told her not to tell him the truth so he would stop worrying about it and go to bed🤦‍♀️. I didn’t know whether to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:08 AM
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Newsflash! The vast majority of women are well aware that being “sexually desired” by random men is absolutely worthless and the furthest thing from an ego boost. Please get it through your collective heads that just because you might find being gooned over, uninvited, by unappealing women a positive thing, most women absolutely don’t feel the same way. We’ve been being hunted by horny men who want to use our bodies for their pleasure and to our detriment since childhood and likely will be until…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:32 PM
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Many were, yes. Obviously not all. Some women are still being forced into that today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:05 PM
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Nobody is demanding that men do anything. Women are not insisting that men meet their standards so that they can date those men, they are just choosing to date the men who do meet their standards. Men are free to, and encouraged to, do the same thing. Nobody has the responsibility to meet anyone’s standards🤷‍♀️. You just don’t get to date the people who hold those standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:30 PM
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Sure it is. It’s saying that the women they want should expand (aka lower) their standards to include wanting those men. If they wanted to date those men, they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:25 PM
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Ok, so how do men’s dating issues differ from my summary?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:35 PM
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Men’s “dating struggles” boil down to some men not being able to easily date or have sex with the women they want when those women women don’t want to date or have sex with them…are you suggesting that everyone should be criticizing women for not dating and having sex with men they don’t like? If so, what specific criticism is it that you feel is appropriate and being prevented?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:19 PM
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I don’t think anyone who would take that idea literally and believe it to be reasonable would be a good partner anyway so it doesn’t really matter.🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:32 PM
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So you changed your username and are back with this same deliberate misunderstanding in some bizarre attempt to claim that women enjoy being raped? Are you going to post about women climaxing during rape next? I certainly hope nobody wastes time trying to educate you this time. Take your sick fantasies elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:29 PM
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Welcome to PPD… you must be new here🤣🤣🤣. Strap in and enjoy the ride through the gurgling slime puddle that is representative of the root cause of the “male loneliness epidemic”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:06 AM
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Oh goody! Does that mean that you’re going to jump in when men here discuss “slump busters” and how some women are “casual use only” or maybe “post nut clarity”? How about all of the men who state unequivocally that women’s only usefulness is providing sex? How about all the men who advocate for using deception and “plausible deniability” re/ their interest and intentions to “get sex” from women who wouldn’t otherwise be willing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:51 AM
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Of course not. Nobody wants to be cheated on. 🤷‍♀️ The difference is that women aren’t trying to get men to change or threatening their rights, they are just stating their personal standards to date men. If men don’t meet those standards, then women aren’t interested in dating them. No harm no foul, no threats or attempts at extortion. Men seem to believe that trying to compel women to meet their standards regardless of whether or not those women want to date them is the same thing. Example: Wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:43 AM
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Up to you. Your personal challenges do not create an obligation for women to sacrifice themselves for your satisfaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:25 AM
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Then you’re out of luck. Nobody is obligated to settle for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:24 AM
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Nothing if people freely choose that dynamic for their personal relationship. Everything if they’re imposed on people who don’t freely choose them for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:23 AM
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Not at all. The fact is that the only person anyone can control is themselves. You (non-gendered) get to decide what standards a potential partner needs to meet to make them worth interacting with. Nobody gets to decide what other people should do to meet your standards. If you can’t find people who meet your standards who’s standards you also meet you have a couple of choices: Keep hoping and looking. Change your standards. Work to meet the standards of the people you want . Don’t date. That’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:21 AM
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Or don’t date. Up to you. If you can’t find women who you are attracted to who are also attracted to you then you have a couple of choices. Keep looking and hoping. Change what you’re attracted to. Work on yourself to be attractive to those women. Don’t date. That’s pretty much it and it not a gendered decision tree🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:13 AM
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Meh, in the face of all of the “women need men as providers” and “women only want men for their resources” silliness I can see why it’s a thing 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:57 AM
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Of course, it should be normalized in this day and age, but unfortunately a lot of men don’t understand that dynamic and desperately cling to the idea that men are “leaders” and domestic labor is women’s work regardless of financial contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:45 AM
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Here’s the difference, women are saying that if men want to date them, these are the qualities that they are looking for and if they don’t then women prefer not to date at all. Men are saying that the women that they want to date need have xyz qualities because men need to date them. Do you see the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:41 AM
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I don’t see women mentioning submission at all, just “non-traditional” division of labor that works in their relationship. The whole idea of submission is where a lot of men shoot themselves in the dick…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:36 AM
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And are women constantly assuming that you can’t actually support yourself and should be willing to trade access to your body and unpaid domestic labor in order to survive?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:33 AM
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Again, men and women are absolutely entitled to any standards they want to have about the people they want to date. If someone doesn’t meet your standards, don’t date them. Easy peasy! What nobody gets to do is to try to control the actions of the people they feel should be their dating pool to ensure that those people meet their “standards”. This is not gendered. Date the people who meet your standards that also want to date you. Leave everyone else alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:16 AM
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I suggest that you review your “sources” before making statements like that. 13% of 334 single low socioeconomically rated women in Portland? 12.55% in Subsaharan African women? A study about racial economic disparity and the prevalence of STDs in economically disadvantaged women? That is the basis for your assertion that 10-30% of single women are sexually workers?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:06 AM
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No, because they have literally thousands of years of history of having both the right and ability to do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:49 AM
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If women are expected to sacrifice for “the continuation of the human species”, what, specifically, are men and “society” willing to sacrifice to make that palatable to women? I don’t see men volunteering to equally participate in parenting and household responsibilities. I don’t see men eager to support the children (who are going to continue the species) that they didn’t personally spawn (and often even when they did personally spawn them).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:44 AM
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Providing $$$ is providing regardless of the chromosomes of the provider or the job. Again, why would you expect a woman to cook and clean for you. Why shouldn’t she expect you to do that for her when she is “providing” as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:33 AM
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So again, you are selecting for women who obviously wouldn’t actually be interested in anything except your money and deciding that all women are doing that? That’s like visiting the cancer ward and asserting that everyone has cancer or going to an animal shelter and claiming that nobody in the world takes care of their pets. Surprise! Middle aged thirsty men who lead with their wallets and go after 20 something sexy women online are going to find that a disproportionate number of the women they…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:28 AM
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And yet most women also work and “provide” so why would you expect that they would also cook and clean?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:21 AM
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Dating is obviously not equivalent to basic survival. Your dick is just not that important to anyone but you. It’s simple minded to expect that it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:19 AM
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Dating is not equivalent to housing or employment. It’s disingenuous to pretend that it is. Dating is absolutely optional. Contrary to what men whine about here, getting your dick wet is not necessary to survival. If you don’t like your options, abstain or change your value proposition until the people you want also want you, and FFS stop choosing to settle and then trying to force those women to become what you really wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:17 AM
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So like..hand out random sexual and domestic labor “treats” to men as a token of appreciation as if every day is a bizarro world Y chromosome Halloween?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:08 AM
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I think you responded to the wrong comment…unless you’re seriously implying that washing one’s sheets and towels every week is “neurotic”…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:04 AM
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Most women don’t aspire to being SAHMs. It wouldn’t be practical even if they did. Most women also aren’t looking for SAHDs. That’s what I was pointing to as the middle ground that OP was missing. Again, the point is that in an equitable and egalitarian world, traditionally enforced gender roles aren’t a factor, not that there is a total gender role reversal. As an example, no, men shouldn’t have to be the ones to approach. Whoever wants something from another person should probably be the one t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:00 AM
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FFS just throw it in with your towels every week. Please 🙏🏻 say that you wash your sheets and towels every week…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:47 PM
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Dating isn’t a game of fatal musical chairs 🤷‍♀️. If you can’t find people you want to date who also want to date you, don’t date. It’s really very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:45 PM
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Why would you expect women to cook and clean for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:40 PM
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So you’re 40 and I’m guessing that you’re swiping right on very sexually provocative profiles of women in the 18-25 range?Sounds like you are leading with your wallet, hitting up young sugar babies because you want to believe that they are actually attracted to you, and then deciding that ALL women are doing sex work because of it? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:39 PM
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That’s legitimately disgusting 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:33 PM
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Amazingly women don’t seem to have the inherent desire to control and dominate men the way men want to control and dominate women 🤷‍♀️. We understand that that’s a toxic and abusive dynamic that isn’t conducive to a lasting partnership that meets everyone’s needs. Most women are looking for partners, not providers. That doesn’t mean that women want to be sole providers. It means that we want each person to be an equitable contributor to the relationship. You seem to have the same difficulty unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:26 PM
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You really can’t grasp the concept of middle ground can you? You should work on that. On one end is traditionally enforced patriarchal gender roles, on the other end is a wholesale reversal of those gender roles. Women are advocating for the middle ground where there are no set gender role expectations. Both parties can provide, both parties can parent, both parties can manage the household. Individuals get to decide where their strengths and preferences lie and partner with people who strengths…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:51 PM
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Nobody is forcing men to date women they don’t want to date. It sounds like you’re mad that the women you want aren’t proactively molding themselves to meet your desires. If you don’t want to date women who do, or have done xyz, don’t date women who do, or have done, xyz. It’s really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:39 PM
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I give money for the goods and services that I require, that are produced by both men and women, just like the men who purchase those goods and services. The people who produce those goods and services are financially compensated which allows them to purchase goods and services from others. My tax dollars fund police and fire and infrastructure and a multitude of other services, just like men’s tax dollars do. People have been trading financial instruments for goods and services that the either …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:53 AM
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How is not wanting to be in a relationship with someone whose life experience fundamentally differs exhibiting “toxic masculinity”. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with people loving who they love. Why is that toxic masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:33 AM
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Nope, I’m (maybe unfortunately🤷‍♀️ absolutely straight). And I also wouldn’t date a religious person (I’m an atheist), a conservative person (I’m liberal), a person from a vastly different background or socioeconomic strata. A person who prioritizes health and fitness very differently, a person who enjoys a very different lifestyle (think city mouse / country mouse thing) etc. Romantic relationships are hard enough without mixing in vastly different experiences or lifestyles. No reason to add ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:23 AM
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Is that because that’s the only reason that you would be nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:13 AM
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I think a lot of the world’s problems would be solved if everyone had to work in a service position and live in their earnings for 3 years before they achieved adult rights. Kind of like the Israeli army thing but with aprons and name tags and grease trap stink and periodic humiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:12 AM
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Sure, some men are lacking, some people are lacking. That’s definitely not gender specific. I know some great men. I know men that I like very much, really good guys. I have loved men during my lifetime, it’s possible that I will again someday . I just don’t know why I’d want one around all the time 🤷‍♀️. Are there things I miss about being in a relationship? Of course. Definitely. But…there are as many or more that I definitely don’t miss. I’m pretty happy living my life as a single cat (and do…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:06 AM
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For all of the men who are being poisoned by their algorithms, try following these two. That will not only make you happier but will gradually change your algorithm and show you other similar content which will eventually edge out all of the edgelord crap you’re currently wallowing in. One Happy Ass Farm (animal rescue with adorable baby donkeys etc.) Plumesofficiel (musician who plays guitar and sings to animals all over the world) Guaranteed to at least make you smile. You’re welcome 😇
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:29 PM
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I bet he smells like incense, self indulgence and bad decisions…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 01:20 PM
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Gross. Distilling an intimate experience that you shared with a fellow human being (ya know, a unique individual with thoughts, hopes and dreams) into “getting pussy” aka being able to masturbate in a generic vagina. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 01:16 PM
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You’re supposed to know them well enough to pick something they will enjoy. That’s part of the gift, showing that you care enough to pay attention and remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 01:10 PM
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They would pay a premium fee to have the sexbots programmed to say that previous owners were micro-dicked losers that never managed to have sex but that the new poor man is such a sex god that she’s feeling cravings that aren’t part of her programming…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:52 PM
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Shouldn’t that data already be available in their ordering system? Why would everyone need to write it down?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:33 PM
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The primary marker of true idiocy is an inherent failure to recognize one’s own idiocy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:53 AM
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Zero chance that comes without serious emotional baggage. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 03:51 AM
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I think you’re misunderstanding what boundaries are and what feelings are. Boundaries are about you and your personal decisions. They are not about changing other people’s behavior or decisions. If your boundary for yourself is that you are not comfortable with being in a relationship with someone who does xyz, then don’t be in a relationship with someone who does xyz. It’s really that simple. It will make it simpler for you if you don’t enter into relationships with people who clearly do xyz, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:19 AM
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Some men consider it oppression that women they don’t know aren’t twisting themselves into pretzels to accommodate that man’s preferences and desires. This comes from those men seeing women as a toxic combination of fungible resources and defective products as opposed to people with free will. They see women as something to acquire, own, use, and discard. They feel personally slighted when women don’t fall into line and present themselves as carefully curated options for that man. They feel pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:00 AM
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You can’t logic your way into rape being acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:44 AM
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And they wonder why women choose the bear…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:31 AM
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First, it is NEVER too late to say no. Secondly there is no amount of “force” that is acceptable. “Technically” physically forcing someone to have sex is rape. The end. She may be messed up (which is probably why he chose her as a victim in the first place), but he is clearly a serial sexual predator with a pattern of sexual assault. The idea that you think any man would have done the same and it’s ok because they consented to “most” of it is insane. I really hope this is rage bait but unfortuna…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:30 AM
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Transgression? Really? Transgression: an act that goes against a law, rule, or code of conduct; an offense. So…women’s choices about their own bodies and clothing choices is an “offense”? We have some obligation not to veer too far away from the repressive ideals of the male gaze? From corsets to high heels to dresses, long hair, long nails, all designed to handicap women and make them less agile, less capable of escape, less comfortable, and less functional. All to cater to men’s desires to con…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:37 AM
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Because “Demands” are…demands. Why do men get to make “demands”? How is that even in the same world as women wanting to be left alone?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 11:56 PM
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What opportunities are men losing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 11:53 PM
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How, specifically, would men like to “defend themselves” and what is preventing them from doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 11:52 PM
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You are absolutely in control of who exists IN YOUR PERSONAL SPACE (ie/ private, not open to the public, not a business etc). You can control who has access to your home, the inside of your personal car, your body. You can’t control who shares public spaces with you or discriminate in hiring based on non-relevant criteria. You are free to leave those spaces or companies if you don’t like sharing with others but you can’t control their right to enjoy the same rights that you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 11:48 PM
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It’s already illegal to file a false police report.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:45 PM
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Neither of those sources backs up your assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 02:56 AM
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The report also said that 9% admitted to using physical violence. If 9% admitted it, what do you think the actual number is?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 12:58 AM
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Filling a false police report is a non-gendered crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 12:00 AM
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FYI, the 99% male assailant statistic is rape (penetration) AND sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:53 PM
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What do you think is more common? Women lying about men sexually assaulting them or men lying about not having sexually assaulted women?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:48 PM
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Far more than 5% of men use sexual coercion. I would say the majority of men do and don’t see anything wrong with it…”still got laid -Ami right?”. The U.S. Department of Justice has found that nearly 99% of perpetrators of rape and sexual assault are male.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:35 PM
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As an FYI, I think it would be reasonable to say that 95%+ of women and girls over the age of 13 have experienced sexual coercion (far) more than once (obviously not all attempts are successful). That’s a pretty normal part of being female. The nastiness / threat level varies from annoying to terrifying but the underlying behavior is ridiculously common. We get so accustomed to it throughout our lives that while it’s disappointing, it’s not even a surprise. I think one reason some men prey on yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:17 PM
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According to men’s own admissions that’s unlikely to be accurate. https://theconversation.com/1-in-3-men-report-using-intimate-partner-violence-heres-how-we-can-better-protect-women-and-help-men-258058
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:06 PM
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Do you understand that those #s include “abuse? I barely touched her”, “she was asking for it”, “she looked 18”, “she led me on”, “c’mon, all women say no when they mean yes”, “well she didn’t say no”, “you can’t prove anything”, “the bitch had it coming” etc.etc.etc. I’m going to guess that the vast majority of people accused are going to claim to have been “falsely accused”. Just ask almost any incarcerated person, they’re ALL totally innocent…🙄.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 08:28 PM
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No, around 80% of DNA-based exonerations are not sexual assault cases; rather, sexual assault and murder cases together account for a majority of DNA exonerations, with sexual assault alone making up a significant portion but not 80%. According to a 2013 report, all sexual assaults, including both adult and child cases, accounted for approximately 63% of DNA-based exonerations. Breakdown of cases: Homicide cases make up another large category of DNA exonerations, at 30% in 2013. Reason for high …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:29 PM
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So…a fairly severely mentally ill young woman who had just been involuntarily hospitalized the month prior because she became very unstable and made bad decisions while off her meds, is now “in love” with a 55 year old man and in Greece, far away from her support system, and your question is HOW other men can “pull this off”? Hang around the psych ward and wait for young women to be released before they are mentally healthy?🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 05:52 PM
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Why are you attributing the safety net benefits for children as exclusively a contribution to the women who are actually raising those children? Presumably they didn’t create those children alone and if anything they are reducing the tax burden by caring for those children instead of abandoning them to the state as opposed to the men who are equally responsible for their creation and have abandoned them. At least half of those children are boys, do you resent those funds too? Are you counting th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 02:21 PM
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Based on post history, OP has been extremely, proudly and boastfully abusive and outright cruel in this relationship with the mother of his child, all while being an adherent of RP…so I’m gonna say no…even though the idea that he “loves” her is absurd. People don’t intentionally torture people that they love.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 11:41 PM
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I don’t think “scientific” means what you think it means…actually pretty sure “accurate” also doesn’t mean what you think it means…🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 08:14 PM
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Idk. Money and fame are absolutely NOT something I’m interested in but certainly in that kind of theoretical case it’s impossible to separate I think. He certainly wouldn’t have the exposure or swagger and the persona is probably a big part of it so🤷‍♀️. That said, I wouldn’t touch him with a 10 foot pole BUT I do recognize that he (for whatever combination of reasons) definitely has sex appeal that is not justified by his “physical attractiveness”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 02:40 AM
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In the abstract they can be separate. There are men who have undeniable sex appeal but aren’t physically attractive (Think Steven Tyler type). Their having sex appeal doesn’t mean that I desire to engage sexually with them in the slightest (that is true of physically attractive men who have sex appeal as well). It’s something to notice, but not necessarily a call to action or actual desire. Those are possible components that might be influential IF I’m available to, and interested in, meeting so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 12:38 AM
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Nope. It’s not “on women” to have sex with anyone, particularly not to fulfill some sort of “fair distribution”. Women are not resources for men’s use.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 04:35 PM
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If that were what he was suggesting, I’d absolutely be on board, but I’m pretty sure it’s not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 04:32 PM
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No, that’s not what objectification is. Objectification is the action of treating or viewing someone in a way that disregards their individuality or humanity, especially by considering them only in terms of their sexual attractiveness or availability. What I’m saying is pretty much the opposite of objectification. It’s commentary on women’s ability to appreciate that something is visually attractive without coveting it regardless of whether that attractive thing is animal, vegetable, or mineral.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 04:00 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:47 PM
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No, OP said that it’s “on women” to broaden our perspectives “as the selectors”. He did not say that these men should have the right or opportunity to self promote via a media campaign.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:30 PM
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Men are welcome to feel good about themselves and comfortable in their own skin. That’s great, I hope they do! It still has nothing to do with sexual access to women or somehow societally obligating women to be sexually attracted to unattractive/undesirable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:20 PM
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So women better have sex with you OR ELSE ? Can’t imagine why that’s not compelling…🙄.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:00 PM
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So…if I’m understanding the ask here…you’re not suggesting pity sex as the solution, you’re suggesting that women have a social responsibility as the “selectors” to “broaden our perspectives” on dating and sex and actually want to have “non-pity” sex with “losers”. Wow…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:58 PM
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There’s a difference between “ugly / unattractive” and neutral, not attractive to me personally “Ugly / UNattractive” is far more definitive or active. They cause an actual ughhh reaction. Most men are just people who are neither actively attractive nor actively UNattractive. They don’t register either way. Just a note: just because someone is physically attractive doesn’t mean that women who see them will be sexually attracted to them. Two totally separate things. Yes, being physically attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:02 PM
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The idea that women should even expect to enjoy sex is a relatively recent phenomenon. Sex was considered part of a woman’s duty in marriage. It was literally called “the marital debt”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 12:53 PM
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No. 1993. Indecent Proposal. It was Robert Redford, Demi Moore, and Woody Harrelson.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:05 PM
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Assertive is advocating for yourself and your ideas and not being dominated or controlled by others. That’s not the same as Dominant. Dominant is specifically imposing your will and ideas on others, controlling not just yourself but others as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:54 PM
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My Netflix…ughhh🤣. Let a kid use your account just once and you’re doomed to fending off Lego movies FOREVER 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:03 AM
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It probably takes time and discipline. Whenever something pops up randomly on my feeds that I don’t want I make sure to exit and do the “don’t show me that stuff” thing. Probably better to start from scratch though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:45 AM
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I’m pretty sure he meant what he said (and probably believes it)…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:00 AM
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Oh honey, I’m not “taking you down”, I’m pointing out that perhaps you don’t have the life experience to make the pronouncements that you seem prone to making. Juvenile attempts at mass negging of grown women just aren’t that compelling 🤷‍♀️. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being young and inexperienced! We were all there at some point. The wisdom lies in knowing what you don’t know. In the words of Abraham Lincoln, “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than speak out and rem…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:47 PM
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Well bless your heart, child. It’s par for the course that an 18 year old whose first date ever was a couple of weeks ago is the one telling all of the women that we just need to face the fact that the men we are with just settled for us and actually see us as “lower” than themselves. Tell me Jr., on what are you basing these pearls of wisdom that you cast so considerately before us poor deluded swine? Hmmm?🤔 Well, I guess either way, it’s a good thing you’re here to take us all down a peg or tw…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:24 PM
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Fewer than 50% of men are less than 5’8” so…that 85% thing isn’t mathing… And no, women don’t want to date men we aren’t attracted to. Shocking, right? Guess what, a mediocre/ bad relationship and mediocre: bad sex is absolutely worse than no relationship and no sex. We would absolutely rather be single. One would think that with all of the screeching men do about women settling and afbb and only wanting women who are “viscerally attracted” to them, this would be a good thing 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:30 PM
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The first one is % from 2020 of single vs in a committed relationship. The second is % from 2018 of 20’s men who haven’t had sex since they were 18. Neither shows women having more sex than men…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:18 PM
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What studies are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:55 PM
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You do realize that women can be a little drunk and depressed / bored and decide that you’re there, aren’t repulsive and you’ll do for a brief distraction that they’ll probably regret but what the heck, right? That’s undoubtedly a more common reason that ONS happen than women being overcome by visceral lust and unbridled desire because a man is SO HOT AND SEXY…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:21 PM
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Meh, she could easily be admiring you in a non personally or actionably interested way. Women are 100% capable of noticing and appreciating that someone is attractive eye candy without being actively sexually attracted to them or having any desire at all to do anything other than notice and admire (yes, we understand that’s confusing to men but it is absolutely common for women). Women can also enjoy being noticed and admired without having any interest in anything except feeling flattered and m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:14 PM
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As an older fit woman, option 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:35 PM
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So…your criticism of feminism is that it doesn’t specifically advocate for short men to be taken seriously by other men in professional environments? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:08 AM
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So what, specifically, would a man who calls out other men for victim blaming, raise, assault and harassment be wrong about?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:06 AM
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Are you equating the lack of institutionalized legal, professional and societal discrimination against women as a gender with free access for men to individual women’s vaginas?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:51 AM
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Do you think men should have no opinion or voice on the vile acts of other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:46 AM
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So…you disagree and are in favor of rape, assault, and harassment?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:40 AM
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Sooo…you don’t think that men should be “equally” opposed to the rape, assault, and harassment of other human beings? Interesting🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:39 AM
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What resources?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:01 PM
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For what specifically?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:33 PM
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Nope. You are completely wrong. You couldn’t be more wrong. I understand that you’re trying to force my life history into your misogynistic narrative, I’m just not sure why.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 04:06 PM
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I’m going to bet that if there is any conversation, it’s absolutely not them seething that you didn’t choose them, it’s them wondering what the heck that poor woman sees in you and assuming that it’s money 🤷‍♀️. They may be wondering if you’re foolish enough to think she’s really into you and might find your peacocking a bit silly and kinda pathetic. Do you by any chance also have a super flashy sports car or a giant shiny truck? A fancy watch that you make a point of showing? Maybe wear a littl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:06 PM
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That sounds like selection bias. If you’re looking for casual sex, the women who agree are by definition going to be part of the minority of women who are comfortable with casual sex AND are less risk averse that the women who either don’t want casual in the first place or would be open to it in theory but are put off by the risks. Nobody is claiming that those women don’t exist, just that they are a relatively small minority of women, not the overwhelming majority that some men seem to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:54 PM
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So…1% vs 2-3%?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:17 AM
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I don’t think gaslighting means what you think it means…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:11 AM
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Thank you. Sun Tzu certainly has some good points but I hope my advice isn’t quite that mercenary. I do believe it is better to be loved than feared, so we differ there🤣. But yes, choose wisely, love well in ways that build others up, be loved in ways that build you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:43 AM
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I don’t think I will try again. Not ruling anything out 100% but honestly the bar for a relationship man to be a net positive in my life is pretty high. I kinda love my life 😊. I’m happy and content and can’t really think of anything I miss. For those starting out? Oh goodness…you will make mistakes. Lots of mistakes. Just try very hard to make them small mistakes, not life changing mistakes. If you ever feel as if someone will treat you well if you are just a little bit “better” in whatever way…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:26 AM
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I wish I had been able to make better decisions and maybe avoided some truly awful situations but no. On balance I can’t regret the marriage that gave me the amazing humans that are my children because the world would be a worse place without them (even if it should have been a dateline special - bad, very bad) and I can’t regret the 12+ year relationship that happened some years after that. He’s a good man in many ways. It just turned out that we weren’t what each other really needed and figuri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:58 PM
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Of course there were positive takeaways. My (adults now) children, some really wonderful memories, a lot of ways in which I grew into myself and learned to be stronger than I ever thought I could be. I learned what I need vs what I want which is invaluable. Just because things didn’t work out and weren’t overall positive doesn’t mean that they were all bad men (ok, yes, one was a very bad man, the other was probably a good man for someone else, just not for me. ). There is some chance (although …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:36 PM
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Mmmhmmm…funny, it wasn’t on PPD though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:20 PM
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What you’re not really understanding is that relationships with men are optional and staying single is a valid option. Women aren’t demanding that men meet our standards in any way. We are not threatening their bodily autonomy. We are not trying to remove their rights or subjugate them into submission. We are not trying to convince them that biology demands that they comply. We just aren’t dating them. If no men meet those standards we are perfectly content to be single 🤷‍♀️ That by definition m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:20 PM
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In the aggregate, romantic relationships with men have been a net negative. Certainly there were amazing times and good times and I’m absolutely not saying that men are all bad, or that everything that wasn’t good was their fault. It definitely takes two either way. I am saying that I’ve been far happier and my life has been far better overall without one than with any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:08 PM
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According to post history, 2 years ago you were 30…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:00 PM
5

Re/ your first “point”, (some) men are the ones who threaten the dickpocalypse every time the male loneliness (sexlessness) issue is discussed, not women. We get to hear ad nauseam about how, if we’re not willing to have sex with men we aren’t attracted, to “there will be consequences” and about how men will just take away women’s rights or turn into roving bands of rapists and golly won’t we be sorry we didn’t volunteer as bangmaids when we had the chance…maybe they’ll start talking about “all …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 08:18 PM
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Oh honey, you just can’t help yourself can you…it’s like you are deliberately searching for rotten food at the bottom of a dumpster, gorging on it repeatedly, getting sick, and then trying to get other people to agree that all food is poisonous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:34 PM
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Bless your heart. It looks like you’ve been marinating your brain in rage bait for years. Seriously, try the baby donkeys cavorting. It’ll do you good. If that fails try ducks wearing hats or cakes made to look like other things. Change your algorithm and change your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:19 PM
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Congratulations, you have trained your algorithms to feed you the rage bait that gets you riled up and engaged. Your engagement creates wealth for those content creators and for the platform. My social media is full of baby donkeys cavorting around (so freakin adorable - I highly recommend!), giant dogs being doufy, dog training tips, gardening and landscaping, farmhouse decor diy ideas, recipes, and a soupçon of liberal political commentary. My algorithm makes me happy. Does yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:02 PM
-2

Ewwww🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:03 AM
0

Instant left swipe 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:03 AM
2

Why should she care what you want? You’re the one asking for something from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:02 AM
5

Your parents are very well off…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:59 AM
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Like what? Seriously, be very specific. Concrete steps that I, as an individual could take.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:20 AM
-2

Are women objecting to third spaces or are they overwhelmingly the ones who organize social events and manage social calendars? When men stop being creepy women will stop objecting. The fact is that most women DO NOT want to be approached by rude thirty men who don’t accept rejection or social cues and interrupt their day to day lives. Maybe men should start policing each other instead of complaining about women not wanting to be harassed? Women already make the first move when they are interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:07 AM
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Feminism asks men to stop discriminating against women legally and politically. To stop physically, financially, and sexually abusing, harassing and killing women and girls. What reciprocity are you looking for in this case? What is the ask here? Are lonely men being discriminated against legally, financially or politically? Are they victims of women physically, financially, or sexually abusing, harassing and killing them? Or…are they just not getting sexual access to the (unwilling) women that …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:50 AM
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That may well be true but it’s still not going to make women want unattractive angry little men, particularly those unattractive angry little men who advocate for those things. And no, “little” is not about hight, it’s about character. It’s sort of funny, the same angry little men who say that going to a prostitute isn’t a solution to their issues, because they want to be “wanted”, get the weenie tingles at the idea of forcing women (who absolutely don’t want and possibly despise them) to be wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:56 PM
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And women are even less likely to date or have sex and relationships now. The birth rate fell even further and more men are sexless than before. How’s that working out for you? Are you winning yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:46 PM
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Meh, I guess petty little mean people do petty little mean things and then wonder why they’re all alone. All they are accomplishing is proving that the women who rejected them were 100% right and absolutely dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:42 PM
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Then explain what you did mean when you replied to that comment. Please be specific so we all understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:38 PM
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Funny, women don’t seek men’s loss of basic human rights or threaten institutionalized oppression when men aren’t around to occupy our time…we actually have “interests” that improve our lives and the lives of others…🤔 Maybe those men should consider volunteering or gardening or spending quality time with friends and family instead of wallowing in self inflicted misery and trying to subjugate half the population in a misguided attempt to feel bigger 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:37 PM
5

So you are equating men assaulting, raping, harassing and killing women and girls with … women not having sex with men they don’t want to have sex with? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:29 PM
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So…fuck lonely men voluntarily or we’ll do our best to make sure you live in Gilead and then you won’t have any choice? The political version of the “looming incel uprising dickpocalypse” revenge fantasy? I guess variety is good 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:22 PM
1

Ah, so it’s a “misery loves company” solution? Sounds like you (collective, not personal) just want to stop attractive women and attractive men from having the sex you wish you were having? So that you don’t feel left out? Is that it? Make everyone sexless so it doesn’t feel as lonely?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:04 PM
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So start a pen pal service 🤷‍♀️. Women already respond to men that they are interested in. You’re asking women to spend time and attention chatting with any man who wants them, even knowing that those women will NEVER want to date them? I’m pretty sure AI can already do that, why do women need to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:58 PM
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And what would you teach your daughter about men and “getting laid”?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:21 PM
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If relationships and marriage were mandatory you might have a point but men are kinda shooting themselves in the dick here because women are increasingly disinterested in either casual or commitment, are far less tolerant of men’s shenanigans, far less willing to settle or compromise and more and more are just opting to prioritize themselves and deprioritize men and relationships if they don’t suit their needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 08:52 PM
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Which comments, specifically, are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:19 PM
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Dab a little teak oil behind your ears and casually refer to left and right as port and starboard?🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:23 PM
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Again…not wanting to date or fuck someone =/= hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:17 PM
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Actually I am. Adults (barring severe mental illness or developmental disabilities), while subject to hormonal influence on their emotional state, are capable of policing their own behavior. Some choose not to when they think they can get away with it without adverse consequences. Feelings and actions are different things. One doesn’t control the other. That’s true of both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:15 PM
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So you are equating emotional outbursts with sexual assault? Really? Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:28 AM
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Massage parlors are notorious as human trafficking sites. And you think that’s a reasonable choice to make? https://polarisproject.org/blog/2018/06/human-trafficking-in-massage-parlors-a-deeply-manipulated-sense-of-choice/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:17 PM
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I don’t actually give a fig what my “probabilities” are. What possible difference would that make? The question is am I happier with a specific man or without him. I chose whichever leads to my greater happiness. That’s it, it’s that simple. As it stands, I’m pretty darned happy by myself and have been for 5+ years now and don’t have any reason to want to change that, so the bar for me to want to get involved with a man is pretty high. The “probabilities” of that occurring are likely very low an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:07 PM
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There’s a difference between believing you’re “entitled” to something and deciding not settle for less. Seems to me that it’s the men who are deciding who women should be dating that believe they’re “entitled” to women they’ve decided are at or below their “level”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:09 PM
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Mindlessly worshipping false prophets is not the win you think it is… Just ask the Jonestown followers…oh yeah, you can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:18 AM
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Oooh are you threatening the dickpocalypse again? Common veiled threat around here 🤷‍♀️. The incel uprising when women will have to choose between being submissive chattel to warlords (who are Chads btw) and being at the mercy of roving gangs of recently emerged basement dwellers who magically manage to terrorize, rape and pillage while squinting and blinking myopically in the natural light, awkwardly trying too interact with each other (facilitated by rolling 20 sided dice to make decisions), c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:15 AM
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Here’s the thing. By being single I can have even lower chances of being abused, manipulated, beaten or killed (also not aware of ANY evidence that unattractive men are less likely to be violent). I can protect and provide for myself without having to endure a lifetime of sexual misery and disgust. If you think some men being attracted to fat women is a recent phenomenon, I invite you to peruse history and art… if anything, the current standards for fairly extreme female thinness is the anomaly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:15 AM
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What good is “real love” if it’s physical manifestation makes your skin crawl? Would those unattractive men be happy with a sexless marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:51 PM
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Why would you expect women to “give a chance” to men they aren’t attracted to? Do men regularly do that for women (not talking about “slump busters”, talking about legitimate love and relationships and family)? Do men really want women who aren’t attracted to them to “give them a chance”? Isn’t that the whole foodie dates afbb dead bedrooms thing that you guys rage about?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:34 PM
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Then men should stop whining about not getting any matches 🤷‍♀️. They are spamming women who aren’t interested instead of actually paying attention to the women who might be. When I have a profile up I am very specific about exactly what I’m looking for including a firm distance limit. I get endless likes and messages from men far outside that limit. Some are actually very attractive and I definitely would be interested if they were closer but that’s not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:53 PM
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Sorry, I don’t pick partners solely on their profession…that said, if everything else was exactly the same I’d pick the nerd as I imagine the travel for the NBA player would make a relationship more difficult to maintain 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:39 PM
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Nope. Women who are open to casual sex, have casual sex. Women who aren’t, don’t. Coming across an attractive man doesn’t change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:19 PM
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And you come by your information about the marital motivation of “most women” how exactly?🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:17 PM
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Money / security / lifestyle, that’s pretty much it. Not that feelings of affection, fondness, appreciation or even a kind of love can’t exist, but it’s probably not the kind that most men here dream of... “Looking for an old man with a big bank account and a bad heart” is a common joke for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:40 AM
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That’s completely false. Manosphere myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:15 AM
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No. That’s not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:13 AM
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The vast majority of women do not experience “arousal” of any kind at first sight. We might meet a man and consider him a “maybe” (it’s possible if everything else aligns) or a “definite no” (the idea of kissing him is and will always be icky) at first sight, but this visceral lust / instinctual arousal isn’t really a “thing” for most women. So yes, men need to hit the “maybe” threshold to have a chance but there’s really no immediate physical lust going on at first sight 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:10 AM
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The vast majority of women wouldn’t be having casual sex in the first place 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:05 AM
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You’re still young so home ownership isn’t really a thing. The fact that you describe yourself as easily stressed and having difficulty making decisions is likely to be a much bigger impediment. I’m old (dinosaur old) and don’t live in a major city so I wouldn’t really consider dating a man who wasn’t a homeowner at this point. Yes, I own my home outright and no I didn’t inherit it or get it via divorce 🤣. In my situation it’s just indicative of being at a very different place professionally and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:41 PM
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So their logic is that it’s better to risk sexually assaulting an unwilling woman than asking for consent and risking not getting laid? Really, that’s what you’re going with?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:52 AM
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Here’s a bit of free advice, no woman who is upset and crying secretly wants you to shove your hands down her pants. Sexually preying on women because you think they’re vulnerable enough for you to get away with it is a shitty thing to do and if you claim that wasn’t what he was doing you’re either lying or lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:20 PM
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Drink water, not everclear 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:01 PM
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So… it appears that you’re completely abdicating any responsibility that men should have for their own behavior? Amazingly the majority of men manage to navigate society without medical castration without being rapists, catcallers, offenders, or creeps. Somehow these men treat others with respect, value consent, and embrace their own sexuality without violating laws or boundaries. They control and own their actions without trying to place the blame for their choices on women or “uncontrollable i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:36 PM
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But here’s the thing, women aren’t trying to compel men who “aren’t enough”, or any men really, to be with them. Women aren’t threatening those men’s basic rights or fantasizing about the downfall of society and the rise is anarchy when those men will be forced to be with them. Women just aren’t choosing to be with those men. Men are absolutely free to treat women who they feel are “too much” exactly the same way. Women would generally be thrilled if that was the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:19 PM
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So…the part you’re criticizing is that we also want to be physically attracted to our romantic partners? You’re advocating for some kind of pseudo “Love is Blind” relationship selection process where instead of not being able to see the other person, we just ignore everything except what they say? Would you still expect women to want to have sex with those men? Would men be similarly “blind” to everything except women’s words?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:32 AM
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Professionally prescribed medication and therapy are far more likely to yield a positive result than self medicating with alcoholism and self destruction together with causing problems for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:57 AM
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A) adjust your expectations / standards / requirements. B) enhance your offering C) find other meaningful purposes and reprioritize to find happiness or peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:37 AM
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Ruining your life and “causing problems for everyone” is reasonable? No. It’s not. Self destructive self medicating is inherently indicative of untreated mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:02 AM
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OP is talking about these men becoming alcoholics, not “sad”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:05 PM
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Just as an fyi, “Family annihilation is a crime overwhelmingly committed by men, who account for 88.8% to 97% of cases.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:04 PM
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So…self destructive self medicating instead of seeking professional mental health care and potentially medication to actually treat their mental health issues responsibly? Kind of interesting that this is society’s fault and a systemic issue but women who DO seek professional help and medication to manage their mental health in a responsible way and don’t “create problems for everyone” are excoriated by the manosphere (😱therapy and SSRIs😱). Maybe, just maybe the solution lies in changing men’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:51 PM
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Or…why do (some) objectively unattractive men get enraged and resentful at women and want to “punish” women because those women aren’t sexually attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:50 AM
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We don’t “hit the wall”, we build moats and stock them with perimenopausal sharks and alligators, lovingly trained on a lifetime of experience, to bar entry to life’s chromosomally mismatched turdblossoms. Said turdblossoms are cranky that we laugh with our similarly moated friends, cuddling our pets and sipping wine on cushioned divans on the battlements as they attempt to lay siege with empty threats of imaginary social or actual famine and sweaty giddy fantasies of our eventual shamefaced, di…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:09 AM
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Body positivity centers women largely because it was promoted by women in response to dangerous societal pressures on women to be unhealthily thin. More than twice as many women than men suffer from eating disorders. Women’s health is materially impacted by their reported symptoms being dismissed by male doctors as being caused by weight or mental illness leading to delayed or denied diagnosis and treatment resulting in unnecessary suffering and death.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:54 AM
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The odds IMO that it wasn’t deliberate on his part are somewhere between slim and none…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:23 AM
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In an emergency, first invade their personal space. Get really close inch by inch while staring without blinking, very wide eyed, at the bridge of their nose. Then start sniffing and explosively sneezing WETTLY on them, just a drenching mucus / oops face shower with a coy giggling “oops!” and a very diligent mopping of their face with the damp, crumpled tissue that you pull out of your sleeve. Works every time 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:00 AM
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Too timid as in they aren’t breaking into these men’s homes and interrupting their gaming or porn viewing to seduce them into a lifetime of relationship bliss? What, specifically, would women do if they weren’t so timid to find these absolute gems of masculine splendor?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:51 PM
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Legally? Of course not. Better that 100 guilty go free than one innocent convicted and all that. Socially? Absolutely different. Those 100 guilty who escaped legal repercussions should absolutely face social and societal repercussions. I assume you’re referring to rape and sexual assault? Only about 25% of rapes are even reported. Of that 25%, 2-8% are false accusations, so .5% to 2% of total rapes are false accusations. For every 1,000 rapes reported, fewer than 10 result in a felony conviction…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:47 PM
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Personally? The first couple of times: Nod, smile, “wow, you don’t say” periodically while checking my email or putting together an online grocery order. After that avoid them like they are a hugger with scabies, fleas and moderate to severe halitosis. Professionally? Nod, smile, “hmmmm” wisely while checking my email or putting together an online grocery order. Then invoice them for my time in 6 minute increments under the heading of “Consulting-misc”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:33 PM
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Can you imagine? Let’s assume that he really was an innocent drunk with poor decision making skills. Now gender swap: what if a male doordash driver would have considered it to be a combo invitation/ consent, gone in and raped her, those same men would claim she was obviously asking for it, entrapping him, a danger to society (what about the children?), and a worthless attention seeking whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:23 PM
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And yet no judgement for their FWB partners who are also dating and future faking in order to fuck women who believe they are genuinely interested?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 12:59 AM
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And you wonder why women stay tf away from Tinder and it’s a sausage fest of involuntarily celibate men whining about not getting any matches 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 12:57 AM
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I think the ones whinging are mostly mad that women don’t stalk and sexualize thirsty, desperate pudgy men who wear spandex the way women get stalked and sexualized by thirsty, desperate pudgy men regardless of what they’re wearing. They want to be desired! Ya know that “raw sexual attraction” that they all crave despite not being at all attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:56 AM
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Sometimes overt rudeness is the only way to get through to people. Welcome to being a woman. Be ready to be called ugly names…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:26 AM
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Have you ever had taco bell repercussions? Now imagine that but without the initial yummmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:22 AM
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Probably sexual assault…and then arrest for public indecency to add insult to injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:19 AM
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If a man wants to wear women’s gym clothes to the gym he should! If he is prevented from working out because of his attire he should use the legal system that’s already in place to protect his rights. I guarantee that he has more rights than a woman would if she attempted to work out shirtless… Men regularly wear compression shorts or running tights as well as barely there tank tops that show far more than womenswear does. Men wear short shorts and as long as there are no dangling nads nobody ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:59 PM
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Oh my…😋
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:13 PM
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Have you SEEN the herds of spandex clad male octogenarians leaving absolutely nothing to the imagination at coffee shops after their morning bike rides? Women in gym attire are very modest by comparison 🤣 How about shirtless men jogging on public streets? Mowing their yards? At the beach? At pools? At parks? Nobody cares! Have at it if it makes them happy 🤷‍♀️. Amazingly you really don’t see women reacting to those things with the aggression, threatening behavior, rage and hate that men do towar…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:17 PM
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lol. You just described the personal belief system of 90% of the men here (for men only of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:34 AM
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If you mean a fully functional adult faced with an aspiring bully, why yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:48 AM
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A lack of competence in comprehending and constructively answering direct questions isn’t really conducive to “leadership”, now is it…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:41 AM
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Those who seek “compliance” are those who are unworthy of cooperation…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:38 AM
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Again, why would mismatched chromosomes denote inherent leadership abilities? What qualifies you as a “boss” of anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:01 AM
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Why should one fully functional adult submit to another in a romantic relationship? What if she is smarter, more competent, more efficient, more accomplished, or more effective than you in some or all ways ? Or…are you intentionally selecting for intellectually or emotionally damaged women and then grinding them down just so that you can get away with bossing them around and feeling bigger?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:58 PM
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Secure, kind, ethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:39 PM
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Pro-CHOICE means just that. Pro-abortion isn’t really a thing and I think you know that. Many people who would never want to have an abortion themselves are vehemently opposed to the government removing that choice from any woman through legislation that allows for government intervention into decisions made between women and their doctors and governments controlling women’s bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:13 PM
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Literally zero actual scientists believe that 🤦‍♀️🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:00 PM
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My soul dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:34 AM
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If that is regularly happening, perhaps the gentleman should realize that he is not attractive to the same strata of women that he finds attractive…male hypergamy at work…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:17 PM
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Guess you missed the chin rest part🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:32 AM
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Makeup is RIGHT OUT THERE on her face. It’s not a secret, nobody (hopefully🙄) really believes that women don’t have pores or have naturally blue sparkly eyelids and shiny red lips … High heels are also very clearly not her natural height… Shapewear? Sure, that can be deceptive but there are limits to what spandex can achieve. Chubby is still going to look chubby, obese is still going to look obese, just slightly less lumpy. Push up bras? Are there really men who believe that normal women’s breas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:24 AM
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Aren’t a lot of gay people not interested in dating or getting into relationships with bi people?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:06 AM
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An adult man who “asks for text of a list of chores” and thinks that a positive thing is not a man I want. That’s just a lazy excuse to make even more work for me. Why isn’t he an equal partner is our life together? Why do I have to be the default manager who keeps track of everything and text that list to him? FFS how much should I have to spoon feed basic adulting and then presumably feel grateful that he’s expressing his “love” by maybe doing those chores? Wow…seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:17 PM
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If it were beneficial to women and girls we would be choosing that…the subjugation of more than half the population is most certainly not beneficial for anyone except those who subjugate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:35 AM
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So…you don’t consider women and girls as part of society?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:49 AM
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So…if I advocate for elder rights and am not interested in dating a senior citizen am I a hypocrite? Are all right to lifers adopting the unwanted children of the world? Are they at least supporting social safety nets to help care for those children? Do men who advocate for legalized prostitution want to marry current or former prostitutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:47 AM
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Why are men so fragile?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:02 PM
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Pretty sure those “dudes” are even less likely to get positive female attention now and it’s only going to get worse…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:59 PM
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Why would I want one? Seriously, Cui bono? Tell me how this magical man would be a net improvement to my life. Be very specific…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:49 PM
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Advocating for everyone to have the same legal and societal rights is not, nor has it ever been, about everyone having the “right” to date or have sex with any individual nor is dating or having sex with everyone you advocate for a requirement of that advocacy…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:25 PM
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Some would (me!), some wouldn’t. You can’t really say “all women” about anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:16 PM
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And doesn’t refer to adult women as “good girls”🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:26 AM
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I would say that her picker is broken and she isn’t cynical or skeptical enough. Some women (people) are in love with the idea of being in love and they view sexually aggressive men (or women) and their intentions and interactions through rose colored glasses, getting hurt repeatedly but always believing/hoping that the next time is real. For most people, life experiences fix that pretty quickly (one reason some men go for very young women - get ‘em before they catch on…). Interestingly, some me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:42 PM
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Incel Eskimo brothers. They’re not having sex with the same (all) women 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:35 PM
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FFS, why does Bob need to know? What knowledge about her character will he gain from that that he can’t learn by dating her? If Bob wants a paternity test without a legitimate reason to suspect that he is not the father, he needs to accept the consequences of making his insecurities her problem and irreparably damaging the relationship. What exactly does Bob think he’s protecting with a pre-nup? He doesn’t have anything to protect 🤦‍♀️ If Bob doesn’t want to buy a cup of coffee for a woman he is…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:19 PM
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Wow! They waited for you to be 14? You got a couple of extra years of peace…it seems like most pawing starts around 12🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:09 PM
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There’s no gotcha. I was hoping to lead you to understand that people (men and women) can want to be appreciated for a part of themselves, when they freely offer that part, without being open to being valued for only that part of themselves or having others feel entitled to that part. Just as some men (and women) want to be appreciated for their financial accomplishments without being seen as only a financial resource, some women (and men) want to be appreciated for their sexual appeal without b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:23 AM
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So…men almost universally denigrate “gold diggers” and women who want to “use them for their resources” without caring who they are as a person and at the same time emphasize “getting their money up”, driving (or at least taking their picture) in fancy cars / boats / motorcycles…they describe wealth as a part of their “SMV” but don’t want their partners, much less strangers on the street to feel entitled to their money… Are you seeing where this is going?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 10:31 PM
9

Rejecting people you don’t want to marry is a pretty good idea…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:09 PM
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It’s “prideful” to choose not to marry someone you don’t like?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:40 AM
8

The men who complain about the “male loneliness epidemic” overwhelmingly don’t have IRL friends, social connections, platonic relationships. That is borne out be the actual data on the phenomenon. Those men are the ones ignoring all of the data and isolating their struggles to being a matter of sexlessness. So yes, they are lonely. BUT no woman can solve that for them and women shouldn’t be blamed for their isolation or pressured to solve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:49 AM
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lol. I can absolutely guarantee that the 50 year old women in that scenario have zero interest in marrying the boy toy🤣🤣🤣. So…is your post about the marriage prospects of 50 year olds? Should 50 year old women be paranoid that the 50 year old men that they are dating have had sex with hotter women in their lives?🤣 Also, why in the world would you be arguing with married men and trying to convince them that their wives had had sex with more attractive men in the past? I’m going to guess that very…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:26 AM
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Please provide links to this “scientific evidence” that you repeatedly refer to…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:56 PM
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It’s not that they’re not “good enough” it’s that they’re not currently compatible with what many women want in a long term partner. That might not have mattered as much in the past because women generally had to settle and the standard for a “good” husband was basically “do no harm”. Now that women can choose, the standard has changed and men don’t like that women don’t have to cater to them in order to survive anymore and more and more women aren’t interested in men who want to be catered to. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:33 PM
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Nobody is saying that. I’m very sure that the VAST majority of boys and men would be horrified by the thought of being a rapist, but when the word rape isn’t used and it’s phrased with softer more ambiguous language, those numbers can change a lot. The fact is that teenage boys / young men aren’t really taught a lot about enthusiastic consent and can be a bad combination of very sexually aggressive, manipulative in service to their libido and emotionally immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:53 PM
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One out of four girls is sexually abused before her 18th birthday, according to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center. One in ten adolescents who have had romantic relationships reported that a dating partner kissed, touched, or forced them to have sexual contact against their will, according to the National Institute of Justice. Females between the ages of 16 and 19 are four times more likely than the general population to experience rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault, according to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:52 PM
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So you’re a happy aspiring rapist. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:51 AM
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Have at it! We have heard dickpocalypse threats every day. Given the choice between voluntary submission to the urges and ranting of sexually psychotic basement dwellers or ignoring their psychobabble and continuing to excel and live our lives…I’m going with the second option. Threatening mass rape doesn’t make you attractive just so you know…how does it feel to know that women would literally rather risk death?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:04 AM
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How would you know that? Did a podcaster tell you?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:57 AM
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I would instantly loose attraction to any man who shared your attitude because it’s repugnant and the deep insecurity and misogynistic false bravado seep out like puss. 🤷‍♀️. Maybe someday that will make sense to your “big brain”🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:20 AM
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And that attitude, gentle readers, is one of the reasons that women increasingly want absolutely nothing to do with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:08 AM
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Nope. He can’t. He doesn’t want to admit that what he actually wants is women to be subjugated to men and forced to pander to and make themselves available to undesirable men…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:00 AM
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I NEVER asked if men are shown compassion. You just don’t want to fess up to your actual question.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:56 AM
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Could you please stop spamming nonresponsive AI crap and just engage in good faith with your own post? This is pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:44 AM
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I need a more specific response to elicit a genuine reply. Disposability how? (Please tell me you’re not talking about “the draft”). Having to “earn worth” in what context and for what outcome?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:36 AM
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Please specifically describe the men’s suffering, through no fault of their own (that are not related to sexual access to women), that you think I should have compassion for and we can engage in a meaningful discussion and I can give a fulsome response.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:33 AM
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When that “suffering” means, once you drill through the euphemisms, not getting the sex that they want from the woman they want who don’t want sex with them, it doesn’t exactly evoke a ton of compassion…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:26 AM
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People generally behave with compassion towards others who are legitimately suffering through no fault of their own. Why would any of that be specific to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:20 AM
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What struggles, specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:17 AM
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Pretty sure he just doesn’t want to admit that he’s doing a variation on the “empathy = sexual access” thing🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:14 AM
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In isolation yes, in combination with wanting to be promiscuous and being unable to be? It’s more like compound ick interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:06 AM
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Guess it was about sex🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:55 AM
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So you don’t want to answer? Ok, I’ll just assume that you are asking why women don’t care or “have compassion for” the undesirable men who can’t get easy access to the amount of sex that they want with the women they want to have sex with and how men would be happier if we women all just sucked it up and handed out access to our lives and bodies like Halloween candy to a bunch of sticky , cranky man-children to show our “compassion”. That’s what most of these kind of posts are really asking abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:45 AM
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First of all, the 80/20 thing is absurd but other than that, why would anyone (man or woman) want to be with someone that doesn’t meet their needs? Why would anyone choose to be with someone whose presence is a net negative in their life? Why would anyone choose a net negative instead of being alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:32 AM
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That’s not even close to “the spirit of the question”. It’s entirely unrelated. Try answering the actual question yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:26 AM
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Either you didn’t read / comprehend my inquiry or didn’t respond to the right comment. I did not say anything even remotely resembling that prompt. I’m not interested in nonresponsive ai. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:18 AM
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That means that they are unattractive in addition to immoral 🤷‍♀️. The inability to be a turdblossom doesn’t make the desire to be one more acceptable, it just makes it sadder.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:16 AM
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To avoid assumptions, can you please explain, specifically, how that compassion would look, who it would come from, what behaviors would adequately demonstrate that compassion, and what you hope it would accomplish in concrete ways. This is not a “gotcha”, but an attempt to answer the question asked in the spirit in which it is asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:05 AM
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So give us a few examples of these laws…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:21 PM
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So you don’t believe that women should have the same legal rights and educational and professional opportunities as men? Ok, which rights and opportunities, very specifically, do you think should be restricted or denied based on gender and why? Go ahead, tell us with your whole chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:53 PM
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So you don’t believe that women should have the same legal rights and educational and professional opportunities as men? Ok, which rights and opportunities, very specifically, do you think should be restricted or denied based on gender and why? Go ahead, tell us with your whole chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:42 PM
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Feminism is about equal opportunity and treatment legally, educationally, professionally, societally. That doesn’t mean that men and women are or should be identical. It means that biological differences do not and should not create legal, educational, professional and societal disparities. That’s it. It’s not about ordering food or discussing sex or choosing curtains or some evo-psych “truth”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:31 PM
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Then why are so many men interested in women being submissive, selfless, humble, agreeable, nurturing and gentle when they aren’t willing to be any of those things? Sounds like they are looking for a servant…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:23 PM
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That’s not what that comment says at all. She is saying that different women find different guys attractive which is absolutely true. Yes, physical attraction matters and looks are a big part of that BUT looks aren’t the only thing that matters. That doesn’t mean that an awesome personality makes a physically unattractive person suddenly attractive, but it does mean that an awful personality can make a physically attractive person completely unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:55 PM
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Holy moving goalposts Batman! You went from a decent chance any man’s wife was in billionaire orgies to…well she might have gotten cheated on by a good looking in college…yeah, totally the same thing 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:36 PM
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So, you’re angry that the women you’re attracted to aren’t physically attracted to obesity? Is that really a fair thing to be angry about? Are you physically attracted to women completely separately from their physical appearance? Would you be an enthusiastic sexual/ romantic partner to someone regardless of their appearance, simply because of all of their other wonderful traits? Congratulations on the hard work that you’re doing and I sincerely hope that you feel healthier and happier and don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:24 PM
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And somehow that led you to be angry at the very young, mentally and emotionally unstable girls that he targeted, intentionally victimized and abused? Seriously? You know that’s sick, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:52 PM
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Nope. I wouldn’t presume to speak for all women or for all relationships. There are many many people (men and women) who have or have had or will have very happy relationships that they consider to be overwhelmingly positive 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:44 PM
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Nope. That’s not what I said at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:01 PM
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My standard for intimate romantic relationships (and actually all relationships in which I do not have a familial obligation) is whether my life net is better with or without that specific person. That doesn’t mean that that person has to be flawless / perfect, just that the net effect is positive rather than negative. I assume that other people use the same metrics to determine whether they want to have a relationship with me, whatever that alchemy means to them. The only factors I compare are …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:58 AM
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A child doesn’t have the ability to support themselves and are forced to submit to adults to survive . Women do have the ability and have learned generationally that doing so is in their best interests. Men who question that are universally doing so because they want the ability to exploit women by leveraging their financial control to further their own agendas at the expense of the “submissive” person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:17 AM
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A man who would want “submission” from a partner is automatically excluded as most women’s dream man. I swear, the fact that you don’t understand that is a big part of why you struggle…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:02 AM
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He looks kinda squishy and moist…in attitude and appearance🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:51 PM
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He’s totally a PPD guy! Quick roll call - which guys are missing right now???
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:48 PM
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I wish I loved my converse! I have red ones that I want to like but they hurt!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:45 PM
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My almost ready for the trash Keen hiking boots. Love love love.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:44 PM
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I’m trying to appeal to basic civility and the understanding that (hopefully) adults have that teenagers don’t have the life experience to process and analyze the information or opinions that spew out in adult only conversations in the same way that adults do, especially when the topic is something that can be very foreign and stressful for them. Just try not to hurt kids by being an asshat, is that really asking too much?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:10 PM
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Then why don’t men want to submit to their woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:06 PM
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I really wish they would limit this to 18+…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:59 PM
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PPD folks, just fair warning, OP is only 15 so let’s keep things civilized, kind and reasonable!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:53 PM
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You will likely have more options than someone without those things BUT that’s on a general basis, not with individual women and not necessarily with the women you specifically want. That holds true with all of the other qualities too🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:38 PM
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Fact: just smelling bad and being a jerk is going to make most women want to avoid you. Also a fact: just not smelling bad and not being a jerk is not going to make most women want to date you. Some men confuse removing common barriers with guarantees of success. Here’s some more: Just being unemployed and unable to support yourself is going to make most women feel that you aren’t a good dating prospect. Just being employed and able to support yourself is not going to make most women want to dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 02:02 PM
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Women aren’t complaining that those men won’t date them 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:22 PM
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How am I doing either of those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:20 PM
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Women choosing not to date undesirable men =/= “blaming” men. Women not feeling that unwanted sexual attention from undesirable men is a positive thing =/= “blaming” men. This whole mindset is indicative of an inherent entitlement to women’s attention and bodies. It’s as if you believe that we are somehow obligated to provide attention and sexual access based on men’s desires and if we choose not to do so, we are unfairly persecuting those men and denying them something that they are due and we …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:19 PM
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Let me guess, “acting like an adult who can handle responsibility” in this context means dating and having sex with men we aren’t interested in?🤔🤦‍♀️ If that’s not what you’re saying, please be VERY specific about what you do mean and what it would look like…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:05 PM
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“Women better start liking us or else we will remove their rights!” Damn guys, they still don’t like us, I don’t understand why it’s not working!!!😡😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:58 PM
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So you’re asking how reasonable it is for men to blame women for not wanting to date men? It’s not reasonable at all. If women were blaming men for not wanting to date women that would also not be reasonable btw but that’s not really a thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:55 PM
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Blaming women for what specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 11:46 AM
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Both things are bad🤷‍♀️. Why would anyone disagree with that? And btw, my “misandrist claim” is entirely based on the statements of men. Maybe talk to your brethren before you cast stones…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 12:32 AM
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Globally disparate silver sisters 🤣. Sail on my friend. Look me up the next time you’re on the east coast of the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 11:18 PM
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Worrying more about whether someone likes me than I consider whether I like them. Having a surplus of fucks to give. Uncomfortable shoes and underwear. Eyelash curlers Feeling guilty about saying no to things I don’t want to do. Pretending to be “less than” (financially, intellectually, physically etc) to make men feel “more than”. Scented candles that make dirty patches on my ceilings, way melts FTW! Apologizing when I’m not wrong just to keep the peace. Pretty sure there are more but that’s th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 11:03 PM
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Women DO like all different types of men (that they are personally attracted to)🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:03 AM
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Having men being willing to masturbate into a woman that they aren’t actually interested in as a “slump buster” is not a positive thing to women…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:29 AM
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He literally said there are men and women who aren’t desired by anyone. It was the first sentence…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:20 AM
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Why would that be a surprise? Do men want women to go for men we aren’t attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:19 AM
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Clearly an autocorrect for autonomy🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:52 AM
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I wouldn’t be friends with someone because of that and I wouldn’t not be friends with someone because of that. If we are otherwise compatible, I’m not sure why that would be an issue 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:51 AM
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It’s not “entitled and manipulative” for women to decline the unwanted sexual advances of men who are convinced that they have input enough performative “nice” tokens to be owed sexual access…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:30 AM
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The idea that women are equal humans entitled to equal treatment and opportunity under the law instead is a “luxury belief” and it’s formal implementation is a fundamental disadvantage to undesirable men because they can no longer subjugate women and force them to serve as personal bang maids. So they can choose to drop out and leech off of their parents 🤷‍♀️. Their choices are still not a negative outcome of feminism that is worthy of consideration or mitigation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:10 AM
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So…you DO think that undesirable men financially coercing women into granting sexual access against their will and desire because of laws created by men that disadvantaged women’s financial independence is the “state of nature” and deviation from that state is “unnatural” and therefore wrong?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:52 AM
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Undesirable men having sexual access in the past (pre feminism) to women who would not freely choose them if they’d actually had the choice (as can be seen now that they DO have the choice) was an unjust privilege. Losing that privilege is not a “negative outcome” worthy of consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:41 AM
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"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good <people> to do nothing"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:32 AM
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Loss of historically exploitative advantages over women and the lingering feelings of denied entitlement are not negative outcomes that need to be considered. Would you consider the loss of “free labor” to be a material “negative outcome” worthy of consideration of the emancipation? How about the reduced social tolerance for beating gay men to death? Is that “a negative outcome” worthy of consideration for those who feel compelled to commit homophobic murder without consequence? Again, the loss …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:22 AM
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You’re the one that thinks your list of negative outcomes would be a bannable offense 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:26 PM
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It really feels like you want to say that the negatives are marital rape being illegalized, women being able to divorce because they’re unhappy, women not being financially dependent on and thus subservient to men, women having sexual agency and choosing their own lovers which leaves some men out, women having the ability to control our own fertility, in summary - women having the ability to say no to men… Am I close?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:17 PM
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In this case, women think it’s good to have equal rights and men think it’s bad when women have equal rights because they like it better when they get the advantage 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:01 PM
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What if it’s an egg vibrator or a rose? That’s not a robo-dick unless you have a really odd dick🤷‍♀️ I think you’re confusing vibrators with dildos (neither is a robo-dick)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:56 PM
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🐓🐓🐓🐓
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:50 PM
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Ok, from your “rational” stance, please describe in detail what you feel the negative outcomes are…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:45 PM
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There’s a difference between “dislike” and “disinterest”. Dislike is an active state and implies that the person “disliking” someone or something imputes a distinctly negative quality to that person or thing. Most women who choose not to date short men don’t actively “dislike” them or their height or impute any definitively negative qualities to them, they just aren’t interested (disinterest) in those men sexually and romantically. Dislike / UN-attracted is an active, definitively negative state…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:42 PM
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You’ve “disallowed” mention of the negative effects…they ALL involve men’s failure to adapt, anger at their reduced supremacy, their inability to see women as equal human beings, their behaviors based on these deficiencies that hurts women etc. I get that you don’t want to face that truth and are looking for something else, but in order to have an “actual discussion” you can’t automatically rule out the most material discussion points…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 10:32 PM
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Women have no business betting on which teenager is going to have sex first. That’s absolutely sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 09:28 PM
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Women have no business choosing 27 year olds for anything other than raking leaves or shoveling snow 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 08:40 PM
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Because clearly we are not discussing whether or not women can tell if men are tall or not…that’s just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:52 PM
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Do you? Unjust or prejudicial treatment… Not having sex with people you don’t want to have sex with is not unjust or prejudicial treatment… There’s also no “reasonable expectation” that anyone will want to have sex with anyone else. The absence of a reasonable expectation means that there is no injury or impairment caused by the absence of that thing (in this case someone wanting to have sex with you). There is a reasonable expectation that a job applicant will be granted equal consideration wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:16 PM
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People’s bodies are not equal opportunity environments that should be available for equitable distribution to all…very strange that you don’t understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:49 PM
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What, specifically, is the right doing to enact policies to solve those issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:47 AM
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What, specifically, is the right doing to address and solve these issues that the left isn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:35 AM
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Which specific men’s issues is the right actually solving that the left ignores and fails to acknowledge?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:33 AM
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Define toxic femininity. Provide specific examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:28 AM
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Paying too much rent to get a car?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:23 AM
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Do the laws not apply to immigrants?🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:08 AM
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Hmmm, wonder what the position would be on “twat-waffle” or “turdblossom”🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:23 PM
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Clearly we’d rather choose to fuck our selves over than to fuck the men who would make that the choice on the table. We understand that one should never negotiate with terrorists or agree to use our bodies as ransom payments for our rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 10:19 PM
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So for all of the men who are so concerned about falling birth rates, would you still be as vocally concerned if the solution was that all pregnancies are the result of artificial insemination, not intercourse, and the newborns are turned over in the hospital at birth to be raised and financially to adulthood exclusively by men as single parents?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 06:59 PM
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The right “won” (temporarily) because they offered up a veritable buffet of convenient “others” that young men can band together and blame for all of their problems (real and perceived). They insured that those “others” could be easily visually identified and targeted and offered unverifiable “proof” that they could solve everything by diminishing or eliminating those “others”. They threw bread and held circuses and created an identity for struggling angry young (and old) men to feel vindicated,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 06:47 PM
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You’re the one that said that incel uprising caused the collapse but that “they didn’t call them incels”… If you’re talking about socioeconomically disenfranchised men, why would you say that and what does that have to do with my response to the OP which was about the parentage and number of babies, not socioeconomics?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:38 PM
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So your assertion is that Rome and Sparta were overthrown because there were too many men who weren’t having as much sex as they wanted to? Really? Golly, I don’t remember that being covered in history class…as far as I remember, “plebeian” is a socioeconomic term and denotes working class / poor, not sexless…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:28 PM
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So name one that fell due to an “incels by another name” uprising🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:07 PM
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I wa responding specifically to OPs assertion and argument which seems centered around reproduction rates. Also, please name one society, ever, in the history of the world, that has fallen due to an incel uprising…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:02 PM
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If we were to accept your basic premise (we don’t btw), the conclusion would not be that we should date and procreate with the undesirable men who are currently excluded. It would be far more logical for us to have as many babies as possible with the tallest, strongest, most successful men we can find. Those currently excluded men could be subjugated and forced to serve as laborers and support staff in service to the successful raising of those “super kids” who are going to ensure our “liberal” …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:40 AM
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Again…it’s not that women “don’t like men”. We generally do like some men, we most likely love or have loved “some men”. That has nothing to do with having the freedom to decide whether adding a man as a full time part of our lives is a net positive or not. It has nothing to do with being able to decide whether or not motherhood is something that we actually want for ourselves. It has nothing to do with being able to separate our own goals, priorities, and desires from the paths that we were his…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:03 AM
1

I think we’re supposed to call that “bulking” now🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:45 AM
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Cranky little bugger aren’t you. Sounds like someone is a little frustrated🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:34 PM
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But how else would he try to trick them into believing that he wants more?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:27 PM
2

Younger women are more likely to initially mistake arrogance for confidence and competence. Experience is life’s greatest teacher 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:49 PM
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The funniest part of this post is that it’s claiming that hypergamy now means “being attracted to “hot” men”…🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:13 PM
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I think he misspelled TikTok…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:10 PM
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Why are women responsible for nurturing the dating aspirations of men we aren’t attracted to or interested in? If you consider that to be an obligation that women should shoulder, how would that work? Should there be a voucher system? Every woman is required to go on X number of dates with men who register for special accommodations? Is this system just for straight autistic men or are gay nt men obligated as well? Do we, as women, need to have a punch card for dating all different disabilities …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:46 AM
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Wow…telling on yourself much?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:27 AM
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Wow, just checked post history and in the last 24 hours you’ve been a sexually frustrated incel, a man who’s long term gf is breaking up with him and a woman who doesn’t find short men sexually attractive 🤣🤣🤣. Enjoy larping and don’t forget to do your algebra homework before bedtime 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:19 AM
1

And she might have similar challenges with you🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:11 AM
1

Ok, 60 lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:30 PM
1

He could lose 120 lbs…that would probably help 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:26 PM
1

But you said that you’re ugly, so wouldn’t an ugly woman be your “looks” match?🤔 (The whole looks match thing is stupid and reductive but seems popular with the RP team so🤷‍♀️).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:25 PM
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I mean, if we were going to call folks names, I could have said something about self indulgent unappreciative brats creating their own misery…wallowing in self pity and resentment and blaming everyone else for your problems isn’t going to fix anything 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:50 PM
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That’s because GenX knew that life wasn’t fair and that whining about it wouldn’t accomplish anything and nobody was going to pat us on the head or wring their hands about our feelings. We were brought up with “Life isn’t fair, too bad, nobody ever said it would be now quit your crying and get to work”. We also knew not to blame our parents. We were lucky that they let us inside when it got dark out🤣. Nobody “gentle parented” us or “helicoptered”. We wore house keys on shoe laces around our neck…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:47 PM
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Consider the parasocial relationship trump has with his minions…it’s absolutely insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:34 PM
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Women stop being interested in sex with their partners right after their partners stop pretending to be the version of themselves that the woman fell in love with…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:02 PM
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You seem to believe that women are a resource that should be equally and fairly distributed to men…and that women are obligated to ensure that they are personally taking their share “for the team”. Access to women’s personal lives and bodies is NOT the same as access to public buildings and being denied access to individual women is not an injustice. We don’t need to provide “special accommodations” to grant anyone access to ourselves and our bodies in order to avoid hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:52 PM
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Being willing to be the breadwinner in a committed relationship is different than paying someone for sex and to pretend to be sexually attracted to you…Certainly female breadwinners are increasingly common but I don’t think you’ll see many women who are interested in paying to play sexual make believe …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:23 PM
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Go ahead, find one woman who agrees with you🤣🤦‍♀️ Men are obsessed with dick size, women aren’t. We are the Goldilocks of dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:19 AM
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You’re delusional…please point to where I did any of those things 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:11 AM
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Omg, are you actually serious?🤣🤣🤣 Oh honey, no. I can absolutely assure you that we are far less impressed with dicks than you are. “Instant submissive instinct “? FFS, that’s really not a thing. I’m not sure who told you that but they were definitely trolling. Sex is good or bad. Some sex is meh, generally if it’s not good but not actively unpleasant. There’s no mental spreadsheet in women’s minds… You poor thing, you actually really believe this crap?🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:56 AM
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I’m alone by choice. Been married, “built something”, adult children. Absolutely blissfully single and not at all interested in changing that. She’s not afraid of building something. That’s the default. She afraid of aging and “the wall” that men here like to rattle like a play sword to try to scare women into settling for men and relationships that don’t serve them. I’m letting her know that aging isn’t anything to be scared of. Actually it’s pretty awesome regardless of whether you “build some…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:45 AM
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Exactly. The “wall” doesn’t keep us in, we are free! It keeps the asshats out! The barbed wire and punji pits are on the outside and we control the draw bridge and portcullis to grant access to the deserving …it’s lovely inside and when you feel like an adventure, the field trips are awesome 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:02 AM
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It’s the single best thing you can do for your vocabulary and reading comprehension. I absolutely HATED it but it was one of the most useful things ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:12 PM
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It’s so funny that you believe that female porn stars are actually enjoying it🤦‍♀️. Seriously? Do you really believe that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:07 PM
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And yet men seem to be incessantly wanting women to do so…why would that be any more reasonable?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:04 PM
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If a woman has intentionally sex with a man who clearly says that he’s not interested in a relationship and then she complains that he doesn’t want a relationship, that’s silly too. A woman complaining that men she’s not interested in are saying that they aren’t interested in relationships with other women, (who are agreeing to have sex with those men, knowing that they don’t want relationships), is also silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:10 PM
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Their 2 choices are to work harder or to walk away. That’s it. You can’t make someone want something that they don’t want. It doesn’t do any good to complain that they don’t want something so… See where that’s going? Either work harder and deal with it (likely to lead to misery and resentment because what you really want is for them to magically want exactly what you want) or walk away and either find someone who wants what you want or just be single and take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:03 PM
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If you don’t want to date them, why are you complaining about their behavior on dates with the people who DO want to date them?🤔 Also, again, who is “disallowing” complaining? It seems pretty wide spread for a forbidden activity…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:57 PM
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That applies to everyone. Not just women. If men are working super hard to date women who don’t want to date them, they should choose other women who do want to date them (or just stay single). If women are working super hard to keep a house clean with a man who’s a slob, they should leave and choose other men who aren’t slobs (or just stay single). Any time a person has to work super hard to be with someone who doesn’t want / value the same things they want / value, they are volunteering for mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:54 PM
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So…you want to date women that don’t want to pay for first dates (it’s not as if they lie and tell you that they’re fine with going Dutch and then dine and dash right?). You ask them on a date, pay for the date and then you complain about having paid for the date… Sure, complain 🤷‍♀️. Nobody is stopping you, just seems a bit silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:48 PM
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People shouldn’t be with those who don’t want the same things they do and aren’t willing to equally participate in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:41 PM
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Yet amazingly there are a lot of women who DO pay their own way on dates, first and otherwise. Why not date those women instead of complaining about the ones who don’t 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:39 PM
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Yes! Experienced women who see through men’s manipulation attempts DO prevent those men from progressing towards their goals that are detrimental to women. See, you DO get it. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:50 AM
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Holy crapamoli! We agree!🤣 PPD milestone! Absolutely. If people (men and women) gracefully walked away when their efforts are not fully reciprocated, the world would be a far better and less vitriolic place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:00 AM
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Why did he close it down based on comments from random women? If advocates for an important cause can’t withstand some pushback, do they really care about their cause? Do you think that the suffragettes operated in a friendly and supportive environment? Do you think women will automatically support men’s movements when many (but certainly not all) of them see the subjugation of women as the ultimate solution to their problems? If your cause is just, fight for it. Persevere. Progress is never eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:54 AM
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Men seem to want a lifetime credit for paying for the “first date”. Apparently the price of a cup of mediocre coffee or a shared appetizer creates a lifetime of implied obligation for all womankind. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:42 AM
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And you guys wonder why the birth rate is cratering and women are increasingly opting out of relationships with men…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:19 AM
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Why would desperate men willingly give up the designated “enemy” that is the real cause of their failure? That would mean taking responsibility for their own mistakes and unrealistic expectations and that would be hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:18 AM
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So if women agree to have children they should just accept being disproportionally disadvantaged both professionally and personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:15 AM
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And by boat anchor, you mean woman who won’t bend over backwards and subjugate herself for you…glad to be avoided by those men. Win / win.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:02 AM
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Many of those are absolutely legitimate issues and deserve attention and action! I agree! The problem is that the loudest male voices seem to waste their megaphone complaining about sexual access. Please, please, persuade men to advocate and lobby for changes that are actually important. Women will gladly join the fight. Again, the problem men need to confront is that their loudest representatives are alienating women by trying to eliminate women’s rights in order to compel sexual access for uns…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:46 AM
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To be fair, the primary “men’s issue” that we see publicized by men is that they struggle to get as much easy sex as they want with the women they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:14 AM
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Pretty sure pregnancy should make that list, as should the assumption that the woman will be the primary parent and home manager.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:11 AM
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And yet in this very post men are claiming universal credit for “building and maintaining infrastructure” and “sacrificing their lives” when the vast majority of men have fuckall to do with either. If you want penis credit for the accomplishments of other men, you need to accept the blame for the crimes of other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:03 AM
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Whoever wants something more should work harder for it. If a man desperately wants a woman for sex or a relationship and she is apathetic or just open to the possibility, it makes sense that he will have to work harder because he’s the one who wants it more (and vice versa). Why would anyone expect someone else to put effort into pursuing someone else’s goals? It doesn’t make sense. Ideally both people are equally interested and invested and willing to put in equivalent effort, not just in achie…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:39 PM
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Care to guess about the ratio of men who nut inside women without caring because they figure it’s not their problem to the minuscule number of women who actively sabotage their birth control or inseminate themselves with garbage sperm? Seriously? And you guys love to rant about women avoiding accountability…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:24 PM
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Are you obsessing about women who have spent most of their adult lives in committed relationships referring to exes in conversations about their life experiences? That’s just a normal part of conversation. If most of someone’s experiences have occurred when they were partnered, artificially altering their narrative to exclude mentioning those partners would be really weird. That doesn’t mean that they are obsessed with those past partners, it means that they are a reliable narrator who assumes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:13 PM
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Of course toxic men see mature women’s experience as a liability 🤣. It means that their manipulative behavior is unlikely to be as effective as it would be on women with less experience. Boo freakin hoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:07 PM
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Here’s the thing, you totally ignored what I said. Women can’t prevent men from cummung inside them. Men swear they will wear a condom and then stealth. Men will put on condoms incorrectly. Women can try to prevent sperm from impregnating them through hormonal birth control. None of those things are guaranteed because men are the only ones who can actually control whether or not they deposit their sperm inside the woman. It’s really not that big of an ask is it? Nobody is saying “don’t have sex”…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 10:26 PM
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So men don’t respect women who actually foolishly believe that they are good men…and those same men apparently do respect women who are jaded and understand that they are actually bad men?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:26 AM
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Much rather he asks immediately. That way I can decline immediately and nobody wastes time or energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:15 AM
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Some women actually believe that they shouldn’t blame all men for the bad acts of a few. And then, because they give all men the benefit of the doubt, they end up failing to understand that many (most?) men will lie or deceive about their intentions in order to get laid. With experience, most women learn that lesson and develop the skill set and cynicism necessary to protect themselves. Probably part of why predatory men go for the youngest and least experienced women and girls that they can fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 12:40 AM
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Let us familiarize you with the oft used phrase “divorce rape”. Surprised you haven’t heard it before…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 11:00 PM
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Please re-read. I specifically didn’t advocate for abstinence. I suggested that if men want to have sex without risking having children, they do so without depositing their sperm inside women. It’s really very simple and 100% effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 02:15 AM
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No. He actually isn’t. I specifically didn’t say that men shouldn’t have sex. I said that they shouldn’t deposit their sperm inside of the women they have sex with. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:54 AM
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So men should be able to have risk free sex and spew their sperm willynilly but women should abstain unless they want to have babies? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:30 AM
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Do you know how to prevent that? It’s 100% effective. Don’t deposit your sperm inside a woman’s vagina. BOOM! Groundbreaking right? Amazingly it’s true! You have the ultimate control over procreation. You still get to have sex and everything, just don’t let the swimmers swim. Easy peasy right? You’re welcome ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:25 AM
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Once men start gestating their half, they can get a vote. As it stands, men’s contribution is 15 seconds of quivering and a funny facial expression…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:21 AM
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Men 100% control reproduction. Without sperm there is no fetus, ever. If a man chooses to deposit his sperm inside a woman’s vagina he has made the decision to risk fatherhood. Again, 100% under his control. Women can try to reduce the impact of that sperm with birth control but it’s never 100% effective. Not depositing sperm IS 100% effective. Overturning Roe made American women far less sympathetic towards men and far less likely to take chances. Perhaps you’ve noticed that the birth rate has …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:19 AM
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That was all about sensation and feeling. Nowhere did I mention “looks”. How did you not understand that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:07 AM
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Super expensive daycare is what a lot of people end up doing 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:20 PM
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I’m guessing you’re not in the US? Kindergarten here is usually 1/2 day (about 2 1/2 hours) and starts at age 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:16 PM
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Strong blocky hands that fit my hip bones perfectly. Those lower back dimple things. Warm feet. Scruff just long enough to be soft on that place where my neck and shoulder meet. A strong, regular heartbeat under my cheek. The half lidded eyes, hitched breath and musky scent of a man just before… The earnest face of a man who is proud of himself for something. The beauty of the contrast between functional roughness and amazing gentleness. Obviously not all, or even most men, but definitely some. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:15 AM
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And you’re not trying to debate, just deflect. Adios.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 12:38 AM
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Do you imagine that daycare workers and elementary school teachers are men?🤔 How’s that going to work when you don’t trust women to be around children?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:59 PM
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Ok, remedial grooming: wear clothes that are clean, not wrinkled, fit you well, and represent your personality. Be clean, smell clean, have clean healthy teeth and skin. If your teeth and skin aren’t or don’t look clean and healthy, fix them. Have clean healthy looking well cut hair (and facial hair if that applies), this is important regardless of your specific hair style. Neck beards / patchy beads are always a bad choice. No exceptions. Trying to hang onto the last bit of receding hair is als…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:26 AM
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Golly, thanks so much for mansplaining women’s attraction to women…🙄. One would think that the fact that every woman here disagrees with you might be instructive but clearly you’re more invested in being a victim than a successful partner. Hope that misguided vindication makes you happy 🤷‍♀️. Also thanks for telling on yourself. What you said means that you successfully managed to completely turn off every single woman who ever considered you at first glance 🤦‍♀️. Just sit with that…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:53 AM
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Try millennia! Tall, strong “comely” men have ALWAYS been desirable. You can read novels and biographies printed on first printing presses and see that as a thing. You can read books that were copied by hand before printing presses existed and see the same thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:46 AM
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True. Some of these guys are truly determined to live the lie…if nothing else, the commitment to the role is impressive 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:37 AM
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Nope. A hot turnip is still unfuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:37 AM
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Nope. Every man starts as either a maybe or a no. Nobody starts as a yes, ever. A no can never become a maybe or a yes. A maybe usually becomes a no but some can become a yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:57 PM
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Can we not assume that anyone who wasn’t raised by wolves understands that being attractive / well groomed / hygienic / healthy matters for first impressions? I’m so sick of men pretending not to know that. Seriously, enough is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:54 PM
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Ok, (can’t believe I have to explain this), if you meet a woman and she finds you attractive enough to be a possibility and you act like a turdblossom she will walk away and not look back. If you are a good guy, kind, good attitude etc., that “maybe” may well become a “yes”. Being a good guy doesn’t make you more attractive BUT being an asshat definitely makes you less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:48 PM
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An unattractive man with money can attract women who are willing to pretend in order to get a paycheck. If these men are very lucky and also genuinely good guys, they may find a woman who doesn’t prioritize physical / sexual attraction who actually cares about him for himself, not just a paycheck. Money doesn’t ever make an unattractive man actually attractive. Seriously, that’s not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:12 PM
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No…I was specifically referring to casual sex as that’s what the comment I was replying to referenced. If a man cannot come up with a compelling reason that a woman might choose him AND have a way to know about this mystery quality (and also find it compelling), he shouldn’t be asking why he isn’t having the casual sex experience that he wants. The qualities that some/ most men have that make them attractive to women aren’t necessarily immediately evident and / or aren’t compelling to the relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:15 AM
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That doesn’t make any sense at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:34 AM
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Read it again. My comment was a direct response to a man expressing frustration that he doesn’t know how, as an average man (who is below average in clubs apparently) to get casual sex with attractive women. How is what I said BP or false in any way?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:33 AM
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Being “innately unlovable” and “not being broadly sexually attractive to women” are two entirely different things that have absolutely nothing to do with each other. Men who conflate them should seek mental health treatment whether that conflation is a positive or negative thing for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:12 PM
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Then those men are either home schooled teenagers without access to the outside world or willfully obtuse adults with a victim complex. Kindness isn’t a deal maker absent physical attraction for the vast majority of people (men and women) but unkindness / unpleasantness can and is a deal breaker even with physical attraction (for the vast minority of women and emotionally healthy men).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:34 AM
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Do men also need to be told that if they go outside in the rain, they will get wet? C’mon…men aren’t that stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:25 AM
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It’s not “conceding” anything. It’s basic logic that women don’t imagine needs to be spelled out… Also, desirability is about more than physical attractiveness. Yes, she needs to be physically attracted to you BUT a bad approach / attitude can absolutely kill that physical attraction in an instant. The ugliest thing some men can do is speak…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:23 AM
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Ask yourself, and be brutally honest, why a woman would choose to have casual sex with you? What makes you her best choice, including the choice not to have casual sex at all (which is what most women choose in the first place)? Got your answer? Ok, I’m going to assume that you have some reason for thinking she should choose you otherwise you wouldn’t be asking this, right? So now how would she be aware of that “thing” that you feel makes you her best choice and why would she agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:18 AM
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Here you go cupcake, this isn’t exactly groundbreaking info but…🤷‍♀️ Most women are in committed relationships and most of the women who are single are not interested in casual sex. Most men are not in committed relationships and are interested in casual sex. The women who are interested have zero motivation to choose undesirable men (although some occasionally do). The woman who are attractive AND interested in casual sex have their pick of the most desirable men who are interested in casual. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:44 PM
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Actually in the US it is mandatory for all male 18 year olds to register for the draft. No, it shouldn’t be, but it is. That said, the draft hasn’t been activated in more than 50 years and in this age of technology, that’s considered highly unlikely to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:48 PM
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Doesn’t downvoting count?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:01 PM
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So true. Posting a whine about a woman, whose informed opinion is that you’re a walking ick, just because you don’t share that opinion is very sensitive…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 06:59 PM
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So…you’re offended by women who want to choose better and be safe?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 01:32 PM
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How, specifically, are you being “held accountable” for the actions of other men, and by whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 01:26 PM
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Committed relationships / serial monogamy are fine when young, but “locking down” implies marriage which is what I would argue against for the vast majority of young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:10 PM
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You are discounting the value of exploring different kinds of partners (relationship compatibility, not just sexual exploitation), relationship structures, lifestyles (country, city, professional track, family track, etc etc etc). Learning how to establish personal boundaries and priorities, learning what qualities are actually important in a partner, learning how to be a good partner yourself. All of those are components that can take time and experience to develop and are rarely fully develope…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:03 PM
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Probably fewer than the combination of the number of men who would disclose that they have given up (at least temporarily) because they can’t get the women they want, and the men who are materially challenged (whether physically, intellectually, emotionally, neurodivergently) at a level that largely precludes romantic relationships, men stuck in the vice of religiosity and homosexuality and opting for celibacy instead of “sin”. That is not to say that the “juice is worth the squeeze” for everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:21 PM
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Sounds arrogant and condescending…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:21 PM
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Do you not understand that just because someone may not be unattractive, it doesn’t mean that they are sexually attractive or romantically compatible with everyone that they get along with? I’ve known more than a few men who are definitely physically attractive by just about any standard and are great guys but I haven’t been attracted to them that way. There was just something that wasn’t there🤷‍♀️. In some cases they felt the same way. Should work on paper but just not a pull towards each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:11 PM
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I believe that the study mentions that. If memory serves concentration on education or career was the reason noted but I’m sure there are many reasons 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:04 PM
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That stat is the % that are not married, living with a partner or in a committed relationship. It does not include men who are casually dating or in a relationship that they don’t consider to be “committed” (aka, we’ve been “dating” for 2 years but I never asked her to be my girlfriend officially so…). According to the same data, approximately half of those men aren’t interested in dating, even casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 04:11 PM
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Do you aspire to manipulate and abuse women? Is that what success looks like to you? Is “successful” exploitation and coercion of others for your benefit something you admire or envy? Sure sounds like it. Not exactly the attitude or aspirations of a “good guy”…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:03 AM
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There are attractive shitty people and unattractive shitty people. The attractive ones will do better in dating. That shouldn’t be a surprise. There are attractive manipulative people and unattractive manipulative people. The attractive ones will do better in dating. Still not surprising. There are attractive good people and unattractive good people. The attractive ones will do better in dating. That also shouldn’t be a surprise. What has changed is now women aren’t trapped for life if the man t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:41 AM
7

Everyone has flaws 🤷‍♀️. Some are dealbreakers some aren’t. Not being human isn’t a flaw that I would tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:27 PM
10

The only relationship worth having is when each person actively and freely chooses the other. So…no. Not under any circumstances. I’d much rather be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:06 PM
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You could just as easily assume that the women are more concerned with what they can do for their families by winning than what they need in the moment to feel better and are actually more likely to love and cherish their families and sacrifice for them. I think it’s far more likely that the men, while they may miss their families, see it as a “honorable” way to tap out instead of just admitting that it’s really hard and they don’t think they’re going to win.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:29 PM
15

Sounds like someone has been watching too many teen dramas / after school specials…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:07 AM
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Oh FFS 🤦‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:11 PM
1

And yet: About 51% of adults are married. Around 11% of adults are living with a partner. Approximately 8% of adults are in a committed romantic relationship but not married or living with a partner. Roughly 31% of adults are single, meaning they are not married, cohabitating, or in a committed romantic relationship. About half of those adults aren’t interested in dating or casual encounters. So…about 85% of adults aren’t interested either in a committed relationship or don’t want to be. That le…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 10:41 PM
5

Oooh, so you DID read between the lines! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:36 PM
1

And yet nobody said that. Obviously it will improve your odds. That really shouldn’t be a surprise, but plenty of men who lack some or all of those qualities have managed to get together with women who find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:26 PM
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But none of those things are “advice”, do men really need to be told that being traditionally attractive and successful are going to improve their odds? And if they do need to be told that, they have bigger problems…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:54 PM
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None of that will help if the woman doesn’t want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:43 PM
2

200 a month doesn’t even cover a health insurance policy, much less food, clothing, shelter, daycare, school supplies, etc etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:42 PM
2

Alimony and child support are not the same thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:33 PM
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You just don’t like the advice women give because most men seem to want to know the magic words / easy cheat code to be able to convince women to have sex with them who don’t want to have sex with them. There are no magic words / cheat codes for that. RP just monetizes the lie that there are cheat codes and if they don’t work it’s because you need per$onal coaching / training $essions / video serie$ etc. Other “manosphere” grifters concentrate on painting women as the evil enemy that must be def…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:32 PM
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If you read the comments again it becomes clear that they aren’t saying they won’t cheat, just that they won’t leave 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:45 PM
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According to your suggestion, that 90k would cover less than 2 years for 1 child…you are missing a 0. Each child at 50k per year would cost 800k by the age of 18, or almost 2x the lifetime tax contribution of 1 person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:09 AM
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Dread game, negging, spinning plates? Nope, those are manipulation tactics that specifically target damaged and naive women and girls. Attempting to gain toxic leverage is attempting to “trick” women into accepting behaviors that are in direct contrast to their best interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:07 AM
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Many men seem to want to know the magic words / easy cheat code to be able to convince women to have sex with them who don’t want to have sex with them. There are no magic words / cheat codes for that. RP just monetizes the lie that there are cheat codes and if they don’t work it’s because you need per$onal coaching / training $essions / video serie$ etc. Women’s advice is for how to succeed with the women who do want you because we are well aware that the only women that are likely to be swayed…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:17 AM
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Maybe it’s not a matter of “improving”, just wasn’t a good fit or they enjoyed your company but really weren’t looking for anything else. Alternatively, how much did you drink? Any chance you got a little sloppy or crude or maybe missed some social cues? Try just being happy that you had a fun night and practiced socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:03 PM
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Maybe you made a decent first impression but then your true personality came through 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:56 AM
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Hmm, maybe therapy could help them not to do that…seems like that would be a valuable life skill 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:46 AM
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Maybe tell the men that. They are the ones who threaten it regularly here…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:55 AM
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And you somehow don’t understand that women being expected to (presumably repeatedly) have sex with men we are neither attracted to nor interested in, in order to satisfy this “need” would scar women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:52 AM
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Here’s the thing though, building shelters for homeless people or advocating for universal healthcare don’t require a woman to literally have a penis put inside of her body that she doesn’t want there…slightly different threshold there, no? Your comments seem to imply that they are equivalent…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 12:49 AM
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The problem with categorizing sex as a “need” is the tendency for sexually unhappy men to believe that classifying it as such creates an obligation or duty for women as a group or “society” to satisfy that “need” or face the “consequences” of not doing so. Those “consequences” run the gamut from the looming dickpocalypse (characterized by mass rape and pillaging) to the legal elimination of women’s rights and ability to be self supporting, thereby financially coercing women into “loving” them… F…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:41 PM
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So when women marry unattractive men they are demonized as AFBB predators taking advantage of these poor men but men who do so are altruistic and admirable?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:03 PM
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Wanting the option to fuck an unattractive woman as a “slump-buster” doesn’t = caring about physically unattractive women…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:47 PM
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Why would women want to keep tabs on what men are up to…hmmmm🤔. A couple of reasons. First: we like / love some men. They are our fathers, brothers, sons, partners, friends and occasionally handsome strangers (shout out to any other geezers who remember Arnold S. In “The Villain”). We are interested in these men and boys. They are part of our lives. Second: men are women’s apex predators. That’s not misandry, it’s a fact. It just makes sense to monitor the behavior and activities of potential th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:40 PM
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Older women are even more likely to choose to be single though…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:29 PM
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I believe the phrase you are looking for is “cutting of your nose to spite your face”…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:32 PM
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If that were the case, why do so many of them threaten to remove women’s rights and our freedom to choose who we share our bodies with unless we / society ”fixes” this for them? Coercion and threats of violence and rape aren’t really likely to result in women deeply appreciating, desiring and lusting over currently sexually unsuccessful men…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:15 AM
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Why support men in taking 50% property in divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:40 AM
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Why would any individual woman be “attracted” to most men? Firstly, most women aren’t attracted enough to want to approach or interact with men based on just seeing them. We don’t know anything about them🤷‍♀️. They could be married, attached, gay, conservative, misogynistic, rapey, creepy, geographically undesirable, homosexual, a litterer, have anger issues, be boring, be socially awkward, etc.etc.etc. Facing facts, most men aren’t really attracted to most women if we consider “attraction” to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:00 AM
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As they should…do you really dispute that?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:36 AM
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Scoobie snacks, the original edibles 🤣😎
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:23 AM
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People who lack confidence are easier to manipulate, exploit and abuse so pay attention to the men above who explicitly don’t want confident women…they are absolutely telling on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:19 PM
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In the 1920s women made up 20% of the workforce (today it’s 47%). That doesn’t include women who worked in family businesses, farms, or from home taking in laundry, sewing etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:08 PM
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Yes, and OPs whole argument is that every thing was much better before that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:59 AM
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So…women actually having a choice about dating the people they want, or not dating at all and being able to do so largely absent the social, familial, financial, and legal coercion of the past isn’t “harming dating”. It probably is unwelcome to those men who aren’t getting chosen when women actually get to choose, but depending on coercion to get a spouse wasn’t actually a great building block for successful relationships, at least not for the coerced women… Women are not choosing some men becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:55 AM
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Why not bitch and whine to other men then, instead of women. Other men will probably say she’s a bitch or a slag or something equally “supportive”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:49 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:07 PM
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Prostitution accomplishes that pretty exactly. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:05 AM
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Are you referring to the parents that actually take care of the children as opposed to the deadbeat men that abandon them? If those men accepted their responsibilities, tax payers wouldn’t have to so perhaps direct your vitriol in the right direction, mkay buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:56 AM
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Passport sisters leave the country for anonymity, not opportunity. Women could stay at home to have sex with attractive people who don’t care about them, no need to travel. That’s available at the swipe of an app. Women could stay home to marry someone who is using her for her labor and resources. They are a dime a dozen. Women who explore sexually abroad do so to avoid the misogynistic judgement that society attaches to women who dare to do the same thing that men have been doing for millennia.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:31 AM
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Then don’t 🤷‍♀️. I don’t think anyone really cares (unless your plan is to sponge off aging parents who should be planning their retirement, in which case you kinda suck). Not sure why so many of you feel the need to announce your exit from productivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:30 AM
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You’re not missing anything. The US apps for “mature” folks are awash in angry Magats, “ENM” geezers, 60 year olds who “are ready to have children”, and “separated” or “recently divorced” shirtless men lying on their smutty looking bed pillows who are looking for “short term fun” AND are all about family values and want a *loyal woman” who doesn’t take herself too seriously. And they’re not even vegan vampires! At least that would be interesting!🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:27 AM
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Good practice as long as you understand the actual dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:17 AM
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Again…wages for working are paid in money, not pussy. Amazing that so many of you seem confused about that. Perhaps it’s because most of those espousing these views aren’t actually gainfully employed in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:14 AM
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Babies, yes. Children overall, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:14 AM
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Here we go…”Reward men and be a lot more thankful (expressed sexually of course, right?) for not abusing and raping you, otherwise they will abuse and rape you more” Not quite the compelling argument you think it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:00 AM
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And police are overwhelmingly more likely to abuse their partners than other professions…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:56 AM
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You’re going to need to provide a source for that because all available data contradicts your assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:53 AM
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Not just catcalling, 35+ year old men have probably been hitting on them. At school, if they babysit, coaches, tutors, parents of their friends. Despite what the troll says, it’s pretty much a universal experience for girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:42 AM
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Or…men could just choose not to behave like abusive misogynistic idiots and stop harassing women for existing🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:19 PM
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BOOBQUAKE!!!. 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:53 PM
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This reminds me of when the fundies blame natural disasters on women dressing immodestly…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:46 PM
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News for you, very often in those situations the cops tell the woman that there’s nothing they can do until he actually harms her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:47 AM
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More single mothers that are responsible for raising children than single fathers and more single women homeowners than single men homeowners makes that a bit silly…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:39 AM
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lol. I get baby highland cows, dog training, dogs being goofy, gardening, and recipe / food storage, regardless of platform. Maybe think about that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:33 AM
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The difference is that people hate Trump because he’s a despicable human being, not because of his race…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:23 PM
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Wow, aspiring to be a mass rapist? A child rapist? I sincerely wish that this was trolling…guess who doesn’t aspire to be a mass rapist? Yup, bears, bears do not admire rapists or view the prolific nature of that mass rape, and child rape, to be the ultimate status symbol and goal for male bears (and not just bears, also, thankfully, a lot of men - just not OP and his ilk🤢)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:10 PM
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Your article says that conservatives have LESS sex than liberals…but are 3% more likely to say that they are satisfied with their sex lives. Sounds like lower expectations 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 09:36 PM
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Non conservative/ non RP women are far less likely to willingly subjugate themselves and sacrifice themselves on the altar of the religious submission mandate and blind obedience to the whims and urges of their husbands. They are missing the religious and political patriarchal brainwashing that some men enjoy in their mommy bangmaids. They expect a partner, not a dictator and believe that both people deserve to be happy, have their needs considered and have fulfilling lives, that compromise is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:35 PM
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And I’m saying that’s BS. Women naturally prefer men around their own age. Trying to frame that as some kind of inequality for “non-elite” men is an absurd attempt to coerce women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:57 PM
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Perhaps you should listen to what young women say about who they don’t want to date instead of try to frame their legitimate preferences as demonstrations of “inequality” to try to guilt them into it? Why would the wants of “late bloomer”men to date much younger women be more important than the clearly stated and entirely reasonable desire of those much younger women not to date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:32 PM
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This is about 13-15 year old boys…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 06:58 AM
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Check his divorce from his first wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:38 PM
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The stat is not married, living together or in a committed relationship, not “any romantic relationship”. Big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:06 PM
4

Indiscriminate and aggressive sexual behavior is not a “gender role”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 05:29 PM
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Equality of financial and legal opportunities =/= wanting to rawdog strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 05:26 PM
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Here’s what you guys don’t understand: We know exactly how attractive we are or are not. We have been relentlessly dissecting our own appearance, magnifying and obsessing over every perceived flaw, since we were literal children. We don’t actually take the puffery from other women as being the objective truth. It’s a social expression of support and affection, not objective truth and we all know that. Fat women absolutely know that they are fat. Homely women know that they are homely. Having a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:26 PM
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It was a broken heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:41 PM
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The strippers really like me!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:40 PM
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Why do you think you’re going to be able to “wife” a 20 something woman when you’re 40 if you’re not having success with that age group now?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:18 PM
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That’s why there is a “male loneliness epidemic” and so many men whining and threatening the end of society because they can’t get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:16 PM
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There’s absolutely nothing subconscious about it. They are peddling lies, fantasies and false grievances specifically in order to prey on the desperate and foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:09 PM
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Would you hold your son to the same standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:04 PM
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They will never believe this…it removes their victim hood and one of the main pillars of the he-man woman hater’s club.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:52 PM
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So…are you upset that these out of shape, underemployed women aren’t settling for you for dating and relationships? Is that the point of this? Or are you upset that you aren’t the one pumping and dumping them in their 20’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:37 PM
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Ummm…have you seen anything going on in the US lately?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:59 PM
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Intentionally trying to create a covert contract and the being pissy when the other person doesn’t want to participate isn’t being manipulated, it’s being bad at manipulating others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:56 PM
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Before I live in a rural area and worked from home it was a pretty common occurrence even though I’m older than dirt compared to most of you toddlers. Never. Absolutely never. There’s zero chance I would ever date someone who approached me on the street in the first place. I have no interest in dating someone who knows literally nothing about me besides the fact that he likes the way I look. If that’s all he needs to know, that’s all he cares about. That mindset makes a man automatically and ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:02 AM
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Meh, lifelong atheist with none of the issues you mention🤷‍♀️. There is no reason that reasonable, thinking people need an imaginary supervisor in order to understand that bringing joy, helping those less fortunate, creating and appreciating beauty in the world and working to do the right thing instead of the easy thing when those paths diverge are the goals towards which we should all strive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:55 AM
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The truly amusing part of this theory is that the men who believe it are the biggest of waving red flags. However badly women may choose, at least we seem to be avoiding this particular brand of toxic misogyny, otherwise they wouldn’t be raging so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:37 AM
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I absolutely guarantee that you know men who physically abuse their wives or girlfriends and you have no idea and would swear that it’s not possible. Abusive men aren’t always the ones who show their temper to everyone. Some of them are widely beloved and people are shocked and disbelieving if their “private” behavior becomes public.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:05 AM
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Do you seriously believe that if the number of women being abused is under 50%, it doesn’t count as a widespread problem? How many women need to be abused, in your mind, for it to count as something worth addressing?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:53 PM
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It’s easy to call it hubris when your big contribution is having an orgasm… FAR more women would want children or more children if they got to be the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:55 PM
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What specific benefits are eligible men applying for and being refused because of their gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:50 PM
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And men have the final say about whether a relationship or marriage happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:46 PM
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Are the women the only ones getting those tax benefits?…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:47 AM
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Stay strong sister!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:29 AM
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There are ~4 billion women. You believe that 400 million women are either being flown to Dubai and getting pooped on or want to be? Really? How do you feel about all of the men who also voted against their own best interests (aka any man who isn’t a millionaire or billionaire?)? Do they also not respect themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:27 AM
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Wine might help (or offering antifreeze smoothies). Also maybe volunteer as a dog walker for your local shelter, 2nd best stress management ever (the best is volunteering for a Special Olympics team as a coach - seriously, not sure if that’s a thing in Thailand, but if it is, highly recommended).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:36 AM
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“You're a better wo-man than I am, Gunga Din"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:28 AM
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Yes, we are all aware that RP selects for emotionally damaged and mentally ill women and teaches men manipulation tactics to exploit those women. That’s not news. That’s kinda the mission statement of RP🤷‍♀️. The funny part is that it appears that even with those criteria and that coaching, the vast majority of RP adherents still don’t have any success. They just become more miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:52 AM
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I would never live with any person ever again, mambo or not🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:47 AM
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I was referring to a 3 legged dog that I was thinking of adopting 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:47 AM
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So…you’re turned on by mental illness / desperately low self esteem? That’s troubling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:44 AM
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I’m fairly sure that the initiation into any cult is damaging. There’s the brain washing, the destruction of the self, the alienation from others, the overwhelming pressure to embrace the “one true path”, to surrender one’s worldly goods, the worship of false deities, the “othering” of the uninitiated, the endless propaganda, the requirement that one suspend rational thought and embrace blind faith in questionable doctrine…must be tough, especially when that cult specifically targets young men i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:38 AM
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Reason #1,546,498 never to cohabitate with anything with less than 3 legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:31 AM
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What % of women do you truly believe are, or even aspire to, going to Dubai and getting shit on? Seriously, what’s your best estimate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:46 PM
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I think you’re significantly underestimating the number of men who need, on a visceral level, to feel that they can do something that women can’t even if it’s somewhat transparently false or contrived. Women make their own money. Our Industrialized society and technological advancements have dramatically reduced the spheres in which brute strength is necessary for survival. There is a noticeable dearth of saber tooth tigers or stampeding mammoths to battle. All of this has led to some men, who r…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:47 AM
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Unlikely. I have them in one of my outbuildings and they are shy. Still have to be careful obviously grabbing tools or moving things around but they aren’t just hanging out in the open waiting to pounce.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:20 PM
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A). Their social circle and status are legacy and lifestyle derived, not communication and social skill derived. B). They have too few fucks to give about performative masculinity. They are comfortable being completely themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:18 PM
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Meh, I’ve asked a partner to do things for me that I was perfectly capable of doing myself (open jars, fix things, carry things etc.) far more easily and conveniently, because it made him feel good. I know it sounds silly but it did make a difference especially because he was a bit insecure about me being a much higher earner, even though we didn’t live together or share expenses. Plus he would get sulky if he offered and I told him I didn’t need help with something (I thought I was being consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:14 PM
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Wait, or are those things you do or do not want?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:57 PM
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And no men are considered ugly just because they have small boobs or short hair 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:47 PM
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But only if you actually handle it…that’s where the problems arise…(not you specifically).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:22 PM
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Does that really count when the vast majority of the job listings are actually for scraping the gum off the bottom of tables or giving pedicures to hobos, even when they are described in the listings as “Engineer Specializing in Product Elasticity” or “Esthetician for Globe Trotting Entrepreneurs”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:04 PM
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Or…maybe understand the people deal with stress differently and just because you want to touch someone to make them feel better doesn’t mean that they want to be touched right then because it will not make them feel better. Try using your words and ask what they need instead of assuming that your desires and opinions about what they should need trump their actual needs🤷‍♀️ That’s not “teaching someone a lesson”, that’s you imposing your desires on someone else, supposedly for their benefit, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 08:21 PM
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There’s already unlimited access to paternity testing in the US… Why would you equate “access” to a “requirement”? Would you also be in favor or requisite requirements for child support to be adjudged and collected starting at the time of completion of testing, regardless of the relationship/ marital status? After all, I guess we really can’t assume or trust that the identified father will provide adequate support or allow people to choose to assume or trust that that will occur 🤷‍♀️ How about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:38 PM
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Please provide an example of policy women voted for that’s against equality and men’s interests. Voting for your “interests” when those interests require subjugating others, restricting and/or removing their rights and attempting to force them into sexual and domestic servitude is not ok. Denying women’s right to healthcare and bodily autonomy because of the “maternity gap between the parties” or frankly for any reason is just plain wrong. I’m amazed that you would even consider that to be a rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:57 PM
10

What “mild inconveniences” are you referring to?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:17 PM
12

And for some reason you believe that removing women’s rights and forcing them to be with men that they don’t want in order to survive will make them “love” you? Guess what cupcake, if you manage to force a woman to be with you and she doesn’t freely choose you, she will never love you. She will never want you or be anything but absolutely repulsed by you. She will despise you, find your touch disgusting and dream about your death. Just admit that you don’t care about “love” or being “loved”. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:16 PM
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So…some men get their feelings hurt and you find it funny, equivalent and appropriate that random women get to die?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:04 PM
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Hmmm, ok, a couple of questions: What specific policies did these undesirable men vote for that would benefit them? Please explain. How, exactly, do abortion bans benefit undesirable men (or any men actually)? Do you think the Trump thing might have something to do with all the men who routinely gloat about having gotten Trump elected as a way to punish women for not choosing them? Men who truly GTOW don’t spend their time and political capital trying to exact revenge on women. They also don’t a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:51 PM
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“High value” men don’t sexually assault their partners, age gap irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:42 AM
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Women aren’t really sure that it’s worth being in a relationship with one man that we’re attracted to. Why in the world would you imagine that we’d be remotely interested in being in multiple relationships with men we aren’t attracted to? Seriously? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 10:17 PM
5

Guess what correlates with high birth rates? Severe poverty and lack of basic education. Is that really what we should aspire to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 07:09 PM
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Margins at most restaurants are razor thin so there’s not much wiggle room for errors. Also, being a good chef and being an astute business person are not the same and are often diametrically opposed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:48 PM
5

Who, specifically, are you “slaving away” for and how? Also what, exactly, are you expecting in return and from whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:40 PM
4

So…they’ll kill or die but treating women as equal partners and truly equally sharing in the childcare and household responsibilities is a bridge too far?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 06:38 PM
10

So dads get to check out for the first 13 years and then yell and ground kids a few times when they’re in high school and we should see that as an equal contribution?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 02:10 AM
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I wish I believed that you were being sarcastic…unfortunately it appears that you may actually be a human turnip. I hope I’m wrong…🫜🫜🫜
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:35 PM
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People have accepted it. That’s one ingredient in the falling birth rates 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:03 PM
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Then why would you make a post about women only complaining about the compromises we make to date the people we want to date and not the people we don’t want to date? 🤔 Is it confusing to you that we don’t complain about doing something we wouldn’t ever do in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:59 PM
13

Gotcha sugarbuns 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:56 PM
1

These are the guys who unironically take life lessons from “Love Island”…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:53 PM
22

But wait! I thought women never say no to CHAD…😱
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:37 PM
17

Why would we compromise to date men that we don’t want to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:37 PM
12

What are you considering to be “withholding”? That’s kinda the point under discussion here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:36 PM
7

Then explain your statement 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 08:16 PM
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Do you mean the pattern when a man repeatedly whines, begs, harasses, berates, bullies or just annoys the living fuck out of a woman intentionally so that it’s easier to endure 5 minutes of his sweaty grunting than continue to deal with him?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 08:13 PM
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So…you believe that no matter how a woman feels about you in that moment, regardless of how you’ve treated her, or how upset she may be, she should want to have sex with you? That’s not how women’s sexuality works. Or maybe you’re actually saying that you don’t care whether or not she wants to but she should pretend to want to whenever you get the urge otherwise you’re taking your balls and going home? I definitely think you should leave the first time that happens. Or maybe just avoid women ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 08:01 PM
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Well I can make this very simple for you. If a woman goes completely silent and doesn’t reciprocate when you “try to get her in the mood”, stop. She doesn’t want to have sex with you. At all. I’m a little surprised that needs to be explained… If her clear disinterest doesn’t effectively communicate that “no” to you, you can always use your words to ask directly whether she wants to have sex with you. If she doesn’t say yes enthusiastically, then she doesn’t and it’s a “no”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:55 PM
5

Please re-read. I specifically did not say “all men”…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:48 PM
18

“No” is a complete sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:34 PM
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Women typically aren’t interested in sex when they are upset with the person who wants to have sex with them…that’s not passive aggressive, it’s being majorly turned off and not wanting to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:26 PM
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That would be stupid. Of course in the history of the world it has probably happened 🙄. I am very confident that that’s an extreme minority though and the vast majority of situations occur when the woman doesn’t want to have sex and the man does. That’s not manipulation or “withholding”, it’s differing desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:08 PM
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Note that I specifically did not say ALL men…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:04 PM
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Ok, try to imagine that your relationship is struggling. You may love the person deep down but you’re angry and feeling taken for granted or disrespected or any number of things that make the idea of sex with that person totally and completely unappealing in that moment.. You are the exact opposite of turned on or “in the mood”. You just want to go to sleep. Now imagine that your partner gropes and grabs at you repeatedly, complaining for hours trying get you to have sex that he absolutely knows…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:03 PM
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So in your mind she should be expected to have sex with him whenever he wants, whether she wants to or the idea makes her skin crawl and her blood boil? He should be able to treat her however he wants, actively turn her off completely and then she should be expected to grin and bear it? Would you want to have sex with someone who absolutely does NOT want to have sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 04:40 PM
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Women have duty sex all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:22 PM
13

So…similar to the “nice guy” concept, you’re confused that putting in “male feminist” tokens doesn’t automatically yield sex prizes regardless of overall attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 12:33 PM
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Here’s why this “withholding” narrative is so widespread with men: Men (some/most?) will want to have sex if it’s available. They aren’t less interested because they’re angry with the woman. They aren’t less interested because they the woman is angry with them. They don’t even have to be physically attracted to the woman or like them. They can actively dislike the woman and still want to have sex. They can (easily) view the woman with utter contempt and still want to have sex with her. In all of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 12:28 PM
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Based on post history, you have been asking variations of this exact question repeatedly and regularly for at least 4 years. I suggest you refer to some of the hundreds of responses that that you’ve already received and perhaps consider why this scenario is so fascinating to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 10:14 AM
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And who bullied less stereotypical “masculine” boys the most? Other boys. And yes, that’s incredibly shitty. It’s shitty when girls do it too. We all have a responsibility to teach our children to be better and more tolerant and embrace individuality (which is something that an awful lot of men criticize as “feminizing” boys btw). Here’s the issue that seems most central to men in this sub, sex. That’s it. Some / most men will have sex with any woman who doesn’t forcefully say no, regardless of …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 12:26 AM
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Feminism worked / works to remove legal impediments that were / are specific to women and an intended consequence of that is that women are no longer legally or financially forced to depend on or submit to men’s whims and will for their survival in some parts of the world. That means that women are no longer compelled to embody “feminine” characteristics that are unnatural to them or ineffective in achieving their goals in order to have the same legal and financial rights and opportunities for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:18 PM
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Is he going to treat her poorly and resent her for not being his dream Barbie? Is he going to withhold himself from an emotional connection because she’s a placeholder? Is he going to be ashamed of her? Does he dislike her as a person or is she just not exactly what he aspired to physically? Is he just using her as a warm hole until something slightly more physically attractive becomes a possibility? If any of those are even a maybe a little bit, he needs to stay far away from her and let her fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 04:11 PM
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Atheism is the lack of belief in the existence of god/gods. There is no claim regarding a “rule book” or that everything can be answered by scientific inquiry, merely that there is no evidence that the answer is a deity/deities. As an atheist I absolutely acknowledge that things are complicated AND that none of those things can be credibly explained by or attributed to a god /gods or other supernatural/mystical beings by another name.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 12:27 AM
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And by “exclude and torture” you mean not being grateful enough to men who feel that women “worse than ever” are choosing not to date those men that we aren’t attracted to?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 05:37 PM
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And men haven’t, and continue to, choose women primarily based on their appearance?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:29 AM
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Physical attraction is a trait that leads to healthy relationships lasting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 11:17 PM
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You do realize that men are an average of 5” taller than women and make 14% more (that’s in the US, disparity varies by country). Even if we collectively decide that height and income are neutral and everyone should be with their equivalent, that 5” and 14% difference are the equivalent between the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 11:04 PM
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And yet…those experiences made you think less of women, not the men who abused them. Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 10:59 PM
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Worked at a deli all through high school and saved most of it for college spending money. (Also got a job working as a line cook at the campus cafe but that’s a job so🤷‍♀️)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:39 PM
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That assumes that unless someone does something wrong or “not nice” they are entitled to the sexual/ romantic interest of another person just because that’s what they want…do you see how that’s crazy and irrational?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:01 PM
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Yes but a person kicking you in the balls takes an action specifically intending to hurt you. A person who declines to engage in a romantic/ sexual relationship with you isn’t doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 08:59 PM
8

And yet look at all of these “experts” who think that they could tell their partner was cheating because her vagina felt different.🤦‍♀️. Not surprising but still somehow disappointing…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:21 AM
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Are you seriously saying that having multiple partners changes the shape and elasticity of a woman’s vagina? Tell me why you think that a married woman having sex with her husband 1000 times would somehow be different than her having sex with. 10 men 100 times. Or that having a well endowed partner does that? Women’s vaginas are designed to accommodate an entire baby, Chad McDonkeydick doesn’t even test the lower limits…and just in case you’re wondering the average number of lifetime sexual part…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:30 AM
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It’s a religious term that roughly translates to suitable helpmeet aka a servant to the man the home and the family…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:08 PM
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You’re literally RP though, that’s a group…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:55 PM
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What you’re actually saying is that you “love” (aka feel that you would benefit from) the one dimensional stereotype of “woman” that you have created in your head which has absolutely nothing to do with actual women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:53 PM
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Nope. Spontaneous desire occurs without another person. It is entirely about the person getting horny absent ANY external stimulus (that means without another person involved).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:04 PM
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Nope. You are confused and actually have it backwards. Spontaneous desire is entirely about the person experiencing it. Nobody else need be present. No external stimulus is required . The person that desire gets pointed towards is secondary and just an outlet for that urge. It is entirely dehumanizing and completely self involved. Responsive desire occurs “in response” to external stimuli (aka the specific person who is desired). It is specifically humanizing and not solely about the self.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:23 PM
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I have been single (yes, and celibate) for about 5 years now. I may well be single forever, not because I’m “too picky” or “fickle” but because I’m content. Why would I want to disrupt that? I don’t need protection or provision. I’m not isolated or lonely or sexually frustrated. If I feel like having an orgasm, it takes less than 5 minutes and is 100% guaranteed. I have a step ladder for high shelves, the ability to use power tools and AAA. I also have a huge dog and my concealed carry permit wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:10 AM
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Oh my goodness! Do you mean that when women have the ability to choose their partners they choose more attractive men? Gasp! That’s a feature, not a flaw. Re/ polygamy, this is a common male fantasy. Studies show that the numbers of men and women who have a higher number of sexual partners are about the same. That’s not women sharing men anymore than it’s men sharing women 🤣. People who enjoy casual sex have casual sex with other people who enjoy casual sex. The difference is that far more men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:19 AM
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I think you may have been seeing content about what the manosphere thinks real femininity is and gotten confused…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:35 PM
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Honest question, did it occur to you that him crying when his father died was a completely healthy and natural response and necessary to him processing his feelings? What you did, telling jokes to get him to laugh and stop crying while well intended, may have been more about your discomfort with seeing him express his grief openly and may have inadvertently stifled his ability to express himself in a healthy and normal way around you. That’s not healthy masculinity…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 05:29 PM
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Shooting or shouting?😱
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:39 PM
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His sons will see the “truth” of why he “dumped” them along with their mother instead of just divorcing the mother and maintaining a relationship with the sons and continuing to be a father to them? What “truth” is that?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:33 PM
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If he “dumped” his wife AND his 3 sons to marry another woman, it sounds like he must have been cheating…and also a shitty father. Sure, get divorced, but dumping your sons?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:30 PM
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So it doesn’t matter at all that he “dumped” his 3 sons?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:27 PM
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You could try chatting about factory farming and the push by the US govt for people to use beef tallow instead of seed oils🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:41 AM
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“Have no choice”? Men absolutely have the choice not to harass women who aren’t interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:31 AM
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Just to point out a relevant fact, historically more women died in childbirth than men died in battle…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:32 AM
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Maybe because if you pay attention to this you won’t waste your time harassing women who have zero interest in being approached by you? Maybe because you won’t feel rejected as often if you are only approaching women who are interested in being approached by you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:25 AM
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So…like Red Pill but for money instead of pussy?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:05 PM
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Why do some men say it’s women’s fault that some men are single?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:56 PM
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Just curious, would this apply to these men’s own mothers, grandmothers, sisters, daughters as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:03 AM
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It’s because they want to know the abracadabra phrase that will guarantee them easy casual sex with whatever women they want. They get mad when nobody will tell them the secret code words…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:04 AM
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Good. Men shouldn’t assume that it’s ok to creep out multiple women just because they want to get laid. Actions have consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:02 AM
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So you’re saying that average men are mad that they can’t be as abusive towards women as attractive men can?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:27 AM
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That’s fine though 🤷‍♀️. If people have more compatible options, they should choose those. Why would it bother me? Dating is a game of musical chairs and it’s also not mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:55 PM
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Why on earth would someone be worried about not having leverage in a voluntary romantic relationship between two people who are choosing each other? What purpose would leverage have in that scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:46 PM
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Why would I care? Either we freely choose each other or we don’t. If someone I’m with wants someone else then we’re not well suited anyway 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:03 PM
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Oooh, do you mean like the knee jerk reactions that men have regularly that demonstrate that they feel they are more fundamentally moral than women? Man abandons his kids: she’s keeping them away from him. She’s crazy and toxic and made it too hard for him. Woman claims to have been raped: probably a false accusation / she just regretted it the next day / she’s probably just mad he pumped and dumped her. Women file for 70% of divorces: women are at fault for 70% of divorces / she’s monkey branch…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:00 PM
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Most men are misogynists just like most white people are racist. It’s steeped so deeply into our upbringing and culture that even deliberately trying to avoid or condemn or counteract racist thoughts, impulses or behaviors incorporates inherent underlying racist motivation. That is absolutely NOT to excuse racism or misogyny, whether overt or covert, It is to acknowledge that even the most self consciously well intentioned people struggle to fully separate from historical biases that are so ende…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:19 AM
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Would you recommend Thailand for solo female tourists of a certain age (not sex or bf or marriage tourists)?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:07 AM
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Without demand, supply is moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:03 AM
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But apparently they can earn enough money to spend thousands of dollars buying feet pics on onlyfans…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:45 PM
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Just be an equally involved parent🤷‍♀️. That means all of parenting, not just the playing part. It means not only knowing their shoe sizes, but knowing when they will need new ones and what kind. Making well vist drs appointments (and knowing what the schedule is supposed to be), knowing their birthday, allergies, medications, likes, dislikes, friends, teachers. Supervising homework and knowing when they have tests and quizzes and projects due. Baking the class cupcakes and chaperoning school tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:41 PM
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Again…total logic fail. Try this: let’s say that 99% of the people who buy monster trucks are men, that doesn’t mean that 99% of men buy monster trucks…. See where you’re going wrong here?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 07:05 PM
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Your logic fails because then you turn around and try to make that mean that 99% of women read those romance novels. Do you see the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:58 PM
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Does it count as dominance when the people you think you’re dominating find you sort of sad and ridiculous?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 06:49 PM
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So…you want to shame women who enjoy sex because you enjoy it more when they don’t?🤔. That’s troubling…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:15 PM
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Here’s the thing, nobody is forcing men to approach and nobody is preventing women from approaching (in most countries) and vice versa. If men don’t want to approach, then don’t 🤷‍♀️. Nobody cares (except those women who are whining about not being approached). Those men are also free to whine about women not approaching them. It’s not going to change anything but sure, whine away. If women don’t want to approach, they won’t. Nobody cares (except the whining men). Those women are also free to wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:32 PM
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Those 2 things aren’t connected and have nothing to do with each other though. You’re acting as though she chose between you two as if it was a mandatory either/or decision and if she hadn’t dated him she would’ve dated you. That’s not how dating and relationships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:16 PM
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The exact same reason that men reward the behavior of goldiggers, sugar babies, crazy/ hot bpd chicks and then complain when it all goes sideways. Dysfunctional people of both sexes make poor decisions based on their immediate wants/ needs, what feels good in the moment without anticipating the eventual outcome or having a practical strategy to extricate themselves before their life crashes and burns. People who lack the ability to create and enforce healthy boundaries, who struggle with delayed…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:43 AM
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Do you understand what binary means? Either we are or are not attracted enough to consider moving forward. A “not” can never move up. A “are” can VERY easily become a “not” with additional information and contact. A “are” may advance to a full blown “YES” if further information and contact are positive and no red flags are raised. But again, a “not”, whether initially or through demotion, is a “not” forever. Women already give chances to the men who pass the original “are” / “are not” threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 01:06 AM
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So women should aspire to committing to a lifetime with an average awkward man who she’s not attracted to, whose company she doesn’t enjoy because…he’ll marry her? How is that net negative fair to either person?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:53 AM
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Just wait…next he’ll say that no woman has ever faked an orgasm with him and and he knows that for sure because he can tell 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:08 PM
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Most women’s attraction is binary, not scaled.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:44 PM
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They don’t need one. They manage to be their own “cock” blocker without any help 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 09:08 PM
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Because he wants to be able to take her confidence away whenever he wants as a way to bend her to his will and extort her into catering to him in order to feel good about herself. The idea that her sense of self is not dependent on his personal approval is a threat to his need to control her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:00 AM
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And amazingly a formerly hot woman becomes “not” when she rejects him🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:55 AM
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Yup. She’s not supposed to value her education or professional accomplishments because he doesn’t value them. She’s not supposed to value her financial security because he feels that it denies him the financial leverage over her that he feels entitled to. She’s not supposed to have boundaries that impinge on his desires because he wants what he wants and how dare she disagree. She’s not supposed to advocate for herself because he believes that what he wants is best for everyone. She’s supposed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:15 AM
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I can’t find ANY source that supports your assertion that men aren’t appropriately grateful more likely to be seriously injured or killed in a DV situation than women. All available data says exactly the opposite. More than half of female homicide victims are killed by a current or former male intimate partner. One in three U.S. women experience physical violence, sexual violence, and/or stalking by a current or former intimate partner over the course of their lifetimes. Intimate partner violenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:07 AM
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And how, specifically, do you define “misandrist behaviors”? Also, who, exactly, are we meant to be expressing gratitude towards? Men in general? How about those men who resent our independence? And what about the men who reject women’s rights and equality, whether vocally or behaviorally? Also, are you seriously saying that women should be performatively grateful for not being legally treated as second class citizens in some parts of the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 12:48 AM
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Why would anyone object to equality unless they are trying to recoup supremacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:37 PM
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Sounds like you’re saying that women aren’t appropriately grateful and appreciative towards men in general for reducing the ways in which women are legally subjugated in some parts of the world. How is it that women expected to express our “gratitude” exactly and towards whom?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:27 PM
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So stop complaining when women avoid men en masse (who per your example are analogous to gang members who will harm anyone who passes by). Stop expecting women to treat those animals as human beings deserving of respect and consideration. If a man can be “provoked” by some women’s verbal dislike, into abuse, rape and murder, lack of provocation wouldn’t have stopped him. If men’s violence towards women is that close to the surface, they shouldn’t be allowed to walk among us. They definitely shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:18 PM
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Those are the men who define misandry as the women they want not offering them easy access to sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:12 PM
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So…men kill, rape and abuse women because those women weren’t “nice” enough? That leads us to “women had better be nice to men otherwise men will kill, rape and abuse them” Yeah, we see that all the time here when some men threaten us with the dickpocalypse that will also happen because women aren’t “nice” enough to men. Usually includes some kind of suggestion that we can either voluntarily have sex with men we aren’t interested in or we can get repeatedly gang raped by incel marauders when soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 10:57 PM
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We are aware of how much importance men attach to their own sexual satisfaction. That doesn’t mean that we have some obligation to pander to those desires to our own detriment or discomfort. Your desire for a wet dick =/= our obligation to allow you to penetrate us for your pleasure at your convenience and whim…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:25 AM
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The kitchens in most privately owned restaurants are absolutely filthy compared to corporate owned chains. Food safety standards are also wayyyyy lower. That doesn’t mean that you’re going to get sick or that the food isn’t delicious but it’s absolutely a thing to be aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:56 PM
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Agree and then puke and cough and snot all over him to teach him being a selfish asshat has consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:50 PM
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Do men not choose who they approach? Are they somehow compelled to approach women that they would not want? If men are approaching women, are those women somehow magically choosing men who haven’t chosen them first?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:45 AM
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I don’t know why you guys refuse to understand that if we aren’t approaching you it’s 100% because we are not at all interested in interacting with you. Seriously, stop the mental gymnastics and take the L. Edit: OMG, did you really just say that women who do approach are somehow obligated to have immediate sex with the men that they approach? Wow…I’m guessing you don’t even understand what turnip brained fuckery that statement is🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 11:44 PM
3

If all men actually walked away politely in the absence of immediate enthusiastic reciprocity, I think fewer women would complain about being approached and the women complaining about not being approached would be well avoided anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 04:58 PM
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To make money and to have the comments filled with people complimenting them etc. They are making it up because they know that people will talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 03:42 PM
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Oh yes, all of the members of the “He man woman haters club” are very important! Totally the most important. Everbody says so…really…🤣. That’s why they are sooo socially successful and beloved by women the world over… Keep telling yourself that cupcake. A bunch of walking talking Aesop’s fables 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 11:10 PM
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Nope. Not gonna happen. A). I wouldn’t agree to date a stranger that approached me so why would I approach a stranger? B). There has literally never been an occasion when I glimpsed an attractive stranger and felt any desire to pursue a sexual relationship with that stranger. Attractive strangers are like cool vintage cars or cute kids or just a house with nice landscaping. You notice, appreciate that whatever it is is neat and move on with your day. C). From a purely practical perspective, if I…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 10:59 PM
8

Sounds like your source is “Happy Days” reruns 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:28 PM
5

Ooooh, you mean the book that was created to intentionally mimic the festival and holiday schedules and themes of the most prevalent alternate “pagan” religions of the time to ease the populace into the mandatory transition? The book that intentionally vilified women (original sin”, and mandated men’s supremacy over women in order to undermine contemporary matriarchal societies and undermine goddess worship? Golly, how shocking 😱. Guess it must be how things are supposed to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:27 PM
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Genocide is not politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:45 PM
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Are you seriously agreeing with someone who is asserting the HITLER and the holocaust was a positive thing? Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:37 PM
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Are you seriously asserting the HITLER and the holocaust was a positive thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:36 PM
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This is just factually and historically inaccurate. Many ancient civilizations acknowledged and even revered individuals whose gender expression or identity fell outside the strict male/female binary, often with specific roles and social recognition. These concepts are distinct from modern ideas of sexual orientation and gender identity but demonstrate that a binary view of gender was not universally held. Here are some examples: Native American Two-Spirit: Many Native American cultures recogniz…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:30 PM
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You’ve got it backwards. Boys (and some girls) stunted social development during childhood and early adolescence (largely caused by not interacting with other kids -boys and girls- enough IRL leads to their lack of romantic/sexual experience later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:27 PM
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Because high school can be brutal and a lot of people find their stride after that. Especially boys as the continue to grow and fill out and loose the “all elbows, knees, and Adam’s apple” look of adolescence and grow out of the acne and questionable hygiene that hits some teenagers pretty hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 02:10 PM
1

Deflection strike three.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:12 AM
1

You haven’t answered a single question. Nice try deflecting though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:54 PM
1

Why don’t you explain what forbidden manliness traits you are talking about and how exactly you aren’t being “allowed” to do so. That was your complaint after all. What, very specifically, is being denied to men that is central to this “manliness”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:50 PM
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I don’t think that “manliness” is a thing. I have no idea what behaviors you are assigning to the forbidden “manliness” category. Why would a fully functional adult need or want any of those things from another fully functional adult? I would like a partner to be as competent in life skills and adulting as I am although as different people have different strengths and weaknesses, that certainly could manifest differently rather than identically. I don’t understand why that’s a problem or means t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:23 PM
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You’re the one who said that men aren’t allowed to be men anymore. And no, I don’t want a man to “lead”, that’s absurd. I want a partner. Of course I want someone who knows what they want and pursues it just like I do. That’s not a gendered quality. Men can have whatever “manliness” they want. That’s the point. Why would that be my decision unless they make it my problem to deal with? I don’t need anyone to do “manliness” stuff around the house etc. I do that just fine, thanks. Surprisingly I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:16 PM
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Men are “allowed” to be whatever kind of men they want to be as long as that “manliness” doesn’t inflict itself on other people against their will. The problem you seem to have is that women aren’t eager to associate with the kind of men you want to be. That’s not “not allowing” men to be men. That’s just actions having consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 11:02 PM
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Idk, I cross the street because my dog is huge and reactive and scares men regularly if they invade her (large) personal space. Maybe she was protecting you🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:30 PM
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Women are shamed for having sex that they want with men who want to have sex with them. Women are also shamed for not having sex that they don’t want with men who want to have sex with them. Men are shamed for trying to have sex with women who don’t want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:25 PM
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Aren’t you about 18? You’ve got time, seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:18 PM
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Why do men, who clearly don’t like women at all, want women to like them in the first place? Because they want sex? Why would women like (aka “agree to have sex with” because clearly you don’t actually care if she likes you as a person) someone who doesn’t actually like them as a person and just wants to use them for their own sexual gratification?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:01 PM
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There are 4 billion women and girls is the world…assuming that at least 2/3rds of those are adults, do you really believe that more than a tiny percentage of all of those ~2.64 billion women would actually attend those parties? Most women are married with children. Most women have some sort of religious belief system that doesn’t align with that sort of behavior. Most women know better and don’t have the time, interest or energy to ever consider that kind of silliness. Most women are just gettin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 12:09 PM
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Nope. Still don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:05 AM
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There is a small subset of women who behave that way around famous men. The vast majority of women don’t and wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:04 AM
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Comfortably? 🤣🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:51 PM
2

You do realize that women don’t get themselves pregnant, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:40 PM
2

I’m talking about an actual high quality man, not the absurd RP caricature that an actual high quantity woman wouldn’t touch with someone else’s 10 foot pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 08:05 PM
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You’ve got to read this… https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/i-am-a-tinder-guy-holding-a-fish-and-i-will-provide-for-you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:55 PM
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The thing you’re missing here is that a truly high quality man doesn’t need or want a woman to pretend to be smaller, weaker, or less competent in order to feel like a man. A high quality man isn’t “emasculated” by a woman who is his equal and doesn’t need to be pandered to and coddled like a spoiled child. He embraces and respects healthy boundaries, appreciates differing opinions and doesn’t need or want “obedience” or “submission” from anyone in order to feel good about himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 07:51 PM
3

So basically you’re mad that you can’t socially and financially coerce women into being your domestic and sexual servants? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 10:23 AM
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So…they do things that make us uncomfortable and unsafe and you’re suggesting that in response we should give them ego tingles and encourage their sexual aggression? When accidentally making eye contact or even just being a vagina haver can “invite” unwanted and persistent sexual attention from strange men, your solution is to feed the male horny monster with the overt and blatantly false impression that miscellaneous women are generally interested in being exposed to their penises as a life goa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:23 AM
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You do realize that the article was written by a man, right?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:57 PM
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Sorry buddy, I heard that the looming dickpocalypse was postponed again. Allergy index is too high and the basement warriors are worried about getting stuffy noses or itchy eyes if they go outside. Maybe in the fall as long as it’s not too chilly, or raining, or a new game comes out…anyway definitely going to fight the oppression really soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:49 PM
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Yup and often exploitative and abusive to women. By George he made a post that actually made some kind of sense (completely accidentally 🤣).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:31 PM
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It’s so amusing that you think full time parenting of children = playing or that the “domestic chores” would be equally time consuming 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:22 PM
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How about using basic logic? Most people are going to prefer a partner who is relatively fit and healthy rather than obese and unhealthy. Most people are going to prefer a partner who is hygienic and well kept rather than a smelly slob. Most people are going to prefer a partner that is able to competently interact with other people and behave appropriately rather than being overtly abrasive, emotionally disregulated or visibly uncomfortable/ awkward or difficult to communicate with. Most people …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:18 PM
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Did you bother to actually read the article that you attached? Absolutely nothing in there refers to “types” or appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:07 PM
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Pretty sure she’s maxed out…I can’t imagine there’s much actual biological material left to replace 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:03 AM
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Funny, we mostly seem to hear men wondering why women don’t want men and birth rates are collapsing…ever consider that maybe this attitude has something to do with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:57 AM
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I don’t think hypergamy means what you think it means…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:57 PM
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The issue isn’t the vocabulary. It is that it seems that the vocabulary is an accurate portrayal of the underlying attitude. You are telling us who you are and guess what? Women are increasingly believing you and choosing not to engage. Please don’t self-censor. We truly value discussions that inform us about your true feelings. They allow us to make informed decisions…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:10 PM
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Ohhhhh!!! Is this a dramatic foreshadowing of the looming incel fueled dickpocalypse? Haven’t seen this one is a couple of hours…🥱🥱🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 01:17 AM
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How about we let people decide / define what their own sexuality is? Sexuality is perhaps one of the most fundamentally personal characteristics of each individual. Literally nobody has the right to define that for anyone else and the incredible arrogance of trying to is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:09 AM
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“Red Pill” is a grifter based aggregation of common sense, misogyny, self-victimization , and farcical revenge fallacies. The idiotic idea that the absurdity that is RP can negate the lived experiences of millions of trans people throughout all of human history (because that’s how long trans people have existed) is exceeded only by the arrogance of questioning their existence and absolute right to that existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:03 AM
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Outside of super religious people, virginity isn’t really a “thing” in the western world.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:08 PM
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There are severely developmentally disabled people who manage to learn the life skills necessary to live independently. If they can do it, average men can do it. If they choose not to (or pretend not to be able to) they are very clearly communicating that they don’t care to and view their partner as a servant to their selfishness and sloth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:55 PM
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The directions ARE WRITTEN ON THE BOX!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:29 PM
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You’re assuming that there’s some sort of Noah’s Ark pairing thing going on and that evening out the numbers will mean that nobody is left behind on shore. If that’s how it worked the “incel” problem would directly mirror the statistical gender delta and everybody else would be in a 1:1 m/f relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:49 PM
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Absolutely agree. Going on 5 years and I don’t actually see any reason that would change. I occasionally meet men who I would consider attractive but even then it seems like an awful lot of trouble 🤣. I mean, I could but would it be worth the bother? Meh, odds are…probably not🤷‍♀️. And yes, I’m conventionally attractive, slender, financially independent and have a history of having a healthy libido although I’ve never been open to casual encounters. I’ve been married and divorced, had kids, been…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:33 AM
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I’m not sure you realize how rare it is for that to be a topic of discussion amongst actual adults…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:35 PM
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Only 6% more men (28%) than women (22%) are unmarried (never married) by 40. That’s not a huge delta and is pretty easily explained by typical age gaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:29 PM
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Why not date late bloomer women their own age?🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 09:35 PM
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Tell the truth, do you manage to keep all of the full names straight or did you give them abbreviated nicknames based on a couple or letters? (And still get them muddled sometimes 🤣).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:38 PM
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I’ll definitely give it a try. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 01:58 AM
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Oh thank goodness. Far less disturbing the general populace 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:54 AM
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She’s on her anti anxiety meds and wearing her thundershirt but it barely touches the raw panic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:54 AM
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Prepping for a night of fireworks based giant dog trauma. Poor girl is already having it rough because some (idiotic) people have been shooting off fireworks periodically all day long. She outweighs me by 20 + lbs and has already bruised and scratched the crap out of me trying to basically crawl into my skin every time something booms. Wish us luck. Pet owners in the US beware, more pets panic and run away and become disoriented and lost on July 4th than any other day of the year. If you let you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:47 PM
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Married the day before my 21st birthday. Divorced before I was 23. Horrible experience. Do not recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:39 PM
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That was absolutely written by a man. Don’t you recognize all of the RP keywords sprinkled throughout? It’s not even a good LARP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:37 PM
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I can’t believe I’m asking this but…were they strapped to the motorbike in a “decorative” way or was it (or at least one) more “functional”? Not sure it matters but speed bumps might be dangerous in one of those scenarios…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:29 PM
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Presumably both of those people consented to holding hands. Why would that be anyone else’s business? Now if one of those people was chasing the other one around begging and bullying him into holding hands, the person being chased around could very justifiably be upset about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:55 AM
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You’re the one diligently building a straw man. Please point out where I said or implied ANY of those things…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:14 AM
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Women don’t “demonize and hate” male sexuality. Sexuality is a personal, internal process. We only disparage male sexuality when men inflict it on us and make it our problem to solve. Women only care about men disparaging female sexuality when they inflict their dissatisfaction on us and make their unhappiness our problem to solve. We are unhappy with what you try to do to us. You are unhappy about what we won’t let you do to us. Both of those are “you” problems. Wallow in your sexuality, we won…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:07 AM
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And if gay men express discomfort to me I will. You’re seemingly saying that gay male sexuality is inherently bad and in the same breath blaming the oppression of the lgbtq community on women who don’t immediately and automatically share your homophobic view?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:25 AM
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The men who are subjected to that behavior get to decide whether they feel that it is inappropriate. That’s not really a decision that women can make on their behalf outside of criminal behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:13 AM
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I’m saying that women have no reason to judge gay male sexuality at all. Nor would we judge straight male sexuality if it didn’t inspire straight men to actions that are harmful to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:05 AM
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Gay male sexuality isn’t inflicted on women, it doesn’t victimize women, it doesn’t impose itself upon women against their will. Gay male sexuality doesn’t make itself women’s problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:58 AM
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Women only disparage male sexuality when men inflict it on us and make it our problem to solve. Women only care about men disparaging female sexuality when they inflict their dissatisfaction on us and make their unhappiness our problem to solve. We are unhappy with what you try to do to us. You are unhappy about what we won’t let you do to us. Both of those are “you” problems. Keep your hands, dicks, threats, and words to yourself unless invited to share them and we’re good. Can you say the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:11 PM
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Here’s the thing with these posts…it’s (some) men complaining that they get rejected when they approach the women that they are interested in AND complain that those women don’t approach them. If they are already rejecting you when you approach, why in the world do you think they’re not approaching you because of “their ego”, not because if they aren’t even interested when it’s easy for them, there’s zero chance that they would want to. Seriously, think about it. It’s not entitlement, it’s disin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:57 PM
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It’s an insult to imply that your partner is a delusional narcissistic idiot, regardless of the clumsy metaphor that you used to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:05 AM
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Do you really not see why she would justifiably be offended? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:03 AM
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Do you not understand that whether you’re referring to a specific event or not that is a relationship killing thing to say. It displays such tremendous contempt and lack of respect, empathy and basic care that she’d be insane to stay with you for any longer than it takes her to mourn the relationship she thought she had with the man she thought you were, to be at all vulnerable or open to you ever again? Do you really not get that? This isn’t something wrong with her comprehension, it’s somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:56 AM
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Disgusted , violated, absolutely single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:23 AM
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Gosh, do men not select relationship partners from the pool of women that they’re attracted to? Why do you pretend that women shouldn’t do the same or that it needs to be explicitly stated EVERY SINGLE TIME? Wow, you got us, we do not actually want to have sex with emotionally mature bridge trolls or basement goblins. 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:32 AM
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Hmmm, frustration, anger, anxiety and depression sound kinda baggagy…no?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:53 PM
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She looks like an alien. I keep waiting for her skin to split off and expose the real lizard-life form that’s wearing it…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:15 PM
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Sounds like they were just trying to get with women who were out of their league then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 06:20 PM
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Guess they shouldn’t have wasted their youth and fertility 🤷‍♀️. Should have settled down as virgins in their late teens / early 20s with their actual looks match instead of wasting so much time on video games and porn and trying to get ran through by all those women who were out of their league. Too bad, so sad. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:42 PM
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Yuck. Why would I want someone whose appearance I need to dictate? Why would I want someone who’s “obedient” and doesn’t take an active role in decisions that impact all of us? Why would I want a one sided sex life? Why wouldn’t I want to take an active role is parenting and household responsibilities? That sounds like living with a robot, not an actual human partner. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:36 PM
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Just as violent/ abusive men and chronic deadbeat dads find victims, so do violent / abusive crazy woman find victims. There are far too many people who lack the self confidence and mental/ emotional stability to create and uphold healthy boundaries for themselves. This is neither novel nor gendered. Predatory people seek out insecure victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:52 AM
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Check his post history. Guy’s got a virgin bride obsession and thinks war will make that happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 02:14 AM
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Similar vintage, very different perspective. My parents have been married for almost 60 years and I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed a happy moment between them. They were of marriageable age, socially suitable and geographically convenient so after an appropriate courtship they married and had 2 children. No they don’t fight, they don’t bicker. That would be unseemly. They are unfailingly polite and civil to each other. Pillars of the community. I would be shocked if either had ever strayed as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:57 AM
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Being nice is often seen as an indication of interest which just prolongs the interaction and means the eventual shut down will likely have to be more unpleasant. Being civil and brief is the appropriate response but even then doesn’t always work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:35 PM
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Not sure why it’s so difficult for some of you men to comprehend that many (most?) women have zero interest in “following” or “being led” by anyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 06:41 PM
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So are you his paid spokesperson or a poorly disguised alt?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 03:15 AM
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So should the women who aren’t chosen for fulfilling supportive relationships feel bitter and resentful towards the men that they want? Should non-athletically blessed men be bitter and resentful towards professional athletes? Should we all blame everyone else, specifically and generally, for not putting aside their own interests and pandering to ours instead even if it’s to their own detriment? So who, specifically, are these women who deserve your bitterness and resentment because they choose …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:49 AM
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That’s his right. Just like it’s my right to assume he’s a weeble.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:49 PM
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He has refused to answer repeated questions about his own bmi so…🤷‍♀️. One must assume he’s a chubsy wubsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:07 PM
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Meh, sometimes but think about the night manager at 7-11 with the sparse ginger goatie with scraggly neck beard…🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:58 PM
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So…why aren’t you a healthy bmi?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:54 PM
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90% + of humanity wouldn’t survive that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:52 PM
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They are. They definitely are. Intentionally perhaps…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:51 PM
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Many (most?) women brought up in religious households and communities are taught that sex is a duty that they perform for their husbands pleasure and to create children. Their pleasure never comes into the conversation and their unconditional consent is assumed to be a part of their marriage vows. So you’re argument is that they are happier because they a) don’t know what they’re missing out on, b) don’t know that they have a choice (or should), c) aren’t expecting to be sexually fulfilled?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:48 PM
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So if she pays more bills do you do more housework?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:54 AM
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I have a slightly larger version on my deck. It’s charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:43 AM
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Trying not to melt in this horrible heatwave. Trying to do yard work without dying of heatstroke. Trying not to get eaten alive by mosquitoes while doing the above. Oh and also run a business 🤦‍♀️🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:42 AM
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I vote that you add this: https://a.co/d/i8d2402 Put a couple of little fish in it, a few bog plants, plug it into an extension cord and enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:31 AM
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Idk, men here seem convinced that women should know which men are going to be abusive or cheaters or deadbeat dads just by looking at them🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:03 PM
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I think we are likely birds of a similar vintage and feather, separated by oceans but not core values.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:04 AM
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Dig out giant swaths of grass or scrub brush, cart in and spread literal tons of soil, compost, mulch, plant perennials / bulbs/ shrubs / trees. Build stone walls / patios / walkways. Dig big holes and make wildlife ponds. Work hard to earn money to commission art pieces to create additional and occasionally extraordinary beauty. Plant, nurture and harvest delicious and healthy fruit, veg, herbs. Create amazing homemade meals to rejuvenate my spent muscles and delight my palate. Work myself to u…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:43 AM
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🥇You officially win the creepy Olympics for the thread. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:07 PM
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Some (many) only respect the property of other men, not the autonomy of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:02 PM
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“He actually loves you”?🙄 Pretty sure “actual love” isn’t what motivates men to hit on women… Also choosing not to engage with a stranger who approaches you isn’t a “horrible humiliation ritual”. Choosing to shut that person down hard when they don’t take a soft refusal is also not a “horrible humiliation ritual”. Women have been verbally abused, assaulted, raped, disfigured, stalked, killed by creepy men who hit on them, so I’d say it ranges from uncomfortable and awkward to deadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:00 PM
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But bad pizza is still pizza, you can buy gas station pizza and still kinda enjoy it. Bad oysters will make you very sick, could kill you, need to be sourced VERY carefully and absolutely cannot come from a gas station 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:32 PM
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Your empathy is astounding…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:54 PM
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https://dbt.tools/emotional_regulation/self-talk.php Have you tried DBT? It’s not woowoo cry and talk about your feelings therapy, it’s learning actual techniques and methods to rewire your brain and stop the negative self talk and catastrophizing. It actually does work if you do the work, no woowoo required.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 08:53 PM
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For men, sex is like pizza, for women sex is like oysters…with all of the risks and benefits in both cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 01:06 PM
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A better question might be what entitles you to question, much less be the arbiter of, what constitutes a “good” explanation for what women choose to do with their bodies…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:05 AM
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Thankfully even younger women know to stay far away from men with attitudes like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 01:26 AM
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Well, some you do seem a little soggy…🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 05:05 PM
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On behalf of all the women in the US, please go overseas (sorry overseas ladies, no backsies). We wish you clear skies and following seas…go find your bliss, now would be good…seriously, go. Happy now?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:07 PM
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So…you want a real live participation trophy? No thanks. I prefer not to associate with delusional people, much less use those delusional people as an excuse to do the bare minimum and slack through life. Also, if that doesn’t sway you, maybe consider what happens when the switch flips and that person demonizes you…not going to be pleasant…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 12:43 PM
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Sounds like the anthem of every man who’s been “blindsided” by a divorce 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:30 PM
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When I’m having a good day or it’s nice outside or I’m thinking about something happy I smile at folks. Old people, kids, women, men, dogs🤷‍♀️. Means absolutely nothing at all, other than a general “Ain’t life grand” vibe. If I look at someone and look away at something else or at the ground I probably realized that I accidentally made eye contact and don’t want them to think I’m interested in them or I’m just looking around my environment and they were a passing part of that environment and I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 01:47 PM
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So keep paying for it🤷‍♀️. Sounds like that’s your only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 01:05 AM
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Some people believe the earth is flat. Some people believe that life on earth has only existed for 6k years and dinosaurs and carbon dating are liberal lies…some people are morons. That doesn’t mean that everyone else needs to be bound by their beliefs or have the right to blame anyone else for their behavioral adherence to beliefs that they don’t agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:37 AM
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Help them how? Please be specific re/ what “help” short of pity fucks would be sufficient. How do they expect assistance in the face of vitriolic rhetoric and threats from the loudest representatives of the faction?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:33 AM
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If everyone lived their lives according to what norms some people felt should be upheld women and children would still be the property of their closest male relative, the fabrics you could legally wear would be determined by your birth status, slavery would be socially acceptable and heretics would be burned in the public square. I guarantee that all of those “norms” were more damaging and misogynistic. If men didn’t want something from those women, they wouldn’t pursue. If women wanted that sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:43 PM
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Ah, so one of the sad dudes that the sugar babies laugh at for believing that they have a real connection and that she’s really attracted to older men…🙄🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:06 PM
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I’m not sure how many ways there are to say this but here we go…attempt #987,657,024… Men don’t have to ask women out, pay for that first cup of coffee, propose marriage, lead etc. They choose to do so because they want something that they think will benefit them. If you don’t want to initiate, don’t. If you don’t want to pay for a cup of coffee, don’t. If you don’t want to propose, don’t. Literally nobody is forcing you to do any of those things. “But but but” you splutter, “we want to get laid…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:01 PM
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Most make almost nothing. The average OnlyFans creator earns about $180 per month. However, this is a very low average and many creators earn significantly more, with the top 10% making 73% of the platform’s earnings. While some creators earn millions, many others struggle to make even a modest income.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:01 PM
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Aren’t you 40? Why are you complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:01 PM
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Because “dealing with the demand side” and trying to “understand and sympathize with lonely sexually frustrated men” seems to require women to allow men we don’t want, aren’t attracted to, don’t like, and don’t want to have any romantic or sexual interaction with, to have unlimited sexual access to our bodies and lives. And no, we’re not willing to do that, nor should we even be asked to, much less expected to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:56 PM
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Worse how? If they want a relationship there are a ton of single men. If they don’t want a relationship and/or don’t want those men, they are increasingly able to support themselves comfortably, have children by themselves if they choose to do so, and generally live their best lives lives they want to live 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:51 PM
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Hate to break it to you but older women don’t want relationships either 🤣. We’ve been there, done that, lesson learned!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 08:47 PM
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Pretty sure different (lower) age of consent laws (and laxity of enforcement of existing laws) are a big motivator for a large group of “passport bros”🤢.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:40 AM
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Oh honey, bless your heart. Don’t worry about me. My children are grown up and living their best lives. I’m divorced and single by choice and loving life. Also, don’t call yourself a low life man. You can be better than that!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:24 AM
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Shhhhh…you’re going to damage the revenge fantasy that some of these guys are desperately clinging to! Ya know, the one about how the girls that dated the cool boys instead of them in high school will “hit the wall” at 30 and be sobbing into their cat’s patchy fur and tearing out their greying hair in shame and regret about their poor choices and these men will be indulging in endless NSA hot wild monkey sex with 19 year old submissive virgin bikini models until they die of old age… That’s the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:41 AM
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She’s literally in high school and you are over thirty. Quit being so pervy🤢🤢🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:34 AM
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You are missing the part where “nice guy” as a pejorative is used for men who are performatively “nice” in an effort to create a covert contract for sex / dating and become obnoxious, bitter, abusive asshats when it doesn’t work. Just being a pushover is a “nice guy”, it may not be attractive, but it’s not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:56 PM
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The police officer thing is 100% about VERY high cheating and domestic violence rates, non standard work schedules, mental/emotional issues, and higher risk factors for injury or death, not blue collar status or income. Police income can be substantial, decent benefits and full pension after 20 years. That would be a positive for a long term relationship if not for the other very real risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:36 PM
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That’s the point. Women were not happier when birth rates were higher, divorce rates were lower, marriage rates were higher etc. the OP was trying to say that women were happier when they were forced by necessity to be married and are more depressed now…we are saying the same thing 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:16 PM
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Some people will submit to other people. Others won’t. Saying “any woman is willing to be submissive to a man who’s capable of leading” is just plain wrong. Reasonable responsible adults don’t need to be “submissive” to, or led by, other adults. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:26 PM
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Generally accepted by who?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:19 PM
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What does that version of “love” have to do with cold or warm approach though?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:18 PM
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Why do you claim that men “fall in love” faster? I think you’re confusing horniness / lust with love…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:54 PM
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So men just get out of supporting the children they helped create just by refusing a dna test?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:21 PM
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Do you really want to talk about rates of alcohol and drug abuse by gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:13 AM
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I can but try…🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:23 AM
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We’re too emotional 😢🤣😢🤣🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:11 AM
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But when hrt is balanced between estrogen and progesterone (as is the current standard in HRT), the risks are minimal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:10 AM
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That’s the percentage of divorces filed by women out of the total number of divorces for that cohort, not the divorce rate…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:05 AM
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So close…not. The phrase you’re looking for is cognitive dissonance. The men here both hate and desperately want women. Wanting women for your own satisfaction doesn’t in any way preclude misogyny…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:49 AM
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Keeping ignoring facts that disagree with your feelings cupcake. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:47 AM
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SSRIs were not regularly prescribed until the late 80s, to anyone. The first one was Prozac which was FDA approved in 1987. Is it really shocking that meds were prescribed more after they were available than before they were available? Seriously? The prescription rate for depression of MAOIs (the precursor to SSRIs) which had more severe side effects decreased significantly once SSRIs became widely available. That, in combination with off label prescription patterns, is probably something you sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:38 AM
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Once again…SSRIs are routinely prescribed, off label, to treat hot flashes which are one of the primary treatable symptoms of perimenopause and menopause. Several years ago HRT was erroneously reported to be dangerous to women and the stigma persists so MANY doctors prescribe antidepressants instead. Guess who is going through perimenopause and menopause? Middle aged women. Also, there is no difference in antidepressant use between single and married women. Not sure how many times we need to exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:02 AM
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The “sisterhood” and root feminism are about women having choices. Choosing a more “traditional” relationship dynamic is a perfect example of feminism working as originally intended. Just as choosing a more egalitarian relationship or a female dominated relationship or no relationship at all. The “sisterhood” is about supporting other women’s right to choose what works best for them. Certainly there are loud, judgmental, critical voices everywhere, regardless of the issue at hand, but again the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:15 AM
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Nope. Women are describing men who respectful of others and are secure in themselves. Dominant implies the propensity to dominate or subjugate others. That is not what the vast majority of women are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:09 AM
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So let’s say you get married and a week later you find out that your “virgin” bride wasn’t even close to being a virgin, had an abortion or two, was cheating on you while you were dating and engaged, lied about loving you and was just desperate to get married. Still love her unconditionally?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:49 PM
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And being beautiful and sexually available ARE conditions!🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:46 PM
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Every functional adult restrains themselves from indulging every desire or urge that they have, particularly when those desires or urges require the participation of, or impact, others. That’s not unfair suppression, it’s participation in a civilized society. People who fail to regulate their urges and exercise self control end up incarcerated, dead, addicted to substances, obese, alone and shunned, unemployed etc etc etc. Men are not unusually burdened by not being able to satisfy every winkie …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:52 PM
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No thanks. I’ll just agree with the billions who haven’t been brainwashed by religion and misogyny 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:45 PM
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I’m not sure I understand the question. Please explain what you mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 08:47 AM
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So no sex before marriage? Have fun with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:54 AM
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I hope you’re talking to the men who aren’t supporting their “legacy”…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:12 AM
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Married men walk away from their kids too…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:10 AM
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Lack of fat I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:19 AM
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Maybe the men who impregnated them and then scrammed…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:19 AM
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That’s the hypocrisy that is so hard to take. These guys aren’t bitching about not being able to get married at 21. They are big mad that they aren’t having effortless nsa wild monkey sex with “baddies”. The fact is that there’s far less sex happening than these guys believe because they are listening to online crap, hyper focusing on what they think is happening behind closed doors and believing that they are being persecuted by not being invited to the imaginary sex fest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:18 AM
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Did you know that you can starve to death by just eating rabbit? It’s an actual thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:07 AM
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Take that up with the men who abandon their children just because they aren’t fucking the mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:04 AM
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