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| 7 | Men who feel the divorce came out of the blue, what kind of conversation do you wish your wife had with you and how far in advance do you wish she’d had it?You owe it to yourself, him, and your marriage to have a serious and direct conversation about how close you are to done. I suspect he doesn’t know and could come on here after you leave and claim he was blindsided. Randomly throwing out the D word informally during a fight is a terrible and destructive thing to do. Don’t do that. Telling a spouse you are so close to done you have an exit date is necessary. He deserves to know the stakes and take action. Sorry you’re going through this but it so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/26 07:45 PM |
| 2 | How do dads manage when they work all week and watch children all weekend?When my dad got custody I can remember at one point the bushes out front were massively overgrown. My dad said something about it being embarrassing and it hasn’t even occurred to me. It just didn’t matter that much. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Any advice on the dogsSince they are property that he acquired before the marriage they are his property. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/26 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Blending families help (35m) and (29f) 5 total kidsWild | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/26 01:47 AM |
| 2 | I wanted a nice simple life with my wife.This might not be the best time to take all of the kids pets away… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 09:40 PM |
| 5 | My wife (32F) told me (44M) she wants to separate — 30 hours after the kids and I joined her in SpainSorry to hear that it’s gotta sting | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/26 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Wife asked for Divorce during argumentThank god he has no chance of full | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Divorce or ignore?18 years??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/26 06:31 PM |
| 5 | UPDATE: Just had the talkThere is absolutely no chance they will force your parents to sell a property. This might be one of the most straightforward divorces ever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/26 02:17 PM |
| 2 | i messed up badI sure hope she doesn’t take you back. Leave her alone. These situations always escalate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/26 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Tell me how it was living with your soon to be ex through the divorce.Laundry detergent? Good grief | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/26 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Lawyer asked about discoveryAgree. I did digital forensics for 23 years. I don’t really believe most attorneys are ‘shotgunning’ subpoenas to every domestic bank and even if they did, if someone were that motivated they’d have moved assets offshore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/26 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Wanna Dodge SummonsIt doesn’t matter if they can’t serve you if they make considerable efforts they can set you by posting. They’re probably already doing that if you avoided twice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/26 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Lawyer asked about discoveryIf she’s hiding assets I question whether she would produce the relevant statements in discovery. Are you thinking she’ll just be like ‘awwwww ya got me! Here it is!’ Having worked many divorce cases if you think you have the information you need, I’d skip. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/26 03:04 AM |
| 2 | I broke no contact like an idiot....How did you run into her and learn she was using your name (which is her name)? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/26 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Confirmed affair after filing for divorce but before court date. What to do?This would be stupid and petty, it will not affect the division of assets. If you already divided assets thank your lucky stars it’s amicable and move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/26 03:28 AM |
| -11 | Can't do this anymoreMaybe she just didn’t want to be married to a racist anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/26 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Pension/401k is it calculated post or before tax?That’s so interesting. The more you know 🌈 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Alimony for life? Is that a real thing? Is anybody unfortunate enough to be in that group right now?Brutal. After she moves in a him can’t you get it canceled? Or do they have to marry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Wife forcing vasectomyAre you ok? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/26 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Wife left, got pregnant, now wants to come home.There’s a second wife? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Wife left, got pregnant, now wants to come home.I pity your current girlfriend. Does she know she’s just the backup? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Going on dates where ex wife blows up my phone.Same. It’s rude anyhow | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/26 02:01 AM |
| 7 | I think this chapter is over?They’re referring to ‘saving’ your marriage in a sustainable, fulfilling way. Nobody expects you to stay miserable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/26 10:31 PM |
| 6 | To the divorced men who visited a sex worker, what was the reason you decided to see one and how was the experience?lol at no point did he classify this as a mistake I’m not judging either, the comments are interesting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/26 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Unconscionable? - Ex and mediator put forth the idea that she is entitled to 102% of the marital estate.She wants 58 out of 105? That’s 55% I don’t understand your calculation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/26 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Can my wife first leave me and then have me pay her child support for 18 years?No they won’t for a marriage that short it will probably be no alimony | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/26 03:40 AM |
| 7 | Can my wife first leave me and then have me pay her child support for 18 years?No you’re thinking of alimony. Child support is until the child is 18, and sometimes beyond. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/26 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Would you fix it if you could?You should try. You have five reasons. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 01:04 PM |
| 2 | Am I being unreasonable asking for jewellery to be valued during separation?Then yes. That’s a lot. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/26 02:25 PM |
| 1 | You guys were right…In the Us judges hate this because they know the strategy | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/26 09:18 PM |
| 2 | You guys were right…Not to mention judges have been wise to this strategy for many years and it will not help endear him to the judge | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:34 AM |
| 4 | You guys were right…Again, that isn’t true. Judges are wise to this and look disfavorably on this behavior. So you could be screwing yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:32 AM |
| 5 | You guys were right…That’s not true it’s just a thing that gets repeated | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:31 AM |
| 3 | Ex put a GPS tracker in my daughter's backpack. I kept calm for my kids. Here's what actually looked like.I’d probably ship it to an Amazon warehouse returns address just for fun. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 03:38 AM |
| 19 | GLP-1s marriage killers?I mean the good news is I’m sure she doesn’t give a shit what you think of how she looks so just try to move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 02:20 PM |
| 12 | GLP-1s marriage killers?No, not many here fall into the bigger better camp. They’re still pissed and still want their ex wives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 02:19 PM |
| 3 | My STBX keeps changing her mind.. It's infuriating. Need some advice..As a child of divorce when I was a teen, you are absolutely right. I got so fed up with switching back and forth I just stopped and stayed with my dad. A judge went along with it. It is so fking annoying to have had your shit here, half your shit there, and try to keep track of everything. And the back and forth is so disruptive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 08:54 PM |
| 1 | What to do when the stbxw hits the wall?You’re getting used. Why does it matter how she expects you to act? Conduct yourself maturely in the manner that you want. Sounds a little like your new friendship might be a cluster waiting to happen. If she’s in a relationship I’d suggest doing something with him as well, with your friends or whatever. Three wheeling it isn’t weird if the feelings are truly above board. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Need adviceWhat a sad thing to do to your kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/26 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Married 25 years. On the verge of divorce. Lost [M50] married to [F49]Yeah the concern I have is that by the time some women say they are done they have been done a long time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/26 01:09 PM |
| 0 | Caught my wife cheating… now she wants half of everything??She didn’t work at all in the three years they were together. It’s right there in the post. Alienation of affection would be a catastrophically bad decision to make. It is utterly pointless and expensive. And suing for money spent on hotels wouldn’t be a counter suit to an alienation of affection claim it would all be in the divorce complaint. You don’t have any idea what you’re talking about. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/26 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How have you been in a marriage for so long with no kids?If you’re referring to couples struggling with infertility that is a rather important caveat | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/26 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Subpoena my bank records.What a freaking nut. How are you supposed to disprove that? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/26 02:51 AM |
| 2 | I think my wife is going to file for divorce soonHis divorce will be finalized before the wedding is paid off | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/26 10:32 PM |
| 1 | I think my wife is going to file for divorce soonWell, those are decisions you made and she made some too. Nobody is 100% at fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/26 10:32 PM |
| 10 | My ex has a support group, a therapist, and her friends. I have... my dog. Why is this so gendered?I’d pick the dog any day | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/26 12:08 AM |
| 6 | Forget about affair, I’m now worried about my kids safety.‘I told her to collect herself and go to Target or something’ If you remember that part years from now you will be laughing like I am. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/26 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Hidden camerasHow is it connected? Bluetooth? A Bluetooth finder may help. I found my oura ring twice that way. It takes some patience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 12:08 AM |
| 1 | 26 years together meant nothingTruth! She was obviously never going to have his child. So options are another mother or no child. And divorce, it sounds like. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/26 12:51 AM |
| 1 | 26 years together meant nothingI mean he’s still got time | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/26 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Financial slaveryHow can your courts arrive at this conclusion? Can you appeal? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/26 08:24 PM |
| 2 | STBEW asked if I was hooking up with anyoneWill definitely not | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/26 11:33 AM |
| 5 | Ex wife asking me to watch her kids.She has three kids by three men | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Lifetime Support after half decade marriageDefinitely not questioning your story but it is batsht to forget you signed a prenup and then litigate for a year and a half | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/26 07:24 PM |
| 0 | Am I needlessly escalating thingsExactly. This path is pointless and pathetic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/26 12:29 PM |
| 1 | I am overpaying CSYup | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/26 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants to meet in personI did digital forensics for years and there are so many email chains that get dicey and then ‘call me’. 🙄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/26 07:40 PM |
| 1 | At what point do you just give up?If I can offer some unsolicited advice, you’re not doing this right. I can only tell you from the perspective of a daughter that had all this happening. It completely and thoroughly backfired. The fact that my mom was always denigrating my dad sucked. My dad never said a sore thing about her. Ever. And she was the asshole. He held my family together with my sister and I. We are estranged from my mom. A huge portion of why I’m estranged from her was the constant attempts at parental alienation. T… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 08:16 AM |
| 2 | At what point do you just give up?Don’t give up on this. Your kids will learn who cared when it mattered. Could take a long time. It’s worth every minute. I’m old now, my dad is still alive. He would describe every second of that alienation worth it times 100. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 08:04 AM |
| 2 | At what point do you just give up?Don’t give up. My mom was heavy on the alienation. I’m 44, sister has two kids, we are all close and engaged in each other’s lives. Haven’t talked to my mom in two decades. My dad was always there for us. Kids figure this out pretty early. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Any dads here fight for *less* time with their kids?This is exactly how my dad would have approached this. He had primary custody. I’m 44 now and totally estranged from my mom and I’m 💯 fine with it. Still very close to dad. Your kids will know. They already do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Any dads here fight for *less* time with their kids?He called himself a babysitter. He’s a parent. That’s the relevance. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Any dads here fight for *less* time with their kids?You aren’t a babysitter you’re a father. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/01/26 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Make sure your marriage is over before you start pursuing a divorce.You heard women can’t be alone for long? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 06:07 AM |
| 3 | Make sure your marriage is over before you start pursuing a divorce.The fact someone would downvote this is utterly insane. You are doing all the right things and thinking all the right ways. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/26 06:05 AM |
| 1 | To continue with the contempt hearing or notBest quote ever | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/26 04:02 AM |
| 7 | The dogYour dog was left outside overnight? Who is the parent here? Aren’t you ultimately responsible for the pet that is in your care? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/26 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Business owner; wife feels entitled to percentage in divorceYou could have taken care of your kids while running your business? Or she could have made more money than daycare coats? The second is probably true | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/26 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Business owner; wife feels entitled to percentage in divorceCourt will sort this out for him | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/26 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Teenage kids don’t like taking orders from their mom’s fiance.I wouldn’t suggest you tell them to ignore her fiancé, just as you would prefer your ex not to try to remotely parent your kids when they are at your house. But sure have a talk with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Business owner; wife feels entitled to percentage in divorceWhy did you put “time” in quotes? I assume it took actual time to care for your children no? Or were they in daycare? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Business owner; wife feels entitled to percentage in divorceDoesn’t matter | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/26 12:12 AM |
| 3 | Ex posted new guy on IGSERIOUSLY. That is not a friendly thing to do to a friend. Bunch of morons. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/26 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Stuck in a precarious position...I think it’s completely fine to draw the line here. If she’s going to be a prick add the alimony back in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Anyone ever send your in-laws proof your wife cheated?This. This. This. It won’t even get the desired outcome if he does it. Could massively backfire. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Anyone ever send your in-laws proof your wife cheated?But did any of that happen? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Anyone ever send your in-laws proof your wife cheated?You seem very wise, and a lot pissed, totally warranted. You’re doing what you’re doing for all the right reasons. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/25 08:25 AM |
| 1 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!💯 | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 02:09 AM |
| 2 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!The phrase comes to mind, ‘the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.’ | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 02:09 AM |
| 2 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!Very possible her ‘new friend’ doesn’t care that she’s giving hjobs | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 02:08 AM |
| 3 | Lawyer told me in a divorce I’d be financially wrecked. Wife is emotionally gone. Any dads survive getting hit with this reality?You really think divorce would leave you homeless ‘or worse’? I’ve never heard of that happening. In CA | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/25 05:26 AM |
| 4 | any men regret their vasectomy?That should work flawlessly | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/25 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Five Years of Nonstop Custody Battles Drained My LifeThat is remarkable. Way to persist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/25 04:52 AM |
| 1 | It’s happening today. Divorce imminent.I’m so sorry to hear that, it sounds incredibly emotionally complex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/25 07:41 AM |
| 5 | Number 2 up in flamesFor some reason she was already 90% there before the haunt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 03:20 AM |
| 6 | Being a step dad is a jokeI don’t want to give you false hope, but I do want to give you a LITTLE hope. When my mom divorced my dad we were 13,15. We quickly figured out what she was doing trying to alienate us from him. Five years later both of us were estranged from her. It’s been 30 years. They will figure it out if they haven’t already, and they will resent the parent doing the alienation. I’ve seen this happen a bunch of times. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/25 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Splitting a mortgage with new wifeI see. So you’re just gathering insights for when you’re in this situation. I wonder how he would feel if he read this thread? Maybe you’ve told him about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/25 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Splitting a mortgage with new wifeBut do you really respect his opinion? Because you wrote it up on Reddit and you clearly think he’s getting screwed. What does any of this have to do with you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 03:24 PM |
| 4 | Wife is trying to make me feel guiltyCompletely agree. In a way it might even be helpful because you’ll know whether she’s holding on for money, or is genuinely interested in reconciliation | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/25 12:00 AM |
| 2 | I need to not be living at this house... how?I am impressed by therapists that do this. Not every relationship can (or should) be saved and counseling does not always improve things. It takes a therapist with integrity to fire clients. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 01:01 AM |
| 1 | I need to not be living at this house... how?‘give her a cash allowance’ Make sure you do this. If you lock down all the money a judge is not going to be pleased. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 12:57 AM |
| 1 | I need to not be living at this house... how?‘she will be allowed to take your ability to leave and have a life’ What on earth are you talking about? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 12:52 AM |
| 1 | I need to not be living at this house... how?I do think he needs to find a space though cause this could take awhile. I’d take photos of every room in the house, tell her if she doesn’t clean the garage you’ll discard everything, and stick to that decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 12:49 AM |
| 10 | Ex wife crashed date with new woman.Lol ‘divorced in spirit’ | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 05:33 PM |
| 4 | Ex wife crashed date with new woman.I’m thinking I even need a pseudonym and a wig after reading that and I don’t even know these people… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/25 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I can’t see my sons how can family court strip me of my children with no rationaleCome on now he’s hurting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/25 12:20 PM |
| 2 | I put inheritance in joint bank account. Am I fucked?Not to mention the FDIC cap at 250k. Strange choice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/25 01:41 AM |
| 3 | I put inheritance in joint bank account. Am I fucked?He only commingled one million. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/25 01:38 AM |
| 1 | I put inheritance in joint bank account. Am I fucked?That’s kinda harsh re Bubba. He bailed me out once in the 90s. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/25 01:36 AM |
| 0 | (47). Not yet divorced.Filed under #ThingsThatTotallyHappened | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/25 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Funny Story from Divorced Land - the woman you will meet.It is kind of trashy. Or at least gross. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/25 10:07 AM |
| 5 | Divorce is over, ex left me because I was too boring and didn't harm herDo you want my number? 😆 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/25 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Women want to control men.Oh crap I thought I finally found someone I agreed with on here until I saw the /s. Goddamnit now I have to go back to treating men as humans. UGH! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 12:47 PM |
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