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100% agree. I feel like a lot of men nowadays just want to see how thirsty you are to give themselves an ego boost, which is why they will toss out a crumb of interest and then nothing more. I would never make a move on a guy now, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:52 AM
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Yep, I know a couple like this. The girl tweets stuff about soulmates and has him in her profile banner photo, while he has her hidden everywhere and follows porn star accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:47 PM
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Because it isn't what he wanted, he wanted her to pine over him and be depressed and miserable while he fucks around and refuses to have a relationship with her. The ultimate scrote fantasy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:43 PM
9

Reddit is a complete cesspool. So happy you're here now! Your future is shining with healing and strength.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:29 AM
12

I like this [using the proper term] and will join you in doing so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:22 AM
9

Ikr like I can't tell what's more epic, her content or her hilarious contagious laugh! LOVE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:31 AM
29

I agree. A shocking amount of losers on the internet are under 15. And they'll admit it proudly too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:16 AM
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The pic lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:30 AM
14

As a statistician I appreciate this lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:40 AM
17

I have never been with a Chad type. Makes no difference On a side note, are those house slippers? Lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:33 PM
3

Is she broadcasting she's so cool that she's ok with her boyfriend having sexual feelings for his mother? Because that's how I took it. Puke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:16 PM
2

The part about needing to eat more sugar - I fucking cackled lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:10 PM
6

Honestly was thinking just this. I've dated guys of all heights - the kindest was tall, very thin, and conventionally unattractive, the current one (also ultra kind) is about 5'8" and quite big. All the others were every combination, tall, short, attractive, unattractive - still abusive. For what it's worth, the two very short dudes I was with were both viciously emotionally abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:14 PM
2

LMFAO I screamed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:59 PM
12

Not necessarily a crazy ex, but ensuring you know that they have an ex who they obviously saw as "the one", clearly with the expectation that you will pine for him to feel that way about you one day. Also, informing you that they have a "type" and then making subtle suggestions to you to change your appearance etc. to fit that. I haven't experienced these next examples, but from what I've seen, I think a common one nowadays (especially with ugly dudes) is trying to create the appearance of a fau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:54 PM
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That is epic lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:45 PM
2

That second pic though :o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:32 PM
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Emotional abuse is why I'm here. It completely ruined me. I am starting to get my old identity back but it's a daily struggle and I have to make a conscious effort because it's so easy to slip back into "what's the point" mode from being so broken. FDS has played a crucial role in my recovery, if it wasn't for this place idk where I would be mentally tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:25 PM
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This is depressing af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:59 PM
2

I love tuxies and your babies are gorgeous! My HVM looks almost identical to yours <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:53 PM
16

They're obsessed with being the ones with all the power. It's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:33 AM
16

Exactly. They want you to know you can't do anything right aka abuse. The same scrote forbade me from ever talking about his dead father, then became angry because I didn't have anything to say when he brought him up. Fucking manchldren, I despise them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:53 PM
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LOL thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:50 PM
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Yup, I know how this is. I think it's confabulation, a narcissistic trait. The abusive scrote I dealt with was forever painting himself as this huge victim because I wouldn't sleep with him anymore. He refused to acknowledge that it was because of all the cruel and fucked up things he did to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:54 AM
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I unfortunately lived that "turning things into their opposite" at the hands of an abusive scrote for years. And he thought exactly like this. Crying disgusted him, he thought it was just pure manipulation and had paranoid delusions that I controlled everything. False, he was the psycho who had abusive meltdowns the instant I didn't comply. And tbh, I think he got that way from his creepy emotionally incestuous mother who used acting meek and sad to manipulate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:50 AM
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I know right! It's my fave :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:45 AM
153

This is one of many but the scrote asked me to wake him up from his nappy-poo by a certain time instead of setting his own phone alarm. Then had the audacity to act irritable with me when I woke him up 10 minutes late (because I was cooking lunch for the both of us in my full clown costume) because, unbeknownst to me, he had some online meeting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:31 AM
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I love this post. Bravo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:58 AM
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What the actual FUCK. You know it just figures. That shit smells like literal death and they're showing it off. Males really are wastes of skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:25 AM
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LMAO to the infinite power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:29 PM
7

Typical trash scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:24 PM
123

Why is it that when a male refuses to value us, we take it as challenge accepted instead of kicking their asses out of our lives (looking at former ME)?? I'm bookmarking this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:23 PM
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Omg. The forcing to accept all or nothing! That's exactly it! There was something particularly sleazy about it and I could never put my finger on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:20 AM
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THIS, omfg. It's so childish and lame, like something a tween would say. I had been wondering if there was a special term for it but its good to know it's just plan old fashioned manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:48 PM
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Dead at the promising young man and Star Wars sheets lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:55 PM
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Whew! So much of this. Only male and only child...immature, lvm father who was mostly absent...meek self-sacrificing mother who is still like his personal assistant and lives next door to him. He told me she used to spoon with him when he was little. That's weird, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:51 PM
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I've heard there are also sites where everyone involved has some sort of disability (amputees, cerebral palsy, birth defects etc.) When it comes to scrotes, clearly anything can exist. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:39 PM
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Yes, please do. I lived this as well. The part above about being led to believe that she is utterly emotionally fragile rings a million bells. Not all of these mothers are loud and domineering, some use meekness as their tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:20 PM
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This was such a fascinating read, like a qualitative research study! And spot on. I've lived that "performative" approach and it's very cold and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:49 PM
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LMFAO I screamed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:25 PM
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Was not expecting that as I scrolled down but I love it lmfaoooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:45 AM
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I've actually had a scrote tell me (back when kids were still in my life plan) that he wanted his mother in the delivery room. Wtf. I wasn't even close with her, like at all. It was so creepy to even hear that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:44 AM
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Yasss!! Welcome, welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:59 PM
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Of course she has to work as well, that is bog standard in scrote land
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:57 PM
9

Yes! It's such a cute movie!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:55 PM
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Proud of you, Queen! It only gets better from here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:54 PM
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Oh yeah, I get it. I discovered FDS a year ago and I'm in my early 40's. I routinely think about my past and the things I put up with and just repetitively have my mind blown. You're at the initial phase but the best part comes next. You're going to fee invincible, like the future is this bright path so full of possibilities, like you can make anything happen. That feeling of power knowing that no one is ever going to hijack your life and crush you ever again, there is nothing like it. Rejoice! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:44 PM
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Fucking exactly. We are so strong and resilient and we HAVE to be. Men are such pathetic children I swear to god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:34 PM
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What a prick. See this is why I am so glad I never had children. I've read way too many stories like these and I can't imagine anything more horrific than ending up dealing with a lunatic like this and being trapped with a baby. Hell no ETA see and you know he knows she's the type of person who will wring her hands all like "maybe I was too harsh" that's why he's like this, that's why this parasite preyed on her to be his partner. I'd love to see a mf get on social media like that talking about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:29 PM
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I grew up watching this and it was one of my favorite movies. I also happen to adore cats and I fully intend for this to be my future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:25 PM
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Fucking THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:38 PM
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Yup, this is it, exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:22 PM
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I've been actually told this point blank by a scrote. "It's not like I hit you, it's not like I blah blah blah." I just laughed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:14 PM
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I used to do this and think exactly like this too. It was all a symptom of not realizing my true worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:11 PM
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Plus I mean like, what "hotter"? Men don't even look at faces, and fuck raw chicken breasts. They will fuck anyone that gives them a chance no matter what they look like. So trying to pit us against each other over certain traits or looks is honestly just for their frail egos and sick entertainment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:56 PM
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The fact that loser men get to be moody anger addicts and no one bats an eye is fucking disgusting. And then they'll blame in on stress, and we will be all empathetic. But let us be irritable once and we're all sorts of b-words and have PMS and a bad attitude. My life is insanely busy and I can still count on one hand the amount of times I have ever snapped at someone because I was stressed - and even then I have been apologetic. That's why I won't tolerate some moody scrote who gets to the offi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:49 PM
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I despise moody men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:07 PM
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Omg I was told something similar because I expected a certain lifestyle. It doesn't matter why I grew up how I did, I did and that's that. Broke ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:06 AM
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I got the same lol I said I'd rather be alone than with a broke worthless and parasitic male. She never replied to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:15 AM
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Same thing happened to me (though to a much smaller degree). I commented "dump him" under a video where the guy was boohooing over how his gf had gone all out for Valentine's Day, making his low effort gift look pathetic. All these pick me's came out of the woodwork calling me toxic and defending the guy saying "maybe their financial situations are different." Ah yes, a broke guy! That makes it so much better lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:12 AM
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He's probably making up the stuff about being bi so she will think he is going after men, because he believes (and perhaps it's true) that she would tolerate it, versus him cheating with women. I had a loser do this to me when I caught him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:35 AM
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Whoever is holding that should use it as toilet paper lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:24 AM
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Exactly. I know a ultra NVM who would love this car. He thinks he's a prize even though he's broke and his legs are too short for his body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:28 PM
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Yup. LVM can't stand when we have self confidence. It enrages them and they try to convince you you're stuck up, arrogant etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:22 PM
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This is pure facts, and may I also say, your username is epic lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:30 AM
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And teeth that clearly need to be flossed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:46 AM
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And then when the tiniest things inconvenience them, they lose their minds. It's fucking pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:42 AM
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This is a reminder that will never get old for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:39 AM
7

Yes! A toast to the special Queens who spread the gospel of FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:31 PM
241

When they printed "remove box before eating pizza", this is who they had in mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:22 PM
48

Fucking THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:42 PM
69

Omg this reminds me of this guy I briefly dated. He had a record of very short relationships (like none of them went past 3 months or something) and commented that he "valued [his] independence." He obviously wanted to look all aloof and super hard to get. The instant he realized I wasn't going to pine over him and that I had a busy life, he went crazy complaining about us not spending enough time together. It was so hysterically pathetic! I ended up ghosting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:42 PM
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More proof (as if any more was necessary) that the relationship subreddit is a cesspit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:34 PM
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I have a small tattoo on my ankle (it's a black heart surrounded by flames), plus multiple piercings in my ears and a nipple piercing. I have a successful career, I'm finishing my masters in a month and am applying to the doctoral program. I've never been or felt judged for any of them, and FWIW when people notice my tattoo at work (which isn't often) they do so with pleasant surprise. Do not internalize that negative script! You will do amazing, and will attract someone who loves you exactly as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:18 PM
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Someone posted about their ex (?) who claimed that, in a thread the other day. I think it was about a scrote who claimed he watched porn but didn't touch himself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:09 AM
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This place is a goldmine of LVM gems lol I especially loved "I only listen to the porn sounds" from the other day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:21 AM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:12 AM
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Lmfao what a fucking loser. I can't stand these fucks who think bisexual is just another word for threesome. I have never had any interest in being with more than one person at a time, male or female. It's my identity, not some loser degenerate's commodity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:11 AM
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They slept on the same bed but nothing happened lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:04 AM
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This was probably made by one of these scrotes who got cheated on when he was 16 and still can't get over it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:47 AM
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What a piece of shit. I hope he never hears from her again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:38 AM
7

Yeah that's definitely fucking weird and a red flag. Bullet dodged!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:03 PM
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Now I've heard it all. That even tops that guy who claimed he only watched it and didn't touch himself lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:58 PM
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ItS nOt LikE ThaT waaaah please don't see me for what really am! I literally can't even cum like a normal real man from jerking it to porn but I swear it's not like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:57 PM
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Only a mentally unstable person would sexualize a cartoon lol It never fails to surprise me how many losers freely advertise this about themselves nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:09 AM
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Was not expecting that last line lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:29 PM
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Sadly, my family is full of LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:26 PM
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I think it's even more normalized in some places. There is a scene in this movie Y Tu Mama Tambien where the lead male character and his friend are jerking off to his cousin. Along those lines, I have a relative (a cousin's son) - they all live in South America - who thought, while staying as a guest in my mother's house, that it would be cute to jerk off in my bra and leave it for me to find. I was disgusted but chalked it up to a one-off, which I regret because he then did it again the next ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:32 PM
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Ikr. Or hotwifing and all these other disgusting bizarre things you only ever hear of. I can't remember where, it was a long time ago, but I remember reading about some guy who developed a fetish for the smell of leather, because he used to hide in the tack room of a stable to jerk off. That, to me, is a true "kink", and the only example of one I have even heard of. If you got it from porn, you're just a degenerate, getting ideas from intentionally watching filth. That's why they fear being sham…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:22 PM
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That's pretty much all of the relationships subreddit as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:09 PM
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I've done this to stop the jackhammering. It's unbearable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:50 PM
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I'll never forget the time this one guy (the one who would take the toy home with him) literally got mad because I came easily when we added the toy into the repertory. I think he even said "are you serious" or something to that effect. So pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:49 PM
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YES omg. One time this guy was giving me really terrible oral and commented that his exes would've cum "like 5 times by now" lmao I don't think so, sir. Another scrote told me his ex came like 25 times in one night. LVM comments like this are a dime a dozen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:46 PM
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Ikr. There's no way he planned for a walk date by his house without casually trying to sneak in some comment of "hey I live really close by, wanna see my inflatable mattress?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:42 PM
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Lmfao omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:39 PM
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A couple of months if that, usually a couple of weeks or until they see you start to relax and think things have changed. Then it just goes right back to square one because they now believe you will put up with that, and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:24 PM
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Right? And that's precisely it. Is it possible that there are innocuous kinks? Maybe. But you know 99.9% of them are depraved, because these losers get them from porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:21 PM
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I love men. It's the trashy ones I hate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:39 PM
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No. Being with a man that is "disgusting behind our backs" should be completely illogical and unacceptable. Staying after a guy knows he is hurting you is just a race to the bottom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:33 PM
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You're too good for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:29 PM
8

I read an article in Cosmo that explained how to land a jet in case something happened to the pilot. Cosmo is complete trash lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:20 PM
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Lmaooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:18 PM
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Exactly. Yeah I'm sure it takes courage, considering that person should be rightfully ostracized as a result. But nooooo, there's no shortage of pickmes and libfems to coddle these losers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:17 PM
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I'm glad this comment is gilded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:15 PM
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Yeah they would have a two-page section of candids of a selected actress or model. That was one of my faves lol. My all time favorite was in one of the first issues I ever obtained. It was an article that had strategies for getting all sorts of exclusive reservations and into VIP sections. I was just like, my life needs to be this fabulous lol I don't remember there being any relationship or sex advice sections at all, much less any toxic pickme trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:07 PM
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Allure jumped the shark ages ago. I used to love how it had this tone that assumed its readers were very wealthy. As a young woman when I came across my first issue in the late 90's, this was rocket fuel for my ambitions of financial independence. That aside, I love how the author pityingly refers to kink-shaming like it's something only a dying breed does, like old school racists and homophobes. Those poor men! Can you imagine having the nerve to call someone out for having degenerate fantasies…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:44 PM
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Mine as well - she had seven of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:09 PM
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Omfg this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:06 PM
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This also played a big part in my not wanting children. The media romanticizes it so much and now I realize that I would have wanted to love it, but I would have absolutely hated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:04 PM
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This is crazy, so glad you're safe!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:48 PM
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I screamed at this lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:42 PM
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This is SUCH A JOKE, my eyes just rolled back so far I couldn't read past the first few lines. MAYBE those first few sentences had a semblance of truth to them 30 years ago back when porn was rightfully seen as something for perverts and/or desperate losers who couldn't get a woman (the part about men who can't get a woman turning to porn, NOT that women are responsible in any way whatsoever). WE ALL KNOW this is absolutely not the truth in the present day. Now degenerate men are proud as hell o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:37 PM
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This is an important lesson that comes up time and time again on FDS. There was a scrote who used to do this to me and I used to be so flattered, like I was the one he kept coming back to or something (fortunately I had enough standards to not let him make me a fuck buddy like he wanted - since I expected to be courted at least a little, we never got physical). It was only after I came here that I learned about how these guys basically keep a rolodex of women and they will try it with anyone unt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:29 PM
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We're proud af of you, as you are showing him and the world you are a Queen with Queen standards! You deserve a high value guy who is so crazy for you, he wouldn't dream of getting near that disgusting stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:58 PM
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I think it was here that someone posted a story of a woman who found out her husband was calling her "sausage tits" behind her back in the group chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:44 PM
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That's to give her false hope too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:40 PM
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"If you go back, all you're doing is telling him he can disrespect you to the ends of the earth and you won't do anything about it." THIS. So much this OP. Take it from someone who suffered for years for letting a scrote think this very thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:40 PM
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Omfg ikr. One time like 20 years ago, I worked for a solo practitioner attorney who didn't have his own computer, because he would dictate everything onto a tape for me to type out on the computer in my office. Come to find out by looking at the history, this loser pervert was watching porn at my desk, sitting on my chair any time I was out. When I vented on a message board I was gaslit with this same bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:37 PM
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I loved GC, may I please have a code if you have one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:17 AM
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Why am I not surprised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:15 AM
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I thought that was so weird like who does that lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:06 AM
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Scrotes mad mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:59 AM
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Exactly. It's also misogyny because I feel like they're trying to say that anyone not doing it is because they're too ugly, and that's why they're "jealous"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:02 AM
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This is incel fanfiction lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:40 AM
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I feel like I've read stories like this multiple times - scrotes will see whatever random woman out in public who catches their attention and then go home and jerk off to her. It's repulsive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:30 AM
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Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:35 AM
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Say it louder for those who don't think porn and cheating is connected...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:15 AM
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You have to wonder about the mental stability of people who like to claim women are jealous of things like this. One time I called out a pickme who was claiming that women who were against things like OnlyFans were just jealous because they secretly wished to do it themselves. Oh yes, totally - I would love to live in terror forever of getting fired from my job and losing my livelihood because everyone was sharing my OnlyFans. Same here. Yeah so jealous, I want to be and look underage, being des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:13 AM
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Right? It's never telling him, try STOPPING. Try focusing on your PARTNER that you can have actual sex with, instead of degenerate filth. And honestly, if I wanted to get in the mood, this could easily be done in other ways. There's R rated movies that are plenty hot - I don't need to watch some degrading, disgusting explicit video. That's like saying I need heroin to loosen up and socialize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:02 AM
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Those comments are the pinnacle of clown world. It's going to come to a point where they would have the same thing to say about bestiality, pedophilia and murder. Look at me, I'm so progressive and understanding! When he waited until I was pregnant with our first child to tell me he had been screwing the family dog because that's his fetish, I understood because can you imagine sharing that with just anyone?? He's so brave for sharing that with me! It's so delicate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:58 PM
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It's telling that people think porn is the solution for so many things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:29 PM
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Yes QUEEN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:53 PM
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Yup! I was fighting with some loser scrote who tried to make it sound like incest porn was unusual and fringe. I laughed so hard. They really think we're stupid and don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:49 PM
13

I remember when I went to Europe for the first time, this was in the 90's, I believe I was in France. The porn shops were in these disgusting filthy back alleys with literal plastic strips as the entrance. It looked so dirty and disgusting, and I remember thinking it was quite fitting. That's how it should still be, and that's why I shame into oblivion any loser who tries to proudly defend porn on sm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:47 PM
30

Was going to say exactly this. We live in a society of addicts. They're like zombies. I love how the comment is like "a lot of people have weird ass kinks" Oh? And where did that come from? Out of thin air?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:27 PM
18

I totally agree. I also feel like he loves to give off this image like he's so heartbroken and just wants to find that woman he will fall in love with, meanwhile he's a dirtbag and fuckboy with no intent of this. I know a LVM who tries to use this same template (except he's ugly) and it's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:23 PM
15

I love it lmao so cute! That little outfit at the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:14 PM
3

I'd definitely join!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:13 AM
3

Lmfaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:29 PM
3

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:28 PM
2

Spot f'ing on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:25 PM
3

Teehee! Don't think about the fact that he is envisioning fucking her as he jerks off. Just call it "releasing stress." There, isn't that better?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:23 PM
1

What I had read was that it's intended to have the guy envision himself as the woman. I don't know if that's the definition of sissy but either way...PUKE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:01 PM
24

WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:21 AM
21

I saw on a nofap forum guys saying they started questioning their gender after watching a certain type of porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:21 AM
3

Omg that is so typical. They really are all so cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:17 PM
17

There's this one scrote who goes through these phases where he will open my snap stories for days on end but never message. I'm pretty sure he has convinced himself that it will prompt me to message him, even though he's been trying this for years now and I never even open his stories lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:41 AM
19

WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:23 AM
43

Back in the day, I used to not hesitate to make the first move and nothing bad ever resulted from it. I firmly believe dating apps changed all that, because now even the biggest loser thinks he constantly has a billion options. If a guy won't approach now, it's because he wants to see if you'll do it so he can see how thirsty you are. It's only downhill from there. (to clarify: I'm talking about the ones who make it clear they're interested but won't initiate anything)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:09 AM
5

Omg I am imagining this as one of those old late night album commercials lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:05 AM
3

I'm so excited for you too Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:00 AM
16

Only a final boss pickme would automatically jump to blame the woman in the relationship and not even bother to contemplate that this loser's behavior caused her to lose attraction to him. The fact that he's willing to pay a prostitute for sex says enough as it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:57 PM
9

Lmfao at those Perry the Platypus eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:43 PM
14

I feel that most of the time it is the sign of an infantilized man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:38 PM
16

Both of these points are excellent advice. And when you establish yourself and know that peace, you will have zero tolerance for any sort of bs. Instead of getting on the emotional rollercoaster, you will effortlessly boot them to the curb at the first sign of anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:35 PM
58

What a horrible thing to go through...this is truly one of my worst fears which is why I agree with you, I would never want to live with a man. I'm proud af that you've stood up for yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:32 PM
7

I hope this is fake. This sounds like the sort of cringeworthy thing someone would make a tiktok of for likes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:36 AM
7

As a narcissist magnet, i highly appreciate this brilliant message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:34 AM
93

By their 30's they can't even shoot a proper load anymore. What prime lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:45 AM
17

Exactly. Better buy some La Mer for those things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:13 AM
8

Your comment reminded me of this meme I saw the other day where it said you have $5 to build your ideal man, and then it lists traits with prices next to each. I noticed that faithful, good looking and rich were all $3 each, clearly to subtly inform us those things can't coexist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:09 AM
24

Honestly that whole mental illness comment is just bizarre to me. Why the fuck would I want to be in a relationship with a mentally ill person? So I can show how selfless I am by allowing someone to make my life hell? What has the world come to where this is an actual thing being promoted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:04 AM
8

Lmfao I'm crying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:02 AM
12

This is so depressing lmao Imagine being at the point where you're applauding your giant manbaby husband for not burning the house down, and trying to convince everyone else that this is goals? Lmaoooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:02 AM
4

Amen to all of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:56 AM
15

Ikr in the entire post she is trying to convince herself and the readers that she is really so very happy, when anyone with half an eye can see how hurt she really is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:55 AM
48

I think big balls are gross, but also saggy balls. How about a ball lift? Keep them nice and perky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:49 AM
1

Right? And the best part about that is, it puts YOU in control. And that gives you a sense of peace like nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:44 AM
30

Not just that he doesn't care, but don't even give him that satisfaction. It's an absolute ego boost for LVM to know that they hurt you and got you in your feelings. Loads of them even set out to intentionally do that. Cut them off cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:10 PM
2

One time I had a scrote open my not-very-nice message to him on Snapchat, which as we all know tells you a message was read, on a Sunday. Then the following Friday he messages me back asking what I meant by it. When I rolled my eyes and said I sent it a week ago, he claimed he "just now got it". Like little boy, go sit down somewhere. He never got his answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:02 PM
75

Come on guise, men have to violate someone /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:55 PM
9

Same, I don't think I would have been the kind of mother a child really deserved, especially having been raised by a narc mother myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:25 AM
46

The title of this post lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:21 AM
107

For clarification purposes (I voted pets are more than enough), I used to want children when I was younger, but only under very specific, very financially comfortable circumstances. That didn't happen and I'm at peace with it. Plus I found that as I got past reproductive prime age, my urge for kids just dissipated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:10 AM
40

I know. And it's just getting worse now that they're radicalizing each other in their degenerate echo chambers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:06 AM
14

I screamed lmfaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:49 AM
61

I love this and the picture illustrates it so beautifully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:44 AM
272

Because they need us, and we don't need them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:42 AM
65

Right? Like those websites that let you how how many sex offenders live in your area
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:41 AM
39

That's...disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:39 AM
13

Bisexual here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:18 AM
2

It's awesome! I have said before, once you learn FDS, you start seeing it and applying it everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:41 PM
15

I agree. When I mentioned to my 80 year old mom that there's all these young guys now with ED from jerking off to porn all day, she had actually heard about the issue. That tells me the movement is growing for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:05 PM
3

Tbh, I feel like some things are only as normalized as the company you keep. Growing up in the 80's, the image of strip clubs was that it was for bachelor parties and loser men who couldn't get a woman. This apparent fad of going for fun to be a Cool Girl or heaven forbid with a partner is just so bizarre to me that it looks fringe. I've never been to a strip club and no one I know is into them, so from my perspective, having no interest in them is normal. I agree that it is cheating, and good f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:02 PM
17

Just remember it takes time. I've been reading FDS for about a year and a half now, and all I can say is somewhere along the line I became a completely different person. It's truly shocking. Even though I wasn't naive, my standards used to be complete garbage and I put up with a lot of crap I shouldn't have. It's like anything else...with enough repetition and practice, you get good at it...In the meantime, be kind to yourself. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:43 PM
108

I love how he thinks he gets to decide what's an inconvenience to your lifestyle. Narcissist much??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:32 PM
5

This is such a sweet post. Your warmth and compassion just radiates <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:26 AM
19

It was fate that you arrived here to be with us, Queen. Now you will ascend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:53 PM
40

Wow. That's a new level of pathetic and disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:51 PM
4

How dare you imply that the Holy Peen is not entitled to sex at any given time? Have an onslaught of downvotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:55 PM
5

Honestly this is so sad. I've seen so many stories like this of women trying to be the Cool Girl in accepting some outrageous depraved shit, then they're all "hurt and confused" when it inevitably ends up like this. Value yourselves, Queens. There is zero value in trying to be Cool Girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:51 PM
3

Congrats Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:47 PM
10

I can attest to this. I was in Disney World and attempting to be healthy so I got the bag of sugar free gummy bears. I love gummy candy and I ate the entire bag. Even more sad is that I had even read those reviews at some point prior to that because someone sent them to me for a laugh. I only remembered when it was too late. Everything I ate for the rest of the day was pointless, including an expensive dinner at the California Grill. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:17 AM
158

This is literally nightmare fuel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:21 AM
2

So delicate and lovely! Love the nails too <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:02 AM
10

It's just fantasy is just a pathetic cop out. I wouldn't get within 100 miles of someone who fantasizes about murdering people because that is an obvious sign they are disturbed. It's no different when it's a pervert coomer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:40 AM
15

I have always believed the entire custom of celebrating getting married to someone you presumably love, by having nude strippers grinding all over you while you openly lust after them, to be just the pinnacle of illogical and disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:36 AM
32

I heard it was 30 about the marriage thing. That after that age, divorce rates drop dramatically. Definitely good advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:30 AM
4

I love FKA Twigs so much. I have always seen her as a role model ever since I got into her music. That this could happen to her - someone who appeared so fiercely strong, so supremely confident and independent - just speaks to the disgustingly insidious nature of abuse (which I too have experienced). It isn't something that just happens to someone who seems weak, can't speak up for themselves etc. This isn't to say that a certain type of woman attracts abuse, but I feel like people see a strong …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:19 AM
10

The tip of Florida: Short hyper-chauvinistic and ultra misogynistic hispanic dudes Tatted up clubbers and wannabe DJs desperate to look rich Car club guys in their 10-20 year old shitboxes with the fart can muffler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:50 PM
6

Orson Welles clap gif!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:37 PM
2

I'm dying at that mental image lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:35 PM
81

THIS. So many more women need to know this. It hurts me to think there are so many of us who think there's something wrong with us, when it's really just another symptom of LVM poisoning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:18 PM
3

I thought precisely this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:49 AM
38

Haha I loved this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:36 AM
25

Another weirdo getting horny over literal cartoons. How any male isn't utterly mortified to have this known about him, I will never know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:26 AM
18

What a beautiful ring! And your nails are absolutely gorgeous, omg. Total Queen ensemble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:23 AM
1

It doesn't even make sense. It's like let me just make up any jibberish to justify my actions. Like "smoking meth is different than cooking it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:16 PM
8

I got stuck where it says you make more money than him. Honestly I would do everything possible to avoid this dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:11 AM
89

Unfortunately that seems to be par for the course with these entitled smooth brained misogynists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:08 AM
159

I was in a situation like this as well once, with this gross psycho I was involved with. One day, after a couple of months of messing with him already, I went over to his place and his dick smelled like something had died. I was furious and cussed him out over it. He obviously knew it could get like that, zero excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:56 AM
188

I would love to find out that she laughed in his face and then walked out the door. Hopefully this is a sign that she is gearing up to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:49 AM
117

What a fucking loser. Honestly I'd wish this was the fate of every porn obsessed coomer if only it didn't mean another woman was being objectified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:47 AM
210

I love how these sociopaths use "exploited" in the title and literally think there's nothing wrong with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:21 PM
36

I used to be such a Pickme and unable to be without a boyfriend that I'd even get with guys I wasn't really all that attracted to. This happened in my first year of college when I found myself without a boyfriend for the first time in years. I got with this guy who was still clearly obsessed with his ex - he still had pictures of her in his dorm and things she had given him on display, and would nonstop talk about her. I actually put up with this nonsense for 3 months before I finally blew up at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:07 PM
6

Ikr and then they're all surprised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:55 PM
16

Omg yes. I had this one LVM proposition me again even after I told him all about himself the last time he tried. They are shameless and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:04 AM
58

Actually that's the first thing I thought. Like did he actually manage to successfully have sex with her? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:53 AM
1

That's so nice, I love flowers :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:49 AM
50

Shid, he'll cheat on her even while she's still being cool girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:43 AM
51

Honestly. Such a cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:40 AM
5

This is insane and that man is abusive. My heart dies a little every time I read about a situation like this where the woman is pregnant or has a kid(s) by the abusive loser LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:37 PM
79

It really hit me once I hit 40 and realized I could end up having a stroke or heart attack. My narcissistic mother, who had a seriously bad temper, had a stroke in her mid-40's after getting into an altercation with someone. Based on the findings the fact that she didn't die was miraculous. Stress can literally kill. Imagine ending up dead or a semi vegetable, all over a LOSER LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:33 PM
3

It sounds like you give off a healing, people-pleaser vibe and have difficulty with boundaries. This is a big issue I still struggle with and a lot of people have taken advantage of me in the past. And they still try. Both of my parents are narcissists, which led to this. It isn't easy learning how to set boundaries, I can definitely attest to that, but we have to keep trying, until we success. This is the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:27 PM
2

That is a lovely quote. I'm glad you're here too Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:18 PM
3

They're so beautiful. I love when the petals are two-toned like that <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:14 PM
3

The way these LVM act willfully obtuse literally makes me feel like an artery is going to burst. I love how he thinks he is backtracking and making things better by claiming he is going with another woman like wtf. Tell him you're going to go hang out and watch porn with another guy and see what he says
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:08 PM
9

This is so sweet and wonderful. You are truly an inspiring person :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:50 PM
6

I used to be the personification of those Me: I'm Only Having One Drink; Me at 3 am: memes. It's now been about 12 years since I've gotten drunk. I might have one drink once in a blue moon, but that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:48 PM
6

That looks lovely and like it smells so good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:44 PM
2

This is honestly so sweet and thoughtful, I'm in literal tears. Thank you Queen and a Happy Valentine's Day to you too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:08 PM
9

Whoever this woman is, she is my spirit animal. Omg that was a brilliant read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:00 PM
26

This is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:59 AM
10

The screenshot strategy is epic lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:58 AM
15

Sounds like a headline straight off Goop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:55 AM
15

Enjoy getting asked for nudes and then ghosted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:16 PM
10

I absolutely love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:46 AM
207

Honestly, that's my favorite thing about this place. The unity is so beautiful and healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:08 PM
5

Yup. Or an ancient Infiniti G35 with the front end missing. Saw both in the parking lot of Taco Bell the other night, revving constantly. Imagining believing people are impressed by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:12 PM
4

Car club losers. And it'll be a car that I could pay in full, even new, on just one of my credit cards, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:57 PM
3

Always be keen to fulfill a man's every sexual whim and fetish, because remember, if you don't, someone else will! And you have to do it like you want to with every fiber of your being, not because it's an "or else" ultimatum. If women are allowed to have standards, so are men! So always remember that it doesn't matter if you have been together for over a decade, married even, with a vast collection of what you thought were cherished memories - be prepared to have these discarded, because he des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:42 PM
2

I used to shave my arms, until I got the hair lasered off. When I say I had hairy arms, I mean seriously hairy, more than some men. The hair itself was prominent, really long, and black. I used to make mohawks out of it in the bath. I know it's patriarchal programming. I admire women who don't shave anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:09 PM
9

What the actual fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:00 PM
10

Yup. I had this sleaze bag basically admit as much, he wanted to jackhammer me to death and it enraged him that I could cum if he did it the way I showed him (slowly and sensually etc.). He intentionally wanted to do it in a way that he knew was not pleasurable and would result in nothing for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:56 PM
5

Exactly, for these scrotes it's about bringing you down no matter what you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:53 PM
51

They hate so bad to be seen for what they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:33 PM
20

That's such BS. He's claiming he did those things in a moment of anger but it didn't go any further. BS!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:11 AM
23

I'm dead lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:29 PM
18

I'm sorry but this is just the pinnacle of weird af to me and I don't understand how any male wouldn't be mortified down to the core to express something like this. Being sexually aroused by cartoon characters? What in the infantilized fuck LMFAO Like oh yes, that Fred Flintstone is just smoking hot. I'm crying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:16 PM
21

I feel like I've seen people comment that some of his life choices don't align with his advice. I wouldn't know for sure though, all I know of him are a handful of his videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:38 PM
111

I know some people find him problematic but some of his videos have been extremely helpful for me. One of my faves is "Don't lose sight of your value by begging someone else to see it." It was spot on for my situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:52 PM
9

Yep, the only loser to explicitly and repetitively try to neg me, I was completely out of his league. He used me to triangulate his ex, so I can only imagine what goes on in his current relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:33 PM
2

LOL I totally would be too! Thanks for sharing, very inspirational :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:22 PM
10

Skylights! I am drooling... That's like my dream to have in a house, though I think it's unfortunately super uncommon here. Congratulations, that is gorgeous!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:12 PM
22

I know exactly what you mean. This guy who does horror podcasts started following me on IG and I thought he was utterly gorgeous - and it's not often at all that I think that. Then I looked at his second account (because he used it to like one of my posts) and all he was following was those types of accounts. Instant turn off and I was over it immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:37 PM
42

Right and knowing full well all that's gonna be there are motivational tiktoks and other wholesome stuff. Though I can hope it's full of dick slang, I know mine would be and then I'd dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:15 PM
33

Right that's what I got from it, like just a shameless leech and over cheap fast food. How mortifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:12 PM
6

Wtf did I just watch. That was like a deleted scene from The Full Monty lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:58 PM
5

Abuse, plain and simple. Just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:49 PM
21

I screamed at the bottom right one lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:13 PM
126

That's so tacky. Males really do emasculate themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:12 PM
50

It's the dude with the antlers for me lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:43 PM
3

Yeah I did this math as well. Sadly grief makes you do crazy things. It's an unfortunate situation all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:07 PM
127

I hate how he's just sitting next to her laughing like a fucking dope. He is clearly aware she doesn't require any respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:55 PM
29

Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:54 PM
61

They also hate it when another man buys a woman a nice car. I remember seeing a tweet like that and the comments section was full of seething males. They literally just want to see everyone as broke and miserable as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:48 PM
4

Totally agree. I have ended up with this type of guy several times and it's just miserable. I should have left them as soon as I noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:42 PM
3

I have tried soooo many products - the one that made the biggest and fastest difference was the Juice Beauty Green Apple mask (full strength). It stings a little when you put it on, so you know it's quite strong. The spots have faded quite a bit but I'm contemplating buying it again just to see if it will get rid of the last of it. It's a really slow going and frustrating process. Another good one is Omorovicza Acid Fix. It's expensive though, and the Juice Beauty mask works just as well. The di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:20 PM
58

Honestly. He ripped her hair out, I mean what the actual fuck. He sounds like a future murderer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:52 PM
48

I think we should start countering all this shit scrotes say with "well most men [insert shade here]"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:32 PM
7

It's awesome, isn't it? And it's only going to keep getting better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:40 PM
65

WOW. Welcome to single motherhood, asshole! What a weakling, manchild piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:36 PM
34

The audacity of scrotes. That Burger King story! I mean wtf did he seriously think would come of that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:25 PM
22

Sounds like your innate Queen came out! You deserve someone who respects your standards and who has the same values as you. Come and talk to us when you are having a hard time. It takes time, but soon you will be stronger and you will be amazed at the totally new woman you will have become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:17 PM
46

Starting two years ago, I began gifting myself regular (as in every 3 months) facials, which is something I'd wanted to do forever. This was when I had just gotten off the pill - for many reasons, but I'd also developed melasma from it. And when I got off, my skin reacted by breaking out. So I found a great facialist and I get the hydrafacial - it's amazing. I have a Peloton and use it almost every day. I've always worked out a lot but this has been really challenging. ALWAYS remember though, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:02 PM
189

BuT aLL tHe wOmEn iN tHe PoRn I wAtcH aLL dAy EverY dAy LoVe iT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:50 PM
36

I can absolutely vouch for this. When I cut people off, I cut them off hard, as in look straight through them as if they're invisible if they even cross my path. I mainly do it just because I see it as the least confrontational way to handle someone I want nothing to do with anymore. Anyway, everyone I've done it to (two psychotic siblings and one fuckboy) goes crazy and won't leave me alone. I only found out about the pain thing later and just saw it as a bonus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:07 PM
22

My resolution is to continue to solidify centering my life around myself, and abandoning any need for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:25 AM
15

I just wanted to say I love these!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:24 AM
4

I literally got that message verbatim once except it was for Christmas lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:44 PM
10

I'm trying to help you accept diseased fuckboy peen! REEEEE!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:43 PM
10

Wow wtf :( I would have been so scared!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:42 PM
42

My mother is narcissistic as well and she messed me up good, I know what it's like. Coddled my loser half brothers but was militaristic to me and my half sisters. She was the blueprint for every fuckboy and user I went on to get involved with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:52 AM
69

This is the stone cold truth. It's like when women think having a baby will save the relationship. Marriage is the same. You think it will change the way he sees you, like now you deserve more respect, you're more valuable, and it does none of that. Never forget that just because you place immense value in something, doesn't mean someone else will as well. A male can marry you, have a baby with you, and it means nothing to them, they're just checks off the to-do list. Centering your life around …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:47 AM
6

Same! Was in a very destructive situation this year when I joined. I'm finishing 2020 as a totally different woman, surrounded by other fellow Queens! What a perfect way to end the year xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:39 AM
32

Amen to what both of y'all said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:34 AM
26

Facts. I lost most of my family and couldn't be happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:01 AM
133

I feel like this megascrote literally wanted to see how much ridiculous garbage he could get away with and still get to have sex with this woman. He gave her some of his prescription meds as a birthday gift? Seriously??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:36 PM
23

Agreed, as someone who wasted quite a chunk of change on it. In my former clown life I paid for it only to watch the scrote paint me as an evil villain and himself as the saint; on another occasion we split it, still a total waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:31 PM
17

Same lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:29 PM
16

Why does this remind me of a scrote version of It's a Wonderful Life lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:10 PM
9

"Leave me like everyone else has" is literally so laughably childish and manipulative, it's like when they say "fine I won't make jokes ever again" after you call them out on one of their abusive comments. No wonder they're seething about it lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:44 PM
14

I love her Queen attitude! Also I'm glad she showed she does the body brushing because I now see I have been doing it wrong lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:36 PM
12

I love it lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:19 PM
35

Ike just more LVM cognitive dissonance. There's a reason our car insurance rates are lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:17 PM
17

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs and warm positive vibes. Also, great reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:51 PM
29

They forgot "drink hard liquor" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:44 PM
44

I love how the dad is an incestuous degenerate yet the son is worried about a "moral gray area"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:40 PM
119

Exactly, his contempt for her runs deep as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:41 PM
1

Spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:10 PM
85

That's a Queen right there lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:07 AM
128

I'm one of those people who my SO's were always not just my best friends, but my only friends. BAD, bad idea, easiest way to lose yourself, your identity, your soul, everything. It's why I joined this sub. A woman needs other women as true friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:57 PM
17

One time I came across an article (by a female author no less) called "Wear Lingerie for Him Before Someone Else Does", but this tops it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:50 PM
16

THIS. Omg I'd upvote this a million times if I could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:48 PM
14

Servants to their dicks indeed. And they expect us to be, as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:46 PM
112

This sounds like a cheap scrote who really thought he was going to finesse a woman out of requiring an engagement ring. I'd bet anything he would get her a plain wedding band too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:40 PM
22

How much does everyone want to bet he's an only son?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:09 PM
14

Facts. One time I was looking for someone on IG and I clicked on someone with the same name except it was one of these practically nude accounts. Then I noticed it said she was followed by one of my followers who I know to be married with a kid. I'm pretty sure his wife is on IG as well so she probably knows and thinks she's the "cool wife" for allowing it. Fucking gross all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:46 PM
5

First thing I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:34 PM
9

Amen to that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:32 PM
6

I don't know how to approach him? Should he have told me?? That mf wouldn't have escaped with his limbs intact if that were me. This makes me want to cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:30 PM
38

Oh yes, I have seen absolute losers proclaim themselves to be nice guys. Like, who's going to tell him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:25 PM
5

I once saw a massive argument on IG because some scrote claimed that all vaginas start off pink and get darker the more partners one has. I don't know if he was trolling but tbh it wouldn't surprise me at all if he wasn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:21 PM
3

Exactly, only a complete and absolute waste of skin loser would have the reaction he is having. That is what all Queens need to realize. This is pure deranged pornsickness and absolutely not someone you'd want anything to do with, the same as you wouldn't want someone with child molestation on their record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:12 PM
3

I have sadly seen multiple instances of women co-signing the plastic porn vagina as being "pretty." Porn brainwashes and hurts everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:09 PM
9

It's just enraging to me, you will never see males despising themselves and wanting the new latest surgery to make their balls perfectly smooth, hairless and precisely the right color, yet it's an actual thing to have women believing their bits should look like a child's. And then they'll still cheat. The Great Awakening of Queens is more necessary than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:06 PM
44

I had a LVM stop talking to me because he tried to make one of those little chain restaurants seem like a big deal and I mocked him lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:40 PM
16

Probably the biggest asshole I've been involved with was also named Marc lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:37 PM
13

It's probably indicative of their own self esteem being in the abyss. That's why they live for negging and trying to pull one over on us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:34 PM
5

Words of wisdom right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:28 PM
20

Honestly. Males are the real hoes, always have been
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:27 PM
363

This entire issue is just mind blowing to me, along with the fact that labiaplasty is no longer some obscure procedure. How can anyone with a wrinkly hanging ballsack seriously have the audacity to push women to mutilate themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:24 PM
67

And they'll cheat without condoms without even a second thought. Same here, after getting off the pill because it messed me up so bad, I discovered the power of celibacy and wish it hadn't taken me this long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:09 PM
33

Omg I know right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:07 PM
13

Damn straight! Now YOU are in control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:29 PM
14

Amen to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:23 PM
443

Reading this I am reminded of the time I read somewhere about males' "hoe test" where they will pretend that they don't have a condom, and if you go along with it, you're a hoe according to them. So they will do anything to not wear a condom, but we're the hoes. Got it. Fucking trash ass scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:16 PM
14

I'm sorry but this has me crying, mainly because I know exactly what you mean lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:08 PM
3

Same here. Utterly perplexed as to why I stopped wanting sex despite throwing literal tantrums when I wouldn't do precisely everything he wanted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:23 AM
5

Yes! Completely. I was the mature one (it surely didn't help that I was older as well) who had to suck it up, meanwhile his life wasn't nearly as busy/demanding as mine and he would be just so overwhelmed, irritable, tired, over some of the stupidest things. Then if I had an issue with anything he did, he would flip out because I was adding on to all the poor baby's stress. Fixing anything wrong with the relationship should have been his FIRST priority but it was his last because I was expected …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:20 AM
10

I didn't think of that! Sad af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:12 AM
62

I've been noticing a lot of these weird changes for a while. Like how men now don't even want to have actual sex, they just want to harvest nudes from you to jerk off alone. And this video here of a guy wanting pats on the head for being a coomer. Just wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:55 PM
9

Yeah the double standards were present in a major way, though I'm not entirely sure that would be an only son thing as it seems to be so prevalent in LVM in general. I would say the main takeaway is that there is a very pronounced expectation of unconditional love. For example, at a time when our relationship was in a very bad place and he had been treating me like shit literally for months, he developed shingles due to a highly stressful situation. This mf had the audacity to get mad because I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:50 PM
4

Wow that's crazy! Yes they did take the tuition out first. It's shocking to me that some of them wouldn't do even that. I was like take your money and interest accrual back thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:38 PM
49

Puke. I know all too well myself, only sons are a special breed, and that's putting it kindly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:20 PM
84

Huurrrr I jerk off all the time! I'm so cool and manly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:17 PM
4

It's a cookbook! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:13 PM
8

Yes! There's no turning back from our level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:01 PM
3

Yessss so happy this is the top comment! Ellen Ripley is thee badass, along with Private Vazquez in the second movie. Love her to bits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:59 PM
20

I agree. I was stunned when I was sent a massive check for the unused portion of my student loans for the semester. When I called up the lender, I was told I could do whatever I wanted with it as it was "my" money. I deposited it and paid them back immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:52 PM
27

Omg your third one triggered a memory. My ex wasn't exactly a cheapskate per se, but he thought certain luxurious things were snobby, like eating at fancy restaurants. So if I wanted to go out to eat at a place like that, I would pay for it. He made more money than me at the time as well. Cringe... I recall buying him a Playstation as well back when they'd first come out. I don't recall him ever spending that much on me, apart from the engagement ring he got me which I sold after I left him. Ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:40 PM
222

And even if you manage to run him off, he is satisfied believing he crippled you financially and socially with a baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:17 PM
30

It's definitely not well adjusted, and it's a horrific violation. IMO that's the same sort of person who would think it's OK to rape me in my sleep after I told him I wasn't in the mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:14 PM
6

Facts, this is super cringe and they stay telling on themselves. What I see a lot of around here as well are these broke guys spending all of their little pennies on mods for their cheap/10 year old car, and could swear everyone is jealous of them. It's super weird and shows how crippled their sense of ambition is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:01 PM
15

Those are probably the gold diggers who are looking for a woman with a good career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:47 PM
11

I was watching The Sound of Music the other night and realized that movie must be the OG of this lmao. The (much older) man has seven children, and Maria simply adores them and they love her! I never have and never would be interested in a man with kids, especially as I don't have kids - luckily I haven't encountered it much. When I was 21, this guy I went out with once asked me on a second date to go someplace with him and his kid that I didn't know about. It was like instant ew. I never saw hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:44 PM
10

LMAOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:32 PM
53

Immature, loser trash. My ex once brought me a drink at my request, then after I'd taken several swallows, pretended he had put LSD in it (shortly after I had told him I didn't want to do that with him). He was a giant manchild and I hate that I only was with him for so long because my narc mother adored him and I had zero self worth (also thanks to her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:29 PM
8

Right? And meanwhile if we simply want a tall man, all hell breaks loose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:25 PM
7

What the actual fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:37 PM
181

Or they'll ""prefer"" anything you aren't, so they can triangulate you and make you suffer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:24 PM
4

I love what I learned about not emotionally investing yourself completely in a man. I was completely and utterly crippled in this way before, I used to LOVE having crushes and being sickeningly infatuated. FDS saved my mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:51 AM
336

Actually for it to be the equivalent he would have to sit next to her and hype up her countouring and highlighting skills, long after he is bored and starving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:53 PM
3

My thoughts exactly lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:50 PM
6

Amen to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:43 PM
3

This is vile. I don't even know how she stayed for as long as she did. Even when I was peak pickmeisha, this would have been an instant one way ticket to becoming dead to me. I pray she stays gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:42 PM
203

His love language is validation for being a self absorbed manchild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:25 PM
96

Exactly. He's trying to figure out how he can leave her, but still sleep with her and anyone else he pleases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:28 PM
3

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:25 PM
19

I mean...that's literally the first thing I thought. She's his mistress and he's doing the typical in-plain-sight "we're just friends" cheater bs to his fiancee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:24 PM
1

Let me pour a 40 for her. She has been HOODWINKED by this loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:22 PM
16

I can't understand what would possess a woman to believe doing something like this is "cute". Are there messages out in the media about this that I've just never seen? I find it truly mind blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:20 PM
10

As difficult as it is to remember amidst all the pain sometimes - this is true and I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:17 PM
1

And his crazy mother who watches him bathe lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:27 PM
1

I know. I feel like it is a cautionary tale of what happens when you don't vet hard. If I recall correctly they get married very quickly? And she discovers the night before the wedding that he's impotent! Oh helllll nawww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:50 PM
40

As a horror fan, I just have to say how much I love the Jack Torrance/The Shining avatar for the sub. Hilariously fitting lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:35 AM
17

Exactly. It's sickening beyond anything I can even imagine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:17 AM
3

That was so cruel. Charlotte wanted a baby so badly but they were having fertility issues, and after a fight about it Trey tells her he doesn't want a baby anymore. However, he gives her this cutout to make up for it. It's made clear that Charlotte is utterly crushed from that moment on and despises him, and they divorce not long after that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:10 AM
4

Yes, it's just trashy fun imo, and I too love taking in the fashion moments!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:03 AM
2

Yes! Sonia Braga
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:57 AM
3

Well, I was just responding to what you said about how you never saw any character that wasn't White. Sure it doesn't match the actual diversity of NYC, but I always took it as that was just the natural experience of the characters. Many people's social circles simply aren't diverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:56 AM
47

There was an ep where Samantha starts hooking up with the brother of a successful Black chef, and she starts speaking in AAVE in a super cringe way (which was the point and her friends call her out on it). Also I believe it was in the last season, Miranda dates a Black doctor for a bit. There weren't many Black characters but I felt they were portrayed positively, they were always attractive and successful. ETA that in the first movie, Carrie's personal assistant was played by Jennifer Hudson, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:51 AM
7

Came to say this. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:43 AM
44

I guess I'll be the odd one out and say this show always cracked me up. They're all horrible examples, but not everything is meant to be taken seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:36 AM
32

That last line though #preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:32 AM
33

Imagine thinking being a porn addict is lighthearted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:19 AM
31

Yesssss it will be like 10 years later and they'll still be posting subliminals about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:16 AM
6

Lmaooo Also men: Bite their nails down until their fingers look like deformed nubs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:18 AM
3

It's a total violation of one's identity, by demanding that this part of you was only brought into existence for his convenience and use. Imagine being that pathologically self-centered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:16 AM
2

They definitely think we're all stupid af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:12 AM
45

Probably some guy who used to bully him in high school who he perceives as far more attractive, stronger, and superior to himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:33 PM
28

It's enraging, especially the ones who are totally open to a threesome but won't let you be with a woman by yourself because "it's cheating". FOH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:31 PM
57

Honestly. Let me get out my tiny violin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:29 PM
40

These degenerates truly think they are entitled to everything you've done in your previous life. You are not allowed to change your mind, grow, mature, nothing. I had a LVM go insane because I had a threesome years before I met him, even though I emphasized that I didn't enjoy it (and I honestly didn't). Don't tell them anything about anything. This is one thing I truly wish I knew from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:26 PM
194

EvEry gUy wAtCheS pOrN, wE'Re ViSuAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:21 PM
11

Stunning! I love the classic style. Beautiful reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:20 PM
4

That's nasty and masochistic. How sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:19 PM
16

Kik is another cheaters' fave. Source: r/adultery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:11 AM
59

This is so cringe, damn. hAve a High sEx DriVe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:08 AM
11

Sorry but this is just fucking weird. Abusive? That sounds like some weirdo TRA mentality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:31 AM
4

I love her! I have an entire huge playlist of her videos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:26 AM
22

So many of them don't even have a clue as to what pregnancy and giving birth entails. I spoke to one LVM who didn't even know what an episiotomy was. They just take for granted that you will bear their spawn. That's why they don't gaf about cheating on you either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:21 AM
60

This is true. You should feel automatic disinterest (and perhaps disgust) when you're unwanted. That was my most noticeable post-FDS shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:18 AM
44

I screamed lmfao so fitting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:16 AM
23

No guy ever wants to go be "better off alone." What predictable trash. I hope you blocked the hell out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:20 AM
2

I know, it's disgusting the way they're trying to normalize degeneracy. This poor naive child asked me on IG the other day how kinks harm others. Like seriously? Should I tell you the story of the guy who was forcing his wife to have threesomes with a stuffed dog? Or one of the other countless horror stories I've read about? Ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:05 AM
5

I cackled at that last line lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:11 AM
20

Exactly. This is what I've always said, like let's see you talk to your male friends like that, or your male boss. They save it for us because they see us as inherently inferior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:55 AM
2

And there I was taking whatever libido-boosting supplement I could find...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:49 AM
19

I'm TRIGGERED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:50 AM
1

Actually, I didn't reply at all lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:37 PM
2

I forgot that detail - had a fuckboy pop up around Christmas once as well. So predictable and lame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:36 PM
220

Whatever he was after didn't work out, and you're the plan B
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:13 PM
29

Every time you go back after they know they've done something vile (and believe us - they KNOW), they lose more respect for you. They will keep doing it (or some variation of it), and it will eat your soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:09 PM
25

Hell no you're not overreacting! Abuse is disgusting but during sex? Wtf. This is vile, and you've now seen what a LVM does with a second chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:07 PM
18

Yes exactly like u/PossibleCook says, he thinks he sounds all assertive, edgy and intellectual, and like he's made you picture him like in a music video with a harem around him, when irl he's corny as hell. Scrotes who talk like this always are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 10:52 PM
81

LOL at how he probably thinks he sounds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:09 PM
38

Omg PUKE. I got a WYD once at like midnight, as I was leaving the movies on a proper date. Bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:05 PM
40

I was going to say, is that a thing? Does Hallmark have a section for that now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:02 PM
9

I have a lot of anger issues due to many things. I know this sounds cliche, but I work out. I've been into working out for many years, but it also truly helps in this regard. It releases endorphins, and you do get to a point where you're so exhausted that is all you can feel. It has to be a challenging workout though, like something where you are pushing yourself (safely) to your maximum potential. I also really enjoy being in nature. There is something so pure and spiritual and healing about it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:55 PM
16

I've been with one true HVM, he said it at around 3 months. I think that is appropriate. 6 months is definitely a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:44 PM
39

Absolute losers stay thinking saying shit like this is funny and cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:42 PM
16

100% agree. I hid it from almost every single male but one. For a very long time he was ok with me having encounters with other women by myself, but eventually he asked if he could watch. Swine. Never tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:08 AM
21

My ex from when I was like 21 had that. I thought it was from his pants being too tight. I can't imagine what it's like now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:05 AM
8

I totally agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:56 PM
12

Probably even before then, does anyone remember that viral nude photo of Misha Barton's then boyfriend Cisco Adler where his balls were already down to his knees?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:40 PM
48

Yes those crooked banana penises that point sideways, like wtf is up with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:37 PM
25

EXACTLY what I came here to say lmaoooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:32 PM
7

I love when I see screenshots of these comments by losers, and you can see the downvote already clicked on lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:31 PM
30

I went through the same thing (minus the baby), within not even a month of moving in together he almost strangled me to death. I too was flattered by the initial intensity (he literally moved across the country to be with me even though he barely knew me) because all I knew up to that point were low effort losers and I had zero self worth. I am happy both of us were able to escape with our lives and learn an important lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:29 PM
2

It wouldn't surprise me if that's where he got the idea lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:16 AM
12

OMG this triggered a memory of another ex I had - he loved to tell all sorts of ridiculous embellished tales and there are far too many to remember, but one time he told me he was a hit man. You have to feel sorry for people like this, especially when they think violent things are impressive. Very telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:19 PM
22

This made me remember a total pathological liar I messed around with for a bit when I was 19 (he was 39 - lovely, right?). I met him at a bar when I was a waitress there. First, there was this dress I was in love with in a catalog and he offered to buy it for me, asked me to give him the information and everything. When it never came, he played dumb so I called the company and they said the order was never placed. Then he claimed that he had some problem with the IRS and that they probably cance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:07 PM
13

Absolutely zero doubt about this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:55 PM
6

How embarrassing lmao that's like basically admitting he is completely useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:02 PM
11

So he's a daddy-daughter porn addict, and he's mad at her? OK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:43 PM
7

Honestly, that's the first thing that came to my mind. Something is very wrong here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:40 PM
7

Seriously. He looks like 7 years old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:39 PM
45

I got off the pill after 20 years on it because of the horrible damage it did to my body. I'm for condoms and even pulling out with the condom. I also track my cycle using an app and I never thought I'd ever say this but I rely a lot on abstinence. If I'm even near ovulating it's a hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:43 AM
7

I wish I could upvote this a million times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:18 AM
33

That part made me so sad. Imagine thinking that you need a therapist to help you lower your standards and accept being hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:16 AM
12

I'm horrified by the bit about the bread alone. That isn't kinda rude, it's super rude! This is the kind of guy who will be a selfish egomaniac and then occasionally toss out a crumb or two (flowers, awww) so that you will keep thinking he's not that bad. Do NOT get caught up in this trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:09 AM
2

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:04 AM
21

Omg, the second one. I just felt adrenaline dump into my bloodstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:00 AM
207

Imagine hating yourself this much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:45 AM
89

A LVM wanted to hook up specifically with me wearing my glasses. I refused, not only because I don't feel sexy in my glasses, but because I felt like it was some covert "sexy librarian/boss" fantasy or something. Perverted men ruin everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:43 AM
42

He sounds like a black hole who would be fishing for validation all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:59 AM
19

Exactly this lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:57 AM
8

Hi, look at me, I'm being so polite, please give me a chance to gaslight and neg you in this waste of time conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:37 PM
11

Will she also think it's great when he cheats on her because she has no time for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:55 PM
31

Third slide should be the Django meme lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:52 PM
12

A lot of these no self-worth having scrotes are also doing this to other women because they want to feel like they have a harem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:12 PM
14

THIS. I used to be so deathly shy and meek, I would get bullied either by schoolmates or family members and I would just freeze, unable to even get words out of my mouth. And on the rare occasion I did, it would come out wrong and I'd get laughed at. It was horrible. But now... if only I could rhyme, even Eminem would be scared lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:10 PM
1

A toast to you rebuilding your life and getting yourself back :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:07 PM
13

Lmao Queen energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:05 PM
3

He is benching you, which is disgusting. He deserves nothing more than being stone cold ignored. If you must interact with him lest you appear rude or in your feelings, act like you're virtually strangers. I did this to a fuckboy and it literally drove him insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:16 AM
86

Reddit has truly emboldened the degenerates hasn't it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:08 AM
51

I wish a scrote would. The scene that would ensue would be for the books
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:20 AM
8

Absolutely. I have experienced so much heartache thanks to my family - I have always been so respectful, stayed quiet to keep the peace, etc. yet they don't hesitate for a moment to act like trash. Directing my high value energy elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:10 AM
39

This is my new strategy. Stay reserved, don't get emotionally invested, don't eXpLaiN, just observe and judge/act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:01 AM
9

Preach sis! I have had more than one LVM respond to my complaints by declaring that that's just how he is, with this tone of voice like I'm the bad one for expecting something different. They literally equate requesting that they not be disgusting and disrespectful with trying to change them, as if they were the same as an abuse victim who is being told what to wear or who to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:56 PM
5

Facts. When someone is just ruining your otherwise peaceful day, what's the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:48 PM
12

This sounds like a ID TV episode waiting to happen (assuming those it didn't work out with aren't already missing).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:21 PM
15

Great reminder. I too see this on here often. Anyone can seem perfect and wonderful, especially when there have been no trials and tribulations. Consider HVM a highly sought-after title bestowed only after hardcore vetting over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:18 PM
8

I actually wasn't referring to the baby part of it, I was referring to the caption underneath where she says he is her "princess". And from the looks of it, whoever wrote that equated being babied with being treated like a princess. That's the problem with males today and the glut of complaints on FDS. Men wanting to be treated like princesses - they want us to ask them out, plan dates, pay for dinner, spoil them with Playstations. I'm sure it's safe to assume you are not in support of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:05 PM
17

Definitely. Like when parents tell children "well, life isn't fair"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:01 PM
4

It's insane how long it takes to crawl out of the damage. But every day, a little progress is made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:00 PM
1

Feminized men are disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:47 PM
6

Imagine putting up not only with the gaming addiction but the scrote's rancid hygiene, because by this point I highly doubt he cares anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:45 PM
10

Same here actually, thanks to my narcissistic mother utterly destroying my self worth, I used to truly believe that anything going wrong in a relationship had to be my fault. After all, she had been telling me throughout my entire childhood the narc fave, "no man will ever put up with you." Fortunately I met a truly good guy when I was 25 and while we didn't stay together, I was able to see the truth after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:40 PM
18

Spot ON!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:25 PM
4

I remember when that was me. Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:23 PM
5

I won't even say what I low-key think about moms like that. And the sons are just as bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:21 PM
34

Gross men who hate women with confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:16 PM
7

I lol'ed a little, but I find it mostly sad that she won't just love herself enough to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:11 PM
4

Yeah, let's just say he didn't look at all like what I expected lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:08 PM
14

Exactly, then they can take their broke selves on somewhere else. We're not going on sale for these bums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:01 PM
35

Omg this reminds me of a time I had gone out to eat with my family, I couldn't have been more than 14. I remember I was wearing shorts. As I was laughing and having a good time, I remember briefly glancing at a nearby table in that way one just naturally does when looking around. When that table finally got up to leave, they passed right by us, and a woman in the group paused and said to me something imperceptible but I caught the words "my husband". She walked off just as quickly, leaving me si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:44 PM
2

Ikr, I love her to bits, from the moment she appears until the very end she is bad AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:17 PM
1

Exactly, she thinks she's being seeeew understanding, and that he will see her as a treasure, when nothing could be further from the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:20 AM
18

Aw, I'm so happy this pickmeisha exists to reassure her broke scrote that he isn't the useless waste of skin he knows he is. I like your response, I have actually said something similar to someone before. Loser males love to make us sound shallow for wanting a provider, yet they have no problem seeking out women purely based on their looks. Typical LVM double standards. They need to take their minimum wage selves and leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:45 PM
31

I'm crying lmfao. Honestly, it's repulsive. Too much estrogen in the tap water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:26 PM
12

I second Alien and its sequel Aliens! Private Vazquez in the second is another bad ass icon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:21 PM
23

Bullet dodged for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:18 PM
3

This pic is so sweet and it's from A Charlie Brown Christmas which I love. The caption makes it even better and fills me with so much light inside. Saving this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:21 PM
2

I think it boils down to misogyny many times. These weirdos see relationships as a "control or be controlled" thing, they don't understand what love is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:19 PM
102

The brainwashing is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:13 PM
4

This study funded by Acme Porn Company says porn is good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:09 PM
27

I'm sorry but I screamed when I saw this lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:07 PM
39

Hurrrr I swear I'm not a degenerate pervert, please see me as normal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:06 PM
1

If you notice though they know how to do all those cute things when you're mad at them. The rest of the time they're just playing dumb because they don't want to do it. It's all a game to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:05 PM
17

Lmaooo how could I forget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:26 PM
4

In the past I'd say to start saying similar things back to them, but I've come to realize that when someone lives in a warped clown world version of reality like that, nothing you can say to them will have any real effect. Best to keep our sanity, health, and beautiful skin and just refuse to engage with manchildren.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:50 PM
8

On top of that, they want to feel like there is someone there playing mommy and feeling sorry for them. Meanwhile these dirtbags have ZERO empathy to offer. They are shameless bloodsuckers. It's so disgusting it makes me sick even thinking about it. Just goes to prove the entire purpose of this thread lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:46 PM
8

Exactly, that's exactly it. They are happy with THEMSELVES doing the bare minimum, and everything we do, such as cook, clean, and be bang maids, don't count because those things are expected as part of the Womanly Duties Package.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:41 PM
6

Don't you just love when they bust out with that bs. Omg awww, you didn't beat me or cheat on me! Congratulations! Here, let me give you a golden medal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:39 PM
10

I actually witnessed something like this and a LVM tried to blame the girlfriend, who hadn't been visiting out of fear of covid and giving it to her child, as reason for the guy's death. Pathetic. You would NEVER hear something like that with the sexes reversed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:32 PM
10

Good work sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:09 PM
5

They're desperately looking for safety in numbers so they don't have to face that they are perverts and monsters. Let them go be sexually aroused beating and strangling each other and leave us Queens alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:07 PM
10

That comment is the pinnacle of gaslighting. Deviants desperately want to believe they're "lovely, normal, nice, wonderful people" don't they? And they will say the same exact thing about rape fantasies, pedophile fantasies, and who knows what else. They're deluded. Look, I've been with a lot of men of all kinds, even swinger types, and NOT ONE has ever attempted anything weird or violent like that. That is a NEW thing caused by DEGENERATE PORN that has warped these losers' minds. How sad and pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:03 PM
178

Yes shoot your shot ladies, and while you're at it, text me first, plan all the dates, pay 50-50 or more, and let me move in with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:56 AM
2

A whole month? I was lucky if I got more than two weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:55 AM
18

Can confirm, I inadvertently drove two guys into stalking me this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:22 AM
94

I'm triggered, but I needed to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:04 PM
4

When broke dudes who are too ugly to be the fuckboys they wish they could be want to be chased and treated like little princesses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:10 PM
9

EXACTLY!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:07 PM
5

I was going to say, the mod is obviously male. I'm sure he and his tiny penis know much more about how to be a proper feminist than actual women do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:52 PM
28

They ramp up their demented trash behavior as soon as they think you are trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:47 PM
127

42 and my womb is pure. See you then Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:46 PM
36

Amen. Best thing I never did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:18 PM
19

So well said and thank you so much for that link. I'm bookmarking it and am gonna read it now with my coffee because this is something that took me way too long to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:13 PM
20

In an alternate version, they will attach to the whore like a tick, destroy her until she becomes a broken madonna, and then try to rebuild her into his personalized whore. I know because I lived it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:21 PM
31

Congratulations on dodging Ted Bundy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:18 PM
2

Oh you are definitely correct. The same dude couldn't STAND that I knew I was all that and was always feebly trying to knock me down a peg. That's the one male I ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:15 PM
9

*crying rage face with the smirking mask over it* NOOOOOOO!!!! Your standards are making me feel like a loser!!! Stop it right now!!! I must believe everyone is a dirtbag just like me!!! REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:21 PM
6

I've encountered #2. I also once briefly dated a super LVM who loved to irritate me by bringing up topics he knew I would disagree with and get upset (particularly politics). It was clear he thought this was some sort of foreplay. I could swear there is some repulsive saying in Spanish that equates hot headedness to good sex or something like that. Fucking repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:17 PM
40

Was just about to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:08 PM
26

This is sad but true. Kill them with indifference. The vicious, toxic people in my life went literally insane when I began to act like they were invisible, even when they were in the room. It affects the same part of the brain that tells them they are in physical pain. Silence and indifference is the best weapon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:45 PM
43

LMAO I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:41 PM
24

Absolutely both
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:18 PM
47

I know someone like this. He's ugly, short, and pure LVM trash but markets himself as this heartbroken, cheated-on fixer upper (he actually used to have a pinned tweet about how hurtful being cheated on is - the same dude who used ME to triangulate with his ex, leading her to stalk me on IG). As a result he manages to attract pickmeishas, and since the current one is an ultimate Cool Girl and was in an abusive relationship before, she is more than willing to tolerate all the triangulation, porn,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:14 PM
32

Have you read about narcissists? They're complete and utter psychos and he definitely sounds like one. I've been reading a lot about them and it's helpful, in fact someone just posted something here the other day that was amazing. It had a link to an article on Psychology Today about the Narcissist Love Script. It was extremely informative and helped me a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:58 PM
11

Now imagine what he would've said if you got a job there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:52 PM
16

Omg like those memes that are like "Im so easy to date. I like to sit in the car in the middle of the night with chicken mcnuggets and talk about the universe"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:31 PM
18

And when you start matching their energy, the scrotes have all sorts of choice things to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:00 PM
104

Don't you just love when LVM fantasize about fucking other women but claims they remind him of you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:59 PM
74

Anger addicts. And watch out for those because they love to disguise it with the facade of a funny, silly, carefree personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:31 PM
7

I definitely know a few who need to hear this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:28 PM
32

Maybe she should give him extra sex and anal /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:30 PM
49

Me, me, me, me, me. I'd make a succulent dinner along with a special dessert, only for him to wake up in a bad mood for no reason and talk to me like shit. And then in a week or two, I'd do it again! *insert clown honks*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:07 PM
4

Oh yes, I've been there. That you don't even need to actually do anything is scary and dangerous as hell. I don't remember if it was an article that was posted here, but it was about this poor woman who was with a complete violent abusive psycho (and had a baby with him, as is often the case). He kept falsely accusing her of cheating on him until one day he went insane and attacked her and tried to gouge her eyes out. She finally left him after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:54 PM
2

It grosses me out so bad when NVM say things purely because they think it will make women flock around them. Especially when they say stuff about wanting kids when it's crystal clear they would make horrible fathers and should never reproduce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:35 PM
5

Another brilliant and valuable post. I like the point about things being purely in the abuser's head sometimes. Sometimes they can succeed in convincing you that you deserve to be punished because of something you did. But believe me when that stops working, they will start making things up. You'll ask them something, and they will respond to you in a nasty manner out of the blue. They'll claim it was because you were complaining or nagging when nothing could be further from the truth. Lemme get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:32 PM
4

I want to watch the Netflix documentary about this. So creepy and disturbing. The detail that always sticks out in my mind was how he had sex with her literally just minutes before killing her. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:35 PM
12

An Abusive Man: Keeps doing the same things that hurt you over and over again Uses apologies as a manipulative tool Gaslights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:29 PM
3

I screamed at the title of this post LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:11 PM
20

It's one thing if you're pretending to have just met at the bar. But to say you're married and make infidelity part of the fantasy is just sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:10 PM
1

Leave it to a NVM to think James Bond is goals lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:09 PM
1

I would love to see this lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:00 AM
6

I can't say I'm surprised at all. Didn't they have a CD cover with a porn star on it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:53 AM
163

I guess her kink is for you to get cucked. So sorry, scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:43 AM
6

LMFAO not clown bear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:52 AM
4

I became trapped because it wasn't physical. I was in a physically abusive relationship once with a complete and utter psycho who, on the first incident, almost strangled me to death. It was pretty cut and dry and I ended it not long after that. But when it wasn't physical, I just couldn't really see it for what it was, probably because I was basically reliving the patterns I was programmed to endure from my narc mother. I was promised things would get better and I would always just end back up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:33 PM
6

I love seeing these FACTS spelled out in text for me to read. I've been told I "expect James Bond" for wanting super basic things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:20 PM
10

Shrink to fit - so well said an accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:19 PM
2

That and their minds are corroded from the stuff they see in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:13 PM
27

Gee, I wonder where he saw that, the stupid coomer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:18 AM
4

I have this theory that these really audacious pervy old men used to be attractive when they were young and got all the women, and can't accept that they've gotten old. When I was 23 or so I worked in a small office with another man who was easily old enough to be my grandfather, with solid white hair. He had to have been at least 70. I stupidly accepted going out to lunch with him once because it was inconceivable to me that it would be anything but platonic. From then on, that man sexually har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:48 PM
17

Lift you up by it wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:32 PM
21

800ft penises lmaoooo I'm crying It drives me nuts when men insist all of us want the most ginormous anaconda dick imaginable (and to be fucked with it for 12 hours nonstop). After my issues, even the thought of a big dick horrifies me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:32 PM
24

hEy sTraNgEr (my ex from high school over 20 years ago who found me on IG somehow)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:21 PM
8

It's more about the overall pattern. The texts come and stop unpredictably and sporadically and are usually noncommittal small talk bs. That's how you get benched, you keep hoping each time it will turn into a proper conversation but it never does. And they keep popping up here and there (hey stranger!) so you can't forget them either, and as much as you try not to mind, it really messes with your head. Block and delete is utterly imperative here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:16 PM
95

Breadcrumb texts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:51 AM
1

Awesome thank you and likewise :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:15 PM
1

Yeah that's my thing, I'm a total loner, especially after attracting so many narcs (even so called friends) that I'm afraid to trust anyone. That's literally why I joined this sub. Even though it's just online, being immersed in so much pure positive female energy has been so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:55 PM
5

You must have been very strong to escape the narc vortex. I too struggle with narcs...unfortunately I was programmed since birth to attract them :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:53 PM
5

That is seriously perverse. I'm glad you're away from that insanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:34 PM
134

The ones that keep score are the worst, especially when they compare apples and grenades
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:27 AM
8

This is so well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:18 PM
53

Too bad a good woman will always find out. When you're a lying degenerate scumbag, your other behaviors give you away. That's the blessing the universe gives to us women: cutting all you losers from the same cloth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:06 PM
73

Don't worry sir, the reddit degenerate circle jerk is here to appease your guilt and shame!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:38 PM
5

I've had minimal exposure to it, I guess because of my age. But I read countless stories on the sites I frequent and knew it was a pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:13 PM
151

Exactly, I'll see the paragraph shaped reply from the woman and I immediately get the red Family Feud X's without continuing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:08 PM
7

Oh I totally believe it. How else would so many of these losers be duplicating the same pathetic "strategies"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:03 PM
19

It depends what strategy they use. Covert narcs can have you on the verge of a stroke without even needing to raise their voice or curse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:59 PM
40

Is this another one of those subs where all the mods are males who think they are women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:22 PM
56

Personally I think the dating and hookup apps had a lot to do with it. I can't imagine that many men sitting down to read a book lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:10 PM
59

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:03 AM
403

It's interesting what you say about how when you kiss etc. you simply assume you are now boyfriend and girlfriend. When I was in my teens all the way until my early/mid-20's, my experience was that was the norm. This was in the early/mid 90's until 2005 or so. I'm horrified by the stories I read now and am so glad I am not growing up in this era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:57 PM
366

Omg if I had a dollar for every minute I spent in the most psychotic and insane fights all because I believed I could maturely and calmly share how I feel about something, I would be a billionaire right now. It doesn't matter if you word it just right and avoid accusing trigger words. LVM will activate into Tekken mode. You can't discuss your feelings with someone who would rather destroy you than be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:46 PM
126

I bet you anything he doesn't even know what size he wears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:38 PM
6

I have been trying to spread the word about this on every pro life post I see on instagram. Pro lifers will invariably say "just get your tubes tied" like it's that simple so I inform them. I have even had a couple of them reply and thank me because they didn't know, and agreed that this needs to change. Btw that is horrific what happened to you. I hope you are able to find a willing doctor soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:56 PM
14

This is so well said and fills me with sadness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:48 PM
7

Yes and he will literally not even care what they look like. Trying to convince women that they can somehow stop a loser from cheating is cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:02 AM
3

This is spot on. They've given up and settled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:56 AM
15

And that's the least of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:54 AM
14

That response was epic lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:51 AM
54

This is exactly what I needed to read. Bookmarking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:28 PM
4

100% yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:07 PM
11

No way. If you're into luxury goods and that sort of lifestyle, the best thing you can do is get with a man who understands that and ideally is into it himself. Guys like this will end up making snide comments etc. That would have been my red flag to get the hell out of there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:05 PM
19

Exactly. I knew this record label/DJ manager who was married with a kid and was always out and about at events without his wife. It was obvious he was fucking whoever he could, while she stayed home and took care of their kid. Trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:55 PM
15

Robert Smith singing The Walk is the only one I'm interested in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:31 PM
17

100% this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:29 PM
89

She fucked up when she got involved with a guy who wanted to manage party venues. That entire scene is trash and I'm sure 99.9% of these dudes like it specifically for that reason. I must say however I am pleasantly surprised that this didn't end with "What should I do? He's the love of my life"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:39 PM
133

This person definitely abuses animals and should be put on a list in case they become a serial killer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:26 PM
13

wHaT wAs sHe wEariNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:22 PM
12

Exactly, whenever I hear someone bust out with that philosophical talk about we can't help who we're attracted to etc., I already know they accommodate these little "alternative" dynamics. Oh can I also say how cute it is that they're calling it a crush? Like aw, let's imagine the scrote blushing and twiddling his fingers shyly when he sees her. Why not just say the truth: he started jerking off over her on a regular basis until he became obsessed with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:21 PM
121

Look at that smorgasbord of pickmeishas running to coddle the pervert husband. Puke. I like the one who said she should get a male doula - make sure he's tall, buff, and fine as hell, then reveal her crush back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:12 AM
121

Imagine being such a miserable, self-loathing piece of shit that you do this intentionally and repetitively lol. Did it make you any richer or your dick any bigger? No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:31 PM
3

Ikr! In my case, my doctor pushed Premarin, then she pushed that laser vaginal rejuvenation procedure (which I never got). Not once was it "maybe you should consider getting off the pill."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:44 PM
35

So being low hanging fruit is goals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:21 PM
2

It would be great if they made a comeback! I don't think women are warned very often of how hormonal methods can mess you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:19 PM
10

Seriously. Like if he thinks she's so "risky", why ask her out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:03 PM
36

Imagine if they put the same energy they put into whining into getting a real career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:42 PM
3

I thought doctors were supposed to use a sizing kit, but mine just stuffed this ginormous one in me and then used that to guesstimate my size, like wtf. Then no pharmacy could get them anyway. Btw I appreciate your normal distribution reference :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:39 PM
30

Insert meme of girl with 10 hot dogs in her mouth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:12 PM
14

That's horrible and sounds very similar to what I almost went through. I was promised all along that we would only have children if it was under very, very comfortable financial circumstances. So the requirements were very specific: we must be able to afford a top private school, big house in the suburbs like I live in now, the same high-end car I have, etc. I am used to a certain lifestyle and had zero intent of lowering it just to have children. This was crystal clear at all times. And he alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:53 PM
16

Exactly. Sometimes I wonder if I am truly childfree, or just smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:20 PM
16

Was gonna say. She should've been like that 50 Cent meme where he laughs and drives off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:48 AM
31

Omg this is so fucking true. The biggest lie we are forced to swallow since birth is how we have to meet all these beauty standards. Then the dude will cheat on you with Shrek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:43 AM
15

He's a guaranteed DARVO expert. Run away. Also make sure you read the handbook entry "Women hold the trump card"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:41 AM
38

GiVe hiM iNtiMacY you could give dudes like that the world and look like a supermodel and they will still be porn addicted coomers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:36 AM
37

It's all fun and games until they realize they're more efficient than their dingaling lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:33 AM
46

Exactly. They'll just exploit the woman because they know she will be compelled to provide for her child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:31 AM
33

Fragile manbaby ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:35 AM
50

Don't worry this was over 20 years ago lol. He was a druggie who started stealing from me and then I booted him out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:34 PM
103

I'd hate to know what that entailed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:28 PM
109

It doesn't have stank balls either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:57 PM
188

Been there lmao he used to take it home with him so I wouldn't use it on my own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:55 PM
16

Same here! After being on the pill for 20 years, I am almost 2 years free of that poison. It was great for a long time, and I felt so safe. But towards the latter end of that time, I developed the most insane severe case of vaginal atrophy imaginable. I even went on Premarin which barely helped. Sex was impossible - I could have stuck a butcher knife inside myself and it would have felt the same. My libido also vanished. Not once did my doctor say it could be the pill. One day it was time to ref…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:54 PM
263

Amen Queen!! If women actually want to tend to babies while working a full time job, fine, but that's a hell no from me. What really grinds my gears are these guys who expect you to have a baby knowing full well their salary can't support it and you will be forced to keep your full time job. And you know they will expect you to do 95% of the childcare on top of that. Nope. Be an old school man and take on 2 or 3 jobs if you have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:34 PM
21

I absolutely think so. Not only do they want it hairless, but it's well known they also don't want visible inner labia. They want it to look literally like a child's vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:17 PM
8

Boom. And these idiots think they get to decide what's worth it. They'll slag people off for buying expensive clothes etc. and then they will spend every penny they earn in their $12/hr job on rims and mods for their 10 year old car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:23 PM
114

Those same guys will run out and buy a $200 bottle of Johnny Walker to flex on snapchat the second they manage to scrape some money together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:42 AM
51

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:39 AM
1

I'm dying lmaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:37 AM
3

They will always try to bring you down with things they know are different from you. If you wore loads of makeup, then he'd be triangulating you with girls who like the natural look. It's not about your specific attributes, they just want you off balance and insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:56 AM
5

Savage lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:53 AM
13

Uh oh, it's one of those spiritual meditating types. Guarantee you he's a raging narcissist lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:40 AM
3

Let's not forget alcohol and weed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:38 AM
19

It's super disgusting. Especially when they are broke and ugly like this one was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:46 PM
62

That is so utterly vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:30 PM
72

Hi, I'm broke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 09:29 PM
173

Scrote to English translation: "Please chase me and be thirsty as hell" I had this LVM tell me that my attitude was "dry" (his replies varied between "mhm" "bet" and smirk emojis) and it became crystal clear that his approval would have involved a non stop feed of nudes and me begging to see him. Sorry, I don't speak pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:04 PM
1

People like this are just crazy. I've gotten the same thing from my narc mother, that "sometimes you need think about someone other than yourself", which is ludicrous considering I was a doormat almost my entire life. They bust out with this bs when they realize they are losing control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:57 PM
11

I'm a size zero with a thigh gap, and I have it on my bum cheeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:25 AM
6

I can't believe that guy had the nerve to outright say it's more hot for the girl to do everything. He sounds feminized and crazy. I once had this loser LVM flat out tell me that he never texts first. Like...and?? Estrogen filled losers. I hope you find so much strength and support here, that one day you will have no more tears, but instead just a deep throaty laugh with a martini in your hand because these dudes can't reach you queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:18 AM
2

I absolutely love fanfics too! There are some amazingly talented people out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:11 AM
2

Exactly, as if these scrotes would drop even half of that on their gfs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:06 AM
25

Welcome Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:58 AM
13

Imagine thinking it's shallow to dump someone because they gave you an STD. Meanwhile, if the sexes were reversed, the guy would ruin your reputation at best, and if you're lucky he won't beat you senseless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:56 AM
13

When I was growing up, Playboy was in its heyday and the message was very clear to me that that represented the ultimate desirable woman. I used to even have the bunny charm on a necklace (cringe). I think it's the same thing going on except the big thing now is this degenerate porn, and to be considered the pinnacle of desirability, impressionable girls think they have to emulate that sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:44 AM
2

The worst bit is it makes that person feel so familiar to you, so it just lures you in. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:30 AM
2

Yes, it is never too late! That's why I joined this sub instead of just lurking. It made a huge difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:29 AM
18

The crazy thing is my dad is an alcoholic and you know how they always say that means you will end up with an alcoholic. So I was always super paranoid about that. Nope! I kept getting my mother in male form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:47 PM
3

Love whiskey made me lmao. My supervisor is a pickmeisha attention whore who always says this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:44 PM
15

I wish I could upvote this a million times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:39 PM
34

Same, my mother is a narc and nothing I was upset about was ever valid. Guess who kept getting with men who felt the same way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:20 PM
18

I got the "everything always has to be your way" for years, in situations where I was either seeking a compromise, or protecting myself fro being emotionally abused. Everything about this post is so spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:13 PM
16

I feel like could also used to give a false sense of security. Someone might have the impression of oh, now that he's found me, he's getting off the app and investing in getting to know me on a more personal level. It takes a certain level of experience and cynicism to assume that he's doing that with loads of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:49 AM
39

This post has perfect timing as I was just contemplating this last night. Sometimes I think back to humiliating incidents where I acted like a lunatic out of grief and anger, just totally beneath myself, and I cringe so badly. I know that ultimately I am the one who is in control of my behavior, but it's true - LVM will have you half out of your wits with the crazy making, gas lighting etc. that ending up acting in an extremely unbecoming fashion is going to be unavoidable. If I had known better…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:45 PM
15

Exactly lol I used to thrive on it as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:38 PM
6

Yes Queen and fellow Virgo! I recently toasted leaving my old self behind as well. Here's to the new us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:40 PM
61

They know it's pickmeisha nectar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:33 PM
4

I never liked Han Solo as a kid. I thought he looked mean, just goes to show even a child has that intuition! I believe according to Carrie Fisher herself, the way she ended up hooking up with him was because he rescued her from basically being tag teamed by two predators while she was drunk at a company party. He took her to his car, where he then proceeded to put the moves on her himself. Oh and the cherry on the cake is he was married with kids!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:29 PM
5

I know what you mean. I grew up watching The Fresh Prince and the LVM levels go through the roof sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:24 PM
5

DARVO, a LVM fave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:22 PM
1

I have to say it isn't as bad as some of the other google image rabbit holes I've been down, but the thought is just horrifying. That's got to hurt like hell too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:21 PM
6

Right and he was packaged as someone everyone would kill to be. I also noticed how his parents clearly preferred him over his sister, which is just so awful and cruel in itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:15 PM
6

I love Clueless and I always thought that was super weird. Hasn't that always been frowned upon?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:11 PM
5

Yes, this is very true. As well as the idea that love involves toxicity and loads of dramatic fighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:10 PM
6

Yes, the bikini scene is another thing that stuck out to me this time around. And people can claim they're supposed to be high school students and therefore immature, but I never had a high school boyfriend do that to me. In fact the only loser who ever did that was a much older predator I got involved with as a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:09 PM
5

Omg I didn't realize this entire time that that's why she's an alcoholic at the beginning! I thought the Biff attack only happens as a result of Marty's plan. That's so sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:06 PM
40

Omg I remember that in 16 Candles! That was so fucked up! Watching all these movies again as an adult is so wild. I saw Ferris Bueller for the first time in ages the other day and I thought he was a complete insufferable dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:01 PM
43

That's the sheer irony of it, when we react strongly we are given all these fucked up labels, yet they actually secretly want us to react like that as proof that we are still emotionally invested in them. I see right through these scrotes now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:58 PM
45

This. I absolutely despise how we are trained to suffer in silence lest we appear insecure, crazy and inferior. Having some scrote treat you with utter disrespect has nothing to do with insecurity. Thank you for that link, I am going to save it for my Sunday reading tomorrow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:40 PM
25

Right?? Can you imagine the guy's reaction if the sexes were reversed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 08:42 PM
34

Omg. That reminds me of this LVM who complained to me that many people have called him an asshole. If anyone ever says that, never teehee and sit there proving how you think differently. Run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:55 PM
10

Definitely a fact more people need to know about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:52 PM
4

Yes she was so elegant and fabulous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:49 PM
64

Did you know like 2/3 of throat cancers have HPV cells in them? Enjoy your loads
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:58 PM
84

Same, I used to love torturing myself trying to be that girl who would make him forget about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:53 PM
213

Yup that's the Bat-signal for all the healer Pickmeishas to come running
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:44 PM
64

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:04 PM
30

Aw, poor scrote who has endured "years of loneliness and trauma." I bet in all those years, he didn't abandon or traumatize anyone, right? Of course he did, and wants to use his "issues" to justify his disgusting behavior, like a typical manbaby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:46 PM
88

Something about saying "us ladies" makes my radar go off. I'd bet it's a male who thinks he's a woman, though I guess that's the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:42 PM
7

Omg, I'd forgotten about Rich Sex, I love that song. "I like money more than dick" that is me AF!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:59 PM
3

Girl, I would have loved to have been your friend. I was super awkward, deathly shy, and my life was miserable because of it until I was about 14 or 15. Those people would probably be stunned to see what I look like now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:08 PM
1

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:02 PM
1

Oh I see lol, thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:01 PM
3

Right?? I appreciate traditionally handsome men (one time I had this waiter who was literally a young Elvis lookalike) but I'm just not drawn to them romantically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:59 PM
8

True as well lol. The old lady in The Aristocats is goals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:58 PM
36

Demon lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:24 AM
33

The Spectre should be LVM's sleep paralysis monster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:23 AM
10

Been there too except it was the "annoying, crazy" coworker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:17 AM
8

Yes lol Think about it, the driving force behind these guys is the dream of being up on a stage by themselves while millions of fans scream their name. Talk about black holes of validation. The local ones who are trying to make it are so pathetic, they literally go around trying to form fake friendships with people so they can claim they have a following and get gigs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:30 PM
11

I had one who still had her pics in his dorm and would bring up some anecdote about their time together at least once a day. It took me months to finally blow up. Complete dumpster fire of a relationship lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:26 PM
22

The occasional thing like this doesn't bother me, but typing in slang like "tryna", "finna" etc. is a one way ticket to block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:34 PM
124

Even without a fortune, dying alone is infinitely better than next to some male parasite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:31 PM
7

Not even, Queen. You'd be right up front in first class!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:25 PM
11

What makes these imbeciles think they're correctly identifying anyone? My username was auto generated by Reddit, and it's obviously not the same as my instagram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:24 PM
17

They also know the gf probably assumes they will treat them well and not cheat since they're unattractive, when nothing could be further from the truth. I know of a couple like this and I feel so sorry for the gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:17 PM
41

That ps5 has brought out the estrogen in all these scrotes. Imagine being male and totally comfortable asking your girlfriend to buy you something that costs $500 while you do the bare minimum and probably make less than her too. Total failure of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:03 PM
18

I used to be part of that scene and can 100% confirm lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:53 PM
20

being a wife is cooler I'm the coolest, pick me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:31 PM
127

Mine was men who always had that one ex they always talked about so I could try to be better than her. So fucking sad and pathetic. Fortunately this was a long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:24 PM
121

Bedroom Producer aka unemployed wannabe DJ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:22 PM
21

I've noticed I have two types: cute "nerd" types (like the actor who plays Michael J. Fox's dad in the first Back to the Future) and big chonky teddy bears. Both with dark hair. Totally not attracted to ripped muscles or typical pretty boys/Chad types. I don't care about height, as long as the weight is proportional, for example if they're fit, I don't care if they're shorter than I am. But a teddy bear should at least be about 5'10". Hygiene is super important to me, I have a very sensitive sen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:30 PM
43

Damaged and dinged huh. And your calloused rawhide dick is what exactly then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:17 PM
98

Omg next time don't even respond. Audacity only merits silence and an instant block-delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:13 PM
14

This. Well done Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:52 AM
20

Omg I wasn't able to open that post. That's fucking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:18 PM
136

Block, delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:17 PM
13

This is me af!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:02 PM
54

What a disgusting pervert. Can you imagine thinking this degeneracy is in any way funny or appropriate? Thanks for letting your gf know you've been jerking off to her sister and will now be adding pornified lesbian scenarios to your repertoire. Sick fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:01 PM
4

As someone who endured something similar, hearing stupid scrotes trying to minimize and make this sound benign enrages me to no end. They love to tell us what they are truly thinking about during all their masturbatory perversions, and it's always some pathetic bs like this. They should all have their balls clipped off with garden shears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:21 PM
63

Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:46 PM
35

I mean if this isn't the ultimate proof of how males view sex. They could literally be planning to murder you, but still be willing to use you as a fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:41 PM
9

Exactly. Now who's gonna let them know lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:36 PM
53

I remember reading an article that detailed that night and it said that he had sex with her literally minutes before he murdered her. The pinnacle of male depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:27 AM
3

My NVM hall of fame is home to Aries, Pisces, Scorpio, and Virgo. Aquarius are hit or miss. Ironically despite what everyone said in the other thread, the only HVM I've ever been with was a Leo. (Though I also had a Leo ex boss who was a malignant narcissist)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:19 AM
115

Rubbing anywhere and saying "my ex would've cum ten times by now"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:12 AM
2

This is my favorite one lmao between the bottom two pics and the moody guy at the top I was dying at work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:39 AM
97

It always comes back to them trying to force us to do what we don't want to do. That's what they get off on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:22 PM
3

That's exactly what they're getting at. I found the psycho on Instagram a few years later and saw that he appeared to have married someone, had two kids, joined the military and moved away. On the one hand I felt relief because I was certain he'd forgotten me, but on the other hand sorrow for them because he is completely mentally unstable and one of his pictures is of a gun, and I have to wonder if it's only a matter of time before they all become a murder suicide. He might post all these cutes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:37 PM
7

Right?? Like, I'm just gonna ignore you for a week, but you better be clutching your phone waiting for my next message. Loser. The cherry on the cake is he's ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:14 PM
12

One time this NVM who was trying to breadcrumb me lectured me for taking three hours to respond to his text. I had a good laugh lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:37 PM
2

Queen, you are not a placeholder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:34 PM
5

I screamed lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:30 PM
4

Hi Captain Buttflex, thanks for letting us know about your mediocre salary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:28 PM
6

yes girl that's all my Virgo self saw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:24 PM
19

Mine would send me the nudes he claimed he deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:21 PM
5

Sis, I can relate. I once got involved with this psycho NVM who honestly I am lucky he didn't end up beating me or killing me or giving me HIV. When I finally ended it he wouldn't leave me alone and would contact me from different phone numbers, and this was back when you had to pay extra per month to be able to block numbers. He was a valet at my workplace (puke - I'm sorry but from what I've seen, only losers who literally can't get anything else have this job) who barely spoke english, and hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:19 PM
6

His dick must be tiny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:09 PM
2

Just some food for thought. I once had a fling with this psycho NVM, and when I was finally done with him, I would insult him in the worst ways possible, I mean really, seriously personalized insults dragging him, his family, his background, everything and anything I could think of. He still wouldn't leave me alone. Finally I realized that I couldn't even come up with anything worse to say, and these things weren't affecting him like I thought they would. When he proceeded to send me an unexpect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:08 PM
31

YoU'Re ReaLLy sEnsiTiVe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:58 PM
4

When I opened this and saw the pic, I just shook my head lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:19 PM
5

Wait so he's not a simp or a 50/50 type guy, but he wants her to pay half of his rent? Sounds like all the estrogen in his system corroded his critical thinking skills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:17 PM
3

I'm glad he's an ex! We don't need men in our lives insinuating we're second third or fourth best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:42 PM
12

Both of my parents are LV and I feel like I was far more affected and damaged by my mother. I still got damage from my father though. He was an alcoholic and when he was sober he was very doting, affectionate and gave me whatever I wanted. Like if he saw I liked a particular ice cream from the ice cream man, he would fill the freezer with it. That sort of thing, like he really loved making me happy. But then when he wanted to go out and get wasted, he would leave me at home bawling (I was always…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:27 AM
11

Exactly. They want you to think oh he's so aware of what his problems are, so he wants to fix it and he knows exactly what to address. The reality is he has zero interest in fixing anything and is hoping that your ingesting this little Hallmark moment means you know what's wrong with him and are wiling to put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:49 AM
25

I can totally relate and I just wanted to say you have every right to feel the way you do and never, ever let anyone convince you to lower your standards. Not even a therapist. They really can be hit or miss, and in the event you get one that seems to think porn is no big deal, drop them immediately and find another one. Don't just assume oh so and so is a therapist so they must be right. There are bad therapists out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:40 AM
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Like, I may have tolerated various fuckshit from LVM/NVM but I never have had this done to me, fortunately (more so for them). The payback would be utterly nuclear. I'm not sure why more women don't instantly do the same. Scrotes never understand until it's done to them - and make sure you add interest!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:26 AM
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I don't know about you, but masturbating and imagining fucking that person as you stare at their images isn't "just looking". Anyone who tries to make it sound so innocent and benign can fuck right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:09 AM
18

This should honestly be the instant go-to response. Make sure they're a completely different "look" from the scrote as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:07 AM
2

LOL oh I am so jealous! Lemme go degrade myself until I get picked. I'm sure a scrote who can tell I don't have a crumb of self respect would make an excellent husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:55 PM
1

Oh I can only imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 11:49 PM
13

Thank you for calling this out. I wasn't even aware that was going on, ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:45 PM
43

Exactly, if I had a dime for every time I've read a story where the polyamorist still gets cheated on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:43 PM
91

Hurrrrr wE cHecK oUt GiRLs tOgEtHeR!!!!111one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:09 PM
6

Likewise and I'm always happy when I see posts that give me GC vibes. Good to see you here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:02 PM
7

Facts, sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:57 PM
37

You caught yourself Queen! Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:11 PM
5

I cackled lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:11 PM
28

I love that title. That's what they're ultimately after, because to them your insecurity = their control over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:09 PM
14

That's literally so degenerate I don't understand how it exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:04 PM
14

Would you happen to have been a r/gendercritical member? I used to read that sub all the time and I seriously side eye the fact that it's gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:02 PM
14

I have seen "Kevin" used often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:57 PM
22

Didn't something like that just happen in California? Something about rapists and their victims being within 10 years of age to themselves. It's nauseating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:16 PM
2

Alas, some people are not ready to open their eyes just yet...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:14 PM
53

13 year age difference, color me shocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:50 PM
197

Yes please let us and the masses know you are a psychopath and future school shooter/serial killer. You'll be doing all of us a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:47 PM
2

As someone who was told I have my nose in the air by a LVM, I love that high maintenance one. He raged out because he thought Longhorn Steakhouse was some baller restaurant and actually warned me that it was expensive (knowing full well I made four times as much as he did anyway). Girl I clowned him so hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:42 PM
1

Yessss it's a lifesaver for anyone who has to deal with a narc or manipulator!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:26 PM
94

I cringe at how easily I used to do this (this was in like my early/mid-20's) and it's one of the top things I wish I knew all those years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:58 PM
80

Yup and this is how the perverts begin easing in the "new normal"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:52 PM
33

Important reminder to all. I see many posts claiming that the guy is HVM when they've only known him a few weeks. Sis, that is not nearly enough time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:21 PM
30

Off the bait sounds like a variation of a neg. If it leaves you feeling confused and off balance, it's highly likely it was intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:06 PM
2

Imagine creating a fake account just to do this. Talk about pressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:01 PM
2

No, thank you! It's super brilliant and was so helpful to me as I so easily would get sucked into these useless confrontations, sometimes literally for hours. Definitely a life changer :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:59 PM
15

Thanks for the links! Women Have the Trump Card is a must read - that's the one I had copied and pasted to re-read over and over again. I've curled up in bed to check out the ones I haven't read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:49 AM
5

I've contemplated the permanence of it. I remember when I was utterly addicted to feeling infatuated and in love with someone. Now I can't imagine anything more horrific. I never want to feel anything like that ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:11 AM
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If you're over it and intend to never look back, there is no need for any departing message. If you feel the need for one, you may be looking at blocking as a sort of passive aggressive tactic to make him act right. Otherwise, just do it. You might be surprised by how good it feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:57 PM
51

I used to do this, until I discovered it slowly kills your soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:53 PM
140

His entire message to you was microdick energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:40 PM
8

Spot fucking on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:32 PM
3

What utter trash. He really thinks he'll get someone tripping all over themselves to win him over doesn't he? Scrotes who feel compelled to advertise themselves like this are so cringe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:31 PM
47

I had a psycho NVM (who needed up stalking me) admit this. Negative attention is still attention and they're more than happy to feed off your energy like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:18 AM
13

This reminds me of a super LVM I associated with for a short time. He was 51 and lived with other family members. He too refused to take me to his house (just to hook up after dates, it's not like I wanted to meet his family) and it was a whole problem that we fought over several times. He claimed the house had an addition with its own entrance, but the property appraiser website said otherwise. Honestly there were times I wondered if he actually was married or had a live in girlfriend or someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:16 AM
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Amen sis. They can be super nice, generous, be all us against the world, super supportive and empathetic with your problems. But let you disagree with them or criticize them or refuse to do something they want and a whole other face comes out. Total Jekyll and Hyde shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:07 AM
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is highly important and I feel it's easy to not think about the truth in this. It's when you have a major disagreement that the true colors come out. I found out several of my siblings are sleazy backstabbers precisely in this manner very recently. And it's the same with men and relationships. It's literally so easy to make yourself look good when everything is all fun and great and you're out sharing in things you have in common. This isn't nearly the entire picture. Very crucial to remember th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:28 AM
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As a statistician this hurts my soul :( I often tell people how easily statistics can be used to bend the truth, but I didn't imagine there would be an entire book on it. Anyway, good eye and definitely not a good sign!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:39 PM
54

Exactly, these days it's us Queens who need the prenups! So many dusty broke losers out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:43 AM
9

Also, nowadays, it's a guarantee that you won't even get to a date at all. I think some women do this and think it's an exciting natural progression of things, only to have the scrote totally lose interest afterwards. They'd literally rather jerk off to nudes than even actually hook up anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:28 AM
10

Amen sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:20 AM
101

The same guy will beat you into a coma for cheating on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:11 PM
677

LMAO I love this! Also, I kNow tHiS iS rAnDoM as if he wasn't obsessing about his perversions the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:09 PM
27

What a weirdo, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:29 PM
60

Ladies, ladies! I just got my first scrote PM from a superfan who would like to assure us he wouldn't mind at all because he is better than all these other insecure menz lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:59 PM
51

Naturally! And maybe I can photoshop his head onto some of them like that one scrote I read about on here did to his gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:09 PM
179

So if I want to look at loads of penises larger than my man's, what would men think that means I don't love or want him any less? :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:37 PM
10

I used to be a crush addict and I would idealize the guy and the potential relationship to death, like literally envision these fantastical scenarios that I had no way of knowing could even be true. Well, I learned my lesson back in 2008 when I made the first move on this guy I had a huge crush on. I had already decided what his personality was going to be like and everything. Well not only did it turn out he was much older than I thought he was, but he was a massive nerd!! And also the biggest …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:11 PM
18

"I'm giving them a chance to impress me" hahahah well he's certainly impressed me with the amount of estrogen in his body!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:55 PM
57

wHat aRe yOu wEariNg? wiThoUt mE??? Gawd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:01 PM
26

I love how you replied once, then let him write all that and blocked him lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:48 AM
9

This is hilarious because I love math and the amount of males I've encountered who can't even understand basic algebra is staggering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:42 AM
38

I've only encountered a couple of negs, both from the same NVM: After planning to meet up at his insistence, I playfully asked if he was looking forward to it and he told me he hoped he didn't forget lmao. (A day or two later he got on my nerves and I cancelled on him.) Another time, he told me that my bedroom wasn't "that big". Note that I live in a very nice house in an expensive suburb, whereas he lives in the garage of his parents' house (a single car garage at that) in a cheap area way out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:40 AM
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I haven't actually, thanks for the recommendations! I'm gonna arm myself with as much knowledge as I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:24 AM
15

Exactly. Snapchat and Kik are faves with cheaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:23 AM
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I feel like guys asking for snapchat is code for "I want nudes"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:22 PM
10

Damn, words of wisdom. I'm gonna memorize that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:20 PM
23

Yup, they'll take whatever you have to give, knowing full well they won't value you more for it, and knowing you think and hope they will. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:49 PM
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Exactly. Their egos are black holes of worthlessness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:55 PM
12

This!!! All you Queens and lurking Queens reading here, please adopt this very simple principle. If the guy isn't tripping over himself to get with you, send him packing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:37 PM
152

This was so me. I'm an overachiever, a people pleaser and a giver and it has gotten me nothing but exploited by the narcs I attract. The best is when they then hit you with the "well I didn't ask for you to do all that..." I am much happier now that I apply the principle of matching energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:39 PM
9

I created a new routine of watching level up/pep talk videos every single morning. My latest goal is regarding how easily I get sucked into the narc word salad and lose my temper. That is totally not queenly and I am working hard to level up on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:17 PM
4

Sadly I'm a part of this club. My clown self paid for the therapy as well! It literally was thousands of dollars, and for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:26 PM
6

I understand what it's like to feel like you're going in circles. Just try to remember that you're human and it can be really difficult to break free of old patterns that no longer serve us. Sadly there are some who never even wake up. You on the other hand sound like you're off to a great start to leveling up, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:43 PM
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Exactly, because they think so much of that is a woman's duty. Cooking, being beautiful and nurturing, that's just what we "do" so it isn't even a blip on their radar. Meanwhile males will expect a medal for not raping someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:36 PM
21

That makes me so sad, I'm sitting here watching this video wishing she was my girlfriend ffs. :( Also I hope that's her nice ass place and she kicked him clean into the next zip code.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:33 PM
10

Have you read the regret stories on the childfree subreddit? I've read more than one story where the woman was a fence sitter who had a baby to please her husband, only to have him cheat and leave her. Hell to the no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:26 PM
6

Lmaoooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:16 PM
11

This is a highly important principle. Stop letting males make you think you're crazy and hypersensitive. This makes me extra angry because growing up in a narc family, I was never allowed to feel anything negative - everything was just me being ridiculous. This led to LVM doing the same thing to me later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:16 PM
1

Oh ok. And meanwhile 1) you cook and he never does, 2) you keep the house neat as a pin and he never does, 3) you have to dress up in lingerie and give him sex with zero romance or foreplay from him when you don't even feel like it, and 4) you make more money than him. Hmmmm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:13 PM
2

Yes Queen! Whosoever commits to the tenets of FDS, is destined to ascend to previously unimagined levels of Queendom :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:34 AM
6

Yeah, see, we don't need males with that sort of audacity in our lives lol. A guy should look at you and be like "Damn, who is THAT? What do I need to do to get next to her??" It's difficult to reverse our old ways of thinking, but it can be done! There is a video I love by Breeny Lee on youtube called "how to: level up (mentally)", I highly suggest you watch it. Another one I love is by Love Your Natural called "The importance of having a Birkin bag mindset". Find similar videos and save them a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:00 AM
28

It's to the point where they even prefer to beat off to nudes than have actual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:45 AM
47

Not only that but they all want to be chased and courted like women. It's disgraceful, wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:40 AM
15

And make less than us to top it off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:18 AM
76

How feminized. Gross. Wtf is wrong with men these days?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:16 AM
6

Oh I hope you didn't read my post in a harsh tone lol. These things take time, and who understands better than us! When you wrote about agreeing with him about what you needed to work on, I could have written that. I was such a pickmeisha, I used to actually like when males would have the audacity to try to improve me like I was a fixer upper, telling me how I should dress, etc. I was totally masochistic. These days, I believe a suitor should be gagging to have you by their side and wouldn't tol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:12 AM
148

Imagine being so rapey and perverted that you think everything is about your dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:08 PM
81

I'm childfree and the horror stories I have read about women who have children with LVM are nightmare fuel. I can literally feel my heart rate speed up as I read them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:59 PM
14

This piece here: "he thinks we're close to being something really good that he can enthusiastically commit to, but he "needs more time" to fully commit because there are some things about me he doesn't like, and he wants to see whether things will get better with time" Ideally you will get to the point where if a male dared say something like that to you, you would laugh in his face and instantly cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:51 PM
1

Omg that is excellent. And I LOVE me some Pvt. Vasquez! Between the two of them and Queen Xeno who tears her own abdomen off to go on a rampage, that movie is the ultimate Queen Sh*t flair lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:41 PM
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I witnessed this. This LVM got dumped by his gf and was moping about it, acting heartbroken. They get back together, maybe 5 months later he dumped her and went around bragging that she was stalking him and begging him to take her back. He strung her along for a few more months until she finally had enough. Should've left him in the dirt the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:25 PM
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Well, I guess he definitely lived up to the stereotype about psychologists being insane!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:53 PM
4

I saw that much later and my virgo sensibility was in shambles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:46 PM
1

I read a post on here once where someone had linked to another post where some scrote had revealed why they ask for nudes when there's loads of free porn, something about procuring nudes from someone who doesn't really want to give them. I had a NVM try that with me once, he claimed he was asking for them because he didn't like porn. Yeah, ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:44 PM
2

Yessss Xeno fans unite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:41 PM
16

I've read about those! It would be my worst nightmare to come across one of those narcs who have learned psychotherapy terms and concepts. In fact that's why they say not to go to couple's counseling with a narc or try to talk to them about narcissism and the abuse cycle - they just learn the terms and stuff so they can manipulate you better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:42 AM
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I think the pickle's believe it makes them super cool and immune to being cheated on. Next thing you know they're crying on r/survivinginfidelity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:55 PM
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It's the gift that keeps on giving :( My mother the narc queen seems absolutely lovely to others, regular demeanor, nothing out of the ordinary. In fact, her niece recently wrote to her to complain about her mother (my mom's sister) whom she believes to be a narc. How's that for irony??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:24 PM
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Interestingly, the ones I attracted were very happy go lucky, clownish types who were always making jokes, very natural "nice guy" types that your family loves. Meanwhile the anger issues behind those masks are utterly insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:21 PM
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Exactly. They only want you to want them and pine for them as they reject you for anything other than sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:30 PM
9

I just wanted to comment that I used to be one of those women who had zero qualms about making the first move and all the way up until about 13 years ago, it always went fine. Things are very different now, I don't know if it's the dating apps or just the passage of time, but male attitudes have changed. Just say no to initiating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:22 PM
15

That's the Queen though lmao (sorry, I'm an Aliens nerd).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:16 PM
10

My mother was like this and all of my sisters ended up just like her, with leech LVM attached to them. I used to have tendencies but thankfully evolved out of them many years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:14 PM
56

Great post. I love the "career change" term! I grew up in a narc family and am a narc magnet. I think it's also an important reminder that narcs operate on a spectrum and won't always act like the classic stereotype. Personally I think covert narcs are the absolute worst, they are very insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:09 PM
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I am rather small and have tightening due to my pelvic muscles and still recovering from horrific, severe atrophic vaginitis I got from being on the pill for 20 years so a huge one is a hell no from me. Length maybe 7" is ok but no mega girth. I don't like big balls. I do love a full bush, I like how it looks and it also feels nice. When I see that trimmed down/shaved bush on a guy I feel like it just screams fuckboy. And I prefer a cut dick to be on the safe side. Uncut feels nice but half of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:49 PM
20

So cute!!!! I too have a furry HVM, my big chonker tuxie cat. He curls up on my chest and literally wraps his arm around my chest or hugs my arm and lays his head on my chest. It's the best and sweetest thing ever. There is nothing like the pure love these sweet babies have to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:25 PM
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This reminds me of a cherished story: my first real bf as a teen (and you know how even then you think you're gonna marry your bf) was a LVM and I was devastated when he dumped me. It took months for me to start getting over it. About six years later, I was walking through the mall with an attractive FWB I had at the time, when I noticed these two guys walking in the opposite direction towards us. I found myself staring at them because there was something familiar that I couldn't figure out. Jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:16 PM
92

The NPC face made me laugh lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:32 PM
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It is. It makes me sad when I really start thinking about it, like why would a significant other want you to believe they desire all these other people? It's quite cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:31 PM
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Any male who intentionally tells you sexual things about other women is not one you want anything to do with. He sounds like a miserably insecure person who wants you to think he has loads of options and is only not cheating on you by virtue of his glorious mercy. A man should be making it crystal clear the only one he has a thing for is you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:00 PM
8

Right? Like thanks for making it clear you're a porn addict with a numb dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:54 PM
9

100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:54 PM
11

Omg haha that reminds me of this LVM who was livid I wouldn't sleep with him and always tried advertise himself as some sex god (spoiler: he was ugly and had a body count of maybe 2), he would imply things like women want to be fucked for hours on end. I had fun setting him straight lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:14 AM
17

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:53 PM
23

Honestly, it seems pretty obvious to me that these males want female genitalia that look as childlike/baby-like as possible. Truly sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:47 PM
17

I've seen it on instagram multiple times and it's the saddest thing ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:45 PM
51

I always get a kick out of the ones who say they made their ex cum 35 times in one night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:44 PM
109

They know, they just don't care! Also the brilliant handbook entry regarding refusing to engage in conflict with men because there's no way to win. Simply brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:45 PM
78

I just wanna know why you didn't excuse yourself to the bathroom, and then just never come back lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:43 PM
41

Omg omg omg. Like when some loser posts a meme of a roast beef sub, and all the pickmeishas swarm the comments laughing and calling it gross and proclaiming they have an "innie"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:36 PM
47

I had a former coworker who said she did that for her husband (she already had a teenage daughter from when she was younger). Like it's one thing to want to have a child with your husband, but she actually phrased it like that, like she had another kid for him. I was mentally like...ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:34 PM
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I feel disgusted when a man expects me to have his child when I make more money than him and he doesn't make nearly enough to support a family in a life of comfort. I'm just gonna leave it at that before my blood pressure goes up lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:31 PM
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Healing is a gradual process, and it takes a long time and a lot of introspection, sometimes you even self sabotage and move backwards as well. Sometimes we hit a very low point before we really wake up. I put up with literal decades of emotional abuse before I finally reached my breaking point, so you're definitely not alone. As someone with a very colorful past, let me just say it's never too late to become the woman you want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:34 PM
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He sounds like the Stephen King of triangulation, what the hell :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:15 PM
7

Yes! Came here to say this!! I'm bookmarking this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:11 PM
18

There's a special VIP section in hell for males like this. Just think, he probably thought she sobbed the first time because she was so overwhelmed by his magical dick. Makes my skin crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:52 PM
9

Feeling forced to explain something a million times until you lose your patience, and then being punished for losing your patience, is totally DARVO. I lived through this for many years and I have zero patience for people who play this intentionally obtuse game. Always remember: they heard you the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:48 PM
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It's true, and if you listen closely, you will hear evidence of their generalized misogyny in the things they say. For example, I've heard a male say that if a woman has been in Playboy, then it's logical to assume she would be down for any sex act whatsoever. It's really sickening, rapey and depraved. Stay woke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:33 PM
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If you haven't read the handbook (check out the sidebar), I highly recommend you do. There are entries that I still read again and again. It along with the wisdom of others on the board are a priceless source of strength and clarity. Prepare for an amazing mindset shift :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:29 PM
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Queen, welcome home. You are absolutely not unreasonable or crazy at all and it sounds like you know you are right to enforce your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:12 AM
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Oh he had the audacity alright and even worse he could see that I was practically a child who didn't have the courage to call him out on it and had no idea how to stand up for myself. Total predatory loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:43 AM
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I just wanted to send hugs because I know how horrifying that is, a vet (a woman unfortunately) almost killed my cat who is my HVM chonker love of my life. It's horrifying when we know more than the vet and those days still haunt me often. I'm glad your dog is recovering safely in your care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:40 AM
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I'm a magnet for emotionally abusive Catholics/Christians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:06 AM
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Oh no Queen, you have to get out of there. That sort of behavior is unacceptable. I have only gone out with ONE male who did this, I was very very young and he was much older than me. He was super obvious and would even make comments under his breath sometimes. I feel so sad for myself looking back because I remember how bad it made me feel and the only reason I tolerated it for as long as I did (I finally ended up snapping on him about it) was because I was an extreme pickmeisha with zero self …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:02 AM
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Omg exactly!!! You could say the most civilized thing in a completely calm tone of voice and it's still "I feel attacked". And also the rephrasing things in their heads into this twisted extreme version of what you said. I just ended up concluding that the best course of action is to have zero interest in any sort of let's work things out attitude because that's what the leeches want: to watch you try to explain yourself in vain for the 10 billionth time struggling not to scream and cry the enti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:57 AM
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I live in a really expensive city which is why I am planning very carefully. I feel like that is the easiest way to fall into that trap. Glad you got out of there and got your freedom and power back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:49 AM
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One of the best things I learned on here: "I feel attacked" is DARVO. This was used on me so many times when I would call out something that I wasn't OK with, and I always fell for it. On the surface it sounds like they are trying to cOmMuNiCaTe but it's just disgusting manipulation. Next thing you know you are feeling guilty and apologizing to someone for making them feel bad about their abusive behavior. Never again. Like a wise Queen on here said, "yes you are being attacked because you're an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:01 AM
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I've seen this exact same meme but with the sexes reversed. I already can't stand fake memes but it's pathetic it would be sponsored by the actual company like it's funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:40 AM
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I mean honestly, some things should be shamed, end of story. Too bad if that upsets people. Imagine telling someone they have sexual hang ups when you like to be choked and spit on. I'd laugh in their face. Keep speaking the truth, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:48 AM
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Yes Queen! Keep leveling up!! Reflecting on your old self versus your new FDS Queen self feels so amazing doesn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:42 AM
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Everyone has provided great responses. You wouldn't have to ask a HVM for help around the house. And a real man should be embarrassed to leech off a woman, that is truly disgraceful. It sounds like you have trouble setting boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:50 PM
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Nasty triangulating bastard. I can only imagine what he thinks his poor wife is going to do to attempt to top his ex. Loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:10 PM
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Oooh I see now. Good to know, thanks for the explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:07 PM
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I don't bother replying directly to anyone, I just leave my comment under the meme, in the hopes that anyone who is having doubts that comes across it can find strength in knowing it's wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:06 PM
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I would've flaired this Queen Sh*t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:04 PM
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This is interesting, may I ask how the boss would attempt this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:00 PM
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They are looking for the low hanging fruit who will accept. They have nothing to lose by throwing out these suggestions to anyone who will give them the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:00 PM
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Every time I see a meme trying to make this sort of thing seem edgy and cool, I make sure to leave a comment calling out all the NVM and Pickmeishas supporting it. Idec if I'm the only one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 01:40 PM
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My definition of the ultimate financial independence is to own my own house. Years ago I already vowed that I would never ever end up in the position where I need a man to have a place to live. I already learned the hard way from my narc family what happens when you're at someone's financial mercy. I just made what should be my final balance transfer the other day, and by next fall I should finally be completely out of debt for the first time in many, many years. Then it's on to watching the mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 01:04 PM
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Thank you mods for all you do, and welcome all new mods! This is literally the most nurturing and empowering place for women online. May it produce infinite Queens as we all continue to level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:56 PM
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Hear hear! A toast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:36 PM
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Right?? That should never, ever be deemed normal. We must learn to identify these dangerous "jokes" and immediately remove ourselves from the lives of those who make them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:52 PM
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Ikr!! The entire time I was scrolling I was like please, please don't finish with "I don't know what to do" but lo and behold, it did like it always does. The only appropriate response to this would have been to kick him out instantly and possibly call the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:52 PM
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Speaking only for myself, I don't care if I saw it happen or not, I take that as infidelity and that's it, the end. I can't even imagine the horror you endured witnessing it. The people who say get over it and all men do it are lowlives whose opinions don't warrant a second thought. What matter is how you feel and you don't deserve to spend your life being someone's parole officer or stuffing hurtful things in the back of your mind and pretend they're not happening, wtf sort of life is that? Wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:49 PM
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Yes I saw that one! The caption about him actually hiding behind her was fire lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:53 PM
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That's so messed up. I swear if guys aren't sociopaths already, they definitely are where their dicks are involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:46 PM
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Yup. One of the best mantras I learned on here: they know, they just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:15 PM
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I occasionally read it and it obliterates any sort of bad day I'm having. The stuff I've seen on there is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:00 PM
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Truer words have never been spoken. One time I read a story from a woman who was heartbroken because her scrote was a closeted furry or something and was sexually obsessed with some stuffed animal husky they had, and would have it in the bed and pretend they were having a threesome with it. I don't remember if they were married but it seems in so many of these horror stories the woman is married to the psycho and either has children with him or is pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:59 PM
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I needed to see this, for all the times I went through with it when I completely didn't feel like it and he didn't even care. It's disgusting and I never will be used as a human fleshlight ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:55 PM
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Exactly. It made me think of how rival male lions kill the cubs of the lioness they want to mate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:51 PM
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Right!! Total murder suicide vibes. He probably proposed to her to feel like he owned her and it still wasn't enough, he wants to immediately fill the nest with his offspring like a cuckoo bird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:50 PM
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So the finance literally views her son as a rival male, tries to cut her arm open with a box cutter like something out of a horror movie, and she wraps all of this up with "I love him dearly and I don't know what to do". Assuming this is a true story, the absolute lack of self worth some people have is seriously depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:25 PM
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He is absolutely, 100% jealous of and intimidated by you. I'm not sure how he wasn't mortified about making it so obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:15 PM
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This movie is absolutely brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:10 PM
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You don't have to be in a relationship to already how how to behave like a decent human being. These guys and their lines crack me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:19 PM
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You know, I tend to read stories like this and think if that was me, I'd be in jail. But that is precisely my biggest un-Queenliness trait that I am eliminating. They want that! All the screaming, crying, and humiliating yourself, as the delicious proof of all the control they have over you. The ultimate victory is when you can just cut them off stone cold. They can't take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:52 PM
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I saw some twitter post that said list 5 perfect movies and in the reply of this NVM I (distantly) know, 4 out of the 5 movies were animated. He's also a gamer and is obsessed with anime. He's in his early 20's and I still think this is very childish. When I was that age, guys my age weren't into stuff like that and would have been mortified to present themselves like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:43 PM
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This is literally nightmare fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:34 PM
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Yes!! Don't become me. Please! And if a guy in't making more or less what you do, just stay away. Honestly, nothing good comes of this. I used to think just like you and it absolutely did not serve me well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:05 PM
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Nice negs, loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:02 PM
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Talk about projection!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:33 PM
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Thank you. I wish I could say it's not because I lived it for years. But I am resurrecting, like a phoenix!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:32 AM
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My father was a deadbeat absentee alcoholic father who lived in another country my entire life. When he was sober, he was an adoring father. But he didn't care how terrified I was that he was going to get himself killed driving drunk one day and would go out to get wasted anyway despite me crying hysterically. I grew up hearing my entire life that I would end up with an alcoholic just like him so I was hyper vigilant about it, oblivious to the fact that my mother was the OG narc fuckboy in my li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:47 AM
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Facts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:41 PM
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This is all me, I lived this. I grew up in a wealthy narc family and got pretty much everything I wanted and even things I didn't necessarily want (like private school), my mom triangulated me against my siblings who hated me for it, and it felt like she hated me half the time as well. As a result, as an adult I don't feel comfortable having someone spoil me and spend lots of money on me. My justification became that I have led a privileged life, I make my own good money, I can buy myself whatev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:50 PM
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Oh I can tell you - he'll expect you to have a baby, do 95% of the childcare, and still work full time because he can't support you and your child together with his miserable salary. That seems to be the norm these days and it's shameful and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:38 PM
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I need to work on forgiving myself also. I am a perfectionist and extremely self critical, and I have been hindering myself in this manner. I will meditate on this over the weekend. Thanks for your words of wisdom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 06:06 PM
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Same here, both guys I have been involved with who were considerably shorter than I am were evil and abusive. Isn't it known they tend to have Napoleon complexes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:30 PM
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Truth hurts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:13 PM
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And he'll still cheat on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:11 PM
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Then once they have her, shaming her for wanting male attention and accusing her of cheating non stop in the hopes of turning her into an empty shell they can control forever. BTDT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:09 PM
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I'm like twice your age and still working on overriding all that programming, but it can be done. It's an active effort every day and it gets easier with time and as you start accomplishing your goals. Develop tunnel vision for your dreams and don't let anything stop you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:06 PM
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I grew up in a family of narcissists that had me believing I was Satan incarnate for most of my life. Guess what, they're wrong! And yours is wrong too. Every time their messages replay in your mind, say YOU'RE WRONG. It was when I defeated that, that I was really able to start turning things around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:43 AM
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First, let me just say don't blame yourself. I can assure you he could tell you were shy before he even spoke to you. There are so many guys who are validation junkies and just want a harem of admirers (I know one at work). This should irritate you more than anything else. There is an entry in the handbook about crushes, where I read "crushes are a form of self harm" - as a former crush lover I never forgot that. Read the handbook and get ready to level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:34 AM
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I just want to comment that truly, 100% believing you are a Queen down to your core and living it can be really difficult. Even if you embrace all the principles, sometimes you're just so hurt from so many things, narc abuse, programming, that deep down, you don't think it's true. That has been me. I realized that's why I have permitted so much awful treatment. That era has ended though. I am under new management!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:21 AM
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I second all of this, read the handbook and read the posts here every day. There is so much great material and you need to be ingesting it regularly until the mindset sticks. There are some great level up videos on youtube as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:59 PM
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I think this is setting a bad precedent. You are literally in the very beginning of this relationship. Do not let this inequality of effort continue for one more second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:46 PM
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Read whatever you can find about the trauma bond. It is definitely helping me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:26 PM
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Not only block but make them completely invisible from then on. As I read on here, you shouldn't humor and talk to people who disrespect you, and I 100% agree. It's amazing how these people will still try to come up to you and act like everything is peachy. Their only motivation (apart from trying to re-hook you) is to ease their consciences for their low life behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:01 PM
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This has got to be written by a degenerate male troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:10 AM
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As a statistician, I can tell you that it's extremely easy to make these things fit an agenda of choosing, and I'll leave it at that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:25 AM
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Same here, I tried it all, versed in every single way I could think of. One of the best principles to never forget: they know, they just don't care!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:07 AM
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Good on you that you didn't send it. Some people thrive on negative attention, the very fact that they could get you to spend the energy writing all that out is proof to them of their control over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:47 PM
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After utterly humiliating me for my past, narc wanted me to dress up in lingerie and heels for him - like to the point where it caused huge fights where he acted like it was the end of the world if I didn't (spoiler: I didn't). Ironically I don't like wearing anything under my clothes because it's so uncomfortable, which I thought is like such a stereotype of something that would drive men crazy. But I'm pretty sure the point was he desperately wanted anything that i didn't. Thanks to FDS, I kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:11 PM
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Seeing stuff like this literally makes me cry. It has literally become foreign to me that a man could be this thoughtful and kind. I can't wait for the day I am living this and not crying and watching rom the outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:15 PM
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Thanks so much for your kind words. I like your ideas and it's my goal to do that as well. I remember when I mentioned some time back that I really wanted to make friends who were into the same music I was, he was horrified. They really hate for us to have identities don't they. I like that you called it being burnt out because that's exactly what it feels like. That's what I'm trying to get past, to recapture the person I once was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:08 PM
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