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| 1 | If my GF found someone better, why WOULDN'T she leave meHa wow this is old. I'm not in that relationship anymore it ended about 2 yrs after I made this post during COVID. Overall it ran its course and we had different long-term goals, communication broke down, attraction stopped but it was a difficult decision. Had 1 longer toxic and 1 shorter relationship since then. Now in a different more stable relationship with someone who is more compatible and about to celebrate 1 year together and are moving in together. I also moved to different part of the … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/05/26 03:16 AM |
| 6 | Women can get away with making social mistakes way much more than a man can.🤷♀️ | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/20 01:27 PM |
| 7 | Women can get away with making social mistakes way much more than a man can.R/purplepilldebate is the sub you're looking for then. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/04/20 01:24 PM |
| 31 | Why some PUAs believe their method works on all women despite some rejections they've been experienced?Because "x technique works on all women" sounds and sells a lot better than "x technique works once in a while on only certain types of people in certain circumstances." PUAs aren't around to help anyone. They are around to sell a product. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/01/20 08:53 AM |
| 2 | What does monogamy offer that serial monogamy does not?Maybe you should be looking at poly relationships? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/19 12:00 AM |
| 31 | Why being yourself works for women.I think you're confusing "approached" with harassed/catcalled. Being screamed at out of the window of a truck does not qualify as an "approach". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/19 06:22 PM |
| 2 | The saying, “I prefer you with no makeup on” or “I prefer girls with no make-up”context lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/19 05:06 AM |
| 1 | What does a man in his 30s have to gain from dating a woman in her 30s versus dating a woman in her 20s?Stigma and outcasting is an important social tool. You can do whatever you like and deal with the consequences in your social circle. There's a reason people look down on relationships with a huge age gap, because it's easier for the older person to take advantage of the younger person in many cases (Or for "gold diggers" for the younger to take advantage of the older.) It's unlikely that one, the other, or both don't have some kind of ulterior motives if genuine connection is unlikely. Going ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 05:14 PM |
| 1 | What does a man in his 30s have to gain from dating a woman in her 30s versus dating a woman in her 20s?It isn't just about social approvals. The reasoning behind those social approvals/disapprovals is a difference in power dynamic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 05:00 PM |
| 1 | What does a man in his 30s have to gain from dating a woman in her 30s versus dating a woman in her 20s?Username checks out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 04:25 PM |
| 4 | The saying, “I prefer you with no makeup on” or “I prefer girls with no make-up”My skin will always look like it never touches sunlight because I wear SPF 30+ every damn day, even in the Northeast winter. This is how women prevent premature aging, which you probably aren't a fan of either. So what do you want exactly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 02:23 AM |
| 3 | What does a man in his 30s have to gain from dating a woman in her 30s versus dating a woman in her 20s?Having a partner in the same stage of life as you with closer aligned priorities, financial situation etc. Depending on the age gap it might not even be that big of a deal. 26 and 32? NBD. 21 and 37? A little skeevy; he could technically be her dad and probably has nothing in common with her. Just because it's legal doesn't make it socially acceptable to everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Options other than AF or BB?I feel like this is just ... Most men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Attention all women: Give your husband/boyfriend the greatest gift this new yearWhat if I already told him to and he doesn't want to :( | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/19 05:42 AM |
| 1 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?I fail to see how anything in this comment relates directly to OP's post or my comment. If you want to bring this into a wider context you'll have to fill in some missing points. There was nothing stated about alpha males, toxic masculinity, or spouting sexism in either. (As far as my supervisor, he had a long military career before coming to the company we work for so a shift in communication style due to the different context is warranted.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/18 02:24 AM |
| 2 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?Nope, I addressed that by way of example in the second half of my first point. In my opinion, anyone who has a genuine desire to improve themselves is capable of identifying their own weaknesses. We all have blind spots, but even OP points out that he saw how much his preference for brutal honesty for alienating people. He didn't say his wife pointed it out; he said she helped him fix the problem by sharing her opinions and helping him find a better way to communicate and asked why more women do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/18 10:31 PM |
| 2 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?What is the relevance of this statement to this thread? Nothing in OPs post mentioned 'interactions with undesirable men' or protecting women from anything, it is a post about communication style. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/18 09:27 PM |
| 2 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?Ok so what is your actual point here other than to refute? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/18 05:59 PM |
| 3 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?I definitely agree. I find that in the business world in particular some of the communication styles that help men to get ahead are perceived BY women as off-putting and aggressive in, and also perceived IN women as bitchy by both genders. I think it's on both genders to make these observations and adjust to communicating in a way that their audience, men women or both, can understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/18 05:03 AM |
| 4 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?I don't completely disagree with you but do find it ironic that your post suggests that women ought only to be the ones to alter their communication style whereas my reading of this post was that women should spend their energy teaching men to be empathetic and resisting their own conditioning to comfort men and not make them uncomfortable. As I stated in my post I disagree with the whole notion that women are naturally more empathetic communicators than men. This might be the case frequently bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/18 04:24 AM |
| 13 | If feminists and women say they want men to change, why not help men to communicate empathically?First, it isn't womens' jobs to teach men to be empathetic. If some men (or women, or anybody for that matter) need to be more empathetic to the point where their directness is causing social issues, it is their own problem to solve. I have had a male supervisor at least 20 years older than me express awareness that his lack of diplomacy, as he put it, was a challenge to overcome in the workplace. He didn't need a woman to tell him this. Second, women are not always more 'empathetic' than men. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/18 03:43 AM |
| 4 | What's up with your taste in men?Responding to 4) because my first thought in response to this thread was that not all men find the same women attractive either. Sure there are general signals of attractiveness and health but some men like short women, some like tall women, some like more curves and some prefer a petite frame, some like redheads and others brunettes or blondes. I happen to be small/short and when I had a pixie cut I got a fuckton of male attention from specific people because I looked tiny and cute to men who a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/18 05:07 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you feel you have "life on easy mode" and "everything is handed to you" because of your gender as the manosphere claims?Not really, but there is no way for me to gauge what would be different about my life if I had gone about things the same way but had been a man. I've had plenty of struggles my boyfriend supported me through financially. However, he comes from an UMC family whereas I come from poverty and never had parents who paid for things for me or supported me financially. Had the roles been reversed, maybe it wouldn't be this way. At the same time his sister has supported her boyfriend through financial s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/18 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Psychopathy and being Red pillBlue-leaning purple ; I got 1.8 and 1.7. Not very psychopathic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/18 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: What do you make of cultural differences between how women behave towards men?I'm mixed Mexican/white but grew up in southern California so I always identified much more with my Mexican side because I got so used to their cultural norms, even though living in the Northeast for the past 7 years has made me pale af so no one thinks I am anything other than white. There are big differences in how you are treated as a guest in both cultures (at least this is what I experienced as a child). Mexican families will just let you come over whenever and hang around unannounced, give… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/18 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?Yeah I realize what I said here mostly applies to white collar work. I worked housekeeping at a hotel for a summer in college and in those type jobs where everyone wears a literal uniform what I said doesn't apply. I had assumed this was not really what OP was getting at though because in those cases it's already kind of a non-issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/18 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?I mean, you might think it will but I really doubt it. Gender dynamics aren't the only thing changing about the workplace and imo the shift towards more casual dress, greater autonomy and flexibility, and remote work will trump anything companies try to do about the way women dress. There's a much bigger picture at play here when it comes to workplace evolution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/18 01:34 AM |
| 6 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?Such as which companies? I don't doubt it but I haven't personally heard of anything like this and doubt it's the norm outside of silicon valley and maybe NYC. I don't necessarily agree that stricter dress codes are the logical next step. Enforcing a strict dress policy isn't a good way to build morale among educated employees that companies are vying for in this job market (which is a totally separate issue). Younger male and female employees prefer flexibility and autonomy in their work and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/18 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?For a woman, a "suit" can include a pantsuit or skirt suit, or even a dress and blazer and with any of these probably heels. Agreed it is pretty close to what people already wear so I'm not sure exactly what you would want changed then. To my knowledge, ties aren't made for women though. Edit: a word | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/18 01:03 AM |
| 6 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?Sounds like something straight out of 1984...I can't imagine any company worth working for would be able to mandate a "modest unsexy uniform" with any success. Personally, I'd be running for the hills if I found out a company I was interviewing with mandated something like this. The closes thing I can think of is a fast food uniform lol. Sorry but what you are saying just sounds like incel fanfiction not an honest question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/18 12:54 AM |
| 17 | Q4All: Should there be stricter and more gender neutral dresscodes in the workplace?In the past it's been more common for women to be *required* to wear heels and skirts/dresses for work. Not doing so would have been considered unprofessional and unpresentable for them. Some women still have to wear heels at work such as flight attendants. I doubt our culture will move in the opposite direction by requiring women not to dress up for any reason. As far as what would be considered "immodest," it's not easy to come up with a consensus on what is appropriate or inappropriate. It'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/18 11:19 AM |
| 3 | Why are girls so off about height? Does this confirm that most women do only look at tall men?I suspect average height in India is brought down significantly bc of nutrition. With a significant poverty, the population there is probably not reaching the height on average that their genetics would allow, whereas in the US they would more likely to achieve their full height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/18 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Why are girls so off about height? Does this confirm that most women do only look at tall men?I don't see the point in excluding them from the men you compare to as an average then. Unless you only talk to women that only date white dudes which is kinda screwed up. I know incels get hung up on race but ime asians, Indians and Hispanics all do ok in dating. Men who let their height affect their confidence are the ones who are fucked up because well... They aren't confident and it shows. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/18 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Why are girls so off about height? Does this confirm that most women do only look at tall men?I don't think that's true of all or even most white people. At least not in my experience. I guess I have lived in pretty diverse areas though but even so I know plenty of short white males... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/18 12:55 AM |
| 7 | Why are girls so off about height? Does this confirm that most women do only look at tall men?I don't get this are you saying that non-white men just don't count? Wtf? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/18 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Is club dancing inherently sexual?It's another form of validation-seeking. Just because a woman will let you grind on her doesn't mean she wants sex with you. This isn't to say it has "no sexual component." It means that to her it doesn't signal any kind of commitment or indicate that things will be taken any further. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/18 08:45 PM |
| 3 | Female privileageWhat evidence is there of higher all-cause mortality in men prior to modern medicine reducing the maternal mortality rate? Do you have any studies or evidence of this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/18 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Female privileageI never said that being born a woman meant being less or more safe than being born a man. I was responding to the comment that raising kids is a relatively easy and safe existence. Until recently, it was not. What does your comment have to do with this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/18 02:49 PM |
| 14 | Female privileageEven having kids was not a particularly safe choice until recently. Childbirth historically led to extremely high maternal mortality rates. The US still has very high maternal mortality rates compared to similarly developed countries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/18 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: What is the biggest counter-example you've seen in person against RP theory?What is the point of stating and basing a whole ideology on all women being merely *capable* of something? By that definition, AWALT is a tautology. I could just as easily say that all women are *capable* of of murdering their children and eating them. AWALT. In all seriousness, I think AWALT means a lot more to TRPers than what you're stating. I don't interpret it as the idea that all women are *capable* of cheating, but rather the idea that all women are *predispositioned* (or biologically pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/18 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: What is the biggest counter-example you've seen in person against RP theory?TIL I am not allowed to disagree with something. OK dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/18 02:10 AM |
| 8 | Q4ALL: What is the biggest counter-example you've seen in person against RP theory?That's totally fair if you acknowledge it, but it becomes ridiculous when RP makes sweeping generalizations about all women based off the girls they picked up in bars or found on Tinder. Those women are not representative of the entire gender and even among them there are differences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/18 01:59 PM |
| 10 | Q4ALL: What is the biggest counter-example you've seen in person against RP theory?Aha no. Top tier US University. Most people in my friend group were more focused on academics than sex (though we did drink plenty). And some did participate in the bar/clubbing/Greek scene but certainly not ALL as trp would have you believe. More fun to drink with friends than randoms at some frat party. Most of the sex in our social circle happened within relationships and not all of them were in relationships or had fwbs. Speaking for myself, most of the sex I've ever had was in the context o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/18 03:24 AM |
| 23 | Q4ALL: What is the biggest counter-example you've seen in person against RP theory?Most women I know don't behave in the way RP describes. I've had several female friends who were virgins into their mid-20s who were totally normal people, but relationships and sex weren't top priorities for them and they didn't sleep around or participate in the hookup scene. Not religious girls or anything either. The whole Cock Carousel thing doesn't really apply to my social group either. Many got married with their college boyfriends after graduating, are still dating long term partners, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/18 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Ex-MarriedRedPill here, is there any other sub I should check out?Lol I just mean this sub probably can't provide the best ideas. PurplePillDebate would likely be way more helpful providing resources/other sub ideas as there are a lot of members there who think more along the lines you're describing as far as agreeing with some RP ideas but not all of the toxicity that comes with it. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/18 10:28 PM |
| 4 | Ex-MarriedRedPill here, is there any other sub I should check out?I lean pretty "purple" I guess as far as pillsphere goes, but exrp is probably not the sub you're looking for if you still believe in concepts like "hamstering" and "shit tests." This sub is very against those kinds of things. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/18 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Ex-MarriedRedPill here, is there any other sub I should check out?What drew you to marriedredpill and what aspects of it did you find were helpful or interesting? And what do you mean by "heteronormative" exactly? I honestly get what you're trying to say with this question, but the way you've phrased it comes off as kinda gross. Almost like you're asking for a sub with the same kind of sexist ideas as mrp but toned down to be less openly offensive. Anyway, I would highly recommend the book "You Just Don't Understand" by Deborah Tannen as far as the kind of con… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/07/18 12:10 AM |
| 16 | Q4Women: How do you feel about The Wall and aging?Honestly why are you preoccupied with this? Skin loses elasticity as collagen breaks down. Activities that break down collagen can be avoided to prevent a lot of these issues although some of it is genetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/18 07:58 PM |
| 14 | Q4Women: How do you feel about The Wall and aging?I think losing youth/attractiveness will not be as important to some women as it is for others depending on whether it was ever important in the first place. For someone who places a lot of their value in physical beauty then sure it probably sucks. For most women I know, their identity is much more greatly tied to their accomplishments and other things they have to offer than in what they look like. The way "the wall" is discussed also makes it seems like a woman wakes up one morning and sudden… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/18 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Q2W: Have you ever felt enough physical attraction with someone to the point of starting a relationship with him only after a few days you first met him?The way you describe a relationship here is like a binding contract offer. It doesn't usually work that way. I would imagine that a lot of users here slept with or dated a really attractive rando that ended up being their SO long term. A ton probably slep with really attractive dudes that didn't end up becoming an LTR. I don't think there is always a clear defining moment where you decide to pursue an LTR or "accept an offer" as you put it. If I met some really attractive guy and started hanging… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/18 04:24 AM |
| 5 | If my GF found someone better, why WOULDN'T she leave meHoneymoon phase lasts 6 months to around two years after a relationship has begun depending on what source you refer to. Afterward, companionship rather than sexuality becomes more important and some of the "fire" or "passion" is gone from the relationship I guess. It's hard to imagine the difference until you have dated the same person for around 3 years. This is where a lot of couples break up because they are so used to the dopamine surges of a new relationship and think the problem is with t… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/18 08:30 PM |
| 10 | If my GF found someone better, why WOULDN'T she leave meThis isn't meant to offend- but at age 20, you aren't thinking clearly about what an LTR really means. You're probably in college and don't even know where both of you will end up in 2-3 years when you graduate. At 6 months into a relationship you're in full-on honeymoon phase where sexual attraction likely plays a major role in the relationship. In a mature, functional LTR there is a level of commitment that goes way beyond attractiveness/sex. Being compatible with someone means you have simila… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/06/18 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?Your post was about the impact of IQ on women's ability to perform in STEM fields. You can't backpedal and explain away that IQ statistics alone don't back up your point by claiming that after all it's about women's level of interest in those fields and that female interest in STEM is biologically determined. Women's preference for non-STEM fields is as easily, if not more easily explained by social factors as by ability or biological predetermination. The nature/nurture debate has been played o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/18 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?So your post should state that MORE men are able to advance in these fields than women. If IQ were the primary variable factor, theoretically then there should be a 2:1 ratio of men to women in the fields stated. The diagram shows differently- there is a significantly higher skew towards men in these fields meaning IQ is certainly not the only major influential factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/18 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?Your post was about IQ so let's stay on topic. According to the study you cited, the typical IQ advantage for men is .12d or 1.8 IQ points. That isn't enough of a difference to skew the gender split of college major choice very significantly. Certainly not moreso than other factors at play such as cultural influence, gendered parenting, and opportunities afforded to children of different genders. Do you have any studies that demonstrate just how many more men there are with IQs in the 125-130 ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/18 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?Excellent point as well. I was conceding OPs point regarding IQ and there is still a major logical flaw in his argument but this is all the other relevant info I didn't feel like typing out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/18 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?Yes. AVERAGE. Meaning HALF the grads are below that IQ. That was my whole point. There are going to be the above-average people (135+) who breeze through, the average kids that do OK, and the people at the lower end (115-ish) who still get their degrees with a bit more hard work. 120-130 is uncommon but not considered genius. 14% of the population has an IQ 115 or above. That's like 1 in 6 people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/18 01:46 AM |
| 9 | Are men and women really biologically the same intellectually?There seems to be a huge jump logical jump here from genius-level IQ ---> STEM grad. You don't need to be a genius to graduate with a STEM degree. Large swaths of the population graduate with STEM degrees all the time and they don't need to have 160+ IQs. In a major where the average IQ is in the 130s there are necessarily going to be a large number of individuals in those groups with much lower and more common IQs. A person with an IQ in range 115-120 might struggle more in engineering/cs/physi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/18 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Q4Women: How important is facial hair for attraction?I don't think it's particularly important. Personally I do not like long beards or much facial hair beyond stubble. Some women go nuts for beards. I like how my bf looks with a bit of scruff, but most of the time he doesn't groom his facial hair and it just grows into a neckbeard. Plus it scratches my face if I kiss him. It's 100% individual preference and maybe cultural or regional style variation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/18 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Is either gender more likely to be "Type A" or "Type B"?I think men and women express these preferences differently. I have known a few very Type-A men they were just a bit less neurotic and quieter about their preferences. You would have to pay careful attention to notice the Type-A traits. Type-A and Type-B aren't really scientific designations though and MBTI (while interesting) is not very reliable. AFAIK the only reliable personality metric system is Big 5. So maybe Type A/B would map onto conscientiousness or neuroticism. Edit: made words bette… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/18 06:54 AM |
| 3 | [Q4W] When was the last time you used your sexuality to gain somethingThis is why I can't make friends. People assume I am flirting -_- | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/18 09:56 PM |
| 7 | How can I stop obsessing over height? (WARNING: semi long post)I believe the average woman in the US is about 5'4 so assuming you live here, the average woman is 2" shorter than you. It sounds to me like this has gone beyond a typical insecurity and become a dysmorphia-like obsession. Ultimately it isn't your height that's the problem, it's your mind. Start by noticing these toxic thoughts, observing how they make you feel, what triggers them, and how you respond to them physically. Then work on training your brain to think about something else. My boyfrien… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/18 04:28 PM |
| 2 | [Q] how come its fine if a guy had sex and have high n count but if women have a high n count they got shame about it?I didn't mean choose as in choose whoever they want, I just meant that they have agency in the decision. The lock/key metaphor to me implies a lack of agency, like the woman was lured against her wishes or the man "won her over." That he did the work and she did nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/18 06:11 PM |
| 4 | [Q] how come its fine if a guy had sex and have high n count but if women have a high n count they got shame about it?Women can and do get turned down for casual sex or otherwise rejected. Men also choose and women can't assume that any random person would 100% have sex with them. Maybe the most attractive model-looking women could but that's not most women. They might be more likely to get random sex from a given person than a male would but 100% chance is an exaggeration. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/18 11:10 AM |
| 9 | [Q] how come its fine if a guy had sex and have high n count but if women have a high n count they got shame about it?Because not all women, especially sex-positive women, appreciate that their sexuality in this metaphor is reduced to some kind of product being exchanged or something "given" to men. There is an underlying assumption that women always want something more out of casual sex than simple fun or pleasure, and that somehow these women have been duped or tricked by the men they have slept with. Not always true. I haven't had much casual sex personally but a few close friends of mine have. None of those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/18 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Why are women more likely to feel "used" by sex?Men still do it. I've had it done to me a couple of times. I don't always think it's a conscious thing. I.e. I don't think most of these men are sitting around thinking to themselves "Let me act like I want to date her so she'll fuck me, then I'll move on." It's more the difference in how they treat you before/after sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/18 03:24 AM |
| 10 | Why do smarter people have fewer or no babies?I think the term you should be using here is 'educated' rather than 'smart' as this is most likely the factor examined in studies. Off the top of my head, a few things at play here: -People getting more education probably don't already have children. Many of the bright high-school students who get knocked up and pop out a baby at 17 thus get excluded from the group who would otherwise go to college. Children from more-educated or higher-income backgrounds in the first place are less likely to ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/18 03:06 AM |
| 6 | CMV: As long as women prefer masculine men as sexual partners, "Toxic masculinity" will never go away.Yeah I've seen weirdly robotic or on the other hand, guys who seem to have the emotional maturity of labrador puppies in that they have a few basic immediate emotions with nothing underneath... no long-term desires, hopes, regrets, or anything that adds depth. Just immediate responses to stimuli like "happy", "sad," and "angry" with no foundation or substance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/18 04:27 AM |
| 10 | CMV: As long as women prefer masculine men as sexual partners, "Toxic masculinity" will never go away.As a woman, I can tell you many therapists do this with women too. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don't think most therapists are worth shit. Just random people who studied psych. I have had better experiences with LCSWs. Anyway, I don't think stoic affect is always considered toxic. It becomes toxic if you're bottling up intense emotions and channeling that into unhealthy behaviors like drinking to excess. There's nothing toxic about being able to handle life's usual frustrations and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/18 03:23 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?I ought to read up on girl game. I've never really read much rpw theory or girl game. Any good resources? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 01:17 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?I get your point. I don't fully subscribe to the af/bb dichotomy of trp but yeah by their standards he's about as bb as you can get. Not sure what would help that. If we did end the relationship it wouldn't be just yet but if he never makes the effort it's well within my means. I would also have difficulty leaving the relationship though as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: Should marriage be made illegal?When most people say illegal they mean forbidden by law and that's what I think you meant here. What I'm saying is that it doesn't make sense because marriage itself is a legal entity. If anything it only makes sense to ask if marriage should be made a non-legal entity ,as in strictly performed and honored by, say, churches rather than the state. What you're saying is akin to asking whether stop signs or property taxes should be "made illegal." Technically possible but not at all likely that the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: Should marriage be made illegal?The whole premise of this question makes absolutely no sense. Marriage IS by definition a legal entity. If anything, the state could simply stop recognizing marriages or issuing marriage licenses. However, this would create a whole slew of issues related to healthcare decisions, legal guardianship of children, inheritance etc. which are many of the valid reasons people choose to get married in the first place. I don't think most of the population would WANT marriage to be stripped of its financi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 05:49 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?Thanks for your response. Honestly it's not so much about how he treats me though, I was really mostly addressing the sexual attraction part of the relationship. He treats me very well, has helped me financially when needed, and does more than his share around the house. My problems with him are mostly limited to lack of the self-improvement that would give us with a better sex life. I definitely understand what you mean about changing the person at their core but I think his problems are more b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 05:31 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?Oh absolutely. I know it's cliche af but he treated me very differently before and after the period where we were having sex. Once he was done with me he treated me like shit. Good riddance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/18 04:04 AM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?He wants the relationship to work. Eventually he will have to make the effort to improve upon himself and his efforts if he wants our sex life to be a certain way. I think eventually he will come around. Right now my dissatisfaction with him sexually makes him insecure, but rather than take that insecurity to motivate him to improve he shies away and mopes. That in turn increases my level of dissatisfaction. At some point he is going to have to look in the mirror to solve the problem instead of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 06:21 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?I think that things will improve with time. If they don't, it's definitely possible that I would leave him. Things haven't quite come to that point yet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 05:17 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?There's more than sex to the relationship. He has plenty of positive attributes. We get along well, have similar interests and goals, similar political viewpoints. I definitely consider him my best friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 04:50 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?Haha I don't mind. To be honest I'm not really sure why he has clung so hard to the relationship. Bear in mind this is someone who dated the same girl from ages 13-18 before breaking up with her and then immediately went into a relationship with me that has lasted several years.I don't honestly think he weighs his options when it comes to dating. He insists that he loves me very much, only wants to be with me, and is not interested in anyone else sexually or otherwise. Not sure why he's like thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 03:17 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?Yeah I do. There are a lot of other reasons I feel the relationship is worth maintaining and I think we will work through some of the sexual issues. I think at some point he will have to own up to how his behavior has impacted our sex life and it will get better from there. I also think if we get engaged we can talk through some of these things during premarital counseling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 02:18 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?Mr High N was a coworker I had something of a fling with. It was a bad time in my LTR because I was living elsewhere during the work week because my job was a bit too far for me to commute. The job I had was extremely stressful and I felt there was a major disconnect with where I felt I was in my life compared to my LTR. So I briefly broke things off and had a thing with this other guy. We only had sex maybe ~10 times before he decided he wasn't interested in an actual relationship for several r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Do BPers think women need relationships with men or do they think they're like fishes to a bicycle?This might be kind of out of left field, but my view is that women don't need men specifically but that in today's society it is beneficial to have a close relationship with someone for the sake of pooling resources and having someone to lean on in financial trouble that leaves both parties better off. I know plenty of couples who have taken turns supporting each other when one or the other got laid off. I also know other couples who have one person working to support them both while the other g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4WOMEN: Do you ever fear your boyfriend/husband?Purple leaning blue. Never at all. Nothing really "sets him off" as far as getting angry. He doesn't have much of a temper and if he does get angry he's the type to go cool off by himself for a bit rather than fly off the handle. He doesn't ever show "dominance" I would say. We have a pretty egalitarian relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 01:24 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] What is the positive case for a high N partner?I slept with a guy who had a 52 N-count (and kept a list, lol). Hands down best sex I've ever had. Other than him I slept with two virgins and I am only the second person to have slept with my LTR. High-N means you've had practice and know what you're doing. The virgins I've slept with had no idea what to even do and the act was mechanical. My LTR has only one other person who he did most of his learning/experimenting with, and never tried very hard to experiment with me or adapt to what gets me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 01:14 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W]For women in LTR, do you have fantasies involving other men? Fictional or real life men?In a lot of ways yes, but in a lot of ways no. I have faith that the relationship will improve with effort from both parties but sexually it's not where it needs to be for either of us right now. There are other things that make it worth working through and we still have sex at least once a week if not more so at least it isn't a dead bedroom situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 01:07 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W]For women in LTR, do you have fantasies involving other men? Fictional or real life men?In a lot of ways yes, but in a lot of ways no. I have faith that the relationship will improve with effort from both parties but sexually it's not where it needs to be for either of us right now. There are other things that make it worth working through and we still have sex at least once a week if not more so at least it isn't a dead bedroom situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/18 01:06 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W]For women in LTR, do you have fantasies involving other men? Fictional or real life men?I have quite a lot of fantasies involving other men, especially from work. I wouldn't act on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/18 03:31 AM |
| 5 | Q4MEN: Would you prefer validation even if it were dishonest?They just don't attach moral character to sexual activity like we do. I thought trp were the ones claiming sexual strategy is amoral. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/18 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Q4All: Why do so many men have such low self esteem about their looks or personality and what can we do to fix this?According to a quick Google search, Western men have greater self-esteem than women and similar self-esteem to women in many non-Western countries, so I don't really buy that this is a gendered issue. But to answer the question, I think the cause of low self-esteem in general is people comparing themselves to others and trying to attain impossible standards. By definition, most people are average and live average lives whether or not they want to admit it. If a man thinks he can only get laid if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/18 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4all: (1) do you use social media often? (2) do you do well in online dating?I scroll through a lot of social media daily, but don't post often. Normally Facebook, Instagram, and sometimes Tumblr. I really only post on Instagram if I'm doing something of interest like going to a concert or out with friends (so maybe once a month). I send Snapchats a few times a week but 90% of the time that's dumb stuff like sending my mom a snap of our cat chasing her tail or something. I have not used a ton of online dating, but have had no problem getting responses/dates almost immedi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/18 05:53 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The majority of red and blue pillers are unwilling to truly change their views because it would challenge their pre-existing mental schemas and create cognitive dissonance which would signify some oversight in the methodologies and patterns of their own thinking and consequent decisionsI think it depends on the person. I used to consider myself BP. After reading a decent amount of trp I'm not sure what I consider myself anymore. I co-opt a lot of their self-improvement advice such as to lift, read and educate myself, not to make excuses for failure etc (as a woman lol). And I don't think trp is wrong to view sexual interactions as a marketplace. Where I really differ is the viewpoint trp takes about the nature of women and their value. AWALT and traditional gender roles, women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/17 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Do you suffer from the imaginary Madonna--Whore Complex?Gangbangs make total sense. I guess I always thought of domination/humiliation and rougher sex as a relatively normal BDSM thing couples do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/17 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Do you suffer from the imaginary Madonna--Whore Complex?Right but I don't get why a lot of the sex acts themselves wouldn't be desirable with a partner. I guess I don't see acts themselves as "whorish" vs non-whorish? Seems totally possible to me that someone could be "dripping with sexuality" but also be loyal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/17 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Do you suffer from the imaginary Madonna--Whore Complex?sex acts they would rarely enjoy doing to their wives. What kind of sex acts are these? I don't understand a lot about porn or why men enjoy seeing things done to some women that they wouldn't even want to do in real life. Not a judgment at all just something I don't really get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/17 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What does spiritual attainment involve/about for women?Yeah I would say so actually, didn't think about them. I know almost nothing about Wicca in terms of what they really stand for morally/spiritually. I would say maybe that's a nature-focused kind of spirituality but I have no real idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/17 02:40 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What does spiritual attainment involve/about for women?Could be that men primarily started these ideas. I think it's entirely possible that women are excluded because men's ascetic ideas meant abstaining from sex and including women would be a source of temptation? No idea if that's historically accurate. I don't think there is a separate equivalent form of spirituality for women though. I'm drawn to a lot of Stoic moral/spiritual development despite the apparent marketing toward men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/17 07:45 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: What does spiritual attainment involve/about for women?I don't see how spiritual development as asceticism is really a gendered thing or why it would pertain primarily to males. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/17 03:11 PM |
| -1 | If women are as described in TRP, why are they even worth pursuing?This is just so remarkably sad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/17 05:13 AM |
| 6 | Q4BPW What are 3 things most women judge other women for, that isn't cheating or being unattractive, if they do judge others.Revealing clothing especially in inappropriate settings like work Acting differently around different people (e.g. acts airheaded around men) Bitchy/bad attitude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/17 03:11 PM |
| 1 | How many women feel the majority of their interactions with men are overall positive to neutral?I'm also 23 and female and have been in a liberal university environment. Wasn't judging your culture per se as that's also my culture (or rather, I was just judging a facet of my own culture). Sorry if I came off that way. I know what kind of articles you're discussing (at least some of them.) so my point in asking you to link specific examples was that perhaps when you look back at them individually, they might not so explicitly convey the exact message you recall. It might be more implicit, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/17 07:05 AM |
| 1 | How many women feel the majority of their interactions with men are overall positive to neutral?And my point is that what Buzzfeed and other click-bait type sources present to you as the attitude of a culture at large may not really be the attitude of the culture at large. This is just an example of an appeal to majority fallacy used in media to garner clicks. You don't know that the young women clicking the articles are relating to them, or like you are just reading them because supposedly "all women" feel this way. And yes I see what you are trying to do here and I think you have your an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/17 06:27 AM |
| 1 | How many women feel the majority of their interactions with men are overall positive to neutral?I'm seriously not going to go looking for articles to link. You can google your own if you're concerned about it. That was a rhetorical question. Point being, you won't find any. It's Buzzfeed, facebook, certain blogs, millennial culture. Article titles that say "all women can relate" or "all women have experienced". Memes with pithy phrases about the awfulness of men Exactly, these are not reliable sources. They are click bait designed to garner ad revenue through clicks, not to actually BE rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/17 05:51 AM |
| 2 | How many women feel the majority of their interactions with men are overall positive to neutral?99.999 percent of my interactions with men are neutral or positive. No one writes articles like "woman has mostly ok daily interactions with men" except the Onion. Just because you read about women being harassed and feeling unsafe doesn't mean you are being told to be harassed and unsafe. Can you link any articles that you feel are intended to make the audience think they are unusual for feeling comfortable with most men? If not it's probably all in your head. Value your own judgement, not what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/17 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: What are the best insights from PPD that you have ACTUALLY applied in your life?Confirmation bias could still easily be at play. The only legitimate way to truly refute/confirm RP ideas about women would be hard data about women's sexual behavior which would be impossible to collect accurately. I think RP ideas might apply well to a certain subset of the population that TRPers are exposed to but I don't think that they map onto every woman so neatly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/17 08:14 PM |
| 9 | Q4ALL: What are the best insights from PPD that you have ACTUALLY applied in your life?I agree that it's addictive and I really don't benefit in any tangible way. What I can say though after reading/watching a lot of PPD, TRP, and various incel-related stuff a lot over the past month or so is that the power of confirmation bias is way too real. I used to just read TRP for fun because I thought it was incredibly ridiculous, but after a while I realized that I occasionally agreed with their points, or at the very least could understand why someone with their combined life experience… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/17 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you smile at men in public?If someone else smiles at me in public I return the smile regardless of demographic. However, most of the time if I'm in public I'm not really paying attention to anyone else and I'm just focused on whatever I'm doing. I've always lived in relatively urban cities so this is generally what everyone else does as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/17 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Women: Do you think most men don't deserve to be with you?I'm not a product someone "deserves." I'm a person. We either click or we don't. The idea of deserving someone is objectifying whether applied to a woman or a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/17 04:19 AM |
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