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I actually agree with you, I never ask a partner how many people they've been with and I don't really want to know. But if they volunteered that information I wouldn't be able to help but feel a certain way about it. My logical brain knows it's not a big deal so I would prefer to just not hear about your past at all than to bring up unnecessary drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:35 PM
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Why don’t men focus on controlling their thoughts rather than attempting to control women’s sexuality? Partly because it's easier to just rely on their default programing and it takes a lot of effort to unlearn that. Also partly because they've had past experiences that have validated their line of thinking so their thought processes get reinforced by their learned experiences. And it isn't controlling women's sexuality to be turned off by a high body count, that's a preference and a generally u…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:21 AM
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Because our imaginations are wild. When you say you've been with 15 men odds are higher you've picked a guy like that, especially because every guy I know who is a douchebag has fucked A LOT of women. Another commenter said it perfectly that it's just an "ick" that men get when a girl has a promiscuous past. Honestly if you've never fucked a guy like that and a guy you are dating feels some type of way about your number it might help to demystify your past by explaining the nature of your past r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:02 AM
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I agree with you? I'm not sure what your point is or why you think I'm delusional. I have met some women with thousands of followers out and about at clubs and so on but they were all 20-24. They've showed me their dm's and they definitely had simp armies. My point is that it's rare and that vast majority of women couldn't have that even if they wanted to. And by 20% I mean 20% are capable of generating a following on social media if they wanted, not that 20% have a following since most women do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:42 AM
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Yes some men think women are degraded by having sex with them, I've met a few like that. And tbh I agree with him, the women are degraded because they had sex with him. I don't think women are degraded for having sex in general, but if they picked him then yes. My other male friends agreed, we'd all be eskimo bros with anyone of us but him. Tbh there are also women who I think the same of, I saw a guy go home with one and I immediately lost respect for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:57 AM
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Most men prefer a female virgin Nope, at least not here in the US. The only people I know that would prefer a virgin are virgins themselves. Most men like a woman with a lower body count, but not 0. They did a survey and men said the ideal body count for a partner was 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:52 AM
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Yeah, not everything that a woman says that is "anti-male" is coming from a feminist. Men being viewed as creepy and predatory exists in patriarchal societies and I've heard very conservative women parrot similar phrases. Usually it's from women who've been traumatized by men, it has nothing to do with feminism. I think there is plenty you could complain about feminism, but this ain't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:47 AM
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Resources matter, but it's only one aspect of attraction. Unemployed men still have sex, I've had sex plenty of times where the woman had no idea what my income was. I could have been a millionaire or broke she had no way of knowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:35 AM
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Poe's Law. A lot of people on this sub believe that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:31 AM
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Even women who are public on social media most aren't good looking enough to get thousands of simps worshiping them. That's like 20% of women at most, and that drops down considerably after the age of 25. I don't know very many 28 year olds with thousands of followers on Instagram unless they are a model or have a lifestyle/niche that they are marketing to. Also those "influencers" are putting up a front, their lives are not as crazy as you think. I use to work with an OnlyFans girl who had a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:28 AM
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This is delusional, I've had sex with women after barely talking only for them to ghost after. One girl I didn't say a word to, we just grinded for two hours then I showed her my address in Uber and she clicked accept. That has nothing to do with love or even lust, it has everything to do with the woman and her own sexual standards. I've seen hot girls go home with busted guys at the club because it was late and he happened to be the last dancing with her. Doesn't mean she loves him. I do agree …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:09 AM
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I hear people say this but what does it mean? My Grandpa was surrounded by his family and wife when he passed, so he definitely wasn't alone. If you view that as being alone since they are the only one experiencing it then literally everyone is alone all the time because we all live in our own head, which is a stupid statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:58 AM
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There's also a lot of women who think they are in relationships but actually aren't, especially in the young 20's. Dude considers her a sidepiece or FWB, but she considers it a "situationship". I also heard that the pew research study wasn't completely accurate and the actual relationship statistics aren't that lopsided
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 01:48 AM
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It's not horny people that ruined it, it's men that sexually harass women that ruined it. Even women dtf don't like Tinder because they feel like a piece of meat not a person. If all men paid attention to signals that women give off and acted like a normal person when escalating then women wouldn't be pushed off the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:09 AM
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Yeah if you're really hot you don't need a personality. But you don't need to be as hot as him to have a relationship or have casual sex. Soft-maxxing + having a personality is more than enough to get laid. If your goal in life is to have women throw themselves at you then sure go get all the surgeries. But it's such a silly goal and most people are going to find you mental for trying to go for that. Female validation is not worth any of that. This is why society laughs at incels, because you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:44 PM
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When we were looking at genetic lineage turns out my great great uncle was a very popular man amongst married ladies in his town. He fathered quite a few children outside of his marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:34 PM
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Women will overlook all the flaws in the world if she is attracted to you. I think women just tend to care more about social status and social skills more than men, and autistic men struggle with that. Also women are more mentally/emotionally driven vs men being physical and visual, so autistic men struggle to excite a woman emotionally whereas it's easy for an autistic woman to excite a man physically/visually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:27 PM
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There are very few men that have women throw themselves at them, the vast vast majority have to do the work to meet women and ask them out. If you want that lifestyle that's fine, but it's kind of a silly goal. Getting to the point where you are going on dates and having consistent sex with women you desire is enough for most men, and you can get to that point with just soft-maxing and improving social skills. ​ So here you are admitting soft looksmaxing doesn't make any difference. No it does m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:08 PM
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If you are doing all the soft looksmaxing and have an active social life you will meet women. It sounds like you did the soft looksmaxing and are disappointed that women aren't throwing themselves at you. All you've done so far is the easy stuff, now you have to have a personality and put yourself out there to meet women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:00 PM
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Yup, I've met maybe 3 women in my life that I wouldn't date because she's too tall. I get iffy at around my height, but 3 inches shorter than me or less and height actually becomes a positive if anything. I'm 6'4", and my ideal height would be a 5'9 woman, but I've dated as low as 4'11 and my high school crush was 6'0 and I still think she was one of the most beautiful women I've ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:56 PM
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I don't think Taylor Swift has ever been viewed as a sex symbol, not sure where you got that from. She's attractive, but that's not really one of her draws or why she's successful. There's not scores of men out there thirsting after Taylor Swift
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:53 PM
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I'm imagining a female coworker going up to me and saying "Did you know that more and more middle age career women are opting out of dating and choosing to live alone with their cats?" I'd say cool, good for them if they are happy with their cats, no one should be forced to date if they are having bad experiences. What reaction did he expect?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:48 PM
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I'm not saying that attractive men are prone to being awful people, I'm saying that if your only criteria for dating someone is that they are a hot and charming man in your dm's then chances are they will not be a great person. 95% of people dm'ing random women online are probably not great people, and that will include 95% of the charming hot guys, just the charming hot guy has an easier time cheating on you than the average guy in her dm's.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:09 AM
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It's also scary how many articles reference him, and now it's considered common knowledge that middle aged single women are happier than middle aged married women when the stats don't support it. https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/2019/6/4/18650969/married-women-miserable-fake-paul-dolan-happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:06 AM
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Yeah I wasn't disagreeing with you, just backing you up with data I've seen. Men in their 30's have options to date women in their 20's if they want. But they still have to be attractive and worth dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:52 AM
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Nope it's definitely a thing especially with younger women. It's just that the guy usually isn't that devastated and it happens way less often for men than for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:45 AM
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Tbh would rather be married than having random hookups but maybe I'm weird. Not in a place in life where I can date seriously rn which is why I'm settling for casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:35 AM
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Bumble is not a sugar dating website, that's for regular dating. My 30 year old friend joins us when we go to the bar and he picks up as well as any of us, most recently being a hot 21 year old college student. And Poland isn't exactly some third world country so I doubt I was getting matches for my money or green card. And in my social circle my friend who was 21 dated a man in his 30's for a while, and several have gone on dates with men a bit older. Obviously the majority are dating men their…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:31 AM
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You're looking at things as a whole rather than at the individual level. It will never happen that every good man is in a relationship and no good men are available, because well those men have to be single at some point before they meet a good woman. Your goal is to be that woman rather than have someone else be the woman. So it's not an all or nothing, but rather a game of chance that you have some control over. Sure you can go after the charming hot dudes and have a 0% chance of meeting someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:23 AM
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True but gender ratios change. There are fewer single men and more single women the older you get, plus women tend to date the same age or older, so the pool of women willing to date you increases. But you need to take care of yourself, you can avoid the negative consequences of aging well into your late 30's and 40's if you have good exercise and skin care. A relatively fit 34 year old is going to have a lot more success than a relatively fit 24 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:10 AM
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I'm active on r/Bumble and every time there is a post where people post their age, sex, and age range I see a sea of 22F: 23-35. Or even some 20F: 30-50. I think many young women are open to dating guys in their 30's, especially if you leave the country. I was surprised at 25 how many 18-19 year olds sent me likes when I was in Poland. That being said, you need to be an attractive 30 year old that has success with women his own age. If you can't get women in their 30's, you aren't magically goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:05 AM
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I was hoping to live vicariously through him Lmao I have a friend that is always pushing for us to pick up hot chicks since he's taken and wants to live vicariously through us. He gets excited whenever we take someone home.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:55 AM
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There's a difference between the single moms who were knocked up by a random Chad and the single moms who were in a committed relationship and chose to have kids but were cheated on or divorced for a valid reason. Typically the latter don't need you for resources and tend to make better life choices. Plus they have custody agreements so they aren't around their children 24/7. Still I would rather avoid a single mother unless I was also a single father, since I would prefer to have kids and famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:52 AM
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I didn't say anything about approaching men directly, you can meet them through mutual hobbies or friends. And a pretty high percentage of men are single and interested in a relationship, something like 60% of men below the age of 30 are single and roughly half are interested in a relationship. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:17 AM
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Yeah the guy at the rock climbing gym might be the same as the guy in the club, but at the gym the odds are 50/50, at the club the odds are 95/5. I'll be honest I fall into a higher income bracket so I only know how dating works within my income and that's where high quality connections occur. There might be a low-middle income equivalent but I'm not from that world so I wouldn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:06 AM
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It's easy to blame your looks for why women don't fuck with you because then you can blame something outside of your control rather than face the fact that you can fix your problems if you put in effort. Obviously good looking men have more success than ugly men, but looks is only one way of attracting women and not the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:00 AM
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There was a study by Paul Dolan saying middle age single women are the happiest demographic, but he actually completely misinterpreted the "spouse not present" thinking it meant spouse not in the room, when it really meant women going through a separation or divorce. In fact married women are happier than single women, but single women are happier than women presently going through a divorce, who would've thought... Source: https://ifstudies.org/blog/shrinking-american-motherhood-1-in-6-women-in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:52 PM
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They aren't that rare, something like 10% of relationships have a significant age gap. They're just not the norm, and if you ignore dating in your 20's hoping to date a 22 year old when you're in your 30's then you're going to have a rough time when reach that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:49 PM
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What’s the difference between a man that wants sex and he sends a DM and that same man approaching a woman on the street? Nothing. Stop focusing on the men that approach you. The difference is in the men who DIDN'T approach you, because only weirdo's approach random women on the street. If you want to find a higher value guy you need to do the work to actually meet these men and give them signals that you are open to dating them, then they can pursue you if they are interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:44 PM
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I'm not saying these events are filled with high quality single men, but you can find more of them there than on Instagram. And hobbies can be concerts, 5k or half marathon races, hiking groups, coed sports, rock climbing gyms, comic conventions, car shows, photography clubs, swing dancing, or comedy clubs. Really anything where you can bond with people over a common hobby rather than dressing sexy and rubbing your ass on someone's dick hoping he'd be a good boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:15 PM
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And ugly or average doesn't mean a man is going to be loyal either. I'm not saying she should go for the ugly man in her DM's, I'm saying she should ignore every man in her DMs and try to meet a man through a different medium. She can meet a hot and charming guy that has good long term relationship qualities, but the key is the good long term relationship qualities. Going for a man just because he's hot and charming is a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:06 PM
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I don't know where OP says that, but I wouldn't take his word as fact. If men only wanted sex then there would be no such thing as relationships or marriage. If you want to take this one man's opinion and use it as justification for not even trying go ahead no one is stopping you. I view myself as an attractive man (I've posted my Bumble swipe history and there's a link to my photos in the comments) so I have nothing to lose by women doing that. I'm just giving advice based on my observations an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:14 PM
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Where are you getting that 95% of all men from. Maybe half of men are into casual dating or hookups, they're just the ones most likely to dm a random woman on Instagram. So 95% of the men in your dms are looking for casual, but 50% of the men you meet in the real world are looking for a girlfriend. https://www.cnbc.com/2023/02/07/new-study-dating-apps-make-it-easier-to-find-a-partner.html#:~:text=43%25%20of%20men%20said%20they%20are%20using%20the%20apps%20to%20date%20casually&text=A%20whopping%2…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:58 PM
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I disagree with the statement "men only want sex". I would change it to "The men in your dms and at the club only want sex". Most men I know in person would rather have a gf than a casual hookup, but they also don't hound women online or approach random women for sex at clubs. You can't only go for the guys who pursue you with no investment on your part and then simultaneously complain that you can't find a good guy. You aren't even looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:53 PM
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I disagree, most of them are invisible to women until they hit their late 20's and 30's then get snatched up. You have a window to find these guys assuming you are early 20's still, you just have to put yourself out there and get ahead of your competition. If you are in your 30's yeah you are SOL gotta hope one gets divorced and you can be the first to find him. Most young women are making stupid dating decisions and don't wise up until later, so if you are one of the smart ones then you can fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:37 PM
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Maybe you're right, it could also be selection bias. College girls probably have higher income so lower rates of being overweight, and overweight girls are not confident enough to go to bars and aren't invited to parties. I just don't interact with overweight women very often so it feels like they are less common.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:32 PM
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Nope that's not the next best thing, that might be the easiest thing but it is only going to hurt you in the long term. The next best thing is to work on yourself to be the type of woman that a good man would want. By putting high quality energy out into the world you will attract high quality men. The woman who goes to charity events, reading clubs, hobby conventions, networking events, or is very selective in online dating is going to meet higher quality men than the one only meeting men at cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:29 PM
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Bro 15 women in a room of 100 are not model range be serious. You are way overestimating the average woman. I'd put her in top 20%, and model range is top 2-3% with supermodel range being top .1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:09 PM
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70% of all women, but not 70% of women her age. In my experience going out to bars and parties or college lectures, maybe 30% of women in their early to mid 20's are overweight, and a third of those being severely overweight. Most young women are in an attractive weight range. But 40's up I would say 70% is pretty accurate, and in some of the rural areas I've been it's an underestimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:06 PM
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What we're saying is what's best for women (assuming you want a longterm partner) is to pick the guy who is most likely to commit to you and be a good partner. That guy will have characteristics that are good for long term relationships, such as empathy, good friend circle, stable job, good hygiene, honesty, sticks to his word, good moral compass. Hot and charming is not a good indicator that he will be a good boyfriend, and it also means you will have more competition for his attention and he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:58 PM
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Think about the women you went to high school with, the top 5% assuming your class had around 200 women would be the 10 hottest women in your class. Do you think all 10 of them could have made it big in professional modeling? I doubt there was maybe more than 1 or 2 in your entire high school that could have had a shot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:50 PM
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Bro the hottest woman I've ever seen was dating a fat dude. And I've known several fat guys with hot girlfriends. Social skills are above all. The fat guy who is the head of his friend group, makes everyone laugh, and every man around him defers to him is attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:44 PM
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I don't think women have the minimum threshold like men do, their bar for attraction is dynamic and can go up and down depending on the guy. They have very high bars and a specific type for men they've never met, but almost every woman has dated a man nowhere near their type because he hit all the right buttons in person. If you have looks and money then there is less of a need to compensate with good social skills, but if you have great social skills then you don't need to compensate with looks…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:37 PM
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I swear these guys don't go out into the real world. A lot of redditors in these spaces have never interacted with women outside of online dating or work. I've never seen the cops called on a guy for flirting once in my entire life, and I've seen butt ugly men with gorgeous women WAY out of their league and no the guy wasn't loaded he was my coworker
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:32 PM
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Exactly, the guy I know with the most success with women is not the best looking guy I know. He's not ugly by any means, but he knows how to create that "spark" with women with his overconfidence and cocky personality. A somewhat good looking man with no inhibition attracts women like moths to a flame.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:19 PM
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Most of the guys who are "genuine" learned the skill, they just learned it in their teens and early 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:07 PM
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Even sex, my white friends and I all regularly hook up with Asian and Latina chicks. If you are talking about W/B hookups yes WW tend to hook up with black dudes more than white men hook up with black women, but with other races white dudes are far more likely to hook up and date out of their race.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:01 AM
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The reality is this is true, but only because of the huge wealth gap. If you earned 10x more than the average woman in the US they would also be submissive and cook you dinner lol.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/21 11:35 PM
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Yeah most women I know have hobbies. It's just that often women's hobbies aren't a major part of their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 11:27 PM
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Fair enough I agree with you, telling your daughter she's too ugly for the guy she is crushing on is a horrible thing to say. That's why fathers will instead emphasize that many men are looking for sex so she can put two and two together herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:51 PM
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I guess that depends on where you live and the types of bars. Sports bars, or older demographic bars are usually heavily male dominated, but the past few places I've lived the more social bars have been at minimum 50/50. The bars with open floor dancing more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:44 PM
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Nah not like that lol, but Dad's will warn their daughters that many men will try to use them for sex that have no interest in dating them. Having that mindset will lead you into figuring out what your league is by seeing what type of men give you serious interest vs sexual interest. The only women I know irl who have unrealistic expectations tend to conflate sexual interest with romantic interest, or have a severe lack of self awareness about what they look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:36 PM
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This is actually something that most good dads teach their daughters. That's why most women I know who had great relationships with their dad have great relationships with men, their dad taught them what to look out for.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 06:19 PM
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bars are usually pretty male dominated Idk maybe it's because I'm near a college campus but I usually see more women than men out at bars on the weekend. There are more men on online dating because men in general are more introverted than women, but bars and clubs and such usually have more women or at least roughly 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 05:33 PM
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I love being touched by women I know, I hate being touched by women I don't. I avoid certain bars because women will come up to me and start grinding. I have to feel comfortable before I can get horny, and a grimy bar ain't it.
/r/MensRights15/08/21 07:48 PM
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I'd say if 1 in 5 marriages you encounter have a 6+ year age gap that's pretty common. But yeah if you have a boring middle class life you aren't attracting many younger women but that's your own fault. Also most of the men I know in age gap relationships look young for their age. And I'm not talking about 35 dating 50, yeah that is very rare and if that's your expectation as a 50 year you better have a lot to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 02:48 PM
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19% of marriages have greater than a 6 year age gap, 30% have greater than a 4 year one. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships And that's among all marriages so that will skew smaller because that includes young couples. So it's really not that uncommon, and most of those women weren't looking for men that much older just the most high quality men that pursue them are in that age bracket. So they can get with a loser their own age or a successful man 8 years older…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 01:09 PM
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That's because most marriages happen in people's 20's where it's common for couples to be the same age when they meet. The older people get the larger the age gaps in newly formed relationships. The norm is a 3-6 year age gap in 40s, but up to 10 years is not uncommon and I know several couples with that age gap. I also feel like age gap relationships are coming back into style with online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:43 PM
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I'm an idiot and didn't realize that I linked the same study as in the original post. There's a section that says what percentage of men are single vs in a relationship. Assuming that there's a roughly equal number of men and women age 40 then around that age is when the number of single men is the same as single women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:27 PM
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At around age 40 it's equal, then starting at that age women are a higher percentage single. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 08:15 PM
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When we say older men getting with younger women we aren't talking about gross old men hitting on college girls. We mean a 45 year old man dating a 37 year old woman. That's a very common age gap among middle age dating relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 07:50 PM
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OLD isn't a great experience for women either, yes they get a lot more attention but it's mostly thirsty dudes looking to nut in someone. Most women would prefer to meet a guy the traditional way, even more so than men.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/01/21 02:36 PM
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Not extremely rare, every couple I know with good long lasting relationships formed this way. But you'll have to go through several where either you are constantly trying to win her approval or she is constantly trying to win yours. And I'm not sure which feels worse (if you have any sort of empathy).
/r/seduction07/10/20 12:36 AM
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If a woman is chasing you that means you are out of her league, if you are chasing a woman she is out of your league. The best is when you are equals and just slowly gravitate together.
/r/seduction06/10/20 08:20 PM
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