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Maybe the poor guy needed to gargle the one before him out of his mouth. Ya never know.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 11:45 AM
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I would be wearing a goddamn camera around my neck 24/7 with a swappabl3 backup for when the first was uploading its footage to a secured cloud location. How to win a divorce 101(for her): Provoke or otherwise claim DV and have the sucker I mean husband removed from the home and force him to fight a criminal court case in addition to the family law one.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 11:43 AM
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You can usually request a recording or transcript.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 05:41 PM
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Literally anything you send to the ex, any social post, anything available publically...add "your honor" after it. If that makes you go "ehhhhhh" don't post the fucking thing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 05:41 PM
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Yep. Your mileage will vary wildly depending on the state. Always ask your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:06 PM
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See my response to that would be a registered letter, signature required with three things. 1. A bolded letter with two words in like 70 point font. I am partial to bright blue. "LOL NO". Comic Sans font is a nice touch I find. 2. Her request for payment. 3. The relevant page of the order with the section that applies conveniently highlighted. If she has a lawyer, send it to the lawyer so she is charged 15 mins for them to open and read it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:04 PM
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100%. Been there. Done that. The courts don't care if she isn't giving the homework because they'll just expect him to handle it himself. My final submission was 162 pages of evidence. The affidavit itself was less than 2. I had 160 pages of exhibit evidence to backup those bullet points. (Plus the 100+ page parental capacity assessment)
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:53 PM
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factual and with evidence ALWAYS. Any point HE makes, should have factual evidence attached. If she wants to waste time on useless unproveable stuff, his response is literally a single bullet point.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:35 PM
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Record custody exchange IF YOUR STATE is one party consent. Otherwise, you can announce you are recording to cover your ass ahead of time.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:27 PM
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Don't even need to inspect. Vehicle has 5 seats and 3 people show up (mom/felon/new baby) well then they don't have room to take THREE additional kids with them. Refuse to allow the children to leave and call the police if necessary. No seatbelts is a ticketable offense.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:26 PM
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We don't know HOW he asked her for the homework. Verbally? text? email? My point remains the same, if you want to be an involved parent, be an involved parent and communicate with the school. Stop letting the ex gatekeep. If you go thru the ex, you are acknowledging and setting the ex up as the primary parent. He needs to keep a journal, and the journal entry would basically be "kids showed up on DD/MM/YYYY for the exchange with no homework. Reached out to the school and confirmed there was home…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:19 PM
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Court deals with and rules on facts not feelings. It's not about how you feel, it's about what you can prove, and how that evidence plays into what's in the child's best interests. The other side can accuse you of everything under the sun, and most times will, but if there isn't any evidence to back that claim your response is like..one bullet point. "I disagree with STBX's points A,B,C,D,E and F and categorically deny such occurred. There has been no evidence submitted in her filing to substant…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:06 PM
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Oh no...some random person on the interwebs doesn't like me. My little worldview/heart is broken...BROKEN I TELL YOU. Pffft. Seriously man... someone needs to give this guy a swift kick in the ass, or he's going to lose his kids. He's a guy. He HAS to do this right. He has a responsibility as a parent to do this correctly. If he doesn't, he's screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 12:57 PM
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Man you sound like a real peach. You have the twig and jiggle berries so yeah you need to sit still, shut your mouth, and do this correctly. If you are being accused of being immature and incapable of parenting the last thing you want to do is blow up during a court session. That means addressing the issues that were raised in the correct format. You file an affidavit with the court and attach the evidence that shows otherwise. 1. Have this conversation with the lawyer. "Last time it felt like y…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 11:55 AM
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Do you have a lawyer? You NEED a lawyer. Do you have friends or family that would supervise? What you need to do is get the refusal of these places IN WRITING to book a visit. Take that, plus an affidavit from a friend or family member who is willing, and then file a motion with the court to have the friend or family member do it instead. Bonus points if the friend or family works in Health Care, Education, or any place where they are considered a mandatory reporter. This kind of thing is very c…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 11:14 AM
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Put the $ in a separate account and don't touch it. I have the $ your honor, my attorney advised me to not pay until the appeal process went thru. But as you can see it is right here in this account.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 01:11 PM
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Horde cash. I should mention. It's WAY easier to live thru the sh*tshow that can ensue if you are the one sitting on a stack of untraceable cash.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 01:19 AM
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Buy 2 recorders yesterday. Keep one running at all times you are in the home with her and not inside a locked bedroom. Upload to the cloud while it charges. She hits you with a false DV charge and you are DONE my guy. If she attacks you again, call the police immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:07 AM
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I hope to fuck the house is either paid off, or your mutual agreement includes taking your name the hell off the mortgage.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 12:23 PM
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Honestly, go to YOUR lawyer. Have them draw up and notarize something to the effect of "item 1 per images provided by Happy and Happy's ex - received dd/mm/yyyy." Do that for each item. Then have YOUR LAWYER'S OFFICE package the items, along with a copy of the notarized list, and have YOUR LAWYER'S OFFICE arrange delivery to HER LAWYER'S OFFICE. If you believe that she will still play games, by all means take them and have them appraised and a description written by the appraiser and include tha…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 12:17 PM
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Gather as much info as you can prior to the meeting. Info on the trusts, the value of the assets, what's owning against them, everything. Once you file, if she's smart, she's going to try and fight disclosing all of that info. Take your phone, and do a video walk around of the home (when she's NOT HOME for christ sakes). Day to day objects that may hold value are easily overlooked and forgotten in the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 01:17 PM
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Only possible thing that would have made it better was to use some of that cc debt in terms of cash withdrawals....and hoard the withdrawn, untraceable cash somewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 11:44 AM
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Not trying to be rude, but IF you move forward with marriage now at this age, you have about a 90% chance of being divorced in 3-5 years. The kids thing is literally massive. What are you going to do if she "accidently" falls pregnant? You can't even take care of pets properly...no animal should shit/piss on your bed with sufficient frequency for you to post about it. Take a break, focus on your careers. Getting married is EASY. STAYING married is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:39 AM
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Your argument is going to be that the current agreement is working, the kids are happy with it, and your area is the area of habitual residence. You have status quo, a recent agreement, and habitual residence on your side. Tough sell. Be prepared for a move on the sly. That would be an emergency and you would need to file a court motion asap.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 05:02 PM
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In the case of an equal/involved coparent, it's literally a 50-50 toss up and the onus is on the one wanting to move to prove why the move is so much in the kids interests that it offsets the loss of the other parent.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 05:00 PM
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She has to prove the move is in the kids best interests. How old are the kids? How long have you had the existing custody arrangements? What ARE the existing arrangements?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 04:51 AM
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None of the banks in Canada will accept it man. Maybe a local credit union might, but the big banks are just gonna go LOL NO
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 06:06 PM
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The bank doesn't care. It will freeze the LOC even without an order, but it will not randomly remove his name off it until its paid in full. (Which can include the ex taking out a NEW 20K LoC in just her name to pay the old LoC) You have a legal contract with the bank. A civil order between you and the ex is a civil matter, the bank isn't beholden to that judgement.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 11:32 AM
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Most banks will freeze a loc. But the payment never occurred because he gave it to the ex, not the bank.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 11:29 AM
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Why in the flying fuck would you pay her directly. That LOC should have been frozen and you should have just paid your half into the loc itself. You cannot get blood from a stone, so even with a judgement you fucked yourself by not doing this right. Have fun paying all 20K to get it off your report, and subsequently chasing your ex for the funds basically forever.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 11:28 AM
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Texas is a shithole for family law...Unless you live in one of the blue cities. Just do what you are obligated to under state law. If private school is important to you, then throw that in there, but literally everything else on your list is just going to muddy the water down the road and cause headaches. Keep it simple dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 11:26 AM
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My reply was "I will continue to send my expected arrival to avoid any confusion..." There's your mistake in case you missed it. Ignore. Don't reply. Continue to do as you have always done. She baited, you bit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 11:14 AM
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The kid will adjust (quicker and better) than either of you will. Week on/Week off, with the switch day being a Wednesday is arguably the best, hands down, for high conflict. It also avoids things like long weekends/School PE days/etc. Just make sure your order has VERY clear language regarding times for pickup/drop-off in the event of cancelation of class
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 11:11 AM
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No, the best response would have been "Huh...does that actually work? Man I gotta start using the fact you gained all that weight and let yourself go to shit on my dating apps".
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:46 PM
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Because you allowed, condoned and presumably supported the behavior while you were with her. *shrug* That's the way it is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 11:42 PM
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Now in your situation, I would have taken the kid to the farmer's market my own damn self if she wanted to go. Two can play that game after all.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:42 PM
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The game she is trying is as old as time. It's literally "how to get custody 101" for women. Bait you into an argument. Scream DV whether it's true or not. Have you removed from the house, and slap a protective order on you. Then immediately use that DV charge and order of protection to run to family court and get temp orders for exclusive possession of the home, support, and for you to continue to pay the bills pending trial. Then stall until you run out of money and give in to her demands. (si…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:35 PM
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He already stated above he's got motion activated video/audio in his room. I would also recommended wearing at LEAST a voice recorder on your person at all times if you have to LEAVE that room while she is there. Better yet two...one to charge while the other is worn. The second you swap them, the one you just took off is immediately uploaded to the cloud. Won't do shit for court, but it'll save your ass if she tries the false DV thing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:30 PM
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Which is why he should be getting the names/badge numbers and incident number on each one of those to counter that possibility. She throws a stack, you subpoena them at witnesses and run them thru to confirm no issues, waste of their time, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:27 PM
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Same. If he's being pleasant and cooperative, AND It's on video/audio recording, IF she tries any kind of nonsense, you can always subpoena the officers involved. Only piece of advice here is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS get names/badge numbers and incident/file number for the call.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:25 PM
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Your mileage is going to vary WILDLY here depending on the state, province and even the judge themselves. By the letter of the law it's not even a single bullet point of evidence. Unless you are trying to force the kids to call the new GF "Mommy" whilst the actual Mommy is still right there. Or something equally boneheaded.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:16 PM
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Are they being asked to film or participate? If so yes...otherwise, still a maybe.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 10:54 AM
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Crazy can't hide it's true colors...kids are impressionable, but the whole "Teenage rebellion" thing is pretty on point. I was in this boat with my oldest daughter...didn't see her or speak to her for almost 2 years...her mother "convinced" her that it was what she wanted. The second she graduated highschool and went off to college, her mother kept trying to control her...and that's when she reached out. Seems that the stupid crap her mother was trying to do...was at odds with the things she had…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 03:38 AM
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Send the list to your attorney, and have them communicate to hers. Take pics/video of the items in the garage so there is no accusations of damage or whatever. Send the images as well. The items you aren't willing to part with, they can argue about in court if they want to. Unless there is a compelling reason, just give her what she wants. It's just stuff. At the end of the day, unless it's an asset worth huge amounts of money, or has sentimental value to you, you'll spend more in lawyer fees ar…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 03:22 AM
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She can leave them with whoever she wants on her time. If you believe it's a safety issue, there are organizations and agencies whose responsibility it falls under. They're mandatory reporters and have no skin in this game. A mandatory reporter is worth about a million of you. If Grandma is NOT a danger, it's not an issue. If she IS an issue..call your local flavor of police/CPS/etc and ask for a welfare check. Here's the thing...if you are in a no fault state, then she could be boning the guy I…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 02:48 AM
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AFTER you document the crap out of every single asset on both sides, bank statements, investments, toys (including registrations and VINs/Serials), and do a video walk thru of the house. AND store that sh*t offsite. The MOMENT you file papers there's a non zero chance she's going to try and goad you into an argument and try to hit you with a DV charge.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 10:53 AM
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Sometimes you just need to burn your credit and dance amongst the flames. Horde your cash. Put everything on credit and then just let it ride. If/when you show her to be the unreasonable one, then the debts that were incurred against the assets can be assigned to her. Once you have an agreement, declare bankruptcy. It's way easier to recover when you are the one sitting on the pile of actual cash.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 12:27 AM
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Stop speaking with the cops unless they actually file charges. Get the police file numbers from all the prior allegations, and simply hand whatever officer a copy of them. Make them actually arrest you, and then you get all their records as part of discovery. Then and only then bother the lawyer with it. Use the criminal records to show the ex is being malicious. Request SHE cover your legal fees for those (dropped) arrests, using the discovery documents are your exhibit evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 12:25 AM
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This really needs to be stickied on every single Divorce/Custody forum on the planet. Read it. Live it. Love it. ​ THE LIST
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/21 10:28 AM
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You got off super easy if that's all it cost you. I'm a quarter million out of pocket after 10 years from continued stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 09:36 PM
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Clothing is not section 7. School lunches are not section 7. The $10 for the class trip to the local museum is not section 7. Extracurricular activities...section 7 The $800 end of year trip to a different province...section 7. Medical expenses beyond what your benefits cover...section 7. The cost difference between a single benefit plan and a family benefit plan...section 7.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/18 10:53 PM
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Leave it laying around the house for her to "find".
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 12:15 AM
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Whew. Had me worried for a second. In this case a quick email is fine.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 11:24 PM
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Email? Text? Jesus are you still doing undocumented verbal communication?
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 10:26 PM
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Don't take legal advice from your ex. Or your ex's lawyer. If they serve you with anything respond, but otherwise just note you respectfully disagree with their position and go radio silent on the topic.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 10:16 PM
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LMAO...I don't even unlock my phone for less than 15 mins at my job. Just interesting the small things sometimes eh.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 09:19 PM
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In short, let your credit burn while you dance around the flames. You've been given good advice...if you are truly done, and it's not repairable, lawyer up and get the ball rolling before you hit 10 years.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 09:18 PM
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Your ex may be riding the crazy train to batshitville, while straight up power chugging the KoolAid...but you are no longer required to buy the ticket to ride with her. Save the message in case you need it later. She's showing you her cards, so make sure you govern yourself accordingly if you are still in the same house with her.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 09:15 PM
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Where did you find an attorney that works that cheaply? Mine all charge me in increments of 15 mins.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 09:13 PM
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Christ do you want to trade? I'm almost a quarter MILLION in after 10 years. As long as it's amicable it should be a couple hundred bucks to draw up a legal separation agreement. Call around. Most lawyers are going to want anywhere from 2500-10K as a retainer. Family law has such potential to go sideways into batshit crazy territory that they want to make sure they get paid. Call around. "For an amicable separation where we have everything pretty much agreed to already, how much for you to draw …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 09:11 PM
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Don't argue with the ex. You are recording TOO now right?! Do NOT argue with the ex Interact only via written communication DON'T ARGUE WITH THE FSCKING EX Recordings are generally useless unless they have them transcribed professionally and in their entirety. Useful mainly for avoiding false DV charges as a guy. Unless it has bearing on your case, don't get drawn into a he said she said mud slinging contest.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 08:16 PM
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What would she be able to make as a full time sub? What's her earnings potential? How LONG were you married for? Alimony is supposed to bring the lower income spouse up to 40% of the higher income spouse. If you are making 100K and she is able to make 40K as a full time sub...she's already past that threshold and I'd tell her to kick rocks. You MIGHT get hit with something, but 76% is sheer lunacy. I believe Virginia has a support calculator available that can give you a rough idea: http://www.v…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 07:32 PM
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The house may be his, but the increase in equity that occured DURING the marriage is an asset. If you bought the place for 100K cash before you married her, and it's now worth 400K...the 300K is "potentially" marital equity. <-- this is a VERY simplistic explanation, but you get the general idea. Things like renovations, painting, yardwork, etc that may have increased the valuation that she may have done also can come into play. You need an expert. If you are talking 100s of thousands in assets,…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 07:20 PM
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You open a new one in only your name. You sell any toys you may have. You find one that will take payments. You check for resources for your state for legal aid. You beg or borrow from friends/family. You take out a loan. you put in on a credit card. The cost can be in the 10s of thousands. Breastfeeding babies need to breastfeed is the "tender years doctrine". It's largely horseshit, but you will find some judges still use it. There's zero reason she can't pump, or supplement with formula. "Mov…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 07:11 PM
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Stop pleading and get your ass to a lawyer. You (and the OP) want an ex parte order (interim emergency order) for the kids to be returned to their home of habitual residence, for exclusive possession of the home, and for a hearing (Date TBD) for a comprehensive custody and access plan, as well as support.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:56 PM
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If you need me to take the kids to help out, just let me know.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:54 PM
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It's called the EOW Screwjob. Yeah, not an extraordinary expense. Medical stuff over and above benefit coverage = extraordinary. Extracurricular fees = extraordinary. Class trips more than a couple of bucks (ie. the local middle school here does a week long quebec trip in Grade 8...cost is like $800.) That is extraordinary. The $10 to attend the class trip to the local garden center is not. Clothing/food = covered by CS If she didn't BUY the lunches, she'd have to send him with a bagged lunch. B…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:51 PM
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Oh yes. The laws around the division of assets and whathave for common law are governed at the provincial level, so we need to know what province he's in.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:46 PM
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This depends on the PROVINCE you are in. Some provinces have different laws for common law assets vs. actual marriage. if it's Quebec...urgh..well Quebec is based on French Civil law,which can be summarized as "What would a heavily drunken frenchman do in this situation". For the non special snowflake provinces...it depends on the relevant provincial laws...but you can expect any kind of asset (ie the home) to possibly needing to be given her share of equity. You can expect there to be CS...than…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:43 PM
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"sat with the physical therapist to learn exercises for our son" Ohhh look at that...you have a neutral, third party, MANDATORY REPORTER in your home on a regular basis. Ask for a summary from her in email, or any additional resources on the exercises. Then save that since ya know, it's date and time stamped :D Also, if your stbx tries the standard "abuse" allegations route...you can bring up the fact there is a mandatory reporter on scheduled visits to your home that has never reported anything…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 06:33 PM
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I clicked the link expecting a satire site because surely this can't be real. Instead I'm left laughing and shaking my head going "the fsck did I just read.".
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