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You should evaluate these places on other metrics besides demographics. Affordability, cost of living, quality of life, career opportunities, growth, how well you fit in. LA and Miami don’t have as much in common as you think. I’ve lived in all three. And each one has its challenges. A person who is at home in NY may be completely out of place in LA. I personally could not stand people in Miami and I’m from LA. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t people for whom it doesn’t work. A lot of people g…
/r/seduction22/12/25 02:29 AM
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According to this guy Newark is number one (I think Camden and Irvington are probably worse). However take this list with a grain of salt. For example JC swings dramatically depending on what side of town you’re on. JC has legit bad parts but then the area downtown by the river (where most transplants and commuters live) is incredibly quiet and safe.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:40 AM
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Newark is cheap but I’d stay away. I don’t think Newark is quite revitalized enough for my taste. Still has a bit of a rough element. Harrison which is near Newark and right on the PATH train is a better option and still reasonably priced. But if I had to choose in NJ I’d do Hoboken or JC.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:32 AM
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JC is great for easy access to manhattan. Especially downtown. JCs own bar scene is just okay. It gets a bit sleepy but it’s fine if you’re hanging out in Manhattan. Hoboken is much more of a young person party town whereas JC is more like people in their 30s and 40s. Hoboken has tons of bars and a high energy, college town vibe. Also really easy to get to Manhattan via PATH. But both areas are essentially extensions of Manhattan.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:27 AM
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Long Island isn’t great for young people though. Almost no bar scene except for a handful of spots like Farmingdale. You’re basically always going to be taking the LIRR in to the city which is super cumbersome for what you’re trying to do. It’s also not appreciably cheaper than the NYC metro area. Long Island City on the other hand is a neighborhood in Queens which is right across the river and a haven for young people.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:19 AM
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Just move to NYC area and live nearby like Hoboken or Jersey City where you’re just one stop away from Manhattan. Tons of young people there. Rowdy bar scene. Or in Long Island City or Astoria or somewhere that’s equally close and accessible but cheaper. You don’t need to live in Manhattan. Or if you must be in Manhattan or Brooklyn try to find a roommate.
/r/seduction16/12/25 12:09 AM
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Las Vegas by far in the US.
/r/seduction06/03/25 12:58 PM
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At your age you’ll have fun in Vegas. But vegas can be tough to establish a social circle unless you’re in the food and beverage or nightlife industry. But as a local you’ll have access to all the clubs/lounges. Just get a TAM card and a Nevada ID. I mean if you’re just looking to party and do short term stuff there probably is no better spot than Las Vegas. Especially given the relatively low cost of living, ease of access and how close it is to Southern California. You just need to have a job …
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:43 PM
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I split time between NYC and South Florida (with LA mixed in there — originally from SoCal).
/r/seduction24/01/25 04:05 AM
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For my money it’s NYC but not this time of year because it’s stupid cold and no one is out. In the Miami area you might have better luck in Fort Lauderdale downtown on a weekend than Miami. Miami is hit and miss. It’s a car centric city and most people on south beach are tourists. People aren’t just like hanging out on the streets there except around the Brickell area and even then that’s more of an evening and night vibe.
/r/seduction24/01/25 04:01 AM
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Fair point
/r/seduction22/01/25 09:47 PM
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Obviously NYC is number 1 if you're looking to move. There's just a lot in that area besides the city. You also have places like Hoboken across the river which is a hotspot as well and during the summer places out on Long Island like Fire Island. San Diego would probably be high on my list. Pacific Beach area in particular. Nashville has a lot of similarities with Vegas in that most of the people you'd run into on Broadway are going to be tourists. Vegas is a great place to live and you can do n…
/r/seduction22/01/25 08:48 PM
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this is the answer. You can be the devil so long as you're not that way to her. Think about it this way, evil dictators have wives (often multiple). Random nice guy on reddit = zero options.
/r/seduction03/01/25 09:54 PM
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Okay this is a HUGE problem I notice with women. You wearing an outfit is not seduction. Especially if we’re talking about a guy who doesn’t see you everyday or only sees you in one context like work or school. How is this person supposed to even recognize there’s a difference in how you’re dressing and even if he does no one in their right mind would intuit it was related to them unless they were solipsistic. If your outfit could be explained away by something else no one (save for another wome…
/r/seduction26/12/24 08:18 PM
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This is the issue. It's up to her to tell you she's off the table. The older you get, the more experienced you get, the more you learn people who are in relationships, even married sometimes aren't totally forthcoming, especially if they're struggling or perhaps considering breaking up, etc. You also have to understand the concept of monkey branching. People will often not break up with their SO until they have something else lined up first, so by nature of that you have to just lean into that a…
/r/seduction15/12/24 05:09 PM
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That’s definitely not what Mode 1 is. I knew Allan personally (RIP) and he was always clear that it’s not about saying explicit stuff publicly. It’s much more of a mindset. OP have you read Allan’s books?
/r/seduction14/12/24 01:06 AM
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It sounds like you’ve never actually been to Los Angeles. I’d suggest a trip first before making a move. There’s basically three types of people. Pretentious people moving there to try to become something. People who move earnestly for work or opportunities and over time become locals. And then Native Southern Californians. You don’t sound like you belong to any of those categories. Personally as someone from LA it would not be at the top of my list. NYC would win hands down for what you’re look…
/r/seduction06/08/24 11:44 PM
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If you're just talking daygame then NYC by a mile. it's probably the best place in the country outside of the Las Vegas strip. NYC also probably has the best logistics for meeting people of any city in the country as well, provided you're in one of the more popular locations like Manhattan, LIC or Brooklyn. But if you're talking regionally it might be a wash. People in Southern California (not just LA transplants) are generally cool and decent people. The stereotypes about people being vapid ten…
/r/seduction06/08/24 12:09 AM
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Like if a dude called up and was like “bro my door is off its hinges” and you were like “sure man I’ll be right over.” Then there’s no issue here. But it’s important to not be engaging in self deception. If you were white knighting hoping that by helping a girl out it would move things forward in a romantic direction then that’s fine so long as you are aware of what you’re doing and acknowledge it. You can take steps to work through what underlies that belief but only if you admit that’s what’s …
/r/seduction21/07/24 12:03 PM
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Intent. What underlies the behavior? Are you doing it secretly hoping for some other unexpressed outcome? Or is the stated goal (fixing hinges) the desired outcome. White knighting tends to be the former.
/r/seduction21/07/24 11:50 AM
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Last time I was in the PNW was like 2010. It's changed a lot since then. I enjoyed it there before, almost considered moving there, but not sure I would now. I'm currently in NYC and pretty content after bouncing around a few cities (home is LA).
/r/seduction30/06/24 02:52 AM
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Haven't been to Vancouver in years. It's beautiful there though. San Francisco and Chicago have never been high on my radar. Been to both plenty of times. You're mileage will vary greatly. It all depends on what you're looking for. Neither of those cities has a reputation for 8s-9s-10s that's for sure. But that may not be what you're after so again its one of those things where its best to visit and then form an opinion. There's that Family Guy joke were Peter goes to Chicago and says he's the f…
/r/seduction30/06/24 02:46 AM
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You shouldn't sleep on Scottsdale AZ. Go hang out there for a weekend and look at the level of women there and you might change your opinion. Scottsdale 10s are a real thing. Plus ASU is right there too which is legendary. I think you just need to visit some of these places and see it for yourself. If you spent a weekend in San Diego you'd get a good sense of the place. Of all the places I mentioned LA is easily the most challenging of the bunch because of the constraints of people being in thei…
/r/seduction30/06/24 02:26 AM
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Overall I’d say no. People generally aren’t out on the streets there the way they are in places like NYC. You could probably find strategic places like The Grove or Santa Monica. Tourists in Hollywood maybe. Or maybe at the mall or beaches. Hermosa Beach maybe. There’s spots here and there but LA generally speaking is car culture. Everyone’s in their cars. LA tends to be more of a lounge scene (Delilah, Bootsy Bellows) or people partying up in some exclusive Hollywood Hills house you have to kno…
/r/seduction30/06/24 01:49 AM
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Scottsdale is phenomenal. San Diego is a mixed bag. You might be too old for Pacific Beach as that's more of a college scene but worth checking out. And too young for La Jolla. Downtown and Gaslamp and Little Italy would probably be the places I'd hit up especially for daygame. The North Park scene is maybe more hipster but tends to be people in their 30s so that could be an option too.
/r/seduction09/08/22 11:06 AM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction20/07/22 02:27 AM
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Learn sales cold calling techniques. Or Chris Voss' "it seems like/feels like/sounds like" technique. The trick is to get the other person talking more than you if you want any chance of things moving forward and pretty much the only subject that does that is if you get people talking about themselves. Random things in the environment, unless it's something really novel won't get you there. It might be a good icebreaker but you have to pivot fast. Which do you think leads to a longer conversatio…
/r/seduction12/06/22 01:12 PM
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I think a better way to think about it, at least for guys is, attract don't chase. And in order to attract you have to be something or have characteristics that are attractive. If you want to stand out then that requires a bit of work. But I think what happens when people just use a blanket "work on yourself, chief" approach is no one really knows what that means because very few people are aware of the areas in which they are deficient. For one man it might simply be being more forthright or ou…
/r/seduction01/05/22 03:35 PM
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This has to be trolling
/r/seduction27/04/22 02:47 AM
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On to the next. Don't dwell on the last play. Imagine you're an athlete and your putting all your hope in hitting a home run or throwing a touchdown..and for whatever reason you don't. You can't just beat yourself up there's literally another play coming possibly seconds later. You have to learn to live for the next play and get out of the mindset that all your best opportunities are behind you. Otherwise you're condemning yourself to constant brooding over what went wrong when that energy could…
/r/seduction25/04/22 04:01 PM
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I would just ignore and press on with her. It's all casual right now. Whether or not you guys are relationship material will reveal itself in time.
/r/seduction09/04/22 01:08 AM
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It didn't go perfectly. Or the person was using you for a free meal. Or somewhere along the way something got screwed up even if on the surface it was pleasant.
/r/seduction26/02/22 03:45 AM
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No not anymore.
/r/seduction18/02/22 11:25 PM
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Sign up for his telegram. He does pretty good discussions on exactly how he pulls it off.
/r/seduction06/02/22 02:37 PM
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Follow Michael sartain on Instagram. He's kind of an expert here.
/r/seduction06/02/22 02:28 PM
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If the other person isn't talking much you're doing something wrong. You also shouldn't need to make a pitch. That assumes that's there's no interest and you have to win her. Both are bad frames. Yes at some point you need to move things forward, but that's different than pitching. Imagine a sales environment where the salesman just went on and on. That's counterproductive because what he really is trying to figure out is what the customer's needs are and how to solve them. Specifically figuring…
/r/seduction25/01/22 12:20 PM
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No risk no reward. That being said it's generally not a good idea to hook up with people you work with for all kinds of reasons. The potential downsides far outweigh the positives. Awkwardness is the least of your potential problems and the older you get the more inadvisable it is and many companies outright forbid it. If there's someone you like from your summer job maybe try and initiate things off season when you're not actually coworkers.
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:17 PM
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Yea if she's wasted leave her alone. Don't be stupid. It's not worth it.
/r/seduction31/10/21 08:45 PM
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Except "consent" never comes in the form of a written affidavit. In the real world as u/ctrl_alt_petite pointed out people will say yes just to shut you up or avoid embarrassment or whatever, which is not the same as an enthusiastic "yes," and sometimes you have to push to get a "no" to understand where the boundaries actually are. Which is why I said, if you're going to choose to hookup its going to be messy. And that was my point about how important it is to develop good enough character to re…
/r/seduction31/10/21 08:26 PM
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Clearly the OP was not trying to be a sexual predator in this situation. This doesn't seem like a situation where the person in question was drunk enough for a problem to arise. If she was and the OP was asking this question there'd be serious questions about his discernment and ability to read a situation. Secondly and this is just real talk. Hooking up is messy business. There's a reason our grandparents and great grandparents frowned on it. Because it does put people in bad situations if you'…
/r/seduction31/10/21 07:59 PM
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Next time strike while the iron is hot. No uninterested woman is going to tell you where they live or insinuate that you and her should go there. Drunk or not drunk even drunk girls know how to tell guys they don't like no, so clearly you weren't in the no column, but your failure to act might've put you there as things might now be awkward. This is one of those situations where that's about as much of a indication of interest as you'll ever get from most women in public unless you're a celebrit…
/r/seduction31/10/21 06:13 PM
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Your mileage may vary. And the glory days of pickup with guys who actually knew what they were doing are long gone.
/r/seduction25/10/21 10:16 PM
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No. In basically every facet of life you will get killed for this. Relationships are no exception. No one can carry your bags but you. And I'd steer very clear of anyone who tried to convince you otherwise as that person is likely using your naivete to manipulate you for their own ends.
/r/seduction20/10/21 01:10 PM
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Also if someone is going to fall for you it's going to happen in your absence. People fall in love when they miss you. So if they're going cold there probably wasn't as much there to begin with as you may have thought.
/r/seduction03/10/21 10:39 PM
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If you're not a classically handsome guy Tinder may not work for you and you have no way to overcome (i.e. good game). Also on those aps you really need to be paying not using the free service. Obviously Tinder and Bumble will show higher quality matches (or show you to more people) if you're a paying customer.
/r/seduction27/09/21 01:46 AM
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First of all if you got upset, certainly upset enough to post about it on social media, then you do have something for that girl. And pretending you don't doesn't make things better. Secondly, if you have something for the girl and haven't really made it clear to her, you're sort of in a dishonest relationship. If you're actually cool with her going off, leaving you and hooking with another dude while you twiddle your thumbs, then what difference does it make whether Leo DiCaprio came up and sta…
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:02 AM
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I think the difference is that the old guys were more focused on tactics and techniques and outer game whereas the new stuff is more vibe and inner game but the problem is you need both. You can’t just be cool and high value you gotta know what to do in the right situations. So I dunno if it’s wise to rely on just old methods or just new stuff but you probably find value in both.
/r/seduction12/09/20 02:05 AM
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I think what you're responding to is 2020 Owen Cook not 2002 Owen Cook. 2002 Owen Cook was a maniac who would mop the floor game wise with anyone on this sub. 2020 Owen Cook is probably too old and too much of a dad/business man to really be doing this anymore. Where most guys gave up the game a long time ago, RSD built a million dollar business with Owen as the figurehead, but the problem is the world in which RSD was built is not the same today. The issues they had with Julien Blanc didn't hel…
/r/seduction01/09/20 05:46 PM
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I agree. A bootcamp is usually not nearly enough time to fix the underlying problems. If anything all it does is open people up to possibilities, but like anything else if you're not able to recreate a bootcamp experience or mindset on your own then its difficult to make those changes a part of who you are and not just a temporary behavior. So there's a good chance of just relapsing back into old ways of thinking and doing things. I think bootcamps are a big reason the PUA marketplace failed bec…
/r/seduction01/09/20 05:29 PM
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No people treat you the way you train them to treat you. Or the way you allow them to treat you. If you're a stranger they have no reference as to who you are, so people are constantly pinging the environment to see what's appropriate behavior for them. When you walk into a room of strangers you don't know who anyone is, so you are constantly reading the environment (if you have any social awareness) of signals to figure out how to treat people so you know how to fit in yourself. So if they're t…
/r/seduction30/08/20 08:00 PM
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Also you can read The Inner Game of Tennis, which is where the term came from. It's all about how athletes can pysche themselves into either winning or losing in tense situations.
/r/seduction30/08/20 07:58 PM
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There's going to be a million girls when you start school.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:32 PM
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If you were truly red pilled you know to move on. If you chase the cat it just runs. The biggest problem you'd face here is that there's a reason she rejected you or things didn't work out and she now has a perception of you that's not working in your favor. So you can't really come back as the same guy, even if you are a bit more self-aware because she's only going to see you through the lens she already has established for you. It's a fuck ton of work to try and change someone's perception of …
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:25 PM
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Women tend not to like to date younger men. Maybe at most they might go a year younger, but its generally frowned upon even by other women (especially older women) and this creates social pressure against it. Part of this is that a lot of women have this belief that younger men are immature, but what I think it comes from is that the younger the man the less you have to offer her. A woman in her 30s is just a lot more experienced at life than you are, had the breakups and the boyfriends, the ric…
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:17 PM
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How many hotel bars are even open right now? That being said I've had luck in places like Las Vegas (so long as you make sure its not a prostitute) and they most certainly weren't cougars. But the Chandelier Bar in Vegas is not your everyday hotel bar either.
/r/seduction29/08/20 08:44 PM
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I honestly would just keep reading material, because what will happen is you'll start to see the same themes repeated over time. I always jump up and down on here telling people to start with Dr. David Buss before they get into dating material because, often pickup and dating material will come off as sleazy or off putting to people who don't understand the psychological theory behind it. If you haven't been properly introduced, there's a good chance you're going to reject a lot of the material …
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:21 PM
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I think you have to ask yourself more fundamentally, what makes a girl above your league? Because a lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that women reduce men down to looks the way guys often reduce women to looks and this just isn't the case. It is true that the 'buying power', if you will, of a beautiful woman is going to be very high, she can command the attention of guys who have more to offer her than you do, but that says nothing of her ability to keep those guys or even be a good matc…
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:14 PM
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It reminds guys that as much as they think they’re spitting game the girl is often ten steps ahead and gaming twice as hard.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:24 PM
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Yea stay out of the hood. Go out to Kennesaw's college bars or the bars in downtown Woodstock or John's Creek where people are more normal. You hang out on the beltline, yea there's girls but there's a lot of unearned pretentiousness that comes with it. The problem with Atlanta is that it's a southern city with people who are more bougie than they ought to be. Some of those girls act like they're in Beverly Hills or Miami Beach and its like "huh?" Buckhead is ok but it ain't the Upper East Side.
/r/seduction28/08/20 06:09 PM
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There's a fantastic scene in the first season of House of Cards where Claire Underwood just absolutely destroys her bodyguard who has lived with a secret crush on her for years but never said anything. He's on his death bed and she gives him and handjob and condescendingly tells him that he's half the man Frank is because Frank, for all his flaws goes out and makes things happen and gets what he wants. It's a brutal, brutal scene but exactly the kind of tough love some men need to hear. Also the…
/r/seduction28/08/20 05:16 AM
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That being said. It’s healthy that you understand these women are in their party years and if you just accept it as nothing more than that it’s fine. I wouldn’t try to wife one of them up but have fun.
/r/seduction25/08/20 06:11 AM
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I dunno I guess everyone is different but anytime the word hoe is used in an acronym it probably doesn’t portend well of the person it’s directed at.
/r/seduction25/08/20 06:10 AM
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Women DO NOT want feminine guys generally speaking. I don't know where you get that from. I think it betrays maybe your age because I've never met a woman older than maybe 25 who wanted a girly man. The girls that go for guys in boy bands are themselves young and still trying to process their own sexuality. So they tend toward a kind of harmless masculinity at that age as an ideal, but they grow out of that very quickly. There's a reason guys with Machiavellian and dark triad traits get more wom…
/r/seduction24/08/20 04:07 PM
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Yea. That's called an extinction burst. The thing here is does she know you want to be with her? Because if she's fully aware that your intention is not to be her friend but to be more than that and still is down to hang out, then you might give it a shot (but for Christ's sake don't go back to just being friendly move things forward). But if she's really thinking you're going to be comfortable just being a friend then its best to move on for the both of you.
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:40 PM
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Money or drugs.
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:37 PM
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Todd is much more technical. His style probably appeals to guys who like to understand things systemically.
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:36 PM
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You don't eliminate fear you just make yourself braver. Push through the anxiety because that's the only way you get the vaunted 'confidence' everyone speaks of. Confidence is just knowing that whatever happens you'll be okay. That gives you a grace and you calm down, but you can't get there unless you've allowed yourself to push through the fear.
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:46 PM
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The reason they say this is because too many guys are cowardly and try to use friendship as a way to sneak in the back door. They hang around with the salesman at the car dealer hoping he'll like you enough to give you a car. Rather than make an offer with confidence they try to weasel their way in, and this almost always ends up blowing up in his face (as well it should). If you genuinely want to be her friend then by all means. But if you want more than you're going to have issues because you'…
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:42 PM
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I wouldn't back out, but clearly something happened faster than she thought it should or in a way that she wasn't totally down for. This might just be a situation of two steps forward, one step back. I'd try that first before throwing the baby out with the bathwater. And also I would also develop your other leads too just in case that first one didn't pan out.
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:35 PM
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You definitely do not want to fall into the trap of thinking you need to be rich to get women. Bad news. Anyone with money tells you they'd much rather meet a woman while broke. The biggest thing is going to be your vibe. Are you manly. Arousal is built off polarity. Chances are you like girls that are more girly (unless you have a butch lesbian fetish) and it stands to reason women want guys who are more guy-ish. Also women like guys who are confident and don't placate them. Most guys don't hav…
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:08 AM
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Lol literally just be in the room.
/r/seduction20/08/20 11:09 PM
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Bodybuilder look probably not. But looking fit and in shape and having a bit of definition yea that most certainly helps. Like as much as you read all this nonsense about dad bods being sexy, you've never seen a Male strip show or hot firefighter calendar with dudes looking like that and no guy who has an actual dad bod is really cleaning up with women generally speaking. If you go to Vegas, I promise you none of the guys at Chippendales or Thunder From Downunder look like Jonah Hill. The guys t…
/r/seduction20/08/20 11:02 PM
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Ice. It’s like chasing a cat. The more you pursue the more it runs.
/r/seduction20/08/20 04:55 PM
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It's really no different than any other way of meeting someone. It's not the approach its what happens after that determines how things turn out. How you're able to parlay that into something. The reason you don't hear a lot of stories about this is because most people 1) don't cold approach and 2) rely more on meeting people from their social circles or at work or school or whatever. The problem here is that it limits your potential options and if for some reason you screw something up in that …
/r/seduction20/08/20 03:54 AM
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Yes. It's a baseline from which to start. It means she still remembers you and at least respects you enough to have pleasant conversation with you. She's not playing games or trying to tell you screw off. You'd probably want to go ahead to take a shot and getting her out and then go from there. But you have to treat her as if she was any other girl and don't be timid about it. If you start trying to play not to lose you'll surely fail.
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:09 AM
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I can't remember I think it might've been Rian Stone who said it's, in this order, GAME>STATUS>LOOKS>MONEY in terms of importance. And i think that's right because each one can override the next, at least if we're talking initial attraction. But it doesn't go the other way around. Looks won't override a guy with no game. Money just makes that even worse (nothing worse than a low-status dude with money and no game). Status can override game temporarily, but once the context changes you're back to…
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:00 AM
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It's epidemic these days unfortunately. Is what it is, man you're not the only one. If she's really interested she'll come back around, but remember the medium is the message.
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:40 PM
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If a woman wants to be with you she'll find a way to make it happen. Anything else and you're just not high on her list of priorities.
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:31 PM
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Nope. Totally wrong. Extraverted girls often really like introverted guys. Strong, silent type. Or the deep, introspective singer or poet. The girl, of course, won't conceptualize it as introversion, but they'll say he's intriguing or deep. In contrast introverted women often want the brash, outgoing guys to help pull them out of their shells. I think what happens is that guys over-identify with the girl. They assume that in order to get a girl to like them they have to be like the girl. This is…
/r/seduction19/08/20 10:22 PM
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Yea but again, people may not know you're shy. You know you're shy, but to others you might just come off as quiet or introverted.
/r/seduction19/08/20 10:11 PM
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Well the first question is have you fixed the lazy bum part? Or whatever caused you to freeze last time, because that's the real issue. I mean it sounds like you've completely lost track of this girl. I think its worth it to maybe reach out and see if she remembers you or whatever, but don't be surprised if you get no response back. Five years is a long time. Maybe if you guys were super close friends or something and just grew apart that's one thing. But if it was just something trivial its a c…
/r/seduction19/08/20 06:48 PM
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LOL that's two opposite ends of the spectrum. I mean girls are girls but context matters for sure. The only thing I'd say they'd share in common is a preference for the in-group. So if you're not Mormon, you might struggle getting a Mormon girl (which sucks because they're often super hot and often the best people you'll ever meet). In both cases there's often a strong predilection toward projecting a persona that indicates a certain set of values. So if you don't share those values or don't kno…
/r/seduction19/08/20 06:37 PM
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What are you asking? It helps to communicate in complete sentences. I'd start there before going into body language.
/r/seduction19/08/20 06:34 PM
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You should really only use DMs or texting as a way to get the girl out not to have conversations with her. Cute girls are inundated with guys trying to 'slide into her DMs' and there's no guarantee that your message will be read in the way you intend for it to be read. Your goal is to try to get her out in person so you can then display the sum total of who you are. DMs are a bad way to do that and it clusters you in with all the rest of her thirsty orbiters. There's no investment on her part. I…
/r/seduction19/08/20 06:31 PM
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Uhh what? First of all shy is not the same as low value. Your belief in your self as being low value is your problem. Why would anyone want to be with a man who saw himself as a low value? How do you even know that's how they saw you? Did some girl come up to you and be like "you low value little bitch!"? Gotta stop making assumptions about what other people think of you. Truth is most people don't even care about you, let alone put enough energy into trying to figure out where you sit on the va…
/r/seduction19/08/20 05:09 PM
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Well said. There's a right approach for every situation. And also the guys that say 'leave them alone' ignore the fact that at a lot of bigger gyms half the girls are just there for attention anyway, on their damn Instagram accounts. I figure if she's really hardcore working out then let her have her peace, but there's no issue with talking to someone in the parking lot, or out by the pool if your gym has one, or wherever. I went to a Crossfit gym where half the couples there had met in that gym…
/r/seduction19/08/20 04:58 PM
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The big difference with college game is that college game relies heavily on social circle and social proof. This is because a lot of questions are already answered for you. You already have a sense of who the other person is, their status in life, their values, their expectations simply by virtue of being in college. There's a bit of pre-qualification there, which is why people in a university type setting away from mom and dad are more comfortable with random hookups than you'd see say among ra…
/r/seduction19/08/20 04:52 PM
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You're not beating around the bush (no pun intended). Like the other poster said, your mileage may vary here, but generally speaking, if you can learn to be direct more tactfully, you'll probably have better results. Alan Roger Currie wrote a whole book on this called Mode One. That being said there are times when indirect is going to be better, especially if who you are and who she is are far apart. So if you're 50 and she's 25, coming in with a super direct approach probably won't work. I thin…
/r/seduction19/08/20 04:44 PM
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Yea exactly. It's not like all those girls swooning at Boy Bands are secretly trying to be singers or chicks that hang out at baseball games want to play right field.
/r/seduction19/08/20 04:39 PM
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In a way yes. In part because all of the social rituals that used to make boys into men have been stripped away. Even courtship itself has been reduced to swiping. I think complaining about the dating market being skewed is missing the point and yelling at the universe. Some of this is just part of being a male animal. I mean male horses have to compete for the mare. Part of being a man is understanding men display and women select. So inherent in that is that you have the responsibility to elev…
/r/seduction19/08/20 07:05 AM
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How to be a webcam pimp 101?
/r/seduction18/08/20 05:17 PM
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Well its that but its also risk aversion too. Most people who are too agreeable don't like conflict, and can't negotiate for themselves so they just capitulate. This tends to be more their issue than secretly trying to manage impressions. I'm not saying the quote is wrong, just that its only part of the picture.
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:06 AM
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Nothing. The reason guys are discouraged from this is that 1) most girls who are actually beautiful have heard it a million times since they were young and 2) a lot of women would like to be admired for something other than their looks. The other thing is that complements are often relative to the person giving the complement. So if you're a really handsome guy with amazing charm, and everything going out and you graciously tell someone they're beautiful that will come off different than a guy w…
/r/seduction18/08/20 05:59 AM
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Don't try to friend them first. That never works. It's also deceitful. You're misrepresenting yourself and your intentions. If you want a romantic relationship you need to plant those seeds. Don't try to plant a cherry tree and get apples. This is the number one way guys get friendzoned: they do it to themselves. Here's the thing, unless you really want to be friends with this girl for the sake of being friends, you don't actually want to be her friend, you want something more. So that's an unte…
/r/seduction18/08/20 05:46 AM
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If she's flirting with you that's how you know. Unless she's a stripper, waitress or bartender looking for a good tip, no woman is going to flirt with someone they don't like.
/r/seduction17/08/20 06:38 PM
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You can't control how people see you because everyone has their own filters and interpretations. It's good to have some self-awareness, but the last thing you want to do is begin to modify your behavior to what (you think) a crowd wants. You'll never be more than what they say you can be if you do that always a slave to other's opinions. And people who really make a difference both in the world and in other people's lives usually go against the grain anyway (because how else would you stand out?…
/r/seduction17/08/20 06:28 PM
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RSD probably has thousands of hours on this stuff. Jeffy and Todd for sure posted on it. A lot of that content has been taken down because RSD sort of switched over to a self-help paradigm (at least in public), but if you just do a torrent search or something most of their library is out there. I think Todd and Alex now have their own personal companies.
/r/seduction17/08/20 06:24 PM
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Next her. Move on.
/r/seduction16/08/20 08:24 PM
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You don’t know what’s going to happen until you take a shot. Don’t try to predict anything. Act and see what happens. Then react that that.
/r/seduction16/08/20 04:23 PM
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Well you're never not in game. It's not like there's some point where game just stops. It evolves for sure, you might not treat your wife the same way as a one night stand, but the fundamentals of male/female relationships doesn't change. It's just that it becomes second nature to people who have figured it out (the natural type dudes). If your wife tells you "we're not having sex until you mow the lawn" that's still game. Female game, but she's still strategizing a way to get what she wants. So…
/r/seduction16/08/20 05:11 AM
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Escalation is a two-fold process. There's verbal escalation which is basically taking the conversation in a progressively more rated R (not X) direction. And then physical escalation which is touch and moving from incidental touch like brushing up against her to very deliberate touch which in the extreme would be sex itself. In a 'smooth' escalation you're sort of doing both at the same time, letting one play off the other. I'm not sure you're getting friendzoned for not escalating per se, thoug…
/r/seduction16/08/20 04:57 AM
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Extremely visual? Yes. Easily turned on? Depends on the situation and who the girl is. Looks alone usually doesn't do it. More about how the girl advertises her availability. Would a guy leave his girlfriend or wife over a model flirting? Probably not. I also don't know many actual models who behave this way anyway. He might sleep with the model if he could, but probably won't leave his girl. This happens a lot with older dudes actually who are married. They get the young hot office assistant or…
/r/seduction15/08/20 05:15 PM
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Verbal Game Masterclass
/r/seduction15/08/20 05:10 PM
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The unworthiness comes from you placing her (or women in general) on a pedestal. You're only looking at things from the perspective of what you have to gain or loose rather than what she has to gain or loose from being with you. You're basically starting from the standpoint that you're shit, she sees that you're shit and you have to climb Everest to overcome that. The reality is you're not a piece of shit and she doesn't even know who you are. You also don't know what she's thinking, what she li…
/r/seduction15/08/20 04:58 PM
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Yea basically. Just ignore it and let her come back to you. If she really wants you as much as you think she does, she'll be the one to re-engage. The other thing to remember is if a girl wants to bang you or be with you, she'll find a way to make that happen. This kind of thing doesn't really happen to guys a girl really wants, so to some extent she's not sure about you. If you were an NFL quarterback or one of The Chainsmokers, I doubt you'd be getting ghosted (because you'd have a bevy over o…
/r/seduction15/08/20 05:39 AM
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yea Prince was like 5'4 and got more than like everyone on this sub combined. And he did it with high heels on.
/r/seduction15/08/20 05:27 AM
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So if Tom Cruise in his prime (or hell even today) at 5'5 came along you'd call him a joke?
/r/seduction15/08/20 05:26 AM
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uh wut? This is so wrong its insane. Like land you in jail or with a restraining order wrong.
/r/seduction14/08/20 05:30 PM
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Well you won't get very far being depressed like this, even less further believing you're a bottom tier man. That's basically giving up. Just remember some woman out there found Steve Buscemi and Danny Devito tolerable enough to sleep with, so you can definitely make up for it. Whatever maladies you have, I think you can either treat them like a handicap and learn to work with them or around them, sort of wear them on your sleeve so to speak like a war wound. Or you can try to overcome them. But…
/r/seduction14/08/20 06:10 AM
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I would not recommend it. Here's the issue. You're scared things aren't going to work out or that you don't have what it takes to make things work. Convinced even, because you're asking "what do I do after the (inevitable) rejection?" Well you get what you expect. If you go in expecting to lose, you'll probably find a way to make it happen. So then now you have this awkwardness with a co-worker, who you're going to be interacting with for an indeterminate amount of time. I just don't see much up…
/r/seduction14/08/20 04:27 AM
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If she called to reschedule, I don't know if I'd classify that as a flake. That being said, my guess is because your date went so well (in your eyes -- you need to always take a step back and consider whether it was as good for her), you've become overly enamored. The prospects of sex or whatever in the future are making you overeager and you're just trying to invent reasons to talk to this girl. I think the best thing to do actually is to not text her and wait until you see her again. This is b…
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:09 PM
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Yea I second the notion that she's just using you. She might have some interest but right now her priority is propping herself up. I also do not believe that if she ended the relationship she's all that hurt unless she believed he was in it for more. In any case this behavior is pretty standard fare. There are typical ways in which relationships typically break up. One is the girl just gets tired of the guy, or thinks she can do better. That's probably the most common. In this scenario the girl …
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:00 PM
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There's probably a torrent or something out there. I'd start there.
/r/seduction13/08/20 07:49 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:52 PM
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Like anything else its not about the action but the vibe and intent behind the action. If it comes from a weak and needy place, then yea it will be perceived that way. If it comes from the perspective of someone who is physically and emotionally generous, lets say, and not trying to get anything from it, then you're in a better place. If you want to be affectionate with someone and they're receptive to it, by all means. But like someone else said, different people have different tolerances. And …
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:46 PM
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Well a lot of times women will say things to you that sound like insults but when you parse the underlying meaning you realize it's a complement. Like "you must say that to all the girls," for example. The underlying premise is that you have a lot of girls who have your attention. Or when they call you a fuckboi. Those are the guys women hook up with. Being a fuckboi isn't a guy's problem its a woman's problem. They're the ones attracted to guys like that. But if you're being thought of as a guy…
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:50 PM
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I knew a guy who was missing a tooth and he did fine. I mean if you had a rapper persona or were trying to pick up women in the hills of West Virginia it might even be an affectation. That being said, I'd probably get that taken care of sooner than later. This is hard enough to do without unnecessary complications.
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:50 AM
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What do you mean by affection? Here's the thing with touchiness. If its deliberate and done in a confident unapologetic way, you're pretty fine. But if you're coming from the perspective that you're doing something wrong or shouldn't be doing it, that awkwardness is just going to rub off on the girl. Your vibe becomes her vibe and she'll either get creeped out or uncomfortable. Remember the rule is that things should just happen naturally (or at least appear to). A guy who is 'smooth' is a guy w…
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:44 AM
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All women expect to find their Chad or Alpha or male ideal lets call it. Whether they do, or what that means to them can vary greatly, and most of them that do find that guy have a propensity to screw up and let him go. Women, and people in general are always insecure about their situation. Everyone always thinks things could be better in some way, so even when you have the thing you think you want, there's a propensity to tear it down (or break up with it) out of the fear that you're missing ou…
/r/seduction13/08/20 06:33 AM
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Watch the show "The Mentalist." It's about a guy who cold reads. Basically these people make smart guesses and the smart guesses open up the door for them to really start to learn about you. Psychics are basically really good cold readers. I think the most famous guy around is a guy named Darren Brown.
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:55 AM
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Old school guys would say bang all of her friends. But honestly she's probably not worth that much effort. The truth is that you probably chased her harder than you needed to and you were probably in a secret competition with this other guy and didn't know it. (By the way that will be the case forever, there's always another guy). Remember the number one question women are asking themselves, even if unconsciously, is "is this the best I can get?" And if the other guy is a bit more stimulating or…
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:49 AM
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Yea Vegas sucks right now with COVID but should pick back up around New Year's hopefully. But man once you know the locals nights at the clubs, its probably the easiest place in the world to hone your skills. Just hang out on the patio at Omnia or at Encore Beach Club at night..endless opportunity and its free if you're local.
/r/seduction13/08/20 05:14 AM
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How to Never Run Out of Things To Say
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:05 AM
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LOL I think 95% of the guys on here would kill to you have your problems. Where you're falling apart is the disconnect between how others see you and how you see yourself. But women clearly see you positively (the fact that they're using the word fuck to describe you should be taken very positively). You just need to maybe sweep away some of your self-perceptions and expand your ideas about yourself a little bit. Maybe the women are trying to teach you something about who you can be. Women often…
/r/seduction13/08/20 12:04 AM
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I guess the first question I'd ask is what is it you actually want? Like specifically. Is it getting laid, is it a feeling of worthiness, validation, romantic companionship? Because what it sounds like is that your aim is off so to speak. Like you don't really have a defined target just a vague "I need a woman" but why? You're trying a bunch of stuff but seemingly without a plan or a defined purpose. A girl can stand around and just be cute and get male attention (because guys are dumb like that…
/r/seduction12/08/20 11:54 PM
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Without a job. I'm sure there's a few. But they're probably not the kind of guys you'd want to associate with. Drug dealers and what have you. I mean, honestly right now there's a lot of people 30+ who don't have jobs, so I'm not sure how much that criteria really applies. But if you hang out in certain circles, guys who play in bands or whatever, or are part time DJs, or something that is basically not having a real job, those guys can probably still make things happen. Alan Roger Currie has lo…
/r/seduction12/08/20 05:53 AM
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I think you need to just build on what you already have. It's not that you don't have social skills its that you may lack the skills necessary to get what you want. That's two different things. It's like someone saying they can't draw. Drawing is a skill more than a talent. It sounds like there also might be an issue where you're not screening the girls you're with very well. Because one of the things you learn is there's a girl out there who is interested in everything. In other words if you're…
/r/seduction12/08/20 04:15 AM
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Sounds like she expressed interest in her and you ignored her. You're probably done for. Gotta strike while the iron is hot. Here's the problem. It really doesn't matter whether or not she's interested in you, this situation will not work out. Why? Because you are more scared of failure than you want success. You're trying to devise plans to talk to this girl in a manner that has to least potential for failure, which of course will result in failure. Whatever you focus on is what you'll get. If …
/r/seduction11/08/20 11:52 PM
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The traditional advice was always befriend the group but focus on the girl you want. This happens all the time in night game. It's definitely easier to do in night game because its easier to isolate the girl (and actually get to know her or talk to her one on one) once her friends have warmed up to you, but its harder in daygame IMO (some might disagree). But you have to work the friends too or they'll cock block the shit out of you (usually in the form of collectively deciding they need a bathr…
/r/seduction11/08/20 11:44 PM
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This is solid. I think you just need to have good situational awareness. The gym isn't quite the same as daygame cold approach because you will see these people again likely, if they're members, and so you need to practice some judiciousness. Especially if your gym is a small community of people. LA Fitness or Equinox might be a different story, you can probably just come at a different time if you screw up too badly. That being said saying hi to someone at an appropriate time and seeing how the…
/r/seduction11/08/20 11:35 PM
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absolutely
/r/seduction11/08/20 10:55 PM
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Totally agree. But reading is essential, the more you read, the more you know. Don't throw away the knowledge and wisdom of people who have gone out and done it before you.
/r/seduction11/08/20 10:27 PM
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Maintain your frame is solid advice. Chances are if that woman is into you, its in part because you're introverted. The strong, silent, type perhaps. Doesn't mean you need to go the other way, just that who you are is probably enough to keep things going. Being with extraverted people can be a lot because they sort of don't stop and the longer you get to know each other you're going to need time to kind of chill out and refresh, but usually what you'll find (because these types of relationships …
/r/seduction11/08/20 10:22 PM
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Again I don't know very many guys who like to chase after women (even though many do), and its generally looked down upon among guys who are actually good with women. Like you would never see a true alpha celebrity male like Brad Pitt or Tom Brady or DiCaprio chasing after a woman because he literally has millions of other options. The normal playful back and forth is one thing, but a guy going out of his way to get a single girl is usually the sign of a guy with very few options and likely an u…
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:46 PM
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Yea I spent the better part of my 20s and 30s moving from place to place and I found that many of my issues followed me wherever I went. So you have to figure out what's causing the problems you have an fix that, because its likely not the locale. That being said, some cities are better than others. I definitely did better in the South than basically anywhere else. Maybe because of my values or upbringing, or whatever I got along better with southern women (they're also pretty hot). It was just …
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:41 PM
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Well there's some truth to that. I imagine you're probably not super attracted to hyper masculine butch women. So polarity is important. People don't really want what they already have they want to be complemented or shown something new and that's why masculine/feminine polarity is so important. And it is important to try and find that side of you. Work out, lift, try and develop aspects of your persona that don't come naturally to you, because you won't move the needle much, but you'll move eno…
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:30 PM
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I don't know hardly any guys who want to be chased. I guess it depends on what you mean by chase, but usually boldness wins the day, especially if the guy has options. But everything in moderation. If you just throw yourself at a person, then that might be interpreted as you being the kind of person who throws themselves at everyone, which is a turnoff. But most guys I know tend to like more forward women (so long as she's not like that with everyone), simply because its so rare. What most girls…
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:16 PM
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It comes off creepy when there's a disconnect between the behavior and the words. Creepiness is basically your intuitions telling you that something is off about the situation. Your stress levels go up because your brain is trying to scan to see what's not right. If a person is disingenuous it's usually discovered and its this disingenuousness that's called 'creepy' because the other person then isn't aware of what you're really after which is downright scary. It's why psychopaths are so terrify…
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:04 PM
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Yea the COVID thing really sucks not gonna lie. I think you’re on the right track with self improvement. That’s never a bad thing. And now is a great time because nothing better is going on it’s also a great way to play the long game because you’re investing in your own future at an early age. That will pay off huge down the road. One of the problems young guys have is that young girls tend to prefer the fuck boy party guys. Basically the guys who are stimulating. Young girls are like stimulatio…
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:19 AM
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Corey Wayne Alan Roger Currie Todd Valentine
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:52 PM
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But its the same thing with women. Your issue is just lack of practice or bad technique. Yes it is true that other people have agency to accept or reject you, but the propensity for them to accept or reject you is largely based on your approach. Even David Beckham might get turned down, but the likelihood of that happening is significantly less because he's fucking David Beckham. He's done something with his life that most women would happy to be a part of. Now you're not Beckham or Tom Brady, b…
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:15 PM
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Communicate man to woman. If left alone on a desert island there is a natural sexual tension between men and woman that should, if left to its own devices lead toward sex. So if you're ending up in the friendzone you're thwarting that process somewhere along the line. Probably not making your intentions clear soon enough. You don't have to be all gangsta like "hey shawty wanna smash" (though those guys do get laid probably more than you) but she needs to know that what you're offering is more th…
/r/seduction10/08/20 06:25 PM
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I think you took the wrong lessons from your situations. Usually if you're being rejected its your approach or tactics or techniques not you. Working on yourself personally is a good thing to do, but if you have an issue with how you're going about things, you won't solve them by spending more time in the gym or 'working on yourself'. What spending more time in the gym or 'better yourself' (whatever that means for you) is make you a more attractive candidate, much like wearing nice clothes, or h…
/r/seduction10/08/20 06:13 PM
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How do I act non needy while spending time with a girl? Basically how do I act non needy? You first have to figure out what it is you think you need. Sex? Romance? Validation? Someone who is attracted to you? Some combination of the above? Most guys are just really unfocused here. They can't get anything because they don't know what they want. They just know they want or even need something. So one of the problems with guys who can't get laid is they can't separate out the desire for sex with th…
/r/seduction10/08/20 05:37 PM
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Push pull- I assume push pull works from field reports and posts, but my question is should push pull still be used if I manage to somehow have a long term relationship? This used to be known as 'fractionation' in the Ross Jeffries days. The point of it is to build tension and intrigue. It sort of creates this game of guessing what's next rather than just sort of vomiting out how you feel in the moment which kills everything. When things are mildly unpredictable there's a kind of excitement that…
/r/seduction10/08/20 05:37 PM
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Yea I can empathize. The problem with orbiters though, like you said, is that they secretly always want something you're not prepared to give (or more specifically they want something you won't give to them) which always adds a lot of tension. That's definitely a tough situation you're in though for sure.
/r/seduction10/08/20 04:23 AM
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Most of these guys just disappear. They kind of fall of the map. We're not talking about the kind of guys you date (because we have to clarify that when people say 'guys' or 'girls' they're usually talking about people they're interested in or have been with in the past not all men or women which is often a very small sample size). What I mean by they disappear is that there are legions of men out there who sort of never are able to achieve a real relationship or intimacy. They're sort of visibl…
/r/seduction10/08/20 03:55 AM
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That’s by necessity. Women don’t want inexperienced guys or guys who openly struggle to attract women. So guys who do struggle, which is most to some degree, have to try to put out a vibe that suggest otherwise or else they’re really screwed. Women select for dominant and confident men but the problem is you can’t be confident unless you have something to be confident about. You can’t just declare yourself confident that’s just narcissistic. So a lot of these guys are in a double bind. You need …
/r/seduction10/08/20 12:51 AM
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Absolutely not true. And this is a dangerous belief especially for younger inexperienced guys because that guy will spend all his energy trying to get rich or a fancy car only to have that girl he's after sleep with a dude with no job.
/r/seduction09/08/20 04:19 PM
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Get out of the frame of trying to read her, and get into the frame of bringing her into your world. Like its great to be the next Paul Ekman or Ray Birdwhistell (two experts on body language) but the reality is, many women put out signals that are too subtle for most guys to catch, and even if the guy does catch them, if the guy is not self-confident he will just misinterpret them or spin them negatively. So while its never a bad thing to be educated, you need to stop trying to over-analyze what…
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:40 PM
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Well you're 17 so there's a certain amount of liability there with regard to older guys. No one wants to end up labelled a predator. The older you get the more that issue will subside. The big issue though is that most guys are scared to approach women they find attractive. Like another poster said, the only guys who tend to be bold enough to make overt gestures are assertive, aggressive guys who may or may not only be interested in things for what they can get out of it. A lot of women don't un…
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:36 PM
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I think you're just overthinking things. You don't really know what kind of person he is until you open him or strike up a chat. What you'll usually find is the that people who have these gruff personas or come off as bitchy are often the nicest, warmest people in the world under the surface (it's the people who come off as a nice and sweet who are the sharks).
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:29 PM
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If he's touching you that's flirty. Although I do know some older guys like in their 60s who are back rubbers, which women today find cringy, but those guys are of a different era.
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:27 PM
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Bushnell Park maybe. If you can get past the homeless people. It's too bad schools aren't in because obviously Church Street in New Haven is a great place. Same with Downtown Springfield, I mean you could just hang out in Stearns Square on a Friday or Saturday night. When I lived I hate CT though, as I thought it was a particularly difficult place to meet women. Either too suburban or too ghetto, or too guido.
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:26 PM
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A lot of women show indifference just out of habit, or even worse, when they like you. Think of it like this. When you go into a store and the salesman walks up to you, what do you normally say? "Just looking," or "just browsing." Now of course that's not true there's something in the store that definitely has your attention or you wouldn't be there, but the issue is you're not ready for an interaction with the salesman, which is different than not being ready for the product. So you throw up a …
/r/seduction27/07/20 09:23 PM
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I’m assuming you’re not trolling. But yes working on yourself is always good advice but it’s only part of the picture. You still need to take action. Still gotta do your approaches and go on dates and all the rest. What working on yourself does is reduce liability. You’re more of a sure thing assuming your personality is halfway decent. If you’re in shape and have your shit together that functions as your marketing so to speak. Think of it like getting a job. It’s great to be smart or have degre…
/r/seduction27/07/20 04:39 AM
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It sounds like you developed a persona that was masking the real you. This is a common problem and fortunately you caught it early in life. But people tend to think they are who they present themselves to be. And these are not the same things. How you try to come off is a function how how you see your place in the world, and that is influenced by your environment, the people around you, your manners, etc. But who you are deep down doesn't care about any of those things and is always a more true …
/r/seduction25/07/20 10:08 PM
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You might just be introverted. You probably pay attention to more extraverted women because they contrast so much with you. It's also the case that some women tend to score higher on things like negative emotion (neuroticism) and anxiety so that will affect your temperament too. But generally speaking you have to figure out whether or not its an issue of temperament, meaning that you're just kind of a less expressive person. Or whether or not your issue stems from actual unhappiness. If you're a…
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:59 PM
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It's like anything else. If it wasn't height it would be something else. Look at all the guys who worry about race. Or their penis size. Or the amount of money they have. Or how introverted they are. Or how jacked they are. You have to understand that everyone has something that threatens to trip them up and the best way to overcome it is to just live in such a way to where that thing doesn't matter. Everyone has something and this is just what you happened to get, but don't fall into the illusi…
/r/seduction25/07/20 06:28 AM
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Any reasons against are basically imaginary unless you're just a total creeper. In which case that will be revealed quickly. Either way the answer is approach, approach, approach and see what happens.
/r/seduction25/07/20 02:38 AM
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Well the nice thing about beaches though is the girl is already in a quasi-sexual situation. Half naked in a bikini, so its already a more casual encounter. Like she knows you're staring at her ass. It's not that hard at a beach or a pool party to escalate or to turn things naughty and maybe even a little bit of alcohol is already in the mix so there's more disinhibition. Whereas at a mall you're sort of starting from further away from the goal line.
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:57 AM
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I'm literally just here for the comments. ​ Maybe something involving the weather girl on a Mexican newscast.
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:51 AM
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I don't know where you live so its hard to give advice. I live near a beach, so even with the lockdown there's plenty of girls at the beach on weekends or watching the sunset. All the usual places you'd go to meet people like malls, and college bars or whatever aren't open so that makes it really hard. Even sporting events could be great in ordinary circumstances (baseball games are always chock full of hot women). Theme parks. But man with everything closed, I just don't know. You might be forc…
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:48 AM
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You're better off coming across as an approachable person. Serious stone face never gets anyone anywhere, not even James Bond. Seriously watch the way Daniel Craig plays the character when he's around women. It's never super stone cold, but warm, smirky, sarcastic, playful. Watch his interactions with Moneypenny, its almost as if the two of them are about to start cracking on each other, there's an underlying playfulness and you see that the stone face is just an act. That's why his cocky one-li…
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:41 AM
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Well so long as they are legal you can go with the flow. But just know that at some point the difference between your life and hers is going to catch up. You're just in a different place in life and also I wouldn't expect anything serious with someone that young. They're just usually starting out their party years and so there's a good chance you'll just be one of many guys.
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:36 AM
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Fortune favors the bold. It's always better to act and see what happens than to try to assume what you think will happen and not act.
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:31 AM
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I remember being this age and I remember how much it sucked because it effectively cut off a bunch of your peers. My advice though would be to hang out at a college (once things open back up). Take some community college courses or get enrolled at a university or something to get around girls that are your age and older. You do not want to risk getting accused of anything by busybody parents.
/r/seduction25/07/20 01:30 AM
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I don't remember who said it, might've been Bobby Rio or John Sinn or someone but, the further you are away from the woman in terms of age, or looks, or sexual market value, or intellect or whatever, the more you want to be indirect in your approach. If you're 50 and she's 22, coming at her with a direct proposition is not likely to work. But if you're an alpha celebrity and she's a 10/10 model, then you can be more direct. This is obviously all situational and a lot has to do with how the woman…
/r/seduction24/07/20 07:10 PM
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Approach anyone you're interested in. Seriously. Many girls will never give you an IOI or smile or whatever. In fact, many times, the more a girl likes you the more she pretends that she doesn't and looks aloof or at her phone or whatever. She's expecting you to do all the work so you just gotta do it. Yes, it is safer if you're getting eye contact or if a girl is hovering around you, but in girl world those are obvious signals and like 90% of girls, especially if they're very attractive will ne…
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:51 PM
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You don't. That's not how love or attraction works. You don't really know this girl, you just have a fantasy of who you think she is.
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:46 PM
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You have to figure out the root cause of why you are chickening out. Whatever anxiety you have that's causing you to fumble in the endzone and face it head on. There's definitely a fear there. The easiest way to do it is just to power through it the next time, because even awkwardness (and all first time sexual encounters are slightly awkward so most of the time the girl will think its her that's awkward not you). This is better than doing nothing and having regret. In the old days guys would ju…
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:39 PM
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Not gonna lie this sub is usually full of guys trying to get laid...
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:25 PM
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lol what?
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:10 AM
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Sorry to break it to you but no one will reward you for that. This is the problem with people who fancy themselves as intellectuals. They think that being smart is enough for them to get by in the world. And they are routinely disappointed when people either ignore them or don't bask in all their perceived intellectual glory (I would venture to guess you probably come off as a dick, but instead of people fearing you they just pity you). If this isn't kept in check this results in intelligent peo…
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:00 AM
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Well you need a proper read of the situation first and foremost. Did she truly leave him? Did he break up with her? Is there another person in the picture you don't know about? Did someone cheat? Because it's less common for women to leave men without having someone else already around or in mind. That's a phenomenon known as "branch swinging." Where monkeys, for example, will already have one arm on another branch before letting go of the previous one. Women tend to do this with boyfriends a lo…
/r/seduction24/07/20 05:35 AM
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Yea... i think a lot of us are coming from the school of hard knocks that's for sure when it comes to this stuff.
/r/seduction21/07/20 11:21 PM
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Yea it sucks, but it is what it is. It's just a lesson that you got to strike when the iron is hot. She may not have been as into you as you all imagined (clearly because people are usually not that hot and cold unless they've got the kind of issues you want no part of). Or she's just being aloof for no good reason but that's not for you have to figure out you don't want to be around someone playing games either. The good news is that you'll get it right next time. But at least you know why thin…
/r/seduction21/07/20 06:35 PM
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But for some reason when I get a woman alone that I really like I tend to lose the edge. I don't know how to create or keep tension between us because I generally let my intent and desire to sleep with her be known right off the bat. I'm not entirely sure this is a correct analysis. I think in the situation you describe the tension is more about how the girl responds to you and how you respond to it. Usually if a guy comes off as overtly sexual the woman pulls back, sometimes way back as a way o…
/r/seduction21/07/20 06:20 PM
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You're basically playing a script from earlier in your life. Running off beliefs that might've been plausible when you were younger but don't hold now. You just have to keep pushing past that so your reality begins to overpower the inner narrative. Eventually if you approach enough and get enough responses your real world will become stronger than the world inside your head but until you have those reference experiences your mind is on autopilot from years and years of conditioning.
/r/seduction21/07/20 06:01 PM
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Exactly this. Also when women say they want an intelligent man, they mostly mean "not dumb," as opposed to Einstein. Also intelligent people, but especially guys tend to have this weird vibe wherein they think that being smart is enough to get by in the world. Many of them haven't actually done anything or made anything or accomplished anything other than being smart and a lot of these guys have a hidden resentment of the fact that the world rewards people who take action and do stuff not just p…
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:53 PM
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I'd say why not if you have a natural interest in it? But you should not take a class or learn a skiil because you're trying to meet women. You do it because its what you love and your love of it makes you good at it and that's what's attractive. Obviously women love to dance and love a man who can dance ....to a point. Just like anything else understand that you don't need to be in the Bolshoi Ballet to get a woman, just confident and comfortable. Dance is a wonderful way to express yourself no…
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:50 PM
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Lesson learned. Fortune favors the bold. Always. Always. All those other guys that you were so worried about looking at you for your "imagined" failure, one of them might be the one with her now because you failed to act. The very thing you thought you were trying to avoid you actually brought about because now they're saying "man that guy had her and couldn't close." Don't disguise cowardice as morality or "looking out for the group," or whatever justification you come up with for not acting. T…
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:42 PM
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Yes. At your age that is illegal. And you do not want to get slapped with a sexual predator label at your age and don't think someone's busybody parents wouldn't try to do it.
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:28 PM
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Yea you probably come off as unapproachable. You have to understand most guys believe the answer will be no so won't even take a shot unless they're wasted and then its just obnoxious spamming at that point out of desperation. The other thing is a lot of what women think is being overt is actually so subtle that guys miss it. I've literally seen girls like jump on a dude's lap and the guy be like "naw she wasn't into me." Like you kind have to be a bit more over the top than you think sometimes.…
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:21 PM
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lol Sounds like she's brought it up for you. Clearly you're not looking for anything serious either. Also never listen to women when they say they don't want something serious. Unless they've just broken up with a longtime bf (and even then...) or have some outstanding issue in their life where they can't have a serious bf, very few women out there actually want to be in short term relationships or single for no good reason. That usually just indicates that whatever men are in their awareness ar…
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:09 PM
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Men Who Lack Assertiveness Regardless of what you think of him, you probably won't get a better analysis of why you need to develop your assertiveness as a man than this.
/r/seduction21/07/20 01:02 AM
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Its more about having a sense of an entitlement and feeling you have as much right to have the things you want out of life as anyone else does. A lot of guys (and lets face at a lot of women) deep down do not feel that they are entitled to be happy or to have what they want. That's how you get talk like "she's out of my league." Implicit in that phrase is this notion of there being an upper limit to what you can get out of life. But that notion is heavily biased, not grounded in anything really …
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:24 PM
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Then maybe have a wingman or someone just sort of hang out with you and pay more attention to you in detail while you're in the interaction. That's not fool proof but it's still feedback, because that's really all you need is good feedback to fix the minor things going wrong.
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:16 AM
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No. Men do not like bitchy women. Period. At any age. It's literally one of the things that really gets under most men's skin. You have to realize for most men their concepts of 'woman' and feminine love are formed from their relationships with their mother, and if you're a halfway decent mother you're probably not treating your sons with a bitchy demeanor (usually quite the opposite mothers tend to baby their sons even into middle age) so when men come across bitchy women its really off-putting…
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:15 AM
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It's much easier if you're already having sex with her first. Otherwise you're kind of stuck in her frame. Or you present yourself as someone who has a lot of options from the get-go. But part of the problem that's screwing you up is you are assuming the girl doesn't want to be your FWB. That's probably not wise. You should act in accordance with your desires and then let the woman respond to that, not try to outsmart her or think you can intuit how things are likely to play out. You honestly do…
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:03 AM
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55 out of a hundred that were open to a conversation is actually really good results man. That means more than half of the girls gave you an opening of some sort. It's just a matter of figuring out where you're going wrong tactically. This is where in-field footage really helps. Having someone record you (if you can) might clear up the issue real fast when you can see yourself from the third person or maybe just even recording the audio of the interaction on your phone or something and listening…
/r/seduction19/07/20 06:54 AM
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She doesn't respect him because she has to balls to say some nonsense like that knowing there'll be no repercussion for it.
/r/seduction18/07/20 08:35 PM
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I think you just go for what you want and let the situation sort itself out. You clearly don't care much for how these girls feel about you anyway, what difference does it make? Yes, generally speaking, the ability to own a social circle this way is a good thing, BUT, there's a good chance it can blow up in your face especially if the girls aren't aware of each other. So if you're okay with burning the whole damn thing to the ground (lets assume these are not co-workers but just people you can a…
/r/seduction18/07/20 07:49 PM
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You can either call out her rudeness on the spot, which is probably not uncalled for to be honest. Or you can just ignore it and move on from her. She wouldn't talk like that to someone she had respect for.
/r/seduction18/07/20 07:44 PM
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Yea but this isn't really most guys' problem. Most guys' issue is not being sexual enough. They end up in 90 minute conversations that go nowhere or in platonic friendships because they never establish the premise of the interaction as leading to romance or sex. They just play it safe. So 80% of guys out there could probably stand to push harder because they're probably not pushing near hard enough and finding themselves stuck in situations they'd rather not be in. Women don't like to hear this …
/r/seduction18/07/20 07:14 PM
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I think any of Todd’s stuff is really good. He’s kind of a savant and I think he’s gotten better now that he’s left RSD. But I also think it’s a lot of theory and you really do need to match it with practice. Most of these programs have some decent nuggets of wisdom but sometimes it’s so much that if you’re not out in the field being reminded of what you learned in the moment the things you learned might escape you.
/r/seduction17/07/20 05:45 PM
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What do you mean by program? Like coaching program like what Corey Wayne offers? Or are you talking about software like Tinder or Bumble? If its in-person coaching make sure you're with someone who has a lot of actual experience in the field. Someone who is willing to go out with you and really coach you up not just someone who loads your head with a bunch of theory or is more focused on their marketing effort. Unfortunately the dating coach world has an excess of charlatans. Also find someone w…
/r/seduction17/07/20 06:39 AM
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LOL...I'll have to make sure my Reddit handle is on my Linkedin page to avoid similar confusions in the future.
/r/seduction17/07/20 06:13 AM
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Bro I've met Brad Pitt personally. I work in the entertainment business. When you get to know these people up close they are no different than anyone else. He's a 56 year old guy with a bunch of kids. Take away the stardom and the fame and there's no magical power there.
/r/seduction16/07/20 09:04 PM
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That's because Brad Pitt is prequalified, so to speak. She already know who he is. If he was just Brad, some plumber or garbage man he'd fall back into the same rules as everyone else.
/r/seduction16/07/20 08:57 PM
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Like anything else context is key. Here's the problem, most people don't actually get to a hard no and many times those that do are just terrible at reading signs and signals and kind of get what they have coming. Or they have some sort of pathology. It is almost never the case that when a man makes a pass at a woman the woman says yes. Unless you're a celebrity that's basically never going to happen. The default answer will be some form of no. That's because young women have endless suitors and…
/r/seduction15/07/20 06:27 PM
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Okay first off, do you know she's not attracted to you? You need to figure that out first. If you've had opportunities you're probably not dealing with someone who thinks poorly of you. I say this because this WILL NOT work if your assumptions about the situations are wrong. All of Mark's tactics assume someone who is confident about the situation. Any tactic can go right or wrong depending on how its delivered. I would say its much safer to start from the perspective of "its on" and "what took …
/r/seduction15/07/20 06:38 AM
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I think some of this may just be your personality? You strike me as someone who likes to have things planned out in general. I'm sort of the exact opposite. I prefer spontaneity (or at least the appearance of it) when I'm out so it feels like we had a mini-adventure. But those are just personality differences. I had a female friend like this. You could never do a surprise wedding engagement proposal because she'd spoil it wanting to know where we were going, when, why, how, for how long, etc. Al…
/r/seduction15/07/20 06:21 AM
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Its really hard to do with text. Maybe with emojis or bitmojis or memes. The reason is you have no control as to how the text will be read. The voice you hear in your head when you write is not necessarily the same voice that's going to read the text and whatever mood she's in is going to influence how it comes across. That being said, not caring and just kinda saying what you want to say is probably the best solution. I would not try to hard to get a reaction. You're not a comedian and your int…
/r/seduction15/07/20 06:14 AM
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Who exactly goes around saying looks don't matter? I'm pretty familiar with most mainstream PUAs out there and I don't recall any of them explicitly saying this. Owen Cook has implied this a few times, but in his case, he's probably right. What they generally say is that looks aren't everything and that women do not evaluate looks the same way men do. For men looks are the beginning and endpoint whereas with women that is CLEARLY not the case. Women evaluate more holistically, based more on how …
/r/seduction15/07/20 06:02 AM
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The medium is the message. These aren’t shit tests. They’re subtle hints to tell you to get lost. Take the L and move on and save yourself from unnecessary heartache. No woman who actually cares for you would talk to you that way. Much less bring up an old boyfriend or lover. The whole situation can be read as a shit test to see if you’re man enough to maintain your dignity and walk away. Or are you so desperate you’ll lower yourself down to her attacks just for a crumb of her attention?
/r/seduction14/07/20 11:08 PM
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The only problem with this advice (and its not bad advice) is that, in real life, unless you're absolutely terrible you won't fail 100 or 1000 times. What usually happens is something worse. You don't fail enough. You get success too quickly after only a handful of approaches, for example, or your business grows too quickly and then you haven't actually had the requisite experiences to gird yourself against the inevitable downturns. If 1000 girls are rejecting you have MAJOR issues. Hell if 10 i…
/r/seduction14/07/20 08:54 PM
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If it's someone on your job and you have anything resembling a human resources department...I'd probably say its not worth the risk. If you work at Burger King and don't care about your job then have a ball, but in any sort of corporate type job where reputation matters, you might fish elsewhere. It's tricky because the workplace is the number one place people meet, but also like most relationships, the likelihood is that things are not going to work out (assuming you make headway at all) and ev…
/r/seduction14/07/20 07:01 PM
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Accept the fact that she has a boyfriend and move on. Nothing you can do. Trying to destroy their relationship just makes you look desperate and pathetic. The best way to get her interested in you is for her to see you doing well with someone else. Envy is a bitch of an emotion but remember you let each other go. Decisions have consequences. You made a decision that was the smart thing to do at the time. Had you known you'd be back you'd have done something different but you didn't. So nothing y…
/r/seduction11/07/20 12:46 AM
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LOL
/r/seduction11/07/20 12:12 AM
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The old school guys would just learn a bunch of routines. That's not a fool proof solution but keeps you out of your head. What happens is when you're under pressure you stop thinking. Literally your brain is in fight or flight mode, not clever witticisms mode, so some of that has to do with calming yourself down mentally by not placing so much pressure on yourself or the situation. Think of it more like a game. You might miss a free throw here and there or strike out but that doesn't mean you'r…
/r/seduction11/07/20 12:09 AM
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A shit test is anyone someone busts your balls to see what you're made of. Guys do it all the time to each other. Usually give you a bit of a hard time. The difference is with guys, if you pass the test by either saying "fuck off" or standing up for yourself guys will leave you alone. Women on the other hand never stop. Ever. The tests maybe become less intense over time (the more doubt she has about you the greater the tests) but they don't stop. Even married guys get "you're going to go out lo…
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:44 PM
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sorry buddy. Better to work on them now than later. Its much much easier that way, trust me. If someone had given me that advice at 18 I wouldn't be on a subreddit at 38.
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:31 PM
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Think about it this way. If you were to do it with a guy it would feel gay, then that's probably what you want to be doing with a girl. That awkward feeling you get is sexual tension. That goes for how you speak, how you move, how you touch her, etc. You're probably just not pushing hard enough. Or when you do its uncallibrated and comes at the wrong time, which happens when you're more in your head and not present in the moment.
/r/seduction10/07/20 09:10 PM
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How old are they? They're probably stringing you along. The best thing you can do is walk away. The reason for this is that's what they're testing you for. To see how desperate you are and wasting your time by getting attention from you without having to give anything back in return. If you just walk, you put the ball back in your court and demonstrate to them that this is a two-way street. There's a great maxim I think from Rollo Tomassi: Girls make rules for guys they see as beta, and break ru…
/r/seduction10/07/20 07:26 PM
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Yea Pacific Beach for sure. You could literally just hang out at a bar all day there.
/r/seduction10/07/20 05:27 AM
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LOL. This sounds like that dude on Twitter. Robert Frank. You know its good to have a little tough love. But this is drill sargeant talk and can only persist for so long. Life will beat you up enough on its own, constantly trying to live this Spartan, stoic life is a false endeavor. It's the equivalent of the guy who goes off to live in some Buddhist temple in Tibet. Life will just drop kick it out of you with something you're completely ill prepared for. Whenever i hear someone talk like this i…
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:37 AM
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yea that's probably a mild turn off. Women sometimes fall into the trap of thinking the things that attract them to men are the things that men are attracted to in women. While a guy might appreciate a woman who has her shit together, you don't want to come off as a competitor. Also the World Cup Finals are just a soccer game. There's athletes, coaches, and referees and a clock. It's no different than junior soccer when you're a little kid. What I mean by this is don't make it more than it is. H…
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:21 AM
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Doesn't Jeffy or Todd Valentine have a course on exactly this? I think its Jeffy.
/r/seduction10/07/20 01:13 AM
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Bobby Rio has a good course on this called Make Small Talk Sexy. Todd Valentine too has some good tricks here (Todd's really the guru here). But you basically have to make the conversation sexy without being sexual (at least until its time). Remember escalation is both physical (kino, touching, hand holding, etc) and conversational (talking about sexy topics, being playful and naughty, etc). Also you sort of want to understand the general flow of the interaction. Understanding that if she's at a…
/r/seduction09/07/20 10:05 PM
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Is there something wrong with you? Or do you just believe that? If your female friends are telling you you're attractive they're probably not lying. So what's likely happening is that you have a distorted self-image and that distortion is leading to self-defeating behaviors. This is the gist of like 90% of the posts on this forum by the way. Carl Jung would describe it as the negative anima. This sense that women are judging you and somehow see you as reprehensible, even if actual women don't. T…
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:30 PM
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The judge is not external its in your head. And you have to take control. The reality is that the people around you are not judging you in any meaningful way. In fact they're likely not even paying any real attention to you at all. That's because they're so busy in their own heads and their own lives, so to the degree you matter at all its only in relationship to how it affects them. They could careless about your hangups because they're fighting their own. So all the judging and the inferiority…
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:13 PM
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Well guys don't "become themselves" until they get in their thirties anyway. So a guy in his mid 30s-early 50s is really in his 'prime,' so there's a synergy with women in their early 20s who are in their prime. The issue is now that you're older can you stand to be with someone like 10-15 years younger than you because other than sex you stop having things in common until she gets older. Sometimes younger girls feel more like a daughter at times. Also girls in that age group are in their party …
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:01 PM
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You have to remember that attention is the currency of girl world. Attention is to young women (and really even older women) what sex is to guys. Instagram likes are to girls what porn is to guys. So for an attractive girl, they relish attention, even if they don't like individual dudes giving it. So guys who give free attention are the male equivalent of slutty girls. It's fun for a while, but at some point the other person realizes that they're profiting and giving nothing back (relatively spe…
/r/seduction09/07/20 06:49 PM
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You basically described what your problem is. You don't make eye contact and you're not assertive and don't take action. That's pretty much the kiss of death right there. Being introverted doesn't matter it really depends on the girls. Some girls love the "strong silent type," and some like more outgoing guys (usually its the inverse, so extraverted women like introverted guys and vice versa as a general rule). People tend to be attracted to their complements. But man you have to take action. Ev…
/r/seduction09/07/20 06:37 PM
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Anyone who will not let you be yourself around isn’t actually your friend. That’s just an elaborate illusion. Your relationship is false. It’s built on a lie about who you are that you are all conspiring in and that’s unhealthy. In reality they probably suspect who the real you is anyway because people around you often see aspects of you that you can’t or think you’re hiding and aren’t going to balk at you being a bit more honest about who you are and your intentions. A good friend will encourag…
/r/seduction09/07/20 08:26 AM
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Black girls aren't a monolith. Are you talking about girls who are more street? Or girls who go to Georgetown? Nikki Minaj is a lot different from Candace Owens. But I'm part black myself and get where you're coming from. I think American black girls don't have a lot of experience with middle eastern guys. The same is probably true of white girls too. There's a lot of negative stereotypes. So some of this is just them not knowing what to expect. But I think the rules of game and seduction once t…
/r/seduction09/07/20 08:04 AM
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Tension arises anytime there is the sense that someone wants something that you don't. It's a general sign of opposition lets call it. But in a grander scheme of things the opposition might just be a necessary part of the game. Let's use football as an analogy. Every play has two teams with opposite goals. One team is trying to score and the other is trying to stop them. This creates tension and opposition, sometimes intense. But if you zoom out to a meta level you realize that both teams play t…
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:40 AM
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It's all about subtext. You have to learn to see the situation underneath the situation so to speak. Remember there's always two games being played in any interaction. The visible game, which is just the conversation or outward behavior itself, and then the invisible game which deals with the power dynamic (who is in control of the interaction, or who's world are you living in?) and what do people really want. The best analogy I can think of comes from movies. When you're writing a scene in a mo…
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:12 AM
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The biggest problem you have is probably you don't establish your intent as sexual from the get go. You don't whip it out so to speak. And you probably are trying to use being friends first to sneak in, which is like trying to befriend a car dealer to let him give you a car. Not gonna happen even if they enjoy your company. The issues you have probably aren't related to the way you look. If you have a lot of female friends you're clearly liked or at least tolerable. You have to understand women …
/r/seduction09/07/20 01:26 AM
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Figure out what's in it for her. Right now this sounds very selfish and one-sided, so its destined to fail. But if there's something she stands to gain (its on you as her ex to figure out what that is), then it's more of a likelihood. Also it really depends on how you broke up. You might want sex with her but you probably don't want pity sex where the girl is just banging you to keep you at bay. Otherwise I wouldn't bring it up. Escalate as if you were still her bf and see what happens.
/r/seduction08/07/20 10:29 PM
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I think the first thing is to figure out the actual reasons it ended and not the reasons you think it ended. That might be a tough assignment mind you, in part because he may not tell you what you want to hear, or worse in trying to protect your feelings not tell the truth. So you don't have a good basis from which to salvage the relationship unless you are operating from the standpoint of what is really going on. Not knowing the particulars of your situation its sort of hard to give advice but …
/r/seduction08/07/20 10:21 PM
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One of the two of you probably isn't escalating. It should be the guy. You're probably having boring nice conversations that go nowhere or interactions that are safe and platonic. In order to break that someone has to up the stakes and allow there to be some sexual tension. The more tension the more desire. If you stay friendly, you end up as friends, which lets be honest is not what either of you want. The thing you will run into with a lot of young guys is that they are trained to fear sexual …
/r/seduction08/07/20 05:32 AM
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Just play like you expect to win. And don't let yourself become so personally ego-invested in any one interaction. Just like you'd tell an athlete not let one game define him, even a big game. Just take each interaction for what you can learn from it.
/r/seduction07/07/20 09:08 PM
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The first thing I'd work on is the fear of social interaction. That's probably a bigger issue than the way you interact with women, especially if you've had LTRs in the past. With many people its a function of either learning to quiet or paradoxically actually listen to that voice that stifles you. This is because often the voice that tells you that "you aren't," is really leading you in the direction of what you need to become. What's happening (without getting too psychoanalytical) is that you…
/r/seduction07/07/20 08:09 PM
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I know Alan personally. Mode One works if your subcommunications are on point. Your vibe has to be super dialed in which his is. But his philosophy is pretty sound. If you listen to his old podcasts you’ll see him get women worked up pretty quickly. I would describe his philosophy as fortune favors the bold. He’s all about quickly screening the girl and figuring out quickly how much bs she’s gonna throw at you rather than letting it unfold over time. He’s very quick to figure out which women are…
/r/seduction06/07/20 09:52 PM
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