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NO_TIP_JUST_SHAFT/r/askTRP28/05/20 02:04 PM
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Or she is just looking for validation/attention. I would do 1 or 4 but you can always ask her to come over, if she declines or changes the subject it's the above and ghost her. Otherwise enjoy.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:00 PM
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You can enjoy it for a couple of months max, but the good will soon vanish. She will start doubting you, start shit testing you hard, she will go out with her friends again and get attention/validation from other guys and she will start acting like a b*tch.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 07:48 AM
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We don't, it depends on so much variables (each person is different, quality of sets, intensity, ...) however you seem like a beginner so I would just recommend going for hypertrophy. Keep it simple, 3 sets of each exercise between 8-12 reps. If you can do 12 clean reps (good form) for 3 sets increase the weight the next time. As a beginner start with a beginner program. I like 3x full body workout which focuses on compound movements. EDIT: Except for deadlift and squat, you want 5-8 reps. Just …
/r/askTRP29/12/20 07:40 AM
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This.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:27 AM
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She framed the whole break up as if it was your fault and she got away with it as well. Now you feel bad about it as if you made mistakes and still think she is a good person whilst she just manipulated you into thinking that. Hell, she probably even framed herself into thinking you are the bad guy. I think the reality is different and the real reason she left you is another one.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:25 AM
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It's over at this moment, maybe she'll contact u again when she got bored of some other guys. Who knows. Forget her and get other plates.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:22 AM
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If she is asking you via text if you had a great time I wouldn't just tell her yes, give her some shit, don't answer directly. Keep her guessing. Remember a woman wants certainty but needs uncertainty.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 08:36 AM
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If they flake you can give them one more chance, but after that it's over. And you don't call them out on it, you just ghost them. If they after a time start initiating contact again you can ask them to come over, if they don't just block them. After the first flake if they don't offer a new date it's not looking good for ya. Sounds like she is just using you for validation, or is stringing you along cause she currently already has a guy but wants to keep her option open. To be honest if she doe…
/r/askTRP17/12/20 08:35 AM
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Yes good.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 08:32 AM
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She's just bored and wants someone to text with. Aka free validation. Just ignore her. As Whiskyrack said you have nothing to lose inviting her over but you can't atm so no luck.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 06:28 PM
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If they view you as BF material they will want to wait until date 3 or something, it's a mating strategy. They don't want to seem easy and know a guy will lose interest faster if they sleep with him on the first date.
/r/askTRP12/12/20 05:58 PM
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Celebrity is status again, but yea I get what you are saying. A girl can also fall in love with your lifestyle. (Surfer travelling the world) And I agree, dominance and frame above all in the end.
/r/askTRP08/12/20 11:48 AM
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I agree most has been said. Once a guys says he's alpha and then starts talking about his profession and career goals I know it's boring guy. I want to clarify that in regards of "career" and SMV women don't care about what kind of job you do. They only care about the status it gives you, and thus gives her. A woman would prefer being with a car mechanic who is the best in town above a blue collar guy with an higher salary of whom she doesn't even know what he does. Everyone knows the mechanic, …
/r/askTRP08/12/20 09:57 AM
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You addressed the issue yourself, why are u even doing things for her? In my opinion if you are already preparing to be the most masculine man when you are with her you are already doing it wrong. It should come naturally, you can't fake that. And girls can smell it from a mile when a guy is acting and isn't congruent. I think to really know what it feels like to have strong with a girl one must experience it (duh), but how? Simple. Start dating a 6-7 which you like and are attracted to but for …
/r/askTRP01/12/20 10:30 AM
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Stop caring, if she is moody etc don't give her any attention. Do your own thing. And don't try to compensate or lighten her up, it's not your job to make her happy.
/r/askTRP25/11/20 10:46 AM
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Hobbies are things you just like doing, if you just do it becuase it's RP it's not really a hobby but more of an obligation. Any hobby can be RP as long as you have a passion for it and truly enjoy it.
/r/askTRP08/11/20 08:24 AM
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This, if you are emotionally invested in her, hard next her ASAP or this shit will get to you. We can't really judge whether or not you fucked up somewhere along the line, but shit just happens. You might have not made any mistakes but she could still have feelings for him, don't worry too much about it. keep going.
/r/askTRP07/09/20 08:18 AM
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I dated a girl once who was very into me and she started talking about her past relationships a lot as well. I would just sit there and nod, she kept talking non stop. In hindsight, it just gave her a real good dopamine rush to talk so much and she also hoped I would start sharing my past as well with her.
/r/askTRP07/09/20 08:12 AM
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This. She just wants another round of free validation from you. She already used you during the lockdown when she was bored. You keep her on read.
/r/askTRP20/08/20 08:36 AM
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You are boring. Even with all the knowledge of "game" in the world if you can give her an emotional rollecoaster you are boring to her and her IL drops. I might be wrong but you gave me the impression that you feel entitled to hot girls without making any moves. Guys with really high SMV might get away with it, but according to your own post you don't. You don't sound very experienced as well, you said you don't mind get rejected, well get rejected then. Escalate on a date. And try to have fun f…
/r/askTRP20/08/20 08:34 AM
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People try out stuff to see whether or not they like it. Don't blame that you have no guidance, almost nobody here had guidance from their dad.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 01:49 PM
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This x 100. You act like a victim of something but people have had it far worse than you. Even the advantages you try to play out a negatives. You have no other passion because you only know gaming it's your comfort zone and easy to fall back to. Stop gaming and find other hobby's. Try out stuff, you'll find some things you might like and you can pursue. You are dreaming of an esport careeer but tbh if you are not in a team yet with you playing all day I doubt you will make the cut. Stop making …
/r/askTRP19/08/20 01:48 PM
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This.
/r/askTRP18/08/20 08:47 AM
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Sleep is one of the most important things in your life. Don't think you are one of those guys who only needs 6 hours each day, they did a research and only a few people have enough with those 6 hours (different gen), normal people need 7-9 hours, so see what works for you. I aim to get 8 hours of sleep each day so my recovery (sports) is optimal. Sleep and nutrition, get those sorted out. A lack of sleep makes people indeed moody, stressed, emotional, ...
/r/askTRP18/08/20 08:43 AM
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There is no course of action. She asked to be friends and u weren't interested. She moves on with her life and so should you.µ EDIT: If a woman has high IL everything goes effortlessly, once she is confusing you with games or strange actions her IL is not high enough and she is probably just using you for attention. Don't give her any attention, don't reply on her DMs at all, leave them on read. Forget her.
/r/askTRP31/07/20 09:46 AM
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Dude, she is gonna flake on you 100% anyway. She just wants to know whether or not she can control you.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 10:39 AM
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Don't wait to go to the gym. If you have no knowledge of nutrition and weight training and you have some money to spare I would buy a plan. (There are some very good ones, I recommend Jeff Nippard or Built With Science). This will save you a lot of time and just follow the damn thing, don't change anything and you'll see results, especially as a newbie.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 10:36 AM
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This, if the girl has no more challenge, why would she make an effort? If she is uncertain where she stands with you, she will do anything for that commitment. Don't give it to her.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 10:11 AM
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Yes, she is losing interest. I had the same issue with a girl, first she was all over me and once I caught feelings she knew I was interested and she had the certainty her IL faded. It's good you noticed now, might not be too late and you could fix it. Problem is, it's getting boring for her. The challenge is gone, she has the certainty, you revealed your cards. Women need a constant challenge and they want certainty, but need uncertainty. You should pull back but make it subtle, don't go from 1…
/r/askTRP29/07/20 10:07 AM
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This. It's your inner gut warning you for red flags you shouldn't ignore. Cut your loss ASAP, the longer this goes on, the more it will affect your well being.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 09:55 AM
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I'm attracted to girls with tattoos, that said, there is always something wrong with them. I think it's a byproduct of having issues, and a girl who said she used to have issues still has issues. I had a bad breakup with a girl a year ago, last time I saw her she had 3 new tattoos.
/r/askTRP08/07/20 07:18 AM
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Depends on your build you started with. Fitness is not magic, however, you still need a solid plan, good nutrition and need to implement some core principles. I see guys at my gym who were there before me, still lifting the same weights from a year before. Consistency is key.
/r/askTRP08/07/20 07:16 AM
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Just don't say it back. If you ever wonder if you have to do something specific to keep the attraction/dating/LTR going, never do it. The fact that you thought about it before makes it not genuine. Women smell this from a mile away and she'll start testing your frame. It would be better to upset her than lose your frame.
/r/askTRP08/07/20 07:12 AM
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Don't want to bash on the kid, but I'm betting he has a pretty high BF that's why he can get away with such a big deficit, at this moment. This however isn't sutainable for long term, his hunger hormones will fuck up his mood and he will have lost a lot of muscle as well in the process. You are correct that you should only aim for 20-30% deficit when you have a high BF%, once you get leaner you should go for a slow but steady fat loss. Take his advice with a big grain of salt.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 04:47 PM
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Your ego is in the way, it has became too inflated.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 02:11 PM
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You have to stay congruent to who you are, but maybe you should try to alter your personality a bit everywhere. Being goofy gets you nowhere.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:08 PM
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Don't be the goofy dude, everyone loves the goofy dude with great energy but nobody sleeps with the goofy dude. Don't be a dancing monkey. You're still young, you need to mature, best lines are said with a straight face.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 08:51 AM
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I had a girl on a tinder date telling me about her eating disorder when she was a teen. On second date she told me the whole story, how she had to be hospitalized etc etc. I couldn't agree more with other posters, mental instability. Never again. This girl fell in love after two weeks, only to be unsure after 2 months and boycotting the whole dating process. I'm glad she is someone else problem now but I I know what I know now I would have cut her out of my life instantly.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:23 AM
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Didn't you post this on sosuave already? You got a lot of comments there which should have helped you. I think you even mentioned you paid a youtube channel 20 bucks to answer this question. To be honest you are just looking for someone to tell you that you should contact her and that everything will be alright and you guys will be happily married in a couple of years. Things is, you got all the same replies everywhere, move on with your life. Leave her alone. You fucked up, own your mistakes an…
/r/askTRP19/06/20 11:00 AM
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Trust your gut, so this means probably next. However you sound like a needy and a young guy. She ghosts you when she is with them? Why would you care? This is probably an afternoon evening at max, do you need to hear from her every hour or what? And why would you care if you aren't in her snapchat story? Is this a thing? I don't get it, she cooks cleans and buys you shit but you make it sound like you guys are 16.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:29 AM
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You probably thought your SMV is so high you can just ask girls out and they'll be swooning over you. Guess not. Never initiate a conversation online by asking her on a date. She gets 20 messages of those each day, congratulations you are now one of those 20 guys in her eyes. Orbiters at best. Don't try to shortcut because you think you are the man. Her game has already started. She'll probably have some fun texting with you, stringing you a long, and then once she is bored of you she will ghost…
/r/askTRP16/06/20 01:44 PM
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As other have said, you just reached the expiration date of the relationship. Coping with the fact that she will probably have "2 dicks in her mouth" gets easier with time. Just cut her out of your life completely so she doesn't occasionally pop up somewhere. LTR is like shoes, if you are walking on your bare foots you think about your old shoes and wish that you still had them. However if you are walking around on new shoes you don't think about your old pair.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 09:21 AM
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Ghost her and start working on yourself. Seems like spinning plates is the least of your problems.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 09:12 AM
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If you are genuinly busy and on your purpose just answer when you feel like it or when you have time. Women smell your intentions from miles away, if you are texting her out of neediness one text is enough to screw up, however if you are texting with an abundance mindset you can break all the rules and still keep her IL high. You be you, don't change your behavior because some women starting testing you. Not staying congruent to yourself will fuck you over in the long run anyway.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 09:09 AM
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We all been through this more or less. Everyone had a different situation, but we all made this mistake. Don't be bitter about, learn from your mistakes, life is a journey and you're at the beginning. It's better to make mistakes when you're young than to not have learned at all.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:17 PM
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This. Fix yourself first before you start commiting to someone else.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:04 PM
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You've been only dating for 3 months and she's already your girlfriend? Have you already gave away your commitment for free without screening her? It looks like if you would be screening her you would already got yourself out of this situation. From what I've read she is damaged goods. She had multiple abortions. Her ex was probably abusive and manipulative. She is only 23, you're 29, you should know better than this to put up with this girl. Why would you even get together with a 23 year old wh…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 04:03 PM
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Liting weights isn't only about the aesthetics, it's about discipline, increase in T (due to more muscle mass and less fat), confidence, improving mood, ... Where I live women don't want the gymrats but they love a guy with a lean muscular physique.
/r/askTRP02/06/20 09:08 AM
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It all depends on the context in which they bring it up. In his example it was in the context of her past relationships, he was just an easy shoulder to cry on.
/r/askTRP31/05/20 08:47 PM
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I'm going to honest with you, I think they don't view you as a sexual being that's also the reason they open up so easily about sex with you. In their mind they don't even process the ability that they would have sex with you so they can tell you everything. I guess you just don't make their vaginas tingle, aka you are too boring. "Oh let's go outside and sit on a bench somewhere" That sentence already bores me. As other have suggested, be playful, push & pull, invite them to your world. Keep th…
/r/askTRP31/05/20 07:56 AM
2

Why wash your hair with shampoo? I only wash my hair with water since '17, never looked back. (And I have relatively long hair for a guy)
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:51 PM
1

Yes, the images make it even more dumb, but somehow it's the magic touch of this post as well.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 12:12 PM
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Depends, I have burned bridges because it was an attention whore and she offered no value to me. I'd rather have her not contact me again. I would also burn bridges if I have feelings for a girl, just to protect my own heart. However I wouldn't burn them with plates, they might pop up back again after a couple of months.
/r/askTRP25/05/20 03:30 PM
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Mind Illuminated is a great guide to meditation. No story or anything, just a guide you can follow with all the steps to "enlightment". It's written by someone who has a Phd. in brains & shit. I really like Why Buddhism is true, it's in the same category imo as Waking Up by Sam Harris
/r/askTRP25/05/20 09:25 AM
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I don't remember 100% but I read somewhere that he was projecting his own desires on the woman whilst not 'listening' to what she wanted. Anger is sometimes the result of people not behaving like you wanted, but who is to blame? Them or your expectations of them?
/r/askTRP24/05/20 11:06 AM
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Decent book, most people don't like his writing style though. It's a good introduction to the RP and will give you an overview of the social dynamics between men and women. If you have read most of the sidebar etc there won't be so much new info in it.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 10:21 AM
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If I feel like she is just pinging me for attention I just answer briefly but not boring. And after a couple of texts I throw her an invitation, if she can't make it and doesn't propose something else I just next her. If she doesn’t comply with you, she’s only using you for attention, for entertainment purposes. Bread crumbing you. If she doesn’t comply (sexually), it’s one-sided and it will ruin your self-esteem the longer you entertain her.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 10:19 AM
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I agree with other guys here. I thought this was a well know rule to never double text, especially after 5 mins. Your intention is obviously to get laid, your are focused on impressing this women (by playing stupid games and trying to look busy), your state is that of neediness and the expression is supplicating. You are playing this game backwards, go reread the sidebar and drop the "lmfaaaoooo".
/r/askTRP22/05/20 10:13 AM
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You are overthinking this. And stop waiting for 1000 IOI's before making a move. Just ask her to meet up and skip the other stuff. If she flakes or cancels then move one and don't contact her again. Right now you are trying so hard to be alpha, having a "busy weekend" partying all the time. If a girl asks me whether or not I have a busy weekend I just say I was planning on lying on the couch the whole weekend, staring at my white ceiling. They won't believe it anyway, and in case they ask if I w…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 12:38 PM
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This. Very well put.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 12:54 PM
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Total sum of personality, childhood upbringing, knowledge, experience, how you act, … It's essentially how you act in life and how you react to external factors. A woman has no frame of her own, she will only react to yours, her frame is like quicksand and will adapt to yours. She has to submit to your frame to have the right dynamic. (As long as your dominant, otherwise she’ll create the frame and you will lose her respect and kill the attraction.)
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:21 PM
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If she has a history of flaking and losing interest she is just throwing somebread crumbs at you to see if she can get some free attention. Hit her up, ask her if she wants to come over and if she doesn't she is just begging for attention. Initiation doesn't always mean interest, compliance is a better indicator.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:16 PM
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As others have stated being perfect is boring. Being boring doesn't give her any tingles. If you try to be perfect you are just supplicating to women. If a woman tells me she doesn't like something about me, I just state that that is how I am and I do it all the time. You have to stay authentic to yourself otherwise you are seeking approval of her. This is a way of showing dominance as well. Two things can happen from there, or your frames will keep bumping against each other and the dating will…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 09:47 AM
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Drop her to plate-status. Every woman knows (subconciously) when they step out of line in an LTR. She is testing the waters, which means the respect is gone and the admiration/attraction will fade away as well. It's only a question of time when this behavior will get worse.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 08:58 AM
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Tell her she can use your pencil later.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 02:20 PM
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This. You are talking to your friend, why are you even thinking about who has the strongest frame? The fact that you think everything is a frame battle tells us that you actually have weak frame. Get your shit together and stop overthinking everything. Just enjoy talking to your friend.
/r/askTRP25/04/20 07:57 AM
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As everyone else said, she's testing you. In my experience it's best to avoid these kind of girls. It's OK if she mentions it once to see how you would react but if she's constantly bringing it up drop her, this girl is used to playing games and will try to string you along for the ride. UNLESS you haven't fucked yet, and then you're in the friendzone.
/r/askTRP25/04/20 07:53 AM
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You can show interest, you shouldn't be the cold hearted guy who acts like he doesn't care about her however you shouldn't show high interest. Remain a mystery. Keep her guessing where she stands with you, a woman WANTS certainty but she NEEDS a challenge otherwise you will become boring. It's OK to be the one to do the pursuing at first and let it gradually shift to her doing all the pursuing. Never chase. It's OK to feed her scraps from time to time if she starts complaining but don't fall int…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 09:13 PM
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Abundance mindset, being not needy, focused on other goals instead of her. Women smell your intentions from a mile away. Even if you send a text message they'll notice straight away if you are being needy or not.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 11:34 AM
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This. Make small changes at first and then when those have become a habit, add some more habits on top of them. Starting from zero to hundred is not sustainable and you'll only feel bad for not completing every task on your list. Start with small wins and get momentum.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 01:14 PM
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If a woman ever tells you there is no "chemistry" or "connection" she just means there is no sexual tension between the two of you. Her attraction levels are low, no tingles anymore. I think she just needed a quick and easy lay, you provided it to her but now she just wants to move on with her life.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 01:11 PM
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Stop overanalyzing this thing and ask her out, go from there. From this post I know you'll make a new thread in a month or two asking advice on how to get over one-itis.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 12:56 PM
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You are overthinking this. As you said yourself, first date is only a coffee, that is like 2 euros where I'm from. If you are already thinking about the ego and having leverage for just buying a stupid coffee I'm going to guess you are overanalyzing every move of her and you'll complicate things without having to. Stop analyzing very aspect at micro level, you can do anything you want as long as you aren't operating from a broken mindset. I don't mind paying for the first beer, they'll get the s…
/r/askTRP15/04/20 11:20 AM
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Oh god, another "find a way to monetize a hobby", just enjoy the damn hobby for what it is.
/r/askTRP08/04/20 07:16 AM
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This aint gonna work, or you slim down and go for abs or you bulk and you'll lose them. If you are very lean to start you can try to do a lean bulk to keep them a bit longer but generally the fat gets first at your belly.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 06:38 AM
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The moment you are wondering if you could kiss her, you should.
/r/askTRP23/01/20 09:15 PM
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Yes, I agree. He has it backwards, she started shit testing him because his frame was weak and his SMV was lower compared to hers. Good for him that he starts this journey at a young age, but this is material that has been discussed a 1000 times and let the topic be discussed by people with more experience.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/20 12:02 PM
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Going NC after two days of meeting her because she doesn't message you first. How on earth did she even had a chance of messaging you first? I agree with other posters, you are wasting our time. Go read the sidebar again and read the whole thread instead of just the titles and thinking you already know the concept. I'll give you some advice, I'll bite, no idea why. You should be the one pursuing till you have had sex with her, then she should do the chasing. Don't expect it to shift from not ini…
/r/askTRP16/01/20 07:11 AM
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Delete snapchat, stop worrying about unimportant stuff. Get on your purpose.
/r/askTRP15/01/20 06:29 AM
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OP proved my point, he is seeking a reaction from them, thinking this is a pull & push. He doesn't want to move on, he wants to f them.
/r/askTRP15/01/20 06:26 AM
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You have a broken mindset, you start by bragging to us about stuff girls don't give a fuck about if you have the mindset you have.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:26 PM
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Telling her that you can easily make new plans if she can't make it didn't increase your value, it just gave her an easy way out. She smelled your weak frame, you assumed she was going to flake on you and tried to cover for yourself, acting like you had lots of other stuff to do. She didn't reschedule, and at the end she made her intentions even more clear by saying she misses you. She just wants your attention, I do however agree with the other posters. Give her one more chance, if she flakes o…
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:23 PM
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Yes don't bring up the sex thing, she'll know but you don't want her to show that to her friends.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:17 PM
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What would be the point of you removing them? Are you hoping they will text you asking why you removed them? You would delete them for the wrong reasons, you are seeking a reaction. They probably won't notice it anyway. If you really had an abundance mindset you probably wouldn't even care whether or not you have them on snapchat.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:14 PM
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Just buy the kindle version. It's not really a lot of money and you support someone who gives a lot of value for free on his youtube channel.
/r/askTRP12/01/20 01:32 PM
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If she rejected sex, is she really a plate you are spinning? We don't know the context, but if she rejects sex and is talking to other dudes I have some bad news for you.
/r/askTRP10/01/20 08:57 AM
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Depends on what type of humor it is, if it's just banter go for it. If you are acting like children, stop it.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 06:52 AM
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He's right. If having a drink with a HB 9 is your pinnacle of life you must have a very boring life. What happened to being on your purpose? Reaching those goals? Get some hobbies. You have a broken mindset. As other posters stated, with this scarcity mindset you'll never have another date with a HB9, I imagine you fucked up cause you placed her on a pedastel.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 09:54 AM
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I will go against the other advice given. Sounds like you don't have any other options at this moment otherwise you would have already nexted her. Keep her as a plate. Don't go out with her, only keep the dates physical. You could go for FWB and let her know you're only interested in it, or you could string her along and feed her some scraps if she starts asking quesions. The last option will probably end with her in tears... I don't recommend that one. This can give you a bit of an abundance mi…
/r/askTRP06/12/19 07:04 AM
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I agree with the other responses. Don't ask weak questions. Don't even ask her number. Just tell her to put it in your phone. Even better make vague plans with her already, ideally something you've been talking about.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 06:53 AM
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Very good... Couldn't have said it better.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 06:51 AM
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Never give her closure. Don't give a damn about her feelings, she didn't care about yours when she was acting bitchy. And she won't care about them in the future. Don't give her the validation she wants. We, men, tend to forget pretty fast how badly she was behaving, we always somehow think about the good times if we still care. For women it's the opposite, if the LTR ends on a bad note, the whole thing was shit.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 06:49 AM
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Interest to reading that one as well, cheers mate!
/r/askTRP04/12/19 05:13 PM
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Attention means nothing, it only takes her a couple of seconds to respond for free validation/attention from you. Looking at the texts it seems that you just thought she was cute and you randomly added her on instagram or facebook? Bad move, she probably has a dozen of those guys giving her free validation like yourself. Attention means nothing when she doesn't comply. She'll be happy to string you along. Don't be so hungry, you asked her out very fast. Make her qualify herself to you first.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 04:57 PM
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Have a relaxed look on your face. Also, if the girl is looking first, hold the eye contact until she looks away, hold it. If she looks back at you quickly and then back away, it's on. Remember from that point on to stop looking at her or searching for another 'moment'. You should ignore her until you approach.
/r/seduction26/12/16 03:54 PM
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As much as I could agree with this post. Don't forget why this community started. If we were all naturals who can get girls by showing how vulnerable we are, and by opening up and showing our intent to girls, none of us would be here. All of this stuff is great if you're a bit further in the game, and you aren't socially awkward. But don't forget where most of us come from. Nothing wrong with using opinion openers and some canned material to get yourself started.
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:09 PM
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See the other thread earlier this week, I posted a pdf file with specific stuff to do whilst on a date. (I don't take credit for it, got it from a forum, can't remember where.)
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:27 PM
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Oh god this story... I don't want to be rude, but in a year from now you will post this on reddit cringe... Anyway let's move past that and start with some comments on this; You have been talking to her for a while, good job. Probably very platonic, just giving her some tips about that school. You asked her out, she said maybe. This probably meant a no at the time, but let's assume she was really doubting. Start building attraction, get her invested in the conversation, keep her on her toes, cha…
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:23 PM
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Good advice and good mindset. I really like to go out with mates, and once we bounce or we start getting scattered, I just start roaming around alone. This way you have the freedom, but yet when things go shitty you can still have fun afterwards with friends. Plus I hate it when friends watch me talking to girls.
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:08 PM
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It happens to the best of us. Everyone has dealt with this or will have to deal with this in his life. It sucks. There is no magic pill to get rid of it. Most people will give you the advice to go out again, start talking to other girls to forget her. I like to just accept the shitty feeling. Acknowledge it, don't deny it. Don't make excuses for yourself. Don't lie to yourself. Don't start telling yourself: 'Fuck her, she's a bitch.' Don't be that guy. Don't create unneccesarry emotions towards …
/r/seduction03/07/16 05:59 PM
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Indeed as leothelion said, sexual tension won't be created with she doing most of the talking It's the other stuff that I said.
/r/seduction02/07/16 07:20 PM
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Rise the sexual tension between you two. Make everything go slower, the way you talk, the way you move, you touching her. Keep strong eye contact, look at her eyes, then at her lips, then back to the eyes. Let her do the talking and just observe her. Tease her with a shiteating grin. EDIT: Seems like a lot of guys are struggling with this topic. I once saved a very quality post of this matter, with specific things you can do to rise the sexual tension. I would love to credit the author as I didn…
/r/seduction02/07/16 06:36 PM
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Meh dude, it's not your goal to be friends. You have plenty of other friends on who you can rely. I agree with the ending on good terms part but you don't have to make a big deal about it and have a "mature" conversation about it. I think you take life a bit too serious. Just walk away from her, you aren't obliged to be her friend just as she isn't obliged to go in on your advances. You don't want to be the beta friend who got friendzoned but still stuck around because he wants to be a nice guy,…
/r/seduction17/02/16 09:48 AM
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To be honest the location where you are at shouldn't really dictate wheter it's right or wrong to go for a kiss. This should be more about social intelligence and feeling when the right time is there. If you were waiting until it was more quiet and private, don't wait for it, act on it. Go to a place more private.
/r/seduction15/02/16 07:40 PM
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Be careful, just because this worked for him this night with that girl doesn't mean it will work for you. While I do think this line was a gamechanger for him in that situation, there were probably other things going on as well. Don't start going out now and ignoring every girl in the room, you'll end up alone that night.
/r/seduction15/02/16 03:35 PM
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Good job bruv ! I secretly hope she was digging you and turned around to catch another glimpse of you and she saw you jump in the air. :D
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:14 PM
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I was being a bit sarcastic to be honest. I could be wrong but I have the feeling you haven't really read anything about pickup at all. Hence my answer being sarcastic. I don't want to sound unfriendly, but read some basics first. You'll soon realise that trying to be the nice guy, to be the hollywood boyfriend usually doesn't work in real life. The card would just be blowing yourself out.
/r/seduction13/02/16 05:11 PM
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Sounds like a pretty solid plan. Go for it.
/r/seduction13/02/16 02:42 PM
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Oh ok, no problem, I get you now. Indeed the friendzone is a negative thing for the most of us.
/r/seduction12/02/16 10:42 AM
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See, when a girl likes you, but isn't attracted to you, you are in the friendzone. The friendzone is just a sort of methapor to make it more understandable and give the thing a name. If a girl isn't attracted to you and doesn't like you as well then you are nothing to her. EDIT: I don't really get what you are going at, can you maybe give me an example of someone who isn't put in the friendzone, where the girl isn't attracted to him but still likes him.
/r/seduction11/02/16 11:10 AM
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Wait what? The friendzone isn't a thing? It simply means she doesn't feel attracted to you and therefore only wants to be friends? I think you just contradicted yourself. I'm not sure if I'm feeding a troll here or not. Anyway the idea sounds very cheesy, almost puked while reading it. I agree with Overnight_Delivery focus on your game, look for the IOI's if you want to k-close her. Risky business.
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:40 PM
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She probably was, or there was something funny on your face. Anyway, wheter or not she was attracted to you doesn't really matter now anymore. This is mental mastrubation. You should have approached her if u thought she was attracted to you, only way to find out. I agree with permashred as well.
/r/seduction07/01/16 12:01 AM
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I have read the article. It's ok. Good for guys who need some motivation, but other than that not really useful info in it, or anything new. Just some generic advice, I feel like this could be published in a gossip magazine. The average joe who isn't good with women will follow this advice and fail constantly. Lots of these new blogs/dating companies just summarize/chew out other concepts of other companies without even giving a plan or roadmap on how to achieve it. 'Just be sure to give her val…
/r/seduction06/01/16 11:51 PM
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Sarge in other venues with people who have a similiar point of view about their saturday nights.
/r/seduction31/12/15 05:05 PM
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I think you are getting a bit too technical about this. I don't know Tyler's 6 steps, but I assume you are talking about RSD? Their method and Mystery's method is all about building value in the venue at start if I remember correctly. He probably means that you should open some sets to create some value. Or he just wants you to practice a lot to get good faster. Anyway, just do your thing. If you feel like you are progressing fairly well in a set, stick with it. If it feels like you have to plow…
/r/seduction31/12/15 05:01 PM
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These may be really awkward and cringey to look at. But give the guy a break, atleast he's approaching and trying his best. He'll get better with that mentality. I didn't watch all these videos but I'd say his body language is something he should be working on and his delivery. He seems really nervous, twitching and twirling around, holding his jacket. His voice seems to crack a bit as well when talking. He tries to play it really cool, whilst everyone can see he's nervous. He should just be a b…
/r/seduction31/12/15 04:57 PM
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'Hey I thought you looked interesting, and I wanted to come over and say hi' Something like that, I like to go a bit more direct as well. Situational is always good as well as eviiiil pointed out. Mix it up a bit, see what fits you the best. Make sure you have fun opening them, amuse yourself. Make up some bullshit stories, see how far you can go with it. Enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction31/12/15 02:12 PM
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We can't judge about someone if you only give like one sentence about her. How should we even analyse this situation?
/r/seduction31/12/15 09:08 AM
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I'd say it depends on what you want out of this. If she wants to cheat on her boyfriend and you wanne be that guy, yea sure go ahead. If you want to build up something, and even start a relationship with her. Remind yourself that she was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with a guy she only knew one week. Behavior of people doesn't change. Don't fall into the trap thinking you are really special to her and she would only cheat with you on a guy.
/r/seduction31/12/15 09:04 AM
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I have two friends who always leave an impression, everywhere they go. It might not always be a good impression, but people sure do remember them. And usually they do because they say something bold, unusual. A bold unashamed statement early on in the interaction about something.
/r/seduction31/12/15 08:59 AM
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Have you thought about meditation?
/r/seduction30/12/15 09:55 AM
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Ditch the movie idea. Go for a coffee or regular drink at night. The goal of a date is to get to know eachother, movies are a bad idea. Unless you have mutual interest in the movie and agreed to go see it together. I agree with IANAPUA_Yet as well, if you bump into her you can take it a bit slower.
/r/seduction30/12/15 09:53 AM
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Agree with ZephyrBluu, don't get too technical just enjoy your teenage years and make some mistakes. If you want to get a headstart, maybe start reading some more general self improvement books for your innergame.
/r/seduction29/12/15 04:11 PM
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I feel you. I haven't been 'officially' together with someone for a couple of years, but dated on and off and I'm 23. I don't really think this should be a problem for starting a relationship. Being good enough for someone doesn't really depend on wheter or not you have had some long relationships in the past. When a girl you like and feel connected to would say she is kinda new to all of this, would you instantly give her up due to her inexperience? On the part about feeling not good enough for…
/r/seduction29/12/15 04:07 PM
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Don't ask her of course, ask the other two if you plan on asking. There is nothing wrong in asking a genuine question in my opinion. You can only learn from it.
/r/seduction28/12/15 09:36 PM
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Women who are sincerely insecure can be very tough to handle. On the top of my head, have you qualified her?
/r/seduction28/12/15 09:29 PM
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This also seems a better response, be honest, don't say it's a challenge for a self improvement group.
/r/seduction28/12/15 09:25 PM
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If I were you I wouldn't mention this 'group' at all to targets or friends. In your eyes it might look cool you are part of this, but it's weird for other people. Lots of people aren't open minded and will judge easily without looking at it's content. I mean, if a friend of mine would say that he's in a self improvement group and has to start conversations with strangers, what does that say about my friend? Especially your target. I might get a lot of hate here, but overcoming your approach anxi…
/r/seduction28/12/15 09:24 PM
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To be honest I don't think that message will be a homerun. It could work of course, but it sounds very generic, and I'm not sure about the sly wink you added at the end of the text. It won't make you stand out in my opinion, she won't really think back about that night with a smile on her face. Think callback humor here again, so important.
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:57 AM
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I don't really know if this will be any useful to you, but anyway. I don't think you have any approach anxiety, just some mindset issues, as others have stated before. Normally i'm a pretty confident guy, but feeling a bit down happens to the best of us. Just warm up a bit before doing the 'real' work. Strike up conversations with people which will always go well. Ask some directions to somewhere. Ask someone something about the venue. Give a girl randomly a compliment and just walk away. Get yo…
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:46 AM
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Of course it's possible. You can always ping her. Send her a short text message, expecting nothing in return. (So no questions) Think about the conversation you had with her that night, some callback humor would be preferred. You have nothing to lose anyway. Or you could be more direct and just ask her out for a coffee, be honest that you guys lost track of each other due to exams. Depends on how you are and how the pickup went.
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:30 AM
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I agree 100% with you here. You have no obligation to her whatsoever to remain friends with her. You probably have enough friends already, why would you want to chat about your lives with her now and then, you 'gain' nothing from it. But yea, don't be an asshole, just be short and honest. They can't blame you for being honest.
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:22 AM
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Yea it all depends on what you are trying to achieve of course.
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:14 AM
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I'm not really sure what you are referring to. Asking questions is a good thing in my opinion if you are really curious about it. Being curious about her is a good trait in my opinion. This should also be delivered as that. Asking questions without caring and just to try to keep the conversation rolling will feel like an interview. If you are referring to the "why" questions. Yes, they are great, they go from logical answers to emotional answers. If a girl for example starts telling about someth…
/r/seduction26/12/15 02:10 AM
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I agree with all the posters above me. What I generally like to do in this kind of situation is to analyse where it went wrong. Read a bit about that topic and make sure I won't make the same mistake twice. For example, she friendzoned you. In general from my experience this means that you didn't state your intent to her early on, made her too comfortable around you (no sexual tension), and you didn't escalate. I would check out some classical articles about these topics, so I know this won't ha…
/r/seduction25/12/15 12:31 PM
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Yep. Active listening, if she is giving you proper answers you can get so much new information out of it to go a bit deeper. Don't be afraid to ask "why" questions. Be curious about the topic. Ask her how she feels about certain situations or things. Also don't keep asking questions. Relate to her. If she tells you an experience, acknowledge it, and then relate to her with something similar that happened to you, or how you feel about it. EDIT: Ok you already knew the second part. :)
/r/seduction25/12/15 12:20 PM
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