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| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.A compelling case you make! Either way thanks for the discussion but I’m over wasting time on this atm. We need more progress as a society before we’re there. Have a good day and best of luck! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 03:11 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.It is though. If you believe in equity for this then you’re saying yep it’s reasonable to do because men don’t have that knowledge. It’s not about the government preserving your relationship. It’s about supporting people’s rights to have the same foundation. Do you support gay rights to marriage? I do. If I said they could do it but I think it’s despicable then I’m not really for it am I? The barest margin, which means you kind of support it but you’re still sexist or whatever the relevant term … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/26 03:00 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So you're happy for your partner to lie to you about it and just do it? Fair enough I suppose. I'm not a fan but I can understand that approach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 01:09 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So if he’d be cheated on in every relationship he’s been in and he said I don’t think you have but I’m worried because I’ve been tricked every time. Would you say that’s sad to hear but get over it or would you do what you can to support him and let him know he’s safe? You said equally it’s a bad idea and equally they can do it and end their relationships. Unless you’re talking about a different section I’ve missed? Please pass it down if you are. The difference here is we start on unequal groun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 09:45 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.No it doesn’t. It becomes an honest fear you voice to your partner rather than keeping secrets. Would you rather some proportion of men raises kids that aren’t theirs and supports the women who lied to them about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 09:34 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Of course, I absolutely re-evaluate it all the time. But every single one of you is stuck on the same point that it’s an accusation when it’s actually just supporting a partner in a valid fear. What you are all agreeing on is that it’s better to let some portion of men get fucked over on this than take a test and show it can be let go by the wayside as a fear or be held accountable. I did read it. But saying you can do it and treating it as socially reprehensible is not equality. It’s bare minim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:25 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.First, no. If you take an analogy meant to explain one point and turn it towards a different point it’s obviously not going to make sense. In this case. All women who are saying this is unreasonable are inadvertently supporting those who cheat and do this. The same way men not calling out fucking rape are supporting it. Not complicated. It’s not about catching a cheater, it’s about having the same confidence your kid is yours as your partner has by virtue of their gender. Are you against basic g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:21 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Me? No I’m just done wasting time explaining something to so many people simultaneously. You had no argument when you used the word equally in hope it would sound like you supported equality. Nice projected. Either way. Good luck! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:16 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.The first part seems reasonable. There are bad men and bad women. After that, absolutely not. You should portion your trust to the evidence. And big risks are worth evidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:14 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Ok. So you’re advocating against gender equity in this circumstance. I’m happy to agree you’re sexist here. It’s an accusation in the same way she can, based completely on past trauma, be worried about me in rare moments even though I’ve never even raised my voice (except for getting the dogs’ attention). Because of past issues it’s understandable to sometimes know something and still feel worried about an unlikely scenario. If that’s not her accusing me of being a monster than this isn’t me acc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:11 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Full faith and fallible are two states you are capable of being at the same time. If you’re not saying that the gods of every religion with one fervent believer exist then you’re saying it’s entirely possible to have full faith in someone else and still accept your knowledge, judgement and awareness can be lacking. Oh you completely ignored the same feeling in reverse example. It’s not about the woman. It’s about the man getting equivalent knowledge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:06 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.In any person to person normal case I’d say sure. But the moment it’s a benefit one gender has that they try to deny the other when it costs nothing you’re being sexist. You risk nothing by helping your partner and they risk half the rest of their life. Again, does it cost a guy anything to support a partner who has the occasional worry about being abused because of past trauma? Should men take offense when people smaller than us flinch because we happened to walk past loudly? Because that happe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 12:27 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Ah you’re almost there! Not on the sexist part but the other part. Even if you believe and completely feel there’s a 0% chance she cheated on you, you’re still irrational if you deny that’s it’s a literal possibility. Because it happens to people who believe in their partners exactly the same as you. It’s not about accusing someone. It’s about having a fear of something that happens that can be removed super easily. What you’re saying is you think men should embrace ignorance and blind faith in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 12:12 AM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Yep. And being for equity means you respect that people not that, not begrudging say that can and disapprove, It seems you may be sexist in this regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:52 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.It’s not though. Look at religion and it takes ten seconds to realize that proving a god or not would solve a lot of problems even though loads of people believe with enough faith to die for it. Faith/trust/confidence do not change the truth into what you want. If you can’t understand that I’m basically done chatting. And no, you used equally a lot in the sentence but the fact is equity, not equality, means that the woman and has a privilege here and the man needs a little support to be in the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:38 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Nope, equity would be understanding in this situation he needs more because she has this as an advantage. Equity is literally understanding that some of us need more support than others to get us to the same place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:35 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So you can’t comprehend that someone can have full faith in you and still know that it happens to people exactly like them? You can’t go, “This isn’t about me, it’s an insecurity that can be easily removed.” That seems to lack empathy. My partner has had abusing partners before. On occasion she gets afraid, not because I’ve ever shown anything but support, I don’t even raise my voice unless I need to sit for the dogs, just because it has been a problem in the past for her. Happening far less as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:32 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.First off, it’s still an accusation of a terrible thing regardless of trust level, which you’re starting a relationship off with. No one likes being looked at like that but hey I understand it as a guy for women to be careful. Give me the same respect since I’ll have to sacrifice for decades on this. Second, it’s not accusing them. You can be totally confident in your partner and still know that you can be wrong. So let’s call it reasonable for fathers to want the same faith in their child as th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:49 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Only in the same way that playing it safe on a first date is a murderer accusation. Obvious nonsense. It’s about playing it safe, not accusing people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:37 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Cool story. Except that this is knowledge that you can both know. Biologically having a uterus doesn’t mean you can deny your partner the same knowledge to the best of our ability and still say you support equality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:34 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.A fair question and a bit of a philosophical one. But with an easy answer for me. I will always be honest with my partner because they deserve the best communication I can give them. I will tell them my fears and they support me. They will tell me their fears and I support them. That is how you have a solid relationship together. Every time you hide something, especially if it’s not trivial, that’s where you cause actual damage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:32 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Except I never said the hospital or government has to do this? Only that it’s perfectly rationale to want that affirmation. And sure that’s a list of what if’s, most valid, some filler, but if you’re saying that compares in the slightest to the cost of being lied to for however long it takes and then having it blow up and destroy all of your lives then you’re way off. I don’t want mum and babies homeless, but the alternate suggestion you’re implying is it’s better to just lie to the man? The bio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:27 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.I completely agree with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:14 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Me too. Thank you did the discussion and have a wonderful day yourself :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:11 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Again, you can have 100% confidence and still rationally know that does not make it true. You don’t have to think they cheated in the slightest to say I’m confident it’s my kid but I don’t actually know that for sure and I’d like to. I’d suggest not getting into a relationship where you can’t come to your partner with your honest worries. Also, I’m not saying we don’t have the right to check. I’m saying if you think it’s unreasonable for the father to check to know it like the mother does, then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 06:10 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Except now you’re lying to your life partner. Open and honest communication is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship. I’m going to put explaining my fears of a thing that happens to my partner and allaying those fears with a simple test, even though I don’t believe the fears to be the case, above being dishonest to my partner. That to me would be me actively breaking trust. Rather than just explaining an easily solved fear that lives somewhere between rational and irrational. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:59 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.If you don’t realize you can completely trust someone and still know you can be wrong then you probably haven’t learned that lesson yet. And yet you’ve just accused a man you’re trying to start a relationship with of being a monster. What a great place to build off. See how that works? The point is not what they could be or could have done, the point is it’s reasonable to take precautions. And it’s reasonable to understand your partner taking those precautions. And the gender equality bit? You’r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:54 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.For sure you trust more further into a relationship than early on. However, cheating happens regardless of trust levels, being secretive and hidden are normally key components of cheating. So it’s not unreasonable in the least to say I have full faith in my partner, but I accept that I can be fooled even if I don’t believe it has happened. Oh hey, there’s a crazy easy way to remove those worries and give me the faith in my child that my partner has. Seems like a no brainer to me. Are you against… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:38 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.We absolutely agree on it Should be discussed prior and not sprung on. Unless you’ve only come into knowledge about the entire topic (in which case you may have to accept you slacked on thinking about children. Otherwise yeah that change totally would imply you have new suspicions. I am also somewhere on the spectrum! But i suppose for me it all comes from a place of firm up your foundations and take another step. I’m in Australia. I haven’t even heard of staff checking on men but have heard abo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:29 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So you think men wanting the same confidence in their kid as their partner is unreasonable? I'd say check your gender privilege if you're a woman. Women give their friends their locations and check in times all the time for first dates. Totally reasonable. If you trust someone before you've even had a single date with them barring heaps and heaps of prior contact that seems unreasonable. Obviously you want to avoid bad eggs and worse, but there are levels to trust and every time you prove trustw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:16 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.I can have all the confidence in the world but cheating happens primarily in secret so it's naive to say I trust my partner therefore it's impossible or close to. It's not feeding paranoia to double check important things on occasion, it's a fantastic way to remove the fear, given reasonable limits of course. All I'm saying is the mother knows 100% it's hers. Why are you denying the father that exact same right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:11 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.The issue is no matter how much you trust them the chances of cheating are there because it happens without your knowledge. I can accept not knowing if there's no reasonable way to, that's life. But I can trust until the cows come home, if that made it true there would be a squillion gods floating around. But here we have a reasonable way, at almost no cost, to confirm that one thing. And all the mother has to do is understand the father wants the same confidence in the child as she has by virtu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:07 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.You keep misunderstanding the examples. The baby needs to be checked often, reasonable, but if your partner just did it and said "I don't want you to", it's still perfectly reasonable to have a peek. Every example can be misinterpreted, especially if you're not understanding or purposing trying to escape the point. The only analogy thats perfect will always be the literal situation it's trying to explain, thus giving no help in explaining the other viewpoint. I didn't say there was a test for ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 05:03 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.The risk of "hey that feels like it's not trusting" vs spending your life supporting a woman and child in that circumstance is nowhere near equal. One is life ruining and the other is not understanding a valid fear you can remove with a swab and a few business days. You're not checking because you think they're cheating. You're checking because they have absolute confidence it's their kid and the father should be allowed that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 04:52 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.I said none of that. Nor do I believe that's a healthy view. People cheat. People who are cheated on often don't know it for ages if ever. For sure she would obviously have cheated if she's pregnant with someone else's child. But you're not checking because you think she's cheated, you're checking because it's a super easy way to confirm you trust in her/your child and allay your fears of being taken for a ride. Which happens to people who, get this, don't know it's happening! Crazy. Ok now you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 04:49 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.It's because you're seeing it from one angle and not understanding that a low chance of a huge risk over rules a "well I didn't cheat but you should have to carry the weight of not knowing over me deciding you're not allowed to check if I cheated." "The trust doesn't exist anymore" is a pointless line drawing. If that line was checking on a baby you probably know is safe in its crib asleep you wouldn't say "the trust doesn't exist anymore because you accused them of being a terrible parent", you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 04:43 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.“I trust you to drive safely but I’m still putting my seatbelt on.” “I know I have this knowledge because I’m a woman but you as a man are denied this because it’ll hurt my feelings.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 04:15 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Correct! But you can check one of those two things super easy and hey, that’s better than checking neither. Especially if it means you can sacrifice decades and not even have the right to see the kid if it comes out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 03:59 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Sure, one real risk of being fucked over, and one that’s basically “I can’t believe you don’t trust me on this one issue when you can check and it costs me nothing.” I think we’ll have to agree to disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 03:57 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.There is a life at risk. 18 wasted years plus/minus depending on when it’s uncovered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 03:30 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So you’re opting to do a dna test without telling your partner? I don’t think it’s a good way to have a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 02:26 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.That lines up a little better. “Before we put the last signature on our business together I just want to check that you haven’t committed fraud before.” Certainly more odd in that circumstance but not an unreasonable question. You’re not accusing them of fraud, you’re checking they didn’t because you’ll cop it if they have. Except in that circumstance you’ll both have problems rather than just the man being the brunt of it. If you consider it rude to be prudent and careful then do you have an is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 01:48 PM |
| 2 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Ok so you are saying if you have no reason to believe your partner cheated then it’s unrealistic for them to have cheated without you knowing it? Is that the case you are presenting. That there is no need for dna if you don’t suspect cheating because if it’s unlikely to have happened then it didn’t happen, which is obviously wrong. How would you even get the numbers on cheaters who got away with it? I know I’ve been cheated on in the past. I’m aware it’s quite possible more than I know, but with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 01:38 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.No it’s not. They’re both preventative. Whether she stole the car or not doesn’t impact how the accident hurts you. Wearing the seatbelt lowers your odds of getting injured or killed in the small chance you have an accident. Getting the test lowers your odds of wasting a huge chunk of your life supporting someone and raising a kid you not only don’t have a biological connection to (it matters to some people more than others, completely reasonable) but also have no rights to even visit afterward.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 01:27 PM |
| 2 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Ah so now you’ve change it from it’s unreasonable to ask for a request to its unreasonable you’re not upfront about it (of course, communication is important) and she’s allowed to leave. Of course she’s allowed to leave. Anyone is, that’s how non-abusive relationships work. I’m stating the fact that if someone in your car puts their seatbelt on, they’re not accusing you of trying to crash the car and kill them. They’re just reasonably mitigating a huge risk at almost zero cost. It’s not accusing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 01:20 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.“I don’t want to believe you will crash but I think there’s a possibility you will crash. I’m only going to have a problem if you crashing results in someone getting hurt. So I’m putting on my seatbelt even though it will only help to stop me getting launched and won’t stop anyone else getting hurt or me getting crushed.” Think it’s unreasonable to put the seatbelt on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 01:02 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Trust is absolutely a pillar of relationships. I trust my partner implicitly. Trust is built though, and occasionally that means you need to check, I’d consider this one of the last and biggest checks a relationship would ever need. For instance, I trust my partner to turn off the gas stove. I trust myself to do it to. I still check after the dishes are clean because it’s so crazy important. You could call me out on checking the stove because you think it means I don’t trust you, and my answer w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 12:52 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.You’ve twisted it around. I can understand you seeing it like that but it’s not why men want the test. “I don’t believe you are capable of cheating on me but I know what I believe and the way the world works are not the same. I’ve been cheated on before without knowing it until years later and I worry that I’ll spend my life supporting you and our child only to have it yanked away from me later in life on the chance that if that’s the case, I wouldn’t even have the right to see the child we’ve r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 12:38 PM |
| 1 | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.“I’m just confused on why people would get in cars when they don’t know for sure they’ll make it to their destination?” Because you make the best choices you can and if there is a seatbelt, you put it on. She absolutely could be having sex with different guys every week. But the only way to be sure of that would be to never take your eyes off each other for the rest of your lives, which would basically ruin both your lives because it would literally take your entire lives to do it. Unlike that, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 12:31 PM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.It’s not comparing women to seatbelts. It’s explaining the concept of taking a risk knowing there’s a risk but it’s still reasonable to mitigate it as best you can. Congrats on ignoring the point and choosing to take offense. So no analogy is allowed to involve the notion of women at all? Because the equivalent wasn’t even comparing to women it was comparing to the part where you create a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:58 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Because there’s a risk to everything and we do our best to remove those risks. Why would you wear a seatbelt when you can hop in a car knowing it can crash? Why would you have sex when you know you could get pregnant and abortions are banned in your area? (I’m for the right obviously.) Why would you eat food that anyone could have poisoned? I honestly think that’s an incredibly silly argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:50 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Ah but part of that button exists for men in that you can confirm she didn’t cheat at one of the most crucial times it mattered. And denying men that right when women have that same button already pressed in regard to their presumably shared child is literally denying equal rights. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:43 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.So if you ask your partner if they love you then you’re accusing them of hating you? Don’t flip things around just to take offense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:36 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.No, you’re not saying that! If you ask your partner if they love you because you’re feeling like you need some affirmation are you accusing them of not loving you? Obviously not. It’s not about you as the woman. It’s about the man wanting to remove that risk when it literally costs barely anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:06 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.People for sure don’t like being accused of potential cheating. And cheaters will be just as outraged or even more so to try get out of it. If men could prove they hadn’t cheated any man who said absolutely not would be crucified, and yet women have the option to do that and won’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 11:03 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.And yet do you support women protecting cheaters and those who would take advantage of good men by all getting outraged at the notion of a test instead of letting it affirm a partner’s trust in you and outting the terrible people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 10:58 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Or it costs you the realization your partner is a human being with worries, irrational or not, and for $70 and a swab you could remove that stress from their mind. When you ask a partner “do you love me” are you accusing them of not loving you or do you just want some affirmation? Because that’s what this is. It’s not about you as a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 10:54 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.If you could push a button and know you wouldn’t be with a cheater for the rest of your life and the button has basically no cost wouldn’t you? Because I think you’re discouraging men for saying they would but the majority of women would push that button in a heartbeat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 10:49 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.Or, it’s about having a fear and insecurity that can be removed with almost no effort. Because with any logic you realize it’s not hard to support your partner who has fears of something that does happen to people. And someone who has nothing to fear would have no loss if they did it for their partner but by doubling down on being offended you make an issue personal rather than supporting your partner. All the time we talk about men calling out other men or at least not supporting bad behavior. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 10:27 AM |
| – | If a woman hesitates on a dna test then you HAVE to assume she cheated.I don’t agree with OP on if she refuses than ditch her. But I think it’s perfectly reasonable to ask. Here’s why. You as the mother know 100% the baby is yours. As the father, you hear stories about people who were used as the father and then dumped. People who had no clue and spent 18 years raising a child and sacrificing for a family that leaves them. People who also loved their wives and had no reason to suspect them. So here’s the kicker. Instead of taking it personally as an attack, which i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/26 10:19 AM |
| 3 | There's nothing morally wrong with the af/bb strategy.Is this not the along the lines of the Madonna/Whore complex but applied to men without the pedestal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 11:51 PM |
| 6 | What is wife material, and why women should want to be wife material?This one! The same as I should be to her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Thinking of EuthasiaMaybe. Could be 50. Could be 60. Could be tomorrow. You will never know if you don’t aim to get there. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/26 09:12 AM |
| 2 | Thinking of EuthasiaGive it a chance to get better. Focus on the small things you enjoy. Imagine a happier future and give yourself the chance of getting there. We know it’s hard. But you have to want to change that mindset and repeat the good stuff. | /r/MensRights | 28/04/26 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Men try to gatekeep standardsIncel was a term made up by a queer woman, and then adopted by people who call themselves it. Except now it’s slapped on anyone women don’t like as a die alone term. Men always get told to lower their standards, you definitely would have heard “punching above his weight” or “out of his league”. As well as even just asking what women bring to the table as an equal when they want exceptionally high standards for their choice of partner, and they say “I am the table”. What is that if not telling me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Men try to gatekeep standardsThere’s a ton of phrases women use to shame men, all the way from penis size body shaming to broke ass bitch. Aside from that, the equivalent to being told you’ll die alone with cats is being told you’ll be a lonely sad old man. Plus did you forget the entire point of the term Incel is literally calling men undateable/unfuckable? Granted plenty of them seem to fit the bill but it’s still an exclusionary and rude term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Women defend lesbian relationship instability and it exposes the whole narrativeOf course not, it's still only a small difference in the outcomes at the end of the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 12:46 PM |
| – | Women defend lesbian relationship instability and it exposes the whole narrativeIf all you’re looking for are short whirlwind relationships then they’re nailing it, by all means! I have zero issues with that, whatever floats your boat. But I have doubts that most people in those communities are looking for short relationships, that is a big claim that goes against the more common point of a relationship which generally includes length and stability. Long relationships are not automatically better but that is what everyone aims for unless they’re wanting hookups. Otherwise t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:44 AM |
| – | Women defend lesbian relationship instability and it exposes the whole narrativeBreaking up isn’t always the worst thing, especially if the relationship is not a good one. That said, I think it’s a bit telling of your bias to say that the group that breaks up more frequently and consistent is actually healthier than the group that tends to have longer more stable relationships. Yes there will absolutely be outliers in that people won’t leave toxic relationships when they should, but we can talk about the other side of that where people are leaving healthy relationships beca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 12:03 AM |
| 1 | "Female Area" in trainThere we have an agreement! | /r/MensRights | 02/03/26 12:38 AM |
| 1 | "Female Area" in trainHaha cheers. Totally hate it whenever subs become echo changes. I completely understand your point, it’s the obvious temporary change to make, but I still differ on the answer. I think the end result of the temporary fix is more divide not less. And it won’t make people want to understand we are all equal, instead it’ll reinforce the notion that women should be/are being treated better than men as well as men are dangerous. Because the view that will come from this are the front carriage is safe… | /r/MensRights | 02/03/26 12:16 AM |
| 1 | "Female Area" in trainI would put in the suggestion that in busy times when there is not enough seats this train will now carry +60% women and -40% men (depending on number of carriages). I agree women deserve a place they can be safe but you’ve done it by making men relatively and temporarily 2nd class citizens. It’s a small thing but do this in enough similar places for similar reasons and suddenly you’re reinforcing the divide and creating resentment. That said, put a train at the back for men and you balance numb… | /r/MensRights | 01/03/26 11:56 PM |
| 3 | How should women “take accountability”?Yes a man should take accountability for his mistakes, the same as a woman. I think that’s pretty reasonable. How do you take accountability for lying? I feel like if you’re honestly asking that then you really need the information that you do it by saying “Hey, I lied about this. Because it was easier/safer/more convenient than telling the truth, (or I’m not happy with the fact that it’s the truth so I’m lying to myself too).” And then you say sorry and try to do it less. Also in case it’s not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 10:13 AM |
| 1 | My thoughts on gender differences in dating and sexKnowing nothing else about them sure. But in reality we’ve all done something a inconsiderate at some point and they are good people otherwise I wouldn’t be friends with them. Agreed though, especially cutting time to be rejected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/21 01:24 AM |
| 5 | My thoughts on gender differences in dating and sexI know of several of my friends (women) who have not only stopped sex the moment they have seen a guy's smaller than average size but laughed them out the door too. *Most would be far nicer about it today than back then from what I understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/21 01:01 PM |
| 11 | Can Average Men Date and Have Sex Just Like Average Women?Except we see the exact opposite in ratings, men ranking women with a fairly even spread and women ranking men’s average to include 80% of men. Much as porn has warped so many views on sex it’s only a societal assumption that men only want the hottest women, not an actual fact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/21 05:40 AM |
| 0 | Women who follow male red pill content and are interested in it - why?I think FDS is the female version of redpill (or perhaps MGTOW as it is nowadays) but I follow out of curiosity. It’s healthy to read different perspectives and while I mostly disagree there is the occasional point I do support. Although normally not all the comments afterwards which trash men. Edit : I’m a male doing the inverse of this question and it might be a reason why females do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/21 01:23 AM |
| 1 | The vast majority of people absolutely do use relationships for personal development and growth, intentionally or unintentionallyI’d like to add that I think “leaving the practice girl for a more attractive woman” is applying a female perspective to a male choice and it’s wrong. More accurately it would be leaving them for a woman that is more attractive TO THEM, which boils down to someone they get along with better, not necessarily someone physically hotter. And if someone is always complaining about you not changing enough then they tend to not be someone you’re going to relax with. Aside from the whole notion of wheth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/21 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Do you put your money where your mouth is when dating?Well women not being the pursuers actually works against your point here because if you have more options coming to you then you tend to be more picky not less, which is honestly very reasonable. But yes it’s not the only factor by a long shot and past the initial selection process shared experiences and general comparability are going to be central. I completely agree that 20 year old Tinder bio’s are a terrible data source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/21 03:43 AM |
| 25 | Do you put your money where your mouth is when dating?Sure but to play devil's advocate, if you only attempt to date partners above 6 foot then until you find one worthy of marriage it's essentially the same thing no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/21 11:10 AM |
| – | Older Women In Power putting down Younger women is more of a sexual strategy than Internalised PatriarchyAlso don’t forget that big group of people with the mindset “it was this hard for me so it’s not allowed to be any easier than that for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 67 | @thetinmen once again hitting the nail on the headI don’t think the point in this stat is that men have it worse. I think it’s trying to bring awareness to the fact that while rape is a big problem for women, more than a third of victims are still male. Something that normally gets brushed to the side as “men can’t be raped”. | /r/MensRights | 03/04/21 09:19 AM |
| 3 | 🤡 🌎This is non-gendered language purely for bill use. It’s as much a political correctness thing as a legal thing. Think about it this way, much as it does seem unnecessary and silly, no gender discrimination in laws can only help men. | /r/MGTOW | 16/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Most women lack self awareness about their unearned privilege when it comes to sex, dating, relationships and socializing.There are a great deal more options for women though, it sounds like you're saying this isn't true from a position of privilege. For instance, I'm in the average attractive, 6 foot 3, fairly muscly, active, not fat and I can't even remember the last time I got angry with a partner enough to raise my voice, perhaps 5 years? Just as a measure of my temperament, pretty damn good I think. Out of a total of nearly 18 months on tinder, humble and POF, I got a total of maybe 8 people who responded more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/21 10:53 AM |
| 17 | CMV: Most women lack self awareness about their unearned privilege when it comes to sex, dating, relationships and socializing.I think you’re missing the point here. Yes there is trashy people of all genders. However the point here is that for women, there is a great deal of options and it’s just a matter of making a decent choice. Whereas for men it’s a struggle and ton of time and effort to get the attention of even a single woman, based off the same “we don’t entirely know what you’re like” pre-knowledge. Also, when you say “quality men have options” what that translates to is the best looking men have options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/21 02:21 AM |
| 1 | MRA's inappropriately invalidate the realities of female existence.I agree with the majority of the things you said :) it’s great to be pretty much on the same page about these things. A few disagreements though. One, while married women do get comments about being the “old ball and chain”, men get the equivalents here. “Oh that’s my useless half,” “I just want to smack him sometimes” is something that is far more commonly said about husbands. So again, these things happen across the board. I do respect that the written goals for FDS are a successful relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/20 11:22 PM |
| 9 | Hey guys share your thoughts about this perspective - Do you consider sex as merely a form of action or is it more than that? Can it be equated to activities like Dancing or Singing?Sex is like a walk on the beach. It’s relaxing to do by yourself. A way to get to know someone new. A whole bunch of fun to do with a group of friends. A nice evening if you do it with snacks. And the most romantic thing in the world with the right person (or people). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/20 11:48 AM |
| 1 | MRA's inappropriately invalidate the realities of female existence.So you agree with people campaigning for men’s rights except where they unnecessarily criticize women for their behavior in social situations? Sure, I’m in agreement there. A good cause shouldn’t be stopped because of some people’s off comments though should it, even if we don’t condone their words. I notice you’re part of FDS. I follow out of interest the same as MGTOW. Sometimes I agree with the post sometimes I don’t. Do you realize the amount of comments that actively just hate on men? FDS i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/20 12:50 AM |
| 1 | MRA's inappropriately invalidate the realities of female existence.Sure and I get that. But first, a men’s rights activist is someone campaigning for men’s rights. If they say something unrelated to men’s rights than it’s just said as a person, the same way broccoli eaters make claims even though they don’t advertise their broccoli habits. And second, if they are talking on topic, about men’s rights, than it’s a legal thing and women undoubtedly get away with more, (ie, men get punished heavier, whichever floats your boat) in relation to actual rights. And anec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/20 08:30 AM |
| 1 | MRA's inappropriately invalidate the realities of female existence.Have you considered that the reality you talk about directly contradicts what men experience? Because all of your examples are fair examples, but then you somehow equate that to men having it easier without having any experience from our side of things. I feel like there should be a glass house analogy of some sort. “Just because you know the interior of your house that doesn’t mean other peoples homes have glass walls.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/20 04:15 AM |
| 7 | If Those Thots... 😂Because being 6’4” puts you above that! /s | /r/MGTOW | 28/05/20 04:13 AM |
| 61 | seriously...But who am I to judge. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/01/20 04:58 AM |
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