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ConversationNamelessJ/r/seduction04/05/20 04:43 AM
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Thank you for this video man, it really lit a light bulb when I saw it. I've been relying too much on a formula and it's hard to motivate myself to go out because if felt like I was doing something fake. Too much pickup stuff I've seen made it feel like I can't just follow up the initial approach with something basic like "where are you from" or "how is your day going" and lead into a normal conversation. This video helps take the strangeness out of it and makes it something really normal, which…
/r/seduction24/06/20 05:48 AM
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Sure but, when can we get back to it?
/r/seduction04/05/20 04:53 AM
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Awesome post, 100% agree!
/r/seduction19/03/20 10:25 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/ExRedPill04/01/20 12:35 AM
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I don't understand what point you are trying to get across.
/r/ExRedPill04/01/20 12:27 AM
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What happened to the detox sticky that used to be on here? There was some good info in it and it's what pulled me out of my funk a while back.
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 08:35 AM
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True. I'm a guy and I can say for myself that once I get about 10 messages from people I don't know I get kinda tired of following up on all of them unless there's something about one that really seems interesting. Can you imagine getting 100+ emails a day from strangers? I really can't blame women for not responding to most, and just like guy's, there going to be looking for men they are more attracted to. That's not anything unique or proving a hypergamous theory. That's common sense and us gu…
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 08:29 AM
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I'm not defending the PUA concept, but to be fair there are some that basically just teach you to introduce yourself and have decent conversation skills and don't claim it works on everyone. I think that's a very healthy thing to learn and I can say it helped me, and not only does it work, it's the only thing that really works. Where it can get weird is all of the artificial rules and techniques to attract her. Once you learn true self respect, it's really just a matter of being real and seeing …
/r/ExRedPill03/01/20 08:16 AM
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This holds me back more than anything else. The other day when I was out and wanted to approach I kept having these negative thoughts whispering in my mind. Even through I knew by experience that these thoughts aren't true, it still keeps me from being myself. I did approach one girl and the interaction was fine, but I let a lot of opportunities go by. One of the biggest things that helped me was learning about complex trauma and how it can create isolation and self loathing. I've got a handle o…
/r/seduction23/12/19 02:24 PM
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Lol, I've got nothing to prove to you buddy.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/19 06:25 AM
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I recognize that the pill mindset is bullshit a while back and I am "successful" with dating. I am not sure exactly what you mean by success, but I'm a happy guy who dates and forms connections with women regularly. I've done the player lifestyle and there was once a time when I thought RP was right in some of its theories, but the truth is that it makes things worse in dating for the most part. I think RP is kinda like a guy who decides to go on a diet and exercise but gets some really bad advi…
/r/ExRedPill16/12/19 07:53 PM
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I've been with girls who are exactly the opposite. When I show emotional vulnerability their nurturing instinct comes out and we become closer and bond. I'll say that the type of girls who are attracted to a "red pill dating strategy" aren't typically going to be these kind of girls. That's why red pill sucks.
/r/ExRedPill16/12/19 07:44 PM
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Well.... hold up. I'm saying that sure this stuff does occur, but it's extremely rare. When I say extremely rare, I mean it's highly unlikely. But I'l give you the benefit of the doubt that there is a couple guys who might have some jackass tendencies going on. Sometimes people like that will find someone they don't like, single them out, and just focus on them for no reason. It could be happening with you, I dunno, I'd need to see it myself. But the point I am making is that if this is going on…
/r/ExRedPill21/11/19 06:26 AM
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I worked in a gym as a personal trainer for many years and observed a lot of people there for hours and hours. The vast majority of people don't care what is going on around them and do not care what you are doing. They are typically just focused on your workout and if they are smiling it's probably just being friendly. Also when you people are working out they get into the zone and might have an aggressive look, but it isn't directed towards you and they are not trying to exert their dominance …
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 06:55 AM
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Glad that you realized she's a human and not a plate. Have a fun time!
/r/ExRedPill18/11/19 01:58 PM
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No, I know a lot of women through friendships, dating, work, and just having a life, and they overwhelmingly do not think this way or care about this stuff. I don't think you can have this much of a broad brush negativity towards women unless you are either isolated or have unresolved emotional issues. Most of the excesses in social justice we see today are coming from a shadow side of pluralism. The blame and bitterness in red pill thinking will get you no where, it is just a security blanket s…
/r/ExRedPill18/11/19 01:55 PM
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Sorry that you feel that way. I disagree but I will leave you be.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/19 07:32 AM
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Do you exercise regularly and eat healthy?
/r/ExRedPill09/11/19 09:30 PM
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I struggled with shyness a lot too back in the day. Truthfully though through a lot of experience I've found that girls actually don't mind if you're kinda shy as long as you own the shyness and are able to at least carry on a conversation. They are generally turned off by the fake dudes trying to game them that even the authenticity of shyness goes a long way. Sometimes openness is more attractive than confidence. I don't suggest following the methods of the PUA crowd, but the basic idea of wal…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 10:56 PM
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You're right that people do need to listen to and communicate with the individuals going through this, but they should be talked to as individuals and not members of one of the aforementioned communities. There are a lot of voices in society reinforcing their feelings of inferiority and very few voices showing empathy. I think they are codependent etc, but if they keep feeling demonized they will keep sinking further down into the ideologies that promise a way out, no matter how misguided these …
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 08:21 PM
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OK. So you haven't been asking girls out on dates? If not, why not?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 06:49 PM
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Good luck on the internship. But, when you are trying to find a girlfriend how do you go about it? Do you take action of any kind?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 03:57 PM
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So what are you currently doing then?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 02:31 PM
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I felt a little Jocko vibe when you said the problem is YOU. Great post. Crazy how you used to commemorate the Rogers killing... you were deep in the muck back then. Glad you got out of that world.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 08:08 AM
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Lots of good points being made here. So much of this current cultural issue comes from alienation and a loss of civil society. Humans need to belong to a community of some sort which is why people without solid connections in their lives fall into various harmful subcultures on the internet.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 07:48 AM
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Wrong. There's a lot you can do. What are you currently doing to try and find a girlfriend? Are you trying to use redpill and PUA techniques?
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 07:33 AM
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Stop smoking weed. Stop getting drunk. Stop reading these pill websites or whatever else you're into. Start studying psychology, particularly around trauma because you probably need to deal with that. Start lifting weights and doing MMA. Stop complaining. Focusing on being kind, but also the real you. Learn good conversation skills. Stop clinging to bitterness like a blanket. Your bitterness is giving you a perverse kind of comfort. Based on what you're saying you're an able bodied functioning p…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 07:27 AM
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There's a first aid kit on this sub, have you tried it? Your thinking is very flawed.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/19 07:10 AM
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Ars Amorata.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/19 11:56 PM
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Welcome! Please feel free to pm me if I can help with anything. I know how you are feeling.
/r/ExRedPill05/11/19 06:14 AM
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TRP creates a false self and tells you that you must be this false self (aka alpha as they define it). There some positive aspects of the self it promotes, such as seeing yourself as the mental point of origin, self confidence, etc. By all means, take the genuinely positive parts with you, but leave behind the bitterness, absolutism about female nature, etc. TRP tells you that you must follow their way of thinking or else you're going to get hurt, but you must think for yourself. When you bring …
/r/ExRedPill05/11/19 05:51 AM
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Good video.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 08:55 PM
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The only way I've been able to rediscover the type of authenticity needed for true emotional recovery is by addressing the inner trauma of the past. I recommend exploring the works of Pete Walker and his writings on CPTSD. Richard Grannon also talks about this on YouTube and is a good source.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/19 08:52 PM
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What happened to you? Why are you so angry?
/r/ExRedPill03/11/19 09:49 AM
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Tell me.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/19 09:48 AM
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It definitely isn't true that it'll never leave you, but it may take time. I got into TRP (more the intellectual arguments than the rage from reddit etc) for a couple of years. When I genuinely realized that it was a lie it was jarring at first, but I started participating in life in a different way and with a new set of beliefs, there's definitely no toxicity from it still with me today.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/19 05:17 AM
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It sounds like you are not being authentic. You should accept the fact that you've been hurt and don't try to artificially suppress it, but then move forward in life and your dating life in a way that shows empathy and respect towards women. Don't try any tactics, instead take the time to genuinely explain what you feel to the woman you are with but in a way that does not put pressure on her to respond in the way you want her to. Be real, be you, and let her be her. You are two individual people…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/19 05:12 AM
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Definitely not a true cult but it does have some cult-like qualities.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/19 05:42 AM
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Who was the "coach"?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/19 07:14 AM
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Yeah, TRP tends to imply that only men are going through this experience but it happens on both sides. TRP claims that women would only feel this way for reasons of hypergamy, while men would have this feeling for reasons that are more romantic. But women can feel this way for reasons that have nothing to do with hypergamy just like a man. Honestly Rollo's advice on dealing with oneitis would probably suite your situation as well.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/19 08:19 AM
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Oneitis. Rollo Tomasi has often told a story of how his brother in law hung himself because he thought that he had a special destiny with his wife, and when she left him he did not believe he could live without her. Many guys fall into this mindset even when they aren't dating a girl. They can waste years of their lives and miss out on countless opportunities to meet other great women because they believe there is some special soulmate destiny tied to one girl. As Rollo puts it, there are good o…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/19 06:53 AM
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You aren't old, many guys start much older than you.
/r/seduction22/08/18 01:32 AM
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Oh wow, I got downvoted. I guess we have some dumbasses in here. I actually like certain things about the redpill, particularly as Rollo's books explain it, but I think it gets particularly bad when it is taken as gospel and becomes cultish. Looking at much of the ratings on this sub I suspect that there are a number of fanatics (I guess that's what they are?) of the RedPill who come on here and downvote it, because it's "bluepill". I'm totally find with people disagreeing, but it's pretty pathe…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/17 05:50 AM
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Even if you still believe in redpill philosophy, one of the main thinkers of the movement, Rollo Tomassi, would not categorize women as 'lesser beings' (to my knowledge). That's simply too much of an absolute. Men and women are different and complementary to one another. In any set of differences people will perceive there to be strengths and weaknesses, however, it's more objective and true to say that there will be different variations of certain attributes between the differences, and the val…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/17 05:24 AM
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Can you give me a source to the statistic that men are more likely to be attacked at night?
/r/MensRights27/01/15 06:29 AM
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