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The poor guy who made that comment about the demise of his marriage is just seeing the world through the lens of his own experience. I feel terrible that he went through that!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 05:24 PM
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I don't think you two can last much longer in this arrangement. No need to scare the poor girl with your projections.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 06:35 AM
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Oh man, aspergers. Now I get it. That is such an important detail. As for the girl, since I don't know her age or yours or how long you've been dating, I dont know what is right for your situation. I'm think another subreddit would be able to help you especially if you provide all those details including aspergers. Asktrp, askmrp, askmen, etc. Good luck man.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 02:07 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to provide more clarity! Honestly that doesn't seem too sarcastic unless you have a really nasty tone behind it, which I'm guessing you didn't. that means basically you can only be in relationships with people that are literally perfect No but ideally there wouldn't be a sense of contempt. when I texted her about meeting up to speak in person I'll never understand why people get frustrated that they did not get the results/connection they were seeking through texting. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 11:25 PM
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Since you're commenting on this thread and going through something, I'm assuming you'd like feedback or perspective, so here is mine. You talk about this respect thing. Sarcasm at her that gets taken too far, especially in front of her friends, is not exactly the epitome of respect, nor do you seem to respect her need for space but criticize her in your thoughts, if you havent criticized her directly yet (which probably did not do anything but put her way off). Disliking it is one thing but not …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 07:26 PM
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Yes. Especially about letting men lead and not speaking poorly of them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 03:41 PM
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Aw, I'm sorry, I can tell how frustrated you are over this. Sounds like you are making a lot of assumptions about her desire for space to think and what that really means, which is honestly silly and illogical;-). Ask yourself why you are jumping to extrapolations like "never wanting to speak to someone again." Jumping to conclusions about her hidden intentions of wanting space to think is not going to make her feel great about how tensions get handled in your relationship. Sometimes conflict ge…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 03:37 PM
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"Thanxiety" LOL
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 10:29 PM
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Do you practice mindfulness/ meditation? Yes! I visualize breathing in shimmery wonderful energy down into my lower belly (which is your center of gravity, your womb, and the main energy/power center in most Eastern philosophies), and as I exhale feel/imagine the shimmering permeating out through my skin on my whole body from the inside out. I especially like to do this when there is silence at the dinner table, for example! It is so tempting not to let silence hang there, but if you're shy or n…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 06:24 PM
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It is normal to be a little shy at first, and most people get this, including your SO's family. I handle this by just saying how nice it is to meet someone, answering their questions, reciprocating the question, etc. The most important thing I do, however, is be careful not to have resting b**** face and to sort of sink into myself and breathe and relax and enjoy. Remember that trying too hard to impress someone can have the opposite effect. Sometimes I have even admitted I was a little nervous …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 05:47 PM
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Any update? How are you doing?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 05:25 PM
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I am not a skinny thing and am actively trying to lose weight. I find that people around me do discourage me and "worry" for my well being when I am turning down calories, even in the form of pizza or cake. It is so interesting that no one worries about the mental state one must be in to deliberately and consciously consume foods and quantities that are proven to produce disease and eventually kill you. If I spend a day eating oreos, ice cream, and pizza to great excess, no one inquires about my…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 04:53 PM
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You are very welcome! Consider that you are crossing a bridge to the destination of happily ever after in your life, and that every time you put your energy into the situation with this guy and driving out of your way to "make yourself available," you're pretty much throwing yourself off that bridge. It's like you say to yourself, "I am blessed with all this extra time on the weekends to make my life even better and more fulfilling so I don't pine so hard for a man to fill my void, but I think I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 11:04 PM
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I have less anxiety about seeing/texting him these days. Ehh, not so much. I mean, you're trying to control the outcome of this situation by driving 3+ hours every weekend. Control is a symptom of anxiety. We get tired of feeling anxious so we switch to control mode, but that's still an anxiety driven mode. I feel more sure of myself and less anxious about him. Again, not so much. You want to drive 3ish hours a weekend to make yourself more available for a guy who isn't pursuing you otherwise. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 05:40 PM
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I had a great week. Things get better every week. I feel so grateful that when I do slip, I catch myself very quickly and recover quickly. I can literally feel my constitution morphing into some next level sh*t :). This subreddit has been crucial for me. I love that this community doesn't encourage external blaming and fosters a sense of self responsibility. I was working through some clinical anxiety and other issues, and finding this subreddit really gave me a push over the last hump to move p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:33 PM
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What is it about this guy that you can't let go of?
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 04:14 PM
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The "right" thing to do here is to create a beautiful, healthy life for yourself in your own city. This is what will have him reconsidering you. This will take time since you were crazy for a year. You are chasing this guy and trying to make it more convenient for him, which will only work if he ultimately gets lonely or insecure about his own SMV and decides to settle for you. Don't be settled for, yuck. Work on yourself more. I would go so far as to say don't even drive to him. Next time he sa…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 03:31 PM
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Ohhh, hello compassionate lady. I enjoyed reading this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 12:30 AM
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Thanks! I appreciate this and you're right.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 11:34 PM
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Thank you so much for taking an interest in my BS;). I spent a lot of time trying to type up something to share with you, but it was just so dramatic and painted him in a bad light, so I won't post it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 10:51 PM
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let him be the hero that saves the day and makes you feel better He doesn't want to do this, because he's pissed that I'm pissed. He doesn't have suggestions, because... I don't know why. He just doesn't. We have talked about this repeatedly. Edited to remove pointless whining.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:57 PM
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This is awesome. Thanks for sharing these methods.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:05 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. Yes, one thing I could do is try to wait until a happier, more casual time. I don't know if it's in my nature to be able to pretend like everything is fine until that point. He can read me like a book anyway and I'm the world's worst faker. Plus he senses my upset energy and feeds off of it, creating a rift between us until things get talked through to satisfaction for both of us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:04 PM
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For me, we almost never fight about actual things. We fight about fighting. I love that we agree on so much! But I feel so worn down by fighting about fighting. I really want not to stuff things down or sweep them under the rug, so that we can move on and be authentically happy, but it seems like my negative feelings trigger him into just arguing with me about the premise of my negative feelings. I am a woman, and being criticized or brushed off for having negative feelings isn't going to make m…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 04:52 PM
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MS Paint continues to be my favorite illustration tool :-D
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 02:40 PM
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I speak Spanish :-)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 02:15 PM
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Who knew misogyny tasted just like cream cheese icing? Yummmmm
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:50 AM
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I am very happy to be here! Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:22 PM
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I just noticed I have baby flair, too! Haha, is this an administrative error?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 06:54 PM
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Aw, I love this, and I love the good news. Yay, I can feel my heart just bursting with happiness for you both! My guy recently got a nice big raise, and I was just so relieved for him that he would have less financial stress and that he was making closer to what he damn well deserves. It never crossed my mind that this meant more he could spend on ME. Your post was the first time it occurred to me that I could have thought that and didn't. Wasn't even a blip on the radar. Not even too long ago I…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 06:49 PM
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I know that if I don't ask him to hang out or if I can come over I'll never see him because he doesn't go out of his way to see me. Because you've never really given him a chance to need to do that. My advice is to completely stop making it happen so that he can. Keep this up for a good while, like 2-3 months before you decide it's not working. You've probably been the initiator for most of your relationship, so this won't change overnight. See what he does, and if it truly is the case that the …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 12:01 AM
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Thank you, I feel encouraged!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:33 PM
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Haha not even close.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:32 PM
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Woah, twilight zone music. Did we go to the same high school? Yeah I SO get why this annoyed you:-)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 02:10 PM
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I forget pretty much all the things when I'm upset enough. LOL. I'm at a point where I recognize it's just not easy to handle things, end of story, which is why I have to try harder. Before, I felt like because it wasn't easy I was therefore excused for failing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 12:28 AM
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Hey, for what it's worth, I think it's awesome when we find things that press our buttons. Underneath it, there's something to learn about ourselves. We can ask ourselves why we feel the urgent need to be critical and what about our own selves are we trying to prove or avoid by way of external criticism.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 10:02 PM
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Not at all. And honestly we wouldn't be friends under other circumstances. We are not a social match at all. These girls are grown up versions of the mean girls who made my life hell in middle school and have zero interests in things that are meaningful to me, like artistic expression, innovation, spirituality, and hobbies like archery, belly dance, playing the violin, foreign languages, etc. I have thought about this a lot over the last 2 days and have decided to be friendly and sweet when forc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 09:58 PM
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This young lady's post really hit a nerve with you today. I can almost taste the sarcasm and contempt dripping off of you :P
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 09:42 PM
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Ah, you are a victim of yourself! Bahaha, I do this too! I concluded recently that resorting to cutting myself down, when I should be focusing my energy on fixing the mistake or offense, is ultimately extremely selfish and manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 09:05 PM
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I skimmed a lot of the thread and gleaned some stuff about your background. After putting some thought into it, it sounds like one great option for you is to ask your parents or trusted family member to start setting you up. This is going to be the most obvious way to meet someone who can fulfill your financial security requirement, which is going to be the least likely to find outside of your family's socioeconomic circle. If you are in law school, then join some campus clubs and activities tha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 08:59 PM
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I'm surrounded by high SMV men due to my profession and my city but many of them are just not up to snuff for me. What are the things that are giving you the "not up to snuff" feeling? Once we identify what these things are, we can think about where you can meet men with the qualities you've not been able to find just yet.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 05:57 PM
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Prep more at once 1x a week so that most of your "cooking" at meal time is heating things up. I bake casserole dishes full of veggies every week and use them all week long.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 04:38 PM
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This all makes great sense. Totally irrational since I only know you from what you've said in this thread, but I have a good feeling about things working out well for you either way :).
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 01:35 AM
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I just wanted to say that it's not easy to tell such a personal story, and it is commendable that you were able to share the entire truth in the pursuit of advice for a better situation. This is the internet, so if we don't tell all the gory details, no one would be the wiser. It is clear to me that you're interested in being honest with yourself and others, so I am wishing you great courage and luck in being honest with yourself moving forward in this situation! One thing that crossed my mind i…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 11:03 PM
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Much better week! This week will be better than the last, too. Onwards and upwards. Excited to finish out this year on a fantastic note.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 09:22 PM
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Yes! Part of me really doesn't want to compromise on this. What's worse, is I see my friend treating her husband with less and less respect since spending more time with these women. Sometimes I feel kinda sorry for him. She talks about him these days like giving him what he wants would mean giving up her power. This is strange for me to witness because she always used to lecture ME about being more respectful and yielding towards my boyfriends. Edited to make actual sense;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 07:28 PM
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"I can't handle managing all the finances. It's too stressful. What do you think we can do?" Then you hear what he offers, and you go with it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 07:20 PM
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I will see them again next week for the other kid's party and will make a point of initiating some conversation earlier on, instead of walking into their established one. I'll use your questions as a spring board :).
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 06:34 PM
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Thank you:-) I know all about the pd's since I was raised by one. Your comment made me realize I do know how to navigate this stuff and also that I still feel a pull towards that type of person at times. It put a light bulb on over my head, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 02:20 PM
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Clearly, I'm being victimized... ....by the author of the article. Oh the irony.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 02:03 PM
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This is extremely helpful to read. At what point did you trust yourself and your knowledge enough to know you'd never let it happen again?
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 03:18 PM
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Well, this felt like too much to take to the grave so I told my man about it, and he told me he is finding trp to be a very helpful place! I didn't know that he was exploring red pill thinking like I am. So this scary moment turned into a great one that brought us closer. Thanks, UK Telegraph! :-)
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 10:43 PM
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Oh my god. I just read it. Did my thread about making mornings better for my man really just get mentioned in the Telegraph?? Whaaaat? I feel so sad that my desire to make my man's life better got used in this way. This really blows my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 10:13 PM
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I used to work as the outreach director at a highly controversial political campaign that could easily have interview responses taken out of context. The trick is to pick ONE key point that is short and sweet and to answer pretty much every question by returning back to that one key point. If anyone ever wants a little coaching on doing this, I'm happy to give some pointers. Journalism is dead; they should call it agendaism.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 09:35 PM
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It occurred to me yesterday that one way we slip into a victim mentality is when we procrastinate or half-ass. "I can't get to the dishes because I'm so busy with my job." "I can't take care of my appearance because I'm so tired from xyz." It's all BS. Life is not THAT hard. So many things take an hour or less. It is very rare that we can't honestly find an 20 minutes or an hour in our day to do something. I know that I personally have been blaming my schedule or outside obligations for why I fa…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 06:58 PM
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When I was 16, I felt badly about myself. When I was 21, I looked back at my 16 year old self and saw how adorable and fun she was, and I felt badly about my 21 year old self not being as great as my 16 year old self. When I was about 25+, I looked back on my 21 year old self and saw how beautiful I was and how I would never be that young and cute again. That's when I realized that I was wasting a lot of time feeling not good enough. I am 30 now. At 21, being 30 sounded like something that just …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:46 PM
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Love it. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 02:32 PM
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He handles it like an adult, which is becoming a lost art in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 02:30 PM
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Wow I never thought of it like this before. I see this use of language to be softer (and therefore better), so I am going to experiment with using it less. I do notice when talk radio djs use it, or when they use redundant phrase pairings like "It's essentially quintessential," rawr.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 02:15 PM
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One thing that comes to mind is to stop scrolling down my fb feed. It seems like every other post or more by my social network is a meme or rant about being victimized or offended, or glorifies a victim. And then I see posts criticizing people who are too easily offended, and that seems a bit ironic to me. It's just a bad influence that undermines what I want for my own mentality at this time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 05:00 AM
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You sound awesome. And it sounds like you're still pretty young...kudos on being such a level headed young lady.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:52 AM
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That book sounds intense! Thank you for commenting :-)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:51 AM
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I feel so happy for you that you're in a better place with it. This is where I'm at. I survived an abusive, isolated upbringing that of course inspired me to get into a twisted abusive romantic relationship after my parent disappeared and I emancipated. So sometimes I act like crap and blame it on that. And yeah, maybe it's true that my "story" explains away my craziness, but I've grown annoyed with it and myself. I've analyzed and dwelled, I'm in therapy where I learn coping skills, and there's…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:49 AM
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Me too. I have spent a whoooole lot of time expecting other people to validate and empathize with my feelings to the point of feeling attacked if they didn't. Did you see the clip of the female student at Yale screaming at the school master because he wasn't agreeing with her how she saw fit? I cringed so hard LINK The feminist movement is supposed to translate to equality but it seems like the victim mentality movement and the retaliation movement. I can't get behind it the way I was told I am …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 10:42 PM
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are you guys on the redpill because you're unattrative and it's not actually your choice This sort of implies that (assuming I am ugly) if I were attractive, I wouldn't "have to" be respectful toward my man nor view him as a leader. Which, in turn, implies that men are desperate enough to have an extremely attractive woman in their lives that they will lay their pride and self respect on the line to be trampled or whipped into a more beta type role by her. Kind of an insulting implication to men…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 10:23 PM
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This is amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 08:13 PM
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Last week felt a little weird. I am not sure where to start with it. This week, however, I'm focusing on the following: Meal prepping and being sure to eat them. I prep awesomely healthy lunches and dinners a week at a time. Housecleaning. It is one thing not to get around to housecleaning, but even worse when you just have so much stuff around the house. In addition to keeping up with the cleaning, I think I need to get rid of some stuff. 7 minutes of meditation daily. I struggle with getting t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:51 PM
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Do you mean that he feels like you are using your self hate as an excuse to be b*tchy towards him? When he says no one can help you, does he mean that the work is on you and not others?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 07:11 PM
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It is commendable to want to improve yourself! I strongly believe that deep down, you know exactly what you feel you should improve. Ask your "gut" what those things are (or ask God, if that's how you prefer to seek truth). Start with those things. Ignore anything that makes you feel confused or conflicted about changing for now. Once you successfully focus on and improve what you KNOW in your heart, head and gut could change for the better, the things that you're confused about today will then …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 03:50 PM
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Yay, I am glad we're getting somewhere! I had a feeling that just "toughing it out" wasn't going to work for you. And you know what? It doesn't have to work for you! You can always try communicating in a respectful way. First of all, I would not wait until the next time it comes up. I would bring it up when you guys are chillin and enjoying each other or at dinner. Sometimes men feel attacked or criticized when we wait until they're doing it again to say something. Moreover, in the moment it's h…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 09:02 PM
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I absolutely cannot say this. That would actually be bailing on plans. This is why communication can be very important at times. Yes, it's important to know when to avoid drama, but you're literally watching life pass you by and getting anxiety over it. Anxiety causes stress, stress causes premature aging and weight gain, and none of that is good for you or your relationship. I know I have said this at other points in the thread, but telling him "I feel so bummed sitting around waiting for your …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 08:49 PM
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Thanks for explaining further. Putting your life on hold to make yourself available to his whims seems desperate. I don't mean to be rude, and it's important not to actively make things difficult for your man, but I would be wary of investing yourself more than he is. It's seems like that is what's happening here. You are so right that "outcome independence" is probably going to be the best thing for you here, although there is really nothing wrong with telling your partner when you can't figure…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 08:41 PM
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You are so welcome. It sounds like something short and sweet like, "I feel antsy waiting around on Fridays and like if I use that time for my own socializing or fun, it will cause problems. I don't want this to be how I feel, not with you. What do you think we can do?" is in order. Give him the opportunity to solve the problem instead of accusing him of being the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 06:13 PM
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Let me get this straight, he can make last minute plans that exclude you, or exclude you last minute, but if you do the same (particularly because he has been flaky and sitting around feels pathetic and bad), he gets mad? This is one of the rare cases when I do think a heart to heart is required. It's not healthy to put your life on hold to avoid tension. That's called walking on eggshells and is the foundation of codependency. If he can't adjust his attitude, I'd consider leaving. Just my two c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 05:58 PM
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Completely agree and have found this to be true over and over again. One thing trp men seem to not like to acknowledge is that they do prefer to pursue/chase, and unless they're chumps who have been burned by chasing girls too hard, they pull away when a woman is pursuing their attention in a way that makes them feel pressured or criticized. Waiting on him to invite you to join them but you're feeling neglected in the meantime is an example of this. Definitely recommend making other plans and no…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 03:15 PM
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Haha, I got into a relationship with my guy because I suggested we become fwb after we were friends for a year. I had never done that before in my life and have a low number, and looking back it was pretty crazy of me to want that let alone suggest it. I feel fortunate it turned out he was the love of my life, so I never had to face the reality of being foolish or slutty (just how I know I would have felt, no offense to anyone's adult choices), or worse, just embraced it and rode the cc like it …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 11:48 PM
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She is my RPW inspiration, too!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 05:16 AM
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Nice user name! I recommend The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. There's also stuff on the sidebar to the right, like the wiki and other things. I learned the most, though, from Doyle's book and from reading a bunch of threads here and just taking it all in. Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/15 07:37 PM
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Awesome! Thanks! Excited to shop :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:57 PM
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One thing I recently learned from a book is to avoid messing with a man's morning routine because it can make them feel off, or like there's unfinished business. Great point! Yes yes, lounge wear is in order! It's been so long since I bought new stuff and none of it is really flattering anymore. If you have a chance, I'd love to see a link to loungewear you like! Thanks for the tip.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:35 PM
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I think my guy is like yours but when he gets home from work instead. I am starting to notice that trying to do things for him throws him off and bet he'd rather not have to even talk some days.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 07:57 PM
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Drooling...
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 04:07 PM
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This has made me oh so hungry...
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 02:19 PM
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I started typing some criticism about the premise of the writer's argument, but I felt like I was going to battle and I am practicing being a bit softer and resisting the urge to prove myself intellectually and to be right all the time. But I didn't want to leave you hanging:)
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 04:04 AM
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The World Health Organization surely understands that and uses the word "cause". And the "no water" comparison is funny, but logically fallacious.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 10:17 PM
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He keeps telling you what his standards are for your as a wife, but it's not what aligns with your own ideas, so you go on saying he never tells you what his standards are. When he is trying to pull you away from the dishes, his standard for his wife is clearly that she put connecting with him BEFORE the housework. He is pretty clear about what he wants your priorities to be. And you say over and over he's not telling you what his standards are. You obviously feel like you alone are not enough t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:54 PM
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Pizza! Pierogies (spelling?) with potato filling, yum. Get them frozen at the store and sautee some onions and mushrooms to top them with. I like serving them with sour cream. Smoked salt! I put that stuff on everything veggie. Gives it the meat feels. Gnocchi with a chunky pan sauce made of baby spinach or kale, tomatoes, and zucchini. Bonus points if you put the smoked salt all over the gnocchi. Bake that acorn squash with butter and sugar and nutmeg instead of stuffing it with meat. A hearty …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:38 PM
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Kava Kava, Gaia brand. The Vitamin Shoppe's website shows you which stores have it in stock, which is how I was able to get it in my hot little hands immediately, but I also found it on Amazon. If you have any questions about using it, feel free to PM me and I'll dump everything I know on you :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:21 PM
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Positives: -Consistently doing what I can to make his/our home a more relaxing environment since he has a very draining job. Sending him to work with a hot breakfast. I love hearing how his male coworkers all feel like they need better girlfriends because they want what he has. Score! :) -Being open and honest with him as soon as I catch myself being controlling. I used to try to make it out like it was his fault that I "had" to be controlling. -I am increasing the number of things I do for him …
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 12:48 AM
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I would have a hard time being exclusive with a man who won't commit to a formal title. I want to be a married woman, so I would not shut down my availability while a man decides if he even wants to so much as consider that. Is there an RPW stance on this? That's just my instincts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 12:19 AM
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Ohhh, good ol' imposter syndrome. Wish I had some advice for you there, but I am plagued by that one all the time :P I was thinking about you just now and realized that you mention tending to your career, and you mention tending to your marriage, but you don't mention what self-care you are doing. Perhaps some regular self care activities, especially after a work day, will soothe the project manager right out of you. I think when I don't take the time to care for myself, I find myself trying to …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 09:08 PM
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Thank you for the welcome and for sharing this text with me!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 09:04 PM
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I am a career project manager for the last several years, too. I hate it, although I am proud of myself for what I've accomplished. When my career took off and I became a director, it made my life so much worse, not better. I am still a project manager, but I can work from home now which gives me more time to put my SO first. Can you request some work from home days? I am also working towards getting enough of my debt paid off so I don't NEED to make so much money and can get a job that doesn't …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:58 PM
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You are quite welcome! I did see that you asked for relationship advice on other subreddits. I find it is very hard to swallow the red pill while also entertaining advice from other sources. The advice you get here will be to surrender, give up the struggle, and become a better person. The advice you get elsewhere will have you believing you can control the situation, either subtly or directly. I don't know about you, but that sounds exhausting to me. Aren't you exhausted with how you've been do…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:46 PM
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You think the way to get there is to tell him all this stuff, because everybody says communication is so very important (and girls like to talk). I second this. I also think that women tend to think that the absence of evidence of connection in the moment, such as physical and verbal affection or quality time being spent together, means DISconnection is happening. I am pretty sure that it's not like this for men. Silence or not interacting does not translate to disconnection for a man, I'm prett…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:43 PM
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I have learned to catch myself and apologize for this disrespect. It sure is fun watching him come to understand that he is entitled to RESPECT as a man, especially from his woman, and that he doesn't have to feel guilty about it. This idea is beaten out of men in our culture from a very young age. Now when we have sit-coms playing on the television, we're both quick to notice how all the plot lines and jokes are about how men are stupid and irresponsible and women are demanding and perpetually …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:23 PM
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Hi there. I relate to a lot of this. Since implementing RPW philosophy more fully in my relationship, a lot of that anxiety and PTSD stuff has gotten a lot better. Throw yourself into supporting and surrendering to your man, and you may find that a lot of the "triggers" fade away. Side note - one of the things I read here that had a big impact on me was that the word "trigger" is victim language to be avoided. Have you read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle? You can get it in eBook format for …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:05 PM
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This blog looks great. Is it yours? Thank you for sharing. Do you trust him enough to continue to surrender? Definitely. And now I am working to prove my trust in him by letting him be unapologetically in charge. He says it's not something he got in previous relationships, but he is "in love with all the changes" he is sensing in me. He honestly catches on pretty quick, but after a couple weeks of trying my hardest not to be controlling, I slipped and criticized him for not filling the void with…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 05:03 PM
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