Napalm4Kidz Archive

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6	The reason high-functioning autists struggle with attracting women is that they don't conform to the rules of hegemonic masculinity as women generally like bravado men Learning to manage your disability or mental illness is not the same as hiding it. I’ve been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, so I take meds and go to therapy to keep my anxiety manageable. That’s not fake. That’s being a functional adult. I didn’t feel more authentic when I was having panic attacks at work lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/23 06:35 PM
3	The reason high-functioning autists struggle with attracting women is that they don't conform to the rules of hegemonic masculinity as women generally like bravado men It’s not fake to work on yourself and develop social skills.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/23 06:17 PM
4	Do you look for your partner to be more similar, or more opposite? I’m a guy. I think for a relationship to work you need to have core values in common, but it can be nice to have opposite/complementary personality traits. My girlfriend is very fem; I’m pretty masculine. We both believe in gender equality but enjoy many aspects of traditional gender roles in our personal lives. Besides that, I’m fairly reserved while she’s really extroverted and is great at breaking the ice. Conversely, I’m good at planning and managing finances while she’s kind of uh… scattere…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/23 01:18 AM
2	What's the deal with women and height preferences? If we’re just talking about physical traits, how about broad shoulders, big biceps, or an athletic physique? Not to mention there’s a lot more to attraction than physical traits. Dudes who struggle with dating like to focus on height because they can’t change it and they want their lack of success not to be their fault, meanwhile they ignore all of the other factors that are actually in their control, like fitness, style and personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 07:45 PM
6	What's the deal with women and height preferences? Guys who struggle with dating love to focus on height because they can’t change it, meanwhile they ignore all the factors that they can actually control. They want a reason why their lack of success isn’t their fault, so they chalk it up to their height instead of their shitty personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 07:31 PM
1	You only think women’s standards are unrealistic because you view them as a monolith. As an introvert who doesn’t have trouble getting dates I guess I’m some kind of crazy anomaly then. In my experience, quiet women usually like quiet men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 07:01 PM
68	Women got educations and careers and now they don't have time for men Men have been getting educated and having careers for a long time, and they always seem to have had time for women. What makes it different for women with careers?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 06:54 PM
23	POV: Women use men for relationships like men use them for sex So like gold digging? I’d argue that gold digging is a) frowned upon by most people, including women, and b) not super common unless you’re a wealthy celebrity or something. Fortunately, most of us don’t have to worry about that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 04:43 PM
31	POV: Women use men for relationships like men use them for sex What does it mean to “use” someone for a relationship, and how is that different than just being in a relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 04:28 PM
6	Are women really that disgusted by inexperienced/virgin men? You can feel okay about your face even if it’s not the best, and focus on the other parts of yourself that you do love. Not having the face and body of a model doesn’t automatically make you depressed. You say you come off as creepy (I assume you’re talking about yourself), but you also say you’re not bad looking, so I don’t think you can really blame your looks if you’re coming off as a creep.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/23 04:21 PM
8	Why the whole Mensrights, Red pill, and the general "Manosphere" was/is necessary. That’s a big question. Let’s see… I’d like to see an emphasis on the traditional aspects of masculinity that aren’t harmful. How about more emphasis on self-reliance (but not to a fault), leadership, healthy competition, working with your hands, a connection to nature, and standing up for those who can’t defend themselves? Maybe being a man doesn’t have to have anything to do with dominating someone else. It also doesn’t have to mean that you can’t express your feelings, ask for help, or feel vu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 05:02 PM
11	Why the whole Mensrights, Red pill, and the general "Manosphere" was/is necessary. If it’s socially rejected it’ll be expressed in unsavory ways. Oh yeah, I forgot how when the women’s rights movement faced resistance women celebrated violence against men, tried to take their rights away, committed mass shootings, and even started calling men “masc-oids”. How could that have slipped my mind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 04:47 PM
2	What do you think about red flags? Are red flags truths? Yes. If they meant “unhealthy relationship with alcohol” I assume they would say that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 05:04 AM
5	What do you think about red flags? Are red flags truths? This is your argument? Lot of non-alcoholics and successful people drink alcohol also lol. The vast majority of people who drink are not alcoholics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 04:45 AM
36	Why the whole Mensrights, Red pill, and the general "Manosphere" was/is necessary. There are a lot of real issues that men face that aren't talked about as much as they should be, but the problem with the manosphere is that it's mostly a) anti-woman rhetoric and b) strategies for getting laid. Issues like male suicide rates seem to only ever get brought up to try to dismiss some problem that women face, and most of the "solutions" proposed to solve male problems involve taking away women's rights. A positive men's lib movement would be doing things like advocating healthy form…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 04:08 AM
23	CMV: Using a man to be a penpal/surrogate is just as bad as using a woman for sex Do women really lead these men on or do they just see them as friends and aren't interested in a relationship? Unless a woman is literally lying and pretending she's going to fuck someone when she has no intention to, this is not the same situation at all. You know boys and girls can be just friends right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 03:41 AM
9	Would you date the opposite gender versiomof yourself? I figured we were assuming the gender opposite version of us is equally attractive by typical beauty standards, not just ourselves with a sex change 😆. I don’t think I’d be a very pretty girl lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/23 09:45 PM
6	male and female attraction are fundamentally different and that’s why things like dating apps flat out don’t work She challenged a couple aspects of the post, including the idea that men's attraction is only visual. You can agree with some of OP's ideas and disagree with others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 08:42 PM
3	male and female attraction are fundamentally different and that’s why things like dating apps flat out don’t work I think for many guys it's far more pleasant and effective to ask people out in real life. I'm not talking about a cold approach. I mean meeting someone in a class, or at a party, or meeting a friend of a friend at a bar or something (you know, how people used to get dates). If you feel like your looks aren't enough to land you a date on their own, try asking out someone you've met in real life who's actually had an opportunity to get to know you. If you're reading this and thinking these opport…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 05:39 PM
10	male and female attraction are fundamentally different and that’s why things like dating apps flat out don’t work I think “holistic attraction” is a great way to put it. Your looks matter, but it’s also about a larger sense of who you are. I have a theory that this is why male strippers almost always wear some kind of uniform. He’s not just some sexy ripped guy, he’s a sexy ripped firefighter who pulls people out of burning buildings and rescues cats from trees.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 05:15 PM
2	If a young man cannot find at least one woman who wants them, the problem is their personality Interesting. Thanks for the explanation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 10:57 PM
2	If a young man cannot find at least one woman who wants them, the problem is their personality It's hard for me to understand how this works in practice. Are all these women dating each other? Are there a bunch of Chads in polyamorous relationships with multiple women? I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you, just trying to figure out how this works.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 10:47 PM
-1	If a young man cannot find at least one woman who wants them, the problem is their personality Can you explain what you mean by gap? Are you saying there are more single men than single women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 10:41 PM
–	PPD mens hubris of the false notion that women cannot survive without men Yeah. I guess my point is that in a modern economy most of us are pretty incapable of basic survival skills. Also, I know you're just responding to the argument, but I don't really get what the point of it is supposed to be anyway. This feels like an attempt for soft-bodied keyboard warriors to try to take credit for holding society together by lumping themselves in with farmers and tradespeople.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 09:02 PM
–	PPD mens hubris of the false notion that women cannot survive without men Can someone explain what the point of this completely hypothetical argument is supposed to be? Okay, we need farmers and tradespeople, and most of them are men. So what? I'm an office worker who can't grow my own food or fix my own plumbing anyway. You might as well just argue that people in farming or the trades are essential.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 08:55 PM
9	One of the worst pieces of advice in dating: have similar interests Speak for yourself please. Don’t project your shitty attitude on to all men. Not all of us see women as objects or servants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 07:54 PM
1	Q4ALL: Why do so many men think they would get a sexual harrasment charge for attempting to talk to a woman? Are they really that clueless about how to speak to a woman without sexually harassing her? Hopefully the messaging gets through to some of them. It’s not a black and white dichotomy of shitty men who harass women vs. respectful men who never do anything wrong. There’s a spectrum, and I think the messaging could be effective for some of the edge cases. Once again though, I want to emphasize that I’m pretty sympathetic to what you’re saying. I consider myself a good person but sometimes get anxious about my behavior being perceived negatively because I’m a man. I mostly just wanted to p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 05:04 AM
2	Q4ALL: Why do so many men think they would get a sexual harrasment charge for attempting to talk to a woman? Are they really that clueless about how to speak to a woman without sexually harassing her? I think this is a pretty good explanation, and I largely agree with the sentiment, but I think it’s important to keep in mind that women really do get sexually harassed quite a bit. My girlfriend and I have been walking and talking on the phone most nights for the past few weeks and she’s been catcalled twice just while I’ve been on the phone with her. Sexual harassment is probably less common than it used to be, but it’s still pretty pervasive. If the messaging sometimes goes too far, I still t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 04:52 AM
3	What is the source of men's motivation for working hard? I work hard at my job because I want a high quality of life and to retire relatively young. I work hard at my hobbies because I’m a perfectionist with an obsessive personality lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 04:23 AM
4	Q4W : Are you attracted to him because of his confidence, or is it that he happens to be confident because he’s good looking Almost every woman in this thread is saying they're attracted to confidence. Seems a little presumptuous to just assume they all don't actually know what they're attracted to, but for some reason you know what they're really attracted to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 11:21 PM
-2	Why do so many men here want casual sex? You’re either a ‘fuckboi’ or an ‘incel’ Or like, a regular guy who engages in sex and romance without treating women like objects...	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 10:44 PM
2	Why do so many men here want casual sex? Totally. I suppose it's more of a benefit for people who are more reserved, less so if you don't mind just going for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 10:25 PM
5	Q4W : Are you attracted to him because of his confidence, or is it that he happens to be confident because he’s good looking Why is it so incomprehensible to you that most women’s sexual attraction might just work a bit differently than yours? Doesn’t that seem more likely than a weird elaborate theory that most women rarely feel sexual attraction? This sentiment just smacks of seeing women as “other”. I don’t know how else to put it. They’re people, just like you. Of course they get horny. Do you have many female friends? If you did I think you’d see pretty quickly that your theory is completely wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 09:34 PM
8	Why do so many men here want casual sex? My sexual fantasies are deeply personal to me and not something I would share with just anyone. So sure, I guess that’s “on me” but I think it’s a reasonable boundary and many people feel the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 09:06 PM
3	Why do so many men here want casual sex? I relate to this very much. I’ve mostly learned to let this feeling go as I’ve gotten older, but throughout my teenage years and early 20s I definitely felt pressure to have casual sex to prove I had value as a man. Even if you know that it’s kind of dumb, it’s hard to let go of the idea that having casual sex proves that you’re cool/desirable/masculine/whatever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 08:51 PM
17	Why do so many men here want casual sex? I can only speak anecdotally but I personally find that sex tends to get better over time. I haven’t had the experience of being with someone for decades and decades (I’m sure you hit diminishing returns eventually), but I’ve had several long term relationships and I find the sex gets better as you develop emotional intimacy and get really good at doing what the other person likes (and vice versa). You also explore each others’ sexual fantasies and get to try all the weird shit you’d be too emba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 08:43 PM