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| 1 | Common media constantly tries to conflate men as a group with their worst denominators to try to impose collective guilt.pretending that all these pesky rules about how to not harass or assault women are just too darned confusing and unreasonable, so no men can ever manage not to break the rules gives them cover. tale as old as time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/26 05:02 AM |
| 3 | Common media constantly tries to conflate men as a group with their worst denominators to try to impose collective guilt.no it doesn't, and that isn't what the survey was talking about so it isn't relevant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 11:53 PM |
| 13 | Common media constantly tries to conflate men as a group with their worst denominators to try to impose collective guilt.Participants were asked “In the past four years, how many times have you used any of the following strategies to get (or try to get) a woman to have some type of sex when she did not want to have sex or acted like she did not want to have sex? that is what they were asked. so anything other than "she didn't want to so that was that" is a problem. Sure, telling them what they want to hear is not as bad as threatening or using physical force, but it is still an instance of not taking no for a fuck… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 11:34 AM |
| 18 | Common media constantly tries to conflate men as a group with their worst denominators to try to impose collective guilt.the survey was about "strategies to get a woman to have sex who they knew did not want sex and had not consented." the things that you say are harmless or "grey area" are actually problematic if you're doing them to wear someone down when you know they do not want to have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many women end up choosing the guy who was simply more present?there might be a man somewhere doing and saying the perfect things to make me fall for him. But since he is not here and I am not aware he exists, how on earth would I choose a relationship with him? Do you realize you are not making sense at all? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 05:36 AM |
| 4 | Why do so many women end up choosing the guy who was simply more present?that's a bad strategy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 03:58 AM |
| 7 | Why do so many women end up choosing the guy who was simply more present?you're making it sound like she chose him simply because he existed in the same location as her for enough time. She clearly did like him and find him attractive and compatible with her, otherwise she would not have chosen him, regardless of what your personal opinion of him is. Also if she was really not interested in him at all, she probably would have removed herself from his presense. "the man who is consistently present in their lives—the one who checks in, spends time with them, listens, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 03:43 AM |
| 2 | male or neutral-targeted media criticized harder than female-targeted mediamaybe you never heard anything about the age gap in twilight, but I assure you there was a lot of criticism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Women should make the first move, its better for everyone.these people can't grasp what you're saying but i just wanted to tell you it makes complete sense to me and i would prefer this too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 12:18 PM |
| 8 | CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longeroh ya know... it feels like a bag of sand when you're touching it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 11:12 AM |
| 16 | CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longeryes, precisely that. if you're with someone and you think she's lazy and you aren't enjoying being with her, stop being with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 08:25 AM |
| -1 | The debate about age gaps in relationships reveals the double standard of blue pillers.the response is often that the woman "knows what she wants," that "women naturally prefer older men," or that "young men have nothing to offer." Yes. This is what men say who want to date the younger women, or who think age gaps are fine. Suddenly, those men are called "creepy," told they "have nothing to offer women their own age," or accused of wanting to take advantage of younger women's inexperience or naivety. This is what people who find age gap relationships problematic say. These are not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Women, when you ask a man to take out the trash, what is the time limit for the man to do that?i (F) live with a guy. If either of us see the trash needs to go out, we just take it out. The only reason I would ask him to do it is if I'm unable to (like I'm sick or I'm in the middle of cooking), or if I saw it's full and I know he's going to leave shortly, so he can easily just take it out with him on his way out. Generally I'll just do it myself, but if somebody notices it's full or it smells, really we (either of us) would want it to be taken out more or less right away. Why would you wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/26 12:14 PM |
| 4 | Most men here don't just have dating problem, they're severely under-socialized in general.i think it would be better for all people to have less pressure. going to extreme measures for appearances (like bone lengthening which is brutally painful and takes a long time to heal) is not good for anybody. yes, the world has often put unrealistic, intense pressure on women to look certain ways, but how does it help to also put this pressure on men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 07:08 PM |
| – | Dread works for creating attraction even if it destabalizes the relationship and thats okaybut you don't have to get married, you know. how about just not getting married if you think cheating is good and/or necessary? It isn't fate, it's a choice. And you don't have to make it. You don't need to be in an exclusive monogamous relationship at all. It sounds like you aren't monogamous, so go find other non-monogamous people instead of being a lying piece of shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 10:19 AM |
| 1 | What is that guy supposed to do in the video - genuine discussion for both genders, no blaming each otherif your GF kisses another guy, you break up with her. that is so simple, I don't know why it's a question. But that video was not a girl kissing another guy. That guy forced himself on her while she tried to push him away and put her hand in the way of his mouth to try to stop him. If some dude grabs your GF and forces a kiss on her against her will and you blame her for it then you suck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 05:43 PM |
| 2 | A woman is never "not ready for a relationship"so your friend lied to a guy she wasn't interested in and said she wasn't ready for a relationship, therefore all women are always ready for relationships? This logic is poor. I have lied before to guys, claiming I had a boyfriend just to get them to leave me alone. Does that mean no women ever have boyfriends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Women collectively bring up extremely silly arguments to prove that they "have it harder" than men (Spoiler: They do not)sure but if there are no HR people, who's going to process the garbage collectors' paychecks? they'll all quit if they don't get paid. i know you think the work is worthless, but it isn't. Also men work in HR too. Also consider hospice work, or the people doing elder care in nursing homes. These are extremely difficult jobs, mostly done by women, and very useful to society. Critical, in fact. As is garbage collection. My point is our society is complicated and it takes all sorts of different peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 08:30 PM |
| -1 | CMV: “friends first” or waiting months to build a relationship isn’t a viable path for 99% of adults anymore and people should stop trying to act like it isYep. i don't have any interest in dating a complete stranger. some guy sees me walking out of CVS and asks me for my number... no thanks. somebody thinks i look good and has never even spoken to me? I'm not going to a second location with him. But there are miles in between that and spending months becoming my friend (or pretending to be) before asking me out. IMO you want to be in the acquaintance zone. If you wait longer than that, it's too late. If you are a stranger, it's also usually a no. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:24 AM |
| 11 | Divorce rhetoric reveals that motherhood is "worth less"i completely agree with this. and i would add, this is also a gendered issue when women have careers, some men still don't see any value. there are always men on this sub complaining that women just work in offices typing emails and gossiping and sitting around all day, while men are risking their lives every second in, i don't know, a uranium mine or something. but yes also they clearly don't value work in the home either. even if someone can see his own children growing up healthy and well car… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 12:22 PM |
| – | You told men to not approach you, so we listened.they don't just pretend it's 50/50, they pretend it's the same women saying both things. i'm guessing that the few women complaining "why won't guys approach me" are usually not also saying "I want guys to leave me alone" and they probably never were. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 12:06 PM |
| 1 | The left are hypocrite when it comes to menare you talking about democrats? I thought you were in India? You keep talking about "the left" but it seems like you're really talking about dems who are absolutely not the left. And the actual left is not what you described here at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 01:10 AM |
| 2 | If men were to focus more on women's personalities and character than looks, women would have alot less options.yes there would be fewer options for the women that are self-centered parasites who can't hold an intelligent conversation. However, you may not have noticed but there are tons of other women who aren't like that! and we don't want men who don't care about our personalities and character. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 04:27 AM |
| 2 | What’s going on with the comments on this IG reel? Do women just hate men?i don't think it's a sign of good mental health if you read 5000 comments on a dumb instagram post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/26 10:41 PM |
| 0 | What’s going on with the comments on this IG reel? Do women just hate men?Also women: The audacity of the average man to think any woman would ever be into him. that's not what she was saying. she was referring to when we are working in customer service roles and do normal non flirty things like be polite, smile, say thank you (like we are required to by our employers), some guys interpret this as "oh yeah she wants me." This can cause problems. That is not to say that an average looking guy can't have women be interested in him. Just, he maybe needs to learn to not t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/26 10:36 PM |
| 1 | CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Menyes! exactly this! I keep saying: hobbies give people friends, a wider social circle, better social skills, and having interests makes people more interesting to talk to. And perhaps you can even meet somebody to date, but even if you never meet somebody through your hobbies, the hobbies and friends can help make you more appealing in general. Also, people who do things they enjoy (even if those things don't involve socializing) are happier and more pleasant. nobody wants to date a sulking, bore… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 07:15 AM |
| 2 | CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Menhis comment was that pottery class was unlikely to be a successful place for a struggling guy to meet a woman. Why do you need him to give a better example for that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 11:40 PM |
| 3 | CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Menmy point was really that even if you meet women online, once you have met them, having a life with social activities, friends, hobbies, social skills, things you can talk about, etc. are all very helpful for dating. Not having those things will be detrimental. It doesn't matter where/how you meet somebody if you seem like somebody who sits home alone on the internet or playing xbox all the time and you have no social life. Unless you meet a woman who also sits home and has no social life, of cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 11:36 PM |
| 8 | CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Menmaybe. but if a woman meets a guy online and he doesn't have friends, a social circle, or do any activities that are fun and has nothing interesting to talk about, she is going to find him weird and/or boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 07:35 PM |
| 6 | Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationshipwhat about the moods and psychological shifts men experience at all times due to their hormones? You've convinced yourself that you aren't emotional but you are. You can call it "having to take responsibility" but it is actually "needing to get your way or getting angry about it" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 11:41 AM |
| 0 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?Yes that absolutely falls under what I'd call reasonable. I am just curious about this woman OP is referring to and what she was asking for that made them think this was worth posting the question on 9 subreddits. Or put another way, what sort of accomodations does this person think is not reasonable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 09:49 PM |
| 0 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?what sort of accomodations was the woman seeking? reasonable accomodations, like what would be made for anybody with any other documented medical issue, yes absolutely. I don't see why somebody with debilitating menstrual pain should be denied medical leave or scheduling considerations. If a man needed time off for treatment of testicular cancer or some other condition that women can't get, he would not be denied. People get to take time off to recover from all sorts of "private health matters" … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Women claim to be into personality but judge everythingis there a reason why you are unable to work or persue education? You don't need to explain it if it's personal, but is this a choice you've made for yourself or was the NEET life forced on you somehow? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t women get guns?a lot of violence occurs in the home, committed by people we know. having a gun in your home increases the chances that a violent incident will escalate to a deadly incident. and most people don't keep a gun in their hands at home just in case their partner flies off the handle about something, or decides not to take no for an answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name?if everyone needs to have the same last name, does that necessarily mean they all need to have your name? Why not your wife's? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/26 10:29 PM |
| 1 | It's All Prostitutionah, ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:24 AM |
| 1 | It's All ProstitutionNo, the biggest determinant of one's socioeconomic status is the SEO of one's parents. what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 07:36 PM |
| 10 | So many women are married to gay men and they don't realize itthat is rather specific.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/25 11:05 AM |
| – | Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Menwhat women say those things? what are you talking about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 09:14 AM |
| – | Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men"vast majority" is definitely a stretch. and it's weird you seem to think most women's fantasies involve this type of thing. also you seem to miss that the point of the fantasy is regaining control. since it is consensual, there is no assault happening, it is a safe encounter that helps some people feel less powerless. You seem to think it is like "oh wow my rape was so sexy, I want to relive that over and over" and that isn't it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 08:33 AM |
| -1 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menNo. You should get to know a woman a little bit. I won't go out with complete strangers. If I don't know anything about a guy at all, I have no interest. But that doesn't mean we need to be friends. Acquaintances are a thing and that's who you should try to date. Like, get to know a woman a little bit. See if you get along, have anything in common, or even like each other. But take your shot before a deep friendship develops. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Women are extremely hypocritical when it comes to friendships with menShe didn't say that there's no difference in how often men/women get rejected. you put words in her mouth. OP said "most women have never been rejected" which is incorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:44 PM |
| – | Q4M: What things do you do for your female friends that you don't do for your guy friends?is that what that is meant to do? protect women from being hit by cars? I've never heard of this before now so I was confused. Are cars running off the street onto the sidewalk often enough to invent a "rule" to protect us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 03:20 AM |
| 0 | Women should compete for the Provider Position If they feel Men Have It Easier.it isn't that it will make them horny. it is that when a woman is exhausted from taking care of kids, working, cleaning, cooking, etc. and barely has a moment of peace to rest, it is not shocking if she's too tired to want sex very often. Also resentment builds if your "partner" treats you like a servant and doesn't clean up after himself or participate in the household he lives in. IMO it isn't that doing chores is sexy, it is that not doing chores is going to hurt your sex life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 11:37 PM |
| 2 | The more we push the me too movement, the more men’s fears are substantiated of false reports for personal gain as the reward to do so is larger. As such you can never “believe all women”.if somebody reports any crime, it's pretty normal for people to believe that it happened to the extent that it is taken seriously and investigated. you don't find any proof without trying to find it. when no investigation occurs because "she's probably lying" or "it was her fault anyway, look what she was wearing" or "what was she doing out at that hour anyway?" or "he is a well respected man, there's no way he would do that" etc, then how does anyone know there's no proof? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:47 AM |
| 5 | The more we push the me too movement, the more men’s fears are substantiated of false reports for personal gain as the reward to do so is larger. As such you can never “believe all women”.it wasn't "believe all women" until people fought back against the movement. It was originally (and still is) "Believe Women." Dishonest people who fought back against the movement have always been crying about "believe all women?" but that's a strawman. I agree with you, I am just pointing out that we all need to stop arguing against "believe all women" because that is not what the me too movement was asking people to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 08:20 AM |
| 4 | We live in a world where women think their farts don't stinkWhen they say things like "I don’t want to date anyone." I assume they say it and imagine a crowd of people cheering, applauding to the heavens in joy and solidarity. And a plethora of men in tears with their knives to their throats, distraught, self-flagellating in response to this catastrophic loss of utter human brilliance. Thinking to themselves, “What could have been?”. this assumption is beyond crazy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 06:04 AM |
| 1 | To both men and women: Tell me your requirements for a partneri'm the same, i usually get myself places by public transportation, lyft, walking etc. but i live somewhere where that's possible. There are places where if you can't drive or don't have a car you're going to need people to drive you around all the time and I have been the person doing all the driving, it does get annoying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:07 AM |
| 7 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?wait. you don't ask them? many of them have experimented with and experienced things sexually - clubbing, hookup apps, gang bangs, threesomes, orgies, sex parties, rough sex, kink lifestyle etc that are just a distant fantasy to me I only see in porn. if you feel like you can't ask, where is all of that^ coming from? Are you just assuming they all have pasts like this? Just making shit up and then getting upset about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:59 AM |
| 8 | I think many women actually think it’s immoral to NOT be hypergamousit sounds like the guy who has asked out everyone in his circle of friends and is then surprised when this comes back to bite him later. seems like a non issue to me, I wouldn't ever have expected a guy to never have asked out or dated anybody before me. But if he's doing this with girls/women who all know each other then yeah that gets weird. I don't think it's really about hypergamy though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 05:33 PM |
| 10 | Liberal/leftist women are the biggest hypocritesi didn't realize companies appealing to diverse body types were forcing anybody to date those body types. I thought they were just trying to sell products to people even if those people aren't skinny. Body positivity is meant to get people to treat everyone with dignity and respect. nobody ever cared who you did/didn't want to fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Men who blindly overcorrect as feminists are as annoying as misogynistsyep. there's a point where it's too much and i assume it's insincere. a performance, to manipulate people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 06:24 AM |
| 1 | If I could guarantee you that 1 out of every 40 guys you approach is your ideal man, would you start cold approaching? Why or why not?are the 39 Mr Not Rights all going to reject us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 05:27 PM |
| 9 | It's not offensive to ask for dna testi mean, in that case then he doesn't trust his wife to the point he thinks she cheated on him and would be willing to commit fraud, and he also is a liar. they probably should divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 07:07 AM |
| 0 | Do you think men who can’t attract women are losers?having dating failures = basically all people, male, female, losers, non losers. expecting to not have failures is delusion. but to your point, no success ever CAN mean there are problems with the guy, sure. But there are lots of reasons why somebody might not have any relationships or can't date. Too busy, focused only on career. This is not my type of guy, I am not a workaholic and don't want a relationship with one. but there are people who are fine with that, it is just difficult to find the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Why are modern woman so keen on "vetting" a man?They want men to do manly things but these manly trades are considered toxic by feminist. what trades are those? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Why are modern woman so keen on "vetting" a man?have you never met people at school or work or through mutual friends? I don't get your confusion here. You can meet people organically, get to know them a bit and realize you have a lot in common and you like each other and then date. You don't need to spend months developing a friendship until you have a close relationship and then ask her out (this is actually shitty if you do this with no desire to actually be friends). There's a huge range in between a complete stranger who you don't know a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 06:10 AM |
| 3 | Why are modern woman so keen on "vetting" a man?i completely agree with you. if a guy i don't know at all sees me in a social situation (like at a party or something) and he makes an effort to talk to me and get to know me, that's not a red flag to me. but a stranger coming up to me like "hey I'm Bill. What's your name? Can I get your number?" or "Hi, how's it going? Can I take you out sometime?" is an immediate no from me. If you don't know me at all aside from literally just looking at me once, if you're trying to ask me out at that point I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Why are modern woman so keen on "vetting" a man?what do shitty guys look like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Dating is garbage today due to the rise of Asymmetric Courtshipsounds like those particular women aren't content with being alone then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Dating is garbage today due to the rise of Asymmetric Courtshipshe understands fine. what she said is true and you're arguing with yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Women's ability to attract men anywhere they are gives them way more freedom to do and live wherever they want.right. dudes who live like that are perfectly acceptable to women who also live hippy/nomad lives. people with alternative lifestyles are attracted other people with similar lifestyles. I would probably not want to date a man who lives in a van. Because I do not want to live in a van. I like to travel, but that's a different scene I don't want to be in. but hypothetical van guy, if he's charming and decent looking, probably is quite popular with the van women, or other similar types. Plenty of g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/25 11:22 AM |
| 19 | Motherhood is disrespected from both the left and the right — no wonder women are having fewer kidsno we sure aren't. Free daycare, free medical expenses, free classes for new moms, other support? How entitled, your baby is not my problem. And we (the left) aren't saying that either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 07:38 AM |
| 12 | Motherhood is disrespected from both the left and the right — no wonder women are having fewer kidsyes, but even now they only want the right kinds of people having babies (and lots of them). edit: i just noticed you said "white people" so you basically covered this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 06:50 AM |
| 15 | How come women dont realize how hard is it for men to get laid ?i don't really know why OP thinks women think it's easy for men to get laid. Who is claiming it's easy? His example, the guy with a 10% success rate, that seems pretty good actually. Should it be more? Why? I think i'm pretty aware of how hard it is. But it doesn't matter to me that it's hard for men to get casual sex. And you explained why perfectly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 05:22 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about your current or future partner asking to have different beds/bedrooms?i would love to have separate rooms. i have terrible insomnia sometimes. i also snore. i sometimes just need to be alone to get any sleep. also, i think it can be difficult for my BF to sleep when I'm there (because of the tossing and turning, and if I do fall asleep, the snoring that sometimes follows). plus different schedules cause more disruptions. sleep is so important. i think being able to get good, uninterrupted sleep would help a lot of relationships, honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 10:27 AM |
| – | A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a flythe people who agree with her apparently agree with her. and there are other women who don't agree. and there are women who don't care. and there are women who think they agree but made stupid choices or get in shitty situations where they end up dating fucking assholes. we are actually all separate people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 08:08 PM |
| 2 | A significant amount of issues in dating arise from misandrydid you read the post? because it was relevant to what was written in the post. did you just read the title and stop when you found the word "misandry?" and it's rich to complain that women have no empathy for men when, on a comment thread about bad things happening to children, you needed to barge in with "this is all women's fault because of women choosing to fuck hot men!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 05:36 PM |
| 3 | A significant amount of issues in dating arise from misandryi can't imagine how tf it seemed appropriate to you to write this in response to a ten year old girl being sexualized and slut shamed.. for dancing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities."I love what this man can do for me" is not the same as "this man is enjoyable to be around because he's intelligent and fun" Liking a quality in another person doesn't always mean "what can I siphon out of this person" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 06:19 AM |
| 12 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities.if a guy pretends to like you so he can get sex and then he ghosts you, it is always your fault. he did the dishonest thing, but you caused it by trying to date a guy with good qualities, how silly! Even if he isn't super hot, he's still settling for you. You gotta pick better. By "better," of course I mean worse. Pick the boring guy with no sense of humor who you barely can stand talking to, also he should be meh looking and extremely awkward. This is the way. Follow me for more dating advice (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Do women actually act cold towards men they have a crush on while acting flirty with men they have no interest in?i agree with this. i'm not trying to act cold but i think sometimes it comes across that way because I am just very anxious. also i'll add that i personally am not flirty with men I'm not interested in, that would cause extra stress for me in the long run. but i'm not a very flirty person in general unless I am into a guy and also feel comfortable with him. edit: i watched the video just now and her behavior isn't similar to my anxiety driven awkwardness, and i have no idea what her deal is. I a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 04:14 PM |
| – | Men’s sexual desire has been socially castratedi'm 48 and so far all the decades i've been alive. men of all ages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 04:31 PM |
| – | Men’s sexual desire has been socially castratedyes, thank you. those stats are never going to convince me of anything considering religious communities and certain cultures where it's basically mandatory to be married to have sex, and divorce is extremely frowned upon exist. and you can't claim those people have only 1 partner their whole life because of "pair bonding." Twilight isn't real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 05:26 AM |
| – | Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrateddefinitely, but also rock music and honestly i think any popular genre in recent decades has plenty of expressions of male sexual desires. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 05:18 AM |
| – | Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated"I like big butts and I cannot lie!" hmmm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/25 05:13 AM |
| 8 | What do men mean when they say they love deeper than women?i think it's this, and also that the internet has convinced them that most women only want a hot guy to pay for things and that we don't care about anything besides "extracting resources" from them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 04:38 PM |
| 3 | What do men mean when they say they love deeper than women?in most cases they do choose to have kids, out of love for their husbands and for those kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 04:26 PM |
| 3 | Why are women uncomfortable (or refuse) to date virgin menshe actually asked you if you were a virgin and you lied? I guess I am confused why it even came up at all. most times there's no reason to lie because we don't usually go around asking men about this, unless maybe if you are really young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/25 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Women do you want your partners to do this ?i think he means when men walk on the side closer to the street. I don't understand it, myself. How is a guy going to protect me from a car if it runs off the road? or is it to prevent me from tripping and falling into traffic? Not honestly sure what the deal is but I have known guys who insisted on this. I never heard of it till a few years ago. I certainly don't expect or insist on it, personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/25 06:43 PM |
| 2 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.of course. that's the whole point. nobody should hold their partner to such low standards as this. but then when they do, how sad if the man cannot clear the subterranian bar without tripping over it. it is a problem on both sides, but lets not pretend that putting up with terrible behavior is as bad as doing the terrible shit to somebody. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 11:17 PM |
| 6 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.it is exactly this. I always hear "The bar is in hell" in cases like "I can never get my boyfriend of 7 years to brush his teeth, what should I do?" or "I didn't want to have sex because I was recovering from my appendectomy and he didn't even get that mad at me, isn't he sweet?" or "I'm a little upset my husband refuses to watch our two year old so I can have an uninterrupted shower once a week, am I being unreasonable?" And worse, straight up abuse that a woman puts up with because she thinks … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 12:01 AM |
| 1 | People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future.lmao ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 06:43 AM |
| 27 | People (and red pillers) often underestimate the necessity of young love/teen love and the impact it can have on am average guy's dating life in the future.i agree. teenagers are BRUTAL. When you're older, if you do something cringe or humiliate yourself, the entire school won't be laughing at you the next day, because you aren't in school. And also because grown up people are less clique-ish and even if the person is petty and will tell people of your embarrassing incident, it is not as likely to spread to hundreds of people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex?why do you assume any of that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/25 12:01 AM |
| 5 | Why is Pregnancy Talked About Like It Should Be A Punishment for Women Who Had Sex?i think many of them do not think it's a person. or they don't even care. it is simply that they hate that a woman has the option to abort and they don't. It is a "waaaah! it's not fair! if I can't choose to end this pregnancy, neither can you" kind of thing. I am not saying this is all of them but I have seen it many times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 06:55 PM |
| 5 | Seriously, where do people meet?All this stuff is shot down by women as creepy and wrong places to meet women. they were talking about ways to meet friends if you're new to a city. not creepy or wrong at all - they are good ways to meet people and make friends. Having friends helps a lot for meeting people to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Criticizing women is automatically seen as as hating women(by some women).i know three people who always do this, to the point of it being really irritating. one is a man. I know it is more often women, but not always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 01:57 AM |
| 3 | CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing"it's wrong for people (whatever age or gender) to lie to get something they want from other people. if older women and younger men want to hook up that's not really a problem if neither of them is being dishonest, or exploiting some power differential or exploiting a vulnerable person, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Politics and dating is so annoyingnot even complaining that he doesn't like what you write on your profile, complaining that he doesn't like what he assumed you wrote and refused to admit he was wrong about it... because other people totally would write that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 05:44 AM |
| 7 | Politics and dating is so annoyinglots of people make that assumption, and it is often wrong. There's also some weird cope that I notice among conservative men, some of them think leftist men are all scrawny, weak, sickly looking feminine men who cry all the time. And all the lefty women are shrieking blue haired bitter cat ladies too. (eyeroll) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 05:10 AM |
| 11 | Politics and dating is so annoyingi've also heard mostly right wingers complain. And I've also mainly only heard of conservative men who are aware their views will not be popular with most women, so they hide them from the women they date. And it tracks, considering how often men on this sub act like they have literally no say in which women they date, they have to just take whoever they can get. A woman with opposite politics wouldn't be a deal breaker, and it's only a real problem if she finds out what he really thinks. That i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/24 05:04 AM |
| 1 | It's a bit disingenous to say that "straight men and women can be friends" but then emphasize the need for boundaries in an opposite sex friendship.why does mark have a problem with anthony? is it simply because he doesn't want susan to have male friends or has something actually happened to make him have a problem with that specific male friend? if he just thinks she can't have a male friend at all because eventually she'll end up cheating with the friend, then you can ignore bisexual people or just acknowledge that they do have friends and it doesn't mean they are all cheaters. and maybe susan is actually just friends with anthony and she… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:21 AM |
| 0 | Do you believe shit tests are real?agree, i am reading that as teasing also. to me a shit test is setting somebody up to fail in some way as a relationship test. Or asking questions that are landmines, created to probably cause an argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 11:18 PM |
| – | Do you actually only find a tiny fraction of men attractive?Being attracted to a man for reasons besides his appearance does not make the attraction not be physical. I agree no physical attraction would mean just friends, for me. But that's a separate thing than what qualities make me physically attracted. For you apparently it's only what a woman looks like that does it. I need more than that. A good looking man is aesthetically pleasing to me but I will feel no desires and have no actual attraction to him just because he's good looking. I need to also … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 11:06 PM |
| – | Do you actually only find a tiny fraction of men attractive?"not based entirely on visual factors" is not the same as "not physical." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Since conventional wisdom says men make better single parents, would you support more mothers giving up primary custody of their children to the father in an event of a divorce/ breakup?the medium link that tells why men are better single parents requires me to pay... i am curious what the "real reason" is that it is saying men are better single parents. My impression of most single fathers (not all) is that they are likely to continue working full time while having their own parents and siblings help raise the children while they are working. A man who doesn't have such a support network is not likely to want custody because it would conflict with his career. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 08:26 PM |
| – | Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea?what if it isn't "on principle" but rather "that was an awful experience and I don't want to ever again?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 12:27 AM |
| – | Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea?funny for you to frame that as though she is the one with an emotional problem. not the guy who needs to know everything his GF ever did so he can get upset thinking about her doing stuff with other dudes and getting jealous, he's totally not the one with an emotional issue. nope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 12:24 AM |
| 14 | What Male-to-female Ratio would your ideal Society for you to live in have?Ya, what were you thinking? haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 08:54 PM |
| 35 | What Male-to-female Ratio would your ideal Society for you to live in have?i think a lot of these guys don't care if women end up alone, as long as they can get sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Women grossly exaggerate the prevalence of drink spikingOne time I wasn't paying attention and somebody put their cigarette but in my bottle of beer, I assume thinking it was an empty bottle. I didn't see it because it was a brown bottle and not a well lit place. So that was a disgusting experience for me and now I keep an eye on my drinks. it just makes sense and is very easy to generally be careful. I'm not suspiciously watching every guy at a bar thinking "he's going to drug me!" but I just don't leave drinks unattended, for safety. I don't want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Women grossly exaggerate the prevalence of drink spikingmore likely it is just guys at a party trying to get girls really drunk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Women are not entitled to anything from menok dude. lots of jobs I've had have involved the company paying me to complete various projects or we were assigned problems to solve, often in a group or a team of two people (which is what collaboration is). If I were going to refuse to do my job because they assigned me to a team with a man I'm pretty sure I'd get fired. But you do you, I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Women are not entitled to anything from menweird because I never said anybody owes anyone a friend. in fact I said the opposite. But you said "Or the women getting pissy men won't collaborate with them at work and risk future #metoo allegations" (which is not okay and getting pissy is very understandable). Then the next comment you changed it to not inviting a coworker to a friend group which is completely different, and okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Women are not entitled to anything from mencollaborating at work and being friends are two completely different things. agree nobody is entitled to friendship or should feel obligated to give their friendship or free time to somebody else. But in a workplace you do need to collaborate with your coworkers, if the job involves that sort of thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 05:09 PM |
| 0 | CMV: chores outside of the home are easier than inside choresI agree generally, because unless you live on a farm or some huge property that requires a lot of maintaining, there's way less outside work to do in the sense of it taking far less time. And even if raking pine needles is time consuming, it isn't all the time and it is far less monotonous than folding laundry every other day. but also, most people i know do not fix their own cars beyond simple things, and a lot of people rent. In an apartment obviously you have no yard work. If you rent a house… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 11:50 AM |
| 3 | Onlyfans and gooners are ruining the internet.I only get it on twitter, but i think everyone does because it's just bots posting literally everywhere | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/24 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Onlyfans and gooners are ruining the internet.yeah, also sometimes a horrific car accident video (which I hate! I never want to see that!) comes on and before I have a chance to do anything, I get a call or something happens and I walk away or have to do something for work and am not paying attention, then later I realize that I just "watched" the same shitty video 400 times in a row cause it was just running while I wasn't there. Still, the algos seem to know that mostly what I like is kittens and puppies. But motorcycle/car/bicycle crashe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/24 04:07 AM |
| 9 | "Men would fuck anything" is just female fantasy for them to feel more attractive than they really aremen being willing to fuck anyone does not make women feel valuable. women do like to try to give our friends confidence boosts, that has nothing to do with men wanting to fuck anything though. That is us not wanting our friends to feel like shit about themselves, because a lot of things in the world, despite what men here claim, make us feel like shit about ourselves. And since we know our friends and love them, we know they have awesome qualities regardless of if some random guy stood them up, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 02:25 AM |
| 9 | "Even if I Got a Girlfriend, She'll Always Want Someone Else" - Is This An Example of Low Self Esteem/Insecurity?there's nothing wrong with wanting that. when did he say there was? assuming every woman is pretending to love you but still hung up on some other guy or waiting for somebody better to come along is very different from wanting a partner who only has eyes for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 09:29 AM |
| 3 | Double Standardthe only times I've ever heard that it was older generation married couples, and the husband made significantly more money than the wife. Basically husband made bank and wife had a little part time gig making some extra cash and used it for shoes or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 06:39 AM |
| 12 | Isn’t it immature and weird for a woman to be turned off by a man voicing his sexual desires first instead of physically trying them?i read his post and it started out sounding like polite communication, asking to kiss a girl, wanting to make sure he gets clear consent. that's good. but then just went right off the rails at the end complaining about women getting upset about men they don't know saying vulgar things to them. Did you actually read the whole post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Why do straight women like other women so much more than they like men?yeah i don't know. i don't agree with those women, and I don't know any straight women who have ever expressed that to me, outside of the context of hating dick pics or similar things. But that isn't finding the whole male body unattractive. It is normal for women to not be attracted to every man they see. A lot of men who aren't even bad looking or anything just don't do anything for me. But I am not saying they are unattractive, just not my type I guess? But that sounds like a different thing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Why do straight women like other women so much more than they like men?I find many women to be beautiful but i am not attracted to them at all. there is a difference between finding someone aesthetically pleasing and being sexually attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 07:30 PM |
| 0 | When is a reasonable time and a good reason to ask for a DNA test?while i don't think this is great, i do think that if a man just cannot get past the fear but has no legitimate reason to suspect infidelity, he should just secretly get the test done. Because if they have a good marriage and she has never cheated, it is extremely hurtful to accuse her of cheating. i mean honestly, these guys who assume women are all greedy liars capable of doing that should probably just never get married or have kids. But they do get married and have kids, so the least destruc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 08:55 AM |
| 3 | When is a reasonable time and a good reason to ask for a DNA test?what i wish is that people would advocate for changes to the laws that make someone responsible forever for a kid that isn't his own just because he signed the birth certificate. I know there are processes to get that un-done. In some places apparently they are very difficult though. But it seems like that is the problem that needs to be solved. If somebody can prove that they are not the bio father of a child they should be able to remove themself from the birth certificate. This seems like the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 08:51 AM |
| 2 | If JD Vance's comments were more directed as single/childless men or sexless men, would the mainstream media and progressives have cared as much?if they want to give parents extra votes because of their kids, then I could be spiteful and want to not pay for schools. You do have a good point. Sadly I care in general and want my community to be educated and have opportunites for everybody, even if they aren't my kids. So I will keep paying the taxes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 10:16 AM |
| 2 | If JD Vance's comments were more directed as single/childless men or sexless men, would the mainstream media and progressives have cared as much?it's true. they do only care about the future of their own kids. and they can't imagine people caring about what happens to people who they don't know and are not related to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 09:51 AM |
| 3 | Do you think it's okay to weaponize a man getting red-pilled because he got cheated on by a woman against him, why or why not?agreed examples would help, also examples of how it is "weaponized" but he doesn't have time. oh well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Feminists can't be "allies" to men's activists, because the feminist movement, broadly, is actively hostile to menwhy do you think my views on trans people would be about what I gain or lose? Do you know any actual trans people? I do and they haven't taken anything from me. But I also know they've had struggles I will never really know or understand so I just want them to not be treated poorly or ostracized from regular life activities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/24 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Would you agree that the wage gap between the genders is mostly due to women's own choices?there are a lot of men who will not want women to be there when they do those things. and men who hold power sometimes even have rules to exclude women from the after work socializing because "what if she accuses me of something?!" or just to avoid having their own wives get mad at them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 07:45 AM |
| 5 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenif you really are going around creating so many children that you can't even keep track of who they are or where they are, you are a fucking awful person. and I don't care if that has anything to do with your post or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Why do women's empathy disappear when it comes to male children?if we happen to have daughters I’d like to think we’d have one son that’s older. why?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 01:57 AM |
| – | The Bait-and-Switch women and blupillers pull here is insaneget to know women as people who you aren't only trying to get sex out of, because actually knowing women and having women in your life who aren't sex partners or your mother will help you have a better perspective on women in general. this will potentially be very helpful for women you do persue for a relationship. This doesn't mean all the women you get to know will be potential sex partners or relationships. It literally is about viewing women as complete people who have value, even if you are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Is acting as if all men are predators sexist or not?i think it's still sexism. but it is people being sexist, rather than women being sexist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Feminists who say, "I support women's wrongs" ... what do you mean?many feminist/leftwing women online often say: I support women's rights and wrongs i'm pretty sure we don't say that? at least not very many of us. I have never heard this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 02:20 AM |
| 4 | As a woman (and who will qualify as a liberal no less), I feel there are way too many posts here trying to guilt trip cuckolded men to bring up kids that are not theirs. I say I have to disagree with Blue Pill on this one.i agree with you. I would never expect anyone to continue raising the child if they didn't want to, and they should not be held financially responsible for the child either. But to disappear? Ghost the kid, go no contact completely? That abandonment would be so traumatizing and damaging to the child, I can't imagine doing that. Even just remaining in contact with the child so they know you care about them seems sufficient to me. I have children in my own life who aren't related to me at all but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 09:06 PM |
| 14 | People here say that women have no empathy for men but I have noticed that men have 0 empathy for divorced men unless they're divorced themselvesI'm 47 and I have noticed no such thing. cheaters get ostracized, with the exception of one now divorced couple who were both cheating on each other. They were both a hot mess. The wife is kind of friends with us again but that was after like 2 years of people not wanting much to do with either one of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 09:41 AM |
| – | What’s the point of telling women they’re expired?attractiveness in the sense of being good looking, that's generally true. but there are other attractive qualities people can have and you don't necessarily have them at that age. people grow up and change. plenty of men actually do care about more than simply what a woman looks like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 06:32 PM |
| 7 | What’s the point of telling women they’re expired?but surely all that happened because your dad, your brother, and your friend's husband were all chads since 99% of men can't find women to cheat with, either that or all those women picked bad men who were drug dealers and criminals so whatever happened to them was the women's fault, right? (this is sarcasm, I am not supporting these views, it's just what these guys always say). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 08:57 AM |
| 6 | What’s the point of telling women they’re expired?it is possible to leave your wife without abandoning your kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 07:13 AM |
| 18 | What’s the point of telling women they’re expired?miserable people do not help their families by choosing to be miserable forever. and also LOL at the notion that choosing to cheat instead of leaving is putting your family ahead of your happiness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 07:11 AM |
| 6 | There is nothing wrong with a man wanting 50/50 in a relationshiphow does it not go both ways? you are here expressing a preference for what kind of woman you are looking for. I'm sure you have other things you want in a partner too, but if you are dating a woman who does not want the same sort of equality you do, would you not filter her out? She fails your audition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | What is the difference between being "strong and independent" and being an adult?I agree that that is one sort who might say such a thing, but not the only type. I don't go around announcing how strong or independent I am, but I do consider myself to be an independent woman most of the time. It is only even a thing to me because I was raised with the idea that I needed to find a man and get married in order to have any value, essentially by myself my life would be a failure and a waste of time. My life taught me otherwise, thankfully. I am here living my own life on my terms… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 08:28 PM |
| 3 | CMV: women with delusional standards due to sexual attention from appealing men are the functional equivalent of men who fall for strippers who just want their moneythe only women who generally expect men to be making that much money are women who either come from money and grew up in a wealthy place surrounded by wealthy people, because these women are usually educated and make quite a lot of money themselves. (Or even if they don't come from money, they have worked hard and are successful now.) Their social circles are people who make a lot of money. So yes, they are probably going to date men who make a lot of money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | The fundamental difference between misogyny and misandry: against "enlightened centrism"misogyny is not just conservatives. it exists across the entire political spectrum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever known of a man who is cute, and personable yet was a #totalfail at casual sex or hookup culture?i'm not a man so you're not asking me. but maybe he should just try... dating? like, not "being a chad" but just try to date and be clear he's looking for a relationship, rather than trying to turn a ONS into something serious. Some people want only casual things, he doesn't seem to be one of those people. There are plenty of people who do not like casual sex though. I get that he got hurt by his two previous relationships but it seems a shame to give up forever, just because of those. I guess i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Dating Feels So Unfair Sometimes, do you agree ?ok, i think i do agree about just being there to dance. I don't really like clubs at all but most times I've been there with friends we were just there to dance and have fun together. But my point was mainly that if somebody at the club is there to try to hook up, they're definitely not looking for the kindest person. They won't even be able to tell you're a good person or not, it's purely shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Dating Feels So Unfair Sometimes, do you agree ?a lot of women do care about genuine kindness. Just kindness alone is not usually enough though. Good looking and kind, or funny and kind, or having a lot in common with a girl and kind, etc. For many, a lack of kindness is a dealbreaker. However, when you go to the club, nobody there cares about that in that moment. Clubs are like a meat market (for anyone who is there looking to hook up, I mean). People are not going to the club to make a real connection with somebody they actually care about.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/24 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Why most marriages faildoesn't matter if you hate your job and hate your coworkers and hate your spouse. because as long as you make money and have kids who you manage to keep alive, everything's fine. you might hate your life, and your kids might be miserable and they might hate you, but I bet he doesn't care about that either. surely this is the key to a good life! why wouldn't everyone want to live this way?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/24 12:33 AM |
| 3 | Getting hobbies is useless advice for dating.but having friends is beneficial in general, and also makes you more attractive. a guy who has zero friends is usually going to have a hard time dating, even if the friends aren't specifically how you got dates to begin with. not having any friends at all is a red flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 06:08 PM |
| 30 | Western women's dating options are shrinking.wait, so men who aren't interested in working or being educated, who want to play videogames all the time and would rather watch porn than have a girlfriend, or who want to move to SE Asia because they think the women are easier and "more feminine" don't want to date me?!?! what ever will I doooooooo ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/24 04:48 AM |
| 4 | What percent of average young women do you think would be open to being respectfully approached by an average young man and be open to going on a date from it?if there aren't a lot of people around and there's plenty of other places that person could sit that aren't right near people, I would feel defensive immediately. If I were single, and still young, in a more social situation like somebody sitting near me at a bar or a party or something, I probably wouldn't feel like "oh no, what does he want." But even still the OP skips over the whole part that matters most. "sits down and respectfully starts a conversation" straight to "ask on a date" without… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 03:05 AM |
| 6 | The whole “men do it too” thing is old. You will never see a mediocre man turn down a hot chick because she “texted too fast” or too slow or made one comment he didn’t likei have also witnessed men assuming a woman isn't into them/blew them off because they didn't reply to a text fast enough and then refuse to see her anymore. Or another woman whose BF came looking for her in a rage assuming she was cheating on him, again because she didn't reply to a text fast enough. Both of those women were my coworkers. We were at work. Working. They were busy speaking to clients and unable to look at their cell phones for a while and that happened. I know it's slightly differ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/24 08:03 AM |
| 0 | Why do women hate when their male friends confess feelings to them?so you never had any intention of being friends in the first place. it was not a friendship. why not be honest from the beginning if you aren't trying to be a real friend? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Why do women hate when their male friends confess feelings to them?if i found out that any of my "friends" felt they didn't get anything out of our friendship I would be hurt and not want anything to do with them. Because that is not a friend. That's someone who is pretending to be nice to me and expecting sex in return. do you even have friends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/24 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Why do women hate when their male friends confess feelings to them?i agree with this. but there's a spectrum between complete stranger and dear friend. you want to escalate things closer to the stranger side of the spectrum, in the acquaintance range. in general, at least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 07:51 PM |
| 4 | Why do women hate when their male friends confess feelings to them?i don't know who gives that advice, I never have. It is wrong. Be friendly, not good friends. Being an acquaintance so you have gotten to know each other a little bit and know you get along and really like each other is good. But developing a deep, long term platonic friendship is a whole other thing. After a deep friendship has formed, if the guy confesses actual feelings it is a difficult situation as has been explained in other comments. I wouldn't be angry or hate the guy, it just sucks to h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/24 07:47 PM |
| 0 | Why is cold approaching seen as a "better" alternative to dating apps?if you have good friends, they're not going to pressure you to date anybody. they might not like it if you are an asshole to their other friend though, so there is some accountability there. But simply not being interested without insulting anybody is usually fine. in my experiences where I've dated guys who knew people I know, nobody was ever actually trying to set us up. I just met them and we clicked, and it helped me to know we had a mutual friend. Basically, "well if josh likes him, he's pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 07:56 AM |
| 6 | Red pillers see women as dishonest / out to get them / subhuman / only good for sex, because due to RPers own behavior / attitudes, they only attract bottom-tier, psychologically damaged women, which then reinforces their attitudes and causes them to attract even more of the same in an endless loop.you may be surprised to learn that our hobbies are about what we enjoy doing, not what we think a man will think is an interesting hobby. you like to shoot guns. watch my eyes glaze over while a dude talks about how fascinating that is. which is actually fine. people like different things. "I think you do boring stuff" is not the same as "you have no hobbies" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 03:25 AM |
| 6 | Are men upset that mothers will prioritize their children over their lover?one benefit is that when both men and women are able to take that time off, employers are less likely to not hire/promote women who they think are likely to become parents. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 11:27 PM |
| – | Nearly half (44%) of Gen Z young men haven't dated in their teenage yearsit is relevant that fewer people in general are dating as teenagers, not just teenage boys. Honestly, social media, the availability of infinite online entertainment content, online dating and the fact that much of life occurs online now (shopping and pretty much all things), and covid disrupting people's lives, all of these things have affected the culture and younger kids are not out socializing with friends IRL as much as we olds used to. "Options" don't really mean much if this many people a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/24 12:56 AM |
| 0 | Is it a man's responsibility to turn a woman on?right. a guy who isn't a functioning adult and doesn't care if he's not pulling his weight and creating extra tedious chores for me to do is not attractive. It isn't literally "oh look at him washing the pots and pans, swoooooon" it's more like "yay I'm not so grumpy and worn out when I go to bed that I fall asleep immediately" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Q4Men: Do you expect women to cook for you during the “talking stage”?yes, i somewhat like cooking but I don't love it. I do bring certain dishes to gatherings with friends and family things. And I currently have a BF and I cook for him sometimes. When i just met him and we were just talking and not actually dating yet, it would've been fucking weird for me to cook for him though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 02:48 AM |
| 6 | Q4Men: Do you expect women to cook for you during the “talking stage”?of course it's not only a dating thing. it's also a family and friend thing, a celebration thing, a sympathy for the mourning thing, and many other things. but a guy I just met and I'm only talking to so far? Unless there's some occasion that makes cooking make sense, I don't see why I would be cooking for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 12:26 AM |
| 1 | What does this sub think of the adage “women are human beings, men are human doings”A local father at the protest, Michael Huang, expressed his worries surrounding the shelter and the possible danger it poses to children attending schools in the neighborhood. District Assemblyman William Colton doesn’t agree with the shelter plans. wow, the nerve of those women. /s the people who are objecting to this probably object to there being a homeless shelter there, not to there being a men's shelter there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/24 12:03 AM |
| 1 | What are places you can go and not look like a creep as a man to expand your female friend circle especially locally?yeah you are right, it is tough to be friends with your employees. and you shouldnt try to date your employees. for many people work is a good place for these things but not in your situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/24 10:17 AM |
| 2 | What are places you can go and not look like a creep as a man to expand your female friend circle especially locally?the OP was asking about making friends. you can definitely be friends with your coworkers. Having female friends helps to increase your social circle in general which might lead to meeting other women when you go out with your friends. also, you shouldnt go into work and start blatantly hitting on women, and if you do flirt and it isnt reciprocated, dont persist. and don't ever try to date subordinates. if you don't make shit awkward, it is actually pretty fine and normal for people to meet SOs … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/24 10:15 AM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manas a fat woman, no i do not need to be told this. i know i don't look great in my current form. there's no need for anybody to tell me how ugly I am, if you're not into me you can simply say that and move along. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 10:57 PM |
| – | Autistic men should accept that autism is a serious condition and people have the right to not want to date an autistic manthe logic i can see in this (and I'm just speculating) is that a woman who is looking for a man to marry and spend her life with and raise a family together might be wary of a guy who is very strict/harsh about weight. Because time and children and health issues are going to change our bodies. Nobody wants a dude who is going to cheat or divorce you if you put on some weight, especially if it's from pregnancies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/24 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Which qualities are ok to want in a partner when you don't possess them yourself? Which ones are not ok to want when you don't posses them yourself?I think a white chick is much more likely to be asexual what? why is that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/24 05:40 AM |
| 9 | Which qualities are ok to want in a partner when you don't possess them yourself? Which ones are not ok to want when you don't posses them yourself?IMO that is exactly it. I am overweight. IDGAF if a guy is not into me because he prefers thin women. Even if he isn't thin/fit himself. People like what they like. But there's no need to call somebody disgusting or a land whale, or announce that no man will ever want a woman who is fat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/24 04:03 AM |
| 2 | Whats an acceptable way for men to express their frustration and difficulties in life around/towards women?this sounds like a self-centered person. i don't know if that is a gendered thing. but if a friend won't let you vent about work even though they vent to you about work, they're not really your friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/24 01:40 AM |
| 2 | IS THIS S.A.?again, you;re saying we cant prove things. but we are strangers on the other side of the internet who have literally no way to prove ANYTHING about the people in that story. Proof is irrelevant. The question you asked in the first place was "is this SA?" not "can we prove this was SA?" I am not a court. when I read a reddit post I dont need to presume innocence until somebody is proven guilty. based on the info presented here, it was assault. Obviously there could be all sorts of additional info… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/24 12:17 AM |
| 10 | IS THIS S.A.?yes. he is free to drink in his own home. So am I. If I get blackout drunk in my own home and then somebody comes into my home (even if I let them in), and has sex with me when I barely know what's going on, yes that is also assault. What part of this story makes you think it isn't assault? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/24 11:29 PM |
| 6 | IS THIS S.A.?but to answer "Is this SA?" yes. he was so drunk he could barely recognize her, a person he's known for years. she had to help him have dinner and help get him to bed because he was so drunk. She abolutely knew he was shitfaced drunk. Having sex with somebody who is that drunk is rape. So if they did have sex which seems implied given "they made out and slept together" yes she assulted him, and depending on where they are legally it might or might be considered rape. But yes that is rape even if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/24 11:21 PM |
| 5 | IS THIS S.A.?how would people reading a reddit post written by the sister of an assault victim have any idea what evidence there is or be able to prove something? We have no idea if any of these people are even real. If the story told here is true as written here, it is assault. I don't know if it can be proven to the extent anybody would prosecute it or that she could be convicted of a crime. I have no access to the people involved to question them or collect evidence. So why even ask about proof? "Can we p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that if she doesn’t like you, it’s just because you don’t have enough looks, money and/or status?right. i don't have a lot of "high status" men or movie stars in my life lol. i mean yes, gorgeous people who are famous and wealthy do obviously get a lot more attention. but not everyone is shallow like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/24 07:00 PM |
| 3 | What is your opinion on people making claims such as “I’m in my 30s and I get mistaken for a teenager all the time”?yeah this happened to me too, i got carded every time until my late 20s. and usually got a surprised look and comments like "oh wow I thought you were maybe 16" but then one day it literally stopped happening and never happened again hahahaha. I guess time hit me like a wrecking ball overnight? I don't know. I am still told I look a lot younger than I am. I think it's partly because I am overweight and immature lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 08:08 PM |
| 1 | What is your opinion on people making claims such as “I’m in my 30s and I get mistaken for a teenager all the time”?"nothing fucks you harder than time." if somebody believes they look younger than they are, do you really need to prove them wrong? we're all going to get old and our looks fade eventually (unless we die first). but there's no need to dwell on it or shit on other people. just let people be happy, even if they are a little delusional. i don't see the harm in it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 08:05 PM |
| – | Women are not a monolith, but they sure treat each other like one, why?i disagree with other women all the time. i don't usually think they are men pretending to be women though. there is usually an absurd charicature element to those posts. but it is a case by case thing. would need actual examples to explain specifically why the person appears to be a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Just getting yourself out there is not enoughthere is no one thing that is "enough." any piece of advice is just one piece of the whole puzzle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/24 06:49 AM |
| 4 | Confused over conflicting rhetoric about women who want things paid for vs women who payif i had a family i would hope to give them all more than the bare minimum that is required for them to survive. i hope they could also be happy. i don't necessarily mean shallow material things but some enjoyment in life is important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 04:51 AM |
| 5 | "Having common interests" is one of the most overrated things when it comes to relationshipsi agree with you. having at least some things you both like to do together is really nice. never having fun together seems like it would be really sad to me. i also think having interests/hobbies that are different is important too, because it helps prevent people from always needing to do everything together. spending 24/7 with somebody can really strain the relationship or become unhealthy for people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/24 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Women get too much leeway in the court of public opinion.the man choosing to get some other woman pregnant would probably be cheating though, no? expecting your wife to help your AP and then I assume also help you with your affair baby is quite different than a man helping his own wife who is a surrogate (as in not even her own baby, and the baby is going to go away after it's born. no cheating involved, just the actual pregnancy). I'm not saying it's fair to just expect that either but it's pretty different. your comparison would be equivalent to a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Women get too much leeway in the court of public opinion.do those two things actually seem equivalent to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Women get too much leeway in the court of public opinion.men were hunted? No i sure don't remember any hunting occurring. there's an epidemic of women doing soft core porn in public gyms is there really?! a guy dominating in the bedroom is fine. when you add being aggressive, it starts to sound like violence. lots of people (including women) like being dominated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 09:13 PM |
| – | ““I think it is you, the women who have had the most diabolical lies told to you,” - what are your thoughts on the Harrison Butker commencement speech scandal?i thought it was interesting how he said that all of his success was made possible by his wife. If he does get divorced I bet he cries about her taking "his stuff" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/24 01:28 AM |
| 3 | Case study: A top 10% man who has it all. Why aren’t women interested in him?Can't answer this without any info about his personality. I know people here insist that he's over 6ft tall and has money and is handsome therefore every available woman around will be waiting in line to bang him. But my life experience tells me otherwise. Does he socialize? If he doesn't spend time out in the world around people, he wouldn't meet many people and his potential dating pool will be almost nonexistent. Does he have hobbies that are interesting? Even if his hobbies aren't social, wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/24 09:06 PM |
| 1 | How many men here who fear an embarrassing rejection have actually experienced an embarrassing rejection? And women, have you ever rejected a man in a humiliating manner?I was, in retrospect, incredibly mean to a guy who asked me to dance when I was in 6th grade. At the time I honestly thought he was making fun of me (I am not particularly good looking and at that point in my life I was severely socially awkward and not cool or good looking in any way). He may or may not have been trying to make a fool of me, I realized much later. Regardless, I always felt bad for being an asshole to him. No reason I couldn't have just said "no thanks." People who were there al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 11:44 PM |
| 18 | Do people really go to clubs primarily to get laid?yes yes of course. men get drunk and horny in lots of places so women should just hide at home where men can't see us. Why didn't we think of that? Solves all our problems..... except for nobody wants to fucking stay home all the time, jesus christ. people go because it is fun. could some of my friends dance in my living room? Yeah I guess. My neighbors might not like it though, and it would be not nearly as fun as a big place with a DJ and fun music and lights and a fully stocked bar. Seriously… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 09:32 PM |
| 5 | Do people really go to clubs primarily to get laid?I have never gone for that purpose. Mostly my friends go because they want to drink and dance, and I am towed along with them (I hate clubs and dancing most of the time). It's usually somebody's birthday or something and we will be out to dinner or for drinks and then some people get the dancing bug and "OH MY GOD LETS GO DANCE!" and then that happens. Many of these people are married or have partners, many of those partners are actually there with us dancing, pretty often. Mostly these are just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Question for Average and Below Average Women: Do any of you actually have athletes, entertainers and other celebrities dicking you down on a regular basis?ok but making a profile for a celebrity and seeing what happens will do literally nothing though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 06:37 AM |
| 12 | Question for Average and Below Average Women: Do any of you actually have athletes, entertainers and other celebrities dicking you down on a regular basis?nobody doubts that rich or famous people get attention from all sorts of average and below average non-celebrity people. So no it would not provide any new information to do that. Also if you pretend to be some high profile entertainer or athlete on OLD probably most people will assume you're not real. To figure out if a below-average woman can get an actual match with some hotshot man, you need to do what Demasii suggested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 01:49 AM |
| 5 | The idea that women put in more effort later on in the relationship isn't true.this, but also without living together and wrt things that aren't chores, many (not all) women I know go to great lengths to do kind things for their BFs and husbands, like planning his birthday, taking care of him if he's sick or injured, thoughtful notes or cards, emotional support, just everyday loving gestures. I am not saying men don't do these things too but I have not seen any indication they put in more effort in total than women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/24 01:23 AM |
| – | Many women don't realize that emotions are not reality.men have convinced themselves that their emotions are just "objective and legitimate responses to reality" and our are just "stupid irrational feelings!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/24 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Why do women complain about men or the patriarchy on first / second dates with men?yes there are many different ways to be a piece of shit human. you can be a strong advocate for racial justice and at the same time be a raging misogynist, and vice versa. Or a lot of people are racists and misogynists. And look at all the self-proclaimed feminists who spend all their time and energy obsessing over and shitting on trans people. It's frustrating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/24 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Why is the danger sense of women very confusing.bad shit can happen at resorts, though staying there is certainly safer than wandering around an unfamiliar foreign city alone at night. But people seem to think Mexico is all scary and dangerous which is not fair at all. It's a very big country with a lot of very different areas, many of which are fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Why is the danger sense of women very confusing.people you personally know have actually been kidnapped? also "I wish you on the news how things going to resorts and start shooting. During that time a lot of female friends went to it because the tickets were cheap." I don't really know what you're saying here. Did your friends go to a specific resort where a lot of murders happened? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:43 PM |
| 11 | Why is the danger sense of women very confusing."why do women talk about how dangerous gas stations are?" "I've seen men murdered at the gas station" LOL ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Why do women complain about men or the patriarchy on first / second dates with men?social issues are politicized and legislated, so they are also political/policy beliefs for many people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Why do women complain about men or the patriarchy on first / second dates with men?i agree with this. i also need to make sure our worldviews are compatible and I do want to know if a guy is a misogynist early in dating, or racist, or just has terrible views on things. I would not go on a first or second date and start in about how the guy should be paying for the sins of other men and talk about wanting to smash the patriarchy though. I will let it be known I am not trad at all and that I'm a feminist, but there's a huge difference in being open about these things and what OP… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Why do women complain about men or the patriarchy on first / second dates with men?I am a feminist. But I don't go on a date with a man I barely know and start ranting about the patriarchy. That is unhinged behavior. it isn't normal for anybody, even feminists, to do that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/24 07:12 PM |
| 17 | Is renaming Boy Scouts renamed to “Scouts” another example of institutional misandry?exactly. there was massive child abuse and their reputation as an organization went down the drain. the number of members went way down, so they decided to allow girls to join too to try to increase their numbers. this isn't misandry, it's the consequences of bad management. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 11:55 AM |
| – | Do some women actually worry when a guy who seems 'too good to be true' ?you date women without telling them you're non-monogamous? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:35 AM |
| – | Do some women actually worry when a guy who seems 'too good to be true' ?also: I guess there are enough horny dickbrain guys who will say and do anything for the chance to sleep with someone they're barely attracted to. yes there certainly are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:28 AM |
| – | Do some women actually worry when a guy who seems 'too good to be true' ?i have been worried when a guy seems too perfect, yes. because i feel like i'm being manipulated, possibly. but i wouldn't ghost a guy because of that. i proceed with caution and watch for signs that he's being fake or just using me. it was like this with my current BF, and he wasn't being fake or insincere (I don't think... it's been over a year now so fingers crossed!). I have gotten to know him and realized he's not perfect. He wasn't acting like somebody he's not, he just has flaws like ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/24 06:24 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Males should pay for the first date because makeup is expensivethank you, this is the correct answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 02:15 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Males should pay for the first date because makeup is expensiveOK so the makeup costs money. What about the car payments the man pays to get to and from the date? Or the woman's car? what if he picked her up? or the man's watch and shoes he's wearing? maybe he really wants to look good so he goes to some pretentious stylist and pays hundreds of dollars for his haircut. That expensive makeup was not purchased specifically for that one occasion. How many uses does that container of foundation provide? divide the price by that and itemize it plus the mascara p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 02:06 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Males should pay for the first date because makeup is expensiveSeems like a fair trade, no? no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/24 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Question for Women: How would you feel if you're at the club with your Boyfriend, a stranger assaults you and your boyfriend doesnt have the courage to step in? How would you feel?a club doesn't want to have creepos assaulting women (or other violence or disturbances) in their club because that makes fewer people want to hang out there. so they hire people specifically to keep shit under control. Telling the bouncer/security if somebody is acting up is actually helping those people do their jobs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/24 07:47 PM |
| 2 | For those of you who met their partners outside of dating apps, would you still date your partner had his profile come up on a dating app?i've never used apps. i just don't have any interest in a total stranger who i've never met and don't know at all. Swiping thru profiles looking at pictures with minimal info wouldn't work for me. I met my BF in real life and after spending some time with him and speaking to him on multiple occasions I really liked him a lot, because of his personality and humor. I bet he would do pretty well if he used dating apps. He's very good looking. but i doubt I'd have picked him that way. He's a lot you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/24 02:34 AM |
| – | How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable?you want to be able to treat women like shit and have them put up with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 10:09 PM |
| – | Friendships and love are not necessary (sub topic of “people” suggesting “cures” for “male loneliness”)thank you. i don't think i know anybody who believes in any such magical bandaid. friends and social circles help make hard times easier and some aspects of life better in general but nobody is like "oh I have friends so I'll never have emotional problems or bad situations in my life" LMAO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 08:36 AM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?feminism supports women having sex the way they most enjoy it. it doesn't tell anybody to be dominant or submissive. there are a lot of men who enjoy being submissive during sex but aren't submissive in their regular lives. these things have nothing to do with each other, and none of this is about feminism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 02:47 AM |
| 0 | It's unreasonable to assume that the average man will step in to help a woman in danger.if I'm ever out at a bar or something and I see another woman who seems uncomfortable because some guy won't leave her alone, I always help. Amazingly it doesn't turn into some kind of ass beating situation like guys always claim it will. I just go sit with her and start chatting with her till the guy gets bored and leaves, or sometimes I pretend to know her and ask her if she wants to come out for a smoke with me or something. Sometimes just sitting next to the person helps. Other women and men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 01:25 AM |
| – | Do women downplay the overwhelming advantages that the desire gap gives them?what? no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 05:18 AM |
| – | Do women downplay the overwhelming advantages that the desire gap gives them?all of this, plus some guys seem to not realize that having lots of men hit on you and want to fuck you makes it easy to get a date or hook up with a guy but we still get rejected by men. And I don't just mean "Chads" but in the real world outside the internet where people meet each other and actually date and try to find relationships, women get dumped a lot too. And all those guys who only care about wanting to fuck women will lie and lead you on in order to get that, or they will cheat on you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Arranged marriages in Eastactually, as a single woman with no kids who was let go from my job a few years ago, i was temporarily fucked a little bit but then i just found a different job where nobody yells at me and i make more money now. there's nothing wrong with devoting yourself to your husband and children, if that's what you choose to do. Some people just don't want that to be what their life is about, so being pressured or forced into it leads to misery. And it will definitely go better if your husband respects yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Why is it SO much easier to have sex with a woman in 2024 than SLEEP with her?i think more people are just honest and upfront about only wanting casual sex now. IMO this is better than seeming like you want a relationship when you really don't. Less ambiguity, fewer hurt feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 08:29 AM |
| – | The fact that women well into their late 30s and 40s maintain their inflated egos and high standards, even as their value decreases shows how delusional they truly areas a middle aged woman, i just give zero fucks that you think i'm unattractive. if you think older women are ugly, that's fine! don't date them. We'll be just fine without you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 07:41 AM |
| – | The fact that women well into their late 30s and 40s maintain their inflated egos and high standards, even as their value decreases shows how delusional they truly arehow old are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/24 03:43 AM |
| 3 | Why does society treat women with kid gloves, especially when it comes to relationships?i'm pretty sure i've seen tons of dudes be topless at sporting events. i don't think they belong on a sex offender registry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/24 06:25 PM |
| – | Is this someone that should blame themselves for being perpetually single in their 30’s?i strongly recommend you find something fun to do with your free time that will get you out socializing with people. It won't solve your dating situation immediately (or possibly ever) but it would probably make you more likely to meet men you actually like. Sounds like apps just don't work for you. And you sounds unhappy in general so socializing and having some fun might be good for you in more ways than one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/24 11:02 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Could you be with a woman who doesn't make you laugh?agreed. i also always find it sad that a lot of men don't think women even can be funny. they think this is a man's trait only. I know a lot of women in my life who are so witty and hilarious in their own ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Could you be with a woman who doesn't make you laugh?oh good, at least one guy here makes sense. I can't imagine committing my life to a guy who was serious all the time and who never understood my sense of humor at all. Sounds like a miserable life to me. I realize men and women have different priorities but basic compatibility like being able to laugh together seems important, I am surprised so many guys here think it's irrelevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 10:01 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Could you be with a woman who doesn't make you laugh?my BF makes me laugh just because he has a weird sense of humor. He's not putting on a show for me, he's like that with everyone. I make him laugh too, because I also like to see the humor in life. We also tend to both appreciate pretty dark humor. And even when really shitty things happen, it helps to be able to make fun of ourselves a little. He's not a dancing monkey for fucks sake, he's just being himself and I happen to find him adorably funny. And he doesn't take everything so seriously th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Girls always shame you for approaching or “hitting on” multiple women, sharing screenshots of their dms trying to humiliate you but men are FORCED to cast a wide net due to the fact that most women are taken or “uninterested.”let's say I'm at a party and a guy is chatting with me and he has been talking to other people before me including women. He could be chatting to see if any of these women seem compatible, then he met me and realized he liked me. No problem. If he's actually been hitting on every woman at the party and attempted to ask them all out or get their numbers, that is very unattractive to me. That means he is looking for any human with a vagina who won't reject him, so either he has a very hard time wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/24 09:35 AM |
| 4 | Study shows men view their ex partners much more fondly than women do, matches up with my experience. What are your thoughts?i don't see my exes as ugly, i just am not attracted to them anymore. there's a difference between "you're ugly" and "I am not attracted to you" If I am not with a guy anymore, i don't carry on having romantic feelings. either I lost the feelings to begin with, or I had to stop the feelings deliberately in order to heal and move on. And more dramatically, some of my exes cheated on me. They were and still are good looking (to me, at least) but their treatment of me causes me to feel disgusted wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/24 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Relationship expert says men shouldn't date if they're brokewhy would anyone pay a 23 year old to be their "relationship coach?" grifters gonna grift i guess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/24 10:14 AM |
| 3 | The reason relationships are so heavily skewed towards women in America is because of its stance on prostitutioni've spent a lot of time in Germany and know a lot of Germans. I agree with you. perhaps he is mistaking "thin" with "feminine." Not that all German women are thin (definitely not) but they are generally more active than Americans, and I think maybe it's also that more of their food is made out of actual food, it seems like they're a bit more thin than we are here in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/24 02:33 AM |
| 5 | If someone created a dating show/social experiment in which all things were as equalised as possible, what sort of dating/gender dynamics would emerge?same. i can't shave my legs or anything else, and i have to shave my head, and can't wear makeup... you will find me hiding in the bath hugging my knees rocking and possibly sobbing. seriously though, not allowed to discuss lifestyle? this just makes the whole thing stupid, right? isn't that a recipe for failure? what does that mean? you live on a farm with 10 huge dogs and you grow your own vegetables, but cant mention any of that? Then you end up "dating" a guy from a manhattan high rise apart… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 07:30 AM |
| 1 | If the blue pill is correct, why does the friend zone exist?if a specific woman isn't attracted to you, you probably can't do anything or change anything about yourself to make that woman be attracted to you. but some improvements, like getting in shape, working on anger management problems or a generally depressing demeanor/bitterness, having more hobbies and interests so you're more social, interesting to talk to, fun to be around, those things may help a guy be more attractive to other women he meets in the future | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 07:18 AM |
| 2 | If the blue pill is correct, why does the friend zone exist?i'm like this. lots of men are clearly good looking. I have eyes and I can see that a person (of any gender) is objectively beautiful. That doesn't mean I am necessarily attracted to them. I am not attracted to women at all but that doesn't mean women are ugly. They're just not for me. Same with plently of men that lots of women swoon over. Do I think they're bad looking? No, they just don't do anything for me personally. So they would end up in the seemingly contradictory "they're attractive bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:56 PM |
| 0 | If the blue pill is correct, why does the friend zone exist?thank you, this is correct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/24 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?i wouldn't consider it not thinking i'm good enough, personally. i would consider it "he doesn't even know me at all yet" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:28 AM |
| 5 | Has exclusivity stopped being the default?when was this time when the default was exclusivity starting from the first time you went out with someone? I am 47 and I don't remember that ever being the case, aside from in middle school when people were "going out" which meant they were BF and GF even though they usually never literally went out because nobody really had money or could drive. Even when my parents were originally dating, back then after time was spent getting to know someone, usually you'd ask the person to go steady or to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 09:12 AM |
| 19 | Men are not blindsided by breakups/divorce as much as they thinka roommate is there to split bills. they come and go without communicating. they may care about you as a person or be your friend, but not necessarily. A partner is actually sharing your life with you, not just a house. A partner doesn't disappear to go camping for 3 days without telling you first. And a roommate doesn't hold your hand while you're receiving a scary prognosis from your doctor or order takeout from your favorite restaurant to surprise you because they know you had a rotten day at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/24 04:31 AM |
| 6 | Every modern dating problem can be summarized into “Too little respect, Too much hubris”many people think it's disrespectful to waste somebody's time. so not being interested but staying anyway and taking up somebody's time could be considered rude. Or maybe she could tell you weren't into her. Or maybe something you said or did made her not enjoy being there with you anymore. I mean, I agree if I went out with someone and they bailed on me a few minutes after arriving, I would be annoyed about that. But this is one reason why I don't go on dates with people I don't know which I kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 12:15 PM |
| 2 | The reason men "have such low standards" is because they assume that any woman they get with to change to fit the mold of their ideal life.100%! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 08:13 PM |
| 6 | The reason men "have such low standards" is because they assume that any woman they get with to change to fit the mold of their ideal life.I agree it isn't the majority. Most men have standards and don't do this. But sadly, there clearly are men who do this very thing. For example, man meets and then dates a woman who is "smokin' hot" in her hot dress and makeup with her hair done... Then months later when she continues to be hot, he is like "but why don't you dress like an amish librarian? makeup is promiscuous and you shouldn't wear any of these clothes, these are single woman clothes. I'm being disrespected!!! Waaaah" i agree ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 05:42 AM |
| 16 | The reason men "have such low standards" is because they assume that any woman they get with to change to fit the mold of their ideal life.i think some men don't really recognize that women have dreams or aspirations. they think women's goals are just "ways to pass time" till they find a husband because eventually they will just want to become mothers like they're programmed to. This is not all men obviously, but it seems like some see women as accessories to their lives. The man is always the main character, basically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 05:30 AM |
| 7 | Women preferring to stay single because they don't feel attracted to average men says a lot about their unrealistic expectationsIf your worried someone will judge you, don’t tell random strangers your preferences This is really it. People (women and men but it seems like a lot of men) just cannot shut up about what they think is/isn't attractive and there is no need to announce this information all the time. There is a time and place for this but 99% of the time please just stfu. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 11:03 PM |
| – | Cheating when you have a dead bedroom can be a better option than divorce.if my partner is fine with lying to me and making a fool of me, then he doesn't respect me or care about my feelings. you don't betray people you love. so there is a huge problem. "The marriage is otherwise ok" makes no sense. Either accept how things are, or don't accept how things are and see if your partner will let you open the marriage (which is not cheating if you're not lying to them to do this in secret), or if neither of those things will work just have some integrity and leave them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 05:48 AM |
| 5 | When men call women “illogical,” do they genuinely believe she is literally not following a rationale?as if men don't also make these choices based on "feels" and "tingles" lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 11:02 PM |
| 7 | Men who complain about not getting casual sex don't put themselves in the right environments.I have, and there were women there. but it was also a big show in a huge arena with assigned seating and no pit or anything, so aside from if you loitered by the concessions stand you really weren't in a place to socialize or meet new people. So I agree a tool show is not the right place, but not because there's no women. Go to smaller venues with local bands or bands who are less of a 'big deal' and it's really different. Or when there's a band playing at a local pub, that's the best. It's a sm… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/24 12:10 AM |
| 2 | "Enjoy the decline" is a perfectly viable strategyI'm not familiar with this "enjoy the decline" idea you mention, but it sounds like "the decline" refers to either society crumbling or the world ending? Anybody who actually embraces and enjoys such a thing is privileged enough to not think the problems of the world will harm you (which seems accurate since you think you're untouchable) and lacks empathy. Even if I can afford to relocate if shit hits the fan, many people cannot. And because I'm not a sociopath, I don't want everyone else to suf… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 04:43 AM |
| 1 | How come it is almost never considered that a guy can develop feelings for a woman he is friends with and that he just became friends to get into her pants?Yes the internet is part of reality. I don't claim otherwise. But in the offline world, if you are genuinely friends with somebody and then catch feelings and express that to them, you probably will not be demonized or accused of only trying to get into her pants. What people say on the internet doesn't really seem relevant to that situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 08:18 PM |
| 6 | How come it is almost never considered that a guy can develop feelings for a woman he is friends with and that he just became friends to get into her pants?i formed my opinions from life experiences instead of what randos on the internet say | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 06:22 AM |
| 6 | How come it is almost never considered that a guy can develop feelings for a woman he is friends with and that he just became friends to get into her pants?if a friend has actual feelings and wants a relationship, then it doesn't seem like he just wanted into her pants. that could become awkward if it isn't mutual, and maybe the friendship is destroyed or people need time away to get over it, but it isn't generally seen a malicious. It can be really good and in most cases if the friendship is strong and genuine it is fine. but it is hurtful if a guy who you thought was your friend tries to have sex with you and if you don't want to he lashes out in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 12:46 AM |
| – | Most girls are genuinely repelled by truly kind men, you have to have some degree of asshole in you or they will get boredno. women are repelled by passive, timid, indecisive men. this comes across as weak. if you are somewhat assertive, confident, kind, and not a doormat, that is good. There is nothing wrong at all with being a kind caring man. In fact that will help you more in the later stages than being an asshole will, at least that is the case with the majority of mentally healthy women. It has little to do with meeting a woman or getting her attention in the first place (charm, good looks, being interesting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Is it controlling to want your girlfriend to not go clubbing?if you trust your GF you don't need to trust the guys at the club! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Is it controlling to want your girlfriend to not go clubbing?for me, my BF not trusting me to go to parties or clubs or wherever else would be a big problem for me. I hate clubs so those aren't really an issue for me, but if I were going anywhere and he thought there was danger of me cheating then he doesn't trust me and that's not okay. But I also can't see why I would go to parties or clubs or shows or whatever without inviting him to come too. Why is she going to all these things without you? Are you not invited? An occasional girls night is not strang… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 05:27 AM |
| 12 | Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?Same. I'm not into casual anything, and if I am into a guy (even if not actually dating him) I have no interest in anyone else and definitely wouldn't be sleeping with other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Why is confidence such an aphrodisiac?absurdly confident but lacking justification for it is actually just arrogant or cocky. arrogance and cockiness can often be mistaken for confidence but they are not positive qualities. ideally people realize which one they're seeing before long, but arrogant people are good at tricking others a lot of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 07:19 PM |
| 10 | Where is the incentive for a woman to be submissive?I agree. None of this is what I consider submission. Literally that means that one person is "leading" and in charge and making decisions on both people's behalf, and the other one follows and obeys. That's different from two people caring for and serving each other, in my opinion. I guess when I hear "submissive" i think agreeable and obedient. And that is not an equal power dynamic and I would never agree to it. I love to do nice things for my man and I want him to be happy but as soon as he t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 10:28 PM |
| 1 | The discussion surrounding the chore gap is missing a major question Discussionthey think 'likes being in a clean house' = 'likes cleaning the house' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 03:15 AM |
| – | Women will sabotage you talking to their friends without hesitation, and regardless of what anyone says it is usually against their willyep. It is really easy for her to just say "OK I'll come find you in a minute" or something to get her friend to go away if she doesn't want to leave. Or she'll go off with her friend to assure the friend that there isn't a problem, then come back to talk to you more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 06:45 PM |
| – | The more you meet women, the more you realize they're all the sameif i judged humanity by instagram I would assume everyone is baking fancy looking cakes, or they are raccoons and foxes! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 05:42 PM |
| – | The more you meet women, the more you realize they're all the samebut surely you've come across women who do more than wake up, stand around like a Sims character all day before going to bed again? Who do you surround yourself with? the Sims thing made me LOL OP would need to get to know a woman for more than 5 minutes to realize there's more to her than her instagram feed and what brand of phone she uses. Also I love how if women have things in common that they like (like a popular musician or movie or food or whatever) she's basic and dumb and has no persona… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 05:27 PM |
| 2 | When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too?same. i suppose occasionally i identify with a character or wish to be somebody in a movie or show. but usually i watch and am rooting for someone but don't want to be them. the gender of the people doesn't really matter to me though. i will say, i don't think you're supposed to want to be Walter White. Yikes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Should men try to be friends with women first?depends what they meant. be friends with a woman is potentially good advice for a guy who thinks women are alien creatures who can't be approached or understood. like, please go meet some women and get to know them so you can realize we are actually people... this makes sense to me. but becoming friends with a woman you do not actually want to be friends with, hoping it'll either turn into a relationship or that at some point she'll want to fuck you, that is bad. That usually turns out poorly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 04:18 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Women only dance clubs. Genius idea?I'm not sure why they fail. I am just speculating that it is because women don't drink as much as men. And I'm not saying women only want drinks men buy for them, but women literally just drink less, in general, than men do. And I bet it would be very unusual for a woman to think it's sensible to drop $500-$1000 for bottle service in order to show off and impress people. On both points I'm just making my best guess here. I just don't think a club or bar would make as much money without having me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 03:03 AM |
| 5 | Did any of your grandfathers ever tell you how much better men have it these days in the same way women's grandmothers did?my grandmother wasn't allowed to get an education. her family couldn't afford for all the kids to go to school, so only the boys got to. I don't think she regretted her life, in general. She married and raised a bunch of kids and I think she was more or less happy with how things turned out. But I know she didn't have choices. She made sure I knew I was lucky to have options, even when I was too young to really get what any of that meant. She always talked to me and told me how happy she was tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:48 PM |
| 5 | When did small penis become synonymous with insecure?it is this. certain behaviors signal a guy is over-compensating for some sort of insecurity. and "he must have a small dick" is a really lazy way to take a hurtful jab at a guy. many guys are sensitive about a comment like that even if it isn't true, so it's just a way to try to take an arrogant asshole down a peg. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Why is there such a large double standard?post 1: guy is mostly an asshole for being a weird tattletale. And yes also "I specifically asked for a woman who was still a virgin" kinda sounds like he ordered a woman on amazon or something. You left out all the relevant info. Here is the original post: Fake account because my uni knows my real account. I am a 19M college student and I am somewhat inexperienced with relationships. I specifically asked for a woman who was still a virgin, and found someone who said she was. She was lying and I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 08:21 AM |
| 2 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsso why not argue for abolishing the law that prevents testing without consent of both parents, and advocate for making it possible to free one's self from legal responsibility for a child if you have a negative test? You mention two things that seem unfair and burdensome, and instead of wanting to undo those two things you suggest creating a new bureaucratic nightmare to solve it. I know it would be terrible to be scammed into raising or giving financial support to a child and later finding out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/23 03:32 AM |
| 11 | Most advice targeted at men here is to make them wait until they are too old to do anythingwhat does this have to do with her original comment you replied to? And maybe try realizing relationships are more than just sex. and not everything needs to be (or should be) a transaction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Suppose you're a libertarian / conservative / right-of-center dude in a coastal city. How are you supposed to date women?Yeah, i would be really annoyed if a guy hid his political beliefs from me till we had been dating a long time. I don't need to agree about everything but certain issues are important and I want a guy with compatible personal values. If I were into casual hookups (I'm not, but if I was), then I probably wouldn't care as much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 04:33 AM |
| 5 | Do women act incognizant to avoid accountability?she needs to stop hitting that poor man's fist with her face and then atone for the harm she's done to him /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 10:00 PM |
| 14 | Do women act incognizant to avoid accountability?guys in this sub are obsessed with women being held accountable. for everything. including the actions and choices of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/23 03:56 PM |
| 1 | What do you have against men who have android phones instead of iPhones?the only two people in my life that give a shit about this (that I'm aware of) are men. One of those men tends to make sure everyone he knows is aware he drives a BMW and he also likes to post about his expensive watches and whatnot on social media. So I'd say some people (women and men) are consumed with status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/23 04:14 AM |
| – | List of behavior and visual cues that red pillers use to identify a "low value woman"can probably add blue hair and a nose ring too :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 10:05 AM |
| – | Do you think different politics will keep men and women from dating each other?Liberal men are predators what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 05:24 AM |
| – | Would you agree that body language signs dont mean anything ?So guys who are nervous on first date and don’t talk too much shouldn’t get another chance 🤣 do they know you're nervous? If I'm with a guy and he's barely talking to me I might assume he doesn't like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t women want men to help fix things?why did you ask this question if you refuse to accept the explanations everyone here is giving you? You actually asked why this happens and you are just getting angry at everybody who answers you. And yet you are unable to understand why somebody would get angry at you for giving them advice they never wanted in the first place? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Why don’t women want men to help fix things?somebody who's upset about something, enough to be ranting about it, is not going to stop to provide you instructions first on how to act like a caring human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Why don’t women want men to help fix things?the hostility would be easier to address with specific examples. You did provide one example in your post: you tell your man that you don’t like your body and he tells you how to change it and he’s the asshole? in this situation, yes absolutely that would make you an asshole. Your GF/wife is opening up to you that she feels unattractive, either in general or possibly just right now due to some specific thing that's happening. And you not only did not offer any support or sympathy, you agreed wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Its fine if its agreed that the breadwinner doesn't do house choresYes, of course I should have mentioned that fathers should be able to stay home and take care of and bond with new babies. All parents should, that is what is best for families and specifically the children. What I said before stands though, but it isn't as important as the babies having their parents home to take care of them in their first weeks/months. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:53 AM |
| 14 | Are/Have female breadwinners (been) willing to do the OUTSIDE the house work?it is actually incredibly easy to mow the lawn. i have no idea why guys act like it's this huge difficult task. It also isn't scary or dangerous. Raking a large lawn covered in pine needles will give you blisters and it takes forever. I never enjoyed that at all. But you don't need to be a strong manly man to do that either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 08:36 AM |
| 2 | Its fine if its agreed that the breadwinner doesn't do house choresparental leave policies are far better than maternity leave. because when laws require whatever leave for maternity but not for paternity, employers tend to factor that into hiring and promotion decisions. Women get punished for the time off they only theoretically might take eventually if they have a baby, while men are not. But if it is normal for any new parent to take time off, it equalizes things to an extent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 08:03 AM |
| 6 | Its fine if its agreed that the breadwinner doesn't do house choresyes, selfish and my guess is they also don't really like their partners. My BF and I don't live together. We both also have varying schedules with long hours sometimes and other times not. I make more than him, not by a lot, but I do and also I don't have to commute. If we lived together, I would want to divide housework more or less in half - not even considering who earns more money, just who has more time in a given day to get chores done. And sometimes one of us is exhausted for whatever rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Its fine if its agreed that the breadwinner doesn't do house chores"office lady" is a job? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 07:35 AM |
| 9 | The biggest lie of women"I am content and my life is fine when I'm alone, so I'm not going to waste my time dating somebody unless I really enjoy sharing my life with them and they make me even happier than I already am" "I'm so lonely I'll date anybody who doesn't repulse me because I can't stand being alone and I have no options. And even if they do repulse me, I'll probably still fuck them if they let me" You think both of those are the same? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 05:01 AM |
| 6 | One of the biggest red flags for guys to look for in women is if they are against paternity testing. By being against it they out themselves as selfish at best or cheaters and manipulators at worse.i have no idea why these guys don't just do this. I guess in some places, once the father's name is on the birth certificate, it's really difficult for that man to undo that to not be legally responsible for the kid. But why do they always want to make everyone do mandatory DNA testing (which is expensive and creates serious privacy concerns for everyone) instead of advocating to change the laws to enable men to renounce paternity, or whatever you call it, after the fact? Then they could just ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 03:10 PM |
| – | Women are 100% repelled by genuinely kind men and respond positively to being mistreatedabusers often can spot somebody who doesn't have any self-esteem. They meet somebody who has been hurt before, who feels they either deserve that or they just don't think they're worthy of something better. Abusive person swoops in and is all love and kindness and the abuse-victim sees rainbows and unicorns. They are not accustomed to this wonderful treatment and they don't recognize that it is fake and very bad. After time passes and the person starts to feel like "wow I really am a person who … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:42 PM |
| – | Women are 100% repelled by genuinely kind men and respond positively to being mistreatedi agree with this. a kind man is not at all unattractive but if he seems too wishywashy and like a doormat it isn't good. but also, i cannot stress this enough, women want a guy who is INTERESTING. You could be the sweetest person on earth but if you are as interesting as cardboard it just doesn't matter. in my experience, there are women who are drawn to men who mistreat them but they are not the majority and they usually were raised in an abusive environment and don't recognize the red flags o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:36 PM |
| 17 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidswhy is he a "chump" though, if he is happy with his life and loves his wife, and she loves him? people change. if you are 35 with a kid and your taste in men is the same as it was when you were 22, you haven't grown or evolved at all. i don't think it's fair to call growing up "settling." sometimes people settle, sure, but a lot of the time they really want that person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Men who are not obsessed with women are also demonizedI think full blown obsession with anything or anyone is bad, actually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 07:05 AM |
| 1 | "Progressive" women falling short?a big wedding doesn't need to be religious at all. and being a progressive doesn't necessarily mean you can't also be religious diamonds are unethical, but i think a lot of people are not really aware of the problems with diamonds, plus we have generations of brainwashing in our culture making people think diamonds are very important. I agree that socially conscious people shouldn't support the diamond industry, so yes I agree there's some hypocrisy there, but also just a lot of ignorance. I don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Q4A:Opinions about provocative dressinga car cannot decide if it gets stolen or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4A:Opinions about provocative dressingexactly this. don't date a woman you don't trust!! And when you meet a woman, ask yourself if you want your girlfriend to dress the way that woman is dressed. If you aren't going to be okay with that, then don't date that woman. Chances are she is not dressed up in her "i'm single!" wardrobe, she's just wearing clothes she likes and she will continue wearing them whether she's in a relationship with you or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:50 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about this as advice for men in their DMing and texting?I agree. And "she'll respond instantly if she has genuine burning desire for you" seems like sabotage. Don't wait for ages but for real, we are actually busy sometimes. Women have jobs, we also sleep. Assuming a non-instantaneous reply means she's ignoring you because of 50 other guys seems like shooting yourself in the foot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:04 AM |
| 13 | Which of these two men would have more dating success? GENERALLYyes, caricature is the perfect word. I don't really like either of these dudes but dude A sounds completely imaginary. Also a man wearing a "The future is female" shirt would give me 'Dennis Reynolds at an abortion rally' vibes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Why is the term “partner” EVERYWHEREthe one before it is wild too: And oddly enough, they rarely say this is my partner when the person is RIGHT there. But if they’re out of earshot, it might get said. why on earth would that ever happen? what is the implication, somebody is secretly calling their wife their partner against her will? So weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Why is the term “partner” EVERYWHEREa partner is someone you work with. Not someone you’re romantically involved with. not really. there are lots of kinds of partners. Business partner, dance partner, lab partner, partner in crime, and life partner. I don't see being a life partner as being anything negative or insignificant. Just don't use the term if you don't like it. Nobody cares. I’ll see a post where someone clearly says “My husband…” and all the comments are like “your partner” i think this is just people not bothering to r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:55 AM |
| 2 | What are the most common reasons women get divorced?i've never been married but i have been in a relationship with a guy who was a mess financially. I mean, total financial chaos. Always getting fired or quitting his job, being unemployed, selling his stuff, running up debt, working again, now not working, on disability, losing that, going back to work, quitting again. And when he had an income he would overspend on absolute nonsense. It was not sustainable and I was planning to end things because I couldn't deal with living that way... and then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Being in a position where you can pursue women is a privilegeIt's definitely not easy to make friends once you're a "grown up" and not in school anymore, especially if you don't work in a place where you can meet people. But it isn't impossible. It takes deliberate effort and a lot of time. I'm an introvert so it was sort of a nightmare in the beginning but it got easier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:17 PM |
| -1 | Being in a position where you can pursue women is a privilegepretending to want to be friends and developing a close "friendship" that is based on dishonesty when all you ever wanted was a relationship or sex the whole time, THAT is what women don't like. Getting to know a woman enough to know you have things in common and your personalities click together and then asking her out is the way. Friendly acquaintances, rather than very good friends. Although sometimes a deep friendship can turn into more, but you risk ruining the friendship that way. And if y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:01 PM |
| – | Would you be ok covering all expenses for a relationship partner if they lose their job ?I'm a woman. Currently, I have a BF who I haven't been seeing for very long yet, so no I would not. If he needs help for whatever reason I will do what I can, but I couldn't afford to pay all his bills and mine, and also I think it's too soon for something like that. And I am pretty sure he wouldn't want me to. If we last and get really serious and live together? Then yes. If he is out of work for health reasons, I will figure it out. If he loses his job, same (to whatever extent I can afford to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?I totally agree with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?everyone seems hung up on excitement and entertainment. to me, the opposite of boring is interesting. I'm not looking for entertainment or nonstop excitement. I do need my SO to be an interesting person though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?All these people like "I don't need her to entertain me like a clown" are bizarre to me. I don't expect my BF to put on some kind of performance to entertain me. It isn't about him entertaining me. But he is an interesting person. He does and says all kinds of fascinating things. He has interests and hobbies that are different from mine (and some are the same) and he is fun to talk to about these things, and about his life. He's passionate about things. He's lived an interesting life. So have I.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:27 PM |
| 0 | What incentive someone who belongs to a negatively stereotyped group like men has to behave well or he's still going to be judged by the stereotype?if "social rewards" are the only thing stopping you from being an asshole, then..... you're an asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 09:32 AM |
| 2 | Being alone is often worse than a boring or unloving relationshipbeing single is better than being in a bad relationship. the relationships you are talking about here are not necessarily bad. A boring relationship may or may not be bad depending on what a person wants. Older folks who have been together for decades certainly have different expectations than a 22 year old. I think in most of those cases, there is a deep love and a bond that has formed over time that they value more than thrill and excitement. That's fine. Some of your other examples seem like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/23 05:45 PM |
| 13 | Women hate socially awkward and/or quiet males?this is not right. I am not interested in dating men who are much older or younger than I am. I'm not interested in men with young children, or intensely career driven workaholic types, or women. I don't hate any of those people, not at all. I just am not interested in dating them. If you hate everyone you're not interested in, that's an awful lot of hatred, yikes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 10:55 AM |
| 11 | CMV: As a society there's almost nothing we can do to help lonely menIn my experience, the "friend zone" is tricky but the "friendly acquaintance zone" is where it's at. In other words, your chances are pretty good with a woman you know who seems to like you and you enjoy talking to, but not a woman who thinks you are lifelong platonic BFFs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missor, he just trusts her. you seem to have some severe trust issues if you see literally everything as a betrayal in the making. Normal men don't care if their wives/GFs go where there are other people who can see them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missOr maybe he did one time and she dumped him at a halloween party | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys miss"I am in a serious relationship and we went to a party" "Oh, so that means some day you will go pick your future children up at school dressed inappropriately so your kids get bullied forever!" wtf are you even talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 01:24 AM |
| 6 | Why are people okay with the government being involved when child support is an issue, but want the government to stay out of it when it comes to the issue of mandatory paternity tests?my issue with mandating a paternity test for every pregnancy is that now the government has access to literally everyone's DNA. If you can somehow make sure they do not have this information and it can't be abused, then fine, do it I guess. We already have problems with all these ancestry tests and if we're adding newborn baby testing to the massive amounts of data out there, it makes me wary is all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 10:37 PM |
| 14 | CMV: Asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating, and women who think like that are red flagsno no no. see, unless you have definite proof and know 100% that somebody did cheat on you, requiring them to prove that they did not cheat on you can't be an accusation. You can't accuse somebody of something unless you already are certain they did the thing. Telling her you think she might be a lying cheating manipulative terrible person is totally different from accusing her of being a lying cheating manipulative terrible person, do you seeeee?? /s (this seems to be OP's logic, to be clear. N… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Why is asking for a paternity test a relationship ender?I'm not okay with any accusation of cheating. I'm not a cheater. I don't know if I'm immediately getting a divorce over it (I'm not married, but if I was, I mean). But there's a big problem if my SO thinks I'm cheating on him. It might be slightly less bad if he is asking questions about my actual behavior. If I'm spending a lot of time with another man and my BF asks about that, at least it is based on something I am doing. There's still a problem but maybe I should consider what I've done to m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediathere's a huge difference between "hi you're hot. can I take you out for drinks sometime?" and a guy chatting with me and us having fun talking to each other and finding we have some things in common and then he asks me out or asks for my phone number. The first guy either only cares about appearances, or he might not even care what I look like and just wants to fuck somebody and I happened to be in the same location as him. I don't like the first guy and I'm not going anywhere with him. The sec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Men are told to "touch grass" and "talk to women" but if they fumble they get to be creep shamed on social mediaI am not disagreeing with your point at all, but are parks really dead? I have never met anybody at a park but there are tons of people out doing stuff in parks all the time. At least if you are in a place with decent weather. I can't think of reasons why people would stop going to parks. Usually I'm riding my bike through parks which means it would be pretty difficult/impossible to talk to me or meet me specifically, but I see tons of people sitting, eating, reading, talking, playing frisbee, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 10:27 PM |
| – | CMV This Manosphere believe that today you will get charged with sexual assault if you approach a Women in the Street or Work, is completely delusional and couldn't be further from the truth.posting a screenshot of your DM will not ruin your life unless whatever you wrote is completely awful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 04:24 PM |
| – | Women have zero tolerance policy for even slightly socially awkward menyou shouldn't pretend to be anybody's friend. but asking somebody out who you have never even had a conversation with is unlikely to go well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 05:54 AM |
| 11 | Real dating life is closer to Instagram/YouTube than it is to reddit.I and most of my friends have instagram. we use it to post photos of ourselves, our friends, our families, our travels, etc. It is basically a way to keep up with each other. I don't know anybody in real life who is on there posting thirst traps or trying to get 100000 followers. We are just like "look at this cool owl I saw when I was hiking" and shit like that. Also yes there are the trends that it feeds to you. Mine are mostly cooking videos and dogs and cats and raccoons. Some people are get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 08:20 PM |
| 5 | Real dating life is closer to Instagram/YouTube than it is to reddit.social media is real people who are behaving how they normally would. but it also has people who are posting outrageous content for attention, and plenty of people playing with algorithms to get views and make money. The other problem with social media is that it feeds you specific content based on what you have interacted with before, so it's very easy to get a skewed perspective about what people are like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 08:14 PM |
| 6 | Communication between the sexes about the dating market won't be effective until women trust that most men don't want society to go back to oppressing female sexuality.Its a major trust issue that feminism caused. feminism did not cause the trust issue. centuries of oppression that actually happened caused the trust issue. It isn't a "narrative" either. It is history. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 04:00 AM |
| 5 | Men are considered creeps not due to their actions, but due to thoughts of womenit's worse than in a carpark. it was on the side of a street waiting to cross while she was between two parked cars. So she was trapped between the 2 cars, the guy who approached, and the street with traffic. Just no way to go anywhere if the dude turned out to be a problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 03:08 AM |
| 1 | CMV : personality is just as shallow a reason to be with somebody as looksyour personality is what is below the surface. appearance based judgements are shallow because they literally only account for what is visible on the surface. That's is what shallow means. people can hide their true personalities, yes. Some people lie and manipulate. But you try to find a person who you mesh with and in time you grow to trust them, hopefully they deserve that trust. But just because a person's personality (and their values etc.) could possibly be an illusion, that doesn't make i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 07:44 AM |
| 3 | There is no place for men to meet womenyep. nearly every guy i've ever dated or been involved with has been an acquaintance or friend of one of my friends. If I meet a guy at a party or a bar, if I see that one of my friends/acquaintances already knows and likes that guy, it feels less likely that he's a giant asshole who I should avoid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:53 PM |
| 3 | How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating?why are the random women you heard on a podcast "the rule" and the women here who are telling you they enjoy casual sex are "the exceptions"? If all the people having the casual sex are honest about what they want and all choose to participate in it, then nobody is being used. The women who don't enjoy it are generally not going to have casual sex knowingly/on purpose. The women you are asking about (who find sex "empowering") are the ones who enjoy it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 03:11 AM |
| 2 | CMV: It’s not misogynistic or controlling for men to expect/ask the women they date or marry to not dress like they are still singleit sounds like your sister's marriage had a lot of problems. Serious problems. Alcoholism is a very difficult thing for a couple to grapple with. Cheating was a choice she made, she decided to break his trust and betray him. These are very real, very intense issues that destroyed a marriage. Your sister's clothes did not cause her to cheat nor did they cause any of the underlying problems in her marriage. If random people in public see a woman and decide she's single (which is a stupid assumptio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:52 PM |
| 5 | CMV: It’s not misogynistic or controlling for men to expect/ask the women they date or marry to not dress like they are still singleright?! i've never heard such a thing hahaha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:48 PM |
| 5 | CMV: It’s not misogynistic or controlling for men to expect/ask the women they date or marry to not dress like they are still singleno way. my BF likes me in part because he likes my style. now that we're together I certainly will not be wearing baggy shorts, dressing like a boy, or hiding the fact that I have a body that is woman-shaped. I have no desire to look like a frumpy prude and my BF definitely doesn't want to have a GF who looks like a frumpy prude either. If you don't want to have a GF or wife who wears bikinis or shirts with cleavage, please do not get into a relationship with a woman who wears those things. The … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Do women need men more than men need women because women spend more?ok yes women do usually make most of the shopping choices. But that has nothing to do with "needing men more than men need women because women spend more." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 10:33 PM |
| 10 | Do women need men more than men need women because women spend more?Are you saying children should fend for themselves? Are you saying teenage girls are different consumers? they didn't say anything like that. They're just pointing out that even though women are the ones literally purchasing the most items, that doesn't mean most of the items are for women. OP is talking about who spends more, the person you're arguing with is just saying that spending is different than consuming (and this isn't literally consuming in the sense of eating. it just means if a woma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:42 AM |
| 1 | It sucks to be single and alone, for both men and women, and I'm tired of people denying itsome people are content single. some people have had relationships that put them through hell and just don't want to deal with that anymore. some people realize that they put more into a relationship than they get back and get tired of it. some people just don't mind or even enjoy solitude. these people are happy single. there are other people who hate being single and don't choose this for themselves at all and are very unhappy unless they are in a relationship. both of these things are FINE. Y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:29 AM |
| 3 | I really doubt the "male loneliness epidemic" is such a big dealwhat? why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Ladies would you date a man who makes less money than you or who is unemployed?I've dated an unemployed guy before. It depends if it's a chronic situation or not. Most people are unemployed at some points during life. If you give up and just live on unemployment indefinitely and expect me to pay for everything then that's not going to work out. If you are unemployed frequently because you are unable to keep a job because of stupid life choices, I'm not sticking around for that either. I don't care at all if a guy makes less money than I do, as long as he is able to take ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/23 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Today’s female dating strategy will lead to a demographic collapse of liberal progressives and a future where women are treated as second class citizens.Women who wait till they are 30 don’t have children. Women who prioritize careers over marriage don’t have children. Women who hold out for the perfect man don’t have children. Women who share one high value man, who only uses them for sex, don’t get children. Women, low value men and high value men, don’t produce children under this system. many of the people you mention here actually do have children. you are acting like we are going extinct as a species and we are absolutely not. Birthrates a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.just don't ask! i know my BF has a past. I don't ask him anything too specific because it's perfectly fine that his life didn't begin when he met me, but there's no reason I want to know specific things like this. I also do not want to know about or see the shit he took last night. There's nothing wrong with that, everybody poops. But I don't want to SEE it or have it described to me. These things are only a huge problem if you allow them to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.Why the F are you thinking about anybody's past in this level of detail, let alone your partner? how many dicks were sucked, loads were swallowed, how many sweaty balls were around her There isn't a single person on earth I want to know that information about, including close friends and complete strangers and everybody else. Obviously nobody wants graphic details about their SO's sexual past (regardless of gender). I'm pretty sure the vast majority of people would be disgusted if given a "visua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that women's standards are higher for casual sex than for a relationship?higher standards for a relationship for sure. speaking for me only, i am not interested in casual sex. so a guy who has no interest in me long term is not appealing. he would have to lie (and in my case invest time in that lie, but other women are less difficult I think). I don't think it's unusual for women to be more willing to have sex with a guy they went on a date or two with if they think he actually likes her and is interested in a relationship than a guy they know wants a ONS or is using… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 07:21 PM |
| 3 | What’s the reason women as a group in general seem much more angry about guys playing video games than guys being drug addicts, alcoholics and criminals?Really weird to lump beer, weed, and cigarettes in with armed robbery, heroin, and meth... but ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 06:25 AM |
| 1 | What if I'm authentically not happy being single?There are multiple reasons for the whole "get some hobbies!" thing you hear a lot. People tend to assume it means either "find other things to do and forget dating" or "if you have a hobby you'll meet a girlfriend doing your hobby." But in my opinion, having things you do that you enjoy, especially if these things get you out of your house and into the world, will make you generally happier with your life. Being happy makes you more attractive. Depressed people repel other people. This is true f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Are women socially embarrassed if they don't have a hot guy?I don't care if my friends don't think my guy is attractive. I often don't think their BFs are attractive either, because we have different tastes. If my friend's BF is cool, IDGAF what he looks like since I'm not dating him. None of my friends are going to voice any sort of objection to my dude not being hot enough. That literally would never happen. We support each other, and if somebody meets a guy who makes her happy, then yay! My friends would tell me if I was dating a liar or an asshole th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 12:56 AM |
| – | Nightclubs are not the right place to meet womennot everybody goes to a club looking for hookups, and people who do that don't always want to do that. Sometimes the girls just want to go out together and celebrate something or have a girl's night. Or maybe they aren't single. They don't need to stay home and hide just because they don't want to meet men. Seriously, many female friends of mine who are married love to go out dancing together, because it is fun. Some people just love to dance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 06:42 AM |
| 1 | In your experience, do platonic opposite-sex friendships often involve a lot of "giving" by men without reciprocity?Most of my friendships, with both men and women, 99% of the time consist of us just hanging out together and doing fun things. We just enjoy doing things together. Nobody's paying for stuff for other people (sometimes yes but it evens out and usually we pay our own way). We aren't doing favors for each other most of the time either. Sometimes do we do favors? Definitely. But usually we are just like "lets go to the pub!" or "come to my BBQ." When people do need help with stuff, it is not one-sid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/23 07:11 AM |
| 3 | Men can't cold approach, but they can't ask out their female friends either. What options are we left with?agreed 100%. Any time a guy I don't know has complimented my appearance and then wanted my number or asked me out got nothing, because I'm not into a guy who's interested in me purely based on my appearance and nothing else. A guy who talks to me for a bit, if he's interesting and fun and we click, that's the guy who gets my phone number. I don't feel like prey in that situation, and also I have had a chance to actually tell if I like him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/23 02:54 AM |
| 4 | The Jonah Hill discourse is a display of many men not knowing the difference between “boundary” and “controlling”why are all of your comparisons things that are actually for safety concerns? Personal safety is not actually equivalent to "i don't like other guys seeing my girlfriend in a bathing suit" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Women, what do you mean when you say that a man’s salary doesn’t matter as long as he has ambition, works hard, and grinds?Most young people either are beginning their careers or haven't even started their careers yet. So a young woman looking for a man to be her life partner and raise a family is going to care more about how much that man is likely to make later in life than how much he makes now. He could be getting a degree and have zero salary but have ambitions to have a lucrative career. If she knows that and can see he's a responsible person who works hard, she won't care much if he's broke currently. As a pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Do men really struggle with dating? Every guy I know has a girlfriend or wife.i think fun is the most overlooked factor around here. if it's not fun to be around a guy, why would I want to spend any of my time with that guy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Would you be okay marrying a stay at home husband ?The only reasons why either partner wouldn't be working, in my opinion, would be disability or to raise children. I don't have children or want them but if i had them and it was financially feasible for my husband to be a stay at home dad then i absolutely would be fine with this. Unless i was very wealthy (i'm not) i wouldn't be interested in having a househusband who is just not working at all and not home raising kids either (if physically able to work). And i have no desire to be a housewife… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Girls aren't lying about their preferences, they just don't know guys can improve"He specifically asked about being attractive, of course it's about aesthetics" If he specified "visually attractive" or mentioned aesthetics, then sure. But otherwise, no it isn't necessarily aesthetics. There are things that make a man attractive other than just how he looks. That doesn't mean looks aren't important at all. But the way he behaves and the things he does have a big impact on whether i am actually going to be attracted to a guy. It sounds like the girls on the video were listing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:33 PM |
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