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Why improve my situation when I can just lay in bed and blame women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:13 PM
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I personally don't think it's a bad thing. Both people should focus on/prioritize looks, especially when choosing a mate you may spend long amounts of time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:10 AM
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All completely fair points.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:02 AM
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I saw the thread about if any of our beliefs have changed/been affirmed since being here. I'd say I can acknowledge a few things. To balance this out, I'll weigh things evenly for both genders: Observations towards women: - A lot of average women do get looked over/ignored in favor of the hot ones. - If 'Alpha Widow' is a thing, then so is 'Stacy Widow'. I know several 20's/30's+ dudes who have success with one hot chick and now simply can't see themselves with anything lesser than. - When women…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:32 PM
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When I'm chased I immediately fall down. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:36 AM
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Looking forward to tomorrow's workout and building up the 🍑 Also, food is >>> protein shakes (at least for me). My muscles are soaking up the nutrients like a sponge.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:29 AM
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Q4All: If you could have a second boyfriend/girlfriend//husband etc. would you do it? Yes or No? Let's say both of them would be 100% fine with the setup, exactly what you like, no jealousy problems, don't care how you sort your time between them, etc. (Note: This quesiton is for fun only. Please answer the question directly, and don't take seriously.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:20 PM
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It’s gotten me a few dates I’d say, and a lot of people come up to talk to me. It can be a lot of fun. I also make it a priority to be a great host. I check in on people, make sure they’re having a good time and try to make everyone feel welcome. The exchange is that it can be hard to build deep connections with people because I’m running everywhere. It can be tiresome at times. With that said, I love hosting, and gathering people to have a great time. My goal is to get to a point where I can th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:31 AM
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Hell no lol. I’m visually underwhelming, just assembled a few resources together over the past year. It’s finally starting to bear fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:14 AM
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Hosting a NYE gathering tonight. Venue is dropping black/gold balloons at midnight. Should be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:08 AM
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Gym imo. Because of the following: It forces you to get out of the house You have access to the weights needed to continually progress You may meet a few regulars who you can chat with
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:16 PM
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Yup! You’re moving your body. Great job.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:15 PM
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All good. Find 20 minutes this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:58 PM
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All good. Find 20 minutes this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:57 PM
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Never too late to shake back 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:57 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:46 PM
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<image> I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:51 PM
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Hell yeah. Shoulders/upper chest will be a big focus of mine next year.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:50 PM
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And Swum. Lol. Good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:50 PM
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You still moved your body. It counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:49 PM
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We’ll count it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:49 PM
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I’m a fan of more input-oriented goals because they give you increased odds of getting the outcome you want. I’m also a fan of starting small. Like for example, if losing virginity is one, what if instead we focused on dates being the goal? Then from there, think about the inputs required to get a date. For example, if you use apps, then there are a few things it could be, such as: learning how to take nice pics finding your style/archetype having a few casual convos a week & learning how to ext…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:44 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:32 PM
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We’re only responsible for our decisions when it’s convenient for us. (Also just a reminder this is sarcasm in case it gets lost)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:53 PM
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We only have agency when it’s convenient for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:25 PM
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No. He doesn’t really have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:25 PM
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Ladies, please stop forcing men to be in relationships they definitely didn’t ask for. He may look happy, but if you look reallllly close, he actually isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:17 PM
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Is it pretty chill?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:26 AM
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I am taking this time of year to reflect on my goals, the things I've done, the challenges I've faced, and how much I've grown. There's been some good, some bad and everything in between. This year has been a lot about healing, & understanding myself. While that will be lifelong journey, I think I made serious strides here. Also special shoutout to u/NJFlowerChild for linking me to a resource that's helped me come to terms with my past in a healthy way. 2024 will be a year focused on more self-d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 01:42 AM
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https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2023/12/24/loneliness-epidemic-u-s-surgeon-general-solution/71971896007/ Spot on. Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:38 PM
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Enjoy brother. Those days are special. Only had 2-3 in my lifetime so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:11 AM
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lol it's all in jest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 12:29 AM
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Is that a yes or a no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 11:04 PM
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Is that a yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 11:03 PM
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Scenario 4 women : You made lunch for your man one day. He takes it with him and heads off to work. When he comes home, he tells you someone beat him up and took his lunch. Question: Do you still view him the same after this? Yes or no? (Note: Please answer the question directly. Not what your man would/would not actually do in this scenario.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:56 PM
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Will the self improvement thread ever return?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:22 PM
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This is an extremely important point. Your environment can play a dramatic role in dating success. Everything from apps to meet up in bars. You can do everything right and still struggle a bit simply because there’s there’s way more men than women in your area. If I was a single woman looking to settle down, I’d head west where there’s a shortage of women in average and men are more likely to mate guard/commit. For single men who want to maximize their odds, I’d head east where most big cities h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:14 PM
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I sometimes think people naturally attracted to those they view above their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:24 PM
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Hmmm it's holiday season. I imagine the lack of traction is probably a mixture of people traveling, spending more itme with fam/friends, single awareness season, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:15 AM
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"I'm driving today"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:10 AM
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Using “Chad” as the reason for a lack of results is nothing more than a proxy for laziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:00 AM
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Everyday won’t be a good day and that’s ok. You being alive is proof you’re built to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:59 AM
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This sounds like someone I would not spend a lot of time around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:01 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:16 PM
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I think there’s an equal amount of both
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:18 AM
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For the single gents: May you have all the great sex you can handle, workout 3-5x/week, dress as well as you can, take care of your mental health, drink some water, don't let anyone add unnecssary stress to your life, remember women get loney & horny too, read a good book, take that trip, and most importantly - be kind to yourself. You matter. Be blessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:15 AM
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This is why I dislike these rage bait threads/subs like AITA. They're always based on implications & assumptions. You never get the whole story, you never get exactly what was said in the interaction, yet people still proceed to paint a caricature of the parties involved and fill in the gaps based on their past individual experiences. Why? Because they just can't help it, and they eat it up like candy. It's so instinctual it's scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:03 PM
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This made me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:45 PM
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How is 80/20 supposed to work if 59% of single gen z men & 48% of single millenial men have never approached a woman in the past year?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:19 PM
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Q4All: What dark thoughts have gone through your mind recently? No judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:51 PM
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Self improvement does work for men. The real problem is accepting that it will take over 90+ days to see noticeable improvements (body, style, hobbies, etc). Since results aren’t immediate, it just gets dismissed as not worth it. Just because you don’t have a cute face doesn’t mean you’re below average in everything else. You may actually be a great story teller, musician, etc. All of those things can be attractive to women in their own way. Pride keeps most men from improving their results. Not…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 03:20 AM
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Q4W: Thoughts on these boots?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:31 PM
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Q4All: If you’re in shape and not fat, does that make you above average?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:47 PM
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Welp, no good morning for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:35 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:39 PM
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Yeah. Just asking out of curiosity. I was on a department meeting today and one of my coworkers told another guy that his lady friends found him hot. Never happened to me before, so it made me think of that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:08 PM
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Oof - Welp, I think I know where I fall lol. Thanks for the insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:02 PM
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How do you know if you have an average vs below average face? I’ll take it the fact I have to ask isn’t a good sign lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:44 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:54 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:30 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:17 AM
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The numbers are in: Had close to 300 people show up to my Halloween Event. Other people also offered to help me keep growing the group. I’m eternally grateful. Never imagined I’d be here 9 months ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:10 AM
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Being angry at the women you wanna have sex with must be a special kind of hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:10 PM
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Yes it does
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:09 AM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:49 PM
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Has the passport sis movement begun?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 09:57 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:58 PM
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Lost 85 lbs so far. I look like a completely different man. I'm nowhere near where I need to be but losing the face fat really makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:28 AM
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There are no guarantees. Even still, men manage to find women in all kinds of scenarios. Success leaves clues. So does failures. Trying to place every single woman in a set box is unproductive, and it simply doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:19 PM
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The anal prolapse in 4K is crazy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:34 PM
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Pretty sure the mods know what’s going on and they’re trolling us at this point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:20 PM
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Nice. You may have to up your calories a bit for the new muscle you’ll build.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:16 PM
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Let’s go. What kind of job?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 04:01 PM
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Q4All: You know what it’s time for… Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:22 PM
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Have you been sent to jail for approaching?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:55 PM
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Given that almost half of Gen Z and Millennial men haven't approached a woman in the past year, who is pointed towards, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:17 PM
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That's just what preying on insecurities does to people. When you say "Women would rather share a chad than get monogamy from an average man" then manufacture an example of that, men pile on simply because it aligns with their fears that being average isn't being enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:04 PM
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Got to talk to a few of my friends yesterday: One mentioned how she'd kill to find a loyal man. One just got married and is frustrated because she feels like she's raising two kids (her husband & his brother) One is losing her job this month. Just a reminder that women have problems, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:49 PM
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Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:14 AM
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Officially dropped another belt loop. Can't deny it anymore - my body is changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:47 PM
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That’s a huge win. Definitely give yourself some credit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:44 PM
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Good momentum this week: - Bought new meal replacement guides. - Stuck to my diet all the way through this week. - Re-calculated TDEE to measure new calorie intake levels. This one was huge. The activity factors are way too generous. - Created new tracking sheet to monitor weekly average body fat/weight numbers. - Bought a body fat measurer - Got in touch with a good friend to hang out this weekend, and another tomorrow morning. - Planning a day to go scout new venues for social events. - Our li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:15 PM
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I went outside to the gym today and saw three things I simply couldn’t believe: A 6’ 5, tatted, jacked, social man in the gym today. However, there was a problem. He was actually married?! Why would he do that when he has millions of women to choose from?? I saw a baddie with an average guy. Does the guy not know he’s probably being beta buxxed? Several average couples just existing together. None of this can be right. Who do I report this information to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:05 PM
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They're referring to this one: https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/ Though I'm not sure how we're defining 'struggling' in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:59 AM
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I truly think if men were more willing to let go of the past, they would give themselves room to become truly special. The time that group of women laughed at you, let it go. Those times you got rejected by every woman you asked out, let it go. The times you got teased/mocked by dudes who did much bette with women, let it go. Sadly, many of your harshest experience like these come in your formative years as you're understanding your identity. As a result, if you don't have the experience of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:46 AM
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Same article that those numbers were taken from. Not sure why the focus is just on 18-25
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:16 PM
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It’s not just 18-24 btw. Millennials are struggling just as bad. Almost half of men overall simply aren’t engaging with enough women to make something happen. There’s been a tidal shift towards an increase in risk aversion. To your point in the second half, I do agree with actually. However, I do think there needs to be more of an overall push for male circles where these issues can be shared, instead of bottling it up until it becomes hatred towards people who did you no wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:29 PM
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I make rules for Becky and break them for Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:54 PM
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Alright, it's official: Everyone's N-count has gone up by 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:07 PM
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You can guess whatever you like my friend, it’s your accusation. Not my job to convince you otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:24 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:23 PM
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Given it’s not a CMV, I can participate as needed. Why do I need headpats from people I never met before?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:18 PM
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Q4W: How many times have you reported a respectful, socially calibrated approach from a man you weren’t attracted to? Edit: It seems like most are saying they’ve never reported any respectful approaches. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:29 PM
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My thread on approaching is going as well as you can probably expect. Turns out most aren’t even trying at all (which is fine) but then to turn around and blame women is very weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:28 PM
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So in other words, outside of the workplace, the majority of approaches happen without incident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:03 AM
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Did you keep reading the article to find out where most of the reports happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:48 PM
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Most complaints come from work environments. Aside from that, the complains drop dramatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:30 AM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:34 PM
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Put me in the commercial
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:01 PM
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I respect the difference of opinion with the n count stuff, however, I have nothin’ but love for every woman I’ve shared my bed with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:58 PM
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1-2-3
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:03 AM
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Absolutely. Focusing on the negative was great for survival 50,000 years ago, but it stops us from growing in many valuable areas of our lives today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:56 PM
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Being the oldest is no joke. I'm the eldest of 3. All I can say is don't quit on your brother, and keep being there for him. Cheer him on when he gets stuff right. Encourage him when he messes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:52 PM
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Q4All: You know what's time for... Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:50 PM
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No worries, I won't look too deep here. She said she'd be out till Sunday on a trip. If there's no comms between EOD/tomorrow then I'm moving the boat along.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:48 PM
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I think because like most things in life, there's a luck factor involved. However, that luck is less of a variable if you put in the effort to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:45 PM
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Option 2. I'm honored that she'd love me, but I have a solid sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:44 PM
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New week: -Health: Adjusted calories in diet to account for TDEE variance. First step: Remove pb from shake and keep rest of calories the same. -Women: -Date scheduled for today. -Russian date may be a dud (no comms for a while) but valuable learning lesson around speed. Scheduled the date a bit too far out. If she comes around great, but the machine stops for no one. -Talking to a veterinarian to gauge interest with plans to pitch date. -Social: -New event this weekend. 176 RSVP’s. -Setup live …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:28 PM
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If there’s another n count thread next week, everyone’s n count is going up by 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:18 PM
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So did we just give up on the self improvement threads? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 01:05 AM
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I don't get called cute or anything, and my photofeeler photos usually get rated sub 5 (6 represents average on there). So realistically, 4/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:01 AM
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The boy must die so the man may live.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:28 PM
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The biggest one is probably an increase in risk aversion. Another to consider is dropping testosterone levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:25 PM
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Q4All: Did you work out this past week?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:10 PM
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Welcome back. Now prepare to get more expert opinions you didn't ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:37 PM
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Are people really hating on fat women that much? They seem to do just fine from what I can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:51 PM
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haha I feel that. They're huge for my mental sanity. I'm also envious of your swimg game. My swimming skills are ass, and I hear that's one of the best workouts you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:31 PM
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Sounds like you're just choosing to run instead of face those thoughts head on. For example, it's easy to scroll & reaffirm your current mindset. It's tougher to face your fears and find out the truth. Looks do matter. In addition, most men don't maximize their looks at all. You may look like a completely different man with a better haircut, lower body fat, and new style. However, the only way to know is to do the work to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:24 PM
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I'd say I think there are a lot who both do & don't workout. No judgment eithe way. I just like to check in and see if everyone is taking time to take care of themselves. Your program treating you well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:21 PM
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💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:08 PM
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What’s your goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:07 PM
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Doesn’t have to be just the gym. It can be any kind of dedicated movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:06 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:46 PM
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For the men: There's nothing wrong with enjoying a fun, active sex life before settling down (if that's what you want). If you aren't currently, you may need to build up your sex appeal -- and that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:44 PM
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For sure. I’d agree with that. There was a girl who had a small crush on me once at my heaviest. However, if you want to maximize your dating/sex opportunities, remaining fat usually isn’t a winning formula, unless you’re exceptional in some other capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:06 PM
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Haha. By the way, congrats on the Tinder results as of late man. All that hard work is paying off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:59 PM
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I used to be quite fat myself. I wouldn’t say I got looked at with disgust. Moreso that I just got overlooked in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:58 PM
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Yeah. I think it’s prob because of the social shaming that came with stating preferences. I think times are changing in that regard tho. Everyone deserves to find their partners sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:57 PM
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Completely doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:55 PM
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Absolutely. If it’s something you truly want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:55 PM
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Whatever your heart desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:57 PM
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Remember that everyday is always a new day to get better. It doesn’t matter if you mess up or lose progress, you can still win if you keep moving forward. Be kind to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:47 PM
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Aren’t you the one that said your pussy was loose a few days ago? 🤔 I don’t think you’re a woman homie lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:16 PM
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I'm at the finish line waiting for a particular woman. She has no idea tho. I also don't know where the finish line is, but I'm here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:51 PM
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They can't smash each other tho. .... Unless?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:49 PM
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Ok, this made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:39 AM
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Q4All: What's on your list of goals for 2024? Some goals on my list as we enter 2024: - Explore sailing as a hobby - New tattoo sleeve - Shave another 5-10% bf - Overhaul wardrobe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:06 AM
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Only way this changes is if people stop getting on the apps. Most of the women have. Most of the men haven't. These apps are built to make money. Case in point: Have you ever noticed how little they help men improve their profiles? Why don't any of them say "Your profile ranks below average to other men of your demographic. Based on your ranking, we recommend making changes xyz". Yes, this could hurt self esteem temporarily, but it at least empowers those men to see where they can improve. Datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 11:49 PM
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N is the 14th letter in the alphabet. Thank you for your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:46 AM
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Q4All: How do you objectively determine if you're facially below average, average, above average or elite? What's the barometer to determine this? How often you've been hit on? How nice other people are to you? Something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:26 AM
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Shhhhhhh you're catching on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:03 AM
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Is this gonna be a problem in the future? Why does this make me happy? Ultimately, that's up for you to decide. I've always been of the belief that water finds its level, and don't see much point in trying to convince someone to not be attracted to something if it's who they are. If you get fulfillment out of your current dynamic, then by all means, continue on. Otherwise, if you want to change, then you'll need to put in the work to expand your horizons - a good therapist can be a starting poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:00 AM
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Q4All: Did you work out this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:48 AM
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Revenge fantasies are easier than doing the work in real life to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:41 AM
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Packing up for the big move. Looking forward to reinvesting the savings into other goals. From below average to average. From average to above average. From above average to elite. I'm going all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:24 AM
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Plot twist: You're right - it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:02 PM
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Well ‘gross’ is relative… What is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:25 PM
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I’ve spent my birthday today reflecting on the things I’ve accomplished, and doing a long, hard look at the parts of my life that are still below average. Now I have a game plan to continue my improvements for the next year. We can’t choose where we start, but we can decide how we finish. Let’s go.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:25 PM
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I’m ready to risk it all😌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:32 PM
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u/FineDevelopment00, u/AstronautLoveShack, u/saraimarsena
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:12 PM
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The problem is that many people in general usually overestimate the amount of work they think they're actually doing. For example, thinking they're in shape when if they gave a shirtless pic to their trainer, he would actually say you're quite overweight. Or just putting on some new clothes thinking that's enough to be stylish, when they've invested little in ensuring they fit properly, they're tailored, they're establishing some sort of archetype so they stick out. Or talking to a new woman onc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:28 AM
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I got some OLD stats back: - 14 matches. 9,289 incoming 'no's' (women who rejected my profile) - Best face pic is rating 4.7 out of 10 (below average). OLD isn't my only source, but I'm also get a pretty high rejection rate in person (granted most of them are the bf objection). I have some work to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:11 AM
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I identify with turtles. 🐢
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 07:29 PM
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☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:27 PM
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Reports will usually do the trick. You won't have to say anything, his acct will likely get flagged, and may lose access from Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:03 PM
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I agree with this. Many dudes would drag an average woman along, yet bust it wide open for a Stacy in a heartbeat. To pretend otherwise is delusional. The simple fact is, as always, most people want the best they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:16 PM
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Not really at all. I think in a world of echo chambers, it’s more important than ever to pull back and examine the environment you’re in. Anonymous message boards will be different from real life interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:02 PM
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Ladies, please stop having sex with other men until you meet me. Then at that exact time is when I need you to be a complete freak for me only. You’re supposed to know all of this in advance by the way. Otherwise I’ll become a beta bux, and my life is over. Thx 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:51 PM
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I officially accept that my workout progress is paying off. I’ve never seen this much separation in my shoulders/vascularity ever. Hard work really does pay off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:14 PM
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Breaking: Average guy leaves wife for Ariana Grande. Becky fling, Stacy ring strikes again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:11 PM
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As long as you’re alive, it’s never too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:47 PM
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It's never too late to get better. Just focus on improving one small thing per day. Do that over a long enough time and you'll move mountains.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:12 PM
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The problem with this great post is that it will get brushed under the rug because it requires effort. Everyday, people of all backgrounds decide to change their lives for the better, and they do. Simply because they chose to try. I'm one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:45 PM
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Some are, some aren't. Most of the men I know who do well with women are practical, though. They know they need to have their shit together, (looks, charm, presentation, interesting lives) because they understand women have options and they have to compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:14 PM
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She sounds like a simp. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:12 PM
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I know several men who are sexually successful and juggle a few women simultaneously, and they all say similar things. Red pill is too extreme. It's taken a few truths that have been around forever & repackaged them as revolutionary concepts. The 'harsh truths' aren't really that harsh. Most people want the best they can get. It's that simple. The 'chads' are as sexually successful as you think they are. However, all of them don't want to play the field. Some do get married. The 'chads' also are…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:00 PM
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One of the things I appreciate most about my gym routine is that I can see it in advance. When I see the hard work coming, I can feel my body immediately pulling back, and asking myself "Do we HAVE to do this?" -- all the feelings of wanting to run away. Yet when the day comes, I tackle them head on because the reward is so much greater than a better body. It's staying committed to the hard things, even when you don't feel like it. It's feeling the dread/discomfort & doing it anyway. It's keepin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:02 PM
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Bitter is an interesting word. I'd say it's a bitterness towards themselves that gets projected onto the men/women who had successful experiences when they were younger. The reality is that, as much as we may hate it, everyone is socialized differently. Most average people have average lives, and generally find people to date/have sex with in their 20's, etc. For those who don't, it can be for a whole host of reasons: - No dad at home to learn from - No access to other men who are doing great wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:56 PM
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A friend of my friend got paid $180 by a guy who wanted her to watch him beat his meat. Another friend of mine got paid $300 for feet pics. For everyone wondering why women 'have it so much easier', it may be time to look at the men for the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:53 AM
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Promiscuous woman minding her own business: Man who "hates" promiscuous women yet secretly wants to smash them: 😡
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:03 PM
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hot wife This can mean a couple of different things. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:00 PM
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Gotcha - no worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:46 AM
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There's nothing wrong with expecting what you give out. The complete disgust about competing for a man intrigued me. ​ If I recall correctly, you were the one who used to talk about never being rejected right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:30 AM
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Why is that? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:07 AM
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Interesting. Competing for what I want really doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:49 PM
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I sniff my bread when I pick it up from the grocery store. Don't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:13 PM
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Looksmax is a large claim. Did you ever get your beard trimmed/style put together?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:41 PM
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Because we need to be the victims, otherwise we'd have to face our problems... and we certainly can't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:15 PM
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For me, it sounds a bit naggy. Mostly because I'm more of a 'sufficient but not perfect is ok' kind of person. So I'd have a very short fuse for someone like this. With that said, they are married - and ultimately it's on them to navigate this in a way that's fair for both parties. Working and managing a newborn is no joke. Hopefully they figure it out soon. They're going to lose some sleep for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:13 PM
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I think one thing we all should stop doing is letting the opinion of a bunch of random people sway us away from what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:02 PM
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No. Just respect boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:00 PM
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Sounds like you both are doing your own thing regarding trips, so I'd say no. I'm not married, but hopefully you guys are going on trips together at some point. Otherwise, this seems like it can evolve into a 'tit for tat' thing over a long enough time horizon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:59 PM
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Could be several things: They're just minding their own biz. Not a personal slight against you. There's nothing remarkable about you visually that's grabbing their attention. You're only focusing on women you want and ignoring the ones you don't want (who very well could be looking at you).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:50 PM
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Well don’t dismiss yourself just yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:31 AM
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Got it. As hard as it can be sometimes, don't let her drain your energy. Especially if you don't know her that well yet. You got this. 💪
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:19 AM
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Is it still on?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:16 AM
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Was there supposed to be a date here or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:11 AM
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I'm still laughing at the "I don't see average men having sex personally, so I don't believe them" thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:19 PM
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Did you miss the part about how women aren’t seeing most profiles anyway before they get overwhelmed with likes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:01 PM
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A perfect explanation of dating app ratios.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:40 PM
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Why would she commit her life to a man she isn’t attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:57 PM
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Why would a woman willingly have sex with a man she isn't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:53 PM
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"I am not seeing average men having sex all the time" - What are they supposed to do? Send you sex tapes? The takes in here grow more unhinged by the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:25 PM
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If you have a vouyership kink, just say that my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 07:29 PM
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Q4A: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:01 PM
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It's the only way to argue. Focusing on the facts takes away things to argue about, and we simply can't have that. The ironic part is the push back against anything that actually solves problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:59 PM
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Always thought you were a man for some reason. Can you expand on this comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:16 PM
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Q4W: What do you think about this line of clothing? Too tight? Just right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:07 PM
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Gotcha man. You do you, but this seems overly complicated. Just say hi, get to know her a bit and keep things platonic. If you don’t want that, no worries. Just continue about life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:39 PM
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So what’s the point of trying to ignore her exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:24 PM
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If she has a bf why can’t you just be platonic friends with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:14 PM
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And I’ll say again: How do you know if you’re not her type if you never approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:56 AM
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Gotcha. So how many times have you been abused?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:46 PM
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Yes. The study simply highlights that there are (very understandable) risks in doing so in the workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:25 PM
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None of the stats I posted support this whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:14 PM
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That’s ok to do with women you aren’t attracted to. For the ones you are attracted to, it’s better to make your interests known sooner than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:48 PM
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But chemistry isn’t a shakeup or reliable thing. The only way to find that out is to talk to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:45 PM
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I agree with this. Anything worth having involves effort and risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:27 PM
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Who no one can describe to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:52 PM
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Thanks for your input here. You shouldn’t have to do anything that makes you feel like a man or puts your emotional health at risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:52 PM
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How do you know that’s not you if you don’t try?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:46 PM
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Have you been abused for approaching yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:46 PM
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As long as you understand you chose to quit and that it was your decision to make, it's all good. No woman can force you to sit on the sidelines.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:17 PM
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So we're saying they're not reporting more approaches to the cops simply because the cops wouldn't take it seriously? Why are we moving the goal post? (P.S. We're also debating the actions of 18%. The overwhelming minority.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:13 PM
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Yes, it's sometimes very cruel and painful, but that's only if we let it consume us. In order to hit the ball, you have to swing, even when you strike out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:10 PM
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Well, yeah. It's the same for men. This positioning assumes that women all find the same kind of man attractive. That's not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:09 PM
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Numbers say the exact opposite. Most aren't reporting men at all. Of the reports placed, most have gone to HR.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:07 PM
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This didn't really challenge my view. It's just trying to put the onus on women. Why aren't more men trying?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:05 PM
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All fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:04 PM
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Did you see where half of those reports were made? To Human Resources. The numbers fall off steeply for basically any other venue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:54 PM
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You gotta try. You can't score if you never play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:52 PM
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Yes because men approach more. Higher standards for what? Sex? Arguable. Relationships? Hard disagree. How can women have a deadlock on casual sex if men willingly participate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:37 PM
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How exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:01 PM
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Men do the same thing when it comes to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:33 PM
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How exactly do they control the dating market?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:31 PM
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Why do I believe this ? Besides personal observations, every time I have been up front and honest with a woman how I feel about her or what I want from her and get rejected , the woman in question has respected me for being honest and up front, and their opinion of me as a person increased from that point on. Say it louder for the people in the back. It's better to just be upfront. Yes you may still get rejected, but you'll always be respected for having the balls to make your interest known.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:52 PM
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100%. It's worth it under the right context. Therapy on it's own doesn't do much if you aren't willing to change. The point of it is to help you process things in a healthier way, as well as challenge old, harmful stories you've believed about yourself. You don't need to be under therapy forever. It's just a great resource to have for the times you do need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:03 AM
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It just sounds like regular dating, man. I would focus more on your own self awareness. Let's assume these women have enough options to not waste their time with ugly men. There was something she liked about you. The only way for her to confirm this is to go on a date with you. If it works out, great. If not, no worries. Chemistry is a tricky thing, and it can't be forced. Just keep going on more dates, and make time to reflect so you can see where you can improve. You got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:50 PM
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So as a guy, it is rather pointless to even bother approaching if the ladies have already made up their minds within a first few seconds whether or not that man is a "potential" prospect. Well, yeah. That's how this works. Not every woman will find you attractive. No one woman will find you attractive if you never make your presence known. How can women control a dating market? A market requires two parts to function: Someone with a product. Someone who wants said product. This makes it sound li…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:29 PM
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It would involve a considerable amount of networking over a few months, and the right capital for a venue. Main thing to nail would def be making sure the women were properly incentivized to participate. The rest of the crowd would follow. I'll have to think on it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:23 PM
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I'm thinking of hosting a swimsuit pageant. Never done it before, but it could make for a fun project. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:59 PM
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If these are the choices: Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:09 AM
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I can smell that through the screen. I’m sure it was good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:12 AM
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What was on the menu?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:51 PM
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I actually agree here. I'm a part of a self improvement forum and you'd be surprised how many men want hotter women after they start getting some success. Almost every single time they get some traction, the new goal becomes to sleep with baddies - the same woman that most men want if they had the choice. The ironic part is how few actually talk about their plans to level themselves up to break through the competition required to get with that caliber of woman to begin with. It truly is a sight …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:49 PM
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You just covered a thousand threads in one sentence. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:35 PM
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Did we discuss casual sex today? Just checking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:00 PM
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Gym bunnies are my kryptonite. I talk to several. Got to go on a date with a few. I have a high admiration for the discipline & work ethic. Obviously, their bodies are quite sexy. They're pretty strict on their routines, so I keep the convos short. However, contrary to popular belief, they're a pleasure to talk to. Just respect their time & it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 05:15 PM
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I agree. Confidence is something that compounds through gradual wins over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 11:23 PM
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Two things: I've noticed quite a surge in threads regarding scenarios where said thing rarely happens. - Are people really discussing on the first date how many people they've had sex with? - Or who slept with who first at what time? I think discussions around things that are more likely to happen would be way more productive. Like actually defining what an average man or a Chad is so we have some rubrics to build from. Why do so many of these convos paint men as being so helpless & unable to ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:30 PM
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Didn't have a dad at home. I had my grandad & uncles. Tried to learn what I could. Still figuring stuff out as a I go.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:24 PM
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Is someone actually shaming you or are you making deductions from their preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:57 PM
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LA Fitness has been my gold standard. Literally has everything I need. I would love a more old school type of gym, but those are quite hard to find in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:16 PM
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Talked to a few gym bunnies. All good conversations. Hit a language barrier with 1. I think learning Spanish would help open up more opportunities - especially in bigger cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:38 PM
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I got a 5.04 - 5.1 for most pics. Best I got was a 5.3. Looking at the distribution, it looks like 6 is average, which would make me below average. My dating coach said I won't be able to coast by on looks, so it lines up. Oh well, gotta keep trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:30 PM
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What kind of dating experiences? Good? Bad? Or Both?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:37 PM
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Sure thing man. Always open to support.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:43 PM
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To the dude who posted about feeling stuck in life as a 37 y/o, but kept getting your post whacked - Send me a DM. I'd love to offer some insight on what I've been doing as a late bloomer. You can change, you just need the courage to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:51 PM
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I'm not over 35 yet (close) but I'd say I can relate to this pretty hard. Mostly because it reflects a lot of my life up until recently. First thing I want to say is that you're not alone in feeling this way. There are a lot of men out there who I'm sure are going through similar things. When life doesn't go your way (especially with women) it's easy to feel like things are over. You go to high school/college & see men connecting with women no problem. You want to, but it seems like you're trapp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:51 PM
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#2 for me at this season of my life. For a couple of reasons: It increases the odds of #1 happening should that time ever come (falling in love with someone you don't find sexually desirable seems odd) Love is a two way street. You can't force someone to fall for you. It's rare, and I rather not live my life solely for the rare moments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:08 PM
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It's a lot to keep up with (a 700+ page book) but it's helping me understand a lot of life lessons such as not over exerting yourself for the things you want. I highly recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:41 PM
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Pumped out 330 max on squat today at the end of my routine. Sure I could've got more with fresher legs. Not bad for weighing 199. We'll keep eating well & getting stronger. Been on a routine of really looking after my body/mind lately. There's a lot more I want to accomplish, but one day at a time. Off to read Reality Transurfing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 07:38 PM
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Good stuff. I'm 5' 11" so I still have a good bit of weight to lose before I start looking the way I want, but things are definitely improving. 15% is my next big milestone. Keep up the good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 07:34 PM
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I know very social people who are still single. I know anti social people who are taken. Ultimately in order to find someone, you need to engage with people in whatever capacity you can to increase your likelihood of success. A great social life is not a guarantee that you'll find someone. Like anything in life, there are things you can do to improve your odds of success, but guarantees are impossible to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:34 PM
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I don't really put those in the same area, it's just that those things wreck my progress. When I eat a good bit of sugar, my cravings get borderline unbearable. When I eat things like pizza, I just binge. At this stage of my journey, avoidance works best for me until I get experienced enough to understand how my body functions best. As for everything else: BF - 19.2% Sleep - Averaging 6.5 hrs Training Schedule - 3x/week
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:28 PM
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Been without artificial sweets/soda/pizza for the past month now. My gains are growing in the gym, vascularity is improving, and face is leaning out. A lot really can change in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 06:17 PM
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Q4W: If a man respectfully approaches you/expresses interest in a warmer environment (bars, social events, social groups, etc.) and you turn him down, do you still view him differently for being brave enough to shoot his shot?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 05:49 PM
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What venue?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:32 PM
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Of course rejection isn’t consequence free. You either use it to improve or let it consume you. Rejection keeps apart what isn’t meant to be together. If you’re being rejected 100% of the time, then the only common denominator is you. I want to have quality sex/relationships with women. I also know I’m very unlikely to get approached. So I’m willing to risk rejection to get what I want. Rejection is just a normal part of pursuing what you want in life. P.S. There’s also good sides to this. For e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:51 PM
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I don't think it's really hard for women to admit they care about looks because everything shows they do. There is no shortage of studies that support the fact that the importance of physical attractiveness runs almost even between men & women. Yes "Women love with their ears and men with their eyes" isn't true. It never was true. Now let's ask the real question... Since we know that looks DO matter, what are we willing to do to make the most out of what we have?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:54 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:23 PM
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We're on dial up. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:21 PM
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I'm taking my passport and going overseas because the women are more submissive/feminine over there. Hello? Ladies?? Don't you care? Isn't anyone gonna stop me?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:14 PM
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Last night was fun. Damn. Assertiveness pays off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:41 PM
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5, but only with people you’re feelin’
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:40 PM
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I’ll keep a lookout in my DM’s 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 02:14 PM
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Being upfront and expressing yourself in sexually respectful way sure does make life easier. One thing I notice is that most women (I interact with at least) expect it and are open to it if they’re feeling you. May as well lean into it and go all in. Life can be beautiful when you try to improve. Go be great today 🤘🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 01:48 PM
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Realistically: - Forgiving themselves for their less than stellar upbringing/faulty belief patterns. Just because you didn't grow up like most average kids, doesn't mean you're broken. -Hitting the gym 3-5x/week -Controlling their diets -Therapy -Getting a better paying job -Pursue new goals -Find a support group w/ people going through similar changes -Get style/presentation together -Approach women for practice -Learn photography to take better pics for apps I don't think women are interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:01 PM
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So because they’re average height & weight, had sex with a few men, and developed “masculine” traits, they don’t deserve a relationship? This is an incredibly weak argument. Just sounds like this just bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:01 PM
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This brings up a good question. Did anyone ever agree on who represents ‘Chad’ in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:58 PM
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Cheers to you, slim thick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:55 PM
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Being upfront and expressing your desires really does cut through a lot of the crap. It’s amazing. The responses I get are also amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:09 PM
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Yes. I'd also recommend taking a dose of zinc & magnesium as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:35 PM
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I think there are pros and cons to it like most things. Just be polite & respectful. Worst that can happen is you blow out (like she yells at you or brushes you off), but it will open up your opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:15 PM
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Uhh thanks. No way I considered that already.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:30 PM
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Q4W: How can I study/understand the female gaze? Any good reference points?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:55 PM
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Another woman told me I was hot today. I'd never thought I'd be here this fast - especially when I still have so much to improve on like my style, social stuff, etc. However, I guess it just goes to show what can happen when you see things through. 1.5 years ago, I was extremely overweight, anxious, depressed and dealing with the repercussions of a childhood I wouldn't wish on anyone. Now, with enough hard work, dedication, faith & belief, fantasies are becoming a reality. I'm grateful to have m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:19 PM
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Confidence can be gained. First, on a fundamental level through your values & what you stand for. Next, by setting goals & accomplishing them. This doesn't always mean massive goals. It also means doing the little stuff you said you'd do. Finally, it can be gained through sheer endurance. The more you accomplish, the more your confidence grows. However, goals aren't always reached on day 1. Sometimes they take weeks, months or years. It can be gained, but you must put in the work to cultivate it…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:14 PM
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Two new approaches done today in gym. 1 number but has a bf. One bail due to language barrier. Opted out of another I was 50/50 about. It’s journey/thrill of being a man: Gotta hunt if you wanna eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 02:36 PM
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The TRT injections got me feeling like a new man. Got another date scheduled. Good wins all around. It’s never too late to get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:18 AM
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Self esteem is the culmination of all the good things you build in your life. Keep investing in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:38 PM
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You’re assuming it will take you 10 years to fix this stuff. What if it happens a lot sooner? You can only control the day you’re in. Nothing else. Make the most of it and put in the work you must to get what you want out of life. If you let your past dictate your future, it’s over. Don’t give in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:32 AM
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The cellulite 🤌🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:07 PM
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I don’t know if you’re actually in this situation or not, but if you are, don’t let the answers here stop you from trying. The pressure for men to perform is very much real. Don’t let it consume you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:07 AM
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If there’s one thing my coach is drilling into me is this. Body fat matters significantly for your looks. A lot of the men he knows who kill it with women are ~15% bf (the healthy bmi range for men). You don’t need to be in world-class shape for dating/sex but success leaves clues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 09:49 PM
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80/20 = I want to simplify sexual dynamics to solidify my hopelessness instead of trying. C’mon man, it’s time to let this go. Everyone wants to have sec with people they find attractive. Different people find different things attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:34 PM
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Why should the advice be the same? Also how to we know women aren't telling other women to hit the gym if they wanna improve their attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:15 PM
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Most men aren't hitting the gym either. Nor are they fit. Nor are they healthy. Most of America is overweight. So is the argument that average women's expectations are getting out of hand, and that average men can't get average women because they want the elite men?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:37 PM
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I agree with this. The reality is, you're probably competing against other messages at the same time. Best thing to do would get to get the number a lot sooner (because of what trynabtrad is saying) & it helps isolate attention a bit more towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:31 PM
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Okay, so women aren't entitled to be attractive or desirable at 40+. But 40 year old men are entitled to virgins and 20-something. That's today's lesson. Yes. If y'all can just not come out of the house when you pass 40, that would be great. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:28 PM
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Unfortunate truths that make life better: - Chads have it better than you think, and worse than you think. - Many average/below average men can become their own 'chad' version, if they let go of chad and focus on their own growth. - You probably have above average traits. You just aren't willing to put in the effort to make them flourish. - Women like attractive, fit men. Men like attractive, fit women. - Everyone wants the best they can get, and they will try to get it. - Nobody owes anyone any…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:26 PM
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Men can only learn and improve by working on themselves. That's the exact process. You can only look better physically by going to the gym. You can only get better in conversations by speaking to other people. You can only get a better career if you're willing to obtain the skills for said career. The bottom denominator here is effort. All of these things require effort. Dating women also requires effort. Approaching, going on dates, flirting, etc. A crap ton of inputs to create a chance at gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:19 PM
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Fellas, where do you buy your t shirts from? I'm looking for something that fits my form a bit better in the upper body area.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:15 PM
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If you're a late bloomer, that's ok. Don't let anyone shame you for not having your fun earlier in life. All kids don't grow up equally. This means some reach certain 'finish lines' much faster than others. With that said, don't be upset with those people who don't understand why you haven't done certain things at a certain time like everyone else. They've lived a different life, and that's no one's fault. Instead, spend that time doing what you want to do, and being true to you. You don't owe a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 01:12 AM
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Some of these moms are lookin 🔥🔥🔥 today. Happy Mothers Day 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:26 PM
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Just want to remind all of you that you're doing a good job. You're not perfect, and never will be. As long as you try to improve, that's all you can control. Have a great day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 04:34 PM
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These n count threads are inflammatory. Primarily because they don't solve anything. Men - Already faced with social pressure to be sexually experienced. (Huge source of psychological ED btw) Women - Already pressured to be chaste so they're taken seriously as a partner It would be one thing if the threads were about positive ways to break from these social pressures, yet it never is. Just intentional shaming & projecting. Starting to think many of these threads aren't for "debating" -- they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:22 PM
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The problem here is that it sounds like the relationship is contingent just on how many people she slept with, and not the myriad of other things involved concerning chemistry. This post just seems inflammatory, specifically worded to get reactions & doesn't really invite any sort of actual discussion. Yes, I know it's a debate sub, but I really believe the talking points can undergo a massive improvement. Honestly, what view is there to change here? This seems like basically an n-count post, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:58 PM
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Absolutely. The challenge is, negativity is a spiral. It’s easy to get stuck when those thoughts consume you. As long as you can find a way to move forward so you can carve a new path, that’s what matters most.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 12:33 PM
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Amen. It just goes to show how much we’re socially conditioned to have our entire lives figured out by 30. When te reality is, we spend most of our lives outside of our 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 12:28 PM
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I do it. It works on those who are interested, doesn’t work in those who aren’t. I don’t fault a man for taking initiative when the opportunity presents itself (as most women don’t approach, so he has to, otherwise he’ll risk being single/sexless for a long time).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:48 AM
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It doesn’t matter what age you are, you can change. You’re not doomed, you just have to trust yourself enough to try. Anything worth getting is worth fighting for. Even if you didn’t have a great childhood, your path is not set in stone. You can grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:45 AM
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As a late bloomer myself, this is a bit of a fatalistic view. I do agree that those years are super vital, however, every child doesn't grow up the same way. Most go on to follow the standard timeline of life super fun life in the 20's, kids in late 20's/30's, settle in then go from there. For those of us who grew up on the other side of the tracks, (from broken homes, marriages, etc.) things don't quite play out the same way. While other kids were off having fun, you were probably still dealing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:35 AM
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At least for me, it of course started with motivation. I lived most of my life very overweight, and I wanted to fell confident in my skin for once. The women part obviously played a part. It was apart of my initial motivation, but that faded quickly. After 90+ days in, you really begin to face the true reasons why you're in the gym. Yes, looking good is a plus. However, I've also learned that it does loads for my mental health/self confidence. It also helps you build character. Getting up early,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:26 PM
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Keep going, brotha.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 07:35 PM
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All of this could be avoided if everyone was just upfront about what they want. If you wanna sleep around, just do that. If you want a relationship, just do that. I don't see the point in all this covert activity. Just be upfront about what you want, and make a plan to get it. This would save everyone a lot of headaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 06:19 PM
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Did you guys workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:35 PM
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Solid write-up. ​ It looks like a fungus taking over your face. The savagery.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:33 PM
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The thing that would do the most to repair gender relationships an immediate ban all dating apps and social media. Yes, including Reddit. I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:10 PM
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Sounds like he’s trying to smooth things over. I think it’s better to just attack it head on. From 350k to waiting for money to come in sounds like something is up. He may feel emasculated, but finances affect both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:41 AM
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Had 170 people show up to my social event. I’m so grateful. The tough part is keeping up my social stamina towards the night because I have quite a few 5:30 am workouts during the week. Any ideas on how I can improve that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:26 AM
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I think this could be solved easily if men only focused on women who were actually into them. You guys know you don’t have to settle for women who aren’t into you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:25 PM
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Amen to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:42 PM
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I can't see the post, but I presume the guy found out the kid he was raising wasn't his because his wife cheated on him? Then he got mad and just cut all ties from everyone? Now everyone's mad he refuses to keep raising a child that's not his? If so, I guess I'm part of the few who doesn't think he's the bad guy. No one should have to raise a child that isn't theirs. I agree it's the noble thing to do, but people also have the right to protect their personal happiness/resources in situations lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:50 PM
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Not true. I'm a part of a forum with men who coach other men on how to do just that. The problem is, they don't let anyone wallow in bitterness & anger, so degrading women isn't allowed. They're clear it's going to take some hard-ass work with no guarantee of results. As you can imagine, it's not an attractive offer, but it is for anyone who's ready to take responsibility for their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:48 PM
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I think PPD threads would be 100x more productive if everyone was just honest what they’re after. If you want casual sex, just say that so we can discuss action steps to make it happen. Same for relationships. I think this would add a new dimension of discussion. I also think we should still consider the self improvement thread idea, where people can submit what they’re trying to improve and get community feedback.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:29 AM
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PPD Women and Men - Look in a mirror and repeat after me: "You are completely powerful." "You are unstoppably confident." "You are growing more and more confident each day." "Nothing can stop you." "You go for what you want and you get it" Go forth and conquer 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:13 PM
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Every human acts in their own self interest first because they need to survive. They also have their own personal hopes & dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:15 PM
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I think it would be more efficient for that man to become casual sex material if that's important to him. This would be way more productive than worrying about women who 'sleep up' and expect that all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:36 PM
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I think overall, there's just way less of a need to settle down, and the social pressure to do so has dropped significantly. Everything around us moves exponentially faster than we used to. People are becoming more independent and putting their needs first. A spouse isn't needed. These are good things. As a result, marriage & birth rates are plummeting. This is good. I think people should start being true to themselves and going after what they want. Whether that's casual sex, dating or marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:56 PM
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I don't think broke men ruined dating, as many broke men have, and will always, be successful with dating. I also don't think simply out earning someone is enough to qualify as stepping up. I think one of the main things that's changed has been women gaining equal financial/social freedom, and with that came different expectations. These aren't the days of old anymore. Let's call it for what it is: People have access to potential mates at a level that I honestly think our internal biology wasn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:17 AM
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In my eyes, it's better to try & discover the truth, than not try & wish you did when it's too late. I appreciate the good luck. I wish the same to you in whatever challenges you take on. You got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:02 AM
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Yep! It will be public for two reasons: I'm not afraid to put myself out there. If it brings hope to even one person who has gone through similar things I have in the past, it's worth it 1000 times over.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:17 AM
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The journey of a late bloomer is hard, but I know it will be special as long as I continue to improve. I'm 33 at the time of documenting this. I will definitely return to this later. Current goals on the radar: Improve style Improve photo skills w/ a photography class Taking my real estate investing mentorship Cutting bf down to 15% Starting up my YT channel to document my personal journey Grow my social group in Seattle to 1k members (500 currently) Have more dates + sexual encounters Got a lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:54 PM
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You said so much in so little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:30 PM
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My date yesterday told me that I was way more handsome in person. Her reserved demeanor opened up immediately when she saw me. She said I need better pictures. Guess who’s signing up for photography class🥲 But really, it just goes to show the whole 80/20 thing is way more about rating pictures. Most men don’t take good ones (including me) thus low results. If you want more matches, gotta improve the packaging. Let’s get it. 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:22 PM
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How many women have you talked to this year?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:32 PM
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I don't think it would be that bad, BUT I think it would be helpful for the person submitting their info to clarify what they're looking for (casual sex/relationships) so people can modify their advice accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:09 PM
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I think a self improvement thread would be a solid addition here. Like a “Self improvement Saturday” where people can submit their details and what they’d like help with. Then people can give actionable insights to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:43 AM
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Unfortunately, as much as this sucks, this is only one layer. None of this really tells us about how they’re interacting with women as far as flirting, asking them out, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:13 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:46 AM
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It doesn't really tell me anything about men or women. If she's having sex with you, she clearly finds you attractive. Why complicate it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:36 PM
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If every woman looks the same way, then the problem much more likely that you're viewing them with the same lens. Instead of presuming they find you disgusting, why not approach them and see if it's true? It's easier to avoid the anxiety by assuming no woman wants you to approach them. It's much harder to face your anxiety & discover the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:06 PM
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So if you haven't tried to approach women, why did you spin up a narrative that isn't true?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:40 PM
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How many times did women call you a creep when you approached? Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:34 PM
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How many times have you tried this before you guaranteed that this would happen with everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:19 PM
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If the lesson here is: We like what we like and we don’t need to justify everything — I agree. With that said, there are skinny men who like big women, and short women who like short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:09 AM
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Hmmm… I think it has more to do with capitalism taking advantage of men’s natural desires, and placating them to the point they don’t want to do anything difficult to get their sexual needs met.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:01 PM
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Why not just communicate like an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:43 AM
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PPD Men locked themselves in their own cage & gave women the key. The problem is: Women never asked for the key.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:42 AM
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I think it’s important to highlight that if men could get laid whenever they wanted without commitment the number of men seeking relationships likely would be smaller imo. I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:49 AM
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She looked at another man while I was standing 50 feet behind her 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:20 PM
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Human nature is hypocritical, ugly and not meant to be logical. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you will free yourself from constantly questioning human behavior. Relationships are few and far in between for most people compared to hookups. Sex drive is a powerful force that doesn’t care about your marital status. Are you sure you really want a long term relationship? Why would women doing casual stuff on the side bother you if that’s not what you want anyway? Maybe you can take a similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:18 PM
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We’re supposed to be desirable regardless of how we look, because women definitely don’t care about that stuff. It’s simple. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:37 AM
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I love how this post turned into middle age men getting roasted for completely avoidable stuff. This place is hilarious 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:34 AM
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The 7 steps cracked me up, not gonna lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:02 AM
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I recommend a therapist, brother. These are deeper problems that will hurt every area of your life without professional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:06 PM
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Is that women aren't honest, or is it that men won't listen?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:00 PM
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I'm someone who's lived most of his life without confidence. The only thing that fixes it? Doing what you're afraid of and achieving goals. Yes, early conditioning from supporting parents is always valuable. For many, that's enough to build a solid foundation. However, just because you didn't have that doesn't mean you can't build it. Confidence is built through effort, not the outcome (you can't control that).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:35 AM
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