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ADVICENationalMouse/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 04:44 PM
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This exactly. You’ve been with him so long that not only does this odd behavior strike you as especially strange for him but you also have most likely never experienced a man cheating on you before and this is exactly how they all behave in my experience.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 07:45 PM
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Have you filed a police report? I think you should just to have an official record of the harassment that you can show to him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/26 08:24 PM
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I’m sorry you’re feeling setback. I once read that the reason men get more opportunities is because they’ll read a job description that they’re probably not even qualified for and they’ll just go for it and apply and then they’ll actually get the job. Fake it til you make it. I tried it once and it actually worked until I quit that job to be a SAHM.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/26 11:43 AM
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I personally think sleeping with a man I barely know is quite disgusting and I am genuinely grossed out that so many women are so quick to jump into bed before even the 6th date, but that’s just me. Every man I’ve ever slept with became my serious boyfriend and spoiled me rotten so no regrets here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 02:16 AM
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I happen to agree, there’s really no point in getting married if you don’t plan on having children together. Just live together, keep it simple. But definitely don’t buy a house with someone you are not married to.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/26 08:39 PM
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Agree with this. He sounds like he wants to be pursued instead of pursuing, which a more masculine man would view as a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 07:35 PM
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I highly recommend dating many men at once (no sex, just dating). You are correct to not place all your eggs in one basket. As long as you are not exclusive with the man you like the most then you are a free agent and he knows that. It is his job to move the relationship along and press for more commitment. Plus it’s attractive when you are unavailable to a man because their chasing instinct starts to kick in and they start to see you as a prize to be won instead of a girl who is always readily …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 06:47 AM
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I would never kiss a man who made me split the bill on the 1st date. Immediate ick.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/26 02:54 AM
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He sounds very touch-and-go at this point so it’s great that she likes him but not helpful at all if he doesn’t like her back, which his behavior is telling me. And yes it’s true I don’t know all the facts except for what she shared so I’m assuming these are the highlights and that’s what I’m basing my opinion on. If there’s more to the story OP should very much share all the details because all i have is what she shared and it sounds like he’s just not into her
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/26 01:54 AM
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They’ve only been dating for 3 months and he’s already showing signs of disinterest, pulling away, and stringing her along. Have you ever been strung along by a man? They will say pretty things - such as “sure I’ll meet your friends” - and waste your time with no shame or guilt. And they’re still in the dating stage of the relationship, he hasn’t made any commitment to her yet and thus owes her nothing at this point. I wouldn’t waste my time with a man like this and neither should she.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/26 10:18 PM
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Your friends are right, if he wanted to see you he would. It sounds like he’s pulling away and keeping his options open but since he (likely) doesn’t have many options he keeps pulling you back in just enough to keep you around while he looks for someone else. You are worth more than that. Don’t settle for this type of treatment. Ghost/block him and move on. Take some time to nurse your broken heart (not too long, though, it’s only been 3 months), and learn what you did wrong (I agree that maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/26 06:10 PM
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It’s true you know. I let my husband lead and we bought a condo that I initially hated but after 6 years here I love the neighborhood and established roots here and now we have so much equity in this condo that we can now afford to buy the house of my dreams, which was his plan all along. I’m so happy I allowed him to take charge of that decision. I even told him I would live here forever😂 But he’s determined to buy a house.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/26 07:27 PM
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I think it’s normal to feel like that when you’re only 21 so my advice is to live the life you want now and put it off for when you’re older and actually married. I did exactly that and I was always unsure if I wanted kids but once I got married that was it, I knew I wanted them and motherhood has been the most fulfilling experience of my life. Also, stay off of toxic subreddits!!! I have never in my REAL life met a person who regretted their kids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/26 05:15 PM
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You’d be surprised but lot of people have a funny way of viewing money, especially their own money. It really changes people, I’ve seen it firsthand. I could totally see how a couple could go on and avoid the topic completely until marriage is on the table and then that topic mixed with the marriage becomes very real.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/26 06:58 PM
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It was already a dealbreaker for me, as stated above, so I don’t care if someone sees my boundary as a “red flag” as I was willing to break up over it. I also tried to have the discussion with him and he completely shut me down just as OP fiancé did so it was really my last ditch effort to either get on the same page or call things off.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/26 06:51 PM
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I was exactly in your shoes when I got married to my husband (then fiancé). I sent the following video from Dave Ramsey to him and told him “I hope you watch and consider this advice from Dave Ramsey because i agree with him 100% and it is exactly how I think finances should be handled in a marriage. This is a dealbreaker for me. If you don’t agree then I don’t think we are compatible.” After watching it he completely did a 180 and agreed with me and we’ve never had to fight over money ever sinc…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/26 04:58 PM
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It might be best for you to just put your phone down and allow yourself to be bored without it to see how your mind naturally wants to fill that time. Phones can be extremely habit forming and, dare I say, addictive. Best to catch yourself from spending too much time on them, especially when you’re still so young, and to step away. When I was 21 there were no apps or social media yet and I was bored all the time, filled my time with many interests because I was too poor to take up a hobby (I thi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/26 05:54 AM
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What do you actually do in your free time? Let’s start there. Are you sitting in a dark room napping or are you doom scrolling with the TV on in the background? Also, how old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/26 02:25 AM
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It’s ok not to have male friends when you’re a woman (In my experience it is next to impossible to have male friends because they always want more after they feel connected to you). But if you see someone you might be interested in dating it’s ok to make the first move and disguise it as “just wanting to make friends” and see where it goes.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/26 03:45 PM
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There is nothing wrong with you, if anything just based on what you wrote here I would argue that you are actually normal compared to other women at your age because, believe it or not, it is normal for women to want to form a connection before sleeping with someone. Unfortunately hook-up culture is so prevalent in today’s dating scene (especially college) that young men tend to come to expect it now and young women are so quick to give it up that you can’t really blame the men for expecting it.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/26 05:13 AM
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Elevate your look so that you feel like you’re hotter than them. Work out. Highlight your hair. Fix your hair every day. Put on makeup every day. Wear clothes that highlight your figure. When you do these things you’ll eventually feel like you’re on the same level as some Instagram celebrity.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/26 09:50 PM
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Hunny I don’t know any other way to put this but I think your relationship has run its course. If your body is having physical reactions at the thought of staying together and even living with him it’s probably time to let go. I understand that he is your first real boyfriend and that is something extremely hard to let go of but I think you need to just be single for a while and understand yourself better before settling down. Don’t tell him that you find him unattractive, nothing good will come…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/26 07:17 PM
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Also, stop discussing size with your partner. If you do find one that’s dissatisfied with your size then she’s probably promiscuous and you don’t want to be with a promiscuous partner long term. Women who don’t sleep around are 100% looking for connection and place less emphasis on size.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 06:14 PM
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100%
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 06:00 PM
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Sex is more than size, it’s 90% about performance and being present emotionally and spiritually. Use your hands a lot and try connecting with her soul during the act. The best sex is when a man can really connect with you. I can tell when a man watches too much porn or has had too many partners because they can’t ever seem to connect with me during sex. It sucks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 05:54 PM
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It’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion in the ocean.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 05:07 PM
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I came here to say self-care and I see that’s the general consensus here😂 I feel sexiest when I’m wearing cute little outfits around my husband and take 15 minutes to do up my makeup, even if I don’t go anywhere that day. Eat healthy food and get some sunshine. Become obsessed with yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/26 05:31 PM
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I think after he buys you a new Louis Vuitton you’ll be more than happy to to write him a sweet little thank you note😄
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 07:21 PM
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That really sucks but you knew this about him before you married him so don’t expect him to change now. If that were me and he wouldn’t buy me gifts then I would reach for the sky and ask him for the most beautiful expensive handbag (or whatever you love and want the most) I know he can afford. Honestly the best way not to feel resentment if you have to pick out your own gifts is to pick out a really beautiful expensive one that you would never buy yourself. You might feel that’s out of the ques…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 04:41 PM
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He’s keeping his options open because he already got what he wanted from you. Best to not waste anymore time trying to figure him out.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 02:33 AM
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That’s change-your-life kind of money, are you really not going to allow someone to change your life because he likes Elon Musk? I grew up extremely poor so maybe I view money differently than someone who’s never had to worry about it but I would try to find some common ground before just writing him off. Best case scenario is you two have a lot more in common than politics and he woos you and then you become a couple and can tell friends that you have totally different views so politics isn’t d…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 10:38 PM
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I don’t find it weird, if the ages were reversed it wouldn’t be weird so I wouldn’t sweat it if he is mature for his age.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 12:31 AM
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Here’s what helps me: on a day or night where you’re all alone and you know you’ll have the home to yourself for a while, do your hair and makeup extra sexy so that you’re really feeling yourself, like to where you think a man would be crazy not to want you then and there. Then lie down in your bed with no pants on, play some soft music, close your eyes, just start exploring yourself with your hands. If you don’t like porn maybe watch a movie where there’s some soft core stuff going on just to g…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 07:35 PM
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It is in a man’s nature to want to protect and be with a nice girl. Don’t fall for the tricks of the rest of the world and society. You deserve so much better.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 05:42 PM
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When a man finds a sweet girl and “doesn’t feel romantic” towards her, I take that in my old age (37😂) to mean that he’s probably been with a lot of women and it has disrupted his ability to connect with anyone. He has lowered his standards so much for quick sex that a nice girl (which is what most normal men desire) doesn’t give him the excitement that, say, that one stripper he slept with in Miami did that one time. I think it’s gross. Glad you told him to forget your number, now you can truly…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 04:04 PM
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She’s definitely all that and more.☺️ How do you think she snagged a husband? Although he came with his own baggage too (as do most men at this age) so not like he can be too picky
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 09:39 PM
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Not true at all. My sister was 35 with 2 kids, a hot body, and a pretty face when she got a divorce and her experience? So many men still wanted to date her. Why? In her words “Men want to date an age-appropriate woman but the only problem is a lot of women don’t look good for their age.” So if you look good for your age over 30 you’re golden. Now she is 47 and married to a wonderful provider and even moved to a better city for him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 05:13 PM
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Until you find a new roommate, start baking cookies “for my boyfriend” and cooking special meals “because my boyfriend loves lasagna!” Wear cute little dresses and tell her “I hope my boyfriend likes it but if he doesn’t I’ll just take it off ;)”. Be the Yin to her Yang but in a positive way since she sounds so negative, you will need some positive feminine energy in that home until you’re able to move out.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/25 07:52 PM
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Why aren’t you bringing up your feelings and concerns in the moment? If he says something questionable then ask about it right then and there. I’d probably do it in a cheeky, playful way. Him: “My wife and kids are going to love camping with me” Me: “Wow they sound great, I hope we’ll be good friends still and I’d get to meet them too.” Or “Hopefully your wife is okay with me still being around because I dont plan on going anywhere” After you have a good laugh just be honest about how that makes…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/25 06:40 PM
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Yeah I dated a guy with one kid one time and the baby mama drama was nonstop (we were also both very very young) and I learned to never date a man with kids again unless we were both 38+ and the man had a good relationship with the mom, not a tumultuous one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/25 03:49 PM
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In my opinion, this will only work out if you do 1 of 2 things: 1. Keep things as they are and allow him to pursue you, not the other way around because if you start to pursue him and he still isn’t ready for a relationship he will end up resenting you for changing the dynamics of your “situationship” and I’ve never seen a relationship work out where the woman chases the man. This is a risk because he may never be ready for a relationship but may like having you around at his beck and call when …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/25 06:58 PM
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Sounds like he just wants a pen pal, such a turn-off. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/25 04:57 PM
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I agree with this take completely. I know this sub is against encouraging people to break up so I wasn’t sure if I should voice this opinion or not😂 But seriously, if it bothers him this much there are plenty of other men who would see the work you’ve done to be better and wouldn’t even ask such a personal question. I’ll bet if you even break up with him tomorrow and go no contact for 30 days he’ll come running back to you with a completely different mindset and would most likely never bring it …
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/25 06:49 PM
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Yes, you should go on more dates and not put all your eggs in one basket. Also, stop spending the night with men you’ve just met, even if sex isn’t happening since you almost did have sex anyway. The reason you feel so slighted is because you lowered your boundaries for him when you weren’t expecting to. If you can’t trust yourself around someone then don’t put yourself in a situation where you may feel used after. However, if it were me and I knew a guy I liked was going to another city just to…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 07:49 PM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/25 10:57 PM
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Huge red flag! 10000000% deal breaker. When a man is into you they will often move mountains just to get to talk to you. Block and move on, he is stringing you along and those are the worst kinds of men. Our time is too precious to waste on an on-the-fencer when it comes to relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/25 06:41 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this, breakups are tough! The best thing to do is to always cut contact with the person once and for all, not because you hate him or don’t wish him well, but because you need healing and closure. I’d advise you to just block his number (and all his social media) for your own mental health so you can start focusing on yourself and what you need to work on to move on. I’m not sure of the terms of your online circle but can’t you just find a new one to join? Is it po…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/25 07:57 PM
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Ghost him and move on. You don’t owe him anything or any explanation. Make birthday plans with other friends and keep them, it will kill him knowing that he hurt you and you were so quick to move on that he will regret ever hurting you and being such an idiot. Telling him that you know will only give him, a known liar, the chance tell more lies and try to convince you to stay. You deserve more! Sorry this happened. Sending love 💕
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/25 03:20 PM
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I think when it comes to online dating, if you’re truly interested then just sending a “Hi” is all you need to do, men should really be doing the rest and should be asking you out. I think creating an opening to ask you out is a good idea but don’t do the asking yourself. Something super simple such as “That’s really interesting, I’d love to hear more about that some time” gives him the opening to move forward and shows you’re actually Interested in meeting. But keep the “talking” stage short an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 06:37 PM
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I agree that 3 dates is all you need to really give even the most seemingly incompatible man a chance to prove that he’s interesting or interested enough to go further with you. Dating should move through 3 phases: •Dating - where you both are seeing eachother regularly and should be seeing other people too (Don’t put all your eggs in one basket yet). He should always pay and you should always look nice. This phase should last no longer than 3 months before moving to the next phase. • Exclusivit…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 05:43 PM
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Absolutely, I wouldn’t entertain it either and I love the way you put him in his place and held your boundary. Him blocking you was a gift, at least now he isn’t going to waste any more of your time since he’s obviously using apps for a cheap hookup like a LVM would.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 06:02 PM
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This exactly, when a man wants you he will move mountains to make sure he can see you no matter how busy he is. Granted you two haven’t even met yet and so he is dragging his feet. Move on, sounds like he just wants a pen pal anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/25 06:24 PM
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That’s infuriating. Absolutely not. I prefer masculine men and that is so passive and beta I’d be immediately turned off. I don’t date men unless they’re absolutely excited to see me and this is not it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 05:00 PM
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I don’t like hookup culture either, I think it’s quite gross considering women take all the risk. I always wait until commitment. You also easily weed out the ones who don’t want anything but a ONS.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/25 10:16 PM
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Exactly true. Hookup culture is so toxic and frankly it disgusts me that women are willing to give it up so easily to the point where most men just expect it now. Thankfully I am married now but while I was dating I could never and these guys looked so confused.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/25 06:26 PM
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Never in all my years of dating have I ever offered to pay for a date until maybe like 6 months in and then I’ll start offering to pay for fast food for him or just show up with his favorite beer, things like that. Or if there’s a trip we are planning to go on together I might offer to buy the plane tickets or something and maybe treat him to 1 or 2 meals but I still expect him to pay for most of it😅 Sorry not sorry, I expect my man to court me and prove that he’s willing to take care of me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 12:28 AM
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Don’t let him see your dirty underwear, wear something sexy to bed, stop cleaning up after him and just keep yourself tidy, never ever fart in front of him, let him know you think his farts are gross too, I even keep my poop mysterious, seriously I wait until I can’t hold it and then I make a quick trip to the bathroom 😂 The only way he knows I pooped is when he hears me spraying and he makes fun of me for pooping because I act like I’m shy about it but really I don’t care (we are married after …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 10:54 PM
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Men absolutely slack after marriage which is why it is highly advised that you not live with one until he commits with a ring. Living together prior to marriage only gives him wifey benefits without having to commit in any way and that’s why he’s slacking. I would pull away a bit if I were you, be less available to him even though you are living together. Take up a workout class or spend your free time studying at the library instead of going home. Let the mystery build up if you can, make him t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 10:47 PM
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What do you mean you’re left with chores? Are you living with these boyfriends? Or going to their place and doing their chores for them? I ask because 23 is still quite young to be living with someone but I would advise not living with someone until you at least have a ring from him. That’s a huge reason these guys, being young themselves I assume, get comfortable so fast and start taking advantage of having someone clean up after them. An important part about being a woman that you may or may n…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 10:34 PM
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To put it bluntly, I think the only thing that would turn off a HVM is a high body count.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 12:08 AM
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It’s just a habit most of us pick up in junior high. Plus, as my natural looks fade I figure out ways to make myself look young again with makeup tricks. Most people are also nicer to me when I’m done up and look pretty (especially men lol) which is a nice incentive.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 04:33 PM
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Personally I would never sleep with a man unless he were my boyfriend/committed to me. Hookup culture benefits men only, women take all the risk and leave feeling empty and unfulfilled. A man who demands intimacy as a precursor to commitment sounds like a man who I’d want to stay far away from me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/24 02:04 PM
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The natural progression of dating is: 1. Dating (vetting, having fun!) 2. Exclusivity (both parties agree not to date anybody else) 3. Relationship (Intimacy can start happening once you are in a committed relationship) 4. Marriage (Women need to inspire men to get to this level of commitment by following RPW values) You move through each stage by inspiring your man to do so, it should always be his idea to move through each commitment stage just like when it comes to sex, it should always be th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/24 08:44 PM
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Then what exactly is keeping you from leaving? This sounds like a horrible person to be married to and a terrible situation to be in. Clearly your values don’t align, you said so yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 02:29 AM
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SCAM SCAM SCAM. DO NOT CLICK THE LINK
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/24 09:41 PM
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I have never pumped my own gas while I had a man in the car with me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 04:29 AM
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And I always put a steamed vegetable as a side and make sure he eats it, makes him feel taken care of.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 11:54 PM
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I used to watch a ton of YouTube cooking videos before I braved cooking all on my own. Once I got a general idea of the technique I just started doing it. There’s literally a YouTube video for every dish you can think of. If you’re cooking for your man, I highly recommend learning how to make steak and shrimp. Men go crazy over steak and shrimp and it is surprisingly easy to make.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 11:44 PM
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I would just tell him to go for it if I were you (so long as your company policy allows it). “You wanna get a coffee sometime? Call me.” Keep it simple but leave the ball in his court and please keep us updated!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 08:04 PM
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Yes. Have fun while you’re young with the right man aka the one which you intend to marry.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 06:31 PM
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A man’s most valuable resources are 1. His time and 2. His money. If he isn’t spending at least one of those on you then he isn’t worth your time or energy. A good morning text costs him what… 5 seconds? Not good enough. Time to move on. And if he spends his free time texting you and not actually seeing you in person? Then he just wants a pen pal… again, time to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 10:45 PM
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Not true at all, this is the bare minimum and most men are willing to do the bare minimum if it gets them sex. I always say unless he’s there for you in person and/or spending money on you then you are in fact a fwb, doesn’t matter what his other actions are.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 10:08 PM
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This might be terrible advice but at 36 I’d honestly tell him to forget the ring at this point, please just give me a baby because at least that’s SOMETHING you can control. You can’t control when/if he ever proposes but at least you can get off whatever form of birth control you are using and just let him know that whatever happens happens because you’re done waiting for a ring and you want a family before it’s too late. I bet that’ll light a fire under his ass. His reaction may even tell you e…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 09:45 PM
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I would 100% take this as a bad sign/red flag. A real man knows what he wants and if he’s sending mixed messages there’s no point in wasting time trying to figure anything out when he obviously doesn’t have anything figured out himself. You’re lucky you’re so young and are learning this now before you waste years on men who never figure it out and try to confuse you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 03:33 PM
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This!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 01:24 AM
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I know what you mean and I’ve totally been there, dating is hard but it can also be so much fun. The more fun you’re having the more desirable you are to men and they just want to keep on courting you. I waited until we were exclusive to sleep with him about month after meeting because he was pretty much begging me to be his gf. In the meantime he was showering me with gifts and lavish dates. Since I was looking for a good provider (Top of my list) this was extremely attractive to me so I agreed…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 06:34 PM
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Yes actually. Now he is so hot to me and I don’t know why I didn’t see it before😂
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 01:40 AM
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Honestly if he checks every box - good provider, good husband, good looking - sex is the last thing on my list. He’ll think it’s good no matter what and you can always grow to associate love with desire.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 01:25 AM
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Exactly, but some people are funny about money and don’t feel comfortable talking about it. Especially men who know they make a lot of it and are worried about “gold diggers” and such. Women aren’t exempt either, some get married with tons of debt expecting their future husband to help them pay it all off. This is an important discussion to have before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 06:53 PM
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Talk about money! Make sure you are both on the same page as far of spending habits and sharing bank accounts. When I got engaged I even went so far as demanded to see his full credit report because I wanted to make sure I knew everything before giving my whole life to this man. Of course I showed him mine too. Also, if you’re not living together yet then being engaged means you can finally move in together and not feel like he’s stringing you along. Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 02:40 PM
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You are so right. The fact that she made him work so hard to get to point where maybe he actually developed feelings and felt like he was invested probably made him even more inclined to keep running back to her after all the damage he did to their relationship. It was always her job to cut him off after the first red flag. So many true RPW become “the one who got away” for this reason, we don’t put up with a low-value person’s bs. It seems from her posts that OP kept taking him back so she knew…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 06:21 PM
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In my experience, if a man thinks he could get away with lying once, it means he has no problem lying in the future and has probably lied before. Absolute dealbreaker for me. I’d confront him about it head on and tell him you know the truth and you’d like to know why he lied, then take some time to decide whether you want to continue the relationship after the trust is now broken.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 07:22 AM
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All great questions: I was 33, we had been dating for 3 years and I was starting to resent him for wasting my time since I was very clear since our first date that I wanted to get married and start a family and he said he wanted the same, so why was he dragging his feet? To me it wasn’t exactly an ultimatum, it was more like “We obviously have different goals, you’re obviously not ever going to propose as you haven’t even talked about it since 6 months after dating and frankly you’re wasting my …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 05:32 AM
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I gave my husband an ultimatum. I was DONE, like for real done. I had a new place to live lined up and everything. He cried and begged me not to leave and I still refused because he “wasn’t ready”. Literally one week later we were shopping for engagement rings so I never left and told him he can propose however he wants whenever he wants except for Christmas. They need to know you’re serious and have to really face the thought of losing you, and you have to be ready to face the reality that he m…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:13 AM
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This approach sort of makes her sound bitter and upset as though she’s angry she cannot pursue a relationship with HIM when her goal is to sound aloof and indifferent to the circumstances. I like the first approach better; she doesn’t owe him any sort of explanation as this “relationship” was never a serious one to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 07:22 PM
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We had family coming over to visit so I told my 2 year old to let Daddy fix his hair. He spiked it up with gel and me and his grandma kept telling him he looks handsome when he does his hair. Later on he was putting on a show and dancing for everybody to all the songs I usually play for him throughout the week. One song in particular tells you to “Touch your head!” so he stops and says “No I don’t want to touch my head because my hair looks handsome”. The crowd roared with laughter. So adorable.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/22 07:41 PM
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Same here, As long I/we floss regularly I honestly see nothing wrong with only brushing in the morning😅
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 10:04 PM
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Personally if it were me I’d want to know. Send screenshots as proofs. If you’re truly concerned for your safety as if you really think he’d come after you then don’t do it but, honestly, you know the guy’s wife and where he works so what could he possibly come after you for?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 12:18 AM
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Same here I only read the financial part and I have to say, it saved my marriage! When we were engaged and trying to figure out the financial aspect of our marriage I found her advice to make so much sense and helped me approach the topic with my now-husband as he makes a lot more money than me so I was nervous to broach the topic of money with him even though we have similar mindsets when it comes to spending. Now I get an “allowance” and he is not allowed to criticize how I spend it when I wan…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 11:20 PM
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What is your situation? Are you already friends? Do you know if he’s interested too? Do you talk regularly or is it more of a social media friendship? I’ll admit it’s easier to ask a guy out when you know he’s already interested, otherwise you’re taking a shot in the dark and should be prepared to face rejection if he isn’t. The trick is to accept the rejection with dignity and try not to give it much thought and then move on with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 03:27 PM
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Since you see him often now I’d flirt a little bit and then ask him out to coffee the next you see him. “You wanna grab coffee some time?” At the coffee date, tell him you’re interested in dating him and let him do the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 04:41 PM
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Are you already following each other on social media? If not, start now and add him. This will let him know he’s on your radar. Ignore him for a week or so to see if he reaches out first via social media. If he doesn’t, simply “slide into his DM’s” and say “Hi”. Wait for him to respond and then ask him out. Let him know your intentions, “Would you like to go grab a coffee sometime?”. While grabbing coffee, let him know you’re now interested in pursuing courtship with him and allow him to do the …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 03:54 AM
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Victoria’s Secret and Macy’s are my go-to for satin sets like this one. I also love to sleep in a good slip dress
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 01:17 PM
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By someone who matches my RMV. I’m fit, I dress well, and I take good care of myself, I also have a good job and pay all my own bills. If you’re fat, unemployed, own 1 pair of old ugly shoes and still live with your mom because you spend all your money on weed then don’t “hit on” women who are way out of your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 08:39 PM
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I’m actually dying to know too. Cmon OP tell us!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 05:19 AM
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Oh my goodness, I must have missed the part where she said they were long distance. This changes my whole perspective now and you’re absolutely right.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 04:45 PM
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Thank you. Same to you!💗Childbirth should be beautiful and yours will be too, I believe that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 09:26 PM
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Respond to the negatives with positives! “That’s what’s so incredible about our biology when it comes to child-birth, as soon as we see and hold our baby, the serotonin levels in our brain takes over and we forget all about that pain.” It’s true, I experienced it once already (after 9 hours of excruciating pain) and I’m honestly so excited for that moment again when my 2nd will be born in a few weeks. 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 03:22 AM
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Wish I could upvote this many times over. I can’t even begin to tell you how many women I know (myself included) who wasted years with men who told pretty lies when their actions didn’t match what they were saying. Don’t be one of those women. Pay attention to his actions and what he’s doing to make your dreams together a reality.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 07:02 PM
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And Pray for peace!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 12:42 AM
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My husband is an athlete first and needs to be exercising or playing sports to feel good about himself which brings him lots of ailments so I rub his back and neck a LOT and never complain. I cook for him and sometimes bring him breakfast in bed which he loves because it makes him feel pampered. I do everything for our dog and baby because he works long hours and makes a lot more money than I do and I keep the house tidy because he pays for us to have a cleaner come twice a month and deep clean.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 04:00 PM
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Good take! I have a great job as an Admin so I’m not exactly making 6 figures but I love my job and my company and he makes a LOT more than I do so he does support our fancy lifestyle and I never ask him for any of it, I let him lead us to where we spend and I try to show appreciation where I can but according to him I’m not appreciative because I’m messy and “don’t clean” (which is definitely not true and actually hurts my feelings when he says that because now I don’t feel appreciated). And I …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:55 PM
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PIVOT!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:47 PM
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The thing is, one of the things he says he loves about me is my sense of humor but at the same time he gets super angry when I lightly tease him so I thought making jokes would get through to him but maybe it would just piss him off more. And I’ve tried to take him to couples therapy when he comments about divorce (which has happened more than once) and he refuses and thinks it’s a waste. He says his problem is that I don’t accept any responsibility for my actions but I tel him “what actions!?? …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:28 PM
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He just has a lot of personal issues that he should get resolved on his own… dad left when he was 8 years old, raised by a strong woman who expected the world of him, now he expects the world of me and I can’t deliver because nobody ever expected anything from me so I kind of cruised through life pushing myself and that was always good enough for ME so shouldn’t it be good enough for my Husband? I’m not a bum or loser or anything, I’m actually successful in my own right so I just don’t understan…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 02:51 PM
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Thank you for this! I too struggle with an overly critical husband! I swear it’s like me and OP are tied to the same man. I’m at my wits end! As a matter of fact, he’s even told me he wanted to divorce me because “he can’t trust me” when it comes to taking care of housework. Ridiculous I tell ya! And, not to mention, very demotivating. I guess I will have to take a humor approach with this man because I really am trying my best but with him it’s never good enough or he will just find something e…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 02:23 PM
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😂I love Ross Geller!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:13 AM
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So much this!! Red flags all around, he left you and blocked you and expected you to mourn the relationship forever and now he’s angry that you didn’t? Who the heck does he think he is?? I’m getting major emotionally abusive vibes and that is not okay. He is low value and you should probably move on and block him this time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 05:03 PM
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That’s perfectly fine too, every culture is different. For me at 29 years old I was living on my own with a roommate and wanted someone who could take care of himself too and to me that meant not living in his momma’s house. In the U.S. it is not normal for a man to live at home past the age of 30 and if he is it is usually a sign that he can’t afford to which means he most likely spent his 20’s jerking around when he should have been working towards a career or something and If that’s the case …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 01:50 PM
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We met on Tinder when I was 29. My advice would be to give every eligible guy out there a chance even if he isn’t your usual type. I went on a lot of first dates and used to have so much fun dating and when I met my guy I thought he would be the last guy I could fall for. He seemed to really like me right off the bat which can be off-putting to some women but I enjoyed having him as an admirer and eventually fell head-over-heals for him. My only criteria used to be he has to be taller than me wi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 02:35 AM
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And she slept with him on-what I’m assuming is-the first date. The best way to keep him wanting more is to not give him any, men need something to chase to stay motivated but that isn’t likely if he’s already had it so soon.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 05:17 PM
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Why is this being downvoted? It’s one perspective that isn’t even wrong?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 04:32 PM
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Which is why I NEVER frequented that sub, Reddit is toxic. I only started using Reddit again for THIS sub in particular and a few others I find enjoyable. But the echo chambers in most other subs is exhausting.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 06:14 PM
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This reminds me of the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”, however you may think or feel about the movie there was a LOT of truth to it. If a man REALLY wants to be with you, he WILL find a way to be with you and he WILL put forth the effort. He won’t keep you guessing because a quality man knows what he wants. If he keeps you guessing then he’s just not that into you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 05:52 PM
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Lying is a deal breaker for me. I’m not saying to break up with him but just remember your standards and keep the bar high. You deserve better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/21 06:28 PM
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I find that tight fitting clothing and heels makes small, petite women look more womanly and a plus is that you can pull it off without looking totally skanky (think Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw), unlike me with huge (natural) boobs so everything tight fitting looks like I’m trying to show off the girls😩
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 06:52 PM
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I thought the exact same thing. When we first started dating, my now-husband (who had very high RMV) kindly asked me to remove the 3 Bikini photos I had posted on Social media. He said he didn’t want other men to think of his future wife sexually. I agreed with his point and took them down; I figured a potential husband is more important than a few hundred likes on Instagram.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 10:55 PM
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Wow - I’ve had a totally similar experience except I am 34 and just had my first child, completely unplanned but I believe it was meant to happen this way. If we had planned it I probably would’ve been 36 by the time DH was ready but who knows. We did meet when I was 29 too! My mother is a drug addict and never did normal mother/daughter things with me, she didn’t even take me bra shopping for my first bra! I had to figure it all out on my own. Having children of my own terrified me and the man …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:54 PM
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I don’t plan on having a dinner party but I just watched 4 videos. Bravo!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 06:59 AM
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I agree. It wasn’t until I had a child of my own that I fully appreciated a stay-at-home mom’s role. I always admired these women but I couldn’t fathom giving up a career to stay home with children. Now I can see that it is soooo much more important to raise children that become good people, and smart people, and definitely to be well-rounded people than it is to be a corporate slave. It is now my goal to be a stay-at-home mom and I told my husband I would much rather do without the small luxuri…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/20 04:02 PM
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Check out: Locket by Crumb; Backyard Boy by Claire Rosinkranz; ily (I Love You Baby) by Surf Mesa; Vibe (If I Back it Up) by Cookiee Kawaii; Shining by DJ Khaled & Beyoncé; Classic by The Knocks
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 03:52 AM
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Funny you should bring this up because r/TheRedPill has recognized Groundhog Day as a red pill movie many times. Great post.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/20 06:13 AM
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You may be right but I draw the line when a person defends those who HARM CHILDREN.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/20 06:01 AM
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I would not recommend moving in with a man who you are not engaged to. I would definitely not advise you to move into a man’s parent’s house. You don’t want to get stuck there and not be able to leave when it hits the fan. If you have your own apartment I think you pretty much have it made, your own space away from him is a bonus when you just need a break.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 05:06 AM
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A lot of the posts in r/JNMIL sub are toxic and give toxic advice! This one is actually pretty mild in comparison to all the crazy stories I read there where I actually think the DIL is in the wrong or is the toxic one yet everyone panders to the OP of every story giving terrible advice. I, for one, would love it if my MIL or anybody sent food my way so that I wouldn’t have to cook and she doesn’t even seem to impose her company on them, she just drops off food and leaves? Sounds like a dream in…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 04:26 PM
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Yes, especially for boys. I want to raise a strong but happy young man.
/r/RedPillParenting10/03/20 02:55 PM
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My IUD had a significant effect on my emotional well-being. I had it removed after only 3 months and it was the best decision. I was experiencing your same side effects, depression and moodiness and overall feeling of dread. My advice is to get rid of it and ask about non-hormonal contraceptives. I think diaphragms (big in the 90’s) should make a comeback.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 07:27 AM
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Dave Ramsey saved my marriage before I even got married! God bless him
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 04:58 AM
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I’m 8 months pregnant with my first but everyone I know is telling me to live in my girdle as tho my life depends on it.
/r/RedPillWives21/02/20 02:30 AM
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This is very true, my now-husband shortened my first name to something no one else calls me while still dating.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/20 05:14 PM
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Personally, I don’t think you need to follow any certain “rules” when it comes to sleepovers that don’t involve sex. As long as you’re both comfortable enough with each other that you can spend nights just hanging out and not having sex and still respecting boundaries then there’s no such thing as “too soon”.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 04:22 AM
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Smart move.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 01:10 PM
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I think you’re right to have your guard up. I would definitely vet out that journalist and do a google search of other articles she’s written in the past. See if she fairly represents both sides of the topics she reports on. Also vet out the site this would be published on as sometimes these journalists are imprisoned to their editors and things get cut up to fit the editor’s preference of what direction they want the publication to go. Then maybe ask the journalist directly what her thesis is f…
/r/RedPillWives28/01/20 05:01 PM
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Congrats!!! We eloped too this past June and all I brought with me was a second-hand designer dress of my dreams from preownedweddingdresses.com and hired a hair and makeup person and a photographer. Be sure to invest in a nice dress and photographer! You will want those pictures for the rest of your happy lives together! Have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 05:46 PM
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Watch it once in a while? Fine, whatever. It’s there, it’s free, and it’s sometimes hard to resist the temptation, so I get it. Addiction? Very damaging to a relationship and to the individual. He will begin to have unrealistic expectations about sex and women and I would want no part in that. He should be putting his time and effort into being a better man not on some silly website with naked women.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 06:01 PM
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My point was simply that showing jealousy when there is no reason for it can be destructive in a relationship. I never said anything about bottling up her feelings, just to keep an eye on them.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 05:52 AM
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AGREED. I don’t mean to make you paranoid, OP, but I would keep a close eye on them 2, and never show that you’re jealous unless you have proof that their situation is becoming inappropriate.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 02:17 AM
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You hit the nail right on the head. I once went on a couple of dates with a guy who looked great on paper; good looking, good job, good family. But while we were out he was really boring. I wrote it off as maybe we just didn’t have anything on common but here we are 6 years later and he’s still single and complaining all over social media about how he can’t get a girlfriend. You can’t just tell someone that they’re boring unless you’re really good friends with them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 04:53 PM
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A Fuckboy is a boy who pretends to want a relationship to get sex from a girl whom he knows that really likes him. Deceitful. I wouldn’t necessarily compare a Fuckboy to a “slut”, at least a slut has more dignity because they are up front with what they want. A Fuckboy is a liar and a deceiver.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 03:52 PM
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You obviously love him and he seems to love you too based on what you’ve told us, but love doesn’t pay the bills, love doesn’t push a content person forward, and love certainly doesn’t make a boy into a man. If I were you, I would give him a good kick in the butt and make your exit easier for the both of you and move out. I would tell him that I don’t want to break up (yet) but I do need to see some action from him. Move out, get a roommate, make it a point to only spend weekends and maybe one d…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 05:42 PM
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Here’s some advice: Stay far away from bartenders, musicians, and personal trainers. I have yet to meet one that is relationship material, they’re mostly just fuckbois who let their job become who they are. You’re better off just staying away from them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 02:29 PM
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Ideally: 1st date within 2 weeks of meeting/showing romantic interest Exclusively dating within 3 months of the 1st date Boyfriend/girlfriend status aka Commitment within 4-6 months of 1st date (Sex should start after commitment) Engaged 12-18 months after bf/gf status established Married within 12 months of being engaged NO LIVING TOGETHER until married (or at least engaged with a date set) The faster a couple can get through the steps the better, so as not to waste anybody’s time, but a couple…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 05:03 PM
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If he yells at you/loses his temper over something minute.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 10:03 PM
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Vetting a guy is SO SO SO IMPORTANT. Recognize the red flags and then just leave! Don’t make excuses for a guy just because of his sob story or the fact that he has an appealing or cool lifestyle, he’s not relationship material if he exhibits multiple red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 07:39 PM
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That girl in particular just doesn’t look good brunette, it has nothing to do with men preferring blonde but more to do with how SHE looks as a blonde vs. brunette.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 01:00 AM
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Then yes, block him and move on, you’re 24 and have plenty of options!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 07:03 PM
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Don’t ghost him. If he does message you then Definitely respond and tell him you don’t see the point in meeting up, you’ve already said everything you need to say and his actions have shown you what you already need to know. Then say you made other plans anyways and can’t meet up, then go to the gym or a friends house or something. Wish him well. He will respect you more for standing your ground and not falling into his trap. I’ve done this several times to guys who’ve tried to string me along a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 06:45 PM
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Millennial here! My husband and I eloped because I told him I’d rather have an awesome ring and a vacation than plan a $30,000 wedding so we went to Paris and Nice and I have the 2 ct. diamond solitaire ring of my dreams. I bought my dress 2nd-hand for less than $1000 and hired a photographer in France. Best decision ever.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 01:01 AM
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I’ve been brunette all my life with a few little highlights. Then I went full on blonde and I did notice that I got more attention from men. For this reason I stayed blonde as long as I could but did get fed up with the maintenance since I’m not a natural blonde. I recommend going to a stylist who specializes in making you blonde and work with her until you get the lift that you want
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 03:00 AM
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You put this so eloquently that I just wanted to add to it that this is why you don’t tell guys that you’re a Virgin on the first date. Instead, make sure he’s interested in a relationship first. It’s really none of his business to begin with and it may take a few more dates to realize what his intentions are. If he’s dating just to sleep around then you will be able to sniff it out without telling him you have an N count of 0.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 03:55 PM
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Please take your leftist political BS to r/politics .This is not what RPW is for.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 05:01 AM
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You sound very closed-minded and judgmental yet you are calling Trump supporters “shitty stupid people”? That’s pretty hilarious. Do you understand the irony of your moronic statement? I suggest you stop reading fake news and try to understand why it’s okay for people to have a different political opinion than you. Try logical thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 04:58 AM
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They broke up 10-15 years ago, she never left and always tries to hang around his friends. He met and married someone else a few years after that, and it didn’t work out. He’s 40 now, I’m 32. He was 25 when they broke up.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 03:44 PM
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Check out online diamond stores such as bluenile.com or jamesallen.com. These stores sell certified diamonds for almost half the price because they pay no overhead. For you I suggest a 1 ct. solitaire round shaped diamond, your man will thank you and you’ll get a gorgeous ring
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 05:33 AM
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I’m afraid if I kill with kindness everyone will think I’m okay with her being there and then will keep inviting her, and I’m definitely not okay with seeing her again after this. Or I could just be overthinking? Thanks for the advice!!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 04:27 PM
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Lol although I like where your head is at, I don’t think she’s trying to rile me up. I genuinely think that she just has no friends and is willing to do whatever it takes to prove to ME that these are HER friends too, even though they’re Not, my husband literally plays golf with these guys every Sunday and Wednesday. I do hope that remaining calm does... something? I just don’t want to ever see her face again after this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:12 AM
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Whisper something in his ear that you k ow will make him smile. I love this advice. I get what you’re saying but it’s really hard not to see through her manipulation and connivance and then have to spend our time with a person like that, especially if she is going to be at every event from now on. I didn’t even mention that when we first started dating, she messaged my husband that she “thought about him”. Shes just so inappropriate and doesn’t respect our relationship from I can tell. But who k…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 09:26 PM
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Thanks for this. And believe me, I am VERY pissed off at SIL but I don’t have that bond with her because she lives far and doesn’t really get along with my husband so it’s hard to form any connection with her.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 08:39 PM
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Oh believe me I am VERY pissed off at SIL but since she’s family I can’t really say much but husband totally handled her well. Idk what, if anything, to do about her because she’s going to hang out with whomever she wants but at least she doesn’t try to bring the Ex around us.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 08:38 PM
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That’s what I mean that she’s manipulative! She knew if she offered her house up for the party that she would for sure be invited. His friends are the type who avoid confrontation and drama and they are all very nice people so I think they were just being nice by letting her come after we rejected her offer. Thanks for the advice, I will certainly try my hardest.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 05:18 PM
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You’re right, being calm and feminine is the only way to handle this situation. I did talk to my husband about hypothetically the next time we have to see her and he got angry and said he is not going to stop hanging out with his friends because of her. I told him I can’t control who his friends hang out with but I can control who I hang out with, and he thinks I’m being immature. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that but your advice confirms to me that there isn’t. Thanks a lot for ta…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 05:15 PM
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RPW gives better advice on dating/relationships than any other sub on Reddit, assuming you actually like men and want to keep a good man in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 12:10 AM
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Do you think it’s normal or appropriate for her and his family to still visit each other? They’ve been broken up for 15 years, I find it strange. It wouldn’t bother me if she wasn’t actively trying to befriend him all this time either.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 08:46 PM
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Was thinking the same thing. I went through a similar experience with a man, almost exactly the way OP described her husband treating her was how my ex was treating me; gaslighting, always angry for no reason, exploding, punishing me for minor mistakes or for telling him how he made me feel. A few months later I found out he was cheating on me. I’m not saying that’s the case here but I wouldn’t rule it out because it was the first place my mind went to.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 06:15 AM
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How would you deal with an Ex girlfriend who won’t go away? She is now married but his family loves her and visits her often. All his friends still visit her occasionally too. He doesn’t talk to her at all but she’s always reaching out to him on Facebook and he’s polite to her but not interested in pursuing a friendship with her but she won’t take a hint. Our paths crossed and I had to meet her and I was friendly but she made little snide remarks to me about the fact that we were eloping (we elo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 06:18 PM
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I’ve always been very suspicious of it because as soon as you turn 12 years old, doctors try to use it to “cure” you from any mild symptoms you may have such as headaches, acne, heavy periods, etc. That is just very suspicious to me. I tried it for 3 months, gained weight and started having suicidal thoughts that I’ve never had before! I would never use it again and I strongly advise against it to everyone I know.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:34 AM
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Not true, I know plenty of women who met their SO from a dating app, and 3 of them married him, myself included. There are guys on there who are open to relationships and marriage, it’s up to us to find them and not dismiss them or judge their profile so harshly. These men are out there.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 03:14 PM
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Ask for his advice and then actually use it. That is a big one because he will see you putting his advice into action and that will make him feel damn good and respected.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 08:58 PM
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I find that stroking his ego helps me feel better after I acted up. I tell him how handsome he is and how lucky I am that he puts up with me at times, and let him know how much I value and respect him. The key is to make him feel good so that you feel better for making him feel good.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 07:06 AM
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Thank you for this, glad somebody said it. Every time I hear the term “rape culture” I roll my eyes. Just because there are some jerks who rape women and get away with it doesn’t mean that our culture here in the U.S. condones that type of behavior. If you cry that someone raped you then that man will be investigated and prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law and I don’t personally know anyone who thinks that course of action is unacceptable. I also believe that one is innocent until proven…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 07:23 PM
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I think it’s a good idea to wait and see how the 2nd date goes because what if you realize you don’t even like him that much after all? Then you can save the uncomfortable conversation and just let him down easy because that’s how dating goes. If it goes well and you’re already planning a 3rd date, tell him before the 2nd date ends. This is how I would play it: Usually guys expect a kiss on the 2nd date, I’d tell him when he goes in for the kiss. “There’s something I should probably tell you...”…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 04:29 PM
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Are you planning to be abstinent for the entire relationship with him? Or just during the vetting process? Your post was not clear but if you are just trying to vet him to see if he is boyfriend material then I don’t see any reason why he needs to know that information whatsoever. But if you are waiting until marriage it might be good to bring it up sooner rather than later like you said.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 04:15 PM
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Thanks for this!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 09:52 PM
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This exactly. It’s great that you are owning up to your part in his EA, now put it into action to become a better you. Keep your gym appointments, learn the importance of gratitude for everything in your life, shower your husband with appreciation, and prove to him that it won’t be like it was before if he comes back. I think men respond better to actions than to words.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 03:38 PM
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About 2 weeks, I actually cancelled on him for our first planned date. I was serious about going into nun mode, I didn’t want any dates for a while. This took a huge hit to his ego because he’s used to girls fawning over and “throwing” themselves at him since he’s a rich good-looking guy - so I definitely stood out since I was not doing any of those things, and frankly I didn’t care. So he just had to know why I wasn’t interested so he invited me to a gala he had to go to for work which I immedi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 05:03 PM
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He exhibits a huge red flag, I wouldn’t pursue a relationship with him if I were you. Run away and stop giving casual sex to guys who refuse to commit. You are the one who wants to change the dynamic of your original agreement (casual to LTR) so you will have to be the one to walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/19 09:39 PM
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He asked me to be exclusive on our first date! I love when a man knows what he wants so I just went with it since I was about to go into nun mode anyways and already cleared the bench of any dating prospects. Dating for 1.5 months before I became his girlfriend, then another 2.5 years before engagement, then another year before the wedding because he insisted on waiting a year. Yes knowing whether we want the same things just comes up naturally in conversation within the first few dates. That’s …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 02:26 PM
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Unfortunately I only have experience with dating on Tinder and Bumble. I like the apps because you don’t have a bunch of random guys sending you messages, only the ones you swipe on can send a message. Also, I’m from a very liberal city and I found that the guys around me were way into hookup culture and I wasn’t, I wanted a relationship, so I made my settings reach 50 miles out because I knew I was willing to move for the right guy and wanted to tap into more conservative cities where the guys …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 05:36 PM
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I was 29 and he was 37! We met online and he was divorced w/no kids. He is also very handsome and very successful. There is no way we would have ever met each other if it weren’t for online dating, we’re getting married next month. Don’t worry about a thing, he is out there for you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 04:29 PM
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I have never confirmed a date, that is the man’s job. If he doesn’t confirm, then he just lost a date with you, OR he can wait for you in case he does show up and you happened to not make other plans. There are plenty of fish in the sea who would confirm.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 11:06 PM
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Same here. 20-24 hrs works for me, been doing it for years to maintain my figure.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 08:03 PM
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I agree because I was thinking the same thing - if you aren’t his girlfriend then you are still in a gray territory. You aren’t even exclusive yet so it’s hard to say what he is thinking. I would have a conversation with him and just ask him if HE is seeing anyone else, then tell him you aren’t and don’t want to because you like him and just want to see how this goes. Once you both agree to be exclusive then the relationship can naturally evolve without the distractions of other people getting i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 12:34 AM
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Delicious!! Thank you I will try this
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 11:51 PM
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I don’t normally use panko bread crumbs but I needed a quick meal so I just mixed Mayonnaise with Ranch Dip powder and some garlic salt and rubbed it all over chicken thighs and baked it. Fiancé LOVES it. Anyone have any ideas for chicken thighs? They’re his favorite and I always run out of new things to do with them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 10:28 PM
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I’ve had serious LTRs with a man who had divorced parents and a man who did not and I can verifiably confirm that the man who’s parents were still 25 years married was much more stable, much more long-term thinking, and much easier to have the relationship with. Sure everything is fun and exciting when it’s new, but when the going gets tough, men need to have a good strong example of relationships in order to know how to handle them well. I wouldn’t trade my fiancé for anyone, though. He is a st…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 04:27 PM
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For a first date? I say get all the basic questions out of the way. Let the real vetting happen over the course of the next few dates (if it gets that far). You basically want to make sure you’re compatible on the 1st date, so don’t put too much pressure on it. And if you really like the guy, the point of the 1st date is to get a 2nd date out of it. These are basic questions I usually go for on a 1st date because they will tell you if he is driven and motivated and also what drives and motivates…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 01:01 AM
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Ivanka Trump Jennifer Aniston Amal Clooney Jojo Fletcher (Bachelorette) Joanna Gaines Love women who are cute and feminine, love their man, love their family, and have a great sense of style. I am obsessed with Amal because I’m dying to know how she got a man like George Clooney to marry her, I think we can all take notes from her.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 03:15 AM
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Any tips on how to make a small, crowded apartment feel comfy and cozy?
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 04:27 PM
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Sweetie, if you are not happy with your living situation, then just leave. You’re not married or obligated to stay so I don’t see why you insist on waiting around for him to make decisions. There is nothing wrong with telling him “I love you but I cannot live with your sister another day and I am moving out to find a place. You are welcome to come with me but I need to know now because whether you come with me or not, I’m out.” If he decides not to go with you then that’s his loss. You don’t hav…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 07:54 PM
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I wear them every day, even to work. I watched a few tutorials on YouTube to learn how to clip them in. When they’re fresh out of the box, they look very sleek and natural so I wear my hair completely straight with them, and use Bobby pins to style my bangs, like Jennifer Aniston style. I started buying a 2nd set just for curling for when I want to go out, you can definitively curl them but they last longer if you use no heat, thus the 2nd set. I put them in a ponytail sometimes and just use Bob…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 01:56 PM
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Show genuine interest and curiosity about him. And don’t take the date so seriously, as you would in a job interview. Be fun and light and laugh easily. If you have an easy laugh, it won’t seem like a job interview.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 03:43 AM
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I made sure I had a social life away from him so I didn’t come off as too clingy at first. I make sure I am always dressed very feminine, even if I just wore jeans I would wear heels. My hair and makeup is always done, then and now. Hair extensions are my best friend! (The clip-on kind from Sally’s Beauty) Listen to him speak, ask questions about him, let him open up, the best way to get a man addicted to you is to have an emotional connection with him. Find a common ground and he will never wan…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:52 PM
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Yes I loved that show! They were so girly
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:13 AM
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Pet names are my specialty!! They’re my favorite!! I give one only to my favorite people! I suggest to try playing with his name. Is his name John? Call him Juan Pablo when he’s being sexy. Or Steve? Call him Esteban. Matthew? Call him Matty Cakes and then spank him. Or think of an animal he resembles. Holly Madison used to call Hugh Hefner Puffin because he kind of resembled a penguin and I think that’s really cute. Or take something he likes and play with it. My fiancé LOVES basketball so I ca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 02:00 AM
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You totally just described my man. All 3 LTRs he had before me were much lower SMV than he is: he’s 6’3, athletic, never misses the gym, 6 figure salary, and very handsome. His Past LTRs are all at least 4 points below him. The one thing they all had in common, other than being particularly plain looking, is that they all make really good money on their own. I think he was just looking for someone who wouldn’t take advantage of him. I am nothing like them, although I had a good job when we met, …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 08:51 PM
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Nothing but Pros with multiple dating. I can’t seem to think of any Cons. And yes, it is important to never sleep with a guy you are just dating. Kissing is fine. What I love about multiple dating is it allows you to try new things with new people but it is important to date with a purpose, and that purpose is to fall in love and eventually get married. How else are you going to vet these men? You can’t just put all this pressure on one guy and expect him to be everything you have been looking f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 10:50 PM
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Same here. I cringe every time an older actress comes on TV who looks REALLY GOOD for her age yet my fiancé thinks it’s alright to blurt out “She got ugly!” “She didn’t age well at all”. I tell him “She is 50 years old and looks amazing.” Or “You’re not that great either”. Because it makes me think he isn’t going to appreciate me when I’m 50 and look like Jennifer Aniston (which I can only hope)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:21 AM
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Exactly, and if I had a friend who was a self-proclaimed feminist and she asked for advice I honestly wouldn’t have a problem telling her “Well, first of all, feminism is toxic so you might wanna start there” because if I didn’t, I’d feel like I was doing her a disservice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 08:08 PM
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It’s a huge deal-breaker for me. Unless they have kids there’s no reason to remain friends with an ex.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 02:54 AM
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Set standards and follow-through on them. That’s it. That’s how you have self respect. The easy part is setting standards, the hard part is the follow-through. Set standards for the kind of relationship you want and set standards for yourself. Don’t lower them or make excuses for when you or the person you’re dating aren’t reaching those standards otherwise what the point. For example, perhaps in the future you would prefer to date someone who doesn’t feel the need to keep in touch with an ex-gi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 02:26 AM
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I met my fiancé on Tinder! I was about to take a break from dating altogether when we matched but he seemed genuinely excited about me. I admit that I wasn’t as excited and totally flaked on our first date and made up an excuse. A few days later, he invited me to a gala as his date and I jumped at the opportunity as I had never been to a gala before so it seemed much more exciting than dinner and a movie. He was nervous about taking me because for him it was a work thing and he still hadn’t met …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 06:16 PM
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Wow thanks! I will try all of this, I never thought of the overnight oats idea. I just found a ton of recipes for it on Pinterest.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 08:12 PM
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Ugh if only it were this easy. My man HATES eating leftovers and HATES sandwiches, so what am I supposed to send with him for lunch?? :( I don’t make him breakfast because I have to leave very early to start my day and he tells me he usually arrives to work very cranky because he hasn’t eaten. His assistant grabs his lunch. Everything else I do already and I’ve paid off my student debt. I guess I could wake up 15 min earlier to make him a breakfast sandwich (the only sandwich he does like) but t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 07:12 PM
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It’s true, I hear yoga instructors say this all the time which is why a lot of yoga focuses on stretching out those hips
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 01:34 AM
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In my opinion, the best thing a family can do is allow one parent to stay home and raise their children as opposed to paying someone else to raise them. Parenting is an extremely important job and I admire the families that make sacrifices to make SAHM/D work for better or worse, for richer or poorer. Having raised decent children to become decent, functioning adults is more important than the toxic ideals feminists have today.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 01:15 AM
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Glad you asked! Getting married in June because I, too, followed all these principles even though I already did follow about 80% without even knowing it. Cooking for my man and controlling my hamster are the main takeaways I get from this subreddit. We are crazy in love and couldn’t be happier.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 05:57 PM
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I wanna see more of Marie just talking to us and giving us more tips!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 06:02 AM
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Right. Sometimes you have to break up in the name of love, it’s all part of growing up and sometimes your desires change and you may want different things (you want to have an exciting job where you get to travel and he wants you to give that up for him). It doesn’t make either of you a bad person but you are not wrong for wanting what you want out of life. It’s your life, live it to the fullest with no regrets! P.s. My good friend did DCL for a year and said it was the best time of her life
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 09:16 PM
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Do NOT sleep with him Try to dress like a cute little snow bunny (I love wearing my white snow jacket, white gloves, and purple pants when I ski) If you’re good at skiing, take advantage and show off. If you’re rusty, take advantage and see if he lingers behind to stay with you. Laugh a lot. Nothing is cuter and flirtier than playing in the snow, but make sure it’s genuine I think a super sexy and feminine thing to do is make everyone hot cocoa by the fire, so make sure u pack some.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 11:52 PM
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This seems too forward. I would ask “Can I call dibs on a bedroom?”
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 11:42 PM
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Yup! It’s okay to have standards and if one of your standards is complete monogamy then there is nothing wrong with having that expectation for both parties.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 01:20 AM
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Yes that TED Talk was the first thing that came to mind! Personally I abhor small talk as well. When I’m on a date instead of asking “What interests you about basketball” I want to get down to the nitty gritty, I want to know what drives a man. I want to know what made him get into it in the first place? How did he become so good at it? What was his journey like that got him there? I don’t care about basketball either but his answers will tell you a lot about him and men love to talk about thems…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 03:43 PM
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Well OP mentioned she lives in a country where Polygamy is allowed but never mentioned how she felt about it. If OP was totally against the idea then I guess a divorce would be the best option because now he’s changing the dynamics of their marriage. She seems to be semi-entertaining the idea, though— which is why I’m not sure how to advise her other than saying good luck and maybe she can try to enjoy sex with her husband like you recommended.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 02:45 AM
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I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, this is actually the best advice I’ve read. All the other comments are telling OP to get a divorce? Seriously?? This isn’t some guy she’s dating, that’s her HUSBAND and they’re MARRIED with a FAMILY. Divorce should be OP’s last resort, not the first thing that comes to mind if her husband offends her. Good luck OP.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 02:21 AM
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Exactly this, and to add to that, a high-value man won’t respect a woman who works a part-time job yet expects to be taken care of, so why would he date her to begin with? OP used an example of her mom meeting her dad while her mom was a cooking teacher. So guess what? That’s a respectable job that requires a skill. It proves she was driven and ambitious enough about food to go out and learn more and teach about it. I have a personal example: my fiancé makes 6 figures and on our 4th date he told…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 08:03 PM
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How rude, he could at least to say “thank you” geez. It wasn’t like you were a stranger. I think it was a sweet gesture and macaroons are a great idea! Keep me updated, maybe you’ll hear from him after we get thru the holidays.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 07:51 AM
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Exactly this! I already knew my man pretty well before living together, nothing surprised me. Still wouldn’t recommend it tho.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 10:00 PM
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Same here, I wouldn’t recommend either. Only reason I did it was because I negotiated so that it would actually benefit me, and he wanted me to live with him so bad that he gave me whatever I asked for. I hated my job, he lived 45 min away from my job so I could move with him and still work the job I hated while finding a new job that was closer. He charged me less than I was paying for rent before with a roommate (I insisted I didn’t want a free ride). I also told him that being engaged before …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 04:42 AM
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My man hasn’t because I don’t show it. I always start off with a blow j and just pretend it’s the only thing I’ve been thinking about all day. Since he’s a good lover he always returns the favor. Before I know it, I’m suddenly in the mood! The secret is enthusiasm.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 02:27 AM
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Yes, because he pays my bills and it’s the least I could do in return, aside from cooking and cleaning and taking care of our dog.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 01:23 AM
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Same here, always was attracted to my fiancé but didn’t really get the butterflies until I made out with him on the 5th date. After that, it was game over. If the initial attraction is there, give it a chance and see where it takes you. It usually works out in our favor this way because guys can sense when you’re not as into him as he is into you which makes you a challenge to him, and then he can’t help but pursue you, it’s just in their nature to do the chasing. Once you finally let go and dec…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 07:36 PM
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I agree with this, group settings is where it is an exception for opposite sex friends. My ex bf had big group of friends, guys and gals, that he was very close to. The only time the girls ever texted or called him was to make weekend plans. The only time they had deep conversations about guys they were dating, family issues, etc. was in person right in front of me and I was always included in the conversation. I eventually became closer to these girls than he was because they valued my input. E…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 10:56 PM
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Exactly, it is not an insecurity it is merely out of respect for each other as it is logical to assume one would be attracted to the other.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 01:07 AM
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He dumped her friendship, actually. It was a very complicated situation and thus a long post because I needed advice. I deleted it because the comments were so toxic but I stayed true to my standards and made it clear that I was uncomfortable with his ex-gf and I got exactly what I wanted. She is no longer a factor.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 12:49 AM
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You were right not to post this question in a different sub-reddit, those people are vicious! I posted a question for advice regarding my fiancé who was “friends” with his ex-gf and was attacked and accused of being “insecure and jealous” just because I have old-fashioned views as well about having friends of the opposite sex which is why I am soooo glad I found RPW! Learned my lesson there. Anyways, I firmly believe that men and women do not need to be friends, especially ex-girlfriends. There …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 12:04 AM
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A holiday card actually isn’t a bad idea, but if you send it to his office you run the risk of a receptionist opening it and he might not even see it. A personally-delivered small holiday gift/thank you basket maybe? Like homemade cookies?
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 09:01 AM
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I disagree, I’ve heard of plenty of doctors who date hot nurses. And OP knows him outside of that setting, I think she can definitely find a new doctor and pursue him
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 09:49 PM
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Only because OP’s sister doesn’t have a real reason to feel weird about the doc other than the fact that she used to be engaged to his friend. So why rock the boat and make her sister feel weird for no reason if it doesn’t even pan out into a serious relationship? Although now OP has clarified that her sister doesn’t care at all, so of course it’s no big deal to tell her.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 09:44 PM
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I see... well you did say you are 28 so I’m assuming you’re active on social media. If so, definitely find him there and add him, hopefully he has an active profile too. It wouldn’t be weird because you just recently bumped into him. I think the trick is to befriend him outside of the doctor setting that way he sees you as a friend outside of his profession. Send him a direct message after a few days and let him know it was great running into him the other day, if he’s smart he’ll take that oppo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 09:23 PM
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Agreed, except I personally think 27 is still too young for all that baggage. Getting involved with men with kids and an ex wife is not something a single girl with no kids under 30 should have to deal with. There are plenty of good men out there under 30 without all that baggage. By the time you turn 30 is when you kind of just make an exception for that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 07:17 PM
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I don’t think the fact that he is friends with OP’s sister’s ex should even be an issue. I say her sister doesn’t even need to know about him unless things get serious. OP isn’t by any means betraying her sister by dating a friend of sister’s ex. I say go for it and if it does get serious then gently let your sister know how much you like him and that you want her to be accepting of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 07:07 PM
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My fiancé is actually great example of this: He works out every day, in great shape, 6’4”, handsome, and makes really good money. Before he met me he was also a serial monogamist, never been the player type to sleep around. So of course I had to check out the ex-girlfriends.... One was just a basic, Plain Jane girl, doesn’t wear any makeup, and super Catholic and conservative. Nothing special about her. They went out for 7 years! The next girl was a pretty basic looking Latina girl, again no mak…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 11:18 PM
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Yes! Clip-in extensions are life! I was pretty much bald until I was 3 years old and my hair has never been full and beautiful like most women’s hair is. I wish I had discovered the joy of clip in extensions much sooner!! And now I spend at least $300 a year on new hair and it is worth every penny. I also only brush my hair when it is dry and only once a day, in the morning. Also, invest in good hair products. Salon-brand shampoo and a quality leave-in conditioner and heat protector goes a long …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 04:43 PM
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I cannot tell you much I HATE hormonal birth control and I don’t understand the women who swear by it. I guess we are just built differently from them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 03:31 AM
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I’d like to know some of the experiments you did to help your husband see through his friends’ true intentions. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 01:24 AM
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Can I just say that I’m actually pretty attractive, if I do say so myself, and I have always been known as being Funny. So much so that my whole life guys have fallen hard for me, even the ones who didn’t get a first date, just because I made them laugh by not having to try so hard and this makes me seem easy to be with. So no, pretty girls aren’t “not allowed” to be funny. I would highly recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 03:52 AM
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It CAN happen, ladies, if you are always warm and open minded about meeting people. Your story is similar to mine... I met my fiancé on Tinder. His bio was kind of boring, his pictures were very vanilla, and he had his head completely shaved, which I hate, but he did mention that he likes to travel and was 6’4” so I figured I’d at least talk to him (because that’s 2 checks on my list). Our first date? He invites me to a gala so of course I accepted! We were both dressed up to the nines and we ha…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 01:10 AM
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•Okay so- intellectual is a good thing. It makes you interesting and able to form an educated opinion and no man wants to marry an air-headed bimbo anyway. So why do you feel the need to be argumentative? Being smart is fine but when you’re a smarty-pants to the point of obnoxious and have a need to prove people wrong, that’s where the line should be drawn. It is important to develop a way to have discussions without offending people and definitely without becoming argumentative. I would suggest…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 05:10 AM
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Lol that’s pretty accurate, although I don’t baby him at all he usually just goes out and picks up takeout food. This sub usually advises women to have a fully stocked fridge but I prefer to stock it with healthy options and just wanted some tips on what to keep in it
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 09:46 PM
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My man hates to sandwiches and hates eating leftovers. Do you have any suggestions on what I could pack him for lunch instead? He makes it so hard because he also works from home a lot and literally just snacks all day on chips until I can come home and cook for him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:17 AM
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This!!! Also, wouldn’t you want to share the same name with YOUR child whom YOU gave birth to?
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 05:51 AM
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To add to that, don’t post a lot of selfies. Guys really hate that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 03:49 PM
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This! Times a million!!! I can’t tell you how many girls, esp. girls at work, who are a hard 6 and I just look at them thinking “Man, if she just added some highlights and stopped eating greasy take-out at lunch every day (because I always notice when girls I see every day get fat) she could EASILY be a 9”. It really is not that hard once you start making the effort it’s actually hard to stop because it’s fun being pretty
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 06:36 PM
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Keep taking care of yourself and your body, keep doing feminine things, and I know a good man will come will come Your way regardless of your career. Just make sure you make time for him and make him feel like he is just as important as your career. I happen to work with many men who describe their wives as successful doctors and lawyers. One man I work with even admitted his wife is more successful than he (they’re both lawyers). A GOOD man wouldn’t feel threatened by a humble yet successful do…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 05:50 AM
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Honestly, they don’t come back. These types of men don’t have the abundance of sex they have lead you on to believe they have or perhaps as you just assumed. Most likely he is missing out on sex and thought that he could get it any time he wants when, in reality, he was only getting it from you. He wouldn’t commit to you because he thought he’d always have women at his disposal. As soon as you left, he realized he doesn’t, starts scrolling through his address list and probably started to hit up …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 07:48 PM
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Because no gal wants to end up with a beta-bux. And if OP plays her cards right she can vet for a better man without raising her N-count, like I did. I don’t know a single Red Pill Woman who would waste her her time with an “Alpha bro” who’d catch and release her. That’s the whole reason vetting is taught to those of us in this sub who know we have high SMV
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 02:46 AM
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I was going to say this IS get over-able before I knew how young he was (23 is very young) and that this just happened 3 years ago! He definitely needs to get some help before past comes haunting him emotionally and then YOU are going to be the one he takes it out on, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 09:22 PM
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I don’t think she sounds rude at all. As a RPW myself, I actually agree with about 99% of what she is saying. She comes from the same perspective that we have here as a community, that if you want to look good and feel good for MEN (not for society’s new standard of what looking good means i.e. SJW) then you gotta hit the gym and put in the effort to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 01:13 AM
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Had exactly the same thing happen with me and my captain. He initiated the divorce and ex-wife would not let go, she wanted to “be friends”. No kids, no mutual friends. I knew why he let it go on, he liked the attention and felt bad for divorcing her because he didn’t love her anymore. After being a silent observer to their relationship and us dating exclusively for a few weeks, I told him their relationship made me uncomfortable because she was obviously still in love with him and she would tel…
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