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| 1 | (28m) scared to talk to women.Just go out and explore and finds ones you like and don’t like. Make it an adventure and have courage to go out alone if you have to. Some places have a bar section that’s quitter with a dance floor elsewhere. There’s a cool black light bar near me with places to sit and sorta mingle but yea sometimes the music is loud. Just gotta lead if she’s feeling you. Bounce to another venue or get food. There are also themed event nights too sometimes. There’s also country bars, or goth/emo clubs, or just… | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 02:48 AM |
| 2 | (28m) scared to talk to women.I was like this growing up for the longest time. The solution is brute force basically, with repetition. It’s going to be tough at first but the more you do it you start to see that the fear response you get just from the thought of opening your mouth isn’t accurately reflecting reality. You’re creating that fear based on your ideas of what you THINK will happen. Go to clubs (easier to get a lot of volume in) and just talk to both guys and girls, develop resilience and you will get there. | /r/seduction | 08/07/26 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Heartbroken by ex saying the sex was badJust read through all 60 comments. I was in a similar situation with my ex couple years ago and we even had a place together. Unfortunately we just couldn’t connect sexually and she told me similar things although I loved giving oral and apparently you find it boring so that can def be a contributing factor. Probably signaled to her that she didn’t feel very desired. And yea I still think about it and it still bothers me because like you I feel like I wanna redeem myself somehow. Sometimes my ha… | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 08:59 PM |
| 3 | I feel like I wasted my youthTime to put in the work. Watch Actualized.org videos on YouTube titled “how to get laid” part 1,2,3. These videos go deep into what women actually find attractive and what turns them off. Then start to take action and don’t get too caught up in the theory as it will come with time. Go out to bars/clubs 2-3 days a week and push yourself to approach. Over and over and over. You will get better over time and learn. It’s not easy but hardly any guys do this. Challenge those limiting beliefs that you… | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes I just don't get girlsThis happens a lot. Even when you spend the whole night bar hoping with a girl, grinding and dancing together, getting physical, even her letting me drive her car to other bars (I was sober) and finding out she literally lives 1 minute from me and likes the same niche band I get left on read/friend zoned. In my mind I thought we were vibing and hitting it off but apparently she didn’t see it that way or I somehow did something to turn her off? I even seen her out at the bar many months later and… | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 01:16 AM |
| 2 | How the fuck are meant to meet women if you don't like socialising?Should you give up? Depends how badly you want it. If you don’t want it bad enough then you’ll never be able to justify the time and energy required to not only socialize, but to approach, get their info, setup dates, plan dates, follow through, successfully conclude the date, not act or talk in ways that repel the girl, possibly get into a relationship, successfully manage the relationship so it has the highest chances of lasting, etc. You really have to want it. Personally I’d invest that time… | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 05:44 PM |
| 27 | How much does being muscular actually help with attraction?Usually guys who hit the gym and have a decent amount of muscle are more confident and the confidence is what’s attractive. Also being more fit increases your sex appeal. Doesn’t have to be anything too crazy. Hit the gym for your own health and fitness and let the benefits carry over to attraction. But if your goal is to just get laid then having muscle is not needed. Just play the numbers game as bars/clubs and refine your approach as you go. | /r/seduction | 20/03/26 03:32 AM |
| 2 | How do I build the confidence to approach someone I’m interested in at a place I see regularly?We’re all going to die and if you want to talk to a girl just do it. If she rejects you great, you weren’t attached to her in anyway so you can move on and find someone else. If she is interested then great, you can set up a date or get her number. Could do it after a workout too as you’ll feel more confident then due to all the endorphins. Confidence comes from repetition. But just remind yourself you’re only getting older and that I’d rather try and fail than fail to try. | /r/seduction | 17/02/26 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Dating advice for submissive guysI mean I like both dominant and submissive girls but this sounds more like general dating advice. Can you give an example of something a guy is doing because he thinks he should compared to how he wants to act? I can think of many instances where this advice would backfire. Like being needy. Even if you want to act needy it will repel almost everyone. | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Is casual sex or relationships easier to find as a man?I wouldn't say it's exactly easy for either of these as a guy unless you rank pretty high in appearance/presentation and confidence/charisma (to get with attractive women). Going out to bars/clubs a lot and approaching in volume and being direct/flirting will eventually lead to hookups/possible relationships. I guess you could say day game you could find someone more suited for a relationship just based on where you guys are compared to a bar/club scene. But I've met my previous gf’s either at w… | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 02:52 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?Save that for gf status. | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 02:24 PM |
| 1 | F*CK Your ExcusesI’m trying to avoid sitting at home if I can help it. Went to the mall today and got in one approach with a cute red head (which I’m happy with for now, getting back into the swing of things) she said she had a bf but started to blush hard. I’m trying to adopt the mindset of most girls live a boring day to day life and approaching (even if they reject or give negative response) it still emotionally stimulating to them and can break up the monotony of their daily life. Also I recommend finding a … | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Any beginner who made 2026 goals how are you doing?Ahh the ole deceiving eyes. Hate when that happens. I’m not a beginning but I feel like one after taking a multi year long break. Back in 2021-2023 I approached probably 500+ girls both day game and night game. But after a failed relationship and a break I’m feeling ready to start dating again. But I noticed that I’m almost back to square one with my fear of rejection and limiting beliefs. Hopefully I can overcome it quicker than before. Luckily I’m in close contact with a friend I met while goi… | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Why did this chick unmatch me on tinder? (pic)Had a similar experience with a girl and did all the same kinky shit. She wanted to fuck constantly. We hooked up like 5-6 times. I might have shown too much interest in her but needless to say she ghosted me. This was almost a year ago and still haven’t heard a peep from her. I came to the conclusion that I was just a rebound (as she got out of a relationship) and love bombed. (Wanted to be my gf etc). She probably got back with her ex or found someone else too. Sucks if you really liked this g… | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 01:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you keep yourself motivated?You just have to be disciplined about achieving whatever goals you have. Analyze and reflect on what you could have done better/different. Realize that full blown relationships really take a special kind of connection and to maintain that connection is difficult. Shit is difficult. Just depends on how bad you want whatever you want. It’s either pain now or pain later when you’re older and still fuck up with girls. If you need a break then take one. But I wouldn’t recommend giving up forever. | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 03:15 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys start conversations at the gym with pretty women?I’ve approached a lot of girls at the gym. Got a handful of numbers and a few dates which most flaked. Had 1 follow through but we didn’t click. Honestly if I liked their gym fit I’d compliment it and ask their name and get their number. I like to keep it brief. Be clear on my intentions, get a contact and let them get back to their workout. If possible I’ll do it at the end of my workout so if I get rejected I don’t gotta see them 😂 also I feel way more confident and have more energy at the end… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Cold approaches in shopping malls are hard as fuckIt’s one of those things that you just have to push through the emotional toll and keep going no matter how tough it gets. Anything worth having in life is going to take a lot of hard work and discipline. Just remember most guys aren’t doing this. I’m pretty introverted. My first cold approach was horrible many years ago. I’d slowly get better and slowly learn how to identify hook point if you’re at the club. I must have done 150-200 approaches before I started to get mildly decent. But then I m… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 01:03 AM |
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