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| 4 | What Are Your Thoughts on the "Mental Point of Origin"?The book no more mr nice guy is basically about this. Take care of your own needs first and you’ll be happier in your relationships. Stoicism talks about the dichotomy of control. The only thing you have control over is yourself. A natural conclusion from that is to focus on what’s under your control. As with most red pill things there is some useful advice in there but you’re better off going to a source without the bitterness and misogyny. Learning to look after and care for yourself is great.… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/11/24 10:12 AM |
| 12 | This crap really affected me, and sometimes I feel... unworthyThe red pill material is designed to trigger you, make you angry and play on your insecurities. You can mature and improve without taking on bitter, negative, hate-filled advice. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/11/24 11:02 AM |
| 7 | Redpill is like a drugIt’s helpful to treat it like an addiction. The way to recover it is to accept that you cannot consume red pill material without being triggered. I think there’s some good stuff in red pill (work on yourself, be attractive) mixed with a whole bunch of nonsense (hatred, misogyny, right wing propaganda etc). That’s why it’s better to stay off of it completely. You’ll find there are better places to work on the good stuff without the hate. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/10/24 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Anyone here go from red pill to attachment theory?That’s good to hear. My wife and I are on the same journey. I have anxious tendencies and she has avoidant tendencies. Working on ourselves has made a big difference. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/24 12:20 PM |
| 27 | Anyone here go from red pill to attachment theory?Yes. I think the women commonly described in red pill literature are anxiously attached and the (avoidant) tactics are designed to make them feel more anxious. Not a nice basis for a relationship or way to treat someone. Imagine the confusion if the red piller is actually anxious and their partner is avoidant. All kinds of drama will ensue. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/24 04:22 AM |
| 5 | Has hatred of women increased in the past couple of years?I have never followed anything anti-women/manosphere on Twitter/X yet my timeline is full of misogyny and right wing misinformation. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/10/24 04:27 AM |
| 11 | What's some media to help recover from red pill?I enjoyed ‘Models’ by Mark Manson. The book encourages you to work on yourself and not be needy but without the narcissism, bitterness and manipulation of red pill. More for the struggling married man: ‘The dead bedroom fix’ by DSO gives some solid advice without straying into red pill territory. The focus is on you and improving yourself. A couple of the red pill recommended books are good in their own right and aren’t spouting red pill nonsense like ‘hypergamy’: ‘No more Mr Nice Guy’ by Dr Rob… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/09/24 07:04 AM |
| 9 | Why are you an ex-redpiller?I’m pre red pill. Reading sosuave 20 years ago. There’s too much misogyny and conspiracy. Not a healthy mindset to have in life. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/09/24 10:50 PM |
| 11 | What makes someone red pill?Yep it’s a load of bull. That’s why you only hear RP figureheads talking about it. Another example of making something up to support a flawed narrative. ‘The wall’ is another example of this. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/09/24 07:43 AM |
| 19 | What makes someone red pill?This is a major problem of RP. It talks in generalisations and appeals to people for that reason. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/09/24 07:41 AM |
| 24 | What makes someone red pill?Red pill can be a reaction to being a codependent nice guy. Guys that reject themselves before even approaching or settle for someone who doesn’t respect or like them. The self improvement aspects of RP are great. The misogyny and flawed psychology behind it not so much. I’m still looking for a positive movement that encourages men to work on themselves without the bitterness, sexism, homophobia, kink shaming, conspiracy theories, right wing talking points and fantasy concepts like ‘hypergamy’. … | /r/ExRedPill | 25/09/24 06:43 AM |
| 0 | Its so hard to not believe in the RedPillThere’s a lot of truth to red pill. That’s what makes it appealing. The problem is the truths and helpful stuff (work on yourself) is mixed with misogyny and dodgy psychology. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/09/24 05:44 AM |
| 4 | 20 years of marriage suddenly ending. I thought we were ok. Anyone been through this? Two kids. Feel like my life is over.Seen this so many times. A friend of mine (married for 20+ years) insists she wasn’t having an affair yet moved straight in with her new boyfriend after leaving the marital home. She may have even convinced herself she wasn’t cheating! She gets annoyed if anyone even suggests it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/24 07:36 PM |
| 1 | I almost feel like during the separation, she completely managed to deconstruct our history and relationships to accommodate her decision to separate.When I did something nice I was accused of love bombing, if I stated my boundaries I was accused of coercive control or gaslighting. I understand all of these are legitimate forms of abuse and feel for people who are being abused in these ways. When the labels are misapplied it is confusing though. It took a big adjustment to see that although not perfect I am not a bad person and not abusive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 08:34 AM |
| 13 | Don’t know what to doSomething that helped me: her feelings are her responsibility not yours. Don’t live your life treading on eggshells just to try and keep her happy. It doesn’t work. The focus should be on you being the best version of yourself you can be. That means you’ll succeed in or out of the marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/24 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Is this the healthiest r/ on Reddit?I’m not in separation / divorce but have had some rocky patches lately and this sub has helped. There’s definitely very negative/unhelpful views from men who are clearly hurting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 07:56 AM |
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