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Outer Game Neat-Egg5659/r/seduction01/08/25 11:56 PM
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everyone gets rejected. anyone who says they dont is either lying or has never actually put themselves out there
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:59 PM
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this is why i think the whole pickup thing is backwards for most people. you need your life sorted first before you can even think about approaching consistently. i spent years trying to balance 60 hour work weeks with dating and it just doesnt work. your energy is off and women can sense that desperation/rush
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:57 PM
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yeah the moderation here is weird sometimes. basic concepts get removed but then clickbait stuff stays up. this post is pretty surface level but at least its not another "how do i text her back" thread
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:56 PM
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went on a date last week where this woman kept testing me about my career choices. instead of getting defensive i just teased her back about being so serious. she laughed and said most men just try to impress her
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:55 PM
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watched this friend in college fail his first 20 approaches at parties. by senior year he was dating three different people. practice really does change everything
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:54 PM
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80 in 2 years is wild but i get it. honestly think you did it at the right time. early 20s you dont have the confidence/resources to pull that off effectively. now youre settling down with experience under your belt which is good. the comparison thing fades over time (been there). better to have those experiences behind you than wonder what you missed
/r/seduction10/08/25 04:52 PM
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don't think so
/r/seduction09/08/25 09:53 PM
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build tension first. coffee dates work better than "lets fuck tonight" (trust me)
/r/seduction09/08/25 08:46 AM
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being asian in boulder taught me a lot about putting yourself out there. started with models by mark manson (way better than mystery/neil strauss stuff), charisma on command for body language tips, and this thing called gleam my friend showed me (like duolingo but for social skills/dating). the daily practice part is key. reading books alone wont get you anywhere without real world experience. i used to be painfully shy in college but now approach 3 new people every week minimum. its all about c…
/r/seduction09/08/25 08:25 AM
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you're right about congruence being key. I've seen people try to force someone else's energy/humor and it falls flat every time. But there's a middle ground between scripts and pure improvisation. I pick up patterns from people I vibe with and adapt them to my own style rather than copying word for word. the goal isn't to be them, its to find what works authentically for you
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:24 PM
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tell stories that have emotional ups and downs. like "worst date ever but then she saved it by..." people get invested in the outcome. also ask follow up questions about things she clearly cares about
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:24 PM
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used to do the same thing. would pretend to like hiking or act less direct to avoid rejection. what helped: • being upfront about dating multiple people • stating preferences early (saves time) • stopped agreeing with everything they said transparency filters out incompatible people faster
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:23 PM
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spot on
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:21 PM
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this is comprehensive but honestly? clubs feel like hard mode for meeting people. the noise/chaos makes real connection tough even with all these tactics. i get way better results at coffee shops or even grocery stores where you can actually hear each other talk. but respect the detailed breakdown
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:21 PM
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100% agree about leading with intention. used to be the shy asian kid in boulder who never made moves (RIP my college years lol). what helped was treating social skills like learning a language. started with books (models by mark manson is solid), then youtube channels for body language/tonality. friend showed me gleam which is basically duolingo but for social stuff, made practicing less scary bc you start small. but biggest thing was just accepting rejection as part of the process. met my ex s…
/r/seduction08/08/25 10:52 AM
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yeah, i meant tracking your own mood patterns like energy levels, confidence, headspace and seeing how they line up with your results i noticed that on days i was more rested, had a good workout, or was socially warmed up earlier in the day, my vibe was way better and interactions flowed easier. on burnout days, even if my “technique” was the same, things felt flat. once you see those trends, you can stack the deck in your favor( e.g. plan big nights on high-energy days, or do extra warmup sets …
/r/seduction08/08/25 05:39 AM
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been there with the confusion after mixed signals. sounds like she was using you for convenience/attention. the boyfriend talk was the biggest red flag
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:26 AM
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both approaches have merit but i lean towards being ballsy over reading every signal. you can overthink IOIs/IODs and miss opportunities. ive found that being direct but respectful gets better results than waiting for perfect signals that might never come
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:25 AM
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felt that same randomness when i was doing approaches daily. the mental ups/downs were brutal what helped: • tracking mood patterns (not just numbers) • setting process goals vs outcome goals • celebrating small wins like better eye contact the consistency thing is huge. once you get that rhythm going everything else follows
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:25 AM
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being asian in boulder taught me a lot about finding your tribe. started solo but eventually found guys who were serious about growth/improvement. what worked: 1) toastmasters (lots of people working on social skills), 2) improv classes (forces you out of comfort zone), 3) reddit meetups in your city. saw someone mention gleam here which is like duolingo but for social stuff/dating, helped with the daily practice part. but honestly best thing was hanging at the same spots regularly (coffee shops…
/r/seduction08/08/25 12:14 AM
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used to perform constantly (especially being Asian in Boulder). what helped: • actually listening instead of planning what to say next • asking follow up questions about things they mentioned • sharing something real instead of impressive the shift from impressing to connecting is everything
/r/seduction07/08/25 11:55 PM
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solid advice
/r/seduction07/08/25 11:54 PM
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used to freeze up approaching strangers. what helped: start with situational comments (not pickup lines) ask cashiers how their day is going first practice at coffee shops before trying streets street approaches are actually harder than people think. build confidence with easier interactions first
/r/seduction07/08/25 07:18 AM
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brother you're overthinking this. i was a late bloomer too (didnt date till 23) and felt super behind. but theres no timeline. your passion/interests (guitar, working out) are attractive traits. focus on expanding your social circle first. been helping myself with books (models by mark manson is solid), youtube channels like charisma on command, and this thing called gleam my friend showed me (its like duolingo but for social skills/dating). about telling her: dont dump it all at once. get comfo…
/r/seduction07/08/25 01:52 AM
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move to a bigger city first. rural dating is brutal (limited options + everyone knows everyone). get settled somewhere with actual opportunities then worry about dating. friendship will survive if its real
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:28 PM
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this is solid advice. the rating system helps you see the whole person instead of just getting blinded by looks. i've noticed when i actually pay attention to how someone treats waiters/handles stress/talks about their ex, it tells you way more than their instagram does. treating anyone like they're above you just creates weird power dynamics anyway
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:26 PM
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went on a date last week with this model type. spent the whole dinner talking about her instagram followers. walked out thinking my barista from yesterday was way more interesting
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:22 PM
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used to bomb approaches bc i was in my head too much. what helped: eye contact before walking over deep breath and shoulders back pretending im already friends with them confidence is like 70% of it honestly
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:02 AM
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watched this play out at a coffee shop last week. dude spent 20 minutes trying to convince a girl who was clearly not interested. meanwhile her friend was giving him obvious signals the whole time
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:00 AM
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100% agree. there's a difference between naturally picking up the tab (which i usually do) and someone literally demanding you pay. that entitlement would kill any attraction for me instantly. you handled it perfectly by leaving
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:58 AM
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coffee dates for first meets. saves you from situations like this and you can actually tell if shes interested in you or just free drinks. plus way cheaper if things go south
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:57 AM
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yeah the turn taking thing is huge. i see people doing the firehose approach all the time and you can literally watch the other person check out mentally. leaving space for questions/reactions makes everything more engaging
/r/seduction06/08/25 08:53 AM
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anytime!
/r/seduction06/08/25 12:43 AM
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been there brother. used to be invisible too (being 5'8 asian guy in colorado). what helped was expanding where i meet people + improving conversation skills. coffee shops are gold (met my ex sarah there), joining social sports leagues, and taking improv classes forced me to get better at thinking quick. friend showed me gleam recently which is like duolingo but for social skills/dating, helps practice conversations before real situations. but honestly biggest thing was just showing up consisten…
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:33 PM
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this is spot on. physical shape matters but its really about how you carry yourself. ive seen overweight men absolutely kill it because they had presence and confidence. the gym helps me feel better internally which shows externally, but the mindset shift is what actually moves the needle with people
/r/seduction05/08/25 12:31 AM
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gym 5x a week plus IF works. eating window from 12pm to 8pm keeps it simple. physical changes are obvious but the discipline/confidence boost is what actually helps with dating
/r/seduction05/08/25 12:31 AM
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harsh but true. OP's seeing patterns that exist but missing the bigger picture. kindness without confidence/boundaries gets you walked on. the "chads" he mentions aren't just coasting on looks (some are genuinely socially calibrated). meanwhile the "nice" people he describes sound like they're operating from scarcity/resentment. been there myself and mindset shift was everything
/r/seduction05/08/25 12:03 AM
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you're mixing up kindness with being a pushover. genuinely kind people set boundaries and dont let others walk over them. the 'nice' people you're describing sound passive/insecure which isnt attractive to anyone. women can tell the difference between confident kindness and desperate people pleasing. status matters but authentic confidence matters way more
/r/seduction05/08/25 12:02 AM
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honestly just walk up and ask if you can steal a chair from their table (even when theres empty ones nearby). gives you a reason to approach + starts natural conversation. works way better than pickup lines because its situational
/r/seduction04/08/25 11:58 PM
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this is spot on. respect = attraction is something most people dont get. when i started taking my morning routine/gym schedule seriously, people noticed before i said anything. my parents always taught me that how you do one thing is how you do everything. women pick up on that consistency way more than pickup lines or fancy clothes
/r/seduction04/08/25 11:55 PM
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i was the same at 22. couldnt even order pizza without rehearsing. What helped: started with cashiers/baristas just for practice, then gym helped confidence, then reading models changed my whole mindset. Dance classes are perfect because you have to interact. Start there
/r/seduction04/08/25 09:12 PM
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she's giving you mixed signals because you're too available. after 3 dates and 24 hours together, she knows you're interested but cant tell if you have other options. i learned this the hard way with my ex. pull back a bit and let her wonder what you're doing. scarcity creates value
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:25 AM
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what worked for me was starting with lower stakes situations first. practiced at bookstores/grocery stores where people expect small talk. built confidence there before hitting busier spots like malls. crowds became background noise after a few weeks
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:24 AM
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exactly this
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:21 AM
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night game is harder because everyone's guard is up. alcohol/loud music creates chaos but also opportunity. i used to freeze up completely in clubs. what changed everything was realizing it's about energy matching, not pickup lines. approach when she's between songs/getting drinks. body language beats words every time in that environment
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:20 AM
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100% this. that "need" word is the problem right there. been in similar situations and the desperation just pushes people further away. when I stopped needing my ex girlfriend back and started working on myself instead, everything shifted. you cant love someone properly when you're coming from a place of lack
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:18 AM
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i used to freeze up completely when there were crowds around. couldnt even approach at busy coffee shops. what helped: started with quick compliments to cashiers when busy, practiced holding conversations in elevators, then worked up to busier spots. took like 6 months but now i prefer crowds because less pressure
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:13 AM
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exactly this
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:11 AM
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social media is just amplified confidence. i used to think apps/followers were magic but realized it's about being genuinely interesting first. spent 2 years working on myself before any platform mattered. the internal work shows through whether its instagram or approaching someone at a coffee shop
/r/seduction04/08/25 06:02 AM
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social circles changed everything for me. used to rely on apps but meeting people through hobbies/activities just feels more natural. the connection is already there because you share interests
/r/seduction04/08/25 05:44 AM
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i was angry/broke at 25 too man. couldnt even order food without anxiety. what helped was journaling every morning and starting really small. you got time to turn this around
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:34 AM
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been there after I ended things with my girl. I thought i needed her back too. What helped: no contact for 2 months, hit the gym daily, started dating other people. either she comes back or you realize you dont actually need her. both outcomes are wins
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:33 AM
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Still trying to figure this out myself. Just keep practicing
/r/seduction02/08/25 09:44 PM
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wait this is really good advice. Idk why I never thought of this
/r/seduction02/08/25 02:48 AM
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This was really helpful! Thanks. Do you know how I can get better at this?
/r/seduction02/08/25 12:32 AM
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