Neemi Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
227	You beautiful bastards	LTR	Neemi	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 01:35 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	You beautiful bastards Thank you. Before posting I was debating whether to post it here, since I wasn't sure if it was entirely suitable. After reading much of the theory again and some similar posts, I looked at the amount of overlap and I figured I'd give it a shot. You're very perceptive in immediately recognising the D/s elements too, but having actually talked to many people into D/s, they often have a really different philosophy to their relationships. You describe the relationship as good as I could. I very muc…	/r/TheRedPill	06/02/19 01:24 PM
2	You beautiful bastards otherwise she realizes your dependency, treats you like shit I think I see the difference in our opinions here. I see it as two people depending on each other. You see it as me relying on her, but not the other way around. Given that I control all finances and she leaves the major decisions in me, the moment I'm dissatisfied by her treating me like shit, I could immediately cut her off. I prefer working things out with her because I prefer stability. Long-term stability is best achieved by givin…	/r/TheRedPill	04/02/19 03:59 PM
3	You beautiful bastards English isn't my native language so sometimes I don't notice I use the wrong words until someone points it out. Being able to survive and thrive independently is indeed extremely important, because without that your partner will always have a certain undeniable leverage over you. I tried to bring across the idea of both parties benefiting from the relationship, by dividing the tasks within a relationship among them. This sounds similar to your message in the first paragraph. I figured the fact b…	/r/TheRedPill	04/02/19 12:58 AM
2	You beautiful bastards I specifically chose this girl because I naturally fulfil all her stated needs and desires. She says without hesitation that I'm the most perfect guy for her she's ever met, and has no problem showing that she means it. My personal goals are to stay in shape, become an amazing father, and have an incredibly successful career so we can live in luxury. She's perfectly aligned with my frame. I'm confident that as long as I continue to achieve and do well, I'll be her best viable option forever. The…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 10:57 PM
13	You beautiful bastards Thank you! Fortunately for me, it was a metaphor she used. I remembered her saying she felt like she could do literally anything to the guy, even hitting him, and he wouldn't ever do anything back to her in return. She explained it's why she lost all respect of him really quickly, and why the relationship didn't last long. To add to the other comments in this thread, she's also very physical and likes wrestling, because she likes feeling weaker than the guy she's dating, and even has some of tha…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 10:31 PM
3	You beautiful bastards That's true, though in this case supply and demand goes both ways. The logic of supply and demand you're mentioning here makes sense when entering a LTR for the sake of sex and companionship. There's always other people on the free sexual market. If both people want to start a family, however, they both need each other for the best possible outcome. Even if our relationship ends, we would still be together as the biological parents for children. Marriage in essence becomes a form of mutually ass…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 10:22 PM
8	You beautiful bastards I didn't recognize it in the moment with my ex, but I put it there exactly because I now see how clearly it showed my ignorance in that area. I've learned from it and that won't happen to me again. It didn't trigger me initially because she technically didn't cheat, and her reasons for doing so made sense. I also took pride in my security in the relationship. Failing and being used are the best ways to learn to do better in the future.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 10:11 PM
3	You beautiful bastards That's very close to my line of thinking. If everyone's fighting over the same half of the tasks to a stable society, in the middle of a time with an unprecedented number of options and opportunity in life, it leaves too many paralysed by confusion rather than living a happy life.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 10:04 PM
4	You beautiful bastards Never. Like I said in my main post, I feel confident knowing that she's with me because of my ambition and status, because it is now in my own hands to succeed in all areas of life. I'm thankful for this opportunity to excel and every part of me wants to make the most of this chance I've been given.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 09:20 PM
3	You beautiful bastards Couldn't agree more. I'm biased as someone very interested in the psychological, but I often feel it's being neglected.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 09:04 PM
4	You beautiful bastards Thanks for the thorough response, I appreciate it! This is nothing to do with age, this is the standard male female dynamic. The usual self-lie men are encouraged to tell themselves is "investing in the relationship", which is just obfuscation for "men give, women take". True. I've looked around me since then and I realize I'm far from the only one in this situation. I wanted to clearly frame the situation as suffering from many of the same issues that you warn guys about. Traditional marriage w…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 09:02 PM
0	You beautiful bastards You're right, getting violent is a huge red flag. I should have clarified better that it was a metaphor, but because I distinctly remember her saying "I could've hit him in the face and he would have probably just sit there and accepted it" as hyperbole I just wrote it down like that. Her point was that she shit-tested him, and quickly realized he had no limits at all and she could get away with everything. She lost all respect for him soon after that, and the relationship didn't last long. Just…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 08:34 PM
2	You beautiful bastards Can't answer for everyone, but for me the reason is that I want to have my own family some day. It's been my lifelong dream to raise my own children. I'd prefer to not have to do this alone, and so a suitable, loving, dedicated wife to raise them with me would be ideal. I'm fully aware that relying on someone else opens me up to more risk than just going at it alone. But given my priorities, I simply consider it the ideal outcome for both me personally and my kids. And with many marriages and LT…	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 08:20 PM
10	You beautiful bastards I agree, and I had the same thoughts. When I really care about someone, I always try to figure them out and to understand how they work as people. Even from the casual stories she's told me, she seems entirely internally consistent. I also pay close attention to how she acts when really tired or when in a bad mood, because people who fake are more likely to break character. So far, all seems well.	/r/TheRedPill	03/02/19 08:13 PM
2	Advice for Men. It's too cynical for me. I agree with and enjoy the pragmatic parts of a list like this, but I disagree with the premise of "alphas fuck, betas give buck" like the world and all people in it are really that dichotomous and are divided into two blocks, and like women are some monolithic entity. I've met enough women (one of which my beautiful wifey) who have no interest in fucking around with many people for years, because they desire the stability and support from having one strong guy by their …	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	01/02/19 09:16 PM
2	I do not get men's rights. Honestly I would love to know the real statistics on those issues, but scrolling through all the different subreddits there are sources for about every possible number.	/r/MensRights	03/06/14 01:37 PM
3	We are losing too many men to suicide. The focus on misogyny in the Roger Elliot attack is detracting from a discussion of mental healthcare for all, especially young men. Thank you for being so thoughtful about this issue. I don't like the entirety of this problem being boiled down to simple sexism, or a mental illness, as this truly is an isolated case, or as you put it "nightmarish perfect storm". But as this provides an exceptional form of validation for many people holding extreme views on this issue, I can imagine they'd use this as an opportunity to be validated by the majority. I don't want to blame feminists for this, as again it's more complicated than t…	/r/MensRights	03/06/14 01:01 PM