| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 11 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for? | Question For Men | Neither_Coconut | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:20 AM |
| 9 | What does masculinity in men and femininity in women look like to you? | Discussion | Neither_Coconut | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/21 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Does being physically attractive matter to you? Does it bother you that it is a male stereotype to care about a woman’s looks over intelligence, etc.? | Question For Women | Neither_Coconut | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Does your physical attractiveness matter to you? | Question For Women | Neither_Coconut | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/21 02:51 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | What does masculinity in men and femininity in women look like to you?Ahhhhh that’s a good point. Femininity in a male-centric society would be perceived as the “weaker” of the two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/21 07:25 PM |
| 2 | What does masculinity in men and femininity in women look like to you?That’s fair. What I got from the most recent post was “men like women who like them and are pretty” and “women hate men”.. while I take lots of these comments like shit posts and extremes, I do recognize that these can be people’s true feelings. Thanks for the sensible input. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/21 07:20 PM |
| 13 | Which gender likes the other one more in aggregate?Women are also more likely to stay with men during illness than men with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/21 04:17 PM |
| 3 | 1 in 5 Americans has an STDThat’s true. I didn’t consider that outside of a physical, men don’t have routine care until they’re much older | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 11:32 PM |
| 3 | 1 in 5 Americans has an STDThat seems unprofessional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 11:12 PM |
| 7 | 1 in 5 Americans has an STDWould be interesting to see the data on testing frequency by gender. In my experience, women usually get tested annually at their gynecologist appointment, but also before during and after ending relationship/sexual partners.... I’m not a man so I can’t comment on how the average testing cycle for men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 10:51 PM |
| 4 | Speaking from personal and observational experience, why do you think most men have trouble getting dates ?No rats were harmed in the making of this post 😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 10:41 PM |
| 1 | There are no good women or men when it comes to relationships, everyone has a list of must havesI mean a lot of older rappers are married (although, they could steal definitely be cheating on their wives) and don’t do nearly as much drugs as they put in their music... I could keep going but the main point is, people in positions of power can be hypocrites when it directly impacts them. As long as they keep selling it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 08:33 PM |
| 26 | Speaking from personal and observational experience, why do you think most men have trouble getting dates ?Reasons I have rejected men/didn’t swipe on men online: 1- Lack of effort on their profile (low light, poor quality pictures, no writing in their profile except a random string of letters and/or emojis to meet the character minimum 2- I wasn’t attracted to them (I make an effort to swipe right on every man that has a decently worded profile, seemingly aligned values (isn’t holding up blunts or has racist language), looks clean & tidy, doesn’t have F boy bio or vibes). If you look like an unkempt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Men and women's lives are too incomparable for us to find common ground on datingI agree. I never go into any situation with anxiety or fear. If I feel that strongly about a person, I refuse to go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 02:58 PM |
| 12 | Men and women's lives are too incomparable for us to find common ground on datingHonestly, I come to this sub for a good time. Not because I actively need confirmation on my beliefs. Is dating complex in real life? Sure, but I’m not going to FDS or red pill (I don’t know enough about either to condemn but they seem to be talking points here) to try to accommodate for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 02:38 PM |
| 9 | Men and women's lives are too incomparable for us to find common ground on datingThis. I don’t put myself in situations to be alone with strangers until I consider them an acquaintance and have basic identifiable information about them. If I felt like all men were rabid abusers, I would never leave my place lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 02:35 PM |
| 1 | How can men have a "fun and sociable" personality?Well, my idea of fun and social is a bomb partner at card games nights... don’t know if that’s your idea of a good time lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/21 01:50 AM |
| 6 | Men are the more romantic / loving genderI’m a woman (only important for context). I have no source to provide but I agree. Men are natural givers and women are natural receivers/amplifiers- it’s biological, I would argue. Men give women seeds and women birth the baby. Even if we look at romancing (masculine- action) vs being romanced (feminine- inaction). I feel like it’s a no brainer? Sure, some men are better at romancing than others. Just like some women are better receivers of romance than others. I’ve had poor experiences too; ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/21 08:10 PM |
| 6 | How would you describe your appetite for sex?Woman. I haven’t had sex since my relationship ended in January 2020. After my relationship ended, I was ravenous for maybe 2-3 weeks. I think I’ve been horny maybe once or twice in a year during ovulation. I’ve thought about sex more than that but it doesn’t do anything for me when I don’t have a partner. During my relationship, I tend to have a higher drive than my partners; however, I’ve never felt sexually starved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Childfree couples, how has the decision to not have children affected your relationship?If you ever do have one, I recommend the bisalp not getting your tubes tied. Less full proof and about the same recovery time. That’s what I had :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 08:01 PM |
| 2 | "She Wrote Fake News for Cosmopolitan" To what extend do women follow media, magazines etc?I went to a private Catholic school and Cosmo was like the Bible for some girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 07:50 PM |
| 5 | Do you have a dating strategy?The only real “strategy” I followed was changing the way I dressed. In 2019, I got rid of all my crop tops, leggings, jeans, short skirts/dresses and adopted a wardrobe solely of skirts and dresses (except for gym wear). I would say my fashion style is more like classic modern? Natural fabrics, emphasis on my waistline, not too much skin. I would say it’s successful because I’m attracting more men that align with my actual values instead of men who just thought I was attractive. (Edit: when I wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 07:42 PM |
| 3 | "She Wrote Fake News for Cosmopolitan" To what extend do women follow media, magazines etc?I could never relate to cosmo as a teen/young adult. It just felt wrong- something that I knew I couldn’t jive with. I will say that I do watch YouTube videos on makeup, skincare, and dressing for your body type though. I do not watch political or feminism content. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Childfree couples, how has the decision to not have children affected your relationship?Had to end my last relationship because of it. I am childfree. He is not. Since then, I’ve had a bisalp and will only be dating men with no children. Sorry, not sorry. Edit: my sister is currently pregnant and even with my surgery, people keep asking when I’ll have children + men saying “let me change your mind”🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/21 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Is there ever a good reason to get married if you don’t want to have kids? Why or why not?I’m childfree and wanting marriage for the exact reasons you’ve listed. Not much to add to the conversation lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Dropping marriage rates for women. What are the implications?I wish women getting married older meant fewer children but the rate of unwed parent households leads me to believe otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:22 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Women want to get married primarily for the kids, men want to get married primarily to please the woman and keep herI am a childfree woman but I still desire marriage. However, I agree with women marrying for children... but I also know plenty of unwed single mothers so ? At the same time, I know plenty of 28-33yo men who are in the “I must settle down & reproduce” craze. It is usually standard for people to date less than 2 years before getting engaged and married 1 year from that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 02:17 PM |
| 1 | How much do women actually care about money?Sure, that could have been the case in my younger years. That post-college intro to the real world season is different than my current reality. That’s a going point though, bringing in money is great but being aligned on how it is spent is important too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Why you should NOT date a 30+ woman: The relationship arch for the average western couple.My parents have had an allowance set for my sister and I. If we go over it, it’s the groom & I or his parents. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 10:22 PM |
| 2 | How much do women actually care about money?In my experience, which is obviously biased, I have never met a man who did like it. Its not worth it to have to walk on eggshells and minimize the conflict because he doesn’t like it. I’m willing to be proven wrong about it but so far I haven’t been. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 10:20 PM |
| 1 | How much do women actually care about money?I am childfree and I DO care about a man’s money. I would not marry a man who makes less than or equal to what I make; however, I do not need him to make like 50-100k more than me. Yes- it’s about the money but importantly his and my comfort. I do not believe men when they say they do not care about women making more money than them. Whoever holds the most money, holds the most power (in my opinion) and I’m fine with him having more than I do. Other financial things I care about: little to no de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 09:30 PM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Do you think it would be difficult if we left the judgment up to individual interpretation? Or are you saying that confidence doesn’t matter when it comes to skill? Please confirm :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 04:38 AM |
| 4 | How do younger women typically respond to older men showing interest in them? RP claims women like older guys.Yeah when I was under 25, I didn’t like men 4 years older than me either. I think the main reason I started looking at older men differently was being in close proximity in corporate settings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:56 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?I see, so mutual intellectual interests and the opportunity for creative dialogue would make you feel seen. I like it. To your other point though, it would be an easier time if the man-woman polarity was more aligned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:52 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Do you feel like sharing what your values are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 5 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Absolutely. I’m an adult and I still call my dad to have him explain things.. my sister hasn’t found out that this why I’m the favorite 😂🙃 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:45 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Do you like questions about your interests and/or when women research your interests in order to get closer to you? I’ve heard yes and no so I wanted to ask since you brought it up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:43 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?I googled it lol. I’ve been in classes like this but never knew it was a method. I remember my teacher saying “who yells first is the least intelligent” so you can imagine how well that worked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:42 AM |
| 4 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Funny enough- my mother taught us to always overly-appreciate a man who goes out of his way to do something for us. I’m glad that’s a standard thing across the board... May your healing be plentiful in the passing of your wife. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:37 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?I see- she respects you and the position of husband by creating an environment that is inviting, engaging, and positive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:30 AM |
| 2 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?It did! I feel like I’m connecting things that didn’t make perfect sense before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:22 AM |
| 4 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?🤯🤯🤯 thank you for the explanation!! In my recent conversations with men, they’ve been talking about women “moving the goal post” on what they want and I would dismiss it because they just sounded bitter (sorry). The clear goal and clear reward actually quantifies it. The job description example is brilliant. How can people figure out what is expected if things are always changing. Thank you for your reply! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:19 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?I understand. Men want to be appreciated for who they are and what they do as an individual. It’s funny that the answer seems simple but the application is nowhere close to being that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:14 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Side note- are you a writer? Poet? What I am understanding from your comment is that you would want to bring the world back to polarity. While we know there were dark days in history, the man to woman polarity has shifted and started to repel instead of attract.. That it is the balance we need to shift back into alignment. Am I close? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:12 AM |
| 4 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?What does respect look like to you? I wonder if people have different definitions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:05 AM |
| 2 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?I apologize, that wasn’t intentional. I understand what you’re saying. If the value/recognition is based on the “thing” instead of the person, it basically reduces the person to less than the thing. (I know this isn’t what you said, just how I internalized it.) I greatly appreciate your reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 9 | How do younger women typically respond to older men showing interest in them? RP claims women like older guys.I like men 6/7-10 years older than me. If he looks healthy, exercises, eats appropriately for his age, I might consider older. When I was 26, I dated a 42 year old man who looked 33. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 02:00 AM |
| 2 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Haha yes, naturally, of course. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Right right. So the non- physical things or rather, things that aren’t immediate visible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 4 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?So the lack of consistency is making it harder to.....? I hear what you’re saying but I don’t understand the significance. If women were more consistent with their asks, that would make men feel seen? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 1 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?Ah. Yes. Good point! I’ve heard this many times for men. Thank you for responding! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 2 | What should women like/appreciate/ romanticize men for?So what I think I’m reading is treat you with respect, understand that you put an effort into making yourself into the man that you are, and exist beside you? I know you commented a lot more but I want to ensure I’m getting the meat of your response. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 7 | Do most financially successful women still expect that the men be the “providers”? Are men who refuse this role basically screwed?I’ve been in a relationship with my financial “equal” so I’m mildly jealous that it worked for them! In my experience, it started to feel like an one-sides competition. When the relationship was really going downhill, my ex would make tit for tat comments about us spending the exact dollar for dollar amount. We were spending a ton of money but it just felt... empty? I’m not sure how else to explain it. I’ve also dating men who made less than me. Never again. They still had the expectation that I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/21 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Women, are you confident and charismatic?1- If confidence and charisma is defined as a calm, powerful, “people see me when I walk in the room” vs “people hear me before I walk in the room”, strongly preferred. 2- My version of confidence and charismatic is softer, poised, and alert. People usually make physical compliment my posture, manners, and smile and comments about being fun to talk to. I would consider myself to be confident and charismatic; however, lots of people think of shy and stuck up until they speak to me so who knows? 3… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/21 11:03 PM |
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