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So you sent a message that warrants a response and he has ignored it?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/26 02:40 PM
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Yeah, they are over-correcting.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/26 07:03 PM
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From the guy's side complimenting your girlfriend/wife too much can be dangerous. It is easy for it to turn into simping or be perceived as simping and kill attraction in the woman. Some guys have learned this through their own relationships or through watching other relationships and have learned to just not compliment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/26 03:22 PM
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Your husband and his friends sound really toxic to me. You didn't mention anything positive about him. What made you decide to marry him?
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/26 12:17 AM
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It's great that you are in therapy. That was going to be my recommendation. The anxiety and being too guarded seem like they are the primary issues and need to be addressed in order to have successful relationships. You should try neurofeedback too. It does wonders for anxiety.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/26 03:18 PM
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If you're having a hard time it really sucks having someone criticizing you too. He probably feels like he doesn't need that right now. I agree with the other commenter about reading the surrendered wife and trying not to nag.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/26 04:23 PM
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Are all of the arguments about things you think he is doing wrong? Or are some of them about things you are doing?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/26 03:44 PM
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That's good. Could be he is familiar with red pill ideas but got a bit carried away.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/26 11:41 PM
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Part of hypergamy is the instinct that if a man is eager to commit to you then that means he feels he can't do better than you. If he doesn't think he can do better than you then that means you probably can do better than him. I'm not saying that's the case here, this is just the logic behind the ick feeling and loss of attraction when a man is too eager to commit. My guess is you are currently experiencing this which is why you are so hesitant about a situation that is perfect on paper. I think…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/26 04:12 PM
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Any man with options is simply going to disengage. What could possibly make you so much more valuable than every other woman that they would put up with this rather than just date someone else? All you are doing is guaranteeing that the men you date are very desperate men that have no other prospects. Only a spineless, desperate man is going to tolerate this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 03:44 PM
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Usually before marriage there is some short period where you are not exclusive, usually 1 to 3 months, and then a long period where you are exclusive, usually several years. Dating other people when you are exclusive is a very bad idea, even if you aren't considering ethics and morals. You are very likely to get caught eventually. Men will find it suspicious if you are only available on big days for couples (Valentine's Day, New Years, etc.) less than half the time. Dating multiple people when y…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 06:03 PM
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Yeah, unless she started doing drugs it is unlikely she suddenly started this behavior late in life. Perhaps she was still toxic before that but got worse.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 06:59 PM
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Having your own mother tell you you are bad and not good enough is absolutely devastating for a person's mental health. Your mother is the one person in the world who should love and support you unconditionally. If this has been happening since he was a child, he almost certainly has CPTSD, whether he realizes it or not. It seems like he turned out great despite all of this, which means he must be very strong. Unless your husband has already done a lot of healing of his mother wound, it will be …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/26 05:17 PM
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Yeah, the guys you are talking to almost certainly think you are not very interested in actually going on a date and just move on. There's a lot of women on dating apps who just want attention and to chat and guys don't want to waste their time with that. If you are absolutely opposed to flirting then you need to be the one to ask for their phone number or suggest going on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/26 04:48 PM
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Can you give some examples of some of your conversations? If you are dry and not being flirty or laughing at what they say they might assume you are not that interested and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/26 04:28 PM
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An experienced therapist could probably help you figure out what is going on :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 03:47 AM
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I think you just need to address your avoidant attachment. Easier said than done, but therapy can help. If you have childhood trauma, addressing it should help a lot. There's a lot of options other than talk therapy. EMDR, neurofeedback, meditation, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/26 04:25 PM
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It's true that generally women peak in sexual attractiveness around 20 to 26. But sexual attractiveness is not the only thing men look at when considering who to have a serious relationship with. Men, especially attractive ones, generally do not want to get married until their 30s. They also do not want to marry someone who is immature and that they cannot relate to, so overwhelmingly they choose women closer to their own age than women who are in their peak years for sexual attractiveness. On a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/26 07:58 PM
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Just wear a shirt that says "NO CASUAL SEX" on all of your dates. But seriously, I think you can bring it up in a way that isn't awkward. Just ask "so what are you looking for?" They might say "just something casual" or something else that indicates their intentions are just casual sex. Regardless of what they say, this also gives you the opportunity to say that you aren't interested in anything casual. I think most guys will not straight up lie about their intentions. Probably 40% will be hones…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/26 01:03 AM
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I think the other comments are great and I would like to add just a few things. The male side of red pill is focused on having casual sex with women. The things men value for a casual relationship and the things they want in a serious relationship are very different. Sometimes they are even opposite. A slutty, wild girl is a good thing if you are looking for something casual. It is horrible if you are looking for something serious. For a casual relationship, physical attractiveness is the most i…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 09:44 PM
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Ok, that's fair enough. Personally I think you should make an effort to date in undergrad. As another comment mentioned, after you are done with school it is a lot harder to meet single, educated men of appropriate age. Perhaps grad school is very intensive or stressful and you don't feel like dating at that time either.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 04:56 PM
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What makes you think she is so attractive? She didn't say a single thing about her own looks or physical attractiveness. It seems like you are deciding she is extremely attractive at at the top of the SMP without any reason to believe that. If she is a 9/10, then sure, she can be really picky. Most likely she is not. Most likely she is of average physical attractiveness, as most people are. In that case it is concerning that not a single a man at her university is good enough for her to date. I'…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 04:48 AM
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Then you are relying on getting extremely lucky in order to not end up alone. Those 3 men are probably very attractive to other women as well. It is very likely those men are either already taken or have better options than you. If your standards eliminate 99.9% of men then you better be in the top 1% of women, at the very least. No amount of "screening" is going to help you land a man in the top 0.1% if you are an average looking woman. That man is going to have a massive amount of options and …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 03:30 AM
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The problem is that male and female attraction are not symmetrical. If an average looking woman is smart, educated, and successful and insists on only dating men who are at least equal in those categories then she is going to have a bad time dating and if she never lowers her standards she will likely end up alone. Let's look at an example. Take the woman described above. Let's say she is average looking, highly intelligent, has a master's degree from a prestigious university, and makes 200k a y…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 03:16 AM
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How many men are at the university? If the answer is more than 100 and none of them are good enough for you, then your standards are way too high.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/26 09:45 PM
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"I’d rather have control over my man whilst he is unaware of this and preforms his duty as a traditional man whilst he is building his wealth in an increasing capacity." This is very toxic approach to relationships and basically the opposite of what this sub is about.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/26 04:11 PM
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There's nothing inherently wrong with wearing revealing clothes, but I think it is detrimental to getting a serious relationship. A lot of men who are looking for a serious relationship will see a woman wearing revealing clothing and think she is easy. Few men want a serious relationship with an easy woman. Revealing clothing also draws attention from men who are looking for casual sex. Basically wearing revealing clothing drives away a lot of the men who you would want a serious relationship wi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 05:22 PM
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And it's so much worse than that since they also have a long list of requirements that are implied. The man above 6' they have in mind isn't broke, fat, ugly, nerdy, or any number of other flaws. Each one cuts down that 14% significantly. The common 6 foot and 6 figures requirement, plus not married or obese, only leaves 0.5% of men ages 20 to 40 lol. And half those guys are going to be ugly. Another half might have an awful personality. Another half might have completely incompatible beliefs. V…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 05:35 PM
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The income is per year, so among men 20 to 40, only 6.8% make at least 85k a year and are not married. That's less than I would expect but I guess it makes sense. 1/3 are married so about 10% of the remaining 66% make more than 85k a year. Also, when people refer to millionaires they are talking about their net worth, not their income. So someone making 100k a year if they have been saving and investing for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 05:27 PM
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My experience with police in the U.S is what you describe, but it seems OP is outside the U.S. There are many countries where the police are genuinely quite corrupt and abusive. In some parts of Mexico the police and the cartels are one and the same.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 04:57 PM
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Yeah, I guess the numbers I used are for my area, which is higher cost of living and higher income than most.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 09:09 PM
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Yeah, but the incomes are much higher there too then. My point is that a man with a good career who is married to a woman with a below average career or some normal job can get by in most places. You probably can't afford to buy a house right in a super expensive city, but super expensive cities aren't really meant for raising kids in a suburb style home.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 05:07 PM
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Engineers are typically a lot more mature than average. What are they doing that is causing you to think they are immature? Sometimes women label behaviors as immature when they are really just a lack of interest or the man not doing what they want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 04:52 PM
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Having a decent career where you make about 100k and then have a wife that works some low stress job for 50k a year when she isn't staying at home with the kids works well too. Might need to make more for a high cost of living area, but that is also doable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 04:46 PM
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I don't think she is admitting she is wrong with these things. She is complaining how he is responding when she does these things. She started out saying she has multiple issues with him and getting upset when she does these disrespectful things is one of those issues.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/26 05:07 PM
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Height is just one factor in cute vs hot. It could be that your other qualities are more on the cute side. It's better to be cute anyway. Another possibility is that it is more polite for a guy to say you are cute than hot. Calling a girl hot seems like a more aggressive way to hit on her.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/26 05:32 PM
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How old is he? Sounds like an immature 20 year old.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/26 02:27 AM
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I think the difference between cute and hot is a very interesting question to look at through the lens of evolutionary psychology. As another comment pointed out, guys are generally more interested in serious relationships with cute girls and casual sex with hot girls. I think the two sides would be better described as cute vs sexy, with hot somewhere in between but closer to sexy than cute. Why do these two different types of female attractiveness exist? It's because they serve different purpos…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/26 05:28 PM
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I find it interesting and a little ironic you are assuming this guy is conservative because he likes Elon Musk, considering you are active on RedPillWomen, an explicitly anti-feminist sub. If you asked me who is more likely to be conservative, someone who likes Elon, or someone on RPW, I would say the person on RPW. People are complex and I think it is a big problem in society that people assume if someone has one view that leans left or right then all their views do. There are a lot of differen…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/26 10:25 PM
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Attraction isn't a cold calculation like that. It is deeply ingrained in the subconscious of men to be attracted to and develop feelings for women who they think are fertile and would be a good mother. It isn't a rational decision where they can decide "wait actually I don't care about fertility because of surrogacy." I'm still not sure what you think you are missing that this guy might be looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/26 04:35 AM
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He is most likely seeking some combination of companionship, love, sex, and someone to have children with. What qualities do you imagine you are missing? If he is independently wealthy he probably doesn't care how much a woman makes. He probably just wants someone he enjoys spending time with. Traveling alone can get lonely quick. Throughout almost the entirety of human history, the main thing women offered to men was bearing and raising children. That is quite a lot too. Men are still wired to …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/26 06:08 PM
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Some guys just don't care about "sexy" outfits. Personally I prefer a sun dress or even sweats over lingerie and things like that.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/26 08:07 PM
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You haven't said anything that makes me think you ever needed to be in nun mode. Not driving and having a bad credit score are not really that big of issues for dating. It's common to be picked up for dates anyway and your credit score likely wouldn't matter until very deep into a relationship anyway, and even then it is just a small issue most of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/25 04:17 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like you have been through enough that it could be CPTSD. That's what I have, and I have been able to heal a lot, and I think you can too! Let me know if you have any questions. Feel free to PM me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 08:46 PM
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It really sounds like you have PTSD. Normal talk therapy usually isn't all the helpful with PTSD. EMDR and neurofeedback have helped me a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/25 04:29 PM
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That's a great realization to have. A lot of people don't have that kind of self awareness, and if they ever do it is later in life when it is harder to change. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 04:20 PM
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I think this guy most likely just has issues romantically connecting. A man's relation with their mom growing up forms the foundation of relationships with women later in life. If that connection with mom is missing, as it sounds like it might be with her mental health issues, that can make it more difficult to connect with partners as an adult. It doesn't mean it's impossible, but he may need some therapy or to process some things. Or sometimes there just isn't that connection or spark between …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/25 04:18 PM
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That's great! Congratulations! Was rooting for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 07:15 PM
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It sounds like you just generally have a lot of anxiety. Therapy and neurofeedback helped a ton with my anxiety. I highly recommend seeking some sort of treatment for it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/25 11:17 PM
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What are you looking for? If you are looking for a one night stand or something casual, then that is easy. Just make it really clear you are into a guy. Walk up to him, introduce yourself, tell him he is really attractive, touch him a lot, etc. If you are looking for something serious, a bar isn't a great place to find that and you are mostly going to attract guys looking for something casual. If you are looking for something serious, making it too obvious you are into a guy can be risky. He mig…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/25 07:04 PM
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He definitely needs healthier boundaries with his daughter. Sleeping in the same bed at 12 years old is already strange, but waking him up to say she is going to go to the bathroom? Very weird. Therapy would be helpful but just realizing this is weird and setting more boundaries would also help. I think for the vast majority of people, the priorities are kids then spouse then a bunch of other stuff and then girlfriend/boyfriend. He will likely never prioritize you above his daughter so I hope yo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/25 09:24 PM
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It's true, cheating is probably more of a concern in the situation OP is talking about. It's probably more common that a guy who gets married before he is successful will start cheating rather than straight up leave. I don't think men resisting commitment means they aren't content. I actually think this is part of what I am saying. When a man and a woman are in a relationship, the man is usually content with whatever the current situation is (non-committed, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.) while the …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/25 05:16 PM
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Women compete with each other covertly, and sometimes that means befriending a woman who is a threat in order to tear them down. The vast majority of the time this is subconscious behavior. There are some posts and videos about this. Couldn't find exactly what I'm looking for but this is related: https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologyofsex/comments/1n4xiki/intrasexual_competition_for_resources_is_fiercer/
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/25 04:37 PM
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Contrary to popular narrative, men are quite loyal. It is very rare for men to leave their wives. Only about 20% of divorces are initiated by the man. Think about it, how many men do you know who his wife left him? Now how many women do you know who her husband left her? I have heard "his wife left him" so many times it feels like an expression. It rolls off the tongue. Seems like half the men over 40 I know were left by their wives. Now consider "her husband left her." I know I have heard someo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/25 04:12 PM
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I don't know why you are so convinced by his "logic". He seems to just be saying things with nothing to back them up. There was a study in 2013 that found 91% of men would support their wives’ decision to stay at home. I think most men want a stay at home wife, as long as they can afford it. https://abovethelaw.com/2013/05/would-you-want-a-house-husband/#:~:text=Vivia%20Chen%20on%20The%20Careerist%20cites%20a,percent%20of%20women%20answering%20the%20same%20%5Bquestion%5D.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 04:07 PM
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In my opinion he has some good ideas (that can be found elsewhere for the most part), but is off base in some areas. I think generally his advice for men is pretty good but his advice for women is pretty bad. I think it is just reality that relationships are somewhat transactional. Throughout our evolution women who chose men who could offer protection and resources survived better and had more children than women who chose men who could not protect and provide. So women are wired to choose men …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 12:23 AM
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I'm curious what you mean by "no luck" on bumble. Certainly you are getting matches, right?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/25 01:21 AM
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So he is reaching out to you every few days? I think he is interested but shy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/25 07:13 PM
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Confident guys who don't care about these recent trends still approach women. There isn't actually anything to lose, unless you are in high school or something and people might gossip if you say something stupid or creepy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/25 03:52 PM
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How you framed parts of your question makes me think you don't understand what men want in a woman. I grew up in a comfortable family of educated people, a childhood filled with trips abroad, pricey extracurriculars, and mixing with upper middle class families. However, despite my efforts I seem to never go over the precipice of being desirable, and I truly don’t understand what’s holding me back. It seems your thought process is that you grew up fairly high status so you don't understand why hi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/25 02:43 PM
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Do you post on social media? Do you post him? Personally I don't post on social media. I just don't really like having that much of an online presence. I prefer my privacy. I wouldn't appreciate it if someone I was dating posted me all the time. If you don't post on social media maybe he assumes you don't want to be posted.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 03:52 PM
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You're right. Seems like most of the couples I know met at school but I guess that isn't as typical anymore
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 03:18 PM
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Most people meet their partner at school or work but if that isn't working for you then you could try chess clubs, assuming you want to date kind of nerdy guys. You could also try dance classes or martial arts.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 02:12 AM
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If you just start saying hi to them some guys might take the lead from there
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 02:10 AM
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I think that's a nice way of looking at it. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:06 PM
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You don't sound stupid at all. In fact I think it is insightful of you recognize potential reasons for the feelings you are having. It is tempting to believe people you have strong feelings for will change. People do this all the time. It's rare for that change to actually happen or last though. It's a major reason why people stay in abusive relationships. It is hard for people to change their personality. It almost always requires persistent, dedicated effort by the person, preferably with the …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:26 PM
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Looked at some of your previous comments as well and this guy sounds like a loser. You completely support him and he seems to be unintelligent and cruel. What exactly does he bring to the table? I would leave him, and bring the puppy with you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:27 AM
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I don't think having sex on the 4th date is going to make most guys lose respect for you or classify you as easy. He might have lost respect for you based on what you told him about your past. It's hard to know.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 03:29 AM
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Andrew Tate is a red flag. Recreating his dating profile probably isn't. He might have just thought "wait, I've only been on 1 date with this girl, it's crazy to delete my dating profile already." That would be a totally normal, healthy thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/25 08:03 PM
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Neurofeedback trains your brain to increase or decrease activity in certain parts of your brain to bring it back to normal levels. So for example, certain parts of the brain are associated with high levels of anxiety and your brain can be trained to reduce activity in these areas to get them back to normal levels of activity for a healthy person. There have been studies showing it is quite effective in treating PTSD, among many other mental health issues. It is surprisingly effective and usually…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/25 05:45 PM
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Having trauma and some mental illness doesn't mean you are forever broken. There are plenty of people, including myself who have healed significantly and been able to live healthy, fulfilling lives. Therapy, meditation, and neurofeedback have all helped me a ton. I'm confident you could get to a place where you could have a healthy relationship with enough work. Also, I agree with your views on body count. There needs to be something in between the feminist talking point about how "it is great a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/25 11:55 PM
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You're right, red pill women is about women changing their behavior to have more successful relationships with men and not about men changing their behavior. I can see why that might seem unfair, but it makes perfect sense. If you are advising someone to help them be more successful at something, you want to tell them to change things that they actually have control over. You can control your own behavior, you cannot control the behavior of others. So yes, advice towards women on how to have mor…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 09:49 PM
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It is pretty common for women (especially those with low self esteem) to be less attracted to a man because he is willing to commit to you. If you think you aren't very high quality then if a man is willing to commit to you then he must be kind of a loser because why would a high quality man want to commit to a low quality woman? Have you ever been attracted to a man up until the point where he wanted to commit to you, and then you didn't find him attractive? Also, very attractive men in their e…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/25 09:21 PM
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You are lovable. I would strongly suggest therapy. Believing you are unlovable makes it much harder to form a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/25 03:31 PM
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So you don't know any women over 30 that are in a relationship with a man? Men are perfectly happy to stay with the women they marry into old age. Men almost never leave their wives. 80 percent of divorce is initiated by the woman. Think about how many times you have heard "his wife left him". It practically rolls off the tongue, like a common expression. Now thing how many times you have heard "her husband left her." Much less common. My point is that if your view of men were accurate, men woul…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/25 03:16 PM
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I would say any flattering photo is good as long as it actually looks like you (as in not at some angle that makes you look significantly different or somehow hides a major flaw). I think makeup is fine as long as its makeup you would typically wear on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/25 04:27 PM
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Yeah, I could see how it would be hard to find a good man that meets your standards in the Caribbean. If you're educated and successful in a place where that isn't common, it makes it harder as a woman. And like you mentioned, a lot of the successful men move to a more prosperous country. Glad you could vent, and hope this sub has helped!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/25 01:57 PM
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What country is this? In most parts of the west there are plenty of good men so when a woman has the attitude that all the men suck, it is usually more of a problem with the woman. She is either seeking out (perhaps subconsciously) or attracting the wrong sort of men due to the way she acts and the places she meets men. But I'm sure there are some parts of the world where most of the men do indeed suck.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/25 01:29 AM
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Haha, well if any of them see you on there then they are on there too and have no right to judge. I've used it quite a bit so let me know if you have any questions or need any tips for your pictures
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 03:50 PM
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I think the other comments have given you good advice, but it looks like nobody has really addressed your side question about how to actually figure out how attractive you are. I think Photofeeler can be a good tool for this. It basically lets people rate your attractiveness and gives you a score that tells you what percentile you are (so an 8 would mean your photo was rated higher than 80% of other photos of women your age). Photo quality of course matters but I think if you try it with many ph…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 12:50 AM
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I don't think there is a way to get to that stage with a high quality man over long distance. Sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/25 04:44 PM
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I think we need more information. Is he actually your boyfriend, or were you just hooking up? Does he love you? Like Wife_and_Mama said, a guy with options is going to choose an option that is actually near him the vast majority of the time. There could potentially be an exception if he is already very invested in you though. How long have you been long distance? When could you potentially not be long distance anymore?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/25 03:57 PM
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30 minutes is almost triple the average and still 50% higher than what women say they want on average. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2019/1/28/how-long-people-want-sex-to-last-versus-how-long-sex-actually-lasts/ Women reported average foreplay length of 11 minutes, and said they would like it to be 19 minutes. It also depends on what you consider foreplay vs sex. Are manual and oral considered foreplay? If so, then 30 minutes of foreplay sounds a bit more reasonable. But just making out …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 09:06 PM
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30 minutes for foreplay sounds like a ton. If you need that much to get aroused, I agree with the other commenter that you might want to get some things checked out. You could also look into supplements that increase libido for women.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 03:14 PM
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I think a good rule of thumb is to be a little bit more enthusiastic than he is. Of course, don't go so far that it isn't at least somewhat genuine. Personally I don't think playing hard to get is a good idea, but if you do want to do it, it should still be giving him the impression that he will succeed with you eventually. If you just give him the impression you aren't interested then he will probably lose interest too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 04:00 PM
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That's great! Sounds very healing
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 03:00 PM
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Think whatever you want. It's a common problem in the modern world for women to have unrealistic standards that they fail to meet until they are in their mid 30s and have to drop their standards dramatically. In fact, there are plenty of women on this sub that have said that exact thing happened to them. I have met many average looking women who will only date men above 6 foot who make 6 figures. I think that doesn't sound too unreasonable to a lot of women, but the reality is that less than 5% …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/25 09:39 PM
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You say you have a very specific set of requirements. Just how specific are they? Many women fall into the trap of having such specific requirements that the chance they can even meet a man that meets them all is very low (and that's without even considering the chances that man will also be interested in her). I think it would be worth it to do the math on all of your requirements to see what percent of the men in your area actually fit them. Normally the Asian requirement would really narrow t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/25 03:18 PM
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Honestly this is probably the way to go. Most really attractive guys will want to date a bunch of girls in their 20s before settling down in their 30s. Less physically attractive guys will probably be more willing to settle down early.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/25 03:43 PM
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I think the best place to find a man like that is probably church.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/25 07:01 PM
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Very few are left. Most young men simply aren't dating or having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 03:10 AM
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That's great that you want to improve your life! You already completed the first step of recognizing the problem, and now you can start fixing it. I think therapy should be your primary goal right now. When I have a hard time doing something I know I need to do, it's usually because I feel overwhelmed. Breaking it down into smaller steps and slowly making changes can help. Have a goal of doomscrolling for less than an hour a day at first. Slowly reduce that amount. Walk half a mile a day. Then s…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/25 04:39 PM
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How small are your breasts? As long as you have at least some boob and your chest wouldn't be mistaken for a 10 year old boy's then that is genuinely fine. Whether you believe it or not, most men are fine with small breasts and some even prefer them. This is clear from porn. There are many very popular porn stars with small breasts. I'll give you examples if you really want proof. Most men in their early to mid 20s just care about sex and so looks are the only thing that matters. Once they are l…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/25 05:55 PM
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That's mostly good advice but face is definitely more important than body for most men. https://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode/a-pretty-face-or-a-hot-body-09-10-27/ https://bondibeauty.com.au/life/relationships/science-says-do-men-prefer-a-hot-face-or-body-in-women/ Personally I don't even look at a girl's body unless I like her face. I think most guys are the same.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/25 03:42 PM
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It does cause a lot of problems. Many women with good careers but below average looks have standards that don't match what they can actually get and so they end up single. It's just reality though. Men valuing looks so much is irrational and causes problems but it's simply the way they are wired.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 06:42 PM
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Totally agree with the other comment saying red pill content directed toward men will not be useful to you. As far as your other questions... Most men find overweight women less attractive. Not all men, but most. Attraction definitely grows over time for women. I'm not sure how common that is for men. Most male attraction is based on physical appearance. Things like being kind and intelligent definitely play a factor, but they are usually pretty apparent immediately. Romantic feelings grow for m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 03:03 PM
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The likelihood that a man is serious depends on a lot of different factors. The biggest one, and the one women ignore the most, is if a man is significantly more attractive than you. Men are much less selective than women when it comes to sex. Most guys who are a 9 will be willing to casually date and have sex with a 7 but it's very rare they would have a serious relationship with them. Age and age gap are also important factors. Men in their early 20s are less interested in serious relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/25 08:41 PM
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There's a lot of resources on this sub on vetting that you should read. Since you connected with them on dating apps, it is likely a lot of them are simply looking for sex. Weed those men out first. Unless you are extremely attractive, you will likely only have 1 to 3 options after that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/25 05:23 PM
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I mean... all those things you mentioned are either essentially required (might go to jail if you don't) or the benefits outweigh the downsides. When it comes to relationships it is not required to get the government involved through marriage and the benefits often do not outweigh the downsides. Men often lose more than half their life savings by getting married. A lot of states they pretty much just always split it 50/50. Doesn't matter if she cheated, was abusive, and contributed nothing. She …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/25 01:16 AM
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I agree a 2 scale system works better. Reminds me of the bad boy score vs good guy score from this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4aMiAesXjE It's not perfect but I think it gets the information that most people are missing across pretty well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/25 04:20 AM
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What's your swiping behavior on OLD like? For most women, they only swipe right on the top 5% most attractive profiles they are shown. It's just female nature to be selective like that. But this almost guarantees you're going to have a bad time. Dating apps show you profiles of people who are of similar attractiveness to you. Around half the profiles you see will be men who are more attractive, around half will be less attractive. By only swiping on the top 5% most attractive profiles you see, y…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/25 04:19 PM
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Unfortunately looks are very important to men. The good news is that men are pretty good at settling for what they can get. I think things can be confusing for women because, like you experienced, many men are willing to have sex with women who are less attractive than them. If you're a 7 and sometimes 9s show some interest/attention but it turns out to be purely sexual, it makes you think "ok that 9 just wanted sex but maybe I'll meet a nice 9 who wants to date me seriously". That is very rare …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/25 06:52 PM
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This sounds like a cultural issue. The relationships I see in the people around me are not like this at all.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/25 06:36 PM
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I think Dr Taraban has some good points and I agree with a lot of his advice for men, but I disagree with his advice for women, and that advice also happens to not be in line with this sub. He tells women to sleep with men very quickly, because apparently that lets the man know she really likes him. I think this is horrible advice and causes the man to value you less, and puts you in a situation like the one you are in now. Honestly I would take his advice for women with a grain of salt. There's…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/25 03:07 PM
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In my experience he vast majority of women don't even ask what a man is looking for so lying isn't even necessary. Perhaps you could consider it a lie of omission since most women are looking for something serious. Most guys on dating apps are just looking to hookup. It simply isn't a good method to find a girl for something serious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/25 08:57 PM
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The feelings of men do grow over time. Certainly the vast majority of men who have been in love were not in love the very first time they saw, kissed, or had sex with the woman. I think the point of that article is that if a man does not feel any romantic interest (only sexual interest in the case of a hookup) then he isn't going to develop it. But if he has some romantic interest, it can grow. This has been my experience as a man and is what I see with other men too. I agree with your advice ov…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 11:25 PM
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A lot of men just want to focus on other parts of their lives and not get tied down in their 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 07:58 PM
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Beauty is probably 80 to 90% of what men find attractive. Even if a woman doesn't pass the threshold for most men, she will almost certainly pass it for some men. Men are pretty good at settling for what they are actually able to get, and something is better than nothing. It's rare a woman is so unattractive she cannot find anybody to date. It's far more often the case that an unattractive woman is not willing to lower her standards to the level of men that are actually willing to date her.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/25 07:15 PM
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A lot of people are saying you are wrong but I think you're talking about different things. Hypergamy as a feeling and desire is deeply ingrained in the female psyche. It's evolutionary psychology. Women invest a lot of time and energy in creating a child and the number of years they are able to create children is limited so it is beneficial to be extremely selective when choosing who to have children with. It makes sense to have a desire to have children only with the absolute best man that you…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/25 03:24 PM
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Are you trying to calculate a number or determine what caliber of man you are capable of attracting for a serious relationship? I guess those two are related, but there isn't really a consensus on what different numbers mean. I think it is more useful to deal with percentiles, but people are less used to that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/25 02:50 PM
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Exactly. This woman seems to think she is still 25 and that this guy needs to make up for being 54. From an attractiveness point of view a 35 year old woman with a kid isn't any more attractive than a 54 year old man. In fact it might be less attractive. Based on the information we have, he is probably out of her league. He apparently makes more than $500k, putting him in the top 1% of earners. Unless he is exceptionally ugly or she is exceptionally beautiful, it makes sense she would be the one…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 03:44 PM
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I think what you're looking for is being an escort. Dating is about finding mutual enjoyment in the company of another. It's not about the other person's financial contributions meeting your hourly market rate. From his perspective I'm sure there are plenty of 35 year old single moms who would want to date him, especially if he has a decent amount of money. You don't enjoy his company. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/25 04:32 PM
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I'm not saying a suit is the most attractive thing a man can wear, I was just asking OP if that's what she finds attractive. For sure some women find very masculine clothing more attractive than a suit. Or a military/police uniform for some women.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 12:51 AM
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It's certainly not the only thing that matters. It's probably around 10 to 30% for most women. Would you rather date the guy who is physically an 8 who is broke, uneducated, and unemployed, or the guy who is physically a 7 who is successful and educated? Maybe some young women who are just looking to have fun would pick the first guy, but the majority of women would pick the second guy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/25 05:55 PM
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Do you think suits are the most attractive thing a man can wear? There are plenty of other outfits that enhance a man's body parts. In fact with a suit you can barely see most of their body. A tight t shirt and some shorts lets you see their body a lot more. Do you find that more attractive? The fact that it is subconscious means a man being high status makes a man more attractive but you don't attribute it to the fact that he is high status.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/25 05:51 PM
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It's subconscious. Very few women have the thought "this man has high status therefore I find him attractive." They just see a guy who is high status and think "wow he's hot." That said, some women are affected by it more than others. You may be affected by it less than most. When a guy is wearing a nice suit, does he look more attractive to you than wearing sweat pants? I would bet so. That is mostly because a suit signals high status.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/25 05:20 PM
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What country is this in? In a lot of western countries guys your age are terrified of approaching women because they don't want to be seen as creepy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 05:09 PM
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Glad you are continuing to improve and starting EMDR next week! Hope it helps!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 02:50 PM
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Great advice!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/25 03:38 PM
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I agree that this guy isn't a realistic goal for a committed relationship, not because he is out of your league, but because it seems like he simply doesn't want a committed relationship. It doesn't matter if you are the most beautiful, feminine, sweet, smart girl in the world if he isn't looking to settle down. If the choice is between dating 3 to 5 great girls at once, or just dating one amazing girl, he is going to pick the 3 to 5. He needs to decide he is ready to settle down and then you ha…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 05:54 PM
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If you are very picky on looks and character, and are picky in the same way that other women are (for example, liking men who are confident, which is extremely common for women, versus liking men who know a lot about geography, which is rare), then your own attractiveness level needs to match how selective you are being. Let's say your standards eliminate 99% of men. That 1% of men who are left are probably able to date 99% of women. Are you also in the top 1% in terms of attractiveness? If not,…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 11:08 PM
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I just tried out that tool and I think it's a great idea, but it is improperly handling age. It says "the probability that a guy of the United States male population aged between 18 and X meets your standards is:" but then it gives you the probability that the guy meets your standards and is in that age range. You can try it yourself. Just put the age to 18 and have no other standards. If it worked properly it would give you 100%, but it gives you 1.81%. It can still be useful, just don't set a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 10:58 PM
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I don't think you need to feel insecure. Being wealthy and successful doesn't increase a woman's attractiveness significantly in the eyes of men. It might actually decrease it if he wants a wife who is a SAHM since successful women are often less likely to want to stay home. He definitely seems very interested to me. You could try just being flirty when messaging him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/25 05:20 PM
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Nice work! So glad to hear the ASD is fading :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 04:34 PM
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Ok, good! I was concerned because you only mentioned the pills and I thought they were just trying to push medication on you rather than address the root issue, which sometimes happens. It's a lot of info to learn, especially when you are in a state where absorbing info can be hard.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/25 03:34 PM
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I'm curious where you live because the people who are helping you don't seem very knowledgeable. Talk therapy is almost universally regarded as a better treatment for trauma than any pill. Your mind and body need to process the trauma or it will become "stuck", causing PTSD. I'm not an expert, so I would still recommend talking to a therapist and following their guidance. If you really cannot afford it, or it takes some time to find a therapist, then I would recommend meditation, yoga, spending …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/25 04:09 PM
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Great, I'm glad you are getting some help. I'm not sure what the treatment looks like for recent trauma, but EMDR helps a lot with PTSD. I think finding a good therapist who specializes in trauma should be the next step, which hopefully the ER can help you with. Message me if you need anything :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/25 06:37 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. It sounds like this was a traumatic event and seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma for a few weeks now could save you from having PTSD and needing many months of therapy later. I would make that a high priority!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/25 03:43 PM
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I think that's a great list! I would be reluctant to add too much to it because it can quickly get to the point of being unrealistic. A lot of women these days have requirements like being 6ft and making 6 figures. Just those two alone you are already eliminating 97% of men. Add in the unspoken requirements like decent looking, not fat, good social skills, decent confidence, and not a total jerk, and you are down to probably 0.1% of men. And most women find those same things attractive so those …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 04:30 PM
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Men prefer younger women when they are choosing somebody, but once they are in a committed relationship, especially a marriage, they are actually quite loyal and very unlikely to leave. Half of all marriages end in divorce and 80% of divorces are initiated by the woman. That means when woman gets married there is a 10% chance he will leave her. That's also about the rate at which women cheat on their husbands, which I don't think is a coincidence. Think about how often you have heard "his wife l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 08:07 PM
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It can be hard to tell if a guy just wants to have sex with you based on what he says and how he treats you. The best way to know is talking to other people who know him, especially men who aren't close friends with him. Guys almost always know whether another guy is a horn dog who just likes to bang girls. You aren't going to always know a lot of people who know the guy though. Another good way to tell is to look at his personality and lifestyle. Does he value excitement and pleasure in life, o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 05:43 PM
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Showing interest and expressing you like a guy is a huge turn on for men. The reason why it isn't always wise is because if you make it clear you like a guy, some guys will think "this girl likes me so it would be easy to sleep with her" without having any interest in something serious. If you don't think the guy would do that sort of thing then making it obvious you like him is a great move. If a guy indicates he likes you, hiding that you like him back will just cause him to lose interest, as …
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:52 PM
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It is a bad sign that he is messaging you a lot less, but that is probably because he thinks you aren't interested due to treating him the same as every other guy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 07:47 PM
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Sex and respect might not necessarily be enough to keep a man on their own, but lack of sex and respect will drive away the vast majority of men very quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 12:19 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 04:03 PM
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A problem a lot of women run into these days is that men are willing to have casual relationships with women significantly less attractive than them, but for a committed relationship they want a girl around their own attractiveness level. It is natural to only want to date the most attractive men who are interested in you, but those men are probably more attractive than you and therefore very likely to only want something casual with you. I don't know if this is your situations or not, but I'll …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 02:04 AM
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I think you are attributing his behavior too much to you. Some guys, especially young ones, will cheat no matter who they are dating. It doesn't matter how beautiful, kind, smart, etc. their partner is, they just want to sleep with a lot of women. Plenty of guys have cheated on women who are less physically attractive than their partner. That doesn't mean they prefer less attractive women. Guys usually cheat with promiscuous women because they are easier to sleep with and women with morals usual…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 09:34 PM
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You could also suggest he get into martial arts. It's a great way to improve confidence and also make friends. Best if it's a practical martial art like BJJ, Muay Thai, or boxing. If he is intimidated by weight training he might be intimidated by martial arts too though. Perhaps just getting started with body weight exercises at home would make him more comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 08:30 PM
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I think it's useful to look at this from the perspective of evolutionary psychology. Why do these two different types of female attractiveness exist? It's because they serve different purposes. What we call sexiness is men finding a woman attractive for short term mating and what we call cuteness is finding a woman attractive for long term mating. This is why your "sexy" friend has such a different experience with men than cute you. Men are interested in short term casual sex with her while they…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 05:58 PM
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Could it be that you are attracted to qualities in men that would cause them to treat you poorly? Some women find arrogance, aloofness, and other "bad boy" traits very attractive. Also, what percentage of the men that approach you do you go out with? What is your criteria for accepting/rejecting? Most men will have casual sex with women who are significantly less attractive than them, but will want somebody of similar attractiveness for something serious. If you are only accepting dates with the…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 09:19 PM
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I think the trick is to have a man you trust help you vet them. An abusive man won't be as on guard with another man. We can pretty much always tell when another guy is an asshole. I've only been surprised once in my life when a man I know has been accused of abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 10:06 PM
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It doesn't sound like your stepmom got the short end of the stick. Couldn't she have gotten millions of dollars for basically nothing but foolishly spent it all? This isn't men or the system screwing her out of money, it is her own decisions. As for your mom, if she thought he might harm her for pursuing her share of the assets then perhaps that was the best decision, but at the end of the day she could have gotten her share and chose not too. That shouldn't discourage you from marriage because …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:22 PM
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Just because marriage didn't result in financial success for your mother doesn't mean that it never results in financial success for women. It usually does. Did your parents have a prenup that said your dad got to keep everything? In the vast majority of situations without a prenup, assets are split 50/50. Also, it is pretty rare for men to leave their wives. Think about how many times you have heard the phrase "His wife left him" vs "Her husband left her". 80% of divorces are initiated by the w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:03 PM
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Perhaps this is normal in your culture as you say, but this sub is mostly people who live in the west. In the west the expectation that your long distance boyfriend send you an allowance is ridiculous and entitled. Perhaps people in your own culture can give you feedback on whether his refusal to do this is actually an indication that he isn't interested in providing for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 07:12 PM
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I think saying they are handsome is a great move! Men are rarely complimented like that, even if they are quite handsome, so it will most likely be very appreciated. Complimenting their clothes is a lot less likely to work well, especially with masculine men. A lot of men do not put much thought into their clothes. They bought it because it was cheap and they wore it that day because it was at the top of the drawer, so you liking it isn't really a reflection of anything about the man. Some men a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 05:02 PM
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A good way to figure out if your standards are too high is to figure out what percentage of guys your standards are excluding, and also try to estimate what percentage of women you are more attractive than. Most women would want a handsome millionaire with abs but that's less than 0.1% of men, so that isn't a realistic standard for 99.9% of women. Even just your employment standards exclude the vast majority of men in that age range. What percentage of men under 26 have a good career that that i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/24 02:52 PM
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Here is the trap a lot of women fall into. Men have much higher standards for who they will enter into a serious relationship with than who they will have something casual with. This is fairly obvious, but the less obvious consequence is that this causes women to have unrealistic expectations for the quality of man they are able to get commitment from. Let's say there is a woman who is a 7. Most men who are an 8 are willing to have something casual with her, and so she gets used to dating 8s and…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 02:20 AM
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Yeah, I'm sure that's a big part of it. They are in the habit of acting like friends. I think part of that habit is standing a few feet away from each other and rarely touching.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 05:35 PM
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Do you stand close to each other and casually touch each other a little bit? I think that is typically how people know you're a couple.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 03:54 PM
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I'm glad you are getting some help. CBT, meditation, and exercise all helped me decent amount. EMDR and neurofeedback have helped me a ton though, so I would definitely recommend giving those a try if you can! Hope you feel better soon!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 11:12 PM
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Are you in therapy at all? It is easier to resolve PTSD the closer you are to the traumatic event. EMDR could be super helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 07:23 PM
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Ask him if he would be ok with you studying with an attractive man all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 01:57 PM
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Cyberstalking somebody you are interested in dating is practically standard procedure, especially for women. He probably just thinks you like him, which is a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 03:01 AM
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What country is this? I don't think I've ever met somebody in the U.S who washes their clothes by hand. I'm sure they exist, and obviously there are Amish people and such, but she sounds very strange.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 09:06 PM
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From everything you wrote, it doesn't seem like mixed signals, just a clear signal of "I don't want to get married anytime soon." Has he said things that contradict this that you didn't mention?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 03:45 PM
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Is it possible that you are attracted to jerks? Most guys are not jerks so the fact that you are encountering a lot of huge jerks means you are either incredibly unlucky or you are seeking them out (perhaps unconsciously).
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 02:50 AM
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It is hard to know with any certainty without spending a significant amount of time with them. If there are guys in your social circle it should become clear whether they like to have casual sex or take relationships seriously. With a guy you don't know well, you should have some hint based on the way they act. Guys who party a lot are usually more interested in hooking up while guys who aren't too social and get good grades are usually more interested in a relationship, just as some examples. P…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 04:17 AM
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I wouldn't go wild, but nothing wrong with dating a couple guys during college
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 03:54 AM
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So you went on a few dates but never kissed? Did he ever try to kiss you? Did you give any signals that you wanted to kiss? I would think even for a very traditional relationship kissing within the first few dates would be expected.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 03:40 PM
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If you want to know how attractive you are photofeeler is a great way to do it. I would try it with a few different pictures.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 04:35 AM
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They are less pleasurable for most men, but more importantly, men can give themselves handjobs.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 06:30 PM
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Sounds like the root of the issue is that he is depressed. Ask him if he is depressed and what you can do to help. Therapy would be great but if he is truly unwilling to do that there are other things that can help like neurofeedback and certain supplements and herbs.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 02:52 PM
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Unless he is completely clueless, then his comment that he would want to marry a girl "like" you, was meant as a hint that he is open to the possibility of marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 05:19 PM
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I'm sorry your mom wasn't able to adequately fill her role. I can relate. Perhaps you could find a woman to mentor you, either in this sub or in real life. I would offer, but I'm a guy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 06:28 PM
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I think the advice Cosima gave you is great, and I just wanted to add that it is ok to take it slow too. If cold approaching women is too difficult at first, it is ok to start off just by going to class and casually talking to some people since even that sounds like it would be a lot of progress for you. Take baby steps and cut yourself a lot of slack. Trying to make friends can be difficult since if you try too hard that can be off putting too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 02:39 AM
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What happens if you try to initiate sex? Are your health issues something you will live with for the rest of your life and/or shorten your lifespan? What is the outlook for your future? Most guys would appreciate the cleaning but maybe he doesn't care if things are clean. I personally don't care if my shirts are ironed but would still appreciate the gesture.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 09:18 PM
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Why would he lie about only sleeping with 3 people? If guys lie about their body count, it is usually saying it is higher than it actually is.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 02:06 PM
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Honestly my first reaction was that his comment was a poor attempt at a joke or just something that didn't come out right. I wouldn't put so much weight on a single comment he made. He might have just been in a weird mood or maybe his friend had told him years ago that he needed to lower his standards if he ever wanted a wife, and he was referencing that without fully realizing you wouldn't understand.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 08:52 PM
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Didn't Starfield come out less than two weeks ago? Was he obsessively playing something else before then?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 09:26 PM
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Interesting, I was assuming that you lived in the west, but is sounds like maybe that isn't the case? Most red pill content creators are from the west and their target audience is men in the west. Red pill is a criticism of western culture, and actually advocates that if you do want to get married, you are better off finding a woman outside of the west.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 02:13 PM
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Thanks for being open minded! If the content creators are in the west, they are almost certainly talking about modern feminism in the west. Very few people who complain about feminism in the west think that women shouldn't have rights. I personally think modern feminism (again, in the west) sucks but the feminism from 30+ years ago was actually really important and most places outside of the west could certainly use that type of feminism today.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 02:09 PM
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I haven't heard any of these arguments in red pill content. Did the content he was listening to actually make these points? I doubt it. These honestly sound like straw man arguments or extrapolating statements made about our society to all societies to ever exist. I've never heard anybody claim that all forms of women's liberation are the same. If somebody says "feminism sucks", 99.9% of the time they are talking about modern feminism in the west, and everybody knows that is what they are talkin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 03:41 AM
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At what stage are you getting rejected? When trying to meet guys? After the first few dates? After sex? After a couple months? Dressing girly doesn't make you materialistic. Most guys prefer girls who dress at least a little girly. Do you make comments about how much money people make, what cars they drive, how nice their house is? Those are the things that would make you seem materialistic.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 03:04 PM
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I would say this is not ok. Obviously there is some level of attraction between them or they would not have matched with each other and gone on a date. Why does he need to be friends with a woman he finds attractive? He should find some guy friends instead.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 08:41 PM
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I would ask her why she feels this way about men. Did she recently get deep into radical feminism? Was she rejected by a man or multiple men, perhaps in mean ways? Is it possible she could have been sexually assaulted? People don't just suddenly develop extreme views for no reason (unless they have a serious mental illness).
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 02:50 PM
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It seems unlikely that the first time you two have sex will live up to your expectations. Waiting three years puts a lot of pressure on it to be amazing. I would try to let go of your expectations and just have a "good enough" attitude about it. Tell him what you want in terms of romance and try to be ok with him just doing exactly that. Seems like you just need to get past it at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 12:02 AM
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So you have a desire to have a child and also a desire to go to school (and presumably have a career after that?). You have about 40 years to accomplish your academic and career goals. If you take off 5 years to have a kid and stay at home with them, could you still accomplish your goals in the remaining 35 years? I would bet so. Something to consider is that your emotions don't really care about logic. They are subconscious and based in evolution in order to get you to survive and reproduce. Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 04:24 PM
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Would just working one of those jobs be enough to support your family and satisfy the lifestyle that you want? I think you need to have a conversation with him about how you would like to see him more and that seeing him is more important than the extra money (if that is indeed the case).
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 03:13 PM
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Would you be comfortable revealing which mafia or country this is? Some mafias you simply cannot leave. Also, are his family members part of it too? If he was born into it, it is unlikely he will leave it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 03:05 PM
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I totally agree that women should be able to do the same things as men, like have casual sex without consequence. That would be great. That is simply not reality though. Men do not want to have serious relationships with promiscuous women. Its just evolutionary psychology. Throughout our history birth control was either non-existent or unsafe and unreliable. That means if a woman had sex with a lot of different men, then she either already has kids (or is pregnant) or she is infertile. If she al…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 02:03 AM
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