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Do some interesting stuff on your own. Talk to her, invite her with eventually
/r/seduction19/09/17 07:55 PM
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Yes doing it might boost your confidence. It also might make you realize that your still awkward and can't handle speaking to a girl without paying for it. Money is better spent on therapy.
/r/seduction29/08/17 12:50 PM
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In my opinion don't let others walk over you, but don't feel desperate or like you have to do so. A lion doesn't think about a vulture. If it's a stranger, like the new guy at work ate a slice of pizza you and a friend ordered because you left it in the break room. That's an accident, don't be a dick, be chill about it. If a friend makes a comment about how stupid something is on you, own it and tell them they couldn't pull it off. Yeah don't let people walk all over you, but getting angry or ge…
/r/seduction27/08/17 11:05 PM
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No offensive but it's kind of true
/r/seduction10/07/17 08:53 PM
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My issue is it sounds like you just flat out lied about your life and have no real experience. If that's what you wanted to hear, I don't know about you but I'd call that bullshit.
/r/seduction31/05/17 11:03 AM
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I have a personal rule against downvoting posts but I really came close to breaking it for this bullshit
/r/seduction31/05/17 10:40 AM
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I read like 3 lines, I saw the "eye contact is a trait of powerful people" and it's not. Eye contact actually triggers an empathetic response in both parties and it's that feeling that you get making the difference between someone just looking at your face and actual eye contact. The number of people who suffer from a lack of empathy (which I mean literally as psychopaths) are statistically more likely to be in positions of power. It's actual been done in studies with children and that lack of e…
/r/seduction07/04/17 09:29 AM
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She's pretty awkward from the sound of it, not all women are the same
/r/seduction04/04/17 03:55 PM
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Smh these comments, she's interested in you, just shy. Just keep going, she's weird and introverted, just keep flirting with her, she's not used to it and will be flattered you're interested in her
/r/seduction04/04/17 02:31 PM
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That's a great armchair psychoanalytic profile doc. Your comment pisses me off. I know that half of what you said is BS or you projecting. If op reads this, it's okay to be concerned about your looks. When you put guy genuine care and effort into looking good and maintaining yourself women find it attractive and really do appreciate it. u/Woujo is right though, your personality, attitude, body language and so on, is much more important than your looks. That's not to say don't try to look good, b…
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:23 PM
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Honestly its not worth it sometimes to give second chances. Either they should have given him a reason for it in the first place or his game was weak. Maybe there is some special circumstance but it's more likely she isn't actually interested and it's a waste of OP's time
/r/seduction29/03/17 01:50 AM
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Dude you're trying to rush straight into personal questions and project ideas onto them without knowing them at all. She's not comfortable with you yet. Be playful a question like "Would you rather eat cereal with a butter knife or do dishes?" is not nearly as serious. It doesn't mean anything but it's fun and that's what you want to be 90% of the time. There is a big difference between "you seem like a teacher, do you read?" and "You look like a teacher, you'd be sexy with a book" and then aski…
/r/seduction18/03/17 06:16 PM
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Can't help you there, I'm pretty blunt about it and just try to stay friends when I finally do start dating. Doesn't work out every time but I'll give it the D+ for effort cause that's pretty good, and about my positive experience rate
/r/seduction17/03/17 04:08 PM
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Dude it's easier to just be honest and let her know it's an open relationship at first, then move into being exclusive. If you lie from the beginning she'll never trust you. Nobody is going to commit to a relationship if they think you'll cheat.
/r/seduction17/03/17 03:00 PM
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What happened to this sub? Why is a dude asking for cooking advice? If she is comfortable enough coming over to your place to eat dinner alone with you she probably is comfortable enough to sleep with you. Unless that's not what she's expecting. Why haven't you already fucked her yet? Romantic gestures are absolutely terrible for attracting women initially.
/r/seduction06/03/17 08:47 AM
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Don't hit on every girl you see unless you are really outgoing, and that means approaching guys just for the interaction. It's what separates people seeing you as being social and seeing you as being creepy. Also we cant help unless you tell us
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:58 AM
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Work on being charismatic and likable during your job. Go ahead and practice your social skills. Don't flirt while working unless it's someone absolutely you'll regret not making an attempt on. Which should be almost never. Don't think to much about the eye contact, most people are really receptive to it and it doesn't mean much since we can't always accurately gauge things from a post. Head to a mall or local festival if you want to game alone
/r/seduction07/10/16 03:50 PM
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Do things you want. I didn't really do it until I was living alone 1000 miles from where I grew up. I pushed myself to live out there. Go out to coffee shops alone, go eat alone, and go to parties alone. I believe people latch onto eachother because the majority are a weak willed group who struggle to do things for themselves. If my friends don't want to do something exciting with me I will go do it alone for myself then give them shit for being lame and boring. That kind of security and self co…
/r/seduction18/09/16 05:29 PM
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He's not wrong, hit the gym, shave that head, dye your eye brows if you want to look different. Shaving your head is a choice, a balding head isn't
/r/seduction08/08/16 05:35 AM
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My father just was always talking down to me/ telling me I was a piece of shit and never let me do things. I mean it wasn't that bad compared to other people but I remember him ripping my guitar from my hands when I was 12 and smashing it in the street because I wasn't doing well enough in school to deserve a hobby. I don't remember much of highschool. I lived with relatives for a time because my house was dangerous for me. I remember that I started picking up the pua stuff when I got to college…
/r/seduction28/07/16 05:40 PM
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Lol yeah, It's a bit better in Minneapolis/St.Paul, I'm back where I grew up though and regular visits from mom kills a lot fun:/
/r/seduction27/07/16 02:21 AM
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Tbh yes, not as bad as that though. I lived in California for a while and girls in the bay are easy, in MN not so much (and they are worse looking). Game anywhere between Cali and Texas for best results imo
/r/seduction26/07/16 11:31 PM
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Don't treat going out like it's a chore and don't go out and buy just grind it out. If you are just going through the motions and never actually engaged in anything how can you expect to get better?
/r/seduction16/07/16 08:28 PM
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You're way too serious to be real
/r/seduction15/06/16 10:14 PM
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Nah what you wear doesn't matter as much but just keep it simple, I dress in preppish pants and a plain colored t most of the time. I have a couple different shoes for each season and right now (these kickass slipons) [https://www.johnstonmurphy.com/mullen-perfed-slip-on/6231.html?dwvar_6231_color=Navy%20Nubuck&dwvar_6231_width=M#start=1]. What you are wearing sounds fine. Just don't let your clothes look ratty, don't wear out of season fabrics, and keep your shoes clean but don't be a dick like…
/r/seduction11/06/16 07:31 PM
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Just during approach. If you talk about something and she says "I wish I knew more about that". Laughing at what you say even though it's not funny at all. Not pulling away when you touch her. She tries to keep things from being awkward, like filling gaps in silence, asking questions about you making conversation or doing something and bring you with.
/r/seduction11/06/16 06:42 PM
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I know this might be hard but meet more people and mess up more. I tried gaming this girl who I knew had a boyfriend, he picked up the phone when I called. I feel like a shit person and I messed up their relationship entirely but the more do something the more you get used too it and you learn to let it go.
/r/seduction07/06/16 08:58 AM
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Magic Bullets
/r/seduction14/05/16 09:45 PM
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I know what you mean, I tried to spread everything that he asked for out. The business books really help more with decision making and justifying them to other people. I know what you're saying about GEB, I wouldn't say it's math but I don't really know how to describe it
/r/seduction06/05/16 07:57 PM
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Fuck yes I've got this lemme check my library Dale Carnegie; how to win friends and influence people Dale Carnegie; the art of public speaking Jim Collins; from good to great Benjahmin Graham; the intelligent investor Stanley & Danko; the millionaire next door Ferdinand de Saussere; Course de generale linguistics Lev Vygotsky; on thought and language Douglas Hofstadter; Gödel, Escher, Bach: and Eternal, Golden, Braid Edit: The first two are the essential social skill reads, the 3 after that are …
/r/seduction06/05/16 04:43 PM
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So this is a really good question. I absolutely love role play and you can justify just about anything with that, like in a story make that guy one of the suspicious people you'll have to deal with (before he approaches) and let her on it. When he approaches talk to him that way, if they get really flustered and unsure of what's going on just you'll usually make the girl laugh and he'll be confused. Let's just continue this whole story and say he plays along and he's hilarious. That's awesome! Y…
/r/seduction06/05/16 03:42 PM
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Like Social circles relationships are people met through other people. Pickup was developed by going to clubs and parties and generally the starting off that way. Day game is something that pretty much wasn't done or heard of a couple of years ago, it's just being able to walk up to somebody and start a relationship. It in my opinion takes some heavily developed social skills. Those 2 people below are clearly to afraid of rejection and just projected their insecurity all over my post which I'm n…
/r/seduction05/05/16 07:15 PM
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You enjoying that slippery shit slope? Are you even speaking from experience? I'm just giving him some heads up. "Don't take shit" doesn't mean whatever petty uselessness you're trying to imply. Just ignoring a guy stepping in is such a bad fucking idea. You can be as cool as you want in the lonely corner letting that guy insult you and just telling yourself that the "alpha male" would let that happen. Anyway I didn't really read your post past that, just seemed like you don't like the way I gam…
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:50 AM
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LA is great and RSD is to. The group I swear by is love systems so hit up them and see what's up. I know the prices for seminars are ridiculous but I doubt they would flat out turn you away, so talk with them a bit.
/r/seduction05/05/16 08:41 AM
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Asking questions like it's an interview is a good way to flatline a conversation. You can physically escalate a lot faster than day game. Keep it light and fun, humor is more important and so is sexual escalation so say stuff like "Do you want me to take my shirt off now or later." You will be approaching groups (or should be) so be ready for some shit tests or whatever those are called now. Those groups sometimes include guys. Some guys might see you talking with a girl and start giving you shi…
/r/seduction05/05/16 08:16 AM
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Malls are good, maybe he was at a club, really anywhere is game for pickup, except the gym. The gym is a place for worshipping Broseidon, making gainz, and getting laid not by women but with compliments from other dudes in the least gay way possible.
/r/seduction05/05/16 06:13 AM
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It's like your mentality. Your state of mind when you approach, her state of mind when she is attracted to you. It's just called frame.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:14 PM
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Well there used to be a rule of don't send more than 4 texts in a day. If role play isn't something you like then don't rely on it but be able to do it if you need to. Just enjoy yourself and do things that are fun and exciting to you. Then being women along on those things.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:11 PM
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I think routines are okay. Don't rely on them but don't be above using them. The new stuff is really bland and a lot of the "PUA's" on youtube suck ass
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:55 PM
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I don't know how you approach but referencing something from your first poc can snap her back into that frame. Let's say you gave her a nickname like "Larkin", that sounds like a spy name. Text something like. "Larkin, I need you. I just got the orders. Our mission is to infiltrate the mall and stop the spread of communism." Wait for her response, if she says anything other than no. You can reply with "Be alert. Wherever you are, I'll come get you, we need to stick together in these dangerous ti…
/r/seduction03/05/16 08:23 PM
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So even the female "PUA's"on Reddit don't make a move and the few I remember from a while ago (different community) were a lot more similar to the male PUA community. Initiating conversations, kino, etc. My suggestion is just go for it already, don't force anything but you have to be the one who escalates.
/r/seduction03/05/16 08:12 PM
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You could be criticizing everything. At first it's funny and people like it but the longer they know you they think it's serious and when you criticize them they take it personally because that is who you are in their eyes. I had a friend from high- school who did this and never stopped. I gave him a couple chances, told him I wouldn't hang with him if he was going to be bitching about everything. Called him out all the fucking time because nobody seemed to have enough balls to say anything and …
/r/seduction03/05/16 08:06 PM
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Lol I've always thought the steps are Approach (I don't think this applies to you) Transition; starting a normal conversation Attraction; She becomes attracted to you and curious about you Qualification; you find reason to be attracted to her or curious about her Comfort; You build physical and emotional intimacy with her I have trouble with making wall of text posts, so tell me which you are struggling with.
/r/seduction03/05/16 04:11 PM
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A lot of material is dated, I'm going to bump your comment because a lot of people aren't up to date, still reading their copy of "the game" by Neil Strauss. People need to hear this so they can keep taking the fundamentals with a grain of salt. While the old material is still suggested, without reading a bit of it you would believe it all or possibly doing the right things the wrong way.
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:49 PM
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He asked for a summary of the video. The PUA community is Real Social Dynamics not "Rosetta Stone"
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:35 AM
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I have that I think it's from the same place, I'm petty certain this is from an older RSD/Blueprint super conference so it's definitely worth watching. The Tyler Durden RSD is just Tyler, this guy is another speaker from the place his audio course is from.
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:26 AM
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This is better than the near useless shit that floods this sub, don't listen to r/theredpill retard He tells you to stay congruent. The reasoning was if you're at a party lighten up don't immediately open with a set that will make a connection. He suggests doing a little role play, doesn't go deep into this because even though it's his thing it's definitely not his expertise. I personally like tools play because it sets you apart, almost nobody does if. Attraction is about creating emotional spi…
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:20 AM
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So you're telling me cheesy lines are bad? "If I could lift 400 pounds, I'd pick you up" is what I'm going to try on this fitness girl at a coffee shop tomorrow. Pray for my life
/r/seduction03/05/16 07:49 AM
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I'll show you how those conversations usually go for me: Hi Hi How are you? Haven't spoken to you in ages (or w/e) Yeah, I'm not too bad, thanks, you? Ah, good. Yeah I'm good thanks. Up to much? No, not really, just uni and things Ah, cool, what you studying? [Insert Boring Subject Here] That sounds interesting You clearly aren't showing interest instead of saying Ah, cool, what you studying? You should say something like "What kind of things?" as playfully as possible. Missing something like th…
/r/seduction03/05/16 07:36 AM
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I think he's referring to body language, just focus on basics.
/r/seduction30/04/16 06:00 AM
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Honestly I stopped giving a shit for explaining things a couple hours ago, sometimes I try to help but right now I don't care.
/r/seduction30/04/16 05:59 AM
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Kiss at the beginning while she's still excited about the date. Don't do it if you're uncomfortable with it. You've gotta build your own comfort with doing things because if it's awkward for you it'll be awkward for them.
/r/seduction30/04/16 12:13 AM
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Flakes usually come from a bad approaches.
/r/seduction30/04/16 12:11 AM
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She could be attracted to you and wants to make you work for it, women are like that. Just say something like, "I've got better things to do than talk to a weirdo like you anyway" and cut contact until it happens. If it works, awesome, if it doesn't, whatever.
/r/seduction29/04/16 11:37 PM
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They aren't mutually exclusive, being honest and clear with your intentions isn't mutually exclusive with making a girl prove she is worth your attention. The wording choice is just poor in the post.
/r/seduction29/04/16 11:15 PM
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Yes and no. Shotgunning is bad, but when you are new (and this board needs help) just being able to approach is the real challenge so it's better. Then you get this whole thing going on where you are pulling girls with the mentality of "I am a PUA nothing can stop me" and you start seeing your progress slow down. You stop trying too improve and you just wonder why you have been doing poorly for the last 2 weeks. After a dry spell you go out, meet this insecure girl and are like "Yes, this is def…
/r/seduction29/04/16 10:28 PM
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I probably should have mentioned that. But yeah power doesn't mean be a dick, it means have an influence. My post needs formatting but I'm too lazy too make it better, I should also mention don't take the red pill too seriously, there are definitely extremists on that board.
/r/seduction29/04/16 09:37 PM
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The basic idea is to be evolutionarily ideal, I think I heard Cajun say it (it's been a while) is "Protector of loved ones, leader/looked up to by others, access to resources of interest" Here are the basics: they are foundational because you can get laid on just one of these Healthy; obviously a decent body Social intuition; Be comfortable and likable in social situations, especially when they might deter others Humorous/funny; surprisingly this is extremely important, you don't be to be a come…
/r/seduction29/04/16 08:33 PM
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You're right, but I stopped mentioning this when I commented because people really get defensive. On top of that a lot of reading material now is dated, it's still light years ahead of most people don't get me wrong, but seeing the same kind of advice shown makes me think nearly no one here keeps up with the PUA community. Most times they need basic advice that should be covered IN THE BEGINNING, and advanced topics like building different types of relationships are non-existent. We have a few p…
/r/seduction28/04/16 06:06 PM
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So this girl is an elementary school friend, so don't go full blown PUA on her. Love systems talks about relationship and types but I don't think you should be there yet. It's what would apply to her but that's pretty advanced material. Other girls, if they've been in you're life after the start of your PUA journey, then the general idea is don't take much shit and be secure in yourself. Let's say you make plans once and they flake, maybe something had happened to them. Don't worry about it, don…
/r/seduction24/04/16 06:23 PM
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You've known this girl for a while don't worry about it, she's a friend, don't treat her like someone you don't give a shit about.
/r/seduction24/04/16 05:59 AM
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Fuck those down votes
/r/seduction23/04/16 11:23 PM
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It's my opinion that if you want to stay friends with someone DO NOT get in a relationship with them. You aren't stuck in a cage and there are other people you could be going after.
/r/seduction23/04/16 04:19 PM
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I doubt that when they say "getting your life in order" that it means make bank. It just means have a plan and goals. Be going somewhere or doing something with some semblance of the future. Just be on track to do something
/r/seduction15/04/16 07:32 PM
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10/10 will use on your mother Edit: 5/7 for meta
/r/seduction12/04/16 06:59 PM
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"When I go home alone, I'll strip down to my boxers, cover myself in Vaseline, and pretend I'm a slug" (interesting and fun, nailed it)
/r/seduction11/04/16 09:13 PM
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You did awesome! I used to tell myself as long as I don't find it awkward they would seem like the weird one and I still get really positive responses. Good job!
/r/seduction02/04/16 07:59 PM
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Yeah it's kind of lame, I understand the logic OP has but most people here aren't super active learners, and if they are, I see barely any effort going into different systems, methods, or even the basics when giving advice. It's mostly their personal beliefs. I barely check this community because most stuff is just basic advice that is given half twisted.
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:42 AM
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I disagree kind of with op. Look them in the eyes, don't stare, but do what feels natural. I don't look away a lot of the time and have gotten to a point where I forget about it being important. If your talking to them look at them, if your talking about a concept take time to think about what comes out of your mouth but you don't need to look at them, if you're talking about something nearby go ahead and look at that. Don't worry about making to much eye contact, especially if you're starting o…
/r/seduction12/03/16 07:19 AM
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Means nothing
/r/seduction04/03/16 12:49 PM
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If you need something to approach with ask for her opinion on something, keep the conversation going for a bit. Make a plan to do something together, get her number.
/r/seduction19/02/16 06:39 PM
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I'm a fan of love systems, that company that Mystery Corp turned into, they added a whole section called "relationship management" in order to help people keep exciting relationships, I always assumed for marriage purpose.
/r/seduction05/02/16 06:26 AM
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Your friend shouldn't be competing with you so don't worry about that. Touch him like you normally would, if your going to the bathroom past his shoulder when you say "I'll be back in a moment.", touching other guys is important for attraction. Don't let other guys touch you without reacting, for example if it's friendly, touch them back. It's a social thing I'm not going to go in depth with just trust me. When you meet her touch her in some way, maybe cozy up close to her grab hip and say somet…
/r/seduction03/02/16 09:26 AM
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I use a line to gauge where I'm at sexually, it's looking taken aback and saying "Are you hitting on me?" which can be used at any point later in the conversation, as long as you wait for a response. But the touching is easily more important than saying things like "I'm not a piece of meat you can just take advantage of." or "It's gonna be harder than that of you're going to seduce me" I think if you escalate kino properly, as long as you aren't calling attention to your touching, you'd never ne…
/r/seduction01/02/16 10:25 AM
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I believe the best option regardless is confront the guy immediately because it's not only about your self worth. OP seemed afraid of conflict, so he could probably just ask the girl if she's okay and ask if she wants to leave just ignoring the guy. If they are too pushy, walking away can make you look bad.
/r/seduction01/02/16 02:14 AM
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A majority of communication is through body language, if you give a girl a big goofy grin and they smile back then you don't need an opener. Communication is barely about content. Your energy, body language, tone, and prosody communicate more. If those are lacking that is the only way I think it could go badly. Remember the three foundational things women are attracted to is health, social aptitude, and humor. Even though you can get laid on any one of those alone, you are a PUA those are your f…
/r/seduction31/01/16 11:08 AM
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Start kino in the first 20 seconds. This is solid advice O.P. I want to add something which has always helped me with nervousness that I heard Adam Lyons say. "Talking to women is like skydiving. If your only goal is to hit the ground, then you're missing out on the fun side. We know we can hire someone if the only thing we cared about was sex."
/r/seduction31/01/16 10:10 AM
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You had two options confront him or ask if she's okay. I wasn't there but you could have confronted him for a second if you want to avoid conflict by saying something like "Why do you want to be a dick." (I would have flipped my shit and confronted him, forced him to a room and told him to chill. Maybe get some other guys to help if he's trouble) Then go back and check on her. Make sure she's alright, she'll probably want to leave at that point. Don't let people walk over you, or the people you …
/r/seduction31/01/16 10:02 AM
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I don't use tinder but it would be this. "We just need a 4th person for monopoly."
/r/seduction31/01/16 09:39 AM
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U/notafishtoday is right, start at the basics. Fashion wise maybe change your hair, consider contacts, use fresh shirts or iron your clothes and take off that jacket and flannel before the pic. I'm only saying this because the jacket has a baconing collar. You want to make a good first impression. I'm also not a fan of stubble beards. With online dating it helps to not be alone in pics, preferably with a female in your picture, doing something that shows you're having fun and are social. Use a p…
/r/seduction31/01/16 09:30 AM
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I'm certain that you are the only one putting yourself out, your height doesn't mean much.
/r/seduction26/01/16 08:18 AM
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