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what state?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 09:21 PM
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Check credit cards and bank accounts...who is the primary holder, who is the authorized user. Make sure you have accounts that you can use in case things have to get closed or cancelled.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 08:40 PM
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It's bullshit. I'm sorry. They'll remember you and miss you, and maybe one day they'll know what a decent man you were.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 11:21 PM
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I'm getting the double hit. Went from stay at home dad to divorced seeing kid every other week. When I do she's on her phone in her room. I try and tell myself she was going to be pulling away at this age anyway, and I was going to be living to just see her for moments anyway, but it doesn't help. When she's here I try and get her to cook with me, we have a few shows we watch. That's about it. I chat with her a little in the car on the way to and from school, every other week. They grow up, they…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 02:55 AM
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Psychiatrists are MD docs usually. They'll prescribe meds, and your appointmetn might only last 15 minutes. Try a drug, see if it has an effect, manage the side effects, try another drug. That's what they will do. Use them in tandem with a psychologist. The drugs will get you through your short term shit, motivate you, maybe make you feel better. Maybe. They aren't a long term solution. Your PCP can probably do just as well, and there's a genetic screen that maybe is predictive of the best anti-…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 08:48 PM
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I stayed at home for the kids *and* had a part time job. Now her lawyer has built it into a business empire, accuses me of being underemployed, and has me going back 5 years doing accounting that I never did because it was just an on the side deal. I feel like I'd have been better off being a deadbeat. Definitely not holding out for alimony, in fact at preliminary hearing I got yelled at for not having my 1099s, even tho I had 7 years of them showing the same income and my ex lied about her inco…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 05:53 PM
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Same. Seems to me if I have a zero hour contract job I should be able to make the same argument. Her income is 2x her base every year. Mine is whatever I can pull together.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 03:06 AM
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a man's journey through divorce https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mans-journey-through-divorce/id1585838477
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 03:23 PM
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I hear you. There's a podcast somebody posted here, a man's journey through divorce. It's helped. Yes, you (and I) feel like you lost a wife and family and home and all you put into it, and you have nothing left. You never had the wife. My guess is that you became what you thought she wanted you to be and you complied every time she moved the goal posts. You didn't have the family you wanted, you had the family she wanted and you thought you were supposed to provide. Me too. House and all that s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 12:22 AM
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Don't leave.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 01:46 PM
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> Some days I feel like I should have ended this long ago and other times I am committed to doing what's best for my children Me. Wish I'd left when my kid was much younger. Yes, I'd have missed out on a lot, but with a teen it's been hell. My STBX has quadrupled down on every parenting disagreement we ever had, in my face, and we don't coparent (still early in divorce so we're no contact) so no consistent rules between houses. I think that puts the kid at risk, but i can only do what I can do. …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 12:42 AM
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Can't help you, but I'm in the mix with you. My family was supposed to travel around home schooling our kid, then my wife got a better offer and bailed. Yeah, I was home school SAHD and working too, but now I'm Mr Evil. She got to gether with one of my friends who disappoved of my home schooling, got her family onboard, and man it's been an unending river of shit on me. I can't help you, but I can tell you I know how you feel. We were good dads, tried to do this amicably, tried to do the right t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 10:29 PM
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I was in your position, and chose to go the divorce route. It's hard on the kid, and I can't imagine it's going to get better in the last few years before kid is done with high school. Yes, I was miserable, yes STBX would probably have filed, yes her frients were telling her how to get me with a DV charge, but not a day gone by that I wish I'd just kept saying "yes dear" for a few more years.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 09:08 PM
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My short experience in this--filed, fought a TRO, fighting about temporary orders--is that one takes a low blow. Say me, wanting to sell the house. STBX takes a blow lower--saying I have a medical condition that affects being a parent. Then I go one lower, Then she goes one lower. How low? Well there's that one time I did that, and the other time she did that, and now we gotta call a witness to it, and well, why didn't she get the raise she was lined up for before the divorce? Now let's get a st…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 05:17 PM
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Sorry. This is a bullshit world we're in.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 03:52 AM
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Sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 02:03 AM
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My GAL tried to change our custody arrangement the night before my daughter was supposed to come over for the first time because she was "anxious". No kidding...her world is being turned upside down.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 02:03 AM
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thanks man. I see my kid in all new clothes and I can barely take her out to dinner. thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 01:24 AM
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It looks like she is going for more than 50-50 custody, but the roles for support are reversed here. I'm the low earner, moved around for her job, and trying to get back on my feet income wise. Think it still makes sense to fight? And like I said, every dollar I spend is a dollar my kid doesn't get.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 01:15 AM
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Thanks. Yes, this is consistent with what I was reading, but I've gotten to where I don't believe much on lawyer's sites. I should expect my lawyer to recommend what you've said, right? She's under the limit for questions, but he should put limits on how far back and propose objections, right? TY.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 12:08 AM
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How do you manage visitation with a 1 bedroom? I'm not paying support, but need to figure out how to afford rent and still get to see my kid. Right now I'm living on credit to rent a 2-BR.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 07:11 PM
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Don't leave the house, don't leave the kids. You will have a fight on your hands to ever get back.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:55 AM
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...right back to the very day she met me, and she knew better....
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:54 AM
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Yeah, I can't help you except to say I feel for you. My ex's strategy is to make this as painful as possible by dragging out hearings and making filings. She has the resources to do it and it's working. She's managed to keep me out of the house, so I'm paying 3x what the mortgage is for a place nearby and on a quarter of her income. Even if I see equity in the home down the line I'll have blown an insane amount on rent. I doubt I'll see any meaningful support, won't be able to buy, definitely no…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 08:29 PM
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I'm with you. When my daughter was in school it was easier because I did the pickup and dropoff, so I was hanging out with the other parents and at least knew them. Things changed tho, and part of the divorce process was my ex connecting with the other divorced mom's, whose daughters are my 13yo daughter's friends. So a week with mom is all the teen socialization she wants, and what's a week with dad going to be? I'm prety scared of how this is going to go. On top of that, I used to have a reall…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:26 PM
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I'm reading a book on Stoicism. Being stoic is putting up with shit. Being a Stoic is being true to yourself. Yes, I got the 2 confused too, and thought I'd just put up with the demands and she'd be happy. Never happened. Now I'm trying to figure out how to be true to myself while living somewhere I can't afford so I can stay close to be the father I want to be, trying to find the life-draining job that I need to live here even though taking it wouldn't be true to myself by taking it, except tha…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 01:05 AM
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