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| 9 | Splitting the bill is not about money, it is about balance of interestSplitting the bill early In dating seems to be more so of a self protective tactic than an interest based one. For the man it’s so he won’t over invest for what may be no second date or relationship, for the woman it’s to prevent possible entitlement to her body. But from what I’ve seen when it came to relationships from myself and my friends, a man offering to cover the whole bill seems to correlate with traits higher in generosity. Guys who have spilt the bill tend to be of a certain mindset o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/24 04:44 PM |
| 3 | The paradox of confidence and why confidence can be an equally bad trait for women to look for in a manI wonder if you’re mixing up self awareness with self consciousness since they are similar but very different. This is because I found a study where it talked about self consciousness being linked to low self esteem due to long fixations on certain negatively perceived traits of the self due to having more awareness of the environment/one’s body and other people rather than themselves. Being self conscious is also more likely to contribute to false confidence since it focuses more so on the resp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 09:00 PM |
| 4 | The paradox of confidence and why confidence can be an equally bad trait for women to look for in a manIt goes to say that being confident isn’t about knowing they will like you but that you’re okay if someone doesn’t/not everyone does. Also I believe humility/being able to admit to one’s limits and faults is important to determine if someone is truly confident or not since self awareness begets true confidence. Now I know you mentioned that self awareness seems to be linked to insecurity which it can but usually isn’t since insecurity is based upon a flawed view of the self that is not well roun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Creeps and a-holes keep hitting on women because sometimes they get results. A guy who's respectful will be seen as boring or not even noticed.I would consider women or rather people in general on social media who use it frequently (meaning post not browse) a different category than casual browsers/those who don’t use social media. I tend to find those who use social media often and revolve their life around it tend to be drawn to more “dramatic” scenarios which is why creeps and a-holes can get results sometimes although I would not really consider vague attention to be a valid result. People who don’t use social media as much or are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Does someone’s past matter?Yes the past matters to everyone. If it doesn’t, then there wouldn’t be such things as a resume, background checks, genetic/family health tracing, court records, criminal and medical history etc. being important documents of information. The best predictor of the future is a person’s past. It’s why those who did one thing are statistically more likely to do it again irregardless how large the number is. IMO, those who are extremely secretive about their past/unwilling to share and act hostile ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 05:54 PM |
| 7 | Treating your partner differentI wouldn’t say it’s dishonest but it’s confusing/creates issues with consistency of how a person’s feelings/intent are communicated. The scenario you mentioned is most likely associated with the woman being inconsistent with the way she gives sex since just because she finds a man attractive, she will not always sleep with him immediately. This is because the man is not hot enough or she wants something more serious. The guy may see this as unfair/rejection because for the former reason, not bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 05:33 PM |
| 2 | cmv: men get more attached after sex than women.I don’t believe one sex is more prone to getting attached to sex than the other. I think it’s more dependent on context and motive than anything else and the biggest conflict stems from wanting different things. Example, one person wants a relationship and believes sex equals to a sign/signal things are more serious while someone else just sees sex in this situation as convenient for their want for sex. I also think people who are less emotionally healthy/has some attachment issues are more pron… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 01:40 AM |
| 8 | What is your opinion on men who will not marry women whose parents are divorced?It’s most likely due to the higher probability that children with divorced parents have some form of emotional/mental trauma related baggage and adults in relationships that have divorced parents are statistically more likely to end up divorced. Tdlr; risk aversion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 01:08 PM |
| 7 | "Just get a social circle bro" is very outdated adviceStatistically apps are a terrible place to try to find women for men because the numbers are stacked against them. The ratios make apps mostly male and barely female if they are not bots/scammers which a significant amount of them are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 02:00 PM |
| 11 | "Just get a social circle bro" is very outdated adviceThe concept of a getting a social circle is trying to get more exposure and chances to meet other people. You can get all the money and surgery you want but if you don’t meet people/they don’t know you exist it is moot. Knowing people can help one to connect to other people through references much like a job and how networking is an important component aside “resume” alone. Know more people higher chance of maybe meeting someone who likes you and vice versa | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 01:41 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with rich fat girl vs dealing with broke slim girlThe method is from DBT known as pros and cons list EX template: https://dbtselfhelp.weebly.com/thinking-of-pros-and-cons.html It’s also applied to relationships where one feels they might make an impulsive action like breaking up, getting back together, or are unsure about their situation due to emotional distress which can sway judgement. EX of relationship specific worksheet: https://www.drmichaelbroder.com/workbooks/Cansave_workbook(2).doc Exercises #6 and 7 It is important to note this list … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 10:29 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with rich fat girl vs dealing with broke slim girlThis is an actual technique therapists have given to clients when the issue is in regards to whether to dissolve a relationship or not as a way to put emotional matters more objectively. Obviously people are more than just a list but OP is already reducing women down to objective characteristics so this seems to be the most practical for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 10:09 AM |
| 3 | I believe the reason men are so resentful about the dating scene is because men have to deal with a shit ton of social coercion and pressure to be in a relationship like 10x that of womenSexual libido can play a role although I think getting attention ,acknowledgment and “service”from the opposite sex can play a greater role in whether one feels they need a relationship or not. One of the reasons I heard from women and female friends of mine of not wanting relationships is because they get plenty of male attention/service irregardless of relationship status. It is hard for them to justify the effort of finding and maintaining a relationship when they can get a lot of those “thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 10:04 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with rich fat girl vs dealing with broke slim girlIf you want to be a good person, choose neither and find someone that fits your criteria. Although you are already judging them by comparing the two so if you are insistent on choosing between the two, go by making a pros and cons list of each candidate. Select the one with the better ratio of pros:con unless while making the list you find an absolute deal breaker then go with the one that does not. If both are about the same then coin flip I guess But doing that is time wasted when it could be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 09:48 AM |
| 6 | I believe the reason men are so resentful about the dating scene is because men have to deal with a shit ton of social coercion and pressure to be in a relationship like 10x that of womenI think research does note that in general men fare worse when single than in a relationship since single men are more prone to illness both physical and mental, higher rates of reckless/illegal behavior and higher rates of suicide (esp after an end of a relationship most notably divorce). Also men will be more likely to remarry than women and seek out companionship from the opposite sex. So from that standpoint alone, research seem to support the idea that men NEED a relationship while for wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 09:24 AM |
| 3 | girls nights outs?The going out part doesn’t seem to be a problem but acting flirtatious/being intentionally sexually provocative to other men seems to be disrespectful not only to the other partner but to the relationship. I know relationships vary with their boundaries but the relationships I saw with the most drama and bitterness at the end were the ones that “turned their other cheek” to many grey areas like this. Usually it’s the “cool girl” trying to be okay with her spouse flirting and treading thin lines … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 07:38 PM |
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