Next-Character-2027 Archive

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4	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot?	Discussion	Next-Character-2027	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 03:17 AM

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1	What was your longest dry streak? Standards were mid and I was mostly matching with equally overweight men within my (also mid) tax bracket, so that wasn’t it. But yeah, I was on the apps and chatting. Ghosted a few times, but wasn’t in a headspace to care much. Looking back I was “trying,” not trying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/26 01:09 AM
–	The gap in attractiveness if favor of women is just social myth to prevent women from seeking attention from others Cosmetics plays a huge role. Women are sold a whole fashion and beauty industry, and they use it. I look around at couples when I’m out, and it’s genuinely surprising how many women are completely done up while their date is looking scraggly in basketball shorts and a tee. Plenty of them are still decent looking guys, but the lack of effort makes them appear below her level on first glance. Though I should note I live rural-adjacent. Don’t notice this discrepancy as much when I visit major cites…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/26 07:22 AM
0	What are the signs that a man is genuinely desired and not just settled for as the "safe guy"? She’s flirtatious and acts interested. She’s probably touchy, just not sexually. She’ll take a conversation to mildly sexual places, like a jokey innuendo or asking about your sexual experiences or preferences (code: she’s interested, she’s thinking about it, she’s dropping hints; but she’s still playing it safe until she knows you better). She follows through on plans and wants to make more plans with regularity. She texts back quickly. She talks about her goals for the future and wants to know…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/26 04:53 AM
1	Most people's dating advice to men is useless, ESPECIALLY advice given by women I don’t disagree, we don’t go for the most honest punches. But if I may offer a different perspective: “be baseline level of attractive to her” is really obvious to our own brains. We assume a guy knows if he has physical shortcomings compared to “the ideal” man. As women, we’re hyper-aware from youth of every way we don’t fit the media-tailored version of an attractive woman, and we know all the things we should buy to fix that. We kind of just… assume men are equally aware? We don’t want to be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/26 05:13 AM
1	What was your longest dry streak? 2 years. I got overweight and sad for a period of my life. That’s really the full story lol. Even then, I didn’t relate to a lot of dry streak men. Then again I never claimed to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/26 01:38 AM
1	What's the reason behind women constantly calling men "Porn Brained" merely for being interested in hookups and casual sex? There’s nothing wrong with 50/50. But let’s not pretend a $5 coffee or $15 meal is equivalent to hopping on a stranger’s peen and all of the risks that come with that choice. Women can absolutely tell when a guy is treating them like a sex object, especially on the apps. For example, when I’ve matched with men who immediately invited me over for sex and proceeded to throw a mantrum, I mentally called them porn brained. Hazy idea of consent meaning things like pressuring women repeatedly into doi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 06:49 AM
–	Women, to what extent if at all do personality, social skills, masculinity, ect affect your visceral, genuine attraction to a man? A physically attractive man will get me interested. A charismatic one will keep me interested enough to progress the relationship to physical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 06:39 AM
1	Question for Blue Pill: If kindness is as important when it comes to attraction as the mainstream says, how do you explain all these horrible men having girlfriends? People talk about this like it’s either/or. People want partners they’re attracted to who also treat them well. Attractiveness - baseline for securing sexual interest. Good person - baseline for maintaining a healthy relationship. Plenty of people are unhealthy, need to work on themselves, and engage in toxic crap. That doesn’t mean the majority of people will put up with a crappy partner just because they’re hot or women are going around actively hoping to find themselves with assholes. People …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 06:29 AM
8	Women Are Largely Shielded From Labeled "Cringe" in Online Culture Preface: I enjoy stand up comedy. Women in stand up are regularly called cringe in the comment sections of their videos. I’ve also noticed an uptick in comments like “millennial cringe” whenever a woman is doing something silly and is over a certain age. My siblings and I all (lovingly) call each other cringe. Friends do too. Is this actually even a gendered word? Haven’t noticed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 04:43 AM
36	What's the reason behind women constantly calling men "Porn Brained" merely for being interested in hookups and casual sex? Interest in casual sex isn’t what that means, though? Interest in casual sex: ✅ Reducing women to a hole to use for sex: ❌ Porn brained means things like: - Acting like women should just want to hop on it with minimal effort, because that’s what porn shows. - Viewing women they’re attracted to as objects to be used. - Having a hazy idea of consent. - Not valuing a woman’s pleasure. - Assuming their kinks are universal and it’s okay to just make their partner do whatever they want, whenever they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/25 12:41 AM
3	A dating quietly rewards men for behaviors that would be labeled predatory or toxic if those same men openly wanted to do them Younger men in that 20-24 range that men like have definitely started looking like children to me. I wouldn’t say I like significantly older either. Unless they’re someone like Pedro Pascal and obviously not attainably good looking; that’s such a small number of older men that it’s hardly worth mentioning. For me this graph is about spot on. Attraction has changed with age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 06:46 PM
7	A dating quietly rewards men for behaviors that would be labeled predatory or toxic if those same men openly wanted to do them <image> Actual data from the OKC study show women don’t like significant age gaps as much as men like to imagine they do. Men, however…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 06:28 PM
1	A dating quietly rewards men for behaviors that would be labeled predatory or toxic if those same men openly wanted to do them https://preview.redd.it/micwivkqmz9g1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7e564b4bd9d8d5f7a97c5fed6d6c3c82ba2e9b17 Actual data from the OKC study show women don’t like significant age gaps as much as men like to imagine they do. Men, however…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 06:27 PM
1	Do you think that conservatism will eventually die out since pretty much all women don't want to have sex with conservative men? I wonder if the number of kids who grow up to vote differently than their parents offsets the difference, though? Young people trend more moderate or progressive, despite being birthed by a conservative majority. Would be curious to see how the data looks over the last few generations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 08:35 AM
4	Women: Do you agree with the concept of the "Chad-widow" ? I’m at a point in my life where I’d rather stay single than deal with a fuck buddy. But purely hypothetically, whichever one treats me the best and seems the most likely to care about mutual pleasure. I will say, given I can smell a f*ck boy Chad from a mile away, the 5’7 guy stands a better chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 08:15 AM
10	Women: Do you agree with the concept of the "Chad-widow" ? That guy isn’t very good in bed because he doesn’t have to be. I’ve been with “that guy” a couple times. I married one of them when I was young and dumb. Trust me, that guy is easy to forget. My best lover that didn’t turn into a full-blown LTR? A 5’7 normal dude with an average one. Why? He understood the art of emotional foreplay. He treated me like an actual human being and not a human masturbatory aid. He was intellectually stimulating and a genuinely good friend. And he knew exactly what to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 07:38 AM
1	Is there actual risk of robots replacing women? Right, but if the men buying them are the ones who women aren’t sleeping with anyway, it doesn’t really matter. It’s not full-scale societal replacement of women until a good percentage of the men who can attract women buy a robot instead. I don’t see that happening with our current cultural values. We still center sex and family in our definition of masculinity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 04:28 PM
3	Is there actual risk of robots replacing women? Your average humanoid robot is still tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars, and that’s without the tech to make them look/feel like human flesh. Not to mention the maintenance fees and probably a huge subscription cost. An AI robot girlfriend is probably out of the question and not even really worth discussing for Gen Z and Millennials. If they do become affordable? Still multiple issues. Contrary to popular internet opinion, men aren’t monsters who are dead inside. A lot of men want actual l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/25 06:18 AM
1	Are most issues with modern dating caused by lack of effort from men? Being a basic grown adult human isn’t a guarantee to find a partner. That’s what this list is. It won’t help the laws of female attraction, on an app. But it does remove a barrier, like having a woman run for the hills when she sees how you live.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/25 03:38 PM
1	Are most issues with modern dating caused by lack of effort from men? I’m sorry. It’s not a guarantee by any means, given it is basic life stuff. I was just quite baffled. But hey, at least you don’t have said things working against you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/25 01:24 PM
-1	Are most issues with modern dating caused by lack of effort from men? Yes and no? Men can’t help being genuinely genetically less attractive than others, nor socially or intellectually stunted due to a legitimate developmental issue. Those things will limit their dating pool, as much as we like to tell them to just be a good guy. But most men can help: Being clean and groomed. Having clean clothes that actually fit. Taking 3 seconds to wipe the grease off their camera lens before taking selfies for the apps. Having a clean home that doesn’t stink. I don’t mean sli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/25 03:12 AM
1	The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worse Resenting women while wanting to sleep with them isn’t a thing?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/25 12:12 AM
1	The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worse I 100% agree that they aren’t the same. People just don’t seem to be as mad about it compared to sex. The way they see it, care can be outsourced. Help moving can be outsourced. Conversations can happen online. Finding purpose can come from career or hobbies or faith. I’m a proponent of more people looking for social purpose outside their desire for a relationship. We would have fewer miserable people. All that said, it’s illegal to buy sex with another person. There’s not a replacement. So they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 03:01 PM
3	The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worse I 100% agree that they aren’t the same. People just don’t seem to be as mad about it compared to sex. The way they see it, care can be outsourced. Help moving can be outsourced. Conversations can happen online. Finding purpose can come from career or hobbies or faith. I’m a proponent of more people looking for social purpose outside their desire for a relationship. We would have fewer miserable people. All that said, it’s illegal to buy sex with another person. There’s not a replacement. So they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 03:01 PM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men As a general reason for it? Yeah. As a reason for it in a small population? There are plenty of individual accounts. The development of a kink doesn’t have universal reason; I didn’t mention that lol. Will edit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 01:18 PM
16	Where do women want to be hit on? Can confirm, books are hot. I get that reading isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. But having no desire to keep learning (and I don’t mean listening to pseudo intellectual echo chamber podcasts and calling it “learning”) is personally unattractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:34 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men You may be interested in this study: https://www.ovid.com/journals/jsmed/abstract/10.1111/jsm.12734~what-exactly-is-an-unusual-sexual-fantasy?redirectionsource=fulltextview The most common fantasy of women was reportedly “a romantic setting like a deserted beach,” followed by some very common sex acts like giving or receiving oral, followed by other places to get it on publicly. Assault didn’t even make the list.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:26 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men No, for most women, it’s nothing to do with him at all. I truly do mean the feelings. Helplessness, fear, confusing or unwanted arousal, intensity, adrenaline. They’re working through these feelings within a safe, consensual, and controlled environment. But, again, we’re talking fractions of a fraction of the female population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:08 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men Undoubtedly, consensual encounters. Especially given the majority of women haven’t even experienced a rape to fantasize about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 06:04 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men Again, you’re making huge generalizations about a minority of women. I can say with certainty I’ve only ever fantasized about consensual situations. Others in the comments are saying the same thing. We also see far more porn for women that features explicit consent, drawn out mutual pleasure, intimate touch that goes beyond penetration or sexual touch, and lack of violence than we see in porn for men. Women like consent. A small, small fraction of the female population has a CNC kink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:57 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men You’re really stuck on the getting off to their rapist part, aren’t you? It’s not about the man who did it. The vast majority of survivors loathe their rapist. It’s about the feelings that get triggered by the act. Let me try another analogy. If you lost friends in a car accident on a bridge, would you think about it every time you crossed that bridge, especially when the loss is fresh? Would it be friend-cheating on anyone else you’re in the car with, when you think about it? No. And you probab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:52 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men No, you’re making sweeping generalizations about trauma survivors. CNC kinks as a result of trauma are not the norm; it only happens in a small minority of assault survivors. Among those who have the kink due to trauma, not all will think about it every time they have sex. And not all will have the CNC kink forever. And there’s a huge difference between “eroticizing” trauma and coping with it. Trauma is weird. People do weird things to cope. Like a surfer who loses a leg to sharks and starts goi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:42 AM
–	Women Seem To Glorify Sexual Violence More Than Men CNC actually has some fascinating psychology to it that (often) has very little to do with actual violence. For the assault survivors you’re talking about, they aren’t generally chasing the feeling of being violently raped. A lot of them want to reframe what happened to them in a safe, consenting environment with someone who actually cares about them. It can be healing in a weird way that those of us who haven’t experienced it can’t understand. I’m not convinced it’s the most healthy way to go a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 05:15 AM
7	Where do women want to be hit on? If I were more promiscuous it probably would have lol. Alas, I prefer a committed relationship. You don’t have a co-ed friend group? You may want to start there. My friends are in the 30-45 age range and we’re constantly out doing things and meeting people. I met my partner at a trivia night we all went to, after his team smoked us lol. And books are just an example. You can demonstrate interest in any number of things that women around you are doing. And it will probably be better received than…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 04:13 AM
2	The reason some men are not being good fathers could be that they are not allowed to be responsible and spend more time with their kids and more importantly have no expections to raise their children. This is why I’m such a huge advocate for family-friendly work policies for both genders. It’s so sad that women are favored when it comes to maternity leave, flexible hours, flexible PTO, remote options “because she’s a mom,” etc. Plus, not to make it all political, but if people are so worried about everyone being childless when everyone these days needs to work a full time job, workplaces need to get on board with both parents having shared responsibilities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 04:01 AM
16	Where do women want to be hit on? A lot of us don’t want to be cold approached in the pickup artist sense, period. That’s a correct assessment. Being generally warm and friendly without the pressure of “I’m definitely hitting on you right now” might work better. Hard emphases on might. A lot of women simply don’t want to be bothered. What has worked for me in the past: - Libraries. A guy who knew something about the section I was in and had some suggestions for other reading. Soooo hot. And he wasn’t even particularly hot. - Fri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 03:55 AM
14	The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worse That’s an equally accurate assessment. Though given the number of “women are only worth sex in a relationship” comments I see in these parts, I’d add that a primary motivation for a lot of these men to get married is still one of access to sex. Especially to the frustrated and jaded ones. I can’t in good faith call that love or romance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 03:37 AM
3	I think women should refuse to pay for anything on a date People missing the point is absolutely sending me. 🍿	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 02:19 AM
55	The “male loneliness epidemic” is not primarily caused by the lack of female companionship or sex, and blaming it on women is a mistake that makes things worse I’ve noticed men here largely care more about not having sex than they care about lacking friends. Heck some of them have admitted to caring more about sex than keeping a roof over their head. People still find some fulfillment that used to come from friendships in online communities, careers, their pets, gaming, other forms of media, and solo hobbies. Sex with a living, breathing, enthusiastically participating partner isn’t replaceable. It’s a problem when they blame women as a whole for it an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/25 12:27 AM
1	Why do women advice men that if they want a great sex life, they should marry a promiscuous woman? Why does a man need to MARRY a promiscuous woman to benefit from her sexual experience and high libido? I think they really mean choosing a higher libido partner. But a lot of people are too dense to realize promiscuity and libido don’t always correlate. The only really solid logic in their argument is that you don’t know if you’ll be sexually compatible in the area of libido if you wait until after marriage. It is sometimes the case that people only had an easy time waiting because they don’t have a very high libido to begin with, or they have a lot of internalized shame around their sexuality du…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/25 11:10 PM
2	Women, what is the reason you don’t do onlyfans? (not trolling) Sex work isn’t for everyone. I’m “pro choice” about sex work lol. Other ladies can do their thing and get their bag, but I don’t want it for myself. Morality aside, if it’s like most social media content creation, it’s just too much work for what most people get paid. It’s not like you just upload videos and let the mediocre money roll in. You have to market on other sites, engage with your audience, plan out your content for the week/month to avoid redundancy, keep up with messages, and probabl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/25 10:46 PM
13	Putting ego aside for my woman’s pleasure. Girls thoughts? If you two enjoy your sex life, that’s all that matters. I can’t even have PIV with my partner (spinal cord injury). We make things work and toys are a big part of our sex life, for both of us. Sex should be mutually giving and pleasurable. Whatever helps with the pleasure part is just a bonus.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 10:42 PM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations And I firmly believe dads should have the right to know about their child and make decisions about their child. I’m just not sure how we enforce this in our current dumpster fire of a society. I would be open to suggestions, but people are going to people unless the law gets involved. It’s also a different problem than owing child support, which is the main issue of this thread. The one and only benefit for dads who aren’t named is they don’t owe the mother anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 07:51 AM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations Your points are all valid. I’m very aware men get legally and financially shorted in disproportionate numbers (though current numbers show it’s a lot less than the fear mongers’ talking points). And I completely agree people should take more individual responsibility. At the same time, knowing they’ll be financially liable hasn’t stopped men (except you and a minority like you) from impregnating women they shouldn’t parent with. Why would women be any less disastrous? We’re not exactly an un-dis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 07:47 AM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations When women “abandon the child” with zero financial responsibility it’s typically through adoption, meaning the bio father also doesn’t owe anything. Unless he wants to raise the kid on his own, negating the need for adoption. But if that’s the case, he can absolutely petition for custodial parenthood and child support. There’s nothing stopping women from owing child support if they have income and aren’t the primary parent… it just doesn’t happen that way very often. The numbers actually make se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 07:31 AM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations I absolutely agree that people need to stop having sex with people they can’t imagine parenting with. Unfortunately people are short-sighted and horny, and think the rules of biology and accidents won’t apply to them. But it would fix a lot of problems. Society has always had the dads who skipped town and women who cried abuse to have their kids to themselves. The current numbers are so so bad. We may be past the point of no return on fighting irresponsible casual sex. That doesn’t mean we can’t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 07:10 AM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations Women cutting the dad off before he even knows she’s pregnant is a huge issue. Unfortunately when dealing with dishonest women, I’m not sure what can be done about that short of men trying to put eyes on every woman they’ve slept with 6-9 months after doing so to make sure they aren’t pregnant or carrying a baby around? I guess the state could keep everyone’s DNA to make paternity determination easy, but people don’t want that privacy violation. “100% her child” after birth is a bit of an over-s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 06:29 AM
–	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations I’m literally an adoptive child of this situation. My bio dad didn’t know about me until over a decade after my adoption and was heartbroken. He turned out to be a piece of work meth addict, so I’m better off. But man, my heart breaks for all of the potentially good fathers that this happens to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 05:37 AM
1	How often do women hold other women accountable ? On the whole, I don’t see it as much. Women are more likely to just walk away than be confrontational. I’ve seen it happen, but I’ve also seen friends ignore or even cheer on terrible decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 05:31 AM
4	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations Exactly. Not to mention women with infants die. Things happen. The gender of the surrendering parent isn’t publicly published in safe haven cases given the anonymity baked into the system, but we do know men have sought adoption when the mothers of their children have died. Just because they didn’t use a safe haven doesn’t mean it wasn’t available to them (and we don’t know that they haven’t). It’s a rare scenario and a rarely used service, but that doesn’t mean the law doesn’t apply equally if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 04:47 AM
–	What do women think when men say "women don't take accountability"? I think the reality is we’re in a particularly selfish generation and we’ve all been hurt by people who couldn’t see past the tip of their own nose. The more people start living their lives without partners and families, working remote jobs, living online, and doing everything for themselves, the more we’re going to see a change in adult social skills. If it wasn’t so sad, it would be hilarious that women say the exact same thing about crappy men not taking accountability (running away from preg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 04:17 AM
6	On “Financial Abortions” and Unequal Rights to “Walk Away” from Parental Obligations Do we even need this analogy? Abortion is a solution to carrying an unwanted pregnancy. It’s not a solution to actually parenting, once a child is here. A woman who doesn’t want to do the bulk of parenting or parent at all can look at options like giving primary custody to the father and owing child support just like a non-custodial father would, outsourcing the majority of work through childcare professionals or the help of family/friends, using a safe haven (which also aren’t gender specific; …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/25 03:36 AM
0	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot? Does a group being ideologically diverse really mean it doesn’t exist? Feminism itself has a lot of ideologies under the umbrella. Radical feminists, liberal feminists, religious feminists, cultural feminists, eco feminists, queer feminists, even trad wives rightfully using the word to simply describe making their own choices despite the pressures of society, and on and on. We don’t say feminism is made up, even if it is a social construct with diverse groups of people loosely tied by a similar …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 06:19 AM
1	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot? Is this your actual take? That getting laid is, to men, actually more important than their ability to live securely, afford an emergency, travel across town, and retire? I’m not doubting you. It would make sense why so many men are soooo angry. It’s just genuinely baffling. Don’t get me wrong, sex is cool. Not being one missed paycheck away from homelessness is cooler.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 05:32 AM
1	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot? So many more. I zero percent disagree. User above brought a show about incel teen murder into the conversation. Though, tbf, murder and porn are very different issues if we are going to compare them. Young male suicide rates are horrific.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 05:19 AM
5	Do you find men in your life to be too masculine, too feminine or just right? Just right, I would say. But I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about people’s masculinity and femininity. I would say my go-to initial judgments of people are rude vs kind and capable vs incapable. Those aren’t gendered traits, in my mind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 04:22 AM
5	Women are denied the gift of failure Are you saying all bad men are hot or all hot men are bad? Or am I missing your point? Insecurity comes with a lot of crap. Entitlement does too. Bad men come in all forms, just like bad women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 04:18 AM
1	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot? Adolescence was about a teen murderer. I thoroughly missed your point of using that example. You are correct that a whole lot of the discourse is about the consequence of boys turning into monsters rather than girls turning into man haters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 02:32 AM
-1	Are Young People Shooting Themselves In The Foot? We really do need to talk about both. That said, OF sloot ≠ teen murderer. I’d be a whole lot more mad if my incel son murdered a girl than if my daughter filmed sex for money. Both are tragic. One is murder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/25 12:15 AM
2	Why do women say men are single because they are bad/misogynistic. But tons of bad and misogynistic men have tons of women? A lot of the most successful misogynist men, just looking around at life, are charmers. They don’t treat women they want to have sex with like crap from the get-go. That comes after they’ve gotten what they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 05:29 AM
1	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? I think this is actually the problem with the dating scene in general, now. Single men and women are putting in 40-60 hours to make ends meet, still have to manage their households, are lucky to find time to care for their bodies, and have to find time to maintain their social life and family connections. I know so many women who think a fuck buddy is just easier, not realizing the right man (emphasis on right) would add time, value, and companionship to their lives. When we choose to outsource …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 03:05 AM
1	Women don't want the end goal of feminism. Bonnie Blue is the living proof. There are different schools of thought among feminists, when it comes to sex work. There’s a shoehorn effect when feminism is taken to the extreme, where sexual liberation becomes hated again. This isn’t an old idea. Early iterations of feminism had sex work hate. In Atwood’s Handmaid’s Tale, it was feminist extremists who helped Gilead’s rise to power, albeit ideologically and not literally. Group 1: Women aren’t commodities. Porn is bad. Exploitation is bad. Self-exploitation for male sexual c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 10:51 PM
1	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? I have a distant friend with a husband like this. Having witnessed it once, the man is all escalation and zero walk away. She finds it attractive. I find it repulsive. I guess not everyone is cut from the same cloth. There’s definitely a reason I don’t enjoy going out with him. The situation was 100% something we could have just walked away from (guy got a little too friendly with her. Could have all just walked away; dude wasn’t even explicitly being rude. Husband went off instead and got up in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 05:56 PM
1	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? He’s a really incredible man and I’m lucky to have him. But I’m certainly not blind to the things that he has to go through or the way strangers look at us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 04:20 PM
1	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? You’re a little right. My guy would be tall if he could stand. Yes we cope with dark humor around here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 04:16 PM
1	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? Women find it physically attractive. I’m personally dating a paraplegic, sooo. Protection isn’t exactly at the top of my brain. It’s possibly hardwired into biology to prefer a big strong protector and someone with strong fathering genes, but I (personally, could be missing things) don’t see women discuss consciously imagining damsel in distress scenarios nearly as often as I see men talk about being heroes in once in a lifetime danger scenarios.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 04:12 PM
3	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? It really doesn’t. It’s unclear if there’s an ongoing fee or if it’s a one time purchase. All the movie really says is the men are “responsible for maintaining the system and their ‘wife.’” This is why I dislike the movie so much. The lack of “outside world” building is so so bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 03:25 PM
5	Q4W: Have you ever done anything romantic for anyone? Define romantic. Like big gestures? - An ex told me he missed picnic weather in the middle of the winter, once. So I used PTO to get off work early and made a surprise picnic in front of the fireplace, complete with rose petals all over the floor. Yeah, I was in love. Got tickets to his favorite band, booked the hotel, and drove him 8 hours away to see them, on a whim. Worked a whole lot my last year of college even though I was on a full ride, so I could “invite” my then-boyfriend on “my trip t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 05:42 AM
2	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? For me, it was the lack of grounding in anything resembling reality while trying to make a real point, mostly. There are a lot of ways to do world building for a deadbeat incel’s fantasy that would also be a horror for women. The movie had good intentions. There are absolutely toxic ideas coming out of the incel community and we should think about them. But this felt too weird even for that. It was a somewhat interesting thought experiment, at least.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 02:47 AM
9	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? Maybe I’ve just aged out of the random fight-picking scene. We’re hanging out in someone’s backyard and going to bed by 10:30. Maybe going to a board game cafe or hitting up taco Tuesday. The rare random acts of violence I hear about are bar crowds or drug/gang related. But I get your point, it’s good to have friends you can count on. If I may play Devil’s Advocate, women are constantly reminded we’re physically inferior and our best chance of survival is just to run fast and be loud, or have a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 01:56 AM
12	Q4W: Where Women Go Wrong in Self‑Improvement? Maybe I’m just lucky to have great friends; your experience sounds crappy. Sorry you don’t have better women in your circle. My guy friends do get set up with friends and we do rant about our dating lives to each other. Heck one of my guy friends is married now, to someone we set him up with. And this is kind of unrelated, but why do men always talk about the value of physical protection like y’all are constantly out getting beat up? I have been jumped a total of zero times. The only times I’ve …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 01:10 AM
2	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? Exactly! There’s no point to having to keep a whole body alive and clean and unaware of their reality, other than adding to the horror factor. Most men don’t want that. What’s extra funny is the movie implies these guys are unsuccessful deadbeat incels. That’s asking a lot of work of that demographic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 12:53 AM
2	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? Oh, I’m not saying I agree with the intended message of the movie even a little bit. It’s not a good movie. The men were “breadwinners who went to work” in the sense that they had the freedom to leave during the “work day.” How this is all financed is kind of a mystery, unless I missed something. Which I may have; it was hard to watch. (ETA: they were in fact going to work, but the movie doesn’t specify. Some speculate their “job” is to recruit or do other menial work for the company running the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/25 12:15 AM
6	Is Don’t Worry Darling a redpiller’s dream? In the movie, the simulation is a 1950s suburban utopia. Men as breadwinners, women do the cooking, cleaning, and provide sex whenever it’s requested. Nobody seems to want for anything. Everyone is beautiful. Lots of parties and leisure time and backyard pools. At the same time, nobody can remember how they got to this neighborhood, don’t really have personal identities outside their roles, and don’t question anything. In the “twist” ending, we learn that most of the women were kidnapped or coer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 11:34 PM
1	Why don’t women like passport bros? It’s so multifaceted. Society as a whole devalues men who can’t get any. “Bro, you had to go to a third world country for pussy?” -your high school bully, probably. Then there’s the exploitation factor from the mail order bride era. There’s a lot to dislike about older men paying some random overseas “matching service” for an 18 year old who doesn’t know the language or culture of the place she’s moving to and will be 100% reliant on a stranger. When a lot of us think of passport bros, we think …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 12:32 AM
5	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Some of us have to be hurt by our idealism before realizing poorly thought out sex isn’t all it’s cracked up to be lol. You would not like some of my past choices. But thank you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/25 12:19 AM
7	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Not all, but many people have sex for the first time with someone they’re in an established relationship with. Especially women. I’d wager the majority of women, even.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 01:18 PM
2	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Ah, yeah, very much coming from a US perspective. I’ll look into this, thanks :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 06:06 AM
8	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? Haha it’s not my cup of tea either. But the idea of sexual purity as a value has largely been held up by religious institutions. It’s cool if you value it for other reasons; I actually think there’s something to be said for that. Just be aware the inexperienced women you seek are in church lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 06:01 AM
25	How low are the chances to find such a woman nowadays? I know a few devout Catholic women who fit this bill, in the 25-30 range. All 3 of them are legitimately stunning. These women are waiting for equally devout, virgin, conservative, Catholic men, which is kind of difficult in our liberal bubble town. Looking for someone of either gender who hasn’t had sex or been in a relationship by that age is going to limit the dating pool a lot. You’re looking at single digit percentages of people. Add in looks, values, goals, etc and it probably feels Iike h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 05:24 AM
–	Ladies, have you even not been into someone despite them being good in bed? Yes. At the time, we both had been through recent loss and divorce. We had textbook disorganized attachment styles. The revolving door of high intensity connection followed by need for space made it hard to feel grounded or secure, for either of us. 0/10 recommend confusing mutual pain and sexual chemistry with compatibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/25 04:26 AM
1	The lesbian divorce rate debunks a lot of the complaints wives have about their husbands “The percentage you came in with” makes no sense and would harm men and women alike. By that logic, my dad who had nothing but piles of student debt would owe my stay at home mom everything, given she was the sole breadwinner the first few years of their marriage and the only one with a savings account, coming into said marriage. He now out-earns her by several hundred thousand a year and has for decades. More people who are concerned about being taken for what they’re worth need to get a good a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 07:02 AM
–	As Gender Equality Grows, So Does Women's Prison Population A defense attorney just tried to use this defense in a date rape case a town down the road from me. He questioned her motives for being on the date in the first place, and dressed the way she was… out loud, in a public court of law. Granted, it didn’t go over well for him. But to say it never ever happens is a bit disingenuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 06:00 AM
–	As Gender Equality Grows, So Does Women's Prison Population Yeah, women can have some really dark fantasies. I want to hope most of them know the difference between dark fantasy and earnestly wanting to be a rape victim. But I know there’s definitely a small minority of women who are bad boy chasers and get off on attaching themselves to violent criminals (again, very very small minority). Either gender joking about wanting to be victims just because the perpetrator is hot is just sick, though. Men joking about it makes me even sadder, given how overlook…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 05:50 AM
3	What are your thoughts on promoting arranged marriages in the west? The government? Absolutely not. Am I for more people being willing to let their friends, family, coworkers, etc matchmake, consensually? Absolutely. The dating apps have done nothing but mess with our collective heads.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 03:57 AM
–	As Gender Equality Grows, So Does Women's Prison Population Some of them aren’t even quiet about it. I have a couple true crime loving friends who talk about which serial killers are hot. Granted, I know they know better than to actually want to date one. But it’s always been weird to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 02:54 AM
2	If a guy friend had a crush on you, but you rejected him but wanted to stay friends with him; but later you got a new bf, would you be considerate of your friends feelings? I would definitely put some distance between myself and this friend so they can process and hopefully move on. If we were roommates, I would move out as soon as it was feasible. From there, I’d leave it up to the friend. He can decide if he wants to be around my boyfriend or not. Communicating that said boyfriend will or will not be with me allows them to decide if they want to show up as a friend or if it will be too painful. That’s not a decision I can make for them. Unrequited feelings suck. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 02:32 AM
1	Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peak The vast majority of men don’t want to rape anyone. Nor would they advocate for rape. Men want to be wanted. That’s not to say we don’t have a problem of sexual assault. And of course there are extremist outliers who wish they could legally rape. But this is so not a policy that would gain sweeping public support. Heck, even in studies trying to determine how many men commit sexual assault, they tend to have to describe various acts that are breaches of consent rather than using words like rape …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/25 02:01 AM
1	Why are Men are obligated to pay but women are not obligated todo anything? Men have been, historically, the “chasers” and providers. That translates to initiating and paying for dates. Then there’s the issue of social etiquette. We generally pay for things we invite people to. I’ve never been billed for the meal at a dinner party, wedding, work event, etc. When the patriarchal view is that men are meant to be the initiators, they do more inviting. Social etiquette follows that they then pay. That said, men shouldn’t feel obligated. It’s outdated. I think trading off on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/25 10:10 AM