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| 42 | How important is a man's looks?Looks alone, aren't important to women in the way that they are to a man. Women take a lot more into the equation when judging whether they find a man attractive or not. Personality, Confidence, Ambition, Success, Grooming, Intelligence, Empathy, the list goes on and on. It is okay to try and optimize for one variable if it is important to you, but if it doesn't move the needle all that much for you in comparison to the other attributes, that is okay too. Nothing wrong with that. The measure you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/26 05:47 PM |
| 34 | at times it doesn’t feel worth it to partner with men because of their natureMen are not a homogenous bunch. Sure some men value youth and beauty above all else, but I dont think it is all men, or even most men. Certainly not high value men. If youth and beauty were the only qualities a man looked for in a woman, none of them would ever get married because loss of beauty as you age is a 100% certainty. Why would a high value male tie themselves down like that? Why remove the threat of competition from the picture? The truth is men find something far more valuable in wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Expected Violence?Violence is abuse full stop. There is no red pill or blue pill or any other dimension to it. You need to get yourself out of that situation and focus on your safety first and foremost. If you aren’t married to him, (you mentioned he is your boyfriend) I would recommend any violence to be a relationship ending event. I am deeply sorry that this happened to you. I assure you it isn’t okay, normal or allowable in any way shape or form. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/26 02:23 AM |
| 8 | He says no future but still wants physical access. Did I lose my power and am I right to walk away ?Yeah, I was with her until that line. It was obvious from the way her post is written that she really wants to get intimate with him and is having a hard time with squaring that with her rational self. You can see her struggle with it as you read her post. When she is saying she will be intimate one last time she isn’t thinking with her head. To OP, He doesn’t have any rights to your body and so not getting intimate is not depriving him of something he is entitled to in anyway. You can choose to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/26 02:08 AM |
| 58 | What if the man I'm searching for simply doesn't exist?As someone who wondered the same thing, the person I finally did marry was someone that I just found excellent chemistry with. The checklist approach works while you have no one in particular in mind, but the checklist goes out the window when you meet “the one”. Don’t look at it as losing hope or lowering standards. Instead open yourself up to more connections and look to find the guy who makes you think “damn, I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him! In fact, I really hope he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/26 09:33 PM |
| 7 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?Yeah none of that sounds to me like something important enough for it to be 1. Feels like it is all (not just mostly) 2 to be honest with you. I am assuming he has many other redeeming qualities about him, and we are just all currently focusing on one small character flaw. We all have those. Anyway, I would make sure it is obvious that this isn't something that works otherwise it is a tool he will reach for often. I am not sure what the best way to handle it is, but it is to address the elephant… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 07:25 PM |
| 12 | RPW - How are we to handle receiving the silent treatment from our husbands?There are two possibilities I see, depending on your personalities and the reason for the argument: He needs space and genuinely loses affection and doesn't want to pretend like everything is okay when everything isn't for him. He is going into his shell and processing whatever is bothering him without putting it all out in the open and discussing it with you. If this is the case, my approach at least, would be to show affection or a peace offering (anything that shows him you love him - bake hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 06:19 PM |
| 10 | You’re not marrying a rich manSomething a lot of women need to understand is that, wealth takes time to create. You often have to judge the potential of a man, rather than the present. Exceptions apply of course, for example if he was born into a rich family, or you two are getting married late in life, or there is a massive age gap, or the man is an absolute genius or something and hit it big in his 20s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 01:55 PM |
| 3 | How would you guys feel giving footjobs ?If the kink is something that doesn’t make you uncomfortable, you lose nothing by indulging him. Intimacy should be playful and fun. Honestly, having a foot fetish is probably one of the more vanilla/simple kinks these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 05:40 AM |
| 6 | Should guys pay first date or should the bill be split?I think that is fair. If you are meeting up at a casual dining/coffee type place that most people wouldn't consider premium or expensive, it wouldn't be as surprising if you split the bill. It is a low commitment/low pressure way of just feeling someone out to see if there is something worth pursuing there. But the moment a guy asks a girl out to a premium/higher end type of place that feels like a proper date. Then I think it is fair to expect the guy to pay. The only reason I would think a guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 07:57 PM |
| 21 | Should guys pay first date or should the bill be split?From a strictly red pill perspective, You want men who pay for all or most dates, not just the first. They want to show that they are providers, that they are successful enough that they are able to pay for the date, and that they are genuinely interested in the woman and investing in courting her. Basically that spending time with the woman and learning more about her is something significant and important and worth the expense. Again, this is from a strictly red pill perspective. From a more p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/26 07:32 PM |
| 23 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?I do agree with it. When Bonnie Blue, a porn star who is, depending on who you ask, pretty average looking maybe some what above average (look her up and you be the judge), put an ad up that she would sleep with any man who showed up, she had a line of 1000 men waiting outside. Literally... standing in line , out the door. I know it’s just a number, but actually visualize 1000 men standing in line. Like How long did the 960th guy have to wait in line? Then again, I doubt they all arrive at the s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/26 12:00 AM |
| 20 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?I agree. That is why I put the disclaimer that I stand corrected if that is not what she meant. What I was referring to was the "sense" I got from her post. Reading between the lines.. she used phrases like "... wasting time with 20 year old guys " (it is literally the subject) .... be with the guys that my “primal” instinct would incline me to? (the 6’3 jacked handsome cool guys ... " and " I feel like part of me might feel like I missed out on dating a guy who is physically my type (Jacob Elor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/26 06:40 PM |
| 69 | worth wasting time with 20y guys?Honestly, what I think you are asking is that will you regret not having been promiscuous and slept around with the hot dudes (I am assuming that is what "dating" young jacked 6' 3" hot guys is a euphemism for ... I stand corrected if that is not what you meant) right now before settling down with the man who will be the mid guy who is stable, a good provider and a good dad. The answer to that is maybe. However thinking like that is also devaluing yourself and your future partner in many ways. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/26 06:03 PM |
| 18 | I love first datesI think you might just enjoy socializing and meeting new people in general. You could enjoy various meetup apps, and friend apps like Bumble BFF. But I hear you. The cultural default being "sex after date" is really dumb. Dating was fine the way it was before. It should simply be courting, and getting to know someone you are interested in. Sex after even the first few dates should not be an expectation or a norm. It should be something that MIGHT happen MUCH later provided the couple decide to e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/26 08:55 PM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on make-up?Different guys have different tastes, but the way I _think_ he meant it is there is the girl next door look and then there is the glammed up look. This is where you have the makeup, the hair done up, the jewelry, the dress, the heels, etc. The glammed up look can make sense when you are attending a fancy dinner or party or event of some kind. The girl next door look is the effortless look, think jeans/ath-leisure/summer dresses/etc. where you are dressed in a more relaxed outfit. Personally, I c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/26 08:02 PM |
| 8 | how to weed out men who only want sex earlyBefore you are in a relationship or friends, you are strangers getting to know each other. It is weird to expect a stranger to buy you food. Now if the man is deliberately courting you, sure he will buy you the food to convey his interest. That is totally up to him, but why would you expect him to pay for your meal if you are just getting to know each other? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/26 12:16 AM |
| 6 | how to weed out men who only want sex earlyAgreed. I imagine a committed relationship to look exactly like what you describe. Your friends and family know you are a "thing" and you are well established as a couple in both your social and family circles. It would literally be around the time you would be seriously considering moving in with him. That level of trust/commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 11:16 PM |
| 8 | how to weed out men who only want sex earlyI get it. It's a tough subject to bring up because so much of this is unspoken and awkward to bring up directly. You're basically addressing the elephant in the room and in reality everyone dances around it. So much of it is communicated through innuendos and euphemisms as well. Like "head back to my place" implies not just to hang out and watch some netflix. Same with "grab a cup of coffee", "go to dinner with", "go to the game together", everything is implied. A good time for it would be the m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 11:13 PM |
| 45 | how to weed out men who only want sex earlyThe way you weed them out IS by not having sex with them. Be careful about telling them that you have some date number you wait till. I had a friend who had a five date minimum, and she shared it with the guy when he started pushing for sex. So he proceeded to appear super keen and asked her out for date after date until they hit her 5 minimum, got to sleep with her and then went cold. Remember there are guys out there trying to get their body count up and see you as just another notch on their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/26 09:30 PM |
| 8 | Is it worth it to date as a teen?Two things: 1) As long as you are dating without getting physically intimate, I do not see any harm in it 2) Date men who are on the same page as you. Most men you will encounter are not dating to marry, find the men who are looking to date specifically with the intention of wanting to marry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/26 03:48 PM |
| 3 | QuestionA woman being raped has a lot of societal support. It is a deeply traumatic event for sure, but you can see the support structures in place to help the woman come back stronger and recover and heal. Doesn’t always happen, but there is a good possibility of it. In fact there are some pretty depressing stats on the number of women who are victims of SA and they just get on with their lives. If a man is falsely accused of rape, unless he is able to prove otherwise, society is geared to punish and d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/25 05:33 PM |
| 11 | Shady pastIf you cannot have an honest conversation about your concerns about his criminal past, how are you planning on having a relationship and possibly spending the rest of your life with him? Maybe he has changed, maybe he hasn’t. To be honest, to me that is a red flag. But seeing as you are obviously hesitating on making a decision that feels obvious to me, at the very least you should be able to discuss this with him and communicate your very legitimate concerns. Having said that, I am not sure wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/25 12:18 AM |
| 16 | How to respond when a man asks ‘ what do you bring to the table?’It is natural for a man to ask himself this before committing to a woman, but it feels like it is in poor taste to put it so bluntly like that. My response would have been - "I do not think those are big asks. I think they are basic expectations. Had I said I wanted him to make sure I traveled first class, drove nothing less than a Porsche or a Land Rover, and wanted him to raise my 2 kids from another dad, I would have agreed that those were big asks. To answer your question though, what I brin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 12:17 AM |
| 11 | Why men don't fully commit and waste women's time and how to partialy solve itPersonally, I don't think that this is something that can be fixed with some sort collective action on the part of women to only date younger men. I think the whole modern idea of dating, relationships and pre-marital sex is broken. We have to accept that there are trade offs to every thing. We cannot have this new promiscuous environment with hookup culture and casual sex while simultaneously expecting no impact to traditional values, expectations of low body counts for women, having the highes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/25 07:37 PM |
| 8 | Do any of you ladies get spanked/punished by your husbands?Wait are we talking like for real here or part of some kinky shit in the bedroom? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/25 06:33 AM |
| 21 | Got played like a fiddle by a married man and I feel incredibly stupidIn the future, dont get intimate with guys on the second date. I have a friend who uses a 6 date rule, she made the mistake of telling a guy about it. The guy seemed super keen and kept taking her out on date after date until the 6th date, when they got intimate and then he bailed. She doesn't tell guys about her rule anymore. My advice to you is the same one I gave to her. Dont get intimate until there is some form of commitment. I get that in todays age, it is hard to "save yourself for marria… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/25 09:53 PM |
| 7 | I have an imbalance in the men I’m attracting (22/F)The “middle” or decent guys tend to be considerate. They want to leave attractive women alone in their spaces so they don’t feel like they constantly have to fight off being approached. The number of third spaces has been shrinking. The workplace and the gym used to be great for this, but now approaching women there is considered taboo. Church attendance is falling. Most guys in Clubs and Pubs are looking for a different sort of connection. So, what is left are hobbies and educational spaces. Fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/25 03:12 PM |
| 11 | What power do women hold other than pussy power?Beautifully said. Pussy power only remains a power while a man is horny. Also no single woman holds a monopoly on it. There are plenty of very beautiful women, and beauty doesn’t last a lifetime and Prostitution is the world’s oldest profession. Men can and do depend on women emotionally. Men can and do want to protect, provide and care for women. If all men cared about was beauty, you would not see very many long term happily married men with older wives. Society discourages men from showing vu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/25 06:36 AM |
| 8 | Relationship to fwb?Will he still spend time with you if you stop providing him with sex? If not, then you have your answer. Honestly, at a minimum if I was you and though I wanted to leave the door open, I would tell him that you are okay with friendship but not with the FWB situation. Ideally you should end it, reset and find someone who gives you more than just casual, commitment free sex. There is an endless supply of men who will give you causal commitment free sex, but clearly that is not what you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/25 07:15 AM |
| 7 | If red pill is an amoral strategy why is it wrong with promoting gold digging, hypergamy, monkey branching and dating multiple men at the initial stage?Society looks down on monkey branching women for the same reason that it discourages harem building for men. It’s a kind of game theory societal value maximizing. As a woman ages she wouldn’t want to compete with a younger woman. She wants to raise kids, which further reduces her RMV. The truth is a woman’s SMV peaks early and trends down over time, while a man’s SMV continues to climb and peaks much later. It therefore is in her best interests to encourage “loyalty” and “commitment”. Having sai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/25 02:40 PM |
| 8 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madAgain I disagree. Not all high status and hyper masculine men are single. First we have to define what is hyper masculine. If you include "not wanting to commit" as a hyper masculine trait, then you have a circular definition. Regardless of what you define as hyper masculine and high status, surely we can agree that Chirs Hemsworth (a great looking, 6' 3" beast of a man, multi millionaire, and A list international celebrity) is hyper masculine and a super high value male. He got married to a wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/25 05:00 PM |
| 7 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madWhen would it ever be in a man's own best interest to commit to a single woman? Why would a high value man limit their own reproductive opportunities? I disagree with it being a beta trait. I think you and I might be assigning different meanings to the term "emotional dependence". By emotional dependence, I mean love, not simping. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/25 04:40 PM |
| 40 | I’m starting to understand men and now I’m madMen _are_ emotional partners who think about their woman all the time and want them. At least as far as I know, it is a very red pill concept (mods correct me if I am wrong here? If it isn't, it should be!). A woman can be financially dependent on their man, and the man can be emotionally dependent on his woman. In fact, It is when he becomes emotionally dependent/connected, that he commits to her. Men's sex drive and emotional needs are not connected in the same way that they are for women. In … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/25 04:09 PM |
| 6 | How can modern women have unreasonably high standards while having a high body count?Simple. The few "Chads" and "Tyrones" are sleeping with as many women as they can without committing to any of them. Some women mistake their ability to get the "Chads" and "Tyrones" into bed through NSA sex, with the ability to pull those men and get them to commit. The result is women with high body counts who think they can pull "Chads" and "Tyrones" and anything else is settling. There is a phenomenon called "Alpha Widows". These are women who have had a super high value male in the past, th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/25 01:14 AM |
| 2 | How do I reconcile being a “good girl” but with a shameful past?The jealousy does not trigger in the same way for the men in a woman's past unless those men are still around in some fashion, or if he knows them. If they are anonymous, faceless, forgotten, they are Irrelevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/25 12:04 AM |
| 19 | How do I go from 'hookup material' to 'girlfriend material'?Men who see themselves as the provider/carer/protector of a woman, are more likely to want more than recreational sex from them. They have to see you as "theirs" and feel territorial about you. Nothing is guaranteed to work, but one way to do this is to be vulnerable to bring out the caring/protecting instinct if it is there. If you search this subreddit, there are numerous posts discussing the theory and practice of this. Just search up the keywords on submissiveness, vulnerability and incremen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/25 11:12 PM |
| 29 | Subscribing to OnlyFansIt doesn’t matter what someone else would do. The point is you find it disgusting and it sounds like you will have a hard time respecting him knowing this. Do you respect him? Everything in a relationship is built on respect and trust. They are the pillars that hold it all up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | "men prefer younger women"A woman and a wife is far far more than just her beauty. A man who will “discard” his confidant and best friend for decades, the mother of his children, his partner in life, over just losing her youth is not a man worth having. I am not saying such men don’t exist, but try to find someone who wants to grow old with you, not someone who wants to enjoy you for your beauty, because your beauty is guaranteed to fade eventually | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/25 01:22 AM |
| 11 | Princess TreatmentPrincess treatment has to fit within the man’s means. I think a what a woman is fundamentally trying to weed out is the man’s true level of interest. If the man has the means, one way he can do this is by showering her with expensive gifts. Though, depending on his means (ie. if he is very wealthy) even those expensive gifts may not be that significant an indicator. Fundamentally what you are trying to weed out is, if the guy’s level of commitment and interest. Whether he is looking for a life p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 11:06 PM |
| – | How to respond to silent treatmentWe are both making assumptions about the OPs situation. You might be assuming that he hasn't brought up what is bothering him, while I am assuming that they have already argued about something and hit an impasse. Impasses can be reached where it is not worth breaking up over, nor is it worth letting go. He will not be in the mood to chit chat because something is still bothering him and the impasse needs to be resolved. To me, you come across in the came of "do not let him have his way!" and I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 11:39 PM |
| – | How to respond to silent treatmentI'll be honest, I didn't think my comment would get such a negative reaction. She is getting the silent treatment from her partner right now, it isn't a debate on whether her partner should be doing it or not (he shouldn't, we all agree on that), but now that he is, I was hoping to help give her some insight into what might be going on. My intention was trying to be helpful, but seeing as this is a space for you guys and not me, and the general sentiment that my comment might be encouraging bad … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 10:57 PM |
| 0 | How to respond to silent treatmentHi! Please see my comment above to the reply above yours. I didn't mean for it to come across as this being a regular thing in my household lol. I only recall doing it when we have been at an impasse on something, and it is basically something I do not want to fight about, nor do I want to let slide. Like any domestic quarrel type situation, It's not a "tool in my toolkit" kind of thing, if you know what I mean. I was just trying to help the OP out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 10:38 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to silent treatmentBoth men and women can act immature inside of relationships. I agree, and admit it is childish behavior. I am, like all human beings, a work in progress. Believe me, she has her moments too. Either way, do not be under the impression that this is a daily thing my wife has to endure. We have been happily married for decades and my wife doesn't need rescuing from me. (I will see if she wants to read this thread later to see if she disagrees lol). I was only trying to help the OP by giving her a ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 10:34 PM |
| -2 | How to respond to silent treatmentWhat prompted him to give you the silent treatment? Is it something serious or petty? As a husband who has used the silent treatment in the past, here is what I have expected. I am hoping for my wife to come to me and show that she cares and that she misses me. I am hurt or upset at a certain behavior but dont want to fight about it. Depending on the situation I may be looking for an apology, but really I just want her to fuss over me and acknowledge that I am upset and that it matters and that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/24 09:54 PM |
| 2 | body count and experience for womenI had never heard of the madonna whore complex. Just looked it up on Wikipedia. Learned something new! In my case I definitely found my wife (and continue to find) my wife very attractive. I think what they mean when they say "lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" is a woman's ability to flip between the switch in the man's mind between being the "madonna" and "the whore" (using the terms you mentioned). I imagine this takes works. You can be both at the same time. Just as the "chilling with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/24 12:24 AM |
| 12 | body count and experience for womenSpeaking as a guy you are approaching this all wrong. Speaking for myself and the guys I know, men look for two types of women and it is rare that there is any overlap. There are the fun women. These are the promiscuous type. All men really want from them is sex. This is the NSA sex / one night stands / FWB type relationships. They are not looking to commit, they are just looking for fun. Honestly, they may not even like or respect them as long as they get to sleep with them. Then you have the r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/24 10:01 PM |
| 3 | How to navigate dating in college?Oops! I have edited the original comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/24 07:53 AM |
| 7 | How to navigate dating in college?I am such a guy. I met my wife when she was 20 and I was 23. I was dating a bit (less than a dozen girls) but not hooking up or being intimate with them. Once I met my now wife, something clicked, and I was comfortable being intimate before we got married. We got married just 2 years later. We have now been very happily married 18 years and have two lovely kids. My body count is 1 (ie. My wife), and as far as I know, so is hers. I admit We are a bit of an extreme case, but I just want you to kno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/24 12:57 AM |
| 7 | Do men intentionally look for a wife like women look for a husband? Is this rare? What age are these kind of men?I can tell you that when I approached the woman who eventually became my wife, I was actively looking to get married. I was upfront with her and obvious about it from the start. However I was in my mid twenties when I began courting her which eventually became a relationship that eventually ended in marriage. So, yes they do exist. In fact, at some point, I imagine most men want a committed relationship. But they tend to be younger or older. Let me explain. High value (and by that I simply mean … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 11:54 PM |
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