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Software engineer here as well that just started his career and would like to eventually make more. How do I conduct myself better both in the interview process (I know that I can just read r/cscareerquestions) and in the workplace (culture and communication are often talked about, but what does a RP man see it?).
/r/TheRedPill14/02/17 10:23 PM
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Agreed. Its a solid book with strong emphasis on inner game. In fact honesty is such an important virtue. But for anyone looking for more practical game to get the ball rolling, "being vulnerable" can easily be interpreted the wrong way (I know I did - I talked about my feelings and thought that was vulnerability). So I can also feign non-neediness, but now what? I find that the above comment about saying things with a fire in your eyes and a wry smile to be much closer to what is considered a c…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/17 07:02 PM
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The only advice that actually helped me was RSD Tyler's video about free association and sounding exciting EVEN when saying something boring ( https://youtu.be/O8c-ijxS8CY ). If you can't "talk on and on" on the spot, or at least recognize you have this ability, you will psyche yourself into the classic "shit what should I say" psyche.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/17 04:27 AM
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The idea of "bullshit small talk" is where I think a lot of books about "how to talk to people, how to make people like you" miss the point on. In recent months its become very apparent to me that socializing isn't really seduction. For example, being interested in someone is one of those cardinal rules of having social interactions go well, or staying around topics such as Family Occupation Recreation Dreams. While I am being a perfectly normal and polite human being for this style of socializi…
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 07:35 AM
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OP, what were some of GLL's articles and ideas that you think helped the most?
/r/TheRedPill06/11/16 10:35 AM
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This is excellent, gave me some perspective to think about. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 05:08 PM
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Thanks I will check that out. One point is clear - I'm probably talking too much about myself or my affairs and interests and that isn't helping anybody.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/16 11:48 PM
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I feel like my game is stuck and can't improve because the things I say "dry out" a conversation, and drive it out of possible seduction. I love talking about things like how life should be lived, realizations I've had, books I've read, etc... because I actually find these conversations fun for myself. Its as if these things kill off any seduction vibe in the interaction, and trying to add back in physical proximity/touching at that point seems too awkward - the girl already sees me as this matu…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/16 10:37 PM
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Nor sure if helpful - but I tried not moving at all and making the minimal actions. This forces you to think before you take on a new mannerism such as bobbing your head up and down in laughing.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 09:55 AM
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I got a degree in electrical engineering. To equip myself better for jobs, I learned some programming and have went through several jobs as a software engineer/developer. My conclusion was this: Yes, you can get a job. But I did not like being a code monkey or an employee. I found out that I don't have that inner passion for programming like some other people I've seen, and I tried so hard to fight this feeling off. I disliked the culture of the majority of people I've met in the field - strongl…
/r/askTRP16/06/15 09:13 AM
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I've been doing basic Rippetoe's Starting Strength for over 3-4 years, but never saw too much progress (though I did get a bit bigger). Did you follow a specific routine that keeps you motivated regularly?
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 06:17 AM
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Do you mind explaining how the girl was trying to friendzone you and how you responded to it?
/r/seduction10/05/15 05:57 AM
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Not experienced here, but did lose my virginity at 24 after having dealt with a host of anxiety and insecurity issues surrounding not having lost it, friends around me all being experienced, WTF is wrong with me, etc. I lost it to a hooker/escort after months of debate with myself. I also subsequently did have my first time with a girl in my social circle though it didn't pan out to a relationship. I consider that one luck to this day. The buildup to the sex can be nerve wracking as hell. Depend…
/r/seduction03/05/15 03:25 PM
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This is by far one of the most enlightening posts I've read on TRP. I am a complete novice in stimulating emotion to women. BP upbringing, engineering major. Good god. I often think that the way I go about making conversation is always doomed to talking about banalities (what did you do today), listening to some sob story or gossip (which based on what you said isn't as bad - since the girl is emotional talking about it?), or worse. The best I can usually do is talk about the past. Childhood. Or…
/r/TheRedPill15/09/14 08:48 PM
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Shes basically asking for you to impose your frame on her so she doesnt feel so shitty. Makes more sense. Thanks
/r/askTRP08/09/14 02:45 AM
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I'm going through something similar to OP yet the girl is still putting out sexually here and there so its hard to justify me cutting ties with her. Any advice on this?
/r/TheRedPill01/09/14 05:21 PM
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Bookmarked the blog. Since you seem to be interested in software and business, do you have any other blog recommendations?
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 02:54 AM
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Graduated recently and looking to do more software on the entrepreneurial side, but the only things I could come up with were mobile apps and I've been working on a mobile game for the past year or so. Where should I start looking for other markets?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 05:34 AM
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Great FR. I'm somewhere around the stage of you in the beginning. Mind if you talk / pm about your Tinder experiences when you actually meet up with the girl?
/r/TheRedPill21/06/14 08:58 AM
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I lost it a few months back. I can totally agree with what you're saying, especially how if I told my past virgin self this, he would've totally called BS. I thought sex would boost my confidence and self-esteem, and skyrocket my life. But in reality its different. In a span of a few months, I first lost my virginity to a prostitute. The best part of that was the anticipation and anxiety before going, all the social stigma attached to "paying for sex", going anyway, and realizing that sex didn't…
/r/seduction05/06/14 06:45 AM
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Sounds like you're falling in love with the idea of the girl. There's no way you can really like or "fall in love" with a girl without having some emotional connection first. I'd say make some kind of move to see where you're at, and do this way before you get attached to any feelings you might have; this is opposed to what needy guys do who start "liking" her, then get frustrated trying to figure out the best time to hold her hand or kiss her.
/r/seduction05/05/14 05:38 PM
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Violating a few of those right now. Good reminder. It helps to read some sort of list to tell if you are making any mistakes in your behaviour and to make sure you don't do it tomorrow.
/r/seduction06/04/14 02:31 AM
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Ugh I've definitely been making the lecture mistake here and there even if I try to make it interesting. Will keep that in mind. Thanks!
/r/seduction31/03/14 09:46 PM
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That's true. I've also had some awkward experiences in the past where I escalated, most likely because the girl thought I was just a nice guy treating her to dinner when I suddenly would hold her hand or kiss out of nowhere with no previous flirting whatsoever. I guess that's what bugs me.
/r/seduction31/03/14 09:44 PM
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and better able to get inside her head Do you mind shedding some light on this? I'm curious as to how the process is like for you. I have a lot of trouble doing that, even when I try to talk on a more abstract or emotional level.
/r/seduction21/11/13 05:12 AM
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More of a philosophical question. For those who have had some progress... Is it "wrong" or "dangerous" to feel a lot of happiness and approval when a girl is actually responding to you? My game isn't good, I'm pretty much a beginner, but I've been fairly analytical of my past failures and successes for a few years. Yet, my experience is still low. I feel a surge of fulfillment and satisfaction if the girl even tries to carry on a conversation with me. In the world of pickup masters, getting a gi…
/r/seduction12/11/13 08:58 AM
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I feel you man, but I felt that I couldn't hold a conversation with a girl. I wasn't feeling that nervous or anything, I even played it cool on the outside, a bit too cool. The girl was sitting next to me and she even asked me a few questions. I had a bit too much beer by then and just couldn't process the information properly and just said things like "oh". The conversation died soon after.
/r/seduction25/10/13 04:30 PM
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Thanks. That was good.
/r/seduction18/10/13 08:46 AM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1n5uyWeNs0Y This video cleared my concerns and doubts about shallow self-talk quite a bit. I also take a lot of his advice on many other things in general. The point is, "he who asks the most questions has the most power in a conversation" or something like that. Yes, the topic could be gas prices or the new iPhone, but you can ask a question that might draw it closer to something you're interested in. I'm usually interested in other people and seeing them as a hum…
/r/seduction18/10/13 04:08 AM
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Great post from another neurotic introvert here. My biggest pain points are making the conversation somewhat fun and lighthearted if need be, because sometimes I can't pull out from talking about deeper topics and that's when I find the mood running dry. Like you said, teasing and challenging them instead of talking about your own cat is one good way. The other is escalation. Its something I've never done properly because it goes against everything I've been programmed by my mother. Yet, clear a…
/r/seduction17/10/13 03:11 PM
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Pretty much creeped out a girl on text that I've only met once before, and have to see her again in Friday in a group setting. Thinking I should pretend nothing happened but not put my focus on her anymore. Any experienced advice on this awkward situation?
/r/seduction15/10/13 08:27 AM
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This might've been answered tons of times already, but here goes: I know I should turn my conversations sexual, but I would feel horribly incongruent doing so. I haven't had sex, so it would be obvious that I'm trying hard to act the whole "talking about sex casually" sort of frame. I'm still at the point where I can sort of have conversations going, but the vibe is not escalating. They're just conversations that involve good eye contact, minor humor, back and forth about life, school, work, whe…
/r/seduction12/10/13 04:35 AM
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Been told repeatedly that I'm not manly enough for the past few years. I was born with a baby face, gentle-looking, and I'm only around 5'6". I've tried acting more confident here and there without any good results. How can I overcome this?
/r/seduction28/09/13 12:13 PM
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Models A New Earth
/r/seduction05/08/13 06:24 PM
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How did you manage to intern at Simple Pickup and how was that like?
/r/seduction05/07/13 01:30 AM
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If you even have to think about when to send it that its a sign of neediness. Whenever is fine but 2-3 days later she'll forget about you.
/r/seduction29/06/13 07:06 PM
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It seems that you have no problem carrying on good conversations with girls. My conversations typically run short and dry, have too much opinion-sharing, fact-trading involved. Any secrets or good articles you have to fix this?
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:53 PM
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The strong part usually implies masculine polarity, which is attractive. I don't know how well this type would function in an extroverted environment though.
/r/seduction17/06/13 10:21 PM
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Still an excuse. Same applies to hitting on girls that are working, that have guys with them, that have sunglasses on, that are doing something, whatever.
/r/seduction03/06/13 05:27 AM
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Where would I even find girls like you? And actually tell that they aren't sensitive to the negative Asian stereotypes?
/r/seduction13/05/13 08:27 AM
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OP might want to read this as well. Can you explain what was wrong with soloing as a newbie at the club newbie? How should he have nonverbally approached instead?
/r/seduction11/05/13 11:49 PM
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This type of advice is probably the biggest chunk of what's missing from my game. I spent too much energy and attention into looking good and trying to appear alpha and confident that I neglected the nature of my interactions with women.
/r/seduction25/03/13 05:49 PM
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Maybe. But hear me out - I can play a few show-off songs on the piano. Its a conversation maintainer, it can impress, but if you THINK that you NEED to play the piano, you're probably trying to show-off to the girl or other people. I used to expect girls to think I'm smart, cool, or talented and then like me just by citing random Wikipedia facts, playing good songs, dressing well. Didn't work because I was trying to show-off subconsciously. That means you're probably coming from a needy mindset,…
/r/seduction04/03/13 11:29 AM
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Judging from that photo you're not a 3. Are you serious? You're at least a 6-7. I think you get the unattractive spiel ONLY based on your (possibly poor) posture and facial expressions. The facial features themselves are something people generally don't discriminate against. I've been called a good looking guy but I used to keep to myself in social situations, frown a lot, and let my eyes dart. That is not attractive either. I'd try recording myself talk and letting yourself criticizing it for b…
/r/seduction21/02/13 10:46 PM
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Be and sound confident. Use slight sexual innuendos. Worked on me.
/r/seduction19/02/13 05:08 PM
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There are certain posts that newbies coming should read, and I feel that this should be one of them. But there's a part which eludes me and a lot of other people, I'm sure: When I first started with pick up, I was a virgin who had a lot of fears with women. In my first four months I did over 1000 approaches and got a ton of results. I remember when I got my first number and I was super excited, but then she never answered, and I couldn't sleep that night because of all the pain. Shortly after I …
/r/seduction25/01/13 02:27 AM
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The white pockets and picket fences one
/r/seduction06/01/13 10:15 PM
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I think I'll take some of your sticking points to heart, since I'm a pretty similar person. Except I'm much far behind, and so I will present Q&A time: Your first time: were you just plain lucky, or did you previously make an effort, a will of some sort, to just put yourself out there as much as possible to try and lose your virginity? How did it happen or was it just a drunken haze at some party, or an actual girlfriend? Did you ever have nice guy syndrome, where you were too shy or felt ashame…
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:12 AM
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How close were you with that girl before the change and what would you guys do together?
/r/seduction26/12/12 02:40 AM
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Delivery, being comfortable in your own skin. Then what you find funny, other people will find funny. I hate people that laugh hard at their own jokes when its not even funny, it doesn't substitute for a genuine sense of humor.
/r/seduction22/12/12 04:15 AM
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But at what point does honesty go a bit too far and its not okay since its a bit weird and awkward for most people? I understand its probably best to "smart" about it, but I tried being honest a few times and said things to girls that aren't socially acceptable in most people's eyes.
/r/seduction06/12/12 05:01 AM
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You are well-acquainted on this subject intellectually. How do you get suppress all that logic in your head when you're actually out with the girl? I get stuck in my head a lot and I'm rarely a spontaneous person, instead often sitting back and being over-analytical about it
/r/seduction10/11/12 10:24 PM
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Floss in the morning and night Orabrush in the morning and night Brush your teeth Keep floss around handy in case stuff gets stuck in your teeth after lunch and you're out the whole day Listerine Gum Avoid coffee, onions.
/r/seduction09/11/12 09:42 AM
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So it seems to me you're an introvert, and you get energy from being alone rather than being around others, which is completely normal, and you probably realized that from a personality test. Getting burnt out quickly when you take action, from personal experience, is because you're afraid of failure. Fear of judgment, fear of ego annihilation, etc. So you have resigned to being an observer, someone on the sidelines, so that your identity, your sense of self will never be at risk again.
/r/seduction09/11/12 09:39 AM
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Same problem here. Conversation is the backbone of seduction, and the anticipation of painful awkwardness is hampering my game the most. I hate all those moments where I do prolonged eye contact and nod and do a winceful grin just to fill in the silence - I always wish I can have something to say. Then there's those moments where I do have something to say, but it just comes out in disorganized chunks, leading me to try to hurriedly say it, and people stop listening...
/r/seduction01/11/12 06:52 AM
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We SEEM to do it through a mixture of buildings lots and lots of comfort and emotional connections, which is dangerous as it easily leads to the friendzone for guys who pedestal and act "nice". Same rules still apply, can't skip out on kino, flirting. Just perhaps more discreet in most situations where you're both in a group and social reputation matters.
/r/seduction23/10/12 04:28 PM
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How the heck do I show interest if in my culture (Asians) kino is sort of viewed as creepy unless done right? I want to make sure the girl knows I'm interested without being creeped out. I really don't want to verbalize my liking for a girl.
/r/seduction23/10/12 01:05 AM
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Ask "WHAT DO YOU LIKE ABOUT _____" concerning where she's from, what she's studying, what she does for work.
/r/seduction19/10/12 06:38 AM
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It seems you've experienced a shift in the right direction - to accept yourself in the present moment. Reading too much inner game has also caused me to evaluate my feelings far too much and attach all these unnecessary labels to them.
/r/seduction19/10/12 06:33 AM
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Doesn't matter. Own it.
/r/seduction18/10/12 09:07 AM
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I would dare to even say to just ignore the thought of IOIs in general. Maybe my game in general is just bad, but in my last few experiences with separate girls, the so-called IOIs didn't mean SHIT. First case: got the girl's number, asked her out, tried holding her hand mid-date, she got weirded/creeped out. Second case: international student talks to me on the bus, exchange numbers, go out that night, lots of kino, end up sleeping in the same bed as her, got creeped out when I touched her face…
/r/seduction11/10/12 09:01 PM
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Do warm approaches first. I feel that when I have a reason to approach, my anxiety disappears, since I won't be "judged" as much for something I am doing that might be deemed socially unacceptable.
/r/seduction03/10/12 01:47 AM
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I'll leave a very useful portion of Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth that is relevant to this post: When you don't play roles, it means there is no self (ego) in what you do. There is no secondary agenda: protection or strengthening of yourself. As a result, your actions have far greater power. You are totally focused on the situation. You don't try to be anybody in particular. You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself. But don't try to be yourself. That's another role. …
/r/seduction02/10/12 03:13 AM
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So be selective for what you say? Do you ever feel that as time goes by your hindrance to speak goes up since you haven't been speaking enough?
/r/seduction30/09/12 12:06 AM
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I've been here for over a year. I recently started approaching girls. Then soon I realized, without escalation, you're just another guy talking to her. Just like any of her friends. But I start panicking then. Escalation is often labelled as creepy, too overt, awkward, weird, whatever. So my mind asks myself, "HOW DO I ESCALATE???"
/r/seduction29/09/12 03:33 PM
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Here's a bit of an epiphany for you. A man with passion and mastery for a specific skill will always be attractive. It just causes a certain reaction from women, if you buy into the whole evolutionary psychology thing. However, some skills are easier to display than others. Music. Language. Anything performance. Cooking is cool. Programming a bit less. Anything is good. Don't set out doing a bunch of things just to appear attractive. If you like computers then go pursue that sort of field. If yo…
/r/seduction29/09/12 12:12 AM
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Real Social Dynamics. They have great inner game material. I always felt so great and had all these inner epiphanies after watching the videos. Owen (aka Tyler) and Julien have the best videos. But a lot of the inner game material keeps circling on itself. Some of their advice is very practical and in line with what Seddit preaches, while some will lead you to analyze yourself more and more. I'd still check it out on YouTube, but don't get addicted to it.
/r/seduction29/09/12 12:08 AM
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I wonder if this is due to the energy that being relaxed and patient emits, rather than the desperate, egoic energy from the approaching guys. (See: A New Earth)
/r/seduction28/09/12 08:48 PM
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OP's pain is that he can't get close to the girls. I think he should probably have a better ecosystem / social circle first before turning on the game higher.
/r/seduction28/09/12 08:03 AM
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A New Earth is friggin awesome so far. If I had to start learning this stuff all over again, I'd just read ANE until I digest it on a deep level and work harder on improving myself instead of reading Seddit and watching RSD all day long.
/r/seduction28/09/12 07:57 AM
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I'm not going to defend RSD nor am I associated with them but a lot of the newer free tour videos were quite on point. Tyler is big on overall self improvement - he heavily advocates meditation, eating a healthy diet, and reading. But for anyone new to pickup, he might not realize why doing these things are relevant to getting lays. I think Blueprint is quite comprehensive, but it was sort of raw. To guys that grew up being very reactive and beta, its a great eye opener. Otherwise, most normal g…
/r/seduction25/09/12 09:21 PM
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I like the process for zapping out the qquestions. never thought of that one! by the way I think you manage to explain concepts in a better manner than most. Ive been here for more than a year and I still learned plenty from reading your input. Thanks!
/r/seduction20/09/12 09:14 PM
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Mind explaining how to not be over reactive but being friendly and enthusiastic at the same time? What is the difference between a seasoned player and the average high energy or friendly social guy? Also, specific strategies to avoid so much questions in the beginning of the approach?
/r/seduction19/09/12 08:28 PM
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TBH, I think the sidebar itself also needs a major overhaul. Someone qualified enough should write a more "metagame" sort of post. Outlining that you'll run into a lot of inner vs outer game debates, tons of videos that all seem good from Keys to the VIP to 21 convention to RSD to Simplepickup. Then all these direct vs indirect debates. Then all these rules like 3-second-rule, eye contact, no leaning in, always be closing, don't ask so much questions. Then maybe some will fall into an OCD-like b…
/r/seduction19/09/12 06:53 AM
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Same. I approached a girl for the second time ever today, it was on campus and she was walking beside me. I number-closed, but nothing came out of that. The reasons I won't bother explaining in length. I find that there are two problems in my approaching, don't know about you: I take way too long between seeing a girl I'm interested in and actually going up to her. My two cold approaches so far were by luck. Both happened to get off the bus at the same stop as me and walk the same route. I wrest…
/r/seduction18/09/12 03:25 AM
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