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WRONG! Shit tests are Frame Control. And when you answer them in any way shape or form you lose. Why are they used? To determine your mental resiliency and to let a stranger know where they stand with you and how they should treat you. For short: to determine your VALUE. The question you should be asking is: How do I portray high value when confronted with a shit test? Do you see the laser focus of the question now? Answer: when confronted with a shit test you must: continue to display high valu…
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:14 PM
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Peacock. If they are genuinely interested they will comment. Man, you guys are making things infinitely difficult on yourself and you haven't done your homework & it shows. Scour the innerwebs for PUA material. There is a shit-ton of it out there; get reading and quit looking for the quick answer. This is a pointless question. It only matters who YOU find attractive and how strong your game is. You're too much in your head, OP and you're looking for shortcuts that don't exist. Women are inductiv…
/r/seduction06/09/22 05:15 PM
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It's called cat-string theory. If you don't know what that is you need to scour the innerwebs more.
/r/seduction05/09/22 07:35 PM
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Don't look now, but your judgment and lack of awareness is showing. You don't even realize you are insulting her!
/r/seduction04/09/22 06:16 PM
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she has low slef respect Can you hear yourself? You're calling yourself names. You're degrading her. What if you two date and she gets pregnant? What is your big plan then? I think you need to fix your own self-esteem instead of using someone else to make you happy. That's a lot of baggage to unload on someone. She's fun, but you just want to use her because you're miserable? Experience counts for shit in matters of the heart. Authenticity and congruence are the only currency you need to build. …
/r/seduction04/09/22 02:20 AM
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Whoosh.
/r/seduction03/09/22 11:09 PM
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You should re-read the sentence just prior to what you quoted. It answers your question.
/r/seduction03/09/22 07:45 PM
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When I'm not wearing my masturbation glove of power, yes.
/r/seduction03/09/22 04:31 PM
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realized I am a relationship guy You are way ahead of most men. Most don't take the time to think about this or what it means. For those that can, this means a better success rate and more meaningful happiness. You are finding congruence within yourself. A word of caution: if you are a good-looking guy it will be more difficult to be in a LTR. There's a realm most never experience and it is the "Relationship with someone extremely good looking" realm. It is a place where jealousies are accentuat…
/r/seduction03/09/22 01:00 PM
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Whoever doesn't hold the power.
/r/seduction02/09/22 10:10 PM
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Never had a problem talking to gorgeous women. My problem is small talk. I am absolute shit at it. I guess the easiest solution would be having a story you like to tell then tailor your interaction with her so that you get to tell your story.
/r/seduction31/08/22 07:59 PM
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The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Thank you for your emotional response.
/r/seduction28/08/22 04:59 AM
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Save your breath, my dude. I'm sure you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, but romantic attraction only lasts 18-36 months then she loses interest. In my experience, women with low self esteem or who don't have knockout, head-turning bodies tend to be more willing to have LTR's. (Yep, even women succumb to scarcity mentality). Next question you must ask yourself is what type of man do you want to be. A beta providing bucks or an alpha providing fucks. (That's not a flippant statement). If…
/r/seduction28/08/22 04:50 AM
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Have a better question for you: what is she trying to do to you here? Answer: make you jump through her hoops. Are you going to respond like a good little boy she thinks you are or are you going to control the frame? If you answer her question you lose. Why? The moment you follow her lead she loses attraction for you. "What!?? You're dying to kiss me!?!? Well, ok then!" (You didn't jump through her hoops. You didn't follow her lead. You probably made her laugh, pout, stick her tongue out at you,…
/r/seduction28/08/22 03:15 AM
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Yep. It's called, "lack of options". Tread carefully.
/r/seduction17/08/22 06:19 PM
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When presented with a shit test or other absurdity from a woman amplify it and make it more absurd. Note: sounds like you realize this, but for other dudes out there - a woman's greatest fear is being murdered by a man. Appreciate this and do your damndest to make her feel safe and you will be rewarded for your efforts. "No... I'm already wanted by the law for exposing myself to a blind person...I don't need anymore heat right now!"
/r/seduction14/08/22 07:57 PM
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You've discovered the pickup paradox. show a girl too much interest, she plays hard You just demonstrated that she has more value than you. She's not "playing hard", you've simply given away all your "power & value" and she is no longer intrigued or attracted. Women do not sleep with men whom they deem to have lower value than themselves (exception being: revenge against a cheating bf/husband or severe self esteem issues). Pro Tip: act like you are the prize and get her to treat you as high valu…
/r/seduction14/08/22 10:39 AM
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OP just silenced a bunch of unaware dudes about their strategies. Lightbulb moment.
/r/seduction11/08/22 10:14 PM
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"Break the cycle, Marty. Rise above. Focus on Science." -Rick
/r/seduction11/08/22 12:32 PM
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Oxytocin, Norepinephrine, Epinephrine, Dopamine Serotonin, Phenylethylalamine (PEA).
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:02 AM
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Quit projecting YOUR feelings on everyone. You & guys like you never stop to think that she might just want to have a cute guy hit on her. Might make her day or week, but you're too busy spewing your low self esteem all over her. Yes, she doesn't want to talk to an "Eeyore", but she might just perk up for a guy who is confident and makes the conversation fun. Start by fixing your esteem. Once you have that fixed, become a fun, amazing, engaging gentleman who not only makes interesting small talk…
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:21 AM
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Meaning you were not interested in her enough to stop talking. It's ok to be nervous, but you failed the cardinal rule of getting someone to like you: get them talking about themselves.
/r/seduction06/08/22 02:13 PM
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the Bible states Automatically loses any argument you're about to make.
/r/seduction05/08/22 08:39 PM
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they are much better than us at hiding their neediness and insecurity It's because they get offered dick more often than you get offered pussy. That is the core of the abundance mindset; knowing you have options.
/r/seduction05/08/22 08:31 PM
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Tells you ALL you need to know about their "priorities". Projecting an opulent lifestyle to show off to imaginary friends speaks volumes about what she values and for what her dreams and desires are for the future. The caption should read: "Insert disposable man here". Ultimately, the picture is "value stealing". She is tying her image with a place that has high value to appear as if she herself is high value or it is an aspiration to be valued as highly. (Ever see a woman post a selfie in front…
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:40 PM
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You've found a name for the Holy Grail. This is the ultimate goal. Everything else is a waste of your time; all dudes' time. Seek mental connection. It is better than sex. It's like finding a diamond in a sea of glass.
/r/seduction02/08/22 07:41 PM
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Same concept applies. Light touches in non-sexual places: arms, small of her back, shoulder. After a couple hours: move to light touches in semi-erotic, but not sexual places: earlobe, neck, hair. Avoid breasts & ass until actual naked foreplay and even then build up her desire for you to touch her breasts. The desire comes from the absence of stimuli not the presence of stimuli. Give her something to miss. A pleasurable touch and then take it away. Pro Tip: if you can plant a soft semi-wet (i.e…
/r/seduction30/07/22 01:02 PM
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Are you ready for the hard truth? Let's see.... you were kissing her (first time)....she went to the bathroom, came back and kissed you again (second time) and then she offered you her cheek (third time). Based on your account she didn't enjoy your over exuberance? Never make out with a woman you want to sleep with, but haven't yet. (Read that again if you ever wish to have sex). It's a situation that men have not and will not master unless they are the world's best kisser and that will never ha…
/r/seduction30/07/22 12:34 PM
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Walk up to her, "Anyway, you were saying?"
/r/seduction29/07/22 05:56 PM
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Not my sport anymore, Good. Because you sound like a whinging infant who doesn't know anything about women so he's throwing a pity party. Would you want to date someone as whiney & entitled as you? You are your own problem, not women. Don't blame them for finding you unattractive and unappealing until you 180 that personality of yours. Nobody likes a whiner.
/r/seduction29/07/22 11:55 AM
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Depends on your life's philosophy and how you view not only attractiveness, but the degrees of variance between the sexes and their inherent rankings. If you have a defeatist world view then looks are all-important. If you're a nihilist looks don't matter. Then you must take into account the scale of looks and how they apply to both attractive & non-attractive people; I assure you both have a huge variance of what they deem "attractive". Instead of worrying about the "genetic lottery" of which y…
/r/seduction25/07/22 07:24 PM
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Yeah, kinda hard to show off the top 5 attraction switches in your profile.
/r/seduction25/07/22 05:07 PM
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Overly large dick.
/r/seduction25/07/22 05:05 PM
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to get across that you are just trying to have sex Hahaha! My dude, if you ask a woman for the time she'll assume you're trying to pick her up for sex. If you say "Hi" to a woman on the street she'll assume you're hitting on her for sex. Men aren't a great big F'n mystery to women as far as our motivations go. For your big "conundrum", "Not lookin' for anything serious" will work just fine.
/r/seduction25/07/22 04:52 PM
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It's a great book. Glad you like it!
/r/seduction23/07/22 07:15 PM
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You need to have a life first. Better would've been walking up to her in person (you already know this) and saying something along the lines of, "You look like a coffee fiend!" (She replies). "I'm going to "___coffee shop" this Saturday, you should join me, I'll be there at 10am". Isn't awkward and doesn't put pressure on her as well as it shows her you have a life and won't be destroyed if she doesn't show up. She can either accept, decline or counter-offer a different time/venue. If she accept…
/r/seduction23/07/22 03:52 PM
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This is the way. Always work the jealousy angle. Wait till she sees what your hand can do.
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:26 PM
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....Or if she fumbles with her keys or any other way to buy time. Basically, dudes are supposed to increase her buying temperature during the date so that you don't have to ask, you both know it's going to happen.
/r/seduction21/07/22 08:24 PM
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Because a woman will describe her idea of a perfect man and he will be ....for all intents & purposes...gay. A woman can rarely verbalize what flips her attraction switches and why. So what you get from a woman is her idea of what she thinks is attractive, not what causes her to respond in a sexual manner. She'll describe a nice guy (her idea of attractive), but she'll get psychologically addicted to the bad boy (he flips her real attraction switches). Theory versus reality. Remember: no woman e…
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:43 AM
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I've never met any girl that was devastated about losing an uncle. I swear it needs to be tattooed on dude's foreheads: if she isn't moving Heaven and Earth to spend time with you she has low interest in you. "The dead relative" is so damn cliche' it's right up there with "washing her hair". You telegraphed too much interest and you spooked her/killed her attraction for you. Here's what you do: text her that you're sorry for her loss and then you lose her number, because what you really meant is…
/r/seduction21/07/22 12:26 AM
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Don't get her pregnant. Don't marry her.
/r/seduction19/07/22 03:41 PM
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You need to get a life that keeps you busy and entertained. Relying on a text to make you happy is just a dopamine hit. Put your phone on silent or give yourself a 2 hour time limit to read & respond. Here's the deal: when you don't answer right away she spends lots of time wondering about you, thinking about you, marinating for you. And when you finally do answer it is a tremendous hit of pleasure in their brains. Answering right away denies them that.
/r/seduction18/07/22 03:23 AM
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Exactly. You're doing fuckall to engage women emotionally. This is a major stumbling block for a lot of men because, well,...emotions are scary to men. QuickAsFuckExample: Engage women the way Han Solo does with Leia in Empire Strikes Back when he tries to seduce her while she's working. (He lowers his voice, signals sexual attraction/intent with his body language/intense bedroom-eyes-contact & slight cocky smirk)...these actions signal to a woman that you are interested in being more than a fri…
/r/seduction16/07/22 05:21 PM
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To all dudes out there: a woman's first and very real fear is the threat if being murdered by a man. Do NOT take this lightly, do NOT brush it off as inconsequential. Once you acknowledge this fact you will gain a better perspective about women's motives & actions. Make your first dates very public and make her feel very safe. Nothing will progress if you can't do this crucial first step.
/r/seduction16/07/22 12:19 PM
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Hey guys- I had sex and I needed the validation!
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:49 AM
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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Works for women seeking chads too. Just be grateful you're attractive enough to be hit on. Happens to me too and it just makes me up my game to find an attractive mate rather than settle for an easy mo-ped. Hot women don't need dating sites. They get offered dick 100 times a day. Change your venue.
/r/seduction15/07/22 08:56 PM
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Numbing your prefrontal cortex. Congratulations, you discovered science! Yes, the frontal lobe is somewhat anesthetized by alcohol and it is responsible for social behavior (keeps you from blurting out something awkward or gauche). Aka: liquid courage.
/r/seduction15/07/22 07:32 PM
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Any question you want to ask turn into a statement. Aim to be wildly incorrect, but not insulting.
/r/seduction15/07/22 10:45 AM
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I think everyone on this sub conveniently forgets about the "7 hour" rule. Yes, it's an arbitrary amount if time, but it also has merits that most men who think with their dicks forget about (her perspective). Women are turned on by how you make them feel and it is exceedingly difficult to get a woman into that erogenous mindset that allows for her to want you sexually & passionately UNTIL she initially gets over her fear of being murdered by you! You want to fuck. She wants to live. That initia…
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:09 PM
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Check out the movie Playing by Heart (Sean Connery's story).
/r/seduction11/07/22 10:55 PM
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women are more "out of my league" and have more value and options than me. This is the key. Women who have a higher self esteem are more picky about with whom they share their genes. The game is played differently with "higher value women". You have to up their buying temperature more and play more precise game. That means no sophomoric text game, no high school aloofness, no weak frame. Key: make them fall in love with themselves (thru solid game) and then act like you're the prize. It's not yo…
/r/seduction11/07/22 02:04 PM
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If you want this guy you deserve him.
/r/seduction09/07/22 03:20 PM
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This shit is tiring Yep. Any time you learn how to do something you invest time & effort into it. As you progressively get better the less effort it requires. You're still in the learning phase so, naturally, you'll be wracked with cognitive consonance. We hate the things we're bad at and love the things we're good at. Keep learning. Get good. Eventually you'll love it. Or give up and forever whinge about it. Your choice.
/r/seduction09/07/22 01:43 PM
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No. You're not interested in her you're just lazy and don't want to put in the work of attracting the right woman. You blew her off and now you want to get your dick wet. Swing your mild attraction in another direction. Perhaps you'll meet a woman that you will want to make a part of your life instead of accepting the crumbs of your past?
/r/seduction09/07/22 12:45 PM
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She's not into you. Take what she said as, "please never talk to me again, your feelings for me make me uncomfortable." But no woman will ever come out and directly tell you that for fear you will kill them. Side note: never tell a girl you're not dating she looks cute. It's cringey and it comes from a place where you are obligating her to feel something towards you without you earning her interest/attraction, plus it completely lacks subtlety and intrigue (she won't be sitting at home wondering…
/r/seduction09/07/22 11:31 AM
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You can't. Shelf life on romantic love is ~18-36 months. Anything longer than that will depend heavily on her attachment style (Love Avoidant vs. Love Addicted) & her self esteem levels. Love passionately & deeply, but never bank on a guarantee. You can't control or trap other people, but you can enjoy what you have and make the most of it. Sounds like smug advice, I know, but here's the deal- you're both high on dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, epinephrine, norepinephrine & phenylethylalamine. Al…
/r/seduction08/07/22 05:25 PM
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Keep it light & playful. Don't invite her anywhere ever again and wait to see if she ever counter-offers. If she asks you to breakfast in the future, it's on. If she never brings it up you know exactly what her feelings are towards you. Keep the texts to one or two. You do not want to have a relationship over the phone. If it bothers her you don't text much it's because you have a life (if she wants to be a part of it she can then talk to you anytime she wants). Remember: you are the prize. Make…
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:02 PM
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Being nice is an abject demonstration of having lower value. "Let me do this____ for you because you have something I want (but I'm going to pretend it's not really the thing i'm after; aren't I sneaky!??)" "Wait! I did____for you! Why won't you give me the thing I really want!? ....Bitch!"
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:53 PM
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They say them as a shit test. And every time you try to justify yourself to them you fail, badly.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:42 PM
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Just remember: competence = confidence. Know how to do things well and you'll be perceived as confident.
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:04 PM
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The question is a valid one you need to ask yourself. "Should the women I date value my time?" Yes. Absolutely. Your response should've been: OK, I understand you had an important situation to attend, but not sending me a text letting me know you'll be late tells me you do not respect me or my time. If it happens again, we cannot continue dating. There. You've addressed the situation. Explained how her actions affected you and let her know that you will not tolerate that type of behavior, even i…
/r/seduction02/07/22 12:54 PM
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First, you did AWESOME! You got a match & set up a meet & showed up. That's some MAN SHIT, right there! Second, she didn't know anything about you and walked away. That right there is her loss! She missed out on the opportunity to date a great man. You should pity her and feel elated that you not only dodged a bullet, but you also got one poser out of the way onto your true path to happiness. Yes, we all have an idea of how we want someone to look before we date them, but we almost always leave …
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:36 AM
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How about instead of grilling them with millions of questions like it's a job interview, make statements about them and let them refute. You look like someone who hates seafood. You can be interesting by making up interesting statements and showing off how your mind works. You learn more about a person's personality from strange extraordinary circumstances than you ever could going down a laundry list of questions. If you were a famous celebrity who's been grilled for decades what would pique yo…
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:59 PM
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Wrong. A neg is a false qualifier. Learn what that means. A neg is a response to the PUA's paradox: how to get a woman interested without telegraphing interest because the moment you approach a woman you subcommunicate that she has more value than you (i.e. she has something you want). "If I weren't gay, I'd be so into you rn". It's a false disqualifier and it requires more brains and nuance than walking up to a woman and spewing negative shit at her (which is incorrect). All dudes need to re-le…
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:52 PM
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I want someone on this sub to tell me what a neg is and use it correctly. Then tell me why negs are used. And then tell me how they are misused because most dudes do not know how or why.
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:45 PM
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You don't. That's creepy af! How would you feel if your best friend of 5 years turned to you one day and said, "Sorry, Mate... I've only been your friend so i could bang your mom!" or equally cringe "I've been trying to get into your pants". It's a betrayal from someone two-faced and conniving.
/r/seduction28/06/22 05:26 PM
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If you can lick a woman to multiple orgasms you have a new full-time job.
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:53 AM
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Chances are she's been giving you ioi's, but they've been subtle and not overt. This was her chance to drive it home. Your task now is simple. Ask her if she wants to go dancing with you this.... (time frame at such and such a place).
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:02 PM
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"What did you do to deserve that?" Always make them qualify themselves to you.
/r/seduction26/06/22 04:51 PM
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Powerful realization. Just be glad you figured it out sooner rather than later. Most take a long time or never figure this out until it's too late to change.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:11 PM
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The women who have the easiest time with men are women who are easy to please, easy going and very friendly. Men universally gravitate towards happy friendly women.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:38 AM
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You are the sum of your friends. You need higher quality friends as these are not lifting you or themselves up. They don't challenge you and you can't challenge them. If I were you I would leave those friends at home and get new buddies that are excited and like a challenge that so talk you up to women (great wingman!) The next thing I can see, if this continues is that if you manage to get these "friends" to actually agree they will talk shit about you to these women to make themselves look bet…
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:53 PM
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Any time she controls the frame and takes you out of your frame is a shit test. Shit tests can also = frame grab. You crumbled. She won that round. Remember, your frame is stronger than hers. Your frame is to remain unphased by what she says. When she catches you off guard your response is the reply with an even bigger absurdity. The funnier the better. [EDIT]: Predictive text shenanigans.
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:56 PM
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Typically, a majority of men have low IQ's and this is a "Gentleman's Game", where intelligence gets one better results. Intelligence is needed to navigate the subtle nuances of female behavior. The men that get angry are the unintelligent who want their sexual needs met without the frustration of having to learn something new or to figure a woman out. These men should not be helped to seduce women unless they put in the effort to learn & better themselves. We're here to help men better themselv…
/r/seduction21/06/22 05:10 PM
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Imagine if 5 women asked for my phone number. That would definitely tell me that I was doing something right. Phone numbers don't mean shit. But you did sack up and play the game. That commands respect. If you were an attractive woman and wanted a guy to go away without getting killed how would you do it? Switch your mentality from having to get their numbers to being the type of guy that women want to get your number or they voluntarily give you their number and they beg you to call them. (Do y…
/r/seduction20/06/22 11:44 PM
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Well said OP. I would add that when you get better at seduction, you can plant seeds of naughty thoughts into her head and get her simmering all day thinking about having sex with you. If you master that, you can get her so horny she comes to your place and attacks & ravages you. It's a great feeling when you learn how to turn that flame into a bonfire.
/r/seduction19/06/22 06:36 PM
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excellent. just get in touch with your sexuality and bait, hook, reel & release until she rips your clothes off.
/r/seduction18/06/22 04:01 PM
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Or... she's interested, but currently fucking somebody else? Hombre, what is YOUR love and time worth? Do you deserve to be treated with love and respect? How many times do you need kicked in the nuts before you let go of the sunk cost fallacy? A woman who is interested in you will move Heaven and Earth to spend time with you and ignore ALL of her other commitments! A blind man will continue searching for signs of affection where there are none to assuage his wounded ego. Chances are high your f…
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:55 PM
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Are you engaging her emotionally? Are you letting her know, without a doubt, that you are sexually attracted to her and successfully convey these feelings to her? ...women are like Inductive Amplifiers. what does that mean? it means that women pick up on your emotions/energy (or vibe) and if they like what they FEEL from you, will pick up on that energy and amplify it back to you. So... if you take her to dinner and act like her goofy brother she's going to pick up on that vibe and treat you lik…
/r/seduction18/06/22 01:46 PM
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She is letting a very thick-headed guy know she wants to fuck him, but she doesn't know how to make it any clearer. Next week she'll be drawing him a picture and using traffic cones to direct him towards her vagina.
/r/seduction17/06/22 11:20 PM
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"Should i have kissed this girl? I just couldn't bring myself to do it so we both got out of the shower, toweled off and she went home."
/r/seduction17/06/22 11:14 PM
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Right... risk knocking up this woman you dislike.
/r/seduction17/06/22 12:29 PM
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Spoiler Dating websites are filled with bots. The weirder the shit said on their profile the higher the chance of it being a bot. Happy hunting. Don't get catfished.
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:35 PM
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"Being approachable" is a thing. Start breaking down your friend's attitude and demeanor then compare/contrast it to yours. Then you'll have your answer.
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:28 PM
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Agreed. Men forget it's about what you make her feel. Women are like inductive amplifiers.
/r/seduction03/06/22 01:36 AM
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Bars to women are a place where "fantasies" take place and are left once they step out of the doors. Think of bars like a trip out of town; anything goes because of plausible deniability and zero consequences. They can always blame things on alcohol. That being said, congrats on sacking up and making out with 2 women! Next, realize that you can pretty much do that with any woman in a club. No joke. Walk up to a woman, tell her "You look yummy. Kiss me" and then gauge her reaction. She'll either …
/r/seduction28/05/22 09:48 PM
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If you read pure shit like that on this sub you can rest assured they don't know jack about picking up women. Trust your instincts and you'll be able to spot those trolls a mile away irl.
/r/seduction26/05/22 09:13 PM
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Stress. It's psychological. If it happens again, the trick is to relax. Focus on touching end experiencing her. Happens to every guy eventually and then it freaks you out and becomes a self fulfilling stressor.
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:21 PM
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Overcompensating already? Learn to be better so that you don't need distractions. Read, travel, volunteer so that you will learn your own self worth and believe that what you have to offer a woman can stand on its own two legs. Learn interesting conversation starters. There's your "game". See how many weird convo starters you can memorize and then whip those out. You will be seen as unique, interesting & fun because you aren't predictable. But. Have a point. You're there to see if you want to ge…
/r/seduction09/05/22 10:45 AM
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Women are afraid of being murdered. If you don't spend a little time getting to know them or take them to very public, well-lit places you can expect this behavior. What you should be asking yourself is how do YOU make a woman feel safe/secure enough that she doesn't fear being killed by you?
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:03 PM
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"Did you reject me... or were you just slowing things down?" She could either be shit testing you, showing last minute resistance or really rejecting you. Your response is correct. Never get emotional or tied to an outcome. From initial meeting to the day you go your separate ways you and your actions are "on trial". non-angry behavior maybe makes me too much of a nice guy? Makes you a man with personal authority. It also builds trust. (Don't forget the game is played in Comfort). guys are so ag…
/r/seduction24/04/22 03:24 AM
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How long does "love" last? And what are the names of the chemicals that make up "love" within your brain? When you can answer these questions then you'll have the answer to your question. it paints all women as sluts No, that's the definition your mind attributed to this saying. I believe in this maxim, but I don't think of women who enjoy sex with multiple partners as "sluts". To call a woman a "slut" comes from your own biases and feelings about women who enjoy sex. Why do YOU feel the need to…
/r/seduction23/04/22 06:10 PM
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Oof. You've asked a "tip of the iceberg" question, Mate. You aren't going to get a satisfactory answer from just a subreddit. I would suggest you learn the entire "iceberg". Begin your journey by reading: IN ORDER- The Game by Neil Strauss, The Truth by Neil Strauss, Sperm Wars by Robin Baker. While reading you can supplement youtube clips of The33secrets. Also, Google Female Attraction Switches (but only read entries forwarded by the PUA community). In order to be good with women you must be ab…
/r/seduction23/04/22 02:21 PM
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what do you want from me? "...civility for starters." You walked into the ultimate shit test, Mate. Be unphased. It's all noise until a real connection is made. Remember, if you get emotional, you lose. So what if this woman throws a bitch shield at you? Your calm demeanor may win you the adoration of a few other girls within earshot. Think of this as a chance to prove how "in control of yourself" you really are.
/r/seduction19/04/22 05:25 AM
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Exactly this! You have surrounded yourself with low value beta males. They WILL sabotage you or try to bring you down to overcome their own failings. True high value friends build you up and make you a better person. They challenge you (in a good way) to help you achieve higher levels of excellence. Going alone is better than having low value Judases in your circle.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:39 PM
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Shit tests. Learn push/pull & increase buying temperature. Take your ego out of the equation. girls are all in relationships. You know that for a fact? What if their SO beats them or treats them like shit? Maybe they are loyal, but are looking to trade up? (like every woman on the planet). More importantly, show me what a "loyal" woman looks like cuz they don't exist.
/r/seduction02/04/22 10:12 PM
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(Facepalm). Never forget the cardinal rule of seduction. The game is played in Comfort. If you don't understand that, you have some reading/learning to do. It's a movie, not real life. I have to point that out because you seem to believe it's possible, it isn't.
/r/seduction02/04/22 05:37 PM
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I'm always floored when guys post on here about all the things they "are" versus "are not" as the deciding factor to their success or lack of success. What I would like to hear is, "I made her FEEL this....!" This is the feeling I created and the emotions within her that I spiked and now she is addicted to that connection with me. But instead, we get, "So, I have this pink shirt... girls are supposed to like pink, right!?!" Pro tip: Men who engage women on an emotional level NOT logical level fa…
/r/seduction02/04/22 02:31 PM
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There's snow on the tip, even during summer.
/r/seduction01/04/22 08:43 PM
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It gets easier with time and age/experience. Your wants/needs change over time as well as your expectations. After a certain age I started being just friends with my exes and it has enriched my life. Just because somebody didn't love you is no reason to punish them. That's the hardest lesson to learn because it strikes at the core of a human being. What do I mean? We imprint our ideas of love & yearning based on our opposite sex parent. As hetero dudes, we love based on how our mothers treated u…
/r/seduction26/03/22 09:34 PM
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inevitably goes cold, lose interest About 99%. Don't let it dishearten you. Let it make you appreciate what you have when you get it.
/r/seduction26/03/22 06:58 PM
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I've not, but I will. I've noticed that she tends to repeat herself in interviews. I hear portions of her talks/books when she speaks so I hope it's not a collection of stuff she's already talked about.
/r/seduction26/03/22 03:06 PM
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I love Esther Perel Same. She reads Mating in Captivity audiobook and it's awesome. I've learned so much from her work!
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:39 PM
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I agree. Hygeine is paramount.
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:13 PM
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I guess if taken literally it would be kinda awkward as a dating book. I just meant it's not a book of significant importance, but the info is good & can't hurt.
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:01 PM
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It's old & dated, but perfect for you & dudes in the same situation: David DeAngelo. Cocky/funny. "Double your dating" has tons of good stuff when it comes to developing your dating personality. Keep in mind this is beginner level stuff and not the "end all, be all" Bible of dating. There's tons more good info out there: Mystery Method, The Game, Vin De Carlo's, Pandoras Box.
/r/seduction26/03/22 01:22 PM
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look good and don't be too annoying. Yes, yes, yes! How to be a man that they want. NOooooo! Almost got it, but just a little bit inaccurate. You did hit the nail on the head here, though: there is not like an optimization formula you can use. Look at women this way: you can do everything perfect and they'll leave, conversely you can do everything wrong and they'll stay. The only thing you have "control" over in relationships is yourself. A woman's desire for you typically runs 18-36 months. Men…
/r/seduction26/03/22 10:29 AM
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Attraction level. Her's not yours. Women that are attracted to you will move heavem and earth to be with you. Women who aren't interested make you question yourself. You will know when a woman is attracted to you without having to ask anyone, it will be that obvious. If you chase this woman you will only chase heartache and inevitable suffering. I dated a woman who have been up for 24hrs and exhausted from work, but still made the effort to come see me. Why? Because she was attracted to me. You …
/r/seduction25/03/22 05:38 PM
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How do you talk to women Typically, this comes from having a genuine curiosity about them and their interests. when you're not into ....ask them why they are into it and then hold on to the ride you are in for. This is where the good stuff lies. This is where you playfully bust their chops and learn about them. You are interested in learning about them aren't you?? Or is it just to jerk off into something warm? Say you don't connect with them, you can still walk away having learned something and…
/r/seduction19/03/22 10:46 PM
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Did you let her know, in no uncertain terms, that you are hot & heavy for her by using push/pull & innuendo? Did she have the impression that you wanted to mount her and rock her world in bed? Or... Did you keep the feeling/talk between the two of you friendly and non-sexually charged and boring her to tears? You must lead women to the feelings you want them to have towards you. If you act like her brother, she's going to treat you like her brother. Women don't just magically get hot & lusty for…
/r/seduction19/03/22 08:45 PM
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I understand you're frustrated; anyone would be. Take some time and then come back to this sobering thought: you almost had sex with a girl who lost interest in you at the drop of a hat. Now imagine you actually had sex with her and she got pregnant. You two would not stay together and you'd have a lifetime reminder of your "5 minutes of pleasure". Now, this is just a suggestion, you may want to not chase quick easy pleasures as they can fuck up your entire world and seriously not be worth it in…
/r/seduction19/03/22 12:00 PM
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You're swinging for the fences because all of your threads miss their marks. There are different forms of love. There are attraction switches. There are different self esteems and psychology involved. not a very tall guy If you think that's a problem or don't think that's a problem; you're right. I want to be desired in a raw sexual way Why? This is more about your ego than anything else. I would argue that a deep spiritual connection is more important, but I won't. For you: work out and get a d…
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:06 PM
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You have a low value wingman. I realize that sounds harsh, but he supplicated himself for her in a situation that didn't involve him whatsoever. Don't go to clubs with him if you want to pickup women. He will continue to sabotage you, even if accidentally. You are the sum of your friends and they do reflect upon you whether you like it or not.
/r/seduction13/03/22 11:59 PM
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Do a Google search on the top 5 attraction switches for women and don't forget to include the word "reddit".
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:47 PM
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Take that as definitive proof that you are bad in bed. Crack a book or two about how to pleasure her. I 100% guarantee that if you were giving her multiple orgasms you wouldn't be here posting. You would be fighting for your life to get her to let you get some rest.
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:11 PM
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I don't fear women or rejection. I'm afraid of running out of things to say and hitting that mental block. I don't fear silences or long pauses, just running out of things to say.
/r/seduction11/03/22 07:28 PM
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Good advice, but I would change one tiny thing. “hey I’m not on here much text me” and then I leave my number. Better would be, "Give me your digits and we can grab a drink sometime. I'll text you the details." Reasoning: if you give her your digits you have no idea why she's texting you. Could be she needs a free meal, a ride somewhere, etc... However, asking for her digits straight away puts her directly on the spot. This is where you can truly gauge her interest level in you. If she's interes…
/r/seduction02/03/22 12:31 AM
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Women or people, in general, treat you how you train them to treat you.
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:37 PM
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attractive women receive so much validation and attention from literally thousands of guys on social media Depends on your pov. To me this is better than meeting one on "the wild" only to discover they're that vapid. Now they have an outlet for their attention seeking and we don't have to date them. The mating game is a game of emotional chess. You can only be successful at things in which you are willing to fail. Nobody I know chases these type of women.
/r/seduction18/02/22 06:07 PM
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Always cum. Women take it personally if you don't. (They need ego boosts just as much as men do).
/r/seduction17/02/22 01:05 PM
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You are not escalating things physically or emotionally with her. You are all push, no pull. You're waiting for her to make the move? Waiting for the stars to align? She's given you six chances! Be a man and embrace your sexual hunger. Never apologize for wanting to fuck a woman. Own it. Now get back in there and make sure she knows it.
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:52 PM
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Hygiene. This is an overarching theme that takes into account clothes. Clean healthy hair, skin, fingernails, teeth & breath. Clean leather shoes and matching belt. The cleaner and healthier you are the better your chances skyrocket even higher. You can be dogshit ugly, but if you have healthy tan, vitamin-nourished skin, white clean teeth and fresh breath, high quality fabric shirt, belt, shoes and neat clean hair you've won 3/4 of the battle before ever having opened your mouth. Women do not w…
/r/seduction13/02/22 04:20 AM
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Depends. Did you let her know on no uncertain terms that you are attracted to her? This sounds like a lunch date....among friends. You HAVE to lay the groundwork of attraction before you start asking for dates. Yes, it is uncomfortable to let your interests be known and get rejected, but it's less uncomfortable going through all the trouble to set up a situation for a date and spend time with her just to learn she only thinks of you as a friend. Now you're two people stuck on an awkward lunch da…
/r/seduction12/02/22 12:30 PM
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If it's not an enthusiastic "yes!" then it is girl-speak for "no, now please don't kill me!" (re-read that). The very last part is why women don't give men straight answers. Remember: seduction is done in the Comfort Phase. If you're getting this kind of response you aren't giving her enough time to trust you. Had you chatted her up more and DHV'd more the odds would've swung more in your favor.
/r/seduction10/02/22 09:58 PM
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Tell her your refractory period is 3 days.
/r/seduction10/02/22 09:36 PM
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You ask a very important question and other dudes need to ask this as well. Ultimately, what do you want from a relationship with a woman? One night stand? Sex only? Girlfriend, possibly future wife? Before you seduce a woman you must understand and live the truth behind your intent otherwise women will sniff out your agenda (i.e. congruence). Now ask yourself an even more important question: what would you do if you got her pregnant while in your current situation? Can you afford a child? If yo…
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:31 PM
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If it's just a party or hangout social engagement it is better to arrive fashionably late so others can bask in your entrance (i.e. for your date to show off her stunning outfit & good looks). If it's a movie or venue where the departure time is exact then start undercutting by an hour so she'll be ready on time and you won't be stressing. Never admit to undercutting the time, just play it off like you made a mistake.
/r/seduction08/02/22 11:50 PM
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Bro.... no matter what your standing is with a group of women their ultimate #1 fear is being murdered at the hands of a man. The only woman who doesn't fear you is the one that has just had an amazing night in bed with you so cut your female friends some slack. They're just following the girl code. Women do not know the real you until they've been intimate with you. Your female friends are simply following "female software" that is hardwired into their brains and watching out for their fellow g…
/r/seduction07/02/22 12:20 AM
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I'm not really locked in and butter smooth and it seems like she doesn't have any interest any more. Cat string theory. It's not about reel, reel, reel, but cast, hook, reel, release (rinse repeat). You don't entrigue by being constantly debonair; this scares women away. No woman wants to date a James Bond who is always "on". They want to date a human who has flaws and isn't perfect, who is also a riddle to be solved. Learn push/pull and you will be like catnip, otherwise the initial attraction …
/r/seduction05/02/22 02:55 PM
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This guy dates successfully.
/r/seduction30/01/22 03:52 AM
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Pickup game is kind of a paradox. It isn't a team sport. It's just dudes telling other dudes what strategies helped them carry on their genetic material. At the core of pickup is simply overcoming perceived inadequacies and keeping dudes from stepping on their own toes.
/r/seduction29/01/22 12:53 PM
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PUA Paradox. When you tell a woman she's cute you automatically subcommunicate that she has higher value than you (i.e. she has something you want). This automatically puts you as lower value than her which doesn't flip that attraction switch (women do NOT sleep with men they perceive as having lower value than them). The only cheat code to this is if you are an uber-Chad with amazingly good genes (an 11/10). Why "paradox"? How do you pickup a woman without subcommunicating that she has somethin…
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:35 AM
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This right here. A man's ego will make him continue to pursue, but if you can realize her body language and actions aren't emphatically screaming to ravage you then you are wasting your time and giving her an ego boost...maybe even a free meal, ride, etc. Don't be an emotional tampon for her. Move on.
/r/seduction17/01/22 08:44 PM
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Did you trigger her attraction switches?
/r/seduction09/01/22 10:36 PM
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Good looks or... they've won the genetic lottery. Good looking people always get treated better. It's a fairly common meme: it's only sexual harassment if the guy is ugly. This means that good looking guys are automatically seen as high value (because they have something others want, i.e. good genes). Conversely, ugly guys are automatically seen as low value. Is it fair? No, but neither is life. Can this be overcome? Absolutely. Chase excellence and dress to the 9's and work on having a superior…
/r/seduction09/01/22 02:28 AM
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Swing and a miss, my dude. But I like your enthusiasm and personal authority. There are 8 different personality archetypes and some are completely immune to flattery to the point it will blow you out of the water if you try it. For you and all the aspiring seductioners out there get your hands on Vin DiCarlo's Pandoras Box pdf. You'll have more usable material. Humor is necessary. Flattery is not.
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:27 PM
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Indeed. You are looking for connection rather than superficial conversation. One thing you have to keep in mind is that deep connection can take a backseat to initiating attraction. As a fishing analogy, you are reeling in strong before the fish is on the hook. What i suggest is that once you begin to realize this woman can match your intellect toe to toe switch to being a challenge to get her to take "your bait". When she ticks one of your boxes switch to reeling her in carefully by letting her…
/r/seduction03/01/22 01:04 AM
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I know, JB sounds cringy af, but is there a better real life template i can point folks to when learning seduction? Most beginners need an idea what they're aiming for and only one i could think of that most people know is JB.
/r/seduction01/01/22 04:05 PM
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using a book by some delusional dudebrah This post may beg to differ. I’m a woman attracted to men who has been in multiple failed relationships with people due to the behaviors that you described Yes, this stuff works, i know. This isn't relationship advice, it's seduction advice. There is a vast difference. Don't be angry that your relationships ended, be happy you had them at all. I'm still friends with a majority of my ex-girlfriends because seduction and respect aren't mutually exclusive as…
/r/seduction01/01/22 03:58 PM
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Excellent question! Share your thoughts and feelings (within a certain degree). If a man doesn't show a woman that he has feelings, such as empathy, she becomes fearful, and rightfully so, that he may kill her.
/r/seduction01/01/22 03:07 PM
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You're being nice as a crutch because you feel that touching a woman or seducing a woman is not nice therefore you have to find balance within yourself so that your uncomfortableness with seduction is lessened. Sure, be a nice human, but fuck "nice" when it comes to seduction. Seduction gets a bad wrap as sleazy or creepy behavior because you're touching a woman or speaking to a woman in suggestive ways that "seem" lecherous...and maybe they are. But let me ask you this: is it wrong to give a wo…
/r/seduction01/01/22 02:56 PM
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It worked! I appreciate your help!
/r/seduction01/01/22 02:34 PM
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Well said. I completely agree!
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:50 PM
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Yeah, it's the curse of this subreddit: all levels show up here and do not get tailored advice. I think this page should have requirements to read/post because some of the advice is like taking a Howitzer to a knife fight!
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:49 PM
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...is exactly what a mind closed to truth would say. I don't blame you one bit. I was once in your shoes. I bought a book from a dude that went by the name "Doc Love" (corny, i know!). Paid good money for his book and disagreed with the whole thing and sent it back. Then a strange thing happened. Over the course of three years, what he wrote started seeping into my consciousness. I began to realize what he wrote was true and that my preconceived notions just weren't ready to accept the cold hard…
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:46 PM
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...and a human being portraying a sexy woman's man. Can't act like James Bond if you don't know shit about body language and have personal authority. You think Jim Carrey could play James Bond? The stories/premises are bogus, sure, but JB's body language & demeanor are truth right there for the world to see. His results are fictional because picking up women isn't as easy as the films portray, but you learn his mannerisms & style and you will turn a woman's eye your way. Dress sharp, strong eye …
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:33 PM
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Thanks, Bro-skillet! I appreciate that!
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:26 PM
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Any time! Appreciate you!
/r/seduction01/01/22 01:20 PM
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I'll give it a try. Thanks for the tip!
/r/seduction01/01/22 12:25 AM
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Correct. I over-exaggerated to illustrate the flavor behind the point. For this point I swung completely to the end of the spectrum on the "nice chart" as a juxtaposition to being non-needy. Of course, always be nice and polite to women, but beware the pitfalls of what you may subcommunicate with your actions. If you act like a doormat, people will only complain that you're not flat enough.
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:47 PM
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Appreciate the love! That's why I share for my dudes/dudesses.
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:20 PM
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Nope. Those were stacked and reddit put it all on one line.
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:17 PM
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I Will Try This Out
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:17 PM
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I don't have a blue arrow on the bottom right. It's a return key and even if I manually space, it gets truncated no matter what. Android, not Apple.
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:15 PM
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Thank you. I appreciate you!
/r/seduction31/12/21 09:53 PM
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horrible at explaining this. Seems to be true. You let her know through subtlety and hinting that you're DTF, but at the same time, you're not. Confusing? Damn right. That's called "push/pull". You're at the beginner stage looking for concrete examples when you need an overview of many things; a matrix of seduction techniques.
/r/seduction31/12/21 09:07 PM
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But if you straight up mention having sex Never mention it. It is implied. I legit asked a woman to come watch my friend's band play. She thought I was offering her dick. Your weapon is innuendo and mystery. You want her thinking, "Does he want me that bad? I need to do a little more digging". You do this through push/pull. I've never succeeded by being forward You've never found the subtleties of hinting at sex and getting her to think it was her idea i.e. "Prizing". You have to find that fine …
/r/seduction31/12/21 08:49 PM
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easy for me to get love from my parents that it fucks me up when romantic interests don’t give me that You feel anxious when someone doesn't love you as much as your parent did. You have a fear of abandonment. IANAD, so a therapist would be better able to get to the root of this issue. You can be smothered by a parent and come to take that for granted. When it isn't there it throws you for a loop. As you can see it's a teeter-totter cause & effect; a balancing act between getting enough love as …
/r/seduction31/12/21 08:33 PM
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Creates a "love avoidant" person that craves personal space and freedom. Their internalized fear is an anxious feeling of being smothered with love so they push their partners away if they perceive a loss of freedom. Emotional disconnection is how a love avoidant responds to being loved. Conversely, Love Addicts have a fear of abandonment and overcompsensate by being very loving and attentive.
/r/seduction31/12/21 08:24 PM
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I will look for it. Thanks for the tip!
/r/seduction31/12/21 07:36 PM
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It's clinically proven that a distant opposite sex parent creates abandonment anxiety whereas a loving/doting parent creates smothering anxiety. The terms are: love addicted and love avoidance. As we start to date we generally strike a balance as to how we were "baked in the oven" so-to-speak. There can be other things too, like childhood trauma. "Struggle with intimacy" is too general a term for drilling down to what may be causing you problems. I suspect that even though you had a loving child…
/r/seduction31/12/21 07:20 PM
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Username's the truth. \m/
/r/seduction31/12/21 07:09 PM
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Sorry, Bro. Mobile.
/r/seduction31/12/21 07:07 PM
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Alright, my dude, pay attention cuz this will haunt you if you don't remember it. Women have attraction switches in their brains. And while being polite is endearing to women it doesn't make them want to mate with you. Good thing, too! No woman has ever said to herself, " He held the door for me. I want to rip his clothes off and bang him right here!" When you get called a nice guy what it means is "You have no spine. You are easily controlled, manipulated, don't stand up for yourself and valida…
/r/seduction31/12/21 07:03 PM
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Go find old posts from a dude called Doc Love. He's got the tough love you need. For this post I'll save you some time... always gauge a woman's interest level based upon her actions. A lack of digits indicates a serious lack of interest. From that point on you are wasting her time and more importantly YOUR time! It's a great shit test of your own to use on women. Ask for coffee then digits or vice versa. If no digits, move on. Always remember: if you want a miserable frustrating dating life the…
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:42 PM
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I have excellent credit so I have no idea why my car keeps breaking down. Girls are emotional and none of what you've posted has said to me that you are engaging them on a level that gets their emotions involved. Girls don't get wet over grades or witty texts. Learn push/pull and how to use innuendo. The dude who is a mystery to solve gets more intrigue than the dude smiling all the time. Bottom line: play the same game as them, but be better at it than they are. Never tell them you're intereste…
/r/seduction30/12/21 06:41 PM
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I have no fear of women. I have a fear of small talk or running out of things to say. I self calibrate so now I'm looking for the answer to this: why do I fear small talk or running out of things to say? And how do i make small talk not painful? Partial Answer: be genuinely curious about the other person. Partial New Problem: how to be interested in someone enough to want to make small talk (looks aren't an inciting enough enticement here). How does one acquire genuine curiosity about some stran…
/r/seduction30/12/21 04:02 PM
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You met and dated a woman with low interest level in you from the start. When a woman has low interest level and plays these types of games you have two choices: hit it & quit it or just quit it. Why risk knocking up someone like this? Just move on to someone who is interested. 🚩 if she's interested she won't play games. She'll make sure you KNOW that she is attracted to you.
/r/seduction29/12/21 07:03 PM
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Ex gf once said to me: money doesn't make a man more attractive just more tolerable (meaning women will tolerate more shit from a man but will spend more of his money as punishment)! For the record, women aren't looking for resources(wealth) per se but "indicators" of a man being able to procure resources (i.e. motivated, passionate, protector of loved ones). I would be remiss if I didn't say there are gold diggers out there, but they are the exception not the rule.
/r/seduction29/12/21 02:31 PM
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INTEREST LEVEL. INTEREST LEVEL. INTEREST LEVEL. Hers not yours. If you want to have an amazing dating life then date women who have high interest in you. If you want to have a miserable frustrating existence then chase after women who make fuckall effort to be with you. Are you a great guy that deserves a great woman who's invested in you? Or are you a sniveling weakass bitch with no options that will take shit from every woman who thinks you're as attractive as a table lamp and happily chase af…
/r/seduction23/12/21 05:34 PM
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"Hey, check out my dick!....wait....where ya going!?!" "Damn, chicks must hate dick!"
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:38 PM
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A woman's primary motivation is to be noticed. Congratulations, you tapped into their jealousy (a powerful motivator).
/r/seduction17/12/21 03:38 PM
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Sorry, Mate. I stopped reading after "...I hate". Do you know what cognitive dissonance is? Means we love the things we are good at and hate the things we are bad at. Solution: get good at the things you suck at. Quit complaining and ask for help. People will think better of you asking instead of whining.
/r/seduction06/12/21 03:38 PM
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Had a woman interested in me and I wasn't interested in her. Took several years of hanging out together in social situations to realize that not only did we have the same interests, but the same humor and upbringing. She became more attractive to me the more I got to know her. The more attracted I was to her the more I overlooked things that could be called "flaws" because they aren't flaws per se, but things i didn't realize I would later appreciate. Here's the deal: your DNA is fighting with y…
/r/seduction04/12/21 06:19 PM
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When you get a cancelation followed by a reschedule offer it's legit. Sometimes life doesn't work out and dates must be canceled. If she truly weren't interested, she wouldn't set up a counter offer. Her reason for canceling isn't vague either; it has plenty of detail. It's Thanksgiving week and flights/plans fall through. Chalk this one up to the holiday mess and ignore the delay, but pay very close attention to her interest level in you when you go out on your date. If she's distant or aloof, …
/r/seduction23/11/21 05:13 AM
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If he doesn’t step up Right. You've hit on the key point here. Most of the men you meet do not trigger within you feelings of attraction; therefore, you are not invested in them emotionally to pursue anything further.
/r/seduction16/11/21 06:23 PM
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That would mean women are actually listening to and following advice for the first time in history as opposed to following their own attraction. Tell women anything under the sun, but that doesn't mean they will listen or adhere to that advice. Women "listen" to their feelings more.
/r/seduction16/11/21 05:11 PM
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me not pursuing them further made them lose that interest. That is utter horseshit. For the rest of your life you need to remember this axiom: women who have high interest in you will move heaven & Earth to be with you. A woman interested in you won't play games or risk losing you. Never chase women. You give away all your power/value and that's not attractive. girls knew friends of mine, and told them that they had genuine interest. Funny how this "strategically" got back to you. (Girls were pl…
/r/seduction16/11/21 03:16 PM
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now ask yourself why you needed to do this. sure, sex is fun. but what else did you gain from this? what made you set out to make this goal for yourself and push to attain it?
/r/seduction07/11/21 11:56 PM
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Holy Grail: Listen up all my dudes. Here is the key to understanding women verbally/nonverbal & sexually. Women are like inductive amplifiers, meaning they send out an electrical current and if they encounter other current they allow energy transference and they amplify that energy/current back. What the hell does all of that mean? It means whatever YOU are feeling and projecting at her will be picked up by her and if her body accepts it, will share that energy and amplify it back at you. Pay at…
/r/seduction07/11/21 08:52 PM
1

there’s always her place to come chill. Genie jaw drop. Alright listen up, my dudes. You've got to get better at picking up on a woman's subtle hints. They won't flop onto their backs and spread their legs, but they will drop small, almost imperceptiblehints about how they feel about you. If a woman isn't open to the idea of banging you there will be no flirty banter. If she is open to banging you listen for invitations or openings for you to walk through. These are the how a woman says, "Come o…
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:45 PM
1

Escalate & calibrate. If you up a woman's buying temperature then she will do all the work. Keep nonchalantly putting naughty ideas in her head. If you do it right she'll be inviting you over. That's when you know it's on.
/r/seduction07/11/21 07:33 PM
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She's sleeping with someone else. You have hooked up with someone who is spinning plates and you just told her you want her to drop her plates for you. Either get better in bed or start seeing other people. This woman isn't the one for you.
/r/seduction02/11/21 05:06 AM
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No complex, my friend. I don't put myself above anyone and I didn't come her to gloat or brag. I didn't insult anybody or call anyone names. I simply explained a side most have never considered in an effort to introduce all dudes getting into seduction every facet of the game no matter how unvarnished or unpleasant it looks. I simply offer truth and nothing more. If you wish to judge me and call me names then do so. It doesn't change what I've posted and it doesn't hurt my feelings. I'm not the …
/r/seduction26/10/21 03:56 AM
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How would you suggest I go about disseminating this information? If you have a better way I'm more than willing to listen. I really don't care about "knowing more than everyone" I'm here to share knowledge. I cannot help it if it isn't well received. Truth needs to be shared no matter how unpalatable a form it may take. Do with the information I've given you as you will.
/r/seduction26/10/21 12:30 AM
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Bro, slow the fuck down, and read your FIRST sentence of this paragraph. “I am”. By definition, you are not egoless. I’ve experienced an ego death, there wasn’t even an “I” or “me” for about a month, and when referring to this body as “I” or “myself” i felt off, disconnected from everyone else, because I had no self for a while. True egolessness. I’d fuckin talk to rocks, which is simply talking to myself. I like you. You make me me laugh and remind me of myself. Your entire experience you lived…
/r/seduction25/10/21 09:41 PM
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Sage wisdom, my dude.
/r/seduction25/10/21 07:21 PM
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"It is the mark of an educated mind to entertain an idea with having to accept it". -Aristotle. Nobody said you had to like me or my ideas. I appreciate the paraphrasing, it made me lol. people seek functional and fun interactions with other people, not an abstract explaination of how society works that includes caveman Perhaps you are correct. I may have been to forward thinking by ~5-10 years. But does that make my thoughts any less valid? Because I offer an opinion that isn't popular it's aut…
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:35 PM
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Not a troll. I am honest to a fault. Bigger, Better, Deal.
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:14 PM
1

Then I would ask you how many men you've cheated on or left for a better man. Then have a discussion with you on why you made the decisions you made so that I may better understand women and their decision making mechanisms instead of trying to bolster my weak ego.
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:08 PM
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That's the spirit! Keep me on my toes, Amigo!
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:00 PM
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Shocking, I know, but dudes have got to ditch the Disney version of what love looks like. Women will NEVER love men the way men want to be loved. I hate to pull the bandaid off, but I'm doing this for you.
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:59 PM
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I must respectfully disagree and I'll tell you why. 1) Women are always looking for the BBD. 2) If she leaves her bf for another then the guy hitting on her did her bf a favor by showing the bf her true colors and by teaching the man he needs to up his game. 3) ALL is fair in love and war. There is no such thing as a fair fight. I know it's a violation of the bro code, but ultimately she will monkeybranch to a dude who isn't in the "bro code circle". 4) This isn't a game with agreed upon rules i…
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:43 PM
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Master game: ignoring women bugs the hell outta them! It denies them their vanity and they enjoy "winning" your attention that much more. Guys who give women attention and praise and flood their DM's with compliments DLV. If you view yourself as the prize women will notice you DHV'ing. Value is subjective. What isn't subjective is what you truly believe about yourself. Your posture betrays your inner thoughts. If you think you're the greatest, you'll carry yourself like Ali. If you believe you'r…
/r/seduction23/10/21 12:54 AM
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Trick as old as land line phones. Along with "the check's in the mail". Sorry, Bro. That was the brush-off. Listen carefully, my dudes: a woman will never tell you "no" unless she's angry or scared for her life. Everything else she does is to avoid getting killed by men who have zero control over their egos. When you begin to think like a woman then you will begin to understand how they avoid potentially getting killed and the schemes they use to "bypass the landmines" of unstable guys. A woman …
/r/seduction23/10/21 12:04 AM
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Enough foreplay= high probability of orgasm. Good luck giving a woman an orgasm without it.
/r/seduction18/10/21 12:59 AM
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Sounds like you didn't give enough foreplay or go down on her. She didn't have an orgasm. When you're good in bed they do all the work by keeping you around and making plans to the point where you have to fight them off. Your story lacks those details so this can only be the logical conclusion. Don't let it bother you. Nobody is born a great lover. Read books on being a better lover and you will do better in the future, I promise. Remember: Newtons 3rd law applies to women too. For every action …
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:59 PM
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You have some things working for you and against you here. You're too bold for her personality type. She's interested, but you overwhelm her. Dial it back a skoach. And that brings us to dates. First dates need to be saturated with so many things it's difficult to keep them all straight. Gotta get to know her, ask her questions and at the same time (pay attention all dudes out there) you have to implant romantic/sexual/naughty thoughts into her brain and increase her buying temperature. You also…
/r/seduction16/10/21 06:45 PM
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then goes to hours at a time that means something is up. I Yeah, she's living her life which is filled with appointments, friends, meetings, work, phone calls etc.. she is in the driver's seat here. She's controlling you. You need to flip this around. You see how she's driving your interest levels through the roof by not replying back right away? You need to do the same for her so she can be thinking about you the same way you are thinking about her right now. Be mysterious, don't shoot back an …
/r/seduction16/10/21 04:43 PM
1

You've got issues and you need to fix them. Yes, this happens and yes, it is annoying...if you don't have a life or anything positive going on in your life to the point that you're staring at your phone waiting for a reply from a girl. You are needy and you need her validation. Not a good place to be and she knows it. You should only text her for meet up and even then you text and then go on with your life. You get over the need for her validation by having more important things to be doing in y…
/r/seduction16/10/21 04:26 PM
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They were exceedingly harsh and rude. People only criticize those who are doing better than they are. This is a place for becoming the best version of yourself. It makes fuckall sense to come here and call people names or diss them for trying to better themselves.
/r/seduction16/10/21 04:01 PM
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I'd call that a win. You're going to run into this issue a lot, but you maintained your frame and your strength as a grounded man even through the pain of rejection and that's why you will continue to do well in pickup. You escalated and calibrated perfectly. Not only that, but you read her signals perfectly as well. Others would do well to curb their criticisms and learn from you. You plowed through her shit tests and kept your composure. Others would do well to do as you did. When your friend …
/r/seduction16/10/21 01:53 PM
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Hardest thing for a dude to learn and do well: sexual tension. It's a razors edge to be walked upon. One must master nuance and subtlety or you fall off the edge. On one side is crass overly-sexualized verbage. On the other side is non-sexual flirting with no emotion. To stay balanced in the center means knowing the correct amount of innuendo & suggestiveness to portray possible sexual interest while at the same time trusting that a woman is capable of accepting the mystery of "what if" and lett…
/r/seduction12/10/21 02:25 PM
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You never share anything personal. No deep seeded fears or frustrations to which people can relate. Reason I say this is because you sound like me. Try listening to someone and tell them something about themselves that you picked up on. A fear, a regret, a longing or calling. "You sound like someone who...", "I'm the same way because i...". The point is that people connect over shared similarities and or newly discovered insights into themselves. If you can help a woman discover something about …
/r/seduction10/10/21 03:32 AM
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Well, there's the question of, what happens if you accidentally get her pregnant? If the juice is worth the squeeze then double bag it & cross your fingers. I've had my share of these types & as I got older I'd rather not put the effort into it. Do it now while you're young, but don't go back for seconds. Chances are it won't be as enjoyable as you're making it out to be. [EDIT]: I've got to drop this grandfatherly advice: "Son, if I could go back and do it all over I'd fuck the fat & ugly ones …
/r/seduction09/10/21 02:00 PM
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No, you're reading it that way. I'm answering a question. You're trying to make it about YOU. Whataboutism isn't attractive.
/r/seduction09/10/21 11:55 AM
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Look at it this way. Women crave emotional connection. Physical connection enhances or adds to the connection. Don't forget that a woman touching you is an ioi. (LMAO! Autocorrect wanted to say "idiot") But yeah, touching is a good sign, but you need a few more ioi's to get to her real intentions.
/r/seduction08/10/21 09:41 PM
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Women know how to flirt....until they meet someone they actually like.
/r/seduction07/10/21 08:37 PM
3

I always felt like abandoned by my family. So, I dreamt of having my own family, Same. But that, too, is a trap. You're trying to dig your way out of a deep emotional hole. I would advise counseling to get to the root of this serious issue. You're trying to heal a deep pain. You want the type of emotional support and unconditional love your parents had/have, but it's made you jaded and angry so you close yourself off emotionally until you can find the perfect outlet: a family. If you were me the…
/r/seduction06/10/21 10:52 AM
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She tightens up. Her vagina grips tighter. Her legs may lock straight. Her toes will curl in. Her breathing gets shallow and more intense. She often stops making noises (but I've heard others make noise). Legs will start shaking. Her orgasm can resemble a man's: a tightening of the muscles and a total release after the orgasm triggers. Most women will tell you of impending orgasm (not all) and most will stop your thrusting after orgasm as they get sensitive as well. Give her a few minutes to let…
/r/seduction03/10/21 06:08 PM
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-If she’s about to cum, don’t stop what you’re doing while she does, and don’t change the pace, keep going exactly as you are through her orgasm. -In missionary, placing a cushion under a woman’s ass tilts it upwards, and the angle allows your cock to hit her g-spot on every thrust. Excellent list! These 2 right here are THE bread & butter of getting a woman to orgasm. That pelvic tilt hits the right angles and keeping pace through her orgasm is the mark of a master.
/r/seduction03/10/21 01:27 AM
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Response is exaggerated and nowhere on topic. "So...you really want to see me naked, huh? OK, but you gotta wine & dine me first. I don't put out on the first date." The essence of humor is that it is "unexpected". The more unexpected the premise is the more the shock, the more funny it becomes. 1) NEVER jump through her hoops like a dancing monkey. 2) never take anything she says seriously (unless it's "No!"). 3) Set hoops for her to jump through. "Only if you bake me cookies first!"... 4) foll…
/r/seduction01/10/21 05:57 PM
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Who cares?! Get out if your head and make the approach. Do you want to meet women or stand there paralyzed wondering how they feel about you finding them attractive? Don't make this unnecessarily difficult. Speak to women even if you don't find them attractive. How is that creepy? See the difference? One you find attractive, the other you don't. The only difference exists in your mind. You're making excuses for your desires instead of owning them. Never apologize for your sexual desire. You are …
/r/seduction30/09/21 01:02 AM
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Because dudes are horrible at creating sexual tension and getting women to chase them! Once a dude figures this out he has essentially mastered the game.
/r/seduction29/09/21 09:44 PM
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Exactly. Better to get rejected than to portray someone not interested. By the end of the date she should be wet and ready to jump your bones to the point that a kiss is a foregone conclusion. Learn how to escalate sexual tension.
/r/seduction28/09/21 09:57 PM
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....the sexual tension...wasn't there.
/r/seduction28/09/21 09:54 PM
2

Depends. Do you want to risk knocking up a woman you'll eventually come to hate? How would that child grow up? Have some standards or you'll grow to hate yourself. Just fyi.
/r/seduction27/09/21 05:45 AM
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Whether or not you think you can or can't, you are right. Idiots whine about everything being too difficult to understand, throw their hands up in the air and give up. Winners put in the effort, learn and continue to better themselves and eventually realize that with knowledge everything gets easier. The only thing you're finding difficult is dragging your ass to want to learn how to be better. The info is out there you just don't want to make the effort because feeling sorry for yourself is the…
/r/seduction26/09/21 06:12 PM
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You don't understand women too well do ya? OP is giving a woman exactly what she and every woman on the planet craves, sexual tension. Build the tension & release. Rinse & repeat. Is it a mind game? Absolutely. The type of mind game women wish men knew how to play. Does it take time and energy to say "no" and go about your day while she's hot & bothered wanting release? No. Quite the opposite actually, because you are making HER do all the heavy lifting when all you have to do is decide where & …
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:55 PM
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Supply and demand salesmanship tactics. It's easy to up the price when you know a person is willing to pay anything to get what they want. Don't go overboard torturing the poor girl, but at least be sure to give her multiple orgasms for her effort. Feels good to be in the drivers seat, doesn't it? (Almost) better than sex!
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:49 PM
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Apples and oranges, my Dude. Don't feel bad. You and millions of other dudes utterly fail at seduction because you aren't focusing your attention in the right direction: making a woman FEEL. Something. Anything. But make her FEEL. You and millions of guys fail to venture into emotional territory because it scares you, you haven't mastered it, it makes you uncomfortable. I get it. It's scary. In the grand scheme of mating, looks don't matter, money doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is c…
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:39 PM
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Certainly. Your ego will be your biggest enemy when learning to seduce women. Your ego will tell you things like: try harder, maybe her cat died, maybe she feels this or that. It's your ego trying to soothe you and comfort you from an uncomfortable truth: she's not interested. Instead of seeing her actions as a sign to run away in the opposite direction your ego will spur you on in the wrong direction and you will chase her. Don't. If you do that then you're only concerned about how you feel abo…
/r/seduction26/09/21 05:13 PM
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Definitely low interest. When she's attracted to you, you don't have to ask yourself these questions. [EDIT]: Only move for you is to not be the first to initiate contact at this point because: 1) it may pique her interest & points to her having some attraction & 2) if she doesn't contact you then you know unequivocally that she isn't interested. Remember, this isn't about YOUR interest level, it's about HERS.
/r/seduction25/09/21 05:34 PM
2

No simmering. No push-pull.
/r/seduction25/09/21 01:22 PM
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You already answered your own question. This is why men fail; they fail to realize the power in subtlety. Where does attraction take place? Make her chase you. Signal your interest and then give her the choice to decide whether or not to chase you. Walking up and saying hi to her and then walking away is a perfect way for the "mystery of you" to fester in her brain. Have patience or move on.
/r/seduction21/09/21 10:20 PM
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Seconded. This person is 100% correct. She's lost attraction.
/r/seduction21/09/21 07:26 PM
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Don't worry about it. Romantic love has a shelf life of about 18-36 months. After that she'll either get bored with you and/or cheat on you. If you want to end it earlier than that get really clingy.
/r/seduction21/09/21 03:51 AM
1

That is the way of the superior man.
/r/seduction20/09/21 01:04 AM
4

If she doesn't want to meet, but wants to use social media she's not interested, she's just looking for validation.
/r/seduction19/09/21 11:52 PM
2

While I agree, you must see the situation for what it's worth. They are in a position where they are forced into appearing cool because the stakes are higher. The game has changed for them and now you hold the power. Everything about mating is a survival game. You never want to get into a relationship with a "captive" participant. You will always wonder where you stand. Read Sperm Wars and ask yourself if you really want to be #2 or 3...etc.
/r/seduction19/09/21 04:26 PM
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There ya go. Like a pro! Escalate and calibrate. Well done, my Dude. Keep sarging.
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:47 PM
1

I would say that this only matters IF you've spent 7+ hours building up attraction, but here's the deal: she's either shit testing you or she's telling the truth. It's your job to keep being the cool dude you are and play it as if it's cool getting to know her, but you're a man looking for someone to reciprocate and you do not waste time with luke-warm women. She may want you to work for her (aka: jump through her hoops), don't. Make her jump through your hoops. She may not be attracted (verball…
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:42 PM
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She's using you as an emotional tampon. She's not sexually attracted to you, but she gets all the validation of you wanting her so she can mend her wounded ego. You really want to be that guy? Never tell a woman you're OK with just sex. First, they already know guys want sex. It's not a big mystery to them. Second, you outed yourself as someone who couldn't be bothered with what is attached to the rest of her vagina. You think that's going to turn her on or work in your favor? Stop talking about…
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:31 PM
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YAS! You can make her melt if she can read your naughty thoughts through your eyes! Good post👍
/r/seduction06/09/21 04:01 PM
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At some point in your life, my dude, you'll need to decide how much your self esteem and personal worth is actual worth. If this low hanging fruit is going to make you happy just be prepared for the consequences. She could get pregnant. You could get shot by a jealous bf. Don't chase validation from bad situations. I have had low hanging fruit before & after a few decades it no longer registers in my mind. I'd much rather be with someone I respect. Don't discount post nut clarity.
/r/seduction06/09/21 03:53 PM
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This isn't about being polite, this is about finding a woman with which to procreate. You only get one chance in the real world maybe more if they're in your social circle. Adjust accordingly. Do you stand in the aisle or follow her around the store until she sees you? Most men don't realize that women are very in tune with their surroundings especially when there's a man around so chances are she's already sent you 5 signals and you have yet to pick up on 1. If you want to know the signals chec…
/r/seduction05/09/21 06:33 PM
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Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. This is the hardest pill to swallow. Love women all you want just don't believe in a guarantee. Sperm Wars is an excellent and heartbreaking book that illustrates their behavior better than any other book I have read. Never forget that we are still animals. Only thing you can trust is staying true to your purpose and building your life to what you want it to be.
/r/seduction04/09/21 09:02 AM
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I have been in situations where I'm sitting on a girl's bed, found out later she wanted to have sex that night, and yet she showed no interest. For ALL dudes out there wondering where the "signals" are or whether or not you should "make a move", if a woman is in your room or you are in hers this is a MAJOR signal. Never forget that. Don't second guess yourself. Don't wonder if the Heavens will open up and show you a sign, THIS IS THE magic moment that you need to recognize as the Be All, End All…
/r/seduction03/09/21 07:54 PM
3

Whether or not you think you can or think you can't, you're right. I've seen a ton of guys posting here saying "I'm not tall enough", "I'm not good looking enough", " I don't have semen that tastes like rainbows" ...it's the same shit day in day out: "I don't believe in myself. How do I get a woman?" Bottom line: you try & you fail and then you try some more. The only absolutes in life are how you feel about yourself and whether or not you can convince someone else to feel the same way about you…
/r/seduction03/09/21 07:48 PM
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Pro tip: doesn't matter what you say. It's all about HOW you say things. Elite-Pro tip: women are like inductive amplifiers. This means they will pick up on your vibe/energy and if they so choose will mirror and amplify it back to you. Try this; walk up to a woman and tell her in a monotone voice, "my house is on fire". You'll probably get a weird non-emotional response. Now do the same thing, but say it as if your house really is on fire and what do you think her reaction will sound like? Get i…
/r/seduction01/09/21 10:49 PM
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RUN away from this woman.
/r/seduction31/08/21 08:47 PM
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You've already made two mistakes: 1, thinking you're too short and 2, mentioning "out of their league". Your problem isn't either of those things it's your lack of belief in yourself. It all starts in your mind. Whether or not you think you can or can't, you're right. If you think you're six feet tall you will act like it. If you think they're "out of your league" you'll act like it. Turn your shitty mentality around and start believing you are an amazing guy with lots to offer. It's like you're…
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:26 PM
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Thanks! Said with a playful smirk will ensure it becomes her reality.
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:29 PM
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The man you think about before you go to bed.
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:25 PM
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only way to be absolutely sure is to confess and see if she feels the same about you. Whoa, whoa, whoa! Pump the brakes, Son. Overall post is good, but that part went off the cliff. NEVER tell a woman how you feel. Even when you're in a relationship with her. The very instant you kill the mystery for a woman is when she loses attraction for you and walks. You're almost there, but what you should've said is, "flirt back and start escalating things from light touch to interjecting innuendo into yo…
/r/seduction23/08/21 01:14 AM
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Ego. The human brain will fracture if trauma becomes too great. Testosterone in high doses is a polarizing chemical that propels men to be brash and uncalculating. Put those two forces together and you have a freight train that can't understand why it needs to slow down for the bridge out up ahead.
/r/seduction23/08/21 12:43 AM
4

Think Vin Diesel in XXX. He's not a nice guy. He is mysterious and sure of himself and he playfully teases women.
/r/seduction20/08/21 05:59 PM
1

Be a man with personal authority, meaning let it roll off your back. If it gets to a point where it's affecting your relationship tell gf no more or you bounce. Yes, you're going to be angry and triggered. Keep those thoughts to yourself and never let them show or gf will think you're weak and that maybe ex is a better man than you. Best thing would be to let her gossip about what ex is saying then have a good laugh with her about it. You have all the power here. Don't give it back to her petty …
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:24 PM
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being able to move on cut and dry. Rip the bandaid off. This will get easier the more you do it, but right now you are actively choosing to make yourself miserable by investing time and energy into it. Try this exercise: every time your thoughts drift back to her try to immerse your thoughts into doing other things that you like doing while at the same time remind yourself that for every second you think of her you are taking time away from doing what needs to be done to get a better gf in your …
/r/seduction15/08/21 06:05 PM
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High Reactivity can be controlled, but never truly goes away. You can train your frontal cortex to overcome your Amygdala's responses through repetition. Like facing your fears. Keep doing what you fear and eventually you will shift where the anxiety control is coming from. Like making speeches, initially the fear comes from the Amygdala, but through repetition shifts to the frontal cortex, where you have more control.
/r/seduction15/08/21 05:47 PM
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It's amazing how un-attuned men are when it comes to the nuances of women. Yes, this stuff has to be spelled out and where possible, diagrammed. And even then it takes years to be red pilled because the truth is too difficult for some to accept. They have to learn ego control first. I know, i was once that way too. Accepting what women are like versus what i thought they were was the biggest "obstacle" to truth i've ever had to learn. I had to have my ego crushed before i could accept that i kne…
/r/seduction15/08/21 05:40 PM
1

Means most men just don't understand what makes seduction successful. Don't get me wrong; being in good physical shape is good, but workout for yourself only. You'd have more success buying nice dress clothes than you would working out. But of course, you don't believe me do you? Experiment: go out and buy nice dress pants, shirt and expensive belt & shoes (the type that require polishing) and i guarantee you that while walking around in town, school or work you will get attention, maybe even co…
/r/seduction15/08/21 03:56 PM
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Yep. This has helped me dump many gf's and save my sanity. Never listen to her words when her actions tell a different story.
/r/seduction14/08/21 12:34 PM
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To a point, yes this is progress. Couple things: to women, bars are a place of "make believe". A place where rules get suspended and a place where they can act contrary to their "regular" persona. A place that has no consequences for their actions as it can be written off as a "drunken thing". A woman kissing you or groping you or making out with you in a bar doesn't necessarily mean you've reached high echelons of seduction it just means you found a way to give them what they wanted in that tim…
/r/seduction10/08/21 08:48 PM
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My point was: if you're not going to take the simple first step, you sure as hell can't be bothered to take the second much harder step of putting in the effort to buy her book and then learn.
/r/seduction08/08/21 08:19 PM
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I could but you're too lazy to even google to learn the author is a woman.
/r/seduction08/08/21 04:48 PM
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it takes a lot of confidence for a woman to initiate eye contact Not quite. This is a mating strategy women have been using for thousands of years. Initial eye contact is how women signal that they want to be approached. It's not confidence it's attraction. Pick up books by author Leil Lowndes to learn about flirting signals. but then are nervous/shy during the approach One major key component that every man on the planet must internalize is that women have a very real fear of being murdered by …
/r/seduction08/08/21 03:24 AM
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No, i've hung out with dudes that have similar looks. This guy resembles the quintessential "look" that women go gaga over: dark hair, high cheek bones, sharp jaw line and a symmetrical face. Lucky fuck is a 9 alright. Put him in nice clothes and you don't want to go out clubbing with him cuz it'll just piss you off! Lucky for us "regular looking" dudes he's the rare exception otherwise no woman would look our way.
/r/seduction08/08/21 02:50 AM
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I won't say looks don't matter, but i have found something more important, good looking clothes. I'm a 7.5 in looks and women are friendly towards me, but never hit on me when i dress normal. However, when i dress nice, clean button up shirt, belt & nice shoes women are way more friendly, including married women. They come closer and invade my space & find excuses to touch me. So to all the dudes out there not rockin in the looks department, dress in nice clean fitting clothes. All women may not…
/r/seduction08/08/21 02:41 AM
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Well said, Grasshopper.
/r/seduction07/08/21 08:36 PM
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Well, today's your lucky day, try this pro tip on for size! Women are like inductive amplifiers. This means that women pick up on your energy/vibe and if they choose will amplify it back at you. If you roll up on them and act like a friend then they will mirror that vibe. If you're showing them behavior/energy that subcommunicates romantic attraction, they'll feel it and decide if they're into it. Yet another reason why you don't pretend to be something else around women. Can't walk around sayin…
/r/seduction07/08/21 08:22 PM
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Oddly enough, I used to work around groups of great looking women (breast-aurant) & they would often come to me to complain about their jerk bf's. ...and then go home and fuck said bf's. It was how i learned the type of behavior a woman will tolerate and where the line gets drawn. It was eye opening. I learned that women expect to be objectified and know we are mentally undressing them every chance we get. The Nice Guy is the "creepy" one for going against guy nature and not living up to the exp…
/r/seduction07/08/21 06:25 PM
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Nice guys are ashamed of their sexuality. Never apologize for finding women sexually attractive. Own your desires and never be ashamed of wanting to have sex at a woman. "Nice guy" is a man who supplicates his needs for someone else's needs often at his own expense, kind of like Martyr Syndrome: if i suffer she'll have good feelings toward me for putting her needs above my own. This backfires because the Nice Guy unwittingly teaches people how to treat him! Reread that. Never behave like a doorm…
/r/seduction07/08/21 02:35 PM
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I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't let her past run roughshod over her relationship with me no matter how well i treat her. So yes, i've treated every woman -as you say: 'be careful with her feelings and what she is comfortable with, to allow her to grow in her comfort zone and respond to you in a positive way'. and have still been mistreated. It is my experience that most women do not have the strength to overcome past hardships and treat the men they date with the respect THEY deserve no mat…
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:37 PM
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Don't drop the soap.
/r/seduction02/08/21 11:36 PM
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Says you. "Allegedly".
/r/seduction02/08/21 11:05 PM
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When reading your post one thought popped into my mind: she's been sexually assaulted before. This may not be the case, but she sounds like she's been traumatized, but still wants validation. Be.very careful. This sounds like a red flag about to be raised if it isn't already. Rape allegations may be in your future so protect yourself.
/r/seduction02/08/21 11:03 PM
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Ever play high stakes poker or gamble? Try to place a very large bet and then try like hell to not give it away (keep a poker face). Tough as shit, huh? Wonder why that is? Expectation of outcome. Learn to talk to women without an agenda. Would you be nervous playing poker if you never placed a bet? So get out there and ask poker if it has the time.
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:11 PM
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(Facepalm) No. My point was talk to women respectfully no matter HOW you speak to them.
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:05 PM
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I feel like i shouldn't have to tell you this, but here goes. Tailor your conversations to the overall outcome you wish to have. Wish to have a favorable outcome with a woman? Do you think dark sexual jokes will provide that? Try it and see what happens. Would you talk that way to your mom or grandma? How you speak to women let's them know whether or not you respect them. Do you want a woman as a friend or sexual partner? Believe me, the delivery matters. Pro tip: women are like inductive amplif…
/r/seduction02/08/21 07:08 PM
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Yes! Makes me proud that this is catching on. It takes guys a while to learn because ego gets in the way. Don't take it personally just move on.
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:51 PM
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Being open & friendly really is enough. If you catch a cute guy looking at you smile big and wave enthusiastically. All dudes will come walking over to see what you're about. Or if you're standing close to him small, quick touches (after you've started talking to him) slaps on the shoulder or arm, if he says anything funny or strange. While he's talking, lick (LOL! "Pick") imaginary lint off his shoulder! Although licking possibly "could" get you in the door!? Key point: Most guys will be drawn …
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:45 PM
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No, this post doesn't reek of "stalking" officer, why do you ask?? Dude. Delete your post. Something happens to this girl you're the first person police are going to look for.
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:29 PM
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Fishing with the correct bait.
/r/seduction02/08/21 01:21 AM
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OP is exactly right. Get over your wounded egos and find someone that wants to make the time instead of forcing her to like you. Don't make excuses for bad behavior.
/r/seduction02/08/21 12:19 AM
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Good post. I would add one crucial piece of information: when it comes to women and mating they are germaphobes. Being clean is paramount to vaginal cleanliness as infections that arise from uncleanliness can actually kill a woman. This is the core of why women like clean, well dressed men. It means not only indicators of good healthy genes, but they won't die due to poor hygiene.
/r/seduction01/08/21 09:52 PM
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(Edited from previous post): ....Here is where 99.9% of men fail: learn how to show and thereby trigger romantic feelings in a woman while on a date. If you talk about her brother it's like throwing a bucket of water on that spark you're trying to create. Mention her brother while having sex, see what happens. You have to spend the date trying to increase her buying temperature by having the right conversation. "Tell me what it feels like when you're connecting with someone. Describe your first …
/r/seduction01/08/21 09:45 AM
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Shit test. Be indifferent to it. It's either the truth or a lie, but either way it happened in the past and can't be changed. She could be insecure about her age and wondering if you're going to dump her when she gets old... who knows? While it is weird, be on the lookout for other things that may pop up as a clearly defined red flag. First thing you should find out about a woman is how her relationship with her father was/is. If you don't know why you should be asking this question then i stron…
/r/seduction01/08/21 08:35 AM
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Call everyone Timmy. "Lookin' good, Timmy!" My name's not... "You been working out haven't you, Timmy!?" I'm a girl! "Don't sell yourself short, Timmy! Those guns are fabulous!"
/r/seduction31/07/21 08:27 PM
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Ego. Most men never learn how to control their egos. The ego's job is to protect us from the harsh realities of life and uncomfortable truths. When confronted with uncomfortable truths our minds want to make sense of "why". It takes practice to rein in the ego to the point where you can see clear signs and move on cold turkey. But when you can get to that point life becomes so much sweeter because it saves you from investing any energy into that drama.
/r/seduction31/07/21 05:57 PM
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Exactly this. Sorry OP. Better you learn this sooner rather than later. Don't respond to her texts. Don't send her a retort text message saying how you feel cuz it won't help you or make the situation better. When a woman shows you behavior such as this cut all ties emotionlessly and move on. You weren't important to her then, you sure as shit won't be important to her in the future and you deserve to be treated like the amazing dude you are. Never opt for 2nd place with women. Ever.
/r/seduction31/07/21 05:52 PM
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Sounds like you're being set up as a "free meal". Cop a squat in the park. Meet at a book store. Coffee shop. There's plenty of venues where you can sit that don't involve providing a meal. It rings suspicious because attraction has everything to do with feelings and fuckall to do with semantics. A woman who is attracted to you will sit next to you in a dumpster filled with shit if she enjoys your company. When she starts making demands before you've actually built her attraction she's testing y…
/r/seduction31/07/21 03:22 PM
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Exactly this. Want to speed up seduction? Take the "interview" feeling out of the equation. As others have suggested make the 1st date a small, non-committal meeting (i.e. coffee shop) bonus points if you can sit next to her and not directly across from her. It matters. Facing someone feels confrontational. 2nd date do an activity together but in public (builds trust). 3rd date dinner at your place with wine and candles (vanilla scented is said to turn women on... let me know if you've heard dif…
/r/seduction31/07/21 03:09 PM
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Unfortunately, i'm beginning to suspect "swinger" is becoming the next level/evolution of the dating game. Monogamy is dying on the vine a horrible death. Only problem: how do we get over our jealousy & control issues? OP is damn near spot on. I would argue the efficacy of smiling though. Smiles put women at ease, but often do not equal attraction. Oftentimes the "brooder" is more dark & mysterious. Smilers come off as eager to please. Depends on the woman, i guess.
/r/seduction30/07/21 06:19 PM
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Read it when it first came out and there's one thing i use weekly that still holds true: get people talking about themselves & they'll like having you around. Someone comes up and asks me a question out of left field i say i don't know and ask it right back to that person. Ten times out of ten they have an answer they were just dying to expound upon and only brought it up so they could share their thoughts.
/r/seduction23/07/21 09:00 PM
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Perfectly well said. Thank you for posting!
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:50 PM
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Disagree: 5, 26, 34. 5) been with 5 women from work. One gave birth to my child and another turned out to be amazing. We dated for 6 years & ended amicably (possible when one controls their ego and not the other way 'round). We work next to each other every day and are still friends. 26 & 34 go together because here is where 99.9% of men fail: learn how to show and thereby trigger romantic feelings in a woman while on a date. If you talk about her brother it's like throwing a bucket of water on …
/r/seduction22/07/21 10:28 PM
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By giving her an out you are answering for her before she's had a chance to articulate her thoughts. "I don't have to answer him because he's already fine with me not going. I'll just keep silent and hope he takes the hint. And if he doesn't i just won't show up or contact him and ghost him." Always put her on the hook for a response so you know where you stand. Here's what it sounds like to women, "If you don't want to go that's fine. It's just gonna be me going all by my lonesome. I'll just lu…
/r/seduction22/07/21 10:04 PM
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That sucks. But if it helps, he wasn't your best friend and he did you a favor. You won't be able to see this until you meet the next amazing woman and put some distance behind you. Each relationship gets better and better.
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:36 PM
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Nothing you can do at this point. The ball is on her court. Your best option is to go meet other women and work on that abundance mindset. It's not easy, but it helps with not coming across as needy & having a life you enjoy living. Validation needs to come from your awesome life not the women who join it. If not, that’s cool too”. Pro tip: Never give a woman an "out". Sure, you want to sound easy going, but it comes across as weak. You want to sound confident like you know your company is amazi…
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:32 PM
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Thank you, Mate! Much appreciated!
/r/seduction22/07/21 07:19 PM
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Pro tip: women who are interested in you will move heaven and earth to spend time with you. Either they don't know you very well or you didn't spark their interest. Your answers from women must be a "Yes" or be a counter offer such as, "I'm busy, but what about...such & such a date & time?" A counter offer shows interest. A vague response is a polite brush off. Keep things pleasant but move on. Never date women who just want to hang out if they get bored and nothing better comes along. Maybe the…
/r/seduction22/07/21 05:21 AM
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The easiest personality to be charmed by and be attracted to is a friendly, open personality that is warm and inviting and easy to laugh with and get along. That personality type has zero barriers to ....anything, really. Want to go out on a date? No problem. Want to hang out? Sure! The friendlier and more open a woman is it almost feels like there is no effort to getting to know her or talk to her. However, that personality is not for the weak-ego men out there because this type of woman will b…
/r/seduction22/07/21 02:45 AM
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This. Exactly right. Never apologize for your appetites (provided they are legal)! Too many dudes fear what women think of a man's motives. News flash, my dudes: you could be asking for the time and a woman will automatically assume you're hitting on her. It's in their nature. "Vanity, thy name is "woman". Own your sexuality and get comfortable with it. If you can do that then you can project it positively towards the ladies and have all the sex at them. "The quickest way to a woman is through h…
/r/seduction20/07/21 10:22 PM
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Whew! This is tough. You need ten years worth of advice otherwise you'll be taking a Howitzer to a knife fight here. (Somewhat) condensed version: be genuinely interested in her by asking great questions that lead her thinking to romantic topics & adventurous topics. Google great questions to ask on dates & write 'em down if you need to. (Use restroom to refresh your memory if you need to). Relax. Smug advice i know, so try this: when you get tense take 3 second breathes and exhale completely fo…
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:43 PM
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Been told that when a woman looks at your lips she's wondering what it would be like to kiss you and if your good at going down. Also, the color of your lips is the same color as your genitals; both sexes share this feature. Don't believe me? Look at your lips and the head of your penis. They should be the same color. 3rd woman isn't shy and forward women get around more than shy wallflowers. You should always wear a condom, but with 3rd woman, wear two. I used to get tripped up by relationship …
/r/seduction20/07/21 11:28 AM
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Doubt that. You're easily triggered.
/r/seduction19/07/21 03:24 PM
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Hold up. (I'm shaking my head and giving you a facepalm right now). You could've had sex. You failed her test. After any physical activity endorphins get raised and sex is more likely. She brought it up....cuz it was on her mind! What you should've done is playful bantered back to her like, "oh, yeah, of course! You're not even my type. I don't even like women who hike"...or some other playful variation known to mankind as PUSH/PULL. You must get good at this if you want to increase a woman's se…
/r/seduction19/07/21 03:10 PM
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First things first; she wasn't interested in you in the slightest. You just provided her with a quick dopamine fix by finding her attractive and asking her out. Period. Next, she had an entire conversation of how cancelling on you would play out in her mind before she even did it. She cancelled on you AND to keep herself from feeling like a horrible person she demonized your actions so she could feel better about it. AVOID women like this like your life depends on it! They will shit all over you…
/r/seduction19/07/21 02:51 PM
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The hardest thing to learn is also the obvious thing that everyone overlooks. You've already answered your own question. Energy is transferable. What you put out into the universe is going to be mirrored back at you. Keep everything the same, but dial back the energy a little bit. Just relax and read the other person's energy and try to match them and maybe have a little bit more energy than them. Too little energy and people will think you aren't happy to meet them. Too energetic and people wil…
/r/seduction16/07/21 10:28 PM
1

Odds are she's a bot. Auto-responses being sent. Test her by replying weird nonsensical shit.
/r/seduction16/07/21 01:10 PM
0

Fair enough. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you've always gotten. I wish you luck.
/r/seduction10/07/21 04:47 PM
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No. First step in becoming a winner is realizing you ARE a winner. Everyone on the planet desperately needs to train their egos. Our egos are the rough equivalency of a two year old throwing a tantrum and we blindly go along with it and foolishly believe it. Why? Because it's convenient and self-soothing. Next time you hear that whiney voice inside your head saying "You're a loser" you fire back,"Fuck off! You don't talk to me that way! I DEMAND respect!" Repeat until that voice ceases to tell y…
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:39 PM
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Alright, Brother, you are at square one and a long way away from needing advice from this subreddit. This page is mostly for dudes somewhere near the end of mastery that need a few "touchup" pointers. (Read: intermediate seduction level). Taking advice from here at your stage/evolution is like handing an ak-47 to a kid. No offense, it's just not advice that will be actionable based on your current status. Here's what i suggest you do: go purchase Neil Strauss's The Game. Reading that book will o…
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:24 PM
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Replace money with sex. Replace those with "purpose".
/r/seduction06/07/21 06:02 PM
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Dude. One last time for the cheap seats: women are like inductive amplifiers. Meaning, whatever energy you show them they will pick up and amplify back if they so choose. Want them to think of you as their little brother? Then sit back and talk about safe non-pertinent shit. Relax and shoot the breeze with them. Or are you on a date because you are sexually attracted and want to have sex? Stop hiding your desire to have sex with women, it's offputting and disingenuous and women can smell it like…
/r/seduction05/07/21 06:24 PM
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This is expert level seduction. You want her to be chasing and competing for attention.
/r/seduction03/07/21 01:45 PM
1

Shawn Achor. Ted Talk on happiness: https://youtu.be/GXy__kBVq1M
/r/seduction28/06/21 09:21 PM
1

This is the real world, let's call it for what it is: an algorithm. Figure out the strat, rinse & repeat. Algorithm lasts 18-36 months. Rinse & repeat. Your particular strat failed when you gave her free attention instead of making her work for yours. Women don't sleep with men that they deem as having lower value than themselves. You have some learning to do and as you've correctly surmised it will be a struggle. Don't do it for women, do it to better yourself. A man that knows the "game" proje…
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:35 PM
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Happened to me as well. Got so excited i psyched myself out ...in the middle of up against the wall sex. Awkward! As guys age we lose the ability to get rock hard by dirty thoughts & images. Never underestimate the draining power of stress, both good and bad. Don't take it personally. If it happens, the best thing you can do for the guy is help him relax mentally and then physically. Relaxation is key for allowing blood flow to that area.
/r/seduction26/06/21 08:22 PM
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Best advice is to be friendly, smiling and approachable. Guys gravitate to women having an awesome time and like the vibes of a happy easy to please person. Learn all the "sneaky" ways of playing submissive. And lastly: learn how to hold eye contact and slowly transition to bedroom eyes. If this one causes you problems then slowly turn your thoughts sexual while looking at him. Books by Leil Lowndes can help with sending out the vibe.
/r/seduction25/06/21 03:23 PM
3

Clash between red and blue pilled crowds.
/r/seduction19/06/21 06:46 PM
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Get better at push/pull with your kissing. You want your kisses to increase her temperature not dowse her with reality.
/r/seduction19/06/21 02:36 PM
1

She may have been really nervous and really liked you. Give her a couple more chances before writing her off as a selfish conversationalist. At some point you can expect her curiosity to increase and her nervousness to subside. When that happens is when you should take note of how/what she communicates. You're right where you want to be; in the driver's seat letting her qualify herself to you. Bonus points if you listened and ask follow up questions on your next date. Next date tip: interject mo…
/r/seduction18/06/21 08:52 PM
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three times max Only takes 1 time to gauge her honest feelings about you. If it takes more than that then it's on you and you need to be more decisive. Ask once and gauge her response. If she says she can't then walk away. If she says she can't and gives a counter offer and time then it's on. Everything else is.a.waste.of.your.time. Your desires won't change how she feels about you.
/r/seduction16/06/21 03:42 PM
1

I don't think we got time for a handjob, Joe.
/r/seduction12/06/21 12:35 PM
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I found this out in a very peculiar way. Playing Assassins Creed 2, iirc? I loved playing as Ezio. He was confident and sure of himself in front of the ladies. Then i was forced to play as Desmond and absolutely detested him. Desmond seemed weak and unconfident. Then it occurred to me why i hated playing as Desmond: his posture! Desmond is hunched over and his back is curved making him come across as a scared ineffectual child. He would've been a fine character to play if his shoulders were back…
/r/seduction08/06/21 03:06 PM
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Important lesson for you. Acting mature and showing her that it isn't bothering you is how you crush life as a strong, centered man. Never take rejection personally. Keep things friendly between you two. Often girls are also on the lookout for a perfect match for their friends. Keep doing what you're doing. You got this.
/r/seduction07/06/21 08:32 PM
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I cannot commit to finding the "one" yet . I still want to fuck around more And you should. You want to be experienced by the time you meet the right one. And i firmly believe in the law of attraction. It makes sense if you think about it logically. I moved around the country and took certain jobs that i liked and she will do the same. It is highly possible that if you have a passion and pursue it so will she. Don't focus on finding the one focus on finding yourself first. Everything else in lif…
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:04 PM
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This goal is out of my control Never. The control you have is by being discriminating and knowing what you want versus knowing what you won't settle for. Many dudes will surrender their lives just for a steady diet of pleasure, but that is the trap we need to avoid. You'll get closer to the "one" the more you become your authentic self. It takes time to learn who that is and the truth about what he really wants. Never lie to yourself. If you have an inkling of doubt that's your authentic self tr…
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:42 PM
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Even humans get tired of pleasure and long for something more, something with more meaning. As humans we strive each day of our lives to matter to have a purpose. I'll tell you now that whatever you chase won't fill that hole. No matter how many conquests you notch what you truly crave is to be connected to someone who understands you better than you know yourself. I've had many flings, conquests and illicit encounters, all with smoking hot bodies, but i'd trade all that in for someone who makes…
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:32 AM
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If the next step is a relationship or sex you test the conversation with innuendo and risque double-entendres. Think of it as planting the seeds of naughty thoughts, but make them funny or entertaining instead of creepy. Safe example: always accuse them of the things you're thinking about in a fun playful manner. A non- responsive or cold reply helps you calibrate.
/r/seduction03/06/21 12:58 AM
2

"That was a fun conversation. You want to continue it over (drinks, lunch, picnic)?" Always have a reason to talk to women, whether it's for fun, social improvement or setting up a future date. When you know the end goal you can tailor your interaction towards that.
/r/seduction03/06/21 12:53 AM
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You've discovered the pickup paradox. It's impossible to approach a woman and DHV because your very action of approach has telegraphed that she is the prize. (I.e. SHE has something you want). You've discovered a loophole where you are the prize and you've kept your HV. This makes women work to pick you up. This makes women feel like they have to put in work to win you over. You've stumbled upon the keys to the kingdom. You can be a great guy, but this is the "bait" to lure them in. Women have a…
/r/seduction30/05/21 06:49 PM
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Exactly what everyone is saying. In a room full of carbon copies be the one who is different. We value rare things and abhor common things. Make her seek your validation. Anyone that shows off to try and impress a woman sub-communicates that they need validating which comes off as try-hard and needy/clingy. You are the prize. You are the guy all women want to be with. Make her jump through your hoops.
/r/seduction24/05/21 05:36 AM
2

Yep. This guy gets it.
/r/seduction20/05/21 12:56 AM
10

No. Move on. She's got luke warm feelings for you so you are Mr. Backup in case she needs: a free meal, a ride, an alibi... (fill in the blank). Women who are into you won't risk losing you. If she cancels a date and doesn't immediately make a counter offer or suggest another date at another time she's not worth it and she's not into you. Don't try to change her or give her the benefit of the doubt. You.will.suffer.
/r/seduction20/05/21 12:54 AM
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There's a difference between being lonely and needing validation. Don't get a gf because you're lonely. Get a gf because you have an amazing life and want to share it. If you need validation seek therapy to get to the real reason why you need validation. Point is maybe you're looking to mask a deeper pain. You want to present the best version of yourself to women before hooking up. Otherwise, you're just wasting her time and your time chasing a symptom of something much more serious. You can be …
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:42 PM
2

Next level stuff right there. Thank you, OP!
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:30 PM
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It's natural to be curious about such stuff, but the best thing you can learn as a man and from these interactions is to let it go. That is the frame you need to cultivate. We men live in our heads too much. There's a million reasons why your approach didn't work and a trillion more as to why you cannot control those outcomes. So the best advice is to get to a place where you truly don't care about why. Trying to get a woman to articulate her thoughts is like trying to nail jello to a wall. A wo…
/r/seduction09/05/21 08:50 PM
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You sound like me. In my experience, casual sex=poor quality sex. You either want to fuck someone or you want to make love with someone. Each end is on a scale reciprocal to the amount of care and effort you put into it. It ranges from just wanting to get your rocks off to enjoying and savoring every inch of their flesh with all five senses. Casual sex is for the hot bod you want to use to masturbate with while meaningful sex you have with someone whom you share a deeper connection. You won't mi…
/r/seduction08/05/21 03:36 PM
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I once met a woman whom i felt was "out of my league". We started dating and i realized she was attracted to me as the man i was and not the man who i thought i was. I realized that "out of my league" is a bullshit crippling mentality of my own perpetuation. Dating a gorgeous woman and feeling her attraction towards me made me realize that we don't often feel internally like we deserve what we desire. The truth is that getting a gorgeous woman makes us feel twelve feet tall which leads us to act…
/r/seduction04/05/21 04:11 PM
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I too am from the school of #2. And i agree with #1, but she wasn't offering advice. She was describing how seduction felt to her. And let's face it she could've been a dude telling us this stuff and it's still valid. Masters want to put her in this state in order for seduction to succeed.
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:53 PM
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All dudes would be wise to note how what you wrote put you into a certain state of being open to seduction. Being able to open the door to this state with women is what allows seduction to happen. It is the most difficult thing for men to master as it is emotional and subtle and requires true control over oneself. For the dudes out there: go watch Don Juan DeMarco w/Johnny Depp and pay attention to the scene where he meets a lonely woman at the restaurant. How he speaks to her, looks at her, his…
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:47 PM
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They want you to inhale hydrogen sulfide gas and live longer as it strengthens mitochondria.
/r/seduction18/04/21 06:22 PM
1

And a bit off topic... don't stop jerking off. It's not healthy to let that stuff build up. For better prostate health keep that bugger well exercised. You don't want to die of cancer while you're trying to better yourself. Now, on topic.... want to get better with women? Read. Scour the interwebs for good books written past the year 2000 on seduction and getting good with women. This isn't an overnight fix. You've got to be committed not only to the process, but to the personality change this r…
/r/seduction17/04/21 05:31 PM
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No. Read "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel or get it on Audiobook so she can read it to you in that sexy voice of hers. ......Spoiler: Love seeks to become "one", as in two becoming one. Desire seeks that which is different from us. Therein lies the inherent problem; as soon as two become one desire is smothered. There is no longer a difference between us to keep us intrigued, no more mystery. That is why love flourishes while desire withers on the vine. Possible solution: not to become "one…
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:05 PM
3

"Omg, he keeps staring at my nose! Do i have a booger???" I guess if she keeps rubbing her nose you'll know exactly what's on her mind. Lol! If it works for you, go with what works. But don't forget where you want to be headed in the future; looking into her gorgeous eyes/soul.
/r/seduction06/04/21 08:58 PM
1

If you get this woman pregnant it will be the biggest mistake of your entire life. You have nothing much in common, you aren't attracted to her mentally and don't sleep with women just to get your rocks off. That's some low self-esteem shit right there.
/r/seduction06/04/21 06:29 PM
1

Same feeling women get when a creepy dude hits on them. You aren't sexually attracted to her on a physically violent level. Your body is nauseated at the thought of mating with her. Do not push past this feeling. It is a warning sign that should not be ignored.
/r/seduction06/04/21 06:25 PM
6

Look at the point directly between their eyebrows. Have an inner monologue going: 'soften your eyes, don't burn a hole through them with your stare. Smile slightly, nod, appear friendly. Oh, they looked away. Pay attention to what they are saying!' (Keep all that going in your mind). What you are trying to overcome is the innate aggressiveness that comes from looking directly into someone's eyes. It's easy when you're infatuated with the person, difficult when you're not. Your uncomfortable feel…
/r/seduction06/04/21 06:05 PM
1

Women view bars and nightclubs as a "fantasy land" where all inhibitions can be cast off and all shame left behind. Most are drunk and dtf if they're walking up and invading your space. But do you really want to be that guy? I'm not judging, just saying they are low-hanging fruit and if you keep picking them your self esteem will take a huge hit down the road. Or worse, you'll get one pregnant. If it were me i would enjoy the interaction, but i wouldn't take advantage. I made out with a drunk gi…
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:56 PM
21

First off, i say "horseshit!" to all the "the one is a myth" folk out there. I found "the one" or "soul mate" - and i hate that term, but there is no better description of her than that. She is the female version of me and i am the male version of her. We lasted 6 years then i had to break up with her. Love doesn't operate or exist perfectly. What everyone fails to take into account is that attraction has a shelf life. Love waxes and wanes. And there are only 2 real reasons a woman stays with a …
/r/seduction07/03/21 08:13 AM
2

That spark has to come from you creating it. All the advice on here about touching and sexualized conversation is good stuff. I share this often and i'll share it again; women are inductive amplifiers. They take whatever emotions you are projecting at them and amplify it back (if they choose to). This means if you talk about her family she will assume you want to be her girlfriend (ok, i'm slightly exaggerating here), but if you want her to feel sexual towards you get her talking about sexual th…
/r/seduction28/02/21 03:13 AM
2

Ego. Learned this from Neil Strauss: give your inner voice a very weak voice and every time he says derogative comments imagine your true stronger inner self beating the snot out of him! "why even try?" Kick him hard and retort back 'CUZ I'M A GREAT CATCH AND ANY WOMAN WOULD BE LUCKY TO HAVE ME!!!' The point is to recognize that weak inner voice when it speaks and replace it with positive inner speak. It works, just have to keep at it, trust me. Soon that voice will never show its "face" again..…
/r/seduction24/02/21 07:55 PM
9

No, i'm just lazy. I don't want to spend the effort dating 100 women just to learn something about myself.
/r/seduction22/02/21 12:20 AM
6

Alright, that makes sense. Thank you for clarifying.
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:38 PM
11

Let me ask you this: if you've self- calibrated the entire way to "woman 100" can you trust what that mirror is reflecting back at you? Is that final woman an accurate portrayal of what you've become? What is it you are hoping that 100th woman will tell you that took you that long to pick up on and didn't realize? Imagine this scenario; woman #33 says you don't share your feelings so you calibrate. Woman #66 says you talk too much and don't listen. By 100 you haven't moved the needle because you…
/r/seduction21/02/21 09:21 PM
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Yeah, i understand the point he's trying to make, but the scenario only exists in a vacuum in an idealized state. It doesn't allow for self calibration and assumes you will be the same person from woman 1 till woman 100. If that's the case, a guy has more problems than what women mirror back to him.
/r/seduction21/02/21 09:12 PM
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Doesn't address my main issue: i just don't give a shit about strangers. ...that's a good starting point... i'll go think about which strangers make me want to give a shit about them.
/r/seduction21/02/21 05:53 PM
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Took me 6 to your 100. Perhaps spend more time thinking, studying and improving before rushing headlong into innumerable women without a plan? What if #37 was the woman of your dreams, but you weren't self-actualized at that point? My point is that by #7 i was at the top of mastering myself, relationships and sexuality. Quality over quantity. It will save you time, money and effort in the long run. It all depends on what you are after. Do you want to plow through women or find a good one to have…
/r/seduction21/02/21 05:48 PM
9

Think you're over indulging a wounded ego. Take your ego out of the equation and think about it from this frame: 'hey, wait a minute. He's attracted to me.. i should see if he's mature enough mentally to handle my crazy musings.' Women test men. You know this. I know this. What you don't understand or internalize is how and why women test men. Does she really think you're not in her "league"? Who knows, but what is the fastest way to get to the true inner being of a person? Outlandish statements…
/r/seduction21/02/21 04:57 PM
34

Yo quiero taco bell?
/r/seduction17/02/21 06:33 PM
4

Are you dating so you can become a girlfriend or are you dating so that you can have sex? Your intent is all wrong. Show a woman you're interested in her but also get to know her as a sexual being. You need to turn the conversation towards intimate topics & feelings. Talking about her dad or brother will kill all sexual intimacy. Get her to share sexy feelings... describe the best kiss you've ever had. Tell me how it feels when you're completely connected to someone sexually... what's your favor…
/r/seduction15/02/21 10:38 PM
1

Helmet stir. Instant classic. Wait till it cools first.
/r/seduction06/02/21 03:15 AM
2

Her interest level is too low. She's not interested enough to get up & drive over for some booty. I'd say her attraction level is low 60s so trying to get anywhere with her would be a waste of your time & effort. If it were me in this situation i'd take her up on her offer to be a "bro" and turn her into your wing woman. Helpful tip for next time: don't go full bore in the makeout/grope sessions. Learn to up her buying temperature with a little push/pull. Makeout for a bit then playfully push he…
/r/seduction24/01/21 03:15 AM
2

Sounds like she just wanted a sexual encounter, but you weren't escalating as fast as she wanted. Text her back and ask if she's DTF before you go back out on the prowl. Got nothing to lose.
/r/seduction24/01/21 03:03 AM
5

Never underestimate a woman's need to feel safe. That's not a shit test (in conventional terms). Your response should be tailored to A) make her feel safe and B) be playful while still controlling the frame. My suggestion: redirect. "I'm not sure i feel safe with you yet, you may be a black widow out for trophies.... we can get coffee, but only if i have witnesses ready to save me..." or sum shit, like that.
/r/seduction18/01/21 09:20 AM
1

Dude. I'm not a doctor, but 100mcg of vitamin D is not good. 1000 IU (25mcg) of Vitamin D is 125% of the recommended daily allowance. Recommended is roughly 1000 IU to 1500 IU a day for adults. I noticed similar effects when i spend an afternoon outside. Sunlight & vitamin D increase libido.
/r/seduction18/01/21 07:11 AM
1

By the powers, you're right! I apologize for my condescension.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 01:56 AM
1

Certainly sounds that way doesn't it? Thing is her personality ONLY matched mine. I guess you could call her a "unicorn". Is there another soulmate out there for me? Most definitely...but it's going to be an even tougher battle to get to the next one.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 01:18 AM
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Good. Good. Let the butthurt flow through you. Let every stranger that offers you advice trigger you. Call them names too , that makes you sound really intelligent. Learn to control your pride & ego, son. 'Who [am i] to tell [you] what [you] want?' Obviously, someone more intelligent.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 01:13 AM
2

You suck in bed. Sorry, mate. There's no sugar coating this one and gotta pull the band-aid off fast. I didn't need to read ANY of your post, your headline says it ALL. That's the bad news. Good news is you CAN do something about it. Let's face it, if you made her cum harder, longer, more frequently than her past lovers she'd be making up the world's most ridiculous excuses just to be NEAR you again! ...but you didn't and that's why she's giving you weird AF excuses to avoid you....to spare (wha…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 11:01 AM
2

Agreed. Woman calling lover "daddy" screams "issues"!
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 10:16 AM
2

Are guys any different? We want the Madonna in public, but the whore in bed. We're not all that dissimilar.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 10:11 AM
1

Good post with solid info. Allow me to enlighten you on something. You don't want a 9 or 10. Trust me. There is a genuine reason behind the saying "show me a man with a beautiful woman and i'll show you a guy tired of her shit!" and it is this: you will never rest. You will never be at peace. You will never be truly happy. Sure, you'll have amazing sex, but that's really nothing when it comes to all the myriad other things that make a relationship fun and enjoyable. What you really want is someo…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 10:02 AM
1

Sorry dude. Her & i were ~97-98% matched in our personalities, likes/dislikes, humor. I miss my soulmate, for that's what she was. She has the body and personality EVERY single guy on the planet would kill for! Together 6 years and she started the slow fade on me. I broke up with her because i know what want. I know what i will not tolerate. Second hardest thing i've ever had to do in my life. Quitting smoking was 1st. Not interested in looking for "Mrs. 99%" and i've had my share of meaningless…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 09:33 AM
0

Sounds like you're both failing. Him for not being a dad and you for not going after what you want. You had enough drive to do new things. What happened? Muscles and clothes aren't as important as bonding with your dad. Perhaps he hasn't taught you anything because you're always hanging out at the gym?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 07:49 AM
1

So she has a healthy appetite for sex? Big deal. Stop slut shaming. It makes you sound like a hurt little boy. Respect her sexual appetite as one equally as capable if not more than yours. Have stronger game. Real men accept a womans hunger as something to be enjoyed and unleashed, but can never truly tame. Do you stop desiring variety? Stop lusting after other women? We are biological beings regardless of societies design to put us into prim & proper roles. Instead, be grateful that a female (a…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 07:09 AM
1

Should read Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 06:36 AM
2

Heard this. Let it marinate for a couple years...still not sure i buy it. IMHO it's to ensure vaginal lubrication gets equally placed on the walls of the vag to help ensure sperm/egg have a better chance of attaching/growing...but what do i know? I'm not a scientist. Just my theory.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 05:07 AM
3

Wow. Just ...so much ...WRONG. Go read Sperm Wars, The Red Queen, The Selfish Gene. Please. And stop slut shaming. It's coming from the place of a hurt little boy lashing out at what he doesn't comprehend. This is coming from a dude...you have a LOT to learn. I'm not saying any of this to be mean or rude, you just seem to be going down the wrong path. Please make course corrections.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 05:03 AM
3

I don't agree with the overall tone of the OP'S list of 41 things. He sounds like a little boy angry that his heart got broken so he's lashing out to protect his wounded ego. You have to realize this is more about men having control over themselves than in controlling women. This list can be whittled down to just #38 and it will encompass every remaining "rule". Respect women, even if you don't understand them. Ultimately, the way women behave around you is a direct reflection of how you treat t…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 02:50 PM
2

You don't like women very much, huh? Your anger stems from your complete lack of understanding and trying to control the situation, but are unable. You don't have to like the way women behave, but once you understand why they do the things they do, you just might have a little more respect for them.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 01:21 PM
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