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You're very lucky you managed to get out of there before it's too late! Weird ideas you pick up in your early teenage years can really stick with you, so the sooner you get rid of them the better.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/20 06:55 PM
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This inability to see women as regular people is really the biggest obstacle to having a healthy relationship
/r/ExRedPill08/08/20 08:18 AM
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That's the same principle though. I don't think you can fairly say men and women are inherently different when all you have to go on are tendencies and averages. A lot of women might want to pretend to agree with other members of a group when asked a question, but a good chunk of men also do that and a good portion of women also don't. (And again, this could be partially the result of social conditioning). I don't think it's useful to divide people along the lines of gender when you'll always en…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 08:26 AM
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What's 'wrong with me" is that i have different views on this subject. I don't believe men and women are really all that different. (Mentally, that is.) Why? Because the differences between individuals vastly outweigh the differences between genders. When you look at the supposed differences you'll find that what they mostly are are averages, and often superficial at best. It's hard to define what makes a man a man and what makes a woman a woman. You might say that one gender is more likely to h…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/20 09:23 PM
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I've lurked around enough on redpill, mgtow, incel, etc forums to understand their theories. I understand that these are different spaces with different people in it, but there's definitely a lot of overlap. Whether the group in particular is more focused on, say, self improvement, religion, dating advice, etc is less important to me than the common ideas and values they share. Most notably, their view of women and relationships. Admittedly, not all of them use specific terminology for women, th…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 10:20 PM
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Incels do this shit all the time to an even greater extent. They don't say 'women', but only 'foids' or even 'dumpsters' , 'toilets' etc. Just every name in the book. They seem to do this because they view women almost as being another species, it's a way of making them easier to hate. Similarly, referring to women as 'females' is the kind of overly clinical language that suggests you look at women more as animals or a heap of biology than a real person. It's just weird, and almost exclusively f…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/20 11:23 PM
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'Chick' feels weird, but it's a nickname, not a subtle way of undermining someone's humanity by referring to them with overly clinical language
/r/ExRedPill17/07/20 09:30 PM
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Seems like no better than every other mgtow or redpill guru, just with more conservative views and a little sprinkle of christianity on top
/r/ExRedPill17/07/20 11:27 AM
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The internet is not the military OR a biology class though. And i assume in that context they'll also refer to men as males so it evens out
/r/ExRedPill17/07/20 07:32 AM
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This is why i instantly recoil when someone refers to women as 'females'. It's gross, sounds like your narrating a nature documentary
/r/ExRedPill16/07/20 10:41 AM
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Yes definitely
/r/ExRedPill12/07/20 06:39 PM
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That's totally cool. Just saying though, being free-thinking or philosphical has nothing to do with being either progressive or conservative. Sincerely believing in something doesn't mean accepting dogma.
/r/seduction12/07/20 03:41 PM
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I don't know, i'm a very progressive person (as in, it's something i value highly) so i do tend to think that way. But that doesn't mean that anything should just be labeled 'progressive' when it's in fact pretty backwards
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:38 AM
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Haha i could not imagine a world in which liking a specific type of sugary drink would put me off someone. But i sort of get it if it's meant to represent progressiveness
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:11 AM
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Yeah, when referring to the other type it's better to capitalize so it's clear you're not referring to regular nice guys
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 10:09 AM
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Op probably means a Nice GuyTM, aka someone who acts 'nice' and thinks that means they deserve sex
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 09:38 AM
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A subreddit centered around debating red pill vs blue pill will necesarily attract a red pill leaning crowd. Most normal people won't think of debating their views, because they're not views but a normal way of looking at the world. The fact that they're interested in debate probably means they're already a little partial to red pill stuff. Or at least that's what i imagine.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/20 09:26 AM
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Which would not be surprising if she didn't. Why would she have had to gain by shaving without a boyfriend? Aside from ingrown hair and irritated skin that is
/r/seduction12/07/20 09:03 AM
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I'm keeping myself out of this discussion but what does drinking margaritas have to do with anything? Isn't it literally just an alcoholic drink?
/r/seduction12/07/20 08:57 AM
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Why do you think you're not datable?
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 10:26 PM
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ecause that's the term that's commonly used to refer to a system in which males are seen as providers and protectors and get to make the important decision, and traditional role patterns are enforced. It's not about who runs families. And yeah, mainstream feminism needs to pay more attention to the other side of the coin.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 10:25 PM
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Dude, dating is much more about building connections than anything else. Being approachable, easy to talk to, emotionally and financially stable, those are all things that can give you a good first impression. It can help you get past the initial steps of meeting someone and sparking their interest. But if you want a relationship it's compatibility and chemistry that really counts. No one chooses their partner based on their financial success or hygiene levels. It just gets you past the preselec…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 10:16 PM
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It sounds like you're saying 'i experience sexism so the opposite sex doesn't'. Of course it's true that patriarchal ideas manifest in everyone, man or woman. Everyone is influenced by the same system. If we want to fight it it's the system we need to adress, which means it's impossible to fight for either gender's issues without also dealing with the other's
/r/ExRedPill07/07/20 09:55 PM
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I think your problem has more to do with the way you judge people than anything
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 08:55 PM
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Not really. I can be attracted to guys i don't even know, but it definitely does help if the other person shows interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:37 PM
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I will second this, but about people in general. I don't think i've ever met anyone who i could call a genuine bad person. Still people can be so cynical about humans, but i think we're all right
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:59 AM
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As a young woman, i absolutely do not think in terms of 'alfa' or 'beta'. It plays no significant role in attraction, and even then i think there eould hardly be an objective way to determine what alfa really is. What does matter however is a combination of physical features and personality. Does he like the same things i do? Do we share some important core values? Is there chemistry? And even physical features are subjective..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:40 AM
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Wanting to feel sexually attractive and wanting to be a valued and productive member of society are not mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 12:25 AM
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The description kind of sounds like the guy who wrote it was having a really bad day.
/r/MGTOW11/01/19 07:14 PM
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Let’s say one of those couples had a successful, long lasting relationship and eventually they decide to get married. We now have a twenty something girl married to a fifty something man. After twenty years the guy will be 70, while she’s 40. He’ll retire when she’s still in the midst of her career, he’ll get sick and old and she will have to take care of him. Eventually he will die and she will be a widow at fifty. What kind of benefit is there to a relationship like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/18 05:47 PM
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That’s too vague a description anyway. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may find a girl pretty, doesn’t mean i do and vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/18 01:05 AM
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Awkward girl currently in high school here, I’ve had trouble making friends for as long as i can remember. I have some now, but really connecting with them is still hard. Social interactions are just hard. I was never really bullied, but whenever i got picked on it was almost always by boys. The popular girls in my school are actually very nice, and sometimes even stood up for me. I guess that’s why they’re popular. I don’t think the social hierarchy is as meaningful as it sounds. Sure, there’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/18 03:09 AM
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In his case, get back to his old religion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 02:19 PM
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But aren’t jobs, careers and status kind of part of the deal if you support gender roles as a guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/18 09:08 AM
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I’m not so sure you can have it both ways (no day to day sexism but sexism in the bedroom) Yeah i’m not so sure about that either. That’s why, given the choice, i would always take the side of feminism. Because i think a life in which i can have a career, be equal and be free is ultimately more meaningful than a sexually fulfilled one. I would gladly give the latter up in exchange for personal freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/18 11:04 PM
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Ahw thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 01:28 PM
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I hope this makes sense, i’m not really sure how to put this into words (not my native language), but I think the problem here is that there’s a difference between sexual desires and day to day desires. Sexually, you might want this sort of power dynamic that comes from traditional gender roles, but i wouldn’t want that in day to day life. I think feminism mainly fights sexism in day to day life (aka ‘regular’ sexism), and it seeps down to sexuality while in fact that shouldn’t have anything to …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 01:25 PM
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On a more personal note, i have to say i kind of recognize what the study is talking about. A protective guy is attractive, not to mention that guys who treat men and women differently make you feel pleasantly aware of your femininity (as i imagine it also works the other way around). But those attitudes often go paired with a dose of sexism, and it’s a very conflicting feeling. On the one hand my mind is telling me that i don’t agree with this hypothetical guy’s views, and it makes me dislike h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 12:07 PM
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Kind of difficult to answer, because i can’t speak for all women out there. One woman might be severely put off by such an attitude, but another might think she can change it or might simply not notice it. Women complaining about misogynistic attitude and those dating frat boys are probably different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/18 08:24 AM
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That would only be true if it were just a one night stand. If the reason she regrets it is because he wasn’t being honest about his intentions the blame’s not really on her. And true, you don’t have sex as a means of getting something else, but setting boundaries is healthy and okay. If she does not want to have sex with someone who will just dump her afterwards, because it might hurt her reputation or because she’ll get hurt, that’s perfectly okay. In any case, she’ll probably feel used. Which …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 11:10 AM
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Again, that’s something else. It’s a problem when the man intentionally lies to her to get her to have sex with him, even though she wouldn’t have if she knew the truth. It’s definitely his fault if he lies about wanting a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/18 10:14 AM
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Yes, and implying that not wanting to have sex immediately is somehow her fault for not defying stereotypes has nothing to do with that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 04:00 PM
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That’s something else entirely. How did i say she blames it on men specifically? Is it wrong to protect your reputation? This does not have any relation to the original topic of discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:43 PM
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You know the stigma about women sleeping around. If she wants to protect her reputation it would be wise of her to wait a bit until she’s sure of the relationship. That does not mean she doesn’t want to have sex for the sake of having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 02:30 PM
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If she’s not happy with you leading her on to get sex that just means she’s not willing to have sex with someone she doesn’t see as a potential partner or LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/18 11:47 AM
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Attraction aside, i think a man who is confident enough to act ‘feminine’ while dancing without feeling insecure, is probably a great guy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/18 02:18 PM
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Damn, must’ve been awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 11:14 PM
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‘When your girlfriend gets a black eye from a softball game, strangers assume you did it’ That one’s oddly specific. Speaking from experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/18 10:42 PM
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The only right answer. What do relationships even mean if it’s only an exchange of services?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/18 02:42 PM
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You again! Thank you ;p
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 07:53 AM
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Nobody is entitled to anything (except of course for things like human rights, but we’ll leave that out for now) but everyone has a responsibility to be respectful towards others. Not because you owe it to them, but because it’s the right thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:59 PM
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Not religious but i approve of this message. Always treat people with respect, see the good in others, try to be the best person you can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:56 PM
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That’s actually a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:52 PM
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Like AObserver said, people within my circles are alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 07:39 PM
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Because what kind of a world would we live in if we treated every stranger like shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 07:23 PM
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But how is that fair? No one can help being short, and building muscle simply isn’t everyones priority. Of all people, i think bullies deserve the least respect. Nobody deserves to be picked on. Especially not for reasons out of their control.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 07:11 PM
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Anyone deserves a basic level of respect until they say or do anything that proves they don’t deserve it. If you can only respect someone based on their physical strength, you just keep respecting that and in the mean time i will keep respecting people for the kind of person they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/18 07:05 PM
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I don’t have much experience with this stuff but if a guy wanted to have sex with me at our first date i know i’d be offended. Might not be entirely reasonable but i wouldn’t want to feel like he’s only with me for sex. I’d want a relationship based on something more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 08:15 AM
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In one case it’s about someone doing nothing with their life, which can probably get really frustrating and it shows a lack of character. The other is only someone’s appearance. If the ‘chubby girlfriend’ story would be something like ‘she hangs around all day, is obviously getting fat but refuses to exercise and completely neglects her health’ Yeah i’d think it were perfectly acceptable to leave her too
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 06:19 AM
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What do you mean by being blunt?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 12:43 PM
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Washing regularly is obviously important, but it’s true that it’ll look worse if you do so everyday. I tried that for a while and it became so dry and tangly that i quit after a week Every other day is necessary though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 12:42 PM
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Where on earth do you live? O_O
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/18 12:39 PM
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I do think all the controversy nowadays is causing the two groups to float further away from each other. Would probably be better if we put in more effort to bring them together
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/18 06:59 AM
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I don’t despise modern feminism, because in many ways i still agree with it. But i do think there’s way too much focus on women’s issues, and not enough on those of men. Not to mention that exaggerated political correctness is annoying, and it ruins good movies, debates and people in general. Moral of the story: too much of a good thing is not what you want. I’m all for equality, and i think it’s a good idea to promote it. But don’t cross the line
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/18 07:56 PM
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I’m no biologist so i can’t be certain, but i think from evolutionary point of view it can be explained by the need for protection. Pregnant women are vulnerable, and so they need their man to be strong to ensure the survival of her and her child. And i’ve never heard of that. I think it would be unfair to say as it encourages the idea that women cheat more often, which i don’t think is true
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/18 03:07 PM
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Female here, i didn’t read the entire thread but i hope i can still clarify something. From my experience, women are more attracted to traits than they are to physical appearance. Both matter, but i personally can’t be attracted to a man in a picture. I need to know something about his personality. So when women just see an attractive man they won’t immediately be turned on. It is however possible, and it happens. It’s just that it takes a bit more knowledge of the man in question. I think this …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/18 08:20 PM
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Damn, that sucks. When you wear that level of makeup on a daily basis it’s probably not easy to go back to normal. You’ll look so different nobody will recognize you. I kind of sympathize with it though, there’s such high expectations of beauty these days it can be incredibly frustrating not to be able to live up to it
/r/MGTOW04/03/18 11:13 PM
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Can you imagine walking around with a mask all day! Sweaty af
/r/MGTOW03/03/18 09:20 PM
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It’s probably real. But i have yet to find a woman in real life who actually wears this amount of makeup. Who seriously has time for that in the morning?
/r/MGTOW03/03/18 02:49 PM
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