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2

Being a natural? Lmao
/r/seduction26/07/26 08:33 AM
4

Approach: start with baby steps, asking for time, saying hello, softer opens these days
/r/seduction18/07/26 09:31 PM
10

It works even better as you can do more numbers and find the low hanging fruit.
/r/seduction18/07/26 09:24 PM
7

Learn to use your balls to guide your decisions and trust them to give you strength to and motivation.
/r/seduction14/07/26 01:41 PM
2

Just think : Maximus, maximus, maximus
/r/seduction29/06/26 07:35 AM
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Feminism bro , it achieved its goals and then wanted to go further 😢
/r/seduction25/06/26 07:03 PM
2

I agree with that form of feminism, but they move the goalposts in 2010 to equality of outcome and beyond. No equality of getting laid, so here we all are.
/r/seduction24/06/26 06:33 AM
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Feminism is a massive shit test, as women are still attracted to men demonstrating traditional gender role polarity.
/r/seduction24/06/26 04:28 AM
1

Trust your balls and don’t tolerate abuse.
/r/seduction23/06/26 10:30 PM
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You are internalising feminist ideas, your mental point of origin is a blue haired lesbian who wants to scare you off women. Did you have any small indicators of interest? Trust your balls.
/r/seduction23/06/26 10:29 PM
1

That’s some bull and a red flag for sure. In dating, it’s the maybes that kill you, not the no’s. Look for a yes or move on.
/r/seduction18/06/26 04:47 PM
20

The grand hoeflation feminism apocalypse are upon us brother.
/r/seduction25/05/26 07:43 PM
2

Compatibility is like 1% and that’s good! All you need to do is approach enough to find that bracket. There is nothing wrong with 90% rejections, 9% lukewarms as it is the 1% you are really looking for.
/r/seduction02/05/26 09:03 PM
107

It’s more about being mildly in shape, and getting out there running the numbers. The real gains are from in person approach that builds confidence , which then translates to your style and dating app success.
/r/seduction02/05/26 03:53 PM
20

Validation
/r/seduction12/04/26 08:49 AM
-1

How many approaches have you done? 😁
/r/seduction27/02/26 08:19 AM
-3

Nah i don’t think that’s the case here , as easy as that would be to say. OP is approaching group sets he’s a pro.
/r/seduction26/02/26 11:14 PM
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Yeah it’s a really toxic social phenomena, feminism has enabled the bad apple to take over the bunch in these scenarios. You just have to not take it personally and view them as spoilt children and trolls, rising above it and grey rocking their tantrum while you speak to their friend or move to the next set. Some feminists have penis envy and hate that you have agency, so try and delegitimise it to make themselves feel better about being a loser.
/r/seduction26/02/26 11:12 PM
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Looks etc open the door and are a bar that is raised, but once that door is open then what. Imagine attracting loads of loser women just because you are 6 4 and then they get pregnant and harass you for money an commitment, or if they like you when you have money but lose a job and they vanish . Character trumps all, so long as you meet a moderate standard of shit together.
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:33 PM
7

This
/r/seduction07/02/26 09:10 AM
1

It’s like the gym bro , tough reps but your lifting power increases. Usually next morning you feel fine anyway.
/r/seduction02/02/26 11:39 AM
17

Only way out is through pal
/r/seduction27/01/26 04:01 PM
1

Sucks , it takes more polarity and a critical mass. Keep pushing through and you will meet the mojo standards of the casual sex market.
/r/seduction25/01/26 06:59 PM
1

Reaching a critical mass of mojo.
/r/seduction23/01/26 12:16 AM
1

Raising the vibes also.
/r/seduction20/01/26 09:38 AM
0

Yeah boys go ahead , more matches for me ❤️
/r/seduction19/01/26 05:11 PM
1

Thanks, needs to be said these days.
/r/seduction18/01/26 11:05 PM
6

Haters gonna hate , if you have good intentions then it’s just calibration. Modern 4th wave feminism has tried to create a hostile environment for bachelors so that the bar is raised to only those that they want to approach them would in theory. In reality it’s toxified the whole situation and set inter gender relations back decades. So if you have positive intent, like you suggest, maintain that frame but keep an eye out for bad faith types that will try and trick and scold you.
/r/seduction18/01/26 01:09 PM
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Sick women just want attention and comfort nothing more
/r/seduction14/01/26 10:43 AM
1

30 or so, felt knackered but next day felt great
/r/seduction09/12/25 05:42 PM
38

Like an Arab prince
/r/seduction30/11/25 10:13 PM
1

Always just say you just joined lol , even if it’s not true it’s just a virtue signal to placate them. They will undoubtedly do the same.
/r/seduction10/11/25 12:17 AM
2

Probably wants to experiment with stringing you along for control, free stuff and validation.
/r/seduction09/11/25 03:27 PM
3

Yeah it’s manipulative as fuck , red flag . And then the sex is shit at the end anyway.
/r/seduction09/11/25 01:32 PM
1

Just get it out of the way pal, it feels worse pussying out not doing it. Just view it as likely to fail and you are just getting it out of the way. Makes it easy.
/r/seduction27/10/25 08:21 PM
1

Bro you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Life ain’t a game. Do you like this girl or not.
/r/seduction24/10/25 07:59 AM
1

Go for it bro, you will likely get flaked again, as accountability is anathema to those types. Don't associate with loser Walter Mitty's.
/r/seduction22/10/25 09:31 PM
1

Yeah it’s tricky, learn to trust your balls and use them to take risks. Expose yourself to new opportunities (keep them under clothes though) and listen to their voice.
/r/seduction22/10/25 08:12 AM
1

Yes they even take the bins out too , luxury
/r/seduction19/10/25 11:33 AM
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Will that fix the hole in your soul? Maybe you need oxytocin.
/r/seduction18/10/25 11:00 PM
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lol no
/r/seduction18/10/25 10:58 PM
1

You get what you are.
/r/seduction11/10/25 02:53 PM
2

It’s the most annoying question , usually indicates a defensive or uncertain person who isn’t ready to. Connect.
/r/seduction27/09/25 10:22 AM
1

Smart, well done. Counters the post Covid receiving approach anxiety.
/r/seduction01/09/25 10:30 AM
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Emotional damage
/r/seduction29/08/25 10:37 PM
3

Yep
/r/seduction17/08/25 07:34 PM
4

Nothing wrong with avoiding trash, knowing when to fight and when to flee is importantly strategy.
/r/seduction06/08/25 02:55 PM
54

Winner winner chicken dinner. I’ve overheard ladies do this after the guy left, calling their BF or FWB. Some bad people out there.
/r/seduction05/08/25 10:54 PM
7

When the first 1 or 2 were rushed or unlucky somehow
/r/seduction05/08/25 08:52 AM
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2 or 3
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:56 AM
1

Do they kiss you or how far does it go? You need to learn when to fire and when to cool, to get the right temperature.
/r/seduction31/07/25 09:52 AM
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Banned in UK and Europe? Some horrific libels possible, intrasexual competition also. Spiteful vindictive people misleading others. How is it regulated on the platform? Instead of learning to read men’s character, they just gossip and feed off each other. This will make dating even harder and tank the fertility rate further.
/r/seduction26/07/25 10:53 PM
1

Some girls wouldn’t like the hair grab though, some would love it. I’ve done the same move also, but more obvious with the tactile build up to build the tension. These days like I said in my post I just rely on eye contact, slow movement towards, read how she responds, then go in. Works 100% of the time if she’s into it. If she’s not, then it’s a pull away or cheek kiss, snakes and ladders down to a lower point.
/r/seduction20/07/25 07:19 PM
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U wot m8
/r/seduction20/07/25 06:56 PM
1

What do you mean shift her focus away?
/r/seduction20/07/25 06:23 PM
1

To make eye contact, lean in a bit, see how she responds, if positive, then move to kiss . Key thing is knowing what is a positive signal.
/r/seduction20/07/25 06:20 PM
1

Some do some don’t. Most do, but will settle with a non player.
/r/seduction16/07/25 11:25 AM
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Go out and speak to women. Keep doing it even with no result until you can have normal conversations. Then learn about flirting. Don’t run before you can walk, and take baby steps. Never have the objective of getting a number. Aim to connect with someone instead.
/r/seduction14/07/25 04:46 PM
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It’s good, as at the moment girls are scared of tough men.
/r/seduction14/07/25 04:36 PM
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No , it’s just a loser thing to do. Women included.
/r/seduction13/07/25 09:27 PM
1

Gay sex
/r/seduction11/07/25 08:06 PM
5

Losers drink the haterade
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:55 PM
0

Baby steps if you can’t do full jump. Smile and see if they smile back. Get 5 smiles back then start saying hello. Get 5 hellos then start the game. It’s bad to start heavy as you need to warm up unless you have mojo at the time. And remember , some chicks aren’t mentally open to be approached so tap out if they don’t smile turn to you. The days of persistence working for hot girl blase are over for now unfortunately.
/r/seduction20/06/25 04:33 PM
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Sounds like her mistake not yours. Keep on moving bro and don’t suffer losers like her.
/r/seduction20/06/25 04:29 PM
8

Have you read about the rat population sink experiments.
/r/seduction20/06/25 03:31 PM
1

Too right
/r/seduction02/06/25 09:09 AM
47

When it rains it pours in terms of dating. In pre relationship stage you either have multiple dates / partners a month, or slim pickings/ none at all. Women’s mojo radar is incredibly fine tuned and selective. It’s subconscious so uncontrollable.
/r/seduction01/06/25 09:02 AM
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lol what a load of tricksters they are
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:50 PM
1

With you being attractive enough , skilled in the sack and cool about sex.
/r/seduction28/04/25 08:50 PM
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I’ve got same problem pal. Relying on other apps at the moment. But what I know: New phone New email New number New photos New name Don’t use same payment Otherwise the system they use flags you up and some kind individual reviews and then bans you.
/r/seduction19/04/25 08:15 AM
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Yeah it always happens eventually and match group apps are worst for banning with no recourse.
/r/seduction18/04/25 02:05 PM
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Yeah you can be spite reported then banned also , or wrongly banned and appeal and they do nothing. It’s quite toxic. If you are dead set you can create an account easy using bluestacks on PC. You can’t use your phone as they track IMEI so you have to get a new phone , number and loads of stuff to do it again. It’s a lifetime ban also, so it’s incredibly frustrating. Bumble is better these days as their founder didn’t sell out to the match.com mafia.
/r/seduction12/03/25 10:08 PM
0

So glad I spent years approaching thousands of women. Really was an achievement.
/r/seduction11/02/25 04:52 PM
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Quite normal in those areas, why not make it a cute and sentimental thing . If he wants expensive designer stuff then no.
/r/seduction08/02/25 02:38 PM
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Step 1: become not obese Step 2: start small and baby step social interactions with women Step 3: get a foreign wife
/r/seduction01/02/25 10:03 PM
1

Dick in a box
/r/seduction28/01/25 03:52 AM
2

Sheeit
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:52 AM
1

Borderline or narcissistic traits - very dangerous mood swings. Can be very nice and then very nasty. Borderline is worse as they get depressive and drag you down. Female narcissists are predictable.
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:17 AM
-9

Gotta maintain visibility bro
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:16 AM
-10

Upvote me and I’ll tell you
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:14 AM
2

I too remember this when I was 14. How old are you?
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:13 AM
3

It’s half and half just like with men. Lots of factors at play. The worst are the covert / vulnerable ones.
/r/seduction26/01/25 11:05 AM
1

I feel you bro but women are messed up these days and this is a close but no cigar situation. Remember it’s no the no’s that are bad, but the maybes. And there is no such thing as yes, but there is a hell yes.
/r/seduction18/01/25 04:09 PM
6

Woman can sense where you are at in the dating market based on your mojo which can go up and down.
/r/seduction15/01/25 07:49 AM
3

She’ll only come out at night The lean and hungry type Nothing is new, I’ve seen her here before Watching and waiting Ooh, she’s sitting with you, but her eyes are on the door So many have paid to see What you think you’re getting for free The woman is wild, a she-cat tamed by the purr of a Jaguar Money’s the matter If you’re in it for love, you ain’t gonna get too far Oh-oh, here she comes Watch out, boy, she’ll chew you up Oh-oh, here she comes She’s a man-eater Oh-oh, here she comes Watch out…
/r/seduction22/12/24 10:16 AM
1

There’s a song about that - man eater. Listen to it.
/r/seduction22/12/24 10:15 AM
1

A good roster has no more than 5. Any more and its just chaos and too much drama. Rich guys actually outsource roster management to handlers. Ofcourse, ideal is just 1 partner...
/r/seduction04/12/24 04:48 PM
1

Flirt with them too
/r/seduction09/11/24 10:17 PM
197

I used to do loads of approaches and date well, porn had 0 impact. It’s purely down to the individual.
/r/seduction07/11/24 01:21 PM
1

It’s like an engine that needs to keep moving or it siezes up. First few times are rough and hard to start, but then you get momentum and it gets fun.
/r/seduction05/11/24 01:28 PM
2

Yes sure, but for me game is vibe and social stuff is easy if I want to. It’s just the man to woman part. For me I don’t feel like approaching someone I’m not attracted to. But building on your suggestion, I was thinking practicing approach the 2’s to get the 10’s might be good as gaming when appearing less interested is normally a high value indicator.
/r/seduction22/10/24 01:15 PM
-1

Always be there to give a backup blowjob to your homie after a fruitless night.
/r/seduction05/10/24 01:28 PM
27

It’s a trap, don’t waste your time
/r/seduction01/10/24 04:01 PM
1

No , best to do it in person and not rely on DMs like most former colleagues do.
/r/seduction23/09/24 10:18 AM
1

200 more
/r/seduction06/09/24 04:20 AM
3

It’s partly in The Game
/r/seduction25/08/24 07:59 PM
1

I used to approach 100 a week, but then Covid hit and the vibes on the street got more anxious and less playful, so it didn’t feel right. Now, I’m out of practice and have less time to commit to pounding pavement or staying up past 11pm. Location and logistics is very important to maintain momentum, otherwise you have to rely on pure willpower and that only lasts until needs are met and thirst is quenched, or if you have solid wings and social side.
/r/seduction22/08/24 07:36 PM
1

Did you randomly follow a girl on instagram?
/r/seduction20/08/24 06:52 PM
2

Then it’s casual and won’t last. No harm done.
/r/seduction18/08/24 08:40 PM
1

It happens all the time, move on.
/r/seduction16/08/24 06:00 AM
1

Welcome to the real world
/r/seduction15/08/24 04:35 PM
0

Yep if obese with bmi over 33 . did you try ozempic or mounjaro if you are obese? Overweight up to about 30 bmi is workable but any more and you need to focus on your health
/r/seduction15/08/24 05:46 AM
0

Nice way to waste your time bro
/r/seduction13/08/24 05:40 AM
5

Just adding to your dub/ trip texting bullet. New meta discipline is send a message then delete her number and if she replies, it’s good. If not, your conscience is clear. Very revealing the lovebombing or intense/cold nature of many girls. Effort and consistency in communication being key green flag from them.
/r/seduction11/08/24 08:22 PM
0

Todd
/r/seduction25/07/24 11:12 AM
1

He should move on before the criminal record
/r/seduction19/07/24 09:04 PM
6

Sounds like oneitis bro - move on
/r/seduction19/07/24 06:50 PM
1

A few times by getting them horny enough , but I only tried when I sensed the boundary was insincere / just words. You can pre empt it by saying - sorry but no sex tonight, I’m on my period (as a man it’s a joke) - and then you have a stronger position and don’t have to deal with any annoying pre emptions from them. You can also just agree with them yourself but escalate while agreeing with them, watching their body language for their sincere answer. But if you can read her it’s risky crossing a…
/r/seduction06/07/24 01:37 PM
1

God aye, so long as you don’t have much worries.
/r/seduction01/07/24 11:11 AM
6

It’s classic, part of growing up. Once you mature a bit you naturally feel more relaxed and in control in such times. If I were you I would just run with it and don’t feel ashamed unless it gets ridiculous, and divide attention where appropriate. The shadow archetype of the lover is the addict, so it’s normal character development to be a bit of an addict but then socialize it with experience.
/r/seduction12/06/24 08:47 AM
2

You revealed your hand of cards and it didn’t go down well
/r/seduction09/06/24 05:00 PM
3

You don’t, you revealed icks that don’t go back in the box - you got sloppy Having said that, if she still likes you she will give you a pass
/r/seduction09/06/24 11:35 AM
1

It’s very tricky these days, used to be a lot easier. Since Covid the vibe has gone down. Best thing is to situate yourself in happier / more social places and approach groups as well. Some days can be amazing, some days can be terrible, it’s very random.
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:56 PM
6

Why are you even considering it , what’s the point . Does it make you horny?
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:28 PM
6

Those and more
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:22 PM
8

Never ever send dick pics unless to a gf or fwb after you know each other well - no girl at all likes them it’s pointless and puts you at risk
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:16 PM
2

What a loser - the girl I mean.
/r/seduction07/06/24 04:14 PM
8

It’s a form of addiction and therefore bad
/r/seduction04/06/24 07:05 PM
2

Todd
/r/seduction28/05/24 08:34 PM
3

It’s not a zero sum game, you sound quite butthurt which could mean you have other problems underlying that you need to identify and deal with.
/r/seduction26/05/24 03:00 PM
2

I’ve been on perhaps 1000 dates, approached 1000s more and slept with well over 100. Yes next her unless she reaches out to you again , it’s her gut that is telling her things aren’t right (probably her own situation) and it’s very hard to change from there, and bad luck for you. If she does reach out to you it means things weren’t too bad or have improved, so she could be ready. There’s no point wasting time like a chump with flaky chicks even if they are hot. Remember, it’s not the no’s that r…
/r/seduction19/05/24 02:32 PM
2

Does this video meet GDPR laws?
/r/seduction15/07/18 03:26 PM
1

Second rejection, shes probably just busy and stressed, not really your fault
/r/seduction04/06/18 10:36 PM
1

Take cocaine
/r/seduction28/05/18 06:34 PM
2

Be yourself
/r/seduction28/05/18 06:32 PM
3

I had this severely, its linked to anxiety and low serotonin. Once you get some wins your serotonin will rise and you will learn to be confident looking people in the eye. Personally, I found out I had Social Anxiety so holding eye contact was too difficult until I had SSRI which raises serotonin. Its interesting, the looking away and general lack of confidence is linked to 5HT2A and 2C receptors, they act to shut off motivation in checking out dat ass. However, these receptors reduce when you h…
/r/seduction06/02/17 08:40 AM
1

I see, you could always cycle off with 5HTP 3 days after stopping (check with doctor for timing). I did this and had very few side effects apart from reduced confidence.
/r/seduction31/01/17 02:39 PM
1

If you do decide to come off SSRI, just gradually reduce dosage. When I came off I did switch to 5HTP, but it doesn't work as well at all, and long term it can cause heart problems. With a high serotonin state, your behavior will be much more sociable and confident!
/r/seduction31/01/17 04:34 AM
1

Honestly, i've done the same with St John and 5-HTP but SSRI is way better. Effexor is SNRI which is a bit different.
/r/seduction30/01/17 07:26 PM
1

I'm sorry to hear that - competent doctors are hard to find. I think from my experience they should have switched the SSRI to another type, such as Zoloft to keep up benefits. I'd reccommend seeing a different professional, but try CBT and meditation first as it can help a lot - a good SSRI will help better though (benzos are not the way to go at all). What the anxiety is a low serotonin state, in animals this is a submissive state. High serotonin is a socially dominant state where you behave co…
/r/seduction29/01/17 11:10 PM
1

Do you have social anxiety? Have you considered SSRI treatment or things like meditation? People gravitate towards chilled out fun loving people, something that anxiety prevents. Seems like you are stuck in a low serotonin state. I had social anxiety which gave issues, but SSRI's got me laid very well because I could look girls in the eye and talk to them.
/r/seduction29/01/17 03:09 PM
1

Get medicated on a good SSRI, or Tricyclic such as Wellbutrin - and use Theanine for anxiety - then just make the approaches.
/r/seduction23/09/16 08:15 AM
25

It can be hard finding their underlying meaning though - with hindsight it is easier, i guess experience trumps all
/r/seduction31/08/16 01:26 PM
3

Yeah much better is - "That won't work on me" for calling out
/r/seduction17/08/16 05:08 PM
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3) Asking questions, doesn't that get annoying after a while? I get a mental block through, just don't know what to say to get foot in door.
/r/seduction01/05/16 12:14 PM
1

This is a fucking minefield
/r/seduction30/03/16 03:01 PM
0

New friends! Try CBT - visualising positive memories and experiences where people liked you and accepted you - repeat positive mantras: I am attractive I am happy People love me My life is great Then your unconscious mind will emotionally adapt to suit this new stimulus (even if fake) and emotions will be more positive. The step after this is incremental exposure - take baby steps - walk around city at night for 2 hours with a big smile - next time do same and ask for directions - next time do s…
/r/seduction19/03/16 12:11 PM
1

Use body language and confident posture on approach to reduce chance of brutal rejection. At most they will just turn away with this, or have a conversation. I am stuck at turning conversation into attraction myself.
/r/seduction11/03/16 03:47 PM
0

Extra effort but very true :)
/r/seduction21/01/16 02:45 PM
29

Yeah but what about average looking dudes
/r/seduction20/01/16 10:41 PM
1

Blondes are seen as more feminine so get hit on more, slightly higher standards therefore. You cannot generalise ofcourse.
/r/seduction20/12/15 10:05 PM
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