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You're shitting on your past self without disclosing any details about what you're doing differently now. It's only OYS 7, for christsake; you're still that guy with the retarded mindset from last week. Change takes time and effort. What specific CCs are you revealing? How are your legal affairs sorted? What concrete actions did you take in the last 7 days, and what were the results? 2 weeks ago SuitableWhole exposed your weakness in OYS 5. Then 3KF and 223 call out your MAP in OYS 6 as wishful …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/26 01:02 AM
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"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." - Shakespeare In my experience, mental masterbation (or fantasy) is frequently preoccupation with gains one hasn't actually reaped. Much like your post we don't have what we think we have, but even further removed. If fantasy leads to action, I suppose we'd call that good - although I'd argue that's more akin to vision. A man's vision may be coaxed into reality through focus and effort applied over time - each moment of 'now' chain…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/26 03:07 PM
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I don't think there's really any amount of pussy or companionship a woman can offer that provides you a positive value return...meaning you get out MORE than you put in. It's ALWAYS a negative value return. See here's a secret thing about life. And you'll discover this of you ever do some serious introspection: EVERYTHING in life is a negative value return. Everything you put effort into in your life pays back less than what you put in. for lack of better phrasing, to you, positive value return …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 09:12 PM
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I have options, but I decided to not use them as I’m committed to making this marriage work. Are you truly peaceful, or just harmless? Consider the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/26 11:47 AM
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Most of this reads like you're looking for an "atta boy" back pat. While on the surface you appear to be doing the right things (mitigate alcohol consumption, progressive lifting, identifying covert contracts), your writing perspective reveals a lack of internalisation: Despite my ability to be successful in business, there was a dead bedroom. My initiations sucked so bad. The routine was the same every time. I sucked, I was a nice guy, I was a disgrace! Total BB. I had a lot of shame and fear a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/26 01:34 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/@WhineMorePlease/videos?view=2&sort=dd&live_view=503&shelf_id=3 Check the live videos for OYS weekly.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/26 07:56 PM
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Got a harsh beating in the comments last week. A wake-up call that was much needed. Made me realise I’m still searching for the cheatcodes and trying to prevent doing the work. But I’m not resigning, I’ll keep at it. I’m making progress even if it’s still babysteps. Actions, not words. I’m still not away from porn. Managed to lift only one time my business going sideways Babysteps is just ego stroking. You're not getting anywhere meaningfully, and lying to yourself to feel good about it. You are…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/26 12:00 PM
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<I have a history with addiction> If you have a predisposition to addiction, use it to replace shameful behaviors with goal behaviors: Wanna learn guitar? Time-lock your game stash, get Rocksmith and a usb/guitar input cable (ebay), pick up a second hand electric, and game on. Wanna crush lifts? Find a decent app and gameify your fitness goals. I found ZombieRun during Covid decent entertainment and motivation to get outside, and Lift4Fit is great at encouraging PRs. <Plenty of rejection and res…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/26 03:56 PM
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Reddit must've added "betch" to the block list
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 10:16 PM
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YTA for cross posting r/askMRP click bait here. GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/26 08:29 PM
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This belongs in r/AskMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 12:59 PM
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Shame is often linked to failure in obtaining validation from an external source. It's a useful and economic means for superficially imposing group discipline and values; like getting MRP newbs to lift, read, and STFU. Shame got me into the gym but it doesn’t keep me there indefinitely. Self love isn’t enough to get me off the couch, but it’s what keeps me going once I do. You're right that shame isn't a sustainable motivator, and becomes hollow and self-destructive over time. We need a carrot t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 11:56 PM
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Solid primer. Be able to handle your kids like your wife doesn't exist. Seriously underrated. Combining with HoA's FR: Give your bitch nothing to do but fuck you makes a solid foundation for MRP newbs with kids. The stay plan is the go plan. Don't do anything for your kids that they can't do for themselves. A strong, second favorite. Great way to practice OI and setting boundaries; just like women, kids will shit test a sudden enforcement of standards. YMMV, but I found my kids learned faster th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/25 06:45 PM
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Sucking half as much is still sucking. What is are your goals and what objective measures do you have to reach them? His Beta Shit Goblin has a comfy perch.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/25 11:38 PM
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Can't figure out if this is victim puking or mental masterbation. Just write what you did, and how those actions will objectively (fuck, even subjectively at this point) be evaluated in next week's post to guage progress in your goals or mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/25 09:09 PM
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It was nice to spend so much time with him, especially now that his behavior is better. We had a good time bonding and I realized that, while his behavior may never be as good as a kid without ADHD, he is capable of behaving well enough. My oldest is diagnosed with ADHD as well. What some teachers and would-be-authority figures claim is misbehavior, I've seen as his response to their lack of congrueance. He thrives with the few teachers and coaches that genuinely care and back up their words wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/25 08:49 PM
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It's not just superficial mouth noises. Think back on your mindset in a few months.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/25 12:00 PM
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I can get sex on demand. Your wording implies a scarcity mindset: you're content to let your LTR give you sex. This is an external fixation that can lead to pussy pedestalising, validation dependency, and butthurt rejection. You're giving her the power, ya dig? Consider "I'm able to fuck when I want." How is this mindset different?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/25 10:32 PM
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How do I break the cycle? Same as the rest of us: STFU, read, lift. Specifically, review sidebar material about Outcome Independence and Validation. There's tons, but find one that speaks to you personally. Review the comments for added context. Then, take a read of HoA's FR: Give that bitch nothing to do but fuck you. Formulate your own plan, report back next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/25 08:09 PM
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You missed the point: Your reaction matters.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 08:21 PM
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You've learned nothing since last week's birthday fiasco: It started with a suggestion from her that we go to a marriage consoler, I said I would but I didn’t think it could solve our problem. More incongruancy. If you truly believe it's a waste of time, own it. Going through the motions for a cause you don't believe in is both stupid and weak. Even threw in a few overt dread comments to spite her. Tell us again who's frame you're operating in? Still too dumb to stop when I was ahead, I started …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 06:24 PM
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What's more insecure? Stating the exact height, even though it sounds odd to include a fraction, or rounding it to the nearest inch so it sounds more normal and I won't get called out on it? My wife also gets tiffy when I 'forget' her extra 3/4 inches in height. It's cute. Truth is, it doesn't if or how you report your height (exception: discussing body composition). But that level of detail did made me wonder if you're subconsciously fixated on an arbitrary measurement. Lots of dudes use the 6'…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 04:37 PM
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I’m tired of punching myself in the dick to look like the “good guy” ™️. It’s fucking exhausting. Primitive will to change doesn't come from exhaustion, but righteous anger. You're depleted from giving to others in the hope they return some validation for your efforts. Sincerely, fuck you. You know by now that no one is coming to save you. Being the prize starts with putting yourself first. Not your kid, not your ex, not us. Become a man with value, and people will treat you as such. The world i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 12:18 PM
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I hate that you guys are always nasty and helpful at the same time. Nasty triggers ego, which helps the message sink in through illiciting an emotional response. But let's talk about you: why do you feel triggered by nasty strangers, despite getting admittedly valued feedback?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 11:54 AM
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I decided I want to I googled I feel like I will be Your mental bit is just straight hamstering, self depreciation, and mental masturbation. Show your developing mindset through actions you've taken, and then reflect if necessary. Height: 5’10.5” How important is that half inch to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 11:21 AM
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Overall, I’ve been a bit annoyed and angry this past week. My focus on getting shit done and doing my life has been helpful. I realized how little I have of my own life outside the house and relationship. I take very little time to myself for activities and fun. I don’t have a clear purpose or mission. I feel angry and frustrated about that - at myself for letting that happen. You're stumbling into HoA's FR: Give that bitch nothing to do but fuck you. It's a useful assessment exercise to determi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/25 11:46 AM
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Bullshit. Flirting with randos while solo for your own gratification is cool. Flirting in front of your wife, and family, on said wife's bday, that you took credit for planning? That's performative cringe.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 08:37 PM
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My initial thoughts were to not do anything for her, but changed my mind. I didn’t initiate as much, I made sure she had a nice dinner out with the family and I did a proper interior cleaning of her car. Spot the incongruence here with: The waitress at dinner was a 9, I flirted with her (not enough) in front of the whole family. LTR was a bitch on her birthday, I don’t care. Sounds like Rambo and beta-revenge behavior. Who's frame were you in?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 11:37 AM
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a five year old kid gets me to a state of yelling within minutes at home. There's something here for me to figure out. I found the most basic techniques for handling women's shit and comfort tests worked well with kids. Broken record (WISNIFG), pulling back your attention (NMMNG), speaking to feelz instead of explaining (TWOTSM) generated quick and easy wins early in my MRP journey ( i.e. autistic phase). Kids are just people - emotionally unregulated, irresponsible, and developmentally immature…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 10:52 PM
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F that "we die like men". Amen, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 08:47 PM
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I was asked about what gives me purpose in life and I didn't really have a good I wasn't satisfied with my answer. A good answer according to who? FTFY. Review WISNIFG Assertive Rights 1 & 6.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 11:12 AM
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Wow. What a panty dropping response. You've clearly got it all figured out, and don't need MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 11:59 PM
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Self-assessed "immediate to advanced PUA and RP", and trying to find the cheat codes. Like starting an RPG over and over again whenever he fails a challenge.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 11:57 PM
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I agree, but even if progress is slow I'm getting better week by week. it's not just the numbers, it's skin quality, inflammation and immune system strength I'm improving. Great if those were your goals through your MAP. It's ego rationalization otherwise. the things I want my wife to perform are probably based on validation seeking, I can 't tell. I know that what I want is far away from the sex I actually have. it's like I'm holding back bc my attempts to have the sex I want resulted in reject…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 08:42 PM
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Why would she need to see a doctor? You tell me: she seems to be in an absolute anguish - quite obviously not enjoying any second of it. There's a difference between a legitimate biological, like endometriosis, and lack of desire. No amount of dread is gunna overcome pH imbalances, infections, or other problematic conditions. If you've already ruled out medical causes, that's one less thing to consider. Regarding spinning plates: I did consider it, but concluded that I can't pull effortlessly so…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:44 PM
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LTR puts-out if I'm persistent and I can get bad sex during which she seems to be in an absolute anguish - quite obviously not enjoying any second of it. The thing is; I'm not really enjoying it myself either. Is she seeing a doctor? If not, book an apointment. If you're committed to keeping her, it can't be at the cost of your sexual desire. Have you explored options like outercourse or spinning plates? hopefully I'll figured that out by the time I'm ripped Hope is not a course of action. Why d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:09 PM
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STATS: bench 60 for 2x8 chest fly 61 for 2x12 Chest flyes at a higher weight and volume than your bench press is a big red flag. Can't find your previous u/gardentreadmill account that you started your OYS with, but 9 weeks ago you were still benching 60 Kg. What progress have you made? My performance in bed didn’t improve, actually it got worse tbh. I’m on tadalafil every weekend just to make sure there is a chance of getting hard. When your frame of mind is to perform for someone else, you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 12:22 PM
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It's okay to say "I have nothing to meaningfully add this discussion, and it's no longer worth my time." Just don't confuse the tail between your legs for a dick, nor dismissive ad hominems for intellectual debate.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 03:02 PM
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You either have a remarkable talent for sidestepping the core idea or you’re absolutely oblivious that the point of the matter keeps eluding you Way to sidestep the question I asked you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 12:52 PM
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Glad you got there in the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 12:43 PM
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READ THE ROOM AND KNOW WHEN TO TAKE THE EXIT. When did MRP become about following popular opinion? Arguments here stand on their own merit, not sheep herding and echo chambers.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 12:23 PM
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Yep. BPP crafted the 12 steps of Dread 10 years ago as a precursor to his book. What have you read since then? Dread was revealed as a Covert Contract using the Scoreboard analogy. Active pursuit of Dread revealed as THE dancing monkey attraction plan. An alternative to the 12 steps of Dread is presented which focuses on stoking desire as a natural side effect to MRP's MAP In summary, Dread is currently viewed as a natural phenomenon and social response to a HVM. It's useful as a passive effect,…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/25 11:55 AM
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-You’re not the community my guy. Maybe this post just isn’t for you because you’re on a different page. Guess not. Just because you can shoot something down, it doesn’t mean you should. This is where we disagree. More fluff lowers the net value of this sub, and posters should expect legit criticism. It's fight club for a reason, and conflict weeds out weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 10:40 PM
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Ask any of the guys who've made it out how many times they had to read the stories, meditate on boiled down truths, and be hit over the head with their own bullshit to finally get it. Yep - that's the read in "Read, Lift, & STFU". Men, actual and aspiring, shouldn't be afraid to put in the work. Even the old posts were just regurgitations of the shit before them, and them before that. Some, sure. But the worthwhile ones shared unique perspectives that advanced discussion and common understanding…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 10:32 PM
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This is just regurgitated common sense that has already been covered in better detail in other MRP & TRP posts, comments, and discussion threads. These bullet points don't offer any new insights or depth of understanding to the community.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 07:46 PM
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I stumbled across Horn’s principle: “Craft a vision and lay your balls on the table.” That hit home. It’s not about waiting for external markers of success to grant me confidence—it’s about believing in my own plan and controlling the narrative. Read that post again: I can only control what my vision and my narrative is. It was never about control. That post is about vulnerability and authenticity: Do you believe in your vision? Are you satisfied with the work you put into it? Are you ready to c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 10:25 PM
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I figured I'd start I'm posting my weekly calorie consumption. FTFY. Project confidence and certainty by eliminating fluff. Think of it as STFU 2.0: Say what you mean to say communicate with as few words as practical.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 02:32 PM
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If you eat, and sleep properly, guess what happens? This. Progressively overloading your muscles causes micro tears; muscles heal and grow during rest with adequate nutrition. Jim Wendler frequently calls out newbs for doing too much too soon and exceeding their recovery capacity.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 01:02 PM
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I ate over maintenance on the kick-off because of all the delicious food and particularly pastry they were serving. I hate it when food holds me at gun point and marches down my throat all by itself. You're clearly a victim and not at all responsible for your own choices. I compensated by going nordic walking with a friend on Sunday. Compensated or compromised? The iron never lies: Unfortunately it looks like that most lifts are beginning to stall or regress. You're not prioritizing lifting and …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 11:30 AM
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Game: wife isn’t touchy-feely, doesn’t kiss, initiating with her is frustrating ...With you. Your game sucks, and therefore you have no options with which to threaten the status quo. she’s not very responsive to flirting Do you always limit your sample size to one? Get out there and game everyone, all the time. Guys, girls, old, young, doesn't matter - frame control practice opportunities exist everywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 07:41 PM
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BLUF: Focus on your rehab, lifts and PE for best RoI next post. 80% of MRP newbs' problems are solved by lifting, reading, and STFU'ing. When you get yourself sorted out: Frankly I find the act a little-bit boring; Good sex is your responsibility. What can you do to shake things up? Don't get fixated on the act - sex begins with game. How can you fuck her mind before getting your dick wet? in the past (before doing OYS) I would actually prefer to spend my evenings by doing something else, the 3x…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 12:05 PM
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Pretty much. In my experience, mate guarding is trying to win me, whereas in hysterical bonding she's trying not to lose me. Or: in one case she's responding to my options, and in the other she's reacting to her own lack of options. The trauma response is the key difference. Unless it's used to establish a new and preferable baseline of behaviors, it's just not sustainable. I personally don't want a harpy with PTSD in my life, no matter how great the sex is. TRP postulates that HVM should always…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 11:48 AM
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Her response to my stupid behavior is necessary insight. That is the cuckiest thing I've ever read.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 12:59 AM
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This is actually a good topic of discussion. Before revealing my personal thoughts, however, I'm gunna answer your question with a question: what is the difference between mate guarding and hysterical bonding?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 11:52 PM
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Do you want her responding to fear and anxiety, or attraction? MRP is amoral, so there's no wrong answer - it's a personal choice. Carrot or stick is overly simplistic. They're opposite sides of the same dread coin, sure, but best practice typically sees them applied in tandem of rewarding desirable behavior while ignoring, or stirring drama where appropriate, undesirable behavior. This also roughly alligns with push-pull game theory and alpha fux/beta bux marriage philosophy. What kind of relat…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 06:04 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 12:33 PM
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I get it. Your head is too far up your ass to see what we see. Let me spell it out for you: Tracking the volume for all my lifts, making sure there's some kind of progressive overload each session. Why not post your metrics? Lifting is a core basic element of MRP, and every vet will hold you accountable for lagging or weak lifts, and maybe share their hard earned knowledge. Might need to address this. Do or do not, there is no pussy footing. She'd taught me two new exercises I'm integrating into…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 12:49 PM
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Your main focus is a bro crush. There's a vague sprinkling of a physio visit, a few workouts, and no rejections to your initiations without any meaningful details. You know, the things that might actually improve your life and enable community criticism. I don't believe you think you need to be here. I don't sense the anger and personal responsibility and genuine, hard reflection that leads to the egoless vulnerability necessary to incur meaningful change. Nail in the coffin? Your hot mess of mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 11:40 AM
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Has she earned that or are you just giving it? To paraphrase HoA: Be the prize, but somwtimes you need to help her to win you. Shit tests and comfort tests never go away; in fact, they both escalate in frequency and severity as a HVM SMV increases. Therefore, they're not bad behavior, and a sufficiently HVM will leverage both to his advantage to provide alpha tingles and beta comfort respectively. My read is ET is passing both tests in his own frame, while leading and reinforcing his wife's prog…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/25 08:03 PM
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I'm gunna level with you - at your age and with how long you've been with your wife, change will not come easy. Moreover, you likely have a decade or so of conventional sexual potential to experience before natural age becomes a significant obstacle, for both you and your wife. What I'm getting at is: how important to you is improving your sex life with just your wife? The reason I'm asking: The quality of our sex has never been good. It's one thing to return to a previously achieved standard. Q…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/25 07:28 PM
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I feel that after we didn`t have sex for almost 2 years, now at least a little candlelight-fire of passion is burning. Career Nothing to report here, I do what I have to, not more. I keep this topic in my OYS to know that sooner or later I will have to improve/change there, but for now it is not in focus. Social/game In this area I did nothing to improve. He's done nothing of note in 2 months, and conflated unrelated trickle sex with his own laziness and weakness as a (candle)light at the end of…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 01:34 PM
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Make a choice. 1RM is fine for tracking gradual progression over time, but listing your top working set will allow more granular feedback week-over-week. How important is lifting heavy for you? Likewise, work within your limitations. Have you seen a sports therapist? Do you have a rehabilitation plan for your rotator cuffs and biceps? Have you seen a trainer who specializes in adaptive fitness programming and coaching? There is no such thing as lifting for show if you're exerting yourself. Muscl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 11:37 PM
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Pics of snot bubbles, or it wasn't a main event. In all seriousness, I think MEs as MRP used to describe them are overrated and borderline beta revenge fantasies. Incremental shortening of the 1000 ft rope is more sustainable and less likely to be ego-driven. The scoreboard analogy (J10 post?) is a good reflection of a HVM's marriage progression without threatening to punch the nuke button.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:20 PM
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From your OYS 4: Lifts(lbs) - Sq: 210 | Bench: 165 | Dead: 135 | OHP: 110 From your OYS 5: Lifts(lbs.) - Sq: 240 | Bench: 175 | Dead: ? | OHP: 105 From your OYS 6: Lifts: Squat - 245 lbs. | Bench - 175 lbs. | Deadlift - 158 lbs. | OHP - 70 lbs. From your OYS 15: **Lifts(lbs.):** Squat - 350 | Bench - 185 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP - 100 From your OYS 16: Lifts: Squat - 320 | Bench - 185 | Deadlift - 340 | OHP - 100 From your OYS 17: Lifts: Squat - 350 | Bench - 190 | OHP - 100 | Dead - 340 Your lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:04 PM
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I don’t have to defer my happiness until I am something else. This is powerful, and the root of many a covert contract I've had to overcome as well. It's subtle, but by using 'defer' you highlight that your happiness is inevitable; simply a choice between now and/or later without committing to either. I hold my world to my standard too, or I swap out the parts as I choose. Great illustration of an abundance mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 03:05 PM
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Yeah, missionary doesn't mean loss of dominance, and with dominance you can control pace and exertion. Similar to 223's suggestion, try sliding your dominate arm under her shoulder or neck up to your bicep; your elbow and lats should take most of the weight to start. Use your non-dominate hand to grab her hip or ass, and pull her into your strokes for that sweet counter pressure. Lots of variety without too much change up or effort: Slow and Diliberate: Non-dominate hand holds her face or back o…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 01:43 PM
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Health, wealth and relationships are commonly accepted goal or MAP categories. Your subjective scores, however, are mental masturbation. Think of external metrics as a GPS of where you are now. Goals are the destination, but you can't plot your way to success based on 'feelings' and vague intentions like: I'm just considering this as a way to add muscle easier Feeling of lack of control at work and unrealized potential Moments of genuine connection, but carries significant unresolved trauma, lac…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 04:40 PM
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Gotta fucking own it. Collapsible pointer, pocket protector, spectacles with nose piece tape, and suspenders all scream 'I'm serious, byotch!' Be prepared for your presentation to end in sexy role play, including your cutting performance feedback and her letter of resignation.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 04:12 PM
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As the week progressed, realized that I'm a lot less horny than I'd expect to be given the lack of jerking off and sex. The timeline for quitting sex for validation comes to mind, but I don't understand how it works. Is awareness and no porn enough? Fingers crossed. Woke up with morning wood one day and initiated. She was cranky about being woken up but went for it and we proceeded to have crappy starfish. Felt relieved of tension but completely unsatisfied afterwards -- just as if I had jerked …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 02:01 PM
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Agreed - OLD is a means to get to irl opportunities, not the goal. I'm already foreseeing potential problems with the effort-reward ratio, and defering my attention from my immediate circumstances. TBH, the initial appeal was the OPSEC. I am now starting to think that's an excuse, and the real goal should be being congruent and unapologetic about my wants while living in the here-and-now. I have a history of CCs where "this sucks right now, but if I sacrifice my wants and focus on <whatever upco…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/24 12:57 PM
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OLD is a bit of validation, with some purpose. Trying to get a foot in the game before a work trip, where I want to explore my options in the local social scene unencumbered by family. I need some comparables to examine my oneitis and decide if I wanna continue this marriage. My past OYS posts show a pattern of blaming my negative feelings on my (self imposed) family obligations, and trying to control everyone's mood. I've made progress in not being so influenced and refusing others' responsibil…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 08:50 PM
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Think you can do better in the heat of the moment? Your post reeks of validation via sex. Ask yourself, what would it mean to your self-worth and motivation if unenthusiastic duty starfish was off the table?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 07:01 PM
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House is still on the market, which is NOT good. Dropped price and showings have picked up and we're getting decent feedback but no buyers yet. I've finished all the major projects and cleaning out of stuff needed before it's sold. Now it's just minor things and upkeep that I do when I'm in town. Paying for stuff on a house I don't live in is annoying and needs to stop. And STBX is starting to balk at paying some of the stuff so there is more urgency on my part. 'Ti's the buyers' season. What's …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 01:29 PM
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"Is it because there's been less of.. other activities?" "Could be shrug... Let's find out!" throw over shoulder Now, the loaded question: how would you handle rejection to the above scenario?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 01:15 PM
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Living and thinking as if I were divorced has helped me get in the correct mindset. You can't LARP your way to OI. Think of nuking your marriage as an actual metaphor. It's not just a button. There's safeguards, ICAM, pre-established defense postures as you escalate to the threshold of armed conflict, infrastructure leading to a thermonuclear payload atop an ICBM. Don't forget targeting, allied communication, and intelligence feeds. And in the aftermath, decontamination and emergency response. E…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 10:36 PM
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She is the one initiating the I'm allowing myself to be pulled into fights about affection. FTFY. Read up on broken record in WISNIFG, and try "I'm not fighting about this anymore." Fog, broken record and negative/positive inquire as long as you're engaged respectfully on your terms. Consider: What are your terms? What boundaries can you apply and control if those terms aren't met? People will treat you how you allow them to treat you, else they'll become scarce. Win-win.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 06:57 PM
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OMS 27 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 7 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 205. Updated e1RMs: Squats 300(+17); DL 441; BP 300; OHP 185 Still grinding back to squat performance. Knees remain tight, but pain is lessening with focus on proper form and range of motion. e1RM is trending the right way, although it's based on high reps with lower weight (20x 180 lbs this week), so not as accurate. Just keeping my eye on incrementally inxeasing volume. 25 days alcohol free. Tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 06:18 PM
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Thanks - This is good stuff, ET. I'm looking at standardized meals built around 80% of my calculated protein and fat macros. I should stock up on fiber-loaded dinner and snack options. I'm digging the melon, (cooked) carrots and orzo suggestions since I rarely meet total carb requirements even on maintenance. I only really get hungry two hours after morning workouts, or wake pre-maturly if I haven't had a high-protein snack before bed. I'm also cycling back in beta-alanine and taurine in pre- an…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 08:09 PM
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OMS 26 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 7 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 205. Updated e1RMs: Squats 283; DL 441; BP 300; OHP 185 Continuing a gradual return to my true squat TM by adding 5 lbs each BBB session. One main lift days active release via foam rolling between warm up sets significantly reduces pain points, and narrowing stance further improves performance. I'm focusing on full RoM and breathing in the hole to improve flexibility and stabilizing muscles, as w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:48 PM
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I have no idea how to go about building a consultant gig from this, especially since my field is highly niche and is basically a dying industry. It’s something I’m starting to research as I don’t really have a clue what being a consultant means. In my experience (aka YMMV), good external consultants are equal parts salemen and project managers that can deliver at minimum a singular capability solution soup-to-nuts. That means advertising and presenting to prospective clients and their executives…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:52 PM
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Smells like bullshit to me. Not your bullshit, your doctor's bullshit. They'll tell you not to lift heavy, but they won't tell the fatass that comes in after you to lose some fucking weight. This. Medical community's 'Do no harm' frequently gets in the way of 'Do some right'.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 11:45 AM
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Just trading notes, but thanks. Even rage quitters can provide case study opportunities, if not cheap entertainment.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 10:59 AM
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I can see you've had enough of fight club today. Instead of piling on, I'll spill you a little secret sauce regarding my previous question. You probably understand by now that your wife shit tested you for snoring, and that by allowing it to escalate to a fight, you failed that test. What you may not understand is that shit tests come in different flavors: fitness tests to acertain if you're safe and nonplused by feminine wiles; compliance tests to see if you're a doormat. In your case, you got …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 12:15 AM
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You didn't answer my question: Is your snoring your problem or your wife's problem? It's not a trick question.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:32 PM
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If there is anything else to try, enlighten me. It's OYS, not an advice column. No one here owes anyone else here anything, least of all to lazy fuck-arounds. When a man has a problem he wants to fix, he keeps at it until he's satisfied with the outcome. Is you snoring your problem, or is it your wife's problem? Sounds like you're doing the minimum to get mommy to stop nagging, but don't actually care.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:39 PM
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His wife gets 7 days on, 7 days off being a mom. During mom time, Cheesy goes out of his way to help her out in exchange for sex. Basically, she plays house 50% of the time, and does who-knows for the rest. Bitch is literally having her cake and eating it too. Meanwhile, Cheesy is playing house 100%. Seriously, how does he not see the opportunity here? Demote that bitch to plate status, and seek other opportunities on your weeks alone. If you must, game her until she visits you at your place on …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:23 PM
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I've recently started sleeping in the spare bedroom at her request I am stuck in her frame. Struggling to keep a 'fun DGAF attitude' because I am so affected by her current mood. You obviously know what your problem is - you're not acting within your own frame. You even spell out how you got there: Typical drunk captain. I've always had issues being social; people think I'm hard to approach. I haven't been STFU enough, one of the issues raised is how I never talk and we live like roommates, so I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 12:07 PM
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I’ve been busting my ass, taking on new responsibilities mostly as skill development for the future as it doesn’t matter how hard I work I won’t get more than the standard pay raise. Have you tried scheduling negotiations? If increased pay isn't on the table, is there anything else you'd be inclined to ask for (ex. Paid education, increased paid vacation days, stock options, international travel engagement, spearhead a new team or capability) that could improve the value you extract from work? A…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 06:45 PM
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Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 92kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 75kg OP 42.5kg DL 95kg BP 60kg Our physical stats are pretty comparable (give or take an inch and 4 Kg), but you'll notice our lifts are very different. By 4 months into lifting (4x 531 basic and BBB cycles), and close to the same weight I am/you are now, I had: SQ 80 to 93 Kg, with 105 Kg 1RM; OP 45 to 52 Kg, with 60 Kg 1RM; DL 100 to 110 Kg, with 136 Kg 1RM; BP 75 to 90 Kg, with 105 Kg 1RM; my overall progress for 8…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 04:01 PM
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it just needs to be mine. The scenic route to WISNIFG's Assertive Principle #1: Be your own judge. Welcome back. Do you have a MAP? It's a great tool to plot your (selfish) objectives and track your (independent) progress. I found it helpful in filtering out the opinions noise of others and stiffling my own hamster.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 12:47 PM
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Thanks for this. I used to do the DeFranco 8 mobility religiously, but TFL-specfic stretching, strengthing and abductor work sound promising.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 01:28 AM
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I think she craves to be fucked properly FTFY. There's no short-cut or magic thrusting techniques here. You're just starting out: STFU, Read, Lift. Don't get ahead of yourself. It sounds like your wife actually likes you, and likes sex. Just focus on becoming attractive and stop being unattractive, and your immediate problem should solve itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 01:13 AM
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I’ve let myself stagnate with results that are ‘good enough,’ and used the outside world as a gauge, using the bar of ‘impressiveness’ (worthy of external validation) to determine my satisfaction with my work. I work just hard enough to get results I’ll tolerate and others think is impressive, but I won’t work to go the extra mile to reach actual exceptionalism. Do you genuinely want to be exceptional? What's wrong with working just hard enough to achieve results, provided they're results to you…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 12:59 AM
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Can you keep a secret? A primer on power
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:11 PM
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OMS 25 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 7 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 205. Updated e1RMs: Squats 283; DL 441; BP 300; OHP 185 Reincorporated squats in my new 531 Leader-Anchor cycle last week after a 2 month break for knees' recovery. Cinfirmed via sports therapist that theres no swelling or joint issues, just a super tight IT band. I added foam rolling between warm up sets, dropped the TM by 40%, and didn't have any issues. By top set, I went to failure and crushe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 05:56 PM
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OYS n + 1 Neither clever nor funny. What are you going for here? Background: Spare us your origin story. Everyone has a sob story, a dead bedroom story, or a used-to-be-alpha story. You're here now and want to improve? Just look ahead instead of behind. I realise this is a pile of hot garbage. I am not asking for sympathy. Realizing isn't action. Didn't stop you from dropping a wall of bland text that most here won't be bothered to sift through. No one owes anyone here anything, but if you're lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:32 PM
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Many doctors are just clueless that this stuff actually works. Everyone they see is so fucked that they assume it's normal to be fucked by age 38. But no, it's largely avoidable. Strongly seconded. You need a second opinion from a sports therapist. There are many lines of work and lifestyles that require above-average fitness levels past age 40; police, military, firefighters, etc. They all have doctors that don't just shrug their shoulders and kick 'em into the volcano because of a repetitive s…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:02 PM
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Are test scores what you use as a progress metric for him? Unbiased external feedback usually carries alot of weight for me. I've spent a lot of time regularly applying math, reading and critical thinking to everyday interactions. Since moving last year, however, his interest and motivation in challenging himself scholastically has waned. I haven't had as much time with him, so I've pushed routine homework assignments and pre-bedtime reading as chores from which he earns points for videogame tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 06:59 PM
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I don’t know if that was panic in having to go back to work or panic in thinking that I’ll leave. Or I’m just overthinking it and it was just an emotional response. Fucking the younger woman has roots in “see bitch, I can get younger hotter women!” and making my wife my arch enemy. Frame 101. In the top quote, my guess is where your wife previously called your bluff hundreds of times in the past on nuking the relationship, you are now demonstrating congruance and resolve without the need to be o…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 06:23 PM
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I’ve noticed I have more patience and maturity when I’m dealing with my kids, really hope this means I’m cresting past the anger phase of MRP. Emotional phases are rarely linear, and are highly influenced by immediate circumstances. More often and without conscious intervention, they're cyclical and create routine patterns of behavior. All this to say, don't fall into the fallacy of thinking you've unlocked the next MRP stage. It's not a video game, and there's no save points or high scores. Jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 12:59 PM
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OMS 24 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 7 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 205. Updated e1RMs: Squats TBD; DL 411; BP 299; OHP 185 Hit new PRs for OHP and BP, so starting to dent that 3 month plateau. PR test scheduled next week, then a new 531 Leader-Anchor cycle to re-intergrate squats post knee injuries. Whenever there's a time crunch, which has been far too frequent last quarter, accessories are always the first thing I drop. I'll be adding a dedicated day for catch…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 12:43 PM
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Sincerely, BZ. You proved you're capable of pursuing other options to meet your sexual needs, and relatively quickly, too. Just 3 weeks to go from 'I'm stepping on my own dick' to: it’s nice knowing I can attract younger women but I know I can do better. The value isn't just getting your dick wet; you're on your way to cultivating abundance from years of scarcity. Looking forward to seeing how these dynamics change your approach to divorce proceedings and future interactions with the STBX.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 07:32 PM
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Jesus christ, I really did not expect to catch this much flack for my training modality. You don't see how your responses are blatant ego protection: You DEFEND past PRs as if they're relevant today. You EXPLAIN your lifts aren't really 'that bad', arguing semantics of weight. You EXCUSE your numbers saying it doesn't include all the other shit you do, without actually presenting what these things are. You RATIONALIZE that you're not chasing numbers. Moreover, you've willingly chosen to particip…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 04:51 PM
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she even swallowed my cum. It was the most passionate sex ever, we tounge kissed like there was no tomorrow and spat in each others mouth and more. No kink shaming, but order of operations matter here.
/r/seduction09/10/24 09:44 PM
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I see your point, and it's a good call. I can say I'm not fixated on any specific outcome, but where else would proof come from. So, be authentic and observe possibilities. Experience 'love of the game' itself without an agenda, so to speak.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 12:40 PM
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I've thought much the same. The difference between faith and belief is evidence; it's time to get proof of what I can accomplish in a more-or-less consequence free sexual market without excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 11:57 AM
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Fuck, yes, this. Start reflecting emotion back at her, and see what happens while you remain grounded with AM. She's just a woman, and there for your amusement. Pull her pig tails, play pranks, have fun. Moreover, BE fun. Do you plan date nights? Invite her to do things that interest you? Let her bask in the shadow of your HVM-status in a domain you excel in? She's a reflection of you, after all. The other half of the equation is you actually have to like your wife. I've asked you this before, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 01:14 AM
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Lifts were stagnant this week, other than OHP. I de-loaded last week as I felt that I was struggling too much, and failing at 4 reps instead of getting in the full 5 especially on squats and bench. I'm frustrated that my progress has slowed, and I think that I'm still lifting too light to de-load. Whenever you deload due to plateau, you need to ensure the volume of your work outs (weight x sets x reps) exceeds your previous work outs. Otherwise, your body adapts to the decreased stimulus, commit…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 12:27 AM
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my game still sucks. when urges come up, I feel helpless. like I feel I wanna fuck her rn, but also I don't how to make it happen, it's like a language I don't speak. my instinct tells me to just grab her without building tension but history has shown that this approach doesn't work in our current dynamic (when smv is low). 80% of problems in MRP are solved by being attractive. Your lifts constantly tell us this is your biggest and most literal weakness. Do you think she'd continue to respond ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 12:16 AM
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OMS 23 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 203. Updated e1RMs: Squats TBD; DL 411; BP 286; OHP 176 PR tests last week came in slightly under e1RMs from last Jun. Felt minor tweaks under right trap on OHP and DL on last sets, so didn't push to failure. While it's disappointing to be just shy my old PRs, the smart play remains slow progress without injuries. I also ran 3 and 6 mile races without too much knee pain, so I should be able to re…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 10:47 PM
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Fantasizing about one girl is self-gratifying validation. As long as you're fixated on her, you won't have the drive to approach and take a risk, with her or anyone else. It's mental masturbation. Re-read my comment from last week. There's no oneitis in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 03:26 PM
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Take a look at your posts 2 to 3 months ago, and compare them to where you are now. Not just handling shit and comfort tests, but actually (gasp) enjoying them? That 'right now' quip is fuckin' gold-standard OI. Success breeds success, but you've done more than rack up wins. You've taken a formerly well-worn battle-tested pattern of conflict and flipped it in a genuinely fun way for both of you just by changing your perception and responses.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 11:02 PM
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Thanks for the laughs. I snorted shake out my nose at those 'Love You's to smooth things over.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 09:58 PM
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I could see how that looks like a is my problem if taken to excess. FTFY.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 09:32 PM
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1st theme: Boundaries I set a boundary with the wife about not texting about important things or having deep conversations via text, only to discuss logistics. That same day I broke that boundary. Doesn't sound very important to you. What are you trying to accomplish with this boundary? I let the wife suggest junk food and cave easily. Which in turn makes me realize my shitty boundaries, and how easily she can walk all over them This is pseudo-ownership bullshit: How nice of YOU to let your wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 09:11 PM
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This “sparring partner” thing is certainly helpful as an exercise in not allowing a woman’s emotions be the centerpiece of my life, but I’m starting to wonder if it’s a waste of time… MRP often quotes "The stay plan is the go plan". Gaming your wife, who knows your weaknesses best, and prepping to exit the marriage are not mutually exclusive. In most cases, the divorce prep work paired with early MAP accomplishments is enough to regain a drunk captain control of his ship, without triggering Ramb…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 08:13 PM
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OMS 22 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). (All lbs) BW 204. e1RMs: Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 Starting to return to my previous TMs in June, with the exception of Squats; knees are still recovering until end Oct. While I didn't break any PRs on my TM tests this week, I did exceed all previous heaviest single lifts. Had to quit DLs after a minor back tweak after completing 360 lbs, but metrics are moving in the right direction. Met with my bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 07:00 PM
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Although I’m not sure I understand what do you mean about mediocre lean gains? Lean muscle mass gained as your body adapts to working out again. Mediocre because you're prioritizing fat loss over muscle gain. Rapid weight loss in an obese casefor a time makes sense, but I'm recommending not throwing the baby out with the bath water. The more muscle you gain, the higher your basal metabolic rate, which is your baseline calorie consumption for automated bodily functions. Building muscle contribute…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 12:35 PM
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when it comes to health I notice trouble with my cardiovascular system. for example during hikes I'm quite fast out of breath, become light headed or have pressure on my ears (similar to seconds before blackout). I focus on nasal breathing where possible and only switch to mouth breathing during extreme passages. undoubtly I have to work on my cardio fitness and am sure that it will benefit general health, drive and much more. Get your VO2 Max tested, and cross reference with this VO2 Max age ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 10:53 PM
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I’m down to 379 lbs. - 29 more lbs to go in 6 weeks. I weighed just under 420 lbs in the middle of June so I feel that I am making progress. You lost nearly 40 lbs over 3 months, and you want to lose nearly 30 lbs over 6 weeks. The average person can healthily lose 1% BF a week, which tracks with your recent fat loss rate. There's also an optimal limit to losing fat while retaining muscle. Tl;dr - planning to lose 5lbs over 6 weeks is unachievable, and even if it weren't, your mediocre lean gain…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 10:02 PM
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She certainly has plenty of options. However, during the coffee meet-up, she mentioned unprompted that she hadn't been seeing anyone during the breakup / attempted a branch swing. Why do you think it's in her best interest to say that to you, truthfully or (more likely) not?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:41 PM
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Stories are better when they're not actually about you. If you're the star, it comes off as try hard and breaks your mystery. Women love gossip 'cause it's a personal experience whilst speculating about someone else. Try hooks like: "Wow, that reminds me of this guy I work with, but he's polyamourous. Do you think more than two people is a recipe for drama?" "OMG, right? My friend Karen does that, too. Fuck, we can actually overhear her BABYTALKING to Dave the meathead." "So I'm at this party, r…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:30 PM
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All lifts and runs are continuing to progress How are you programing runs in with progressive squats: Rest days in-between? Weekly runs or more frequent? Which 531 template are you using? Asking because I haven't yet successfully merged running and 531 without resulting in leg overtraining.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 10:48 PM
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We're talking about today, man. Day by day improvement is part of the never-ending journey toward peak manliness, cool; but continuous grind is not the reward. Why aren't you cashing in the results of your hardwork today to find younger, more pleasent, and sexually expressive female companionship? When will you accept you're good enough now to pursue your deepest desires? For the record, this isn't fanboy ball tickling. There are tons of objectively lesser guys out there sucessfully vetting and …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 10:27 PM
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Strong agreement here. I get the impression that OP is a natural oak. His lifts and routine put guys 10 years younger to shame, he's naturally action-orientated without being (too) temperamental, and has most of his own shit on lock. A surpressed alpha yet all-around decent guy, so to speak. So u/Winston_80: why don't YOU believe you can catch a cute 23 year old who genuinely enjoys fishing, boating, and fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 12:00 PM
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OMS 21 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). BW 204, BF 16%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 What I want My previous goals in career, fitness, and mental models were pretty complete last post (03 Sep). I have yet to identify new ones. I have short term and long term objectives, sure, but nothing I'm passionate about per se. I want to find something challenging and meaningful that excites me and improves my standing. What I Did Got hit h…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 09:41 PM
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Mighty Ducks 1 vs Mighty Ducks 2. Quack, muthafucka. Or 1st date & 2nd date.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:17 AM
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True, there's no benefit to repeat hand holding. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/24 02:59 PM
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All the hallmarks of a failed post: Starts with "I hope..." A shitty and trope-riddled origin story. No post history proving experience or value added contributions to the forum. OP just started OYS last week. I used to be alpha: "I know PUA and used to have a hot nympho gf". Way too long & no coherent point. I got all that just from glacing at the first 3 paragraphs. I'll use the time I saved to lift weights and read the sidebar. Sincerely critical feedback for OP: Shut up. No one cares. Read. …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 09:29 PM
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My behavior. Way to be your own judge. They just aren't overt initiations so I don't count them This, however, is stupid. Overt or covert, those initiations happened by your admission and definitely count to your LTR. Bury your head in the sand all you like. I'll repeat myself once: would you count them as a win if she had put out?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 12:11 PM
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I'm poking here to see if what you're doing is for them or if its for you, and if you've provided guidance on what your expectations are and shown your kids how to achieve those expectations. My motivations are admittedly a mixed bag; I want them to develop self-sufficiency in order to take menial care taking tasks off my hands, but also to challenge them and contribute to self-worth. It's funny to watch the kid complain about having to make a lunch, then brag to his friends that he packs his ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 11:35 AM
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What are you doing to set up your children for success? I introduced a daily chore chart for my oldest a year ago, which has been successful. Each completed task earns a point that can be spent on rewards, like video game time, and all tasks need be completed in order to play with friends. Tasks include packing lunch for school and cleaning the bedroom. More recently, I added goal setting as a chore task. He decided he wanted to hit 10 chin ups in a set, so we developed a workout plan together. …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 01:25 AM
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I initiated sex twice and got rejected twice. Initiated both times while in bed, once at morning and once at night. Typical excuse: “I’m tired”, “I’m having anxiety” etc. Gunna throw you bone: Stop initiating at bed time. Had other initiations but they were pathetic so I’m not counting them here. If she had been dtf, would you have counted those initiations as wins? Bit of a double standard. More over, no one ever got better by dismissing their fuck ups. What made made them pathetic? Your behavi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 10:26 PM
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OMS 20 Last post: 23 Jul '24 Late 30s. Married 10 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). BW 203(-2), BF 16%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 What I was working towards 1. Career Objective: Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Pretty much done. Completed two of three assessments, with the last one scheduled next week. Already received a heads up my file is being pulled for the board's review in 2 weeks. Fitness Objective: 1000 lb club by Mar 2025. Pretty much …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:49 PM
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not sure how to pour into others at times that I feel my cup is empty. You don't. Fill your cup first, always. And once your cup is filled, be deliberate in choosing what and who to spend it on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 10:52 AM
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Sexually we've been doing something everyday (oral sex) but vaginal penetration still isn't a daily thing because of arousal. Sex feels good for me but overwhelming for her and she does have small perineal tears sometimes when we have sex because of my girth and her arousal/physiology? This is prime circumstance to leverage the Variety in SGM's DEVI framework. Anal, clit play, toys, tit fucking, nuru massage, hotdogging, grinding through silk panties, role play a princess in a chastity belt... i…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 09:51 PM
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Money is a resource, not a source of masculinity. Many millionaires are paying Chad the pool boy to fuck their wives without knowing acknowledging it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/24 11:58 AM
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What’s next? Right now, push my combined e1RM buffer from 56 to +100lbs, and enter a powerlifting competition to record lifts. I'm aiming for a specific out of town event in October, but I've recently received probable work conflicts with Q3 scheduling. Attempting to deconflict by registration opening in 3 weeks. My backup is an annual sports competition run locally by my organisation in March that includes an olympic lifting event, but that will also likely conflict with end-fiscal chaos.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/24 05:49 PM
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Morals aside, what do you want, and what are you willing to risk in its pursuit? Recommend reviewing WISNIFG' Assertive Rights. Specifically: Is there a way to have both, fuck her and maintain current life? Assertive Right #5: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them. Assertive Right #8: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions. Call me a bastard, but I want to explore without becoming dangerous to anyone. Assertive Right #7: You have the right to be independ…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 06:30 PM
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working on moving away from the STFU 2.0 skills of AA and AM etc, to a more perceptive and authentic expression. This will only work if you have something meaningful (to yourself) to express, and channel that belief in your expression. Say it once, say it clear, and keep STFU ready to de-escalate meaningless conflict. There's an old post in MRP about giving one single fuck instead of the default RP no fucks when loved ones push back against us. Worth a read if you stumble across it or someone ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 01:09 PM
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My mission - To stop lying to myself, see reality for what it is, adjust my expectations to meet it, set goals, make a plan, and execute. I’m not sure what my plan is here. Never take action when you're unsure what you want to achieve. I’m trying to lead, and leading her out of her own spiral is something that she clearly can’t do. Do or do not; There is no try. Leadership doesn't gratitude, compliance nor even followers. Create your vision, and keep the door open for her to enter your frame. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 12:36 PM
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OMS 19 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). BW 205(+1), BF 16%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 What I'm working towards Career Objective: Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Been trying to schedule a second language assessment for Aug/Sep over the past 3 weeks. The department's been black hole for comms, so I'm heading down in person on Thursday. Fitness Objective: 1000 lb club by Mar 2025. Finished deload with TM tests this week. Over…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 06:52 PM
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Not following your criticism. Elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/24 02:00 PM
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Do you like your wife? That may be the fundamental question. I recovered much faster than her. Granted, I did leave her home while she was really sick and not care for her at all for several days, but IDGAF about her at the time. Sorry for your loss, but the oak never gets a break. She was sick while you withdrew and abandoned her. for several days as she ramped up self-destructive coping habits like binging icecream and binging tv shows and staying up super late as I just took care of me and my…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 11:36 AM
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OMS 18 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). BW 204(-2.5), BF 16%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 What I'm working towards Career Objective: Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Higher than usual turnover this summer is requiring a more deliberate approach to onboarding new personnel. My team continues to punch above its weight, but resources have become strained. I've taken ownership of an additional executive advisory role this week wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 11:35 PM
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That being said not much attention is paid to me as far as fore play. A little, but not as much as I give her. How do you communicate/manifest this want for more foreplay? I don't want a marathon tonight. For me it's more of a what the heck why does this take too long. Why cant we fuck for 5-10 mins and be done. Some guys will tell you pleasure is the goal, not orgasm. But if you want a finite conclusion to a sex session, again, what are doing to communicate/manifest it? Have you considered taki…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 07:59 PM
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hers So why does it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 02:04 AM
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I have mostly been STFU on those comments, but at some point (once I become more attractive), I want to have a discussion about what I want from my life - not to pressure her but to let her decide if she is also aligned to that path or not. There's a covert contract here to unpack that's impeding OI. Never hide your vision. Either she's with it, or she's not. Either outcome results in actionable knowledge for you, and knowing earlier is always better. If you need to be attractive to sell it, you…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 02:03 AM
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Now if I can do this in the bedroom would be great as there is a sense of disapointment when i don't "finish" Whose disappointment, yours? Hers? Or your hamsters?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 11:33 PM
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OMS 17 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under (youngest is special needs). BW 206.5(-2.5), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329(+5); DL 434(+28); BP 293(+1); OHP 180(+1) What I'm working towards Career Objective: Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Rocked coordination of last week's national event, earning credit with my boss and his boss both in attendance. My team tied for first in the skills competition but didn't have as many first place finishes as the decided winners. Definate room …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 10:08 PM
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I've been doing 5x5 for 7 months. I would like to move to a new routine. Any suggestions? If you're still making linear progressive gains on Strong Lifts 5x5, I'd recommend sticking with it. Most plateau at 12-18 months. I found Wendler's 531 program a natural progession from SL 5x5. Similar weight increases and periodisation, and lots of templates to choose from to combat boredom. Biggest selling point for me was the simplicity, and incremental progression is designed to mitigate overlifting in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 02:21 AM
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In a fucked up way, I’m really thankful for this. Her viciousness gives me an opportunity to become a better version of me. Not fucked up at all. HoA did a great post on your woman's most wonderful gift: the epic test.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 02:07 AM
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5x5 265SQ / 280DL / 230BP These lifts look off. Typically in terms of body weight (BW), most lifters after 1-2 years will achieve 100% BW BP, 150% BW SQ, and 200% BW DL. You have an epic BP for your weight, but what's going on with the lower body lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 01:54 AM
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The only answer I have is a lifetime of conditioning that I'm trying to tear down one day at a time. Fucking understament: Military as a closed-system highly rewards service leadership. That 'Men > Mission > Self' prioritization is difficult to shake once you enter the open-system civie world, but we see over and over again how it holds ex-servicemen back. They typically make great team players and exploitable doormats. Do not be afraid to put yourself first. Try the perspective that everyone el…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 01:05 AM
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You’re focused on the wrong details. Your sets are too neat indicating to me that they are likely too easy. focus on intensity Seconded. Are you doing sets to failure? Pyramids? Supersets? Also, what's your goal? The way you program lifts varies if you're focusing on hypertrophy, strength gaining, peak power lifting. Even functional training, conditioning, and cardio require different approaches. Figure out what you want, and do some basic research on optimal programming for desired muscle respo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 12:29 AM
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OMS 16 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 209(+2), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 324(+8); DL 406(+5); BP 292; OHP 179(+3) What I'm working towards Career Objective: Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. I'm leading two major events in the next 3 weeks, one national and the other local. They'll both be great exposure and timed just before quarterly reviews. More importantly, work demands will drop afterward to a normal steady state over the summer, allowing me flexibility to pursue…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 05:30 PM
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You'd win that bet. Pussy gets wetter when there's risk of being walked in on. Reasonable boundary enforcement is important, but this post reads like an autistic dancing monkey contract. Hiding behind locked doors, electric eyes, and pre-arranged inavailablities to illicit an effect is not outcome independence. You'd get far better RoI for your time and energy by exercising frame control from your authentic core. Passive dread can be a useful tool for novices to re-balance their relationship dyn…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/24 10:11 PM
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Hiding, surveillance, and pre-planned mind games? Overt dread is being in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/24 05:55 PM
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(even at these relatively low weights) Never undermine yourself. It's not attractive, and negative self-talk is linked to por performance. Incremental progress towards a worthy goal is all that matters. Got a new 9-5, my first day job like this, man its painfully boring. Really hoping I can get out into something better in the next ~6 months More progress. Boring and low pay now is better than nothing. Hope is not a plan, however: what steps are you taking to find a better job? Do you value pay,…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 05:26 PM
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It’s hilarious in a kind of sad way that after all this internal work, it’s time for more internal work. The work never ends. In reaching our goals for self-betterment, men are changed. Our standards, perspectives, and experiences all lead to new desires. Stop thinking of it as work, but rather a cycle of challenges. Men need worthwhile challenges and pursuits to be happy. It's a series of chases making up your epic journey, not any one destination.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 03:57 PM
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Told my wife that we finally had enough money to go on vacation and she booked a trip for a few days by herself instead. This reads like you shot yourself in the foot. If you wanted to go together, you could have planned something for yourself and surprised her with the details at the last minute. She either joins you, or you get to enjoy the experience solo. Instead, you sought validation from mommy, and she disrespected your intention by putting herself first. Learn from this experience, and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 11:20 AM
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Stick does not generally work that well. Carrot does. This a good reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 02:50 PM
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There is also another thing that pops up which I don't feel like a man who fucks after getting turned down so many times. It's causing a cognitive dissonance because I want to be a man that fucks. If your favorite dish was always out of stock at a restaurant, would you keep going back day after day for more excuses and disappointment? Most people would look somewhere else. Whether you check out some menus in person or dine out on a greasy family value combo in the back of your car is up to you. …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 11:55 AM
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Hold me accountable and tell me where I’m not headed in the right direction. Reread WISNIFG Assertive Right #1. Spoiler: MRP will not hold you to account. OYS requires coming up with your own goals and standards, and then documenting your trial & error over time while attempting to achieve them. OYS feedback may result in helpful advice, definate trash talking, and occassional speculation. All feedback will be of varying quality, perspectives, and experiences. What you do with it is up to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 11:19 AM
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OMS 15 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 207(-1), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 316; DL 401; BP 292; OHP 176 What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. No change, remains on track. I'll have time to look into scheduling a second language test after June. Fitness - 1000 lb club by Mar '25. No change, planning to join a local power lift club in Sept and scope next local competition to officially meet 1K club criteria. Mental models - Develop a clear per…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:40 PM
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Agreed, although my musings are less about loyalty in a relationship than about understanding and owning my own power in the sexual dynamics. Sex is no longer an end-goal to itself, but a tool to exert compliance. Wild.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 08:07 PM
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OMS 14 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 208(-3), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 316(+15); DL 401; BP 292(+12); OHP 176 What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. No change, remains on track. I'll have time to look into scheduling a second language test after June. Fitness - 1000 lb club by Mar '25. No change, planning to join a local power lift club in Sept and scope next local competition to officially meet 1K club criteria. Mental models - Develop a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 12:19 AM
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Kid is a non-verbal toddler with special needs. Discipline and punishment isn't an option at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:52 PM
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MAP: On the red items, I'm good with Stop ignoring broken items, Stop orbiting hotter people, and some progress on Stop nerfing your personality (trying to be something your not, instead emphasize your interests). I need to work on Stop wasting money (I have too much money just sitting in cash) and Stop being lazy items. Positive goal setting and habit replacement has a better rate of success than negative. Instead of 'Stop ignoring broken items', try 'fix a problem' or 'discard broken items'. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 12:20 PM
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This is leaving me with a dilemma where I have two options. Start pushing her to be more active. Giving her the frame work of what she needs to do etc etc. This has blown up in my face many times with unsuccessful results. Continue to just do me. If she gets left behind, then she gets left behind. There's an MRP post I've lost the link to that talks about this dilemma: do I invest and lead my wife and family, or just next-out for new and better pussy? The answer depends on you. Nothing wrong wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 12:51 AM
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Hit the gym 3-4 times a week since 07/23, put on about 20lbs since then with occasional breaks due to back pain (sciatica i believe) BP - 40lb DB, Smith Squat - 50 lbs, OHP - 30lb DB Those numbers after 10 months of routine lifting are abysmal. Make a Dr appointment to assess your back and get a specialist referral for physio, rehab, chrio, surgery, or whatever. Meet with a trainer to develop a plan with modified movements around your injuries pending Dr assessment. She said she wants to be frie…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 12:08 AM
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This week I benched 2010x8 You're benching a small car? Impressive - your 1rm must have +1k lbs on the current bench press world record. In all seriousness, your lifts are decent. Your problems may be more about stopping unattractive traits than needing to build attractive ones. I have done a lot of reflecting. I dont love my wife. I dont even like her much at this point. She does not support my mission. I want a life she does not want. I have grown a lot into who I am and what I want over these…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 11:19 PM
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Last week I got the challenge to introduce push/pull without escalating to sex for 3 days. This is what OYS is about: getting challenged, trying something new, and providing feedback. Good on you. Day 3 I didn’t do such a good job with pushing. Keep experimenting with push and pull. Cycling between them keeps a woman off balance, which can disrupt her negative status quo habits and cause her to stumble into your positive frame
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 09:33 PM
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all week I am gaming wife constantly, like lifting her up and not taking her seriously. I let her feel small in a physical way. this dynamic works kind of good. I have to increase my push / pull approach, in a non-sexual way (or at least not being very direct about it). Good - game should be constant and fun. It's a small yet powerful thing that sets favorable conditions and relationship dynamics. Keep experimenting with push and pull. Cycling between them and keeping her off balance is the sure…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:35 PM
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OMS 13 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 211(+1), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 316(+15); DL 401; BP 292(+12); OHP 176 What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. My performance file successfully placed at my boss's boss's board, and merited going up another executive level for final review. So far looking on track. I need to schedule a language exam by end-Q2 to max out my candidacy when promotion boards sit in Q3. Fitness - 1000 lb club by Mar '25. P…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:51 PM
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Keeping it simple - your game sucks. Not just initiations, but everything leading up to it. Throughout the whole day, are you playful? Are you flirty? Do you let her catch your gaze on her body? Do you escalate kino? Those are pull techniques. Do you mysteriously vanish? Do you suddenly withdraw physical intimacy just before she approaches LMR/apology mode? These are push techniques. Do you tease/slap her ass/pull her hair as you pass in the hallway without stopping where you're going? This is p…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 12:22 PM
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OMS 12 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 210, BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 301(+1); DL 401; BP 280; OHP 176 What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Asked my boss for specific methods to improve in a few areas, and got waffled platitudes and self-apologies for not being more direct with his wishy washy expectations ahead of evaluations. I anticipated a lack of direct critiques, and presented a self development plan with concrete milestones and quar…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 09:52 PM
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OMS 11 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 210(-1), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 301(+1); DL 401; BP 280. What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. I successfully pushed back on my boss's assessment with specific examples to justify better scores. The HR database is mis-configured so I have view rights to the scores of my peers. Seems I'm tied for best performance, but it's still a drop from what I was expecting and how I was evaluated in a different …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 09:50 PM
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Do I want to fuck? yes. Her? meh. Just another sparring partner. Divorce preparations and developing your game aren't mutually exclusive. You also need to be honest with your meh reaction. Unless you're unattracted to her AND have better options, you're likely just feeling butt hurt from past rejections. Turn those fuck-noes into fuck-yeses.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 07:51 PM
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Exercise is 5/6 days a week. Lifts 3 times a week. My lifts are not huge relative to others here but I have good definition that people remark on. Not sure I want to get huge—LMK if that’s a loser mindset. You're awfully concerned about what internet strangers think. OYS is about what YOU do to further YOUR goals. Post your lift numbers if you're sincere about improving fitness and self-accountability. Maybe you'll get laughed at; condition yourself not to take it personally. Maybe you'll get go…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/24 01:10 PM
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OMS 10 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 211(+0), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 297(+6); DL 401(+21); BP 280(+10). What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Received review from my boss last week, with debrief this week. I'm already submitting arguments with evidence to challenge some of his assessments and make my overall evaluation more competitive with my peers. Fitness - 1000 lb club by Mar '25. Added another +37 lbs to my total 1RMs. This week r…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 09:27 AM
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I've had a good run with 531 templates since June 2022. Found Monolith forced prioritization of squats, where my pre-bulk conditioning of erg rowing or HIIT spinning wore out my legs. As a trainor, do you have recommendations for balancing cardio with leg strength gains? Agree with you that oaks don't bitch. I need to make time to process what stressing me out, and communicate how it will be resolved in an action plan. I just don't know what responsibilities I can cut or delegate to make that ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/24 07:37 PM
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Saying no to the kids hasn't been my problem. Youngest is special needs, non-verbal and in the midst of terrible twos. Oldest is better, but doesn't often get enough direct attention because of youngest. Coupled with inconsistent supports all result in way more corrective intervention and time commitments than I enjoy, and just saps my energy, morale, and motivation most days. I have a plan to acquire additional babysitting, but it's about 2 months out. Just holding everything together for the i…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/24 07:28 PM
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OMS 9 (Edited for formating) Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 211(+8), BF 17%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 291; DL 380; BP 270. Last post 3 weeks ago What I'm working towards Career - Meet promotion criteria by Aug '24. Presently on track, with annual performance evaluations coming out next week for review and course correction (if required). Fitness - 1000 lb club by Mar '25. No change - On my last week of 531 Monolith bulk, followed by a deload week and return to 531 anchor-leader…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 12:33 AM
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Sex: I am on the road and wife is with me 90% of the trip. Changing places often and not much privacy aren't helpful to create tension. My attempts to initiate are mostly shut down, but wife offers "support", like a hj. And it's a bad hj tbh. I tell her that I want my dick sucked, which she rejects. I won't settle for a hj anymore, so I let her know that I am not interested and continue with my day Creating conditions for privacy and tension, if that's what you want, are your responsibility. Giv…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 09:44 PM
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This reads like an ADHD kid's diary. What are you trying to achieve? Think SMART goals. What discrete steps are you taking to reach those goals? Describe progress and effects. Spoiler: No one cares how you feel.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 08:48 PM
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I did tell everyone that I am at my limit for dealing with this sort of crap. Now I just need to recover from not holding frame and try to not look like a total bitch who can be rolled. Boundaries are enforced immediately and unapologetically by action, not pleading and temper tantrums. Read How to Build Boundaries During Your Transition. Most transgressions require no more than removing your attention and presence. The caveat, however, is you have to be someone who's attention and presence actu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 08:30 PM
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She is still on good terms with her ex for coparenting and I'm happy for her. I've met him. Her mother is very controlling and interfering. Slept with my partner's ex not ling after my partner got married. Confused: did single mom's mother sleep with her son in law?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/24 01:56 PM
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160 grams of protein daily. General rule of thumb is 1g/lb to build muscle, and some sources actually recommend even higher.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/24 07:16 PM
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Goal is for 800lb Cool, you've got a grand objective for DLs. How're you gonna get there from 175lb? What are your milestones and expected timelines? How will you meet those sub-objectives? Cottage cheese won't do it alone; think lifting coach, spotter buddy, competitions, whatever motivates you and aligns to your goal achievement.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/24 05:20 PM
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but plan to be in an LTR someday Why? What are you actually looking for, and how does a LTR get you there? Bonus consideration: You don't become interesting by getting girls' attention, you get girls' attention by BEING interesting. So what are doing to become interesting other than square-one lifting, newb game, slacking in business, and half-ass MMA training?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/24 04:45 PM
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It’s the “attractive women” part I struggle with. Your qualitative assessment of "attractive" is problematic for numerous reasons, mostly being dependent on your present mood. Have you ever opened a cold, plain-clothed HB6 in broad daylight and gotten an authentic smile and warm energy? Can take her to a 7 instantly, and that's without make up and night attire. Owning your mood and being able to influence it is part of establishing your frame. Guys who wait for girls or the situation to be 'just…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 12:06 PM
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Wife even told me that she started to recognize the person she fell in love with 26 years ago. I started recognizing this person as well. We did end up having sex. Why are you looking backwards as a destination for your progress? Sounds like you jumped in your wife's frame here. Can you see how this isn't congruent with your mission to have new experiences? 19 year old you is gone, and ideally, good fucking riddance. The bad part is, that yesterday she moved out of the apartment as planned. I’m …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 11:08 AM
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There's nothing in this post that isn't better articulated in the side bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/24 12:14 PM
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My experience agrees. She's likely always been high libido, and I just wasn't high enough value to exploit it post-honeymoon phase. Good incentive to keep killing off that version of me. Your comment on libido hit on something I've been chewing on recently: the common high/low libido definition wasn't aligning with my observations. I found better milage when applying Come As You Are's expanded model, which proposes libido as a product of two factors: a libido accelerator and libido breaks. We th…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 02:59 PM
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That's been my thinking, too - kept it NSFW without going full nudes to keep options for exchange/escalation. Also played with basic color editing, filters, and including other body parts in the shot, like thighs and stomach. Couldn't find much (good) advice on tasteful/intriguing male sexting online. Interested in other suggestions here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 12:14 PM
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OMS 8 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 203(0), BF 17% (Navy method, updated 25 Mar '24 from 15% visual). e1RMs (lbs): Squats 291(+21); DL 380(+12); BP 270. Situation Recap Spent the last 2+ years working on my SMV: fitness, career, and income all markedly improved since first OMS attempts 1-9 in 2022. My frame, mental models, and game all remained weak. Restarted OMS posting Jan this year, and making progress on those fronts in combining comfort with sexual intimacy and pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 12:57 AM
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That post link is private. How do I get access to read it?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 03:38 PM
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At one point when I was pissed at her while being a dancing monkey, I hit on a girl and got a number. I texted the new girl but decided that is not what I wanted. I decided to tell my wife about it. After some hysterical bonding, she is going on and on about how she can't trust me. I'm undecided about whether I want to keep getting girls numbers right now. I Overt dread is not different than seeking validation. "Look here please, OTHER girls like me, so WhY dOn'T YOU?!" You also say it's not wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 01:11 PM
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What is the stick and carrot and to whom? Was thinking of neutral detachment as the stick and loving attention as the carrot, but I think I get your point about mental origin. More accurately, my time and attention are resources I invest wherever best fits my goals or brings me happiness. I get to choose when, where, and who receives these resources for my benefit. They can be gifts for my family, but I can also choose myself. What did you notice at the time? Any anxiety? Think on this. Could yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 01:05 PM
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Early on in my MRP journey I cut out jerking off and it really helped. I tend to lapse back into jerking off, because it's just easier and convenient... But then I feel shitty about it later because it drains my sex drive and makes me content with not initiating for real. Cool - you know you've been successful in the past and benefited. How did you do that, and how can you do it again? Cutting a bad habit altogether can be harder than replacing it with a new one. What would the ideal version of …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 09:52 PM
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The last couple of times I’ve had sex, I felt like my erection wasn’t hard enough. Get your testosterone levels checked if it's a concern. Even with high T levels, vitamin D deficiency can cause progressive loss of hardness. Your best source is sunlight, but the average sedentary career male during winter months would benefit from 4000 IU Vitamine D supplements taken with a source of calcium. Vitamin pills are cheap and common enough to be worth trying out for a couple months.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 08:16 PM
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Late bloomer for sure. Wife used to relish being the more sexually liberated of the two of us and pushing my boundaries early in the relationship, then dialed it down when worried about scaring me off. Yeah, I was THAT blue pilled, but sex was still pretty good until kids. I do have a lot of mental unfucking to do. Yeah, need to accommodate a persistent medical issue on her side until resolved (diagnosis appointment is scheduled next month), but there's lots on my list to explore before then.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 07:13 PM
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OMS 7 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 203(-1), BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 291(+8); DL 354; BP 270. Where I need work My post history shows a pattern where I've tried to control the moods of others to alleviate my own anxiety. The more in touch I am with what I want and the less affected I am by others actually improves the the behaviors I appreciate from my family. The quantity of my time and quality my attention shared are the stick and carrot. Gained appreciated insights…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 10:36 AM
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Was there any element of a covert contract in your thinking here? Hint: Why was it tied into “Vday”? I don't see a covert contract here; maybe I'm just too close to it. Vday was just an opportunity, and I overtly owned it as something I want. Am I missing something? If it quacks like a duck it’s still a duck. You can call it whatever you want but your just deluding yourself. Agree to this point. I've been using her feelings as a human shield against rejection. I’m interested in where you pulled …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/24 09:35 PM
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Again according to who? Are you sure those are mutually exclusive and at odds with one another. Are you sure that “deeper intimacy and trust” isn’t just your why of caretaking for your own comfort? I started writing another long DEER, and realized you're right: I've been scared to push for what I want when I want at risk of being rejected. I've used her feelings as an excuse. I do have sincere concerns about my wife's physical and mental health, which I touched on in Jan '24's OMS 1. Accommodati…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/24 08:53 PM
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What makes you think I was triggered?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 05:35 PM
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Try living beyond your basic blue pill, Madonna/whore attitude for a trial period. This is useful. Step 5 of Anxious Wives part 2 as I understand it is creating a space to blend comfort with sexual escalation, so they become one and the same. Effectively breaking the Madonna/Whore distinction. I'm taking a longer and more complicated path than just bulldozing boundaries to satisfy my desires only. Doing that resulted in more interesting and frequent sex; now I want to createvdeeper trust and int…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 05:34 PM
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There's a lot of hate in your post history. You okay?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 04:25 PM
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My Vday gift was more a calculated and gamified framework I had been thinking about for a while. It has the advantages of introducing routine and novelty to our relationship, but I was openly clear that it was something I wanted and would maintain. There's a nuance to being considerate of my circumstances while being resolute to my goals; and I do write a lot about my wife being the main influence to my circumstances. Writing is helping me calibrate just how much influence I have over her. While…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 12:54 PM
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Good Lover Validation. By all means, if she wants to cum, let her, but it's not a goal in your direct control. A more practical approach would be to set conditions for the pursuit of mutual pleasure. But a far more interesting approach could be which boundaries or compliance testing you can push after she's cum.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 10:33 PM
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Yep, good catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 06:54 PM
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I have also noticed that my wife tends to postpone sex verbally just before it gets to the point, but then doesn't follow her words. For example, when in bed in the morning on a weekend, and things start to heat up, she is like let me get a coffee first and I'll be back with you shortly, which of course doesn't happen. What stopped you from taking her in the kitchen while that coffee percolated? Shit tests are rarely overt. You also missed a compliance test opportunity: "Yeah babe, get me one to…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:49 PM
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This reads like a humble brag. You say want to be more socially orientated and practice approaching, but also say you had no trouble picking up dual plates. Why are you really here? What goals do you actually want to accomplish? How will they benefit you?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:37 PM
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OMS 6 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids aged 6 and under BW 204(+5), BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 268; DL 354; BP 270. What I'm working towards I want to say less and communicate more. I want to collectively hone my body language, tone, cadence, emotions and intention to singularly convey my desires in as few words as is necessary. Making progress here with acting congruent to my feelings and immediate goals. I'm being receptive to behavior I want, and just ignoring other stuff instead of being p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 10:32 AM
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OMS 5 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids under age 6 BW 199(+2), BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 268(+8); DL 354; BP 270(+9). What I'm working towards I want to say less and communicate more. I want to collectively hone my body language, tone, cadence, emotions and intention to singularly convey my desires in as few words as is necessary. I've experimented with posture, tone, mirroring and facial expressions as tactical force multipliers to verbal messaging with reasonable success. The strategic chal…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 10:26 AM
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Lots to unpack here, but some pointed observations for sure: Don't get in my own way; keep doing with less thinking; and maintain focus on myself are all solid course corrections. The underlying thirst for validation and service leadership are self-sabotage. There's a balance here I haven't figured out between the self-satisfaction of leading my family successfully and reaping the fruits on that labour vs. setting myself on fire to influence things beyond my direct control. True OI and boundary …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/24 01:45 PM
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Why? And what actions are you taking to achieve this. I want to be congruent in what and how I communicate on multiple levels. Being brief and succient reduces my likelihood to DEER, and subtle non-verbal communication can be more effective and influential in certain scenarios, especially when conveyed with emotion. Getting control of my negative feelings first is fundamental to genuine expression, and that's where I've been focusing: Finding other purposes to stir my passions and re-energise fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 04:40 PM
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OMS 4 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids under age 6. BW 199 lbs (+2), BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 260; DL 354; BP 261. What I'm working towards I want to say less and communicate more. I want to collectively hone my body language, tone, cadence, emotions and intention to singularly convey my desires in as few words as is necessary. TWOTSM opened my mind to the idea that game isn't just limited to seduction. Penetrating moods from a calm, centered, and positive perspective requires full-time appl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 03:04 AM
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OMS 3 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids under age 6BW 197(-1), BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 260; DL 354; BP 261. What I'm working towards I want to say less and communicate more. I want to collectively hone my body language, tone, cadence, emotions and intention to singularly convey my desires in as few words as is necessary. u/threekindsoflucky pointed out my 'frame' during an emotionally volatile confrontation was a lie. I'm realizing frame can't be faked because it's an expression of my core; …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 10:13 PM
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Decent analysis, and appreciate the play-by-play. The magnitude of these tests is unlike anything I've encountered before. Certainly shit testing, but also getting shitty-comfort test vibes. I need to develop better game to establish the lead-up conditions and solid frame to navigate these tests. Otherwise I'm doomed to repeat them until something breaks. Full balls are just for motivation.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 01:04 PM
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You're saying I can't fake frame because it comes from from my core. This is my major weakness; knowing what needs to be done being at odds with the immediate emotional response. I want the two to be congruent in an honest and genuine expression of self. DNGAF -> OI -> Abundance is the autistic path I'm struggling with.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:41 PM
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OMS 2 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 kids under age 6; youngest is special needs. BW 198, BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 260; DL 354; BP 261. What I'm working towards I want to say less and communicate more. I want to collectively hone my body language, tone, cadence, emotions and intention to singularly convey my desires in as few words as is necessary. Accidentally stumbled across some successful interactions: I made brief eye contact while channeling disappointment after she prioritized a phone ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 02:02 PM
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Gotcha. Was using non-latex.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/24 01:34 AM
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This will be hard for me, but I'm grateful to have a problem that's within my control. I can see my judgment comes from covert contracted expectations driven by ego and its need for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 04:54 PM
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You're not wrong about my hamster. I have been placing too much emphasis on her mental injury that I've been in her frame. To be a good leader, you need good followers. Followers come and go for good and bad leaders alike. 'Good' (read: effective) leadership is simply using one's followers to successfully pursue your goals. Or as we like to say: MRP fixes the man, not the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 01:24 AM
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A woman loves a strong frame in which to fall into when things are uncertain or emotional. Rather than thinking about how her mood should determine how you act, you could look to lead her and set the mood yourself. Fuck, you're right. I've been too needlessly focused on avoiding triggering a mental/emotional injury. It's no different than any other injury - I wouldn't adjust my frame if she had a broken leg; I'd accommodate for it and carry on. This should be no different. ​ Okay, so what? How s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 01:10 AM
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How do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 01:33 AM
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Go see a urologist or OB/GYN. 3 years with no results sounds like a shitty ROI. Tell me about it. It's intermittent, and health care regionally has sucked since COVID. It was only last month we finally got the referral and meeting with an OB/GYN.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 01:31 AM
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This sounds like a lot of altering your behaviour based on your wife’s feelings. Whose frame is that? Ask yourself why you apply non-judgemental comfort, light game and banter. These are great. Then ask yourself why you first examine how your wife is feeling before applying what you think is the appropriate technique. You make a good point. My behaviors are typically aimed at pulling her into my frame, but she is dealing with very recent and sever grief. My instinct is to suspend the rules akin …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 01:21 AM
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I'm currently dealing with my wife in a similar situation. My findings are preliminary, but what seems to be working is providing non-judgemental comfort while she's mourning, and light game when she's in a positive mood. Distracting her with kino and fun banter when she's present usually leads to fooling around, but I haven't pushed sex for other reasons. Attachment theory may work for you in increasing her sexial responsiveness. I set limits on checking up on her to avoid orbiting/hovering, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:18 PM
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I asked myself why can't I initiate while she's asleep? What's the harm in that? My internal response was "she'll be mad you woke her up" and I knew what I had to do to destroy that thought. Initiated and got some complaints on waking her up, I just pushed through because I was horny as fuck. Cavemanned Congrats for pushing through a self-imposed obstacle. How did she respond afterwards? ​ Wife wasn't paying much attention to me, no sexual tension throughout the week. I know this is my fault. If…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:35 PM
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OMS #10 Late 30s. Married 9 years. 2 Kids under age 6. BW 198 lbs, BF 15%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 260; DL 354; BP 261. My last [OMS](http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/aJ2nsMTx10) post was 20 Sep 22. The strike through acknowledges I'm starting this process over from the beginning. Summary of past 18 months I spent half a year overseas without my family to lead a specialist team. In this role I became internationally renowned in my industry, earned double my salary, and picked up enough accol…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 03:24 PM
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You're on OYS #10, and have been struggling with defining your mission for two weeks. If you have a MAP, the easy fixes/biggest gains have been or are soon-to-be obtained. Does that feelz good? That motivation is a trap. As men progress, we are forced to tackle harder fixes with limited resources, as well as boundary probing and challenges to your frame. Momentum will stall, backsides will happen, and major unexpected hurdles will arise; we have to relentlessly decide what best merits your atten…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 01:25 PM
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Mission To be a man that other men want to be, and that women want to fuck. This mission statement depends on other people's opinions. Re-read WISNIFG Assertive Right #1.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 10:18 PM
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"I am happy to be a “guy who fucks”…or at least a guy who has fucked since the last OYS. " A guy who's having sex is not the same as a man who fucks. The former is a victim of circumstance. The latter makes choices: He chooses who he wants to fuck; how he wants to fuck; when he wants to fuck; above all doesn't settle for anything beneath his standards. A man who fucks can go as long as he needs to without getting his dick wet, and still be a man who fucks. He can initiate and be turned down, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 05:41 PM
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BLUF: Truly owing one's shit should include figuring out for themselves what reporting frequency works best. MRP was never meant to be perscriptive. There's value in weekly reporting to form habits, promote immersion and reinforce mental model analysis. Eventually the easy milestones have been supassed, progress slows and inflection deepens. '1 step = 1 gain' transitions to '2 steps forward, 1 step back'. At that point reporting just to meet an arbitrary deadline is wasted energy for both the po…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 05:39 AM
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27.8% did feel too high to me, even 4 months ago. But rather than DEER and feed my ego, I've been using it to motivate progress. I get angry everytime I see that number. It's hanging in my gym, and the only way I'll take it down is after another scan in 2-3 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 07:37 PM
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What's your height? 6'2". 268 lb BP from OMS #1 was pre-injury (Dec 2021); working back to it. But babysitters/nannies are like $20/hr, max. If forking over $100-$200 a week is a tremendous struggle for you, your issues are likely financial Money's not the problem so much as quality applicants working around our schedules. We have a weekly sitter, but dependability has become a problem. Just need to source a better candidate when I'm back in two weeks; bonus for me if they can start before I lea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 07:10 PM
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OMS #9 Age 37. Married 8 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). Weight: 203 lbs. BF: 27.8% DEXA @ 02 Jun 22. Lifts (1RM lbs): BP - 240; OHP - 139; Squats: 239; DL: 292. Since starting OYS, I've upped my hygiene routines. Picked up a wall mounted shaving mirror so I can brush, flosh, and DE shave in the shower to save time, focus, and avoid interruptions. Biggest improvement was discovering Mens Nair; one 10 min application keeps me smooth for around 3 weeks without nicks or ingrowns. Also invested in pH balance…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 12:51 PM
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OMS #8 Age 37. Married 8 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). Weight: 203 lbs. BF: 18% Navy (27.8% DEXA @ 02 Jun 22). Lifts (1RM lbs): BP - 240; OHP - 127; Squats: 239; DL: 275. Been a month since last post, with alot of developments. I'm now confirmed as the team lead for the out of country assignment I was seeking. Got a week long work trip to Europe in a couple weeks the wife will join for the first few days. I'm treading water with my myriad of responsabilities: kids' new daycare and school schedules, rep…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 12:49 PM
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Have you always been this fat? Probably, although it likely got worse over my past 2-3 years. It took that first DEXA scan last June to really scare me up into to making meaningful lifestyle changes. Looking forward to comparing against new results this Dec.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 02:04 PM
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What are you getting out of this? It's not a loaded question. Right now, I'm branching out of my comfort zone and opening myself up to positive male bonding. I'm also laying the groundwork to set aside me-time outside the family. Sounds paltry, but it's my start point to gradually cultivate a dynamic social circle of cool and interesting people.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 07:41 PM
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OMS #7 Age 37. Married 8 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). Weight: 206 lbs. BF: 27.8% (DEXA @ 02 Jun 22). Lifts (1RM lbs): BP - 238(95% target); OHP - 127(85% target); Squats: 215(72% target); DL: 267(89% target). BMR: 1806 cals. Reading: NMMNG(finished), The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, MAP Last week's men's group was promising. Weekly meetings are virtual, which I hate, although each member hosts an in-person event each year, so there's potential. Most guys were absent due to end summer vacations, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 01:34 PM
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You could be right. I'm currently doing Wendler's classic 4 day program with Boring But Bigger, followed by five sets of three accessory exercises (pull, push and core isolatations), then finish with 30 mins steady state cardio for conditioning and fat burn. I'm rounding up all lifts to the nearest 5lbs, and for each day's main lift I do AMREP for the last set.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 07:33 PM
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OMS #6 Age 37. Married 8 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). Weight: 206 lbs. BF: 27.8% (DEXA @ 02 Jun 22). Lifts (1RM lbs): BP - 235; OHP - 119; Squats: 203 lbs; DL: 235. BMR: 1806 cals. Reading: NMMNG, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Joined a men's group last week. First meeting is tonight. On Cycle 3 Week 2 of my 5-3-1 program. Haven't missed a lift day yet, but skipped one conditioning workout last week. This week looks to be the same. Fitting in cardio splits in the evenings this weekend to make up …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 10:27 PM
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I guess being a "blue pulled beta bitch" doesn't stop you from spell- nor fact-checking, either: fat cells don't grow back. The remaining cells may expand if unhealthy behaviors continue, but the total volume, and their respective receptors, will not increase after surgical removal/destruction.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 09:09 PM
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I'm observing the side bar material and noticing congruencies with my day-to-day life, sure. In fighter pilot doctrine, Act is the last of four steps to tactical engagement; Observe, Orient, and Decide all come first. In the meantime, I'll continue doing lifts, readings and OMS.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 07:58 PM
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When it removes actual fat cells; they don't grow back, FYI. It's just another amoral tool. Surgery, diet and exercise aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 07:28 PM
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My mission boils down to what I wrote, which is breaking out of service leadership behaviours. I had this conversation with u/sea-tease on OMS #1: Service (or servant) leadership is a widely practiced organisational philosophy where practitioners prioritise followers' needs: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Servant_leadership My mission is to transition to a focus on my own objectives. My fundamental issue is: do I want these things for me, or have I rationalized them for others? Those determinat…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:08 PM
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I'm demonstrably doing better daily. Banging your head against a wall will burn calories; doesn't discount more effective, efficient and sustainable ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:48 PM
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OMS #5 Situation. 37; married 7 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). DEXA: 27.8% BF (02 Jun 22). Mission. I will transition from a service leadership lifestyle focused on others to an assertive leadership lifestyle focused on myself. a. Vision. No progress here. Still have my 7 year, likely career beta conceived, career plan. b. MAP. No significant changes - Fitness and Frame remain my priorities. Main effort remains taking action, accountability and course correct as I go. c. Reading. WISNIFG (completed), Mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 12:54 PM
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OMS #4 Situation. 37; married 7 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). DEXA: 27.8% BF (02 Jun 22). Mission. I will transition from a service leadership lifestyle focused on others to an assertive leadership lifestyle focused on myself. a. Vision. No progress here. Still have my 7 year, likely career beta conceived, career plan. b. MAP. No significant changes - Fitness and Frame remain my priorities. Main effort remains taking action, accountability and course correct as I go. c. Reading. WISNIFG, Mindful Attrac…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:55 PM
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One of the best notes I got on business was “you can’t manage profit". Great point. It may not be attainable and realistic in terms of SMART, but I needed a start point to get in gear. My planning considerations were based on losing a lb of fat per week, and gaining a lb of muscle per month (i.e. generic newbie gains). I may not have the genetic potential to pull both off simultaneously - although I'm still going to try like hell. Thanks for the Strongerbyscience and stronger.io references.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 08:18 AM
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OMS #3 Situation. 37; married 7 years; 2 kids (4 & 1). DEXA: 27.8% BF (02 Jun 22). Mission. I will transition from a service leadership lifestyle focused on others to an assertive leadership lifestyle focused on myself. a. Vision. I was challenged in my last post to present my vision, and I'm still struggling with this. I've always been goal-orientated, and highly successful in setting and achieving objectives both professionally and personally. But those skills were honed in service leadership,…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 12:30 AM
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That is a high count. I was trying to illustrate my actions despite hers, highlight my interpretation of comfort vs shit tests, and open myself to critiques on frame and technique. My bad if I've misunderstood rule 9. My mission and MAP remain the same, as per Health Goals & Progress. I am, however, currently lacking a specific goal for the marriage short of "I want to wake up everyday with lips wrapped around my dick without asking". My vision here isn't any different from my current reality. P…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 04:37 PM
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OMS #2 (note name changed from u/popular-history6905) Situation. 37; married 7 years; 2 kids (4 & <1). DEXA: 27.8% BF (02 Jun 22). Mission. I will transition from a service leadership lifestyle focused on others to an assertive leadership lifestyle focused on myself. a. MAP. No significant changes - Fitness and Frame remain my priorities. Main effort remains taking action, accountability and course correct as I go. b. Reading: WISNIFG, 5/3/1 Forever (completed). Finished the foundational materia…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 02:23 PM
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