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ADVICENikiY12/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 02:05 PM
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ADVICENikiY12/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 01:45 PM
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Not sure how to help with the cleaning side (although I loved another poster's idea of hiring a cleaner for a one time deep clean to help you get out of a rut, what a good idea!) but when it comes to meals I use a decision spinner if I haven't got the motivation to think of what to cook! It was a free spinner app called decision roulette (I'm sure there are lots of others this was a first download and it worked so I haven't bothered looking for another one) and I just filled it with all the meal…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/22 10:47 AM
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While there really isn't a lot to go on here, has your husband been tested for ADHD? I only ask because poor organisational skills is one characteristic as is impulsivity which can have dangerous consequences. While ADHD itsself isn't life threatening, the life expectancy of someone with ADHD is a lot shorter due to the much higher risk of doing something that could result in a loss of life. If it is something like ADHD, you have a tough road ahead of you and you will need to learn all about the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 08:33 AM
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That is such a lovely post, honestly. I hope your first kiss is as special as you're hoping it will be 😊 Just a little info from over here, I didn't have any intimacy with my now-husband until we were in a proper relationship and exclusive. It may seem prudish but we are not each other's first partner and I said when we first got together that I wanted to wait a bit before being bedroom-intimate with each other because I've been used in the past and just didn't like the idea of jumping in. He ac…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 11:15 AM
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That's a good perspective to be honest! He is a bit of a homeboy, he's happy to be at home most of the time! He's taking up blacksmithing right now and hoping to make a career out of it down the line (we have a few friends and connections on either side in the industry so it's not as crazy as it sounds!), just getting to forge sorted out and up and running, hopefully that will give him a little bit of focussed man time! I might see what other things he would like to do though! Thank you, it is a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 08:42 AM
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I know he's.comfortable where he is, but he is slowly waking up to realising that now he has a wife, a.house, dog, and hopefully soon a baby that the finances bit does need to change. He was actually talking a lot last night about doing his blacksmithing qualifications (his dream is to blacksmith and I've been encouraging it because dreams are good!). It's early days. We had a.good chat about it last night and I was very non pushy (which is really hard for me!🤣) It does make a difference!👍🏻 I've…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 08:36 AM
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I get why you asked but no he really isn't selfish. He's actually had a pretty tough childhood and upbringing where he had to care for himself and he was no one's priority. He's actually managed to sort his life out so that he has a job and a family etc that he cherishes but because his upbringing wasn't one of any ambition (it was an ambition just to stay out of prison etc) he is happy with his lot. My upbringing was very different and I'm trying to keep that in mind. It's pretty much a case of…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 05:01 PM
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I'm going to speak with him about it. I know he's warm to the idea of he is worth more than what they're paying as he was hearing up a few months ago to ask for a pay rise but his manager actually got in there first... But the payrise was about 20p an hour which really doesn't make much difference overall 😔 they then made him feel like he only deserved that and not to tell the others because they didn't work hard enough for it... Honestly I was so annoyed with his work but proud of him at the sa…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 04:53 PM
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Oh it's fully me that worries we're wasting our lives. I'm very cynical about work because I've been burned by previous employers so I have basically no loyalty at all. He is almost the opposite, he's happy to work even though he gets very little in return from them a d he feels very loyal to them because they gave him a job without any experience, but that was 5 years ago and they still use the same excuse for passing him over for any kind of promotion 😔
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 04:47 PM
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He's in engineering which here in his role doesn't pay much. He gets the overtime at 1.25x his hourly rate which is why he does around 10 hours extra a week that just about means he earns ok, but holiday pay is only base rate which means he loses those 12.5 extra hours he gets paid for per week. He has never really job shopped because he was never really taught that and I'm very cynical about work (I've switched so many times which is how I ended up earning well and working not a lot!). You're r…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 03:56 PM
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Thank you for that. You touched on the point I really do want to be cautious of. I'm a planner and an entrepreneur by nature, his family have always been "get a job, stick at it for life, don't complain" Which is exactly what he's doing, but I want more for us as a couple and future family than that and it's not about finances as such it's about time and finances to enjoy each other and enjoy life. I definitely don't want to make him feel like a failure because I am to be honest so proud of him …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 03:13 PM
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Thanks I'll see if I can get hold of it 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 02:41 PM
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Sadly fertility doesn't work like that. My mother needed 3 rounds of fertility treatment for both my sister and my brother (who was sadly stillborn). I was the "happy accident" after she was told she couldn't have any more children. She was also a very healthy weight, and young, active, stress free, didn't drink or smoke, etc. My cousin was told she would probably never conceive, she has 3 kids all happy natural accidents. You just don't know until you start trying sadly and it is the woman that…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 10:14 AM
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I can't really say much to suggest financially, but I would say that if you want children please don't just assume it will happen quickly so you can and should put it off. You may be lucky enough to fall pregnant within one or two cycles, but there are for more women for whom it takes a lot longer (19 months and counting for us now). I don't mean to be horrible but the heartache of desperately wanting to convince and having waited for the "right time" only to not be able to and have to wait endl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 09:00 AM
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Love seeing stories like this. I didn't believe the "when you know, you know" crowd until it happened to me! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 03:36 PM
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Love seeing stories like this. I didn't believe the "when you know, you know" crowd until it happened to me! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 03:36 PM
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Excellent trolling. 🥱
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 01:33 PM
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Interesting take. Not desperate, we both realised very early on that it was right between us. Thankfully, my husband is very levelheaded and down to earth and they are two of the many things I love about him. The exact opposite of internet trolls.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 01:29 PM
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I hope this can make you feel better. I was chronically single, sent on plenty of dates but never found the right man. At 33 I chanced a swipe and sent a message to a guy on a dating app who seemed alright. I genuinely assumed he would be an arse like the rest of them. 18 months later and we're married 😅 Don't give up, men like women who are confident in themselves, who aren't mopey or always playing victim. Stand up straight, shoulders back, smile and face the world. Oh and give dating sites a …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 07:17 AM
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Trello!! We have a shared household management Trello board. It's free to use and works great. We use it sprint style, so we have four main lists: things that need fixing, stuff to build/make, wishlist, tasks. Then we have the Kanban bins: in progress, done, blocked, car park. Tasks/ideas/plans get out onto whatever list they need to sit on and get assigned a colour (red = urgent, blue = whenever, yellow = soon, green = done). Then they can get moved around and the colours changed as things get …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:16 AM
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There's nothing wrong with your plans! Hopefully your parents will want you to be happy above all else. Fyi you can do writing from home and manage a household and babies at the same time without spreading yourself too thinly, so it's hardly a waste of your degree ☺️ I do marketing from home (mostly content writing at the moment) and have a music degree! 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:01 AM
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No the UK, doesn't pay well here sadly, and his company isn't amazing either. One of the things I love about him is that he's very loyal, but sometimes it's misplaced!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 03:40 PM
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I'm in marketing, he's in engineering. Sadly engineering pays just over minimum wage whereas my marketing job is, admittedly, very cushty. It makes no sense for me to quit when I have a huge amount of freedom to be homely and look after him. It also means we've got the financial freedom to help him get his qualifications to improve his job prospects 😊 Edit: spelling, because -despite my job- my keyboard still hates me!😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 01:56 PM
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Don't give up the prospect of a good career before you've even started. I am 34 and have only just got married to my dream man (we met when I was 32 he 37, but I would have married him if we'd met at 22 to be honest!), but I'm still the higher earner in the relationship just because my line of work pays more than his. I love my husband because he is the man for me, but financially neither of us can give up work. Your chosen career path will give you the option of going part time if you want to, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 08:11 AM
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Good for you! ❤️ However "nice" the man seems, never settle for someone who is emotionally, verbally, or physically abusive. Protect yourself first x Edit: spelling
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 03:05 PM
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Some words of encouragement: you can do this! I moved out of my parents at 29 (it's really expensive where I grew up) to a brand new county and new city 2.5 hours away, new job, no friends, nothing nearby that I "knew". I'm now 34 and got married this week. There's an old proverb that says "a change is as good as a rest". I'm not much into proverbs etc but that one has always stuck with me and rings true! Can you make some changes in your life to feel more attractive to yourself? Maybe look at y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 09:36 AM
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Firstly, chill! Take away exists for a reason! As modern women, we might have to find a few cheat methods to get the job done, and that is a good cheat! Ok, now you can breathe! I'd suggest learning to cook a few core meals that can be cooked in around 20 minutes. Things like spaghetti Bolognese, chicken in white sauce with rice or pasta, a simple stir-fry with straight to work noodles, these are all great core meals to have in your inventory, and to always make sure you have the ingredients for…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 08:52 AM
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Thanks! I can honestly say, he is the one for me! 🥰 Hope everyone on this sub who is looking finds their perfect person too, life is so much better when you have your other half!😁
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 08:41 PM
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Being a nerd, I love that!😂😂 I did have a bit of a checklist in my mind but it was things I felt were reasonable: job, ability to drive, independent living (eg not with mum and dad), manners, future plans that include getting married and starting a family, ability to hold a deep conversation, ability to be silly and have fun. Thankfully I got all of them in the amazing man I'm marrying, and he's good looking too which is an absolute bonus!😂
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 10:06 AM
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I can only speak from my own experience but I was completely honest from the beginning, I asked about my nearly-husband's attitude to marriage, whether he wanted kids etc and where he saw himself in a few years. Yes it was a bit like a job interview for the guys I dated before but equally I didn't waste time with boys who weren't ready to settle down! My nearly-husband (15 days!) was happy to answer honestly, he spoke about his own family growing up and how he wants to do things differently. I w…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 10:03 AM
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I tell my fiancée that I'm really proud of him. Like he's got into doing a bit of DIY around the house and he grew up in a house without a proper male role model so he spends time watching YouTube videos and making sure he's getting things right (measure twice, cut once!) after he's done I always say I'm proud of him for making our home better and thank you for doing XYZ. It's the little things that count. If it's a sport or whatever, as others have suggested, a complement on the skill of a part…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:21 AM
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Have you had a conversation about exclusivity? I'm only asking because my boyfriend-now-fiancée and I had that conversation very early on, within weeks of meeting. We described our relationship as courting after 3 dates and I sat down with him and said that I wasn't comfortable with seeing other people or continuing to use dating sites if there was going to be something between us, I found out that he had actually not bothered to log back in after our first date (♥️) but I was honest and said th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/22 10:12 AM
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