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And got away with it 🎯
/r/MensRights06/05/24 02:47 PM
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Putting oneself first is a sound survival strategy. Better late than never it seems. I learned the hard way myself and totally get where you’re coming from. It doesn’t mean we can’t care about and for others, it just means maintaining a healthy balance in resource allocation and mental health. It sounds hard and uncaring, but maybe it’s best to never expect to be loved, at least not by a human. As a bit of a long winded background story, I (58M) have a long time (20+yrs) friendship with a former…
/r/MensRights05/05/24 08:31 PM
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One can only survive when he succeeds to the best of his ability because it’s the only option he has - that, or figuring out there was a deeper meaning behind not reaching the summit, the game is futile, or there are more important things to spend one’s energy on. The other doesn’t have to keep trying because somebody will eventually put an arm around her shoulder and say “I love you anyway.”
/r/MensRights03/05/24 05:17 PM
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It seems incredibly challenging for the media, educators, politicians and those working in the legal system to acknowledge that children regardless of gender, and men and women are all human first and foremost - human, with a personality that may or may not deny the right of another to live a life free of sexual harassment and abuse. Personality it seems is at the root of these assault cases because assault is perpetrated by both sexes and all gender identities. But if we were to admit that we k…
/r/MensRights03/05/24 04:49 AM
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At first glance it may seem the comparison doesn’t hold up because the venues don’t necessarily match. In other words, women who are killed by men don’t necessarily experience this at the work site. This is going to sound really weird at first, but the underlying reason either demographic experiences fatalities in the numbers cited may not be necessarily due to carelessness. In other words, a woman is not often considered killed by a man because he was trying to cut some steak and she accidental…
/r/MensRights03/05/24 04:25 AM
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It sounds like you had an amicable resolution in your situation. I’m sorry, but it seems it could also go another way. A former colleague of mine attended a mandatory employee sexual harassment prevention seminar whereby the examples were of straight males harassing straight women. For six months after the seminar he was persistently approached by a male timekeeper and a male staff person. No matter what he said to these guys they would not take no for an answer. HR had to get involved. Nobody g…
/r/MensRights03/05/24 03:18 AM
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It seems that the label is more a power trip than anything else. Just because somebody came up with idea to give the phenomenon a name doesn’t mean it is a new concept. In a roundabout way, which you are going to say is way too long, let me explain. There are essentially three kinds of people: (A) people who feel insecure and seek control over others and resources to mask their fear that somebody will take what they have away any moment; (B) people who live in total freedom while having a health…
/r/MensRights02/05/24 10:35 PM
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The vast majority of people seem to think that behavior is completely unrelated to the situation at hand. People may be shocked for two minutes when they hear that survivors of a shipwreck made it because they resorted to cannibalism, but they can’t picture themselves doing it because they think they will never be in that situation. They literally dissociate - which is what people do when asked the bear question. Observing somebody’s behavior is a much better guide. So, let me introduce my bear……
/r/MensRights02/05/24 02:57 PM
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It seems a powerful politician should use this as an opportunity to address the apparent gross police misconduct against the public, and that of the legal system as a whole in all of the UK. They could use her name for a new medal, initiative or law that initiates the complete overhaul of law enforcement. It is way overdue. Police in the UK and their attitude towards the public is an utter joke. Male and female chiefs of police alike have been complicit for decades. No wonder the UK is the home …
/r/MensRights30/04/24 05:40 PM
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There are two dynamics going on. First there is dating - the “preview” or “beta” version. Then comes the marriage - “maintaining or improving status,” “legal status of the husband,” “version 1.0.” A woman will shift her focus accordingly. No ordinary man is educated in this dynamic. A woman is born to think this way. It’s worse when she is a (toxic) narcissist. Society does not teach anyone who is more likely to be(come) a narcissist, but there may be a way. Second, from a metaphysical perspecti…
/r/MensRights28/04/24 10:27 PM
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You’re welcome. If you need more info, I’d be happy to elaborate off-Reddit or via DM. On X, I post as @purposeday
/r/MensRights28/04/24 09:20 PM
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You’re welcome. It seems that the stereotype of male aggression comes from at least a survival urge and a quest for control at the same time. There seems to be biological principle at play that only strong, dominant masculinity counts for procreation. Because of weak self-regulation and narcissism, those who don’t qualify may opt for manipulative, subversive tactics including violence. But it should be noted that perpetuating an image is more important than anything in this quest for control. It…
/r/MensRights28/04/24 08:27 PM
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Others have generously commented on many issues I believe impact men from a legal and moral perspective, but if there is one thing it seems that affects men most is that society appears to deny men’s emotions and thus at least half of their existence. There are many empathic women I’d imagine. I’ve seen women suffer while caring for abusive men. But it seems the emotions of men get very little attention at the age when most attention should be paid - infancy and childhood. We may never solve the…
/r/MensRights28/04/24 05:15 PM
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That’s awesome! I always find myself thinking about that. The main story today is usually how terrible life was for women in the past, but then we see how women were warriors, property owners, business owners and writers alongside men. It always makes me wonder what gender relations were like back then.
/r/MensRights25/04/24 01:19 AM
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Brilliant observations, thank you 👍🏻👍🏻 If I hadn’t been watching so many documentaries recently about abandoned buildings, ancient civilizations in North America and further south and more along these lines, while trying to make sense of my role as a man in a far less romantic and masculine life than I had imagined, I might not have grasped the relevance right away - but it seems your material actually bridges a gap for me. The one thing we can’t know for certain about historic civilizations tha…
/r/MensRights25/04/24 01:11 AM
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It’s a great question but it seems it’s not just certain women who don’t accept accountability. As a guy, I don’t know if I was programmed to think this way by my single mother who tricked my father into having me in the hope of either keeping him or getting financial support, but I almost see it as a challenge to stay away from women who refuse to be accountable. I have a good lady friend who is single (she is not my type and vice versa) and 15 years older who thinks similarly about men until I…
/r/MensRights25/04/24 12:32 AM
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Good post, thank you. There’s some interesting data in that second study in particular.
/r/MensRights21/04/24 03:33 PM
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👍🏻👍🏻 Agreed, it’s entirely possible the effect is different for each of us men. At this point I’m not objective of course. I can tell myself that I feel good but that hardly counts.
/r/MensRights20/04/24 03:17 AM
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When business owners realize that the men no longer show up alongside the women they may start changing their policy. But about that “feeling happier” aspect of men being in a relationship with a woman, I read this book a while back (Intimate Communion, David Deida) in which I found a very interesting claim - which I confess is true for me. The claim says that a man “feels better” the moment he sees a woman - anywhere, she doesn’t have to be a friend or otherwise known. I’ve tried it out in any …
/r/MensRights20/04/24 02:45 AM
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It’s happening in a legal context already. I attended a sexual harassment training in Washington State. They informed us that the law has been changed. Sexual harassment is now deemed to occur if it happens just once, no longer as a repetitive pattern. SH can be any comment a woman deems to have a sexual undertone. One accusation and it’s on the record. I am not going into the office anymore. I’m taking only calls on a recorded line and stick to text/email as preferred communication. At this tra…
/r/MensRights13/04/24 05:31 PM
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At the first trial, one could have said the Attorney General was doing its job. But at the appeal, it’s obvious the two plaintiffs were not alone in the conspiracy against the warden.
/r/MensRights11/04/24 04:34 PM
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Great post. This is something everyone could learn something from even it is just a point of reflection. My whole married life revolves around prevention of health issues for this reason. Example, my wife felt depressed and made this the focus of everything. Her doctor happily obliged with medication. Doctor retired. Wife hates looking for a new doctor. I had started taking vita d3, so I suggested she do as well. She hasn’t refilled her prescription for four years. At some point she forgot about…
/r/MensRights11/04/24 02:41 PM
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Some crazy stuff out there
/r/MensRights11/04/24 01:50 PM
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Once every few episodes there could be a twist like here https://www.reddit.com/r/HairRaising/s/CTGyFU0Ju5
/r/MensRights11/04/24 01:16 PM
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I should have done that! It took me decades to understand Dark Side of the Moon even though I love looking at the stars. Not sure I 100% agree with Bob - I have felt plenty of emotional pain from classical music lol. Now, Reggae and jazz, that’s a different story.
/r/MensRights11/04/24 04:42 AM
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Agreed - lots of history albeit focused on those who were in a position to express their feelings through art. I never paid much attention to it even after reading Neville Goddard’s Feeling is the Secret. I was locked up with cPTSD trauma for many years though. That PF documentary did finally touch a chord for me.
/r/MensRights11/04/24 04:10 AM
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Interesting and sad. A documentary on Pink Floyd and the making of Dark Side of the Moon appears to shed light on how men can be considered sensitive. Here’s an interesting aspect of men vs women in leadership positions: “Authors of the book Why Leaders Fight analyzed every world leader from 1875 to 2004 and statistically examined gender differences in military aggression. They found that 36% of the female leaders initiated at least one militarized dispute, while only 30% of male leaders did the…
/r/MensRights10/04/24 10:36 PM
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Exactly. Just got out of situation with a startup run by men who pulled a fast one on everybody after getting a couple to trust them with their valuable IP. Every time stuff like this happens it confirms what I suspect - it’s possible to identify who lies and cheats but it’s a bit of work. This (a book called “11:59”) is where I ended up. It has quite a few good resources too.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 10:26 PM
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Until we know what makes a narcissist, until divorce laws stop favoring men, until we acknowledge that past trauma can have such a significant impact on one’s view of their spouse that the engagement period can’t be indicative of how the person is going to behave once married and that the spouse can’t be held responsible for it, never. Some know how to put up a good “show” to attract a spouse, then fall back to their depressed self who suffered abuse as a child and refuses to acknowledge it and …
/r/MensRights06/04/24 03:37 PM
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I don’t show emotions when anyone is present besides yours truly because (1) I have always been judged negatively in the past when I did it, and (2) it creates a vulnerable moment that somebody with malicious intent could exploit.
/r/MensRights04/04/24 04:32 PM
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Thanks for pointing it out. Please accept my apologies. You are entirely correct. There were two articles I wanted to link and it looks like I forgot both. This is one, “child murder by mothers, patterns and prevention” and this is the second: “…in 2017, a court found Raina Thaiday of Queensland, who killed her seven children and niece, had been experiencing a severe psychotic episode linked to schizophrenia triggered by long-term cannabis use. The court ruled she could not be found criminally r…
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:57 PM
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It sounds like you are upset about a negative connotation regarding cannabis. It seems best to read the article. The judge in that particular case appears to have let the mother off for cannabis use. Iirc she killed all seven of her children. Whether the association with cannabis is valid or not is not the issue. What is is that men score higher in violent crime stats. If a mother is not recorded as having committed a violent crime, that impacts statistics overall.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:09 PM
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If we consider that mothers often kill within the first year of a child’s life, and that their crime is often attributed to a mental condition or cannabis use and thus possibly left out of the equation at a higher rate, the numbers may be a bit different. This article provides some insight. A book that I use for my own research is Ghosts from the Nursery. It describes how drug and alcohol use affect the development of the infant brain. While boys and girls are expected to suffer equally from sub…
/r/MensRights03/04/24 07:17 PM
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🎯 -> what they haven’t figured out it seems (or they hope we don’t know) is that feminism finds it roots in the same place as machoism: insecurity. What we as humans, per the psychology profession, didn’t know yet is where insecurity comes from. Not the insecurity that makes one worry if there will be enough money to pay the bills. It’s the kind that makes one live in fear of not being enough (impostor syndrome), of being “found out” to not have what it takes, of being invalidated. This deep roo…
/r/MensRights02/04/24 03:12 PM
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Totally credible! True Story is a recent movie about a guy who impersonated a New York Times reporter after killing his two kids and wife and escaping to Mexico. He is caught, ends up in jail and gets letters from women, one of whom wants to marry him. For more relevant material, see this article about the undetected prevalence about female psychopathy.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 10:52 PM
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After I posted that comment, I realized I really should have a source. Thanks for pointing that out. In the early 2000s I read a lot of books along the lines of The Da Vinci Code - the one that described the Mayan research claimed to be more scientific/factual, but I didn’t keep the book nor did I write down who wrote it.
/r/MensRights01/04/24 10:11 PM
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Many years ago I read a book on archeological finds from the Mayans. Apparently, they were aware of this: that society would implode once women had taken control. It was pretty much inevitable because (many) women have never considered men human - it only took this long for enough of us to realize it. The only hope I have for humanity is that this movement may be a manifestation of narcissism, and that empathic women do in fact exist and are capable of accepting (empathic) men as human. This boo…
/r/MensRights01/04/24 02:58 PM
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Why has society never paid attention to this? Because they don’t have to. When the going gets rough, they just start a fight (aka war). Homo sapiens runs on three principles: survival, emotions, and karma. Emotions allow one to deceive. The urge to survive allows one to control. The last one is the trickiest of the three. Up to two thirds deny karma exists - regardless of gender. That’s why those in charge can rob the masses of their money with impunity. There have been women who supported their…
/r/MensRights27/03/24 03:42 PM
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Very interesting the way this is going. Yes, I’ve come across some research that suggests psychopathy among women is much more prevalent than society admits. Knowing how astrology is popular in India, I am curious if the method for determining who is a narcissist has been discovered at all like it is described in this book - “11:59”
/r/MensRights22/03/24 04:39 AM
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Thank you very much, this looks like a good study report 🎯
/r/MensRights14/03/24 03:01 PM
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Exactly 🎯
/r/MensRights13/03/24 03:17 PM
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Because people aren’t interested in what happens behind closed doors. Society is never going to know the real numbers on female domestic violence and emotional abuse against men. Men are baited with marriage and then what happens? Therapists don’t talk. They may be biased. Their clients may never tell the whole story for fear of being falsely reported. Hence, the defense can make up a good excuse. I was raised in a society that offered virtually full equality to women plus great workplace benefi…
/r/MensRights13/03/24 06:04 AM
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For as long as I live, women have used the narrative that “‘many’ men objectify women” against most men, especially those they find physically undesirable. Now they realize we are not averse to calling them out on them objectifying men in the same fashion if not more so. So yes, in order not to lose all respect there appears to be an attempt to soften the image and “accommodate” men more.
/r/MensRights12/03/24 10:32 PM
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Can’t wait to see it happen!
/r/MensRights09/03/24 03:09 AM
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On top of that, a large international law firm where my friends work does this plus the celebrations of women’s achievements, while sporting an extensive DEI program. Topping it off are its “black associates” events - but no events for any other demographic despite having many Asian and hispanic attorneys and staff.
/r/MensRights08/03/24 10:59 PM
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Why don’t we have a conversation about men who were raised by physically abusive mothers, physically abusive fathers, in a physically and emotionally unsafe and harmful environment where they were exposed to drugs and alcohol from the parents pre-natally? There is so much concrete evidence that drug and alcohol use permanently scars the brain; that exposure to violence can predispose men (and women) to become violent themselves. See Ghosts from the Nursery - link, for example. Unresolved trauma …
/r/MensRights08/03/24 02:54 AM
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My mother abused me but that doesn’t make me act up against my wife. It sounds like some people have trouble setting boundaries for themselves.
/r/MensRights02/03/24 04:29 PM
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🎯 Over the past few months I really put effort into reflecting on whether this is true - and it’s hitting me really hard that this man-hating is much worse than I ever thought it was. It’s super depressing actually. About twenty years ago I visited a couple in their late sixties. Very well off because the husband had a really well-paying job as an engineer. He worked and traveled for work his entire life and did all maintenance and upkeep of their farmhouse on weekends. After a pleasant dinner c…
/r/MensRights29/02/24 05:17 AM
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An interesting aside may be that most men didn’t have the right to vote either when women didn’t have it. Initially, only if they owned land and were of means could men vote.
/r/MensRights28/02/24 05:16 PM
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To me it seems this is the one issue that distinguishes women from men. How do women expect circumcised men in particular to be empathic towards women’s issues when this practice of male genital mutilation is considered par for the course? And still, that’s not the end of it because women are often unsympathetic towards other women as well. But I digress because the question is really, why women don’t accept a man’s body as it was created? The comedian Amy Schumer even made fun of uncircumcised …
/r/MensRights28/02/24 04:15 PM
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That may be so but there is an inherent bias against men regardless. Women seem much more ready to shove under the proverbial rug that they can be mean to each other or worse. As a man I feel as if I have prove myself every day but that could be personal. I don’t expect empathy, but over the years I have come to realize I shouldn’t be empathic to a stranger right off the bat like I used to. A lot of people may suffer from complex ptsd without realizing it. This may make them people pleasers or h…
/r/MensRights26/02/24 11:38 PM
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I bet young men would look up to and appreciate women for their compassion if they felt safe and understood in their infant years. This is a very important discussion. For what it’s worth, contrast what we see now with what happened in the late 1970s and most of the 80s. In those days my mother took me as a teenager to new age spiritual communities and workshops where men and women were supposed to gain a better understanding of each other and of what it means to be human. Nothing meaningful cam…
/r/MensRights25/02/24 05:43 AM
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Boys often can’t even get attention for the abuse they suffer from religious perverts and others in positions of authority. It’s almost like there is utter bias against male suffering from the people who are supposed to be on our side. Narcissism seems much more of a problem than acknowledged - and it doesn’t discriminate. It affects every gender identity.
/r/MensRights23/02/24 03:08 PM
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Especially a woman with Moon in the sign of Cancer in her horoscope 😉
/r/MensRights19/02/24 11:20 PM
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Great post, very constructive angle. In my experience, having studied industrial engineering and used to looking at both the system and the psychology of people in that system, it seems there are certain things purposely being withheld from us - people in general but men in particular. One of these is our biological premise: how hormones affect us differently, what our instinct are in threatening situations and how we can self-regulate. While I was studying all this I came across something else …
/r/MensRights17/02/24 09:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like a very demoralizing experience not just for you but for your son as well. If there was one company I didn’t want to work for because it was known as an old boys’ club with a very negative environment for women, it was Bear Stearns - a large investment bank that went under in the 2008 crisis. But, they were sued hard and made to clear up their act. So when a temp agency got me a job there, I thought the worst would be over. What I found was a lot of wome…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 05:02 PM
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How is a study going to help me in my particular situation? It’s a great question though and I hope you get intelligent answers. My wife told me right after we got married that I’d better not get sick because she does not intend to take care of me. That gave me even more of an incentive to stay healthy and very far away from junk food and doctors. I also refused to pay for her medical insurance after she (1) blew the entire annual budget for the two of us on exams in the first month of my new jo…
/r/MensRights16/02/24 03:04 AM
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It seems women hold tremendous power even in a patriarchy except they (a) don’t realize it and (b) fail to appreciate how men shape society for women. The woman exerts much power in the infancy stage of man. The level of nurturing and care, secure attachment and emotional support she provides determines how men see their relationship to women when they grow into adulthood - barring toxic narcissism. Where society appears to go astray is in the number of toxic narcissistic women who get to become…
/r/MensRights13/02/24 05:27 PM
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The wife of an engineer who had worked hard to support her (they were in the 1%, she did not work a single day in her life) expressed her disdain after fifty years of marriage that he was not a businessman so they would have had even more money. Behind closed doors, I can only imagine how she treated him that whole time. Four children and a sense of duty apparently kept them together. What a joke.
/r/MensRights25/01/24 12:09 AM
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That’s pretty shocking to hear. Thanks for the post because it seems crucial we bring it out into the open. Considering there are about four billion men, “millions” may still not be a big percentage. However, we do need to keep in mind there are possibly even more men who would never sexually abuse children or even think of it. Unfortunately, that statistic does not get any anger hormones going and therefore would not make the news. This book (hopefully a short link is allowed) talks about the c…
/r/MensRights24/01/24 11:28 PM
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What point are you trying to make - that one woman had a negative perspective of men? I talked to a woman who claimed it was a great thing she became a winemaker (she made sparkling wine) because “all jobs in the wine industry were traditionally occupied by men.” She put this language on every bottle sold. She had apparently not bothered to investigate the history of champagne, namely that the first house in France was owned and run by a woman who was supported in this venture by her husband. It…
/r/MensRights04/01/24 12:44 AM
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I think it’s a very important part of the discussion, but it seems there’s more to it. Testosterone alone doesn’t seem to determine motivation. Bad examples and traumatic experiences with parents could play a role too. Some men though seem to be different than anybody else. Maybe this book can give some insight.
/r/MensRights01/01/24 04:01 PM
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Thank you! Yes, wholeheartedly agree with this. This seems to point in the right direction when it comes to finding the real culprit: 11:59
/r/MensRights20/12/23 11:33 PM
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