Nivajoe Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Sex feels so unobtainable and I hate it This is the real answer This man is telling us he radically changed his life style, solely to attract Women.	/r/seduction	29/05/22 10:07 PM
15	Daily reminder that a woman who is interested in you, will make it easy for you. I'm kinda in the same boat as you. Maybe I should do this, and be prepared to move on	/r/seduction	06/05/22 05:32 PM
1	What 99% of you actually need to experience Would you be willing to PM me your pics/ account? You don't have to, but I kinda wanna see if I can offer advice	/r/seduction	04/05/22 09:23 PM
17	recommendations for hobbies that can be done from home and make you a more attractive well-rounded person for dating? It's also been proven that reading books regularly helps emotional stability, and anxiety	/r/seduction	04/05/22 08:36 PM
1	I suck at texting with girls. But I'm more interactive and flirty in face to face conversations. How would you go about setting up a phone call? I feel like this is actually a really smart idea. But I can't think of a way to do this in a manner that isn't akward Just calling after she gives her number seems a bit weird	/r/seduction	15/04/22 12:04 PM
1	I want to get over female validation, but this whole “build a better life” shit is hard as fuck. The difference is that in one you are doing what you want to do, while in the other you are doing things because you feel like women or society want you too. The difference is in your mindset and motivation	/r/seduction	09/04/22 11:16 PM
9	I’m done This sub doesn't really care for pity parties.	/r/seduction	20/10/20 10:22 PM
2	Women who don't want to chase men. It generally means they've had bad relationships in the past so it impacts how they perceive relationships. Maybe their parents were never around so they didn't learn how to bond with people growing up Maybe they've been with abusive people in the past and now they're afraid to commit.	/r/seduction	10/10/20 08:35 PM
4	At what age should you start to worry about never having met a woman who was interested? If you've never met ANY woman that was interested in you... then I might be a little worried tbh. 23 is still young though.	/r/seduction	09/10/20 07:40 PM
3	Women who don't want to chase men. Also another thing to note... when Girls are scared, or getting creepy vibes from a guy they typically don't show it. They do stuff like laugh nervously or casually try to end the conversation instead. Just something to keep in mind when you're starting out.	/r/seduction	07/10/20 01:38 AM
6	Women who don't want to chase men. Not the guy you asked.... but I'm answering cause, I've seen this myself recently. A lot of guys take rejection poorly, and there is a major difference in physical strength between the two genders. I just had a 1st date go poorly a week ago... when the girl texted me saying she didn't want to meet again she kept apologizing and was clearly trying to be as gentle as possible. I actually felt bad for the girl. I take rejection well compared to a lot of guys... its not something that actually bothe…	/r/seduction	07/10/20 01:36 AM
8	Women who don't want to chase men. In my personal opinion most people that play games like this have emotional baggage that drives them to do so.	/r/seduction	07/10/20 01:09 AM
8	ADVICE: Do not invite girls to your house for 1st time meeting. They could be absolutely crazy. "Now I have to deal with paying to get the scratches fixed on the car of the girl who was over tonight" How about... getting the girl that keyed the car to pay for it... if she refuses get the police involved	/r/seduction	03/10/20 05:52 PM
10	Above all, it’s a numbers game. I personally know several ugly dudes, weirdos, and even a sex offender that are in relationships... A lot of young guys have this mentality they'll never find a girl or something... I understand a lot of guys here are insecure about never being able to get a relationship or even just causal sex... but the idea that you will never be able to do that is statistically irrelevant... If you just put yourself out there enough times... you will obviously find someone	/r/seduction	25/09/20 11:22 PM
1	Where do you go for haircuts (guys)? I downloaded a picture on my phone of a guy that has a haircut similar to what i want. Whenever i go to a new barber i show them that picture. Have only done it a few times but so far I've gotten good results.	/r/seduction	23/09/20 11:12 PM
0	when is he going to tell me that he loves me? do i say it instead? An entire YEAR and he hasn't said it? In my mind that means he has some type of attachment issues. Perhaps his parents never said it to him. Perhaps he has been hurt by a lot of girls in the past, and he is afraid of locking it down now. Or maybe he is wanting to keep his options open. I think you need to ask him if there is a reason he hasn't said it. Not in a confrontational way, but in sort of a gentle way. Have a open and respectful conversation with him. This isn't something you should have…	/r/seduction	23/09/20 11:09 PM
1	When is Okay To Be Vulnerable Around Women. "Do it right and you'll appear even more dominant than the other 90% of guys who hide them away in fear of getting exploited." Just cause I'm curious. You say "do it right" but then you don't really elaborate on what right is. Like whens the right moment and what do you talk about?	/r/seduction	21/09/20 07:59 PM
1	Cold approach has changed my life in every way possible "The look she gave me as if I wasn’t a man." I know this is old. But I just wanted to say that when Girls do this it is from a place of their own insecurity. Im sure you understand this by now... but just in case you're still hung up on that... You couldn't get hard and she interpreted that as you weren't attracted to her. Thats also why she lashed out and called you gay. Anyways, good job	/r/seduction	20/09/20 12:34 AM
3	Which Cities in the United States have the most attractive single women? For someone who had just graduated from College? This is something I actually looked up myself out of curiosity Generally the Southern Half of the United States, is noticeably more attractive (where young people don't get "winter fat" but do get a bit more tan) . This is true throughout the entire stretch from California to Florida. For the opposite reason, the Midwest is considered the least attractive. Also... Interestingly... the Eastern half of the United States has more Women, while the Western half of the United States has more Men. The …	/r/seduction	19/09/20 03:28 AM
4	How do I cuff this girl I work with Because it can lead to a lot of issues and it isn't worth losing your job. Also... Some advice.... A common theme you're going to see on this subreddit is that you never want to go after just 1 girl. It will usually end up with you looking extremely needy or desperate, even if you try to play it cool This subreddit primarily teaches that you should try to make yourself as dateable as possible while keeping your options open. I know you probably have strong feelings for this girl. You probably wa…	/r/seduction	19/09/20 12:13 AM
6	She ain't ready for this This is a massive overreaction. u/norwegiandoggo kind of pointed this out. But the problem with your logic is that by reacting this way you are demonstrating that you are still insecure and that you feel you have to change yourself for others approval. You should do those things for your own reasons. Not for others. Your mentality when talking with girls should be "This is me... take it or leave it". And if they don't want you then move on. Because no matter what there will always be someone tha…	/r/seduction	16/08/20 06:38 AM
1	Advice on responding to her insult.. "No U"	/r/seduction	15/08/20 06:57 PM
0	emotional/descriptive language in seduction? With all things, you need to apply a level of common sense. This sounds WAY too forced. Like you rehearsed the lines.	/r/seduction	28/06/20 04:19 AM
2	Ever feel like all the "progress" you made was all in your head? If I can offer an observation... why did you feel the need to approach the table to begin with? I actually am similar to you. I was the nerdy awkward kid in high school who never went to parties. As I improved myself in the past few years, I kept thinking "if only they could see me know". I kept thinking in my head what'd it be like to run in to someone from those days. As time went on though... I realized this was rooted in insecurity. I still felt I had to prove how cool I was to the "popular …	/r/seduction	28/07/19 07:37 AM
4	How the hell do Teenagers get laid?! Hoooow?!?!?! How does it happen? Some people like me can't even get a single fucking kiss or date. It's a real sub, it has just been quarantined	/r/seduction	28/07/19 07:22 AM
3	How to take candid photos when you don't have a single friend? Your username betrays you Regardless, you can just ask a stranger, or set it up against a wall or something. Like go to the beach and just ask some passerby to take a picture.	/r/seduction	28/07/19 06:33 AM
1	She told me she likes the way my brain works :) Just curious what were you saying that caused her to respond that way? (Without prying into your deep conversation)	/r/seduction	27/07/19 10:27 AM
3	Why are most women rude to me? This is something that's hard for us to say. We can't really see or observe you. One big thing I've noticed Women are better than Men at, is self awareness. Men are much more oblivious to the signals and vibe they create. A lot of Men often make Women feel uncomfortable without realizing it. This is very import, as signals and vibe are crucial for attraction. Look at... -Your posture -Your clothes -Your tone If you were a Woman... and a Man exactly like you approached you in public... woul…	/r/seduction	25/07/19 07:29 AM
1	Why does society ridicule/look down on men that are bad with women? That is the subreddit you are currently on	/r/seduction	23/07/19 12:59 AM
1	26 yo virgin. I’ve made progress but still don’t feel like women are attracted to me. What should I focus on improving? "Self-Confidence" Think about what that word means. Other people's opinion of you, is irrelevant, and should never trigger an emotional reaction. I struggle with it, but that should be your ultimate goal.	/r/seduction	21/07/19 11:51 PM
7	Can we help these INCEL guys? I do actually feel bad for them. Their low self-esteem, and miserable view of the world, must cause them a lot of avoidable suffering. But think about what "self-help" means. You can give all the advice in the world. It is up to them whether or not they'll take it. Honestly, I don't think anything we say will change much of their views. If you give useful advice they'll accuse you of being a Chad, who's advice is obviously flawed, because you must be attractive. They must maintain this world…	/r/seduction	19/07/19 04:54 AM
1	Something you may want to try For most people on the sub the big problem is the anxiety of it all. As far as that goes you just got to put yourself out there and do it more. Put yourself in uncomfortable places. Stand up for yourself more, speak your mind more. One idea... Intentionally embarrass yourself while out in public, if you want a bolder move. Have you ever seen the show impractical jokers? If so... do what they do. Just stupid stuff that puts you in uncomfortable positions.	/r/seduction	16/06/19 10:56 PM
67	Something you may want to try His advice is solid You realize that's what this sub is all about right? We live in a time frame where a majority of people are overweight, and just throw on a t shirt any time they go out. -Lose weight -Get Muscle -Work on charisma, social skills, and humor -Wear nice clothes, and take care of your hair -Wear cologne -Get some hobbies Even if you have a super fucked up face, you'll still be better than 75% of people like that. If you have an average face you'll be better than 95%. Self loathi…	/r/seduction	16/06/19 04:07 AM
1	I’m 21, 5’7 and about to be bald. Is my saying life about to take a major hit for the foraeeable future? Hey so first, (not an answer to your question) But I used to think that Rogaine stuff was a scam. But then I worked with some guy who was in his late 20s and going bald. He started using it, and within 6 months he got all of his hair back. I don't know why more people don't try that. To get to your question, I think it very much depends on your face, and how you present yourself. There are many different types of styles. I think most people could pull it off, if they changed other features about…	/r/seduction	10/06/19 07:30 PM
1	Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidence Right... Unfortunately we are at a stalemate. I am willing to admit I'm wrong. You want to PM me a pic, and I'll admit I'm wrong, (if you're objectively ugly, because of factors you can't control) Otherwise we are at a stalemate, and there's nothing else I can say	/r/seduction	08/06/19 01:22 AM
1	Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidence As I said earlier, I feel the more logical answer IS NOT that people are disgusted by your looks 95% of people aren't assholes The more logical answer here is due to self esteem issues you either want to believe people see you as ugly, or you misinterpret people's normal reactions as "oh they think I'm ugly" Alternatively, as I said earlier, a lot of people here started off having a hard time with social norms. That's fine, I won't judge you for that. But perhaps you walk up to them overly eager…	/r/seduction	08/06/19 12:07 AM
1	Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidence You don't want to date someone who is instinctively disgusted by you. They sound like either a stuck up person, or someone with no understanding of social rules.	/r/seduction	07/06/19 11:58 PM
6	Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidence Okay, I deleted my comment by mistake. In case anyone was wondering what the deleted comment was, it was me saying that I am skeptical that the average woman would act disgusted by him, before he even spoke. I suggested he had social anxiety and the social anxiety was what caused him to believe they were disgusted even when they werent Alternatively he was acting weird. That's okay though, because a lot of people on this sub started out having a hard time understanding social norms. I myself use…	/r/seduction	07/06/19 11:54 PM
3	Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidence There definitely are. But you wouldn't want to date those people Also they are very rare. If you act polite, confident, and socially aware 99% of people will be friendly. And if they aren't, then congratulations you dodged a bullet.	/r/seduction	07/06/19 11:19 PM
3	Recently heard this acronym for what women are looking for in a man CHED that CAN BE WORKED ON Not the guy your talking too... but if I can come at this from a different angle. How would you think of this man if he was timid, visibly nervous around you, and slouched his shoulders all the time? Not trying to make assumptions about you here, but I feel like that would be a major turnoff for most Women. That is what we mean by confidence.	/r/seduction	28/05/19 02:09 AM
2	Is it desperate to book Airbnb for few hours of sex? A hotel is probably cheaper... and why book it in advance? It does seem kinda desperate... you are essentially gambling with a couple hundred dollars just on the prospect of being laid, why not suggest her place?	/r/seduction	27/05/19 04:02 AM
1	The guy I like likes bad girls - his ex was a stripper. What can I do to get his attention? We are often our own worse critics. I don't know what you look like. And I assume you don't want to post a picture of yourself. But if you really are unattractive, and he is the kind of guy to date a stripper, then I'm sorry, but he probably won't want you, and there isn't much you can do in way of personality to change that. I'm sorry I know that is hard to hear and I don't want to hurt your feelings. But realistically unless you guys get along very well it is probably true.	/r/seduction	27/05/19 03:52 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:43 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:39 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:38 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:37 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:36 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:36 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:35 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:35 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:34 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:34 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:34 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:33 AM
1	How to train your woman (with FR example) I'm not usually the guy to say this... but this post comes across as pretty sexist. It seems like you have it in your head that you just want all Women to be submissive to you. Also...... “Hey! I have a name and you better use it. Talk to me right or don’t talk to me at all”. she had a shocked look on her face This was in front of another co worker and some customers and I was able to eject before she could respond. That's not a good look man... I'm not sure why you think people will respect you…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 04:33 AM
1	Why ALL Men Should Learn Pick-Up Before Getting A Girlfriend Never said it was The guy above me said 7 was impressive, and I pointed out it was just average	/r/seduction	14/05/19 05:21 AM
3	Why ALL Men Should Learn Pick-Up Before Getting A Girlfriend 7 is actually the average for American men. Granted PUA cause a strong skew to the right, but 7 is still a realistic number for most people.	/r/seduction	14/05/19 01:46 AM
19	I just got kicked out 20 minutes in... I'm just gonna point out something that no one else did. So... you were just cuddling this complete stranger when she clearly just wanted a hook up? Isn't that a bit weird to you?	/r/seduction	13/05/19 07:38 AM
3	Online dating from a girl's perspective and the mistakes most guys make "Excuse me sir, but could you just take a picture of me real quick?" It's that simple. Most strangers will say yes. Go to a park, or a beach or some place with a nice background then just ask some passerby.	/r/seduction	13/05/19 01:48 AM
2	What Happened to the PUA Scene? I'm assuming you're American. You'd be shocked to hear some things the obesity epidemic has caused. I think it was like the average American is now 15 pounds heavier than the average American just 20 years ago. 15 pounds is a noticeable difference on most people.	/r/seduction	12/05/19 08:28 AM
11	Ghosted a girl who had been molested as a child and is self conscience. You just got to tell her the truth, but leave some encouraging advice. Ghosting her is gonna do even more damage, and will probably warp her entire view of men in general.	/r/seduction	07/05/19 07:47 AM
3	Why do people like sex so much? From a biological perspective it is kinda our entire purpose for existence.	/r/seduction	05/05/19 09:14 AM
1	shut down within 1 min of all 3 approaches i tried last night Self loathing people are not well received on this sub. Also, you dont look like a boy, you just look like a pothead. Shave, get nicer clothes, and a new haircut.	/r/seduction	04/05/19 11:57 PM
2	1000+ approaches, lots of instant rejections, how to stay motivated? "Thousands of euros on multiple boot camps" Between that, and reading the result from your daygame/nightgame it definitely sounds like you are sending off this desperate vibe. Body language is much more important than what you actually say. You have to seem confident cool and collected. You say in your edit that you have good social skills, but the thing about social skills, is that people with bad social skills don't usually realise they have bad social skills.	/r/seduction	04/05/19 09:08 PM
42	Do some girls just have "flirty" personalities? The line that most socialized humans should understand? That is just too physical	/r/seduction	28/04/19 07:24 AM
–	14 Actual Examples Of Things To Say To A Woman My understanding is that teasing is actually the most effective way to attract women. Nothing outright mean of course, but some lighthearted jabs	/r/seduction	27/04/19 03:04 AM
1	Learn to walk " I don't think its particularly related to country " I'm an American, but I've learned from Reddit that Belgium and the Netherlands are so urbanized that the population walks a lot more, because the just don't have any need to drive.	/r/seduction	25/04/19 07:08 AM
20	The fix for oneitis Many root cause, should be considered, and I am only some guy on the internet, so take this with a grain of salt. But my understanding is generally when people move very quickly with someone new (or go "full retard" as you put it) it is because of a self worth problem. On some deep subconscious level you don't think anyone could ever truly be interested in you, or even love you. So when someone starts showing you any sign of interest you latch on to them, and try to get them to commit to somethi…	/r/seduction	11/04/19 10:13 AM
2	is being busy an excuse to leave someone on read but they do it constantly? Depends on your relationship with this person. If it's someone you just met, they might feel you aren't interested, or that you're trying to play games with them. If you have a genuine relationship with them, just explain it, and they'll probably understand.	/r/seduction	08/04/19 01:00 AM
1	What can I do when a girl doesn't want to talk? I disagree with your entire premise. Leave her alone, and their are multiple reason why you should. It does come across as somewhat creepy. Perhaps more importantly............ From a practical standpoint... dating has a lot to do with "perceived value". It sounds somewhat cold, but it's the truth. A central part of seduction, is that you have to make them think you are of greater "dating value" than them. The best way to do this to show a lack of interest in them. Number 2 is the more impor…	/r/seduction	21/01/19 07:35 AM