Njmet Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Valentines and separation No, Try to understand that going forward the idea of holidays and anniversaries together physically or apart are a thing of the past.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/02/23 08:12 PM
3	Wife Says she doesn't know what she wants to do. Unfortunately it’s over in her head emotionally, she just isn’t being honest with you. Also I think sometimes women don’t want to look or be perceived as the bad one so they raise hell to the point that you have to file for the divorce or they put you in this grey area in the marriage. It’s going to be painful but have the fortitude to get the divorce and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/23 10:45 AM
2	I want a divorce. When did you all realize that divorce was your best option to move on in your life? When I realized the arguing and fighting was becoming a norm rather than an occurrence. Finally the arguing while holding our newborn showed me that she little to no respect for me or our child. Her “emotions” or feelings ruled how she talked and acted towards me.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/23 10:39 AM
5	Anyone thinking of dating a single mom? Don’t do it unless you go into it understanding what your getting out of it. You are hooking up and having fun great enjoy yourself. But if your looking to having a LTR you better understand the reality of what your getting yourself into. It will not be the fairy tale you think it will be.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/12/22 02:55 PM
3	Social media This is a easy discussion on Reddit… Yes	/r/Divorce_Men	04/12/22 10:35 PM
31	Dating post-divorce In my humble opinion, it seems as if you didn’t take a long enough break after your divorce to be by yourself. Being by yourself helps you in a multitude of ways mentally and emotionally when it comes to relationships. It gives you clarity on why you were in the marriage and what your relationships should look and feel like going forward. Sometimes reattaching to another person right after coming out of a marriage or relationship you fail to see the lesson you should’ve learned from the failed r…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/22 03:18 PM
3	Just curious Manipulation and gaslighting 101. Save the text messages and video record as much as possible when dealing with her crazy outburst. Don’t worry about the consequences get divorced and save yourself. Just a FYI no matter how much of a bad person you might be able to prove, it might not help in the divorce proceedings so just do your best to get through the process as quick and painless as possible. Good luck 👍	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 11:32 PM
2	For the men who initiated and filed for divorce Yeah I understand the desire to stick it out, which is fine. Since you took the pill just be mindful of the games and manipulation she can and will do over time. Overall keep your eye on the clock of how long your married and her work history, because that will determine your cost of a divorce. Stay safe and awake…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/22 01:54 AM
37	For the men who initiated and filed for divorce The realization that it didn’t make sense to stay married anymore. It only benefited her to stay in misery, I had to look at my options. Stay married and be miserable in a sexless situation and then at 10 years and 1 day she will decide to file so she can have alimony and child support. I pulled the plug early because she will do it when it benefits her to do it. She even tried the lets have another baby trick… I took the red pill and woke up from the Matrix…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/22 06:00 PM
1	i wonder why American men are still getting married with the legal system heavily leaning against them. They are programmed with Disney fairy tales and fantasies.	/r/MensRights	30/10/22 06:43 PM
3	child's birthday Correct course of action…. Set your boundaries and have your own birthday party with your son on your time. Stay strong and hold the line….	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/22 02:03 AM
9	MacKenzie Scott (Jeff Bezos exwife) fill divorce from second husband. The divorce rate for the 2nd and 3rd marriages are worst. Why risk it in my humble opinion.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/09/22 11:47 PM
1	NJ Joint Account Advice Change your account… If there’s any savings split it down the middle so anyone who looks understand you split up the money due to the end of the marriage. Don’t let anyone guilt or shame you into destroying your finances.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/22 05:39 AM
2	Need advice ! Communicating with your ex the way you what to is a moot point. One thing I realized while being divorced is you can’t control the other person. So if she wants to communicate thru email “fine” do it that way. Don’t get mentally or emotionally involved in trying to get the other person to do something that you feel is beneficial to co parenting. It will only drive you crazy. The money issue sucks too because in most cases it’s a formula based on the last five years of your employment. There’s re…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/22 10:29 PM
2	Will the judge request the spouse return to work in a divorce It’s too late…. If she hasn’t worked in awhile, you might be responsible for keeping her standard of living equal to yours. Overall it really depends on how long you were married for and if you have kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/22 03:57 PM