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Dude you want to be unhappy for the rest of your life? If so stay with her. Jesus man, just run as far away as possible. That woman is the devil.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 05:06 AM
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Yeah man, leave!!
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 02:46 PM
2

Yeah man thats it!! Become a monster again!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 01:55 PM
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Gym man, pump iron!! Best med out there. Before you know it you ll meet someone new and you ll wake up one day thinking god what was I doing with her?
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 12:44 PM
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Guy got burned once and now he wants advice? Dude no. Good riddance. Its his problem now. You moved on. You wont gain anything from this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:37 PM
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This is proven more and more by recent studies. They go "crazy". Chasing a mirage. They ruin their lives and their families. They become different people. Some snap out of it but the damage cannot be reversed and others continue to cause havoc. This proves one thing, "you think you know someone". Sad but true.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 07:55 PM
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Someone already said it!! Escorts man!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:44 AM
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Yeah man go for it. Fashion model level and costs less than an expensive date these days. And best part? Goodbye and no nagging!
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 07:19 PM
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Hit the gym man and hit it hard. Trust me you ll never be alone😉
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 04:26 PM
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Hit the gym man!! Hit the gym..
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:59 PM
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Nope not her father man. Once you break the news you will be their target. They will blame you for everything. You had a good relationship with him because you were her support system. Once you leave she is going to be his problem and trust me it happenned to me he will turn against you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 04:30 PM
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Hit the gym man. Become the best version of yourself. She is not your life! You ll meet someone new there are plenty fish in the sea. She was not the one. Lawyer up!! Lawyer up!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 01:33 PM
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I want my ex back as well but she cheated and even though she wants back i know i cant do it. I know that I will snap if I go back. Still going through grief. But yeah, man up fall down 7 times get up 8. Date more women. Have fun. This will pass. One day we will be out of this.💪
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 01:12 PM
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Look man I suspect my ex has bpd. She went wild for 6 months slept around and she is back begging me to take her back. No, no. As much as I want my family back and blv me I d give anything to have it back I cant let it happen.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 04:27 PM
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Dude run. People with bpd will ruin your life. Dont you want to be happy? She already controls your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 03:34 PM
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Gym man. Helped tremendously! I got to see my abs for the first time. Got compliments from women too. Anything fitness related will help.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 06:40 PM
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Listen to us here read as many posts as possible. 2. Lawyer up. 3. You ll be fine and believe me you ll be very happy that she is out of the picture.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 12:08 PM
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Different laws in my country. There is no alimony. She gets only 50% of the increase in value of the common assets (and her contribution of course) for the years we were married.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 11:52 AM
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Patience my friend. Patience. She has to wait for the divorce. She complains every day.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 03:47 PM
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Still not finalised. Ex doesnt cooperate. She wont even hire a lawyer cause she wants me back😅. I tried mediation didnt work.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:49 PM
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Yes I was completely honest. I told her that she cheated and I was not going back. So we took things slowly and things worked out. The ex found out I was dating and came back begging for a second chance.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:40 PM
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As soon as i learned anout the affair. 3 months in. I met a beautiful woman. You could say she was a rebound but it worked.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:23 PM
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Yeah man. I would not let her see me staying on the ground. There is no greater satisfaction than seeing your ex regretting leaving you and begging you for a second chance.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 01:23 PM
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7 months in. Lost enough weight to see my abs for the first time in my life. Got a raise at work even though I was a mess most of the days. Went on three trips abroad. She thought I will die without her. Love yourselves guys!
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 11:50 AM
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yep exactly like my ex wife. always for the supply.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 07:41 AM
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I second guessed myself a week ago. she returned and begged me to give her a second chance. we spent two days together with our son. I was assessing her. Did she change? No. Was there any REAL remorse? No. she asked me to put aside what happened and continue. She needs the fixer back in her life. Help her out, pay the bills, be emotionally there for her in difficult times but I am no longer that man. That man died when i learned about the affair. During the 6 months I met other women and I under…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 07:34 AM
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for my ex it fizzled out, because they think that they can replace a long term marriage and relationship with a fling. and then it hits them the fling was just.. a fling. they cannot replace a good husband and they come back but the damage is done.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 07:19 AM
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well mine came back 6 months after, begging me to come back to our family. she cheated. her life went to s*it. i thought about going back but naaaah.. not willing to work on a relationship with someone that disrespected me so much. I dont believe in karma but I do know that people that cheat and destroy their marriages without reason are self destructive and this will get them. Some will not even acknowledge the destruction they did to themselves. They will blame everyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 06:51 AM
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Yep, it hurt so much. Destroyed me when i found out. But hey look who is back begging me. That means that she is s*it and I really am good.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 04:44 PM
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Same bro, also with a 4 year old with disability. Mine came back 6 months later begging me to go back but I cannot. There was someone else and it didnt work out between them. You ll be a good father to your kid, wanna know why? Cause you didnt cause this. She did. Find a good lawyer. You ll find someone else. Many good women out there that will love you and appreciate you more. You put her on the pedestal and she jumped in a pit. Be careful, dont let her suck you in.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 01:48 PM
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You know man i feel the same way. I met someone new 4 months in and things are going well for me. She cheated, at the beginning everything was so painful but karma got her. She texted me that we grew up together and not finalise the divorce just yet leave a tiny window open. She screwed up her life. I no longer hate her. I feel sorry for her. She lost me. Karma gets them always if you are not the one that messed up.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 03:14 PM
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Take custody of the kids. Nothing more nothing less. Dont care about her. She is taking advantage of you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 01:34 PM
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Yep same story. Its a weakness if you ask me. She can find time for her man and try and work things out in her head by seeking therapy. But we all know what probably will happen next. Same story different family.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:52 AM
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My 2 cents, it helped me understand that there is nothing to love about my ex wife. And it was like a glass that shattered. I understood that I was with a crazy person that made my life miserable and then discarded me like I was nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 06:40 AM
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You didnt realise that you are in a war, in the middle of a battlefield. Wear your armor and attack. Offence is your biggest defence. There is nothing you can do to save it. Believe us we are/were in your shoes and we are here for you. Your future will be better without that "dont know what to call her" in your life. She is for the streets. Lawyer up!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 07:08 AM
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They cannot be trusted but there is nothing we can do. I am glad she is gone! Trash. Rebuild your life and your kids will come and live with you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 06:30 PM
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See your new daddy?? Man I would put the kid down and RUN. Jesus man. The things I read here scare the hell out of me. What kind of people did we marry? Mine cheated so I feel disgust towards her. I get ptsd tremor just by being near her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 04:43 PM
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Yeah man!! Couldnt have said it better. We are men we can rebuild our future. Invest on yourself!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 08:09 AM
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Couldnt agree more. The apple doesnt fall from the tree. Didnt see it myself.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:49 PM
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Consider parallel parenting!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:39 PM
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Consider parallel parenting!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 01:39 PM
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Nice man! We nees more positive posts!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 07:55 AM
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Same fing story..same here. I bought a house and paid for half of it, the other half mortgaged on both of us. 2 weeks later I am a toxic person. How can I be toxic when I paid for the house you fing wanted? How can i be toxic when i paid for your car? How can I be toxic when I worked for our sons therapies and paid all of them? Snake! End of rant. I am happy the fing monster is out of my life. I only care about myself now. I come first not even my kid comes first because if I dont rebuild myself…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 07:31 AM
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Agree!! She is probably looking for financial support.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 03:13 PM
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I said some hurtful things to her and I regretted it later on. She cheated. At the end of the day silence is very loud. Rebuild your life hit the gym be attractive to other women. That will teach her a lesson but not mean words. Like mine she is not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 02:25 PM
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Is this a thing? Mine left me before summer holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 03:35 PM
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Agree, start talking to her about someone new. Tell her how good she is at sex. How beautiful she is etc and see that she will freak out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 03:26 PM
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This☝️. She is playing with you. Kick her out of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 03:23 PM
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Come back??? No man if she left you and tried to test the waters then there is no coming back. She is not special man. She is just A woman. There are many.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 03:21 PM
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Yep that betrayal feeling. Brings out rage. I took care of her as well but she cheated..18 years man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 09:45 PM
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Same here man. Sworn enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 07:35 PM
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"She was definitely “wrong” for you, and don’t let that part of your brain fool you into thinking she was." This man! That is why you need therapy. Its an image in your head. You are doing this to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:57 AM
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So true man. Cut her loose and dont take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:22 AM
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yes she wasnt the right person. people who cheat are really bad people.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 08:24 AM
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Didnt want to believe it either man but yeah there was someone else in the picture. The betrayal..still hurts after 6 months. I am financially better off as well. You know sth though? You dont need such a person in your life. Someone who cheats is trash and i believe in karma. The grass is not greener my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 05:29 AM
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So true man!
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 09:39 PM
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Man i bought the house (50% cash 50% loan) and 2 weeks latee she tells me she is not in love with me hahaha and leave my share of the house on my 4year old and leave. House is up for sale now. She couldnt believe that i did that🤣 there was someone else. F gold digger.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 03:06 PM
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And then you know what happens? Reality check. They stay alone for the rest of their lives. Sometimes i feel sorry for her because she doesnt see it. Now she is in bad financial situation cause she rents.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 03:01 PM
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Find some time for dating you deserve to move on with your life as well. My boy loves my new gf and she is happy to have him around. Your son will also see that you didnt let her destroy you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 02:42 PM
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My god man this is so true. I gave my everything and got cheated on with a nobody. Anw life goes on thank god i am 38 and it happenned now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 01:31 PM
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I also did everything right. Unfortunately bro this is not how it works and I know how much it hurts. BUT you need to get up and walk. She was not your queen. You havent met her yet. Just read the book no more mr nice guy. It helped me understand what I did wrong to MYSELF. Dont overthink it, hit the gym, stay away from alcohol and you will bounce back. Not having a kid with her is a blessing trust me i know. Life is better without these people in your life you just dont see it yet. Make her reg…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 12:07 PM
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Hmm..man get a second opinion. Something is not adding up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 10:06 PM
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Yep this☝️
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 12:34 PM
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it sure does. why does he want to continue living together? for the kids? you are not weak, he makes you feel weak.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 09:28 AM
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i also have a 4 year old boy and dont see him everyday. it breaks my heart. BUT you owe it to him to rebuild your life. congratulations for your promotion! yes you get more money use them to do things for you. enough paying everything to women that did not respect us. plan activities with the kid that the mum will not do. do you date? try it, now you are more experienced and you can select a better partner. you have a second chance in life you can rebuild a new life maybe a new family with your …
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 09:17 AM
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hey man, first of all you should lawyer up she is not your friend and will come after you. i thought mine was not such person but she stole money from me so again lawyer up. You are young and most importantly you have no kids this makes it very easy. You should hit the gym it will help tremendously and if you have time find something you always wanted to do. Dating will help your confidence and you will see that there are many people better than your ex but don't enter in to a relationship yet. …
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 09:10 AM
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Yeah man we are here for you. We walk the same path. Unfortunately noone understands what youbare going through if it didnt happen to them. Take it from me that I got blindsided after 18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 08:05 AM
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Dont forget toxic.. i paid for our home toxic, i bought her a car toxic, i paid for her mri toxic, i paid for my kids therapies toxic. Been there for her in health scares toxic. And the list goes on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 03:16 AM
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Yep this..stop being the nice guy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 03:08 AM
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This is so true. Get back in the game. Show them that you will not bend.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:05 PM
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You are not ruined man. You are the good in this world so dont give up. Mine cheated and tried to steal our home which i paid for 2 weeks before. We have a 4 year old with disabilities. I cant let myself stay down. Get up and start walking. There are many good women out there. Most of them hate women like your ex. Dont give up hope. After 4 months I met someone new and began dating her. You have to try man. Not all people are the same.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:04 PM
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Dude lawyer up she has been planning this..she is playing you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 09:15 PM
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Her own boy? Dude come on she is trash. Who does that? Listen man you can do better cause you are a good person. You dont need a woman like that in your life. Karma will hit her one day. Hit the gym listen to me and you ll find someone better along the way. F her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:48 AM
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Forget about your height. You sound like a very good guy. If they screen you by height thats def not the women you want. Work on it though it might be worth it in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 09:06 AM
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Wow she gave you your kid? The level of disgust..
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 09:01 AM
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No man, you give her attention when you do that. The best you can do for yourself is to turn the page. Blv me there is karma in this world.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 05:16 AM
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That is very good man. But i believe you should start dating. You ll see that not all of them are like that. Most of them are very good women. I am strarting to believe that we are magnets of some sort of narcissistic women. Am i the only one seeing the same traits over and over again in this group? Even the nail cutting of the kids. That shocked me to be honest. How can all of them be the same? Text book. My point is dont close the door on the sentimental part of your life. Dont give her that g…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 05:13 AM
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Hahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 06:05 PM
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That last part man..they suck happiness from our lives.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 06:02 PM
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Yeah man gym gym!! Its the medicine🤘
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 03:34 PM
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I feel you man. Some people (its not only women) are really ungrateful.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 03:33 PM
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I dont know man is this a narcissistic trait? How can someone be so ungrateful?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 02:40 PM
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Taken advantage of? I bought a house and 2 weeks later she said she didnt love me anymore. Still have a lot of bitterness. And its normal. Hitting the gym helped me. Spending money on new clothes and going out. Beware that alcohol will f you up dont resort to that. And most importantly this group. Vent here as much as you want. We are all walking the same path.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:47 PM
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Same here. I am a better father to my son than I was in my marriage. Because i had essentially two kids (exwife and my son).
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:37 PM
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Hahahaha the dogs. Dude if she cheated she is garbage. You dont want to work on it trust me. It will never work. Many women out there..next!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:36 PM
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Cut her off man. She is done. You dont need her in your life. Hit the gym it helps tremendously with confidence and date. Dont get into a relationship immediately but dating helped me a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:32 PM
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Are they all programmed to do the same thing? Of course it would blow up. A relationship is build over time. They throw it out for a fling and then when they finally get it they try to reconnect.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 01:29 PM
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I ll tell you why. Kid has a disability and i pay for all his therapies. I live in the eu btw.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 08:01 PM
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Yep exactly
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 05:09 PM
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What an idiot man. She threw our marriage out the window and then tries to reconnect. Some people are so rotten. F cheaters.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 04:54 PM
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What i did was i get my son on weekends but from 8am till 5pm. Every weekend. Initially she was happy about it but then she felt the loneliness. No husband no kid and the two of us create memories and spend quality time together and she asked if she can join us. I told her to f off.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 04:42 PM
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We are here man and listened tonyour story. This group saved me as well. We feel you. Yep grief hits at weird times but it means you are a good person with feelings she is trash. Same as my ex cheating on me after 18 years. Move on with the gym and date. Many good ladies out there. You d be surprised how many good women are out there. We were just magnets of bad people.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 02:44 PM
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My god they are all the same. Listen carefully she has someone else and wants her weekends free. Find the best lawyer dont think about money spend on a good lawyer. Understand that you are dealing with someone that is trying to take everything from you. She is not your friend. Lawyer up and be cold stone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 12:32 PM
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This has also worked for me. You will forget her as soon as a more beautiful woman smiles at you😁 gym bro listen to us.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 05:40 PM
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Yeah man thats exactly what i did. I pick up my kid and I dont even look at her. If she wants sth only by text. She is on tinder now looking for hook ups. God whats wrong with women these days.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 05:26 PM
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Unfortunately yes. This is what most do.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 05:52 AM
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Well man, you won the lottery. She did this before you had kids. Imagine losing everything to someone else. Losing wife home and most importantly your kid. I am gonna be honest with you, man up. She was trash. Thank god she is gone. Focus on you and only you and yes you can date and have fun and when the right one comes you will know. I ve been there, yes betrayal stings but we focus on us. Remember that you are a man and we have so much potential dont let that trash keep you down. Life is so be…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 05:50 AM
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Here is my 2 cents, your logic should prevail but even then your mind plays games. Dont be with someone if you are not ready to walk away immediately if they start to play games. Unfortunately we got burned to be here and the reason is because we let them hurt us. We saw the red flags and we chose to be with them. The red flags were always there. So its either you are strong to walk away later or walk away now. She will hurt you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 04:26 AM
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Finally someone said it. Make her pay.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 05:57 AM
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My god its so true. Are they programmed like that? Thing is though she will never be happy. They just get old and suddenly alone.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 09:41 PM
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Relax man, dont worry about it. Have sex for yourself not for her. Enjoy it and it will come naturally.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 10:57 AM
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Its never greener man. Except if the man is abusive. Its a mirage. I see my ex wife now. Kid is with me on weekends and she is all alone. No husband no kid. Her family is ruinned. All this because she thought she could replace our family with some other dude. It takes years to build a family and a second to destroy it. Oh well lesson learned never rely on a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 02:10 PM
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You are so right man..but it happenned to most of us
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 02:08 PM
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Yep its a big wake up call. She will come begging for money.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 02:07 PM
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Oh man..same here. She wanted space and when i left she said she didnt want it to be permanent bluh bluh. Bs if you ask me its the money that talks she ruined her life. I got my freedom. She is asking for more money all the time. I told her I am not your hubby anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 01:39 PM
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This☝️this is exactly what will happen. There are lots of good women out there. I am telling you bro she will probably come back dont show any weakness.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 05:47 PM
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We ve all been here. Listen what everyone here says. Get a f good lawyer! And get your money in cash put them somewhere safe but untraceable. A bank safe deposit box in your parents name? She is coming after you. Listen to us. Go no contact! Its the same story repeating itself. And if she ever tries to come back DONT BEND OVER. Mine did told her to f off.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 02:19 PM
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This☝️. Some people need to f off from your life dont listen to them!
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 10:18 AM
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You are too nice man. You seem like a great guy. She's trash, what do you think would happen if you ve gotten sick? She d leave you in no time. Time for a replacement, are you dating? Because I say this many many times there are many good women out there.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 10:16 AM
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Hey bro, i drank heavily at the beginning of the divorce sometimes i was mixing it with xanax to numb the pain. And then i went cold turkey, alcohol and substances dont help. Anti depressants did a very good job though. You ll see that she was nothing but a fake image in your head. She cheated on you before she left you. This is what my ex did. Believe me when I say things will get better for you but you have to get up, dont stay down. Hit the gym hard dont go back to alcohol and start going out…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/24 06:22 PM
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We do care. Its men like you that help us move on and make the right choices. You are guiding us to the light. I lost everything she cheated. If it wasnt for guys like you posting here I would be sad and depressed. So keep posting!
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 02:53 PM
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They are also never satisfied. They always want/need sth new. They want the next hit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 02:49 PM
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This☝️
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 01:51 PM
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Yeah bro!!! Time to look out for yourself. F her she was just an image in your head. Go date!
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 05:31 AM
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I also see a psychiatrist i am on seroxat. I said date. You need a confidence boost bro. Dont get in to a relationship if you dont feel like it. You cant win the lottery if you dont play😉
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 01:40 PM
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I ve been there as well. No identity.. it was me and her. And she left for someone else. Destroyed everything. There was a crosspath in front of me.. thank god i chose to get up and walk it off. Happiness comes from within. She wasnt your happiness. You need to find your own. I am sure you can get out of it. Start dating!! And see a therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 11:58 AM
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This☝️. She is not your friend anymore she will steal from you and use you. We all been there. Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 10:35 AM
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This is so true you know. How can someone change like that? Does this happen mostly to women? My ex wife stole from me. She was never like that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 06:55 AM
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Bro find a lawyer get a divorce! She is worthless. Not the right woman for you. There are many many good women out there. Its just an image in your head. Your imagination. Hit the gym hard work hard you ll bounce back in no time! We are here for you!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 06:46 AM
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True!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 05:16 AM
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I know how it feels but trust me it gets better. As others said go to the gym but train hard!! Training hard will release those endorphins. She didnt deserve you bro. You project an image that you had in your head. She is not who you think she is. The sooner you get it the sooner you ll move on. You have a life in front of you enjoy it. Remember she is not your life!!
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 07:12 AM
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Agree 1000%. F her man and move on. She didnt deserve you. Fix your life!
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 09:58 AM
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Man I couldnt have said it better! OP forget about her man, maybe she found out that the grass is not that greener. You need a wife not a person that is using you. Once she said those things to you she disrespected you and its over, pack your sht and move on. Kids will be fine and you ll grow as a man and the next time you meet someone stop worrying about their happiness. Happiness comes from inside you. Dont expect your husband/wife to bring you happiness or that you should make them happy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 05:51 AM
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Happenned to my marriage as well. I told her that if I leave I will pull the carpet from under her feet. She laughed in my face. 5 months later she lost our home and wants to give me custody of our 4 year old cause she is so unhappy with her new life. Crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:12 AM
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They use the kids to get to you. Show that you dont care. Your sons will always be your sons and the thing about being a father is that they come to you ALWAYS during tough times. You have to show them that you are a mountain of patience and strength and resilience. You cannot let a cheater bend you over!
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 10:58 PM
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Then you do what I ve done. Burn all bridges down!! Espose her to her family and your family. Become a monster but you have to be able to control it. Show her that you are not afraid to push it to the end. And remember sth good will come out from the divorce for you. Also seek professional help man you need support through this. Never and I mean never go back to such a disgusting person. Dm me if you need someone to just talk to and vent.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 10:49 PM
3

No no no!!! Come on man you can find someone better!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:53 PM
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Agree 100%. You will always be his dad!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 06:51 AM
1

Agree 100%. You will always be his dad!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 06:51 AM
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Hahahaha yeah man same here. I feel so calm and happy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 04:35 AM
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My advice is to go out and meet people. Bars restaurants cafes you name it. And out of the blue a woman will approach you. Doesnt mean she is the right one but its a start. Also hit the gym. It helped me tremendously.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 11:56 PM
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I learned that I can be a man and handle it. I cant go back. Too much damage was done by her that I lost what i believed of her. I ll tell you this, she cheated tried to strongarm me to get the house because we have a 4 year old with disabilities. I smiled, told her that house goes for sale. She moved to a small appartment with my kid. This week she called said that she wants me to take custody of my kid because things turned out against her and this is not the life she was expecting. I know now…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 11:49 PM
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Sell her car😈. Seriously now lawyer up first. Kids will be fine. Go to the gym be the best version of yourself. Her mind is elsewhere and just as others said use this to your advantage. You will find happiness again just as i did. I said it a 1000 times there are some very good women out there you just married a bad person. In the end she will lose everything because she is a bad person.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 06:45 AM
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Dude cut her loose. If she loves you money is not important. She is a goldigger in disguise.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 07:20 AM
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I totally agree with the above. Mine treated me like garbage and when she saw that the grass was not greener on the other side she said that the divorce was not what she wanted and "things went out of hand". You ll find happiness its just a matter of time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 08:34 PM
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This is the only way. F coparenting.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 10:33 AM
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I was always for marriages until I got divorced. After that whenever I see young guys I tell them marriage is a sham to destroy your lives. Have kids they are a blessing but no marriage!! And never trust any woman but your mother and sister.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 06:48 AM
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Dude run!! Why did you stay with her for so long? How was she around the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 06:44 AM
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You should seek professional help. Dont let a divorce bring you down. See it as a new start, i know its difficult, i have my ups and downs as well but the sun will shine again. She was not your life, my ex was not my life either. We chose to give them our lives and did us wrong. Now its the time to take it back and live it. I got backstabbed so badly but this is not the end of me. Get up and hit the gym its the best therapy you can get.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 07:03 AM
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Yep this☝️. And manipulation.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 06:46 AM
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6 months?? Forget it bro. Tell her you are not waiting for her not even 6 minutes. Lawyer up. I promise you you ll find happiness again. The pain is only temporary. We all went through it and we grew as better men. DOOOONT trust her. Who is she to tell you to wait 6 months? Talking about narcissistic behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:56 PM
4

Sell the house and move some where new. It will help you move on faster
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 01:00 PM
5

Okay, you need to start up your new life. One step at a time of course but first of all find a job. Any job if you ask me so that you ll have some sort of income coming in. Talk to lawyer asap, dont waste time, she is coming after you. And go for a run if you cant afford a gym membership. Running will boost your mood!
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 11:51 AM
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Yep probably a boyfriend dumped her. They think someone else will take care of them with 2 kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 07:03 AM
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Tell her I dont ever want a problem but if you want a problem, no problem. 50cent's quote not mine. Be aggresive. Dont let her strong arm you with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:41 PM
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Dont trust her bro. She already had the divorce planned. She probably found a way to hide money. Lawyer up she is not your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:26 PM
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Hahahahaha spot on!
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 07:44 AM
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Its gonna take time but keep trying. I have a 4 year old boy with disabilities and she cheated. She jumped off the pedestal. You put her on the pedestal, she doesnt deserve it. Time to put someone new who deserves it. There are some very good women out there.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 05:53 AM
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She tried her luck and didnt work out. They think that destroying sth it took years to build can be rebuild fast with someone else. Move on man. Dont look back.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:06 AM
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It takes time. It will also help when other women start noticing you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 05:11 AM
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I ll tell you what helped me. The gym! Seeing my abs for the first time. Work on yourself! Do whatever you want to do. Ride a motorcycle or a bicycle. She was an anchor. I got cheated on and I laughed because I know I am way better than her new bf. There are many good women out there who deserve some1 like you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 05:05 PM
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The saying with the oxygen mask is spot on. If you are not well then your kids will have no dad to lean on when times get tough. Dude I am selling my car and getting a new one so I wont remember our times together. Believe me it helps.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 03:46 PM
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This is no place for shame bro. You should post how you feel. I walked out as well after the lies and gaslighting. There is no shame of being cheated on or abused because we are men.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:53 AM
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Dude hear me out, I was in your shoes with my confidence! You can do way better! F her (not literally) hit the gym and you ll see how many better women will hit on you. She is trash for doing this to you. Find a lawyer asap dont waste anymore time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 01:14 PM
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Yeah man, she cheated, 1 boy with disabilities, lost my home. But I wont let her see me down, we should get up and stay standing! F her!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 01:53 PM
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I feel you. Especially when i have my kid theres no support. But we have to pull through man. Tough times never last but tough people do. I think you should date, dating will boost your confidence and also go to a gym. We are single dads not convicts, we have our life in front of us and we shall make the best of it. Get up and fight!
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 06:33 AM
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Oh bro I feel you. Have a 4 year old boy with special needs. Had to work long hours without holidays to pay for his therapies. Bought a house bought her a car paid for everything. I supported her emotionally during our hospital visits (and there were many) and she cheated on me with someone 10 years younger than me. I am 38, packed my stuff and left. She thought she would twist my arm by using our kid and leave her the house and the car and still pay for everything else. I said no! Enough is eno…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 09:09 AM
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Gym, gym, gym!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 11:00 AM
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I cant believe i am reading this. My ex does the same thing. Wth?
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:33 AM
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Look bro of course she is going to put the blame on you and make you feel guilty that the marriage failed. Its what they do! My advice? Go out and date! Dating is not a bad thing, you are not committing to anything and trust me you ll see there are women out that are a better match. Speaking from experience🙂
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:22 AM
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18 years man, 4yr old kid with special needs, she didnt want counselling. She had everything but decided to monkey branch. Listen to everyone here, they helped me heal. Lawyer up, go no contact and blv me you will find happiness again. Its just a phase! Your stbxw is not your life! I know you feel like its the end of the world but its not, give it some time.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 03:11 PM
2

Surrogate mother, love it bro!
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:44 PM
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Spot on!☝️
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 07:01 AM
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Look at her family! If its dysfunctional she comes with baggages. Also the mask! If she is playing too nice with other people and then accuses them behind their back.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 04:43 AM
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